I love this concept of trusting yourself first to then trust others knowing that your boundaries will keep you safe. Absolutely lovely. That really resonated for me..... It opened and softened my heart to love. Thank you!
@mybeasley2442
6 жыл бұрын
Hi Jaki, I'm new to the online commenting... hope you receive this message. Thank you so very much for sharing your experience and wisdom. I feel like I'm listening to a very wise older sister give me much needed self love advice first... and then it turns into great dating advice. Learn to love myself first and I'll attract the love that i deserve from a man. Very simple yet highly complex. Thanks again, Sis! I love you!
@EngagedAtAnyAge
Жыл бұрын
Love you too!
@casperinsight3524
5 жыл бұрын
I get your point and that may be true for some women but it depends on the relationship dynamics. I am authentic and seeking a mutual connection with my partner. I am a secure confident woman and we need to feel loved, cherished, to feel valued by our partner. It’s healthy to feel wanted by our partner and visa versa. When they flip flop it’s confusing not necessarily co dependant. Hot and cold is a red flag. I value myself and if he doesn’t appreciate me then he’s not my guy
@bridgetcox3593
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jaki. From Australia, you literally gave me the information I needed to stop texting and calling my ex making a fool of myself. You are so emotionally intelligent. I was drinking a glass of wine and smoking a cigarette out of desperation at 10 am. Not ok. Now I’m going to trust me and create clear boundaries. I know the man I’ve just broken up with is not going to call me or text me. For me, I’m 45 and have had so many ‘lovely charming’ loser boyfriends. They left me. This last boyfriend is a truly decent good solid man. And because of my fear I threw it away. And now he’s not coming back. Some other extraordinary luck lady who has her ... together will be with him. And he genuinely loved me and vice versus. Fear is so dangerous!!! But, on that note I’m going to put my jogging gear on and go for a *walk.’ Up a hill. I need me. My daughters need me. My family needs me. I heard a great quote the other day by RobinKnox-Jonson who was the first man to sail solo and circumnavigate the globe without stopping in anywhere on the way. He had some terribly tough days and no human communication for a year except radio transmitter in 1968, and on a really bad day he would say to himself “I have no right to let the me down, that’s gotten me this far”. Thank you againCan you reply with a link for KZitem as this was forwarded by text from a friend. And I would love to hear more of what you have to say. Beautiful Amazing girl!!!💜
@EngagedAtAnyAge
6 жыл бұрын
Hang in there Bridget! Men respect you more when you have healthy boundaries. Here's a link to my channel, so subscribe so you can gain access to all my content and be notified when I post new videos. kzitem.info Thanks.
@tpxchallenger
6 жыл бұрын
Stay in there, Bridget! If you learned a valuable lesson then let's hope it was worth it. You meet a suitable person only every two years or so, so....patience.
@2legit2Kwit
6 жыл бұрын
I've gotten to the point where I can careless about what others think of me.... it's all the surviving I've done without the need for others. I want a relationship but I'm less interested in the constant inter play of what he thinks of me.
@ruthie6221
7 жыл бұрын
Newest video BEST ONE yet, thank you, Jammu!
@loricrockett-owens5117
6 жыл бұрын
Men pull away but refuse to call u by your real name. Smdh. Go ahead mister delusional. Carry your ass down the road, can even call me by my real name. Lol
@erikabrown6804
5 жыл бұрын
I am learning this. BUT I am learning to plug into my creator! Him as a source is a never ending flow!
@janellinell4552
6 жыл бұрын
I don’t tolerate inconsistent communication and it has nothing to do with my self esteem. Pulling away out of the blue is rude but it never makes me feel bad about myself
@nofybn7794
6 жыл бұрын
I agree!
@margaritakleinman5701
6 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Agree totally.
@packrcch
6 жыл бұрын
"you don't tolerate". i hope that your lack of toleration is presented in a considerate way. just sayin'......peace...
@packrcch
6 жыл бұрын
this message applies to men as well and is the reason why women sometimes pull away. although this channel is presented as being primarily for women, much of what she says in these videos applies to men as well and it would be worthwhile for some men to listen to what she is saying.
@secretshaman189
6 жыл бұрын
This is really great information. I know a lot of these concepts, but like you say, you need to practice, practice, practice and continue to nurture the self, it is so important. Your videos are wonderful, looks like I could use some of your coaching.
@suzannem8265
5 жыл бұрын
Jaki I’ve watched this video 3x , it really provides an exquisite explanation for my experience . That you’ve moved beyond this gives me hope but I’ll admit though I understand I can’t seem to get past a first date, I’ve had hundreds, very sad.
@bettyhappschatt3467
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this so clear to me.
@ClareMartin007
5 жыл бұрын
This spoke straight to the heart of a situation I am currently in. Thank you. Are there some practical steps to self reliance? I'd love to gain some insights.
@MsMatahari84
4 жыл бұрын
What should a woman do if this has already happened and she's not ready to give up on the relationship yet? I haven't chased or begged and pulled away myself to gave him space now but I wonder if there's a way to improve this situation. Please don't tell me to move on and find someone better. I know people would say "there's plenty of fish in the sea" but I feel a deep connection with this man and it's mostly my fault because I acted needy during the relationship which is probably why he pulled away and it's hard to come across quality men so I don't want to lose this connection. Any advice appreciated, thank you.
@hildapadin92
3 жыл бұрын
I thought that if I wait for their text or a calls so anxiously it’s because I like him so much that I just want hear from him be with him so much especially in the beginning of the relationship when your getting to know them? I’m confuse🤦🏻♀️
@LouiseRitaKnowlesFaith
6 жыл бұрын
Your coed visualization- that hose - how powerful. I have heard a lot. I have read a lot. I have worked on myself a lot. THAT was the single most powerful visual metaphor and exercise I have ever come across. I think you just saved me years of work with one simple connection! Thank you and love! 💕
@Got2BOshun
2 жыл бұрын
Very much needed to be reminded of this truth, thank you 💛
@frances4773
Жыл бұрын
Would love to hear examples of ways to have a juicy relationship with me
@cherisetan2309
6 жыл бұрын
SO powerful! This is probably my 4th time listening, and it still hit home with a blow. Love you to bits, Jaki. Bless you for choosing to be a love coach!
@EngagedAtAnyAge
2 жыл бұрын
How are you doing these days?
@cherisetan2309
2 жыл бұрын
@@EngagedAtAnyAge Thanks Jaki. Men in Asia are quite different, so it's been a challenge meeting someone with similar core values and understanding. I'm happy and fulfilled with my own journey though :)
@katerinamixali932
6 жыл бұрын
I enjoy listening to you , and I love the spiritual approach..especially thel hose. I put into action right now!
@alicianorris7525
6 жыл бұрын
Does this include expecting your boyfriend to be physically with you for a couple of days after your mother's death? Just wondering if me having the need to have him near during a traumatic event is giving my power away or is it a natural expectation for my boyfriend to be with me for comfort during this time.
@EngagedAtAnyAge
6 жыл бұрын
My condolences for the passing of your mother. Comfort during times like these is completely natural. Thanks for your comment Alicia.
@christopherlundberg976
4 жыл бұрын
Sounds like a personal problem.
@amethystthescientist7716
3 жыл бұрын
💗
@yojankicks
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@daniellem578
6 жыл бұрын
Great message
@queen2539
6 жыл бұрын
Very insightful thank you
@shakespearemonologue
6 жыл бұрын
You have great insight and it flows naturally and fluently
@TheendofBabylon
6 жыл бұрын
this is empowering yes...
@lolohenderson6475
6 жыл бұрын
I needed to see this.. thanks so much
@Centimilli
6 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU MY LOVE 🤗
@sagasvll8323
6 жыл бұрын
I💖this message!👏
@Scary_asmr101
6 жыл бұрын
Very powerful
@carableu
6 жыл бұрын
Pure gold...
@kathleenmi1593
6 жыл бұрын
What if you were leaning forward through text.. and said something that you wish you hadn’t and he didn’t reply to the text? Should I text him and apologize and say I shouldn’t have said that?
@adeolaadio
6 жыл бұрын
Kathleen Mi hey I would leave it for a couple days.. then just drop a hey how are text :)
@kathleenmi1593
6 жыл бұрын
Adeola Adio thanks for the reply. I actually didn’t reach out, but he did this morning. Now I’m just confused because he said nothing about the text 3 days ago. But I feel kind of turned off.. which I’m not sure if I’m necessarily right for feeling that way. I’m still trying to figure all of this out. I feel like it’s a fine line of how to be or not to be, so I’m not being viewed as a doormat. I mean, even if I’m not looking for approval from him, when is it ok or not okay to speak out about the texts and how unattractive it is.
@lindaarreguin2736
6 жыл бұрын
Is it being needy asking a guy to let me know sometime if he thinks I am pretty or beautiful to him???
@casperinsight3524
5 жыл бұрын
I think a genuine compliment feels wonderful especially from someone you care about. There are 5 Love languages, you may need to hear it as opposed to another needing physical touch for example. I however need both ; ) lol
@dianaevans7102
4 жыл бұрын
Yes!! If you have to ask for compliments move on to another man!!
@RaisingSerge
6 жыл бұрын
Are you Persian?
@EngagedAtAnyAge
6 жыл бұрын
No Italian mostly and Maui Girl :-)
@RaisingSerge
6 жыл бұрын
You're beautiful. I've been watching your channel for a couple days now. Great content :)
@malo5951
6 жыл бұрын
Too simplistic and not accurate. People pull away for any number of reasons, GUY OR GAL....., is it the disappearing act that is the problem? People disappear because they know or sense something isnt right (respect, trust, behavior, personality, committment, communication, etc) and believe it probably wont change so what is the point in discussing it? People dont like conflict so they rather just disappear when they believe there is incompatability, unfortunately that hurts the person left behind and leaves them wondering.
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