I think allowance can be a good tool if used right. My sister and I got an allowance, but half of it always went into a savings account that we had to deposit at the bank ourselves. Because of our allowance, we were able to make our own decisions and buy what we wanted, but that meant our parents almost never bought us stuff (other than school supplies). I'm grateful for it because it taught me how money worked, and taught me how to make good choices. They stopped giving us allowance when we could legally work, and I've worked for my money ever since.
@SMR_-gv5pm
5 жыл бұрын
I was thinking this also. My dad also told me that school was my job and I needed to study and do well. I was in no way being paid to go to school or being rewarded for good grades, however school was a "job" and I was expected to do well.
@trblessed1020
5 жыл бұрын
That’s a good point. I guess different ways to get the same result
@Carolinagirl1028
5 жыл бұрын
I agree and the way you describe is much the way we give allowances in our family. My son has had an bank account, that he is responsible for balancing, since he was 8 years old. Every other week his allowance is transferred into that account and the other weeks he receives cash. While he doesn't get an allowance for doing his normal chores he does earn money for doing certain "extra" chores that have a preset earning amount. Therefore his allowance fluctuates week to week. In my opinion this prepares him for the working world by teaching him that to earn money you need to choose to work hard. It also teaches him how to manage money and to save for items you really want. At 10 years old he has purchased both video game systems he owns through money he saved from his allowance. Our daughter is younger so we haven't started this with her yet but we are planning to soon.
@ya472
5 жыл бұрын
I think I started to give my 3 year old twins an allowance so they could emulate dad's responsibility to pay for necessary things and to buy special things with left over money. Sometimes it takes a long time to buy special things.
@JessJeans
5 жыл бұрын
My mom growing up would say "Allowance? Yeah, you're ALLOWED to live here"
@piperbarry7853
5 жыл бұрын
Jess Jeans Me.
@JMADVLOGS
5 жыл бұрын
Jess Jeans honestly mood
@ediesongbird3163
5 жыл бұрын
Jess Jeans that's amazing
@AnnafromHungarylvNW
5 жыл бұрын
She didn't really want you, did she?
@alexthetrashgod1047
5 жыл бұрын
Pfft me
@anngutgesell5135
5 жыл бұрын
I’m with you, No allowance. I never had an allowance for helping with the house chores growing up and I certainly knew the value of a dollar when I moved out on my own. I earned money growing up by doing things for the neighbors, such a babysitting, caring for pets while a neighbor was away, exercising horses. By the way, I adore you and your videos, you keep me smiling!
@katiemould6970
5 жыл бұрын
I don’t know what’s best as I didn’t get an allowance, but I’m conflicted. I always had what I needed and never what I wanted. I think I always desired unnecessary things, but without the satisfaction of getting it, and then the possible realisation that I wasted my money. So when I got my first job, I went crazy... I’d spend my money straaaaight away and I was just excited that I could buy what I wanted, when I wanted! So I do think, some pocket money here and there is good, but perhaps set rules that they must save up for something they really want. I feel like that would teach them the value of money more.
@TheSkycielito
5 жыл бұрын
I am from middle class and my parents never gave me an allowance. My parents worked really hard to gave us the life we have, and teach us to value it. I started working at 18, I didn’t need to do it. But most my friends worked and watching them being independent from their parents made me want to be independent too.
@veronicaguerra2670
4 жыл бұрын
Gurl, we are twins. My son is the oldest and I started with him at 14. However, he had do the hard labor for it. He loved Pokémon than so it got done. At 15 he started a job a movie theater part time and we did the process of learning how to budget. Hes 25 now, he's so frugal now that I argued with him to live and enjoy the fruit of his labor responsibly not by just save. Im proud in every way. I'm not rich by any means but I think this is an excellent way for children to navigate financial responsibility. It is a joy to see your kids independence well managed. Keep up the good work, they are and will be awesome gentleman.
@j.burgundy499
5 жыл бұрын
I can tell she’s a great mom. Personally, I’d still give my kids allowance, if I had any in the future anyway.
@himanifafale6315
4 жыл бұрын
Why?
@KM-eb5yo
4 жыл бұрын
Lol I think she's a pretty annoying mum tbh
@nono7977
3 жыл бұрын
I grew up small town farm, I didn’t get an allowance. If I decided to get up at 6 am and help check pivots or after school hoe a field, or eventually around 12 drive seed and supplies to and from the different fields my dad happen to be at that day, then he would pay me $8.75 an hour like an adult. I know most would be shocked that he paid that to a kid but he treated us just like any other worker he expected us to pull our weight. And now I know how to save money and I’m not scared of a little hard work.
@takjensen
4 жыл бұрын
Amen. Kids can work. My oldest two are girls and they babysit for their spending money. My 13 year old decided on her own to put her money into a savings account so she could pay for college. Kids need to have goals and a realistic view of what life is going to send their way. They all have piggy banks at home until they have saved enough to start their bank account, and when they do a good job with their chores, I put "interest" into their piggy bank to the amount of maybe $2 a month. We have an Excel sheet keeping track of what is being saved, the 10% they can spend on fun, and the 10% they donate to charity. Seeing the difference between my kids and those who are given money and end up having a materialistic/consumer view of life, I'm pretty happy with the choice not to pay them for their basic upkeep! Right now the rule is that if they get cavities, they have to pay for at least part (or all) of their fillings because they have been taught how to brush their teeth and we provide the tools they need to keep their mouth clean. if they don't do it, their are natural consequences they'll have to live with. My son had to pay to replace his retainer. Sometimes even I feel sad for them and like it's harsh, but they are going to be sound adults! They or more likely to be patient and be able to wait rather than needing instant gratification because I see that in them now - growing patience.
@ishanimazumder3064
4 жыл бұрын
I got a small bank account when I was 12 but it was (and still is) only money I get for my birthday/christmas and gifts like that. I never get paid for chores or a weekly allowance for the same reasons you said. It is a bit annoying that some of my friends get promised money for certain grades but I recognise that people need different motivations and it is unreasonable to expect a reward for something you can do already without much extra effort.
@ravenswartwood5398
5 жыл бұрын
We are the same in my household as far as extra work goes. My oldest son does his chores because he is part of the household, and should do his fair share. If he does extra work, like yard work or shoveling (Northern Ohio by the lake, we have a LOT of snow in the winter) he can earn money. We also have grandparents and great grandparents that like to send our boys gifts and money occasionally.
@Kyle-pj2vc
3 жыл бұрын
Kids don't have the ability to work for money, therefore, you reward them for the work they're allowed to do. Adults get awarded by doing a job, and adults have a personal incentive to clean their house because they own it. Kids have no incentive but to do anything but sit on their tushies because they don't own the house, they're not allowed to work, and essentially being told what to do with no absolute reward. So I fundamentally disagree with this opinion.
@adrianduran3371
5 жыл бұрын
You're a great mother!!! My grandma was Jewish and she thought me how to earn my money. I wouldn't get paid for cleaning my room because that's my responsibility and so are my grades. So when I asked for money she told me. I'm going to let you get some fruits and cut them so you can sell fruit cocktails out in the front porch (I'm from Mexico) and it weren't given to me I had to pay the fruits to her.
@StravaigingMTB
5 жыл бұрын
I had no allowance as a kid so saved religously and got a job at 13 and worked constantly ever since apart from my 1st year of uni. If you want something and actually work for it, it means more to you.
@louibeans
5 жыл бұрын
How do you know it actually means more to you? I mean, it sounds logical. But I remember certain gifts I wouldn't have been able to afford myself were worshipped by me. I cherished them for decades. They meant so much. Even now, I have some of the stuff that I didn't work but saved up for or was gifted, and I remember the ultimate gratitude for having them. I honestly think I could not have felt any more gratitude than I did.
@StravaigingMTB
5 жыл бұрын
@@louibeans I had/havr gifts like that aswell, the gratitude I have for them is usually connected to an emotional memory. The telescope my grandfather gave me or the soft toy penguin my aunt gave me in hospital. Larger things like the build your own RC car i bought or the high end pc I bought and built in my teens mean more in other ways as I had saved for them. Do I have the first family pc my parents bought me? No but I have the one I bought under a desk at work. Im not saying I dont love the important gifts given by friends or family. But for me, the act of earning as a teen and becoming independent through the labour that allowed me to buy those things, taught me many things that Im grateful for now.
@thedesertangelhomestead9981
4 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with you that is what I did when my son was young and he is now 25 and it did not hurt him at all .
@PavelKrupets
5 жыл бұрын
I never got an allowance. But there is a problem with that. It is hard to learn to appreciate / spend money if you never handle it. My Canadian friends gave their kids $ and kids had to chose on what they are going to spend it on. It was hillarious to watch how they were trying to pick which game or toy to buy. For me it was harder to learn to handle money as I started doing it quite late.
@stellaconlon9957
5 жыл бұрын
I got an allowance when I was a kid, or pocket money as we call it in Australia, but not for doing chores. We were expected to do chores wether we got allowance or not but my mum wanted us to figure out how to save and choose what were and weren’t sensible things to spend our limited money on. It works in some cases, like me, but not in others, like my sister who is a serious shopaholic hahaha
@Butterfly-ue1ph
5 жыл бұрын
An allowance? What the heck is an allowance? I never got that!
@TheMint7132
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks this was really helpful as a single parent
@elissa3188
5 жыл бұрын
I did receive an allowance- small to start that grew over the years - mostly from about age 4/5 (I had an older brother - who got a 'bigger' allowance) till I was about 12 or so. My parents were never ones to buy anything much for us outside of Christmas/Birthdays/other holidays - so our allowance was to show us that if we really wanted something - we had to save up our money to get it. That said- to get something I really wanted I remember selling old toys at a garage sale to supplement the allowance. I starting babysitting at about 12 to earn my own money - and it is around that time that I no longer got an allowance - maybe it went on a little longer. Overall, I'm all for allowance - at least more so than what I see friends doing as parents- which is listening to their kids whine every time they are out and want something- or every time they want something and more often than not the friends giving in. I'd rather have it known - you want, you save for it and get.
@morganandwong
5 жыл бұрын
Giving kids an allowance for existing only teaches them to sit around and wait for handouts. I do agree with letting them do jobs that I wouldn't normally want to do for a reasonable amount of money.
@cerachaos
4 жыл бұрын
I do think kids should get an allowance just for existing. They didn't ask to be born into your home to do chores.
@elizabethlinehan2576
5 жыл бұрын
I have never given my daughter allowance. When she was 14 she volunteered with the national park. And at 16 she got a job.
@ren576
5 жыл бұрын
Lol I just watched you on Ellen from the big bang quiz
@sugarbabylove1000
5 жыл бұрын
Me too lol
@Tjhwmor25
4 жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree more on all point. So glad that I found you. I appreciate your down to earth views. Have a great day!
@judywhite1824
5 жыл бұрын
In my 'neck of the woods'(Alabama) I'm sure you've heard of it, LOL, a trip to the Thrift Store is an adventure.We get what we need, if we can afford it that month, and leave behind what we can't .As for allowances, my Southern Grandfather always joked in his Southern slang that 'I never gave my kids an allowance cause I taught them to be good for nothing'! lol My own children earned money for special things, and they appreciated these things more when they paid for them through their own hard work.
@wierdo6088
4 жыл бұрын
I agree i am a kid and i don't get a allowance and im just fine I think working for your money is the way you work you get money you can buy things you want with money
@victoriaizzo9872
Жыл бұрын
Was never given allowance. I did earn money by negotiating a special job, particularly outside. I also grew up in an age we can collect soda cans and bottles for .10 cents. had to create ways to make money.
@fiorellofficial
5 жыл бұрын
Gee, thanks. My Mom watched this and now has cut off my allowance. This sux.
@Ms89Monkeylover
5 жыл бұрын
Well if you're old enough to be on KZitem complaining you're old enough to get a job!
@TheIceCreamWizard
3 жыл бұрын
@@Ms89Monkeylover i don't care how late this is, but youtube is mostly youtube kids now, and obviously they're younger than the minimum to get a job
@thechronicmommy180
5 жыл бұрын
I never had allowance growing up and my kids don’t now. We all live here so we all help out.
@alicechoux973
4 жыл бұрын
totally agree with the first point, l never received money for doing "our duty" as mam calls it but l always had an allowance (of course it changed during time, like when I was 10 it was very very symbolic). it really helped me learning how to manage my money and what to prioritize, but it worked because we really had a fixed amount of money each month to spend on fun things and if we didn't choose wisely, too bad for us we weren't getting more money nor the thing. She also always sat down with us and discuss our choices to help us understanding if we found them worth it. so yes for me at least it worked very well, but I don't think this is the only way and sure it doesn't work for everyone
@finjab1901
5 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you’re not my mom. I’m sure you’re nice and stuff but come on
@pvm0708
5 жыл бұрын
Finja B yeah i’m pretty sure her kids are gonna be scarred for life for not getting an allowance. Lol
@jaykay6249
4 жыл бұрын
@@pvm0708 lol no. A lot of kids all over the world don't get allowances. But we do get money if we tell our parents what we will spend our money on. So in a way they are in control of what we buy but it is not unnecessary spending.
@pvm0708
4 жыл бұрын
Jay Kay lol no what? Haha... my comment was sarcastic. I know a lot of people don’t get allowances but sometimes get money for something specific. That’s the way it should be....
@claudine1928
4 жыл бұрын
I like your perspective on this. Food for thought.
@traceyt4580
5 жыл бұрын
We only got $ for washing my dad's car Haha but cleaning my room? My mom would say "you live here, you gotta pitch in"
@martinam7806
4 жыл бұрын
I never got the allowance from my parents. Cleaning and helping with chores should be normal not something to only do to get paid....
@jhanasandigan2912
4 жыл бұрын
That's how my mom discipline us too regarding our allowance
@DadGames95
2 жыл бұрын
My children's allowance is a nice house, clothes, food, and holidays.
@meganlopez8241
2 жыл бұрын
Off rips she got it all wrong. She’s confusing “allowance” with “chore based commissions.”
@shubhasv9803
5 жыл бұрын
My parents didn’t give me an allowance. But they put me through college and paid for my wedding. I never lacked anything growing up.
@samdoetgitaar
4 жыл бұрын
My parents always payed for the stuff we needed and if we wanted to buy ourself something fun we had to earn the money ourselves. So i had my first job at 13 and kept working ever since. Im glad we didnt get allowence becouse now i learned at a young age to provide for myself. When i turned 15 my parents did gave me clothing money, that was not just for fashion but also for underwear and sanitary products. That was untill i started earning more and could actualy pay for all that myself. They still help us financualy if needed but overall wr do it ourselves. And i honestly wouldnt have had it any other way. I dont like getting money for doing noting, i wanna realy work for it or it doesnt feel satisfyinh
@mrsabarai5619
2 жыл бұрын
Actually I don't think children should get allowance ,my parent never gave me allowance and I think that's a better approach 4 understanding the value of money
@1956model1
5 жыл бұрын
Refreshing to see a celebrity parent with such a down to earth personality. God bless you Mayim.😀
@oliviaa5559
4 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@alext3480
4 жыл бұрын
she's a celebrity?
@oliviaa5559
4 жыл бұрын
@@alext3480 big bang theory - popular show
@adventurouspeach
4 жыл бұрын
Michelle M and also blossom
@carlasuannelockett1694
3 жыл бұрын
@@oliviaa5559 why are u HERE?
@paeb
4 жыл бұрын
My dad has always been like : if you need it, ask me and I'll tell you if you need it. Let me tell you, my negociation skills are off the charts!!
@AditiJahagirdar
3 жыл бұрын
Pretty similar to me!
@neonpandas
3 жыл бұрын
A lot of adults were not taught about how to handle money from out parents, I know I wasn't. I made it a goal to educate and question my nieces and nephews about it. I found this blog which helped a lot and I sent it to them (they are preteens) - millennialsvsmoney.com/raising-financially-responsible-children/
@perryh.5306
3 жыл бұрын
That sounds awesome! But if I was your son...and I did alot of chores and asked you for something and you said no....I would accept that....but if you said " clean the bathroom" I would say Yes Ma'am and clean it! Not because I would be getting something, but because you told me to! Js
@bleachflavoredcockroach9000
5 жыл бұрын
I dont get allowance, Why? Because I live in an asian household
@babfobreeza4858
5 жыл бұрын
*live
@bleachflavoredcockroach9000
5 жыл бұрын
B.G. Ibañez omg i didn’t realize that 🤣🤣
@bomburthefat6621
5 жыл бұрын
I understand your pain. Im from Singapore.
@garyobre3146
5 жыл бұрын
@not laggyvibes jealous 😣
@PoojaSharma-so5vy
5 жыл бұрын
That's so true😆
@rea8585
5 жыл бұрын
Never had an allowance as a kid. My parents bought me things I needed and honestly, I never felt a need to have an allowance. 🙂 I also knew how to appreciate money this way when I started making some or I got some for my birthday 🙂
@parijatshukla2333
5 жыл бұрын
In a world that capitalises on everything it very hard to accept full financial dependency. Imagine you, an adult woke up one day to know that your rent and electric and other basic needs are all paid for but you get no money besides that. In order to have to get something that makes you happy you have to do some insane amount of paperwork and requesting. You would be very dissatisfied with your life. In an objective sense you have everything you could need. But there are something's that you aquire just because you feel your life will be a bit better with it. When you are a child, you don't work or when you do you don't have a very high end job. Definitely not the most highly paying job you will ever have. Why? Because you go to school, you are still young and there is no way for you to have the resources to support yourself. But your fundamental human nature doesn't change. There are still things you may not need but you do want. And your parents will probably only see very few of them worth getting. Will your mother stop every few days to satisfy your chocolate craving? Will your dad see the reason why you absolutely need a specific eyeshadow palette? These are things that some money given by your parents, who cannot satisfy every thing you want but are willing to let you get for yourself can buy. They do not need to know everything in your drawers and closets. They can just let you choose to get the few things that you want with the limited money they give you so you won't have to tear your hair out convincing them.
@Carol-Bell
5 жыл бұрын
parijat shukla your logic is flawed. It’s based on the premise that children are the social equals of adults. There is a good reason a parent would say no to satisfying a daily chocolate craving or why that palette of eye shadow is not necessary. Children do not have the same level of knowledge and experience and wisdom that adults have. Therefore their wants; decisions and desires are not always good or wise. This is also why parents are responsible for supervision of children, in many areas of life. A child is and should be financially dependent on adult control and supervision. It is not and should not be viewed as a humiliating thing during childhood. This is not about needs of human nature, it’s about parents being in charge when children do not have the maturity and skills to manage things themselves.
@SNinjaQK
5 жыл бұрын
my parents also never game allowance and rarely bought me the things i needed
@michellelowedestroyscarnis3310
5 жыл бұрын
Same here! I started making money when I was 8 by collecting pop cans and I appreciated my first pay from that more than anything! Now I keep that way of thinking never lost it. I value and am very careful with my hard earned money.
@r.omi98
5 жыл бұрын
I live in a different country and I don’t think allowance is a thing. Which is why I’m kinda iffy about it. My parents provided me with everything I needed and if I wanted to buy something that was more expensive or not a necessity we talked about it and figured out some kind of deal. They also gave me money whenever I asked for it. But they never “payed” me for chores, since that’s something we all have to help with regardless of what we might get from it.
@annaf3915
5 жыл бұрын
I used to get a small allowance and at 13 I sat down my parents to have a serious talk with them. Telling them my classmates went to see a movie every Monday and my allowance was only half the ticket price. Their answer: "Need more money? Get a job then!" Me: "But I'm 13!" About a week later they told me they found me a job babysitting the neighbor's toddler who lived in the same building. The money I made there didn't only make me feel extremely proud and grown up but also prevented teenage pregnancy.
@coszniczegozerowaste8671
Жыл бұрын
🙂
@kosticka70
5 жыл бұрын
We didn't get an allowance growing up. Eastern European parents don't believe in that, at least mine didn't. Lol you are hilarious to watch.
@candycanewilma0114
5 жыл бұрын
Aj ne lupaj.
@NoRa-yc2ug
5 жыл бұрын
German parents are the same (at least mine). You help. No discussion. But if I wanted to go to the cinema with friends I also got money for that. But it was not for the work it was because my parents are nice and wanted me to have fun.
@kanpeki
5 жыл бұрын
In Romania parents get a certain amount of money from the government for each child they are caring for. We call that allowance. If the family is not strained financially and you are a bit older, parents might let you have that money. At least mine did. I don't know how it works now, but back in the day we received a small notebook with one page for each month and we would go to the post office and the lady at the counter would rip off the page corresponding to the previous month and give us the amount specified there. My parents would encourage me to save the money (basically postpone going to the post office, so when I did, I could take out a couple of months' worth all at once). They'd ask what I planned on doing with it and shared their thoughts on that. Otherwise, I had to ask if I needed/wanted something that I couldn't get on my own and they'd decide if it was possible. They'd usually give me some small change for bus tickets or a snack at school (if I ran out of money, though not necessarily - as the only child in a family of average means I was a quite spoiled).
@kanpeki
5 жыл бұрын
P.S. (Of course) I always had a piggy bank. The pillar of financial education :))
@tinatina40
5 жыл бұрын
This is not true. Its not called an allowance, but we do get money, most kids do. And we use it for when we go to school, to buy extra food or snacks, buy whatever you want and need aand you need to have enough leftover if you plan to do something with your friends. Example, if you want to go to an arcade or a movie, they will bring u there but you should have money for your own ticket.
@sammi8930
5 жыл бұрын
I love your parenting videos!! And I love how you are so confident in your parenting, especially when it's such a fight these days
@Kumahachi8
5 жыл бұрын
Haha. I still remember the concept of pocket money being introduced to me by my best friend. I must have been about 8. I was so confused, like, “Your parents just _give_ you money...?”
@ericnordine702
4 жыл бұрын
I got 20 for each A in high school . My stepdad freaked when I got straight A in 7 classes. Lol
@jetskioutofwater2913
4 жыл бұрын
luckyyyyy as a straight A student myself, I wish I had this system XD
@leandoerh
4 жыл бұрын
JetSki Out of Water fuck you
@jetskioutofwater2913
4 жыл бұрын
@@leandoerh so kind of you to say
@billyma6
4 жыл бұрын
JetSki Out of Water lmao I sense jealousy hehe,, also eyyy >4.0GPA’ers unite
@stephanielafountain7554
4 жыл бұрын
I had a bank account and they paid me for good grades and reading during the summer 😎
@LAVirgo67
5 жыл бұрын
My son got an allowance just for existing. It was not tied to chores or doing the basics for himself. We started in kindergarten with $50 a month. Many parents would gasp at that amount, but there was a reason. Half of it went into a savings fund, so that left $25. That covered any books, treats, toys, etc. It stopped the whining at the store of 'I want...' because I would ask 'do you have enough money? All of a sudden he had to assess the situation. I'm going to say 85% of the time he put things back because they weren't worth it. If he wanted big ticket items he had to save up for to get them. Every year his allowance went up. In middle-school he saved his money & did extra chores around the neighborhood & saved up for his very own flat-screen TV (this was back when they were new thing). I'm going to say that he learned to shop to stretch his money by shopping smarter, price comparison, coupons & saving up for sales. He had his own ATM in high school. We supplied basic no frills sneakers. If he wanted the fancier ones he had to pony up the rest of the money, which he rarely did. His allowance paid for going out w/ his friends, movies, books, hobbies, etc. We didn't have to deal with "mom I need money', because he knew what he had to spend. It saved us money, because we saw what other parents were shelling out. Once in college he worked & had his own money. He paid for his own tuition, books etc. by looking for deals on used books (renting, too), saving & using the money he had saved up every month since kindergarten. He graduated w/ only $7,000 worth of student loan debt. I'm going to say that giving money to our son helped him to save & use his money wisely. No regrets.
@dandylionriver
5 жыл бұрын
@Dee Dee... Great job parenting sweetie! 👍
@soniaguzman4174
5 жыл бұрын
That sounds great ! I feel like doing that with my son could work . good jobs and thanks for sharing the tip
@fe5018
5 жыл бұрын
This is an interesting perspective. It's definitely a valid albeit lesser utilised approach. Reading it, i find myself inexplicably thinking of someone I know whose Mom inadvertently established a pattern of buying away bad feelings for one of their kids throughout their life. Any upset or mishap, this mom would throw money at the situation and buy things to cheer the daughter up. Unfortunately, decades later, the daughter has yet to learn how to deal with the difficult bits of life without doing that. She's run herself into debt repeatedly and with greater consequence throughout her adult life. Her mom continued til the day she died trying to fix everything with money and also overextended herself financially in doing so, lost her home even. Family members and friends were forever bailing this woman out and offering a safety net with their carefully saved and managed money whilst the woman just recklessly squandered everything. She's defrauded numerous financial institutions and worked underhand/illegal deals to avoid responsibility for her financial chaos. Its always someone elses fault and she never stops or even curbs her spending. I don't think the op's method would work as well for every kid out their as it did for her sun, he seems paticularly ammenable to it, but all the samr, i can't help but think it would have saves most if not all of the financial hardship inflicted by the reckless selfish woman described above if the mother could have done this instead of what she did.
@Ichfindekeinenanderenalias
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly how my mom did it with my brother and me. And I think it taught us well. We didn't start out in Kindergarten and it wasn't the same amount, but that depends on where you live, too. I got a job when I finished school at 17 to spend some time in Spain, and also worked for the whole time I went to university now. I am not in debt, I know the value of money and I think I learned pretty early in life how good it feels to work hard to get something and then finally getting it. I kinda geht what she is trying to say, though. There are more than one right way to teach your kids.
@liiset
5 жыл бұрын
My parents did the exact same. It started with a small amount, and kept growing as I got older. First it was to buy things I wanted, later it was also to buy gifts for friends and later for clothes. I would get twice a year 1 full outfit (coat, shoes, pants etc) and the rest was on me. My student debt was 1500 euros and I paid that back in a year. I am really good at saving money, putting money into funds and never had to ask ever someone for money which I am proud of. I had to do chores in the house and I did them, but not because my allowance was depending on it but because it was just our contribution to the household. I didn’t ask my parents for “fun” because it was there and all extra’s were on me. Did I buy candies? Yes I did but once I learned if I wanted good things I needed to save I stopped that. I feel like I benefited hugely from getting that allowance and the reasoning of mayim is not one I can relate to nor would I ever enforce on my own family if I were ever getting one.
@JessicaKent
5 жыл бұрын
😂 mean mean bad mommy lol
@emilybailey1907
5 жыл бұрын
Jessica Kent i laughed at that too😂
@rlwalker2
5 жыл бұрын
You stole that right off my finger-tips. lol
@thespiritofsauntering
5 жыл бұрын
Aren't we all ;)
@rickylennon3847
5 жыл бұрын
I wonder what Sheldon would say about this.
@benterry2681
5 жыл бұрын
Sheldon believe in positive reinforcement for good behaviours and negative for bad so a fluctuating allowance based on behaviours where you are essentially paid for the good you do but that money can be docked for bad.
@YoungEngineer-ew9en
5 жыл бұрын
@@benterry2681 Hey sheldon we know its you
@afrikaasantiago652
5 жыл бұрын
@@YoungEngineer-ew9en LMAO I thought the same
@Melodyloveshorses1
5 жыл бұрын
I think Sheldon would insist on positive -reward reinforcement. 😉 Delayed gratification is a good thing to teach, too.
@jackbrown3761
5 жыл бұрын
My allowance was the roof over my head, the food in my belly, the cloth on my back, the shoes on my feet, the glasses I wear, the bed I sleep in, the blankets I use, the gas, electricity, the T.V, ect... oh don't forget the icecream.
@simple_naildesigns
4 жыл бұрын
jack brown 🙌🏼
@lucillewoodmansee6674
3 жыл бұрын
That's not what allowance is but yes be grateful for all that you have :)
@brandon6541
3 жыл бұрын
@@lucillewoodmansee6674 yes
@neonpandas
3 жыл бұрын
A lot of adults were not taught about how to handle money from out parents, I know I wasn't. I made it a goal to educate and question my nieces and nephews about it. I found this blog which helped a lot and I sent it to them (they are preteens) - millennialsvsmoney.com/raising-financially-responsible-children/
@ethanweimer-kopf6907
3 жыл бұрын
I didn't even know what an allowance was until a year ago.... I'm 15
@briannabickley4509
5 жыл бұрын
I’ve been giving a small allowance ($2/week) to my children since they were 5. My reasons are as follows: 1. My husband and I model frugality daily and we speak honestly and appropriately about money with our children. But just as I wouldn’t expect them to learn to use a pencil simply by watching and talking about it I also don’t expect them to learn about money without first hand experience. The allowance I give them is a tool for hands on learning experiences. 2. It helps them evaluate their own values in terms of luxury. I provide for all their needs so everything they would buy is a want but I think it’s important for them to evaluate which of their wants add the most benefit to their life (because they can’t afford them all) and what cost are they willing to pay for that want or luxury. 3. Watching them interact with their own money gives me insight into their developing personalities. This insight allows me to see where I might adjust my parenting to help develop their values and responsibility. 4. Having “their own money” reduces shopping behavior issues because if they want something not on my list they have to have enough of their own money with them in order to purchase it. I don’t pay for chores, or for hygiene. I will pay extra for those more laborious jobs as were mentioned in the video. Although if they don’t complete their chores I will offer to do the chore for them if they’d like to pay me - although they usually can’t afford my rate 😉
@carmenwheatley7316
5 жыл бұрын
Brianna Bickley. True growing up our allowance was usually twice a month and it was candy money. It was considered a treat. As we got older it was more and for stuff like roller skating or a movie. And yes if you learned to be frugal with it you saved up to get something you really wanted. Chores were not optional, if not done you lost privileges.
@kimberlycooper4170
5 жыл бұрын
My parents gave us allowances, too. They didn't tell us why. But, their reasons were probably the same reasons that you listed.
@sukisakain
5 жыл бұрын
I grew up with an allowance for “snack” money. Did not get paid to do chores. They are considered part of your daily routine. If I wanted something frivolous, my parents told me to save my allowance. But the funny thing is, once I saved up enough money, I did not want to spend it just in case there’s something better that comes along and I won’t be able to afford it. It taught me how to budget.
@abcoh4440
5 жыл бұрын
But they can learn all that with money from Christmas, Birthdays...
@thepanda9782
5 жыл бұрын
Ana Oh Yes but thats also a large amount of money all at once. Although it is a valuable skill, it makes it a lot harder for children to learn impulse control over the long term. Its not real life to go for long periods of time without any money and then suddenly get a whole bunch, adults get paid every 2 weeks to a month and have to budget for things accordingly. When those birthdays come, having a regular small allowance makes it easier to evaluate the actual value of that money in comparison to how many weeks it takes for that child to make the money via allowance.
@HeyItsDom7
5 жыл бұрын
I never got an allowance. I don’t get it. Everyone should help cleaning the house. ❤️
@danika9411
5 жыл бұрын
I got allowance BUT it was never tied to help cleaning :-) In our family everyone had a tasks and there was one day a week where the whole house was cleaned ( saturday......) and in summer f.e. it was my task to water the garden when the sun went down. On top of my saturday- tasks to clean the stairs and the bathroom and on top of helping every friday with shopping food for the week, my sisters had other things they needed to do. I never got money for tasks, just a general allowance. But I would also not get presents outside of birthdays/ celebrations ect. I wanted a comic -> allowance, I wanted to go to the movies with friends -> allowance, I wanted to buy birthday/christmas presents -> allowance. That way I had to budget. Do I really need that comic/magazine now? Or do I want to go see that movie with friends? Christmas in in two month.... Now that I think about it my parents asked my if they should buy me stuff or if they should give me an allowance but then they wouldn't buy anything anymore. I choose allowance, because I wanted the freedom to buy comics f.e. which they wouldn't have bought me honestly. But it did me good. I got into drawing and I got a degree in illustration :-) Wow that was long. Sorry XD I think it's just a general misconception that you get allowance for help cleaning the house. My friends also didn't get money for cleaning. But it's different in every family :-)
@melteddarkchocolate000
5 жыл бұрын
Yes but if you mess up the toilet that's extra cash.
@andree824
5 жыл бұрын
Dom Anderson - Exactly!! : )
@1dullgeek
5 жыл бұрын
Let me say, first, that I completely support your decision not to give your kids an allowance. This is *NOT* at all meant to be a criticism of your decision. But I do give my kids an allowance. I don't give it in exchange chores. I just give them a small amount. And the reason that I give it to them is the same reason I give them pencils and books and other things: I want them to practice using them. I want them to have had some money, I want them to spend it, and then I want them to know what it feels like to want something but have spent the money they had. They have chores, but they're not tied to the allowance. We do have extra chores that they can do for pay if they want. But that's up to them. As far as age for our kids: We started them with a weekly allowance at 5. The amount was $0.25 per year of age. So at 5 they got $1.25. We had them save 10%, giveaway 10% and then do whatever they wanted with the other 80%. We stopped allowances for our oldest 2 at 16 when they got drivers licenses and could reasonably go get a job. The younger 2 will stop allowance at 16 as well when they get there. Are there other ways to teach about the value of money? Of course! But an allowance was just easier for our family. Glad to hear you found some other way to teach your kids!
@jtbburch4674
5 жыл бұрын
We use this concept too. I didn't want chores tied to allowance, but wanted her to learn to give, spend, and save. Chores are expected, as she is part of the household (and also will some day need to know how to do all this on her own); and if she wants to earn money, we have extra chores she can do.
@amandasutherland1613
5 жыл бұрын
Well said!!
@s.d.7671
5 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what most parents in Germany do. Kids get allowance usually around the age that they start school, not in exchange for anything, so that they can learn about money. The amount increases with age because activities like going to the movies don't include the parents any more, so kids pay for themselves with their allowance. In the beginning it's just enough to buy some candy or save it up for a cheap toy. I liked growing up like this!
@crochetingcanuck
5 жыл бұрын
That's how I was raised, minus the saving and giving away. It was entirely my decision what to do with my allowance (all gift money, or any other money I came into though had to go into my savings account for college). Conversely, my husband never got an allowance and he is still crappy with money.
@lazyhomebody1356
5 жыл бұрын
@Tomorrow is another Day My parents tried the give up one of your old toys to get a new one trick. Then they felt bad for me never getting any new toys, and they dropped that stupid idea.
@LubaAlanna
5 жыл бұрын
My parents told me to collect bottles if I wanted money, so I did.
@NSBigBlue
5 жыл бұрын
same! bc of me we established a business with them and i’ve worked there and paid off all my college and visited 48 outta 50 states!
@NSBigBlue
5 жыл бұрын
Luba Alanna and to think it all started with 5 cents at a time
@fionafiona1146
5 жыл бұрын
My mom grew up on a farm and got the same wages as labours... when that could cover 2x 2 weeks trips a year with church /youth group.
@eandatoo
4 жыл бұрын
We did too! $$$
@S3RIN4T0R
4 жыл бұрын
Did the same growing up but I did it out of my own interests because I needed some extra pocket money 😂.
@abrilakgun
5 жыл бұрын
I never got paid for doing chores. But my mum always made sure we received a monthly amount of money regardless of the chores. She just wanted us to have a little money to buy ourselves things we wanted and she made us get our big things like bikes, etc. I remember I felt very proud of myself when I got my first bike all by myself with my little monthly money.
@nataliahall236
5 жыл бұрын
Abril Akgun Me too! It taught me how to save money and managed money. I made financial mistakes early on, when it didn't matter for my survival.
@hazel5634
5 жыл бұрын
But the fact is that you didn't do it "all by yourself" you paid for it with free money. In my opinion, this is worse than doing it for chores. At least with chores you're doing some work. But with this it prepares you to get free money for doing no work. Like benefits and welfare
@Guruthosa
5 жыл бұрын
I didn't get pocket money as a kid and it was extremely hard for me. Other kids could buy the occasional comic book or save up. I am great with money now, but for example terrible at buying myself food because I never used to be able to do that. I didn't eat lunch after school on many days. Also you just don't want your parents to know about every little thing you buy or might want to buy. I remember stealing a postcard once that had all 150 pokemon on it. It can be frustrating in the long run to have no choices at all.
@jaceyjacobs4013
5 жыл бұрын
Same. My parents would buy us stuff if we wanted, but it was pretty frustrating as a teen to have to ask for every little thing, especially since I didn’t have a lot freedom in other ways.
@jtpratt4765
5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, my parents just didn't have money, so until I was 16 and got a job, I had 0 spending money. To this day, I have a hard time knowing what I like when clothes shopping and I think it's because I never got to pick out my own clothes ever (lived off of hand me downs).
@ivettefrias89
5 жыл бұрын
My parents never gave me an allowance, they provide me with food, an education and clothing. When I wanted something extra they’d buy it or say no. I had to work in the fields if I wanted extra spending money. I disliked it but oh boy did it teach me about making money and the importance of saving and spending wisely. I never stole money even when other kids had brand clothing or fancy gadgets. I just told myself they’re parents were well off so they could afford to spend on such luxuries. So I decided to get good grades so I can make money and buy myself what I wanted but also not splurge my money on unnecessary items.
@sid2543
5 жыл бұрын
@@jaceyjacobs4013 I think having an issue with asking for every little thing is an issue with communication with parents and maybe wanting too much? I mean theres a time and age right where you can buy everything you want. Your parents know better and think more about the things you want. Looking back, if my parents did give me everything I had asked for I really would be regretting it today. And I dont know why it seems so wierd to go shopping or doing things with your parents? You can pick the clothes and have the "freedoms" as you say. Honestly your comment sounds a bit on the complainy/whiney side. Sorry i dont mean any offence, but I think your problems could have been easily solved from your side.
@lazyhomebody1356
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! Why should you have to tell your jailor what you need the money for?
@MsEbalou
5 жыл бұрын
I didn’t get an allowance either, something about money doesn’t grow on trees and I was provided everything I needed. 🤷♀️
@MsEbalou
5 жыл бұрын
I don’t think kids should be given an allowance for doing a few chores, house work should be divided equally based on age and ability (you’re not going to split chores 50/50 with a 5 year old, but a 8 year old can certainly do a few more things than a 5 year old). But I do agree, going out and doing yard work whether that be mowing, weed whipping, weeding the garden or things like that; do deserve some sort of compensation. Especially for a kid, those tasks can be very challenging.
@hottakebabe3842
5 жыл бұрын
I never got an allowance, my parents just got me things when I needed them and sometimes as a treat. I was just expected to do chores and it never seemed weird to me.
@nikolkuhar8127
5 жыл бұрын
Hot Take, Babe finnaly someone normal here who don't cry abour having their allowance only 5$ when they breathed out lol
@emflores4286
5 жыл бұрын
Lol! Its common in Asian countries, particularly in east and south east asia. Its like a norm. Its expected that chores are part of daily life. You dont get compensation for such work. I admit that i hate chores, but i tell you, at some point, it will help you become disciplined and you learn to value the money you get.
@sofa1110
5 жыл бұрын
Same
@conniebooth2100
5 жыл бұрын
Hot Take, Babe me to
@strangeland4062
5 жыл бұрын
same, and as soon as I could work, I did so I could have my own money and buy things that I wanted.
@chiraine1
4 жыл бұрын
I grew up getting an allowance, but it wasn't connected to behavior. I simply got it to understand the concept of money. If I wanted something I could safe up for it myself. It probably started with like 50 cents a week as a little girl up to 10 euros as a pre-teen. I got an allowance until I got my first job at 16 working at McDonald's :p. From that point I had to pay for my own cell phone plan, to add some extra responsibility into the money management. When I was 14 I became a vegetarian, and because my parents found it a bit difficult and I loved cooking and exploring foods, they challenged me to do my own grocery shopping for a month with 20 euros a week. This ended up becoming a thing for 4 years until I moved out at 18. I'm 23 now and I'm literally the only one of my friends who can actually manage my expenses to the point where I know exactly what comes in, what goes out and what is saved etc. So for me having an allowance from such a young age, really benefited me as an adult.
@smlorrin
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I think that the "saving for something" aspect is an important lesson that getting an allowance provides.
@jandmvideos9051
3 жыл бұрын
I didn’t get an allowance and I don’t have children, but I remember when my niece began receiving an allowance. She quickly began to understand the value of money. Before that, it was difficult to make her understand. She saved to buy things she wanted and if they broke easily or she outgrew something quickly, she would regret the purchase and become more selective moving forward. It really taught her to save, delay gratification, and think about needs rather than wants. I think it’s one of the many reasons she manages money so well today.
@lucyoflynn9983
5 жыл бұрын
Everybody lives in the house, everybody contributes. As long as it's age appropriate then chores are part of everyday life. Schools (or parents if home schooled) teach children how to survive in the work place. Parents teach children how to survive life.
@nonyab5640
5 жыл бұрын
I say there are more pros than cons to giving allowance. My nephew is 13 and in his mind he does all the budgeting of what he wants based of what he gets. I don’t think he considers asking his parents for “their” money. He saves, etc. also he borrows from them, asks for extra jobs, and yes negotiates. But never straight out asks, hey will you buy this for me? I’m sure they had more conversation than: you do chores you get money. I definitely think they explain things along the way. But this is just one kids story. I’m sure there are many ways to do things, and each kid is different. Just from my personal experience I think it’s a good idea.
@matthewroberts198
5 жыл бұрын
My sisters and I had the same experience growing up. We got a monthly allowance. If we didn't do our chores, poor on our homework and things like that, we didn't get any allowance. Me in particular didn't do quite a few of my chores and was somewhat lazy when it came to school. Many times I saw my sisters get allowance while I didn't. I got better over time. And now we still don't like to ask our mom for money because we feel we haven't earned it.
@fadyalhachem
5 жыл бұрын
Especially that for many kids as they grow up, asking money from their parents becomes disgraceful cz they were never given an allowance.
@emilybailey1907
5 жыл бұрын
I relate to the bit about wearing the same clothes over and over that made me chuckle 😂 As a charity shop volunteer I appreciate your use of them, thanks for being so real 💕
@laceypenguin
5 жыл бұрын
I had an allowance from the time I started school, to buy myself snacks, to save up for gifts for family and friends, etc.. Yes, I bought mostly junk food with my money, but also learned about saving for bigger things, and giving to others in need. My husband, on the other hand, was never given an allowance when he was growing up. The way he spends money as an adult drives me up the wall, as it's about instant gratification instead of prioritizing needs and wants. Our daughter is just two, and it'll be interesting to see how we choose to tackle this allowance issue when she's older.
@dlat1825
3 жыл бұрын
I agree. Having an allowance is linked to having responsibility to use it wisely. The job for parents is helping to prepare for adulthood. There's not enough economic education.
@ezraisaninjac7136
2 жыл бұрын
Must be a cute 4 year old !
@DomasoLea
5 жыл бұрын
I got monthly allowance as a child, since age 9: all the money I would need for lunch in school and going out with friends in the weekends for an entire month upfront. My single mom was and still is so bad with money management that in the end of the month I'd have some savings to borrow her to buy some bread. I was so grateful I could just rely on myself and that's how I learned money management, paid my university, and still living without loans and debts.
@blod9862
5 жыл бұрын
I got my money for charging my siblings for eggs (I was the only one willing and able to cook snacks for them)
@nicolepapole
5 жыл бұрын
I don't give mine an allowance either and I don't use the word chore. Here you're responsible for caring for our home. And yes, they can earn money and do. My 11 year old son earned $20 for helping fix a ride on lawn mower we had. It wasn't his responsibility so he earned money. But I'm not going to pay them to clean up their crumbs and pick up their underwear.
@Chem_-jp5em
5 жыл бұрын
We got one dollar a day if we did the dishes and the kitchen. Not our bedroom though.
@1976angelaH
5 жыл бұрын
That’s how it is at our house. If they do extra work to save for something big/expensive then that is fine. A regular allowance though just doesn’t happen.
@blod9862
5 жыл бұрын
I get my money from charging my siblings for eggs
@adrianaa2767
5 жыл бұрын
👏🏼
@cracticustibicen6374
5 жыл бұрын
I think children having fixed responsibilities and being paid for anything outside of it actually connects money to chores more than a fixed allowance. I have many positive childhood memories of helping my parents with big multi-day tasks, which wouldn’t have felt the same if I was being paid each time. I felt part of the family, in the same sense as my parents: If something needed doing and I was there and capable of helping, then I did. I never felt that my allowance was tied to the ordinary housework I did. The allowance was just a practical way of ensuring that I could occasionally buy something without having to ask my parents for it.
@shellyrourke8994
5 жыл бұрын
Hi everyone. I do give my son an allowance (or pocket money as we call it) because it helps him to learn how to manage his money, to save up for things he really wants. He only gets it if he's done everything expected of him like keeping his room tidy, doing his homework etc. This works fine for us but I appreciate it doesn't fit with everyone. (He's 11 btw) We are also a thrifty family, I don't get my nails done (or anything else) either, I even cut and colour my own hair, I buy new clothes once a year.
@marvenemartinez8879
5 жыл бұрын
My parents didnt pay me do anything. But gave me an allowance to help manage money.
@apocalypsed
5 жыл бұрын
When I was younger, my allowance was very important to me. It gave me the freedom to buy my own stuff and pay for my own soft drinks or candy when I was out with my friends. Buying a youth magazine (it's called Bravo and is still sold in my country today) was also very important to me. I didn't get the money for doing my chores, they were a part of our daily life, but being in school and unable to work in my free time, I'm very glad that my mother gave us some money to spend. My sisters and I didn't have to ask her every now and then when we needed some money and I think that's a very important part: Not asking for every gum, lollipop or magazine gave us some freedom we wouldn't have had otherwise until we were old enough to work after school. I also felt very guilty whenever I had to ask my mother for money. My weekly allowance helped a lot with that.
@guitarguy3378
5 жыл бұрын
I'm around that age right now, and you described it perfectly
@sylel223
5 жыл бұрын
I agree with everything you wrote ( are you from Poland? I remember "Bravo"). I have never received allowance from my parents, more from lack of money rather than from any conscious parenting decision. I had a ton of chores from a very early age like cleaning the whole house with my sister starting from age 7 and it would have not occured to me to disobey or demand payment. However, I do not consider allowance to be a payment for doing chores around the house, which I absolutely agree that kids should not be paid for. In my opinion, getting allowance is a way of showing respect for your children. By sharing a tiny portion of the family money parents do not demonstrate their "superiority" just because they have the financial upper hand as in "we pay for your food/roof over your head etc., we control you, we are the bosses so you need to ask/beg for every tiny thing you want". I would have appreciated that kind of respect when I was young and dependent on my parents to survive.My daughter gets $3 a week and usually just enjoys keeping it in her little wallet and feeling very grown up. Until she is big enough to earn her own money, I want her to feel she deserves this allowance just because she is a part of the family, just like she deserves a home, food on the table, education etc.
@donnamartinez6201
5 жыл бұрын
@@sylel223 I agree with your thinking. If helping around the house is in keeping with being included in being an active member of the house, "sharing" a little of the income that comes in from the parents being able to work outside the home to earn money, should also be a part of being an active, participant of the house. Adults get to indulge sometimes, so why can't children be given an opportunity to choose their indulgences, (within reason and age appropriateness), without depending on the parents' determination of what is important to them. :)
@nightowl7955
5 жыл бұрын
It also helps you to understand the value of money. You need to manage money to know this.
@sukisakain
5 жыл бұрын
My parents did exactly the same thing. I a weekly allowance. We were not paid to do chores. Was told to save my allowance if I wanted to buy frivolous things. 😊 It taught me how to budget and save.
@erdbeerschorschnc3484
5 жыл бұрын
I think it's stupid to ask for likes before the main part of the video. "The like" is supposed to rate the quality of the video not to show that you are happy the person uploaded something.
@nottocleverxx614
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@skijumpnose
5 жыл бұрын
Shalom Mayim,nice blue shirt and you are an awesome mother i am sure
@alyssiacerullo4175
5 жыл бұрын
I love this! I have never given my children an allowance...helping out around the house is part of being an active member in our family. Do I give them money when needed, yes...but it’s not a reward for helping take care of the house. We all live here, and we all need to help take care of our space!
@martinaf.2737
5 жыл бұрын
I agree. Allowance for chores in the house? I think that's nonsense. My brother and I always did the chores, we had to do, together, so they were done pretty fast:)
@kalennbrady3802
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly my parents were the same way and I was as well. We always found odd jobs around the neighborhood or with our parents to what we wanted. Mostly around neighborhood. Like go to public swimming pool everyday.
@heavensennamon1938
5 жыл бұрын
My moms thing was she gave me a roof over my head, food in my belly, clothes to wear, and hot water to bathe in and I can definitely wash some dishes lol
@DisturbedVette
5 жыл бұрын
So how do you reward your children exactly?
@swanpride
5 жыл бұрын
Who says that allowances have to or should be tied to chores? Maybe you should give your children the money you would roughly pay for their school supplies, clothing aso and explain to them, that in the future they will have to pay for all this themselves. That will teach them how to actually manage money.
@r123hh
5 жыл бұрын
im 21 and i should get an allowance just for existing, life is hard man.
@antighastly
5 жыл бұрын
Mood
@Call-me-Al
5 жыл бұрын
In some countries that is actually a thing, because society as a whole is better off and safer if we don't have a lot of desperate homeless people who do who knows what to survive or turn crazy/bitter and disruptive. The goal is always to make sure you can find a job and there are programs for it, but e.g. in Finland homeless people are even given apartments because it is so much easier to give consistent care and get good results from mental health programs if they are available at a fixed address and don't have to be constantly tracked down and won't keep missing appointments. People are way less of a danger to their fellow people if they can survive without resorting to crime.
@chocolatecake4146
5 жыл бұрын
damn straight
@alanoodyousef6535
5 жыл бұрын
Il Al in my country family take care of one an other and we do not have homeless people. I’m 22 and i don’t have a job yet but i have my father, mother and big sister giving me money on a monthly basis. And i live with my mother.
@hannahkaufman1395
5 жыл бұрын
Grow up.
@1985-f5y
4 жыл бұрын
I remember on the show 'Everybody Hates Chris', Terry Crews yelling "Allowance? I ALLOW you to live in this house. I ALLOW you to use this gas. I ALLOW you to eat my food. I ALLOW you to turn on these lights..."
@simple_naildesigns
4 жыл бұрын
Ar Daneh ha! Very true though!
@emogurl721
4 жыл бұрын
My mom quoted this almost directly (we all watched the show) and after that what argument can be made?
@ryanhall8770
4 жыл бұрын
I actually went and watched it just now
@Lin0026
4 жыл бұрын
Well, that's your obligation as a parent, what you're gonna do, toss them on the street? You choose to have children, children don't ask to be born
@1985-f5y
4 жыл бұрын
@@Lin0026 It was a funny skit to watch though. Just reminded me of it, that's all
@mattig89ch
5 жыл бұрын
I didn't get an allowance myself. Technically I did, but they never paid it. I am now in my 30s, and learning hard lessons about finances I didn't know existed before. I think kids should get an allowance, but I think it should be something you and your partner agree on.
@theamolden3166
5 жыл бұрын
I got an allowance and as a teenager, I learned that “managing money” isn’t about spending as little money as possible. It’s about how you spend the money you got. If you want to follow up on all of the fashion trends as they come in, sure, why not? However, that means you’re going to have to cut something else, like less nights out at restaurants or cheaper apartment or something
@theamolden3166
5 жыл бұрын
I also learned that that’s one of the reasons why lottery winners often go bankrupt. Money is about prioritizing. Big sums of money doesn’t mean “you can get everything”, it means “what do you want to spend it on?”
@mattig89ch
5 жыл бұрын
@@theamolden3166These are the lessons I'm learning. And I'm having trouble balancing the two actually. Typically, I spend too much, and have to cut off my leisure spending completely for a few weeks/ a month. I can't quite seem to get the hang of how much I have to spare, and still build up my account. But I am working on it.
@lughor82
5 жыл бұрын
@Mike M It's not about the value of money, it's sbout learning to handle a limited ressource. You should learn to handle money as soon as possible, maybe when starting school. And at that age you should not have a part time job. In Germany you may have a job at the age of 14 or 16. Everything before the age of 13 is not allowed by law. So you are restricted to helping your family, maybe your neighbours. You should definitely learn to handle money before that age.
@nickihammond3939
5 жыл бұрын
@Mike M but have you never done a boat load of yard work, and then a nice steak dinner? Hard day at work, and had a beer? It's a treat, and once and a while, you should be treating yourself, its healthy when kept within reason. Just us as parents/adults do it differently. Nothing wrong with giving a kid some change once and a while for being a good help, or doing something extra. Side note, I'd love to hang out with the kid that wants a steak for a treat, but most kids I know want pokemon lol....
@crypticgiii323
5 жыл бұрын
You’re channel is so great because every comment in the comments section is respectful and literate. Love you Mayim 🥰
@teaandroses
5 жыл бұрын
I used to have an allowance when I was younger. But after a few weeks my parents gave up on it because I was too good keeping track of how much they owed me. (They rarely carried cash) I tallied it up to about $60 before they took allowance away entirely. I was serious about making sure I got paid for my work.
@yuryi1548
5 жыл бұрын
I relate to this comment so much
@a.a.3555
5 жыл бұрын
I gave my daughter an allowance because I never got an allowance. I feel it did teach her how to handle money. She use to go with me to thrift stores and hated it. But as she got older and worked to make her own money she LIKED thrift stores and yard sales. When she was about 11-12 she saved her money to join an ice skating class because one of her friends was taking that class as well. She has always been good with math so I encouraged her to go in that direction. She works in the finance department to this day for a bus company.
@larissa6417
4 жыл бұрын
I received an allowance from early age on, 7 or something, starting with 50ct per week. One day I wanted a baby born kitchen (150$ at the time) and I asked my mom how many weeks I would have to save to buy it. When she said "several years" it really made me realize value and cost of things and that I didn't want a baby born kitchen enough to save for several years. Till this day I think that is such an important lesson and also being able to really decide what you're gonna spend your money on and a especially what you're NOT gonna spend your money helped me to be responsible with my financials till this day. Anyway, just a little story. :) I'm sure there is many right ways.
@ЛидияПаркер
5 жыл бұрын
Best actress and very good person ❤️
@melindassimpson7936
5 жыл бұрын
Say it louder, so folks in back can hear.
@sadisticanonymity
5 жыл бұрын
I don’t- I don’t get an allowance, *I clean for food and shelter*
@Merfolk_
5 жыл бұрын
Allowance is actually a good thing. I've had allowance for my whole school life and that's helped a lot. I don't ask my parents for additional money if I need something in school or have to pay for certain activities. It's my way of helping them out while I'm in school instead of hogging everything financially. I paid half of my ps4 for my birthday, games are mine to buy, I managed to buy myself a Nike off of the sales I made selling chocolates using my allowance as capital. In fact, I pay for most of my things, braces (monthly payment comes from my sales), clothes (I buy off of thrift stores, parents rarely buy any for me), equipment and supplies for my aquarium (which I bought) and more. It really does help me since I can budget a lot of my money without relying on my parents too much. Sometimes I don't even ask for my allowance when they forget to give me some for the week.
@ivettefrias89
5 жыл бұрын
Well they must be giving you quite a bit of money for your allowance. But as a parent we can’t control what children buy unless we handle the money. If my kids want an expensive game console I will decide if they can use the money I provide to buy one. It’ll all depend of how well they’re graces are, how respectful they are at school or at home etc....
@Merfolk_
5 жыл бұрын
@@ivettefrias89 nope, just plain simple $6 a week. It took me a while to build that capital. I agree with the attitude control though, I mostly act accordingly and I'm nothing like that arrogant kid who gets his stuff bought for him and breaks it within the next few months.
@Merfolk_
5 жыл бұрын
That is, if $6 is considered hefty for you I've had that allowance since I was in grade 7, elementary days had me at like $3-4 a week. I'm 18 now.
@Hi-uv7nn
5 жыл бұрын
No offense but it’s sad that you had to pay half for your birthday present
@macilak2
5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I don't know. I think $6 is quite a lot if you consider that you make about $1 a day, no matter what. That never happens in "real", adult life. It's not my place to judge and I am just here to read the comments because I have a 4 year old so I'm just starting to think about these things. But I'd probably rather put that $6 a week onto a bank account and give it to my child when he's older.
@annabelyates5219
5 жыл бұрын
My brother and I never got an allowance either, for the same reasons! It never occurred to me that we should get paid to help out and we also weren't Res asked to do much often. When I was saving up for my first laptop I was given £5 every week but then I was given a schedule of chores that I had to follow which included things like cooking the family meal once a week, not the regular chores I'd be asked to do. I personally think it was the best way, which worked well for our family. We really value money as it's not something we've come to expect every time we need it 😊
@MsNightwish87
5 жыл бұрын
Well, your kids do get an allowance just not from you. I agree you shouldn't pay for everyday chores around the house, but having your own money is important. There's no better way to learn than through experience and good budgeting skills are crucial in adult life. Dealing with money should start as early as possible, ane obseving how mom spends is something quite different than deciding about your own money and spendings. I plan to give my kids allowance as early as possible and ask them to pay themselves for certain things (present for grandma, cell phone bill, ice cream with friends, partial costs of something "extra"). Everything at age-appropriate level.
@cinnamon8884
5 жыл бұрын
totally agree.
@1maripaul
5 жыл бұрын
100 percent agree and I think that Mayim knows more than all of us combined about "Statistically speaking" and i would really think that statistically speaking, kids who were taught young and consistently about money, how to save, spend, and work for it, i would think statistically they are Much, much better at money all around. And think about how much that helps in life at Any age when you know how to save, spend and handle money!! But I also know that SES (no matter how much a celebrity wants to say they are like you & me) SES Plays a Huuge role in it and they are Not like you & me or your average person. There is Nothing wrong with that it is just a Matter and FACT of having money breeds differences and also how you do things. i.e. parenting....js
@Haley_Wozniak
5 жыл бұрын
Agree. There's so many teenagers clueless about money and budgeting.
@monkeycrunch88
5 жыл бұрын
I didn’t get an “allowance” per se. Around middle school my parents started giving me lunch money for the week and it was up to me how to spend it. If I wanted to buy something other than food I would have to buy cheaper items or skip lunch so that I could buy items I wanted. Honestly I think it taught me a valuable lesson between using money on necessities (I.e. food) versus luxury items (I.e toys and games) and how to balance between the two.
@katiem3809
5 жыл бұрын
I never got an allowance it’s not that special
@myaholmes4286
5 жыл бұрын
Katie M when all your friends around have money and you’re the only one left out it is a big deal
@serczykowski
5 жыл бұрын
Allowance isn't given for helping around, though it can be taken away for not helping, think about it, it works. ;) Also, you say you still buy your kids things, so what's the difference? Back in the day, when I was a kid, I had an allowance, and I could buy what I wanted. If I wanted to spend it on candies, I could, but then if I "needed" a new toy, I couldn't just go to my parents and tell them to buy it, I had to save my allowance and buy it myself. And that included various things, for example my parents, obviously, bought me clothes, but because they were paying for that, they were choosing what I wore, if I wanted something, that was something different, esp. pricier or sth that they didn't like, I had to get it myself. And I could earn additional money not only for some special things, but also everyday chores, but only those that weren't mine to do, so eg. I had to clean my room and I'd never be paid for that, but if my parents wanted me to clean their room, I'd be paid.
@sukisakain
5 жыл бұрын
serczykowski I was brought up the same way and it had taught me how to budget and save. 😊
@susieenglish302
5 жыл бұрын
Omg its like listening to my Dad only it was more 'I pay for your food - work or don't eat your choice'
@lesliesheppard6112
5 жыл бұрын
Susie English this made me lol 😂
@GHFan1978
5 жыл бұрын
Omg i love this! Lol
@nonyab5640
5 жыл бұрын
Except dad goes to jail if he doesn’t feed you lol. I’m sure he was just making a point though! Geez my mom would never threaten us with FOOD though that’s harsh...
@cjpietropinto9293
5 жыл бұрын
I did get an allowance growing up. I feel like many people have the wrong idea about kids who receive allowance. First, I have to mention, my allowance was $0.50 a week. From 9-12 years of age. We (my brother and I) didn't receive our allowance for expected chores. We received it like a paycheck, that we could save for things like candy or a rented movie. Things my family didn't provide for us. I had to go to my dad with charts and graphs, showing the inflation rate of a candy bar, to get the amount raised to $2. I mentioned this to a friend who said "I wish I had an allowance." To which I asked "if you wanted to go to a movie with a friend, how did you get the money to go?" She said "I asked for it." I explained, "that didn't work in my family. If I didn't have enough allowance saved, I didn't get to go to the movie." Allowance isn't about money for regular chores. It's about understanding financial savings, and that sometimes you can't do something, because you can't afford it.
@RobinFlysHigh
5 жыл бұрын
Hmm. That is a good point
@jojersey5018
5 жыл бұрын
My sons, who are now 30 and almost 25, never got an allowance but they were given the opportunity to earn money at home. I was a single parent of 2 sons most of their lives so that means lots of odd jobs that "a man" might normally do, i.e. cleaning out the gutters on the steep roof of our house. They had their normal chores but when things came up that were outside their normal chores, gutter cleaning etc., they would negotiate with me on a "payment". Payments were not always money in our house. One year I needed to replace 2 windows in the house and they each pitched in to help their Mom remove the old windows, fix the window sills, install the new windows, etc. The oldest got 2 hours extended to his curfew for the 8th grade dance and the youngest wanted to go away with a friends family for a 2 week vacation, this was what they got for helping me out. You don't need to always pay a child with money to teach them that hard work pays off in lots of different ways.
@susu4u9
5 жыл бұрын
I don't think kids need to get an "allowance" per se. However, I feel that they should handle some kind of money quite early on; not a lot of money, maybe they should be responsible for buying some of the things they need. I for example went to a middle and high school where you had to pay for lunch daily in cash and my parents gave me my lunch money monthly, so I had to learn to budget and make sure the money lasted me throughout the month. It also allows kids the safety to make those early money mistakes we all made while still under their parents roof as opposed to when they get to college for the first time and run out then turn to shady practices to make more...
@psitogata
5 жыл бұрын
she has her kids very excluded from the world and they will end up not able to exist without her if she ever has an accident for example... she homeschool them, she doesnt give them allowance... it is possible those kids wont be able to face the world when they get old... and i am starting to realize why she is divorced... she is not that pretty and her methods are rediculus...
@LorenaT77
5 жыл бұрын
I love how down to earth and “normal” you are, considering you are a great actress and a celebrity. I totally agree with your way of parenting.
@rcd2000
5 жыл бұрын
My parents tried the allowance thing, but honestly it wasn't that great. If I went out with friends they would give me a certain amount (not alot but not a little) and they would expect me to be able to know a bargain etc. I learned to not expect fashion because I never really cared. I also don't get my hair done or pampered etc. Money is not a problem for us, but they don't want us to work for our money, and then have it spent rapidly or spend frivolously as kids so that in the future we knew money. I get money for mowing our (large) yard, or shoveling our driveway for hours etc. They don't want me to associate unloading dishes and being a part of the family team, as a method of transaction
@lindacade3975
5 жыл бұрын
I am on team allowance. I also feel it's important for each family member to help out with chores and that is not tied to allowance. Yes, adults get paid for their jobs but adults still provide food, clothing, and shelter for their children. My thinking is allowances are training for later financial responsibilities. Giving an allowance can be weekly, or even something as simple as a "back to school" allowance for clothing and supplies. Many parents set the allowance starting when the child understands the concept of money (say age five or six) and they get their age (a ten-year-old gets ten dollars a week). BUT parents decide beforehand what the child covers with that money. As in..."Can I go see the new, whatever movie".... "Sure, if you have the funds to pay for it." Also, many parents use a three jar system...part of the allowance goes to savings, part to giving and part to spend.
@jakesassoon4270
5 жыл бұрын
last month i had my barmitzva, i donated 30% to charity and i gave 20% to my parents for the party and everything they do for me.
@petenice6667
5 жыл бұрын
you are full of shit
@jakesassoon4270
5 жыл бұрын
@N C thank you, im a boy tho xD
@jacquelineazadi6732
5 жыл бұрын
It’s people like you that I like to see successful with money.
@petenice6667
5 жыл бұрын
Learn how to spell asshole... you do not even know how spell.... BAR MITZVAH!!!!!
@nevango0690
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah right!
@bileigh8675
5 жыл бұрын
Mayim- Did the tooth fairy bring your kids anything? Did you do that? Love that you don’t waste resources and thrift shop. #thoughtfulparenting
@evalynn1863
5 жыл бұрын
I support any decision parents make and I think there are valuable lessons on both sides here. My parents gave my siblings and I an allowance starting when we were like 6ish. There were 4 years between us so the jobs got split up equally. Youngest would collect all the trash from around the house, empty smaller waste baskets, etc. Middle helped with washing dishes and doing laundry, oldest took out the trash every week, mowed the lawn in the warmer months and shoveled the driveway in the winter. We would get paid $5, $10, and $15 per week, and once we started driving got $5 for gas to and from school. I also started working when I was 12. I got a job babysitting my neighbors 3 kids and that lasted up until I was 19 when they moved. With each of my siblings, the way we spent money was very different. My brother didn't spend much but bought something if he wanted or needed it (this went mostly towards Sega games), my sister bought everything she had the impulse to buy, and I saved. I saved every dollar I made because at that age there wasn't really much I needed. I occasionally bought a game for my Gameboy or a super adorable stuffed animal and book fair at my school took a decent bit, but by the time I was like 16 I had a few grand saved up and I bought stocks that I picked out myself (I know, a super fun thing that all teenagers are dying to do lol). And in 3 years, when I was in college, instead of going into horrible debt, I went to a community college and had grown that $3k to $15k. I never had to pay student loans. I never had to starve myself. I was able to stay living with my parents and when I turned 18 I stopped getting an allowance and started doing the chores to "earn my keep" so to speak. I know I'm not most kids, but I'm glad I had that opportunity.
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