I've always been bothered by how I'm unable to make a connection with anyone especially when it comes to female friendships. Some times I felt like I was the problem or that maybe I'm not that interesting 😅
@briabyers6270
18 сағат бұрын
You're not alone i feel the same way
@katechipata9934
18 сағат бұрын
It’s better to be alone than to have FAKE friends. Trust me!!
@handlebar4520
15 сағат бұрын
I've felt that. I'm a dude that has ASD, and seeing how other people make and hold onto friendships so much easier than me really puts me on a downer. I feel like Im being left in the dust by everyone else and since veryone else manages, the only conclusion i can come to is that I'm the problem.
@HaleyMary
13 сағат бұрын
I honestly feel the same way. I only have two female friends. Probably because they are as nerdy as I am, but one is an online friend from youtube and the other is married and has two kids now, so I don't see her as often anymore. I'm close to 40, so it does feel really lonely sometimes. Oh, and dating life is nonexistent right now. I haven't even been asked out since before the pandemic. My cats are my friends.
@ernestkhalimov748
5 сағат бұрын
@@handlebar4520wtf is ASD
@NotFound-d1z
20 сағат бұрын
I never had a real friendship and I’m 27 the oldest of gen Z
@KingAmongKings
18 сағат бұрын
I'm 21. Gone through 6 years of loneliness. And still have no friends.
@albihysenaj5997
13 сағат бұрын
Times have changed that’s how a majority of young people are not a majority but most and all and every single one of them
@Ryan-cb1ei
16 сағат бұрын
People not being “open” anymore might secretly be one of the biggest reasons people feel lonely. I swear no one seems to care to meet people, be sociable and make friends anymore, or at least they put on a facade that they don’t care. I think they’re afraid to open up and stand out or something. I see this all the time with our generation, especially since the pandemic. It’s like they have this constant look on their face as to seem as and unbothered as possible. I never thought I’d be the sociable one wondering why people lack social skills, I believe the default should be to reach out to people around you, spark up conversations, and slowly divulge a bit. I’m seeing people act and carry themselves like they’re unemotional robots afraid to bridge that gap and I think it’s a shame.
@SiSoz
18 сағат бұрын
...how did you read my mind? Lol No but seriously i have felt a massive social dry since these days
@danielleharvey9464
17 сағат бұрын
I find it so crazy how we’re in this epidemic of loneliness, yet people don’t seem to really be making an effort to counteract the phenomenon. I think Gen Z in particular tends to stay home more and spend their time in their own hobbies, rather than trying to find others who also enjoy doing those things, like too many of us are just comfortable being inside to the point where talking to others is a more rare occasion. For example, I enjoy cake decorating, crotheting and drawing, but despite how popular those things are, it’s hard to find clubs where I can do those things in a social setting. Yet, you can find plenty of people sharing these things they did, by themselves, on tiktok, to others who are somewhere scrolling and also likely doing that… by themselves, with no way to engage in a personal way but to comment lol. I’m in my mid 20s and it’s so weird that when I go to bars, coffee shops or even just the city in general (I’m in a major city), I don’t see as many young people as I do older or it’s the older people hanging out in bigger groups. It’s also just ibeen a challenge to find people who truly want to go out and live and explore life, which is wild because you usually associate adventure and doing a lot of different things with being young. I’m blessed to have 2 people I can say are genuine friends, but they’re homebodies, while I’m quite the opposite. So this in turn makes me feel lonely quite often because there’s no one to go out and share experiences with. There’s nothing wrong with being home a lot per se, but my point is, it’ll be harder for us to find like minded people if we just keep ourselves cooped up at home or even do try to go out solo, but change our minds when we think about the idea of going somewhere alone. On top of that, a good bit of people my age don’t seem to be good at having solid, stimulating conversations, let alone holding conversations in first place. We seem to lack social skills. I can understand this for younger Gen Z bc pandemic, but it shouldn’t be as common for the older crew. It just adds another barrier to trying to create connection because many of us don’t know how. It’s actually easier to talk to people twice my age lol. *Sigh* It’s a lot of work, but I’ll keep scrolling on Bumble Friends, looking for clubs, finding third spaces etc. I guess
@HaleyMary
13 сағат бұрын
On finding people who want to go out and life and explore life, that is so true. It's extremely difficult to meet like-minded people to be friends with. I like to bike, dance to music, watch old movies, play board games, read books about ufos and the paranormal, but I can't for the life of me meet any friends who enjoy the same hobbies. I do go to an open mic night once a week where I'm around people who play music, sing, stand-up comedy and poetry, but a lot of those people don't care to hang out outside of the open mic venue, so my third space doesn't really help build deep friendships. The people there tend to just want to be surface level. It's lonely.
@ellouisebadger849
17 сағат бұрын
I think with young women we expect certain things from friendships too where as men can simply be happy with bare minimum friendship 😂
@Ryan-cb1ei
17 сағат бұрын
Bruh don’t diss us by calling it bare minimum friendship. It’s not our fault we can get along with other guys fairly easily. I keep seeing this “myth” perpetuated by y’all that men’s friendships somehow aren’t deep, when that’s such cap. Maybe it doesn’t require as much to start besides some common interests, but that’s totally separate from actually having the friendship last a long time with a lot of depth over time. My only friends are all childhood friends and I’m proud of that.
@TheGeneralGrievous19
16 сағат бұрын
I am pretty sure there are a lot of young men who also feel very lonely nowadays. I am 25 yo male with no friends. I think loneliness is a problem for young people in general. It's not like men don't need deeper friendships.
@Brush4000
15 сағат бұрын
Well, I think most guys get there are different types of friendships. There are casual friendships, and deep ones. The deep ones take years to develop. I think most women think friendships are all supposed to be easy, even the deep ones. I think it's why a lot of women have large friend groups, and they'll say they're all besties. But there are a lot of men who are also friendless, so this is an issue for a lot of people.
@handlebar4520
15 сағат бұрын
yes and no. Men can fake surface level friendships for a long time, and make everything seem fine on the surface, but it relly does degrade their minds from the inside, like an apple rotting from the core inside out. Though, you may have a point we don't expect too much from a friendship, as long as you 1. are chill 2. have a shared interest we can form frienships over that, but a lack of strong, close frienships is just as detrimental to men as it is to women.
@handlebar4520
15 сағат бұрын
@@Ryan-cb1ei literally going camping with my two best buds and watching/talking about berserk are the realest things I've ever experienced. And girls can have just as many fake friendships that are all cosmetic to appear popular as guys can do, it's not a gender thing, its a personality thing.
@Hayami-z7u
22 сағат бұрын
Damn l have never been this early
@ChristinaAaliyah
21 сағат бұрын
rise and shineee
@zoltankiss1533
18 сағат бұрын
Glad i found your channel, im at the loneliest ive ever been in my life, no friends, no safe space, nobody i can turn to. Im a 20 year old guy btw. I just store all my problems and emotions inside of me and i know its not gonna end up well. I had two good friends with real connections in high school who i took for granted and pretty much let them go myself. I dont what its worth for anymore, i have terrible social anxiety, no confidence/self-love, probably depression too tho ive never been to a psychologist. This past year has been like a bad dream, i really want it to end now
@matildacriley
20 сағат бұрын
I cut off a couple of toxic friendships at the start of Covid and haven’t had any friends since - while I do enjoy my own company & think it’s important to cultivate a good relationship with yourself, I do miss and would love to have friends, but I just turned 22 recently and it seems so difficult to make friends once you reach adulthood, especially now with technology & social media people have definitely lost the art of talking to people in person which sucks :(
@engouloumartin4780
5 сағат бұрын
I am pretty lonely, but do I feel lonely and want to talk???? Anyways I don't think the urge is strong enough for me to do something about it
@aquainebay3848
20 сағат бұрын
Starting from zero is the story of my life. When I graduated from high school I had to move literally right after to a entirely different area. Lost the people I knew, my "home", connections, everything. I never recovered from that. All attempts made to try has been stopped by major things(resources going away, COVID, Financial problems, etc.) It's been 12 years now and I feel like I accomplished nothing in these 12 years, just playing catchup(and failing).
@SpiritVines
17 сағат бұрын
I feel like people are way less open these days too. I feel like everyone’s putting on this face of who they are a lot of the time unless it’s the better more common sides of themselves. 16:01
@SpiritVines
17 сағат бұрын
Forbes says 73% of young adults to age 27 feel disconnected 19:56
@Charlie-m6r5v
12 сағат бұрын
Its the same for guys. Im always alone. Always out.
@sarvaepc
2 сағат бұрын
4:00 you’re absolutely right. I relate to this so much. I thought I could hyper-self-improve and yes, I did, but after a while, that took the soul out of me, now I literally dont care. I mean, I’m happy I don’t care, but I still wish I cared. I’m not sure. But about making friendships work, sometimes you just have to open up slowly. It helped me a bit.
@briannamartocchio5274
3 сағат бұрын
I'm 27.. i noticed this shift after covid. It's so sad. People never wanna see each other or reach out but complain when you say you have no friends.
@engouloumartin4780
5 сағат бұрын
Yeah I have a lot of these friends you used to love but now it's pretty much dead I changed universities twice so I have a bunch of those and I really hate it cause I don't have many close friends in the university I ended up (even though I got lots of connections there)
@urdoom612
13 сағат бұрын
I'd like to encourage anyone who sees this to interact more with people in the comments. Who knows. You may find a new bff
@Maximums572
20 сағат бұрын
Hi Christina, I really relate to this because I know a friends and family that are severely depressed because of a lack of connections. If anyone is feeling lonely because of a lack of friends, reach out to people you trust. To make deep personal connections, you must be willing to open up to others for them to open up to you.
@david-nb5ug
18 сағат бұрын
You hit the nail on the head! I think even if you have people to go to discuss good news/hard times sometimes it feels insufficient in adulthood which can be very individualistic (everyone is doing their own thing / on different life paths) when compared to high school / university etc where those ups and downs can be more of a shared lived experience
@MH-bf4uu
17 сағат бұрын
Finished uni now stuck at home i need friends sooo bad- hmu if youre in a similar position
@ChristinaAaliyah
21 сағат бұрын
What's the biggest contributor to loneliness in 2024? 👇
@aquainebay3848
20 сағат бұрын
My opinion: The de-construction of family values, communities/"third party places", and individualism. We were designed as humans to be together. By destroying all of aforementioned things, we are now alone and have no sense of connection and belonging to anything.
@michaeldundas6620
19 сағат бұрын
People being closed off to human interaction, especially with new people. I'm 32, and when I was in college, I didn't even have to try and I'd make genuine friendships. Now, everyone seems guarded and suspicious of others. I know it's not just me. I think it's due to social media and people getting stuck in their heads.
@MT-si3bu
16 сағат бұрын
Too many superficial interactions
@Tim_G_Bennett
10 сағат бұрын
I really think social media has a lot to do with it.
@SiSoz
11 минут бұрын
the big ol wombo combo of the pandemic and social media combined, that and uh *cough cough* enmeshment trauma keepin me way too much in my comfort zone.
@tizia4600
18 сағат бұрын
I had my first ig profile at 17 years old and for the first time I felt included because all the other people were using it and I was like “hey now I’m here too I’m part of this generation”… but they posted a lot of friends and I didn’t have friends so my profile was empty, I had one pic of myself that wasn’t even myself because I tried to post the good me but I actually felt so ugly to exist. Now my profile is still empty I have to know who I am because I want my profile to be authentic I want to use it for good things, and express myself, I’m working on it🌸
@urdoom612
13 сағат бұрын
I'm not sure if this helps. But i use insta to keep track of everyone I've met throughout the years and let them know that I'm doing ok. So relax, and if you ever feel a little social or have a good heart to heart, you can always add them in ig to grasp those fleeting relationships. Or not, idk
@ariannasstudio8765
22 сағат бұрын
Idk how but Christina’s timing is always perfect 🥲
@ChristinaAaliyah
21 сағат бұрын
thank you
@KingAmongKings
18 сағат бұрын
Overthinker and Feeling Alone.
@handlebar4520
15 сағат бұрын
ngl, the guys are also feeling left out, I just turned 20 and I've never had fewer friends myself. At this stage I don't beleive the factors that affect how likely you are to be lonely are mostly a gender thing, it's a personality thing. If you haven't heard about rat utopia, you should watch a documentary about it.
@sioxz8435
18 сағат бұрын
more interesting videos by this pretty black girl 👍
@albihysenaj5997
13 сағат бұрын
Young women nowadays need to get used to being lonely forever
@askiaspence6442
22 сағат бұрын
Hi everyone
@ChristinaAaliyah
21 сағат бұрын
howdy
@KingAmongKings
18 сағат бұрын
Hi guys, My name is Kanishk 👋
@askiaspence6442
22 сағат бұрын
Bro I'm early
@andrejblagojevic5075
16 сағат бұрын
What about men being alone?
@urdoom612
13 сағат бұрын
Tons of vids on those elsewhere
@panlin5438
2 сағат бұрын
🍇
@amelie538
20 сағат бұрын
🍇
@split88
17 сағат бұрын
Women feeling lonely?I find that hard to believe 😅
@charlescastle4533
9 сағат бұрын
I don't feel bad for 'lonely' women at all.
@indigoechos6796
7 сағат бұрын
I don't feel bad for you at all
@charlescastle4533
7 сағат бұрын
@@indigoechos6796 Ok?
@badge5575
4 минут бұрын
Yeah me too
@MrHDProd
8 сағат бұрын
Enjoy your cats ladies 😄👍
@drewpocernich2540
12 сағат бұрын
This is a problem that probably impacts men even more than women. In traditional households women were the primary organizers of social events after all (we've done away with that model of gender norms... That may be catching up to us).
@moderngoblin
17 сағат бұрын
Lonely people are lonely because they’re hateful intolerant and unaccepting of nearly everyone. There’s many people making bids for friendship nonstop, they’re just ugly or weird.
@Ryan-cb1ei
17 сағат бұрын
I remember when I was younger and first realized that people unfortunately separate themselves into a hierarchy, and that most people really only seem to associate themselves with and make friends with others who seem like them, especially looks wise.
@moderngoblin
16 сағат бұрын
@@Ryan-cb1ei facts. It’s an integral prejudice inside of us all. We must work against it or accept the isolation it creates. But complaining does nothing.
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