The worse pickmes to me are the ones who pick men over their kids and ignores abuse.
@Iluvmitski_
10 ай бұрын
Yess it’s so evil and sad especially bc these men turn around and end up abusing the children too
@daebak_hana
10 ай бұрын
Absolutely despicable
@blsd4mne7
10 ай бұрын
] @@Iluvmitski_
@MrKingkz
10 ай бұрын
This behavior is very nasty as a man I would dump a woman on the spot if she chose me over her kids I wouldn't even date one just so cringe
@AAA-ec4vf
10 ай бұрын
Like my mother, she loves her pedophile more then her kids🤷🏽♀️
@nicorriesanders
10 ай бұрын
🗣️ I stopped being a pick me when I picked me!
@vonnii1013
10 ай бұрын
Right
@beepbopboop7727
10 ай бұрын
Ayyyyy
@prihollis
10 ай бұрын
Yaaaas girl! 💪🏽💅🏽💃🏼
@jayogee913
10 ай бұрын
Right? Men don't pick us, WE PICK THEM! They need and want us waaaaayyy more than the other way around. And the lady in the pink jacket is right, it is embarrassing to have been a Pick Me.
@imcrazy534
10 ай бұрын
I needed this one
@itsmytimeJai
10 ай бұрын
A pickme will put you in danger over a man. Keep that in mind
@reneedennis2011
10 ай бұрын
Yup.
@purevenus6359
10 ай бұрын
They’re agents of the patriarchy
@get_aclue4218
10 ай бұрын
Facts
@peacejones7648
8 ай бұрын
Best comment!! So true.
@kabrionj2197
7 ай бұрын
Yess!!!!
@Alexz5040
10 ай бұрын
I stopped being a pick me once I realized that the girls wearing makeup were getting bfs and being called hot by the same guys who just said they didn’t like girls who wore a lot of makeup
@Ourown311
10 ай бұрын
Oh yea, the men and their contradictions are the fastest way to stop listening to them. For me it was when those men who behaved that way. Deflected and said "oh we only have sex with those women, we don't like them, or marry them or take them seriously or care for them". That disgusted me more, because why are they ok with using somebody? Not to mention, if they do get a girlfriend, what is she getting that's so much bettwr rhan what he always gave away to other women he didn't care about? There's no seperate sacred penis that the girlfriends get that the flings don't get, so what's the difference?
@Alexz5040
10 ай бұрын
@@Ourown311 yessss I recently saw a guy ranting about how much he hates makeup next thing you knew he was getting flowers for a girl who’s always seen wearing some makeup now it wasn’t a full face but I haven’t seen a day where her face was bare yet he was simping for her hard
@moe_ramz
10 ай бұрын
This!!!😅😅
@lhurdle87
10 ай бұрын
@@Alexz5040It's all about conquest. Don't fall for the smoke and mirrors.
@traceylennon1204
9 ай бұрын
@lisem614 The biggest Aha moment ever..Great observation!!
@edithart5753
10 ай бұрын
This is the reason men love younger women, they tend to be impressionable and desperate for love
@MrsTruthTeller
6 ай бұрын
Not necessarily desperate but unaware of their manipulation tactics.
@chillichan
4 ай бұрын
No, it's because younger women are more attractive and can generally give birth to healthier children.
@Luzgoishzre
4 ай бұрын
@chillichan but most likely very naive lol so that you can have kids with her and trap her
@1Skorpia
4 ай бұрын
They're very easy to manipulate because they haven't gotten enough experience with men . Most men are liars, abusive and cheaters. Not all- most. The ones that aren't are a gift from God.
@1Skorpia
4 ай бұрын
@@chillichanmen don't want kids. What planet you on. Kids take their time away from a woman. If they wanted kids they wouldn't abandon them and they would fight to get full custody. 😂
@joanofarcxxi
10 ай бұрын
If a man's ex warn you about him, don't ignore it.
@CitySlickerButtKicker
4 ай бұрын
I did that, and she DM few months later to tell me I was right. She spoke to me on the phone for 10 hours, I said... Girl, get it off your chest. What else he did to you.... And she told me she heard a gay man on his voicemail on his landline leave him a message about him coming over and leaving a belonging at his house. And he is also a womanizer. 😂
@tajr.2650
10 ай бұрын
The internalized misogyny that goes with the “pick me” is important to discuss. And men have ZERO respect for a “pick me.” ZERO.
@ivy-gp5to
10 ай бұрын
true
@missmadelinesadventures3278
10 ай бұрын
Every single mom is a pick me.
@sharonharris9782
9 ай бұрын
@@missmadelinesadventures3278no every single mom is not a pick me, and wtf do you even get that from??
@lululawson1653
9 ай бұрын
@@sharonharris9782this is pick me behavior, real dumb.
@hydralily1646
8 ай бұрын
@@missmadelinesadventures3278how are mom’s pick me’s💀. Like no nuance or nothing. Just EVERY SINGLE MOM. like you have to know that’s incorrect right? Not even most mom’s.
@prihollis
10 ай бұрын
Also a recovering pickmeisha. I learned the hard way: play stupid patriarchal games, win soul destroying, bottom of the Mariana Trench self esteem prizes. Seriously, decenter men and watch the universe reward you tenfold
@ShielaM-p1w
10 ай бұрын
Let me help you complete your get over. Everything men say and believe is wrong it's a lie. Their believe system is highly unnatural. I can prove it. And if you don't believe me, remember when they said women are too stupid to get educated? That went on for centuries. Women arent just not stupid we are smarter. They perpetrated that lie for CENTURIES. All they do is lie. Their existence is anti nature. Their sperm flex is also a lie. Women STILL have the ability to immaculately conceive. Their evolution flex...that they improve evolutionart prospects of the human genes, it's a damn lie...they are actually holding us back bc their genes is highly unstable and prone to mutations. They are actually the reason for 99% of both genetic errors AND sicknesses.
@suzannaflores1164
10 ай бұрын
This
@Ourown311
10 ай бұрын
Yea, it seems like the universe is waiting for women to wake up and give you your blessings once you get the men out of the way.
@FindYourFree
10 ай бұрын
yessssss
@tanisha7789
9 ай бұрын
I was one as well
@CordsZ
10 ай бұрын
I was a Pick Me in my late teens until my early 30s, and I got picked. And guess what? IT SUCKED. So I dumped the guys I was so desperate to get picked by and got therapy instead.
@makreviews2146
10 ай бұрын
🙌🏾❤️
@kynathomas4809
9 ай бұрын
Amen.
@kabrionj2197
7 ай бұрын
“Pick me”? No girl pick a therapist . Ill send the link to my practice lol 💀😘
@MrsTruthTeller
6 ай бұрын
This is what they don’t talk about enough. Getting picked by these men is AWFUL! There’s no reward in being chose by men who don’t value women or treat them with respect.
@reginamcadory674
10 ай бұрын
If a woman calls to tell you that a man is abusive, believe her. If she wanted him, she could have just said they are still involved. But she is trying to help save you from the experience she had with him.
@beepbopboop7727
10 ай бұрын
Exactly. It either means A) he has unfinished business he needs to deal with or B) he is what she says he is
@ibabechanel
10 ай бұрын
@@beepbopboop7727you’re truly beautiful. 🫶🏻
@endlessstudent3512
10 ай бұрын
Exactly. I had a bff at school who was with an absolute ahole guy, who did not care for her. I did not like his vibe right from the beginning, but she loved and adored him, so i kept quiet. We were clubbing one night and he sidled up to me and hit on me. Put his arm around me and told me how I am more attractive etc. I pushed him away and went to find her to warn her that he was a cheater. Not only did she not believe me, she actually attacked me, her best friend for years, called me any name in the book, I wanted to take away her boyfriend etc. I was dumbfounded. I have never given her any reason not to trust me. I said that I would not touch him with a stick, but that even made her more agressive. I stopped all contact with her (her relationship with him held up for 2 month after that, then he dumped her) and have never spoken to her again. But up until today, I have never understood why she killed what i thought was a good friendship. And I still see so many young women nowadays who are just as man-focussed. Horrible.
@ibabechanel
10 ай бұрын
@@endlessstudent3512 She’s a PICKMESHA. What you witnessed was pickmesha rage.
@kerrygold4719
10 ай бұрын
That's a typical PickMe behavior.even If she exactly knew that He was the one wanting you..she would have still BE pissed at you and pick him over you
@SupraSoulStar
10 ай бұрын
The thing I've noticed about pickme's is they're going against their own best interest. Whether that is by degrading other women, supporting mysogynist views or doing everything to keep a man. I'm glad these women are speaking up and hopefully their message will reach those who need it the most.
@PrayerOfMannesah
10 ай бұрын
What a lot of them don't realize is that those men don't really have those standards they're trying to justify being criminals they still they robbed they rape and they take people's innocence and trust.
@BlackberryTitties
10 ай бұрын
Candace Owens is the “PERFECT EXAMPLE OF THAT!”
@omphilemoerane2569
10 ай бұрын
@@BlackberryTittiesCandace Owens is poison! That lady said women need to focus on having a family over career even though she herself prioritised her career and only married in her 30s
@tessarae9127
10 ай бұрын
@@BlackberryTittiesCandace Owens is sooo weird as an example of that because she’s married and having kids with someone… But her behavior enables her to still be “picked” as the number one example of how a woman “should” be by millions of incels so they essentially become right wing cucks. It totally enables the men who idolize her to avoid doing any introspection to question if the women in their lives who want any semblance of mutualism are actually onto something and not brainwashed feminists without an end goal. It’s just weird because you’d think that pick me behavior would end with a relationship but not necessarily (I’ve seen another video talking about how boy moms are just pick mes moving to the mom phase of their life…)
@tessarae9127
10 ай бұрын
@@omphilemoerane2569If there’s anything we know about pick me’s, it’s that they’ll do anything they can to get rid of competition…
@AstroBaby91
10 ай бұрын
I love that women are using their platforms to help other women
@Em-wk5ns
10 ай бұрын
Yes after they put other women down and think they are better than women whom are independent, like to do girl thinks and have strong bond with they friends.
@louiscecerejr
9 ай бұрын
@@Em-wk5nsthey’re evolving this is feminine repentance
@zlatkajupe
5 ай бұрын
@@Em-wk5ns Everyone makes mistakes. At least they've learned from it and are stopping the circle.
@hummingbirdofgumption3263
10 ай бұрын
I'm a former pickme. One key thing is to never compete for a man, even if you're married to him, wait no, ESPECIALLY if you're married to him. Even if you win the competition, you'll always fear for future competition. No man is worth that stress. Drop him and find a man who's fully dedicated.
@Confessions089
10 ай бұрын
Yuuuupp! 😊
@brittanyb8997
10 ай бұрын
This is whole word! 💯
@HandofHolmes
10 ай бұрын
And even if you’re married with children when men tire of you, they’ll just replace you. There’s no point in having them pick you. Be free!
@nanomia
9 ай бұрын
if he replace me I'll replace him easy@@HandofHolmes
@schuylergeery-zink1923
9 ай бұрын
I have a good husband - he’s taken care of me while recovering from a health condition. But after watching this channel and Manifestelle I wanted to get out of the depressed rut I was in… I started vibing, dressing up nice again, wearing makeup more often and doing my eyeshadow pretty. He responded to that immediately- he even joked “are you cheating on me?” And I was like, just with myself. Bc I picked me! And remember what it felt like before my health condition and losing a job what it felt like to feel GOOD in my own body. I would say he’s become even more responsive to my WANTS not just my needs since this shift in mindset. So yes, it works with your married partner as well.
@kynathomas4809
10 ай бұрын
I had a woman say, " Only ugly women need to have jobs." she also stated, " i don't listen to women who've never been married before ." This same woman had several children by several different men as well as an ex-husband. However, she sided with men every chance she got.
@unicorn73212
10 ай бұрын
Not really it depends on the woman sometimes really attractive women have jobs and really ugly women live off there baby daddy's and husbands. There was a woman I ran into at a supermarket she was like 50 years old she looked like a troll. It's all a matter of self care and Sense they hate women of course there always going to look kind of plain looking because they let there man tell them how to dress if you don't let men tell you how to dress at least you wont look foolish and people are less likely to bother you.
@beepbopboop7727
10 ай бұрын
So she was a used up wall dweller (according to men) but she has the nerve to criticise other women?
@Zan823
10 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂 We give thanks for her tribute. Sometimes we need bait to not recognise their role so the rest of us can get away😊 lets that chic wear her badge with PRIDE!😂
@ibabechanel
10 ай бұрын
@@beepbopboop7727What’s a “wall dweller” ?? 😂
@ladyzinada5341
10 ай бұрын
😂. Real pick me pleaser
@melodramatic7904
10 ай бұрын
I stopped being a pick me when I noticed that men were picking the girls who exhibited the very behaviors that they complained about all day long.
@selrox879
6 ай бұрын
Same here😅.
@FreedominLove711
5 ай бұрын
Me too
@MrJuiceHugo
5 ай бұрын
Goes both ways for men too. I stopped pursuing women who complains about men’s horrible behavior and they convince me to change them. Men can’t tell men what to do cuz they will get mad too. I don’t like being in relationships business unless I’m being told what’s right to do in relationships.
@brownbabydoll7912
5 ай бұрын
Yep, all the things they said they didn’t want. They were secretly attractive to.
@qweenkia
2 ай бұрын
Yes so true smh never again.
@traceylennon1204
10 ай бұрын
"I hold no space for a man to use another woman as a stool to prop me up"...that last young lady's whole speech was A WORD...this quote is just an excerpt!
@blacknbougie8021
9 ай бұрын
This💯‼️I felt me & my ex drifting apart after I kept asking about his son & he kept giving excuses & blaming the boy's mother as to why he wasn't around. So one day he said "why I always gotta be the one to reach out?" I'm like "N^%$# wtf she gotta reach out to you for?? You don't have her child, she has YOUR'S". I just couldn't believe it. I was flabbergasted at his audacity. I couldn't comprehend how he could think that that little boy's mother OWED it to him to stay in contact. Like n&^%# *CALL YOUR F%$# SON*. Once he saw my stance & he realized that I wasn't gonna sit back & let him shyt on another woman in front of me, it was over 😂
@traceylennon1204
8 ай бұрын
@blacknbougie8021 I hear you Sis!! 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
@ReneeHarris96
7 ай бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼💯💯
@SamanthasUniverse
6 ай бұрын
Yes!❤
@SamanthasUniverse
6 ай бұрын
@@blacknbougie8021YEP!! And you dodged a bullet because he would have treated you the same way if you'd had children with him and yall didn't work out. I pay attention to how males treat other women bc these bandits don't change their stripes and will treat me the same way once we are over is how I see it.
@alrakina_somarino
10 ай бұрын
I still remember the LONGING for a prince charming man to love me as a teen and young woman. The brain washing is thorough!!!!
@ShielaM-p1w
10 ай бұрын
Do you know when men started Complaining about the princess mentality? When it got inconvenient for them getting women, when women started demanding they be taken care of. When it was working in their favor they kept quiet.
@ak-47intelligence75
10 ай бұрын
It's insane cause almost every single woman I talk to, tells me the exact same prince charming dream they had growing up. This is how much the patriarchy has brainwashed women to believe that men are good and capable of love, affection and connection. BS.
@Autumn-zd9nq
10 ай бұрын
You’re not wrong for wanting that. You still wouldn’t be wrong to want that today. As humans, especially women, we crave love and belonging which is not just normal but a necessity. The misfortune is that a certain breed of modern males have decided that they want to be the women instead of being men and that’s what’s messing things up, however, time spent with God and Jesus never goes without a beautiful harvest in due time ❤️
@nutsahoy
10 ай бұрын
@@Autumn-zd9nqamen!
@ShielaM-p1w
10 ай бұрын
@@Autumn-zd9nq not a certain breed.all of them and it's always happened. It's just women were forced to take it bc as and now they have the choice to not. So no it's not very smart to want prince charming if the idea of Prince charming was ALWAYS a lie. Y'all are still handing on to lies like it's real. But you don't have to believe. Experience will teach you where you fail to learn.
@noonereally4798
10 ай бұрын
I don’t think I was ever a full blown pick me, because I was never yelling about how women don’t have value past 30, or trying to excuse bad male behavior, or act like men were perfect, however I did used to have a not like other girls phase where I’d just be too competitive trying to prove my worth above others, and I don’t know why I even tried so hard because men aren’t even worth impressing.
@Siss2012
10 ай бұрын
Men aren’t even worth impressing! This deserves to be made into gospel!
@CS-bu7lo
10 ай бұрын
You are right! I was not far from you, born& raised in a patriarchal religious society, surrounded by full blown pick-meishas. I was considered a rebel and a feminist although I never put down other women or idolise men, I just wanted to show men that I can do everything: I can be very pretty ( pagent winner), have a successfull career ( done) and be a great house-keeper (done). The result was exhaustion and a stress-related disease that nearly killed me. Never again! I swore that if I survived, I would never try to impress anyone ever again to prove my worth as a woman. You either like me or you don't, your business, I don't care anymore. I kept my word! I think subconsciously I thought that if I am so acomplished in all areas, people will surely love me... how silly I was!
@Ourown311
10 ай бұрын
Yea, I've been there. It's never worth it, and men are never worth it
@j.munday7913
2 ай бұрын
That's how I was too. I think we need a different word for women and girls like that. Himpressers?
@unionunicorn6776
Ай бұрын
Same this is how I feel. I never put other women down. But I did try really hard to stand out for a specific man’s approval (because I thought I was in love with him). But the problem is he was the one who put me in that situation to be competitive with other women because I know he enjoyed it and loved the attention of women fighting over him. The worst part is he was in his feminine energy trying to make us in masculine energy. Now I’ve learned that I should put myself first and not care what men like that think of me. I think men like that are immature at best and dangerous at worst.
@lillyvgutierrez9685
10 ай бұрын
Ladies never move in w a man….. never sell your houses properly and condo your ass will lose it all all of it and then the point where where he’s gone
@grazielaalmeida8438
10 ай бұрын
The worst is to sell the house, women should keep their property, rent for somebody else while move in with a man, if things go south, they at least have their house.
@mildformtv2227
10 ай бұрын
Also, check your state laws, and buy a home BEFORE marriage. It will always be yours
@redpillqueen8888
10 ай бұрын
NEVER let a man move in with you either! Go watch Miss Faye’s World on this.
@Redskywinter204
7 ай бұрын
@@mildformtv2227 If u buy a condo don’t ever ever let it go! Pretend u live in group home w a curfew make every excuse to not let them in ur home🎉
@erin-shhmerin3704
10 ай бұрын
I respect these women's self-awareness and ability to admit they were wrong, but more importantly, the ability to actively change and do better.
@nawal10
10 ай бұрын
When the chick in pink and a cap mentioned washing his feet my mouth fell open! As half Egyptian who was born in Egypt and always watched tv series with mom, they would always show the wife or just mistress of most men always on her knees washing his feet or soaking his feet for him in salt water! And I never saw one single man do that for a woman. It's always the woman doing it as he sits back looking arrogantly at her or up at the ceiling smoking his hookah! And the woman would always call him "the man of all men" lmao. It's a silly Arabic expression that's supposed to uplift a dude and make him feel macho! And as a little girl who shouldn't be aware I was very much disgusted by such behavior! Mom called me difficult for detesting most men because I saw right through their egotistical bs! But my mom is traditional so she'd be like stop that you'll never get a man like that. Now at 31 I'm still a virgin (by choice) and left every man I ever dated. I don't see marriage or kids in my future. I always ask God to plan what's best for me so who knows but if it was left all up to me yea I'd die a virgin lol.
@Lalaland099
10 ай бұрын
That's crazy! I'm 21 and I'm a virgin and never kissed a guy because of my low interest in men. Since I was a child I knew most men weren't good enough for me. I just HATE how insecure they are. I've always attracted a lot of male attention but it does nothing for me. Most of them are weird and boring.
@kjlockley1246
10 ай бұрын
Men will wash your feet. I hope you get to enjoy it
@kynathomas4809
9 ай бұрын
You were blessed with wisdom at an early age. ❤️
@_DeadlyNightshade_
9 ай бұрын
Same sis, 37 and will die single rather than have a man disrespect me love from Jordan :)
@lululawson1653
9 ай бұрын
@@kjlockley1246women don't want washed feet from men. Smh
@dianaortiz9775
10 ай бұрын
As a young woman I was definitely a pick me. I’m wiser now. I’m single by choice. I love living on my own, my time is my own. I have a king size bed to myself. Supermodel Evangelista made a statement she will remain single now.
@jenbodhi1133
10 ай бұрын
I think we were all pick me’s- we were all brainwashed since birth to be
@candygirl1990
10 ай бұрын
Bravo to you. I'm staying single now, so fed up with modern men and online dating. I'm done. Hugs to you ❤
@itspiinkyrose4324
10 ай бұрын
We definitely were all pick Mes as younger versions of ourselves because we were taught to center men and that marriage and motherhood was the goal. Not only that, we can’t forget about the changes our bodies were going through during puberty. Started to fall for the redpill bs until I found channels like this putting me on game and woke up and see it for exactly what it is.
@LT-jr3yb
10 ай бұрын
@@itspiinkyrose4324100%
@ShielaM-p1w
10 ай бұрын
@@jenbodhi1133I wasn't...Ever a pickme. I noticed a small tiny portion of women were not. They KNEW something wasn't. And it wasn't that we were different or smarter. We got super lucky. I could easily have been. I spent YEARS thinking something was wrong with me for having zero desire for a man. I'd date only to not seem weird or broken. Then it would get to the sex part and I wouldn't let them finish...every time lmao, partly to he a bitch and parrkh bc it was NASTY. Felt like raw dry meant invading my personal space. Ewww.EVERY TIME. STILL TODAY. Then id feel worried about being broken again, but then someone will mention marriage and about me finding a husband and id wait for it to make sense but all I got was my smile frozen in place and a cringe feeling of wanting to tell these pickmes to mind their brainwashed business. I didn't. I even got into divine feminity to actively trying to find a husband 😂😂😂 and had a profile on several apps talking about I'm a traditional woman and I'm here to serve my man 😢😢😢. Then the led me to a rabbit hole of finding princrlks Clark the queen maker. I was done with men then, having finally realized I wasn't in fact insane. Truth be told anyone still with men is the insane one. All they've done is lie. Behind pricella clwke, I started making observations of these men myself and everything they say, have said, is a lie. Patriarchy is a lie, and shockingly, that men and women belong together. We do not. Our sex drive is far different from theirs precisely bc we donr belong together. They abandon children bc we don't belong together. How can we belong together if we need to spend our days doing that which is MOST difficult thing possible and they are nowhere to be found?? They rape children bc we don't belong together, for how can you belong with the one who RAPE YOUR CHILDREN!??? they rape us bc we don't belong together. You don't rape something that already yours. It's difficult finding a good one bc we don't belong together. If we did our compatibility would've already been BAKED IN, exactly like how it's baked in with mother and child. How can you belong together when we need safety to raisd children and they are all about violence??!?? I am so children need safety to grow up in or is it best done in violence?? And there are 50 more reasons that I've personally discovered that make it impossible. Pit that against 1 reason: We take their sperm.
@sourcandydoll
10 ай бұрын
Please keep spreading these messages, our younger generation needs to hear this.
@Priscilla_Boye
10 ай бұрын
Thank you I will ❤
@missfavoured
10 ай бұрын
ALL generations.
@empressbonniemonjahras930
10 ай бұрын
They will hun, I send these videos to my 12 and 8 year old daughters' phones so they have records confirming what I've been teaching them, in case anything happens to me. You're teaching children also. Thank you!!!
@rb5959
10 ай бұрын
It's so nice to hear Pick Me Girls are finally picking themselves!
@empressbonniemonjahras930
10 ай бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@CitySlickerButtKicker
4 ай бұрын
They finally said to themselves, I Pick Me!
@Siss2012
10 ай бұрын
I used to be both a pick me and a cool girl. The only things I got out of being such were abuse, objectification and trauma. Thankfully I am older and wiser now, but any woman who is not willing to do the hard inner work of facing her deeply ingrained misogyny and resulting victimisation will never get to a place of self awareness, self respect and inner freedom unfortunately.
@margodphd
10 ай бұрын
Yep. It takes self reflection and facing difficult truths about yourself but it's absolutely worth it.
@Siss2012
10 ай бұрын
@@margodphd100 percent!
@panlin5438
10 ай бұрын
In my experience men don’t respect and treat these “ideal” women well. They’ll just keep pushing your boundaries and testing how poorly you’ll allow them to treat you. I did have a small sample size, though.
@dianaortiz9775
10 ай бұрын
This is why The Batchelor is so problematic. Last two women standing Leslie and Theresa. Leslie was an independent woman who did many activities and didn’t want to move from her home. Teresa a wealthy widowed who has a successful career and said she would do anything and move for her Batchelor. The ultimate pick me girl. So Gerry the Batchelor picks Teresa. The paper The Hollywood Reporter came out with a scathing article about Gerry. It related how abusive he has been to his ex girlfriends. How he financially, emotionally abused them. He’s a terrible human being 😮
@traceylennon1204
10 ай бұрын
@dianaortiz9775 WHAT?? WOWWWWWW...😮
@catcat9582
10 ай бұрын
He was going to pick Leslie until he found out Theresa was loaded. It's not about her being a pickme. Theresa said she doesn't want to be w gerry if he's not into her 1000 percent not just a little bit more than Leslie. He's gold digger
@julie1393
10 ай бұрын
Yup he picked Thersa for multiple reasons, and one of them is because she is a pick me, she had the googly eyes for him 🥺, she will do anything to keep him. He even said it, when her daughter asked him why he likes her, he said because of the way she looks at him. I read that article, I'm like 😮 the Golden Bachelor is 50/50 narcissist. He seemed so fake to me and now I know, he is.
@Goddess_Infinity
10 ай бұрын
Ooooh wowwwww 😮😮😮😮😮 he fooled me
@tessarae9127
10 ай бұрын
Yeahhhh like ummm even the bachelorette is problematic but at least it’s more in line with gender stereotypes (women traditionally being chased)…
@KilonovaBurst
10 ай бұрын
I want to see one from the race based pickmes. The ones who get with men who say they hate their own race or nationality of women.
@Morenita570
10 ай бұрын
Yes, these females Becky, Ling Ling, Guadalupe & Miriam use racism to feel superior and aligned themselves with self hating blackmail.
@elalovatt2751
10 ай бұрын
Didn't recognise what a disgusting and alarming behaviour it was when I was young but your so right about that one. Some people will take any form of validation they can get regardless of who they're putting down in order to get it. As long as disgusting men exist so will the women who cater to what they think those men want. There has to be an element of stupidity after a certain point because it doesn't get you better treatment or approval from them?!
@kerri.janelle
8 ай бұрын
I’d love to hear from them too!
@minahtheweirdo
10 ай бұрын
I was a pick me because i was scared of being alone. Now i love myself too much to compromise my peace and im ashamed of the woman i used to be. 😂
@kdphotos4691
8 ай бұрын
Release the shame. Patriarchy is a hell of a drug. Don't be hard on yourself. You behaved based on what you knew at the time. It happens to a lot of us.
@minahtheweirdo
8 ай бұрын
@@kdphotos4691 🙏🏽
@MoonAddict2024
4 ай бұрын
Idk what other choice did you have? We all are a product of our environment when we are young. You outgrew that so I'd rather say you should be proud of that achievement.
@bunnybeetle1304
10 ай бұрын
Done pickme shit and now I know better. Choose yourself, people.
@xyznumber123
10 ай бұрын
I realized recently that I was surrounded by misogynist men and fellow pick me people. I wanted to be validated and accepted. I caught it and I am going to do better.
@alexavasquez1992
10 ай бұрын
In one sentence, it gets you treated a hell of a lot worse than if you were a genuinely sadistic gold digger. Edit to add: they also rarely get picked. Look at Pearly Things
@jazzymidear3466
10 ай бұрын
Just Broken Things? Forever Single Things? 😂
@purevenus6359
10 ай бұрын
I call her pearly clutches….. because she’s forever clutching them pearls 🤣🤣🤣
@CC-un3oc
10 ай бұрын
The sign to run for me is when a man brings up an ex or another girl to try and get me jealous. When that happens RUN. Doesn't matter if you are engaged just leave it just gets worse.
@THErealOGse
5 ай бұрын
Or when he calls his ex crazy and never has a decent thing to say about them
@TabrizWalker
10 ай бұрын
The second you stop playing by man's rules, it's a bit scary. I'm dating right now. I had a date with a guy and decided that I didn't want to date him more. He asked me to come inside his house as I dropped him off. I said no thank you, it's late. He asked 11 MORE TIMES and would not take no for an answer. Younger me would have cracked and went inside after the third time he insists, just to end the awkwardness. But no. HE was making this moment awkward, not me. He got very upset. But thats his problem, not mine. I don't have to do what he says. Ladies, changing your pickme ways will improve your life. But there are risks. When you become exclusive and protective of your energy, dont put yourself in situations where you are too vulnerable. Access to you alone should be earned. You need to protect yourself. I heard this all the time but never fully understood what it meant.
@Tigerlily_Fresh
10 ай бұрын
You did right. There's no telling what or who was waiting for you in there.
@redleeks6253
9 ай бұрын
Why you were dropping him off at his place to start with? You're still playing by men's rules.
@Goddess_Infinity
10 ай бұрын
Yeah I was definitely a pick me , not defending men but doing acting and speaking in a way that I thought men wanted. I never did anything extreme like surgery, but at one point I thought about it . The older I’ve gotten (32) the more I see myself separating from friends who are still grown pick mes and just men who wanted me to hate myself because I refuse to conform. That mindset we’ll make you single , unless you find that lucky person who just wants you as you are . But alot of men almost want you to hate yourself while loving them . Because the only people who would put up with cheating , lying and toxic behaviors do not love themselves.
@khrisi9410
10 ай бұрын
Correct! They want you to hate yourself so they don't have to give you reciprocity. When you love him more than you love yourself he can have easy access to your body, labor, and resources. When he try to make you feel unloved unwanted or make you feel desperate like you're not enough or not good enough please ghost him immediately. And these low vibrational men are everywhere. Be careful conscious and cautious ladies.
@reneedennis2011
10 ай бұрын
Exactly
@peachesmccluckins1607
10 ай бұрын
It’s definitely ingrained in us from childhood. I’m so glad I’ve grown out of it. I cringe so hard at my teenage/early 20s self.
@coolbreeze5683
10 ай бұрын
I'll admit that I was a pick me in my younger days. That was what all of media and society said was normal in the 90s and early 2000s. I'm glad that young women can wake up these days and realize this early in their lives. Women can see their own power and are encouraged to now. Don't dim yourself down to please a fool. A man is not a prize. As the last woman said, I went from pick-me to picking me. I love that!
@qay7586
10 ай бұрын
The 90s and 2000s were such a wild time of misogyny and hatred of women
@XXLady
10 ай бұрын
Ladies please stop referring to yourself (and other women) as a B-. Have some self respect.
@rebeccahawkins4289
10 ай бұрын
I almost cried listening to the girl on the white had and pink jacket. She was brutally honest. It must have taken a lot of courage for her to share those things. I pray she is healed and in a happier place with her self. She looks for beautiful, btw.
@schuylergeery-zink1923
9 ай бұрын
My jaw dropped - she is so beautiful on top of her inherent worth and dignity as a human. I was just so flustered for her that she BEGGED. 😭
@legalfictionnaturalfact3969
3 ай бұрын
She told the TRUTH. Everyone who feels sorry for her has done worse for a man and don't even realize it.
@camiba6773
10 ай бұрын
I can tell you i never eas. My mom show me the way because she was a pick me and still is. It gross me out so much that i told myself in would never beg a man or compromise my position as a woman and as a human being like she did. It is gross and disgusting to see as a child that makes you never want to be that as an adult
@ShielaM-p1w
10 ай бұрын
Yeah, mens power was out ignorance before. But then there came a critical mass of evidence that women can no longer not see. It broke the fever.
@ibabechanel
10 ай бұрын
My sperm donor countries would repeatedly BEAT my bio-incubator till she’s hospitalized and she’ll still kneel down and serve him food and apologize to him on her knees. Chileeeeeeeeeeee.
@IloveJesusChristNowandForever
10 ай бұрын
Jesus washed others' feet, not the other way around.
@Tigerlily_Fresh
10 ай бұрын
Amen!
@candygirl1990
10 ай бұрын
I wont chase a man anymore, im done. I pick me now, and thats it ❤❤
@sAMiAm1
10 ай бұрын
The most pick misha thing I've ever seen was when I was younger this jail bird dusty told these two women to fight and whoever wins gets him.........and they actually did it.
@Neoncaffine9915
10 ай бұрын
Omgggg I used to be a pick me as a teen. I learned girls use it as a teen coping mechanism and it makes sense because in my pre teen years I got bullied for being ugly and it made me compare myself to other girls and feel jealous. After my teen years, I got into watching this KZitemr called manifestelle who opened my eyes and made me realize it went against my best interest. It made me hate who I’ve become and want to change. I realized relationships aren’t everything that I need in the world, I realized I needed to pick myself before any man. I embrace being single and working on myself. I love how there’s women out there who talk about their stories and inspired me to change for the better.
@nicorriesanders
10 ай бұрын
Please keep sharing these stories. They help.
@Priscilla_Boye
10 ай бұрын
Ok thanks it’s encouraging to hear that 💕💕
@coyoteclockworkstudios3140
6 ай бұрын
To all the recovering pick mes: you're still our sisters in feminism, and we're proud of you for learning from your experiences.
@kennyav25
10 ай бұрын
My daughter is 8 and the way I talk to her...I don't want her to make the same no self love mistakes I made. #PickMeInRecovery
@Armelleee
4 ай бұрын
Same!
@DaughterofDiogenes
10 ай бұрын
I was a Pikmeshia level 1,000 :( Not only did I BEG a man who cheated on me to pick me, I had his baby, married him and let him treat me like shit for a decade and I'm still struggling with getting away even though I know its wrong. I thought I was cured because I can spot a misogynist a mile away, but not so well when they are sleeping right next to me!
@2okaycola
10 ай бұрын
We all want to be loved. Been there
@helenecarita
10 ай бұрын
I hope you get away ok. If you're struggling it may help to think of ur kid/s 1st.. think to yourself... living by example...Would I want them to put up with this themselves? Or grow up acting like him? Best of luck 💗
@mothership9234
10 ай бұрын
Desperate and pathetic. You got everything you deserved
@schuylergeery-zink1923
9 ай бұрын
Yes what Helen said! My little sister has struggled too and she has a beautiful daughter. I point out to her - your children will do what they see you doing, not what you tell them. What life do you want for your children? So do that and show them the right way! She even admitted she cared more about her daughter than herself and that shows in her lack of self-love and care… your daughter internalizes what the mom does. I let that sink in for her… love yourself and your daughter will also learn to love herself!
@_gonna_renew_my_sinew
4 ай бұрын
@@2okaycola this is not love
@tandylynnennis9639
9 ай бұрын
NEVER EVER ignore another woman's warning.
@THErealOGse
5 ай бұрын
100% don't call her bitter or a hater. She isn't taking the risk of being dragged and judged for no reason
@Tina_Bo_Binaaa
7 ай бұрын
We need to stop being afraid of men calling us gold digger. It does nothing to us. It only reflects on them.
@alixthompson2836
10 ай бұрын
I was a pickme in my late teens early 20’s. Then I picked me. Always put yourself first.
@lillyvgutierrez9685
10 ай бұрын
Keep going my friend we need this we need the truth for younger generations and older I’m 37 I been alone st 28. Wasted my teenage years and 20s I see woman 45+ even 50-60 still a problem they r dating men older and he got no car and job and kids …..
@Priscilla_Boye
10 ай бұрын
Thanks for the support and that exactly what I am trying to do ❤😊🤗
@jenbodhi1133
10 ай бұрын
💯
@baileymoran8585
10 ай бұрын
I don’t think I was ever a pick me because I never really cared about other people’s problems but I would fall for dudes doing the ‘you’re not like other girls’ crap. I ‘knew’ that was just how men saw women. I thought ‘I stood out to him,’ and I thought that was a good thing when dudes would say this shit. I cannot imagine ever competing with others for a partner because that means he isn’t gonna be faithful. I also judged myself for the stupidest shit. I thought I was ‘easy’ for not being a virgin. I thought I was to blame when something bad happened to me. When I had a stalker who made the jump from online to showing up everywhere I was, that I was damaged, and I brought it on myself. I’d have never said that to someone else but I said it to me, every single day, in some way or another. So even if you aren’t a pick me at any point in time, you are still probably affected by this. Turning it inward is not better. It actually sucks.
@gravityclarity
10 ай бұрын
Women need to have each other's backs! We need to believe each other and warn each other about these shitty, abusive men!
@slimebeast5499
8 ай бұрын
Child some women have to learn the hard way because some women who you alarm about a guy they start thinking you are competition
@soulshadoww55
10 ай бұрын
My mother used to say "men love the sound of their own voices." Meaning they will say anything to get your attention. They will lie from here to the Moon and back just to see your reaction. Knowing full well that they have no intentions of doing what they're saying. And the thing that puzzled me the most is that they lie when the truth will do just as good. Men create the majority of messiness and drama in a relationship because they aren't mature enough to be honest. For most men lying is more fun. Why tell the truth - women are beneath us, they don't deserve the truth. They lie because they don't have any respect for women. I was never a pick me but that didn't stop me from being hurt. My fiance got another girl pregnant 3 months before our wedding. He told me that, "my mother, my father, my sisters and I got together and decided we weren't going to tell you about the pregnancy until after the wedding. But you're a strong black woman, I thought you deserved to know." I kinda flinched like WTF!!!??? You weren't going to tell me you were having a baby with another woman until after we got married??!! I thought wow, when were you going to tell me - during the honeymoon, after we moved in and got settled, after the baby was born, when? And I thought it doesn't matter because I wouldn't marry you now for anything in the f*ucking world!!! I broke up with him, but he hounded me for 5 years trying to get back together with me. He'd call me all times of day or night - 2:00 or 3:00 am in the morning, crying on the phone - talking about how much he missed me. I'd ask him "how's the baby" and hang up on him - but he felt like as long as I keep talking and keep her on the phone maybe, just maybe I can convince her to get back with me. It didn't work. One thing though, I NEVER his baby's mother down. I never talked bad about her or agreed with him when he complained about her. I had real sympathy for her because he had lied and deceived her as well. That's why when she made his life a living hell, when she was going to court to get her child support increased every 6 months (according to him) I didn't get angry at her. I was like, "hey you f*ucked her." When she would hide the child from him when he went to visit her I didn't have sympathy for him because he had used her and deceived her. And even though I felt for the baby I didn't care how much he complained because he was only getting paid back for his narcissistic, shitty, lying, cheating behavior.
@IndigoCosmic
10 ай бұрын
Omg..that's so hurtful what he did. Did you ever end up seeing him again?
@heneverforesakesme4038
10 ай бұрын
I am so sorry that happened to you but I am really relieved for you as well, that you found out BEFORE you married him. That would have been a disaster.
@Morenita570
7 ай бұрын
He hid an entire baby from you and you really believe she’s hiding the baby from him and increasing child support etc., without any documents. You’re still taking his lying words as facts.
@soulshadoww55
7 ай бұрын
@@Morenita570 Nah, this was over 20 years ago. I’ve been over him a long, long time. These were just more lies he told. Believe me, after he told me he was having a child with his old girlfriend I mentally and emotionally checked out. Fifteen years later he contacted me again. He was going thru a divorce (he married another woman) because she had an affair on him. I just laughed and hung up.
@soulshadoww55
7 ай бұрын
@@Morenita570 I responded to you a few days ago but it seems to have been deleted. My situation happened back in the mid-1980s. I left him as soon as he told me he was having a baby with his ex. As for the child support and hiding the baby - I was only going by what he told me. But it didn't matter because I wasn't going to marry him anyway - and I didn't. He was a lying, cheating rat bastard. Fifteen years later he called me crying because his wife (a different woman than his baby momma) had an affair on him. I wondered why he was calling me after so man years - I just laughed and asked him how did it feel to be cheated on and hung up the phone. I later found out that he died from incurable cancer - it couldn't have happened to a more deserving person.
@katoxic
10 ай бұрын
My first relationship was with a guy who is a misogynist and an abuser from his parents also being abusive/cheaters. And I was a pick-me until I talked to the women he talked badly about, or hid from me. That’s when I realized just by THAT one relationship - that you can’t be ignorant and you have to be empathetic. I hated those girls. I know now he was using everyone and trying to triangulate me with any living thing just because of his own childhood issues. Your abusive bf is not gonna change and it’s not the girls fault. They’re manipulated as well.
@lindiwengwevela524
10 ай бұрын
I have absolutely zero problem with women having male friends cause I think friendship across the board is important. I take issue, however, with women who go out of their way to avoid female friendships cause they think men have less drama. Women who call themselves "guys' girls". It's one thing to be a "tomboy", it's another thing to be desperate to be one of the guys.
@kdphotos4691
8 ай бұрын
I'm old and I can count on one hand the number of men I thought were my friends, but actually wanted to screw me then screw me over. A man with no terrible intentions is a rare blessing.
@ccv_ca_cm
10 ай бұрын
Love this. Everybody is waking up. Last year of the pickme’s.
@grazielaalmeida8438
10 ай бұрын
Antifeminists are sort of pick me.
@tigerlilly9038
10 ай бұрын
Most Definitely!
@gensai93
10 ай бұрын
Same thing
@kdphotos4691
8 ай бұрын
They're the top tier pick me's. Any time I hear a woman say, "I'm not a feminist, but..." My reply is always, "do you drive? Do you vote? Do you get paid for the work you do? Do you make major purchases without the permission of a man? Then you're a feminist. Embrace it."
@jungersrules
10 ай бұрын
My hormones were not necessarily making a "pick me" type because I only liked one guy, BUT my hormones were making me so loopy that I did do a lot of stupid things, lol. I can see if I had a lot of males in my life and I liked a lot of men just one after another, I totally could have become that girl, wanting, desiring more and more male attention. Thankfully, since I never wanted kids, my hormones settled down a lot as I even got into my 30s and I just went through a natural wave of decentering men (they just did nothing for me emotionally, intellectually). My body would still crave a guy, but my mind was too logical to fall for the trap my friends has fallen into.
@babyg7796
10 ай бұрын
Omg I’m going through this right now as a 26 year old childfree woman! It’s lowkey soul crushing
@ShielaM-p1w
10 ай бұрын
It wasn't hormones. Men leave their DNA behind to control women. It makes them want to do things for the man. They do it to their mothers too. It's the reason for the golden child phenomenon.
@lv5949
10 ай бұрын
I don’t wanna be a pick me. Too many Brookies 😂
@cruiseny26
10 ай бұрын
When you’re young, you don’t know any better because you are indoctrinated to believe that this is what you do when you love someone. Sometimes it takes a bad experience to realize that it is not the way and that it’s ok for you to choose yourself over a man.
@Bella_Noire
10 ай бұрын
We were told our value lies in marriage and motherhood. Our degree was nice but wifehood was necessary. I wanted to do the right thing. I wanted validation, love, acceptance. After marrying a man with strong narcissistic tendencies, enduring every disrespect possible, being cheated on constantly, gaslit, and being told in a 1000 ways that he no longer wanted me; I realized that I would never be what he wanted. That started a journey of learning about narcissism, the need for self-esteem, and the path forward as a single mother 👩🏾 of 2. Breaking away from pickme-ism means deconstructing your mind and learning a new way of thinking. It’s hard but worth it.
@eg568
9 ай бұрын
The amount of men I met who wanted pick me (not liked, wanted) is insane. They try to trigger pick me in me. All women this and that, I'm so happy you aren't like them. They are like snakes with their friends, nugging all time, go into too many places, boring, wear to much make up, don't even put make up, can't cook, disagree with me which is disrespectful etc. BUT YOU ARE SO SPECIAL! I believe, I'm that special to the first "no" I say. Refuse to shit on other women, refuse to listening men shit on them, refuse to take it as a compliment.
@B.B.H2.0
5 ай бұрын
The worse pick me thing I ever did was stay with a guy who cheated on me more than once and mentally, verbally & even emotionally abused me. It was slowly escalating into physical but my mom & friends warned me before hand. leaving is still the best decision I ever made for myself.
@lazysundays6793
10 ай бұрын
To be honest I was never a pick me however the sad part about it was I thought that there was something seriously wrong with me because I thought pick me behavior was feminine and I thought that I wasn’t feminine because I never had the desire to do the pick me things that the women around me were doing. I had no idea until social media opened up my eyes and I started seeing these stories.
@peachesandpoets
10 ай бұрын
Keep sharing babe. Thank you, you're helping out baby sisters!
@Priscilla_Boye
10 ай бұрын
I will 🙏🏾❤️
@Luna-jk9de
9 ай бұрын
the sad things is and they never realzie till later on when they wake up; "Pick me's never get picked".
@zaidagrace2263
10 ай бұрын
I was a pickmeisha until my 30s. I still use my time with him as a lesson to recognize when I am selling myself short. Sometimes I still reflect on those times in anger and disbelief. It’s taking me a long time to fully forgive myself.
@Chrr1398
10 ай бұрын
You’ll never be right for the wrong man 😢
@olikah4667
10 ай бұрын
A moment of silence for our pickme days.
@staceyranee5756
10 ай бұрын
So the one where the young lady talks about make-up made me think about this guy at work that literally told me that I shouldn't wear my lip gloss. I'm like why? It's freaking lip gloss...He said you don't need. I said, I like it! And I'll continue to wear it. But the real is that HE is attracted to me and I guess he cant control his thoughts. So I'm supposed to have dry lips bc you cant control how you feel/think? Sir not my problem. It's lip gloss! Stop with the policing of women. It's annoying. Those same men that say they don't like make-up are the same ones lusting after the women with make-up. Another guy told me how when he got with his girl she wore make-up and dressed sexy, he basically said she had to change all that to be with him...I said why not just find a woman that already dressed like you like, why get with someone and try to change her. It's controlling and that's why she left his ass and now he comes to work crying about how much he misses her. Again, stop trying to control women.
@TC-cr2oy
10 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to these women. But I'm very proud of them for learning and growing from it.
@hotjanuary
10 ай бұрын
4:11 I wish the best for the woman’s journey in self-healing. I want to emphasize that language is very important. It shapes the way you perceive the world and how you view yourself. One thing the new generation has to learn is that you can’t reclaim derogatory terms. Calling yourself and other women b**ch means you still have a long way to go to respecting yourself. It’s a dehumanizing term. When you refer to yourself in dehumanizing terms, you are subconsciously telling yourself that you don’t deserve better. Calling other women b***ch also reinforces in your mind that women as a class don’t deserve better.
@stormx2591
10 ай бұрын
For the young woman post-partum, you were vulnerable and your hormones were working you over. You know better you do better. ❤❤❤
@ebifuon6776
10 ай бұрын
Yup last time I was the pick me was my ex before my husband this guy was handsome, rich, foreign accent and he nearly killed me twice. He was an abusive drunk that once he got what he wanted I finally saw his real face and it was a monster. This guy pretty much made me want nothing to do with men for the rest of my life. When I dated my husband I just went ahead and slept with him early cause if I had to go through another man treating me like garbage after they slept with me. (I was one of those girls that wanted wait for marriage and every guy before I slept with abusive drunk used the excuse of me not putting out as why they cheated even tho two were still sleeping with their ex's at the beginning of our relationship) that I just wanted it to be over quick and not waste my time on another man. Which worked in my favor didnt lose my virginity until I was almost 30 got treated like crap for being one and then got treated like crap for loosing it
@Cantetinza17
10 ай бұрын
I think we've all had a pick me moment(some minor and some severe) in our lives just some of us snapped out of it quicker than others.
@lewid019
10 ай бұрын
I was rejected too much and called by men. That i didn't really have the chance to become a pick me 😂
@Tigerlily_Fresh
10 ай бұрын
Rejection is protection.
@merlana3479
10 ай бұрын
Never heard of pick me before. This has been every educational thanks for explaining it.
@catcat9582
10 ай бұрын
I want men to be pickmes but they don't seem to follow nature
@levtieart3409
10 ай бұрын
They choose lazyness and entitlement and want women to do the hard work
@irinaivanovic9792
10 ай бұрын
💯 They are too feminine now. I’ve had enough of their torment and after my last very recent breakup (which includes an expensive divorce that I have to pay all by myself) now have permanently checked out of dating. After what my soon to be ex husband put me through, I just cannot see males the same way anymore. I’m a good woman and didn’t deserve to be discarded and have my heart scarred for life. 💔
@symonelewis1690
10 ай бұрын
What do you say to the women who take advantage of pick-me men, and do them dirty? Every woman doesn't appreciate the man who jumps through extra hoops for her.
@The_Winsome_Pixie
10 ай бұрын
@@irinaivanovic9792”Too feminine”? What in the world does that mean??
@angelsarereal4902
10 ай бұрын
@@The_Winsome_PixieRite. I see femininity as a wonderful thing. One can be never too feminine imo
@blueunikornz4017
10 ай бұрын
I used to be a pick me/"cool girl" and it led me down to hell. Never again!!! Thank you for making these videos ❤️
@Priscilla_Boye
10 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@queenla227
10 ай бұрын
I think this mentality comes from home too. All I saw at home (and in the neighborhood) was women who kept these disrespectful grown men (I’m talking 40s and 50s) who didn’t have anything. They weren’t even going 50-50, it was 100% them. If it’s all you see, sometimes you act out that behavior without even realizing it.
@gigiwallace6645
9 ай бұрын
Amen
@blaqwabbit
10 ай бұрын
Also a recovered pick me. I was similar to the girl in the red bonnet and shirt. Used to judge my best friend based on the guys she interacted with. At the time i didnt realize thats what i was doing but i was insufferable and now i wish id gotten around a little bit more instead of trying to be "pure" for my future husband. That aspect of who i was then disgusts me now.
@cryptochrome3090
8 ай бұрын
Ughh me when I was a teenager. So glad I grew out of it. There is not a man on earth who is more valuable than your genuine friendships and connections with other women. Stay strong ladies
@ImaginaryBackgroundSinga
10 ай бұрын
Used to be a pick me. Got a huge wake up call. Very glad to start seeing the light . Stay strong ladies ❤
@Fluttershy890
9 ай бұрын
In the past, I begged my ex to pick me and stay despite him cheating. Well, karma came. The girl broke up with him, he is alone. I am with an amazing man now who means everything to me.
@Metonymy1979
10 ай бұрын
Sometimes people feel safer or stronger if they are closer in proximity to power.
@adarateranroldan
10 ай бұрын
Yep… like aligning yourself with a bully in hopes of not being bullied
@Metonymy1979
10 ай бұрын
@@adarateranroldan Exactly
@AndyCroat-v6d
10 ай бұрын
Such powerful stories. Thnx for sharing.
@Priscilla_Boye
10 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@blondebeaker938
10 ай бұрын
I am a recovered pick me and it was how I was raised... my mom and prominent women in my life were Pick mes..everything I did was in favor of a man I wasted my 20s on being for men but my 30s are for me
@lillianbarker4292
10 ай бұрын
I’m an old woman who had to learn these lessons the hard way-though I did finally find a good man, but too late to have more than one baby with him. I’m so proud of all of you wonderful gorgeous young women. The girl who said that we can’t wait for men to change things is right. We have to support ourselves and other women.
@BigFineDoll
8 ай бұрын
One thing I always peep is how many pickmes are single, never PICKED smdh Voting against your best interesting is absolutely crazy smdh
@missxmarvel
10 ай бұрын
I never wanted to admit it but the only thing in this world that makes me truly happy long term is Money, my autonomy, Accomplishments and Success. Having a man is not success or an accomplishment. They are usually approaching you because they want something from you. I feel uneasy when men enter my personal space, and the idea that If he becomes my boyfriend he will call me every day will only cause my stress level to skyrocket. Money brings peace, It doesn't buy you happiness but it buys you the tools to become happy long-term. Money takes you everywhere, men only keep you at home. So why can't women just choose for money instead of men? Money treats you better than they ever will.
@kerri.janelle
8 ай бұрын
So happy to know I’m not the only one! I was soooooooo exhauuuuuustedddd in my last relationship. Best thing he did was cheat & pick a me a pick me. Saved me from a lifetime of misery. Woke up and realized not only my worth & value but that I truly do find value & purpose in my career and the financial gains and experiences that come with it.
@Shanita-n5d
10 ай бұрын
i used to go to school with a girl who would fight tooth and nail to defend her guy best friends if they cheated well at least he's a good brother she never once thought of how it would affect the girl so long as she was friends with them lmao...she once tried to fight me after i exposed her guy best friend for cheating on one of my friends safe to say she never could touch anyone of us
@aantaa.7618
10 ай бұрын
The music had me laughing😅 There needs to be pick-me recovery groups 😂
@Victoria-qk3mu
9 ай бұрын
Decentering men and choosing Yah is the best thing ever ❤❤❤❤
@HandofHolmes
10 ай бұрын
I love the community talking about this. Women supporting woman is beautiful and that power is way stronger and more fulfilling than a romantic relationship.
@TheMentalLevelUpPodcast
10 ай бұрын
I think there are two different kinds of Pickmes: the one who only harms herself (and maybe her children) and the ones who throw other women under the bus, bully & attack other women, doxx women, set-up other women for failure or harm, etc. That second one...MUCH HARDER to forgive that kind! Yeah yeah yeah, "we all make mistakes", but we don't all intentionally harm other people. Sometimes people expect women to either put up with EVERYTHING or quickly forgive EVERYTHING bad done by EVERYBODY, in 5mins or less. I am no longer that great of a person, and I think the Pickmes who used to harm women need to tread lightly and remember that not all of us are so quick to be besties with them! There are some women who might be secretly happy about your growth but will not want to be bothered with you and you just need to deal with it the way they dealt with all your years of attacks and harm. Women have enough BS and unfairness to go through, and some women did not deserve the extra stress that you piled on, to be punished by your weakness while we stood strong enough to NOT be bullies. Move on to the women who welcome you with open arms and continue to grow from there.
@Siss2012
10 ай бұрын
Yes, brilliant analysis!
@Em-wk5ns
10 ай бұрын
You are so right. Just because they make a video mean not everything is alright now.
@TARAdubbleyuu
2 ай бұрын
Great video. Continue to be brave, ladies. Decentering men, investing in ourselves, and rooting for each other is it. Love to you all, my sisters❤
@beautiful_wonderfullymade
10 ай бұрын
2:53 GIRL. Why is my daughter’s dad/ex bf BIG MAD about the fact that he’s been paying the entire mortgage (I pay the utilities now) on his own since I went on maternity leave for 8 weeks 16 months ago. When we was childless I used to alternate paying the mortgage with him monthly, but times have been tough since getting myself a reliable car. He had his mom living here in the home I HELPED HIM SECURE. She stayed here for what he said would only be a year, which turned out being a year and 8 months and she stayed here absolutely free. He tells me recently that “I need to GTFO the house or if he leaves I need to give him all the money back in mortgage he paid for the past 16 months.” I said “what, I carried your “baby (which by the way she was conceived via IVF due to diagnosed MALE fertility factor) he said “so what you’re just my baby mama. I said well how much does your mama have to pay you back for staying for free. He said “nothing, that’s my mama.” He also complains about having to pay for me when we go out to eat (which is always his idea BTW) The man who I carried a baby for for 40 weeks, gave her his last name, went through a c section, suffered postpartum cardiomyopathy, underwent 3 months of fertility treatments and a embryo transfer for, allowed his mother to stay in my brand new home while I sacrificed my comfort, sanity and privacy ultimately for him to not marry me and say I’m not worthy of him paying for my meal😂😂😂😂
@ShielaM-p1w
10 ай бұрын
Now you know why mothers were terrible mothers. Trauma from dickwads. And it's only bc we know what is happening now that we can be better
@MsLolaTaylor
9 ай бұрын
I am so sorry for that. Ask God for guidance (if you believe)
@ShielaM-p1w
9 ай бұрын
So what ended up happening? Did he say YOU get out but not be paid for what's YOU paid, or he gets out and h e essentially gets free rent for two after you pay back EVERYTHING he's ever paid?? The baby mama reference, was basically yeah you're the host body I used for copy my virus genes bc these men are viruses in human clothing What ended up happening??? Hope you and your daughter are safe
@beautiful_wonderfullymade
9 ай бұрын
@@MsLolaTaylor thank you queen ! I surely will ❤️
@beautiful_wonderfullymade
9 ай бұрын
@@ShielaM-p1w I’m still here but saving my money up to get an apartment. He said something again to me about it a few days ago. He wanted to know if I can pay the bills on my own. He offered to give me the house and he leave but honestly I know this guy, he’ll never do such a kind act that will allow someone else to benefit from something over him, he has a motive and I think it’s to be able to have access and knowing where I am. I told him he can keep the home and I’ll find a place.
@jayogee913
10 ай бұрын
I had started down the path of being a Pick Me when I was younger and feeling a little desperate. It left me with a pretty hollow life of putting myself last so I could try to please other people (men) who didn't give a damn about me. I'm glad I figured it out before it was too late and I wasted more of my life, time, and energy on something that would get me nowhere. Now I'm more like a Leave Me Alone, lol!
@lillyvgutierrez9685
10 ай бұрын
The gurl w hat and pink… 😢 she’s beautiful she’s IG model and had his kid…. I pray you are happy and thry❤❤❤❤❤
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