This was my Reddit post. I’m beyond grateful and a bit shook at the response from Dr K. I’m still currently trying to process my realizations from this response but I never believed that I had an ego problem. I feel as if though my own beliefs on myself have been completely delusional. I genuinely thought of myself as a humble person but I now see that everything I do and have done has been in the name of my ego and need to feel better…. I just want to say thank you, I need more time to process more of this and digest it but now I have a road paved that I can follow.
@EhrenmannHenno7469
2 жыл бұрын
Good luck on your ways
@Trinity_505
2 жыл бұрын
If you don’t mind me asking, do you feel you’ve been pushed towards this high achieving mindset? Parents, peer pressure, overcompensating, anything like that?
@whodafokisdisguy5851
2 жыл бұрын
@@Trinity_505 that’s something I’m thinking about right now. My parents were very loving and good parents growing up. They never told me I needed to be good at something and were always supportive. However if I look back on it, I was definitely the black sheep of the family. Both of my brothers were 4.0 GPA student who got scholarships to colleges. I never had good grades however I did Test well.
@joelman1989
2 жыл бұрын
Great question! I learned so much from this as well as a result of you asking that question.
@berniesilvamusic
2 жыл бұрын
I'm 3 mins into this video and I feel like this is gonna hit home really fucking hard.
@Rhea1381
2 жыл бұрын
"Ego has survival utility but it doesn't have happiness utility. Everyone is looking for happiness using an instrument that was designed for survival. That's why it's hard." Holy shit. Yeah.
@Kryptdegen
Жыл бұрын
Was it Schopenhauer or kierkegaard that said we shouldn't chase happiness and chasing happiness will only lead to making it harder to attain?
@idrinkwater1124
Жыл бұрын
@hemsley4750 idk, but I know that Nietzsche also said that you shouldn't directly strive for happiness. That happiness is the by-product of overcoming adversity or doing a certain activity
@czr.
2 жыл бұрын
Since little, I knew conforming to the norms would get me by. So I never learned to make an effort to apply myself/take care of my needs. Through therapy I learned that it came from trauma - I had the inability to let myself enjoy/be happy. It is still very hard but I am getting better through practice. Good luck guys!
@covvardice8296
2 жыл бұрын
I have this problem as well and have no idea how or where to get started. I’m stuck in knowing/overthinking/analysis-paralysis. I’m also afflicted with adhd and bpd. What helped you allow yourself to love yourself?
@czr.
2 жыл бұрын
@@covvardice8296 I had to try many things but ultimately it was a combination of months of therapy, anti-depressants, and meditation. Therapy helped me get to the root of the trauma which helped me get started on an emotional healing journey. Anti-depressants helped my mood, energy, and focus. And meditation is helping me learn how to deal with negative emotions/thoughts. Most of the time those negative emotions/thoughts are really someone else's voice - who is actually the person that introduced these thoughts into your head? I would write down what are the most valuable things in your life/what are the things that would make you happy but take all the critics/negative voices out of your head. Then work towards making your life meet your needs. Hope that helps, gl.
@covvardice8296
2 жыл бұрын
@@czr. thank you, I really appreciate the response as well as contextualizing what worked for you. I struggle massively with memory lapses that makes understanding the roots of trauma a lot harder, and my adhd keeps me impulsively living stuck like this even though I feel like I understand what I need to do, and I never think or am able to execute on that. It’s always the negative. Your healing greatly inspires me, thank you again for your response.
@frostedlambs
2 жыл бұрын
How do you learn trauma? It’s not like false memory implanting is it?
@Peanuts76
2 жыл бұрын
this valuable life experience you have, thank you for sharing this, as this is what i need to learn to dealing with my depression and trauma.... as i think i try so hard to conform to other needs, leaving my needs and and my happiness, no wonder I'm easily sad and stressed out, i left, lost and even criticize myself harshly, instead of focusing what best and what things that brings joy and fulfillment to me....
@wanderingrandomer
2 жыл бұрын
These posts always seem to start out sounding quite sensational and then slowly becoming more relatable to me. I empathise with getting really good (or at least passable) at something with minimal effort, but once further improvement starts to get hard and require actual active focus rather than autopilot, I move onto something else. I definitely fall into the category of not really having a "passion" for anything that drives me (I would cynically site "consuming media" as my passion). I have never had the experience of 'chasing a dream' and achieving anything great in my life in that sense, and the desire to do so has been one of the hardest parts of me to let go.
@niceteal
Жыл бұрын
"Some of you are gonna be feeling bad and some of you are gonna be feeling chad" actually giggled out loud at that surprise line. gonna quote that for the rest of my life.
@tekiero
Жыл бұрын
what time pls
@kikijewell2967
11 ай бұрын
45:00 Sneaky ego - feeling bad/Chad ❤
@kikijewell2967
11 ай бұрын
"You've moved away from shunya if you're feeling bad. And you've moved away from shunya if you're feeling Chad." :)
@SimGunther
2 жыл бұрын
"Addiction to the grind" is an accurate way to put it. Without an internal sense of why you're making that progress to improve your inner self and your connection with the Cosmos, you'll never truly disconnect from the ego and external pressures that stress us out as they eventually scare you out of living your life.
@ilovesalmon215
2 жыл бұрын
so do lsd and shrooms?
@SomeGuyHowGoesIt
2 жыл бұрын
@@ilovesalmon215 that could help
@Zb_Calisthenic
2 жыл бұрын
That's why instruments are awesome hobbies. Longgg grind
@anty.
2 жыл бұрын
I think the issue that i have is that external pressures have stressed me out and already scared me out of living life, and I've never even had a phase of being addicted to the grind. its hard for me to grind because i think ive always equated grinding with boredom, more than the future positive outcomes from it
@pudelmuetz1
2 жыл бұрын
this "hits the nail on the head" for me, thank you for that comment
@Trinity_505
2 жыл бұрын
The more I think about issues talked about on this channel, the more I realize nearly everything comes down to self love, and genuine love/dharma. When those two align, damn that’s special.
@EhrenmannHenno7469
2 жыл бұрын
I agree. Selflove is one of the (if not the) highest teachings in existence.
@MsSomeonenew
2 жыл бұрын
Well self love will keep you sane on this road, but waaay down the road there are other revelations.
@Trinity_505
2 жыл бұрын
@@MsSomeonenew such as? it sounds you've been on quite the journey and would love to hear your insights if you don't mind sharing
@yayinhard
2 жыл бұрын
@@Trinity_505 such as experiencing the void, I assume. As Dr K stated its quite a challenge to keep your regular existence after you see the null everywhere around you. Self love can keep you sane and healthy, dharma can give you some sense of meaning, but after all you'll have to accept your inevitable pain that comes with ego
@mariomeza3514
Жыл бұрын
I've been studying spirituality for a few years. While I still have a lot to learn I've picked up a few things. The ultimate revelation IS Love, not just self-love, but pure Love itself that encompasses all that is. This Love is with a capital "L" because its from the absolute level (God), and not the humanistic relative level, which would be with a lowercase "l". And yes "all that is" even includes all the things that you would consider bad in life. Because there really is no good or bad in life, everything just IS, or in a constant state of IS'ing/being. To reach this state of all-encompassing and unconditional Love, you must let go of everything, and I mean literally everything. All your thoughts, all your beliefs (even spiritual), religion, all your values, your identity, if you have any teachers that are teaching you this spiritual path eventually let go of them also, all your desires (including reaching enlightenment which is an oxymoron), your culture, everything you like and don't like, money/jobs and whatever else, your will to live, and even let go of your family and loved ones which at this point is where most people fail. Once you reach a state of no-mind/no thought, stay in that state, and also deconstruct the rest of your reality, the ego dissolves, enlightenment happens, and all suffering ends at that point. You can finally be at peace for the rest of eternity as your reincarnation cycle ends (there's no more karma left for you to burn off).
@achinthmurali5207
2 жыл бұрын
Came for the thumbnail, stayed for the lecture. Thank you Dr. K
@phoenix_the_fox
2 жыл бұрын
the video came out like 2 seconds before you posted this comment LOL
@fillo9873
2 жыл бұрын
Same
@achinthmurali5207
2 жыл бұрын
@@phoenix_the_fox I got a notification that showed the thumbnail. I posted this comment early so people could see it first and then it wouldn’t get lost with the rest.
@matheuswohl
2 жыл бұрын
youtube done right
@polarisraven5613
2 жыл бұрын
Is that Hiro (thumbnail) or am I mistaken?
@nicopaduamusic
2 жыл бұрын
Dang man that whole post is literally my life. I powerlifted, started hating, one tricked zed almost into plat then quit and now I have existential dread
@vivianleenet
2 жыл бұрын
This entire channel is basically just reading my mind. I feel both attacked and very validated.
@DropIt56
2 жыл бұрын
Not sure how long you’ve been following his content, but I started watching back in May and felt the same. The more I watched, the more I felt exposed but not alone in my struggles, and now I’ve been a coaching client for almost two months 🙌
@Ouaueaio
2 жыл бұрын
@@DropIt56 How is your coaching experience so far? I've been thinking in applying too
@peacebuddha96
Жыл бұрын
Maybe we are all the same
@RainwriterMusic
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. K is so smart. Like, I can't believe he read this post and broke down this person's mindset in this way with such ease. I wouldn't have been able to figure that out, so simply.
@superbbackhand180
2 жыл бұрын
This was interesting, I identified the void as the things I chase, because it's the void I try to fill with externalities by chasing things. I never knew it was there but I was trying to fill it nonetheless. Since the void is impossible to fill because it will always be a void it gave me good perspective on why those pursuits were futile in accomplishing that task and instead resulted in demoralization of further attempts to fill the void. It is not something I can fill and I must accept that, which in turn brings me happiness with my acceptance of the truth. I hope this doesn't become one of those things I forget by tomorrow and continue diving into, it was very enlightening on my spiritual subconscious motivations.
@tiramiseratops
Жыл бұрын
I think something that's interesting for me is when i notice the void it really scares me, but then if i dive deeper into it instead of running away from the sight of it, i start to realize that we attach negative connotations to things like "the void" and "nothing" and "emptiness" and then respond accordingly to those negative connotations (or at least i do) instead of taking them for what they are and realizing that they aren't inherently bad and that we've literally been scared of nothing.
@siouxsietea6147
11 ай бұрын
@@tiramiseratopswow! What an excellent remark. I have never thought of my existential worries this way. Thank you
@tiramiseratops
11 ай бұрын
@@siouxsietea6147 of course! glad I could help :)
@thelordofducks3496
2 жыл бұрын
holy cow, the second part of the video (post-meditation) should really be a clip of its own, the insights are spot-on
@alexzan1858
2 жыл бұрын
Damn... this is one of the most insightful lessons Ive learned so far (I havent watched all for sure). The ego think makes so much sense. Some of my university teachers in physics have been very shit in teaching, and now that I think about it, it must be because of their ego - theyll rather do it half assedly than actually try and not be good at it. My unhappiness has similarly been because Ive been comparing myself to people who have succeeded earlier than me instead of just focusing on bettering myself.
@breadboigaming7420
2 жыл бұрын
I use to watch you often and I really liked your content, but somewhere along the way I slowly consumed your content less and less. I recently enrolled in a Yoga Instructor training program and your videos popped back up on my recommended, so I started watching again. What I didn’t realize before, but it’s become so abundantly clear now, is how much you incorporate the practices of Yoga into your practice! And I really dig it! And I understand the concepts you bring up because I’ve now learned about many of them, so it’s really fun for me to hear your say something like “mudra” or “samadhi” and geek out like “OH I KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS!!”
@KroBlan
Жыл бұрын
Iu je j’y hé je n je
@gameologian7365
2 жыл бұрын
He gotta start playing fighting games, he won't ever get to the top and can keep staying competitive
@neuralsixty3852
2 жыл бұрын
I fully agree - plus the fact that fighting games are 1v1, so everything that he does reflects right back onto him, and he'll have no choice but to take a good look at himself.
@user-ln6gn2zu9j
2 жыл бұрын
But you see, that's exactly the reason why this person won't like fighting games. They're addicted to the feeling of progression, of being a "fast learner", not from a feeling of mastery. If you put them in with a bunch of other people who are just as competent as they are, then they're not going to enjoy it at all. I mean, you can kind of see it from their post too. Why did they stop at plat instead of challenger? Why did they stop at their local gym instead of going to the national level? Because at some point they start playing with people at their own level, and then the thing stop becoming fun.
@Balloonbot
2 жыл бұрын
Why can't that happen in League? Unless you're in the habit of blaming your team - there's always gonna be someone better than you.
@bobobsen
2 жыл бұрын
@@user-ln6gn2zu9j becoming the strongest guy in a gym is significantly harder than becoming good at fighting games tho. Different if we're talking about professional levels of course.
@2Grills1Kappa
2 жыл бұрын
@@bobobsen It depends on who you are comparing yourself against which is the fundamental problem talked about in this video. What if the gym doesn't have a lot of strong people, so it's easier to reach the top? Being at the top doesn't say anything about your actual strength.
@MalformedNPC
2 жыл бұрын
Build yourself up, work hard, and be passionate about life until it becomes routine and feels pointless to even get out of bed. Self-sabotage rolls in. Quit job, start drinking again, smoke all the weeds, play videogames and chat on discord all day. Being this low feels shitty so build yourself up, work hard, and be passionate about life until...
@JaxsonGalaxy
2 жыл бұрын
Shunya. That's a word I've been looking for a long time. For me a huge part of Dr. K's lessons is naming things I understand, but can't communicate without paragraphs of words. I would love to speak with Dr. K, on stream sometime. I hope my application is received well.
@F8TVOfficial
2 жыл бұрын
I just benefited from that immensely. Thank you so much, the moment I felt my inner block i almost cried, the fear, the death of ego, if this retreat happens i would love to be there. I’ve been following for years and I’ll do anything to be apart of such an amazing experience
@Ava-sw2bn
2 жыл бұрын
Wow I was walking to school this morning (which is now lol) thinking why do I keep crying? Why am I so sad? And here you go dropping a video to help me understand literally the same day 🥺 thank you Dr. k
@bobobsen
2 жыл бұрын
Sadge
@SukottoX
2 жыл бұрын
Sadge
@arandompersonlol1202
2 жыл бұрын
Sadge
@izio1111
2 жыл бұрын
3 years ago I had to drop out of year 10 because I got really depressed so I kind of feel that sad walk to school
@mrdasjo
2 жыл бұрын
This was actually one of my favorite meditations (so far). I felt a sense of inner peace; it's almost like calmly drifting through space.
@jackyinhere
2 жыл бұрын
Shoonya felt like I am meeting an old friend that I haven't seen in a while, when i reached there I smiled and almost had tears. It felt like when I was writing my diary putting down everything without judgment. it felt like a space that I always aspire to go to whenever I'm faced with any difficult in life.
@ivanljujic4128
2 жыл бұрын
I did shoonya for the first time now and I felt it. I sorta didn't want to come back from the practice. It was so peaceful. Weird, never had that happen during meditation even though I already had nice experiences with meditation. I underatand detachment now, like dr K said, but I also don't want to to be detached from people I love and feelings related to them, even if negative. I sorta choose to be attached.
@Dememonigote
2 жыл бұрын
I quit because I dont get fullfilled while improving, nor when i reached my goals, at that point I dont see reason to keep trying. And no matter what I do, it's always the same. I dont care about reaching the goals i set for myself, they mean nothing if i dont have anyone that i care for to share with.
@vivvy_0
2 жыл бұрын
yes
@jfp521
2 жыл бұрын
The meditation practice actually freaked me out, what an experience. I have always been an avid meditator but that type of meditation was something entirely different and new for me
@kikijewell2967
11 ай бұрын
I'm realizing that Enlightenment stuff isn't like a journey, where the goal is far away and you have to make progress to get there. It's more like being blind and feeling around in the vast darkness. Enlightenment is always _right there_ for you to find it. You can even recoil from it and ignore it. But it's always right there.
@harmoen
2 жыл бұрын
When I close my eyes I can still sense my room around me. Not because I can see it or feel it in any way, but just because I think that it's there.
@Roca891
2 жыл бұрын
I’m not a doctor, but let me propose an alternative explanation from my own experience. I like trying new things. The novelty of learning something new, and gaining skill rapidly is very exciting to me in the beginning and I don’t feel like this part is a grind. It’s once you get pretty good at something that it becomes grindy. For me I think it’s the serotonin hit I get in the early part of learning that keeps me Interested. But once you get to the grindy part, the repetitive practice or acquiring of higher level skills that it starts to become dull for me. I don’t think this is an ego issue. Laziness maybe. I do the same with games. They’re really fun in the beginning, but once I start having to perform the same tasks over and over, that’s usually when I stop and try a new game. It’s really unfortunate how this carries over in real life though. I’ve learned a lot of interesting skills but never really stuck with anything long enough to read the highest benefits because they get boring for me.
@debutchi
Жыл бұрын
I struggle with this, I wouldn’t call it laziness though it’s really just craving the excitement of novelty because the chemical hit u get is much higher and quicker than focusing on working hard to fix harder issues, takes a lot of discipline to sit yourself down and not allow your brain’s cravings to be in control
@hootiehoo3000
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. K, please do more content like this. Its genuinely spiritually fulfilling to have a reminder about what impacts our daily lives.
@onigirls
2 жыл бұрын
When he called people out for comparing themselves after the meditation section I really felt that. I did feel bad that it didn't speak to me at all. If anyone has any healthygamer videos they'd recommend for specifically ego/comparison/worth issues I'd really appreciate it. This was the vid that was most targeted from everything I've watched but I never really resonate with the spiritual approach to things. When he talks about neuroscience, psychology and behaviour it's super helpful though :
@jonnyrawket8158
2 жыл бұрын
This and so many videos on the channel hit hard. I went to school on a med path, switched to Psych BA when I realized I didn’t wanna be a doctor, I’m graduating in a week, and I don’t know where to go next. I don’t want to go back to uni for another bachelors, and I’ve considered a graduate degree in forensic psych, but where do I even go from there if I have ZERO idea of what to do now. I was a pretty meh student but I made it. I work out, go to church, try to participate in community activities but at the end of the day I’m directionless. I have no friends because I know I barely try to. I’m just discontent and spend my days on the computer researching things I think will make me happy or economically secure… :/
@CodySchmitt
2 жыл бұрын
Oh hey, it's my exact clone lmao
@pipeh-2688
2 жыл бұрын
Same here, at least we're not alone
@di3486
2 жыл бұрын
You have to find out if you really love this. Graduate school is hard and you should do it only if makes you feel alive.
@areare3990
2 жыл бұрын
Generation of lost people that's walking in the dark alone not knowing what awaits for them i the future. Yeah right life is so simple it makes me want to just vanish and f**cking die, hard times indeed
@travisdurrans8866
2 жыл бұрын
The struggle you currently face is the decision to either follow the devil you know, or the angel you've never met. The leap of faith to pursue what is actually meaningful to you instead of continuing the path you're currently walking is the most difficult decision you will face in life, and it is currently calling you to decide. You are all in my prayers, I know God will help us eventually reach the path of meaning.
@wizerd432
2 жыл бұрын
37:28 When he talked about using spirituality as a means to an end that really hit me… Makes so much sense
@remitiras
Жыл бұрын
I think the bus isn't the best place for guided meditation, but that was a really nice surprise to experience during a random video I opened to listen to in the background while trying to relax XD
@YungJuve
2 жыл бұрын
Even before watching Dr.K's assessment, I can tell this guy is addicted to making the easy progress, going after the lowest hanging fruits, and quitting once the going gets actually tough. Look at the specific figures - 100k salary, strongest guy at his local gym, diamond - these are all very much on the very right side distribution on their respective scales, but nowhere close to the TOP of the TOP. The way that things work in life is, the law of diminishing returns hits hard once we get to a certain part along the process for ANYTHING. It's actually much easier to go from Bronze to Diamond in LOL than to go from Diamond to Challenger / Grand Master. It's relatively easy to become the strongest person in your local gym than compared to becoming a powerlifting champion of your weight class / region (depends a lot on where you live - imagine living in Texas lmao, being the strongest in any weight class in TX would be a huge feat). So while this person may think he's tried hard enough and accomplished a lot and can't seemingly figure out why he loses interest past a certain point - I'd argue it's because you are not ready to step up to the next gear and REALLY go for something with all his heart. He's just figured out a way to fast-track himself to like 80-90th percentile of the distribution, but isn't willing to go from there to the 95-99th percentile. I've seen too many people around me fall into this category, actually. A lot of my peers in college were like - I got to so-and-so school, I'm done, and outright stop their academic pursuits right there then. I have friends who habitually switch out hobbies after getting decently good at them (let's say close to the top 10% of the participants), because they get "bored." Such "condition" is common amongst people with decently high aptitude for things who get conditioned to living the life on the easy mode. And yes, I was and in some ways, still am very much like this. Ultimately, it's up to you to realize that there are LEVELs to everything, and pick out things you really wanna go all the way with, and familiarizing yourself with the grind and delayed gratification.
@syncopatedglory
2 жыл бұрын
sounds like you're addicted to the grind tbh, maybe even very ego-driven. without knowing your friends it's impossible for us to know whether you're just judging them for having hobbies that change instead of going pro in everything they do, lol. the real question is whether they're content or not. if they aren't, that's an issue, but no one has to reach your idea of "their" potential.
@YungJuve
2 жыл бұрын
@@syncopatedglory I wouldn't say I'm addicted to the grind - but then, every addict would deny their addiction haha. Definitely to a degree - although I am / was completely fine being a total degenerate for an extended period of time. And of course, I'm ego-driven when it comes to career goals and to a lesser extent, to hobbies. If life was an RPG, I def like collecting shiny rare items and obtaining cool titles. And then, when I'm not playing it, I just laugh at myself for being so obsessed with things that are so arbitrary. Eh, that's life. I'm fine with that reality. My main point in the original comment is - whatever threshold you set for "good enough" is definitely subjective, although there's this objective reality to the levels of competency when we look at the groups of people. Furthermore, the choice is up to an individual to be satisfied with 90% progress in multiple games, or choose to embark on that long, arduous journey to reach that ever-so elusive 100% completion on a few. It seems like the redditor wasn't content with the former option, so I proposed an alternative. To each his own.
@neelmehta9092
Жыл бұрын
I just want to journal a bit here because this blew my mind. I saw the emptiness of my existence, how quiet life is. I cannot describe what I felt, it was a fleeting feeling, the first time I felt it I was so scared, terrified on how lonely it is. I cannot describe it to anyone, I never want to leave this feeling. I saw how egotistical my dad is, how I am, how ego is the root of unhappiness. How my dad is wasting his life, how I am wasting my life and yet even though this is an extremely negative thought, I feel content. I feel content because nothing matters, everything is a void of emotions, all anxieties worries all are sucked into this black box of being. everything is being sucked into this black hole, in a literal sense, I felt everything being sucked into nothingness, being sucked into a void and yet I feel content.
@tekiero
Жыл бұрын
How is your dad’s ego appears in real life? What actions he took under ego u think?
@tekiero
Жыл бұрын
and what do you mean by wasting life cause of ego? Why life wasted if you happy?
@heyqt7485
2 жыл бұрын
This is one of the best channels I've come across on twitch and youtube. Thank you so much for doing this and thank you so much for genuinly caring and talking about this.
@mellowmike6263
2 жыл бұрын
I've been meditating for a while now and that "Nothingness" meditation was really unique and novel to me, I've recently been reading "Being & Nothingness" by Sartre and he asserts that there is a nothingness at the core of being, something I could just about conceptually get my head around. But I just partially felt it, it feels so validating and that helps me integrate this into my emotions. I'm super grateful for Dr K doing this kind of meaningful work here, he's honestly helped me so much.
@mattschke
2 жыл бұрын
This meditation practice was impressive. Thank you so much for your work Dr. K
@christiandiaz
2 жыл бұрын
For the person who asked about how to balance the ego with spirituality, I find that working on balancing the chakras helps. The lower 3 chakras are rooted in the ego and deal with our relationship with our physical reality, with ourselves and with other people. They are typically thrown out of balances by experiences we deal with in our everyday lives. The higher 3 chakras are the more spiritual energy centers and are rooted in our spirituality and dealt without relationship to anyone or anything but the true essence of being (the void, nullness that Dr K. mentions or the inner voice talked about in the bible) essentially, that sense of knowing that can't be explained logically. The heart chakra is special and it's sort of a transition from ego to spiruality and acts as sort of a spring board to the higher 3 energy centers, but arguably the most difficult to work with. If you want to live a balanced life, without delving too much into ego or spirituality, work on balancing all the energy centers.
@hazzer2k10
2 жыл бұрын
That brief mediation was tripped out literally felt like I was in a massive void and I was the smallest “entity” was pretty scary ngl but enjoyable at the same time it was an experience I’ve never felt
@saturationstation1446
2 жыл бұрын
the purest form of happiness a human can achieve is through love. everything else creates very temporary senses of happiness but love can leave you fulfilled for an entire lifetime and beyond. and it doesnt require harming others to achieve. makes you find the highest levels of fulfillment in the smallest of things. hearing or seeing the person, holding their hand, eating a meal or watching a movie with them. saving lives from imminent danger is really the only other thing i can think of thats produced the same level of fulfillment that i've experienced. cant really imagine anything else bringing more happiness than those things.. maybe creating healthy/happy children and seeing them not struggle/suffer but i think you'd have to be a psycho to want anyones children to be unhealthy and suffering so thats just a baseline expectation of the human experience imo.
@ezioauditore4461
2 жыл бұрын
What do you mean by love?
@AxeKick80
2 жыл бұрын
@@ezioauditore4461 What is love…
@ilovesalmon215
2 жыл бұрын
Hello I am 19 and depraved of physical female attention and touch since I was born.
@elektrotehnik94
2 жыл бұрын
Worthy questions to ponder: - How can you be sure that what you have found is the purest form of happiness? - Can we be sure? - What does being sure bring us? - What part of us craves being sure? (I'll cheat); Is it ego? - What is the goal of that part of us? Is it survival? - Is our primary goal in life the same goal as that part's goal, or not? What do we want to primarily be here for, what is our guiding principle; to survive, or to be happy? Love to you all
@saturationstation1446
2 жыл бұрын
@@ilovesalmon215 in this time thats fairly normal. my first kiss was when i was a toddler lol. had many girlfriends before i actually experienced love for the first time in my life. you'll get there someday you just have to make your standards realistic in what you want in a woman and not be afraid to do embarrassing things to find her. just treat them like human beings who have the same rights and needs as you and have the right to not be with you should they choose. most relationships dont last, you just have to do your best to enjoy them the most you can while the connection is strong and flowing. over time there will almost always be outside factors that end up driving people away from each other. you just have to let it go and try to experience it again with someone new when that happens. we're supposed to share our love imo
@goobus_floobus
2 жыл бұрын
The ego is what traps you doing something you used to enjoy, but now doing it makes you feel stuck
@Scrubermensch
2 жыл бұрын
Dude this guy is literally my opposite, I hate life because I can't be good in any fucking thing.
@jvolc
7 ай бұрын
0:01"If your goal is to be a top performer, that means that what you do is determined by the crappiness of the other performers."
@DalCecilRuno
2 жыл бұрын
38:02 OMG! Thank you so much! Thank you for saying it so straight to the point.
@raghavmohan3512
3 ай бұрын
What an amazing technique, thanks Dr K for introducing it to us. For those who couldn't do Shoonya, please don't be discouraged! Its highly advanced but there is a way to get there, keep researching more about it and practicing🙏
@avenreyl
2 жыл бұрын
When I found the void all I'd done is tear up, and my ego can go both ways. Why can my ego be so self-destructive if it is meant for survival?
@moonrose100
2 жыл бұрын
The more I hear about meditation, the more I can see a connection to disassociaton. Disassociaton is meditation but in reverse. I want to go deeper into this thought but I'm struggling to find the words to describe it
@weareallbornmad410
2 жыл бұрын
I would love to hear more about this
@kittykatinabag
2 жыл бұрын
Okay I've been avoiding watching this video because I knew it would cut deep for me. What I didn't realize was how the Shoonya meditation would affect me. As I was observing the core of nullness in my being (for me it started as a sphere but morphed into a vague humanoid shape when I tried to touch it in my mind/bodyscape), a lot of things instantly connected for me. I had felt this feeling before- after breakups, after breakdowns, occasionally laying in bed right at the edge of sleep, it always has been there. When I was younger the explanation for that feeling I came up with is that I was fundamentally an empty and broken person, and one of my solutions as I got older was to try to fill the void up. I tried all sorts of feelings, from affection to hate to anger to spontaneity but instead of growing smaller the void either stayed the same size or grew. So I tried physical sensations, lust and physical affection, pain (before stopping because pain is well... painful), smoothness, softness, scratchiness, but again, nothing worked to fill the void. It was truly fascinating to just sit and observe it. I was definitely mentally freaking out a little as everything kind of connected a bit. I'm amazed at how easy and deep that experience was within the 10 or so minutes of meditation. Guess I should stop anxiously avoiding the path of meditation on Dr K's guide and actually start exploring it as well.
@cricket91181
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. K! I have this very same situation. I saw and felt the void during the guided meditation. I can now see "the nothing" all around. I know I'm dating myself be saying this but maybe there are some 40yr olds that watch this channel? It feels a little like the anticipation of"the nothing" from The Never Ending Story". Everything is unstable and yes there is freedom but its disorienting. Feeling it in myself and around me has relieved the steady ache of finding my next goal to charge at. I'm totally content standing still...its crazy!! Thank you thank you. I will use this in the future for sure! I was getting ready to withdraw from renewing a 2 yr term commitment and now I'm reconsidering filling that position. Without all the stress that come from comparing and grinding my way to find more meaning or to be better than....it seems doable!
@ammalyrical5646
2 жыл бұрын
Shunya medation is almost like learning higher physics. Even matter is mostly empty and everything is just energy represented in different ways. Literally everything is an illusion.
@Kunzopolis
2 жыл бұрын
the bit at the end about how the human body and brain are designed for survival -- not for happiness -- is absolutely fucking profound and i never thought about it that way
@krzysztofkulpa3465
2 жыл бұрын
this video is so good! it's part of my daily routine now xD
@mazen2940
8 ай бұрын
Thank you very much. I've been wanting to learn shoonya for a year now with no resources I could find. This practice is truly transformational
@mathew6639
2 жыл бұрын
This is probably the most significant video from Dr. K (for myself) yet.
@Bai_Su_Zhen
2 жыл бұрын
Wanna know what makes me unhappy? It's that people want to take but don't want to give anything back at all. I get called "asocial" all the time but I'm not gonna go out of my way to make myself accepted on somebody else's terms, while they couldn't ever give the slightest of fucks to entertain any of the things I associate with for a second. Like, where the fuck is the balance in that? People run their mouths all the time, sometimes even in good faith, about how me - "the asocial person" should make myself more attractive and likeable, while they are the ones who never build any bridge to anybody in any way, they just have others on the same isle, half of whom are just desperately taking the bait on that bullshit self-improvement advice. It feels like every social interraction is so fundamentally fucked and toxic and we think it's just fine, while all the completely one-sided relationships produced by this stupid shit are destined to crumble. It's not self-improvement, it's self-destruction. It's getting rid of one's genuine self in order to find a relationship at any cost, because people can't compromise for shit. That's what makes me unhappy. Okay I'm done. Sorry.
@jludwig5374
2 жыл бұрын
This channel is truly a light in our dark times. Thank you
@SimplePixelLofi
2 жыл бұрын
This post is literally what I've been dealing with this week, I even thought about posting it on the subreddit today and this comes up. No i'm not crying, you're crying.
@thehypnotist9750
2 жыл бұрын
That Shoonya meditation blew my mind
@mcmeyer76
2 жыл бұрын
This is the piece I was missing, to take the next step. Thank you for putting out into the world in your own signature way, for us to find.
@Sirinoks8
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting. Wouldn't call myself an experienced meditator. But I completely got the concept. I actually raised a point recently about just being fine existing, while noticing how for many people it's hard to. I think I had this for a long time and now I know how it's called. Or, one of the ways it can be called. Cool content.
@lakeberg5102
2 жыл бұрын
Do you have an ego about being able to understanding the concept while others can't?
@Sirinoks8
2 жыл бұрын
@@lakeberg5102 I think so, to some degree. There's always been some comfort in being "special" for me. Be it because of something positive, or negative. That's definitely ego.
@paulj4955
2 жыл бұрын
Bro the meditation really got me feeling another void inside myself other than the one i already feel everyday
@TheBswan
2 жыл бұрын
The bit around 38:00 when Dr. K talks about the ego hijacking spirituality is a point that is expanded on beautifully in Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism. Highly recommend for anyone who wants to freak out their ego ;)
@MutedSage69
2 жыл бұрын
I have never been able to see life from not behind my eyes until now it was like an out of body experience and now I can't go back to how I used to see things and it's rough.
@Uncleanwiener1231
Жыл бұрын
Video basically gave me a spiritual awakening
@handsonfire6113
2 жыл бұрын
wow I was able to feel the emptiness inside me and I started to tear up, I have up until this point thought of my ability to understand my external world and physical and emotional sensations but the fact I could see the emptiness inside me was really sad as if everything and anything I have ever done or will ever do will never lead me to have something in my chest.
@Gervasn
Жыл бұрын
Isn´t shoonya meditation the only practice you will ever need? To me it seems like achieving peace and dissolving the ego will inevitably solve all your problems, traumas, attachments, insecurities ect.
@iwersonsch5131
2 жыл бұрын
When you talked about the rabbit, my first instinct was "Oh, and the ego gets sad that the vegetables were eaten by the rabbit instead of you or your guests. Without an ego, you are happy that someone enjoyed the meal"
@JiangBao7
2 жыл бұрын
I find myself always practice the Shoonya and reconize it between the rabbit, I know how to just to let go, just don't care and everything that is happen it's not about you it's just your ego (your desire and self-esteem in the way). I was feeling that thing is easy to learn and i'm get bored easily too, It's true about not comparing with other and to think what's motivate you, this video is just the truth and it make you strong any aspect, the meditate part is so amazing that I can't stop smiling after I come back, because I meditate all the time (to have awareness and be calm like a cold thinking robot), and I love to just get along with myself, just to chill out and do nothing, so the whole meditate part is easy to me and very very useful to go deeper. I wanna help translate this video into chinese so I can share it with the people that I loved, please authorize me to add subtitle to this video
@lakeberg5102
2 жыл бұрын
Why do you want to be a cold thinking robot? My experience is the opposite, warm and brilliant went it goes well.
@JiangBao7
2 жыл бұрын
@@lakeberg5102 it just mean that I erase my ego as much as possible and just to think what's really matter and really happening rather than listen to the rabbit. I meditate to be calm and free, and that make me warm and brilliant too.
@TheSpykeeper
6 ай бұрын
If you ask ChatGPT anything, especially something existential like "Where did we come from?" Then you proceed to tell it to go "Deeper" in it's answers several times in a row, you'll find that it consistently gets to a point where it keeps feeding you themes of effable nothingness, nihility, oblivion, void, and paradoxical infinity. Sounds a lot like Śūnyatā to me. I like "Ego is the Enemy" by Ryan Holiday, and this video gives it some more meaning to me.
@icaruscantfly9762
2 жыл бұрын
This was amazing thanks for this!
@WuBrotherNumbaOne
2 жыл бұрын
My adhd makes me unhappy 24/7 and when I'm bored its the worst feeling on the planet
@ryze_tv1092
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. K ❤️
@Mastrsso_O
2 жыл бұрын
When we was going through the meditation, I couldn't help but think that he was describing what dissociation/derealization feels like
@viewpoint2515
2 жыл бұрын
the guy who balanced his ego is a fucking legend
@asandax6
2 жыл бұрын
Whoa the feeling I got when the emptiness came is exactly like the feeling I get when I ask my self the question of who created the universe. It always ends in emptiness after going down the rabbit hole of who created the creator.
@Dmobley9901
Жыл бұрын
I honestly really wanna hear of the paradoxical successful enlightened baby. I like the sound of a paradox baby.
@derekeodice811
2 жыл бұрын
I was able to feel shunya. Phenomenal guidance with the meditation, btw. I realized that shunya exists in so many places I never thought of before. I now better understand what people mean of happiness coming from within.
@xFabi99
2 жыл бұрын
It's so interesting that for Dr. K the goal is to control the ego. It reminds of something I heard about raji yoga which Dr. K. said was his main way (or his mind is the type for it): this way is all about control, discovery and understanding. My main type fits more to Jnana Yoga and I don't wanna control the ego at all, I see it as clouds that come and go.
@Blessupph777
2 жыл бұрын
How did you found your type?
@xFabi99
2 жыл бұрын
@@Blessupph777 By trying out the different yogas, to me one felt a lot more natural than the others. I tried the raji yoga because dr. k advocates for it but the whole strict systematic approach thing doesn't fit me and I don't care so much about being in complete control of my mind. The knowledge yoga is just philosophy and I always loved to talk and think about philosophy.
@michaelwipeout2048
Жыл бұрын
This meditation gave me the same eerie feeling that I used to have when smoking weed, questioning what the fuck is a human being, like thinking of another person and not understanding what they are, and then asking that same question about myself,is that bad?
@EricCartmanFTW
2 жыл бұрын
Another way to look at it is that some people drop out of many things after becoming "quite good" at something but not "great" because of insecurity. There's a fear that no matter how much additional time & effort one invests, they might never reach the level of the greats, so just drop out before hitting the wall as a protective mechanism. Then they chalk it up to they took way less time to get there compared to others. I've seen this in some of my patients
@cherubin7th
8 ай бұрын
I don't understand the connection between my core not having sensory signals and the outside world not being real. In the end I just don't get signals. Like I don't see objects behind a wall, doesn't make the object not exist anymore.
@darksuntoggafhd9947
2 жыл бұрын
I have a similar problem, but wouldn't say I aim to be a top performer. In my situation it's more that I hyperfocus something to the extent that I either lose interest or burn out. This is especially apparent in hobbies. I try to get as much information on something or practice so often that I either burn out or become bored. So I self sabotage to cut off this failed attempt at mastering something. It has gotten better in the past year in a half though. I definitely try to cut back on my obsessive behavior and limit my time with hobbies as to not burn out.
@Обалдемон
2 жыл бұрын
WOW, thanks for this
@FirstLast-yj1hp
2 жыл бұрын
THIS VIDEO CAME AT THE RIGHT TIME FOR ME ! I felt exactly the same way as the OP!
@sarbojitsarkar4614
10 ай бұрын
According to duality , so shoonya should have a duality that could be existence.
@KakashiHatake-oh5or
Ай бұрын
Shoonya - letting go of the ego - contentment - void
@heidihageman523
3 ай бұрын
Very good video. Thoroughly enjoyed
@5701mari
2 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate the perspective that Dr.K has
@Bonzi2
Жыл бұрын
What if i want to let go of the ego, but still make improvements to myself to make the people I care for happy? Is that still ego because a comparison has been made?
@Samuel-sg2iv
10 ай бұрын
I feel like i just stumbled on the most high level of thinking and thought right now and i'm so confused.
@saratchaitanya402444
Жыл бұрын
you are ryt EGO is what shackles us .
@smittyflufferson1299
2 жыл бұрын
Most things in life give diminishing returns but pushing past despite diminishing returns is purpose
@starstenaal527
2 жыл бұрын
Wow this meditation was so good
@ughsirius
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Dr K!
@Yotrymp
2 жыл бұрын
The weird thing about all this is I've done it all before, but I needed a reminder and better understanding. This version of meditation was much easier than the full-body nothingness type. Ego has been winning for a long time and that's because I keep forgetting about it.
@jeremyrivera8295
2 жыл бұрын
Amazing how, as soon as I "entered the void", and felt that void within my core, I started tearing up and, ever so slightly, started crying. I claim to be physically uncapable of crying, and even with effort put behind it, tears just do not seem to flow out. This was beautiful, cathartic and deeply emotional. During the whole meditation, I recalled some recent experiences which I took for granted in their given time, and began appreciating them for what they were, and kind of began manifesting similar experiences for the future. The twist is that all of those manifestations, came from what my senses can recall as stimulating, and, using as reference, those past occasions that "the void", actually had something in it. Gotta say, I discovered this channel just last week, and it has been the most supportive and positive content I've watched in all of my youtube consuming years. I'm tahnkful for you, Dr. K and for this wonderful community. Greetings from the Dominican Republic. A warm virtual hug for you all.
@trappart9209
2 жыл бұрын
Take care!
@Set-vt
2 жыл бұрын
I’m from DR too, but I guess my mind is still too shackled by ego to feel much or anything at all from meditation.
@animeasmey2
2 жыл бұрын
im Dominican as well but im in the states...i also just found this channel like a week ago... My body was all tingly with the meditation... ill have to practice it more. Im in love with this channel, some of the best shit ive seen and so needed.
@vladislavshevchenko634
8 ай бұрын
I play chess as sports. And what I noticed, that somewhere around candidate for chess masters just studying and playing the game is not enough from this point onward you're top 5% and everybody at this level is studying a lot and what you need to do is not necessarily studying more, but start studying differently from what brought you to candidates. Instead of increasing the amount of exercises, you significantly increase the difficulty of exercises. And start solving chess puzzles blindfolded, srart playing blindfold games.
@jak9777
2 жыл бұрын
This meditation remind me when Aang would train with Guru to unlock the Avatar state. The final chakra was unlocked by letting everything go
@jessp3478
2 жыл бұрын
Oh my god, this is me.... It's why I quit my last job, it's why I'm getting my third degree, it's why I have so many skills and hobbies, yet I end up abandoning them all. I care more about the praise and validation I get from professors than I do about actually learning the skill. Because hey, look at me, I can get good at this thing in a short amount of time, and I know that I can get to the top of the leaderboard because I'll devote all my time to the assignments while everyone else procrastinates. But I never actually build my skills into anything meaningful. I just give up at a certain point and start something new and shiny. Heck.
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