And another thing! Stop entertaining men you don’t want to attract. Sometimes we attract certain men because we entertain them instead of letting them know you’re not my type, you’re not meeting my needs, you don’t have a clear future for yourself, this is important.
@tequilachanel7312
Жыл бұрын
My problem is I attract feminine emotional men and I hate it 😭 I don’t want them I want somebody I can submit to, someone who is emotionally available not a people pleasing man.
@user_abcxyzz
Жыл бұрын
Forever alone
@glecservices3114
Жыл бұрын
Sounds good but a lot of women ain’t ready for submission, it takes a humble spirit to submit and follow a mans lead, take it from a man that’s had his own place from 16 raised 2 boys from the age of 18, had 3 long term relationships and none of them worked out, i though it was me but come to realise women want fun all the time and they expect you to be winning all the time but ain’t down for the ups and downs, none of the women rated or respected that I had my own spot at 18 and now at 35 I’m still not on my level; yet alot of women want a man that’s ready in every way but ain’t ready to follow and listen to a mans direction, some are but not all, typically tho a man wants a woman who is humble, loyalty, supportive of his goals and vision, good food, good sex and peace of mind and a woman who ain’t into being outside and showing off herself to the world and masculine men differently don’t know want a woman who a high body count as that’s not a woman who is in her feminine energy. At worst 3 bodies at best a virgin
@tequilachanel7312
Жыл бұрын
@@glecservices3114 yes the emotional men I’m talking about usually doest have it together. I have no problem submitting to a man I have before but he was a “Man” not a mamas boy.
@tequilachanel7312
Жыл бұрын
And it sounds like you accept the women that goes against what you believe a women should be. Because that type of women isn’t hard to come by some men are just thinking about how a woman will make him look even if she’s empty.
@dnydeltoro
Жыл бұрын
Probably cos you’re in your masculine
@marycash183
Жыл бұрын
Montelle you are the most underrated youtuber ❤ love ur unique videos
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!🤍
@dialmstyle
Жыл бұрын
Yes sis, standards! In life, with men, friends, for yourself. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@theresamatambo9196
11 ай бұрын
I absolutely love you girl, youve taught me so much and helped me elevate myself. With that being said, i think this narrative is veey very dangerous to men and women. The traits that make men "manly" are usually the same traits that harm us. Emotion is something that exists in all humans. Emotional intelligence is a skill that all people, men and women must know. It is crucial in building a healthy long term relationship. A man who is out of touch with his emotions usually has problems regulating them. In my experience this results in unhealthy reactions to situations such as punching walls or shutting you out. We stifle men and put them in a box of "masculinity", not giving them the chance to be human. Lets not be surprised when these "manly" unemotional men start lashing out their pent up human emotions on our faces.
@SdW.8
Жыл бұрын
Oh Babe I totally needed this. I saved this to my list. Seriously so many truth bombs in this! I was hanging out with a guy I thought was "milk toast" yet brought me to my favorite musician (3rd row), would do any adventure I recommended, tested my intelligence in our industry and listened deeply. I thought I'd destroy him because of how dramatic/bombastic I was, due to how I was raised, and rejected him for his own good. I never wanted to challenge him (for the first time in my life) because though he was quiet would dominate the room with his genius. He'd shut down ALL the men in the meeting with his few words. Thank you for this session!!! Much love from the Midwest US 💖
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
Awww love this!!! 👏🏾
@SdW.8
Жыл бұрын
@@MontelleBee Love you!
@Heyu7her3
Жыл бұрын
*milquetoast
@HexaAngel
Жыл бұрын
I'm not sure how I feel about this video. This isn't supposed to be "hate", I'm just trying to open a mindful conversation. There's a few key "issues" I picked up on: 1. I think your definition of a "masculine" man is warped. What you seem to be describing is more like a "mature" man, a "responsible" man, a "man who has his shit together and is ready for a committed longterm relationship". And I do not believe that those are inherently "masculine" traits. I also think this super binary way of looking at "masculine" versus "feminine" people is a slippery slope, because there is a lot of extremism right now surrounding how we define masculinity. I mean you've got abusive men like Andrew Tate being glorified as the ultimate "masculine" man, while loving, caring, and attentive men are being mocked as "simps". And a lot of men claim to be "masculine alpha males" because they are possessive, jealous, and controlling of their women, and don't express any emotion other than rage. You mentioned "emotionally unavailable" as a feminine trait in men, which I don't believe it is. There are plenty of more "effeminate" men who are incredibly emotionally intelligent and great communicators, far preferable to men raised with the traditional masculine ideal of being emotionally closed off and never letting their vulnerability show. 2. I don't think women should be encouraged to focus on "attracting" ANY type of man, ever. The BEST time to get involved in a relationship is when you no longer feel the need to be looking for one. I find that these sorts of "tips" videos on how to attract your perfect mate often tend to appeal to women who are vulnerable, desperate, and having trouble loving themselves, which puts them at risk of ignoring red flags and ending up in a potentially harmful relationship. Realistically, in order to be healthy and secure within yourself, you really should be the type of woman who "doesn't need a man but wants a man". That is the right way to go about it, because a man is never guaranteed. Even the BEST guy, on the outside, can turn out to be abusive or a cheater, so you NEED to be ready to be on your own, have your own money, take care of yourself and stand on your own two feet. Being an "independent" woman is not a "masculine" or undesirable trait. 3. I'm not exactly understanding what you mean by being "in competition" with your man. Like, if a woman earns more than her boyfriend, does that automatically mean she's in "masculine" energy? Because I wouldn't see things that way. It shouldn't be a competition, nobody should be rubbing anything in, nobody should be feeling threatened or intimidated or insecure about who is earning more money. It is what it is, as long as both partners contribute equitably to the relationship (and finances) in whatever way they can, and whatever way best supports their partner. 4. I don't think being able to plan a nice date without being told what to do is a sign of being "feminine". Being a good listener and attentive partner who picks up on the things your girl likes is not something that's out of reach for "masculine" men. Like, yeah, you can focus on your job and perfecting your craft and whatever else, and still be able to notice what kind of jewelry she likes, what kind of food she likes, what movie you should take her to etc. Like, that's not suspicious to me, that's just showing he cares and he pays attention. (But of course be mindful of love-bombing because if he is TOO too good at this, it could just be a way to rope you in and mistreat you later) Men often say stuff like "we're not mind-readers" to cover up the fact that they actually just don't pay attention to your interests, at all. Like, if a girl is out here dropping hints left and right like, "Omg these shoes are so cute," "Isn't this necklace so pretty?" and you still don't know what to get for her birthday? Come on. As for feelings, yes, women should communicate their thoughts just like men should, but a lot of the time men REALLY don't make an effort to empathize, and that is very much a THEM problem, not an US problem. Like, he makes a stupid joke that's kind of a jab at you, and suddenly you go totally silent. He doesn't pick up on the fact you've gone silent, he doesn't consider the possibility that his playful jab might have been hurtful, and it's your job to explain to him why he shouldn't have said it? Nah. Things I did agree with in this video: 1. Heck yes, raise your standards. 2. Definitely agree that allowing guys to treat you like a casual booty call is a waste of your time (if you are at a point where you want to settle down). 3. "Boring" relationships are superior and healthy. The drama and the games and the inconsistency is teenage melodrama BS that no self-respecting grown ass woman should be putting up with. TLDR: Being mature and responsible is not an inherently "masculine" trait in men. Masculinity and femininity are not so black and white as this. And women GENUINELY don't need no man. Like they really don't. Please do not go out of your way to attract one. Yes, work on yourself, yes, take care of yourself, but don't be out here trying to change who you are or overthinking if you might be too "masculine" because you make more money than him and can take care of yourself. If he's insecure about it, that's his problem. Stop looking for men you can "submit" to and obey. Your value as a feminine woman is not rooted in your ability to be meek and submissive.
@sooshi89
Жыл бұрын
"Your value as a feminine woman is not rooted in your ability to be meek and submissive." THANK YOU
@user_abcxyzz
Жыл бұрын
Ain't nobody reading that
@AS-ie6id
Жыл бұрын
essentially, your disagreements mean that you are a traditionally "masculine" woman.
@AS-ie6id
Жыл бұрын
the top comment on this shows what masculine men look for as a feminine woman. These feminine woman want that type of masculine man. You want a feminine man because you are more masculine (generally that's how it works). There is nothing wrong with that but this video isn't for you.
@HexaAngel
Жыл бұрын
@@AS-ie6id I am not a "masculine" woman and your interpretation of my comment shows a total lack of understanding. I resent the ideal that a "feminine" woman should be submissive, weak, and dependent on a man. That is NOT what femininity is. That is a lie that the patriarchy told us to keep women "in their place". The truth about women and femininity is that men need women more than women need men. Women are the natural protectors, not men, as they would like to believe. As makers of life, we value it more, and we protect it more fiercely. In nature, the females are often much more aggressive and ferocious fighters than even the males. As hunter/gatherers, the male hunters mostly failed to catch anything and got themselves killed in the process, while the female gatherers were the ones who actually provided MOST of the pack's nutrition. Those are the actual facts. I am not a "masculine" woman, I am not looking for a "feminine" man, I simply believe that this black and white view of what is considered a feminine vs masculine trait is a bunch of patriarchal, traditionalist nonsense.
@bukolasoneye1670
Жыл бұрын
I loved your tips and honesty, Thanks Montelle
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching 🙌🏾♥️
@ToriDTV
Жыл бұрын
Thank God for women like you … more women need to be what we were born to be. Your femininity makes you even more beautiful in this world of masculine chicks who act like dudes.💜💜💜
@leah38521
Жыл бұрын
I just found your channel today from your “time and financial freedom” video and I really like your vibe, so glad I found you.
@tlc2741
Жыл бұрын
I love your channel! What great energy ❤
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
Thank you ♥️
@glecservices3114
Жыл бұрын
Probably is A lot of women in this spaces talking ain’t even had relationships or a long term relationship in general, plus a lot of women have had way to much experiences with multiple men it’s deep
@chrisstudychannel
Жыл бұрын
But I want feminine men🥺 i love theeeemmmmmm
@loarychandomid5154
Жыл бұрын
really needed!! thank u so much for sharing ur knowledge :)
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome ♥️♥️♥️
@tamarasbeauty1016
Жыл бұрын
Thank u so much for this info. Its very much needed in this time in my life
@UKCurlyGirl
Жыл бұрын
Can we be friends 😫😂 Loving this!! You watch Mina too! I recently stopped for the same reason but learnt sooo much from her, I’d recommend Tony Gaskins aswell for anyone who wants advice on men/relationships/self worth 🙌🏽🙏🏽
@everythingerine
Жыл бұрын
The state I am now 😢. Thank you for your video
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome! I’m glad this video blessed you. Always reach out if you need further support coach@montellebee.com
@chaun5212
Жыл бұрын
My goodness you spoke to me.
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾🤍🤍
@CreativepreneurJourney
Жыл бұрын
I hate when women force themselves in a relationship that is not for her.
@user_abcxyzz
Жыл бұрын
Who did that
@harveergataurda526
Жыл бұрын
Needed this x
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
🙌🏾♥️♥️
@TheObiribea
Жыл бұрын
I'm so confused. What is a masculine/feminine man? How do we know?
@Birkinpangie
Жыл бұрын
Love your videos ❤
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
Thank you love 🤍
@christinemcliesh7628
Жыл бұрын
No bruk pocket!
@Coach_Jakobie
Жыл бұрын
As an openly gay/queer man, even I can apply the insight to my personal development. Thanks for the jewels.
@sharonjohns1686
Жыл бұрын
Thanks fir this. Pls share hair details. Sharing is caring girl 😘
@ennui_creatif7110
Жыл бұрын
What I would say is there is no bad press!
@JO-cw7ju
Жыл бұрын
What’s a masculine man ? Or a masculine woman ? Do you have videos that explain this ?
@JO-cw7ju
Жыл бұрын
@montelle bee is this you ?
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
No that’s not me!
@JO-cw7ju
Жыл бұрын
@@MontelleBee heya kindly any chance on answering my question ?
@Heyu7her3
Жыл бұрын
None of it is real...
@NomsLoots
Жыл бұрын
Crime 🤣🤣💀
@sophiarendanilsen9176
Жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@paigeconnelly4244
Жыл бұрын
This is a hugely problematic title. Not all women want a masculine man - personally I find them boring and gross. Men who aren't afraid to embrace their feminine side are fun and interesting because they're no afraid to explore what they like and are less concerned with being macho. As someone who has plenty of male siblings and relatives, this narrative is also damaging to men in general - there is already so much pressure to be macho, and this only pushes men towards listening to guys like Andrew Tate who push toxic masculinity.
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
Okay you’re entitled to your opinion. And I respect your opinion. But have you actually taken the time to watch the video? If you did, you’ll know I clearly said this is NOT for everyone, and not everyone wants a masculine man. So why proceed to click onto, then further comment on a video you don’t agree with? do you watch all videos you don’t agree with? Everyone is entitled to an opinion. This is mine.
@elizeebz
Жыл бұрын
Did she say that everyone should go for masculine men?
@Shekupe_k
Жыл бұрын
This video is directed to women that want masculine men, you dont have to watch everything lol
@TerryJulianLive
Жыл бұрын
You definitely gotta be a white woman if you feel like that. Everything you said is soo anti culturally black. Where in black soceity have we ever had a chance to have men embrace their feminine side?? LOL.. is this a joke. Are you trolling this channel?
@ToriDTV
Жыл бұрын
Andrew Tate is genius but I’m sure you only watched 10 second clips of him and judged prematurely. If you want a feminine man who paints his nails & cries I’m the bathtub, go to an abortion rally.
@OthoWilliamsJr
Жыл бұрын
🙇🏾♂️💪🏾
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
♥️
@SP.Addams
Жыл бұрын
We are really using these negging yt titles still in 2023? 🙄
@MontelleBee
Жыл бұрын
Open to your suggestions for a different title!
@SP.Addams
Жыл бұрын
Not sure why I should have to suggest an alternative 🤔. It’s the tactic employed in the title that’s problematic. I do suggest not using negging. 👍
@knewbheinqueen8169
Жыл бұрын
Wow find problems but not truly offer solutions! Way to go with being an effective communicator. Create your own video with titles that you like. This apparently still works for her audience ❤
@paigeconnelly4244
Жыл бұрын
@@knewbheinqueen8169 it's not her job to find solutions to a problem she didn't create. The creator puts their work out for the audience, therefore she has a right to an opinion, without being a creator herself. Learn that you need to take responsibility for your actions. What you just said was equivalent to "I'm sorry you were offended" in an apology.
@paigeconnelly4244
Жыл бұрын
Agree. And it's so demeaning to men. Imagine if a guy made this video, but reversed. Everyone would go crazy. It also assumes that most women want a masculine man, which I've found to not be true, however we as a society push the narrative that all men should be macho. This then pushes young men to listen to incels and violent men and mirror their behaviour. JUST LET THE MEN BE THEMSELVES.
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