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@rtjuan9383
2 жыл бұрын
My husband keeps saying he is leaning divorce, will threatened me will go to the court house when he is mad.
@24karatekid
2 жыл бұрын
Too far on promoting SIMPing this time. I liked your video on possible alternative to narcissism diagnosis being "not feeling safe" but at the end of the day abusive tactics add up to abuse regardless of the underlying motivations. Use logical argument that someone shouldn't threaten to call the cops in an argument and accuse abuse falsely in the heat of an argument because she has no legitimate way of immediately expelling you and separating you from your children? Why that was her "not feeling safe". 'You refused to admit wrongdoing for standing up for your self with words and logical argument, even though you conceded points where you agree you need to improve and offer compromises that are responded to with the silent treatment and walking away? You failed her test bro. You were supposed to cave completely, quit your job to spend more time at home and somehow also make more money than Y's husband who is better than you and admit to being a piece of #### who also needs to let go of that that time your wife was drinking and threatened to stab you when you went to take the bottle of NyQuil away. Your story isn't unique, just SIMP harder'. Men deserve slack too.
@MikePaterson
Жыл бұрын
Excellent as usual!
@cg1232
4 ай бұрын
So do i believe her when she says i could be different like ive been working on and atill nothing will change her mind since shes been done for awhile, and than had whats seemingly an exit affair. And now infatuated with this guy, or is that part of of the challaneg the discouragement im getting from her phsycologically.
@MuayThaiTherapy
Жыл бұрын
My wife is completely not interested in having a intimate and committed relationship. She is just going with the flow just doing what’s best for her. Here trying to learn.
@Nick-fo1jg
23 күн бұрын
My wife left me two months ago and says the same thing. She doesn’t want to try and is just going with the flow, she says she’s following god and things will work out how they should. To me things don’t just work out, you always have i out into what happens, things don’t just happen for no reason. What ended up happening between you both? Did you get back together?
@cruelladevil8536
2 жыл бұрын
Many times us women really feel like men just don’t care about their relationship with us. It‘s nice to see men actually do care about their partners & relationships and try to be better. This gives me hope.
@USmomma4
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Cruella!
@josephercastor8026
Жыл бұрын
Of course we care. We want loyalty, thats all!
@cedward85
Жыл бұрын
Cruella, it's not that we don't care, it's that we don't know how to express it without being judged for it. Kinda like how women enjoy sex, but have to be careful of being judged as too sexually promiscuous.
@jasonhand2439
Жыл бұрын
Thank u bro
@danieldoca7158
4 ай бұрын
You feel that but your feelings aren't an accurate reflection of reality. You women fail to understand that and you just wreck God marriages or relationship because you felt something that is not even true. Good luck in ever being happy
@USmomma4
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly spot on! Estranged husband did all of the mistakes and now we are getting divorced because he gave up on us…. Have come to accept he lacks character and maturity to do the work to save our marriage. I feel jealous and happy at the same time for couples who do work out, because at least they have a husband who didn’t give up… MEN do NOT give up on your wife/marriage!
@Ervsr93
2 жыл бұрын
I’m really trying not to! But it’s so hard especially when she’s so hopeless and it truly seems like all she wants is to move on and I’m suffering so much but I know I did a lot of mistakes so I know I have to put in a lot of work! Ur comment has encouraged me so much no matter how tough it gets I’m going to restore myself, my marriage and my family!
@fernandocabanillas8133
2 жыл бұрын
@@Ervsr93 How’s it going brother?
@Ervsr93
2 жыл бұрын
@@fernandocabanillas8133 right now I want to focused more on myself and my kids and I’m really trying to not worry about the out come, it’s really hard but I’m trying to focus and fix the things I am in control of. I’m trying to let go of my marriage, not give up but just focus on what I can control, for now that’s all I can do. Thanks for asking! Hope your doing good!
@fernandocabanillas8133
2 жыл бұрын
@@Ervsr93 hey brother I’m in the same boat. Been 8 months since she left. I hope for your success
@Ervsr93
2 жыл бұрын
@@fernandocabanillas8133 keep pushing man I hope everything works out for you as well!
@Stralia_Silvuh
Жыл бұрын
I’ve literally made ALL of these mistakes. I don’t think there’s a chance in my marriage at this point. 😞 I don’t want to give up. I’m gonna keep making the changes necessary in hopes that I can help myself and she’ll see that.
@SpankyyNinja
11 ай бұрын
I'm in the same boat right now...any update on how it went? She won't even give an answer on what she wants. Just that it isn't to do with me.
@Stralia_Silvuh
11 ай бұрын
@@SpankyyNinja update: she divorced me, but somehow, I met someone… idk how, but I realized, my ex wife was abusive and didn’t know what she wanted
@Happycat8385
3 ай бұрын
@SpankyyNinja how'd things go with you bud? My wife left me on April 8th, feel like I'm going crazy
@Stralia_Silvuh
3 ай бұрын
@@Happycat8385 I understand the feeling. Just know that time will with everything out.
@tbagjonez153
3 ай бұрын
@@Happycat8385my wife left out of the blue last week and I’m still trying to figure things out. You are not alone! I haven’t heard from her since, I’m here having to pay all the bills and a mortgage. No idea where I go from here to be honest. I would have ever thought I would be in this kind of situation. Sooo depressing, we don’t have children but she took my dog.
@WitchCityFindsSalem
Жыл бұрын
I’m going through a divorce & in the very early stages. This video is amazing and I feel like I’ve tried so hard to change my marriage. He’s just giving up which might be the best thing for me. Not sure yet, I’m torn but the evidence speaks for itself. I can’t honestly remember the last time my husband said I was pretty or even the last time we had sex is so sad. I’m so broken and I’ve tried for 12 years 😢
@Elegance191
22 күн бұрын
How are you? I am about to file him divorce letters. He is enraged that he got found out cheating with happy ending erotic massages. As with you, he did it again and again to me , the cheating and lying. I have tried and tried but I am very sad, he is not interested. I wish you the very best. You deserve it.
@jaspersmith5748
2 жыл бұрын
You’re the best Geoff, keep it up! About two weeks into taking your program and I’m already making big changes and she is seeing it. My marriage is super rocky, there is another man, and it’s not the first time it’s been like this. You helped me see where my issues were and the ways to get rid of those character defects. I’ve already seen progress, and still have much to learn. Thank you!
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Love it Jasper!!
@mhauserman
Жыл бұрын
I’m going through the same thing, and the other guy thing hurts so bad. I’m struggling getting through this.
@MikePaterson
Жыл бұрын
@@mhauserman I feel your pain
@leleonet
Жыл бұрын
Do you always mention about the other man..?..or you focus on you and your spouse problem only.? Appreciate if you can share
@geelovesyou8227
2 жыл бұрын
That is exactly word for word is what has happened in my 30 year marriage. I’ve been a total idiot. She had tried to tell me so many times and I’ve just ignored her or blamed her and now She is done and filing for a divorce. She has desperately pleaded with me cried to me begged me to stop this thing I was doing. I kept blaming her the entire time, I told her she was wrong the problem was her and I was gonna change and I never did. I have loved her since I was 15! I love her now more than I ever have and I sincerely do. I cannot imagine my life without her and when I try to I get extremely sad depressed heartbroken Angry and i have serious panic attacks. I had no damn clue that I was doing this to her and I want to call her right now and tell her how sorry I am. I love everything about this woman. It’s four fifteen now in about 2 hours im calling her and telling I’m a idiot and I get it now! I pray to god she is receptive of what I’m going to be saying to her. Which is please baby I get it now! And I’m so so sorry.. just be a little more patient. I’m begging you please, I’m so so so sorry. Let me try one more time . God willing I mean please god I’m begging you give her the courage to open her heart to me one more time. With gods will I will not fail her this time . Thank you so much for putting this in terms we can understand! Have i mentioned that I love her! 😍
@geelovesyou8227
2 жыл бұрын
Update! She is done! I think she is seeing someone to be honost
@geelovesyou8227
2 жыл бұрын
@Khadija Hashimu I’m tryin to win back my soon to be ex wife. We have been together for 30 years. Since we were both 15 years old. We’re 45 now and we’ve raised 3 daughters and just became grandparents. I have personally sensed something was slightly of about 2 to 3 years ago. It’s slowly gotten worse with her leaving several times and each time it wouldn’t take much to set her of. We both filed for divorce about 1 year and a half ago and decided to give it another go. Now I know I can be a asshole sometimes and don’t claim innocence in this. That being said we’ve been through some serious trials and tribulations and have survived so much worse than whatever she’s choosing to divorce us for now. I ask her what wrong why didn’t you talk to me come to me is it something I need to work on. Sometimes she says no I don’t need to work on anything and literally the next argument which could be several a day she’ll say yes I need to work on this . On 7/1/22 She moved out and into her sisters This time. She took every stitch of clothing and a few other sentimental things. She has filed for divided and I got served in 7/15/22. Something is bad wrong, I cannot put my finger on it and I don’t know if she can either. She had told me that she needs time to find herself and she is mean as hell, I mean she will day the most hurtful stuff at the drop of a hat which I’ll internalize and start to 1) harbor I’ll will and 2)start to get more depressed about it. Im already a diagnosed manic depressant. Shes bipolar like hell so I was hoping some how that would cancel out one for the other. My depression for the most part is very low key and for the most part people wouldn’t even know I was having a episode. I will say the Older I’ve gotten I’m Okay I the worse it seems to get. She refuses to find any middle ground. She one sec is fine an literally the next second is a totally different woman! I’ve never seen her do anything like this. This is my best friend the mother of my children and my soulmate, my lover. She still wants to come and make love but not to long after it we’re fighting over the dumbest stuff i have ever seen and been through. I’ve asked her if their was anyone else and she swears up and down there isn’t. She swears up and down there isn’t. There is so much more more to go over so you can have the most accurate pic. That’s it In a nutshell. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Gabe W.
@christyworkman1191
2 жыл бұрын
I love you!
@MarkieMcG.
Жыл бұрын
@@geelovesyou8227 Update?
@robc3887
2 жыл бұрын
I haven’t blamed her, she is right. I have been trying to prevent divorce, I signed myself up for therapy and have asked her to do marriage counseling but she says we are done…
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi ROB C, Come meet Liam where he learned that "it doesn't take two to tango" kzitem.info/news/bejne/rYmpna1mrGKYjJw
@s.ibrahimoglu2097
2 жыл бұрын
By far you are the most under rated relationship coach, your advice is gold! Your methods are incredible.
@cedward85
Жыл бұрын
This is such an amazing ("amazing" is such an understatement) video, had me in tears thinking about how patient my wife has been as i screwed up time and time again. I am getting this program and Geoff, I really have no words to thank you for teaching this. It's time for me to become the man my wife deserves
@frankie400
Жыл бұрын
I feel the same. I can't believe how blind I've been.
@cedward85
Жыл бұрын
@@frankie400 When I wrote this, I was going through HELL. My wife wasn't even talking to me. Now we are finally on the upswing. Not out of the woods yet, but doing a lot better so things can absolutely heal. Just be patient and keep working on yourself. Never give up hope. Wish you all the luck bro.
@frankie400
Жыл бұрын
@@cedward85 thanks man, yeah, it's a gut check to have someone outside my relationship say exactly what I was doing. and how I couldn't see that she was the one trying to keep our relationship going. time for me to put in the work on myself and hopefully at some point she will see value in a future with me. I wish nothing but the best for you too Clay. have a good day.
@daddylacus
8 ай бұрын
Hope you both are doing well, I’m in the thick of it right now and am pretty terrified. She’s said she’s done and wants me to leave for now. Trying to stay positive and make the right changes, even though she won’t really get to see them that much right now.
@cedward85
8 ай бұрын
@@daddylacus I know exactly how you feel. First, just keep working on yourself as you said you were doing, thats good. Don't fool yourself into thinking she won't notice, women are way more perceptive than we are. Do things for you though, not just to show her. My wife and I have reconciled and doing much better, so it happens a lot more than you think. She doesnt WANT to leave, that really helped me. Its the best out of 2 bad choices, so give her a 3rd choice (where staying is better than leaving and she can confirm it will STAY better). This will take her as long as it takes, just be patient and supportive.
@mariohorton4758
2 жыл бұрын
Very spot on analysis. You are the first person to explain my situation to me. It's been one year and the divorce papers are ready now. Wish I had come across you a year ago
@tb87670
Жыл бұрын
I feel lucky I found these videos 2 weeks after my wife blindsided me. Though I wish I saw them 2 months ago to stop it from happening at all...
@StormyMonday0896
26 күн бұрын
I tried and tried, tried to do better, be what you wanted. He was defensive, said he was being attacked instead of listening. I went off and built my own life, my own world. He didnt want to try: lost his job, gained a huge amount of weight, not taking care of himself. If I tried to say I was concerned, that was a problem. If I didnt say anything, I didnt care. I gave up trying. I finally no longer felt any feelings and left.
@Elegance191
22 күн бұрын
This is exactly how I am feeling right now. He blames me for his cheating. He tells his family and friends that I have poisoned the minds of our adult sons. They are grown ups and know right from wrong , for goodness sake. They are totally disgusted by their dad and his family, in particular his mother. He supports his visits to erotic massages with happy ending, telling my sons that their dad has needs. While I raise the family and look after the home, the insurances, the groceries, be the driver, the doctor, the nurse, the comforting parent, the tutor, the cook, the finder of lost things in the mornings when the sons were kids . I have had enough. I respect myself and will not try anymore. I am kind, loving and warm and I deserve good things in my life. They will happen once I get through this game he is playing.
@colleenrogers3536
2 жыл бұрын
He is right on the money!! On all of this! Men, listen up! This is so true.
@vidalmercado1593
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks!!!! I know my communication has been awful and she said we never felt like partners in our marriage.
@Elegance191
22 күн бұрын
@@vidalmercado1593ah...you are like my husband in the sense that he has communications issues. He now blames me for his cheating. I cry as I love him so much still but it is the end for us. He doesn't want anything to do with me and has been telling awful things about me to his family and friends. I'm sad to file the papers but he deserves them. He will be liberated, that's what he told our adult sons. I am just concerned he won't be feeling like this in 2-3 years to come. He is not savvy with his money and will be tricked by his family in parting with his money. Terribly sad it has come to this but he has chosen to cheat, he is an adult, and he knows action has consequences. He is very happy to have moved out. I wish him the very best. Our sons do not talk to him nor his toxic mom and brother.They are never going back to France to visit. The grandma is evil .
@GenOfGooNSquad
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve made mistakes during my 8 year known 4 year marriage How can I get my wife to reconsider, she said she doesn’t want to work on it. I’ve been more of a doer as of late but she said her mind is made up. And she’s given me too many chances
@kalimbaayinde25
3 ай бұрын
Once a woman is done. She’s done.
@MikePaterson
Жыл бұрын
This was fantastic as have been the other videos I have watched. My problem is that my wife has started a legal separation process and has whilst living with me, has started a relationship with another man, so I am having to put that aside and try to fight the heartbreaking depression I am feeling, in order to focus on improving myself to become a safe place for her. It is so hard.
@RonicBeatsz
Жыл бұрын
How has this journey been for you, I would love to get an update brother
@davidcouture5970
5 ай бұрын
I'm literally living the same life right now and it just started a little over a week ago. I'm so lost and don't know what to do and hopeful that you were able to turn around, I hope I can too one day but I'm not very confident.
@MikePaterson
5 ай бұрын
@@RonicBeatsz hi, I am now a much better person than I had become. My wife left a year ago and I have now moved on. I am happy that I am no longer with her as that is best for both of us.
@MikePaterson
5 ай бұрын
@@davidcouture5970 I wish you the best of luck.
@acesbularon9372
2 жыл бұрын
ACCURATE!! hey Geoff, are you referring to me? All you points are on the spot! been watching videos for almost a month now. Still on the process of bettering myself, not just for my wife and my son but for me. Thank you brooo
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Haha, this is why I repeat so many times in my videos that your story is not unique. We all really start out in the same way.
@stephenle2879
2 жыл бұрын
This is very powerful you are right on the dot with everything. This video has shown me that I can and will change to better my marriage and to restart that spark we once had. Thank you for this inspiring video. 🙏🇨🇦
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
I love it! So glad you are finding my videos helpful.
@verstwo2
2 жыл бұрын
These videos have been extremely helpful to me in my quest to save my relationship. Thank you.
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Love it! Thank you for sharing this with me.
@Hellokat564
22 күн бұрын
Gosh I’ve been married for only a month and a half and my husband has done all these things you mentioned, although I’m not innocent of stubbornness either. But every time he hurts me (always communication-related itself), and I softly or in tears explain how he hurt me, he is uncaring about my feelings and defensive. I believe he cares more about his ego than about me. And we haven’t even been on our honeymoon. I’m wondering if I should stay in this or else these are my warnings to get out. 😢
@sydewayzmo3905
2 жыл бұрын
My wife filed for divorce in Jan. I was finally served end of April. After talks and talks and talks of the reasons why this video is 100% the reason my wife no longer wants to try. Ive applied to this program and I hope I get accepted. I have a feeling if I dont it is because my situation is indeed UNIQUE and just cannot be cured.
@mrs.daniellequintanilla4635
2 жыл бұрын
hi, how did things go?
@sydewayzmo3905
2 жыл бұрын
@@mrs.daniellequintanilla4635 I decided not to move forward with these guys. Went with a life coach instead that I felt was more taylor’d to my situation
@tyroncline5978
4 ай бұрын
I hope you dont have kids and have assets to share
@fordshojoe8080
3 ай бұрын
@sydewayzmo3905 did it work? If so who dud you use
@fordshojoe8080
3 ай бұрын
@@sydewayzmo3905did
@KennyJStylinz
2 жыл бұрын
Yes this happened to me and I'm currently trying to fix this
@robgtz7750
2 жыл бұрын
Bro you hit the Spot!!! Thanks I know what to do!!!!
@pro5702
2 жыл бұрын
This is very insightful - the problems are not the problem. But, are not dismissing, defensiveness, lack of acknowledgement, and failure to understand. Aren’t these under the rubric of communication? So communication is the problem? On a different topic. I wish you had some videos on her gas lighting. Thank you for the generosity of you sharing your insights.
@GreenDirtX
Ай бұрын
I have been watching videos for 2 years after she left me she keeps coming back and leaving for times I watch many videos this is the first video that completely makes sense and I understand her so thanks for sharing…
@letsspreadtheword832
2 жыл бұрын
Wife left me almost 3 weeks ago. Been together 13 years we have 7 kids together. I'm broke my promises about changing and never committed to it. She now says she doesn't see me that way anymore and feels pushed away. She says she wants to believe me but like always when she comes back I lie. I'm much older now. I'm 33. I'm matured a lot more from years ago. I've changed and she sees a little change too but I'm not sure what more I can do to make her feel un pushed away. I've changed for me yes and her. This separation is a real eye opener. I lost my twin brother August 16th she left me this month October. After my twin brother passed there was a division between my mother and family at the funeral. I dont speak to them anymore. I feel alone and I would always call my twin brother for advice but now I can't. I'm at my lowest. Can you help me please 🥺😔
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
I think you will find a lot of value from this video. Please take a look and be sure to ask me any questions if you are still confused on what she is looking to see from you in order to feel hope once again. kzitem.info/news/bejne/w56mtYOAh513dKg
@letsspreadtheword832
2 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan I watched the video. I left a comment. I dont know who to ask maybe you can help me. With me spending time with my wife like Dr appointments or us going to the zoo or out to eat would me showing her attention and being nice would that help her move on vs me leaving her alone and not spending time with her or texting her?
@letsspreadtheword832
2 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan I made a collage video of us together throughout 13 years. I made her her favorite food earlier this evening got her her favorite dessert and a rose after whe was done eating I showed her the video I made. She like it but I guess I was expecting more. Maybe I set my hopes up too high. I would like to share the video I made of us. Maybe you can tell what you think about it. Sorry for the late reply. kzitem.info/news/bejne/qHuY32ubs6GBrH4
@LaliiiLaliii
Ай бұрын
My husband started the divorce and we already signed it. 😢
@AustinKloud
2 жыл бұрын
My wife has decided to leave me after 20 years and 5 children…. I’m crushed and destroyed. I have spent my entire married life with her working and trying to better our family. But in my drive to make of life better, I have ignored her by trying to climb the corporate ladder. Now I have nothing….
@NexgenFinancials
2 жыл бұрын
My heart is with you brother, our brains dont work the same as theirs and i dont think they can accept this, we focus on securing our families safety and well being while they focus on how they feel
@jessea.1216
2 жыл бұрын
@@ted2136 same here bro after 20 years, we separated and she claimed she wasn’t seeing someone when I caught her.. I was such a hard worker, coach, great father… and horrible husband
@FreeTruly
5 ай бұрын
The best thing to do is let her go. Love should never be fought for.
@kalimbaayinde25
3 ай бұрын
@@NexgenFinancialsbecause it’s called balance.
@kalimbaayinde25
3 ай бұрын
@@FreeTrulythat’s selfish and why they are getting divorced. It’s called compromise.
@franksaletta9188
2 жыл бұрын
Hello Geoffrey I know this video is aimed towards long term relationships. What if you are in shorter term relationship and are broken up at the moment but still living together? Could you give me some insight on how to creat that emotional safety and creating that hope if she doesn’t want any part of me? Thank you in advance looking forward to some guidance.
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Stop thinking your situation is special or unique. The process to rebuild safety & trust remains the same.
@SpankyyNinja
11 ай бұрын
This video is literally describing everything i've been doing wrong.... literally describing exact things I've said out of frustration that I don't even mean. She has responded the exact way he is saying. I'm long distance right now and getting out of the military in a couple of days. I really want to change and i want things to be better and I feel like it will be once I have this burden off of my shoulders and we can finally live for each other. Where am I going wrong?
@chazgriffin5582
Жыл бұрын
wow I need to hear more you of your advice! almost everything I didn't do right I meant to and truly want to she is so important to me and our children.22 years I know I can be better I know that I want to help her and me and that she's not alone and after watching this video I can see why the hell she feels like that and why she is leaving. thank you
@daddylacus
8 ай бұрын
thank you for this video. she’s said she’s done. I’m scared because I have the best intentions moving forward but she doesn’t want to even live together right now. just trying to keep a positive mindset to make this changes, even if she won’t really get to see them right away. again, thanks for the video.
@thetruefusion7874
2 жыл бұрын
This is my situation what do i do now? How do i repair the emotional safety
@KennyJStylinz
2 жыл бұрын
What if your wife admits to not loving you anymore while away from you on active duty, I believe it would be a lot harder to fix with minimal communication
@IDispatchtraining
Жыл бұрын
I’m going through the same thing right now
@davidbaker8251
2 жыл бұрын
She does not want to save the marriage and is already in another relationship. She tossed me aside and dont event have contact on normal bases. Now i even have limited contact with our duaghter. Im suppose to change me and she dont see me on a daily basis. There are so many things going on and i dont want to lose her.
@the_hooks
2 жыл бұрын
Do it for yourself and not for her.
@jeffroberts743
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe I'm missing something but after hours of thinking back I can honestly say not one time has she ever said there was a problem or tried to fix anything. It wasn't until after her affair came to light that she ever mentioned there was a issue with us. I agree with with a lot you say but in my situation I'm not sure it's true she has already to to fix things in the past. If she did I don't know how.
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Jeff Roberts, And it's this very way of thinking that will not allow you to see just how much and for how long she actually tried to save the relationship. Remember, we can't solve our problems with the same mindset and thinking that created the problems in the first place.
@peregrine162.
2 жыл бұрын
So, if they feel no safety about communicating with the partner what is the reason to instantly cheat with another male? I don't understand.
@Bishop355
2 жыл бұрын
It wasn't instant. It was already in the works
@dwwolf4636
Жыл бұрын
@@Bishop355 Still a failure to communicate.
@josephercastor8026
Жыл бұрын
Youre so young to be so good at this. I was going to dismiss you based on your age. Bravo. Good video!
@spartans-82
8 күн бұрын
my wife wants a break up.. she wants to have some space for herself.. what should i do?
@Vainnx
2 күн бұрын
jus give her a lil bit of space but also understand why she wants the space and tell her tht whenever she’s ready to talk tht u will be there for her. also acknowledge the mistakes you have made tht would push her to wanting space
@Vainnx
2 күн бұрын
hope tht help and also hope yall work it out cuz ik the feeling
@northerncaliking1772
2 жыл бұрын
What if I'm in aca recovery going to school to become successful and I am very compassionate because I was raised by my mom. My girl says I'm too loving and she's embarrassed of me in front of her friends. I've changed my clothes walk and everything. She is obsessed with appearance. I have really tried everything.
@Lauj.85
Ай бұрын
This resonates so hard with me. Hopefully it isn't too late for me. But if it is, I know the changes I make for myself well help for the next relationship. Thank you for this content.
@RyanMeyerink
2 жыл бұрын
She doesn’t want to try anymore. It feels hopeless to her. Likes my changes. Put me in the friend zone and I blew it asking for another chance.
@the_hooks
2 жыл бұрын
She needs to see the changes not hear them.
@frostyfeetcards
2 жыл бұрын
What if you're dealing with a wife that is a covert narcissist?
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Frosty Feet Cards, Before you start to label your partner, I would first watch this video to see what the #1 killer in all relationships is. kzitem.info/news/bejne/qahrqYZrqZRkZmU
@brianawd
11 ай бұрын
This is exactly what I have done to my wife over the last 3 years. This is why she has asked for space. I see she definitely tried multiple times but I was so stuck in a depression from my mom getting sick and passing away. So I’m now trying to save my marriage and working with a therapist to help me get out of my depression so I can be a better husband and father.
@danielbeverly2147
2 жыл бұрын
Many times they just find someone new. They will complain about your behavior to justify being loose.
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Daniel, I guess you can be right in some cases. But in the cases I work with (1500 annually) this is not the case. Your partner is just looking for someone who can poses certain tools, qualities and have the ability to work through difficulties and challenges. I find that when someone can make themselves irreplaceable that is when you partner no longer wishes to look elsewhere. This is correct for all of my clients here below. kzitem.info/door/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
@kalimbaayinde25
3 ай бұрын
That’s a lie!! I tried talking and asking and begging for things to change. To acknowledge me as a person. No woman who loves you just goes out and cheat! She gives you PLENTY of chances to get it together.
@fordshojoe8080
3 ай бұрын
@kalimbaayinde25 that's also a lie. You're basically saying if she cheats uts your fault. Kinda like victim blaming. Woukd you say the sane if she started physically abusing him? Would you say he deserved it? If he cheats is it her fault?
@edmacias4032
Жыл бұрын
I have a very unique situation with my wife and I’m not sure if your program will work. Is there anyway I can share my story with you to see if the class and program would be worth it ?
@reesebenitez4826
Жыл бұрын
So what advise do u have for the guys w/ a wife that have alcohol & addiction issues ?
@DorotaMartaDzikon
8 ай бұрын
My wife give up after4 months start her new life in separation time. No words wish her best.
@oivatikkunen405
2 жыл бұрын
Everything what you sayed are so accurate that it feels like you can read Peoples mindes. While watching your videos i have realize everything what i have done wrong. But i think it is too late to safe my relationship. however now im more wise so i can build better relationship in the future. So thank you for selling your knowledge.
@christyworkman1191
2 жыл бұрын
This is 1000% right!
@MrGethevs1980
9 ай бұрын
I've been like this for 9 months she has filed for divorce and this Thursday seen her out with another man she said it's only been a couple of weeks this has totally broken my heart We have been married for 16 years with 2 beautiful daughters I'm just broken 💔
@gordonramsayshorts3002
7 ай бұрын
Sorry man 💔
@marks5740
2 жыл бұрын
Geoffrey just proved women are hard work ! 🤣
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
I think I proved that relationships can be hard without the proper mindsets and tools. It is easy once you learn.
@marks5740
2 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan , you have indeed proved how to make things work in a relationship. I used to say happy dick , happy chick .. When i should have said happy wife , happy life ! Paying for it now !
@Langley_Ackerman19
2 ай бұрын
I'm tired of being responsible, ALL THE TIME. i've had enough, I want to focus on myself now.
@808Affliction
2 жыл бұрын
I admitted that I was wrong and Improving each day on my communication skills. I would speak in a upset angry emotion and say things I didn’t mean. So now I breath and think about the situation and come back and start a conversation instead of saying thinks that come into mind when I’m upset/angry. It has been about 2 months now and I have been really good and my patients is way better. At the same time she still wants to get a divorce. I never ever raised my voice at her but the things I say really hurt her. I’m just crushed. She wants a divorce and already thinking about selling our house soon. 🥺
@808Affliction
2 жыл бұрын
She also told me that she doesn’t know if she is ready for a marriage, she doesn’t know what she wants in life and have baggage issues that she needs to solve on her own. Soooo it all started by my communication skills but now it’s that and her personal issues. I told her we can fix these problems together like a team like a married couple. But she still wants to leave. 😣
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Matty, Checkout this video below and see if you can relate and be sure to comeback to me with your thoughts. kzitem.info/news/bejne/ya2w3IV7pmiKdIo
@brendadean9291
4 ай бұрын
When I found out my ex husband was involved in an affair I filed for divorce. I knew I would never be able to deal with a second infidelity. Our marriage was on the rocks anyways.
@taneyat6_33
2 жыл бұрын
Omg you described me in the marriage. I tried so hard.
@moustacheamore2237
8 ай бұрын
Thank you very much, very valuable
@kevensg1
2 жыл бұрын
👌 your content is on point as always.
@elchulon154
Жыл бұрын
I want to try this but can’t afford it right now 🙁
@xItsDJ
Жыл бұрын
Does this happen on both end’s I know I was like it with her and she was like it with me but I struggle with feeling things so I pushed it back and she’s emotional so I can do the work to improve but is she doesn’t wouldn’t it still be the same? The blame one is what she does to me I probably try to sort the problem as soon as possible
@ssjcadic
2 жыл бұрын
Can I have hope if she just moved on? We just broke up for 1 month after 5 years relationship
@andresaovelastegui3122
Жыл бұрын
I started following and watching your videos today. You are amazing 👏
@Stralia_Silvuh
Жыл бұрын
I’ve made all these mistakes, can I still try?
@andre168
2 жыл бұрын
If my wife tell me that she willing to go to divorce so I can have my happiness and don’t have to be angry since I keep finding her to lied to me over small matters. It’s her compulsive lying that keep repeating over and over. Because of this, I lost trust in her and always suspected my wife is hiding lots of things, could be an affair which I know she isn’t that type. We have been married for 24 yrs. I’m very disappointed and hurt, knowing she is opening the divorce option and it start to eating me up, being suspicious and anxious. What would you advise? Thanks.
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi andre168, Start here and feel free to follow this video up with any more questions you may have. kzitem.info/news/bejne/rYFmzX5tqHiUnHo now
@gregcoleman9677
Жыл бұрын
Very true. Excellent.
@rtjuan9383
2 жыл бұрын
My husband said he is leaning divorce have been threatening me and doesn't see future in our relationship.
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Come take a look at so many of my clients who once thought also that divorce was the only thing left. Until they found me and my program and began to start to make massive changes that lead to massive results. kzitem.info/door/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
@marks5740
2 жыл бұрын
It's too late for me ... I lost the love of a fantastic woman and mother to my 2 teenage children.. Need to watch these videos before you break up... Once she stood loving you virtually have no chance of working it out ! Lost so much
@evatatus
11 ай бұрын
You failed to mention that you could be trying and trying to make her realize how much you love her yet she is still detached and then it turns out she was lying the whole time while having an affair with her chiropractor
@tb100875
2 жыл бұрын
You are a blessing.
@andresaovelastegui3122
Жыл бұрын
Yes, he is
@MsquinnyM
2 ай бұрын
The statistics shows that men initiate Marriage and women initiate Divorce 😢 There has to be some truth what this guy is saying. Many say the woman wants things their way and that may not be necessarily true. Women want to be emotionally connected to their spouse. However, some men are emotionally unavailable to understand the needs of a relationship outside of the norm. The words have to at least align with the actions that are being produced otherwise it causes confusion. Many don’t really put in the effort to water the marriage to make it grow. They become lazy lovers who sell false promises. Then when the woman continue to address things it’s not her nagging she is begging to bond with you in a different level. It’s beyond the provider, supporter, breadwinner mindset. We are partners it’s a team
@montavictoriam4044
2 жыл бұрын
everything u said is true ! whats catch-22?! plz
@gooseiify
2 жыл бұрын
Why wife says I dont change and she regrets marrying me .. She said she wants a divorce . Idk how to move forward from this
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Goose Crispy, Take the path so many of my clients have chosen when they were in situations just like yours and start to turn things around. kzitem.info/door/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
@dustinshinn218
Жыл бұрын
Is there a chance you could talk louder? I love to listening to these when I'm working on myself, my Physical appearance. When I'm cleaning the house. When I'm just trying to shut out all the other noise. Trying to connect within myself to my deeper emotions an to hers and how I made her feel during all this. When im just trying to change. Not just for her but for our kids as well. Your voice gets drowned out sometimes. There's nothing wrong with rewinding the video. Just a thought.
@GeoffreySetiawan
Жыл бұрын
Hi Dustin, This video is one of my older videos. Since this, I have purchased a new mic and set up better audio quality. Thank you for your suggestion.
@MoonChild13
Жыл бұрын
I'm a woman and it's my husband the one that doesn't even want to try :(
@JoseLopez-ip8hn
2 жыл бұрын
How do I get in contact with you? My wife is already out of the house and leaving the state soon and she's afraid to get burn again basically. But she's set on moving on and divorcing.
@user-xv6vi7hq4u
Жыл бұрын
mediation at end of august. any chance?
@homeoffavours
Жыл бұрын
What happens with a husband who is too proud to make the wife happy coz he is so attached to the siblings more than me, he exposes me sp much to the siblings and they attack me verbally and he doest care, he always say i overreact
@dwwolf4636
Жыл бұрын
Both views can be true. If previous attempts from her side at communication have been made in a manner that did not convoy their intent....what am I to do ? Read her mind ? I've tried to provide material to help us communicate better ...but nope aint read a bit.
@AliA-be3st
4 ай бұрын
Exactly! Didn't Einstein define the definition of "insanity" as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome.
@Lun602
Жыл бұрын
I need your help 🙏🏼
@eddiehernandez7806
2 жыл бұрын
The same can be said on the reverse
@gee_419
2 жыл бұрын
I kid you not if you just listen and set your pride aside this really works
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Gee_419, Yes, as many of my clients have realized if we bring our pride and our ego we will never ask ourselves the right questions. Gee_419, what are you finding most helpful after being humble to realize that we have a lot of room to grow?
@CoramDeo1977
2 жыл бұрын
Amazing content.
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Great! Glad you are enjoying it. Thank you for your comment and support.
@jlinkq
Ай бұрын
Well my wife doesn’t want to try anything she wants a divorced. She said no chance, she tried many times but it didn’t work. Time to move on
@bernielady5164
2 жыл бұрын
What are the changes he should be making ?
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Bernie Lady, Come join me here in my free 90 min master class to learn these changes. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
@TheMichaelCardoza
2 жыл бұрын
HOW DO I GET A ONE ON ONE WITH YOU?
@Eric2000ad
2 жыл бұрын
What if I’m not in the home she made me leave the house
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Eric Taylor, The majority of my clients have been have left home or their partners have left home. Nothing changes, the process stays the same. Take a look at Jason he was separated for over a year and he is now having massive results. kzitem.info/news/bejne/p6Wu0IWVh3WmiaQ
@DMVBigBusDriver
Жыл бұрын
Why is it always the husbands fault as if the wife is perfect
@inserter400
2 жыл бұрын
When is it too late to attract her back ?
@danielstan3345
Жыл бұрын
Wow
@joneday9131
2 жыл бұрын
What about if your wife already filed for divorce and never told you and now you need to battle for custody
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Jon E Day, Again nothing ever changes. The only way that a relationship is over for good is when both parties are not willing to make the changes needed to repair was was broken in the relationship. Also, when I say this I am not talking about being "willing" I am talking about actually making the right and massive changes first.
@joneday9131
2 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan thanks dude... has anyone you worked with been able to reconcile while in the midst of a family court custody battle with his wife without discussing nor giving him notice rather to finally serve him 30days AFTER she filed a case in court for divorce, support custody , attorneys fees, AND to top it off has made allegations of father being unfit so she can have full custody of their child(ren)? I mean I don't see how much more than rock bottom no chance for a comeback of a relationship can even get !!? Surely husband's attorney would advise him of his best strategy on how to "gain leverage" and if there are false allegations typically they would raise a credibility issue. This would inevitably damage wife's character which she most likely won't find "attractive"... I mean if you want a challenge Geoffery, I'll tell you don't look any further. Yes I know everyone says it but you'd gotta admit, this would take the cake!! Lmk, I can't let my baby girl down... I'm in if you're in!
@theQueenRocket
2 жыл бұрын
Does this work in the reverse for a woman?
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I have many many women in my program and these concepts and principles work for everyone.
@Lina126y
Жыл бұрын
I don’t agree with this. Wife left to follow a dream… too tired to explain but it has nothing to do with my situation
@GeoffreySetiawan
Жыл бұрын
Your wife left not because he went to follow a dream, but because there wasn't enough emotional & psychological safety to go through the journey of following her dreams with you.
@Demonoicgamer666
Ай бұрын
Then you say your opinion and if they are still not wanting to work on things then you have to accept it. Being irreplaceable is impossible because there’s 8 billion people in this world and at least 10 are going to be exactly like you.
@eddiehernandez7806
2 жыл бұрын
This seems one sided.
@nealsnikeris6962
2 жыл бұрын
It has to be when only one person is interested in saving it.
@munyaradzidavidmugadza3811
2 жыл бұрын
I hate how this whole change thing is me
@t1i9m9r5
Жыл бұрын
I wish i would’ve seen this a year ago before I spent a whole year rebelling against her by clubbing and being an a-hole…
@GeoffreySetiawan
Жыл бұрын
Hi T R, So what now after you know now? Do you still keep this same mindset and carrying this with you into your new relationship? Or do you actually start working to do something about it, to make sure this does not just become a self-fulfilling prophecy?
@gousmc1983
9 ай бұрын
Yeah, what happens when it's the man In the woman's roles, but yet she still wants the same outcome?
@treybarnes5549
2 жыл бұрын
there is nothing worst than jumping through hoops to cater to the instability of emotions
@GeoffreySetiawan
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Trey, It is only "hoops" if you find navigating emotions difficult and are not equipped to do so. Like with any thing in life, if we are not good at it or don't understand it, then we perceive it as difficult or "Jumping through hoops" So whats the goal? Invest the time to learn how not allow the nature of emotions to become difficult.
@Langley_Ackerman19
2 ай бұрын
You sound like my husband, I'd leave you too If I was married to you.
@KdubbleUp
2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏾😞
@Denis-ou1pt
3 ай бұрын
guys never change for a woman
@GeoffreySetiawan
3 ай бұрын
Agreed. I and my 5,000+ active clients right now do not change for a woman. BUT, it's our disastrous relationships with women that opened out eyes to our weaknesses and flaws... And it opened our eyes to our need to change, not for women, but for our own sake. And I am so glad I did. And my 5,000+ clients are glad they did as well. Because it opened up higher level of fulfillment, satisfaction, and a life that we could only dream of having back then.
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