I think the best part of wearing your natural hair is giving yourself the opportunity to see yourself in the way God intended. To actually SEE yourself in your unique identity.
@BreezeWithAfrica
Жыл бұрын
Right!
@serenityserenity9829
Жыл бұрын
God is more concerned with your soul not your hair
@shalayne9054
Жыл бұрын
I think we can grow closer to God by accepting how he created you and what he gave you. Being ok with it and loving it.
@siszama2294
Жыл бұрын
@@serenityserenity9829but you still need to learn to be accept yourself the way God made you. Other races are not trying to look like blacks. Only black women are trying to look like others and that's concerning
@noproblems3192
Жыл бұрын
@@siszama2294idk how some don’t get that. You don’t think God wants you to love and accept yourself in all forms. You can wear your hair however but the basis is to love what God has given from the crown to your feet.
@echristianson1633
Жыл бұрын
I’m a Filipino woman.. this is my opinion on black women hair… I grew up in a black neighborhood by the way… my hair is straight. Can’t do nothing with it.. tried .. and still same straight hair. Black women hair is so versatile.. can literally do a million things to it.. black women were tricked into thinking their hair is bad! Your hair comes in so many different textures!!! Lol I got the same boring hair my whole life.. for picture day as a child I had same hairstyle.. my classmates always had different hairstyles!!’ My friend’s moms would all try to do my hair and it never worked!!! When you have hair as versatile as you all have… that’s the real good hair!!!!! Wigs are nice.. but I do love women with their natural hairstyles!! So beautiful..when I was little I thought my classmates hair was like artwork.. natural hair is so beautiful no matter what type or texture!!!
@waterca178
Жыл бұрын
very lovely
@GracefulKnots
Жыл бұрын
lovely comment and very encouraging. Thanks
@prettybold3990
Жыл бұрын
The people that get it, get it. She is not telling women they should not wear wigs. She is just sharing her experience wearing wigs, the inconveniences of wearing them and not feeling like her own hair was good enough. Go to videos that support wearing wigs if you want your decision to wear them to be more validated. I think this was a great perspective and at the same time feel women are free to wear there hair as they like wether it’s a wig, sewin, braids or Afro!
@realrawrah
Жыл бұрын
Very well said! ❤
@quickpstuts412
Жыл бұрын
Well said.
@chineloblessed4628
Жыл бұрын
I still don’t understand how wig wearing became part of a black womans full apparel. They are uncomfortable, sweaty smell and causes hair loss. Black Afro hair is sooo beautiful let’s embrace it
@realrawrah
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, they will pay $ 1,000 on someone’s else’s hair texture, tell me that ain’t self hate or insecurity at the max..
@sophiaelayne9984
Жыл бұрын
@@realrawrah Is it your money?
@sophiaelayne9984
Жыл бұрын
There are more pressing things to concern our Black community with.
@realrawrah
Жыл бұрын
@@sophiaelayne9984 it doesn’t matter, is that the only rebuttal ppl like you have because I see these type of comments often when a good point is made and someone is salty about it.. idc who’s money it is I’m speaking on the topic at hand ma’am..
@Aishatu511
Жыл бұрын
@@sophiaelayne9984Did you know that slavery was made to give those types of mindset, they did a really good work , but screaming " black lives matter" when you are literally dreaming to have their features .
@Jasmine-uu2xo
Жыл бұрын
We can always wear wigs that look like black hair, but seeing us obsess over other women's hair just screams low self esteem and it's embarrassing, This heightens other women's self esteem knowing we want to look like them. And they act like natural hair is so stressful, like we had this type for thousands of years. Watching us give up our features is sad really.
@Babygirl2986
Жыл бұрын
I wholeheartedly agree with you. To me it's embarrassing to see all these wigs videos online. Also now there is a got2b commercial with a black lady showing how she glues the wig down. 😅 I hate it. I've been natural for almost 18 years now and I will not go back. It's so freeing just to wear my own hair.
@Amber-db9cz
Жыл бұрын
I agree
@zoe._.1850
Жыл бұрын
Right!!! I totally agree. I’m genuinely so tired of seeing so many us in bone straight wigs 😭 really feeds into the narrative that we are of low self esteem and can’t grow our own hair :(
@realrawrah
Жыл бұрын
Thank you ! This is the whole point.. if I was a Brazilian or white woman I would clown y’all fr I would automatically feel superior because you will pay upwards of $1,000 for my hair smh .. BLK women don’t get it.. other races of women aren’t this dense to have this level of disdain for their own hair and then show it to the WORLD.. 🤒
@kamkam4571
Жыл бұрын
💯
@joynoir6386
Жыл бұрын
I stop wearing wigs a long time ago, however, just to make my wife simpler, I'm going back for a while. I think we need to stop judging people for hairstyle choices.
@Jesusbaby000
Жыл бұрын
God bless you! Most black women are not ready for this conversation. we complain about being accepted in our natural state and we can't even accept ourselves. we are literally the blue print and to normalize afro, we have to stand together and normalize our natural hair in its natural state without making it palatable to others.
@Sharon247
Жыл бұрын
I love this comment. ❤ Especially about standing together and normalizing our natural hair. (For the ones that can). That would be powerfully beautiful! 😊
@oja2338
Жыл бұрын
I believe Moving abroad changes our perspective on certain things. You never had issues wearing wigs whilst living in Nigeria. I live in the UK and I find wigs to be very helpful for protecting my natural hair during winter months. The weather gets really harsh on my hair and makes it break. So I’m grateful for wigs in winter. This conversation is individualistic, I think we women should do what works for us per time. Just make sure your identity is not tied to either wigs, make up or any other thing. Our identity should be rooted in Christ, that’s the greatest liberation. So Dear Women, do what works for you, live your life to please God and remember Jesus loves you.
@chinuadozie9550
Жыл бұрын
You’ve said it all. This is an individual decision plus our identity should be rooted in Christ.
@pamalamorris6277
Жыл бұрын
AMEN‼️DON’T BE A BUSY BODY IN OTHER PEOPLES MATTERS, ITS NOT A SIN TO WEAR A WIG OR TO TAKE ONE OFF, ITS AN INDIVIDUAL CHOICE JUST AS YOU STATED‼️WHY IS IT THAT MANY WOMEN HAVE TO CONTINUE TO DEGRADE EACH OTHER, IT IS SOOO SAD THAT WE CAN’T CELEBRATE ONE ANOTHER‼️
@sophiaelayne9984
Жыл бұрын
I agree. People need to get out of their comfort zone. There's a great big world out there and I promise they are not worried about wigs and weaves! LOL!!
@estherelufowoju3166
Жыл бұрын
Exactly and I love her transperence it does not go with her head. She showed a clip where her hair was actually pulling out. To me that in itself speaks volumes. Each man for himself do what makes you feel good and comfortable.
@coffeewednesday553
Жыл бұрын
What about black Muslim women
@solarlola5953
Жыл бұрын
It’s like saying makeup steals your beauty There are women who are against women who wear makeup or pants Let’s just leave each other alone
@XoXoG
Жыл бұрын
I agree. Makeup does the same thing
@preciousnneka9493
Жыл бұрын
I agree
@searphhoney
Жыл бұрын
Makeup definitely steals some women's beauty. The same way a horrible looking wig does.
@Aishatu511
Жыл бұрын
Wigs is worst You're hiding your hair under somethings that aren't yours Makeup enchance your face , like , if you wear makeup you will change but not change your race
@happinessoflife5292
Жыл бұрын
I genuinely feel ugly and ashamed when I wear wig so therefore I stopped. It has been best experience for me so far, please Black women around the world let's embrace our natural hair
@kaylaM861
Жыл бұрын
Embrace what you want to embrace and stop trying to push your new standard of beauty on others because YOU didn’t like wigs
@happinessoflife5292
Жыл бұрын
@@kaylaM861 same applies to you.fact does not change it's a fake hair and not, will always be fake embrace your hair and stop attacking my comment
@kaylaM861
Жыл бұрын
@@happinessoflife5292 what applies to me ? Just because you weren’t able to grow your natural hair using natural hair and protective styling methods like a good vast of us doesn’t mean those of us who chose to wear wigs feel insecure about our hair. Baby we are growing our hair very long using protective styling such as wearing wigs. That’s why videos such as these are harmful to our community and our progress. Instead of perpetuating the stereotype that black women wear wigs because we are ashamed of our hair just do what is good for you and STFU. Please & thank you from the natural hair, long hair don’t care delegation 👊🏾
@Aishatu511
Жыл бұрын
@@kaylaM861talking about standard when you following others standards like a sheep 😂 .
@Aishatu511
Жыл бұрын
@@kaylaM861When her comment was about self love , you making non stop excuses to continue wearing the one killing your children and the one who hated ( hate ) , I never wear wigs in my life and will never , never straight my hair . My hair is actually long not the short one like you thinking it's short. Wearing things that doesn't enchance your true beauty will only make the real owners prettier , black women will never understand the true reason why black man prefer others women , there is the stereotypes but the fact that we never show our true self . And wigs doesn't have a beautiful origin , it came from slavery for the acceptance of the white , try to think your ancestors fighting to be free from this cycle ,the white also trick your mind to think black hair is ugly , hard to manage and satan's hair . You wear daily what you like the most , if y'all really like you hair you will switch regularly but that's not the case . LET'S TRULY EMBRACE OUR HAIR AND TAKE CARE OF THEM LIKE OUR ANCESTORS, THE STANDARDS WAS STRAIGHT HAIR BUT LET'S CREATE OUR OWN STANDARDS ❤❤❤ ( I'm not saying to never wear wigs but to show some love to the hair that your grandmother and mother have , natural hair )
@dolapoadesomoju7334
Жыл бұрын
You will relate better if you live abroad. Wig makes me feel inferior. That feeling of what i have on is not real. Part of self respect for me is wearing my colour and hair with diginity. I have also made my daughter to understand that she has to appreciate and love her natural hair. No white hair is better than ours just a different texture and lenghth.
@ninagrace-lee8323
Жыл бұрын
I feel the same way. If it’s any hair other than my own or hair that looks like my own, it feels fake. Like I’m a fraud or something, idk. I only feel comfortable when I look like myself - kinky hair
@miriams3769
Жыл бұрын
Very true!
@kodafynest
Жыл бұрын
The simple questions is...do you love your hair, yourself? Thats it...we complicate things. A truthful answer, look in the mirror are you wearing a wig because you don't like your hair or you are wearing it cuz its easy? Just an honest convo.
@l.austin2371
Жыл бұрын
I wear them because I'm not gonna do everything to My hair that I do to my wig Just because I want to change. I love my hair so I'm not gonna color my hair every time I want a different color I'm not gonna put heat on my hair every time I want to change my hairstyle..
@ChildofGod52
Жыл бұрын
We wear them because it's easy.
@walkingbyfaith2885
Жыл бұрын
@ChildofGod52 me , I have ALOPECIA, it's a well thought out plan to wear my Gorgeous units, I'm near 70 years of age, and with the tons of choices, I choose wisely, just a natural color , realistic unit for me , don't wear tons of paint on my face either , I don't need it , you Definitely won't see paint, or my units before you see me ❤️❤️❤️
@anakitasmiles3261
Жыл бұрын
I have worn my natural hair my entire life (school, university, and now work) and have literally never heard a comment about my 4c hair. Many black women don't want to admit that they wear wigs because they're insecure about wearing their natural hair due to their social circle or because of comments from people they grew up with. Its the same with the makeup debate. The only women who say that women have to wear makeup supposedly because of the patriarchy are those who were raised by those who believe so. In both instances, those who participate in the actions continue to push the standard. It's up to you whether you're brave enough to be different.
@bolu101
Жыл бұрын
Please speak for yourself, stop trying to put everyone in a box. Everything is not about insecurities some people just like having different looks
@aj.meso26
Жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@Dream-Me
Жыл бұрын
No my identity as a Black woman is an array of different looks including my natural hair , braids,wigs 😅I will not be boxed in - EVER 😅😅
@DeborahO.
Жыл бұрын
I stopped wearing makeup (for 6 months) because I couldn’t go out without it. At some point, makeup was becoming my face and I felt less beautiful without it. Now I wear makeup when I want to because what I own cannot own me.
@victoriaigbonoba9308
Жыл бұрын
No makeup for as long as I can remember... I get a lot of comments that I look younger than my age.
@mariettekaosisonna774
Жыл бұрын
Your last statement is the best 👍
@TolulopeSolutions
Жыл бұрын
Period!
@afolabipeace7335
Жыл бұрын
@@TolulopeSolutions please is your hair micro locs
@jareya
Жыл бұрын
Word! “What I own can’t own me” 🔥
@dollyrevenge98
Жыл бұрын
I'm a from a culture where natural hair is widely celebrated (I'm from Rwanda) and wigs and weaves are generally frowned upon and only few wear them. I've never worn a wig but I experimented with weaves in my 20s, it was Ok but now I know for a fact I will never wear them again. It helps to be in an environment where natural hair is celebrated (most women in my family have always had natural hair) and is showcased in different styles so one can see what is possible for themselves.
@bumblebee4280
Жыл бұрын
There are people who wear wigs everyday and I don't blame them. My first year of being natural I stayed braided. My second year I didn't know anything but the high puff. I stayed in that high puff until my hair could be tied back in a low bun. Those were like four years before I leant how to style my hair and was confident in my length. Even now I still forget how to do my various twist outs if I take a long break from them. Learning to style natural hair is not easy. It's also dependent on length. Tbh, sometimes you look yourself in the mirror in your high puff or afro and it just doesn't go with the outfit. Natural hair will get you shopping for a new wardrobe. It takes a while to get it all figured out. Let's give each other some grace. It helps that you have microlocs, they don't have the same styling challenges because they hang low and loose and can be parted every which way just like straight hair. Hanging hair goes with everything. If locs weren't a thing I don't know if you'd be singing this same song. Otherwise, we can all strive for balance. I own one wig and I consider it an acceptable bonnet to wear outside to protect my hair from the weather or when I'm attending a function and can't take the trouble to style it.
@myname2496
Жыл бұрын
I have alopecia.. I’m not ready to be bald in these streets.
@Liz-ic6jb
Жыл бұрын
Her message is not for women that are sick, bald, alopecia. She assumed the listeners have common sense.
@shalayne9054
Жыл бұрын
I like that your honest. I hated how Jada made everyone think she was ok with her Alopecia, came out in public with her bare head(she was beautiful). Then when someone said something about her she couldn't take it and created so much chaos for her family. Be honest with yourself.
@myname2496
Жыл бұрын
@@Liz-ic6jb Loosen up Liz. Don’t be so uptight. I assumed her listeners have a sense of humor.. That’s how I deal with my personal insecurity of being bald. 🤷🏾♀️
@2handle.
Жыл бұрын
My hair isn't growing for some reason no matter how I try to care for it so I JUST started wearing headband wigs. I don't know how to wear and put on the other style wigs with glue so it's easy to strap on the headband to hide my shame
@ScissorN
Жыл бұрын
Then why are you not wearing kinky wigs if thats your only reason
@ladyqt87
Жыл бұрын
If a wig can steal identity then the identity is misplaced in the first place. Our identity should be defined by Christ and His word and only he can set people free. Wig or no wig it’s each persons right to do as they please as long as they don’t become a slave to it.
@waterca178
Жыл бұрын
Wigs, makeup, clothes, jobs etc all steal our true identity. It is truth and for those that have ears to hear.
@walkingbyfaith2885
Жыл бұрын
@@waterca178Nothing, No one can steal ANYTHING from me , I'm Grounded, Rooted, now if your weak minded, anything is possible ❤
@kiw4462
Жыл бұрын
I think that people should wear their hair any way that they like rather natural, wigs, weaves, or all of the above. Life is short.
@Aishatu511
Жыл бұрын
I love the message but the problem is that the way most people love their hair is hiden under a wigs that doesn't represent them .
@kiw4462
Жыл бұрын
@YuliaGuebri it's not a problem, if that's what the person wearing THEIR hair 'hidden under wigs' wants to do. Release yourself from caring what other ppl are doing with THEIR hair. Do you. Again, life is short.
@Aishatu511
Жыл бұрын
@@kiw4462 Release yourself from caring what people do ? Others people are from my community, they degrade our image , I'm just trying to give a minimum results for what ancestors have fight for years . The people dying in our community or hating themselves are helped , remembered . It's sometimes good to make an effect of what ancestors did and not leave that . Life is short for not entirely love you or following the standards of others . We are just making the others more beautiful . In the black community self love goes only with what the white told you what is beautiful. Sadly 🥺 Hope you having a good day 💕💕
@kiw4462
Жыл бұрын
@YuliaGuebri I'm having a wonderful day. I hope you are too. Please don't misrepresent my words to make your point. I said release yourself from caring what other ppl do with THEIR hair. Simple. But I'm going to take my own advice and release myself from this conversation. Carry on. Do you Boo.
@angiesspace2644
Жыл бұрын
Aaaah😩😩the comments ehn. I honestly now believe alot of black people have trouble understanding communication. They listen but lack understanding of what is being said, and then leave stupid comments. I get her point completely and agree with her. Anybody who doesnt understand her point of view should bounce
@pizzadogma
Жыл бұрын
People should have paid more time in literature class so they could develop critical thinking skills. Most of the ppl in the comments are offended for wearing wigs
@tadiwadube1376
Жыл бұрын
I love this already and I have not even listened to the whole thing. I was very much into wigs in my early twenties however about two years ago, I felt that the Lord was pulling me away from them. I just lost the desire and appetite to wear wigs. Now I rock my hair in natural twists and I'm loving it. I feel like light and free! It has also been wonderful for length retention, the overall health of my hair and my pocket lol. Apparently I look younger (I'm 27 at the moment) and I am glowing. Haha praise God! However, we are all on our own journeys. Wigs, no wigs, braids or natural hair, we are all so beautiful ladies!!❤❤❤
@rheadreid
Жыл бұрын
I wear wigs for a totally different reason. I have a patchy scalp due to lichen planopilaris. This message is not a one size fits all. Prior to making the tough decision to put someone else's hair on my head, I NEVER wore weave or wigs and would do anything to get my natural hair back.
@selenama
Жыл бұрын
I think your case is definitely one that doesn't apply to this video : for those of us who suffer from certain hair or scalp conditions, wearing your natural hair with nothing added on is not necessarily an option. Not to mention those who wear wigs matching their natural texture and just want extra volume for example. I wouldn't call that an erasure of our identity either.
@Born_A_Star
Жыл бұрын
I've been tired of wigs for a while and hate having to take it off every time I'm home and look different. And having to go out but need to put a wig first 😅 Been watching a lot of videos of how to take care of my hair and products to get. I'm one of those people that needed this video. I'm glad you posted this, don't mind the negative comments ❤
@waterca178
Жыл бұрын
Human hair of another person. Those spirits from that person now is on your head. Was that person kind, a witch, a wealthy person, a killer, what spirit is now attached to you. So yes, you are now a different person. Stop being defensive. That’s one indication that it’s true. A hit dog will hollar.
@sophiaelayne9984
Жыл бұрын
You don't have to take all that in. In fact it will never happen if you know who you are. That's like cutting a toxic person out your life, same thing.
@jideca
Жыл бұрын
@@sophiaelayne9984it's not a conscious choice. It just is. Spirits linger on a person's belongings eg in used clothes.
@waterca178
Жыл бұрын
@@jideca yes you are absolutely correct
@waterca178
Жыл бұрын
@@sophiaelayne9984 my people die from a lack of knowledge. He said it.
@sophiaelayne9984
Жыл бұрын
@@jideca Nope. Not at all. I'm done. You can move one really it's ok.
@Chocobunnezz
Жыл бұрын
I really see wigs and weave as the reason many don't know how to do their natural hair. It's easier to get an install or throw one on. I saw some commentary about how "natural hair ain't for everybody." Wigs have many black women brainwashed to believe our own hair that grows from our body is in some "other" category, like a choice. Wild. Some even blamed not knowing how to do to their hair or not being taught as the excuse. Which is strange because they'll rave about how long their mothers had their hair as little girls.
@godsdaughter1264
Жыл бұрын
I HATE that phrase. My mom used to say stuff like that to get me to go back to perms like her. She would compare my hair to rugs. Thank God I broke out of that generational curse of self hate. Why can’t all black women embrace our hair more? I’ve been natural over 6 years, and I’ve been locd for 6 months.🎉 I truly love myself and every single nap in my head 😊
@monie3558
Жыл бұрын
They choose not to learn. If they can watch hours of wig tutorials they could’ve also learned how to do their own hair. Honestly, they cover their hair because of self hate and they’re around people who will mock them for their natural hair, not because of a lack of knowledge
@Nobody-wd6ci
Жыл бұрын
I undesirable the whole "protective style " thing but if no one ever sees your hair and you even barely get to see your hair ,what exactly are you protecting it for ? So many people are lying to themselves while dealing with hatred of their hair . I thought the point was to let your grow and recover under the wigs so we can show it off sometimes, but most people even now school aged girls are not letting hair breathe for even a full 48 hours before their next appointment
@godsdaughter1264
Жыл бұрын
Just lying!!!
@Nobody-wd6ci
Жыл бұрын
@@godsdaughter1264 🤣
@tycobb8621
Жыл бұрын
I’m a white dude, been married to my beautiful black wife for almost 11 years now. I love her natural hair. The wigs, and weaves, and braids, and eyelashes, and make up are…fine. I guess if she likes them but her, without makeup, without a wig, just the way God made her is my favorite 😍
@uchejumel10
Жыл бұрын
❤
@lifeinsights7695
Жыл бұрын
My husband will love me just like this
@Rue100
Жыл бұрын
IM ALLLL FOR THIS IM SICK OF BLACK WOMEN WEARING WIGS.....WEARING YOUR NATURAL HAIR IS POWER
@neema5942
Жыл бұрын
I started wearing wigs only 6 months ago...I have been natural all my life, and mostly had my hair in box braids. I switched to wigs to get better flexibility to wash my scalp whenever I want. It has helped clear up the irritation I had been struggling with, I think I am allergic to the chemicals used to colour hair extensions used in box braids or something. Wigs do have some pros. Another pro is wigs are not sensitive to humidity. My natural hair puffs up when it gets humid. Imagine dealing with that in a professional setting. In short, all hairstyles have their pros and cons.
@sAMiAm1
Жыл бұрын
I don't even mind wigs because I know black women like to switch it up but why not wear your natural hair texture. We all know why and its not their fault but it's time to wake up and love yourself.
@alexandriaharuna9358
Жыл бұрын
Honestly reading the comments has me laughing. When your first response to a suggestion or advice is being defensive then it’s an indication to think deeply and retrospectively,intentionally being logical and less emotional about it because often if not always there’s always an iota of truth your subconscious is fighting to reconcile with . It’s something the Holy Spirit is teaching me. When you search for comfort, truth will be obscured but when you search for truth you will experience transient discomfort but eventually long lasting comfort. Thank you for this video honestly.
@angenaomiemessunekam1620
Жыл бұрын
😊😊😊😊 yesssss thanks a lot for this
@anymn8134
Жыл бұрын
I'm African and I've never liked or worn wigs. You look beautiful just the way the Almighty Yah created you.
@palmwine2011
Жыл бұрын
Amen
@omakiki1907
Жыл бұрын
Sis You are beautiful with the wig and also without it. For me Variety is the spice of life.. Anything that makes you confident comfortable and happy is cool. Let’s just be happy serving God and helping humanity. Thanks for sharing.✌️ One love🥰
@marvannie
Жыл бұрын
I agree with you ma'am. Wigs are not awful or ugly like so many people care saying here... I don't even know why they are saying wigs are awful. Variety like you said is the spice of life.
@shannons.571
Жыл бұрын
❤ love this comment!
@estherelufowoju3166
Жыл бұрын
Aww, good for you darling. I don't really agree to any of the points though one) I hate having just one look, two) I find wearing a wig the cheapest option here in the UK making my hair will cost nothing less than £60 each time I visit the salon so when I went to Nija I got a few wigs eg braids, bone straight, Tolu if you want to be honest how much does it cost to braid in the West and it won't even be as tiny as the Nija one 3) I love those adiseyin when we were young we use to plaint and even ko iron wa (ie put it in tread) and yet guys still fancied us in fact I've heard enough men now saying they prefer to see women in the traditional plaits and finally gone are the days when Oyinbo got fooled by us thinking it's our real hair. I recently just started a new role last month and last month. I went in with a short wig this only cost me £16.99 and I looked stunning in it, then this month I changed to bone straight of course the first thing my boss said was you look stunning and the next question was is it a wig?. C'mon if last month I had Anita Baker hair style how come the following month it has now grown to my shoulder😀haba only a fool will not know it's a wig. The only thing is back in those days it used to be weave on as oppose to now that it is actually a wig. The. fact that it's so flexible is what I like about it when I went away on holiday I took it off had my swimming cap on, I beg everybody is now aware that we women wear wigs so if the wind wants to blow it am not ashamed to take it off we all know it's not my real hair. I suppose because it has not done your hair justice it's ok. I have stopped relaxing my hair now just for the time being and I will love to see it grow back to natural but just for a while, like I said I love to have different looks every now and then there was even a time I tried locks but just for that one reason just having one look I unlocked it.
@amazingesther
Жыл бұрын
What I think she is trying to do is to build her daughter's confidence about hair because of the country they are. I think at a time when both of them got there hair dread, she was wearing wigs and the daughter wasn't i think the daughter do question her about it. Everyone should know what they want 😊 biko
@reihannahherring8605
Жыл бұрын
Haven't wore a wig till I went to college, I wore one and I felt like I was hiding my identity, I didn't like the attention I got from it either. I knew from that point on I couldn't wear something that covers my natural hair I didn't feel like I was me I felt like I was someone else. Been natural for a while now and loving the confidence it gives me ❤
@zoesway5036
Жыл бұрын
Yeah I understand, I use to wig it 24/7. Since I started wearing my natural hair at the beginning of this year I definitely feel more beautiful
@shenadarling50
Жыл бұрын
Is that ur hair in the pfp?
@EarthQueen-1111
Жыл бұрын
Same with me🧘🏾♀️
@mcarthurspark8636
Жыл бұрын
I prefer natural textured wigs when I wear them but noticed a huge difference in hair growth when I allow my hair to breathe sometimes when I wear it out.
@vmlksm9
Жыл бұрын
Natural type 4 hair is not hard to “maintain” its only hard when you spend everyday trying to make it look like something it’s not.
@0yetola
Жыл бұрын
4c hair is hard and painful to maintain. Perming mine tomorrow after 7months of trying to transition to my natural 4c hair texture
@vmlksm9
Жыл бұрын
@@0yetola Yeah because you probably woke up & tried to make your hair look 3c everyday
@genevaxo
Жыл бұрын
THIS! When people try to do slick buns or wash and go's and get angry that their hair doesn't look like Zendaya's/ someone with mixed race or type 3. Like our hair was meant to be in an afro or protective styles.
@Aishatu511
Жыл бұрын
@@0yetolaIf you're not interested trying to maintain them it's normal
@0yetola
Жыл бұрын
@@vmlksm9 what does this comment even mean?? So combing, washing and weaving 4c hair is now peculiar to just type 3 hair type?
@YourFavoriteRealEstateAgent
Жыл бұрын
I’ve been natural for 15 years and still wear wigs. It has nothing to do with trying to look white lol. Sometimes I can’t spend hours on my hair, and also I do not want to loc my hair bc I like wearing it straightened as well. The wig is the exact texture as my straightened hair
@incognito3599
Жыл бұрын
Girl why you lying lol 🤣 Pinnochio should be your second name 🤥
@YourFavoriteRealEstateAgent
Жыл бұрын
@@incognito3599 just bc you are bald headed baby don’t get mad at me ☺️
@elizabethreina3753
Жыл бұрын
@@incognito3599How sure are you that she's lying? Get a life my dear, leave people alone
@incognito3599
Жыл бұрын
@elizabethreina3753 My dear, I think you need a job , you have been trolling people here for hours, I don't think you can make a living from it unfortunately 🤣😂
@LMoreno621
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Beautiful Sister for your disclaimer at the beginning of your video. When I was in my 20s I went from perming my hair to locking my hair. My hair grew very long and I had my locs in my hair for 10 years. I got tons of compliments and I really love it. But then I got older and my locs started to weigh on my head. I spent a lot of money to get it retwisted as well. I had them cut off and I shaved and cut my hair down low which I sported that natural look for years as well. NOW I WEAR WIGS, Headwraps, and hats and I love that too. For me, the most dangerous experience were the perms and the dye because it altered my hair’s texture with chemicals. Now I wear wigs , hats, and head wraps to protect my natural hair and I am not ashamed of my hair journey. Plus my natural hair is growing thick and healthy under the wigs , Headwraps, and hats I wear because I don’t constantly manipulate it. I used to bash Sisters that wore wigs until I realize that the hair on my head started to change. The same head of hair I had in my twenties and teens and childhood is not the same hair that I have now as a middle aged woman nearing 50 years of age.
@creeikuko
Жыл бұрын
Lol I been natural for 7 years and I love wigs lol it’s a lot of maintenance wearing natural hair especially when your hair gets longer it’s just easier 😂
@LMoreno621
Жыл бұрын
@@creeikuko 🙌 Yes So true
@Gloriacason
Жыл бұрын
I agree 🥰 my profile pic shows me in a wig but my hair is actually loc’d ☺️ I have been natural for over 4 years and loc’d for 6 months and when I tell you my confidence skyrocketed when I became natural. My beauty elevated and I feel so comfortable walking out the house, taking pics, going to the beach, running out for emergencies or errands etc. I am happy you have the courage to make this video. So many Blk women are quick to turn on you but that’s because they feel convicted. 🤷🏾♀️
@temitopeej8407
Жыл бұрын
@tolulopesolutions My experience is completely different. I have healthy natural hair and never wore wigs or makeup until my late 50s when I started experiencing age discrimination in the workplace. So, I wear wigs when I am on video calls now to cover my beautiful silver hair. I work remotely and have 2 to 3 hours of meetings every day. So wigs it is, because Mama has got to pay the bills. Every one of us has our own lived experience, none of them are wrong.
@waterca178
Жыл бұрын
With all due respect, they know how old you are without the wig. One looks older when they try to conceal their age
@Nash0303
Жыл бұрын
That doesn't take away from the facts whether you feel pressured into it or not.
@temitopeej8407
Жыл бұрын
@@waterca178 of course they do. The point is that I had more success getting employment with the wig. That’s my experience. 🤷🏽♀️
@toluwalopeodogiyon1417
Жыл бұрын
I once watched a video where they asked kids why they loved being African. I will never forget a little girls answer; she said she loved her hair, "That compared to any other hair texture in the world, African hair is the most beautiful and has diverse personalities, it can be kinky and it can be straight; it can be long and it can be short; it is black but still turns grey when we're old, it can be dyed any colour and still look good; it can be curly and soft and it can be coily and thick, it can be braided and it can be styled just as it is into so many beautiful styles; it can be styled short without going bald, babies are born with hair and not bald..." She said so many other I can't remember now and at a point even compared it to Caucasian hair, she got a standing ovation from everyone in the room; including white kids & parents. I like this perspective better about our Natural Nigerian/African Hair Texture!!! It can be so many things at the same time and still be African hair.❤️ It's not our undoing, the world needs to know that. That's why people, organisations and AI are clamouring for more African Stories. If we dont tell them, they won't know. Our kinky hair can be as straight as a bone straight wig when relaxed or like a curly wig when texturised... I however understand and agree with the points you raised, they're very valid and the conversation is needed to tackle even deeper issues. I remember back in the day when I go to salons to make my hair and the stylists turn their nose up because my hair was natural, long and very full. Everyone mostly had relaxed hair then so they would complain and complain about making my natural hair. Now, even a hairdresser under the tree knows how to handle natural hair, some even have spray bottles😂. More people deciding to keep their natural hair instead of relaxing it did that. So in the long run, continuing to embrace our natural hair more will make it more globally acceptable, more solutions and products would be formulated for us, hair stylists will be better trained at handling our hair, costs of styling our hair will reduce, etc. All these cannot happen if we continue to wear wigs all day everyday....the wig market will continue to boom instead. If you like wigs for whatever reason, wear them when you decide to. I however think we also need to decide to leave our natural hair out more too. Because now, it's like wigs are the first option and our natural hair is not even on the table...
@Liz-ic6jb
Жыл бұрын
Your natural hair definitely fits your face best.
@angelagardener5282
Жыл бұрын
I am nearly sixty and have never worn a wig in my life. I never felt I would be comfortable with having one on to those who wear it each to their own. There are valid reasons why some wear it. Myself I prefer rocking my crowning glory that God me great video!
@rect835
Жыл бұрын
My confidence boosted ALOT from wearing my natural hair. Also if you see a woman rocking hers too tell her it’s beautiful! 💕
@AmakaN.
Жыл бұрын
It’s just her opinion... I like when people can talk freely n not wanting to be politically correct all the time. Do you girlie 😊
@juleswifey6003
Жыл бұрын
I lived in Cameroon for three years and I was *shocked* to see how many women will wear a wig over their natural hair. My friend. These wigs were *matted, uncombed, feral, dirty...disgusting!* but these women were *_so_* conditioned into *believing* that their natural is less than that they would rather wear a dirty ratty wig over their gorgeous beautiful hair. And mind you, *so* many Cameroonian women that I saw had gorgeous, lovely natural hair (when I got the chance to see it!). I just wish that they would believe this and see it
@KomMartheCarolle-zm2pg
7 ай бұрын
I'm Camerounian....thanks
@vmlksm9
Жыл бұрын
It’s not really the wigs/weave that’s an issue. It’s the texture of them. Wear extensions/weave that matches your natural hair texture. Those Indian/Brazilian wigs looks so misplaced on BW. It just doesn’t look right. They don’t match our features at all
@elizabethreina3753
Жыл бұрын
You've left like millions of comments already. Why you so angry about people's choice?! Do you and let people do what they want Like leave people alone!!!!!!! My Goddess
@vmlksm9
Жыл бұрын
@@elizabethreina3753 If I wrote a million comments then you read a million comments. If you’re going to do what you want to do (which is your 100% right) then why waste time reading all of these comments? That’s because you’re trying to find a reason to justify those hideous wigs
@Tahiha
9 ай бұрын
That’s part of the point she’s making. That’s why she said it would be ridiculous to see a white Canadian woman with an Afro wig.
@Tahiha
9 ай бұрын
@@elizabethreina3753but maam you’re the one all over in these comments leaving angry messages🤣🤣🤣 the irony.
@jusshy
Жыл бұрын
We need more women to tell the “truth” about the effects wigs have on the mental. Whether you think so or not, sumin goin on. Thank you 🙏🏾 invest in your natural hair.
@veronicacross1293
Жыл бұрын
I love being a black woman. I also love being able to change my hair however and whenever I like. Sometimes I wear my hair natural, or clip-ins or lace front wigs. It should not be a big deal. Sometimes I like my hair black, brown, red or blond. It just depends on my mood. When you know who you are it does not matter how you wear your hair or make-up. We need to stop making things issues that are not issues. Stop judging each other and embrace loving who we are and not what other people want us to be.
@luwani2852
Жыл бұрын
As long as you will be okay with a white person wearing an Afro wig... Pop off😌
@tribecalledmaya
Жыл бұрын
🤍🤍 the truth! ✅
@ta2985
Жыл бұрын
I don't wear wigs but its ironic that in all this talk of true identity you're still concerned with the white gaze and what white people think of different wigs. That should never be a factor.
@cecechampion4
Жыл бұрын
Tolulope(one of my favorite Nigerian names), thank you for this conversation. Something happens when you turn 30, it was my best year because some weight lifted off my shoulders and I felt the most liberated and transformative. I became convicted, and convinced to show up as my authentic self unapologetically, didn’t care about the opinion of others and one of the decisions I made was to be natural to my true self as much as possible. This is another reason, you will continue to have my respect. You are a voice to reckon with, stand out and not blend in. Black/African women are sensitive about this topic because they are not ready to look at themselves in the mirror and have honest conversations. Okay, women wear wigs as protective hairstyles, it’s convenient and natural hair is difficult to maintain but these women wear the straightest texture hair wig and many think they look more attractive with it. Non-Black women hair textures are closer to the texture of the wigs and for the most part, they all wear their natural hair except Black/African women. The worst are African women, how are you in the motherland and majority of the women have wigs on in the humid heat. When I visited Nigeria the first time, I was shocked, embarrased and disgusted. And it wasn’t different hairstyles, they all had on the same straight wigs just like most actresses Nigerian movies. Let’s not start on the bleaching trend in Nigeria, there’s always a skin advertisement for organic cream which is a softer way to say bleaching creams, it’s not a good look at all.
@TolulopeSolutions
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words and comment! All you said 🔥
@adaoraifeanafor9758
Жыл бұрын
At the start of the video, she did a disclaimer , please it is her opinion and channel. She’s not trying to change anyone.
@o_m8717
Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy about this video. Although it could have had a better title. Anyway, I love love it. ❤ Honestly, Black women don't know how much we have been groomed to not love everything about us. We need to learn to love ourselves. I love my hair so much. ❤❤❤ I don't wear wigs or braid my hair. It causes me so much pain amd discomfort and I wonder how other women endure all those. Eveeyone tells me "Why won't you make your hair?" Because "I'm not beautiful" till I'm on a WIG or on braided extensions. Crazy!
@jessylyne2712
Жыл бұрын
Well said my sister I couldn't agree more
@ms.fortune2957
Жыл бұрын
I totally agree. I'm at a point where I don't even think I'll straighten my hair with a blow dryer. I would blow dry it to trim it but I'm not even feeling that anymore.
@mubangamutale998
Жыл бұрын
Makeup steals our identity too
@KairoK
Жыл бұрын
The wigs are from Malaysian, Brazilian, and Indian etc women. LITERALLY, from a difference ethnicity. Putting Non-black hair ON a black scalp is wearing another identity. Makeup does not do the same thing 🗣
@anniesok868
Жыл бұрын
so do clothes
@BlueBerryBronzer
Жыл бұрын
@@KairoKI don’t want the Asians to lose their business. Let’s support minorities labor and keep wearing the wigs THEY supply! 🎉
@NakiYah7
Жыл бұрын
@@KairoK solid point. Who do you think are making these make up lines though for the most part? Make up is a type of deception and we have all seen the different transformations from makeup alone in addition to fake hair. If someone has a face full of dark spots and they use makeup to create the illusion of clear/clean skin isn't that deceptive? It may not be their intention to deceive others but just to feel more comfortable but it's still deception.
@ab71640
Жыл бұрын
One day when I was at work, my wig was so tight on my head that my head was hurting. I took that wig off and laid it on my desk. I had to laugh at myself. Everybody walking by saw me with that wig cap on, but I didn't care; I had relief. That was the last time I wore a wig. I've been wearing my hair in a two-strand twist, and I love it. My hair is healthy and longer than it has ever been. Also, I feel more connected to myself than ever. I'm all natural from head to toe
@brittneyharmon6647
Жыл бұрын
This is an old picture. But when I cut my hair and died it black I felt ugly. It took a minute to come back into myself. It was just I had never really seen myself cause it was always dyed blonde/straightened/clip ins/braids/wigs that I didn’t recognize the person looking back at me. It’s like people who always use filters in pictures that when they finally see them selves when someone else takes a picture without one they feel hideous. It’s a type of body dis morphia. I can’t even put in fake hair without feeling fake asf. Like the feeling of the air through your hair and the sun on your scalp feels so liberating. Not worrying about what’s lifting or what tracks aren’t being covered is just freedom. I wish others would release themselves from the shackles they’ve been indoctrinated in. I admit I act a little prejudice now. Whenever I interact with someone with wigs and weave I immediately think this person is lost and/or untrustworthy whereas when I see a black woman with a natural style I know she’s locked in. Her aura is lifting, her energy isn’t blocked, and she’s spiritually covered
@camjamcam1
Жыл бұрын
Yasss! 👌🏽
@serenityserenity9829
Жыл бұрын
So simply I am not my hair I love my hair it is a part of my physical being but I am so much more.Natural hair,wig,straight hair,etc doesn't make you a more elevated being. Hair is like icing on the cake and I enjoy changing mines up.
@waterca178
Жыл бұрын
I gave up wigs high heels and tight clothes im over it
@elizabethreina3753
Жыл бұрын
Okay good for you, I'm happy for you. Do you sis, let us do us as well ❤
@urickosa
Жыл бұрын
Sarah Jakes, didn’t just take her wig off because she wanted to!, Oh no, it was because the wig was slipping off her head and she had to be bold to take it off. I truly believe it’s about time that we as women should appreciate their natural beauty and don’t change their identity because that’s what wig does!. Blessings all🙏 Thanks for this truthful message
@strawberryfraisier6446
Жыл бұрын
icb there are women in comments getting mad that you're telling us to wear our hair.... i mean think about it, if you don't have conditions that prevent you from wearing your hair (and even then, why not try to wear hair that matches your hair texture?) why would you really want to wear hair that's coming from asian women in poverty (that are usually tricked)
@esvck
Жыл бұрын
exactly man :( we should at least wear similar hair textures. it’s not all the time straight 40 inch buss down
@strawberryfraisier6446
Жыл бұрын
@@esvck exactly. and if someone is having trouble to switching over to wearing natural hair textures or wants a more "straight" style you can wear kinky straight yaki hair which looks like our hair when it's blown out.
@judithuwa4648
Жыл бұрын
It depends on your why. You started so early and maybe it conditioned your mind to think you always needed it to look beautiful. People need wigs for different reasons and it’s fine.
@beyondreality8506
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I love natural hair. Hell any hair i just dont have any so i proudly wear them. I just get tired of people shaming or thinking some people arent proud of their hair or black hair in general. Not the case for many.
@samaedokpayi4406
Жыл бұрын
Well said, I feel it is a personal decision for you, especially due to the effects you notice when you put on wigs and also the way you feel within yourself. The best decision any one can make is to do whatever suits you, do what makes you happy within, wear what brings you comfort and decent. I personally don't wear makeup because I tried learning how to apply it, watched videos and all, but I couldn't. I have settled with my white powder and lip gloss. We should all avoid putting up appearances and start being our true selves.
@maameyaaabrafiawuah8547
Жыл бұрын
Very true. And sometimes, circumstances let you make some decisions. For example, I know someone with serious alopecia who has succumbed to wearing wigs because she wants to cover up the hair loss. In the end, it’s all about choices and doing you, like you said.
@maameyaaabrafiawuah8547
Жыл бұрын
Very true. And sometimes, circumstances let you make some decisions. For example, I know someone with serious alopecia who has succumbed to wearing wigs because she wants to cover up the hair loss. In the end, it’s all about choices and doing you, like you said.
@TolulopeSolutions
Жыл бұрын
Totally 💜
@victoryhouse1446
Жыл бұрын
Hey ladies, I just want to add another perspective. I love my hair! But I have a condition called alopecia areata. This condition causes me to lose my beautiful hair that I love. I unfortunately I think I will have to start wearing wigs.
@aj25055
Жыл бұрын
Do people even consider this?!
@victoryhouse1446
Жыл бұрын
@@aj25055 I do not think they do. It’s unfortunate because where is the empathy? I think it matters what the person’s reason for wearing wigs is. And only that individual person knows the answer to that. We have to be considerate and not generalize why a person is wearing wigs, weaves, braids, etc.
@scrubbingoffinternet5221
Жыл бұрын
As long ad tge wig looks like it could come from a black woman's head
@ninagrace-lee8323
Жыл бұрын
I don’t think anyone ever said women with alopecia can’t wear wigs. I thought it was obvious that isn’t who she is talking about Most black women get traction alopecia from the wigs. If you didn’t and it came from other factors or is genetic, then that’s a totally different story
@true4585
Жыл бұрын
Wear your authentic hair texture. They have that.
@rbcruze
Жыл бұрын
I think there is one conversation beyond the natural - where we ask why do we want our natural looks to be manipulated (locks, braids, twistouts, defined). to really embrace the way we really are is to wear an shrunken fro sometimes... I have considered locks and love twistouts because I want to show length, but why do I feel the need to do that? The complexes don't really stop when Type 4 women become natural. Our hair is always expected to be neat, controlled, styled or curls popping and not acceptable without intervention (by many).
@HarrisPilton789
Жыл бұрын
Maybe because locks, twists and braids are beautiful. I have worn them all, as well as a twa, which is what I’m wearing now.
@bumblebee4280
Жыл бұрын
I don't like my hair shrunken. It's enough that I wear it natural. I have styling prowess which I use to make it look it's best. I don't consider it " manipulation." Wearing your hair shrunken waiting for it to turn into a single loc is a ridiculous standard. You might as well stop shaving and wearing make-up too.
@shenadarling50
Жыл бұрын
Thank u for pointing the true problem. The issue is people are always policing black people hair. I had my hair in twist out and a same black girl asked me why my hair isn't done. Tbh I am tired of black people always policing each other from both men and female.
@beyondreality8506
Жыл бұрын
Well i love natural hair but i have alopecia and not from hair styles. I am not willing to just have a bald head. I am proud of being black, i just dont think i have to stop wearing wigs because of what someone may think.
@walkingbyfaith2885
Жыл бұрын
@beyond reality8506, ❤ I hear you I too have ALOPECIA and my units I wear are beautiful, I didn't choose ALOPECIA, I don't wear a LOT of makeup either, I don't believe the AUDACITY here, at my age near 70, I'm Extremely proud of who I am in CHRIST ❤❤❤
@monie3558
Жыл бұрын
Wear a wig with your own texture then
@GoldenNapptural
Жыл бұрын
Great video. All facts. I have damage from wearing lacefronts and wigs to a point where there are spots that wont grow like the rest of my hair.
@realrawrah
Жыл бұрын
Atleast your honest, I used to also before I went natural.. the thing is instead of a lot of women coming to terms or clicking off the video if it doesn’t apply they are getting very upset at her video.. “a hit dog gone holla” they say 😂
@giftezeoke880
Жыл бұрын
Do what works for you and your environment. If you live abroad, you would need to put your hair in protective styles mostly cos the weather isn’t the best for our “natural” hairs. The cost of making a good hair is also really high. Not everyone likes locs. I do understand and appreciate the video but there are a lot reasons why people people wear wigs. I do try to wigs that still let me keep my identity as a black woman. There are a lot of beautiful wigs like afros, curls, kinks and all.
@vibingwithVivianne
Жыл бұрын
Also some people suffer from alopecia and will need to wear wigs most of the time. There are cheaper wigs and honestly for a very busy personeels., there are hardly times to amke heair. To each, her own
@Kingofthenet2
Жыл бұрын
Very true
@QueenZsWorld
Жыл бұрын
who knows, your ONE video could change so many perspectives and spark so many conversations that change the norm. ⭐
@eniolabisiriyu6068
Жыл бұрын
This is an interesting topic, thanks for sharing. I just do me, I twist my hair, wear wigs, I rock my cornrows, in January I went for a wedding and realised I forgot my wig at home, I just made my cornrows that morning and I rocked it. For cornrows I am very particular about changing them regularly. My birthday photoshoot this month was my natural hair packed up, locks is a no for me, I like to look different. Luckily for me, my face doesn't change that much.
@marvannie
Жыл бұрын
Just do what is comfortable for you. Wigs or no wigs, take care of your hair. Also... Contrary to so may opinions here... Wigs are not awful or ugly
@smooveayy
Жыл бұрын
I wear my hair out most of the year and the way people treat me is different to when I'm braided and when I have wigs. Funniest part is people assume I'm broke and can't afford to do my hair, when my products alone cost sm 😭 never gonna change though. I feel my personality is expressed better through natural hairstyles
@juleswifey6003
Жыл бұрын
Lord. You're totally correct about the cost of natural products! 😅
@yabbiesown
Жыл бұрын
Not me vigorously combing my wig whiles watching 😅this combing is already taking too much time eyaaaa !
@oyinao3600
Жыл бұрын
God bless you so much for this Ma'am! I have been wig free for 4 years now and it's truly the most liberating! I work in the banking sector, and i'm the only black in my team. It feels amazing that i can go to work everyday in my own hair just like the rest of the women on the team come in with their natural hair. Since then, i have never had the 'is this your hair question?' ❤
@elohorizevbekhai7920
Жыл бұрын
For those saying they do not have nice natural hair, just be bold enough to allow the hair breathe, it will come alive ❤ Thanks Tolulope, I agree 👍
@odurukwepamela3324
Жыл бұрын
I totally love your point of view. I purposely stopped wearing wigs for about 6 months now, although for a different reason, but seeing this video has given me more reasons to stay glued to my decision. Thank You.
@jasminerosewater3891
Жыл бұрын
Love the glue pun. Enjoy your new hair journey :)
@anuoluwa_peace
Жыл бұрын
12:27 😂😂😂mind blown! Coz I just can’t imagine if a white woman was wearing afro!! Legittt we need to talking about this😂😂😂
@anuoluwa_peace
Жыл бұрын
It’s not easy to keep natural Afro hair sha😅
@KaeMaiden
Жыл бұрын
No. White women get even more dangerous, expensive lip fillers and butt injections, done to imitate Black women's natural phenotypes. But the world at large believes white women have full body automomy...something not afforded to Black women. The utter hypocrisy is that Black males even pedestalize those types of white women, and they weren't even punished, or penalized to conform like they still do with Black women and Black children. The video take is myopic and no one is ready for any real conversations.
@Brandiisbeloved
Жыл бұрын
I truly despite wigs. and I despite them even more when they don't look anything like black hair. I wear them when I'm in the middle of wash day sometimes and have errands to run or work/school. And I do not like when I have to do that. if I lose my hair as I age I will rock a fade or bald. That's how much I really can't stand wigs many. Feels like a helmet
@kathleenking47
Жыл бұрын
You may not go bakd..if you do, don't shave head..wear a headscarf
@MiguelDLewis
Жыл бұрын
I support women who embrace their natural beauty. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God Almighty.🙏🏾✝🤎
@quickpstuts412
Жыл бұрын
I've been natural since 2010 and haven't worn a wig since I was transitioning. I'll be honest, I don't always feel pretty with my natural hair because it is not super defined unless I use tons of product. Just like many women, I was conditioned to find certain kinds of hair more attractive. But I wear it anyway and have learned to feel more confident over time. As a result of proper care, my hair is now past my back bra strap. I do still get attention from men. It's less, but I appreciate those who do approach me because it makes me feel good that they found me attractive just being ME and how I wear my hair mostly anyway. I can't imagine being in a relationship and feeling like they can't see my real hair. I see friends who are natural drastically change their hair choices once they get boo'd up. I won't do that anymore. It's so freeing to be me. This is me and it's what you get. But I respect their choice. It's their head not mine. But I do think we need to stop judging others for how they wear their hair. It's their choice and when I see other people so bothered by how others wear their hair, it makes me wonder if they are bothered because they don't really like their natural hair, and secretly wish they still had straight hair. So they want others to struggle too. If you love yourself (not speaking to the creator of this video, just in general), why do you care so much about how others wear their hair? Great video by the way.
@quickpstuts412
Жыл бұрын
@@Shaa-Belle Yes! I almost mentioned that part too. It's a DIFFERENT kind of attention that I like. Some call natural hair a dusty repellent. LOL. So I'm actually OK with that. I get less "Hey lil mama" type comments and more respectful approaches. Definitely a different type of man that I would rather date anyway. It truly is a win-win. So many women have mentioned that too. Quality over quantity, girl! LOL And I know what you mean about wishing it will grow faster. I definitely struggled with that too in the first 2-3 years. But it will grow if you wear lots of protective styles and keep it moisturized. Mine is now past my bra mid-back length. I wear lots of medium and mini twists. I used to wear a lot of puffs but the tangling made my hair break a lot. I was too lazy to twist it up at night. Ha ha Wishing you the best.
@monie3558
Жыл бұрын
In addition to wigs looking absolutely ridiculous and unattractive, I really want black women to stop giving people ammunition to mock them. Stop wearing a hair texture that is unnatural to you. Your literally putting yourself down and uplifting someone else’s image when you do that
@rect835
Жыл бұрын
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@vjw7272
Жыл бұрын
I'm SO GLAD you said this!!! I have to wear wigs because of a medical condition. I wear locs which I created from a KINKY wig I purchased from a great company called Her Given Hair. These wigs are expensive, but worth it. They even have KINKY EDGES which mimic our texture!!!!! I don't look with long straight hair anyway. Again, great comment!❤
@jareya
Жыл бұрын
The comments even show that we are not ready for this conversation 😂😂😂Thanks so much for this video ❤
@freetruth123
Жыл бұрын
What an unbiased perspective. You very respectfully clarified, in the beginning, that you were not casting judgement, just sharing your experience. You feel free and that is wonderful. Your hair is beautiful and you look fabulous!
@JoyBNaturals
Жыл бұрын
"When I saw this title, I knew I had to watch it. And after watching, I knew I had to share it. I love seeing changes like this because I'm an advocate for anything natural. Honestly, I've been admiring your hair from afar. I never knew it was locs; I just thought it was mini twists or something. But sincerely speaking, your beauty shines even brighter when you wear your natural hair. Natural hair rocks any day, any time. In fact, I'm sharing this video ASAP because everything you said is legit. I don't wear wigs, but I did way back as a teenager, so I can relate a little bit. Thanks for always speaking the truth."
@ElisiasEvolution
Жыл бұрын
I've worn wigs, weaves for a lot of years, it was itchy, expensive and gave me anxiety without me realising. Also relaxers never helped my hair could never retain length. But now I have locs I have had them 3 years and it's been the best thing I've done for myself and my hair. I'm glad I could go back to my roots!!
@eyekandy3000
Жыл бұрын
This is the best vid I’ve seen discussing this topic. So relatable for me as someone with fake hair for decades. I was out with my real twa hair for 3 months. The styling got to me compared to my 2 minute wig- so I went back to wigs but at least now wigs feel like an accessory. Your hair is gorg- I’ve never been into locs tbh but yours look awesome
@caramelcocoa234
Жыл бұрын
I think of the suggestion Eat Food mostly plants. Wear hair mostly natural. So many comments are triggered without actually considering the thoughts around why they don’t wear their natural hair more often. I agree with this 100% . I got traditional locs and have loved it . I feel self conscious when I go out only because of the pressure of societal standard. But internally when I Wake up I love my locs, I love myself. Not saying people should get locs but there is a different confidence with natural hair for sure.
@onigbindefikayo564
Жыл бұрын
The funny thing is the people you trying to look like...legit loves our natural hair and wonder at it. This life no balance
@wamemmolawa
Жыл бұрын
That’s what I’ve heard. Interesting🙉
@Michelle-ez9tn
Жыл бұрын
I feel like the issue about wigs is not necessarily wearing wigs but its the fact that the wigs look nothing like our natural hair type....what do you guys think? Even if its a straight wigs,let it mimic how your natural hair looks like.
@bellemady1
Жыл бұрын
There are wigs these days that do mimic our natural hair texture very well. There are kinky hair wigs (kinky straight and kinky curly), there are afro wigs, it's actually the new trend to wear wigs that have a kinky texture and look a lot closer to our own hair. Does it make it better to wear such wigs? All the challenges she mentioned are still applicable: the discomfort, the high cost, the lack of maintenance of our own hair under the wig, the inconvenience when swimming or walking under the rain or under a strong wind, etc
@dearmademoiselle7644
Жыл бұрын
This conversation is very interesting and I watched till the end because I wanted to be sure your convictions are by the Spirit. Think about this video in a 100 different ways: 1. No to western clothes (only wear dresses of African heritage) 2. No to heels or shoes at all 3. No to make ups or even powder 4. Everybody, stay in your own country and thrive instead of running abroad 5. Use only African made things (including technology) or 6. Use only natural things that God gave you... The list is pretty much endless, but my point is this, be LED, be CONVINCED. Only follow the leading of God, not man-made philosophies! Nice one at expressing yourself there, I guess it's one step in your conversation of being "all-natural"; "all-African" and 100% godly!
@Danielathebrand
Жыл бұрын
SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT! Thank you sis!!
@christiesss465
Жыл бұрын
The role of hair and the types of hairstyles we, as Black women, choose to wear is actually much more complex than it may seem. Particularly in countries like the US and the UK, where slavery was prevalent, Black women were coerced by their oppressors to straighten their hair either through hot combs or chemically. This was done because our natural hair was deemed distracting, and some of their husbands were fascinated by its beauty. As a result, we gradually moved away from our natural styles and embraced straight European hairstyles and wigs to conform to societal norms, gain acceptance, and appease our oppressors. I understand that your perspective, as someone from Nigeria without the generational trauma experienced by Black people in America, may differ. However, it is all still tied to Eurocentric beauty standards, it is similar to colorism and the way as some young girls in Nigeria, bleach their skin to look whiter and "prettier". Also, it's important to acknowledge that many professional environments in America still consider afros or braids as unprofessional or distracting. This often leads us to rely on wigs to conform and resemble other women in the workplace. As a young Black woman, I yearn for a time in the US when our natural hair is simply viewed as normal and acceptable, both on the streets and in professional settings. During my high school years, I distinctly remember wearing my short afro once and feeling the weight of people's stares, along with negative comments from others. Right now, being natural is becoming more normal, but there is still preference given to certain types of textures and lengths. As we continue to confront the stigma and trauma associated with our hair, we must show one another kindness and extend grace. Each person's journey is unique, and we should support and uplift each other. It's worth noting that if a white person were to wear an afro wig or braids, it would be considered cultural appropriation. This is because it holds no significance for them and fails to protect their hair in any way. Additionally, they do not face the same pressures or negative societal judgments regarding their hair, as they come from a position of privilege, where Eurocentric standards of beauty are considered the norm. For them to appropriate our hairstyles is highly offensive and inappropriate."
@tina-ijeh
Жыл бұрын
I think this is rather personal like you said cos everything that has to do with beauty whether hair, makeup etc are not comfortable truth be told. Like I am a makeup artist and I always admire when I see people on makeup regularly cos myself I can’t remember having makeup on for the longest time so different strokes
@graceeze-aghatise6073
Жыл бұрын
Well said! In other words choose your own uncomfortable be it wig, makeup, cloths, shoes etc. while you are it don’t make your choice superior to other people’s choices. For me I do both make up and wig occasionally ( 2 or 3 times in a year).
@TolulopeSolutions
Жыл бұрын
@@graceeze-aghatise6073 Superior to other people’s choices? 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@TolulopeSolutions
Жыл бұрын
Even our salvation has CHOICE, what’s beauty?
@ninaeljonas228
Жыл бұрын
I'm in my late 20s and I have always found wigs and even braids uncomfortable. I decided to loc my hair a year ago and the freedom is unmatched. Thanks for speaking up solutions mama!
@TolulopeSolutions
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!!
@876beauty
Жыл бұрын
I can't relate, I mostly wear a headband wig with similar length and texture to my natural hair...My hair has grown significantly thanks to the wig...People don't even think it's a wig 90% of the time...
@blkboentinquiry3553
Жыл бұрын
Same!
@ahmosel4901
Жыл бұрын
Where did you get yours? 😮
@Zal14535
Жыл бұрын
I love this. i share your sentiments. this conversation must be had
@Nnonyye
Жыл бұрын
The judgements in some of these comments smh. Not everyone can rock their natural hair due to certain reasons. Natural hair is quite expensive to maintain too, and if you say locs, not everyone likes locs also not everyone has the luxury of time to style their hair everyday. Personally i don't wear wigs because i can't afford them and they're quite itchy butttt, if people want it then its okay. People that deal with alopecia nko? Its easy to say they should rock their hair like that but hair actually boosts confidence. Just my 2 cents
@cutiepiea3687
Жыл бұрын
Girl bye there’s no fucking excuse why is it only the black community who makes excuses about their natural hair! We are insecure with our hair and NEED to do better! End of!
@elizabethreina3753
Жыл бұрын
@@cutiepiea3687ohh stfu you're so negative Leave people alone Do you and stop being so bitter If you can't afford wigs, just tell us 😂we can help you with it 😂
@uchejumel10
Жыл бұрын
Honestly, Low self esteem is selling on we blacks. Recently, i just told myself, i've got to love my own hair and patiently groom it the way i would love it to be. Thanks girl for this video❤
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