I regained my vision after a period of mourning, after seven months of trauma therapy I finally started crying and mourning, this lasted for more than a week, from early morning until late at night, I cried continuously, I cried for everything that had been done to me and for all that I had been deprived of. After that week I regained my sight, everything is more colorful now, with much more contrast, and incredible sharpness, it feels as if I have been living in a world with a 420p resolution and suddenly transitioned to 16K. It still amazes me regularly, giving me goosebumps and bringing a tear to my eye.
@chinwenduchinwe586
Ай бұрын
Amen🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@maureenczoch9129
Ай бұрын
Did they use EMDR for your trauma therapy? What would you attribute your success in trauma therapy to?
@mi6432
Ай бұрын
@@maureenczoch9129 I did emdr, cognitive therapy, music therapy, nlp, Zen, a lot of reading, Richard Crannon, Pete Walker, Gabor Maté, exposure therapy, hypnotics, learning what i'm feeling and i know for sure that i have forget some more.... I've learned to mourn and cry with the help of KZitem, looking at clips of people who were lovingly welcomed after being away from home for a long time, just sit down, look at the clips, think about what you have missed and start crying :) ...... All help a bit....
@AaronShyTown
Ай бұрын
@@maureenczoch9129 I’ve not had EMDR therapy. In fact, I’ve hardly had any trauma-centered therapy whatsoever. And yet I’ve also recovered my eyesight. I attribute it to grieving-crying, compassion of my younger self, and angering. Recovering and exhuming my emotions. I attribute my success to breaking from my family.
@mariemonn8912
Ай бұрын
Love it
@tersiaraath799
Ай бұрын
So many broken souls, Lord cover us with Your Love, heal us, and let us see again. Amrn. 😢
@VisibleTimes
26 күн бұрын
Amen. Currently losing my eyesight
@Myatalanta-l4x
18 күн бұрын
The God you pray to is the one who put us here. Remember: knows EVERYTHING before it happens. Sure, sure, sure....blame the children for getting dirty after putting them in a muddy playpen. Heal yourself.
@EmergeAndSeeTherapeutics
15 күн бұрын
@@VisibleTimes I'm so sorry to hear that. Wishing you ease and grace in your journey.
@VisibleTimes
15 күн бұрын
@@EmergeAndSeeTherapeutics Thank you 🙏
@Maaracha
6 күн бұрын
@@Myatalanta-l4xhe is the devil. Yahweh is Satan
@michaelneal900
12 күн бұрын
One thing I learned over time is when someone insists on eye contact, it often is because they are bullies and bullies rely on intimidation.
@anomoly6414
19 күн бұрын
This makes me so sad to connect the dots here from my childhood. I’ve learned more about myself from this channel in a few months than I’ve learned over the last 20 years. I can never repay you but I am forever grateful. Thank you.
Oh my...I can't imagine. I wish you so much ease and grace in your journey. 💐
@VisibleTimes
15 күн бұрын
@@TheINFJChannel thank you so much for sharing your experiences and thoughts. You are helping me more than you know. Praying for your continued healing and blessings.🙏
@annemurphy8074
15 күн бұрын
I'm doing exactly that and it is incredibly painful but necessary.
@theforestflower1111
8 күн бұрын
This was me too...im now legally blind in my right eye..now my left is going
@zealiabella8553
Ай бұрын
I’ve grown up in a narcissistic household. I’m still healing from the traumas of being the scapegoat in my family. I have most of the health issues that you have mentioned, from being sensitive to lights to constant migraines. I’ve found meditation helps with the migraines. All my love to those who have had the same experiences like mine. You are all warriors! 💛
@dorijoe
Ай бұрын
❤ I'm also the family scapegoat. I'm in so much pain & feeling so lonely and confused all the time. But I have come a very long way in understanding my pain....
@Realalma
29 күн бұрын
@@dorijoesame here. I send you so much love ❤.
@dorijoe
29 күн бұрын
@@Realalma ❤️🙏
@annekary6190
23 күн бұрын
@Realalma Same. Sending love and healing to you as well ❤
@EmergeAndSeeTherapeutics
15 күн бұрын
Yes! Yes, it's taken many, many years to realize it's not me, it's them. Although even today, when my dad looks at me with daggers in his eyes, I still retreat to a little child for a while before I can regulate myself again. 💐
@hdskl2150
16 күн бұрын
The light of the eyes rejoices the heart, And a good report makes bones healthy -proverbs 15:30
@Twixy-bn1du
Ай бұрын
I went squint at around age 3, the same age at which my father started sexually abusing me. One night my mother confronted my father in the dark in the lounge, there was so much animosity, anger between them, and I was tiny, he had his hand around my wrist. She threatened him "I'm calling child welfare, he said to me, 'tell your mother she is a bithc. I was floating up against the ceiling, oddest feeling ever, I was beyond scared, I had to leave my body. She never removed me, it went on for years. I am so angry. I had to have an eye operation at 3, more trauma, so much more trauma. There should be a parenting licence and test & school. Yet we licence our damn cars. This world is mad & f*cked. So much ugliness. I am so very angry.
@Francesca-yu5cy
23 күн бұрын
❤
@dallasmansfield3679
20 күн бұрын
You didn’t deserve that I hope you find your way to transmute your anger and trauma. Anger is our most loving emotion it tells us when we are being hurt, and there is an injustice. ❤
@thesincitymama
18 күн бұрын
I’m angry FOR you, someone should have protected you. I’m so sorry that happened to you ❤
@Twixy-bn1du
17 күн бұрын
@@thesincitymama ❤
@Twixy-bn1du
17 күн бұрын
@@dallasmansfield3679 ❤
@catielove5096
20 күн бұрын
I’m 66, just lately experiencing co-regulating through the eyes with safe people. Better late than never!
@susie5254
29 күн бұрын
As a child, my mother was on the run for her life, alone, and I sometimes think she never stopped "running for her life" even when she grew up, married, and had children. She suffered horribly from an UNEXPLAINED EYE ISSUE. Even an eye specialist who was a family friend couldn't help her. When a person's eyes bother them, it is almost impossible to enjoy life (think how you feel when something is in your eye). Adding to this malnutrition during developmental years (read: improper development of skeletal protection), and hypersensitivity, it seems miraculous that she was able to live a productive (if painful) life until the age of almost 90. She truly was a monument to the human ability to persevere under harsh conditions.
@codeN_8
23 күн бұрын
@20:47 This is exactly what I saw in Jesus' eyes when I met Him in a dream. Pure, warm, boundaried, stable, affectionate love and total acceptance. This is what He is like. And just His gaze has healed me of so much trauma. He loves us. He likes us. It rly undoes me.
@MaddieD935
Ай бұрын
When I’d dissociate as a child, I constantly would try to look inward at myself and unfocus my vision so I could escape the situation. Now, I’m getting my eyes checked due to not being able to see details as perfectly as I used to. Whether it’s related or not, I still have to keep grounding myself out of the mode to dissociate and hide
@winniecash1654
10 күн бұрын
Me too. Did an unfocused stare in order to get away.
@memyselfi2005
21 күн бұрын
I grew up with almost constant trauma and have now had chronic facial pain for over twenty years. This explains a lot, thank you
@KarenSteelMusic
Ай бұрын
After several trauma’s my eyesight began going bad. I was 7- and I know it was because of what happened to me.😢
@dorijoe
Ай бұрын
Sending love. I have no idea how to heal but I know it's possible.
@davidking3699
Ай бұрын
One thing that was not mentioned is sunglasses... and mobile phones. If parents are wearing sunglasses and the child who needs to see their eyes can't, that is the same as not paying attention or being available - even if the parent is looking directly at the child. As for mobile phones, we are so easily distracted by them, that we may feel we are talking or interacting with others - children esp. - but we are not giving them the eye contact required.
@ElvenChaos
Ай бұрын
I have always had trouble with eye contact. Its very uncomfortable for me. Very. The more disregulated/overstimulated I am, the less I can even look towards people, let alone their eyes.
@nevadatan7323
Ай бұрын
I struggle with eye contact, always have. It just feels far too invasive. Makes me feel super exposed when people make eye contact. (I dont think it's Aspergers in my case because I don't fit the other symptoms entirely... although some of my behaviours are admittedly adjacent.)
@ElvenChaos
29 күн бұрын
@nevadatan7323 it's level 1 autism, mixed with cPTSD for me. Lol... I laugh because I'm so used to not being able to do eye contact, but I do wonder how much more of it I could've been able to handle, without the cPTSD.
@laurenstokes2893
18 күн бұрын
I can't believe how much of this applied to me, both from the pain my eyes and head have i've felt recently to the childhood hurt from not having your parents be there when you needed them.
@autumnrivermoon
16 күн бұрын
There’s nowhere I’d rather be than at home on a Saturday evening listening to you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🙏 ❤
@johndoe8923-k2d
29 күн бұрын
If someone can relate, i refer to their eyes as trauma eyes. You can actually see the pain and fear in people's eyes when they have complex trauma. I never knew i had this instinct until i finally found out about CPTSD and attachment theory. My subconscious knew, and eventually i was always proven right. Meanwhile as my body was screaming the red flags my conscious logical mind didn't know what i was dealing with yet.
@russellburt875
27 күн бұрын
I thought I coined the phrase “screaming body” !!! Ha, ha.
@aurelienyonrac
19 күн бұрын
We always connect. We can connect with being disconnected. Or afraid , or not getting what we want. Frustrated , angry, still not geting contentment. Shutting down. Negotiate. Grieving. We get all of that in a glance. We can cope with that by negating. Have a negative experience. We can identify with any of these coping strategies. That is how our sense of separat self is built. The ego. And will all of this is happening.who we truly are is untouched and untouchable. Being .
@nadep7211
Ай бұрын
Second daughter of three, I’m the one who have been severely short sighted, bad skin, bad teeth. The two others haven’t had any of these issues. They also don’t believe me when I say that I’ve been treated differently (very poorly) than them.
@Twixy-bn1du
Ай бұрын
I suggest reading "They F8ck You Up" by Oliver James. You already know how you were treated, I found this book informative and affirming, of how parents and families treat each person differently.
@nadep7211
Ай бұрын
@@Twixy-bn1du Thank you !
@dnk4559
Ай бұрын
I believe you. I too am the scapegoat of my family. I was the oldest but birth order doesn’t matter when you are being scapegoated by parents so the siblings are taught how to treat you.
@nephimcknight5832
5 күн бұрын
I can relate to that
@MarkusKasanmascheff
Ай бұрын
I have "waited" for this video for 35 years! When I was 11 years old, a traumatic event/phase happened in my family and I suddenly got worse eyesight and prescription glasses. My brother who suffered the same event over the last years has nearly lost the eyesight on one side due to high pressure on the main nerve and/or retina. As a very intuitive person already at a young age I got involved with the Bates method for improving eyesight which his generally discarded as quackery. I was able to improve my eyesight following his method which by the way works on improving saccadian movements, conscious focus, and relaxation via the so-called palming technique. One of the most important details that I found out observing myself is that even when we are looking we might be looking only superficially (peripheral/unfocused) to just get enough input for handling basic things in the outside world,without being really connected. This is a trauma state where we are actually "looking" at trauma-related images from the past, replaying events. It usually includes a lot of strain and tension in the upper facial muscles. Another even worse way of looking without looking is when there isn't even an imaginary image where we are focusing on and we withdraw completely into a painful or sad feeling state which reflects the complete disconnect from the world outside. When we do that, the whole visual apparatus is severely impaired due to lack of movement, lack of tear liquid and overall strain. Using the Bates method is a fantastic way of reconnecting with the world using our consciousness and at the same time improving our eyesight. Bates was a great intuitive healer who came up with some physiological explanations that partially have been proven wrong by the scientific community. But his method has been proven very very beneficial in my life. Now, after seeing this I finally understand that curing/improving our eyesight goes along with trauma healing. For everyone who is interested, read the old Journals of the Bates magazine that have been republished by Thomas Quackenbush. There you find many treatment success stories from a hundred years ago. The stories stand out as all those people described were very miserable and there the trauma link becomes clear.
@LOVEISTRUTH300
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this💖💖💖
@poetaenlaluna
29 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing, do you know if that method can cure glaucoma? Conventional medicine says it's irreversible and I'm really scared
@MarkusKasanmascheff
29 күн бұрын
@@poetaenlaluna I won't give medical advice here and every case is different. Personally I always act under the premise that with whatever I have, that healing is possible. If there is only 0,1% chance, I will be the one who takes it. If I remember correctly, Bates had success stories with glaucoma as well. They are documented in the book "Better Eyesight: The Complete Magazines of William H. Bates".
@theworldneedsyou111
28 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing!
@yvonnes7412
27 күн бұрын
Thank you ❤
@marlaadamson1633
20 күн бұрын
Oh. My. I've stopped the video @5:14 This is EXACTLY why I was misdiagnosed for so long! 🎉🎉🎉 It's so cool to put the pieces back together
@theseventh5204
Ай бұрын
I know that I used to relax my vision, making it blurry so I didn't have to see. The blurriness made it seem like my reality was further away and I found safety in it. I also didn't want to see, to see others, to see anything that was happening in my life. This intentional relaxing became the normal state and I can no longer see properly and need glasses. My ANS also has trouble regulating my pupil size, making me get blinded by the lights at night. Great video, I just found your channel and its been extremely informative. I'm only beginning to realise just how much my trauma atfected me.
@AkshayKumar-ue1fp
Ай бұрын
Wow this is me 100%
@cristinagabrielidis2811
Ай бұрын
Me too @@AkshayKumar-ue1fp
@-MakeItGood-
Ай бұрын
That’s funny, I didn’t think anyone else did this.
@herdyhely3496
Ай бұрын
I do this too. Zoning out and blurring my vision. A form of disassociation I guess?
@-MakeItGood-
Ай бұрын
@@herdyhely3496 yeah I think so because I have very bad vision and when I am stressed I take my glasses off.
@loli3939
Ай бұрын
I slept with my arms over my head, protecting the top of my head. My parents wondered why. When I was born in rural hostile PQ, the attending nurse was doing all she could to stop my birth. The another nurse came in with my Dad and the Parish Priest to interpret, and the new nurse shoved the first nurse out of the way and I was born quickly, cyan blue, black eye area, and cone-headed. Turns out full-term birth abortions by separatists are nothing new. Back then, it was a crime. 😮 All of this was trauma as we learn today. Super sensitive all my life. It pays off as a designer and in my first job as a community health and MH worker. Noticing fine changes is useful. 😊 Nothing is wasted in God's economy. Charles Stanley
@Foxie770
28 күн бұрын
Abortion is basically infanticide no matter what age it happens. A baby is a human being.
@rebecca_stone
Ай бұрын
Curiosity made me click on this one - I assumed Tim was going to talk about shortsightedNess. But this explains SO much. Im in acute PTSD after an event last year and noticed that I do hate driving at night lately, the headlights are so intense it's distressing. I also have an extremely keen sense of smell like a bloodhound and noise sensitivity. Never imagined these would be linked to my mental health. Thank you for another validating talk, Tim
@ybois3
24 күн бұрын
Same here ! Strong smell but I’ll miss obvious objects nearby at times
@gayatrimatapurkar933
22 күн бұрын
Dear Mr Fletcher may you always remain fascinated because it brings us answers that are by definition... Elusive. Thankyou sir.
@jimig399
29 күн бұрын
I've had a corrective lenses restriction on my California driver's license since i first received it at the age of 15. At the age of 47 I suffered extreme emotional traumatic injury and betrayal. When i had to renew my drivers license at the age of 49 i didn't have my prescription glasses because i was broke and nearly homeless. I hadn't had them in 2 years. I was very nervous that i would be denied my drivers license because i thought i would fail the eye exam. But for whatever reason when i took the eye exam at DMV I passed easily. I read the bottom line with both eyes and individually without squinting. I was shocked. I dont know what to attribute the change in my vision to but i can tell you that there is absolutely truth to this lesson. Thank you sir. Very interesting.
@ewill312
18 күн бұрын
Trying to heal and learn to have eye contact with people has been one of the most challenging experiences for me. But it is possible and any growth is so rewarding. Thank you for your videos.
@thesincitymama
16 күн бұрын
Cuz I’m autistic as well as healing from trauma… I want to say, get checked to make sure eye contact is natural for your neurotype, ok? Cuz if you’re actually autistic, then training yourself to give eye contact is actually an unhealthy exercise, because it’s a mask. If this doesn’t apply to you at all, please disregard my comment. Much love 💗
@caroleminke6116
Ай бұрын
I have CPTSD from childhood stress & just had cataracts removed because they got much worse after partner abuse in my fifties but as a child my eyesight deteriorated just as the abuse started to target my love of reading 🤦♀️
@Lyrielonwind
Ай бұрын
Reading was my favorite way to dissotiate from my life. I was a pathological reader.
@melissasue3328
Ай бұрын
it's not just the eyes though. the body is storing trauma in many different body parts which manifests later as disease if it's not released or healed.
@Lyrielonwind
Ай бұрын
TRE...trauma release exercises.
@MysticalDyl
Ай бұрын
This video is though. Plus he’s talking about more than just the eyes
@melissasue3328
Ай бұрын
@@MysticalDyl I haven't watched the whole thing but I am loving his content! he's very articulate and helpful with understanding trauma.
@kathyjudson6754
Ай бұрын
Gabor Matte
@MS-wy4sb
Ай бұрын
The body doesn't store trauma. That's the brain. The body is the conduit for remembering trauma. That concept hasn't been fleshed out and people need to stop throwing it around so flippantly until it's better understood.
@JuliaShalomJordan
Ай бұрын
Lord, Open my eyes to see people the way you want me to; to forgive those who’ve hurt me and to focus on love. Love. Love. Love. It overcomes all.🙏🏻
@susie5254
29 күн бұрын
I love "....see the people the way You want me to". NICE!
@Mbee3-m2b
28 күн бұрын
What a beautiful, heartfelt prayer. One that I want to remember for myself and for certain people in my life. God bless you ❤ Love is the greatest!
@AngelicHarmony444
28 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing this prayer❤
@JuliaShalomJordan
27 күн бұрын
@@Mbee3-m2b amen!
@JuliaShalomJordan
27 күн бұрын
@@susie5254 God bless!💞
@motherbear327
Ай бұрын
The opposite of A.C.E.s is P.A.C.E.s. What we do with this information for ourselves and others is the key. If words and actions can damage the soul, they certainly have the power to heal our's and another's soul. We can move forward connecting in healthy, kind and responsible ways.
@motherbear327
Ай бұрын
ACE's refers to Adverse Childhood Effects (study done by Vince Filetti). PACE's refers to Positive Effects. ☺️
@user-bk3xu5yz8c
20 күн бұрын
God bless you, sir. ❤I've been on this 2nd spiritual awakening journey picking up the pieces of my life in the aftermath of what my narcissistic mom created. I had to kill my old ego, and it shook the ground from under me, almost killing me. Now, I'm on a quest for knowledge to understand how and why I came to be. You have helped me a great deal through this process, and you are greatly appreciated 🙏 keep up the awesome work👏❤ thank you ❤
@CreativeArtandEnergy
23 күн бұрын
This helped me understand my light sensitivty and other sensory processing difficulties. Thank you. ❤
@RockSprites
Ай бұрын
I've had this intuition for a while now that part of the reason why my eyesight got so bad all of the sudden when I was young was because I stopped using them. I was constantly turning inward into my imagination to escape my outside reality, and I always wondered if that's why my vision faded.
@catcat9582
Ай бұрын
Time to help kids recognize abusive parents early so they have a fighting chance. It's so much harder to recover late in life
@RatedArggg
18 күн бұрын
I knew my mother was abusive when I was a preschooler. It didn't make a difference. Nobody listens to a little kid, even a doctor. It's teachers and doctors who need to learn to recognize abusive parents.
@lowprofosho
Ай бұрын
Tim, I’ve noticed in your videos lately that the gain on your microphone might be tuned a little high and it distorts your voice unpleasantly / perhaps tune it for a smoother sound? Thank you!!! I love your videos!
@mariemonn8912
Ай бұрын
It sounds fine for me…
@StephaniesVlog
29 күн бұрын
I hear some distortion too. It isn’t necessarily bothersome but I hear it. :)
@HomeFromFarAway
21 күн бұрын
i am definitely noticing audio distortion in this video, even at half volume
@TheMightyPika
28 күн бұрын
A few times a day i take a minute to unclench every muscle around my eyes. There are SO MANY muscles around there! Soon, after seeking out and unclenching all those tiny eye muscles, waves of relief wash though my head.
@bcc7777
21 күн бұрын
I almost fell asleep/did fall asleep at the wheel multiple times after my husband died. I don't recall how long it lasted, but it was scary. I pulled over, took a short nap (30 minutes which I usually can't do), and then went on. I did get over this, but went early places when I was going through this.
@Claire5020GEN
Ай бұрын
I have a terrible problem that my eyes tear profusely when Im in stressful social situations.
@saoirse108
27 күн бұрын
So to make sure mothers-to-be are able to heal, feel safe and feel safe again is the most important task for society to focus on for a good future with well-matured people. More important than anything.
@ROTALOT
Ай бұрын
Not to mention forceps damage in difficult births.... My whole body has residual clenching issues.
@InsideOut-v6w
Ай бұрын
I was fortunate to also receive additional Brainspotting therapy during EMDR. Unbelievable what this does to your system. Trauma fades and memories do nothing. No more flash backs and anxiety. Thank you for this video Tim.
@gldnsunrising7761
Ай бұрын
@InsideOut-v6w Oooo that sounds amazing, can you tell me about the Brainspotting and its an addition to EMDR? I finally just got started with a Complex Trauma therapist who does EMDR, I specifically wanted that, but your comment made me light up and I would love to hear about it ❤ Thank you and I am so happy that you are getting relief 😊
@InsideOut-v6w
Ай бұрын
@@gldnsunrising7761 Hey, it's really promising. You can find info on the internet about brainspotting. You can absolutely trust it and you won't have any bad memories. Old images are positively overwritten. ❤️❤️❤️ No more fears and no more blockages. You start with a clean slate.
@JillCee
15 күн бұрын
The therapist couldn’t even make a dent into me with EMDR. Very traumatizing for me anyway.
@pibkaveronica7622
10 күн бұрын
@@JillCeeEMDR is always VERY traumatizing That’s how it desensitizes you
@JillCee
10 күн бұрын
@@pibkaveronica7622 Well, the therapist said it would be months before she would be able to make any headway with me. So that was all I needed to hear. I got more and more uncomfortable with her for each visit. Apparently, I was not responding at all.
@grumblekin
Ай бұрын
This is the basis for EMDR and why it helps so much with cPTSD
@robertdeskoski9783
Ай бұрын
... EMDR is mainly exposure therapy. This is not at all the basis, at all, for EMDR.
@raven4090
Ай бұрын
Some people swear EMDR helps them a lot, and I'm glad it does, but when I heard a description of it, it sounded like something that would scare me.
@JanetSmith900
Ай бұрын
EMDR did absolutely nothing for me. It was interesting at times but didn't help anything.
@nonni6567
Ай бұрын
EMDR makes no sense to me. I can understand why TRE can work or be helpful, but not EMDR 😅
@andrewlevas9258
Ай бұрын
EMDR is like bringing a pen knife to a gun fight. Amateur hour.
@Loveiskind869
20 күн бұрын
Omg this hits so deep. Especially to know I'm not the only one who experienced this. I used to have migranes so bad that id lose my vision. Which is called an Aura migraine and no one would believe me not even teachers at school. It would happen so randomly it didnt matter where I was ughh
@thesincitymama
16 күн бұрын
Big big hugs to you, cuz I’ve been there too - disbelieved when I was in pain. Such a helpless feeling for a child. Much love to you 💗
@Loveiskind869
15 күн бұрын
@@thesincitymamaGod bless you 🙏🏾💗 I pray for healing amongst everyone in the comments. And I feel so safe sharing my experiences. I remember I would go to the school nurse and beg her not to call my step mom to let her know I had a migraine. On the bus ride home I would be so anxious to go home because I knew when I got there I would get in trouble for having a migraine 😭. So now as an adult I feel guilty when I'm sick it's so heartbreaking that other people had to experience this! I'm so grateful to have found this channel God bless 💕🙏🏾
@annem7806
15 күн бұрын
@@thesincitymamameasuring blood pressure will show pain.
@Lyrielonwind
Ай бұрын
The dissotiated eyes are well pictured in the song Far Away Eyes by the Rolling Stones..."...and if you are down on your luck...find a girl with far away eyes"...predators teachings...
@charlotte5671
Ай бұрын
Woah. That is a very accurate observation
@Fawn-hv7mx
Ай бұрын
Interesting.
@x-mess
29 күн бұрын
That is predatory teaching, they’re sickos
@LuciaBeans
28 күн бұрын
This is EXACTLY how my high school sweetheart / ex husband found me! He later told me he was attracted to me because I seemed sad and distant. 😢
@UniVerseOneSong
21 күн бұрын
Yes! My mother had far away eyes. Many men saw her as an unattainable mystery...she was completely shut down. I always think of her when I listen to that song
@mimi_thinks
Ай бұрын
The timing of this is insane. I am healthy and take care of myself well. However, my eyes have recently started to have issues. I had no idea it could be related to my trauma.
@HeatherGreen-dn5dt
11 күн бұрын
I wonder if he knows how his compassionate teaching is massively helping others!! Thank you for being such a Christ like human being ❤
@lindamceachern5467
Ай бұрын
16:00 parasympathetic nervous system...feeling much better after a good cry.
@kellycurtis4483
Ай бұрын
I have had TMJ, migraines, and other issues. When, I first got the TMJ, my doctor didn’t know how it started at all! -I never put it together it started with my trauma. I figured it out, it was from stress but I have never had anyone tell me it’s from trauma! My migraines, I got them as a child and I still get them as an adult. I know it’s from stress. All this about the eyes,👀 is very interesting. Some people, I can’t look at them in their eyes! I look at the person who’s talking, I look at their face. I always hope they don’t notice, I think it’s because i don’t want that rejection, or for them to know how I feel. I thought it was just me. I never knew why. My mom can “look like she’s looking at your soul,” she suffered a lot of abuse as well. I never knew, it was a response to abuse. I still clutch up, at times, my jaw. At night when I am working late, trying to get things done, my eyes get funny. I think they might get dry, or really big. It could also be from the cold, I work at a grocery store. At night it can be stressful, and I work in the cooler. Not, in the milk box, but the outside cooler. Like staring into the fridge, and pulling everything forward in a straight line. -Which is called “facing.” If you’ve ever worked retail you know what I am saying. Anyway, if you do have a headache at work, I like to stand in the milk box, for a bit. Or just “face” the cooler. It makes my head feel better.
@user-ck8tr2pd2r
Ай бұрын
Thank you Tim. This was very interesting. I thought it was going to focus on how trauma can damage one's eyesight. I've probably got complex trauma from childhood, but I always had very good eyesight. Then about 7 years ago I experienced something that was very traumatic for me. And my eyesight started deteriorating and have now become farsighted i wear glasses for reading. But, what you talked about here should be in EVERY parenting book because it is so important- and it's scary how clueless we actually are and the damage we cause without even knowing it.
@FijiAndromeDAN888
Ай бұрын
Thank you Tim! You have Blessed my life with your knowledge in ways beyond explanation! God Bless you from the Fiji Islands 🇫🇯 ❤️😇
@raven4090
Ай бұрын
This was very 😂 lol eye opening. Seriously, I used to have headaches a lot, but I haven't since I don't have so much contact with people. I have a lot of difficulty with eye contact. Partly from being autistic, and partly from childhood trauma. This brought back a lot of bad memories that I needed to process, but never thought about until now. Thank you so much!
@RabbitOverTheMoon
Ай бұрын
I get blurry vision when i begin to feel stressed or PTSD is set off in certain circumstances. i can go from clear normal vision to totally blurry within a minute. what has made it a lot harder for me is no one seems to understand this and they keep telling me i am squinting and should get glasses. it makes it even worse for me and causes more stress and i panic if i have to try to read something around these people, one of these people is a person who has had a role in causing trauma and my eyes blur just being around them for too long. when i am alone i find i can relax enough to settle it down. i do a set of eye relaxation exercises most mornings which does help quite a lot. this is great information, at least it helps me know i am not imagining this problem and it does have some physiological truth to it. i would love to hear if this happens to others as it has stressed me a lot.
@Jess-kn8vl
28 күн бұрын
I dont mean to scare you but I would recommend seeing a neurologist. You could be having a real neurological reaction under stress. Does it happen when you get too hot? I have multiple sclerosis and stress effects my eyes. I cant be around stressful people because it effects my eyes! Something to consider! It took 8 years to get a diagnosis.
@ibelieveinaccuracy.fact-ch5942
26 күн бұрын
I noticed when young that after a gym workout my eye sight be crystal clear. As a result I have paid close attention to my eyesight and how it reacts for 30 years. Tim is on to something - also investigate the Bates method plus get a full head scan etc (to be sure). Yes stress reduces vision quality and learning to be less stress helps a lot. Good luck.
@_Louise__
Ай бұрын
This is really interesting thank you. I'm a scientist and years ago I did a research study on people who get migraine and found their brain responses to visual stimuli were quicker than those who don't get migraine. And then when they wore coloured lenses it slowed down. I never thought at the time about why their response time was faster, but trauma could be a huge factor in this
@gwdavey
15 күн бұрын
It’s amazing how my weekly debilitating migraines, TMJ and anxiety resolved after moving across the country from my narcissistic mother and enabler father. After years of wearing night guards for TMJ pain, I no longer need to wear one.
@mariemonn8912
Ай бұрын
Fascinating..my muscles and body always tense, tight , sore….…I love learning this stuff…yet I am a watcher, an observer, and emotionally healed so much… …able to not react…it’s interesting to see all this stuff in people and they have no awareness.. So many violent with their words and they have no clue it’s of violence because their so identity with what they say….if you point it out…They blow off or get defensive…if you set a boundary..they have no emotional maturity to respect it and get mad and act like a bratty 10 year old….trauma brain… We live in one crazy world where people are sleepers with their eyes wide open…judging, fighting, gossiping, reacting, defending, etc.. I don’t have anyone around me practicing this and they have no interest in it…..I am a Lone Ranger…lol… it has taken a lot of practice and healing..and understanding… most people aren’t present..they’re just rambling on and on…lol..reacting.. Love this stuff….now I know more about what has been going on with me…yet the other part is the more I learn than I learn how this has affected me and knowing my children were not with a present Mother….makes me sad…what my trauma brain imprinted in their brain…we are to be of love, security, safety, connection, kindness, connection heart to heart….
@kccolby7562
Ай бұрын
So true about the clench and withdraw. You named what I knew when I looked at a picture of me as an 8 year old little girl in a black and white photo. It struck me so odd at the posture. I have 2 grown children myself and I thought what a weird position. My arms are crossed over my chest and I have one leg lifted trying to protect my pelvic area. A year before this pic I was raped by a grown man
@Lyrielonwind
Ай бұрын
Do you have far away eyes? They are common in complex trauma more than ptsd or shell shock (eyes wide open or 1000 yards stared). Check old pictures and look for dreamy eyes in your face. I have seen them in pictures of my grandmother and myself and the Rolling Stones have a song "Far away eyes". That's how I realized she had a crappy childhood because she died when my father was 9 years old...too many pregnancies and the last delivery ended her life. Many women at that time chained one pregnancy after another and died young.
@laurafergs88
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much Tim. This is fascinating. I had recurring dreams as a child where I couldn't open my eyes - like the sunlight was too bright or I was still too sleepy to crack them open - I'm thinking now it must have had something to do with what I was experiencing in waking life. Far too much to process for a child. And it also makes me think about autistic folks (of whom I'm one) - chronic IBS and pain (thinking of my mum with fibromyalgia) and autoimmune conditions (myself with eczema flare ups whrn im emotionally distressed) - there's so many overlaps with what get labelled sensory processing issues, when I'm starting yo think are actually chronic stress issues resulting from a world which has no patience or space for folks who don't have the neurotype of the majority.
@Ruby-wise
Ай бұрын
TY Tim! So much of this explains the jaw, neck, eye pain, etc. that I often experience. I will need to listen to this a few times!
@Lyrielonwind
Ай бұрын
It also explains the T-Rex hands while sleeping.
@NaiomeJainineDay
Ай бұрын
Me too.
@mp7ana
Ай бұрын
I can't remember my childhood nor all 3 of my kids' childhood ...could this be due to trauma? I don't remember any trauma 🤷♀️
@thekriketsmith
20 күн бұрын
Same.. everything you said.
@karenmcardle142
12 күн бұрын
Same here . Thanks for sharing. Keep Lifted
@hharuka9804
7 күн бұрын
I have lost my mother as three month old infant. Later years i read her note before she took her own life. She had Bipolar plus was abused as she carried me in her womb. Her diary said that i was frequently looking up to her and smiling at her. All of your videos are wonderful tool for recovery but i had tears coming up, as i listened to the part of child's need for connection. Such a great tool to know how to read, know and truly make connections to the safe people. Words can deceive or conceal hidden motif and emotions but what we see in the eyes reveal so much about the inner state of the individual. I think i always knew about this but never was consciously aware. Great help and comfort. Thank you so very much.
@MensGroup
Ай бұрын
Can you please do one on overeating? 🙏
@moonchild6115
22 күн бұрын
I wake up nearly every day and I feel so distressed and disturbed by the things that have happened to me , for 4 and a half years now. What I have gone through and how people have treated me , the violation and cruelty and the humiliation, and this is whilst having all my traumas re surfacing. I could write 3 books on how people have be little me bullied me , messed with my head thinking its funny to mess with someones head who is suicidal , paranoid, experiencing at times psychosis, extreme rumination from CPTSD made a million times worse by the way all these people have treated. I have given up and just wish to be dead, the one thought that helps me get through the day and this will show you how bad my life is, I think to myself I could be hit by a bus tomorrow, and then I feel relief . I literally have nothing and the people around me go out of there way to hurt me , emotionally and psychologically every day . I was left to be bullied as a child, I was left to be sexually abused I believe by male babysitter, I also believe my friends brother in law did something to me but I dont remember. I was left at Boarding school for a year, I was bullied on and off from 11- 16. Then I went to college and was bullied then , and \Sexually abused by a man on a disabled holiday placement I did at 17 with my college friends. I just sat there ,,and inside I was screaming but on the outside I was laughing , as if it was fine??? and then they bullied me about it as they were there whilst he grabbed me and groped me and kissed me . Then I was having problems at home too with my parents. Then I got to the point where I decided I couldn't live at home so I left, tried to find work to support myself, but then I started to get eczema. Over the next maybe 5 -6 years I had on going eczema to the point it was like being in a nightmare everyday . top to toe weeping bleeding itchy sore painful , skin ,where m y clothes would stick in my skin I had it all in my scalp and all over my face right down to the tip of my toes. I got so depressed that I ended up taking an overdose. I told my dad , he said " well that was a bit stupid wasn't it" I had to go to hospital and have my stomach pumped . Trauma trauma trauma trauma, feelings ignored or dismissed , no one helping . this is only up to my mid 20's. now im 50 and there's SO much more but no one cares, no one listens, they treat me like dirt, they ignore me . I can no longer cope with this and I hope when they find this post they may understand why I am like I am and all I really needed was kindness and love and why I could no longer go on
@rearose8127
19 күн бұрын
Hi dear one, I hope you are ok. People are cruel; no question. I have had a similar journey. Daily I remind myself that I need my forever friend. My friend never leaves nor forsakes me ever; my friend is Jesus. I am kind and pleasant to all people; but I do not share my heart with them. My heart is shared continuously with Jesus only and I feel His presence in me and around me continuously. I pray you too will call out to Jesus. He alone is faithful & true. Sending you peace & love my dear fellow human :)
@moonchild6115
18 күн бұрын
@@rearose8127 Thankyou for your reply , I lean on my Angels but I also believe in God. We are all God , God is a part of all of us. We are all pure light in our souls, I hope you are doing ok 💗
@thesincitymama
16 күн бұрын
Hey so, no judging but have you tried traveling. I was on SSDI and life was horrible but then I got a passport. Cuz I thought, if I’m gonna be sick and miserable with totally impossible problems, I might as well be sick and miserable with problems in a beautiful tropical location. And well, ever since I did that, life usually sucks much less. It’s just a suggestion. Don’t give up yet, maybe you’ve got another crazy path idea? I’m just saying, go for it. What have you got to lose?
@moonchild6115
16 күн бұрын
@@thesincitymama hi thanks for your reply, that sounds like a really good idea, im actually going away to the Bahamas tomorrow, great advice...thankyou
@thesincitymama
16 күн бұрын
@@moonchild6115 that’s awesome! Greetings from Cancun 😎 ya know, in 2003 they were saying I’d probably never walk again. Keep going! Belize is lovely too, if you like the Caribbean
@christinebennett9394
Ай бұрын
I watched this because I have recently developed ocular migraines. This makes a lot of sense!
@LouiseO78
Ай бұрын
Same here
@AntjeDebus
Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing! Had my second ever last Monday night, very scary. Magnesium was an instant relief. Nevertheless I am a bit scared of them returning, as the body is currently opening up kinda every flood gate that were shut down for 55 years. Healing to you and all who read this 🙏
@pibkaveronica7622
10 күн бұрын
@@AntjeDebus you need to take 400 mg of magnesium preventively every single night
@neetaarora7908
Ай бұрын
Absolutely clear and affirmative of how it goes and grows....to adulthood. I've experienced all of it-tight and tied in gut, diaphragm - breathing, eyes - always changing number of glasses and pain behind the eye balls also in sunlight, clenched jaws in sleep if I'm able to sleep.... lately I'm relating it to fascia issue and immunity, naturally if one's dissociated and hypervigilant, and related body dysfunctions. Essentially unregulation at many levels - perception, thinking, emotions, expressions, interactions, relationships, bodily.... Thankyou for this detailed research inputs.
@mindkindmom
Ай бұрын
I've always suspected this, particularly when I see a tiny child wearing thick glasses. In one case a little boy I knew who was quite a peppy kid. A few months later I saw him wearing very thick glasses, it was just after his father began drinking again and was kicked out of his job. It happened very publicly and I guess the shame of it all must have been traumatic - something he just couldn't bear to see.
@NattyByNature-
26 күн бұрын
A spiritual teaches spoke about this, that every wrinkle on our face, even our face shape is that way because of how we experienced life whether good or bad. The way we walk also.
@mindkindmom
26 күн бұрын
@@NattyByNature- Our mind shapes our bodies, no doubt about that
@lisaproustresearch
26 күн бұрын
I had the same prescription in my eye glasses for over 20 years Last December a major trauma took place when I finally had to cut ties with my whole family Less than 2 months after my eye sight decayed I went to 4 different specialists and my eye is perfectly healthy - nobody can explain the extreme sudden change and nobody (after 4 intents) can bring me to 20/20 no matter which lense they try on my right eye The left can reach 20/20 but the left cannot do it I know what this is It's NOT a coincidence
@dailylifeexperiences560
Ай бұрын
So, if ones vision has been impaired through complex trauma, is it possible for eye health to be improved?
@DwyaneWadeCounty
Ай бұрын
Doubt it
@benephysiologytm4144
Ай бұрын
Overall health improves when you heal from trauma. Eyesight is a part of it. So, yes.
@clareryan3843
17 күн бұрын
I figured this out on my own a couple of days ago and wrote it down in my journal - but Ive learned even more stuff from this👍 I know my vision will get better when Im better.
@davidnorman2134
14 күн бұрын
I'm 49 years old but feel stuck in what I call a childhood survival persona, and my true self is frozen in 1981-85 the little boy hiding in the corner of a field from my psycho mom. I've made friends who run away from home, but I chose to stay in turn inward hide my authentic self and create a fake persona to stay alive. Tim is amazing he seems to articulate my inner being or my inner true authentic self and seems to articulate actions and choices I made 40+ years ago to stay alive
@Serendipitous-Synchronicity
Ай бұрын
Thank you, much respect. 🪷
@shannonleighcartlandchandl2546
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much, Tim. You described my entire traumatic childhood and adulthood better than I could have ever imagined anyone being able to do.
@TeaRose9
Ай бұрын
Oh wow, this explains so much. 👁️
@davidweiss3795
Ай бұрын
Here’s my diagnosis. Likely all from trauma: - diplopia (double vision); intermittent alternating esotropia (an eye occasionally turning inward), right hyperphoria (tendency for the right eye to deviate upward). I wish there was a cure…
@LucaAnamaria
Ай бұрын
I feel you. I have strabismus.
@shylohmonster
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this thoughtful content. It really helps me unpack my congenital eye movement disorder (Duane's Retraction Syndrome) and how it adds another layer to these symptoms. Fascinating and healing.
@PenelopePitstop0078
Ай бұрын
Awesome, this is the beautiful part of social media🌸
@SueAnnaJoe
11 күн бұрын
I was hoping you would talk about specific pathologies like nearsightedness. I read anecdotal evidence that many survivors of CPTSD are nearsighted. This might be a good video in the future.
@GodIsLove1John416
Ай бұрын
I've been punished for doing arts & craftiness so much that the joy I once had doing it is no more. It was instilled by Baptist Church that I'm not allowed to dance... I don't have a healthy creativity outlet... disassociating & shutting down is the only way I can cope being around people. It's debilitating.
@4seasons546
Ай бұрын
Good 👼 lord ! Dance 🕺🏻 💃🏻 & dooodle ✍️ 📝 in your room
@GodIsLove1John416
Ай бұрын
@@4seasons546 If only it were that simple yet it isn't. I don't have a place of my own. I'm in the living room of someone else's house who's never made me feel welcomed.
@marciabueno5093
Ай бұрын
@@GodIsLove1John416 give it a shot, it may surprise you.
@sabinekoch3448
Ай бұрын
Could you imagine drawing? Or begin by listening to classical music?
@charlotte5671
Ай бұрын
You have the power to choose what you want to do. You can't choose what has happened to you, But you can choose your thoughts. It might take time and practice just like going to the gym It takes time to build muscles but thank goodness for neuroplasticity we can change our thoughts, which can then changes our lives. 🙏🏻 ❤ Believe me God would not have created creativity dancing and your beautiful soul that wants to do these things if it was bad. There is a book called conversations with God. You may enjoy it. 💗
@erpthompsonqueen9130
12 күн бұрын
Thank you. Watching and Listening from Alaska. 🤔 Learning something new every day. 🙂
@sunflowerdragon7516
25 күн бұрын
Absolutely fascinating. I am living with childhood trauma and ptsd from physical, sexual and emotional abuse. I have such a difficult time driving at night. All the lights feel like spotlights shining directly into my eyes. It never occurred to me that my eyes could be connected to hypervigilance.
@cptswann
Ай бұрын
I'm so excited to find your channel. It's been a long time since I learned anything new about complex trauma. You have given me even more insights on myself and those I love (especially since idk that I've ever loved someone who wasn't noticeably dysfunctional or dysregulated)
@French-Kiss24
Ай бұрын
Fascinating! I have migraines and now IBS. My yoga teacher says, “As your breath goes, your mind goes,and as your mind goes, your breath goes.” I think I’ll try some sitting every day with closed or unfocused eyes and do some easy breathing. I think this will teach my body to feel safe.
@dailylifeexperiences560
Ай бұрын
Yes, I endured this with my late Mother. This is interesting.
@kevinbissinger
Ай бұрын
I saw some weird yt short about trauma eyes but the guy was useless at describing it. So glad you're talking about it
@poetaenlaluna
29 күн бұрын
I was terrorized and beated up by a bully in High school for 2 years when I was 9, and my myopia started then and has only progressed ever since
@dailylifeexperiences560
Ай бұрын
Could this respiratory problem be mistaken for asthma attacks?
@dawnmccarthy1924
Ай бұрын
I was given an inhaler and told I had exercise induced asthma
@Fawn-hv7mx
Ай бұрын
Asthma itself probably has a psychological etymology.
@thefinalgeneration5231
Ай бұрын
Would you please consider doing a Teaching on Autism sone time dear brother Tim? God has definitely blessed you with Heavenly wisdom, knowledge, understanding to be such a good teacher to His Broken vessels. Thank you so much for all of your time. All of your messages And your LOVE for others. My little boy of 6 has severe level 3 autism
@websurfer5772
Ай бұрын
That shirt looks really good on you Tim. 🌿 We can practice looking into people's eyes when watching videos and TV too. Thank you for the tip to unfocus our eyes if we feel stressed. I hope I can remember that. 👁👁 Happy Friday! 😻
@22cobbie
16 күн бұрын
This is fascinating! Thank you for sharing. I have been dealing with vertigo/PPPD for a year now. Physical therapy involves eye exercises. I figured some things out on my own, like going cross eyed while looking straight ahead, up and also down, helps me. I can feel that my eyes have a big influence on my vestibular issues. I am sure my tension started in the womb and has been there my whole life, and now in my 60's I am starting to have physical problems, I think thanks to the constant tension over the years. I remember when I was around 10 years old or so......I was sitting watching TV when I became aware of how tense and clenched all of my muscles were. I made an attempt to relax. It's very hard when you have been this way all of the time your entire life, you don't know any other way to live, or how it's feels to be relaxed and free of tension and anxiety. It makes life incredibly challenging. Recently I have done more eye exercises, and I noticed while I was out walking that things had a more 3 dimensional looks, like my world had become flatter because of the tension and anxiety. I'm now wondering if this body tension and affect on the diaphragm in the skull can affect the ear crystals that go out of place and cause BPPV???
@annem7806
15 күн бұрын
Is this the condition that is 'reset' by sudden movement to the head?
@dapsolita
Ай бұрын
These discoveries sure shed a new light on both autism and fibromyalgia
@mariemonn8912
Ай бұрын
Exactly…makes so much sense …I love his teaching…
@CynthiaStoner-e3i
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much, you really explain this so well and I find it extremely fascinating AND helpful!
@ellensee4660
Ай бұрын
this is really interesting. I became short sighted when 5 and it got worse and worse so I had really thick glasses and refused to wear them a lot of the time. as adult I got contact lenses so avoided the great shame I felt with my glasses. I had a bad relationship with my mother who refused meaningful contact all my life.I don't believe I read peoples eyes correctly or feel they do mine.I have thought that the withdrawal in myself as a child and really throughout life was a withdrawal of energy to the eyes as well,causing the myopia. I am a very visually oriented person ,enjoy art and nature and loved the story of Beatrix Potter focusing on the little animals because of short sight. a lot to consider in this video. a lifelong feeling of being disconnected from others and feeling I can't see what is going on with others in their eyes ,or that they are being guarded and hidden to me. there is a great deal in this video ,in helping me to try and understand things.
@karenlewkowitz5858
Ай бұрын
Same. Became severely shortsighted which resulted in further punishment. The caretaker intervened to say how wonderful there is something (glasses) to help. That offered some relief. But as a child, I did internalise all the aggressive behavior. Wonderful to recieve laser surgery with a great reduction in prescription. Colours became vibrant, less exhaustion. Better depth perception. A new life. Another surgeon on a different matter mentioned how exhausting poor vision is. It was so unusual to receive this affirmation. Like being heard for the first time in my life at 58. My goodness!! How wonderful, finally!! It was a gift, albeit fleeting, as it was just during a dr appointment. And, I know people are absorbed in their own lives. I avoid eye contact unless a person is regulated and friendly
@ellensee4660
Ай бұрын
@@karenlewkowitz5858 thankyou for replying. so glad you got the laser surgery . I got cataract surgery at 72 so my vision was corrected then. amazing to not have to deal with lenses or glasses. poor vision had me internalising everything ,a retreat into the tiny world I could see clearly. I am sure being short sighted had a really profound affect and as you say exhausting. hope your eyes are good from now on.
@lawrencedavis5459
Ай бұрын
i read about Wilhelm Reich and orgonomy almost 30 years ago, this ties in with his type of therapy
@patrickpoulsen1
Ай бұрын
Reich is extremely undervalued. An absolute genius.
@wilbers1970
23 күн бұрын
Through extended stressful times I've been unable to enter the surf, especially in the white water, way too much light getting in and my eyes start rolling up!! This explains it perfectly Tim. And yep my eyes tear up terribly 😢😢😢
@BeeBlot
Ай бұрын
Wow! 😭 ive known why I've had health issues, but this in depth understanding is a major gift.
@francisgallant1479
Ай бұрын
Ive always thought so! nice to see there are studies backing that
@maryamosman2677
Ай бұрын
There are cultures including mine that children looking adults into the eyes is disrespectful and now I find it default to look people on eye to eye
@ybois3
24 күн бұрын
My grandmother taught me that too How interesting It’s been. A life long struggle for me as it is not the cultural norm for most
@dailylifeexperiences560
Ай бұрын
I use to have bad TMJ, migraines, pain behind eyes, i still clintch, and the mucle spams are horrible.
@tmotnlr
26 күн бұрын
Appreciate you so much, Tim ❤ Thank you for so much giving. 🙏🏽 How lucky we are, how lucky we are, how lucky we are
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