News flash, it was never ok to act that way. Women just never had the legal rights to do anything about it.
@kathyhansen2820
5 ай бұрын
While growing up I took a good hard look at my parent's relationship and said no thanks. I married the opposite of my father. Best decision I ever made.
@Slythegirl123
5 ай бұрын
@@Mehmet_Fateh Only in certain circumstances. If a man was emotionally volatile and abusive? Good luck proving that. No fault divorce is a new inception, which means that even if a crime cant be proven, they can still divorce.
@Kriistall7
5 ай бұрын
@Mehmet_Fateh even if it is legal, what is a woman with a bunch of kids, no education, no money, under the threats of losing their home and kids, going to do? Legal doesn't mean it's doable. Men creates a system where women stay stuck for men's benefits
@Kriistall7
5 ай бұрын
@Mehmet_Fateh even if it is legal, what is a woman with a bunch of kids, no education, no money, under the threats of losing their home and kids, going to do? Legal doesn't mean it's doable. Men created a system where women stay stuck for men's benefits
@Kriistall7
5 ай бұрын
@Mehmet_Fateh even if it is legal, what is a woman with a bunch of kids, no education, no money, under the threats of losing their home and kids, going to do? Legal doesn't mean it's doable. Men creates a system where women stay stuck for men's benefits
@AdamPsencik
4 ай бұрын
As a man, I vowed never to be like my father, who never parented, he only worked, and treated my mother like crap for wanting more emotional engagement than that. Yeah - women should absolutely desire more than that, if men are arguing they should be allowed to do less than the bare minimum than they deserve what happens next.
@thetruth40026
4 ай бұрын
Facts 🤝
@Jade-vd2xf
4 ай бұрын
It brings me some peace to see a man agree with this message. Bless you.
@The_NutritionChef
4 ай бұрын
❤appreciate seeing this. It doesn’t make a woman a feminist to want to be respected and treated well.
@thatgirlbrinna7927
4 ай бұрын
@@The_NutritionCheffeminism just means equality, it’s not bad
@coconutmilkhoney
4 ай бұрын
@@The_NutritionChefBy definition, that quite literally does make a woman a feminist. We should not be distancing ourselves from that word and its actual intent.
@zyan5716
5 ай бұрын
they act so surprised because it wasnt them their grandmothers were telling "dont ever get married, finish your studies" it was US. i vividly remember all of the older women around me tell me to not get married and pursue an education, the common denominator between all of them was abusive husbands and shitty marriages.
@printingwithpeek4897
5 ай бұрын
So you just surrounded yourself with shitty people. Both of my grandparents had doctorates in teaching and loved their marriage. My grandmother was a housewife until my grandfather set enough aside for her to go to graduate school. You have no argument.
@Hitsugix
5 ай бұрын
and then there's my grandmother (81 years) who told me i failed as a woman, because i am neither married nor do i have kids.
@chrisb__
5 ай бұрын
@@Hitsugix just, whatever you do, don't point out that you have a better quality of life. That is how people get written out of Wills reeeeal quick. 😅
@music0cool
4 ай бұрын
My asian grandmother keeps a stash of money secret from her husband "just in case". Shes a very smart woman
@kaleanaking5292
4 ай бұрын
@@music0coolmy husbands Korean grandmother before she passed had a whole bank account and businesses that her husband (my husbands grandfather) NEVER knew about. I wish I could’ve gotten to know her more because she was so smart.
@ShalomDove
4 ай бұрын
I say this as a woman: I don’t care if the dishes get done, either. But if dishes in the sink bothers someone that I love? Then I care about the dishes. This isn’t just a romantic partnership thing, either. I had to learn this as a daughter, because dishes in the sink don’t bother me, but they do bother my mother, who lives with me.
@yusramensahcoker705
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for posting this like soo many ppl forget that the way you treat your spouse or partner is almost the same with other loved ones eg. Siblings , parents etc . Like ppl love to apply it in relationships, start now apply it now be respectful , understanding, emotionally intelligent etc practice it now it helps . Just like you I live with my mother and 6 siblings ( I'm the oldest ) and before seeing how much it affected her I didn't really care but now that's one of the first things I do when I go down to the kitchen.
@idek7438
Ай бұрын
Also, at some point someone has to care if the dishes get done if you want to...have dishes to eat off of again and not have an ecosystem growing in your sink. And if it's always the same person caring and doing something about it, we have an issue. Like, when I hear something like that, I hear "I've never lived alone and learnt to take care of myself because someone else always did it for me"
@gingererer7806
17 күн бұрын
thanks for helping me see from a different perspective ❤
@ProcrastinatorsProgress
2 күн бұрын
Well said.
@MissKashira
5 ай бұрын
It's because we work. When you have access to resources you have the power the leave bad situations. In previous generations, women just had to accept whatever was done to them because they didn't have the power to walk away.
@karolinasoblinskyte1795
5 ай бұрын
And all thing "woman need less food, less meat" come from woman's slavory in the past
@kman9884
5 ай бұрын
@@karolinasoblinskyte1795Not really. Women *do* have lower caloric needs than men, on average, because women are smaller than men, on average, and have less lean muscle, on average.
@DoNotFearTheReapa
5 ай бұрын
This guy is basically a woman so he can't exactly speak for men. A man gets angry, a man looks at porn, a man bottles things up. But, a man also is independent. He does the things you don't want to. He gets angry because he bottles things up to remain strong for others. He goes to get a drink because he needs a bit of time with none of the weight of every burden he's taken. He looks at porn because he'd prefer to be having sex with you, but you make it so complicated with your own insecurities and by constantly rejecting us because of your own insecurities. As men, we are not allowed to reject you, or be insecure ourselves. Yet you want us to do even more, and have nothing to keep ourselves sane except your shining light. It's a little one sided and narcissistic, don't you think? This guy, is not a man. This guy has no balls, and is nothing like the man you would want. Instead of showing your man these stupid videos, try talking to them without whining at them. This is an example of whining. Phrasing things as if you are already on a higher horse without considering there's two human beings in the conversation.
@LesleyMcgonagall
5 ай бұрын
and plus the way they were raised, that's just how everybody behaved and there was next to nothing they could do. God, I'm so glad I wasn't born into those families.. As a woman, my life would have probably been hell.
@meridith7566
5 ай бұрын
Yes!!! Which is also why reproductive rights are impt.
@indrahx5905
5 ай бұрын
My father died two years ago and even though my mom cared for him until the end, she has to admit that now, for the first time in her life, she can live the way she wants, eat what and when she wants, dress the way she likes it etc etc. During her marriage absolutely everything went the way he wanted it, and she couldn't leave because she would have left with nothing. No man will ever cross her door steps again, and I do understand why. These days I have a couple of young male friends, all extremely frustrated singles, but if you talk to them, neither of them sees women as an equal human being, or even likes and respects them. Unfortunately they aren't aware of that.
@yourlocalstraycat1835
4 ай бұрын
Gotta knock some sense into them.
@kaleanaking5292
4 ай бұрын
That’s literally my brother in law right now. And he legit gets pissed off anytime you tell him women are people too and just as valuable.
@Masanumi
4 ай бұрын
Where do they learn it?
@RedLya
4 ай бұрын
Even throughout social media and online we see many female movement and empowering messages and support nd all. There’s still a huge neglect in many of the rest of society’s teaching, parents that haven’t moved on or didn’ want to.. I really hate it when ppl assume it, but misogyny really is still a huge problem throughout many cities, towns and countries.
@FishieFishFosh
4 ай бұрын
So many men out there that are looking for a zero cost pet plus sexual object plus complaining machine to clean up after them. My apologies but that sure sounds a lot like a form of subtle slavery.
@Morgan313
5 ай бұрын
Women want a loving partner and not a disrespectful boss. Totally unreasonable 🙄
@RomanvonUngernSternbergnrmfvus
4 ай бұрын
A lot of men just want a partner who loves them for who they are, who don’t lie and manipulate, who STAY FAITHFUL and do what they said they’d do in a timely manner. Oh and mandatory genetic testing at the birth of children, there’s literally no reason NOT to have that and it will help be a first step for men have real reproductive freedom.
@Yupyupyup32
4 ай бұрын
@@RomanvonUngernSternbergnrmfvusthis is just like signing a prenup. You say you do it because you wanna be fair and logical but the truth is there is a lack of trust. Family shouldn’t be like this. It’s not a business partnership
@RomanvonUngernSternbergnrmfvus
4 ай бұрын
@@Yupyupyup32 The faithful have nothing to fear and the unfaithful have to use arguments like yours to abuse people’s good will. It’s actually why I think it should be a default standard so neither parties feelings are harmed. Can’t be mad at anyone if it’s just the way things are, right? I also support taking the stigma away from and standardizing for marriage the use of prenups for the same reason, it stopped being about love when the heavily bias towards female state got involved.
@Yupyupyup32
4 ай бұрын
@@RomanvonUngernSternbergnrmfvus ah so you dont even know me and suggest that i am unfaithful eh? yes clearly youre a straight thinking well adjusted rational individual not carrying any baggage and making objective statements. if you need a test to tell you your woman is unfaithful, there is a problem to begin with. the moment my man asks for a paternity test, i know that the marriage is completely baseless and there is nothing to go on, and i will bid farewell. i come from a family where my parents were cold and objective, and ive seen the damage it does to relationships. if you dont have good intuition about women, go develop it. instead of always wondering when your woman will cheat. and the kids maybe yours, but she may have slept with other men with adequate protection, so unless you have a test for that (except for your gut) you are doomed, cos youll always be wondering if your woman is faithful. what a great marriage that would be. also instead of asking for a prenup, why not ask for law changes where you cant steal peoples money just cos theyre an ex? thats a good default justice right. a prenup is basically you talking about ending a marriage before it even starts. if a man is excited about the divorce more than the marriage that is a huge red flag
@Mysteryspy
4 ай бұрын
@@RomanvonUngernSternbergnrmfvusCorrection, the unfaithful men are left with nothing. The unfaithful women get half our things in a divorce. Hope to god a prenup was signed
@RaeningArt
4 ай бұрын
"Omg, women want respect. What has this world come to!" Got me laughing so hard. Freaking love this guy! 😂😂😂
@cindygeorge9679
2 ай бұрын
Me too!
@diane4488
Ай бұрын
Totally agree! 👍🏻
@susanbazinet9664
Ай бұрын
That was my favorite!
@nicolasnamed
4 ай бұрын
This reminds me of a thing I read where someone said something like "What men don't realize is that most of the they aren't competing with other men, but rather with a woman's own comfort with being alone." There's plently of lonely romantic women who'd love to have a boyfriend, but not at the cost of their own peace of mind.
@raphaelasmile1109
4 ай бұрын
You are on point!
@TheJamesGamel
4 ай бұрын
On the other side of this, but that's a great line to use. "Why would I have a romantic relationship with you when I have a better chance of being healthy and happy staying single?" I'm a young man, but I always knew I would never get married ever since I was a kid. I've seen plenty of people in my life get divorced, get cheated on, be abused, and end up viciously neglected. There's no positives to outweigh the negatives
@holliisixx
4 ай бұрын
Yep, U summed it up
@borcsaster
4 ай бұрын
❤❤❤ "Thank you!"🙏
@nicolasnamed
4 ай бұрын
@TheJamesGamel I think it's definitely a valid boundary and wish for independence to have, however my advice (as someone with divorced parents and that divorce involving an affair though not being the sole reason for finality) is to learn from the negativity you see rather than assuming it'll happen to you point blank. A *good* marriage takes a lot of commitment and good communication, and a lot of people don't know how to do that, or can't be bothered to learn. I would really recommend a book called "Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations For A Lifetime Of Love", it's written by psychologist and focuses on the emotional angle of relationships and finding emotional support and safety in them. Totally respect if you still don't want to get married, but it's very eye-opening on how to solve relationship problems before they reach the point of something like cheating, as well as how to ammend bonds that have become very frayed.
@OpossumOnTheMoon
5 ай бұрын
If you want a traditional marriage, you need to make traditional marriage money. You cannot both be working but only expecting her to do the chores. If you want a traditional wife that stays home, raises the kids, does chores AND has dinner ready for you then you gotta have the wallet to back that life style up. So either pay up or shut up and do the laundry.
@Bacon2000.
5 ай бұрын
Exactly! And it goes both ways if your a woman who wants a high earning man when you don't wanna work you gotta stay home do chores and have dinner ready. I completely agree
@lenny710
4 ай бұрын
@@Bacon2000.honestly, I agree. with how the economy is flowing. There’s a lot of women who would be perfectly ok with being housewives, but it’s not an excuse for them to be treated less than equals in relationships. I’d be alright as a housewife, but my mother always told me to secure my own income. It’s easier to maintain independence and protect yourself from being financially controlled if you have a job of your own.
@judithsixkiller5586
4 ай бұрын
@@Bacon2000.Why do you assume automatically assume that a woman's career is less valuable than a man's? Plenty of high or even moderate earning couples both work and just split up home responsibilities or have part or full time help if they need it,including using a daycare center or nanny if they have children.
@elih6087
4 ай бұрын
@@judithsixkiller5586 They didn't say that at all?
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
@@judithsixkiller5586 he didnt.
@reml75
4 ай бұрын
I remember when my mom got her first credit card in her name. It was 1980 and I was almost 5 years old. Two years later she was able to leave my father who was abusive to all of us. A few years later she met my stepdad and I really saw what a healthy relationship looked like.
@galehutchinson260
4 ай бұрын
Thank God for good stepdads who treat our mothers right. Miracles each and every one of them.
@linda-nl8ib
3 ай бұрын
Wow 1980 blimey
@mery8630
11 күн бұрын
I am so glad for your comment.
@abigailkirkham9120
9 күн бұрын
Because women didn't have a choice they were trapped financially, and socially
@robynbaynton14
4 ай бұрын
Done with men. 61 and single, independent and loving it! Me and my 3 cats are very happy 😊
@saikoneko1937
Ай бұрын
I was told once being a cat lady was an insult. I took it as a challenge. 😊
@yulyiaeki4337
14 күн бұрын
Wishing you a happy, long life! ❤ I'm a cat person, too 😊
@Just_Futzing_Around
13 күн бұрын
I foresee myself being a cat lady. I’m 44 now. I’ll be back in 20 years to let you know.😂 🥺😞
@luv2dancesalsa465
4 күн бұрын
Some “more current” people in September 2024 expect cat ladies to be miserable. And we’re not voting for those people.
@firestarterri
5 ай бұрын
I work/have worked, with a lot of older women. These are women who (mostly, there was one who divorced) were with their husbands until the husbands passed away. Every single one of them has told me they worked liked dogs to keep their men happy and comfortable for almost zero appreciation. And even in their lates 60s and mid 70s, they are loving the heck out of single life. Says a lot about those old school marriages people keep trying to glorify.
@hannahchellingworth5135
4 ай бұрын
And the funny thing is it's not the women glorifying it 🤣
@Suited_Nat
4 ай бұрын
@@hannahchellingworth5135it’s usually guys.
@capitalist4life
4 ай бұрын
You’re only seeing the broke ones. My mom is sitting on more than $5 million because she was willing to sacrifice her career to raise me and my brothers. The most successful women are not found in the workplace
@xianerbing
4 ай бұрын
@@capitalist4life As a woman, I wouldn't call myself a "successful woman" if I have raised a son like you. I would be devastated if my son make a comment like you did💀
@CherryJuli
4 ай бұрын
Everybody I know who worked with older people told me about older men who always tell them about the one woman that got away. So yes, there often is zero appreciation for their wives.
@vanessanielson4883
5 ай бұрын
This question feels like it can be answered the same way as "Why is the divorce rate higher than it was for our grandparents?" Because women today know they can escape if their relationship turns abusive or just simply isn't fair or fulfilling. Whereas our grandmothers were forced to stay for a variety of reasons (social shame, lack of financial and educational freedom, couldn't even open a bank account without a man's permission, etc), so they put up with a whole lot of crap that we just don't have to anymore. Thanks for pointing out how basic these "high expectations" really are.
@schuylergeery-zink1923
5 ай бұрын
Orrrr for the ballsy women esp in the 1800s their husband’s would suddenly get sick and die 🤷🏼♀️ ooops! I’m a widow now!
@scroton2185
5 ай бұрын
Ok but why is the divorce rate higher for lesbian couples than heterosexual couples and lower for gay couples? It's almost like w*men are the problem and are always financially incentivized to initiate divorce. Men will continue to not get married, avoid women in every setting possible, and you can continue shrieking into your pillow that you have to work and don't have an indentured servant. Hahahahahaha.
@aprilhoffman3090
5 ай бұрын
Yeah, and women are no longer told by their priests and doctors, and community members that they just need to be patient with the abuse and or with what they don't really want. My mother was told by her priest she needed to stay in the relationship because she made a promise to God. As if God isn't in the business of forgiveness if someone makes a mistake in their partner choice.
@Keffalos
5 ай бұрын
" Because women today know they can escape if their relationship turns abusive or just simply isn't fair or fulfilling. " < yeah... or simply because they got giga chads attention and throw everything away for a little kick. Sorry to destroy your ilussions, but women nowadays are in no means any better than men are. There are very bad examples on every side. And regarding our grandparents : Out of my view its not the missing opportunity of walking away... its that they worked through things and set up the right priorities. Nowadays people tend to run after everything, except the one thing that counts fighting for : Love.
@ngotemna8875
5 ай бұрын
@@schuylergeery-zink1923 "Doctor, i told him over and over again: Stop eating the rat poison. But he always said 'What would a woman know about rat poson?' Truly a shame"
@ririfeynman4381
4 ай бұрын
I have seen my father doing house chores, helping my mother around in the kitchen (he was an excellent cook, btw) and was always emotionally available. He has set a standard for me and while looking for a partner, I will never lower it. :) P.S.: I miss him so much everyday. I wish he was still alive. ❤
@renukapasupuleti575
4 ай бұрын
Same tho , my father always helped my mom , I saw him doing almost every household chore in my house , but they never argued about that that's a healthy relationship
@Bethany342
4 ай бұрын
You had a great and wonderful dad.
@trishciaffone619
4 ай бұрын
You had a good dad! One thing I'd love for us to all stop doing, though, is calling it 'helping mom/ wife/ woman in the house' because it still frames it as her work, he's just helping. My husband does not help me clean and do chores, he does his share. All men need to understand that housework is their too.
@tricitymorte1
4 ай бұрын
I watched my parents, and I saw a team. They both worked, but my dad worked less due to some health issues that came up when I was you, that plagued him the rest of his life. But, he still did the best he could. And he always helped around the house, doing whatever needed to be done. I was closer to my dad than my older brother. He taught me so much, and set a great example for me. Somehow, my brother never got the message.
@Cauchemar369
4 ай бұрын
My dad was basically the stay at home parent my whole life while my mom worked. My dad hated it tho bc he felt he should be a provider with my mom rather than her being the only one working. My dad did all the things other kids’ mom’s usually did like for example driving me around to school and friend’s houses. He cooks and cleans. So it was a bit backward for me growing up which I’m grateful for experiencing Ofc my dad still had anger issues so me and my sibling would still go to our mom for our emotional needs but aside from that the traditional gender roles were basically swapped in my household. My dad didn’t like being the stay at home parent my whole childhood, (he was laid off from work and he couldn’t get another job so this was his role for a long time) but he still got the job done regardless I’m now almost 20 and he only recently managed to get a job again and he’s much happier. And he still cooks and cleans a lot at home, my mom never cooks, I’d be a bit confused tbh if I ever saw her cooking
@user-wv2ce3wd4c
4 ай бұрын
“She wants me to hug her instead of GROPE her” 😂😂😂😂 Lve this & SOOO accurate
@rory8182
3 ай бұрын
the irony is that if he actually just gave her hugs without anything else, he would likely get a greenlight for that anything else a hell of a lot more often than he gets at the moment
@InvisiblerApple
5 ай бұрын
The bar seems higher because women dragged it out of hell.
@mf7269
5 ай бұрын
And the men were kicking and screaming the entire way 😂
@nerrissarichards
5 ай бұрын
❤
@thaloblue
5 ай бұрын
Demons hate standards it makes them feel short.
@logochi5036
5 ай бұрын
With our gd teeth lmfao
@ST-rj8iu
5 ай бұрын
we dragged ourselves out of hell. Men want to stay there because for them it is heaven.
@onetwo8950
4 ай бұрын
That got tears into my eyes . As a women who is attracted to KIND and kind men ONLY, I sometimes catch myself thinking : "Am I asking for too much?should I content myself with the rare affection I get?"
@solsystem1342
4 ай бұрын
I've heard it said that straight women are the best proof that sexuality isn't a choice... it's sad how true that is sometimes. Hugs and bugs sister. Hope you find a good partner some day❤
@POIUYTREWQ62
4 ай бұрын
@@solsystem1342 Choices made long ago are still choices, even if you don't think they are choices.
@momoyaoyorozu6709
4 ай бұрын
@@POIUYTREWQ62you chose your sexuality a long time ago?
@Toasterthedoaster
4 ай бұрын
@@momoyaoyorozu6709i think they mean the choices you make in character customisation before you're born, you know, like we're in an rpg
@momoyaoyorozu6709
4 ай бұрын
@@Toasterthedoaster lol
@OKHolly
4 ай бұрын
Them: Women in the past didn't expect as much and were happy with what they had. Men in the past: *mysteriously dying after drinking their morning coffee that their wife made them*
@Gerbilomonous
4 ай бұрын
Shame it's illegal
@bottomofastairwell
4 ай бұрын
women in the past: handing down heavy ass cast iron frying pans as heirlooms men in the past: going out for cigarettes one day and "never coming back"
@bottomofastairwell
4 ай бұрын
@@Gerbilomonous what? he just went out for cigarettes and didn't come back. i don't know why he left me all the bank account info before he left though, that was just a weird coincidence
@TeknuAddict
4 ай бұрын
"Some men just can't hold their arsenic."
@chrystallea7545
4 ай бұрын
my husbands grandma used to use it on her man if he came home drunk from the bar.@@bottomofastairwell
@razredge07
Ай бұрын
I used to work in long term care (high end nursing home), and more often than not when husbands would die the widows would be completely lost. Then, after a few weeks the other widows would join up and live their best lives. Women who had been with their husbands in the community for 20+ years and who were meek and silent would suddenly be ordering out, cackling with such joy, and just full of vibrant confidence a few weeks or months after being widowed. Men, on the other hand, did not fair well when their wives passed. Most would stop eating, everything irritated them, and they'd drink excessively. All the suicides at the community involved either recently widowed men or men who were diagnosed with a terminal illness. Men did not thrive without women and women thrived without men. Keep that in mind when idealizing the "good ol' days." The nursing homes and long term care communities eventually show the true nature of so many lifelong relationships we tend to idealize.
@Nstone53
5 ай бұрын
I just had a argument with my husband a few hours ago about this. I sat him down and told laid it all out. For 6 years I've been trying to get our autistic daughter a medical evaluation so she can get services. I 've been getting the run around for SIX YEARS. 2 months ago I gave him the sign up infor for a new clinic that is only 30min away and asked him to do it. He never did. So the fight was about his constant procrasitnation and at the end of it he came back wtih "I don't know what you want" I replied "YOU DO! you know you just don't want to do it. I want you to say "Sorry I forgot I will do it now." He just sat there silent. He finally stood up and said "okay well it's sat. remind me on Monday and I'll do it then" omg if I had been holding something I probably would have chucked it at his head. instead I replied "NO. YOU GO. GET YOUR PHONE! and YOU remind YOURSELF!"
@NieroshaiTheSable
5 ай бұрын
You know him than any of us possibly could, but autism is often patrilineal and as someone with AuDHD it's practically impossible to remember schedules, appointments, etc and--here's the kicker--reminders aren't that useful for a lot of us. I mean, they are, but those of us with moderate to high support needs need to be _sat down and given the reminder._ I won't remember to add something to the calendar. I won't remember to set an alarm. It's legitimately a disability of time blindness. I'm not saying he has this, I'm saying since autism is a potential factor, it's worth looking into. But even if he is, what that then means is that he needs to learn communication habits to better work with you in making sure his blind spots are covered. You're still not obligated to be his mommy
@la6136
4 ай бұрын
They act dumb on purpose so they don’t have to do anything. They understand exactly what they are doing.
@smilodon87
4 ай бұрын
time for divorce
@undefinederror40404
4 ай бұрын
@@NieroshaiTheSable I want to add to this, if there is any suspicion that the husband has autism or anything of the like then he should be(come) aware of that. From personal experience; if you point out that you think someone may have a thing and they don't start looking into it for themselves, then be ready to wait another 6 years for anything to change. In which case I'd more recommend breaking up. Because admitting there may be a thing is step 1, and when they finally do that after years and years of denial and behaving like a stubborn teen then they have to actually make a phone call and plan an appointment to get tested... another prime chance for procrastination and after all that there's the wait lists. In case they get diagnose with something, probably more waitlists for any kind of treatment/help! And it's all for nothing if they then decide "I am diagnosed, this is just who I am, I'm now going to use it as an excuse for bad behaviors and never make an effort to improve myself". In my experience the fast majority of people with autism and/or adhd are lovely and very willing to work on themselves + work with their environment. It's just that.. if he's this bad with getting his daughter treatment and it's been going on for _6 years_ .. I fear you might have a bad apple. Maybe. Or he improves once he stops the denial, potentially. Or he doesn't have anything that can be diagnosed, which is also great to know. Because then you know his shitty actions are caused by his disinterest and you should get away from him 😅
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
@@la6136 ah, its the man whisperer. tell us what's in their minds oh great one.
@hih1590
4 ай бұрын
“when you’re used to privilege, equality feels like oppression”
@spfein
4 ай бұрын
Tell that to Jews who literally see women getting WORSHIPPED in the west
@armywife2248
4 ай бұрын
I wish I could like this 1000 times!!
@linekline
4 ай бұрын
Amen!!
@Froggynarrations
4 ай бұрын
Damn, I love that quote! Well said!
@woodykusaki9970
4 ай бұрын
This phrase applies to the feminists. Lol
@ilyharperrrr
5 ай бұрын
“Beggars can’t be choosers” SHES YOUR GIRLFRIEND WHY IS SHE BEGGING IN THE FIRST PLACE
@bashbashbashu
4 ай бұрын
Cuz the dude begrudgingly took her out of the fwb zone because she grew a backbone one day and the dude thought free sex with commitment is still free sex. Like he did her a favour by making her his gf. Men think theyre actually choosing us lmfao all because pick mes glorify men and their non existing commitment (commitment isnt a thing unless theres investment like financial investment)
@letsbereal9455
4 ай бұрын
Wife, not girlfriend. He's wearing a wedding ring.
@Mysteryspy
4 ай бұрын
It's just a saying. If I say it's raining cats and dogs, it's not actually raining furry friends.
@ilyharperrrr
4 ай бұрын
@@Mysteryspy Dude obviously. That’s not the point. Your partner shouldn’t have to be begging you for anything.
@dian277
4 ай бұрын
maybe he was implying that she's a stay at home wife, regardless, that's very disrespectful, disrespectful enough for a divorce.
@juliesmith5123
4 ай бұрын
Men have different expectations from women than they did 80 years ago. My grandfather was perfectly happy with my grandmother taking care of the house and kids and men now want women to take care of the house and kids but also work outside the home to contribute to the finances. Women have to do all the stuff they did in generations past PLUS earn an income.
@abstracttechnician2750
4 ай бұрын
I know no men who WANT their wives working outside the home. Me and several of my friends who are married make serious sacrifices to ensure that our wives can be stay at home moms and all of us contribute to household chores and childcare on top of being the providers. I even make sure my wife gets free time away from the kids. I haven't had a night off that I picked in over a year and a half. I know a lot of guys who are the same. Some who aren't, but more that are the same as me. Yet everywhere I look it's the same men ain't shit and men are big child attitude. It sucks. I'm a man. Why are people spending so much time hating on me. My friends are men. My brother is a man. We mostly do everything right, why are we hated so much.
@katq832
4 ай бұрын
@@abstracttechnician2750Yeah sorry just because you and your friends work to have stay at home wives doesn’t mean the whole world is that way. If you do some research you can see half of couples in the U.S both work and that number is still growing. Nobody hates you individually. If what people are saying about men doesn’t apply to you then it shouldn’t offend you.
@pinkpineapplejuice3271
4 ай бұрын
@@abstracttechnician2750 Sorry, there’s many good people and it seems like you’re one of them but there are also just as many bad and abusive men and women alike. If anything, I like the call the abusive men “boys” to differentiate. These comments aren’t always directed to you but more often directed to the boys.
@gen6895
4 ай бұрын
@@katq832we all give credit to the truly good men such as yourself who treat their partners right. We hate on and make fun of the little boys in giant bodies to put them in the corner with a dunce cap where they belong! Keep being a good dude! Be the light in the world that is not.
@emilymenjivar6138
4 ай бұрын
@@abstracttechnician2750respect you and your friends, but I literally had a call with one of my guy friends (in his 30s) who was talking about a potential partner and one of her flaws was that she wanted to be a “TRAD wife” I was like, what’s that’? 😂 he said a traditional stay at home mom and I was like “oh! I didn’t know that was a red flag now a days” 😅
@ZeonGenesis
5 ай бұрын
Sad truth is nobody's listening until a man says it for us
@robologo
5 ай бұрын
Are you two saying that most men are far more willing to listen to what men say than what women say? I can't attest to this.
@bell10877
5 ай бұрын
This has some truth in it, sadly. But nonetheless I do feel this is helpful even to hear that a man gets it ... and...maybe he will help other men get it.. I wonder what percentage of his followers are men?
@robologo
5 ай бұрын
Oh, he probably deleted my reply, I don't see it. I didn't mean to be disrespectful.
@mf7269
5 ай бұрын
Damn. This hurt too real.
@tjturner3916
5 ай бұрын
Men aren't listening until a man says it. We've been saying this to each other for decades.
@wiggilytaco7570
5 ай бұрын
They also realized that not only “women can do anything the men can” but it also meant “men can do anything a woman can”. If a woman can have empathy, provide for her children, bond, cook, clean, and juggle all that bullshit WHILE having a job then so can a man.
@chaoticgood8645
4 ай бұрын
Seriously, this is an underrated comment. Feminism is for BOTH men and women.
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
yeah that phrase is childish and for good reason....we tell it to kids for motivation. believe it and you could get hurt or end up in a job you can't do. it's good to dream but reality will wake you up.
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
@@chaoticgood8645 yeah, we have proven over the last 20 years that that's bull.
@Epsiloncat
4 ай бұрын
@@johnsmith-de3tl Despite your words, I still believe in you. I believe it's in your capacity to develop empathy, emotional maturity, and good house skills, even if you keep telling yourself that you can't do it. Don't let your past hold you back. You can yet be a light in other people's lives.
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
@@Epsiloncat i hope you manage to lose this spite and resentment thats been put on you by society and find someone that you can respect enough to not cheat on them....this time. ;)
@MP-il8ys
4 ай бұрын
A man literally said to me, "Women who are too strong like you are the reason all the Western men are going to 3rd world countries to find wives!" Yep, because they know beggars can't be choosers. I wish financial independence to my sisters around the globe- we all should feel empowered to walk away from imbalanced relationships.
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
strong? yeah, bet he didn't use that word.
@fallen546
4 ай бұрын
What if he's right? If you ask most American women do you need men. They will always say "absolutely not." If you ask the same question anywhere else in the world, they will say "Of course." We are social creatures. We absolutely need others, and that's not a weakness the way women in the US think it is. I need the women in my life. Women are wonderful. Let go of the anger and disdain, and you'll find life gets better :)
@Dice-Z
4 ай бұрын
Just because he THINKS that women are "more docile" in other countries, does not mean that it is the case.
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
@@Dice-Z docile? being a harpy is not strong and being kind is not docile.
@Seraphina3311
4 ай бұрын
Yep the women in those countries are in survival mode or come from suppressed female slave type culture. The men who go there are the ones who couldn’t be a healthy enough man with anything solid to offer back home and blames it on women having actual standards now, but those men call healthy standards ‘bad attitude’ and ‘entitlement’ lol.
@YellowLemon1206
2 ай бұрын
This man respects women. Thank you for educating the internet community. ❤
@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf
Ай бұрын
He's a cheater. He has a clip out explaining why he cheated on his wife.
@gtaylor6937
4 ай бұрын
My grandmother bore ten children and would get beaten with a cast iron skillet by my grandfather. My mother was the only one of the ten who graduated from college. She came home on a break and caught my grandfather in one of the beatings and literally stood in his face, forbidding him to ever hurt my grandmother again. He threw her against the wall a few times but she kept getting up and in his face until he finally stopped. He never beat his wife again. Men are just mad that today's women are made of stronger stuff and won't let men get away with their abusive shit anymore.
@kj.4977
4 ай бұрын
Your mother sounds like a strong and empowering woman!
@melaninmoxiellc963
4 ай бұрын
Glad you're mom stood her ground! My father used to be very abusive until he tried me years ago when I was 26 when I knuckled up and fought him back (btw, were both combat vets)! Never touched me or my siblings again!
@CookieBitz
3 ай бұрын
they were strong too. just in a different way.
@jstu8
3 ай бұрын
They were strong then too but when you’re raised in a culture where you’re considered property and also abused, the rules are a bit different.
@enhancedlemons484
2 ай бұрын
That sounds horrible, and that should never have had to happen, I'm disgusted sometimes by how men treated women in those days. But I speak for myself when I say the reason I'M mad is because I'm constantly accused of being an oppressor when I'm just a normal guy. And I'm tired of being called a bigot when I speak up for myself or try to fight for my OWN rights. I also think feminism has brainwashed women into thinking that being a woman is lesser and that they should be more like men, and be independent. The reality is we need each other, so we shouldn't strive for independence from one another. We're not equals. So we shouldn't be treated like we are. Women ARE NOT LESSER. THEY ARE JUST DIFFERENT THAN MEN. We serve different roles and are better together. Like yin and yang.
@ladosis5596
5 ай бұрын
Oh, we don't WANT emotional "garbage". We're just sorting out said garbage out of our lives!
@servicioslinguisticos5502
5 ай бұрын
Preach! 🎉🎉🎉
@margaretkoev9760
5 ай бұрын
Very well said! Wish the men were here and listening!
@lawrencerutherford4260
4 ай бұрын
nah you just want shit to throw next time you argue over him spending too much time with the lads
@Spoiledkittyyyy
4 ай бұрын
@@lawrencerutherford4260yall are so annoying
@TheImmortalSnaiI
4 ай бұрын
@@lawrencerutherford4260bitch I’m a woman and I’m always invited to boys night. literally none of their girlfriends have said ANYTHING about boys night
@CrystalLia231
4 ай бұрын
Also, women have been forced to do so much and expect no validation for it, but so many of *those* men will do the dishes once and expect a parade. That's what we mean by equality in our relationships: no hypocrisy, no double standards, just fair and balanced.
@Callitout-kl1uq
3 ай бұрын
And I think doing the dishes is too low of a bar. If a mom is working a full time job just like the dad, all chores should be shared without question.
@alanoppel7485
3 ай бұрын
Man this made me laugh so hard, I know men, not a man, MEN! Who have broken their backs working their entire lives for kids they were told were theirs but weren't with out so much as a nod of acknowledgement let alone appreciation from anyone. Their reward after all that sacrifice, a small one bedroom apartment for them to die in that they can barely afford because, divorce, alimony, kids you've poured your heart and soul into that now hate your guts because they stay with their mother and her side of the story is the only one they will ever hear, plus she can just drop the "his not your dad anyway" cherry on top. But hey women just have it sooooooooo tough man.
@CrystalLia231
3 ай бұрын
@@alanoppel7485 there are literally men who annihilate their entire families when they find a new woman but sure that's worse. That just proves my point because the relationship that you're talking about is definitely not equal or even healthy.
@alanoppel7485
3 ай бұрын
@@CrystalLia231 come now "annihilate" those are few and far between yet as much as 30% of men who are told they are the father ....aren't, what you're saying and what I'm saying are no where near the same. But hey only women are victims man bad shit only counts when it happens to them right?!
@willb586
3 ай бұрын
@@alanoppel7485fr bruh,this comment section is so bizarre
@marietgagliardi
4 ай бұрын
I'd rather be alone then be with someone that doesn't treat me well. I'm self supporting and don't need to be married
@NorryaParsa
4 ай бұрын
Here's the thing: My mother's and grandmother's generation wanted that stuff too. They didn't ask because they knew it would fall on deaf ears. When men proved they can AND do listen, is when women became more vocal!
@TheSpiderInUrWalls
4 ай бұрын
Yes! The only reason people are aware of it now is because women are no longer basically their husband’s possession, and actually have a say. Me and my female friends were talking about how being born a guy would make life easier, and my male friend genuinely asked what the advantages were. As a serious question.
@christinesaviez8834
4 ай бұрын
My grandma was all set to leave, then she found out she was pregnant.
@_.soymilk
4 ай бұрын
Respectfully, women stood up even when men proved they don’t listen! Feminism didn’t come because of a change in attitude with men (clearly, as most men today still don’t get it). People in your mother/ grandmother’s generation stood up and fought against the grain
@bottomofastairwell
4 ай бұрын
yeah, sadly i don't think men proved they can listen. I think those women just fought ahrd enough for their own rights that we now HAVE rights for our generation. so now we AHVE options, we can work and make our own money, and we don't HAVE to put up with men's shit anymore. women are still shouting about what they want from the rooftops, and men still aren't listening. the difference is that we're not literally trapped with them anymore. so now we can just say "ok, you don't wanna listen, cool, i'm out" and leave. and they can't do shit about it, because we're not their property anymore. the women that came before us would be glad to see that their hard work and their fighting paid off, and that women actually have a choice now, when they didn't. i think they'd be really glad to know that their granddaughters and great granddaughters won't ever have to be trapped in a loveless marriage if they don't want to be
@woodykusaki9970
4 ай бұрын
Yeah and nowadays, the men are their wives' possession and feminists dare call that equality.
@mrose3299
5 ай бұрын
Sad that this feels new to people. My grandpa treated my grandma with mutual respect, understanding and shared responsibility back in the '40s. He always taught us that this is how you treat people you love. 💕 And mutual affection isn't some new feminist thing. You can find it in lovers' voices in the book of psalms. We always have and always will have the choice to love others more than we love our own wants.
@erzasteel2541
5 ай бұрын
Awww. My granny and my grandpa were like this, too. They had a beautiful relationship until he pased. Live was never easy for them but they were happier than the most couples I know, because they treated each other with love and respect.
@tjturner3916
5 ай бұрын
Women had no freedoms, choices, respect, love, fidelity or human dignity in those old-timey marriages. Men went to work and lived the rest of their lives like single men and women made the best of a bad situation. Women were miserable and literally no man cared, because men didn't have to care.
@frontdeskstaff9359
5 ай бұрын
And I bet your Grandma didn't treat your grandpa like most modern women treat men now.
@brendaliz.arteaga
5 ай бұрын
Respect to them!!; 👌✨You are very lucky to have that rare and positive example ❤ I am not as lucky :/
@tjturner3916
5 ай бұрын
@@frontdeskstaff9359 I bet Grandpa did things to earn that respect instead of expecting to be given respect simply for existing the way modern men do now.
@tjturner3916
5 ай бұрын
"Women expect men to care about them, respect them, and not treat them like slaves while they cheat." Yeah, that sounds so unreasonable.
@Ladivina74
5 ай бұрын
Not all women cheat
@DoNotFearTheReapa
5 ай бұрын
This guy is basically a woman so he can't exactly speak for men. A man gets angry, a man looks at porn, a man bottles things up. But, a man also is independent. He does the things you don't want to. He gets angry because he bottles things up to remain strong for others. He goes to get a drink because he needs a bit of time with none of the weight of every burden he's taken. He looks at porn because he'd prefer to be having sex with you, but you make it so complicated with your own insecurities and by constantly rejecting us because of your own insecurities. As men, we are not allowed to reject you, or be insecure ourselves. Yet you want us to do even more, and have nothing to keep ourselves sane except your shining light. It's a little one sided and narcissistic, don't you think? This guy, is not a man. This guy has no balls, and is nothing like the man you would want. Instead of showing your man these stupid videos, try talking to them without whining at them. This is an example of whining. Phrasing things as if you are already on a higher horse without considering there's two human beings in the conversation.
@LesleyMcgonagall
5 ай бұрын
@@Ladivina74 I was genuinely laughing hysterically when I read that! Dude! No one mentioned "wemen" cheating in the first place!😂😂😂 the unintentional humour is gold!
@tjturner3916
5 ай бұрын
@@Ladivina74 No, they don't. Not all women cheat, and not all men cheat. But the ones who complain on the internet that there are no good women and modern women are horrible DEFINITELY cheat. They don't think it's wrong for them to cheat, because Kevin Samuels and Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson all told them women have no value as people and are interchangeable dumpsters and should be treated as such.
@Thewhiteandorange
5 ай бұрын
**1900s end** some dudes: wait. i cant do wtfever i want and treat women like shit because they don't depend on me for survival anymore? what do you mean accountability, respect, and partnership? WTF ARE THESE EXPECTATIONS!?
@jaehenlee7633
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this real footage of your therapy session with my ex 😂😭😭😭
@littleone31917
2 ай бұрын
Lol
@leahmerchant1475
5 ай бұрын
Women always wanted these things but they couldn't leave crappy partners because they couldn't have a mortgage or a bank account without a male cosigner. If you were able to leave a horrible "partner" by using your own checking account to pay your own mortgage... thank a feminist.
@heresyisecstasy
5 ай бұрын
don't forget our guiding star, no fault divorce
@leahmerchant1475
5 ай бұрын
@@heresyisecstasy you're absolutely right. The suicide rate among married women dropped off a cliff with no fault divorce!
@jujubeethatsme
5 ай бұрын
Thank you for reminding us of this. It's important to remember that we are making a difference, even if it doesn't seem like it.
@Halollet
5 ай бұрын
100% It's only been 50 years since women could get a credit card. My mother was still in highschool when that law changed. So it's only been 2 generations since then.
@melblack7412
5 ай бұрын
Exactly.
@callmepiee2009
5 ай бұрын
In short: "Why can't I benefit from the abuse and exploitation of women now?!" - An incel's love letter to historical subjugation.
@ph8kenamepat
4 ай бұрын
Well said!!
@ameliadeshane9192
4 ай бұрын
Amen
@JeffSlapper
4 ай бұрын
Some women are still more than happy with their traditionally masculine men. To be honest it's getting harder and harder to find them with testosterone levels being at their all time lowest in all of human history.
@ph8kenamepat
4 ай бұрын
@@JeffSlapper Interesting comment, Mr. Slapper. Might your woman (if there is a real one) be into S/M? Because THAT is surely representative of MOST women.
@killerkraut9179
4 ай бұрын
Women in relationships are usual not loyal and dont have much worth!
@karanhdream
5 ай бұрын
I once talked about my expectations (basically most of what is in this short) in a relationship at a family gathering. My uncle exclaimed "You're expecting perfection!" and my aunt answered him "Her expectations are in Hell, they can't get any lower..."
@karanhdream
4 ай бұрын
@@carlopicanco2555 No they're siblings 🤣
@karanhdream
4 ай бұрын
@@carlopicanco2555 Actually they do, they're the kind of people who can argue very intensely and make up the next day or within the next hour, no resentment or nothin'
@JulieWhite-gt9le
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for educating men and women, boys and girls, of all age groups! You are helping people more than you'll ever know 😊. It's never too late to change, learn and find peace and happiness. This is awesome!
@hanananah
4 ай бұрын
1969 - introduction of no fault divorce 1974 - women gained the ability to own a credit card in their own name It's not that they expect more, it's that they have another choice now. Men weren't more free, women were less free.
@Bshdjdj-lt7by
4 ай бұрын
Men were less free they couldnt vote but were sent to war while women stayed home. women could spend all their husbands money too without getting any debt. Now women own most debt in the usa after getting the right to own credit cards 😂😂
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
@@Bshdjdj-lt7by it's the us vs them mentality, we had it bad, they had it good. an unreasonable statement at the best of times.
@roaroa5291
4 ай бұрын
@@Bshdjdj-lt7byMen were sent to war because the non-disposable gender was busy creating and raising society.
@mmerriman4995
4 ай бұрын
Spot on.
@killerkraut9179
4 ай бұрын
@@johnsmith-de3tl Where is the draft fo women in the Military?
@youdontknowme116
4 ай бұрын
"i believe they call that one affection" 😭🤚🏾
@TerraDactyl-hc9ff
5 ай бұрын
Heh, my boyfriend just broke up with me because he tried to convince me that he never said he could find better. I just uno reversed him comment and told him I could do the same. Now I’m the bad guy for returning the same energy. He never cared to listen to me but I had to listen to him. Asked him to delete his text history with his ex that was current and he was flirting with her a month before we got together but I’m wrong for considering that a red flag. Bro literally jumped from her to me and had told me he loved me on the 3rd week then tried forcing himself to live with me and just assumed I’d pay all the bills besides the rent with him like that’s a win…. Goodbye sir 👋
@luking4music363
5 ай бұрын
Yep, as a man, hope you find someone better, there's some toxic ass people everywhere
@caseywilde7931
5 ай бұрын
holy shit dude congrats on getting rid of the waste of space! I hope you enjoy your newfound peace!🫶
@lotusmccary9365
5 ай бұрын
Good call !!
@jenster29
5 ай бұрын
He sounds like a classic narcissist. Don't get sucked back in.
@nine73soldier
5 ай бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@debrawycherley9737
3 күн бұрын
Thanks for bringing laughter as you bring us wisdom. Grateful!
@finella777
4 ай бұрын
"I believe they call that one affection" got me rolling on the floor
@Delulubooklover
5 ай бұрын
“She wants me to value her opinion and respect her boundaries but I’m to lazy to actually put in any work to make our relationship better by becoming a better person who values her opinion and respects her boundaries”
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
me, me, me, me, me, me. if it's all about you, then its going to be only you in the end.
@shartkid
4 ай бұрын
Men that act like this would freak the fuck out,literally lose their shit, if they were treated like this by their woman.
@Mysteryspy
4 ай бұрын
@johnsmith-de3tl It's interesting you bring this up, because this is a problem for men trying to find good women too
@sophiastein2953
4 ай бұрын
@@johnsmith-de3tlomg!!! i’m sooo sorry that u think a woman getting her needs met is egotistical!! lol it seems to be all abt u ig….. it’s literally a hypothetical and the fact ur getting mad enough to comment says a lot abt how ur love life goes ❤
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
@@sophiastein2953 well, thats a ball of smug petty resentment. a dose of gas, some sophistry and the classic belittling. you do this alot dont you, even to your "friends" when they're not around.
@Mike-sj9si
4 ай бұрын
As I watched it set in how painfully accurate this is. One thing I have noticed is men who want to be better partners to women DO a lot of things for the woman - They fix her car. They buy her gifts. They open doors. Those are all great things and the effort is great! I just think men aren't taught to have awareness of the emotional part. For example buying her dinner is great but if you don't look her in the eyes and engage in meaningful conversation with her during that dinner then you won't have a deep relationship. Fixing her car is great but if you don't listen to her and try to take her perspective when she voices a concern in the relationship then you're falling short as a partner. Men need more awareness of how to actually have a relationship, not JUST how to do nice things for someone.
@YeshuaKingMessiah
4 ай бұрын
If I get my car fixed for free I can deal with no deep talks lol
@margaritasatmidnight3134
4 ай бұрын
While that's true, I wonder if they are just following the old rule: actions speak louder than words. They could certainly improve their interpersonal skills, but at least they are trying. The alone is an improvement over traditional marriages.
@katenicholson4152
4 ай бұрын
Shoot, that sounds amazing. Just throw a monthly date night in there, kindness, traditional values, and believe in God. I’d call that a winner. And no, he doesn’t need to be 6 feet tall and make 6 figures. That stuff is ridiculous.
@jadecoolness101
4 ай бұрын
@@margaritasatmidnight3134 "actions speak louder than words" but speaking is, in itself, an action. Words are not worthless, in fact they hold a lot of weight. You need actions and words.
@marinhusky8863
4 ай бұрын
You speak the truth. Gifts and flowers are not enjoyed if there's nothing behind them.
@batgirl4766
3 ай бұрын
Right lmao how dare we expect to be treated like living breathing human beings 😂😂😂
@MarthaAnthony
4 ай бұрын
Imagine feeling entitled to a relationship but being unprepared to contribute to it or listen to your partner...
@gtaylor6937
4 ай бұрын
You just perfectly described the approach of most men to relationships.
@clgr1323
3 ай бұрын
Its ok to be unprepared, as long as you are not unwilling, you can learnif you put your mind into it
@arshellnut2730
4 ай бұрын
Women today want to actually like their husbands. Wild.
@Tail_sez
4 ай бұрын
BUT BUT Men have it harder cos they are all oil rig workers and electricians and and they built the INFRASTRUCTURE of this society and women have easy jobs like teaching and nursing if women or mens went extingt in the stone age the alone men would have built a UTOPIA but the women would still be in caves doing the ooga booga by now. so women should like men no mater what because if it werenr for men this society would not exist and clearly all men had an equal role in building our society and should be trieated like the KINGS they are!!!!
@woodykusaki9970
4 ай бұрын
Men of today actually want to like their wives. Wild.
@radfaraf
3 ай бұрын
*claps*
@Vi_Vi_1
4 ай бұрын
I watched my mom get abused my entire childhood because she accepted a "traditional marriage" and therefore was entirely dependant on my father. It was horrible to witness and so hard to live through, when we were also underage and dependant, and now of course none of us ever want to be in a position where we can't leave if things get bad. And a lot of people make it sound like you're just running away at the slightest problem, but my father was violent and dangerous and it's probably just dumb luck that we're not all dead thanks to some of the stunts he pulled. So yeah, being able to escape in situations like that matters
@kj.4977
4 ай бұрын
So sorry you had to experience that. :(
@Vi_Vi_1
4 ай бұрын
@@kj.4977 thank you 💜 thankfully we're all out and safe now, but it was scary at the time
@iuliamoruz205
3 ай бұрын
Anyone else putting this on repeat cause it's so awesome to listen to and learn from? 😁 I am so grateful for this video! Thank you so much for posting it!
@shartkid
4 ай бұрын
Insane how men today just assume that being a terrible husband/partner was the norm 70 years ago
@killerkraut9179
4 ай бұрын
That is Bullshit it is scientific proven that women are the Problem!
@killerkraut9179
4 ай бұрын
Liar!
@jadecoolness101
4 ай бұрын
Women were legally property so.... it WAS the norm.
@killerkraut9179
4 ай бұрын
@@jadecoolness101 That was long in the past in the west!
@jadecoolness101
4 ай бұрын
@@killerkraut9179 "long in the past" Literally hasn't even been a century since women gained the right to a bank account and owning property...
@alexandraelhardt9767
5 ай бұрын
Dont forget that "back in the day" household chores were shared, there were just more outside ones that the men did. They wouldnt be expected to do dishes becaude they hauled the water and chopped the wood to make the fire to heat the water to do the dishes...and butchered the animal that the wife turned into sausage, and raised the flax the wife spun into linen for them to wear...there have always been jerks, but by and large you can only be so mean to someone on whom your *survival* depends before you realize teamwork is smarter. Dont let these dudes give you any nonesense about men not having to contribute back in the day!!!
@Exl_Kaldra
5 ай бұрын
especially where more and more couples are starting to live in apartments where there are no outside chores to be done besides vehicle maintenance and up keep. i would genuinely love to do the upkeep of a living space if i was doing it with a partner.
@sparkyblue7016
5 ай бұрын
So true. Also this whole weird narrative of women didn't work back in the day. Excuse me, women worked in farms, did fishing, didn't trading in marketplaces. It's hilarious to see this argument, because even now in rural areas you'd see women working in farms etc.
@Rob-me8vp
4 ай бұрын
Historically men sat around and did nothing. Especially the white men. They didn’t create anything. They had POC and women do all of the work. It is the same today.
@judyp.
4 ай бұрын
Isn't it interesting how society was able to outsource all these "men's chores" to machines and economy, but the domestic chores still need to be done by physical work. Tysm patriarchy.
@yourlocalstraycat1835
4 ай бұрын
Yeah but now a lot dont have these chores and still dont do anything inside the house. If someone was doing all that work out there i would be fine doing the work inside.
@emilyjohn2034
4 ай бұрын
The “I believe they call that affection” made me burst out laughing 🤣
@sarafarooq1
Ай бұрын
💯 % correct! You are so good!!
@taraupchurch9389
4 ай бұрын
This is why so many of us have chosen to stay single now. No expectations means no disappointments.
@whatisahandle221
4 ай бұрын
Yes, unfortunately. It would be better, though, if more of us all could improve in our ability to see, communicate, discuss, adapt, accept, and make decisions on more realistic expectations.
@woodykusaki9970
4 ай бұрын
Me too. No women, no disappointments.
@naheleshiriki5496
4 ай бұрын
I'm highly suspicious that being asexual runs in the family. Specifically with the women. It would biologically make sense. Since for centuries it didn't really matter if women had physical attraction. It wasn't ever her choice whether she got to have kids or not. So long as she wasn't barren that was happening either way. I can trace it back to three generations. My cousin is also Ace and so am I.
@vickiemarquant2483
4 ай бұрын
@@woodykusaki9970 You talk like your heart really is broken and I'm sorry about that. But your comment can also be offending the women out there who really work on themselves, on communication, authenticity, trust, faithfulness and their place as a good partner. Plus, the same can be said about men. And I'm sure you wouldn't like to hear that about you after all you did to be a good person and a good man. It's not about "no women, no disappointment" or "no men, no disappointment". It's more about "no broken, immature or inadequate partner, no disappointment", I guess.
@amethyst0ne
3 ай бұрын
@@woodykusaki9970mfer you said you were gay on another comment gtfo here 😂
@officially_underrated1719
4 ай бұрын
I had a teacher explain to the class that, “men look at women all the time it’s perfectly fine”. He went on a rant to explain that it’s okay for guys to look at other women because that’s the “natural order of things” and when someone proposed what if a girl looks he said, “women don’t look because when they seek a mate then stay with that mate. And that’s why they get mad when men look” It was too much incorrect and unnecessary information for a 10:00 am history class.
@debdras
4 ай бұрын
"Women don't look" 😂😂😂 bwahahaha! Of course we look! And not to cheat, just to look. What? 😂😂😂 Delulu fella, what an idiot, he prob don't know his wife is looking, too, because he is too busy looking himself. Humans be thinking "men are visual creatures" like women don't have eyes, and as if in the rest of the animal kingdom it wasn't the males who pretty up to impress the gals. I'm honestly sorry we've been forced to settle for some mediocre dudes (and I'm not saying it cause I'm superficial, but because women really be out here wearing their best colors and some mofos you can't even get to wash their hands after pissing, I mean, c'mon!).
@gtaylor6937
4 ай бұрын
When I was in couples counseling before I divorced my husband, the therapist said that men "don't even see the dirt" in a poorly maintained home, so they can't be expected to always know when to help clean it. I gave her the finger and him his walking papers and never looked back.
@ShadowSkyX
4 ай бұрын
@gtaylor6937 very mature, shooting off the bird? What are you, in middle school?
@clairewest6336
4 ай бұрын
@@ShadowSkyX In some cases, like this example of therapeutic malpractice, the bird can be the most eloquent response. If a guy were a firefighter, sharing a house with a bunch of other firefighters, all responsible for the upkeep and safety of their station - if he told his fire chief that he just can't see the dirt so he can't be expected to clean? He'd be on his ass in the street so fast it would make his head spin.
@gtaylor6937
4 ай бұрын
@@clairewest6336 Ha ha ha ha!! That is hilarious! And yeah, what do you think the remaining firefighters would be saying? "F**k that guy!"
@Yassmine_Amelia
4 ай бұрын
It's giving '' how dare women not be oppressed anymore 😡😡😡''
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
alot of anger, resentment. what about men makes you angry at such a base level?
@naheleshiriki5496
4 ай бұрын
They're quoting someone, they themselves are not the angry ones. Notice how the Emojis are still within the " " ?
@Yassmine_Amelia
4 ай бұрын
I am quoting the men lol, I meant that the men who say those words are the ones that are angry. Lol@@johnsmith-de3tl
@AK-jt7kh
4 ай бұрын
Know what's crazy? Aside from the domestic labor & going out to bars, men of my grandmas generation treated women much better than men treat women today. I know this because my cousin & I hang out with my 97 year old grandma & exchange stories about dating and (her) marriage. The domestic labor is true - that was far worse - but even then...my grandpa never would have just thrown his dirty underwear on the floor for grandma to pick up. She might pick up after their kids, but not him (a fellow adult). Her mother had it much worse & according to grandma, men viewed women as property during that generation, but in grandmas generation, they were seen as partners. My very unpopular opinion (as a woman who works without intentions of marrying) is that this changed during the latchkey generation when it was normal to have both parents work full time. During my grandmas generation, women were seen as the rulers of the roost in a sense - they managed & operated the household & children. Because of this they also taught children their values and had deep relationships with their kids. My mom used to walk home for lunch during the school day & after school she would hang out & talk to her mom or grandma. That is where kids learned morals, how to handle social challenges, and what the "rules" were. Society has changed & we can't go backwards, but we can't let kids be raised by institutions & the media either. We end up with adults that have no sense of what is okay & not okay in terms of how they should act in a relationship, or even just dating.
@Daughter_of_God21
5 ай бұрын
Lol, I'm going to need a copy of that list, Jimmy. 😂 It'll remind me of my non-negotiables 👍
@Lisanoencasa
5 ай бұрын
Yes!
@DoNotFearTheReapa
5 ай бұрын
This guy is basically a woman so he can't exactly speak for men. A man gets angry, a man looks at porn, a man bottles things up. But, a man also is independent. He does the things you don't want to. He gets angry because he bottles things up to remain strong for others. He goes to get a drink because he needs a bit of time with none of the weight of every burden he's taken. He looks at porn because he'd prefer to be having sex with you, but you make it so complicated with your own insecurities and by constantly rejecting us because of your own insecurities. As men, we are not allowed to reject you, or be insecure ourselves. Yet you want us to do even more, and have nothing to keep ourselves sane except your shining light. It's a little one sided and narcissistic, don't you think? This guy, is not a man. This guy has no balls, and is nothing like the man you would want. Instead of showing your man these stupid videos, try talking to them without whining at them. This is an example of whining. Phrasing things as if you are already on a higher horse without considering there's two human beings in the conversation.
@tash4710
5 ай бұрын
1. Bare Minimum levels of intimacy and connection. 2. Equality & Shared Responsibility around mutual chores 3. Not to be overlooked or Neglected 4. Partner with integrity that they can trust 5.Mutual Respect 6.Affection 🩷
@beneficent2557
5 ай бұрын
Here's my non-negotiable. I don't take marriage advice from known philanderers like "Jimmy." Most of these guys getting thrown under the bus in divorce court aren't spineless cheaters dude.... Of course he would prioritize emotional validation over reality, the entire basis of his relationship is predicated upon her emotional convenience. Why is it that channels like this never get the Thanos snap? We get it KZitem, women are always above criticism.
@Benefacez
5 ай бұрын
@@beneficent2557 Lol...
@mintallylost222
5 ай бұрын
I would also like to talk about how working was traditionally a man thing and household labour was traditionally a woman thing. In this day and age, when a woman works, it's the bare minimum, but when a man does the household chores, he's praised and seen as a king, even though... it's also the bare minimum. The bare minimum for being a functioning adult.
@EcstaticTeaTime
4 ай бұрын
A continuing undercurrent is the magical "I did this all the time before I was married" pipeline. Yes, sir, I don't doubt you could do it before you entered a committed relationship. Remind me again how long has it been since you last had to do it. Before you could buy collars that didn't need to be starched?
@fireandsugar2625
4 ай бұрын
Women have ALWAYS worked throughout history. The past was not like the idealised 1950's where the man worked and the woman stayed home. For all of human history women have worked.
@mintallylost222
4 ай бұрын
@@fireandsugar2625 Yes exactly. Even when I bring up the fact that "who tf was running the society while men are at war" point, *some* men still don't listen.
@janiefk
4 ай бұрын
Actually the "traditional" thing was both men and women equally worked to survive and keep their family alive. Society was more socialist (at least among the middle classes/peer groups) and communities supported each other. Both men and women helped with chores and doing work for trade or (eventually) money to get things that they couldn't get or make themselves from others. The time period when men went out to work and women stayed home was just a blip in our timeline as humans. It's weird that that is called "traditional."
@MxS1996
4 ай бұрын
@@janiefkthey do that to make us fight amongst ourselves and cause more divide. The comment above saying that women working are accomplishing the bare minimum are really out of touch with the workplace environment because that's not true at all.
@rtnightmare
5 ай бұрын
If you can't respect us, you don't deserve us. 🤷🏻♀️
@abidizzne892
5 ай бұрын
Women expect more because they learned what happened if they expected less
@margaretkoev9760
5 ай бұрын
YES!! And if we stop speaking up that upward climb we arduously trudged can have us rolling backwards fast! This isn’t the first time women have spoken out after being suppressed-it was just the most successful!
@appa85
5 ай бұрын
"where are you hiding clipboards?!" 😂
@beneficent2557
5 ай бұрын
Maybe its where he is hiding all those affairs he had? (I sincerely doubt it was JUST one).
@LilFeralGangrel
5 ай бұрын
"i want respect" "oh god what are going to ask for next!? the moon!? women these days!!"
@Sunshinelollipsandrainbows
4 ай бұрын
nah cuz its even worse at school i saw a girl ask her "boyfriend" from some of his water and he said "wow you really want everything from me dont you?"
@Suited_Nat
4 ай бұрын
Op It’s more like: Woman: I don’t feel that respected in our relationship. Guy: God! Modern women these days are so egotistical!!
@helgardhossain9038
4 ай бұрын
Yes, respect, love and common ground is the basis of a good marriage, a lovely friend of mine told me once. If a man doesn't respect his wife, it's simply better to leave. Why bother & waste time ... ? He is not going to change.
@tesladrew2608
4 ай бұрын
Let's be honest, he's being disingenuous here and ignoring men's actual concerns
@tesladrew2608
4 ай бұрын
@@Suited_Natif this is what you think most guys think, you're delusional
@dawncolorado2120
4 ай бұрын
Because we legally couldn't walk away, buy our own houses and get our own credit. Once we could do that and live on our own, game changer. We never wanted to put up with the garbage from before, we HAD to in order to eat and sleep indoors.
@LMCorvinus
5 ай бұрын
1, i hate that only when men say this do others listen. 2, I'm horribly distracted by the awesome plant collection.
@lanitaykelley8838
Ай бұрын
"distracted by the awesome plant collection"
@EternalCrimson.
4 ай бұрын
I feel so lucky and blessed to have a man who does all those things. We respect, and treat each other equally. I don't understand whats so hard about doing the bare minimum ?????
@lauraelliot5716
4 ай бұрын
Yes I agree both some feel like equals not like the man dominates. Even if you look to him as a shoulder and a protector and someone to protect you or look out for you. So I do not at all know what is wrong with seeing it that way He is still protecting you without being the dominant one.
@EternalCrimson.
4 ай бұрын
@@lauraelliot5716 Yeah. He knows I would not stay with him if he treated me like property. I go to him for anything and we listen to each other and learn from each other. It's really simple and nice.
@lauraelliot5716
4 ай бұрын
@@EternalCrimson. I'm glad it is like that for you It is good you have a very open relationship like that. And you can talk to each other and treat each other with respect. That is a healthy relationship. 😊
@TheotherKirby
4 ай бұрын
Its sad that nobody listens unless a man says it. If a women says it they will be called "overdramatic"
@POIUYTREWQ62
4 ай бұрын
People listen when it comes from a man because men tend to be more logical / make sense.
@lakshmisinghal4816
4 ай бұрын
@@POIUYTREWQ62😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 JOKE OF THE YEAR!!! MUHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!
@nottoday7801
4 ай бұрын
@@POIUYTREWQ62with that bias set in mind, it makes sense doctors tend to overlook/ignore/minimize their female patients symptom and diagnosis in comparison to their male patients. Good contribution in keeping that trend alive 😂
@MxS1996
4 ай бұрын
I think you're very mistaken. People don't even listen to men. If that were the case, a lot of the stuff that has been said these past couple of years or even decades would have stuck. People are just tuning each other out because it's not what they want to hear
@MrNesgamefreak
4 ай бұрын
@@MxS1996truth
@alianna8806
4 ай бұрын
Whenever people tell me to lower my standards I tell them I had to work hard to get here and they are probably only going to get higher
@lauraelliot5716
4 ай бұрын
Same xx But all I want is kindness and love and that is not high standards but can seem like it at times but maybe I'm wrong
@alianna8806
4 ай бұрын
@@lauraelliot5716 Seems like a very basic reasonable standard
@lauraelliot5716
4 ай бұрын
@alianna8806 yes Why expect anything else? Thanks🩷🩷 Who would say kindness is wrong when it is needed for love
@BeatrixTomomizu
5 ай бұрын
"why do they expect so much more" Because we CAN. We have the CHOICE to be with someone and it's no longer a necessity to not be looked down on or be ridiculed by society. Women NEEDED a man the longest time cause they were forbidden to do anything without husbands approval. And by god if you died unmarried. Hell awaits you. We demand, cause we CAN. We have a choice. So men should stop being so stuck in the past and enjoy life instead of choking down every emotion and in the end burst all that in one hell of a fight. It's not healthy. So please life a joyful life. With or without a partner. You don't NEED one. You can choose someone to walk through life with. And I think that's the most beautiful thing we have nowadays.
@Nionivek
5 ай бұрын
Men don't have it so easy either and one of the major turning points in the modern day is that WHAT each sex wants from the other is in a state of flux. . Also society typically demonizes male emotions. Or shall we forget "Male tears".
@Exl_Kaldra
5 ай бұрын
i cant live a joyful life when both men and women put so much out there to make me feel so worthless no matter what i do no matter how hard i work on myself. i just want to love and be loved but every where i turn theirs another person saying why i shouldn't.
@BeatrixTomomizu
5 ай бұрын
@@Exl_Kaldra start with loving yourself. It is way harder than loving others, but it is a necessary step. If you achieved selflove and selfworth with that, you also gonna have expectations others need to fulfill. It's hard and I have experience. I was in a relationship thinking if that would not work out, nobody else is gonna love me, cause I'm weird af. But when that guy broke up with me I wiped my tears away and had my look straight forward. And to be honest I needed a few days for that. And that was pretty fast cause he had the worst reason for me to break up - he had developed a crush on someone else. I have to give him that he broke up BEFORE telling the other girl and I still smirk about the fact that she rejected him, but because my mom always told me that I'm a beautiful human being and just perfect as I am, i had enough self-esteem to say "fuck it" and not get swayed by him crying he wants me back (cause if his feelings changed once, who tells me this won't happen again! And I'm definetly not the last choice!) It hurt, of course, but I now have an amazing partner who makes me laugh every day and is by my side if I have sorrow. We still have to work on communication even after 8 years but we do this shit together. But it started with me NOT giving myself for nothing. Selflove, selfrespect and selfesteem are actually the most attractive of a human being. You walk diffrent, talk diffrent, you just have a complete diffrent look. So first find things you like about yourself. Things you are good at (and try not to compare yourself to others, that can be devastating like "but I will never be THAT good"). Find things YOU enjoy and like. Search for groups/gatherings or something alike for those things you like and just make friends. That's how I actually clicked but it never hurts to have people to tell you "you are a great person to be around!" But it starts with loving yourself. It starts with YOU having expectations yourself. And heck, I have a friend who still needs to find that. She's my best friend and I help as much as I can, but SHE needs to find it. I can just remind her of how happy I am to have her in my life. I don't know your situation in life but there is for sure a space for you somewhere. There is always space to fit in and have people enjoying your presence. Though it can be quite tough. It's possible. And the thing is: everyone expects diffrent things. I, for example, don't expect my partner to completely finance me or the family. Heck, I would get bored only sitting at home doing homework. I want to be equal with my partner and I want him to provide everything I also give him. Emotional support, physical affirmation and attention when he seems to want to tell me or show me something no matter how much I absolutely don't care about the thing he talks about. Just to list some. I think it's absolutely necessary to only expect things we ourselfes are willing to give, but everyone is diffrent. And I wish you all the luck and sucess to find that one person who fits into your expectations and in whos expectations you fit. The world was never black and white and it just gets more colorful as we progress. People don't have to live like in the 70s or 80s with strikt roles. They can CHOOSE to do so. And that's beautiful. A bit more work cause you need to find that someone out of a lot of people, but it's doable. I think it was like every second marriage ends in divorce - which also means half of them are successful! And not because someone CAN'T leave due to reason, but DON'T WANT TO leave. You can do it. It sometimes needs a change of perspective~
@cutetwirll
4 ай бұрын
PREACH
@letsbereal9455
4 ай бұрын
Don't know where you got those ideas, but they are not historically accurate.
@Faefair
4 ай бұрын
We should just let the men that complain be alone until they level up. Like literally as women make a pact to just not deal with those kinds of men until they come correct. Evolve or die ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I am glad there are men like this guy tho, restores my faith in men
@renukapasupuleti575
4 ай бұрын
I liked that evolve or die 😂😂
@ShadowSkyX
4 ай бұрын
Oh they'll just find enablers
@naheleshiriki5496
4 ай бұрын
Live in the new world or die in the old one. That is the law of every land.
@abstracttechnician2750
4 ай бұрын
Do that. I mean, either they will get in line or off themselves. Either way, women win.
@ashwiniks6703
4 ай бұрын
This is gold!!! The way some men out there are complaining and being so ignorant.
@killerkraut9179
4 ай бұрын
No this is dirt! You are ignorant!
@metalmagerin3
2 ай бұрын
Alright, whoever made these complaints, they're as shallow as "she won't put out for me!" There are actual complaints to be made, though. For example, social intelligence. The amount of guys complaining their conversations, their attempts at being witty or charming get nothing but a "hey" or a "lol" in response. Hinge and Bumble tried to fix it by making women make the first move and they had to make icebreaker starters 'cause the problem went there, too. Know how to start a conversation without it being a complaint about something, please. Double standard expectations: A group of girls was interviewed and asked what they'd do if their man refused to have sex with them when they really wanted to. The responses were criminal. I still don't forgive Cardi B for drugging that dude, but I guess courts do. There's a lot of manipulation women can get away with. There's a lot men can get away with too, like the Tinder Swindler. But this is in defense of men. Final example I'll give is the perception of men. We aren't ATMs, or repair kits, or breeding studs, or any combination of the three. We have emotions too. And if you get the 'ick' at the drop of a hat like from folded legs or crying at a sad movie, like, wh- no. I get it. Both sides. I get it. Women have to vet, because babies take 18 years and 9 months. I GET IT. But if you don't understand there ARE actual complaints, you can go pick the bear with the rest of them while you wonder why lesbian relationships (two women) have twice the divorce rate of gay relationships (two men).
@CoRLex-jh5vx
4 ай бұрын
Its because women don't NEED to be in a relationship to survive anymore. If they're in one, they need things that make them WANT to be in that relationship other than "I would be destitute otherwise." Turns out standards can go way up when forced dependence is eliminated
@Marie-Annelise
4 ай бұрын
This man is doing the lord's work.
@mariag.8242
4 ай бұрын
So many sad guys in here saying that what women really want is 6 feet, 6 figures and a 6 pack. Guys, stop watching the manosphere channels and just grow up into a whole adult person.
@Kaylor-xo3oo
4 ай бұрын
It is not worth giving up your happiness to be with a woman.
@billcipher8645
4 ай бұрын
@@Kaylor-xo3ooyes. Everyone agrees with that? How is that even a response to that comment?
@Kaylor-xo3oo
4 ай бұрын
@@billcipher8645 In the past, I used to take it as I had to be submissive to my partner. That is also a recipe for abuse. So, I just want to make things clear for anyone that comes across it.
@JDMimeTHEFIRST
4 ай бұрын
But I do want a guy who is in shape and funny . because I’M in shape and funny! Why is it wrong for women to have desires that match our lifestyle. Men are upset we are starting to do the same things they’ve always done 😅. Have expectations and desires. Women have a right to be picky. Just like men have been. Take a note from us women. Start improving yourselves now or end up alone 😅. Women had the leg up on self improvement. Men need to stop blaming women and start working on themselves. Start working on those abs 😅
@JDMimeTHEFIRST
4 ай бұрын
@@Kaylor-xo3oo Hey man, it’s okay to be gay. You can marry a man now and live a happy life. Congratulations on coming out 🎉
@blackrapier713
2 ай бұрын
The only things that are ACTUALLY bullshit expectations are the 6/6/6 and expectation of vulnerability without the "baggage" that comes with it. And there IS a difference between emotional vulnerability and trauma dumping that most people on both ends just don't understand. Do note that if you ask "what's wrong" and then react poorly to honesty and openness, you lose all rights to complain about it.
@friedsoybean
4 ай бұрын
My bestfriend broke up with her 4 years bf because his mom thought she was "the type that won't do chores and hires nanny" and that she won't help him at the store (her ex bf owns a grocery store). My friend has a comfortable job, how dare they expected her to leave and start unpaid fulltime work at home *and* at the store 😂
@MISSYGful
4 ай бұрын
We don't EXPECT so much more, We just dont ACCEPT so much less.
@eaglesandowls
4 ай бұрын
wrong
@nathanmstroud
4 ай бұрын
Definitely not even a good thing for it to be that way even if you're right. Start listening to men and watch what happens.
@jeremyeblack4987
4 ай бұрын
@@nathanmstroudare you listening to women? No, you just want to he in control.
@nathanmstroud
4 ай бұрын
@@jeremyeblack4987 B*tch, the reason why I learned all the shit that I know now is because I listened to women. Project onto someone else.
@nathanmstroud
4 ай бұрын
@@jeremyeblack4987 hold on, the fuck? You're actually disagreeing with this? Are you kidding me?? Do you have any idea how many women I listen to?? Think about what I wrote.
@elenadelavega2861
5 ай бұрын
And thus I divorced the guy who would not talk to me and just groped me. But I had the means and freedom to do so. Women had no rights in the past and that is what some “traditional “ groups want to take us back to.
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
that needs some filling out, this a classic 80s movie sleazeball kinda marriage, where he doesn't talk but comes home after a shift and wants to eat dinner and go balls deep with or without you having anything to say or the awkward attempts of a man with no communications skill to convey affection in what sounds like a failing marriage.
@amomslife4560
4 ай бұрын
Can I just say… thank you? Thank you for validating all these “trivial” concerns of women - the other short, “people aren’t responsible for how we feel”… just thanks, for not labeling our needs as unrealistic 😢❤
@patbenz4327
4 ай бұрын
That's your hero, huh? Says everything you wanna hear... But somehow still got divorced. But women are perfect innocent doves...
@amomslife4560
3 ай бұрын
@@patbenz4327 I said thank you to an influencer for making women’s need feel understood and validated and you likened that to “he’s my hero”? I pointed out a reel that explains people ARE capable of making us feel certain emotions, and you say “women act like innocent doves”? I’m just wondering where are you in your own love life where you would be disrespectful to a woman you don’t know and talk poorly about women in general? I’m sorry that you think so negatively of women, that we just walk around acting like we do no harm, when all that was said is “thanks for making me feel heard”. lol 😂
@fluffy_mcflooferson4635
5 ай бұрын
The nonconsensual groping, that never stopped despite all my begging to stop it, ultimately killed all my desire -> goodbye marriage.
@Nionivek
5 ай бұрын
Honestly... I cannot think of a culture where this was considered acceptable... AT BEST it was "allowed".
@ArohiVasquez
5 ай бұрын
@@Nionivekit’s everywhere anyway. The guy who raped me came out two months of prison and he came after me again and again. He raped someone under 12yrs old about 2 or 3 years ago. He’s on parole. He still use internet to contact his victims and guilt tripping us all over. I blocked him everywhere . This is in nyc. We are deaf so hearing people know but turns their heads to another side. All my life we are always being molested and raped from toddlers to 21. my teacher didn’t care that we were being molested by the babysitter who’s a teen. He molested all deaf kids one by one in class and then raped deaf teenagers. The teacher said “ and so what?” And that was in Dominican rep. The world is fucked up with males. Don’t forget what was allowed back then, women get kidnapped by men to get raped so men can marry them. That’s disgusting.
@lynnebucher6537
4 ай бұрын
Sounds like my ex husband. His idea of foreplay was abrupt breast grabbing while we were watching TV.
@lmendez1289
4 ай бұрын
so, your husband being attracted to you was a problem? Why are you all so twisted and unhappy?
@Kerastalise
4 ай бұрын
@@lmendez1289do you touch people everywhere you go based on who you’re attracted to?
@heididuncan601
5 ай бұрын
I'd say all that was expected and normal before. My Dad did alot of chores/ housework plus he was the sole income earner and remodeled our house. Plus he read the books my mom wanted him to to improve their marriage. They're still happily married 😊 And his Dad did all that and more. Same with his brother.
@jj4774ns-te5px
5 ай бұрын
So rare
@Andy-xx3tt
4 ай бұрын
I always knew I had a good dad but I didn’t realize how much I lucked out until I became an adult. That’s when I started to hear stories from other people’s childhoods about their dad’s being present physically but totally absent in every way that matters. I’ve also seen a few family members and friends get married and then be miserable once they have kids because their husbands won’t contribute equally and need to be told what to do even though they were the ones that were desperate to have kids. My cousin was married for 10 years and she had to tell her husband _daily_ to feed their baby when she had to leave for school for a few hours. She’d go as far as to measure everything out for him and leave it on the counter and she said that there were a couple of times when she’d come home and the baby would be wailing because he was hungry and her husband would be asleep on the sofa with HIS empty plate of food next to him. She’d get so mad because he could remember to feed himself but not the crying baby. I don’t know why she put up with it for so long but that’s basically how it went for years. When their son was around 2, he started pressuring her telling her that he wanted another child. Oh, this guy also had two other kids from a previous marriage and basically ignored them when it was his turn to have them. But yeah, he wanted another kid because he was SUCH a good dad. 😑
@spycenrice8108
4 ай бұрын
It most certainly wasn’t normal. Marital rape became illegal in 1993. That should tell you plenty.
@samanthac.349
4 ай бұрын
There are rare gems out there, but they are too far and few between.
@Imserious184
4 ай бұрын
Same with my grandparents. But please don't think it was the same for the most.
@HeidiSholl
4 ай бұрын
When I was in my last relationship, it was discussed that I do the laundry and he does the washing up (I hate washing up, he hated laundry so I thought that was a fair compromise). What was not compromised on was literally everything else. I was working 2 jobs to his 1, and ended up doing all of the other cleaning on top of that. At the time I just thought "well at least I don't have to wash up", but I kind of ended up doing that too because things that he washed up were still dirty. Looking back I was a fool, and no flipping wonder I was ill all the time and depressed 😂
@Piecesoftheshadow
Ай бұрын
You’re such a positive role model for men, and help so many couples too.
@Melissatutors
5 ай бұрын
Glad you mentioned groping. I asked my partner to stop groping me suddenly and gave him other options. He's taking it personally trying to make it sound like most women like it. Isn't that gaslighting?
@johnsmith-de3tl
4 ай бұрын
if he keeps doing it then yes, if it was just for that argument then it was experience. change his experience and its gone.
@veram1545
4 ай бұрын
what does it matter what "most" women like? he's together with YOU, therefore he should listen to what YOU like, not "most women".
@tdelioncourt1268
4 ай бұрын
@@veram1545 this, he's pressuring her to conform rather than catter to her, icky
@loveinspired5898
5 ай бұрын
Can't wait to play this one when he gets home from work today ❤️ the looking at other women online one is waaaay too widely expected to be ACCEPTED by women that the guys want to do this. It's insane.
@EdithEsquivel
5 ай бұрын
Don't play this to him. It will feel like an attack. Check the gottman material first. Read on how to fight. Showing KZitem shorts is not the way.
@sapphirestar3978
5 ай бұрын
i've tried using videos to express my feelings before and it doesnt work. You need to tell him some of how you feel and honestly sometimes it comes down to just finding someone else. Because in my experience men can be sometimes stubborn and unwilling to change their bad habits. Don't be afraid to walk away if something bothers you badly now, it will bother you even more later on.
@Ladivina74
5 ай бұрын
@@sapphirestar3978and sometimes they pretend they has changed and later on they go back to the same behavior.. they are hard to change.
@sapphirestar3978
5 ай бұрын
@@Ladivina74 To be honest i dont think they pretend, at least that hasnt been my experience. I believe some do dont get me wrong but in my experiences men (and to be honest sometimes women because i am not an angel either) can sometimes say sorry and mean it and yet dont have the will power or care enough to change. A friend of mine had a tendency to say sorry and cry and even try to make it up to me and would change for a while but fall into bad habits again sometimes without even realizing. I think by how he treated me, he did really care but he really struggled with selfishness that would cause him to drift back into those bad habits. Since then im of the belief, no one is truly good, its just we all have different levels of self control to resist bad temptations. I think its important when dating or making friends that you look at people not as good or bad but more so their flaws and how they handle them. Sometimes Someone can be so genuinely good intentioned but can still cause such pain to someone else. And I'll be honest, those are the hardest to leave behind but good intentions doesnt equal the ability to change for good. The best advice my father offered me was "instead of looking for the best person for you, be the best kind of person for someone else because thats how you find the best person" be the kind person you'd want to date.
@Ladivina74
5 ай бұрын
@@sapphirestar3978well I understand what you say.. but they sometimes do it for a long while too.. and that is very confusing.. and also, I have done that too so many times, treat others how I would like them to treat me, and that does not work either 😢 so it is hard for people to change.
@TheKinglaharl
3 ай бұрын
"we can't even like half naked photos of models on Instagram" Hey if she is the type that posts those pics then those complaints aren't even valid But if she doesn't post those, then it's absolutely valid. Don't ask for a partner to have more integrity and trustworthiness than you're willing to have 🤷🏾♂️.
@gibby1097
5 ай бұрын
The thing is things really haven’t changed that much. If you go back 200 years ago you’ll find men and women fighting for the same reasons just in slightly different forms. I remember watching a musical from the 50s and they talk in a different way more old school English but my brain was blown to see that the couple in it had the exact same issues I’ve seen in real life. It may have been way more difficult in previous times for women to leave because they were more dependent on men but they still had the same annoyances with men
@aprilhoffman3090
5 ай бұрын
yes. I continuously ask men online if they truly just don't want love like women do, and it's just centuries of women trying to make men want what they'll never really want? I'd rather just know. The Golden Girls looked like a fun way to grow old with friends instead. And men will still be around for dating and fun sometimes. Why not? We don't need to populate the earth anymore.
@Objective-Observer
5 ай бұрын
You are wrong. Hollywood of the 50's, portraying marriages as battle grounds in the past, was them trying to rewrite history to fit their current Narrative.... Just like today: with ethnic minority Little Mermaids, Ethnically and Sexually diverse Dwarves, and Lesbian Little Women. Reality has rarely been Hollywoods stock in trade. Hollywood in the past, didn't portray real life, anymore than Hollywood portrays the average stable marriage and home, of the Heartland of today.
@Objective-Observer
5 ай бұрын
@@aprilhoffman3090 Okay, lets rip off Hollywoods Glamorization of four retired women WHO WERE SO DESTITUTE THEY COULD NOT AFFORD TO LIVE ALONE. They relied on the Slut of the four who married so many wealthy men to have a large lovely home, and a lot of money to leave their wife. Without that Slut, the other three would be living in a Medicaid lousy nursing home.
@kaihiroku8495
5 ай бұрын
@excellence229 There's a difference between not loving the same way, and having expectations such as the ones in the video. Oh you love us so much you want us to do the dishes, cook and clean? Lmao.
@aprilhoffman3090
5 ай бұрын
@excellence229 That's what I'm asking. What is love to men? Do they value it?
@MicheleHerrmann
5 ай бұрын
Because we don't want to be treated as doormats.
@Ashbringer36
5 ай бұрын
Yeah you want to put the shoe on the other foot rather then take on actual equality
@TheImmortalSnaiI
4 ай бұрын
@@Ashbringer36your analogy is literal proving equality though?… think of another analogy and come back to me
@Ashbringer36
4 ай бұрын
@@TheImmortalSnaiI do you seriously not know “shoe on the other foot” as a term? It’s a pretty common one at least where I live. “Now that the shoe is on the other foot” implying that the person beign spoken to is now experiencing what you did. In other words I’m accusing the OP and most modern day feminists for that matter of being more concerned about making men the doormats like they were in the past rather then going for actual equality Is that better?
@poisonmist13
4 ай бұрын
Why I’m single by choice. Because the ratio of man to man-child is imbalanced in my area. I was getting cat-called daily by men in trucks when I was 15 years old. I’m lucky I wasn’t traded for a cow.
@these_wild_hearts2573
4 ай бұрын
It started at 12 for me
@bookbutterfly2408
4 ай бұрын
It started at 8 for me. I was also a lot taller than average.
@Tashishi0
4 ай бұрын
@@bookbutterfly2408 Same here
@va.m.3818
4 ай бұрын
You made me laugh ! Same for me
@shojodraws3399
Ай бұрын
"Why do women today expect so much more than they did generations ago?" Because we have options now. Honey, if you aren't willing to be a good healthy partner in life, someone else is.
@everlasting9292
4 ай бұрын
“I believe the call that one affection.” 😂😂
@K000H
4 ай бұрын
Some men just wanna marry their moms for real.
@l.r.775
5 ай бұрын
Hysterical and spot on! Love the clarification on each. Light humor good perspective/interpretation. People get lax or over powering and it becomes a widely accepted 'norm'. Rude. Lets progress with respect and understanding 👍
@DoNotFearTheReapa
5 ай бұрын
This guy is basically a woman so he can't exactly speak for men. A man gets angry, a man looks at porn, a man bottles things up. But, a man also is independent. He does the things you don't want to. He gets angry because he bottles things up to remain strong for others. He goes to get a drink because he needs a bit of time with none of the weight of every burden he's taken. He looks at porn because he'd prefer to be having sex with you, but you make it so complicated with your own insecurities and by constantly rejecting us because of your own insecurities. As men, we are not allowed to reject you, or be insecure ourselves. Yet you want us to do even more, and have nothing to keep ourselves sane except your shining light. It's a little one sided and narcissistic, don't you think? This guy, is not a man. This guy has no balls, and is nothing like the man you would want. Instead of showing your man these stupid videos, try talking to them without whining at them. This is an example of whining. Phrasing things as if you are already on a higher horse without considering there's two human beings in the conversation.
@peteywheatstraw4970
3 күн бұрын
Friggen love this! Love you Jimmy! 😂
@Rachel-xt8tg
5 ай бұрын
Sometimes I am very glad I’m a lesbian
@melamw8402
4 ай бұрын
Sometimes I envy you bc I am not😂
@notbeanbag8764
4 ай бұрын
@@melamw8402sometimes I wish liking every gender didn't include men™ 💀😂
@TheImmortalSnaiI
4 ай бұрын
bi person here!! there is a SHOCKING difference to the compliments when I go on first dates with women vs with men
@susanmiller7560
4 ай бұрын
@@TheImmortalSnaiI What is the difference? You've piqued my curiosity now.
@TheImmortalSnaiI
4 ай бұрын
@@susanmiller7560 This video , despite looking exaggerated, actually portrays it pretty spot-on, but maybe I’ve only gone on dates with some of the bad apples kzitem.infoiEupdOJZRfQ?si=XUvgcYigwAfl33ff
@Katra21
5 ай бұрын
I think you hit the nail on the head with giving the toxic guy the line, "Beggars can't be choosers." This type of thinking relies on women to be deprived of basic needs to begin with and to accept scraps.
@bottomofastairwell
4 ай бұрын
except now, we can provide those basic things for yourselves. and then some. men are really gonna lose their minds when the 4B movement takes off and they realize we TRULY don't need them anymore.
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