My mom had me at 38. She had her own apartment in one of the best areas of the city, 2 cars, a good salary and could afford a lady cleaning lady, a nanny and a house chef. When I became a teen she hired a driver to make sure I would always return home safe or to drive me and my friends if we had alcohol. She enjoyed being a mom but also had plenty of free time to herself to do what she wanted. She had no “ I am too tired” worries because if she was too tired for an activity she had somebody of trust to be there for me. Not ideal but it worked for her.
@rebekkagasmi9451
7 ай бұрын
So your mom lived that celebrity mom lifestyle no official celebrity mom would be blamed for...
@asc908
7 ай бұрын
@@rebekkagasmi9451wondering if maybe this person is from a non us country. I have had people from other countries tell me about how they had maids and lived like this growing up.
@kated3165
7 ай бұрын
I know this woman doctor who is in her early 40's and stressing out because she doesn't currently have a partner and is worried she might end up missing out on motherhood. After further chatting with her she ended up admitting that she didn't actually know if she really wanted to have kids, but she was afraid of regretting not having them and that having them was ''not something people ever seemed to regret!''. I was like, ''well actually....'' told her about the forums and pages that existed dedicated to exactly that.
@mignalyortiz4589
7 ай бұрын
One of my best friends is feeling the same thing. She is turning 40 this year, in the process of getting a divorce and is scrambling to figure out if she wants to have a kid. She's an only child, that's the only reason she's considering it
@COJAMALIK
7 ай бұрын
Sperm bank
@necilya
7 ай бұрын
I feel the same way. I’m 40 and I’m not that ready to have kids, but I’m scared to regret it later. At the same time I’m single so it’s not really like I have a choice. 😂
@mignalyortiz4589
7 ай бұрын
@@necilya you could always foster or adopt. I decided against having kids bc I think I would regret having them and it would be obvious and unfair to them.
@SugaRumBrown
7 ай бұрын
@@mignalyortiz4589💯👏🏾
@mignalyortiz4589
7 ай бұрын
I went to the Gyn this week for my annual exam and was SO EXCITED to find that I'm in menopause. I'll be 45 in June and am child free so I'm celebrating! 🎉🥳
@anhthipham9186
7 ай бұрын
congratulations!
@Tigerlily_Fresh
7 ай бұрын
Sis you've made it through! I'll bring the champagne! 🍾🥂🎉
@Sophine
7 ай бұрын
I'm 37. I should get my results back soon but I'm sure I'm in menopause since I was given chemo for a rare cancer a few years ago. I'm so excited to be in menopause because then I can stop handing out sarcastic comments every time someone attempts to get me to change my mind about being childfree.
@talltalllady
7 ай бұрын
My mom had me at 41 and my dad was 45. Had my dad for a good 37 years and just lost my mom at 41. They were wonderful parents. And it never bothered me that they were older. I didn't even think about it and I had a happy childhood
@holliecharles684
7 ай бұрын
Same my mom had all of us in her 30s and she was older than my friends moms but she was and is more stable than their moms and has accomplished more. I never cared that she was older. My mom having hot flashes was not my business, and no pace makers around.
@sheenalee7602
7 ай бұрын
I always believed that i couldn't have kids. I got pregnant at the age of 37. My son is now 14 months old and he is my heart and my world. So, I feel like it's never too late!
@aishani86
7 ай бұрын
I got pregnant at 36 years now im mom with son hes 15 month old
@CordeliaWagner1999
7 ай бұрын
Just make sure your little wonders don't be as annoying as most other kids.
@zinabstar
7 ай бұрын
Mum had her 6th at 38… it’s not too late
@pieces9678
7 ай бұрын
I know alot of professional women who have kids after 35. 95% of the women I work with.
@mariee3658
7 ай бұрын
People that have kids young act like they still can’t die young or have a tragic accident leaving them to not be able to take care of themselves let alone children they’re just programmed by society expectations and feel that they have to rush don’t even know what they want to do with their lives forreal
@lilaoliva793
7 ай бұрын
Exactly! And the probability of regretting the decisions and choices one made in early adulthood is greater than those taken later in life.
@Spokentruths725
7 ай бұрын
I have never heard a logical argument for having kids young. Its all dumb reasons to feel better about poor choices. Some people really think that because some will be older with younger kids then they are near death, meanwhile these young parents are destroying humanity.
@joylastname3035
7 ай бұрын
I just told someone this same thing. Young women have died shortly after having their babies or when the kids are still young. Length of life is one thing no one is guaranteed.
@teoleno4019
7 ай бұрын
God forbid no one is receiving women's unpaid labour. #childfree for life
@martakonieczna3289
7 ай бұрын
same here, no man will ever convince me to bear a kid
@shaypope4732
7 ай бұрын
Say it again lol not because we can don't mean we should be putting our bodies through that pain and trauma just so a man can have access to u forever even when you guys are no longer together isn't worth it for me
@shaypope4732
7 ай бұрын
@@martakonieczna3289at all lol even if he paid me to think about it just not worth giving up this fineass slim thick body just so I carry his seed lol nawww I'm good lol
@SkycometAnimeVamp
7 ай бұрын
Hear hear! 🙌
@Gingy2002
7 ай бұрын
@@shaypope4732Laying in the hospital for hours in labor, writhing in pain just for a man to complain that the woman needs to hurry up because HE'S tired!!! I kid you not, I used to work on a labor unit and have heard several scenarios like this, I'd never want to be tied to a man through a child.
@the_classy_crackhead
7 ай бұрын
They say you have a biological clock due to the fact that younger women produced healthier offspring than older women, the chance of death were also lower. So while your biological clock may be longer, the quality of the children you produce decreases, just as the quality of a man’s sperm decreases with age. The biological clock argument mainly came from men as a mean’s to manipulate women into getting married young, that’s what men called it. However a doctor would really call it a time of quality, not a bio clock.
@CordeliaWagner1999
7 ай бұрын
Looking at most children; The vast majority of people have bad quality genes. But nobody Talks about the quality of domeones genes...
@GetOfflineGetGood
7 ай бұрын
That's technically true but the actual difference is like 2% chance of birth defects when you're 20 and 5% chance when you're 40. I don't even think it's that high. Like sure, your chances "double" but if I have one grain of rice and somebody gives me another grain of rice, then my rice has doubled.
@Cateyes767
7 ай бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner1999exactly
@magnarcreed3801
7 ай бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner1999 Right. Lots of bad genetics and everyone thinks it’s horrible to say they shouldn’t have kids.
@nowlaterkiss9811
7 ай бұрын
Excellent statement!!!
@teoleno4019
7 ай бұрын
The pick mesha at 6:18 (I recognized her voice) is Samanta Cooker. She has a channel where she shyts on childfree women. Aperently she's one of those bitter single mothers with sons. 😒
@ZanilSingsToo
7 ай бұрын
Girl she made me physically cringe
@lovedbyyah8302
7 ай бұрын
I think Smantha Cooker is married but she definitely has a problem with older black women. "What about the chlid?" as if her mother going through menopause was a hardship on her.
@lilaoliva793
7 ай бұрын
@@lovedbyyah8302Right? That sounded weird as hell. Like, lady your momma was the one having to deal with her menopausal symptoms. What are you even talking about? Her mom could've had her early in her life and had the need to undergo the removal of her reproductive organs. She'd have experienced menopause earlier in life, too. Now, what would've been her reasoning, then? Making no sense at all.
@giovannanicolas8299
7 ай бұрын
Ohhh she does sound like her. I think she doesn’t like women. Her content doesn’t make sense and she goes off emotions and not facts.
@shamanlee111
7 ай бұрын
Yeah she is definitely problematic. A whole goofball
@Ms_Introvert_4_Life
7 ай бұрын
#childfree My clock can run out, break, and catch on fire! I don't want children!
@dinajones2761
7 ай бұрын
Lol
@Spokentruths725
7 ай бұрын
At all
@gravityclarity
7 ай бұрын
Lol same!😂
@samkaybeauty2862
7 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂me too sis.
@merlinwalters2873
7 ай бұрын
Ladies do what's best for you
@Tigerlily_Fresh
7 ай бұрын
Amen!
@duchesseebene1273
7 ай бұрын
The experience of motherhood greatly differs from one woman to another despite the many similarities. I work with women who have had their first child from anywhere between the ages of 18 to 40. We all agree that financial stability, optimal health, an involved spouse, and a supportive village are important. You can have all of that, some or none of it at 25, 35, or 45. A biological does exist but we cannot shame or force women into motherhood.
@unicorn73212
7 ай бұрын
Yeah but I was infertile in my 20s too I was told that I couldn't have it because I was born with small ovaries it could be done with it invetro but sense I'm not rich and I have an option o probably won't have them. I didn't really care because there's to many expenses involved and there's plenty of kids that need homes already no sense in over populating the planet of you don't have to
@hardcandy71287
7 ай бұрын
so many women could've been saved from bad marriages had they had known that there was so much more time to have kids.
@DarthFurie
7 ай бұрын
My husband and I are happily childfree. Our siblings have kids and we love our niblings, but we don't want that lifestyle. We'll be able to retire by our early 50s, get out of the rat race, and enjoy our lives on our terms. I never understood the perspective that having children is our purpose in life. I understand species want to keep going, but enough kids already exist and plenty of them don't have loving parents. There isn't a need to pressure anyone into going through pregnancy, labor, and overall childbearing... unless it's a "misery loves company" type of situation
@Lokian_Mermaid
7 ай бұрын
I WISH my mother had been 37. I paid a very hefty price for her having me at 17
@Ladiideesworld
7 ай бұрын
I had my first son at 26 (he's 14 now and my second son at 39( he's 2 now) I'll be 42 in a few months and I can say that there is a difference. I wish I had both my kids in my late 30's because I have more patience and I am enjoying motherhood because of that. Due to the military I was gone a lot so it was hard to enjoy motherhood. I'm a sahm and I love it.
@toscadonna
7 ай бұрын
My childhood friend Willie was born when her mother was 50. Her next youngest sibling was 18 years older than her. If you’re healthy, you can become pregnant until you’re out of menopause, and my mom always warned me that it was easy to get pregnant in menopause due to the body knowing it’s your last chances to have a baby. My mother had me at 36 and my sister at 39, natural childbirth, no drugs, and no issues. Just take care of your body, eat right, avoid stress, alcohol, and drugs. You’ll be fertile longer if you’re worried about it.
@judithgrace9850
7 ай бұрын
I was 37 and one baby girl, after 10 years of marriage.
@winning3329
7 ай бұрын
I was 43 years old when I gave birth ❤
@veganbutterfly3652
7 ай бұрын
It really more important to be healthy than age. Exercise, eat a lot of fruit and vegetables, drink pure water, keep up on natural health news is more important than age. Young women can be unhealthy... so age is not the mean factor it's health.
@Brina-777
7 ай бұрын
The biological clock affects men too. There was a study done, showing that +55yrs old men sperm tends to produce autistic kids, etc…
@TiffanyNicholeCatley
7 ай бұрын
My first pregnancy was at 30 with twins. I'm on my second pregnancy at 36 with my last child. I didn't want kids in my 20's. I've been healthy all years prior and now. Genetic testing is good, etc. I'm very blessed. But I definitely didn't want to be pregnant in my 40's or 50's. 30's is a sweet spot. I'll be in my 50's with young adults. And a proper grandma if they have kids. Lol
@jungersrules
7 ай бұрын
I think despite the pick-me and "I'm not a feminist" women, women as a whole have come a long way. I don't know if I can say the same for men as a whole. Countries in Europe with the strongest social structures to help not only the poorer class, but women and families, have almost half of their legislative government are composed of women. As long as it's a strong patriarchal society like my birth country of S. Korea, both gender and social gaps will be huge (aka, low equality).
@CoachLove
7 ай бұрын
Don't do it! Birthing a baby is not your value. Don't set yourself up to be a lifetime single mother... Go adopt if you must have a child.
@kenya1067
7 ай бұрын
I relate to the old soul woman because my mom had me at 38 she had my sister when she was 20. My mom passed when I was 15. I'm grateful I had her as my mother. But it stinks. But at the same time what's the rush. Just enjoy your life. So many people don't enjoy their children or raising their children because it's a lot of work. Then all of these unreliable or unhelpful spouses. It's best to just create the life you want and if a child is what you want then prepare appropriately. No use getting trapped and then realizing this isn't what you want.
@veganbutterfly3652
7 ай бұрын
Your mother was not old when she had you. It's unfortunate she passed, know you miss her. But she was maybe 53 when she passed ... she passed in her youth.
@kenya1067
7 ай бұрын
@@veganbutterfly3652 thank you. I agree she wasn't old when she had me or when she passed. But people have told me I have an old soul. So I'd attribute that to my parents being older than my friends parents who may have had them in their twenties. But I agree she was young even more when compared to my grandparents who lived to be 98 and 94.
@joylastname3035
7 ай бұрын
Bear in mind that young mothers also die. Your mother didn't die of old age. We can't use the angle that women ought to have kids in their teens- 20s cause they might die. No one is guaranteed length of life. Mothers have died without meeting the babies they just had.
@kenya1067
7 ай бұрын
@@joylastname3035 I'm gathering that no one has read my full comment. I wouldn't encourage having a child very young either. I just related to the scares that the one woman went through.
@silververnallbells191
7 ай бұрын
@@kenya1067 I was called an old soul and my Mom had me in her 20s. It really depends on how many times you've been reincarnated, not how old your parents were when they had you.
@gravityclarity
7 ай бұрын
Don't do it unless you actually *want* to do it! Don't let anyone or anything else pressure you into it!
@Cantetinza17
7 ай бұрын
You know I'm 42 and I don't have a partner and I want children, so I decided that I'm going to have to get a sperm donor. Even when I was young, I didn't want to just pop out kids because society told me that that's where I should be in life. Although I have spoken to a lot of doctors and a lot of them get on me about not having a child when I was in my 20's. Asking why didn't I do it when I was young or when I was married? I always say "because once I got married, things changed and I did not want to become a single mom because we couldn't get our act together." The old egg lady isn't realizing that having children too young can negatively affect a child as well because you were not ready. I've also noticed that not being fertile is not just an older woman problem. I've met a good amount of younger women that are barren. I remember there was a girl on my ship she was 19 and she wanted to freeze her eggs as well as donate a few and the doctors told her that most of her eggs were not viable. She froze the ones that were, but she only donated like 2 of them. I have a client who is 37 and she had 13 eggs removed and only 1 out of the 13 was not viable. I understand the biological clock because we are born with all our eggs, so every period our supply gets less and less, but I need doctors to stop fear monger if to get woman to have babies before they are ready. No one get on men and their old sperm. Also why is it that when you're young you say that you want to have kids and then the older women around you say, "You have plenty of time". On your 30th bday they say, "You better hurry up!"
@SimplyHealthyWomb
7 ай бұрын
This myth comes from the dark ages where people were dying by age 30. Does not apply today. If you are still bleeding, and ovulating you are ok. There is no such thing as old eggs. It’s about EGG Quality. Old sperm is responsible for most of the chromosomal aberrations, So since egg quality is everything, live stress free. It’s more than just getting pregnant, you must be in a safe environment. Remember the baby feels everything and that affects the baby for life. Lastly, most people don’t have a fertility issue. They have a stress issue. Good luck out there. The question is do you want a kid at 54? That old soul woman does not understand biology. She was parentified which is not a function of how old your mother was when they had you. Argh!
@SugaRumBrown
7 ай бұрын
I love your thoughts ❤
@julesa2894
7 ай бұрын
You look FABULOUS with both your short and long hair styles. I also do not think a woman should settle just to have kids "on time." I feel that it is better for a woman to have a goal of being as financially stable and competent as possible before having your children. When that is the case, a woman can look to specialists that can assist in making sure she has the best chances of delivering healthy babies.
@neigeepierrot4694
7 ай бұрын
As someone who found out they couldn’t have kids at ten years old I have to say I disagree with the fact that you should have kids young since you can have kids in your forties or adopt or use reproductive medicine and if you have the possibility of having kids don’t rush it since you have to explain your choices to your kids anyway and if you are infertile at least have the life you want
@edithandlez
7 ай бұрын
y’all always add shock factors to seem credible
@aawillma
7 ай бұрын
@@edithandlezWhat's shocking about this!?
@maybesoormaybenot1586
7 ай бұрын
I’m about to turn 47 and still take BC religiously! We have 2 boys, 11 and 13, and we don’t want more! I got pregnant VERY easily when I went off of BC. I will take it until I’m sure I’m not fertile or am told it’s no longer safe. I don’t trust that my almost 47 year old ass would not end up pregnant again if I stop!
@minniewortham9299
7 ай бұрын
How old did you have the two boys?
@sg5720
7 ай бұрын
@@minniewortham9299In her early tor mid 30s. I have a 12 and 16 year old and I just turn 41. For me having kids was so easy. I enjoy being a mom…yes having a loving supportive husband can make a world of a difference in a woman wanting children . 💕😌
@DarthFurie
7 ай бұрын
My mom had her first at 20 and her last at 46... definitely stay on that birth control if you don't want to get pregnant 😂 The women in my family go through menopause so late. I'm childfree and I'm so careful, lol
@maybesoormaybenot1586
7 ай бұрын
@@minniewortham9299 33 and 35. The perfect age, IMHO. My husband and I got to party all we wanted, establish a family business and buy a house all before taking on the expense of children. My husband wanted 3 kids until we were out of the infant phase and he went to visit a friend who's wife had just had a baby. He saw how tired they were, remembered how tired we were during that phase back to back and changed his mind. I was not gonna give him a third anyway and had made that clear to him.
@dorenkinzi1730
7 ай бұрын
My mum was 42 and my dad 52 when they had me. I'm grateful i am a late child coz they were financially stable as i grew up
@Heykay34
6 ай бұрын
Look at what female bees do to male bees in the winter 😅 I always say trust bees. A matriarchal society that just works 😂😂😂
@lashellpierre
7 ай бұрын
I turn 30 years old in one week and I am still completely turned off by the idea of having kids… I just don’t think I’m ever going to want them.
@AstroBaby91
7 ай бұрын
I think people are obsessed with marriage and children.
@elizabethrose5007
7 ай бұрын
Women if you intend to have children, go and see someone about your fertility. If you don't want children, then nothing to worry about.There is a biological clock, you can choose to believe or not. Women do go through perimenopause and menopause (biological clock). This is not about men controlling you, this is about making an informed choice. This is about the cost of insemination and the failure of these procedures. The thousands of dollars to freeze your eggs.
@seekinghimdaily92
7 ай бұрын
I agree. I think many people online seek to find something to complain about, or make themselves the victim by any means necessary. I will never deceive myself about the Biological Clock situation… to prove a point? These are one of the conversations you have to have with yourself, as a woman, to understand which direction you’d like to go in (having children or not), and what the aftermath looks like. Weight all things out and *count the cost…* but don’t lie to yourself about what your body is telling you. At some point, our bodies make the decision for us. 💯
@corimoon3360
7 ай бұрын
This is still about men controlling women and girls tho… so let’s stop lying, pretending the patriarchy has nothing to do with this. They GREATLY benefit from this “biological clock” fear-monger culture. Be serious. I hate ppl that argue for everyone to believe in the biological clock… ppl already believe in it and look at how toxic it is??? Stop trying to force the biological clock down women’s throats. It causes unnecessary stupid shame for no reason. It doesn’t really exist. It’s a stupid term made up by ppl who want to rush/force women into having kids. The REAL biological clock is simply aging… LOL
@haahmayan9637
7 ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏽 because a lot of these females want to blame men for their mistakes if you want kids find a decent man for a father figure it’s easier that way than sleeping around and a man not seeing your value so I agree if you want kids plan them!
@christins.1481
7 ай бұрын
It still doesn't matter. My friend got pregnant easy at 40 once her husband's problem got fixed. She couldn't get pregnant. Seen a specialist and her husband was the problem. Meanwhile, the 23-year-old girl in our family had three mis-carriages. Age doesn't mean anything. The health of your body whether you can or can't get pregnant is what matters.
@haahmayan9637
7 ай бұрын
@@christins.1481 yeah because I could have a baby at 50 🤣 girl sit down you’re single and probably not married with this weird mindset and to put your family’s business out there like that is just weird you’ve got to be delusional maybe that girl who’s 23 is paying for the sins of her past life the point is men and women are not the same a man carry’s sperm for the rest of his life and women’s eggs decrease it’s not advised by doctors to have kids in your 40’s
@LyssieLysse
7 ай бұрын
Destiny lookin like she’s in her 20s! WOW! My gynecologist told me 2 visits ago that I should consider freezing my eggs at 35, but she changed her tune at my last exam. She said I have all the time in the world for babies and I side eyed her because for a year and a half I had full blown anxiety on finding the right man, getting married and having kids in 2.5 years before my eggs turn to dust. Now, I’m not worried about tihs because my mom’s mom had her during menopause (so about 40-50) and my dad’s mom had 10 kids, with my uncle being born when she was almost 40. Biologically speaking, I still have 7+ years left, however, I’m not rushing out here to link up with some dude in his Soft Life era aka entitled to the umpth degree self. If I’m bringing 100+% to the relationship, he gonna have to do the same because I’m not going to end up like my ancestors. Generational curse ends with me!
@DestinyUteh
7 ай бұрын
Thank you sis😊😊🫶 I agree with you sis we are breaking generational barriers
@CheerfulCosmos-dd8nn
7 ай бұрын
I know a woman who had in vitro fertilization and she wasn't with a man, she went to a sperm bank, she didn't want to be bothered with a man and after she did it 2years later she started dating her husband😂
@chara8231
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story🥰 You are helping so many people who may be in the same position 🙏🏿
@yujuy.1329
7 ай бұрын
The benefits of an older mother outweighs any risks that come with it. Having kids young is only a trap for women. That’s it. You and the child suffer that way. The difference in parenting between kid 1 and kid 3 or 4 is massive.
@crazycatlady312
7 ай бұрын
My mother had me at 39 and her health is fine lmao. The worst thing she has is rheumatoid arthritis. I do have an old soul though and have been told im wise beyond my years 😊 (I'm 27 and no children)
@Riley23249
7 ай бұрын
I just turned 31 back in October. I've been hearing these kinds of speeches since I was 18. Instead of letting me enjoy and learn the world as an adult, I was shoved with dating and having kids because of this "biological clock". There's too many 18-21, in my eyes, are too young to be having kids and husband's. Unfortunately people having kids and husband's, by choice, I think are doing it for selfish reasons.
@parklady4233
7 ай бұрын
I had my first and only child at 40 years old.
@shy_donut8307
7 ай бұрын
Idk, i think it’s better to have kids younger in 30’s at least. Like when the kid is in their 30’s the parents are gonna be in their 70’s which can cause some issues. I’m 22 and my parents are just turning 50. I want to have as many years with them as I can :) it also hits different when you’re an only child
@annahjaya700
7 ай бұрын
My sister did actually get kids in her 40s and she’s an amazing mommy of 2❤
@misslola007
7 ай бұрын
Men and women fertility declines at around the same time. Males like going after younger women bc it reduces the chances of having difficult pregnancy and health issues with the child. Women can do the same too. This is why they put the responsibility on women. The second stich, I used to follow her and since she had that rant about childfree women, I checked out.
@Firelilyfields
7 ай бұрын
Toxic men go after young girls cause they like power and control
@eac-guy7272
7 ай бұрын
If a man is older as in 40s, 50s etc having a child with a younger woman does NOT reduce the risk of a child being born with health issues. The motility and viability of the sperm decreases especially if the man is not taking care of himself. Recent studies have shown that there has been a decline in sperm viability globally
@user-lp2he1md6i
7 ай бұрын
It does not reduces the difficulty of pregnancy and health issues with the child. When a man is older, it actually increases it men who are older tend to have babies with down syndrome, and other health issues. The age of the sperm can actually affect the health of the baby.
@OnlyLilynn44
7 ай бұрын
People seem to forget how huge of a role fate plays in whether someone has a child or not. It’s not up to you, your spouse or your doctor it’s fate. Just like it’s fate the determines whether your child is healthy or not. Some women don’t even know they’re pregnant until they’re almost in labour and have had terrible habits (drinking, eating junk, partying, not sleeping, etc) and they pop out healthy babies and some women literally plan their pregnancies even before they conceive, eat healthy, live a healthy lifestyle, takes all their vitamins, have kids young and that baby can still come out disabled… You cannot police what you can’t even control to begin with. Leave women alone.
@shamanlee111
7 ай бұрын
Samanth Cook is a whole pick me, and a colorist. She is so lame.
@l0111
7 ай бұрын
I knew that voice sounded familiar 😂
@shy_donut8307
7 ай бұрын
I feel like she speaks the truth that no one is willing to say out loud sometimes👀
@chickendumplings337
7 ай бұрын
Now I see why she hides her face. Lawd have mercy
@Lokian_Mermaid
7 ай бұрын
Our wombs are also visable for a long time. So, a woman in her 50's can carry a baby from her own frozen egg or embryo, or even adopt an embryo and carry it herself. We have extended fertility in my family. I'm 53 and have a few more years to go before I even hit pre-menopause.
@kayshawnsimmons5585
7 ай бұрын
with the world in the current State and the percentage of pregnant women who are una lived while pregnant is so high. It's safer not to allow males to have unprotected with them🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️😒😑
@MegaSlimgoody1
7 ай бұрын
Rushing is the problem. Not having children.
@Spokentruths725
7 ай бұрын
Ok yall so i just went to my obgyn today and spoke to her about this out of curiosity. Im 29 and child less and she informed me that its more of a risk if you want a big family after 35. 1-2 kids would still be fine plus some women have complications regardless.
@sophieobiero-ro7uj
6 ай бұрын
@kim1316 very true. Men have stagnated in their progress. But some men are trying to evolve and are very understanding of women’s issues.
@ChronoLodge
7 ай бұрын
Can you start a whole channel dedicated to your thoughts about why you want to raise a child? LOL, I found that so interesting/inspiring. I'm also 40, married for 12 years. I'm childless for the same reasons you think your kid might change the world. It's tough to be the combo of attributes you listed about yourself. That specific recipe, can make it a little difficult at times. I like to hear people's perspectives and philosophies about life. That's why I'm asking for more info from you on the subject. ✨ 🙏✨
@giovannanicolas8299
7 ай бұрын
Why do people like to say that other people don’t know who they are especially if the person they are saying that to is young. I remember I cussed out a couple of older women about that. Just because you don’t know me doesn’t mean I don’t know who I am and what I like. My neighbor always partying and gets mad because I don’t want to go out with her and always in the house. People need to mind their business. I am tired of the ageism.
@brunoqnzbk7891
7 ай бұрын
Tired of the ageism....😂😂😂. Wait til they say you hit the wall and don't matter anymore. That's your ageism, sweetheart.
@Aniexo_
7 ай бұрын
The lady in the blues mom didn’t plan accordingly. Or she probably wasn’t healthy to begin with. How does your mom need a pace maker at 50+ my mom doesn’t need one she’s 55.
@laurenpenn3634
7 ай бұрын
YOU BEING ALMOST 40 IS INSANE 😮WE NEED A SKIN TUTORIAL BECAUSE OH MY GOD YOUR SKIN IS FLAWLESS!!!❤
@vikumugisha1635
7 ай бұрын
Menaupose does exist however your fertility depends on so much more than age! First of all genetics which determine how many follicles you have ( they mature into egg that get fertilised) , the quality of your eggs, your hormonal balance, the quality of your endometre, overall health stess level ( some illness cause infertility or the inability to bring the pregnancy to term),.....
@Lokian_Mermaid
7 ай бұрын
We have extended fertility in my family. At 53, I have a few more years to go before I'm no longer fertile. I wonder if this will end up happening to more ppl as time goes on?
@BigMuvaP
7 ай бұрын
You know what’s crazy? Shortly after subscribing to your channel I met my fiancé and he’s originally from Legos Nigeria. He also used to new cast while living there so you might actually know him. 😂 from the news 🤣
@caroline.3885
7 ай бұрын
I think it is common people in the early 30s to just take someone they like but maybe not truly love cause they have a plan to what they haft to have and hurry up with it and then maybe the realtionship is not the most stable one when you were motivated by a thought back in your head that you wanted kids soon. Think things might not go so natural when you think like that.
@CheerfulCosmos-dd8nn
7 ай бұрын
Take Parenting Classes, that will definitely make up your mind whether you want to have a child or not.
@SkycometAnimeVamp
7 ай бұрын
“Your biological clock is ticking” Cool! Can it hurry up please?
@Tigerlily_Fresh
7 ай бұрын
Thank you or just go away altogether!
@Cesiajd
5 ай бұрын
Congenital diseases are influenced much more by the genetics of both parents than by the age of the parents, and pregnancy problems also appear at any age.
@shirleyvz11
7 ай бұрын
I had my 1st son at 29, and the 2nd at 31. I will be honest, i am tired!!! I have no energy to run after them, their interest do not interest me. I regret not having then earlier, i see my friend who had kids earlier and they have teens now or young adults and my friends can go anywhere they want,some of their kids come along but buy their own tickets while I am still running after small kids in my 40s. If you want kids get them when you have the energy and still young in spirit, not immature. I was going after degrees and career.
@SofiaVIBritania
7 ай бұрын
Yessss Queen you are so brave!!!!❤👑💅
@coconutwater4531
7 ай бұрын
I really liked what the third lady said but how is someone with three degrees talking about “most happiest” 😂
@gravityclarity
7 ай бұрын
That woman talking about her mom who had her in her late 30s is blind. Not all women will have health problems young. That's only her personal experience.
@dantayhylton9938
7 ай бұрын
Im feeling that pressure right now , im gonna be 26 in may 😢and i hate thinking about you.
@gravityclarity
7 ай бұрын
Early 30s is the best time to have them if you want them!
@misguidedpearls7456
7 ай бұрын
I agree with destiny😁
@karataylor7238
6 ай бұрын
Wow! I didn't think you were 40. What do you use on your skin?! I think there are pros and cons...my mom had me older and was wiser/more life experience, but health is not good and won't have as much time with her as if she was younger.
@TruCunt
7 ай бұрын
The girl didn’t pay her electric bill? Why tf is she wearing a coat and scarf in the house 😂😂😂😂. She ain’t got no heat in her home? 😂😂😂
@MzBunny2790
7 ай бұрын
😂😂 and she’s drinking something hot too.
@lilaoliva793
7 ай бұрын
There are alot of people who prefer to put on more clothing items then turning heat on. I'm one of them. Also, her accent suggests she's in the UK and if the US economy is insane at the moment the economy in the UK might be worse. Their energy sector is liberalized and since the 🇷🇺n invasion of 🇺🇦 the energy prices have gone absolutely insane, exponencially high. Some people don't like to feel like they're being robbed by corporations and in the UK they definitely are.
@daliaa5294
7 ай бұрын
In the UK our salaries are low but heating bills are expensive. I cannot afford to have my heating on all the time. It’s actually not funny 😢
@TruCunt
7 ай бұрын
@@daliaa5294 protect and tell the uk to stop forcing its citizens to endure ridiculous climate conditions and buy oil from Russia. It’s that simple. Germany already started might as well put the idiotic idea to try to punish Russia in the back burner. Russian economy is still flourishing and the only people dealing with negative outcome is you guys. 😂🤣💀 not to mention your ally, Ukraine, blew up the north stream pipe line so they got you over there shaking in your shorts 😂🤣💀 and you’re still paying them to fight Russia. The irony of it all 🤣😂💀 Ukraine is not going to win. 😂🤣💀 Russia doesn’t need to go any further into Ukraine they seized all of the important land. 😂🤣💀💀💀😂💀 uk still thinks Ukraine is going to win? They took a large portion of their agricultural land, the lands that produce minerals and resources, control the electrical grid 💀🤣💀 ya suffering for no reason. 🤣😂
@Tigerlily_Fresh
7 ай бұрын
I would have to have a fireplace in my home. I don't want to have pneumonia.
@RukiaBlackBlazer
7 ай бұрын
Why do we sister's that wash our hair the lease,Thinks, it's hygienic to dig and scratch our heads, in public. It looks nasty. It's on the same level as digging your nose in public.
@yujuy.1329
7 ай бұрын
So many women fell prey to this. Keke riri etc etc. we know plenty of women who would have chosen differently if they were desperate for kids.
@Iknowyoulovethischannel
7 ай бұрын
Yes, you rush and settle with a subpar partner because of the biological clock smh
@Brina-777
7 ай бұрын
Nahhh fam, the biological clock is REAL!!!! Especially for us blck women prone to preeclampsia,etc. I’ve witnessed women have babies in 40-65yrs in my family some are healthy babies, but we have also a good number of babies born with Down syndrome ( Les trisomy 21) and some birth defect, don’t get sold on the independence and chasing the bag so bad that it cost you or your child extremely
@winxclubstellamusa
7 ай бұрын
That’s because of old sperm, not old eggs. Sperm begins to mutate after 35, which makes kids with an extremely high chance of being born with or developing disabilities and diseases. You need to look into the real and complete science about this, because mothers older than 35, which is still young, are not the problem.
@Lalapizzle
7 ай бұрын
@@winxclubstellamusalet’s stop this. Your chances of getting pregnant after 30 is 20%. Men sperm quality decreases yes. But a 50 yr old man is more like to father a healthy child than a 50 yr old woman, let’s be honest please. It’s okay to accept it’s not fair, it is what it is but let’s not deceive ourselves.
@CordeliaWagner1999
7 ай бұрын
You know that you can test a foetus for down Syndrome?
@Tigerlily_Fresh
7 ай бұрын
Biological clock is the least of our worries when we can't even go to the hospital and give birth AND survive in the first place! No thanks.
@Balgees24
7 ай бұрын
We freeze our eggs or get adopt in the future. There no need to hurry things.
@cvzdez
7 ай бұрын
Save your eggs and know a mom is not just you birthing a child but loving one so many kids out here motherless
@mbrownsugar1
7 ай бұрын
Technically, you can have children at any age because of technology. You could even go as far as saving your 20 or 30 year old eggs. Women are having babies in their 50's most of the time with help.
@janedeane3656
7 ай бұрын
Why do so many of these feminist women have such defensive and rude body language? I hate when ppl are speaking to u and they cant put down their food or drink or whatever and focus on the conversation so everyone can get on with their day. Even more frustrating in video format. its giving 'i have something to hide but am trying to create a distraction.'
@brunoqnzbk7891
7 ай бұрын
Feminists and their body language...Pick me, hushhh
@janedeane3656
7 ай бұрын
@@brunoqnzbk7891 r u telling me to hush?
@santo9032
4 ай бұрын
Biology is Biology, if you DON’T like it, go argue with God… 🤷🏿♂️
@Emptytopfloor
3 ай бұрын
Cry more
@Vee_Davis-wb9wd
7 ай бұрын
i have a difference of opinion.....i am 49 my son is 25 hes my only child....1 dont think 50 is a viable age to have a child....thats approaching retirement age lol thats my time...why would i want to start over and have a child at that age...especially if i have grown children
@g.y.tothee.y6874
7 ай бұрын
Lol my aunt had my cousin at 46 bye, my elementary school friend's mom had her at 53. This is not one size fits all but yall get the picture. If god says yes no one can say no.
@harajuka1barbz
7 ай бұрын
Having kids at an older age is risky for both baby and mum.
@CordeliaWagner1999
7 ай бұрын
Adoption.
@zero1188
7 ай бұрын
There is a time that is too long to have kids, its a fact. Just mean balance you life if you want kids. Its Not complicated
@JaneDoe-s5u
7 ай бұрын
For you. Speak for YOU!
@jasminefly1654
7 ай бұрын
Survival of the fittest’ was an actual thing. IVF and surrogacy disturbs the soul. “Biological Clocks” is initiated by disease’ can you remain disease free till 50? I had a child at 16 and my last child at 31! There is a huge difference on your body’ don’t lie to yourselves’ Children do psychology better with young parents’ this is a fact! (I also have an amazing career) Take a big breath and a big look outside of the false modern construct ladies!! ❤
@OnlyLilynn44
7 ай бұрын
But majority of women you hear that had babies late have healthy babies. And many people who have kids young have children with disabilities. Both are not mutually exclusive to the other. Some young women have sick kids and some older women have healthy kids and vice versa. People acting like young people are exempt from life complications because they’re young or that they can’t suddenly drop 💀 and leave their kids orphaned and traumatized. Stop fear-mongering women by trying to make them feel worthless or that they’re spoiled so they settle for something they don’t want. It’s like saying men’s sperm quality goes down but how many old dudes you’ve seen actually have very healthy children despite their old age ? Many !!! So stop the 🧢
@jasminefly1654
7 ай бұрын
@@OnlyLilynn44 It’s not “fear mongering” it’s scientific fact’ there is always exception to scientific rule’ but it’s a rule for a reason! Your first choice in love is usually the right choice’ why shouldn’t we be teaching woman to choose correctly the first time and tribal support of this decision? And support of the young man in his husbandry! You can have a healthy baby at an older age’ true.. but can you recover from having 3 or 4 or 5 ? Never like that twenty snap back’ and raising a teenager at 60”? good luck with that!!!! Life is unfortunately more about genetic replication than the pleasures of life’ as we sadly fight against the order of life we also slowly die’ Anything other than Fatherhood and Motherhood (in however form it’s expressed) Is Anti-Human
@Layla56333
7 ай бұрын
You would be more mature and have a stable career and life in your 30s though people in their early 20s and teens should not have children because of school and missing out you should live your life first before you bring another in so your a good parent if that means waiting until your older that's okay
@Nithinithinith
7 ай бұрын
Teen moms aren’t something to be celebrated or pushed for little girls to do.
@rarejewel9678
7 ай бұрын
The human brain is not even fully developed until around 25, but you want these young people spitting out babies before then. Seriously??😮
@daniellesarah_
7 ай бұрын
I got pregnant by a sperm donor at 37 bc I’d never had a partner- just putting it out there as an option - best decision I ever made - being a mum was all I ever wanted out of life
@randomvideoshere6540
7 ай бұрын
The woman in green is so right, have ur kids early, uave your career so u can help ur kids better. If u want to have kids do so earlier than later
@Cindybabe99
7 ай бұрын
At what time do you create a career if you are also busy with kids? Unless you start having them at 13 I don’t see how that is even possible without a huge support system of lots of money.
@randomvideoshere6540
7 ай бұрын
@Cindybabe99 if you live in America then u will know, for a family of 2, if y earn upto $ 3500, u do not qualify for childcare assistance or Medicaid. Child care is about $350 a week, insurance would cost you between $350 to 800 a month. We haven't factored in rent, groceries, cloths, hair do, skin care essentials, gas, car insurance, godforbid car payment, Have u noticed that is just the basic? We haven't added nail care or extracurricular for the child. Now some people in their career make $25/hr x40 even $30/hr x40 the upper middle class make $40/hr x40 upto $50/hr x40. My dear fill in the blanks and tell me how u'd survive. May God not purnish u again and u have high interest credit card debts. Am talking from experience and I don't even have car not or school fees loan amd am still struggling. Now if I uave no career, I would have gotten childcare paid for, possibly section 8 housing and most importantly Medicaid. Then I could find me a business and live stress free. Or gotten a hard working husband that would have helped out. Instead I got a lazy bum that was living off of me. He was nagging all the time, more querulsome than anything u can imagine always thinking of gow to swindle people around him but forces me to post on facebook how wonderful he is.and when pregnancy came in and life of marraige became real, I came to my senses. The divorce came with alot of debts . Even tho I prepared so well for myself incase I ended up a single mom, my dear am struggling. Baby goes to daycare for 3 days, falls ill and we stay home for 1 week and the cycle repeats untill I took him out and found a home daycare.
@randomvideoshere6540
7 ай бұрын
@Cindybabe99 now let me tell u about women I know with no career, unfortunately some of them have multiple baby daddies. Only 3 I know with 1 kid. They get free childcare so they can go to school and work part time, most live with family or boyfriend, they get food stamps and Medicaid. NO burden of hospital bills ever. The smart ones go to nursing school, by the time she was done, her kid was 7. Some with little vision go for 1 year training courses and end up making $23 or $25/hr. That's nothing . Why else would u see a smart educated woman having 1 part time job and 2 side hustles? She needs her medicaid and food stamps
@koffeeebrown7221
7 ай бұрын
I get it but having a newborn at 40+ is crazyyyyyy 😅
@Lilithslittlehelper
7 ай бұрын
Girl speak for yourself. Stop policing other womens bodies
@koffeeebrown7221
7 ай бұрын
@@Lilithslittlehelper ain’t nobody policing shit. I said what I said weirdo
@mignalyortiz4589
7 ай бұрын
My friend had a baby at 41. She never wanted children but fell in love, owns a home has a great husband, good career. They enjoyed their life and now they are ready for the next phase.
@koffeeebrown7221
7 ай бұрын
@@LilithslittlehelperI said what I said. Weirdo
@dinajones2761
7 ай бұрын
Kids in 20’s is crazy
@nowlaterkiss9811
7 ай бұрын
There is a biological clock people--MENOPAUSE.
@rarejewel9678
7 ай бұрын
And many women don't start that until their 50's.
@nowlaterkiss9811
7 ай бұрын
@@rarejewel9678 But pre-menopause starts earlier than that, with irregular periods. My Obstetrician told me many years ago, having babes is for the young. And God forbid your baby is born with some defect. Just not wise, is all.
@rarejewel9678
7 ай бұрын
@@nowlaterkiss9811 Do you honestly think babies born from young women don't have scores of problems? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@jbroberts8807
7 ай бұрын
Who asked the old soul for her opinion?
@tashboog5458
7 ай бұрын
Maturity and wisdom have nothing to do with the development of the frontal CORTEX.. can we please stop with this moot talking point 🤦🏾♀️
@efreeholdings1575
7 ай бұрын
A person that studies genetics here, males sperm comes with many genetic mutations and as they age. If they do dr*gs, alcohol (which is a dr*g) their spermatozoa suffers earlier. Males definitely have a biological clock.
@gy7422
7 ай бұрын
know a lot have baby 50 my grandmother , pleas women do what best for you
@LaVenderlocx
7 ай бұрын
Children are an anchor if your have to do it alone even with family help, it will be much more difficult to attain a degree or nurture a career with children. It has been done before, currently and will be done in the future. Women are built to get shit done regardless. But protect your womb at ALL COSTS!🤌🏾💯
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