It's okay to say you're not okay. We appreciate you being transparent. It's one of the things drew me to your channel.
@lillyr.558
Жыл бұрын
Jen, i have been subscribed to your channel for couple of years and i have watched lots of your videos. I think you are an amazing woman and such a good person . I have immense respect for you . Thank you for your honesty and transparency, it helps all of us. I also believe in taking care of our mental health and the importance of it in the quality of our lives. Thanks again for all you do.
@stacyrussell460
Жыл бұрын
One of the reasons I love watching your videos is because you are honest & genuine. You don't sugarcoat things or pretend that your life is perfect. Life is hard at times. Life even sucks at times. You openly discuss what you're feeling & going thru & that makes you extra amazing in my book. Keep moving forward. Soon enough, all the laughter & good times will outweigh the bad.
@marcynelson1785
Жыл бұрын
As much as I enjoy your content, your well-being is so much more important. My Mom died of brain cancer in March 2019. I totally understand your feelings of burnout and appreciate your candor. Life changes and seasons come and go. Thank you for this video.
@tkdally
Жыл бұрын
Something that my therapist said to me has really stuck and that is around the word 'should'. I should do this, I should feel that, I should not have said anything etc etc Every time I say 'should', I am judging myself against a self-imposed standard/expectation and making myself feel badly. If we listen to ourselves carefully it's amazing how often we say 'should'. Challenging myself every time I say it has really helped me see the unrealistic expectations I put on myself.
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
Yes! Don’t “should all over yourself” 😂
@erinnola-raised6543
Жыл бұрын
Should, Would & Could ALL ‘Control Words’. Said to Self or to Others it conveys an ‘I know & You don’t’.
@angiefagan4122
Жыл бұрын
Omg I love this video!! These past two years have taken its toll on me too. I’m a hairstylist and talk to a lot of ladies each day and let me tell you we are all in the same boat. I try to support these ladies, my family and my community and it’s a lot!! My children are 20 and 22 trying to make their way in this crazy world and that is also a huge stressor for me…..some days it’s just too much but I try to take one second at a time ❤️ Thank you for sharing. I love your channel and please never feel pressure to do KZitem, we love you and totally understand ❤️
@DisneyLissy
Жыл бұрын
I feel this!
@filmschoolgrad
Жыл бұрын
I so appreciate your transparency. I found you a few years ago when I went back to work. You are such a breathe of fresh air on KZitem, because you work outside the home. I don’t enjoy cooking, so your channel really inspires me to cook food, rather than relying on frozen food. Thank you for talking about all of these things!
@jillmarie4155
Жыл бұрын
I love your honesty..... I started struggling during the pandemic and I'm still trying to get back on track. I'm a single mom and find it refreshing when in some of your videos I see you doing things such as using paper plates etc and telling people not to hate on you for it. It shows me I'm not the only that needs to cut corners to get things done. Stay strong. You are doing awesome.
@lorimcmahan5683
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking up about what you are dealing with! I think you are amazing! It hurts when a content creator just drops off and never to hear from them again! I understand you all owe us nothing but then you think of this. We spend time watching you and listening to you, which is a part of my life! So you are so appreciated for your dedication. Take care, cut yourself some slack! Thank you for being you. Lori Mc From Atlanta!
@meloi661
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear about the passing of your mom. ❤❤. Thank you for sharing and making the video.
@mommysmith23
Жыл бұрын
I also lost my mom in December of 2021, and can only describe it as being in the world without an anchor...it feels quite strange. I relate so much to your feelings as a working mom and navigating life with so much going on. Thanks so much for your transparency and willingness to share!
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing - I’m sorry for your loss ❤️
@lauram4124
Жыл бұрын
We love u Jen, just do what u can and put yourself and family first! We will be here to support u 110% when your ready❤ I always wondered how you just do so much more than others. U always pour so much into each vid and they are all so helpful and not always the same old Star bucks runs and complaining about your life! You are a very positive person and it definitely shines through. I love and look forward to each time u upload and it always makes for a better day! God bless you and your family with good health and happiness and you take all the time you need to relax and enjoy your life with your family! We will be waiting to support you when u feel like you have the time and energy! We care about u Jen💕💕💕
@marthamares6798
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for talking about this. I've been struggling with depression anxiety and I don't know what else for a few years. I finally reached out for help. Just had my first therapy session and let me tell you that taking that step to ask for help was so scary and stressful but I feel so much better already knowing that I'm doing something to get the help I need.
@hhon8938
Жыл бұрын
Jen I FEEEEELLL THIS SO HARD- I can absolutely vouch for the working momma overwhelm- and it’s terrible. I’m going into a new job next week which is I know going to be even more of challenge with my time than before. The good thing is the past month being on PTO and holy hell I could actually handle kiddo stuffs, the lunch packing, the cleaning, the cooking, the doctor/dental appts, errands of all sorts - omg it’s been glorious lol!! The invisible mental load- I hear that big time. I support you and feel you and all the other parents who work inside and outside the home. It is hard for all us moms! Sending uplifting vibes and cheering for you and us all from the Midwest! ❤ we all ROCK!
@na-araiford9325
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being transparent! I’ve been watching you for a while and noticed you haven’t been posting as much. Please know that your health and well-being is most important. Please take care of yourself! We as moms do have to be Superwoman and it is not fair! I hope that you find your balance in it all! Praying 🙏🏿 for you.
@tarigeorge6122
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing. You have been helping me through a rough patch. You are making great choices, As a teacher I saw too many families where they didn’t do things together. I’m glad there are more videos coming.
@janneville7765
Жыл бұрын
Jen, this is such a great video! The last 2 years has really opened my eyes to the Yeses and No's and realizing that I do have to look out for myself because no one else is going to do that for me! Thank you for saying what so many of us feel and live with each and every day as women.
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
I so agree w this!
@dawnm5834
Жыл бұрын
When you said no one will look out for you as well as you will yourself, I had to laugh. My husband is extremely protective of my time and where I put my energy into. I’m much more easily swayed into taking on more than I should, but he helps me see where I can help and when shouldn’t extend myself. I told him I think it’s self preservation coming out in him. If I’m over worked and overwhelmed, it usually means our home life doesn’t run as smoothly. I appreciate this content and all your videos!
@lzal9204
Жыл бұрын
I feel your pain. Working in healthcare is especially bad lately. I’m taking a week off on the 10th. Not because I’m doing anything in particular but just need a break. Take care!!! The burnout is real!
@sjhirst3
Жыл бұрын
Hi, Jen! I learned of your channel a while back from Christine at Frugal Fit Mom. I've been watching your videos since, and I love them. I really needed this video today. My husband and I will be celebrating 21 years married and 25 years together next month (and I'm only 39 - lol). We have 4 kids. Our middle 2 are on the spectrum and our youngest (kindergartener) has ADHD. My husband works full time outside the home, and I work full time from home. I have 2 part-time jobs. One is steady and salary. The second is hourly. I work between 40 and 60 hours most weeks on and off all day because I have to work around the kids and cooking and bla blah blah. I never feel like I'm actually"off", and I'm just really tired. I just really appreciated this video so much. As cliche as it sounds, it made me feel not alone in my feelings about how hard things can get. Since school started back, I've experienced some burnout. The kids have separate school schedules so I'm going to the bus to get someone on or off 4 times a day. I keep up with all the appointments and school events and pictures and on and on. I'm very fortunate to have my husband and he does a lot, but I really related to what you said about everything falling to moms by default. It really does. I do all the finances and groceries and meal planning, too. I'm simultaneously working, paying bills, and putting together a meal plan and Walmart grocery pickup order right now. Anyways, just thank you for this video and all your others. I just wanted to let you know that you've had a positive impact on my day and my life. ❤️
@christymorrison3983
Жыл бұрын
I'm not even half way through and I really feel it.. you always seem to be so so relatable... I swear you could be my therapist!!!! Seriously though when I found out I have OCD my therapist showed me in a medical book the EXACT same thoughts I was having... always remember when your going thru hell.. you just keep going in order to come out of it.. you truly help people from your own experience... keep being you!
@katelynschultz6645
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU FOR THIS. I felt all your words right in my heart! Full time working Mom of a 3 and 6 year olds here. And of course a 2 year old adorable/energetic puppy. I.am.tired. Haha. My head is always in the verge of exploding from remembering everything. This was very helpful to hear and know that we are not alone in our feelings.
@koffeekat8106
Жыл бұрын
"We have unrealistic views of what people actually do in their lives because of social media." DING DING DING!!!! This! This is such a true statement. I have to remember that we're only getting the shiny, glossy, pretty view of people's lives on social media. IT IS CURATED TO BE THE BEST, MOST POLISHED VIEW. I love KZitemrs like you, See Mindy Mom, and Frugal Fit Mom because you guys SHOW what goes into making that curated view for us, so we know, it's not all roses! We know how hard you guys have to work to get those videos up and in timely manner, and to make it look polished! Thank you for always being so genuine with us! You're doing amazing! Burnout is a b*tch. Thank you for sharing how you're trying to combat it! I'm hoping to implement some of these into my daily life. Big hugs from your internet family!
@madelinechriston8970
Жыл бұрын
Jen, I doubt that I will ever get this life thing figured out. Women just get plain tired, because nobody pays attention to all the little tideous things we do on a normal basis. We pretty much are the glue that seem to hold everything together - even though there are times we feel as if we are falling apart. Have faith my love. I try to have faith every day. It's not always the answer, but it helps. Everything will be alright. Things al always have a way of working themselves out.❤️😘🙏
@jackiemaccaskill2111
Жыл бұрын
Lost my Momma October 3, 2021. Lost my mother in law January 4, 2022. Such a hard heart time. I’m a stay at home Momma myself… high school and middle school kiddos. I find September very overwhelming. Take care Jennifer Xoxo Thank you for everything you’re doing. ❤
@lindacomer2296
Жыл бұрын
When burnout is hovering around you, please remember you are loved. I’m one of 11,000+ subscribers and we appreciate you!
@Edgedamage01
Жыл бұрын
People say family first meaning children but I feel me first so I can take care of everybody else without feeling overwhelmed. It may sound selfish but in the long run everyone benefits.
@jennyruth5620
Жыл бұрын
Jen, your five tips ring so true from my experience of 30years in the classroom. Keep those boundaries and surround yourself with loved ones. Life is too gd hard almost always. And, btw, your comment section filled with strong women is such an uplift! 😍😍😘😘😘🍂🍂🍁🍁🍂
@dkdanaher4529
Жыл бұрын
I am a working mom of two overachieving high school athletes, currently going through a second reorganization in 3 months at the job I have loved for 25 years. I spoke to two coworkers yesterday - one very glass half empty and the other very glass positive glass half full - it reminded me that the more I choose to spend time and energy with happy positive people them more I will feel that energy too. I found the book Burnout - The 22 Most Effective Methods to Recover from Burnout by Declan Evans simple and helpful.
@logandanae8692
Жыл бұрын
I recently came off my mental health medication so I can switch to another and I hit the biggest wall I’ve ever hit. I had also just gone back to work after being home for a year and I’m honestly still struggling. Thank you for being so honest and open about this. It’s something I very much dreaded when considering going back to work. Not two months in and I’ve already lost my sitter and am faced with possibly needing to quit my job already. It’s just so much on a person, even if your partner is very hands on
@BooksInkandPaper
Жыл бұрын
Burnout is no joke and it sounds like you are taking charge of your own well being. I appreciated that you signed up for Group Coaching! I was burned out years ago and hired a Coach. Ended up becoming a Coach! I am now 14 years in and love it. It really does help you make small and large changes, get some profound awareness of self and choices, and take action to move you forward. Anyway, I always appreciate your videos and don’t mind if there are fewer of them. Love Milo too!
@LauraRodriguez-Peace
Жыл бұрын
Thanks, Jen. 🌼 Great information. Women are badasses. We all rock, and whatever our circumstance, we need to give each other a listening ear, a compassionate understanding conversation, and mutual encouragement. Perfection in life is unattainable, and unnecessary to strive for…being the best we can be, and just doing the best we can each day, is good. Time is so crucial and limited…more important than any dollars we make, for sure. Whatever we commit to, if it costs us our peace (and well-being) it’s too expensive. We are all here in full support of you, and your channel, no matter how often you post. As you say, you are your best advocate, take care of you first, so you feel good to share your precious time with others. Abrazos! 🌼🌺🌸
@mekakick3126
Жыл бұрын
Please please please always take care of yourself first. We will understand and will enjoy the videos you do share.
@staceyhaleysmit3451
Жыл бұрын
Jen..this video is spot on I think for so many people…I am an RN as well, I feel that as an oncology nurse I haven’t truly found my calling yet…I have been doing oncology 6 years now… I do work with a couple RNs that need to have the proverbial lime light all the time. I have talked to my manager about being left out for opportunities because I am not loud and unprofessional in the work area in front of the patients, it’s just not my style. I am an older hardworking professional, with good morals and ethics and cannot bring myself to their level, just not my style. Just frustrating…..
@reenap5113
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for saying all of this about working Moms and moms in general. We carry a lot for everyone!
@stephanielang3322
Жыл бұрын
This is a really good video. I’ve missed seeing you as much, but I totally support you’re need and desire for a break. As women we often forget ourselves in the hustle. It’s important to remember we matter and we can’t be as effective at anything if we’re worn down. Great topic!!
@sallyhigby9089
Жыл бұрын
This was great! I could totally relate. Things get busy and everything slides. I work from home as well which is amazing but the expectations of what you can do on your breaks around the house will swamp you. I barely take lunch most days because I feel like someone will think I am slacking. I am starting the last 100 days with some boundaries and one is taking a lunch & not starting early. Hopefully that will give me a chance to take a walk & eat a solid meal. Hope you find some balance too! Love your channel and get inspiration from your content!
@hannahkirkner3744
Жыл бұрын
I work from home too and have started to take my lunch away from my computer! Life changing!
@jessicacarpentier4124
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being real and bringing light to this topic.
@kashayrodriguez5715
Жыл бұрын
From one full time working mama to another-I loved this! Great tips Jen!
@FakeItTilYaMakeIt
Жыл бұрын
So much of what you said hit home. I also lost a parent a few years ago, we had a shakey relationship and when he died I think the hardest part was the chance of us repairing the relationship died too. I am a nurse practitioner and had been feeling burnt out for some time. Work had been increasingly busier, the pandemic, etc not to mention kids/home and all the other things that fall on my plate- it had been too much. I finally got a new job and am hoping it will help. I love your recommendations, I too use a paper planner and highly recommend some type of planning system. All this to say, these videos are why I like your content-very relatable!!
@Showtunediva
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your transparency Jen. I can relate to your feelings of burn out because I’ve been dealing with that a lot myself when it comes to doing theatre. I have been going to counseling since before COVID 19 started and it has really helped me a lot. I am sorry to hear about your mom passing away. Sending you love my friend.❤
@nathalieleblanc8536
Жыл бұрын
Dear Jen. You do what you need to do to make sure you take care of you. You can't take care of no one else if you're not healthy both mentally and physicaly. Do not worry about us, you are the most important person in your life. At least you should be. Take care xxx
@ajshock
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this. Grief is such a hard thing - regardless of the relationship with your mom that is a huge loss. I'm so sorry that you didn't always get the mom you needed. This was a great video and I am glad that you are taking care of yourself.
@bridgettehunt6193
Жыл бұрын
Well done as always! Thank you for being REAL!
@amymhogan
Жыл бұрын
You aren’t alone, Jen, as you can see from all of these other comments as well as mine. I only work outside the home two days a week, but I still feel all of this. It’s so hard for me to set & get into a routine as well as hold to the boundaries I’ve set (especially with my fundie mother 🙄) & stop expecting myself to be perfect. At least I’m in therapy & have a planner, hahaha. Your video & all you’re going through rings so true for me too & I appreciate your honesty & transparency. It’s what keeps me looking forward to your videos. You’re speaking for so many of us right now. I’m glad you are taking steps to take better care of yourself. Thank you for motivating me to do the same. ❤
@emmaway7
Жыл бұрын
You have no idea just how timely and helpful this video is. The work AND home burnout are real...like REALLY real. I am already a planner, but the blues kick in when you can't check every box on your list for that day. This made me realize that the problem isn't probably me, but how many damn boxes are on that list and that I don't actually have a hierarchy of priorities. This has been so helpful!
@cinm806
Жыл бұрын
Take care Jen! Sending you lots of love from Belgium
@cindycampbell2166
Жыл бұрын
I am sorry to hear about your Mom, Jen. It is never easy to lose a parent. My Dad died 6 yrs ago. We didn't always have the best relationship, but I loved him. My Mom was in the hospital a couple of weeks ago, and I have had to help her since she got home. We live together and I am doing most of the household chores now, along with working. It has been rough, but I take one day at a time.
@chickiegirl127
Жыл бұрын
This is me right now. As I was talking to my friend, we realized that we all are not OK, even the kids. It has been one thing after another these past two weeks. I just need a moment to catch my breath. 😢
@Paula-xp7ve
Жыл бұрын
I’m no longer a working mom but a retired empty nest widow and I can relate to EVERYTHING you said here. Just do what you can! You own the world (Internet) nothing ❤
@craftingrubydreams
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this, Jen. I was in very bad burnout from 2018 to earlier this year (my creative expression of choice is writing fiction). I started getting help in the form of therapy and coaching from a group that specializes in working with writers, and am still working with the coaching group. The owner of the coaching group is Becca Syme, and she has KZitem channel called The Quitcast. She's got a number of videos about burnout and recovering from burnout. They're writer-focused, but I think they're excellent for any creator who is dealing with burnout. One of the things Becca recently said in a group session for those in her Patreon is that burnout comes from when our expectations outstrip our reality, and that's something I'm going to carry forward so I can be on the lookout and hopefully avoid burnout again.
@craftingrubydreams
Жыл бұрын
BTW, if you've ever got time when you're in DC for work, I'd love to meet up with you for dinner or whatever. I live in DC, so I can get anywhere pretty easily :)
@meridithlevinson5814
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for posting this video and for doing it in classic Jen Chapin style: with research and data, personal anecdotes, and really practical advice. As a working mom, the point you made that resonated with me the most is how working mothers get penalized at work and in their careers for not being able to devote 110% of themselves to their jobs 100% of the time. I have experienced this first-hand (while working for a Big 3 professional services firm), and it is infuriating. I'll never forget getting a bad performance review after I returned from maternity leave, while my son was an infant, and my boss commented that my performance was off and that I seemed disengaged. My son was in daycare, sick all the time, and not sleeping through the night, so of course, I was not operating at peak performance. I left that job so fast and moved on to much bigger and better things. But I digress... Anyway...Jen, I adore your videos and have so much respect and admiration for all that you do. My unsolicited advice to you: Cut yourself some slack, girlfriend! I know you have high expectations of yourself, but if you only get one video up during any given week, it ain't the end of the world, especially with all that you've been dealing with this year. We (your fans/subscribers) know all the plates you're spinning. With all the travel you've had to do for work (it's so disruptive to our routines) and everything else you've been dealing with this year, it's no wonder you feel burned out. It seems - judging by the comments (and my own personal experience with burnout at the moment) - that you are in good company. Take care of yourself. And thanks for all that you do.
@DonnaW-f2m
Жыл бұрын
You are correct when you said no one looks out for you more than you! Take care of yourself.
@Theunpopularmom
Жыл бұрын
I'm currently researching setting up a membership for my website. You were one of a few women on KZitem has very much so inspired me to start my own channel!
@themakingsofeveryday
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I’m a full time working mom (a high school guidance counselor!) and “tired” doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel on a daily basis. ❤️
@hannahkirkner3744
Жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this video!! Kudos to you for doing what you need to do for yourself, including not posting as much. No big deal! I work from home and was really burnt out last year so I did two big things; 1) I started a “no video” policy with my team for virtual meetings to cut down on Zoom fatigue and 2) I do a 4-item checklist at the end of each workday to help my brain unplug from the day (doesn’t always work 😅 but consistency is key!)
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
Those are great tips, thank you!
@lindsaycheser2055
Жыл бұрын
I totally feel this. I'm a single mom of 3 & work from home full time. It's rough out here lol. But I have an amazing support system & do see a therapist regularly. Much love to you Jen!!
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
You got this!
@meeganjae72
Жыл бұрын
Take care of you first mama. We will still be here. I am an RN too. I worked in a busy emerg department over covid, and was also diagnosed with Addisons and designated immunocompromised right at the beginning of covid. My husband and I just moved across Canada from Ottawa to Victoria BC. I took the summer off due to burnout and have decided to not go back to bedside/ emergency department nursing. I will be looking for something new soon. ❤❤
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
Good for you! Lots of opportunities in nursing!
@abigailf.2489
Жыл бұрын
Yessss! Moms who work outside of the home are under represented on social media, because we are so busy and overwhelmed trying to balance it all. You hit the nail on the head!
@mscpookie1962
Жыл бұрын
Jen, it takes a lot of courage to share the things you've discussed today but much needed. You're right about grief, it's cunning and baffling. Almost never works on a timeline or how we imagined it. I learned that with the passingof my mother. Hang in there and take good care of you!
@NOSHWITHNESS
Жыл бұрын
Appreciate you opening up ❤
@joybowles1453
Жыл бұрын
Jen ..thank you for taking time to tell us your feelings.You are so amazing and all your viewers want what’s best for you. If you need more time from tube .we will be here and happy to see you when you can be here..Family should always be first.. 🥰🥰🥰
@CraneFamilyAdventures
Жыл бұрын
I relate to so much of this. I work full time, our son is super active and involved in many things, my KZitem is taking a backseat but in the grand scheme of things, that's totally fine. To be honest, once we get home for the night, we are sitting and watching TV which is good to relax but when I do that everyday, I don't get things done I need to. I'm just trying to find the right balance in life.
@tamaraameling1289
Жыл бұрын
God bless you! You can't help others if you don't help you!!- Coming from a hospital RN of 41years, 3 weeks, 6 days and. 10.5 hours.😂. Burn out for me comes and goes in waves. Thank Goodness for vacation days! Prayers coming to you and yours from a fellow Iowa girl. Thanks for sharing Jen!!🙏💖😄
@jenniferkrantz7561
Жыл бұрын
I feel like you made this video for me at this time of my life. I love your transparency. Working full time outside of the home and coming home to make dinner, cleaning up the dishes, getting the kids homework done, making sure their lunches are ready for the next day, getting them ready for bed, walking the dog, getting yourself ready for bed, and then finally going to bed blah blah blah just to Groundhog’s Day it all over again. I get it! It’s exhausting!
@christinewallace9251
Жыл бұрын
I feel the struggle with you!!! Something has to give that isn’t your family or your health!!!
@KCGrl84
Жыл бұрын
Love you, Jen! I felt this video in my soul. Honestly. Thanks for posting it and sharing with us. I've been around watching your channel for a few years now and not going anywhere. I appreciate you!
@Theunpopularmom
Жыл бұрын
I love the fact that you have Milo on a schedule! That is amazing!!
@sarahbedalov1795
Жыл бұрын
You are an amazing person! I’m in awe of how much you get done. I love your videos, as a working mom of 2 kiddos as well I understand the feeling. You are awesome prioritizing yourself is essential! You’re doing fantastic!!!
@debbielopez6593
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad that you are making changes that will help with burnout.I also am a paper planner as well it makes such a difference for me. I am teaching number 5 to my daughter as we speak making her know that being a stay at home mom with her son she is doing a great job. Support is so important and I just love you and validate you.
@evem4876
Жыл бұрын
Jen u are one of my faves on Utube ur a strong woman n I've been watching for yrs now .Ur funny u crack me up , u have a great laugh it's so sweet n cute ... Ur so truthful n I like that about u so much ! I enjoy ur videos ur traveling it's neat to watch n where ur going n what ur doing on ur job . I love seeing Murphy n the new puppy n ur kids are so great kids n ue hubby when u talk to each other ur lil funny laughter's n kidding around u guys make me laugh ur such a good team u two ... I know u had a diffecult relationship with ur Mom . N it must be hard to lose her even though u two had problems . She still was ur Mom , n we're all not perfect u no ... I can just feel ur pain though when u speak about her . I'm sorry to hear she passed away with Covid . I'm sure u working in the medical field with work u must of tried to explain to her too. We had a relative to that wasn't a believer how dangerous Covid is . I just want to say we adore u n we appreciate ur videos n we understand ur burnout . N if u ever need to take a break from Utube we understand . Ur health n ur family are more important then anything ... As women we won't to support u n be there for u ok ! This is why I watch u n like u dearly Jen cause ur so real not fake . U take care n ty for sharing this with us we appreciate u being truthful ... Luv ya Jen 🦋
@lynnkayseas3055
Жыл бұрын
I agree 110 per cent, I can relate to it, I lost my mom in February 2021 and it crushed me and I am still dealing with the grief but getting better and stronger. I think it’s fabulous advice and thank you for being real and honest, I am cheering ya on!
@Meghantiffany18
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for always being honest with us. The pressure of trying to be the perfect mom and wife can be overwhelming. 😊💕
@kaleys6058
Жыл бұрын
This was a message I needed to hear and I didn’t know it. It’s nice to know I’m not alone- i put everyone and everything first and then if I have time at 10pm to do something for me then I will but usually it’s to sleep. Thank you for sharing- brought me to tears- they weight is heavy yet I wouldn’t change my role - I’m so thankful but then feel bad for feeling exhausted. Work, OT,sports, supporting hubby with his own business and being the secretary/biller… 😴 thank you for always being real and pushing me to think logically❤
@mytwospanks2510
Жыл бұрын
I’m a clinic manager. So burned out and two weeks ago told I will be relocated to support 3 clinics that are an hour to an hour and a half one way. I’m heartbroken and don’t know how I’m going to do this with my son. Will make the same hourly pay, but with gas, toll fees and an extra 2 to 3 hours away from home.😢
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry, hugs to you!
@donnaeisentraut8356
Жыл бұрын
I love your videos… it’s true that absence makes the heart grow fonder!! I do miss you on a regular basis, but when your videos are far and few between, it truly makes me appreciate a video from you more special… not that I don’t want more videos from you, but I understand that you are a mom that works a full time job as well, so I don’t want you to disappear entirely, so I’ll take what I can get! I first and foremost think you need to take care of you and your family first…. We watchers, if we truly respect you and love you, will wait for videos from you.
@moniquebutler8572
Жыл бұрын
I am very grateful to you for sharing your story and challenges. This is going to help many of us. I appreciate your candor. Thank you.
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful!
@rachel.schmidt
Жыл бұрын
I’m always in awe with how you get so much done. Sometimes something has gotta give! You are doing so great, Jen and you definitely deserve a break 💕
@eileenhoffmann701
Жыл бұрын
YES,YES! That is exactly how Im feeling and I only work part time.Something has to give!!!!
@debbierowland9992
Жыл бұрын
Aww. Jenn! You're the best! Take some time, take care of you and yours! It's ok! You and your family are top priority! You are so inspiring! ❤
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@gabbymata6991
Жыл бұрын
I’m currently working to improve my mental health. I am in education and the mental load right now is intense. Thank you.
@ejo4squared01
Жыл бұрын
Remember that you are the priority!! We can wait on content! Wishing you the best ❤
@CookCleanAndRepeat
Жыл бұрын
Just here to say I feel you! Although I am not a "working mom", I get it. I hope you find your balance and feel better girl!
@ginomo80
Жыл бұрын
Liked this before I even watched it. I love how honest you are. I’m a working mom and I fell you 100%
@medic6809
Жыл бұрын
My mom passed on new years day 2022 from Covid. She was on hospice but doing very well, got covid on thursday and died saturday afternoon. SHe said "Covid is no joke. I don't know if I can recover from this." I was 500 miles away when she died. 2022 has been a blur. I'm broken emotionally, physically and completely. We were very close and she was close to my kids. I hate this year, I really really hate it. Sending you love.
@pamguyton4597
Жыл бұрын
As a 45+hr a week working mom in the 90s - 2010 my advise is don't feel guilty to tell your kids no....especially with extracurricular activities. I wanted my kids to all they wanted to do but there are only so many hours in a day. The most important thing is to provide for your family & if that means they can only do I extra activity that's how it has to be. We have become such a "gotta have it, gotta do it" society. I think it's sad since kids seem so overstimulated with the good things vs the life skills things. Not judging just voicing my opinion. BTW my mom & other immediate family thought my kids were coddled. BTW Jen....I think you are way too hard on yourself. You owe nothing to us....stay healthy & do what you can do. Families & self care are more important than KZitem!
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
Tysm! I tell my kids no a lot....hahaha :)
@barbarajohnson83
Жыл бұрын
I am on Facebook and Instagram, when I remember that, I limit my time on social media to twice a day, early in the morning, later at night. As I find it too toxic at times, Love you Hen.
@nancya8201
Жыл бұрын
From one working mom to another, I feel you, I see you and I hear you. We all need our village and tribe. I found mine inform of Facebook group. Thank you for all you do.
@barbarajohnson83
Жыл бұрын
Love to you Jen, I don’t know how you do it all. Take care of yourself.❤️
@kathy4g565
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing and having good suggestions. We have all been there! Even once your kids are gone and you think you have all this time , I still feel burnout and feel like I can’t do it all. Just consider it a season your in and find your tribe to support you. ❤️❤️
@NOSHWITHNESS
Жыл бұрын
The Mat leave BLOWS MY F’IN MIND!!! I had a year ffs! And my husband was given a month by his employer to be with me in that time too.
@ExNihiloArchitecture
Жыл бұрын
GIRL! I understand. I really do. I am a mom of four children, ages 6-(almost)16. I am a licensed architect juggling millions of dollars in projects at work as well. Sometimes it gets to be to much. Well, it IS to much. I am treading water and trying to prioritize rest and preparation on the weekends. I am doing the best I can.
@wrigs4prez
Жыл бұрын
Working moms really be doin' the most. You're doing great!!
@Teri_Head
Жыл бұрын
Condolences on the loss of your parent. Sounds like you may be having some anxiety which is common with grief. I’m new here, so do what you need to keep it together. Therapy always helpful, but it’s such a commitment. Can do online nowadays. Lookup Esther Perel on KZitem, she has great insight on how much imbalance there are in relationships these days, and where the imbalance originates from.
@denesecardwell8532
Жыл бұрын
Jen I lost my mom in July 2020. There are many emotions regarding how she chose to address her own health . She had everything else practically, except she didn't have COVID. As for you videos, I often wondered how long you would be able to keep up. Swim practice, huge grocery hauls, massive food prep, heavy cleaning, etc. Nobody can keep that pace without hiring some help. Nobody can do it all and it's okay to say no to more and be kind to yourself. Please take care of yourself and spend more time "being" rather than "doing".
@Jen-Chapin
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry for your loss! I do have someone that helps me clean every week. It helps a lot :)
@Tetrisofthesea
Жыл бұрын
I have been noticing things piling up more than usual because of lack of time or in some cases just sheer exhaustion. I hear ya Jen. We gotta self preserve sometimes and just let things pile up. It is okay. 😮💨 Stay strong parents! ❤️
@lauratrainer2800
Жыл бұрын
Always here for a Jen rant about society’s treatment of working moms/moms in general! 👏👏 The mental load is real and EXHAUSTING! I use paper lists and planners and a shared calendar, too. I recently started using the Todoist app as well.. I can make and organize checklists, set due dates/reminders and then share access with my boyfriend. It’s helped us be a great team. Might be up your alley!
@ninac.5125
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this! I felt this a lot today - school started recently and I had to return to the office for work. Then top it with two kids and activities 3 days a week and sometimes weekends. Tank is empty … and if my husband asks me one more time why I’m so short tempered and cranky at the end of the night I think I may eat his face. 😂
@kimberlyk1502
Жыл бұрын
I have to admit, I haven’t watched your videos in a while because I’ve been trying to cut back how much YT I consume, but this popped up today and 😩 it hits so close to home. I’m trying to juggle way too much and living in a constant state of “am I going to have a break down today?” Siiiiigh. Thank you for making this video. It was a good reminder for me that I NEED to take care of myself and that it’s okay to say no sometimes ☺️
@juliethompson3028
Жыл бұрын
It is so hard to turn off and on to the work day when working from home. It’s a whole new level of burn out that I had no idea even existed. I find that I send even less time filling up my own cup.
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