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@SezFrancis1
5 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on reaching 2K, Andy! That’s absolutely amazing 😉; truly well deserved! And great Q & A! Funny you should say that about parenthood; it’s something I was asked about years ago. When I answered the question, I said I’m not ready to have children but maybe one day I will if I’m prepared to become a Mum. I love children (only when they are not screaming or shouting); most of the volunteering jobs I’ve had are with children. I even speak, wave and play peek-a-boo when I see a baby in public. It is strange but I love it as it’s wonderful to see a baby smile 😊. I think (for me) being a Mother will be tricky in terms of be prepared for the birth. It’s normally the epilepsy that is the biggest issue since I’m on medication, I have to go to neurologist appointments to see if I can convene or stick/change medication without harming the baby 👶. It’ll probably take time; in some cases for women, it’ll take years of planning. If my child was on the spectrum, I will certainly give her/him all the love and care I’ve had from my own parents and help her/him to have an open mind and a free spirit. 🦋✨
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Aww thank you Sez! Yeah I can imagine for you in particular there are other factors to consider. But I reckon you would make a great mum 😁👍
@JenniferTayloe
5 жыл бұрын
I'm a parent of an autistic son and being a parent with or without a disability, I think is hard. But well worth it. I love every second with my kids, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Aww appreciate your comment Jennifer! That makes me feel hopeful despite the challenges that parenting can bring 😁👍
@angelavestlee1
5 жыл бұрын
Consistency is the key when raising kids. The time when you will have to worry is when they are teens unless they are a aspie who has a special interest that won't get them in trouble later in life. I have read that many times and to a degree I was fairly consistent.
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Yeah I feel like consistency is the key to everything. Hopefully I can be a good dad who is consist!
@BikerNic
5 жыл бұрын
Hi. As I said on your Facebook post, my youngest daughter was just diagnosed with high functioning Aspergers(autism) and adhd and only now do I fully understand my child's temper tantrums better. I have always had a soft spot fof her, but now I actually understand and I now know how to help het better. We suspect my wife and other daughter both have aspergers too as they react the exact same way, and both has adhd. I myself was also diagnosed with adhd a few years ago, and that made me realize that humanity is not as perfect as many pretend to be. Knowing that I am adhd helped me understand and acknowledge my creative side even more too.
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Aww that's great my dude! I think if you have that experience then it only helps 👍 Also just on a personal note, I don't feel like aiming for perfection is always a good idea. Because what perfection is for you might not be for others. I guess it's all about just enjoying the moments we have and having fun 👍
@robynriana396
5 жыл бұрын
Totally relating to today’s video! 😄 1. I can do anything I set my mind to is something I believed since I was really young! It’s a great mindset to have, even if it means practicing walking without tripping or making a speech at school (which I did *proud face*). 2. I worry I wouldn’t be a good parent because I need routine but I also burnout. Most of the time I think I want a family. Just got to sort myself out first, you know. ...so thanks for the inspiration! ✨
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Aww I'm glad the video helped! Yeah definitely agree that it is a great mindset to have for sure. Ooh wow really that is awesome congratulations on during that speech. Even though I talk on KZitem, I find public speaking really stressful so doing that takes alot of courage. So well done you! Aww yeah totally hear with that last part 😁👍
@robynriana396
5 жыл бұрын
IndieAndy Thank you very much! 😁🙌
@PhenHarrison
5 жыл бұрын
My Dad did not explore the obvious signs of mental and behavioral difficulties he had. He latched onto authoritarian evangelicalism and would obsess about grandiose fantasies. I was often scared of him as a kid because he would have such extreme reactions to simple things. He and I don’t talk anymore for a couple reasons and it’s really sad. At 24, I began exploring traits in myself I was exhausted by and I knew I needed help. It became clear that I have Asperger’s and there is a huge chance my Dad did too. It explains a lot of his behavior. He would never do the research and admit it himself but, it helps me at least understand why he was the way he was and why I reacted with such terrified confusion when he would have angry frustration outbursts. I decided, since I already have two nieces and a nephew, I’m relieved with choosing not to have children. I am happy I figured myself out before that. If I had a kid at 17 with the difficulties I have, I don’t think I could of handled it and/or things would never be the same. I need personal freedom and even a relationship, which I’m in, is very challenging to me. I feel like I made the right decision. If I had all the money in the world, that’s a different story maybe. I think, with our wealth of knowledge about yourself and Asperger’s, you will be able to work with your emotions better than my father. Best regards to your journey!
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Hi there! Firstly can I just say I appreciate you sharing that with me. It's not something you say to people and I imagine it was tough growing. But of course I am happy to see that you have managed to find yourself in a sense. I agree with the relationship statement. I also need my personal freedoms from time to time.
@kayleyvlogs2739
5 жыл бұрын
im still way to young to know if i want to be a parent or not but maybe someday if i find the right one
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Aww yeah that's a fair answer & I was the same when I was younger too. Plenty time ahead of you so just go there and have fun! 👍
@anaspergerperspective5928
5 жыл бұрын
Hello, well I'm 37 and not a parent, and don't wish to be one. I won't say never, but its not likely. Never seen the appeal of all those sleepless nights, nappy changes, getting home from work and having a kid demanding attention. There's too much hard work to do before you reap any of the benefits, and even then the hard work continues, and I certainly couldn't deal with a teenager like I was crippled by worries. Rather focus on things I'm good at and have more free time.
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
That's pretty fair I use to think the same. Like I never thought that fatherhood would be for me quite honestly. But I don't know there's just something exciting about myself and my fiance having a little one.
@AJponyAPschannel
5 жыл бұрын
Here’s a possible brain teaser for you; limitations? Long story shortened; my parents have been getting on me about me accepting my ‘limitations’ and what I... ‘can’t’ (hate that word >.>) do because of my autism, and about me ‘accepting’ them. A off the top example is them saying I can never handle driving large vehicles, or with being a proper judge of reality. NOW!!! They DO NOT (I think) mean it in any malice way, BUT, it’s definitely gotten to a point of high stress thats, ironically, keeping me from growing and maturing in the real world Last bit was a bit of a tangent for context, so I’ll just reask/simply; -What do you think about limitations (if any) autistic people might have/should deal with them?
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Aww that's a good question, I've added it to my questions list. I guess it's hard to say as all autistic people are different. For myself, I feel I am limited by my communication as sometimes I'll talk but it doesn't come out the way I want it to and gets misinterpreted.
@pandacrazy3005
5 жыл бұрын
i'm glad you're doing well, andy! i'm doing well too, i'm getting a lot of opportunities in my life and it's going well :-D
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Aww that is awesome to hear! 👍
@angelavestlee1
5 жыл бұрын
Both my kids have masters degrees and are healthy so I guess I did okay but it was hard work when they were growing up.
@IndieAndy
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Angela, thank you so much for your comment! I was going to say it sounds like your sons are really well with their degrees :) Think you should be proud!
@angelavestlee1
5 жыл бұрын
Just ask Dan of Aspie World what he does if you have a kid he is a dad. I wish I knew about the things Dan uses when I was a parent,. I may be sane now.:)
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