“It’s not vain or fake to want to present yourself well.” THANK YOU
@jesss101
Ай бұрын
it's common sense! everyone should put their best foot forward. being honest to the point where it's unflattering is just silly lol
@Momo-po5tn
Ай бұрын
Yep! Im not gonna post myself crying to make you feel better about your own life!
@voidfloof
Ай бұрын
if looking decent is fake then i don't wanna be real
@littlemoth4956
Ай бұрын
@@jesss101What? You should care about flattering people over being honest?
@joyc.e.7511
Ай бұрын
@@littlemoth4956first impressions matter and nobody is holding you at gun point to be "honest" online.
@anootnoot7192
Ай бұрын
i had a 7th grade teacher who drilled “the internet is forever, and everyone has access to it” into us nearly every single day. he had posters on his walls reminding us that privacy online is in our hands. this was at least 11 years ago. i wish his students had taken him more seriously.
@Geist1027
Ай бұрын
Bro, they don't even teach kids that shit anymore.
@anootnoot7192
Ай бұрын
@@Geist1027 to be fair, it wasn’t part of the curriculum. but snapchat was gaining popularity and it was around the time when practically every student started having an iphone and constant access to social media. he wasn’t asked or encouraged to teach us about internet safety, and no other teacher taught it, either. he was just a very concerned english teacher.
@Samurai_2552
29 күн бұрын
on god that shit helped
@arandomsupra
28 күн бұрын
"lmao i can just delete it though" 20 people have screenshotted it, 2000 people have reposted it, and no matter how much you delete, it wont just erase it from peoples minds.
@gAm3r_GuRl984
28 күн бұрын
I’m taught internet safety every YEAR! They don’t forget
@kegaming7381
24 күн бұрын
"Social media made y'all way too comfortable with disrespecting people and not getting punched in the face for it."
@farahfatima4013
14 күн бұрын
- mike tyson
@YaniBro
13 күн бұрын
Tyson so real for this
@sauzy0
11 күн бұрын
Facts
@mek2472
5 күн бұрын
Hear that Twitter!?
@vickypedia1308
Ай бұрын
Some people treat social media like their personal diary and it baffles me
@ariadnameza6594
Ай бұрын
@@vanillavania.the day my little cousin found my Pinterest profile I felt like my sacred sanctum had been profaned.
@effected0
Ай бұрын
I've seen some Twitter accounts that literally have their bio set as "my online diary" and it's a concept I genuinely can't ever grasp😭 How and why
@girl24689
Ай бұрын
@@vanillavania.or sites meant to be anonymous accounts like Tumblr and Reddit, but even that’s risky and encourages bad behavior
@morgboat744
Ай бұрын
i kinda do that but my thoughts are pretty much those of a 6 year old so i’m not worried about it
@ziinahere
Ай бұрын
People need to get (back) into journaling
@pylonade2785
Ай бұрын
“Would I say/do this in front of people?” This line of thinking has saved my ass online so many times
@mlem6951
29 күн бұрын
For me it's more like, what do i care. I don't know these people, so let them have their miserable lifes. Because i WOULD say/do most of the things, i want to do on the internet, also in RL. Because i learned to stood up for me, for the most part. Because there is too much shit happening otherwise, people taking advantage of me and other stuff.
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
Always shuck and jive for the overseers. Never let them know what you really think of them.
@trolledfordrip
28 күн бұрын
also think "would people get super mad or partly mad if i do this to them" this will save you at lest once
@donttalktomebye
27 күн бұрын
"is this something that people need to know about me?" or "why do i feel the need to share this?"
@Lou-yf1jo
25 күн бұрын
No, never saves.
@roxlinm
29 күн бұрын
It’s gotten to the point where you’re seen as “weird” or “creepy” if you DONT have social media. I told a girl I go to college with that I don’t have insta or TT, and she asked me “what do you have to hide?” nothing?? some of us just don’t feel the need to have public SM, it’s nothing personal or “creepy.”
@SteampunkHorse
29 күн бұрын
Reminds me of a joke from Project Mc2 - “Snapchat I can understand, but no Insta? Super sketch.”
@Bruno-jj2oi
26 күн бұрын
It's funny bc most of these people's lives are waaayyyyy different to what they post on insta, so who's really hiding something here huh? Lmao
@drowsy7921
25 күн бұрын
I have seen a KZitemr warn girls about men who don't post to social media. It's weird. Just because he doesn't post to social media doesn't mean he's a misogynistic creep. In fact, I'd say it makes him less likely to be a creep, since misogyny is ALL OVER SOCIAL MEDIA.
@SteampunkHorse
24 күн бұрын
@@drowsy7921 real
@banquetoftheleviathan1404
24 күн бұрын
@@drowsy7921who said anything about hating women. which youtuber?
@bevbevbev_
Ай бұрын
years ago on twitter someone tweeted "people come here and tell us things I wouldn't even tell God" and I think about this all this time. Oversharing is now so normalised because people want to be seen as "relatable".
@mlem6951
29 күн бұрын
I understand it, when it's anonym. It can be a freeing feeling, to let stuff out, which you can't tell anybode. But still want real people to know about it. But in person? With your name, photo and all shit? Like, what's the point, other than attentionseeking, wether it's good or bad xx.
@toastedprocastinator
27 күн бұрын
fr. 😭
@elijahsmall5873
27 күн бұрын
Wanting to seem “relatable” isn’t the only reason someone would share aspects of their life on the internet. For some, they have nobody else to go to and sometimes sharing your experiences online can allow you to find others going through similar situations which can make you feel not so alone. People can give you advice on the internet when you have no one else around. Sharing experiences and telling stories can inspire others and spread new ideas. Getting things off your chest is also something sharing on the internet provides. Learning new things about other people and how they live can teach you a lot about our world and how different or similar your experiences may be to someone else’s. Not all of it is about trying to be relatable and not all of it is bad.
@bustanut5501
27 күн бұрын
@@elijahsmall5873That's true and no one denies the benefits of finding a group online of like-minded people that you can confide in. But as the video stated, there's a balance and a way to convey these aspects of your life. No one needs to know every embarrassing detail about your life, strangers on the internet even less so.
@Schnitzel-wj9cp
27 күн бұрын
A lot of what I’ve seen isn’t even something that’s relatable. It’s just stuff that’s disgusting and horrible
@avej99
Ай бұрын
The annoying consequence is that people feel like they’re entitled to know somebody’s business and get mad when they keep things private almost like thats fucking normal
@MichaelaFlowers
Ай бұрын
This!!
@seaemji8591
Ай бұрын
For real ! So many internet arguments involve at least one "private account+no pfp, do you have something to hide ?" Or something along those lines. And like, no ? Since when do we need to show everyone everything about our lives not to be some kind of criminal ?
@magnus1383
Ай бұрын
Or think that they should be allowed to be inappropriate wherever they want to be
@dani-888
Ай бұрын
!!
@littlemoth4956
Ай бұрын
@@seaemji8591I’ve literally never seen that lol
@rokkalombardi2196
29 күн бұрын
Terminally online people are way too comfortable telling extremely personal details on social media.
@lobstermash
22 күн бұрын
And if they get trolled over something they whinge about how awful it is and messing with their mental health but they never put the phone down and spend 16 hours a day reading the comments. Just stop.
@ghostsuru8429
4 күн бұрын
I don't think it's just terminally online people. Some people just have a different outlook in life and sometimes end up being TOO friendly because they've never had to experience being defensive about personal details. I envy these kind of people cause they're just so nice, but you know they're vulnerable and probably have been taken advantage of without being aware about it.
@ana.wordswordswords
Ай бұрын
people genuinely have gotten so unbelievably comfortable on the internet. not just with their thoughts, but just... in general. they'll tell you where they live, their full name, their age, everything.
@drakynoch
Ай бұрын
Not to mention how many of them record themselves committing crimes... taking selfies with their victims... it's just. What is social media doing to people's brains? (Unless you count YT and MySpace (which I deleted once I went to college) I've never had social media... looks like madness to me.)
@ana.wordswordswords
Ай бұрын
@@drakynoch that whole devious licks trend where people just recorded themselves stealing was INSANE. i actually recently quit all social media except for youtube and facebook
@shadesoftime
Ай бұрын
@@ana.wordswordswordsyou kept the worst one😭
@islanddryad
Ай бұрын
@@shadesoftime nah Twitter is worse, esp post elon
@godregretsme6955
Ай бұрын
People’s name and addresses used to be public information and now that it’s a voluntary action it’s seen as different when people give it out I find that different history interesting
@poopalachas5200
Ай бұрын
Reading the title made me remember that inside thoughts were supposed to be explained in kindergarten.
@Gatekeeper_Edits
Ай бұрын
Facts dude, some people forget the most basic knowledge and have the most underdeveloped social skills to think we would need to know something that shoulda stayed in the drafts
@wrenthewretched3433
Ай бұрын
@Gatekeeper_Edits I feel like maybe covid and just a lot of kids growing up online has impacted that knowledge, since social media is all about sharing things to strangers
@g3n0sc1d3
Ай бұрын
Or people don't really give a shit anymore and just say what they want
@Katriella.
Ай бұрын
And then being incorrectly taught ALL thoughts should stay inside and therefore so many grow up emotionally constipated :')
@kerisaltchannel3817
Ай бұрын
@@Katriella.like me
@artlover5060
29 күн бұрын
As a 22 year old, when I heard the words "20-year old", I had to pause and take a look at my hands to confirm my very life essence wasn't drained by the second.
@amandapanda5087
26 күн бұрын
I'm 23 and I felt ancient
@RamenNamen991
25 күн бұрын
FR
@icarusthorn9739
24 күн бұрын
@@amandapanda5087 I'm 24, I'm practically dust.
@lolliii5477
20 күн бұрын
@@amandapanda5087 life update: the rapid agings are getting worse
@albister1200
14 күн бұрын
@@icarusthorn9739 Same
@lisatroiani6119
Ай бұрын
as someone once said: “there’s no such thing as a thought crime, but once you say something, it ceases to be a thought.”
@exhaustive_the_sixth
Ай бұрын
Conspiracy theory: with the release of neuralink big tech companies will be able to see our thoughts.
@foogriffy
Ай бұрын
this is neurologically true as well. studies have shown utterances, even if we mumble under our breath, as well as writing, get encoded and reinforced in the brain. the things you you bring out of your brain are the thoughts that get reinforced.
@fatcat5817
Ай бұрын
Meh, could just be a warning. Before the strike. Rattlesnakes do that all the time. 🤨 Oh, sh** is that why they have a flag that says don't tread on me?!?! 🤯 🙀 🤣 Try not to be surprised when you get mauled by the wild, hungry, big brown BEAR! 😍.
@lisatroiani6119
Ай бұрын
@@fatcat5817 what the fuck is with the emojis
@frog731
Ай бұрын
@fatcat5817 what does this have to do with anything?
@cats_go_meow
Ай бұрын
New speaking spot just dropped
@MaxwellCatAlphonk
Ай бұрын
Yoooooo
@llliiimmmeee
Ай бұрын
i can confirm the fact stated in your username is factually accurate thank you, from michael
@fUZZILin
Ай бұрын
Actual green screen
@halfsine
Ай бұрын
@@llliiimmmeee my cat squeaks, should i take him to the vet?
@llliiimmmeee
Ай бұрын
@@halfsine check if he ate a mouse thank you, from michael
@Nitecookie
28 күн бұрын
i have never seen a video from this man in my entire life until now, but as soon as i saw the floor greenscreen, i knew it was gonna be a banger
@mikkyj9374
Ай бұрын
As someone who struggles to open up at all, oversharing online confuses me on where I should even start and end with talking about myself comfortably
@midnight4685
Ай бұрын
For me, it's pretty clear - would I say it on live television? Would I say it in front of a crowd? If the answer is no to either of those questions, it's too much to share publicly. You should probably share it with your friends. If it's something like "I really like dragons" or "I had a bad day AND here's some advice or support for everyone else", that's constructive, able to benefit others and probably worth sharing. A lot of the time, it comes down to purpose. I barely talk about myself online, I almost exclusively express opinions, because I want to provide another perspective for people to make a judgement with. Or, I'll talk about specific personal matters for moral support to others, such as in the comments of a KZitem video about a topic I've been affected by. Usually, people appreciate it when a message is meant for them, if you're sharing with the clear intention of involving others. Asking for advice and help is also fine, as once again, you're looking for something that you know internet strangers are able to do (often still best to first ask those around you). Otherwise, if you're sharing because it helps you put things into words and process things (which is good and healthy), keep it in a journal or in messages/discussions with a friend or family member. That's the kind of vulnerability which strangers online aren't really entitled to. If a wider audience doesn't feel like they have anything to do with the situation, they might react negatively. In the case of the breakup TikTok in this video, the video is supposed to provoke an intense negative reaction and make its audience feel bad, without providing anything helpful in return (no advice, no asking for advice, no engagement with the viewers, etc.). It's just a spectacle for viewers to see and feel bad for her, more like gazing through a stranger's bedroom window, which people don't enjoy. So it feels very private. If she had then followed it up with "I react physically to extreme emotion, here are some ways to healthily deal with emotions" that'd help a bit. It's giving a demonstration of a problem and then solving it, rather than just dumping something bad for everyone to see with no clear purpose. Anyway, if anyone else sees this, feel free to add your own opinions on the topic, these are just my two cents (or twenty cents with how long this became). At the end of the day, you'll find accepting people everywhere, you don't need to please everyone with what you share online, just be safe and mindful of the fact that hypothetically, everyone in the world could see it. If they did, would you be okay with that?
@Sixty_Five_Pronghorn
Ай бұрын
My rule of thumb is this: If I wouldn’t say it at the Thanksgiving dinner table, I should keep it to myself and/or my very close friends and family.
@ayanaaworldwide
Ай бұрын
11¹¹1¹@@midnight4685
@Denise0001
27 күн бұрын
Yeahh, and from time to time I feel pressured to share more, especially on social media. Since everyone else is doing it, why wouldn't I? Then I start to think about the consequences and I regret really quickly 👍
@chocolatedtoss
26 күн бұрын
frrr me too
@FirstnameLastname-jd4uq
Ай бұрын
Its hard to not overshare when you can’t tell what is oversharing and what isn’t, and don’t immediately realize that you have made everyone in the room uncomfortable and now they want to stay 500 feet away from you at all times
@MidnightEkaki
Ай бұрын
i notice its a struggle with autistic people and people with ADHD in particular
@g3n0sc1d3
Ай бұрын
@@MidnightEkakirelate. Nothing discomforts me. Once someone offered me coffee and I said no thanks it makes me poop and they started laughing and I didn't understand why. Because i was serious.
@breakerbeams
Ай бұрын
the autistic experience tm
@user-lv4ep3sz9f
Ай бұрын
Yup!!
@wackyclock
Ай бұрын
@@g3n0sc1d3 shitting is hilarious
@starlumpy
28 күн бұрын
I used to overshare online, and I can explain why. IRL, I’ve always found it very hard to open up to others and I never had many friends. I didn’t have anyone to confide in growing up as my parents weren’t there for me and didn’t care about me. I had to go online to get any sort of attention. I was invisible at home and in school, but online, there was a chance that someone could finally pay attention to me and listen to what I had to say. For the first time in my life, I felt like I had “friends” because I talked to people online when I had no one else. For me, the oversharing happened because I desperately wanted to show anyone all parts of me in the hopes that someone, anyone, would accept some or all the parts of me. TLDR: I overshared because I was deeply lonely and wanted literally anyone to talk to me and pay attention to me as I had no one IRL to talk to.
@damnedifidonut
27 күн бұрын
Me too, except I had nobody to talk to due to my parents being overly spiritual and a lot of topics were off the table, hence I would go online and just talk endlessly. Thank God for growth though
@starlumpy
26 күн бұрын
@@damnedifidonut my parents were also extremely religious and didn’t want me talking to anyone who wasn’t Christian. that definitely didn’t help my isolation
@anynomous6048
25 күн бұрын
I "used" to over share ... Are u sure 😭😭😭
@trollisourbriteeggs6282
25 күн бұрын
@@anynomous6048 this is not oversharing it's discussing the topic of the video...
@starlumpy
24 күн бұрын
@@anynomous6048 yeah I’m sure 👍
@niharika3280
Ай бұрын
Of topic but the floor screen is the coolest thing ever
@Jocka-v6f
Ай бұрын
Agreed
@pizzamemess
Ай бұрын
Agreed
@Sleepy_sandy
Ай бұрын
Agreed
@randomdoggo9489
Ай бұрын
Agreed
@TylevGD
Ай бұрын
Agreed
@Lentilsandbannanaz
Ай бұрын
I like seeing someones actually regular kinda messy house over someone with a perfect and pristine backdrop
@marklouis1890
Ай бұрын
He is quite relatable
@derpsakry4464
Ай бұрын
Yeah, its a lot better than the perfectly decorated "aesthetic" pastel-colored recording room. The slight mess adds to the "Lets be real for a second" mood.
@millo7295
Ай бұрын
I live in garbage The mold gives me power
@millo7295
Ай бұрын
"let's be real" (uses the room that's being re-painted, like a real house would need now and then)
@tetrakis7755
Ай бұрын
@@derpsakry4464 Or…they’re both fine ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. I don’t see why people get pressed over the pastel girlies lmaooo
@LumaSloth
29 күн бұрын
0:06 bro really added a water pouring sound effect
@Cunthur
28 күн бұрын
Quality production is in the details friend😂
@GWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGW
27 күн бұрын
not the xbox pfp
@samtinkle9076
27 күн бұрын
and
@ogsculee
27 күн бұрын
shit goes vile 🔥🔥🔥@@GWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGWAHGW
@FUNKY_KETCHUP
22 күн бұрын
This comment is the embodiment of the main topic discussed in the video...
@Dr_Oinkles
Ай бұрын
This guys "having class outside" energy is unmatched
@nicjoy4407
28 күн бұрын
Could you elaborate, not sure what this one means.
@Dr_Oinkles
28 күн бұрын
@@nicjoy4407 fun teacher has class outside usually = chill person that actually enjoys educating others. This guy really wants people to retain what hes teaching em
@nicjoy4407
27 күн бұрын
@@Dr_Oinkles Ah makes sense, I was thinking of the other definition of class and was confused, thanks for clarifying.
@amandapanda5087
26 күн бұрын
Fr
@trollisourbriteeggs6282
25 күн бұрын
i scrolled through the comments a bit before watching (idk why, don't ask) but felt this 100% just within the first few seconds of the video. haha.
@sanjanat1085
Ай бұрын
Reminds me of that tiktok where maternity ward nurses were "sharing their icks". I also remember the number of women who came forward after who said half their health anxiety came from the prospect of their healthcare provider having these thoughts but verbalising them just made it worse. If you don't like something, especially something about your job, you need to use your adult discretion and critical thinking when sharing them, because how are you gonna talk ill about your patients then be surprised when you inevitably get fired lol
@avelynn5976
Ай бұрын
there were women who stitched the video talking about their own experiences with those particular nurses and how horribly they were treated as well.
@xchrysantha
27 күн бұрын
I had a chiropractor who had a youtube channel. She had great resources, like stretches and exercises. But she posted a youtube short complaining about how her patients treated her like a therapist and would just overshare about their whole lives. Is it a valid complaint? Absolutely. But as her patient, but I started overthinking and getting really anxious and worried about it. Whenever I'd go to the appointment, I'd start obsessing like, "Is she thinking about it now? Did I say too much? Is this what she meant by oversharing?" The appointment after I saw that video was my last one with her.
@vixxcelacea2778
25 күн бұрын
@@xchrysantha First, I have to say something, because chiropractic's are not a valid medical treatment and some people have been permanently disabled due to it, so please, do not go to any chiropractor. It's placebo affect and some people have seriously lost their quality of life because the back and neck are stupid delicate and there is no certified medical training for people who do the practice. I'll never forget reading about a poor woman who became paralyzed due to it and was never herself again. If you're having back pain, go to a doctor and they can get you a specialist who will actually address the issue. And before someone gets on my back about how people wouldn't be allowed to sell something that can and often does hurt many many people, let me direct you to the fact that you can buy cigarettes. Cigarettes also were sold as a health aid before info flooded in about the reality. Second, if you're in a health care profession of any kind or health care adjacent, you NEVER say things like this about clients. You can talk to others in a field in a space to share it and unload, but you don't put it out in the open like that. It's not cool or okay.
@xchrysantha
25 күн бұрын
@@vixxcelacea2778 Thank you so much for saying all of this. I originally went to her because I used to see another "chiropractor" YEARS ago, and she did wonders on me and relieved so much pain. BUT. It turned out she was actually a physical therapist and I got the two confused somehow. Or like, she did both? Anyway point is I got a proper physical therapy referral and saw a professional, and all my back and neck issues were properly supported and managed. Also another example of things people can sell even if they're harmful are vitamins. People assume that because it's for your "health," it HAS to be regulated; but in fact it's not AT ALL regulated by the FDA because it's not legally considered "medicine." Which is infuriating to me but also really scary. Anyway thank you very much for the PSA. I don't know enough about medicine to say definitively whether it's terrible, but I DEFINITELY would advocate seeing a physical therapist over a chiropractor. When you get your bones cracked, eventually they'll unalign again. But a physical therapist helps you build muscle around your bones so that they don't unalign at all.
@billbill6094
25 күн бұрын
In that job you've just got to learn not to be disgusted by them. Because while most of us might not want to deal with that on the daily, it is simply natural parts of the human body and birthing process that does not reflect anything about the person. And while you think you may be maintaining objectivity, you're probably associating those negative feelings, "icks", with the patient and that's not fair. A lot of people have become divorced from the idea of trying to improve themselves to be more fair to others. Even better than hiding that you find the women giving birth disgusting, how about they actually put an effort into normalizing these normal things so the patients who already fear judgement aren't actually being judged?
@12DAMDO
29 күн бұрын
this is the most correct reason to leave social media.. it being toxic is one thing, but realistically speaking there is nothing normal about sharing your life/thoughts to the public.. the crazy part is that social media has invented this concept of going behind someone's back in the open, it's like how do you even do that when you're backstabbing someone right infront of them?
@SteampunkHorse
29 күн бұрын
Very eloquently said! You’re absolutely right. I once wrote something similar about social media: “laughing behind your back but making sure you know about it”. What a strange time to be alive.
@12DAMDO
10 күн бұрын
@@samf.s.7731 fair.. we all like to talk about it, but we are all guilty of it sometimes.. but i think acknowledging is the first step, because it gives us the self-awareness to prevent ourselves from posting things that did not need to be posted
@BiblicallyHandle
Ай бұрын
The illusion of closeness is so important to realize. I worked closely with a coworker for 3 years and mistook that for friendship.
@lechuga9153
Ай бұрын
That’s so true. In my case sometimes I would get questioned by my own mom because I said I didn’t have any friends at school. The way I see it is like this, they are acquaintances, and though we share some hours of the day and partner up to work, the reality is that they aren’t close enough to feel as if we care or know each other on a personal level. Sure they can be cool and all, but they didn’t really feel like friends. I’ve got people that share and hang out with me a lot more in various situations, and we share an actual connection that lasts for much longer. She still got surprised when I told her that I didn’t talk anymore to any of my classmates or that they didn’t even say anything after we made some souvenirs for ending high school. Like- I told you, they ain’t my friends 💀 So yes, it's important to know the difference but people do be pushing that closeness a little too much like it is compulsive, so that confuses you too 🤨 The line gets blurry
@landofthehazymist
Ай бұрын
Same with roommates
@Dave102693
Ай бұрын
@@lechuga9153this
@_sandy_
Ай бұрын
fascinating
@thepinkestpigglet7529
29 күн бұрын
@@lechuga9153 I feel like the issue was you apparently graduated high school without upping any of these acquaintances to friends. That is supposed to happen. You're supposed to ask these people if they want to hang out after school or if you live in the middle of no where like me if they want to play online video games together.
@edenbetterr
Ай бұрын
i fw this guy's vibe so hard
@moosesues8887
Ай бұрын
Rare Ena In pfp
@lingonberryjam
Ай бұрын
@@moosesues8887 even rarer psycholonials pfp
@moosesues8887
Ай бұрын
@@lingonberryjam the hussie pfps have taken over the replies
@Cyburim
Ай бұрын
Rare tavros profile pic🎉@@lingonberryjam
@officialLWH
Ай бұрын
Is my pfp rare?😢
@TheFutureYoutuber
26 күн бұрын
I've learned that the same principle of "Ignore the person who wants attention" is also a great way of dealing with bozo's who are tryna just cause problems for the sake if it. If someone come's rushing into a group chat spewing slurs or something, pretending they don't exist is the best way of pissing that guy off. Like, if someone want's to push your buttons, but they can't find them, then they are either gonna give up, or start working alot harder to find the buttons, usually leading to worse consequences.
@hue.main1
Ай бұрын
One of the scary things about over sharing is that there’s people who can figure out where you are from just seeing what’s outside your window and knowing what state you live in. People forget the safety they need to take when sharing personal information.
@stain1550
Ай бұрын
nah fr, people can say that thats some schizo shit but in reality if someone cared enough and you posted videos online making it very clear what your surroundings look like and maybe even mention what state ur in, there would be close to nothing stopping said person from do what they want with that info
@birdsarethecoolest
Ай бұрын
Data brokers make me hesitate about pursuing content creation they're so scary to me. I don't know if people online either don't know this, are aware and just go forward making vids anyway, or have found a way to get rid of their private info online that I can't find myself. The only solution I find is to just reveal as little about yourself as possible
@fartguzzler
Ай бұрын
Rainbolt knowing what country your in by looking at the trees in the background
@kathrineici9811
Ай бұрын
Always remember the hunt for Shia’s flag
@SigFigNewton
Ай бұрын
Rainbolt’s channel
@CoolKaius
Ай бұрын
This also applies to customers who randomly trauma-dump on service workers. Some people will share horrifying details with no restraint. And because you're working you can't avoid those people
@hideakisorachi3953
Ай бұрын
oh my God the amount of weird inappropriate things people have told me about their exes or extremely traumatizing events is actually nauseating. especially bc I knew I didn't look my age then. why is your grown ass talking about that to someone you assume is 16!!!
@ian6882
29 күн бұрын
God this annoys me so so much. I could write a novel on how much this irritates me. Like, I do not want to have a conversation with you!!! I am working and, as it is dictated by proper customer service, I cannot tell you to stfu and leave me alone! You are trapping me in a conversation and if I had nothing to do, i’d much rather go sit down and watch the clock or something. Customers that know what they want, order quickly and don’t try to chat me up? I could kiss them on the lips. It is incredibly irritating having someone try small talk when you’re going off 4 hours of sleep and your feet are making you feel like you’re the original little mermaid.
@yourstruly9013
29 күн бұрын
Yes! I worked in a regular plant nursery, and still couldn’t avoid people who wanted to trauma dump. Ma’am I’m only qualified to tell you watering instructions 😭
@lilyjawad13
29 күн бұрын
The trauma dumping doesn't bother me anymore, I view it as making someone feel heard. I've helped customers who had cancer, miscarriages, survivors of abuse(SA), and the homeless. You never know what someone's been through and your small interaction could make a huge difference.
@thepinkestpigglet7529
29 күн бұрын
It wasn't trauma dumping but that regular when I worked at family dollar who insisted on starting a rant about transgender people using bathrooms whenever there wasn't someone in line behind him. 1. Sir. I am a cashier. You are a customer. You have a position of power over me. I cannot express my thoughts to you less you report me to corporate for disagreeing with you. 2. We have one single occupant bathroom in this store.
@MugRoohBeerh5812
27 күн бұрын
Now this is what we all need: A reminder that social media is not your personal diary with voices.
@tinytot6199
Ай бұрын
I am absolutely entranced by your filming set up. The Apple headphones that click every-time it moves, the dent in the wall, the floor screen held down by paint cans, the almost full view of your living room, the papers strewn everywhere, the red floor. I love it
@tinytot6199
Ай бұрын
It’s just a nice contrast to the perfectly lit filming room of a lot of KZitemrs. You instead give the vibe of a talented but chaotic detective
@user-ws9ko1pu1y
Ай бұрын
@@tinytot6199the perfect description! now all we need is the cork-board with sticky notes, pins, and thread.
@IjeomaThePlantMama
Ай бұрын
@@tinytot6199 chaotic detective is crazy accurate
@Dave102693
Ай бұрын
The click is irritating lol
@jake-wu2nq
Ай бұрын
@@Dave102693makes it borderline unwatchable fr
@deus8133
Ай бұрын
Thank you Greenscreen Floor Guy. Please remember me at 100k
@imaraoctavia
Ай бұрын
Cause he was at 5k when I started following and now that’s double
@StratoBlox
Ай бұрын
Remeber me with every view this comment gets I get more hate (iykyk)
@bigolnoob5491
Ай бұрын
@@imaraoctavia He is finally garnering the attention he deserves. The internet needs to know more of these people, I dont know how much of David Achu or his knowledge is present in others (or ones who are willing or needed to share this topic)
@cyancat8633
Ай бұрын
Everyone is doing their job here including me
@Lucky9_9
Ай бұрын
@@cyancat8633 Bro same
@FyruHawk
24 күн бұрын
that last part of "refusing to give things you don't like attention" is something I've been doing for a while now. has probably saved me countless hours of pointless argument and stress.
@chrispylee1019
Ай бұрын
I blame Twitter for making people believe we care about every single thought strangers and celebrities have.
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
Don't like it, don't read it. It's what used to be called free speech but has become as worthless as the rest of the bill of rights.
@bogdana473
27 күн бұрын
There were blogs before twitter. And comment sections in these blogs is where trauma dump began. That’s how I remember it
@Qubikrus
27 күн бұрын
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@Qubikrus
27 күн бұрын
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@Qubikrus
27 күн бұрын
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@dareelmemeboi
Ай бұрын
The fact that you can make videos more entertaining than most big content creators with just your personality, no flashy effects shows how much editing they do to make their stuff "interesting"
@saharkh4342
Ай бұрын
True i jus stumbled upon him damn, quality content
@bexiexz
Ай бұрын
this is so so real
@lhobang
Ай бұрын
Not just effects and editting, there are also mannerism, flow, and how he delivers the content with good engaging body language, or something like that
@Kalitayy
Ай бұрын
This is the REAL KZitemr. Heavy editing doesn't make one a KZitemr, it makes them a content creator.
@aexxir
Ай бұрын
its not that they need it to make their videos interesting, its that theyre using it to maximise watch time
@Sebisajiminstan
28 күн бұрын
As a millennial, we had it drilled into us that the internet is dangerous, that we should take it seriously, remain as anonymous as possible, etc. I think the youngesters didn’t get the same warnings, while also getting more and more ways to share things with the world. And now everyone is doing it, so it seems like it’s okay. We need to bring back privacy. Also, one of my favorite things to remind people online is: just because you have an opinion on something does not mean it is important or that it needs to be shared. A lot tend to cling to their “right to free speech” and “im just sharing my opinion” when they are being mean for no reason and like. Just cause you have an opinion does not mean you need to share it. Especially when it’s used as an excuse to hate on something or someone. Would you still share that opinion face to face when there’s a chance you might get punched and/or slapped? If not, maybe practice the same restraint on the internet as well.
@three_frogs_in_a_trench_coat
26 күн бұрын
As someone from gen z, i got internet safety classes! Lucky me! Also my dad who works on computers drilled it into my head. I keep being so befudulled by people sharing their ages and irl names on Discord and stuff. How can they share that?? That's pretty dangerous man.
@Bruno-jj2oi
26 күн бұрын
I'm an gen Z elder and i learned it the hard way: by constant exposition of the most unhinged stuff a person can think of
@bungercolumbus
13 күн бұрын
Nah I also got it.
@MisterSam007
11 күн бұрын
not liking something is normal thing to do
@liiiiich3n0nTheM00n
11 күн бұрын
Yeah, I hate the overemphasis on "cringiness" on the internet because the result is people who would rather starve themselves than have any sort of nonconformity associated with themselves for even a second
@frenchiesottises8193
Ай бұрын
The last part where he mentions that refusing to give them attention and blocking them needs to be said SO MUCH LOUDER. It's an unwritten rule of Tumblr that if someone's causing trouble to NOT GIVE THEM ATTENTION. Just politely block, or even report them if you feel like they may be breaking ToS. I've applied this advice to all websites I have an account on, and it's been great. Algorithms may exist, but you truly do curate your own experience.
@queenie.mp3
Ай бұрын
That's one thing I love with Tumblr; the block culture. On sites like twitter (from my experience) people take it very personally when you block them
@frenchiesottises8193
Ай бұрын
@@queenie.mp3 Yeah, and it's so crazy cause like.. you don't owe them an explanation for blocking them?? The block button isn't just for more serious matters, you can block for any reason. There's really nothing personal about it. And it's even crazier knowing Twitter has the addition of a MUTE BUTTON. Tumblr only has a block button!
@Jenna_Talia
Ай бұрын
Bluesky too. The people on there have dreams of a second Twitter and part of that dream is not letting utter weirdos gain traction through quote posts.
@LordDaret
29 күн бұрын
@@frenchiesottises8193the issue tends to be block chains. Sometimes you don’t even interact with someone and suddenly you can’t see their profile. With concerns over echo chamber and predatory algorithms, it makes it look more like you can’t handle criticism rather than preference.
@frenchiesottises8193
29 күн бұрын
@@LordDaret I may need more context cause, tbf, I don't entirely understand what block chains are, at least for Twitter.
@saigonoryuu3101
Ай бұрын
emotional intelligence is overlooked
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
Emotional intelligence is the ability to lie and manipulate and be phony as hell and has nothing to do with actual intelligence.
@pliat
27 күн бұрын
Good
@emilioemilioo
29 күн бұрын
"have you considered interpretive dance, perhaps?" 😭😭
@IanZWhite00
Ай бұрын
13:32 Reminds me of the way people will feel completely justified in being as cruel to strangers as their creativity allows provided they’re winning an argument or correcting someone. Like you’ll go “hey that was really unnecessarily rude” and they’ll go “am I _wrong_ though?” As if being correct is only thing we should care about. Everyone’s just itching to nastily condescend anyone with the gall to know less about a topic than they do The BIGGEST flaw I see us consistently ignore is how we instinctually moralize intelligence. Like when a bigot’s public meltdown goes viral, it’s second nature to start attacking their intelligence and calling them dumb rather than condemning the intelligence-agnostic values that can lead anyone to bigoted views provided they have enough hate in their hearts. You don’t have to be smart to be a good person. And being smart gives you a lot of power to be a complete asshole that people do not wield responsibly
@yegorgribenuke6853
Ай бұрын
The worst type of person is a person who only cares about intelligence and facts and will stop at nothing to prove that they are right, trampling over everyone in the process, even if they are, in the end.
@DapperParanormalInstigator
Ай бұрын
It goes beyond objective facts or knowledge. Interpersonal relationships can just get plain messy due to miscommunications or simply having a fumbled interaction with someone else or viewing them through a less than gracious lens. Having the basic decency to approach them with patience and proper conflict resolution methods so things are clarified, wounds are healed, and everything gets settled is so crucial in maintaining relationships of all stripes. But internet brain rot has flat out poisoned a lot of people to the point of just searching for the "epic own" and now slights of all kinds (real or perceived) MUST be met with immediate and maximum hostility. Even the most close and trusted people in your life are going to fumble stuff and it is necessary to accept that and learn how to resolve it as if you cherish the relationship enough to care about doing it right rather than performing for an imagined audience on how well you protected your honor in the form of some grand witty take down speech.
@destroything
29 күн бұрын
leaving a reply so i potentially get notified by more people talking about this
@Alexander_Grant
29 күн бұрын
I was definitely this way when I was younger. Made it into the honors college of a really good school, majored in physics and never felt like I was out of my depth. Never had any social issues, played baseball and basketball in high school. I was insufferable my first year of college. I thought being the smartest was the only thing that mattered. Went and worked at a fast food place one summer, and got humbled by how differently intelligent people were working there. Not the managers, they sucked lmao, but the other workers. After that I started looking at things a little differently, and I think, because a much better person.
@Dr.Lilacwillseeyounow
29 күн бұрын
I learned to feel bad for bigots, its sad that they genuinely hate, unironically despise people for living life. Must be miserable
@o6do6slydlydlyd963
Ай бұрын
Another thing I noticed is that people do not understand that they NEED to be private on social media for safety. I've seen countless videos of people doing something like a day in the life and they 1. Give the name of their college/school 2. Say that they live on campus/commute/how long their commute is 3. Say what time they have class and what day they have class No one would not tell this I formation to a stranger, why tell it to the whole internet? People need to be more cautious about sharing things on the internet for their own safety aswell. It's nice to connect with others but there is a safer way to do so.
@tissuepaper9962
28 күн бұрын
actually most people would give up this information to a stranger without a second thought if the lead-up conversation were structured correctly. still a bad idea, but it's definitely not the internet's fault that some people didn't teach their kids how to stay safe in life.
@madeofgrease9220
12 күн бұрын
The amount of people who openly have conversations about relationships that should be with someone with a trusted friend or adult is crazy.
@DolliMiu
Ай бұрын
And the thing is, this issue extends outside the internet. I remember getting chewed out by someone online because I said that I don’t feel comfortable with strangers trauma dumping on me in public spaces such as the market, a club, etc. I was told that I lack empathy for not wanting to hear someone talk about heavy issues that I wasn’t equipped to handle.
@Airsickword
29 күн бұрын
Some people just don't like boundaries, standards, and such. The classic, "did I ask?" deters most, tho.
@birdenthusiast5421
29 күн бұрын
That seems like the total opposite of lacking empathy; if you aren't empathetic you wouldn't really care if someone forced a lot of difficult emotions on you because you wouldn't end up experiencing them yourself. What would be more indicative of lacking empathy would be forcing people to experience your trauma narrative without consent or consideration for how it would affect them.... projection sure is something!
@incognitoburrito6020
28 күн бұрын
@@birdenthusiast5421 Empathy is pretty much just a buzzword now that means "being what I personally deem to be a good person." Doesn't help that half the time when people say empathy, they're actually talking about _compassion_
@selkiehimbo
28 күн бұрын
@@birdenthusiast5421 empathy just means you feel others feelings. when you have trauma triggers and you just trauma dump on someone, it isnt on purpose and the person doing it doesnt inherently lack empathy. it is a trauma response. this take lacks compassion imo and it makes me sad when people talk so poorly of others who are struggling.
@mrce420.7
28 күн бұрын
I had to stop using Tik Tok because of the same reasonings but different insults and I genuinely wasn't saying anything to provoke anyone so I went through this I don't even know what you would call it I was very mentally distressed for a couple of days and I was convincing myself that I was doing what 50 to 80 people online were telling me I were doing which was being an awful person but they were just telling me to you know kick the bucket and Instagram because under a male feminists I followed I was getting very illegal DMS and threats by multiple different men you can probably imagine what it was about why is the internet becoming like this it's starting to rub off on how people act in the real world(sorry if theres no spaces i feel like typing😅)
@FraserKM
Ай бұрын
This video feels authentic and personal rather than a video essay- for which I'm glad.
@xbluebirdx
17 күн бұрын
I initially misread this as autistic and personal
@TRAVELLEROFWORLDS
17 күн бұрын
Don't expose yourself to jerks. Don't be a jerk. Don't isolate. Break away and call someone. See people. See yourself. Maybe for the first time in awhile. This is why I find nature, in its wild form, so soothing.
@MaiPoirot
Ай бұрын
A few months ago here in Brazil, a girl posted a video on TikTok talking bad about her boss, then the next day she was fired. And the funny thing was that she didn't understand the reason for the dismissal. 🤷🏻♀️
@wmurd
Ай бұрын
well, LEGALY it's weird, yes - a person should have an autonomy off their job, people higher then her shouldn't be able to police her thoughts and words about her job I understand the boss was upset and didn't want to work with her further, but yeah, kinda illegal and weird
@BlueYellowGreenVc
Ай бұрын
You can't be serious.@@wmurd
@magnus1383
Ай бұрын
This is what anonymous accounts are for 😫
@PlayerTenji95
Ай бұрын
@@wmurdyeah, you can’t fire people for venting. I get using an anonymous account, but we have worker protections for a reason.
@shaeby8123
Ай бұрын
@@PlayerTenji95 So if that person went up to the boss and started blasting him, cursing him out, they shouldn't be fired? The only difference between my example and the op's is that in one, the venter can't see the boss.
@Septic-Hearts
Ай бұрын
I hate that people rope their kids into it too, especially if they're barely old enough to read. I've actually seen posts where people put their kids' faces, full government name, school, clubs, teacher, age and grade level on the internet and give out way too much personal info about them from medical history to stuff you'd think they'd keep to themselves because it sounds like something their kids might've told them in full confidence.. That's not just unnecessary and uncomfortable, it's dangerous.
@SuperShell_1
28 күн бұрын
Literally endangering their children.
@rickgrimes9317
28 күн бұрын
Breeders should've been castra- I mean shouldn't be able to buy babies! In Minecraft of course
@BerraChoirs
27 күн бұрын
I remember how some mom had a family vlog channel dedicated to her kids, but found out the statistics of her channel had older people watching it. She turned off all of the video download options, and the entirety of that demographic disappeared, so she had to delete her channel after that. These channels and those behaviours is what giving criminals (not the cool kind) free reign around their kids without ever meeting them.
@jacksonm6969
27 күн бұрын
@@rickgrimes9317 what?
@felinetrillionaire
26 күн бұрын
And people wonder why there's such an uptick in weirdos
@NickSchoenfeld
26 күн бұрын
I used to use social media a lot, but I haven’t in 6 years. I feel a lot healthier and happier. I no longer feel the need to perform constantly. It was like a heavy weight I had to constantly carry around, lowering my quality of life.
@JohnGardnerAlhadis
20 күн бұрын
Same, brother, same. 9 years since I torched my social media and haven't once regretted it.
@ArtistSoul
Ай бұрын
A life lesson- you will have many associates but few friends in this life
@rosesareblue610
Ай бұрын
I view finding someone's social media as meeting them in person for the first time, like you'd expect "Hi nice to meet you, I'm in college, etc" but you wouldn't expect someone random to walk up to you and say "omg I'm crying about my toxic relationship and here's an embarrassing story from 5th grade!!"
@morganqorishchi8181
25 күн бұрын
4:08 if it was his Instagram account I'd be happy for him. He has conquered that part of the male brain always whispering to us that you're not allowed to like girly things and need to present only the most badass version of yourself at all times. It takes a lot of courage to reject societal pressures like that and I respect the hell out of it.
@daimanekeyre2259
19 күн бұрын
Men are soo scared to be seeing feminine. I genuinely feel bad for them
@xbluebirdx
17 күн бұрын
Same!
@sanjanat1085
Ай бұрын
The shock value thing is so true. And the sad part is, things done for shock value aren't sustainable. It's hard to maintain relevance long enough to see enough fame to get that kind of money, but in this day and age, things fall off so easily. And that just leads to a cycle of doing something ridiculous, getting your 15 minutes, declining and then doing something ridiculous again. You're forced to continue doing things for shock value since that becomes your brand.
@halfsine
Ай бұрын
my worst experience with people seeing my stuff on social media was definitely with my family, pulled up my youtube channel and watched my entire catalog of videos while i just sat there suffering emotionally, i had to leave and just sit in the kitchen with my thoughts for the entire time. taught me to be careful with what i put out there on the internet. will never do that ever again
@56independent42
Ай бұрын
god, that feeling must suck, especially when you couldn't even expect it
@CaitlinKoi
20 күн бұрын
Thank you YT algorithm, you have blessed my recommendations. This creator is not only underrated but this video is legitimately important.
@datboi5995
Ай бұрын
"But my dear why would share it like this?" That voice is incredible 2:22
@Immadeus
Ай бұрын
Remember when people were afraid to let their kids use the internet? Like when the Wizard 101 ads said "Ask your parents before going online." Can we go back to that?
@_____qwe-dr1qf
27 күн бұрын
absolutely not, thank god.
@warwicksulista8320
27 күн бұрын
No because companies want those marketable children using the internet unsupervised
@_____qwe-dr1qf
27 күн бұрын
@@warwicksulista8320 and boomers are oh so unmarketable lol
@desuretard8654
26 күн бұрын
@@_____qwe-dr1qf what? 🤨
@jerichonikolai
24 күн бұрын
@@_____qwe-dr1qf children get their hands on their parents credit cards and the whole family suffers.
@alb.88
29 күн бұрын
The worst part about this video is that it's definitely not reaching its intended audience
@SyreLikeAFire
Ай бұрын
yo the way u called out a girl from one of my psych classes bc in our first lesson ice breaker activity to brought up her dead dad and then the room went silent and the lecturer was like ”that‘s heavy…moving on..“ 😭🙈 tbf when someone else said their condolences she was like ”you don‘t even know me“ so like ye and that’s when the room went silent and so on… 💀
@SyreLikeAFire
Ай бұрын
unrelated but u being 20 just rocked my world bc i‘m 20 with a third of the amount of facial hair and a fifth of your charismatic personality 🥹🥲🌚 i wanna be like u when i grow up…but my genetics eish💀😗🤘
@elephorofonius
Ай бұрын
@@SyreLikeAFirei think you're charismatic :)
@Passionflowsthrough
Ай бұрын
@elephorofonius To quote her, "You don't even know me."
@jesss101
Ай бұрын
yiiiiikes! as a graduated psych major, there were some real weirdos in those classes (ahem not me of course)
@yatshie8717
Ай бұрын
I used to be like that as a teenager but without telling people off for saying their condolences. I was at a bad place and I felt no one cared about me and I tried so hard to show the world how bad I am but I made everyone uncomfortable bc these people barely knew me. It was a call for help but looking bad it's really cringe. I should've gone to therapy.
@MidnightEkaki
Ай бұрын
i agree about needing to have inside thoughts but another thing that is irritating is the way people talk to others on the internet like they can just say whatever they want. But sometimes especially if the person in question has a lot of popularity when they reply to their comments they suddenly get apologetic and embarassed because they realised that the person is a human being who can see everything people say to them. Its pretty funny when it happens though.
@emmyjr1231
Ай бұрын
The need for validation and attention might be a worse addiction than sugar.
@jesss101
Ай бұрын
it's: meth, attention, nicotine, sugar, in that order
@kylespevak6781
Ай бұрын
Bo Burnham called it
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
If anything, these comments are proof that mass brainwashing methods are highly effective.
@lobstermash
22 күн бұрын
It certainly is not normal.
@YaniBro
13 күн бұрын
True
@woopvonwoop1133
Ай бұрын
In the early 00s/forum days we used to say "don't feed the trolls" or very specific to one forum, "there's a cancel button if you don't want toast." The nice thing about forums was their slowness to posting, so instead of having the impulse to tweet out your bowel problems, you had a barrier of time giving you the extra space to have a second thought of "wait this is stupid I shouldn't say this," or would lead to people giving and taking in more nuanced opinions that had time put into them. Granted dumb shit happened all the time I'm not gonna act like it was perfect, but was heaven compared to social media where it takes half a second to blurt out a kneejerk response to someone liking a piece of harmless media. Maybe we all need to bring diaries back.
@PredictableEnigma
29 күн бұрын
What's crazy is that most self-help stuff in print and online does suggest private journaling of some form to help process emotions. Not sharing it online
@CrystalRose1111
26 күн бұрын
The don’t feed the trolls thing is so sad, because people will ALWAYS feed the trolls. It’s irresistible for some people.
@woopvonwoop1133
26 күн бұрын
@@CrystalRose1111 I can't really blame them when they've essentially been tricked into using platforms that trick them into staying on them and engaging non-stop. I still think about that tweet that was like "hmmm how come everyone on here has ADHD on the infinite dopamine slot machine website"
@Bruno-jj2oi
26 күн бұрын
Man, forums were so cool! I really miss those. I know they still exist but it's all pretty much empty or just not as interesting
@Bruno-jj2oi
26 күн бұрын
@@CrystalRose1111some people just don't know how to deal with ressentment online, they will see some who talking shit on the internet and instead of realizing it's obviously a ragebaiting troll they will gladly bite it lol
@michaelwills1926
26 күн бұрын
Emotionalism, oversharing, narcissism, all this and more, brought to you by about 60 years of culture shaping and engineering. It got all of us one way or another but now we know and “knowing is half the battle”
@scorpionqueen11
Ай бұрын
This is such a perfect video about online etiquette. On the one hand, I want to have empathy for those who overshare online because maybe they just don't have a reliable way of doing so irl. But at the same time, if you choose to overshare online, like you said, please read the room. Know which online communities are a safe space for you to do so without trauma dumping on strangers who can't/won't help. Thank you for making this!
@melie3054
Ай бұрын
It’s because of loneliness. My theory is that a lot of the people who post stuff like that on the internet don’t have enough genuine friends they feel like they can express themselves truthfully too, and even get attention from. Friends are also physical extensions of society in our life. Being around people teaches us what is some level of shameful vs what isn’t. Friends help stop us from doing bs, which isn’t even necessary when you can express yourself to those friends. We’re a lonely, friendless generation, where you can get more attention for making videos about not having friends compared to the attention you could get from just having friends to pay attention to you. (And don’t even get me started on how ppl *do* have friends, but like I alluded to earlier…they ain’t shit) But trying to connect with human beings over trying to connect with the entire internet is better for us long term. People are even trying to push the facade that it’s ok to be a “lone wolf” when every smart person with a doctorate or whatever literally ALL say that we NEED COMMUNITY. (Chile don’t even get me started on this too 😭) I would love to see you tackle this nuance in a video! I bet you’ll have as a comedic take on it like you did in this one. Congratulations on having this video blew up. Also, yeah the joke you told your friend didn’t fly for me either lol I was not expecting you to say anything after “alright so tell me..” She probably was ready to explain herself then got caught off guard.
@aielianna
Ай бұрын
I was going to make a similar comment. In all honesty I have compassion for people who overshare and I try not to judge how people choose to express themselves. Now I have laughed at my fair share of “you need to get a diary” tweets but there is a reason why people feel the need to confess their deepest darkest secrets on the internet. People just want to feel seen and accepted even at their lowest. They want to be able to bare it all and have people be witnesses. But I do agree with the fact that it is an illusion. Being that I kinda was one of those people(before deleting my twitter account), I find that no one actually cares. People don’t remember most of the things they see on the internet and they will definitely judge you but they will not actually remember whatever confession you made. Which prompts people to overshare again and again because they just want attention. It’s really just a trap. Honestly it is just a reflection of the state of connection and community in modern society.
@SweetSelie
Ай бұрын
I agree, I’d love to see this tackled in another video!
@lawndartlele
29 күн бұрын
I think you're spot on with this.
@RaveniaLv10
29 күн бұрын
That’s a good theory. We need friends
@3u-n3ma_r1-c0
29 күн бұрын
same lmao that joke was crazy also nice insight
@melifer1
22 күн бұрын
Man, this video shoukd be required watching in every grade between 7th and 12th. By the time these kids graduate, they will fully understand how to jeep their private lives private! This would greatly benefit society.
@Baset_
Ай бұрын
I think this kind of parasocial relationship, the "illusion of closeness" as you put it, is way more common going from a fan to a creator than the other way around. It's difficult to get attached to millions of comments, even if you see lots of comments every day. You can get attached and feel close to people from the comments, sure, but the whole comment section? This might be overly pessimistic, but when a massive creator decides to be open I'm always extremely skeptical that it's a trick so their fans _think_ they have a close relationship with them. This way you'll become a more loyal fan, more willing to buy whatever it is they sell
@FinnFinn-h8x
Ай бұрын
So true
@user-q018
Ай бұрын
exactly
@hazelwi
Ай бұрын
so well said
@alicejoly4268
Ай бұрын
That’s exactly it
@pigeontoes5421
Ай бұрын
It absolutely goes the other way, just not to any one individual. Creators feed off the love and adoration from their fans as a collective, and do what they do to get more of it. A lot of oversharing is awarded with laughs, attention, love, etc. so creators are encouraged to continually overshare to recieve more of that positive attention. Its still parasocial bc the creator doesn't know their fans individually, theyre all or mostly strangers. Id say its pretty rare that anyone goes out of their way to deliberately intensify parasocial relationships; most of the time, thats even heavily discouraged by the creator. Its just that parasocial relationships are inherent to online influence. Being a fan is inherently a one-sided relationship, no matter the intensity.
@yoshisarethebomb
Ай бұрын
People who say prejudiced and repulsive remarks online should watch this video. The average person really doesn’t want to hear about how much you hate a certain group of people solely for how they were born, and neither will they want to hear your inappropriate thoughts in graphic detail
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
Yes, only have good things to say about massa unless you want some of what the other guy got for telling the truth.
@punishedsteak5150
28 күн бұрын
and the best way to stop it from happening is to ignore it. block the people who say it, and don't mention them.
@YahyaFalcon
28 күн бұрын
@@Fred.Carpenter ... you think there can be a legitimate reason for hating people for things they were born with? Because that was the example given in the comment.
@Fred.Carpenter
28 күн бұрын
@@YahyaFalcon You mean like being born racist sadistic psychopaths? Perhaps that's simply human nature, or the majority of humans, anyway. History does seem to point to that fact.
@beansworth5694
24 күн бұрын
@@YahyaFalcon They probably think that minorities are the "massa".
@lforlight
23 күн бұрын
Whenever you see a TikTok video of an emotional outburst of sort with a stationary camera, imagine the person spending 5-10 minutes to set up the camera and its framing before initiating the totally genuine emotional response. Imagine the breakup girl at the beginning, assuming she actually had a breakup and it wasn't entirely fictional, being broken up with, then continuing to be calm for like half an hour as she considers to film a TikTok video, sets up the camera and makes sure it's set up correctly, hits record and then and only then having the emotional breakdown seen in the video.
@adannaok
Ай бұрын
This guy is so funny! But I felt some pain when you spilled water on the papers 😂😂
@HellfireJerk
Ай бұрын
Yeah me too
@Lxrzo
Ай бұрын
yall are weird
@HellfireJerk
Ай бұрын
@@Lxrzo everyone is weird like you and me blud. Edit: I respect your opinion though.
@FullOfDreams-lr1wf
29 күн бұрын
@@Lxrzoyes I am weird,😔
@WeepingNoor
Ай бұрын
Being on the internet had definitely destroyed my perception of privacy. I often vented publicly on Reddit about my interpersonal issues and now having gotten over that part of my life, I can say that was not healthy of me. I was so desperate for validation from online about my own decisions that I forgot the ability to cope properly. The way that we are almost teaching ourselves to over share personal details is really concerning.
@religiousindustrialaliens
29 күн бұрын
Wasn’t the rhetoric 2-3 years ago that you shouldn’t bottle up emotions??
@WeepingNoor
29 күн бұрын
@@religiousindustrialaliens While I agree that bottling up emotions isn’t healthy, what I am trying to say is that my previous outlet was not healthy in itself. There’s a lot more healthier methods to release emotions than publicly venting online. What goes online stays online and one day, you might not want such personal or even embarrassing parts of your life to be out publicly anymore. Unless if I am completely misreading the intentions of your comment, then forgive me 😭
@religiousindustrialaliens
29 күн бұрын
@@WeepingNoor By online do you mean publicly or privately online? (Sorry, I’m just a little confused on the wording
@WeepingNoor
28 күн бұрын
@@religiousindustrialaliens I’m talking about publicly! Sorry my wording can be bad 😭
@religiousindustrialaliens
28 күн бұрын
@@WeepingNoor Ah alright its fine
@KrymsonScale
16 күн бұрын
While it changes from place to place because every internet site has different social rules, I really feel like we are losing how to socialize at all and people just blurt out whatever they want to say.
@ZomboidMania
Ай бұрын
That segment near the end about how you can basically get away with saying anything if everyone has already decided the thing you're talking about is bad is completely true, and I absolutely hate it, I believe in showing respect to anyone regardless of how much they are hated, because I'd want that same respect shown to me, and I've been on the receiving end of people meat riding eachother hating on me for something I did, and it sucks, so please for y'all reading this, be respectful
@K̰ḭr̰ḭn̰5731
Ай бұрын
A recent example of this is MoistCritikal speaking to Logan Paul
@itsurfavsediiii
Ай бұрын
@@K̰ḭr̰ḭn̰5731 real i despise how moistcritikal will hop on any old hate train and dramatise it for views
@texanarchy666
Ай бұрын
@@itsurfavsediiiiyou act like logan paul is hated for no reason😂
@itsurfavsediiii
Ай бұрын
@texanarchy666 no I know what logan did it just bugs me how monotone all of moistCritikal's content is 🥲
@kainaris
Ай бұрын
I'm on the receiving end of that, too.
@icedirt9658
Ай бұрын
“Why would you share that you are mentally unwell in an unhealthy way?” Dude just answered his own question lmao
@weaklyxonin
29 күн бұрын
Agreed with the first point. As the most basic form of consequence, I suggest we bring back jump scares. That’ll stop ya from mindlessly scrolling when you should be asleep!
@Bruno-jj2oi
26 күн бұрын
That times when you clicked on some link you clearly shouldn't and the first thing that appears is the Exorcist girl's face with a screaming in the back lol that was the moment you knew it was enought internet time for the day lmao
@D0M1IN0
Ай бұрын
people openly talking bout sum “bring bullying back” .. baby bullying never left you have just never been affected negatively or your apathy IS the negative effect
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
Conform or we will make you conform. Works as well for Americans as it did for Germany in the 1930's.
@extrapathos
29 күн бұрын
"bring bullying back" There's a WEE🤏 chance you are part of the problem hun
@RetroIsWatching
28 күн бұрын
Can’t say much here since most of the time I hear people say that they’re talking about a serial killer or somethin like that
@ItsJae_37
28 күн бұрын
@@extrapathos yea... I don't get why people say that unless they are bullies themselves..😅
@beansworth5694
24 күн бұрын
@@ItsJae_37 Because they want to enforce the mechanism of social shame to make themselves more comfortable without being subject to it themselves by just being a bully "first". It's social maneuvering.
@HarrenClubdog
Ай бұрын
tbh if you did this exact video, but in Ludwig style content, I would have skipped halfway through the video. The changing scenery really helps keep me engaged. gg
@quinnholleman1547
Ай бұрын
For me, it helps create a more inviting feeling, like he's wandering around his house talking to a friend instead of reading a script to a camera
@Tail_sez
Ай бұрын
Yeah, I just noticed, it's so cool!
@alcyonae
Ай бұрын
What does gg mean?
@wendys9500
Ай бұрын
@@alcyonaeGood game
@kyperactive
Ай бұрын
ADHD, rip
@fevley
28 күн бұрын
You’re really funny! And also objectively correct, ignoring people is how to make them stop. It used to be Rule #1: Don’t Feed The Trolls.
@86fifty
Ай бұрын
I know a lotta people, especially on the spectrum, struggle with social context clues and 'reading the room'. In my experience, just straight-up asking, like David mentions himself doing in the story at 7:16 is a really good baseline script to go with. Just something really neutral like, "Do you wanna talk about it?" and then respect their wishes either way. And for NT allies, it's very, very helpful, to say exactly what you want the person you're talking to do in response to your discomfort. For example, "No, I'm not feeling great, I got some bad news recently. I'd like to talk about it today, if that's okay?" Or, "I got some bad news, and I'm trying to take my mind off it, let's focus on the funny stuff today." Or "I promise I love hanging out with you, but I'm not feeling great, so I want to go home early today." Also research the difference between "Ask Culture and Guess Culture" if yall didn't already know - having the words to explain this dynamic is very helpful!
@Celatra
29 күн бұрын
THIS. thank you.
@elizabethprosher
28 күн бұрын
Oh my gosh!! I just looked this up and it’s fascinating!! Really explains why I’ve struggled to communicate with some people. Thanks for bringing it up!
@86fifty
27 күн бұрын
@@elizabethprosher I'm glad! I always hope that my info helps someone :)
@an_impasse
23 күн бұрын
yes but no, not everyone who is diagnosed with being on the spectrum is automatically a bad communicator either. I get the intention, and that may have been a connotation that was implied on your part, but also consider people are more than just their Autism, or their gender, or their race, et cetera.
@86fifty
23 күн бұрын
@@an_impasse I know. That's why my original post does NOT say 'a lotta people, and everyone on the spectrum,' cuz that would be factually inaccurate, obviously. Any generalization WILL have exceptions. Yet the generalizations still contain some useful truth.
@Eridna
Ай бұрын
Instructions unclear, I've now become a Jaded-Like beauty and all the now Young Masters are vying for my affection.
@Tail_sez
Ай бұрын
Bahaha I have no idea what this is referencing and it still made me laugh out loud 😂
@shibatrot
Ай бұрын
The latest light novel title just drop 🔊
@4thofjuly395
Ай бұрын
@@shibatrot real question is there anyons translating yet
@taciturninsomniac
18 күн бұрын
"don't feed the trolls" needs to come back as a key rule of the internet
@shadesco
Ай бұрын
I normally get bored or get uncomfortable at these psychological vids on KZitem, but you made it worth while and entertaining. State your sorcery at once!! 😂
@axolotlsarecute6764
Ай бұрын
real.. it doesint rly even feel psychological wile u watch it, it js feels like your having a regular convo abt it
@Kamrynidk
Ай бұрын
Fr I have an incredibly low attention span but this guy is interesting
@jay-wo7dd
Ай бұрын
I get what you mean, a lot of them have this fake and pretentious vibe to them.
@jesss101
Ай бұрын
this guys editing and the music is so engaging
@SickegalAlien
Ай бұрын
A big part of why so many ppl pour their hearts out on the internet is... Because others are doing it. Kids grow up thinking it's OK to do it, because nobody scrubbed the bad examples off the internet, like we do on the street IRL
@onyx_mango
16 күн бұрын
9:57 "im not a psychologist im just-" he said "a girl~~~" i interrupted
@CHEH_tf
Ай бұрын
2:06 that's the most interesting green screen camera angle I've ever seen
@z4cte
Ай бұрын
"That feeling that you're feeling... you can do that to somebody else" was unhinged 15:01
@onewingedangel327
28 күн бұрын
We are literally living in the age of loneliness and people still wonder why some go to the internet and overshare
@mahh154
Ай бұрын
The red and golden throw is gorgeous, love the iridescence effect. No, I'll not tell you about my father.
@BLET_55artem55
Ай бұрын
Tell me about your uncle then
@deliacordero110
Ай бұрын
I feel like the art of just writing your thoughts down or even thinking things through has become lost, and people use social media as a consequence of that, to fill a void, and to share the things one is never meant to share, out of self preservation
@DiMagnolia
28 күн бұрын
I’m so glad the algorithm bombarded me with this video
@alite_2200
Ай бұрын
1. floor green screen cool 2. Maybe I share too much on the internet 3. Maybe I've shared too much through this comment 4. back to 2
@pensamiento_diferente
Ай бұрын
I didnt need to hear a sermon of don't oversharing, but it's entretaining seeing such a fancy man talk with a good energy and actitudes, keep it going man 🎉 Greetings from Argentina🇦🇷
@echoedstars807
15 күн бұрын
posting on social media is basically like going on stage in front of the world, people are gonna see it
@NSM7-fpe-sucks-copon
12 күн бұрын
Just like this Comment. 👾
@arthab8840
Ай бұрын
I think every person who is chronically online should see this. And by every person chronically online I mean teenagers.
@SafiyyaSaffiya211
Ай бұрын
I literally saw someone saying they taste their own shit when they were younger ONLINE😭 at this point, just keep it in your head than saying it online😥
@mjesns77
Ай бұрын
millenials need it too. don’t tell me you don’t notice all the 40 year olds with noses buried in their phone
@BLET_55artem55
Ай бұрын
@@SafiyyaSaffiya211J-sus McHrist, that's gross. They're either irrational or were feeling extremely lonely/angry/whatever in that specific moment which made them irrational
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
At least three things should never have been placed into the hands of the average American... smartphones, the bible, and the ability to reproduce. #idiocracy
@Quinn-he3vn
28 күн бұрын
You don't know what chronically online means lmao
@autumnstoptwo
Ай бұрын
I think that there's value in people depicting themselves experiencing trauma, but I think that that space is best held within theater or film. like if someone is intentionally using their skills/past experience/story to portray, enact, or illustrate how one might process big emotions, then that could be a teaching/learning moment for people who struggle with holding space for their emotions in their bodies. but when you're /actually/ experiencing it on camera, it actually deprives YOU of an authentic experience (bc now its on camera and to an extent, performative) and it creates this weird uncanny valley-like experience with the viewer because why am I seeing this if it's so private and true? i also think theres a distinct difference between people who post videos online to vlog/journal and those who do so to generate content. i feel like theres definitely space for people processing emotions in real time in the vlogs bc i feel like that's the point of a vlog 😅
@Fred.Carpenter
29 күн бұрын
Americans have become brainwashed beyond repair.
@fishboard8303
26 күн бұрын
This guy has the self confidence of a Cameroonian 🇨🇲
@the-aud-one
Ай бұрын
Something about the changing location for shots, the floor sheet, the intro, and the way you talk just feels so real. Sometimes 15min videos feel like they drag on but this one went by so quickly. This just felt like a conversation with a friend. Also "alright, tell me about your father" is a really good line, might have to steal that one
@amayas4516
Ай бұрын
The set up, camera angles, the outfits... you feel like the 2024 pop culture bill nye and i cant get enough, please keep it up 😭
@Bamgeutcutiepie
3 күн бұрын
i feel this to my very core! ESPECIALLY... and hold onto your butts here: MOMS... like, lady! WHY are you sharing your journey to get preggo... seeing your test be red or blue... crying about it being positive... sharing all your pregnancy journey.. and then... now it's no longer just YOUR life.... now you are sharing your kids life... without their knowledge and consent. WHY do you feel the need to share all these extreme private moments? WHY....
@ThoughtfulAl
Ай бұрын
Whatever you are, you're a master at this. Don't change.
@ThoughtfulAl
Ай бұрын
On that note, being autistic is a pain in the ass, I keep blurting out my true feelings EXCEPT when I should.
@kathrineici9811
Ай бұрын
FR My brain: “We need to give helpful feedback and solutions!” The social expectation: Commiserate and don’t offer solutions.
@soulanstreets222
Ай бұрын
I feel this way about politics, religion and my sex life...if we are not close friends or you're not my doctor, don't ask because I'm going to tell you I'm not willing to have that conversation with you. We could even agree 100% but you will never know because I'm not talking about it. Those things are highly personal.
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