I could have added many more points in the video. Which ones do you think I missed?
@VanityOfEliCLee
4 жыл бұрын
"You are not an INTJ if you enjoy physically organizing." Ni makes us great at organizing things theoretically, in abstract. But things like cleaning my house, or my car, or checking my car's oil, etc, are the bane of my existence. I want to use my time working towards my goals, not doing stupid mundane things like car maintenance. I've found that most people who think they are INTJ, and are really into cleaning/organizing, are usually mistyped.
@Knuffle98
4 жыл бұрын
@@VanityOfEliCLee Agreed. As an INTJ, I keep my laptop and computer very well organized. My room, on the other hand, is a disaster. One other thing I've noticed is that I still know where most things are when need them; as if they are somewhat haphazardly organized in my mind. It seems that things have a logical placement (as in a reason for being where they are) but not an organized one. This is something my SJ parents can't seem to wrap their brains around.
@margos666
4 жыл бұрын
I'd add: you are not an INTJ if you like strolling around a shopping mall looking for house decoration items or souvenirs, or going out with your friends just to do window shopping. Gosh, even typing it made me shrill in horror! Which brings a question: who would suffer more from doing that, an INTJ or an ENTJ?
@Knuffle98
4 жыл бұрын
@@margos666 INTJ, though you'll hear more about it from the ENTJ. The INTJ will just be deathly quiet.
@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon
4 жыл бұрын
@@VanityOfEliCLee Hmm. I'm an INTJ and I don't "enjoy" organizing but I do it because it needs to be done. Also, having everything organized improves my mood.
@kay9672
4 жыл бұрын
You’re not an INTJ if you can sit through small talk and not have your mind wander towards your next task/goal.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Amen! Hope you enjoyed the video!
@TheLadyDelirium
4 жыл бұрын
I (INFP) recently met an INTJ friend for drinks. We'd been there about 10 mins, I was talking to him but could tell he wasn't listening all at. I asked him what was up, he then went on to say how much it was annoying him that there was tables booked for 5pm but it was now 20 past and they hadn't turned up. I wasn't amused. 🙄
@cantonold7014
4 жыл бұрын
INTJ = small talk is for small people.
@strawbrrystrawbert
4 жыл бұрын
Unless it’s a means to an end, in which case I can sit through it. For example, say I need to get to know a new group of people that I’ll be around for awhile. I purposefully burn out socially to establish myself in a good position and to get a read on who I’d like to be around/who annoys me. I will be very outgoing and smiley, but it is something I have to psych myself into. If I’m tired, I can’t put it on and revert to my resting bitch face and observational quietness. Plus, I think other people are interesting to understand. It depends on your momentary priorities. This sounded evil but I would like to say that I’m not a complete scheming asshole. :))
@purpletape6594
4 жыл бұрын
@@strawbrrystrawbert this is exactly what I have to do
@wondergirl2561
4 жыл бұрын
Look,,, I dated an entp who was really good with people. And i thought it was an advantage because I told him I am not good with people so he had to do all the talking and communications while I just sit there. Lol. I like your description. You sounds like you know what are you talking. Keep it up.
@antonioh5353
3 жыл бұрын
I lost it when I heard: “Life doesn’t happen to INTJ, they happen to life” Too fucking accurate lmfao
@obscurellepriscillatopin7506
4 жыл бұрын
It's taken me a LONG time to learn a love of the process... Even then it's basically just me thinking happy thoughts about where I believe it's all going. My version of positivity.
@kenko1412
Жыл бұрын
As an INTJ, I don't really like the glorification of the INTJ personality type and I am workaholic but, I don't enjoy it, I see it as a means of necessity and the knowledge that we are closer to our 'grand' goals is what keeps us going.
@TheEmber221
4 жыл бұрын
These are all correct, and I certainly don't think you should have added any more. Tedious social gatekeeping, while fun and mentally rewarding, inhibits social progress. It is good to keep these discussions brief and concise. For the further education of anyone interested in learning how this list applies in real life, I will share a few opinions and anecdotes of mine in the paragraphs below. They will be labeled with the number on the video's list with which they correlate. Number one: I am not just an INTJ, but I have some mental health issues in regards to anxiety, depression, and PTSD as a result of growing up in an emotionally abusive home. I am convinced that, in my case, I am an INTJ because of the mental process that adapted as a defense mechanism. I used to be ashamed of my mental illness as a sign of weakness, and it took me about three years of deep-diving into my own psyche to feel comfortable telling people about it. I also abhor the idea of medication that would alter my mind, as I view my natural mind as my identity. To change it with any substance seems blasphemous to my very being. And, of course, I have a difficult time trusting counselors. These people, despite their certifications, have never experienced what I experienced and never witnessed the world through my eyes. What then makes them a qualified analyst of my circumstances? Absolutely nothing. Though I appreciate that they have devoted their lives to a field of study that has the potential to stabilize a lot of the erratic elements of humanity, and I acknowledge that others may need them, I am personally of the opinion that no one is a better counselor for me than myself. And, the evidence I have seen seems to support this. Despite my hesitance to seek counseling, I did my due diligence to research the option via firsthand experience. I tried it. My first counselor was a volunteer, and she seemed to be completely unable to connect with me at all, or understand what I was expressing. My second counselor told me that she was surprised how self-aware I was, and even assessed the primary coping mechanism I had created for myself to be a healthy way to achieve progress. That coping mechanism? Roleplaying. I can spend up to eight hours a day (and often did) putting myself in the head of a fictional character I have created. This character usually has one thing in common with me, with several other aspects that are different. I use this, along with the psychology information that I have researched myself, to explore both the concepts of my trauma, and opinions that differ from mine, in a non-threatening literary context. I typically engage one other real person in this process, and each of us play several characters to develop the story. (Usually, my INFP friend.) This allows me to engage my Te and my Ni at once, and come to conclusions about several social issues, as well as my traumas. Through this process, I have learned that my emotions (though they are still complex and difficult to understand) are nothing to be ashamed of. I have also learned empathy and support for marginalized groups like the LGBTQ+, despite the bigoted household I was raised in. Number two: After learning different perceptions of the world in the manner spoken of above, combined with the fact that I value intellectual freedom as a source of identity, I outright *despise* the Fe function and everything about it. STOP trying to avoid hurting peoples' feelings! Often, discomfort is an indicator of a bigger social issue: a social issue that we cannot properly examine and correct if we avoid the messy details just because it "doesn't feel good". My husband is an INFJ, and it offends me how often he feels as though he has to put other people before himself. I have identified that trait to be the most common cause of stress in his life. Fe is a the main proponent of toxic happiness culture as well. When everyone tells you that it's good to be happy, and bad to experience other emotions, and you value others' feelings on this matter to such a degree... you miss out on the constructive demolition of your own misconceptions. BEING HAPPY ALL THE TIME DEPRIVES YOU OF PERSONAL GROWTH! Now shut up and cry, you idiot! Or use your anger to power blast away the systemic infection of issues like racism, sexism, etc. Your emotional spectrum is a f*cking rainbow; stop trying to paint everything green. Number three: I once had a spontaneous idea to take my friend group (consisting of my husband and that one INFP friend I mentioned, and no one more) on a camping trip to South Dakota. This idea came to me after researching how much each of us enjoys nature. (Does that make it not spontaneous anymore?) Anyways, it's been two years since I had that idea, and I'm still planning it. It was supposed to happen this August, actually. And then... Mother Nature decided she needed a break from all of her unruly, polluting children and grounded everyone with a deadly plague. So people... STAY THE F*CK INSIDE! If you keep sneaking out, we ALL stay grounded. All of your idiocy might wind up ruining my personal development goals, and I despise you for it. Number four: Every year for Christmas, I upcycle old paper grocery bags that I save throughout the year. It started off as a way to save money. All it took was a little paint, and I could have something much better than the bags you buy at the stores. Over time, it became an annual tradition for me... and grew more ambitious and complicated. I no longer sought just to make a nice bag. I had to outdo myself from the previous year. Paint? No. We're not stopping at paint. I can see through the paint in some places to the store logo beneath. We're adding some handmade paper appliques now. You can't see through those! Wait... what is this? The paper tore?! That's not very functional. ...FELT! We must cover the logos with felt! Listen brain... I know it is 3 a.m. and my body is screaming in agony for sleep, but I just need to add one more detail... to about three different bags that I'm crafting simultaneously. Shhh. Shh. Sleep is for the weak. Food is just a means to remain alive; you can survive off of those two peanut butter cookies until this is done. Peanut butter has protein, after all. No, housemate, I don't want to watch a holiday movie. What a meaningless waste of time!
@donnieboy99
4 жыл бұрын
I think its about the process as well as the outcome. More specifically, I think its about enjoying the identification and manipulation of the parameters that lead to successful outcomes. Being very logical, I think this "game theory" is deeply satisfying to INTJ's.
@Kazzia70
3 жыл бұрын
For me (INTJ) the statement work is more fun than fun was certainly true for the first 12 years of my career. I intentionally changed jobs to a field that I am less passionate about so I could balance work with time for relationships/family. I still get greater enjoyment from something like reorganizing my home than something like going out for drinks.
@daveyrobinson3779
4 жыл бұрын
I'd like to add that you don't always have to be around others just to get a different perspective. If you like playing video games you can always play as different characters that are opposite from fine another. If you like writing you can create characters that oppose each other's view points. Creating scenarios where you're actively adopting the other side can be exhilarating and insightful if you really want to challenge yourself. Like playing chess, but you never favor a single side, you play both as if you truly want to win.
@mamakaka73
2 жыл бұрын
Workaholics only if you like your job... if not it's a waste of time, just to pay the rent.
@andramitru9068
3 жыл бұрын
You're an INTJ when you know you can't reach perfection, but still aim for it because this way you're going to get as close to it as possible
@BuizelCream
3 жыл бұрын
And then get burnout as a result . . . but still pursue them anyway, especially if recovering from a burnout means working on another interesting project xD
@andramitru9068
3 жыл бұрын
@@BuizelCream absolutely. Also feeling like a loser for getting burnout 😆
@BuizelCream
3 жыл бұрын
@@andramitru9068 I hate that feeling xD
@Spacekid-ug9vi
2 жыл бұрын
me trying to be an immortal entity far beyond human xDDDD
@fl3640
2 жыл бұрын
The same applies for INFJs though
@zuzannatabakiernik9310
4 жыл бұрын
INTJs are workaholics, but not because it is fun, but because they need to keep doing purposeful things. The same thing that causes their lack of spontaneity. Why do I want to do it? Not a logical reason? Just fun or relax? Then it's useless
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Great point. I was wondering whether the INTJs out there would agree with that point when I put it in the video. Glad to hear there's some logic behind it. Thank you for the comment.
@andreagreenwood93
4 жыл бұрын
@@NathanJGlass I don't think it would be accurate to say all INTJs just work and have no fun. Having fun is important to me, but I'll admit it is mostly planned fun and not so spontaneous.
@pegahm4239
4 жыл бұрын
There is nothing better than dying for your dreams. 😐
@thelaurelwreathismine4805
3 жыл бұрын
Yah, It gives me dopamine, I think it’s unhealthy though but I went through Thanksgiving and about to be depressed and feeling not so good.
@wickedwonderland9831
3 жыл бұрын
I get bored out of my mind if I don’t feel like I’m doing something purposeful. So much so that at the beginning of my career when I had to do mundane tasks, many of which did not have a purpose behind them or I could not see it/ nobody saw the need to explain to me why, I would be incredibly angry and in a bad mood for the rest of the day. I will do anything you need me to and I will do it well, but I need to know why and what for!
@noctuamagna6724
4 жыл бұрын
"Life doesn't happen to INTJs, INTJs happen to life."
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
I was pretty proud of that quote when it came to me ~ Nathan
@carolinacruz3251
4 жыл бұрын
You can write that on my grave 😂
@krdiaz8026
4 жыл бұрын
Revermight Star Obviously some things will happen which nobody, not even an INTJ, will have control over. If a tornado destroys the INTJs house, then he has no choice but to repair it or find another house. But the point was anything an INTJ does deliberately is for a specific goal in mind. For example, an INTJ will not just enroll in graduate school or join the army because he doesn't know what to do in life, or just for the sake of gaining experience.
@prischlea
4 жыл бұрын
I agreed
@borojugovic8178
3 жыл бұрын
@@revermightstar8004 That is what we want you to think
@luciapavon7128
4 жыл бұрын
The last one is very true for me (I'm an INTJ), almost every task I do I just feel like I HAVE TO do it right. Many times my friends will see me doing something and seeing how much effort I'm putting into that they'll say things like "hey, I didn't know you liked doing that so much"... I don't, i just had to do it, and if I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it right. Is that the INTJ mind? 🤔
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
That sounds like a true perfectionistic INTJ to me ~ Nathan
@mirandaleon3188
3 жыл бұрын
I am an ENTJ and while i like making things right, i think my bigest motivitation is being the best one doing it.
@TheAdamAdy
3 жыл бұрын
@@catoams Exactly, if i have to waste my time mopping floors, i make sure the time wasted was atleast good for something.
@debralawsonpascua9632
3 жыл бұрын
I get accused of being a perfectionist; but I don’t get manipulated by the small details. Priority and framework is much more important to me. I can be very detailed if I see reason to be. However I get agitated when someone will destroy a project, because they cannot let go of meaningless detail/fluff. I prefer to let someone that likes fluff deal with the fluff After the main framework is in place with a strong enough foundation to allow flexibility. Perfectionist drive me insane because I have received much severe abuse over stupid perfection when I was a child with no where to escape. Traditionalism; things that need to perfectly fit an ideal/image is not a task I enjoy. I supposed because everything goes through the filter of “will it work”. I tend to disagree with some intj stereotypes. For instance I will take things at face value, and abhor assumptions. However, I also see patterns quickly and put red flags together in a way; that I tend to figure out cons and cleptomaniacs quickly and they cannot figure out how I knew. I know because, ironically the details. Hehehe! I think the point is I don’t believe an INTJ purpose is perfection; rather it is “does it fulfill the goal in an effective, appealing way? They are aware of the details, but details come later. Can the idea meet the goal, and is it persuasive enough to garner support? Conspiracy theory... I don’t I don’t see intjs as conspiracy theorists. Maybe having the mind of an auditor, but conspiracy- its a hard sell for me. I would not waste my work time, lazy time, or personal goal time on a theory. If its from out of no where - and cannot be visualized, or traced concretely, then its must be for fun, because it isn’t for work. Obviously myers briggs types are on spectrums and I have met people that claim to be intj that are pretty obviously istps. Like all the comments - just thought.
@lachlanoneil8938
3 жыл бұрын
I'm almost certainly intj and am not a perfectionist unless it's my own goal then yes
@furadnik
4 жыл бұрын
We enjoy the process when it's interesting to us.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Good point!
@ryomahoshi643
3 жыл бұрын
At least for me, the process is rarely interesting
@wscieklyjimmy9234
3 жыл бұрын
Who doesnt enjoy the process when it's interesting?
@empemitheos
4 жыл бұрын
INTJs and ENTJs achieve a goal and then make a new goal, but an ENTJ just wants to do it, an INTJ wants to do it right.
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Well said ~ Nathan
@naturalinstinct4950
4 жыл бұрын
INTJs overshoots their goal (planning the worst scenario) while ENTJs overthink their plan(making tons of back up plans)
@DuskMurky
4 жыл бұрын
Shit im going through identify crisis
@itachi7596
4 жыл бұрын
@@naturalinstinct4950 I actually do both I usually plan a worst scenario yo be ready for te worst but then the what ifs make me plan backup plans
@fbksfrank4
4 жыл бұрын
@Pedro lol 😅...pop the hatch and say behold!
@kimberlyh.5023
4 жыл бұрын
2). Unless you're Female. I've learned by using different 'techniques' when socializing that you're far more likely to have people's cooperation, goodwill, and less emotion overall, if you take 5 min. as an INTJ Female to talk about other people with their feelings (at work). I only have actual interest in my chosen few, but "playing pretend" does wonders.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Good point! Hope you enjoyed the video!
@annathepiper7964
4 жыл бұрын
😭😭😭I can relate 🤦. My culture is very sensory, and highly emotional. And as a woman, socialization makes it easier to mimick. Doesn't make it less draining or inane tho🤔.
@kimberlyh.5023
4 жыл бұрын
@@NathanJGlass I always enjoy your INTJ videos, they're the most comprehensive on KZitem.
@darkmodeaj
4 жыл бұрын
@@kimberlyh.5023 Ha, no.
@Bgrosz1
3 жыл бұрын
"playing pretend does wonders" Yep. I used to not play pretend because I assumed everyone can see that I'm disingenuous and that would be worse than just not playing that game. Turns out I was wrong. But then I tried acting like a normal person who cares, and I got a great reaction. I get a response like "thank you for asking! ..." and I will think "awesome, they bought it". Now I think they know I don't really care but they are happy to do the social dance, which works for me. I don't care and they know I don't care, but we agree to "play pretend" and so it shall be.
@dacksonflux
4 жыл бұрын
Here's one: You know you're not an INTJ if "...that's just the way things are," has ever come out of your mouth unironically.
@behemoth2887
4 жыл бұрын
What things tho?
@DaSquyd
4 жыл бұрын
"Sometimes it just be like that"
@jam-kk2yc
4 жыл бұрын
Maybe so. But I don't think existence is that black and white. Maybe an INTJ may say that if they see that something isn't worth changing or going to change...they won't bother. It could be like an assertation of priorities. It could also be an INTJ pointing out a problem to then look forward to a solution.
@mrmcawesome9746
4 жыл бұрын
@@jam-kk2yc Your own ideas are relatively black and white in this case. The specific sentence in the original comment is an expression used to dismiss questions. For the examples you listed, I'd personally say "...that's the way things are...", avoiding the "just" because if either A. I'm pointing out a problem to then look forward to a solution for or B. Referring to something not worth changing or impossible to change, then it is most certainly not a minor thing or "just" this one small thing. I'd also add accepting or using "Because I said so" unironically.
@jam-kk2yc
4 жыл бұрын
Look into objective personalities description of feminine Ni.
@darkmodeaj
4 жыл бұрын
You know you're an intj, when you know you're an intj
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Well played ~ Nathan
@red-headedabigail5794
3 жыл бұрын
@@lovewho I think I’m an intj, an intp, an enfp, a isfp, and Infp People say that I’m really insightful, speak wisdom but never put it in action, I’m rebellious, focus on the present and not worry about the future, I love to express myself and my principle is freedom of expresssioon. But I’m also quiet and reserved but sometimes I’m annoying, controlling and love to sabotage - it’s a bad habit. And I’m very short tempered when people attack me. And I’m not materislistic
@red-headedabigail5794
3 жыл бұрын
@Bröther May I Have Some Lööps Then what am I Cause I seem to fit every Mbti
@red-headedabigail5794
3 жыл бұрын
@Bröther May I Have Some Lööps I took the test twice and get intj-t and before I took it I was certain I was an intj-t I’m very sure Im an intj and I might not match all the traits but nothing else fits
@red-headedabigail5794
3 жыл бұрын
@Bröther May I Have Some Lööps I might be an INFJ you’re right
@Chronomatrix
4 жыл бұрын
#3 is where I struggle the most as INTJ. Whenever I'm on social gatherings that involve an activity I just focus on the activity itself rather than the social interactions, and when I'm done with the activity I just wanna go home or do something else because I can't stand being there doing "nothing", while most people see it the other way around, they are there not for the activity but the social interactions, and after 28 years I still can't wrap my head around that, which makes me extremely anxious all the time, to the point I just lie to get out of any kind of social activity, which really hurts, because I believe I'm an honest individual overall. Telling the truth, that I just don't want to "waste my time" chatting about mundane things, does not sit well with most people, as their interpretation is that I don't wanna spend time with them at all. Huge problem for me, always has and always will.
@zophia8251
4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Unless I go into the event with the mindset "Okay, I'm here for a social gathering, people want to talk, bowling is just an excuse" then I just can't help but feel like I'm wasting my time.
@vionaprillia
4 жыл бұрын
YESS!!!!
@valerievankerckhove9325
4 жыл бұрын
I focus on activities where the focus is on the activity and any socializing is on the side. Namely, I go hiking with a group (the rest of my group chats a lot while hiking, but nobody notices if I remain silent most of the time), and I go to a workshop club (everybody focuses on the organizer). I'm good friends with this retired couple, but I realized soon enough that when the lady talks to me, she is primarily letting off steam, so I just shut up and pretend to be listening (it works out great for both of us). It's tough when my parents organize big parties though. Then I occasionally give into the urge to hide in the bathroom (I also keep myself busy by helping out so I don't need to talk too much with the guests).
@JackY-tc5kr
3 жыл бұрын
Me too. I joined Meetup for some group activities. I ended up focus on the activities and alienated other members. Then I reminded myself to focus on members but I just made socializing awkward and creepy. People often say I am too serious and over thinking things. Is there a zoom group I can hang with other INTJ?
@Bgrosz1
3 жыл бұрын
@@JackY-tc5kr , My brain never stops analyzing things. I assume you are the same. It seems like such constant analysis would be exhausting, but it just happens without effort. It took me a long time to come to the realization that most people are not like that. More than a few times, I've received the sarcastic comment "you must be a lot of fun at parties", to which I reply "No. No I am not."
@1classikai
4 жыл бұрын
I love these "You know you're not a(n) XXXX when..." videos, I think they're arguably more helpful than the "You know you ARE a(n) XXXX when..."
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
That's great to hear! Thank you!
@ayessarodado3955
4 жыл бұрын
I agree
@jay9246
3 жыл бұрын
Karl Poppers falsification principle. You can never prove something right EVER. You can never confirm the truth of any theory, you may only debunk it. Just because the sun comes up every day doesn't prove that the earth orbits the sun, it is insufficient data for such a proof. Yet if we prove that the sun does not exist (somehow) then the Earth cannot orbit it. Bit of a rusty analogy, but hopefully u get it
@mehGyver
4 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ, I find I always need an ongoing project to stay sane. Whether that means making any of my vehicles more off-road worthy, building structures in my backyard, repairing anything and everything in my life.... if I don't have a sense or purpose, I feel lost.
@tulips7465
3 жыл бұрын
I feel you. I need to have a goal.
@BashaerB-h2c
3 жыл бұрын
This is accurate! I feel most miserable when I don't have something prodwto do even if it's simple.
@basedbyzantine5981
2 жыл бұрын
That's totally me. I immediately feel depressed and anxious if I don't have a goal in sight.
@cheriemonami
Жыл бұрын
I just retired. I'm not bored but I'm needing a new structure.
@anthonyvalentine9685
Жыл бұрын
A new and exciting job with different aspects to learn and improve is great
@user-tx5kn2pp7c
4 жыл бұрын
You know you're not an INTJ when you want to be typed as an INTJ. Makes sense? 😂😂
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
100% makes sense ~ Nathan
@hnwebil
3 жыл бұрын
It's true, when I read about what does it mean that I went INTJ in a test I saw it and thought "this is me, but for people it must look like a villain" We don't want it, we just accept it
@marvindroid3865
3 жыл бұрын
I dont like being an INTJ but im proud about it, maybe this is because im 54% thinking and 46% feeling
@chrisrenfro2058
3 жыл бұрын
I dont want or not want to be typed as anything. When i discovered i was intj i was heavily skeptical and didnt accept it until much later once i learned more about functions
@mariapazvillada7469
3 жыл бұрын
I knew I was INTJ at a time when I didn't know much about MBTI yet, so I was being authentic when answering the tests I took back then, so I was not trying to get a certain type. Btw, I also had to read a lot to confirm it :)
@Joey-vs1je
4 жыл бұрын
Touching on your last point, INTJs value what works rather than what is coherent.
@Ignasimp
4 жыл бұрын
Which, I'd say, is the opposite for INTPs.
@Joey-vs1je
4 жыл бұрын
I MP Right.
@popkhorne5372
4 жыл бұрын
@@Ignasimp exactly. One of the many reasons intps and intjs dislike each other at first before becoming friends.
@sketchyAnalogies
4 жыл бұрын
If it works I value it, if it’s coherent, it’s beautiful. That’s what I love about philosophy.
@hanlin-2093
9 ай бұрын
real wtf??
@ladym.9268
4 жыл бұрын
"Petty things like... People's emotions" 😂
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Haha yep! ~ Nathan
@cryyuni
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@tabitha.mwihaki4964
3 жыл бұрын
😂
@thepickles8833
2 жыл бұрын
Feelings are for the weak
@MsSirAndy
3 ай бұрын
@@thepickles8833not really, feelings are a human thing and it's good to have those
@wouldntyouliketoknowweathe19
3 жыл бұрын
You are an intj when you complete a task perfectly then feel satisfied for a second then go away doing your next task.
@alexivanov5556
2 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ my favourite part of working is ticking off the task that I have just finished from my list. After that I have a deep sense of accomplishment for about five minutes. Then I start worrying and obsessing about my next task. So you are right about the "process oriented". Personally I hate starting and I hate the process, but finishing the task is well worth it.
@mattmatthewmatchuu
4 жыл бұрын
Should note that they are the feelers of the NTs as Fi child is very moral. Granted Fe trickster fails miserably at understanding other peoples values intj take their own values very seriously and take break ups very hard because they love hard.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
"The feelers of the NT's" - this makes perfect sense. Hope you enjoyed the video!
@elby6980
4 жыл бұрын
Luce M ENTP’s are not “shit at Fe” The function stack is literally an order of cognitive functionality. Wanna know a fun fact? An INFP actually uses Ti more than an INTP does. And an INTP uses Fi more than an INFP does. An INTP however has a much more functional Ti and vise versa with INFP and Fi
@Ignasimp
4 жыл бұрын
@@elby6980 i don't understand this comment. What do you mean by using Ti and Fi and being funcional?
@elby6980
4 жыл бұрын
I MP They are called cognitive functions, the higher up the function is on the stack the higher it’s functionality is (Basically how fast it works)
@neargaming2057
4 жыл бұрын
INTJs fall in love hard? A lot of the things I've read say they usually approach romance analytically without having much emotional impact
@devinbrines
4 жыл бұрын
I’ve found INFJ’s as being more conflict-prone, on average. All of the INTJ’s I’ve known are super polite. They might make an accidental misstep but they aren’t going to go to war with you like INFJ’s will.
@user-gy1ky9qe7w
4 жыл бұрын
Hey, let's do video on how to prevent conflict war in front of other for infj
@9December3
4 жыл бұрын
One of many INFJs paradoxes. They are not comfortable with conflicts in general, and yet if you touch the wrong button (e.g., offending their values, or their beloved ones) they get... fierce.
@MCPanda-bl3nc
4 жыл бұрын
@Atomic Tranquility Wow. As an INFJ myself, I definitely think your sister definitely overreacted 😅. To be honest, I'm the one used to being ignored when I talk to my sister and you could say some of our conversations (though rarely) have gone somewhat like this JAJA. She's an INFP btw. Edit: If you could imagine a similar conversation except the one being ignored explodes and ends up wanting to cry, that's me as an INFJ. My sister's more 'calm' and starts retaliating bc idk how keep calm from frustration over how much she seems to block me out at times. However, I would never get mad at someone for trying to talk to me while they didn't realize I was studying.
@MCPanda-bl3nc
4 жыл бұрын
@Atomic Tranquility It is true you need to be more willing to give back with an INFJ and have patience so that you both are friendly and understanding or else it may set off an offensive bomb in them bc you overstepped on something that gets to them after maybe even years of dealing with little things that add up to problems in society or human interactions. Yelling happened to be a thing in my house bc my mom is an ISFJ and can be stern even without realizing bc she considers her way to be the right way usually. A lot of times I feel I'll just be bulldozed all over again if I don't yell/whisper yell/be aggressive because there were so many instances where I wasn't listened to as a kid and it is so easy for someone to manipulate what I say and retaliate if they tend to be defensive for pride, for the sake of it, or for putting their point of view above yours, or for whatever. Don't even get me started on an adult saying "mas calladita te vez mas bonita" (the quieter you are, the more beautiful you are).
@MCPanda-bl3nc
4 жыл бұрын
@Atomic Tranquility Interesting. I've never cared about "achievements" as much as others so school rewards felt hindering instead bc if I did do well, I was merely doing it for the sake of my future and for myself (plus the unecessary clutter of trophies that wouldn't do any good to the earth by existing anyway tbh). I would be above average but I don't like to study. We had valedictorians in my high school the year I graduated bc there was my friend, an ISFP, who'd participate in a bunch of things bc she likes doing stuff till it gets her sick even [she put up a strong fighr for rhe sake of being valedictorian], and a guy that had been born in India but raised here and very smart, his goal is to become a doctor. I was still barely within top 2% of graduating class of 700+ students, perhaps shy of top ten, but I only took classes I wanted at the right times to require less effort of me. I'm in an honors program in college, but still find ways to make each semester as easy on myself as possible and I get to be lazy LOL. I never studied and got a 22 average on ACT 🤷♀️ met the necessary. I am a terrible "test taker" btw. My mom was valedictorian in her high school in Mexico having been an ISFJ. Mhm, she's a very rewponsibility-driven perfectionist. I never had issues academically, but there's not really a reason to go for the top unless you yourself want to push your limits regardless of the outcome. I had art all four yrs of high school, a good "free" period. I also had a friend who would be likely to be 2nd/3rd place school ranking, but he totally let go senior year for his own reasons much like you. He needed to relax that year lol.
@hannahmathilda7101
4 жыл бұрын
“It is a paradoxical but profoundly true and important principle of life that the most likely way to reach a goal is to be aiming not at that goal itself but at some more ambitious goal beyond it.” /Arnold Toynbee/ Such an INTJ quote for the end point
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Love this! ~ Nathan
@byronallis5614
4 жыл бұрын
My belief exactly except I say "Hey if you aim for the moon, you're more likely to at least reach the clouds...".
@hannahmathilda7101
4 жыл бұрын
Byron Allis Nice 👍🏼 this resonates well with me as a non INTJ. I don’t care about achieving the goal-I care about the progression, the expanding of limitations.
@byronallis5614
4 жыл бұрын
@@hannahmathilda7101 Still really love to achieve goals though!
@hannahmathilda7101
4 жыл бұрын
Adam Johnston I don’t understand what you mean...you literally explained how accurate the quote was:) I understand why you felt it missed the explanation of values, however, look- “The way to reach a goal is to be aiming not at that goal itself but at some more ambitious goal beyond it” Let’s say chemical engineering was a goal-but like you said the only reason was to retire early (the bigger goal). Which was a segment of your biggest value and goal, “freedom in a short life” See?
@Traditz
4 жыл бұрын
Interesting, I have been typed INTJ however, I value harmony and avoid unnecessary confrontations/ arguments, since at a deeper level they are silly and not worth the energy.
@Bgrosz1
3 жыл бұрын
That doesn't not sound like an INTJ. Have you taken more than one personality test? Establishing what is correct is never silly and never not worth the energy. In fact, I gain energy when I engage in a deep dive discussion about anything I find even remotely interesting. Surface level discussions (small talk) put me to sleep.
@Traditz
3 жыл бұрын
@@Bgrosz1 i am very closely been typed as infj. my T and F is at a 53/47 ratio. I understand where u are coming from, however my intuition on how conversations go have been quite accurate. I can tell whether or not if diving deeper into an argument would be beneficial to me or 'us', and I can predict to some accuracy if the outcome of the conversation would progress my goals. If it doesn't, I usually won't press further, even if it means I could destroy them in the debate. There are 2 questions i ask myself in a heated conversation or debate, "if I win this, does it serve my ego or my goals?", "will winning serve my goal?". I could be wrong that I can be mistyped as an INFJ. Or some other INxx variant.
@blakebruner5038
3 жыл бұрын
@@Bgrosz1 Almost all conflict is better avoided. It doesn't make someone not an INTJ if they accept that, because it's just factual. Deriving some pleasure out of conflict is a different issue entirely. Establishing what is correct is 100% silly and a waste of time if proving that you are right in a given circumstance won't lead to anything greater. A prime INTJ example would be being wrongfully arrested. A smart INTJ keeps their mouth shut at the scene and wins in court. A more relevant example would be political debates. Most INTJ won't go near a political discussion with a 10 foot pole because they have long ago accepted that changing someone's political beliefs is a waste of time, even if they strongly feel that other person is wrong. Now if you want to get into the realm of something like a board game, that is where INTJ desire to show what is correct has a purpose. Even if the purpose is only winning the game. Long story short I believe INTJ are excellent at conflict avoidance and conflict resolution. INTJ never starts the debate unless there is a clear reason, beyond just proving someone wrong.
@Bgrosz1
3 жыл бұрын
That makes sense. INFJ's definitely value harmony so if you are split between the T and F I can see where you come down on that side in many cases. If you were farther on the T side, then right is right. Harmony is irrelevant.
@Bgrosz1
3 жыл бұрын
@@blakebruner5038 , "Establishing what is correct is 100% silly and a waste of time if proving that you are right in a given circumstance won't lead to anything greater." I disagree. I see too many issues in the world that you can see getting worse and worse simple because people do not care about truth, but instead care about what the popular / socially acceptable position to take is. There is certainly a line. I'm not out there looking for every person I think is wrong and trying to start something, but there is a difference between "let's fight this out for an hour or two" versus "I'm going to put the truth out there. I can't make them accept it, but at least it was given a chance". "A prime INTJ example would be being wrongfully arrested. A smart INTJ keeps their mouth shut at the scene and wins in court" We part on this as well. What harm does it do to state that you think you are being wrongfully arrested? Maybe the cop has a wrong idea of what is happening and the information causes them to pause and re-evaluate the arrest. Maybe that is just a 1% chance, but how is it harmful? I wouldn't resist arrest, but you can talk and explain your side without making the situation any worse. And again, I think an INTJ values truth enough that the truth must be stated, both during the arrest AND in court. Truth is extremely important in just about all contexts, not just for the immediate situation but also a good thing for society in general. Avoidance of truth is a bad thing for society in general.
@hlsk1111
4 жыл бұрын
Reading between the lines: as an INTJ, I noticed after years of "connecting the dots" that when I read between the lines with people's intentions I'm often wrong , but when I do it regarding concrete problem solving or situations, I'm often right. I think it's because of Fi as a third function - with people I project my own feelings ont them with my Fi, whereas with situations or problem solving I use Ni and Te and stay rational about the whole thing. That kind of leads me to my second point: INTJs not taking care of other people's feelings. If I'm not friends with someone, I won't give a f*** about how they feel, I might even leave the room when they're talking to me, for example. But if I care about them, my Fi will take the time to try and relate to their feelings, and feel for the person. Fi child can indeed be very moody, individualistic even, but it can also be extremely sensitive; and when combined with the upper functions, that Fi can actually allow the INTJ to put themselves in someone else's shoes. So if you see it that way, INTJs have the potential to be quite impressive empaths. But they have to let themselves care for people in the first place...
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Very well said ~ Nathan
@Kiwi0614
Жыл бұрын
I agree, I don’t care about the feelings of people I don’t care about. But sometimes even with people I care about I will say insensitive things, not thinking about how they may feel. For example, my aunt asked me if I liked her outfit and I replied “No, your pants look like the colour poop brown. I would like them if they were black but the off-white and brown does look good together.” of course that’s not the most insensitive thing of said. I can also be very ignorant of other peoples feelings (but I do have the capability of being empathetic) and I get very uncomfortable when people cry in front of me, friend or not because I don’t know what to say. I’m also an INTJ
@smoothlyrough512
9 ай бұрын
I'm usually good at connecting the dots with people and figure them out. I'm not ALWAYS right, but I am more than not.
@TheIT221
9 ай бұрын
Finally a statement about INTJ’s caring a ton about people… I’ve always been super empathetic with others, though I can be reduced to the usual “I don’t care” if you even slightly wrong or annoy me I always restart a doubt about not being INTJ when I think about how social I am, but I always can confirm my stance a little bit after (Though on 16 personalities I have like 54% introvert so that’s probably why)
@joethestrat
4 жыл бұрын
You're not an INTJ when your cell phone rings or vibrates, and you are excited to check who it was. I'm busy, leave me alone. And let's be real: It wasn't a social media notification, either. Why anyone would care about social media and it's recognition is a mystery to me. More often than not, it's someone calling that needs help with something. More often than not, it's something they probably could've figured out if they applied themselves without distractions.
@ASD-kx8fv
4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate this comment. I tutor people in math, software etc and often get texts asking me questions they should have been able to answer themselves if they weren’t impatient Se people. I generally avoid social media. My ringer is always off but it doesn’t really matter since I only give my cell number to people who have to have it. Another thing I will add is that my Ni (or Fi) seems to get very offended by people’s dishonesty. I can’t stand fakeness. -INTJ female
@brockolea
4 жыл бұрын
Do as I did 10 years ago : "You've reached my voicemail. I never have my phone with me. Don't leave a message.Don't Call again"
@V.Hansen.
4 жыл бұрын
I only have people in my contacts and on social media that I care about. Almost exclusively family. So if I get a notification once in a blue moon, I know its something I care about.
@MsPitenali
4 жыл бұрын
@@brockolea so on point
@brockolea
4 жыл бұрын
Astra Endèvoir it’s all yours
@hb6839
4 жыл бұрын
This is honestly the best video I've seen on this topic. Other videos just do the opposite of impress me, even if made by fellow INTJs. Props to you, Nathan! I've grown quite fond of you
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! That’s really awesome to hear ~ Nathan
@cynthiapayne9906
4 жыл бұрын
"Intentional" is a very good word for us :) The workaholic thing--when I'm working on projects that interest me, the progress is almost it's own joy. The result is better, of course, but the progress is good too. The most relaxing days I have are when I'm going full bore towards some project I want. That sense of accomplishment, of seeing things come together and knowing it's closer because of my labors, makes me feel so incredibly recharged. I might be physically and mentally exhausted, but it's better than any vacation as far as relaxing me and recharging me.
@PowerRedBullTypology
4 жыл бұрын
What do you recharge from then? Projects that do not interest you?
@cynthiapayne9906
4 жыл бұрын
@@PowerRedBullTypology Exactly. Life stuff, stuff that never gets 'done' or that I'm interested enough to improve. Keeping the house clean is torture for me, but right now I'll all excited about clearing the snake-infested thorny hell between my gate and the road so I can plant flowers, and I'm all excited to set up a compost bin because my neighbor is giving me all her horse manure. When too much life stuff gets in the way of making progress on my projects, I get bitchy, lol!
@PowerRedBullTypology
4 жыл бұрын
@@cynthiapayne9906 ok, so progress recharges you from the lack of progress. So standing still costs energy while moving gives you energy?
@cynthiapayne9906
4 жыл бұрын
@@PowerRedBullTypology Lack of progress is frustrating, so that cost energy. It's like he said: Life doesn't happen to INTJs, we happen to life. That's how it should be, so when life imposes on us, it feels wrong and like something we need to correct. It weighs on us and it's draining. This is the third time I've cleared the hell thorns away and each time it's taken half of a winter--chewing threw it bit by bit. This year I'm planting a native weed that happens to be a flowering bush. I've grown them before and they require very little to thrive. I'll have a solid wall of flowers that will attract butterflys and bees to my garden and that will choke out everything else. It LOOKS like me putting in a lot of work, but I see it as a way to be more efficient and do less work in the future. I'm reshaping the problem and making it work for me, --I am solving problems. That's energizing. That makes me all happy and excited.
@PowerRedBullTypology
4 жыл бұрын
@@cynthiapayne9906 What would a life without problems be for you?
@sonicmaths8285
4 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ, I am sure that we have a strong desire fulfilling our goals The day for me ends up doing everything achieving my goal than having fun in my free time and this sometimes bothers me So, yes you are right
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you agree! I wasn't sure about whether I should have included that in the video.
@Siansonea
4 жыл бұрын
You know you're not an INTJ when...you feel nostalgic about things as they're happening, because you know it's a special moment you'll feel nostalgic about in the future.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Wow that's an interesting one. Possibly speaks to the outer-body-ness of Se inferior and first slot Ni. I think I might talk about this idea in a future video, thank you for this comment!
@Siansonea
4 жыл бұрын
@@NathanJGlass I was actually thinking that it was an indicator of lead Fi, which differentiates ISFP and INTJ, even though they have the same four functions. I am always mistyped as INTJ, and I think a lot of ISFPs probably are.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
@@Siansonea Yes that's true, lot's of ISFPs are typed as INTJs. Ni is an underrated function for ISFPs I've noticed.
@Siansonea
4 жыл бұрын
@@NathanJGlass I think that's why I've always been able to relate to INTJs, but I knew pretty quickly that I wasn't one. I've been brought to tears by bank commercials and cute cat videos. I am definitely Fi dominant. I can't imagine not knowing what I'm feeling at any given time.
@egomaniac7230
4 жыл бұрын
@@Siansonea INTJs also tear up at cute cat videos and etc but they're out of touch with their emotions most of the times. (Behaviors don't equal cognition)
@nurizni33
4 жыл бұрын
"as soon goal is achieved, they make another" that is precisely how my INFP friend describe me
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
The endless aims of the INTJs ~ Nathan
@applicableapple3991
4 жыл бұрын
I don't like working, I like learning. But if I really want something, I'll do anything
@vaportrails7943
4 жыл бұрын
I've tested out as INTJ in almost every MBTI test I've ever taken, and I don't exactly agree with a lot of this. The first point I generally agree with, the "rabbit hole", although I (and most INTJs I think) am too rational to get swept away by nutty conspiracy theories. I may consider it, but I need confirmation before I believe it. The second point, I disagree with. INTJs avoid conflict and confrontation except when absolutely necessary. It's a waste of time and energy. If you're getting into a bunch of fights, you're probably not an INTJ, in my opinion. That would be some more hotheaded type. Laid back cool, because you know better, is INTJ. On the third point, I have consistently found people looking to me for leadership. If I'm unable to deliver, they resent it. I don't think that exactly matches up with the hero/mentor dichotomy. INTJs are strategists and visionaries. We are best in a leadership position where we can delegate to other types, like ISTJs. Getting there is the hard part. On process, I agree that it isn't primary. The goal is. But as long as a particular process moves you toward that goal, it's acceptable. When I feel like I'm getting stuck in a process that isn't serving a clear goal, that's when I get frustrated. Which happened in school quite a bit.
@michasedziwoj1846
4 жыл бұрын
About point 2, I was very militant when I was younger - not letting an occasion to prove someone wrong slip. But I quickly learned that this most often leads to trouble that affects my freedom, and I've become more secretive about what I think, avoiding conflict, because that usually is a better way to move forward. At the same time, I have always felt like conflicts are a waste of energy, hence I wasn't too much into actual fist fight.
@vaportrails7943
4 жыл бұрын
@@michasedziwoj1846 What I figured out early is that some people would rather win than be right. There is no point in arguing with that kind of person. If someone's willing to listen, I'll talk all day.
@ZeMarkKrazee
4 жыл бұрын
I agree readily with your first point. I hate the association with conspiracy theories. Logic and reasoning goes against many. I also try to avoid conflict. I’ve learned to more effectively ‘manipulate’ or influence the emotions of others by avoiding direct conflict (unless required).
@brownin329
4 жыл бұрын
@@ZeMarkKrazee I do not avoid conflict. In fact, I am seeing that oftentimes, I cause it. Not purposefully. I just want to make something better and everyone else is willing to stay right where they are and be miserable because they don't have a plan to change it or the mediocrity serve them in some way. Well, if it gets on my nerves long enough, it will change. Even if we have to fight.
@hedydoyful
4 жыл бұрын
I don't like the association with conspiracy theories either. I agree that while I may consider them and listen to them, I can see that the amount of coordination and effort to carry out most conspiracies/lies is astounding, and it's highly unlikely to succeed on a large scale; or it might work for a minute but not over the years. Perhaps because I love efficiency, I love process. I love to analyze processes and tell others what they are doing wrong and that there are better more effective ways to accomplish their goals. What I don't like about process is DOING the process myself. And, I've managed to make quite a good living as a process improvement leader doing exactly this. This is where the mentoring piece comes in handy on my job-- I don't know how to do the process myself but I can coach others through developing a better, more efficient process that they will do.
@rususumi
4 жыл бұрын
I agree on your perspective on process. I want to “achieve the goal” more than “enjoy the journey”. Furthermore, the process is where other people try to step in to derail what you are doing, so it’s where the really tedious stuff can take place. Once a goal is accomplished, I don’t really spend a lot of time reveling in it. I have a moment of immense satisfaction, then I’m on to the next thing.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Excellent comment.
@dexdalador
4 жыл бұрын
On the 2nd point, if there's a way, I try to be friendly and not hurt feelings... Maybe coming from my upbringing, but I do care about those feelings (as long as they aren't becoming annoying). But often I can be very insulting without me realising that I unintentionally might have hurt someone with a joke I found funny... Also keeping up with the appearances and keeping people happy can help achieve goals. On the 4th point, speaking for me, I don't necessarily enjoy the process.. I enjoy seeing my vision through. If I'm not moving closer to my vision, I can get depressed.
@fluffykittyfury3777
4 жыл бұрын
I'm an INTJ and I absolutely agree that we happen to life, life does not happen to us. I am very intentional with my actions and decisions. There is a reason why my life is exactly how I want it to be, and that reason is me! Additionally, I love villains in stories. Heroes are boring and transparent. Villains are interesting and I frequently see myself in them.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Great comment!
@dexdalador
4 жыл бұрын
That's exactly how I've been viewing villains, people started to worry about me when I told them as a kid that I identify with scar more than with simba in the lion King lol
@andreagreenwood93
4 жыл бұрын
I always felt drawn to villains, but then I realized it was really only the INTJ or ENTJ villains, seeing as so many villains are NTJ. So maybe it's just attraction to my own type, who always coincidentally is the villain. 🤔
@V.Hansen.
4 жыл бұрын
Totally agree with the first part of your comment. My life is just how I made it on purpose. However, I cant tolerate people that make other peoples lives worse on purpose (villains) People need to worry about their own lives and interactions with others should only be to make the world better, not to take selfishly from others. Haha, I just realized I'm manifesting the trait of taking my moral values very seriously. Very true of INTJs
@Bgrosz1
3 жыл бұрын
"Villains are interesting and I frequently see myself in them." Hah! I regularly watch a show with an obvious villain and think "you know, that person is making many strong points."
@johnniedilangcruz9287
4 жыл бұрын
Oh boy, I'm hit again. This is by far the BEST DESCRIPTION Nate has served out for INTJ's out there, especially for me! INTJ: "...Life doesn't happen to them, they happen to life." It's this realization that unless an INTJ has a strong MORAL FOUNDATION, he can be highly conceited, if not vilely selfish over others and everything working slyly all for his own benefit.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Why thank you!!
@housecarolina
4 жыл бұрын
Does anybody else under INTJ feel sometimes that INTP applies to you?
@BiTA__
2 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ, I only disagree with “work is more fun than fun” - we do have fun, just not in a conventional way. I think the organization part is spot on, as with most of everything else. I still have a messy room but it’s actually a complex system where only I know exactly where stuff is 🤣🤣
@micmccond7
4 жыл бұрын
You're not an intj when you don't say words like " hormones", " coming", " get off easy" and don't cringe with a wry smile....
@darkmodeaj
4 жыл бұрын
Don't you mean "when you say" and not "when you don't say", if not, that would imply that we don't cringe when we say those words
@alexfagnan7469
3 жыл бұрын
Lol
@uma5467
4 жыл бұрын
Ok.. so, could you explain wHY I FEEL LIKE AN INTJ *AND* AN INTP????!
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Interesting. Have a look into the Objective Personality typing system. They have jumper types that are kind of like hybrid types ~ Nathan
@seignee
4 жыл бұрын
"you know youre not an infp when.." please?
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Coming soon...
@somber087
Жыл бұрын
When you procastinate because you know you wouldnt do it perfectly
@gjscheffer717
4 жыл бұрын
Your last point is spot on for me. Im a sophomore in high school, and one of my pet peeves is being required to complete an assignment a certain way instead of doing them the way I want, my way almost always being easier and quicker
@pedroandrepiccoli
4 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ I can say the goal is, well, the goal, but the process is what leads to it, and we tend to value it accordingly. Supposing my objective were to become a professor in a major STEM field. Any intermittent process, be it socializing with colleagues, professors, learning what is needed, writing and even improving who you are as a person is accounted when it comes to the final result, and we see the importance of everything that leads to our objective. In shorter words I'd say we value our goal as a whole but always keep in mind that this whole is made out of individual parts. Great video, my best regards.
@agnieszkaszczotka7966
4 жыл бұрын
It seems to be similar to ENTJ too.
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Yes! ~ Nathan
@9December3
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, because their functions stack is just slightly "swapped" :)
@Knuffle98
4 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ, I've found that enjoyment in the process depends on the process. Sometimes if the process weren't required, I'd do it for a hobby anyway. Other times, it is simply a means to an end, that end usually being greater competence or standing. Many times both intertwine because we often work on and around things we care about which inevitably ties it to our hobby (which came first, I wouldn't be able to tell you). What is consistent is that enjoyment is not at all a factor in the process, it stands apart; because regardless of how enjoyable the journey to our goal is, there is nothing else we'd rather be doing. Edited for grammar.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
OK yes! I should have included that point in the video. Since INTJs (and people in general) gravitate towards things they like then of course they might be enjoying the process. Great comment... and great grammar, thank you!
@qtdoggy2787
2 жыл бұрын
That's true for me too.
@falstaff9716
3 жыл бұрын
You know you're not an INTJ when... 1.You use phrases like 'just go with the flow' and 'lower your standards' without wincing. 2. You don't have to mentally prepare yourself for social events or get impatient about 'wasting time' with small talk. 3. You can watch a movie without accurately predicting the plot and character arc, criticizing the directorial choices, analyzing the symbolism, and discussing the subtext. When asked, you can simply say, 'What a great movie! I enjoyed it.' 4. You can listen to lectures and mundane conversations without drifting into a daydream or going off on a thought tangent. 5. You like to just 'hang out' with friends instead of planning an outing with a detailed itinerary. 6. You believe success is a matter of luck, rather than vision and sustained effort. 7. You can have fun without a purpose.
@colts8146
4 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ i would say number 4 is partially true. At least for me the fun in being a workaholic at times is not the work itself usually. its the end result and getting the most perfect outcome for whatever i envisioned. I do this with games a lot. Theres usually some final level or whatever that you have to complete and i wont do it until i have done absolutely everything else and made sure i am as powerful as i can be and complete as many achievements as possible. But for me i always do the bare minimum for anything i dont want to do. Theres very few things that i feel like i really care about and want to do leading to a perceived laziness with a lot of things. Well and also just genuine laziness. But when its with something i really enjoy or care about i may work nonstop at it.
@djenius111
3 жыл бұрын
The "finding someone else to do it" part, as in finding a sweet lovable girl, like an enfp, to be your human emotional buffer resonates so much. It's like having an emotional executive assistant. I just need to find a buffer for her emotions.
@xanthie413
4 жыл бұрын
One of my biggest problems as an INTJ is that I read between the lines TOO much. Everything has a hidden meaning. Everyone has a hidden motive. I struggle at times with paranoia and conspiracy theories. I can feel myself falling down the delusional rabbit hole and I need to rip myself up back to reality. Taking things at face value is so foreign to me but many times there’s no deeper meaning to people and situations and I have to accept that.
@Stef-wy1xt
4 жыл бұрын
Touching on that last section, I think my issue (as INTJ) is that I crave that sense of satisfaction you get from seeing everything come together, or simply just striking it off my to-do list. A lot of times this is at the detriment of getting subconsciously overwhelmed and missing small details.
@vitamc1213
4 жыл бұрын
You're right about the workaholic thing. But, the thing is, it depends on the work. At university, I have to do ridiculous introductory courses which are compulsory, I don't necessarily want to work on these assignments and put these off a little; though, I still get them done days before they're due. However, I will do a legal assignment in a few days, because I very much enjoy it.
@cookiecaramel6187
4 жыл бұрын
You're not an INTJ when... you like to have fun. Life for an INTJ is not about fun, it's about their magnum opus.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Well said! Also yes I agree, I was debating whether to put that as one of the points in the video, wish I had now!
@cookiecaramel6187
4 жыл бұрын
@@NathanJGlass Well, you just haven't planned well. Better luck next time ;)
@matrat6648
4 жыл бұрын
Yes come join the dark side
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Amen ~ Nathan
@Mrs.Silversmith
4 жыл бұрын
"Life doesn't happen to them. They happen to life." As an INTJ, I approve this sentiment wholeheartedly!
@9December3
4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes INFJs and INTJs can be mixed up due to their common top and inferior functions (Ni and Se). However I think the 2nd point in this list is the key to distinguish from one another. An INFJ cannot help taking into account others' feelings, even when he/she would like to ignore them (actually, oftentimes...).
@chantararix
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, my sister is an INFJ and her decisions usually has other people's feelings involved.
@anna.t._7224
4 жыл бұрын
I’m an intj and I always take into account others feelings or how what I would call ‘how they are likely to react’. The thing is sometimes I think that what needs to be accomplished is more important than trying not to hurt a few egos. Even if it feels bad sometimes you have to hurt people’s feelings and tell the truth. I sometimes decide it’s better to prioritise what needs to be said or done over temporary feelings.
@WeirdStichka
4 жыл бұрын
"...life doesn't happen to them. They happen to life." XDDD I loved this. Awesome video as always :)
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Yea, I was happy with that quote when it came to me. It seems to capture the Ni Doms approach.
@OfficialSpyderr
4 жыл бұрын
I know I'm an INTJ because my girlfriend wants to stab me a lot of the time!
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Haha!
@OfficialSpyderr
4 жыл бұрын
@@NathanJGlass comes with the territory when one is an INTJ and the other is an INFP. Though she is more extroverted these days so maybe she has warped into an ENFP...
@yeetingng3892
4 жыл бұрын
yea.. i always want to stab my bf too 🤦🏾♀️
@OfficialSpyderr
4 жыл бұрын
@@yeetingng3892 haha
@Edua1111
4 жыл бұрын
Something does not add up, what is that "girlfriend" thing again?
@specialknees6798
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I’m tired of all those fake intj’s online. Like 90% of intj’s online are mistyped. *I’m* the only *real* intj...
@souad3686
4 жыл бұрын
so i don't think i'm mistyped but i don't think i'm completely an intj 🤔
@caocao8200
4 жыл бұрын
Any INTJs that actually enjoy when they go berserk and become illogical? To let their 3 years old car model run wild... overeating etc.. or maybe I am not INTJ?
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Ok I've definitely seen this! The unbridled inferior Se coming out and being unleashed. Hope you enjoyed the video! Thank you for the comment.
@ninadiener9806
4 жыл бұрын
I go beserk like that only under a lot of stress or panic; apparently some of us get into Se mode when stressed, but since it's the inferior function, you can end up on "weird monkey" mode rather than "cool, crazy spontaneous person" mode. I wouldn't say I enjoy, though
@egomaniac7230
4 жыл бұрын
Same! When I'm alone or with people I feel safe around I become a clown! I've always had that massive inner energy always wanting to be unleashed and I'm recently trying to let it out more.
@andreagreenwood93
4 жыл бұрын
Oh yes definitely... especially with the help of an ISFP friend. And although analyzing everything is my mainstay I've still always had a love of aesthetics too, which seems related to Se/Fi.
@mitchmarq428
4 жыл бұрын
All the comments are INTJs feeling understood and I'm just here wishing I were one of them instead of INTP. Because then I would have motivation. Oh well.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
We love INTPs here on Love Who! Check out some of our INTP videos if you want!
@Ignasimp
4 жыл бұрын
I'm an INTP and even if it's hard to be motivated sometimes, when I am motivated i'm almost unstoppable.
@daklerak4239
4 жыл бұрын
Believe me. Not every INTJ is a workaholic. - A lazy INTJ
@khanyisotheophilustshali8773
4 жыл бұрын
I fully agree with your statement's, more especially point number 4. Not being process orientated or rather say loving the conduct of devising the process as means of convergence towards your main goal. I would say it not about the detail of it, simply a dynamic simulated structure that devices flexibility towards a change a priority, as with age we grow to understand simulating your objective with external predictions may push it the edge of stagnation. So process tends to give a window in how to seduce any exterior barrier in limiting or throttling progress, as time is of the essence of life. It gives both intentional progress and foresight of the objective to manipulate thoroughly through any form of a resource that it intended to act upon, irregardless of the resource nature.
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Well said! ~ Nathan
@BigDGolf-23
3 жыл бұрын
Observation is a part of intuition category. when it says 87% intuitive for me, and 13% observation, that doesn't mean anything extraordinary. I tested and land on INTJ and I'm more Observant than my girlfriend who is an ISFJ, I don't just want to solve mechanical problems, but emotional problems as well. The main problem i run into when it comes to handling emotional problems is they don't think its a waste of time to feel the way they feel. just because I spend most my energy on my intuition, it doesn't mean I am not more observant than people with Si or Se as their main function, that's just brain activity. INT types have much higher brain activity than most other types because they have realized the benefit of putting their observation to work to get results. *EDIT: You said INTJ's are workaholics. I would agree, however the more Assertive you are the less impatience you will have= less work that needs to be done NOW. I manage my hyper brain activity by being patient. in the past, i have got things accomplished to quickly and get bored to fast, which, intj's know your dodging a bullet if you can stay stimulated. thanks.
@shreya1969
4 жыл бұрын
I think as an Intj I am goal oriented but yes if it is something that interests me I do enjoy the process. I small example is I don't cook good but I do enjoy the process of cooking. Another thing that sometimes I can crave good grades too much and that specific position but I also enjoy the process of achieving it. The process itself motivates me.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Ok that's true.
@N0B0DY_SP3C14L
4 жыл бұрын
Sounds pretty solid. Regarding process oriented, the process is a means to an end, but the end result must be a real and efficiently functional solution that is not a one-trick pony or unusable by anyone who attempts to employ it. It may not always be an easy solution, but it must be an effective long term one, because band-aids are the hallmark of weaker minds not thinking things through.
@dacksonflux
4 жыл бұрын
Lol My mind is like a defiant puppy... It chews on everything.
@thepanthar
3 жыл бұрын
You are an INTJ if you came to the comments to look for a summary.
@14kgonza
4 жыл бұрын
Make an ENTJ video already!!! I'm dying for it.
@TheAdhdGardener
2 жыл бұрын
Long time ago I tested INTJ but all along I was an ENTJ cuz I love social interaction BUT only with who can get with my brain. If u can't do that I shut off, n don't bother wasting my time
@lovewho
2 жыл бұрын
Your username made me click to see whether you had a channel, really cool videos! If you're into typology in general you might enjoy the love who discord server. We have lots of creative people on there who you might enjoy connected with, feel free to check it out! ~ Nathan
@silentgrove7670
4 жыл бұрын
#2 - Ignoring other people's feelings. Facts are more important than another person's feelings in that modality. However, how I feel is a fact to me. As such INTJs seem oblivious at times to the inner world of others. Just because you cannot see it doesn't make it less real. Sonder.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Sonder, yes! Great comment. Hope you enjoyed the video.
@ThePaperCreater
4 жыл бұрын
I love these INTJ gatekeeping videos, just sad. Imagine basing your entire personality over a 16 personality test LOL
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Indeed! ~ Nathan
@andreagreenwood93
4 жыл бұрын
This was one of the most accurately insightful videos on INTJs I've ever seen! Almost uncanny. I've used the term rabbit hole to describe my thinking... No conspiracy theories for me, but just being in the grip of Ni. And I'm not the workaholic INTJ type, but the "damage control" idea fits well. I think "intentional" was a perfect word. I used to describe INTJs as "calculated" but I like intentional much better so I will borrow it 😊. I love the "life doesn't happen to them, they happen to it," it describes exactly how I feel... I don't want to feel like a leaf blowing in the wind through life, I try to make my own luck I guess. You are very articulate, the way you describe us makes me feel understood, which is rare.
@talkshh
4 жыл бұрын
3:54, i don't think this one is completely true. I absolutely love every second of the process, take the process away and most of the fun is gone.
@lovewho
4 жыл бұрын
Good to know! ~ Nathan
@VanityOfEliCLee
4 жыл бұрын
That's surprising. I HATE the process. I enjoy learning, I enjoy making something that helps with my goal (i.e. inventing something), but the process of saving money, selling my idea to people, etc, is AWFUL. Its tolerable because every step makes the goal more visible, but otherwise, I'm always looking for a faster, more efficient way to reach my goals.
@17x71
4 жыл бұрын
Again, another case of someone who hardly knows anything about typology, making the type mold to them... It is not "I don't think this one is completely true". It is "I don't align with that one" which in a healthy situation, would lead you to ask "hmm maybe I'm not INTJ". Not just ignorantly choosing to make it about how you think that one isn't true because you're supposedly INTJ...
@17x71
4 жыл бұрын
@@lovewho Don't listen to these morons that know nothing about typology dude... That was absolutely spot on... Literally absolutely. It's on the line of sensing vs intuiting. Sensors being process oriented whereas intuitives idea oriented... Really the only thing I could critique in that whole video was the first point. And even then it's not much of a critique because I still understand exactly in what way you mean it. Like you're still spot on with not taking things for face value. But only in the manner that which you put it. At the same time through another perspective, INTJ's DO take things at face value and that's where it starts becoming an issue with your next point and Fe. Looking things completely by it's face value and ignoring the emotional implications that people associate to things. Like, now this might be a stretch (not really tbh), but like an INTJ finding himself at a party and watching everybody celebrate and everything and then the INTJ reminds everyone that their all eventually going to die and therefore it's pointless to be celebrating events that in the end, are going to be gone in a sense... Like at face value that is true... Reasons like this is why there's so much confusion within typology because you can use the same terms and phrases but can be associated to different functions depending on which way you are explaining or using the term...
@talkshh
4 жыл бұрын
@@17x71 ok boomer
@yoyoheads
2 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ I think you definitely hit the nail on the last point. For me anyway. I'm often so fixated on the end goal, and the clearer the goal, the more of a workaholic I become. I will skip meals so as not to break my flow, but it doesn't always mean I'm enjoying the process (in fact, I'd much prefer not to have to put so much effort and still achieve the same end result).
@southhill6667
4 жыл бұрын
I knew I wasn't an INTJ! Silly online tests, I'm an INTP! A completely and incapable mess of a human being! Woop woop!
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Lol! We love INTPs here.
@Max-ls2ye
4 ай бұрын
I believe that I am an INTJ and although I have doubts, I will still answer this assuming I 100% am one (even if I am not, still take it as a lesson wandering reader): It is only in the path after the first victory where the paving matters. If you do not have purpose in a goal or you do not care about arranging contingencies for the future consequences that its achievement or the achievement of those that come after might harbour, then you will not have to worry about the process. It isn't only about utilitarianism, it is about a calculated approach. Every time I tried to do what the ENTJs do aka plan halfway, in the long run it turns out I am either not content with the result or have failed. Each decision has its advantages and its consequences and planning and executing halfway of the journey will either have the consequences of each decision you made before working against you (something that could be avoided or even exploited if you stick to a plan), or the advantages of each decision will benefit what could be another effort/path toward success that more often than not you will not be adopting. Most importantly, as some wise men have said: knowing yourself is half the victory, and focusing on the present is something I sometimes wish i could do. However when you control the process, you control the environment and therefore manipulate it in favour of your plan ensuring its success which relieves the need to reflect on the present. Is ignorance of the present healthy? No. Could it be my downfall? Yes. Do I care? Absolutely not. If we are wired this way and we have no reason to rewire ourselves then we shan't resort to keeping ourselves happy with the methods of the populace. Similarly to how most people cannot do what we can or they simply don't wish to, the same goes both ways. But who can blame them, ignorance is truly bliss.
@thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384
4 жыл бұрын
"Okay, that was a bit dramatic." Right,😂? Well, today I just realized that I'm an INTJ and INFJ depending the hour of the day...
@angelus_solus
3 жыл бұрын
You know, according to all these "You know you're not a XXXX when..." videos, I don't fall into ANY of the IMBT personality classifications. I only qualify for about half of the requirements for each one. I give up.
@brittanypage1706
4 жыл бұрын
Spot on. Best video you've done on INTJs.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
Wow thank you! That's really great to here.
@1nfty-
Жыл бұрын
Number 4 is so true. When in the process of achieving a goal, is always exciting and motivating, but as soon as that goal is achieved the feeling completely fades away. And i need to get onto something else ASAP; it's always about the "catch" rather than the "thrill of the chase". At least in my personal life experience.
@NotEvenScary
4 жыл бұрын
Love your hoodies. I want one but they suit you well. Looks comfy AF. Anyway, love the concept of this series, it's a better way to type yourself this way rather than learning the cognitive functions and trying to analyze which is most common to you, especially if you're emotionally unaware, like me, and you lean on different functions when you feel something. Anyway, not an INTJ.
@NotEvenScary
4 жыл бұрын
Dude. If your channel gets big enough to do merch you could sell different styles for the types. Beyond branding, SeNi is the softer tighter version, and NeSi is the looser baggier version. I imagine everyone enjoys soft clothes though so I'm not sure.
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
@@NotEvenScary Wow, this is a genius idea. Merch based on each type's desire for comfort or style etc rather than just having quotes on there. Will definitely add that to the to-do list if the channel gets to that level!!
@skylarveruca
2 жыл бұрын
Agree: l don't like the process but will push thru in order to get to the goal... With as many shortcuts as I can find without jeopardizing the quality. But my husband is an lSFJ and he just enjoys the process. It makes me feel like I have little patience compare to him.
@amna0alhawaj
4 жыл бұрын
Nope, Definitely not an INTJ Sincerely, An ENFP
@mattmatthewmatchuu
4 жыл бұрын
Watching 4 minute videos and comparing yourself to the points presented isnt a way to type. But good luck with that.
@amna0alhawaj
4 жыл бұрын
@@mattmatthewmatchuu I said I was an intuative didn't say I was dumb 😂
@andreagreenwood93
4 жыл бұрын
@@mattmatthewmatchuu But it seems so obvious... She knew she was an ENFP, watched the video out of interest, and then wrote the comment to be funny. Why jump to the most absurd of all possibilities, that she typed herself as an ENFP after watching this video? Lol
@mattmatthewmatchuu
4 жыл бұрын
@@andreagreenwood93 um the only person jumping to conclusions is you. Im not going to insinuate i know more than what is said from a complete stranger... i have to take what is said as literal or ignore completely. Most people in these communities are mistyped. What's more most mistyped people in my experience claim enfp infj. Then after you find a real esfp enfp Te child never really ever commits to an absolute truth of what they are due to Ti trickster so thats why i gave a fair simple warning which so many type via meme/video ect
@andreagreenwood93
4 жыл бұрын
@@mattmatthewmatchuu You don't see how your comment looks like you believed she was using the video to type herself? Which is an assumption? Just out of curiosity, how do you know most ENFPs and INFJs are mistyped?
@theotherwoman2748
2 жыл бұрын
exactly I have been studying MBTI for a long time and I am an INTJ woman. I have always had problems with my emotions, or with the fear of falling in love for example, I always feel misunderstood and I have a very schematic mind. I don't understand why every time people feel bad or sad I try to avoid them, not out of nastiness, but every time I avoid the topic of emotions
@webkelpie
4 жыл бұрын
I have met 2 INTJs that stood out to me in particular, (because I was young and so were they and things tend to be laid bare when young). Both had had some pretty awful issues growing up and although they had confided in me, would have been deeply suspicious if I, or anyone else, had asked directly. One would just have laughed at the person asking, then distanced themselves from them, and the other would have gone down the bitter and twisted route and would have been likely to try and plot the questioners demise.
@neriacassandrapalmes4619
3 жыл бұрын
Here I am, an INTP trying to correct a mistyped INTJ friend of mine cuz I like the ego flowing all over me once I ultimately conclude that she is indeed not an INTJ. Don't mind me!
@mizuhashitsunoka
4 жыл бұрын
I would rather want some confirmation rn tbh from fellow INTJs and you. It's my policy to finish tasks as efficiently as I can while making sure that the end result is both effective and optimum. I don't like adding extra details unless they seem fun to be involved with and I cannot remain stuck to one process / idea if it's seems like it's wasting my time. Do these tendencies conform to the functional stack for INTJs?
@NathanJGlass
4 жыл бұрын
That sounds very INTJ but also ENTJ-like. In theory any type can resonate with the concept of efficiency but few types desire it as much as INTJs do.
@mizuhashitsunoka
4 жыл бұрын
@@NathanJGlass That's good to know. I think I am currently in a loop as my Te is being denied so I wanted some factual validation.
@chantararix
4 жыл бұрын
YES! You are an INTJ! I am not an ENTJ but I believe they are more impatient compared to INTJs when it comes to results. They are also quite stubborn while INTJs are more adaptive.
@mizuhashitsunoka
4 жыл бұрын
@@chantararix haha, thanks! I haven't honestly met any INTJs irl so it's really hard to figure out if my understanding of the functions is correct or not. Plus knowing my own self, meeting another INTJ might actually end up in a disaster xD
@jayasri6764
4 жыл бұрын
Excuse me,Why would an intp want to be an intj? infact,why would an intp even want to be someone else,when they can t even understand themselves?
@PowerRedBullTypology
4 жыл бұрын
Ti should be a reasonable tool to be able to understand yourself?
@jayasri6764
4 жыл бұрын
@@PowerRedBullTypology At what point of analysis,Would you say you have truly understood yourself?If such a point cannot be determined,There is still analysis to be done and frankly speaking,I am pretty sure a person will never reach that point,(or understand what it means to reach that point) .
@andreagreenwood93
4 жыл бұрын
@@jayasri6764 There's probably no absolute standard of enlightenment you can reach where you can say, "Now I fully understand myself, I can learn no more." (Or is there? Who knows lol). But you can sure come to the realization, from a relative standpoint, that you know yourself a hell of a lot better than many people seem to know themselves. So that's something for which to strive.
@mushroomfog2509
3 жыл бұрын
I am an INTJ who struggles to know if is ENTJ, because I can speak anyway now I am sure And yes we are workaholics At least am I
@elonmust8859
4 жыл бұрын
My long term goal is to become an Extrovert........ oh bad idea that one lol think of all that socializing i could do.
@ThePitchblue
4 жыл бұрын
that;s gonna take a lot of interstellar, interdimensional travel
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