It’s so true. The level of trust can’t not be restored to what it once originally was.
@ChrisWilliams-ht5ml
Жыл бұрын
It can be restored
@jephteclersaint4204
Жыл бұрын
@user-yf6dl3df5cM aybe but you have to work 6 times harder to get it back to a certain level, but you'll never stop hearing it from your spouse if you're the husband.
@sugarzee8845
Жыл бұрын
@@ChrisWilliams-ht5ml True however it'll never be the same. It's hard to totally forget the fact that your partner actually slept with someone else. It's the intimacy part that is a problem
@TheAnointedSinger
Жыл бұрын
@@ChrisWilliams-ht5ml agreed, it'll just take some time and effort
@ruthparks5120
Жыл бұрын
And you can almost guarantee even if it takes 20 years the other party will get them back for it you can expect that other shoe to drop
@cocoleluz
Жыл бұрын
IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!!! 😢
@melissajardee4918
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I divorced my ex because he wasn't willing to break the tie with the lie and I could not give him what he wanted. He wanted me to continue forgiving and having grace while he continued down the path he wanted more than what God was calling him to.
@denisej.smith-perry4949
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this...well said...
@intentionalhome7357
Жыл бұрын
Same here I had to release him. My heart still is with him just at a distance. He has to make the change and no we could never go back to what it was but with time apart, healing and forgiveness it could be better than before
@denisej.smith-perry4949
Жыл бұрын
@@intentionalhome7357 this is a real lifestyle...and people don't get it...unless they are in it...or survived it...I have never seen anything like it...
@CountrySweetz
Жыл бұрын
THIS!!! Same currently
@queenchiomaofficial
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry you went through that, I pray God restores your marriage if this is meant t happen or he gives you a new husband that’s 20 x better. Who will treat you like gold diamonds. 🙏🏽😇❤️🌸
@CountrySweetz
Жыл бұрын
It hurts so bad when the other spouse doesn't want to work and go live in the lie (especially when children are involved). Currently my life right now...sucks so bad. Prayers up for myself and others going through this painful funeral
@melissaabbey
Жыл бұрын
I’m so so sorry 😢 Lord have mercy on this beautiful soul and give her a peace that passes all understanding 🥰🥰. Give her restoration and a transforming by the renewing of her mind. Lord convict her spouse of wrongdoing and give them both a spirit of humility. In Jesus name amen!
@danielle1959
Жыл бұрын
Married men that does this is disgusting. I wouldn’t never want to be with someone who has his karma haunting him
@Mags765
Жыл бұрын
Blessings 🙌🏽 God is good and trust he will bring you through it.
@latanyabennett271
Жыл бұрын
Praying 🙏🏽 for you and your entire family.
@KE-uk7pp
Жыл бұрын
Praying for you and your family. It happened to me as well have 22 years of marriage.
@michele33s68
Жыл бұрын
And just because I forgive you, doesn't mean I'm going to take you back.
@alexcat6685
Жыл бұрын
Your just removing that anger that'll waste your time to improve yourself. That anger will fuel you to care more than you need to.
@RBMastersinc
Жыл бұрын
Finally, someone who understands that forgiveness does not mean forgetting. Asd to that the fact that forgiveness does not mean they should not face the consequences of their actions. God forgave David for his adultery and murder but he still lost the child born from it. Actions still and should have consequences or else most will do it again. Mercy is not a requirement for every indiscretion just because you forgave them.
@chrishoward3830
Жыл бұрын
Jeremiah 31:34 34 No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the LORD,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest,” declares the LORD. “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”
@Jethro-tz6yd
Жыл бұрын
New covenant rules! God you are able to bring even Lazarus back from the grave!
@FaithJoelle55
Жыл бұрын
The spouse who was cheated on, will never be the same. The beauty in it all, is that you can grow and elevate into an unstoppable person! ❤
@imjesssayin1706
Жыл бұрын
I cheated in my first marriage. Moments before I convinced myself I had every reason. He doesn’t, he always, he never.. I listened to music tellin me he ain’t worth my tears, it’s his fault and I had a right to feel good and be happy. I listened to friends tell me put myself first, he ain’t no good do what’s right for me.. but immediately after, none of those reasons could excuse what I knew I just did to my husband and the kind of pain/humiliation I set him up for. I was caught my marriage ended and I lost every bit of family and friends I had. I had to watch his heart break. I changed him. And it was my fault. Plus, the whole world knew that I was no good. Still to this day it is a bloodstain on my record. A scarlet letter on my forehead. It’s not worth it. It’s never worth it.
@pinkishdiamondz
Жыл бұрын
I'm very sorry to hear that, but I hope you will soon forgive yourself and allow God to wash that scarlet letter from your soul. The woman that's washed Jesus' feet wasn't considered the best, but her heart was. Praise God in advance and visualize the chains of their oppression breaking off of you. We've all made mistakes. Move to another state if you have to, but find a way to move forward with the lesson that you've learned. That way you can be a better woman to someone. And everything from your past doesn't need to be discussed, especially when you KNOW you've changed. I wish you the best in healing. Much love.
@deirdreac3974
Жыл бұрын
Sorry for what you went through. I got a second chance but I also have a different man.. praying we can come out on top and better than we us before. Praying he broke us to move us.
@imjesssayin1706
Жыл бұрын
@@deirdreac3974 he always does! Pain always has a purpose 🥰 going on ur 8 in my current marriage. Learned some incredible things about myself. Hard things. Ugly things I didn’t realize I was doing to myself and to others. I’m 100x better woman than I was back then and I don’t think that change would have come any other way.
@deirdreac3974
Жыл бұрын
@Jessica Swepston I love hearing things like this. Most people are so negative and never take the time to learn the lesson or accept their part. Thank you
@NikkiNiNiNi
Жыл бұрын
One million likes to you my brother. Being cheated on in my marriage I understand every word you said. I forgave, didn’t forget, he continued to cheat, been divorced going on 5 years now. Now he cheats on the new wife. SMH.
@CHRISTChrysalisInManhaim
Жыл бұрын
like why even get married...& again?!?! like wth is wrong with these ppl?! No respect/ love for self?..I'm learning how true that can be. if they don't love themselves they can't love you properly. Ive learned that loving yourself entails you, building a life & relationships that help that love to prosper and be shared, genuinely with others...& if they don't love themselves, they'll live a lacking life that reiterates their belief.." I'm unworthy of Love"....the mindset breeds carelessness...& it's so sad to witness. I sometimes fantasize about beating up, what caused their brokeness, because iv met many like this..partners, friends, family..even my own brokeness, started somewhere in the domino effect of lacking Real & proper Love. I wish you well and peace be unto you Sister 💕
@joskeyo4877
Жыл бұрын
Why do you care what he does with the new wife? Move on!
@denisej.smith-perry4949
Жыл бұрын
It's a character and a matter of heart condition...
@nbanks9489
Жыл бұрын
@@joskeyo4877 How do you know she even cares? For all you know someome could have told her or her ex could have tried to approach her whilst in his new marrige. Or something else. The way ya'll jump to conclusions after someone divulges to you a slither of their life never ceases to amaze me.
@ary4532
Жыл бұрын
@@joskeyo4877 I understand you. as an empath, I can see and feel you. I am claiming for you a love so healing that it restores your faith and brings nothing but peace, happiness and joy. We are all deserving. First step is to heal thyself. Wishing you all the best🙏🏾
@nellekeysgaming
Жыл бұрын
It's best to just move on. The relationship will never be the same. The cheater will always be trying to prove their faithfulness and the cheator will always be doubtful and anxious.
@aarononeal271
Жыл бұрын
My wife and I have been together since we was in high school in 98. We’ve had 2 children and 1 granddaughter. We both have been unfaithful and made the other hurt. But somehow someway made it through and came out the other side together. But this man is right when he says you’ll never go back to how it was. Some days I still struggle with the past but most days I still thank god for that woman.
@denisej.smith-perry4949
Жыл бұрын
Awesome...it helps when both are invested...
@diannekevwitch6958
Жыл бұрын
Disgusting. You still have a soul tie if your mind dare think of that other demon. Demons cheat. Demonic sexual spirits. It's a SPIRIT WARFARE.
@abdoul.rmamah4558
Жыл бұрын
Lol lie
@queenb1119
Жыл бұрын
It can be done! It takes a lot of work on both parts. Forgiveness shouldn't also mean forgetting because when you forget your mistakes, you don't learn from them and you will continue to make the same mistakes over and over.
@randomkatorffelanime7789
Жыл бұрын
It can be done. You have to build something new together. Happy for you.
@Thee.Monstera.Deliciosa
Жыл бұрын
he's so right about how you can never go back to what you had before breaching the trust. it's really really true, and idk how people work through it.
@souschef4489
Жыл бұрын
Shouldn’t cheat. But can’t get what you need at home is not always a lie. Just get what you need from a source that is not detrimental to your relationship with God first and your spouse second. Only God can meet all of our needs.
@mc5549
Жыл бұрын
That is the biggest bunch of bull. Stay single Edit: let me clarify I'm referring to sex. Everyone is referring to sex when it comes to a necessity. I think that's the same as Trying to mask or fill something within yourself with drugs and alcohol. Trying to fill a emptiness in you with sex. It's a desire, a lust more than a need. For that to be an excuse for cheating isn't a valid excuse to me.
@souschef4489
Жыл бұрын
@@mc5549 all you stay single guys are still not getting your needs met. Lol
@Prometheuspredator
Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏.
@kendal4452
Жыл бұрын
If its not a lie, why get married in the first place?
@stephaniemiller5165
Жыл бұрын
I always say...it's like a broken table leg that you just put back together but not glued. Any pressure on that leg will cause problems. So be gentle with ur spouse and give them time to heal cus the moment the devil got u to cheat he went to ur parter and said. See he dmt love u, ur not attractive, u don't have enough , your not good enough, ecxt.
@Uhjords
Жыл бұрын
This is why we need to question those feelings when they come up. If you feel that way& they are still with you. Ita your responsibility to self reflect and find out what triggers that. When the “devil” comes.. the “devil” is you Then communicate those triggers to your partner. If they don’t care to grow then you need to decide if you should move forward with them I can’t see any reason to cheat. If you feel unloved is the answer to getting more love to obliterate their trust? No. Cheating is out of spite and what goes around comes around You can’t cheat with good intentions. It’s just objectively a bad thing to do. I won’t be friends with cheaters or date cheaters It tells so much about a person’s character if they cheat
@stephaniemiller5165
Жыл бұрын
@@Uhjords if only life was that easy. Pa- lize we are all human all flawed all have insecurities. That is everyone on the planet. The devil is not you it's the devil. Your not imaging your emotion HE CHEATED FOR REAL AND THERE WAS A REAL REASON HE CHEATED.
@Uhjords
Жыл бұрын
@@stephaniemiller5165 it is that easy. the only person that complicates your life is you
@faithm9284
Жыл бұрын
When you are not communicating on an intimate level, there is emotional separation. 'Needs' need to be met, don't forget your spouse in your day to day. They are your 'BFF', cheerleader, your boo, they are your team player. Keep them informed of what is going on in your life. Even outside temptations and strategically how to avoid them. Yes! Come home and say 'I feel as if so and so is flirting with me and I'm uncomfortable, its tempting me'. If you have a project to do with them this month let your spouse know! Keep it all in prayer!
@justbea747
Жыл бұрын
Hello!! I respect everything you said and believe that is 💯 the correct way to a solid foundation in a marriage. UNFORTUNATELY HOWEVER!!! Not every woman or man has that kind of marriage or relationship. It is a very difficult situation. I have witnessed it up close several times. Many times one of the partners isn’t someone that you could talk to about situations like that. It really breaks my heart bc that foundation is missing. That’s why I talk and talk to my children and teach them to put GOD 1st in their lives. Bc being unequally yoked and incompatible can creat situations just like that. Know who your marrying before you get involved.
@justbea747
Жыл бұрын
@Faith M your words are wise ones
@goo1358
Жыл бұрын
Paying bills, focusing on kids can easily destroy a marriage due to lack of time. Poor people struggle the most to maintain love and relationships
@natalieoverton4307
Жыл бұрын
AWESOME WISDOM!!! THANK YOU FOR SHARING!!!🙏❤️
@MizzNee796
Жыл бұрын
Tell it! I figured that out early on. I knew that my ex wasn’t going to work things out because that isn’t what he saw growing up...just his mom stay😢and getting cheated on. Yes, my Dad cheated too, so did my mom. I’m the product of cheating and I can’t stand cheating. It’s my dealbreaker and yes, I am single. I have a lot of peace.
@diannekevwitch6958
Жыл бұрын
Break the generational evil Yoke. Deliverance. You're a believer and you have the authority to break off the bondage in the spirit realm.
@MizzNee796
Жыл бұрын
@@diannekevwitch6958 thank you for reminding me of my true heritage!🙏🏾 God bless you.
@leliam.cleveland528
Жыл бұрын
A lot of peace!
@adrianoc1456
Жыл бұрын
Cheaters have no spine or character.. there is no turning back from cheating.. could never trust them again.. Highest level of disrespect to the relationship...
@caliconservative20
Жыл бұрын
How bout exposing the lie BEFORE you cheat?
@TheBrob1983
Жыл бұрын
We all know that aint gone happen
@caliconservative20
Жыл бұрын
@@TheBrob1983 communication.
@TheBrob1983
Жыл бұрын
@@caliconservative20 that would be communication but they wont communicate the dirt they doing behind your back
@caliconservative20
Жыл бұрын
@TheBrob1983 yes...liars lie, cheaters cheat but not all men or women do. I thought I was cynical but gen x y and z have suffered soul death imo.
@allinwithjess
Жыл бұрын
I hate this cheating dynamic some people are flat out abandoning their partners then when they try to communicate they gaslight and make it worse of course they will flee to the person that treats them better it’s natural human behavior
@mitulu74
Жыл бұрын
FACTSSSSSSS u never get back what u once had..its not worth it...💔 better to leave then cheat..
@kenamasunsmith3976
Жыл бұрын
This brotha speaks allot of truth. Not everything.. but I appreciate this family! They improve the state of mind if the black world. Keep moving in transparency and righteousness. Thank you.
@amyflores9485
Жыл бұрын
"With God all things are possible" and our Marriage is Stronger and better after a year but the Trust is building slowly but lots of peace in my home now . Its not a quick restoration. It takes time and lots of work . Life Change and a relationship with Jesus .God First! Thank you My Lord And Savior
@nikkilong7377
Жыл бұрын
Yaaas I wanna see this whole episode. Cause he was on it 💯. You don't break trust and go back to the way it was. You changed the dynamic once you even thought about stepping out
@Lex_Nocturna
Жыл бұрын
Leave them never turn back. Best advice tbh
@adriananunez69
Жыл бұрын
The way I see it, once they cheat its over anyway. You won't be the same with them, you'll be cold towards them, you'll always worry and no amount of sorrys will change the way you see them now. It's over. Best to leave and let go. They didn't care about you when they laid down with another person.
@chanelthomas754
Жыл бұрын
once the trust is broken its very hard to get it back
@JasmineReiki
Жыл бұрын
If you made a mistake once , say nothing and change your behavior. Multiple times, that’s not a mistake. That’s several choices and you probably shouldn’t be married
@nyui_inc
Жыл бұрын
I agree. 🤞🏽
@usafriptide1719
Жыл бұрын
Say nothing in your defence, right?
@mom4christ191
Жыл бұрын
The Bible is clear that ONLY when we confess our sins is He faithful and just to forgive of of our sins. (1 John 1:9). The Bible is also clear that if you have wronged someone, you NEED to go make it right with THEM. (Matt 5:23-24)
@tashagreen4416
Жыл бұрын
You said that so beautifully. Thank you
@CHILDOFGOD22731
Жыл бұрын
Thank-you, Amen brother. God bless you.
@sherrilauer8952
Жыл бұрын
Been there and lived this! Amen Brother
@tarahill308
Жыл бұрын
So true. Most people think saying sorry is enough. Then will complain about proven how sorry they are.
@MsBdoll87
Жыл бұрын
That second half is good! Some people cheat and think the other person goes back to precheating behavior. Uhhh no! The person now has trust issues etc
@nanonano.beepbeep
Жыл бұрын
Once a cheater, always a cheater. I will forgive them and forget them. That's the godliest thing I can do cos I'm never going to trust them again. So there's no need to drag either of us through years of unnecessary drama.
@mattiewilliams2562
Жыл бұрын
It will never be the same, no matter how hard they both try to work it out.
@delanocooley6364
Жыл бұрын
This is so true well said👏🏾👏🏾
@tab2tab
Жыл бұрын
Wow wow wow 24 years treated me like Christ treated the church..then year 25 began hanging out with a cheater…then went and got him a girlfriend. We divorced after 27 years cause he thought we should just pick back up - he never repented from his heart.
@mixitup01
Жыл бұрын
Wow, same @Tab 25 years must be the new "Seven-year itch" or just plain ole' midlife crisis. I'm thankful I had the 25 years. I BELIEVE GOD removed me from a table in which I sat to save me from someone serving me poison...🙏
@shenquejames7598
Жыл бұрын
So true, Pastor Preach!
@princewest4364
Жыл бұрын
I’m currently going through this and I’m doing everything that God is giving me direction to for restoration of my marriage..For a lot of us men we truly don’t understand what we have until we don’t have it anymore…😔🤬💯🆙💅
@mrs.tcampbell1249
Жыл бұрын
Forgiveness does not mean forget!
@shylabruce6752
Жыл бұрын
But it does tho. God does when we sin.
@starblane1023
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes you have to forget in order to heal 🤔 and pray to the Heavenly Father that God will erase your memories of your past hurts 🙏 and start a new with a renew healthy heart and mind and soul never let no one steal your joy or your peace of mind and always continue to love your enemies no matter how hard it becomes your reward comes from God and he will reward you in heaven as long as you stay faithful to him 🙏 and start fasting and praying because it surely helps and it gives you clarity
@a-a-rondavis9438
Жыл бұрын
@@shylabruce6752different things.. Forgiveness for us to others is about US. WE FORGIVE and get rid of bitterness (that is why we are taught by Jesus to keep forgiving them until we feel no ill will towards them, it trains us psychologically and spiritually to not hold onto sin with another person), BUT, we DO NOT forget what has happened to us. We don't hug the rapist, or the murderer, or the cheater, but we simply have to forgive them "for they know not what they do." Jesus forgave the people who killed His Earthly body, as they had put Him on the cross.
@jazzip
Жыл бұрын
THE TRUST IS GONE!. There will always be that little voice in the back of your mind: questioning.
@KE-uk7pp
Жыл бұрын
So true! I have seen some marriages be able to forgive, move on and still be together. I have seen some that once they cheat the marriage is over. It’s definitely not an easy road with either choice.
@susangulley8045
Жыл бұрын
I love him! He is is full of insight & knowledge! 💯☝🏽🎯
@jercoryiac1537
Жыл бұрын
I’m SO GLAD he said this
@lumacdonald9379
Жыл бұрын
Your speaking such truth
@tamising8999
Жыл бұрын
I TRULY SUPPORT THAT
@karenrhjackson1331
9 ай бұрын
BEAUTIFUL
@TeWandaJoven
Жыл бұрын
Forgiveness doesn't mean stay either. It's a done deal if you put that type of pain in my life. Over.
@ndiacarter450
Жыл бұрын
Hmm…this is good. When God forgives us though He said He’ll forget our sins we did, He’d put them away from Him in Psalms. It would be hard getting back to that place yes, but with God all things are possible so there’s a possibility.
@julianjulianjulianjulianju6929
Жыл бұрын
That's what I'm thinking. Forgiveness isnt forgetting but isnt it like it?
@kmart.h
Жыл бұрын
@@julianjulianjulianjulianju6929 I believe it is. It’s a hard topic, but I feel if you have been cheated on and you are still willing to work it out, you must eventually forget it and let it go over time as you heal because the Bible says “love keeps no record of wrongs and we are to forgive 70x7.” Whomever did the cheating has to have patience and put in the work to gain their spouses trust back, but at the same time, that spouse can’t say they wanna work it out and it’s been over a year or just a long time since whatever took place, and they’re still bringing it up in convos or arguments
@joyliddell882
Жыл бұрын
I agree. I know couples that have come back from adultery and have a better marriage after it, so It indeed is possible. And also, why wouldn’t a couple work to make that a reality, especially if you both have done the hard work and are choosing to stay together. Trust can be renewed and restored. God is definitely able.
@naryamie
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! Amen sister there is a sea called forgetfulness where he cast all our traspases.
@myytcommentaccount6574
Жыл бұрын
I think it’s possible but not required. Forgiveness doesn’t = reconciliation. I can forgive you and not want to be with you again. And by definition, forgiveness is NOT forgetfulness. They are different words. Some people choose to forgive and the ones who need forgiveness make it hard to forget bc they don’t always right their wrong. Lastly, God has called us to live in peace. So if someone leaves, let them leave. Matt. 7:15 God gave an out for abandonment. You abandon your vows, I can forgive you and don’t have to get back with you.
@Thrivegrl24
Жыл бұрын
The last part HELLO people think forgive is forgetfulness hello is the mic still on !!! Well said‼️
@JacobsEyes2012
Жыл бұрын
Facts Brotha! Respect! 💯💯👑 #sow
@ryanboyd100
Жыл бұрын
It's All about both parties being able to communicate and respect one another's needs and feelings
@elenasandoval3383
Жыл бұрын
Yessss you don't get to go back to what you enjoyed having prior to the violation, some people do not want to accept that
@hectorsantiago6664
Жыл бұрын
Facts. I only ever asked for positive communication. I was always misunderstood. Thanks for this
@julissasimpson88
Жыл бұрын
So true n it hurts. To forgive
@KALNAT14
Жыл бұрын
Ughhhh and it sucks so bad to miss that soul tie and connection we once had. I want it to work so bad but I know it will never be the same. Oh my heart here commenting my damn feels lol I love his ass so much for the last 17years of my life…. Feels like I wasted it and he doesn’t get how much I love him.
@69purposecoarse
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely 💯 true
@talieshalynch2432
Жыл бұрын
I just can't do it, I'm DONE!!
@carolynedwards1206
Жыл бұрын
Reset the boundaries when the boundaries was already said before God the first time you said I do everything else is tolerated
@BrendaBodwin
Жыл бұрын
I would never take that person back. Never. Once the trust is gone, the glue that binds us is gone. I would never live by life wondering what he's doing every time he walks out the door. It's over.
@TOMMY-WANT-WINGY
Жыл бұрын
You never have 100% trust in them again. Your dad didn't tell you what to look out for because he didn't know either.
@amazinggrace313
Жыл бұрын
This man sounds like he has some morals!! That’s what I’m talking about
@goldenbuddha316
Жыл бұрын
NICELY SAID
@gma904
Жыл бұрын
I reconnected with mine when I was 100% certain I never could. Like he said if you both are willing to try it can for sure happen. Like a miracle. Also it’s never exactly forgotten of course, but you can definitely be in a very happy relationship again.
@discoveruradventure5737
Жыл бұрын
Preach. Forgiveness not forgetfulness
@evarobinson4471
Жыл бұрын
When A spouse cheat, it's because THATS WHAT THEY WANTED TO DO, and sometimes believe they can get away with it!
@Ruby_and_Nibbles
Жыл бұрын
Preach homie❤
@radizzle20
Жыл бұрын
Facts its no point entertainin n puttin ur energy into sumbody else than da 1 u hav by urside
@wanttruth3876
Жыл бұрын
TELL IT! He did it at least 3 times. However, we had a marriage and children. The last time I told him to leave. I divorced him. He said "it's time for me to live my life". I told him to be careful what you say. Well, before they could marry, he got cancer, she died. Happiness doesn't grow from bile. You can't be happy causing others pain.
@gloriaheard9365
Жыл бұрын
he is right once you break that trust it's not the same amen
@niquehawks874
Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾 factz on top of factzzz!!!✊🏾
@nikrich24
Жыл бұрын
There’s no way to assure that someone won’t cheat, you can only choose to trust
@princ345
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this words
@D3nMe
Жыл бұрын
Truth. Truth. Truth. 🎲
@0vercomer
Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@tamcreatezy8424
Жыл бұрын
It's the last part for me cuz it's really sad when people expect for things to be the same just because things are forgiven and that's not the case
@warriorofchrist1694
Жыл бұрын
People don't sin against people people sin against God . Forgive and you''ll be forgive seek him today
@MsPurpleGoddess
Жыл бұрын
Also the one who cheated CAN NOT DETERMINE WHEN THE OTHER PERSON SHOULD HEAL. Many people think just because things seem like they are back to normal that the other person isn’t still healing.
@marnoldpiersqd
Жыл бұрын
Forgiveness may lead to forgetfulness but not likely
@bonnercoeurline589
Жыл бұрын
My ex told me we was never in a relationship it was an illusion. U can’t cheat on someone and y’all were never a thing. So we both were dishonest with each other. On a break I ended up having an ONS with an ex while he was in Florida for like 10 or 12 days no contact just ghosted me. I should of never asked him to come back. However the only real thing to spawn from that is my son and I am grateful to God. Since that chapter in my life I pray more I don’t need proof of God cause I felt him besides me every step even in my dark times. Thinking about how God loves me so much and saved me from myself and further dumb choices is amazing I don’t look like what I’ve been through
@TheRealDennisFamilyTV
Жыл бұрын
That’s why I let it be known for. The jump. Trust and loyalty is everything to me. If I’m giving you that, I expect it in return. Once the trust is broken, there’s no returning. Especially if you cheated.
@sexy7one
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! That part at the end!
@catundraflowers1431
Жыл бұрын
Amazing brother
@you.lurking
Жыл бұрын
DONT TAKE THEY CHEATING A$$ BACK PERIOD!!! obviously they didn't want you when they cheated. let them go they didn't care about you when they cheated. when someone shows you who they are believe them. take them back it's only a matter of time before they cheat on you again
@johnettatownsend
Жыл бұрын
It's not about going back to what you had prior you both may understand and realize you can't be without eachother also why do people always think cheating is the underlined issue other problems occur smh!
@Uhjords
Жыл бұрын
A person who cheats is a spiteful person who will knowingly do things with bad intentions and try to blame their lack of self control on you… I won’t be friends with cheaters, I won’t date a cheater. You can’t cheat out of good intentions. People cheat out of spite. People cheat out of pride. People cheat out of fear . People don’t cheat out of good emotions… I don’t associate with cheater. If they will cheat of their partner they are disloyal. I have no interest in sugar coating this. If someone cheats on you LEAVE. If you can’t control yourself on alcohol … don’t drink it. If you are lacking self awareness to the point where you don’t know your emotional state and how it behaves with alcohol and the situations you put yourself in. You have ALOT of growing up to do
@jimboslice149
Жыл бұрын
behavior modification will only get you so far. you have to acknowledge that before your spouse, you have sinned against the Lord because you have chosen pleasure over holiness. we are so weak
@angelasmith1443
Жыл бұрын
Prayers changes any and everything... End of story 🤷🏽♀️
@diaryofamadmixedgirl1018
Жыл бұрын
Yeah never stay after you've cheated. You can genuine, truly change, be as transparent as possible, that person will always see a cheater n may even abuse you n use your cheating, no matter how many years ago, as not just an excuse but a reason. Dont devalue yourself in order to prove you value someone else. If you cant heel people you've hurt, all you can do is apologize, admit you were wrong n move tf on.
@OnaAV
Жыл бұрын
Cheaters are cowards and they suck.
@jerbear21
Жыл бұрын
Going through this now, my husband gets mad because I will never trust him the same. I’ve been the best wife I could possibly be. But it’s just not the same for me anymore, I’m on my way out the door while he’s out with “his buddies “. And he has no clue 🙂
@elamay8042
Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 facts!
@Jezze-rc6yv
Жыл бұрын
No need to have someone that cheated back, the trust and respect will never ever ever be the same.
@blackfranklin
Жыл бұрын
How can you say that? If you cheated also, just count it as payback, and drive on. And keep it straight...
@Wawerufitness
Жыл бұрын
Once a cheater always a cheater. Never forgive.
@kingdom384
Жыл бұрын
If cheating happens they are erased from my life! Instant break up!
@adebowaletejumade6328
Жыл бұрын
This is so precise.
@charlotteclark6061
Жыл бұрын
True! Amen
@Lynda.with.a.y
Жыл бұрын
I been saying that. Preach it.
@Prometheuspredator
Жыл бұрын
Think seriously before you cheat. You are not only breaking the heart of your spouse, but when your children find out it will crush them. If you cheat there will be repercussions as in 1.) Your spouse decides to give you and your marriageva second try or 2.) Your spouse leaves the marriage.
@sethp1780
Жыл бұрын
Nobody should ever go back and try to reconnect to a cheater. That is the unforgivable sin. Whether a physical or emotional affair. If my wife who I’ve been with for years and have two kids with cheats, that’s it. There’s no second chances. Especially when I’m more loyal than a dog
@IOeste80
Жыл бұрын
Not true. We all mess up. I feel you…if that works for you, ok. But real reconciliation is always impossible.
@a-a-rondavis9438
Жыл бұрын
Forgiveness is not about her, it's about you. You forgive, but still conduct the status of the relationship how you want to. Divorcing her and scorching the earth wouldn't be "unforgiving" it would just be how it should be done.
@amyflores9485
Жыл бұрын
Jesus forgives all sins but one and thats denying him his father and the HOLY Spirit.
@sethp1780
Жыл бұрын
@@amyflores9485 Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit is the unforgivable yes. It’s not denying god though. Peter denied Jesus three times and not only was forgiven but Jesus asked him to “feed his sheep” as the leader of Pentecost. Blasphemy of the holy spirit is seeing gods work and calling it satans. Look at the scripture where Jesus talks about the unforgivable sun. It’s when he performs a miracle and the Pharisees started screaming he was a servant of Satan. It’s for this reason you should always be careful when you see a evangelist preaching and might not like him, that you don’t think he’s doing the devils work. Except Kenneth Copeland. He’s undeniably wicked
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