在美國小學對不聽話的孩子有一個法寶叫 time out(暫停活動 ),對一直講不聽的小孩命其到角落去站壁反思,而在中學就是要求到特定房間去自我反省。在我女兒小時,基本上她是個聽話與乖巧的孩子,但也有橫起來想要無理取鬧的時候,那時正因我有學習到美國小學內會使用time out這種方法,所以當我說出要 time out 時,她明顯馬上變得安靜起來,之後似乎也會開始反省自己的行為,所以以後我就再也很少有機會使用此種方法了。因此,我認為 time out 實際是個不錯的方法。
"You don't want to get married with the idea of changing the other party. I hope they don't want to change you. It is much better that you find the people you are compatible with." - Warren Buffett. 巴菲特的意思是:江山易改,本性难移。学会适者生存。而不是改变环境,改变别人和自己。根本改不了。 中国人太相信教育能改变人。我和弟弟同一个家庭长大,完全不同,跟教育没啥关系。本性所致。
Winston should make more effort to polish his English and Mandarin, try to get more training and get a decent job to support the family, if he can't support the family financially, just take the welfare, US take good care of all kids, and you can focus on the time with kids. We all see that Winston has been trying to focus on making videos to please certain group of audience
@bekahzhang2186
2 жыл бұрын
@@freedomwright7688 Thanks to my husband’s hard work at two jobs and wise management of finances we live a very comfortable life. One of the things I admire most about Winston is his ability to resourcefully make a living in a way that both supports us and also frees up his time to spend with us. I’m so lucky to have him. ❤️
@winonawang4521
2 жыл бұрын
@@freedomwright7688 Understand your points, but how do you know that Winston is not trying his best to study and provide his family with a good life? Winston and his family share what they have been experiencing as a family, which should be not judged by us who have no ideas what they exactly went through. We need to be kind with empathy when trying to give suggestions. I usually delete my comments when receiving a reply with negativity, but I believe you share your points with good intention. We shall give best wishes to Winston and his family as raising three children is challenging, especially they need to settle in when moving back to the US.
@freedomwright7688
2 жыл бұрын
@@winonawang4521 you are a very nice person! I was not being negative at all, just being truthful and sincere, trying to suggest something more realistic, he has not been contributing to the US society yet, he has been depending on China's clients or audience, so he tends to please those fifty cents and little pinkies, which is just not sustainable given current political environment. Moving to the States is coming home for them, he is not a Chinese student, he has legal status and a helpful family, (on whom he is blaming the way they are handling covid, his ideology doesn't fit the environment) he shouldn't been struggling at all, his wife and kids feel more at home than him, yet he is the one who was supposed to uplift the whole family ... On another note, no you tuber on line shows real life, everybody got real life already. I believe majority viewers are more interested in cute kids, and beka's Chinese learning experience, how to do the girl's hair...
Communication and acceptance is possible only if one meets an equally sincere person . Sometimes, one’s spouse may marry one bec of one’s looks , education level , family background, inheritance potential , social position etc People always think that a lot of women are social climbers . Actually, a lot of men are also social climbers . They marry women from influential backgrounds to further their career aspirations because they are smart but do not have the social connections to reach the top. Communication and ability to regulate one’s emotions does not help in marital relationships or parenting responsibilities in such instances bec they have never truly loved their spouses
Rebecca must be a good teacher and of course a great mom and wife.
@alexoolau
2 жыл бұрын
"You don't want to get married with the idea of changing the other party. I hope they don't want to change you. It is much better that you find the people you are compatible with." - Warren Buffett.
And I am learning new things from the 2 of you. Thanks
@wenxu6054
2 жыл бұрын
love what Rebecca said about treating kids with "empathy". in the long run, kids who are treated with respect and empathy will grow up to be more empathetic and kind, and will be more successful in this society.
"You don't want to get married with the idea of changing the other party. I hope they don't want to change you. It is much better that you find the people you are compatible with." - Warren Buffett.
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