Autism and childhood trauma don't have to go hand-to-hand. #letautismbeautism #letautismbeautism #earlydiagnosis #earlyintervention #depression #anxiety #trauma #bullying #disability #advocacy
@sayusayme7729
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, learning me 🤍🩵🤍
@annaczaicka8914
Жыл бұрын
Hi, is it possible to self diagnose? Can you help to find the right resources? It is it possible to meet with you online. I feel like there is not enough experience in Poland.
@dottie8255
Жыл бұрын
“Deep down, I think most of us kinda like who we are but we kinda just wish the world would like it a little bit more as well.” ❤
@bridgetfredrick6656
Жыл бұрын
I cant believe this is sooo me! OMG! IM 60 Years old and have always felt like i was crazy! Being with people is absolutely exhausting, large social gatherings can be debilitating. Im terrible about social maintance, etc. Im Going to contact my physician and get tested. It may be late in life, but it would explain so much in my life. Thank you!
@ewap789
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Sarah. I'm a 45 year-old on the suspectrum, and always struggled being unusual and different, but listenning to you is a bit shocking : we're the same! I'm so not original after all! Feeling better let me tell you. Peace of mind now. About the handbag thing, and everything else :)
@RenateVasterd-kz5xh
Жыл бұрын
Oh dear, this is so ‘me’. Diagnosed at 55, smart, a ‘yes’- person, not in touch with how i feel, achting social and masking with humor. ‘Are you autistic ???’
@en6808
Жыл бұрын
This is the second video of hers that I’ve watched, with great interest because it was listening to someone who described me to a tee. At 49, and awaiting my own diagnosis for autism, it’s liberating to finally know myself and find that finally, I’m actually ok..
@shorelined1
Жыл бұрын
This was SO relatable! I'm grateful to have found this. The humor brought to what's typically painful is appreciated. I'd have loved a diagnosis as a child, and going to seek one. My fuel was anxiety and cortisol. Feeling like a misfit (surrounded by neurotypicals) and not knowing why, always trying so hard to be more like others, would have been a battle I'd have loved to have been freed of so long ago. Awareness is everything.
@majamannhard443
2 жыл бұрын
Bro, the tippex.. I have loved it for all my life and in high school I used to have a piece of paper on my desk wich I coated in tippex only to curl it slightly and smell it until it dried. That paper got THICK! And I had unlimited access to tippex because my parents are teachers and I’d just have them steal things for me from work, haha
@murielbilly4296
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your seminars, especially this one. I was diagnosed at 39, but it wasn't a surprise. When I was around 15, I read a book of a father talking about his autistic daughter. It was a very intense moment. Even if his little girl was non verbal, with a lot of behavior problems, I never felt so alike someone. We were on 2 sides of the spectrum but it was like we were from the same family. Between that moment and my diagnostic, I said things like "I could have done a brilliant autistic career " or "it's the little autistic part of me" when people, colleagues,... found me weird. I sometimes add "that's what makes my charm". I can relate to a lot of things, in ways i didn't think was a part of autistic differences. Like hair, make up, clothes, my sense of humor which is sarcastic, or playing with words,.. it doesn't help to socialize. You also talk about something which makes me ashamed and guilty. I forgot people I know I like. As time goes by, it's like they shrink. I know I spend good times with them, but it always ended like " Oh no, i wanted to call my nefew ,it's too late to do this today ", I know I love him, we were really close. I feel really guilty for forgetting him..
@thekajalflaneur
2 жыл бұрын
I agree so much, im just learning to live an autistic life. She is so correct, the more I try to conform the more sick I become because of stress and worry of passing etc. Thankyou so much! I am learning more and more each day!
@hamdihammami1545
2 жыл бұрын
The Sahara photo is a honeymoon memories and that small creature included in the best moments of somebody life the trace that creature left is wiped off but someone took a picture .
@ViljaVeta
2 жыл бұрын
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@ViljaVeta
2 жыл бұрын
Many thanks for this fantastic seminar! Despite lagging internet with interruptions every two minutes, I could not stop watching! Wish I had seen it 40 years earlier! It had prevented a great deal of suffering! Continue to share your experiences and help autistic women! You're the best! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️❤️👍🏻👍🏻
@ithacacomments4811
3 жыл бұрын
I write. I paint. I capture wonderful images with my camera. and I am an Aspie!
@ithacacomments4811
3 жыл бұрын
When I make an error....I ask myself,...."will this matter in a hundred years?"
@ithacacomments4811
3 жыл бұрын
Being off my Aspie daughter's radar for weeks...as her mother....hurts my heart. I understand why...still hurts.
@ithacacomments4811
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! A weekly calendar is a must!!!
@ithacacomments4811
3 жыл бұрын
At age 71...I have had 29 jobs in my lifetime. I can so relate to...."I can't work here another minute because....."
@ithacacomments4811
3 жыл бұрын
I am so naive. But for the grace of God.......
@ithacacomments4811
3 жыл бұрын
I am female Aspie. For me being trapped in a room with a group of neurotypical women all talking about kitchen curtains, and baby's poopy diapers.....HELL!
@Savyra
3 жыл бұрын
I also end up in the broom cupboard in public loos/clients' buildings! Walking into buildings backwards- what a brilliant hack!
@RynKat
3 жыл бұрын
Excellent talk
@leanneschnerch9143
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Sarah, I'd like to be able to send you an email, how do I contact you?
@Sky-Child
3 жыл бұрын
Response to "You don't look autistic" is "You don't look like an ignoramus but here we are"
@Sky-Child
3 жыл бұрын
I love her double autistic joke right off the bat - I need routine, you of all you people should have empathy for that. YES! We DO have empathy and a sense of humour
@denise2169
3 жыл бұрын
Great advice, thank you! Using lots of life tools like not only calendars and agendas, but also timers and Alexa help me to organise my life. I use Alexa constantly to remind me to do things throughout the day, even to make dinner and to go to bed! I have learned to like who I am, and challenging myself to do things to overcome my anxiety has helped me to do a lot of amazing things n my life. I love being ‘on fire’ and accepting who I am.
@lindalambert8727
3 жыл бұрын
This woman has just told my life story.
@Sky-Child
3 жыл бұрын
Me too
@cthornton523
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. I'm 52, yelling at a screen, "Are you me???"
@teyjahxaveriss6270
3 жыл бұрын
60 old here, that is seeing my "SELF" for the first time. Thx for putting your "SELF" out there, you are a gift to my Soul. I am slowly accepting my Aspergers.
@wildflowersar3595
3 жыл бұрын
This was so useful and relatable. Thank you so much. Would love to have a peer like yourself.
@denise2169
3 жыл бұрын
I shared what I know about my autism with my friends, and my best friend said that she probably is, too! Most of my friends are very supportive.
@wildflowersar3595
3 жыл бұрын
This is fantastic. Oh I hope this strategy is rolled out amongst our healthcare. This was overwhelming to watch but it gives me hope.
@EagleRue
4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Phases of "being a woman". Love that. Yes me!
@EagleRue
4 жыл бұрын
Bit twitchy is completely accurate.
@vv8134
4 жыл бұрын
Relate so much to her and her experience that can’t stop watching her talks I find on you tube. Such a relief to understand myself better and accept myself and the past
@cassielee1114
2 жыл бұрын
Same here, she’s brilliant 🤩
@angelabertrand9684
2 жыл бұрын
Me too, I absolutely love hearing her speak, it makes me feel like someone had the answers to all my struggles and questions. It just took me 43 years to discover Sarah!
@quentinmcsloth240
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. She‘s awesome. I told my therapist that I suspect I might be autistic and he was one of those people who immediately said „nah I don‘t see that in you at all.“ So I thought „well I don‘t have the energy to argue about this right now I‘ll just try and get rid of the masking thing a fair bit on my own because I think that‘s what finally got me into therapy cause I‘m just constantly exhausted by everything and have bern so for as long as I can remember. And maybe at some point I will have dropped enough of my mask to actually be visible on the outside. But every time I try to explain some oof the stuff that stresses me out, like answering the phone spending time around people, touching wooden spoons (stuff like that) all he says is „Well but you DID do it right? So that means you CAN do it. You just have to believe in yourself and get used to some of the stuff than it will get easier.“ I find this so frustrating because I know I CAN do this stuff but I feel like the concept of just believing in myself and doing those things more often in order to get used to it is what got me into therapy in the first place. Cause it‘s not like I haven‘t been trying for 31 years because every time I dared to say „no I can‘t do it.“ someone was right there to tell me „yes you CAN. You‘re just being overly sensitive.“ But after all this time of trying I can tell that it does not get easier. All I‘ve managed to achieve is that it looks like it is easier from the outside so that people can go „See? I told you you could do it.“ and that I have almost know idea how it feels like to not be exhausted all the time and that quite frankly I am sick and tired of trying to „improve“ every single ounce of my mind and body just so that other people see me as a success while on the inside I feel like I‘m slowly but constantly dying.
@Nina9er
Жыл бұрын
You too? I swear I have been watching them all....mostly to see how the audience reacts to her stories...yeah, I'm weird.
@shorelined1
Жыл бұрын
@@quentinmcsloth240 Wow, I completely hear you. I was in therapy off and on 20+ yrs and there was always a disconnect. I never felt truly seen and it felt like going through the motions, so I stopped. Looking back i think therapists weren't educated on what autism entails for those "higher functioning". We look anxious, depressed, OCD, PTSD, agoraphobic, neurotic..etc. I learned of Hsp years ago which gave me permission to own my uniqueness and change the world around me to meet my needs, not keep futiley trying to change who I am. I believe Hsp is mild autism, vs a separate condition. I agree it doesn't get easier. I get that there are things I have to force myself to do. It's hold breath and jump, not "wow, this gets easier every time". But why fix what's not broken? Adapt your environment to support you. If you don't like wooded utensils, get rid of them;) It's banging our heads into a wall to keep trying to force a square peg in round hole. You can't enjoy life if you're constantly telling yourself you need to change. It was a revelation to realize I'm not just weird or crazy, and had "permission" to love myself as is.
@gingerredshoes
4 жыл бұрын
The thing about clothes and makeup is really about adhering to cultural gender role norms. It's about not getting the made up rules that have no practical basis, not the specifics of whether one enjoys getting prettied up. I enjoy clothes, it's my Thing Of Interest. But I don't follow fashion (I notice it, but the rules seem ridiculous) and often wear things that Normals consider weird.
@MissShembre
4 жыл бұрын
I'd so much rather hear this info from someone with HF autism than from a typical person who just lists things off like they're talking about diabetes.
@lnescuh
4 жыл бұрын
I cannot tell you how helpful this seminar alone has been for me as someone who was just diagnosed at 32. It's mind-blowing how relatable your experiences are. I'm so glad I found you, especially since some of the coping methods you outlined have been effective for me. I can't wait to check out more of your work. Thank you so, so much for being who you are.
@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS
4 жыл бұрын
Best bra I've found for sensory issues (though I don't like padding, the padding here actually provides the support). www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07KG9B3TT/?coliid=I3N84D9H2ERGBN&colid=1BMTLXI88L1J3&psc=1&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it
@peter-cj5fo
4 жыл бұрын
We have the highest prison population in Europe and the highest drug related deaths in the western world. A recent study in Sweden found that people who were in rehab for drug and alcohol problems were on the autistic spectrum. Scotland isn't even addressing this. www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/autism-and-addiction/518289/
@lysagreen2314
4 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much for your videos! They are so helpful for me. I am 59 y/o female who is only just finding out that I am very probably autistic. Listening to you has helped me understand why I have struggled so much for all of my life, and I am finding a lot of information to help me live the rest of my life a little better.
@dorogly
3 жыл бұрын
Me too. 57
@shorelined1
Жыл бұрын
52
@TheAngelaoddone
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Yes, I absolutely agree those of us who can must "come out" as autistic to help people recognize ASD and normalize it -- to overcome the stigma, shame and blame that are rooted in ignorance, denial and fear. It's also such a better way to live -- much healthier and happier! As a psychotherapist, I was surprised to realize I'm on the spectrum. I'm doing what I can to make up for all of the clients I had in the past whose autism I missed by learning as much as I can that's practical, helpful and accepting.
@lingolding9530
4 жыл бұрын
so like me
@peter-cj5fo
5 жыл бұрын
Scotland is so far behind with making the connections with autsim and substance use probs, get yir finger oot Scot Gov
@tuovisjolund264
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Finally got a job i can handle. Its a blessing from Yeshua. I have not worked a whole lot before The age of 39
@thecosmicweatherreport864
5 жыл бұрын
I relate so much to what you have said, I’m definitely Asperger but I have a degree in fashion, lol!! Yet, I’ve never had a manicure or pedicure, I color n cut my own hair at home because of not wanting or trusting other people to do it right!! I will even wear the same cloths a couple of days in a row when I can. As far as makeup, I love the colors and what they can do but I can become a perfectionist which makes it take a really time to put on so I only wear it when I’m going somewhere nice. I love your example of how you face your fears and anxiety regardless of Autism, thank you!!
@trishtraynor
5 жыл бұрын
I'm 65. I enjoy my synaesthesia. I'm glad I could read at age 3 without being taught . I don't care that I find parties dull and joining groups where I can be myself is good. Choirs and orchestras are perfect because there's no competition. Freinds are few and far between because I don't trust easily. I trust myself. I was an abused child so I learned vigilance at an early age. I was a teacher and in my 30s I became a nurse so my love of routine was an asset. I'm lesbian although I was married and now have grandchildren. Women get on my nerves too.😂😂 I'm now a no person because I'm disabled,but hated saying yes because I had to hang out with people who baffled me.
@coloringwithd
5 жыл бұрын
About 80% of what you talked about described me but I have panic, anxiety, OCD, ADHD, bipolar, and PTSD. My therapist says I am not on the spectrum. I'm so confused.
@anniethurston9381
5 жыл бұрын
Coloring With D try getting a second opinion from an autism specialist
@jvance6
5 жыл бұрын
Most therapist probably aren't properly trained on detecting autism. I would recommend searching for a an expert.
@bunnybaker2289
4 жыл бұрын
A lot of times autistic traits look like the traits of other things sooooo
@livb6945
3 жыл бұрын
Particularly if you are a woman, you tend to get any or multiple of the above diagnoses instead of autism, because many doctors still believe it's a boy thing
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