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@stephencollins9062
16 күн бұрын
She burned through money that was for our future I tried to explain to her how to manage her finances she burnt through money like water, she constantly refused to do anything which would have made her better off and then our daughter
@michaelgarrow3239
16 күн бұрын
This is painful to listen to. You should go into how someone gets to this place. In order to do this they will drive you into freeze, or fawn mode. You’re so afraid of them and the world you don’t think clearly.
@blissfultreasures3649
15 күн бұрын
@@stephencollins9062h
@michaelgarrow3239
16 күн бұрын
Ruin your job. Ruin your education. Ruin your investments. Ruin your reputation. 🧙
@hettykoster9447
16 күн бұрын
Exactly !!
@gaurs230
16 күн бұрын
@@michaelgarrow3239 reputation yes
@Sandi-w6v
16 күн бұрын
💯
@supernova8008
16 күн бұрын
Yes absolutely.. My own father spoiled My career.. my business.. My personality in front of others My marriage took to divorce My second marriage was at verge of divorce.. Some how survived.. Finally now got completely detached from him because his own blunders.. Now life is OK..for me..
@puremaledark8305
15 күн бұрын
100
@janeoxley4829
16 күн бұрын
Your telling me, greedy, control, stingy, and secretive.
@joseenoel8093
16 күн бұрын
Yes all of the above, like the secretive one best! 😊
@merithmoon2501
16 күн бұрын
Real
@katella
15 күн бұрын
You've just described my late husband
@streaming5332
9 күн бұрын
Especially secretive..
@pradeeshalbert1625
16 күн бұрын
If you are financially bonded or debted to a narcissist,that means you are slaved and tormented
@elizabethbettencourt1116
16 күн бұрын
Yes
@AlastairGunn-sz2om
15 күн бұрын
I am , it happened over years off trust . We bought a house 30years ago opened jjiont bank account . This year I find paper work that states, he owns the house and Im secondary on all bank accounts. Trust NO ONE dont end up like me elderly alone and stuck with nothing. ❤
@adeleleah3918
14 күн бұрын
@AlastairGunn-sz2om your never alone mate. There is a whole community of us out there xx
@annaburns2865
9 күн бұрын
I was born that way.
@kevinhanley6462
16 күн бұрын
They promise to pay you back, but don't want you to have it: they'll never pay you back. It's best not to lend them any more.
@Lailat854
16 күн бұрын
Exactly!
@Taurianno
16 күн бұрын
Pure Facts..!!..they never give back..just take....while u losing..they gain....
@adabeke168
15 күн бұрын
They never pay back. They even treaten you
@user-th2hh5zm5w
14 күн бұрын
I stopped lending money to a narc partner. After 11 months of being robbed. While already being abused by narc family. And he turned so violent subtly. He pushed me real hard towards committing suicide. And I turned completely resilent. Imagine being called toxic and notorious. While having zero friends. Relatives being flying monkeys. Sister being their enabler. And one ex husband and another narc. Wanting to see me dead.
@AlmasAlam-lg9ry
13 күн бұрын
I have faced same issue
@user-pk1gp7iy2o
16 күн бұрын
When we first met I had my own flat and money in the bank. By the time I left him, I was broke and homeless........but thank God, I am free.
@adeleleah3918
14 күн бұрын
Me too...to another woman 😢
@menikersantos236
13 күн бұрын
Me too on my forties broke and starting again he kept me hostage in my own house that I used to rent because I invited him to move in with me so we could build a family quicker and he even stopped having sex with me so I would not get pregnant... And literally stolen my whole life from me, I had to leave him in a house in my name to not commit suicide as he made me lose my job,got a job exactly like mine after I teached him how to do my job, and afterwards blackmail me to stop paying the rent and leave me homeless, I was never a religious person and I started to read the bible as I felt I had exorcise him from my life
@mfar3016
12 күн бұрын
I’m sure you picked yourself back up & that burns him the most!
@christopherleubner6633
12 күн бұрын
Same but she got me thrown in jail as well. They DA dropped the case but it was long enough that when I got out all my cards were maxed out, bank account was emptied the day of the arrest, and she took the kid and moved in with the guy she was seeing. Also filed a court case claiming abandonment while I was homeless. She got sole custody and I got a bill. She also robbed her new supply and got away with it.
@nicolletteramirez
11 күн бұрын
They suck everything from you. Vampires
@user-qv9nw1dq2f
16 күн бұрын
True. Money is the narcissist’s kingdom. Your examples are spot on!
@Beautiful_Farm
16 күн бұрын
For 8 years I was not allowed to work, have friends, go anywhere without my husband, was not allowed to drive. I was a prisoner in our home for 8 years. A ghost. If I ever asked for money his reply was -he made the money so it was his. If you can, leave. They will shred your soul until nothing is left. God made a way for me to get out. I never could have left if The Lord had not intervened.
@victoryamartin9773
16 күн бұрын
Same story, different husband. 8 years locked in a 1 1/2 acre property surrounded by chain link with my kids. My 3 year old son found a way to escape and ended up at the neighbors' house. I never figured out how he did it. I should have taken his cue to run. But it took another 9 years of slave labor, and then I was discarded. I never dared to ask for money. I just wanted my husband to take a day off work and spend time with us. The Lord made a way for me too. I'm alone but financially solvent.
@Hatbox948
16 күн бұрын
My nex had a big coffee can full of change. We didn't have a printer and I needed to go to the library to make a copy of a document. I didn't have change to put into the library printer so I asked him if I could get two quarters from the can. Otherwise I'd have to go by the bank. They no longer give coin, so I'd then have to go somewhere else to get change. He fussed and fumed for thirty minutes because I asked for $0.50. I was exhausted from the mental wrangling by the time I left the house.
@JenniferAlexis1984
4 күн бұрын
They suck!
@dgirl6248
16 күн бұрын
My financial picture w narc husband. I barely had money for basics and I mean bare basics. No shopping for clothes, no money for beauty products etc. Him well anything he wanted he absolutely got. No matter the strain on family. Our kids never got a store bought Halloween costume, but he had motorcycles, boats, riding mowers, new trucks every few years. Kids and I poverty, him luxury all the way
@melissabyrd1310
16 күн бұрын
Yes exactly , im living the nightmare right now. He ate and so im wondering what im suppose to eat for dinner.
@Ann-eb8dp
16 күн бұрын
So true The picture of my life with my ex The stuff he had was incredible We had nothing
@kriskris4214
15 күн бұрын
OMG sounds just like my father!!!! He had a brand new car, professional fishing geers- full garage, 3 motorbikes, small airplane worth of house, tools worth thousands of dollars without every using them. And if it wasn't for my mother I wouldn't even have shoes.
@Hasnainlegacy
15 күн бұрын
Exactly
@kathybrem880
15 күн бұрын
Yep
@Isabela2024-yr
16 күн бұрын
Danish, you're always on target. The narcissist tried to take over my properties and financial accounts, but he could not do it. It must be so frustrating to him, and I don't care. 😂😂😂
@sarah-j7h
15 күн бұрын
They always want you to foot the bill in the restaurant even if they have more than enough money to contribute. Doesn't even help for the gas, they feel entitled that you should be the one to shoulder all the expenses during family outing while they hoard their money.
@eleonorabartoli2225
16 күн бұрын
Great video! This hidden financial abuse is not really talked about, but it is so much more dangerous precisely because it does not look like the typical financial abuse. Thank you!🙏🏼
@reginakasakevics7891
16 күн бұрын
He certainly can’t threaten me with leaving, I’d be like please do I would love it.
@cindyares5234
16 күн бұрын
Omg say the same thing!!! Leave best thing u could ever give me!😂😢😅
@c.d.meloney
16 күн бұрын
I pray every time he leaves to not come back
@heathermixson1265
16 күн бұрын
Amen
@miranda-r4s
12 күн бұрын
@@c.d.meloney Me too. I thought I was the only one.
@c.d.meloney
12 күн бұрын
@@miranda-r4s no we're not alone we are in the company of a billion women in the world. And the world has generally always been run by men like this. With great sadness and regret I say that.
@marijkevandermeer2772
16 күн бұрын
They are demonic...
@coolcool2901
16 күн бұрын
Narcs are Sadistic. End of story.
@SuperGingerBickies
16 күн бұрын
Money was my late narc mother's 'god' - This video is 100% true.
@JS-il9nw
16 күн бұрын
I never even heard of the phrase “financial abuse” til I found out what he was. Absolute madness !
@yourbodyandyou
16 күн бұрын
Wow. Promises to help and then excuses.
@self-sufficient9315
16 күн бұрын
My God... there was not a single box i couldnt tick amongst all the videos , including this video( word to word... ) that i hadnt suffered all my life... and this makes me amazed and confused at the same time.. i always knew it was not okay... but to listen to all this that it actually exsisted... it makes me speechless.
@80sHeavymetalchick9
16 күн бұрын
True and I realize how many narcissistic people I'm around including family..
@meghasanyal4861
16 күн бұрын
Same feeling
@saisudhaj2167
15 күн бұрын
I also suffered
@DoraMoran-hb2jg
15 күн бұрын
Same here 😭 broke but I’m out so help me god 🙏
@BenRobert-z6v
14 күн бұрын
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
@ScottWeiner-g2b
14 күн бұрын
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@BenRobert-z6v
14 күн бұрын
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
@ScottWeiner-g2b
14 күн бұрын
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
@BenRobert-z6v
14 күн бұрын
You wont regret it
@cathyc1730
13 күн бұрын
Are either of you a narcissist?
@kathybrem880
15 күн бұрын
Oh for sure!!! Mine saved like crazy cause he believed I’d probably die and he’d move to ocean front property and live like a king!! Guess what, he died, I didn’t and I’m living pretty happy now!
@miminini9857
16 күн бұрын
My ex narc is a successful businessman...he made me work for him and i was earning a good salary....... i could not tell him anything just shut my mouth as he would threaten to give the job to another one....i could not bear this abuse..it was a control too ! Ive stopped everything ! I got discarded ... But today after 8 months i am happy, working for less money but happy 😊 Am in no contact since 8 months and will remain so till death Even when they do something good for you bear in mind that behind the curtains there is a control !
@MelW669
8 күн бұрын
The last man I was with tried to rope me into business ideas without even being willing to call me his girlfriend and when I dared to bring this fact to light, that this wasn’t an appropriate thing, he literally got so mad at me and told me the two things were not connected. Then he had me trying to daydream about earning millions and I said I don’t even need millions, let alone want it. He kept trying to convince me I should want a fancier life and that he could provide it for me. Except I kept saying that wasn’t my dream. I want a simple, quiet life. And I earn my own money and own my own home. I don’t need a man’s money. I’m so glad I saw what was happening before he was able to convince me my life sucked (it didn’t - until I got together with him, then I was stressed as hell!). He was still enmeshed with his ex wife and her business that he “helped” her set up. Doing her taxes as if no one else wass got for the job. He was probably screwing her over too. I was like, “you kidding me?” No boundaries. No respect. Tried to take away my autonomy and make me feel bad about my finances, my job, my home, my body, even the way I talk and express myself. It was very quick to burn out! He exhausted me to no end.
@beingspiritual23
15 күн бұрын
True first they take your money not to give it back and then make you insane and irrational whenever you ask for money to be redeemed. They will become highly satisfied when you become miserable and that too because of your own money that you gave out of love or trust. Have experienced it.
@gmchitraalagar6256
16 күн бұрын
They won't let you keep any secret either regarding money or anything
@sheriwahinekapu7033
16 күн бұрын
He used my skills and knowledge to build his finances
@tkmorrs8916
16 күн бұрын
Every single cent was counted. I had no access to the money I was earning. Every cent I spent would be met with screaming and accusations of being irresponsible. I found by accident a bunch accounts records for other accounts she had in her name - No only did I discover she had been quietly putting money aside, but also that she spends more then double what I did. Every single thing Danish has said in this video I have been through. Every single one - it is scary what these parasites do.
@carparthero
16 күн бұрын
not only does the narc use you for your money, they also hugely resent you for having it WHILE THEY’RE TAKING IT. by virtue of the fact that not only do you have enough money, you additionally have enough money to give away, you are implicitly telling the narcissist that you are better than him/her. that is something intolerable, something his/her fractured ego can’t handle, so he/she will figure out a way to somehow demean you to level the playing field and make himself/herself feel better. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@gaurs230
16 күн бұрын
@@carparthero I had a group of friends like that who would use me for my money and wouldn’t even pay me back
@carparthero
16 күн бұрын
@@gaurs230 unfortunately some people's loyalty ends when the benefits run out.
@gaurs230
16 күн бұрын
@@carparthero sad they weren’t even friends to begin with then!
@carparthero
16 күн бұрын
@@gaurs230 chalk it up as a lesson learned. what i've done within the last 4 years of really studying up on narcissism is 1) enforce hard and clear boundaries 2) treat people exactly how they treat me i can assure you, people have been enjoying next to no daily thanksgiving dinners at my expense. they can go find their turkey friend someplace else lol. -cheers, steven
@gaurs230
16 күн бұрын
@@carparthero yes I did the same :) thanks for the advice appreciate it
@gaurs230
16 күн бұрын
I am so glad I ain’t a narcissist, sure I might have suffered from some sort of personality disorder but I care about self development more than anything
@annettejohnson3625
16 күн бұрын
Good for you. You got this. Just remember that old saying..... Treat people the way you want to be treated. ❤
@gaurs230
16 күн бұрын
@@annettejohnson3625 yes
@gaurs230
16 күн бұрын
I’m kind and pure hearted
@rlo2021
16 күн бұрын
My ex knows my payday dates and that is when he loved bomb me the most. But the moment the money ran out, he would mistreat me and put me down. Now that I’ve ended things after almost three years, his endless emails to my job, from other email addresses, from random numbers, always say that he can’t believe I am letting him suffer out there without food or gas money. It’s crazy. I am healing and rebuilding my life and my finances and I’ve been no contact. He still stalks me and knocks on my window random nights of the week begging to come home, begging for gas money because he used it all to get to my place and he can’t believe I’m making him suffer. It’s crazy.
@victoryamartin9773
16 күн бұрын
Hang in there. You're doing the right thing. Don't give in.
@kriskris4214
15 күн бұрын
Stay strong ❤️
@reginagrayson2465
3 күн бұрын
Comes knocking on your window at night?? No, absolutely not. Call the police on him!! No contact is the only way. As soon as my ex-husband left for a weekend trip to another state, my best friends arrived with a U-Haul and got me and my stuff out. He didn't know where I was, and he remarried six months after our divorce was final. She has been trapped with him for the last 24 years, and I feel so sorry for her.
@faymoosa5064
15 күн бұрын
They like to take but not to give. 😢
@zhoucheng7141
14 күн бұрын
this man i used to consider my husband used all my money and also convinced me to take on a car loan which thank god got rejected. I think now it was all like i was a use to him and also wanted to trap me, He even said one time he even thought of getting me pregnant so hed "trap" me.. At one poin in our lives i trusted him and would not seen bad to have children with him. If that happened i would have had the same life as his mother (very miserable) but i think even worse. I used to hate that woman bc i felt she raised someone who caused me so much pain but now i think from wherever she is she must have saved me and im only grateful that horror is not my life anymore. Thank you for your videos it also helped me through the journey, I didnt even know what a narcissist was before.
@Apar-1-2
13 күн бұрын
The same goes to colleagues as well.They want to beat competition.So in a team you will be kept away from vital information so that you cannot be successful.
@hamed2928
16 күн бұрын
Narc egg donors and sperm donors don't guide you to be a successful human being. Yet they expect you to give them money when they need it and be with them when they're old so they won't be lonely. And Take care of them if they have medical issues.
@ethlinebaal3366
15 күн бұрын
When i met my narcissist ex husband after one month he wanted me to combine bank accounts. I was so happy i did not. After six month of marriage i was able to run and leave the monster. He was in the beginning this woderful person the prince on a white horse. This is very true
@ekklesiajoy
16 күн бұрын
You mean like me paying our electric bill while he paid his mistress’ electric bill
@streaming5332
9 күн бұрын
You're a silly bunny... why do you stay with a creep
@ekklesiajoy
9 күн бұрын
@@streaming5332 didn’t. Who’s the silly bunny now
@marialin3256
15 күн бұрын
NEVER have a joint account with ANYONE! There is NO reason. NEVER share a credit card with anyone. There is NO reason. NEVER get a joint loan where YOU Have to pay it all back if the other person doesn't! There is no reason. ALWAYS have a secret account no one knows about where you put money in all the time. This is your escape fund. If you never need it then you can have a world cruise or a new care or whatever you want when you get old!
@Lifeishort17
16 күн бұрын
My narc ex told me to leave my job he said he wanted to support me i realised after 5 years of borrowing off me he just wanted control me totally. Also every month I saw none of his wages he always made excuses that he never got paid..lies
@WhatSkarletSees
14 күн бұрын
This is the best explanation of how they abuse you with your own money! I've been trying to wrap my head around this for a long time about how I could actually explain what happened to me , to a therapist! Thanks !
@c.d.meloney
16 күн бұрын
73 yrs old trapped by fear from death threats and his refusal for divorce because he knows it will cost him money. Essentially waiting for me to die so he gets everything
@semmaville
16 күн бұрын
such a serious subject, but why is it that i just end up laughing and saying yes! yes!.... you are spot on... I know what you have been through... I still live with my narcissist...
@melissabyrd1310
16 күн бұрын
Same here. UGH!
@janiceviolette3586
16 күн бұрын
Why are you still with him? I helped my sister get away from hers! Thank God!
@DavisMultiverse
16 күн бұрын
@janiceviolette3586 It's possible to manage it if the narc is made to feel secure enough as not to get too destructive. The relationship is likely built on mutual superficiality.
@moniqueaugustine8914
16 күн бұрын
The word says real love rejoiceth in the truth. That's why you laugh and say yes yes. It's refreshing to your soul to hear truth spoken so freely baby! We been lied to sooo much that is instant joy even to hear truth. You must know God. Get out. I was married to mine until July when he left me in the hospital thinking I was dying of stomach cancer. He discarded me when I needed him the most. No, I didn't need him, I just needed somebody to help me get through. So when I didn't die, what I did do was come home and they all his stuff away and got it all out of my house. I blocked my husband, and took back control of my life. I still haven't heard from him. I have been through chemo and everything already and am much much better. Without him. Don't wait until you are unwell to leave your narc. Do it while your healthy. Trust me friend. You are worth it. Just don't wait till you have nothing. Even if you get back with him a year or 2 down the line, just get out for now so you can stop being abused. Narcissistic abuse is a real thing that will make you sick and kill you. Even if you a strong woman, like I can take it, don't just sit back and take it and manage. Get away from that nothing of a husband and do you. God made somebody in life for you can actually just love you back! 😊
@semmaville
15 күн бұрын
@@janiceviolette3586 it’s my momma… we have about 3 good days a month… I’ll take it…
@Janeintheok
16 күн бұрын
He ruined my credit. Every wife he had, 7 at the last count, suffered financially because of him. He's almost 72 and has to drive for a ride share company. So grateful that he's not my problem. Thank you, Jesus
@theripper1705
12 күн бұрын
Age 72 and a pro driver? Yikes
@ericschulze5641
11 күн бұрын
Pray for him
@aishageorge3056
16 күн бұрын
My sons father is an ex-footballer in the UK and he manipulated his finances to ensure I dont get anything for our son. I get £8 a month. Ive told officials but he was very smart with it. We're closing in on him now though.
@Hatbox948
16 күн бұрын
That's chump change. He needs to pay up. Good luck!
@donksx
8 күн бұрын
Be vigilant. Sooner or later they overplay their hand.
@kriskris4214
14 күн бұрын
Also let's mention that in marriage, they could create debts and dissapear. And for you to pay for it... Mortgages, loans together... It can all be used as a hostage...
@user-gi3ot9sv3x
13 күн бұрын
Every thing you warned against JUST happened to me, and precisely. IN THAT ORDER!!!!
@samchalohana4423
16 күн бұрын
My narc mom gave away my father's money to her sisters and then wouldn't give me simple bread saying shé doesn't have any money though she was a teacher
@SL-fk3ch
16 күн бұрын
I can’t believe I fell for this in my 40s. Glad the house is in my name, but my credit is destroyed and he became dead weight. Isolated me from my family as well. Glad I booted him while I still have a little something left, but yeah-a mountain of debt I won’t be able to pay. I hate that I kept getting sucked in further and further. Sickening. Everything is destroyed and I’m here just trying to pick up the pieces.
@victoryamartin9773
16 күн бұрын
Wow, I guess that's what I have to look forward to....
@SL-fk3ch
13 күн бұрын
@@victoryamartin9773 BUT!!! The peace of mind and freedom is priceless. If I could go back, I would have definitely not gone back after the first time and all would be ok-all we can do is learn, heal and move forward, which you cannot do with them around. Many blessings to you! You got this! 💕🙌🙏💪
@SL-fk3ch
13 күн бұрын
@@victoryamartin9773BUT!!! The peace of mind and freedom is priceless. All you can do is learn, heal, move forward-but that will never happen with them there! Best of luck to you. You got this! 💕💪🙏🙌
@TanyaKatherine
15 күн бұрын
I AM ASTOUNDED YOU COVERED THIS!!! Few coaches are here exposing the money abuse!!! THIS IS EXACTLY MY LIFE 😢😢😢😢 I need to take your course. I hope you cover this as a huge portion. I have been enslaved by this all my 20's and now my early 30's! I want to break free. This is why my mom passed away because she was roped in by his money. GUILT TRAPPING!!! YES!!!!
@reginagrayson2465
3 күн бұрын
Make an escape plan in your head and never write it down. You will know when the time is right, and you'd better run like hell.
@asiyasyeda8385
12 күн бұрын
Every video that you have posted is 100% correct and I have faced this for 10years. I was a very strong person, but I was slowly becoming weak emotionally. He traumatized me to such an extent that if anybody call my name from behind, I used to scream as loud as I was energetic. I used to scream as if I have seen a devil, when I watch your videos, I realize that you have all the knowledge of what I have gone through. I used to be like whom to tell all these. Nobody can understand nobody will believe. I no longer believe in love and now what I see is all fake. I have no trust in anybody. I no longer want to make any relationship with anyone.
@reginagrayson2465
3 күн бұрын
It will take time, but you MUST keep putting one foot in front of the other. I escaped; you can, too
@charleentheron4767
16 күн бұрын
My narc mother did me in with with money 25 yrs ago .Now I am suffering She is 97
@ingriddenzin
16 күн бұрын
Absolutely spot on, up to and including, "Leave me in your will - if you like, of course, no pressure."
@user-pk1gp7iy2o
16 күн бұрын
They are very stingy with their money AND their possessions. My narc ex once went crazy because I asked if I could borrow one of his T.shirts. He had a lot of clothes whilst I had hardly anything to wear. I later found out that he had bought his mistress a new car.
@miahconnell23
12 күн бұрын
Did he rummage through your things and take your belongings ? Things for which he’d have no need ? Sometimes take your things just to throw them away while you’re not looking ?
@theripper1705
12 күн бұрын
My narc ex threw away/donated/??? about half of my clothes when I was at work. He said they weren't acdeptable. Obviously, he did NOT buy me replacement clothes.
@dampergoldenrod4156
11 күн бұрын
That's the same as vandalizing someone's property@@miahconnell23
@nathanielerskine1875
16 күн бұрын
I have a rich a grandfather and my mother and her brother are grown up spoiled brats. A Free Lunch always comes at a cost, so I've always made my own money.
@1stBorn538
16 күн бұрын
When a narc mother has 2 life ins policies on all 3 adult kids since high school and made herself and the husband the beneficiaries when you die as though she's waiting on your untimely death, is bizarre and weird
@thegoat77583
16 күн бұрын
Mine have been paying people for years to kill me...their karma is having to watch me live my life.
@survivor2530
13 күн бұрын
That's extremely worrying, I would suggest you go no contact.You don't know what plans she has for you.She might out something in your team or worse!!!
@user-th2vt5vh2y
16 күн бұрын
I am not surprised. They all behave the same way. 😢😢😢 7:43
@emilysnyder4857
16 күн бұрын
I'm still digging out of the unnecessary purchases made by the narcissistic abuser... It's like hoarding but they make purchases on things you expressly state that you dislike and things you can't return. Just a way to bury you in crap and often they make it seem like they are doing you a favor.
@deb4610
15 күн бұрын
They take your stuff, they feel entitled to it. Ugh
@justhere5881
14 күн бұрын
In my case, he tried a lot to take the propierty of my home to himself. I always kept with the No, thank you answer, cause i did understand this financial movement like useless. Now i understand his own meaning for it. Now he is trying to struggle with daily financial family costs charging all them to my personal account. I am doing my best to keep the bounderies talking in a reasonable and kind way to him. I feel rhe fear of his rage in our backs
@FritzMeister
16 күн бұрын
Parasite sounds about right. Had no debt before the narc and was drowning after the discard. Had to claw my back out of the hole and to a good FICO score to start getting my financial house back in order. The damage to the retirement account is irreparable, however.
@victoryamartin9773
16 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry; that is very sad.
@briandrake6881
16 күн бұрын
Narcs worship things as idols and they expect you to worship them. You can never leave.
@DeepaSingh-df1vi
16 күн бұрын
Hi Danish, Really cannot thank you enough for your videos! Recently came out from a narcissistic relationship of 6 months after the initial love bombing, then devaluing and then when he discarded me. I came to understand that whatever narcissistic traits you have been explaining in your videos , I had faced each and every behavior of his. Your videos have really helped me in healing and understanding all the silent treatment, the gaslighting, greediness, excessive secretiveness, no closure, the smear campaigns and the constant lies of that narcissistic man. Not to forget the incidents where he even made sure that I pay for the vegetables which were to be cooked at his place and I used to cook and even making sure that I gift his mom where he himself had invited me for a few days. But from his side-- there were no gifts, nothing like that inspite of him being very well sufficient and earning more than double of my income! And then finally discarding with lot of lies and verbal abuse.
@faisalahmed9087
16 күн бұрын
I already in no contact but paying her but she try but failed to control my money but ofcourse she abused alot.
@user-wn8er3ci7p
10 күн бұрын
Sounds familiar, your ex came from?
@user-wn8er3ci7p
10 күн бұрын
I mean what country he is?
@creativearena
16 күн бұрын
Worked for 15 yrs 6 figure salary , when I divorced, I had 50 $ in my bank account. Been 6 yrs and I am still in debt
@DonnasLifeCoach
15 күн бұрын
All of this is so on point, and I didn't even realize that it was abuse until the damage was done, and my abuser was dead . I'll be spending the rest of my life recovering, and I'm so thankful to have found this channel.
@samchalohana4423
16 күн бұрын
She gave away our flat to her brothers and ask me to purchase another one for us at the start of my carrier keeping me indebted and not letting me progress in my carrier
@MGobin54
11 күн бұрын
This is such an important video. Both my parents are narcs. I am the scapegoat. My brother the golden child but yes also held hostage by my mum with money. She gives him all the time but never actually enough to be independent excerting her power and control over him. Yes and they try to demean / sabotage me from moving forward...I no longer tell them anything, they just see the end result. Had a lucky escape from a covert narc that was grooming me, tried to get into my financial affairs, while he was married to someone else. That was a hard no!....we have to be so so careful out here. So many covert narcs out here in friendships etc and yes, their love of YOUR money is something to behold. They are uber cheap, selfish transactional people..
@sarahdawn7075
14 күн бұрын
You nailed this. I had the misfortune of watching my family members be the victim of these tactics by my sister-in-law. She managed to get control of the finances of more than one of my brothers. She met their every need at first then she undermined their self confidence so that she controlled finances. She got all the money only to blow through it. And believe me a narcissist isnt above hastening someones demise in order to get their money.
@kiran14528
16 күн бұрын
💯 truth how they use money and how they manipulated in you and your kids career choice
@christopherleubner6633
12 күн бұрын
One thing that a narcissist will do on discard is steal everything and destroy you financially using any means possible. It's impossible to fight in court if you are broke and it gives them an ego boost to help them justify the final discard.
@LarissaCheyy-p8d
16 күн бұрын
You're always so right!! I'm currently dealing with this right now. I have a 1 year old with a possible narcissist 😢
@bholenath_26
16 күн бұрын
A narcissist always on attacking mode .
@thomasinalockey2490
16 күн бұрын
My husband would take my money out of my purse and go through my pockets
@MegDD1277
16 күн бұрын
Perfect timing again! When I saw this was posted I was listening to him say “I’ll need to pay you back next week instead”
@antheredhen
16 күн бұрын
He's lived by " easy come easy go" .. Hasn't saved a dime.. For years I gave him all my checks keeping only gas money out and every time he got fired he used up the 401 K while looking for another job. He's been fired about 20 times in 33 years.. Right now he's unemployed went from a 6 figure automotive position ( he spent every dime frivolously) and he's looking at minimum wage security jobs right now that won't even pay his beer bill.. The insanity of there thinking is what blows my mind..
@antheredhen
16 күн бұрын
He wants the attention and power.. Today he said he drempt he stopped a kidnapping at the complex he applied for and everyone in town wanted to know him and the newspaper wanted to interview him... Delusions of granduer???? 🦇💩🤯
@movingsaudade6028
16 күн бұрын
Self destructive
@user-pk1gp7iy2o
16 күн бұрын
@@antheredhen These people live in a fantasy world.
@PavanGangal-uu7zi
14 күн бұрын
This decease took away my basic rights and destroyed my life, i am very emotional and sensitive person not well educated and always depend on my parents some yers ago they start hating me bcz i was addicted to smoking and when they turned to narssisist i found it really hard to cope, they start to abuse insult day by day, i taught they wer just upset about by behavior and may forget but after months when they did not change their behavior, i realized i was in serious trouble something i never experienced or heard.. it was like complete betrayal of our bonding, i had no clue what was going in their mind instead of solving problem they start creating more problems they start behaving like irresponsible peoples then i finally i realized they don't need me it is me who need them their action start getting bad to worse they did not think that im young unmarried and need support.. faking lying, douting, abusing ,blaming bcm their daily habit they bought my life very close to pointless but then i realized money is the most important thing that matters for humans.. i was not angry at them for not giving money or caring me but it was betrayal of relation, attachment and bonding that just didn't make any sence..
@victoryamartin9773
16 күн бұрын
Thank you for addressing how they will abuse your money. I've been waiting to hear about this. This is what is happening to me. A homeless couple has been living on my property for 7 years, paying pennies sometimes toward the electric bill and claiming that they are contributing financially and criticizing me for saying I'm carrying them. In the meantime they have bought so many large appliances that they've had to plug them in outside the house, shorting out the circuits inside. They convinced me to sell my rental house, telling me I was a bad landlord, and pay off my home. I'm living on Social Security and have no rental income, so the money is running out. Instead of threatening to leave, they've threatened to sue me for $1 million if I try to evict them. They've become a nightmare that won't go away.
@startingbrandnew3055
15 күн бұрын
😮😯😮
@lucyt-c8092
15 күн бұрын
if you are over 62 that is elder abuse- call attorney general in your state and ask for help
@victoryamartin9773
15 күн бұрын
@@lucyt-c8092 Thank you! I'll look into that.
@maryannspicher
13 күн бұрын
How can they sue you with no money?? 😂
@survivor2530
13 күн бұрын
Everything you said is so true. My ex was a parasite, I paid for everything & never had any money whilst he stashed his away. He would also give costly items of mine away so that he could look good & would say I was being mean if I complained. Would get lavish gifts for people but wouldn't spend on his own kids.He would even get me to go & buy them with my money saying he would pay me back but never did then would say I was no good with money because I got into debt.kids & I would have to have cheap clothes or second hand because I couldn't afford anything else whilst he would have expensive, brand named clothes. The other thing he was good at doing was weedling his way into peoples wills. So glad I got out of that relationship
@maureenbowerman5300
12 күн бұрын
I do see this and have seen this. Everything being transactional, nothing being natural love with no checks and balances. It is so warped and devaluing. Thank you for your videos. Don't forget to take a break from this topic regularly. It's not healthy to live in this topic, but to freely develop ourselves in loving and natural ways.
@ekklesiajoy
16 күн бұрын
Like buying my son a cell phone then i get to keep it on while he gets the praise for getting him his own cell phone
@bebop54
16 күн бұрын
this was a great "speak"👍🏼...thank you
@tracieelrod7018
16 күн бұрын
My husband would carry $200 in his wallet, then he isolated me and he hasn’t gave me money in years so I’m by myself for 13 hours a day he has destroyed me
@missmissy9177
16 күн бұрын
I took out 12 G's out of my pension to cover rent because he couldn't put his half. yes they will ruin your money and have theirs in their pocket it's ridiculous. He don't even buy me gifts. I'm planning my exit trust
@humilitybeforehonorsmk2311
16 күн бұрын
The ones i know don't have any money and nothing to their name. Now they are incredibly stingy and get you to pay for everything.
@camlam5269
13 күн бұрын
I'm glad you this aspect of it. I've seen people use these tactics and then say they're the victim when the person stops support.
@scleo1959
9 күн бұрын
Danish, you are so insightful. You help more people than you realize, including myself. I survived the hell too, fortunately. Your videos help me to continue to heal. I’ve never heard a whole video on the narcissist financial topic. Very good.
@TraceyDearden
15 күн бұрын
Online crime. They also attack the poorest people
@tressiesullivan-case9045
16 күн бұрын
This is exactly what happened to me. How did I not know?
@therealpancakegirl777
16 күн бұрын
so grateful u made this episode 🙏 so sorry this happens to us. thank u for being here for us
@SUDIPA81
3 күн бұрын
Each and every point You discussed I have gone in my Narcissistic relationship.. Ty Danish
@lady_in_red8619
9 күн бұрын
💯 true everithing you sayed. I've comment about my mother... well when I was in the university she did not give me any money (neither my dad) I maintained my self with scholarships. They payed just a little part of my studies, leaving me with a big debth. So when I finished my carrier , my mom forced me go to work to a place that I didn' t like at all, and after that did everythin to made me spend my money in the house and in the family (I'm the eldest) Lately they payed and buy everithing that my young brothers needed, even the rent of one of them. My mom was who decide where all the money was going, and she made everithing fot me not leave the home. She didn't like when I buyed things for me or spent money in me, made all kinds of comment 🙄
@joseenoel8093
16 күн бұрын
Floored mine as I got the usual get a job, I threw back "Sure have another woman who'll quit her job every 3 months earn her living taking care of our kids (they've moved out...) instead of me, money blinds them you can be sure of it, good luck everyone! ❤
@bella_bella85
16 күн бұрын
No matter how many videos I watch, Im literally amazed at how not one video I cant even sit and say NOT MY MOTHER. I mean every single example and point to the example that mf lines right up with it. Man smh
@etaokha4164
16 күн бұрын
If a narcissist tell you ( I dont gamble ) what they mean is ( I gamble and run myself into debts and i want you to give me your money to help me with my addiction) All narcs are addicts.
@maryannspicher
13 күн бұрын
I think that’s true. They want you there to have more money for booze and drugs and to keep up their standard of living. They hide it at the beginning and when you’re in deep they use heavily and leave you hanging. Fight with you for more and more money. I’m staying single there are too many out there!
@TanyaKatherine
15 күн бұрын
I hope you do more videos on their financial abuse. Please if you can, cover how they abuse their kids through taxes and at the end leaving us having huge amounts to pay off that we did not know about. Only finding out that the narcissist was asking us for our tax info to "do our taxes for us" but racking up a huge amount that is never paid off!
@irenehamilton2981
16 күн бұрын
Exactly what a bully my narc ex promised me he'd take pictures of me if i went to get my hair done because hes a professional photographer whatever i waited two years nothing what a hater im glad to be done with him those women or girls can have him😅
@user-td4kt8wc4r
14 күн бұрын
It‘s scary HOW precisely this hits bull‘s eye 😬 Thank you for opening our eyes, Danish!
@MsTuliplady
16 күн бұрын
Aint that the truth. I married one. Married 5 years, his age was 32-37. Guy never made more than $9 an hour. In 2011. I had to crack my legs open twice a week because he would get "ornery", but he couldn't crack his wallet open once a month to make 50% of the rent. Always a reason why he "just couldn't help" make half the rent. The gaslighting was the worst. "You know I'm doing the best I can...". The worst form of abuse
@Wakka144
15 күн бұрын
I wouldn’t be with anyone who uses the word “ornery” those types will never have more than a minimum wage job because they have no real education.
@dampergoldenrod4156
11 күн бұрын
@@Wakka144adjective informal•North American bad-tempered and combative. "some hogs are just mean and ornery
@Wakka144
10 күн бұрын
@@dampergoldenrod4156 informal = slang.
@Wakka144
10 күн бұрын
Got yor ornery self back over yonder in the holler.🤣🤣🤣🤣 yee haw.
@Vivi921
8 күн бұрын
Mine would buy all the most expensive food items when I was in charge of feeding. He never wanted the cheaper alternative claiming they are not good for the health. But when it was his turn he bought all those cheap things he didn’t let me buy. I’m so happy I’m one month out
@jeannewhite4591
3 күн бұрын
Very good. They wouldn’t be with you unless they can use you
@theresadmello4779
15 күн бұрын
Very true. Exactly, the Narcissist we know does all this to my brother, me and now targeting my sister too. Trying to finish our money for their pleasure. I try to tell my brother but he can't believe me they are looting him with Sweet words and misuse friendship with his daughter and grand son. They even want costly gifts, entertainment, royal food and travel royally in friends cars as though their grand father was some Maharrajas. They are in fact like blood suckers and dirty worms who won't leave us till they finish us. I've made my brother understand but he is like possessed by them. He thinks they are his well wishers and I am his enemy, bcoz they have instilled hatred in his mind through some unknown charm. Their friendship is with benefit.
@pcamp865
16 күн бұрын
I have not met a narcissist, like you said of all types, that was not weird about money.
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