Am I a People Pleaser Quiz? Discover Your Type. krisreece.com/am-i-a-people-pleaser/
@bride0fLORDYESHUA
2 ай бұрын
those arent christians but of the devil . God Lord Yeshua said : you cant sit here near my taqble and eat from it when/if you sit near devils table and feast from it .
@marytaylor9504
2 ай бұрын
Thisi s So True!!@bride0fLORDYESHUA
@marytaylor9504
2 ай бұрын
@bride0fLORDYESHUA Hollow individuals TRUE!!! No conquence! Evil spirits!!! Scammers, cheats stealers thieves. Best of Liars!!! Phony Pretenders!!! Con- artist!!!
@marytaylor9504
2 ай бұрын
He was Lucifers brother!!!
@KIMBER68
2 ай бұрын
I took the quiz & found out I'm a Recovering People Pleaser. I'd say that pretty accurate for me.
@sergeisergei4700
2 ай бұрын
I was a narcissist. I had no Idea that I was. By God's grace he saved my soul, but its taken many years for me to realize by Gods mercy that I was a narcissist. It's been a horrific revelation. Yet God in his great love and gentleness has changed me over the years and continue to lead me out of this hallow, lonely shallow place and making me finally into a person who can care for others by his Holy Spirit and not need to have all focus on myself. May The Lord in his grace deliver all narcissists from such a cruel heart and very dark place in Jesus name amen.
@THEOTHEREVELATOR
2 ай бұрын
well done seeing your old self and now it is time to heal on.
@Ash-ds5dd
2 ай бұрын
Were you married? what kinds of things did you do to your partner as a narcissist?
@Nanasfsw
2 ай бұрын
That’s a very comforting message. I just realized my daughter has become a full fledged narcissist after marrying one 19 years ago. I’ve been tortured by her for 18 years, she’s used the grandchildren as weapons, the oldest is 18, then 15, 6, and 1. My husband and I think they’ve spaced out the children to keep us hooked taking care of their housing, electricity, car, insurance, heating for 18 years, they are both very entitled. We can’t cut them off or it’ll put the grandchildren on the street. We’ve been praying together daily to release my daughter from the darkness of narcissism. You have shared a beautiful message of God’s grace, mercy, love, and redemption. This is the first positive message I’ve seen since realizing the awful dilemma we are facing. Praise God!!! I will continue to pray for her frequently and fervently. God bless you for sharing 🙏🙏🙏
@spaideman7850
2 ай бұрын
if you thought that you are a narcissist, then you are NOT a narcissist because narcissist will NEVER reflect badly on themselves; they believe they are the most perfect/holy person on earth.
@mountainwarrior8387
2 ай бұрын
@@spaideman7850 Apparently you don't believe that God can change such a heart. Sad for you.
@Logan_Bishop_YT
Ай бұрын
For those who confuse confidence and arrogance, here's a fun way to remember the difference: Confidence is when you are sure of yourself. Arrogance is when you are full of yourself.
@Samuel-tc7nf
11 күн бұрын
@@Logan_Bishop_YT oooh deep
@josepeinarbriansson7868
Ай бұрын
“Trying to emotionally connect with a narcissist is like trying to water a plastic plant”…..that’s a mic drop moment. Amen.
@Jonas-gl9ke
Ай бұрын
Two people pray to two different gods and both claim they have emotionally connected to that god. One has actually connected to that god and the other only thinks they’ve emotionally connected. What methodology would you use to tell the difference?
@riada4996
Ай бұрын
@@Jonas-gl9keI don't know that they "think" they have connevted. I am fairly certain most of them know they haven't connected to any god, bùt get pleasure out of fooling other people to think that they have.
@fourteenten6170
27 күн бұрын
ALL Christians are on the narcissists spectrum... It's build into their dogma!
@UT4Clips
13 күн бұрын
It's not about mic drops, the whole point of this is to remain humble and nonjudgemental ourselves. The idea behind a "mic drop" is prideful and unchristian. The lesson is to recognize when someone is being guided by the Holy Spirit vs guided by the flesh so we know who to listen to. It's not about judging and condemning narcissists.
@fourteenten6170
13 күн бұрын
@@UT4Clips The whole idea of christianity, especially today in the "church" as it's become, is a hypocrisy, illogical and completely and wholly narcissistic
@thesoulfoodpodcast
2 ай бұрын
Rule number 1 when dealing with a narcissist is to NEVER call them out, it’s a waste of time and you will be berated and gaslighted for it. The Bible in Proverbs 9:7 puts it this way; “Anyone who rebukes a mocker will get an insult in return. Anyone who corrects the wicked will get hurt.” (NLT). A ‘Christian’ narcissist is nothing more than a wicked person masking to be one of God’s people, it’s nothing but smoke and mirrors. Rather than have a sit down with them, put all your energy into your secret exit strategy and leave and don’t look back!
@brendarewan7441
2 ай бұрын
Speak truth/facts to them in the power of the Holy Spirit. No matter how they respond.
@davidrosen3736
2 ай бұрын
Very good comment! Thanks 😊!! The Bible even says:…from such turn away in 2. Timothy 3! No discussion, no mercy, to whatsoever, just turn away! The Bible has an answer by the Holy Spirit 2000 years ago, what psychology suggests today to do with narcissists
@franktoth2427
2 ай бұрын
Bullseye 🎯!
@dani5639
2 ай бұрын
@@davidrosen3736i have to read again. U cannot remember it all
@tracyannaleclair9320
2 ай бұрын
That's exactly what I experienced I didn't call him directly a narcissist but I told him he was emotionally a psychologically abusive He twists the truth blame shifts manipulate through his behavior and emotions who's guilt and shame and And finally that I felt like he used me manipulated me into thinking he was somebody who wasn't for me to marry him because he was scared and wanted stability. Oh well did I learn that that was not the way to go.
@altrey520
2 ай бұрын
Literally JUST broke off our engagement. I think for me the absolute worst part of being with a Christian Narcissist is how they use Gods word to manipulate you in to suppressing our desire to leave the toxic relationship and second would be the gaslighting.
@imperfectillustration6261
2 ай бұрын
How were you able to finally figure out that she was a narcissist? And how did you break off the engagement?
@shellieperreault6262
2 ай бұрын
Congratulations!
@ruthgunneson-poling1571
2 ай бұрын
I'm glad you broke your engagement because you saved yourself from years of abuse. On my wedding I knew I was making a mistake. I didn't have the courage to speak up. That night my narcissist ex husband refused to have sex. I thought we were both virgins. I found out later he gave me an std. I remained a virgin for 16 months. Our sexless marriage was for 19.5 years. It ended when he had an affair. Again, I'm glad you have the courage to do what you did. Ironically we met and were married in a Baptist church.
@almaburns6562
2 ай бұрын
@@ruthgunneson-poling1571 After my divorce my best friend warned me, "Stay away from any guy you meet in.church--there are some really sick people in church!"
@r1chm
2 ай бұрын
He who marries the VIRGIN does well. He who does not marry, does better..... Apostles, In that case it is better for a man not to marry. (Jesus) For those who can accept this, should accept this.
@Micah-6.8
2 ай бұрын
There is a difference between being a born again Christian and simply claiming to be a Christian. Huge.
@wrongfullyaccused7139
2 ай бұрын
There is also a big difference between being saved and being a Christian. Every Christian is a saved person, however, not every saved person is a Christian. Few know the difference or care.
@leah6801
2 ай бұрын
@jamieshinn4355 True! anyone can be a Christian. But a born again believer IS actually saved. The Bible clearly says that!
@carolforsythe6316
2 ай бұрын
@@wrongfullyaccused7139 Christ is the way the truth and the life. No one comes to the father except through Jesus
@karenmessinger9609
2 ай бұрын
Absolutely a huge difference. Narcassists reflect satan's personality (for lack of better word).
@wrongfullyaccused7139
2 ай бұрын
@@carolforsythe6316 : I never said otherwise. Has nothing to do with my post. It seems you did not comprehend it.
@zone1hearing
2 ай бұрын
It has been a shock dealing with a non narcissistic individual she doesn’t rage out, doesn’t take an innocent comment as an attack, doesn’t lie to me, doesn’t make false accusations, doesn’t trash me to the outside world, doesn’t scoff at me, doesn’t diminish my accomplishments, doesn’t ignore me, doesn’t deny reality despite evidence to the contrary, doesn’t mock my children, doesn’t project what they have done onto me, doesn’t spoil special occasions, is pleasant to my relatives, doesn’t have me falsely arrested. It’s been a very pleasant shock!
@Deinesness
2 ай бұрын
That is honestly to great to hear! When lies of the enemy want to creep in remember you don’t deserve it and rebuke that! May your journey be so sweet with your spouse!
@boondocks8002
2 ай бұрын
Me me me me me....interesting
@cjjensen2247
2 ай бұрын
Are you the same to her?
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753
2 ай бұрын
Now you can count your blessings! It's like coming back from the dead, isn't it?
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753
2 ай бұрын
@@boondocks8002yep, he's enjoying life again. He's listing His blessings
@FamilyHistoriandude
2 ай бұрын
They have the nerve to call you manipulative and toxic if they dont like the way you react to the pain they cause you. They assume the worst about you and refuse to forgive you. They project their character flaws onto you.
@eden7440
2 ай бұрын
Excellent comment
@joshockey7447
2 ай бұрын
@@FamilyHistoriandude Boy is that a fact.
@joeyvanstraten6830
2 ай бұрын
@@FamilyHistoriandude True And they even go and humiliate you behind your back by their flying monkeys who THINK he is this great kind living superior guy
@joeyvanstraten6830
2 ай бұрын
I just recently find out that HE call ME now the narcissist and his flying monkey friends actually believes him. No wonder, because they know him only by the love, flattering and kind attention he bestow on them These are VERY VERY sick individuals ... after the second narc in my life, I'm done ... my life now will go solo, never to be treated like I'm a nothing who are a demon, stupid, ugly bitch, jealous, fight seeking fool etc .... while all along its they who are chase YOU with these bad nrac habits of them God help us to stop feeling sorry for these species and give them all they do not deserve ... love, affection, tolerance and power over our very own breath even ... It's satanic to say the least
@bryanmiller8604
2 ай бұрын
Let’s not forget their classic guilt tactic of, “I’m so sorry! I guess I’m just not important enough in your life to find/take time to care about me.” 🙄
@zulemaflores8796
24 күн бұрын
I lived with a narcissist thirty-five plus years. 😢I left that person over a couple of years ago. Thank God today I live at peace. A narcissist will train your mind to be toxic and be around that environment. When I left the narcissist I had to train my mind to think and live; like I used to in my younger years. When I lived at peace with no drama. I mastered it. Today I tell others that cross my path on NARCISSISM. Some individuals will not understand because it's a bad manipulative experience with these people. They hide behind a mask. They are the devil's advocates. A narcissist can be your boss, your neighbor, your sibling, etc. Thank you for sharing this AWESOME teaching.
@HopeKrakowski-hu8wh
16 күн бұрын
Trump & the Maga cultists. Vote blue💙🌊🙏🙏 God help us.
@magpie222
5 сағат бұрын
@zulemaflores8796 I too lived 38 yrs with a narcissists. He didn't show it up front but over tge years it came out and he prostituted me for 20 yrs. I left him 2 yrs ago and now at 70 yrs old I am finding myself and God. I am finally myself being peaceful and full of love. Ready to help others. God is great
@helenwashington6212
2 ай бұрын
Amen I found out that these wolves in sheep clothing religious narcissist love preaching the gospel as long as the gospel is not confronting and exposing anything about them .
@tracyannaleclair9320
2 ай бұрын
Or they have a very superficial understanding of the gospel use other people's words and insights to make them sound like they're further along than they are. Hijack cliches the churches say pastor say, the chameleons
@angielinda487
2 ай бұрын
@@tracyannaleclair9320 absolutely!
@davidlafleche1142
2 ай бұрын
Tell me about it!
@Bluettes-cm7wo
2 ай бұрын
They despise altar calls.
@davidlafleche1142
2 ай бұрын
@@Bluettes-cm7wo Personally, I don't like altar calls. When I preach, I would tell people, "Deal with God where you are." I will not use peer pressure to force an artificial reaction.
@EvaCFricke
2 ай бұрын
If you want to spot narcissist: 1. They are always right. 2. They are very defensive 3. They always blame others 4. They would never listen 5. They will ounish you. 6. They play mind games. 7. They lie. Now narcissism is on spectrum so some have more narcissistic traits than others.
@Karen-cd9dd
2 ай бұрын
Punish
@blessedandannointed
2 ай бұрын
I'm a Christian and a licensed clinical therapist.... And that's not what the DSM says about the characteristics to diagnose someone with narcissistic personality disorder... Please be careful about naming all unbecoming traits of an individual characteristics as "narcissism"... While everything you named is unhealthy behavior, it doesn't make someone the clinical definition of a "narcissist".
@manichairdo9265
2 ай бұрын
@blessedandannointed Thank you for your comment. Although I believe there are narcs, in general, I think we all have some bad behavioural issues where we need to surrender to the Lord becoming more Christ like.
@brigittecorneille4705
2 ай бұрын
@blessedandannointed Eye-opening..."unhealthy behaviors, "... thank you for that!
@OldSchool1947
2 ай бұрын
@@blessedandannointedMany of the people commenting seem to be able to label others “narcissists “ but amazingly nobody here could EVER have such characteristics!
@marietgagliardi
2 ай бұрын
I was a bank teller and i can tell you it was so easy to find a counterfeit because i saw real money all day long
@bendiggs1036
11 күн бұрын
@@marietgagliardi money has a distinct smell.
@barbaragonzales5944
2 ай бұрын
I only feel safe when I'm completely alone.
@elizabethy2912
2 ай бұрын
I get that!!👍👍
@amagickalmeliss
2 ай бұрын
But unless God specifically said for you to be alone, you shouldn’t be alone. what you need to do is go to God and ask him for your family. Psalm 68:6 God takes the lonely and He sets them in a family. 💖 It worked for me.
@fueledbyjesus
2 ай бұрын
@@amagickalmeliss Amen ! God bless your family 💟
@janorth9986
2 ай бұрын
She knows what her boundaries are.
@letnothingslide1969
2 ай бұрын
Me too friend 😬🥴
@Janet-ui3iw
2 ай бұрын
Everything you share about yourself on a deep level will be remembered to the point of memorization by the narcissists and filed in their brains under "future ammunition".
@user-eu3qy8uf7f
2 ай бұрын
So true. They NEVER,forget anyrhing you say, do or discuss. When you think the matter is resolved and finished it wil pop out of the narcissists mouth like an evil jack in the box. After they do this a few times you'll see how shallow, vapid they are. There's nothing really there so thry use that to fill the void (them). Then they become pathetically boring.
@tcarpenter4703
2 ай бұрын
@@user-eu3qy8uf7f They also will just change what you said or did and will often fail to even give information about pertinent things going on or what the narcissist actually said and so on. They manipulate,fabricate,and are the best actors/actresses you could imagine! They also seek out people they can manipulate and they choose empathetic type people. 💃❤️🦮
@Vic-Meow
2 ай бұрын
Yes, this is why truth-tellers are so often caught in the webs of these monsters.
@briannolan6328
2 ай бұрын
Truth
@1bowmaniam
Ай бұрын
@@user-eu3qy8uf7f Isn't that all women?
@zippyg7752
2 ай бұрын
I almost didn't click on this because it's absolutely impossible to be a Christian and a narcissist. Narcissists NEVER put Jesus on the throne of their lives because they are god and everyone exists to serve them. My first time listening to you. You nailed it. The church is the narcissist's playground.
@curtiscollins2174
Ай бұрын
Very well said, agree 100%..
@angelajohnson1693
28 күн бұрын
Not every church is this way. God wants your trust in Him not people. If you read your scripture you will find He is not impressed by ourselves but by whether we actually honor and put out trust in Him, if that makes sense ❤️🙏
@jerriwoodard6677
26 күн бұрын
Wow. I thought the church is the sinner's hospital, and that would include the narcissist as well as the psychologist who speaks of them with contempt. I do not see the love or compassion of Jesus for the sinner in this presentation. 😢 You may now remove my comment from this toxic place.
@marybedore899
26 күн бұрын
@@jerriwoodard6677 I agree. My ex is a born-again Christian and really loves God. Unfortunately, he never sought counseling because of course it was never him, it was always everyone else. That’s why I finally left. He had deep wounding in childhood, and really tried to change, but never sought counseling or help with his abusive and narcissistic tendencies. It’s sad because his three adult kids don’t want anything to do with him. And I just had to leave and try to put my life back together. It’s very sad for all involved.
@AdrianMelia-0
25 күн бұрын
@jerriwoodard6677 The presenter is caring for the vulnerable, the victim of abuse, the "downtrodden", by enlightening them about the abusers' behaviour. If your concern is because you have never been a target of abuse, lucky you. Watch and learn.
@annettealrand9736
2 ай бұрын
They’re hurting they’re hurting badly, and they’ve never felt love. We still need to pray for them and hope they have a true conversion of heart.
@donnahalsted7718
2 ай бұрын
It is true they are hurting. They never FELT love because they never knew how to love. They confuse love with feeling, not with self giving. They cannot recognize another's sacrifice for their benefit because no matter how much of another's goodness, from the heart, they receive, it is NEVER adequate. They are entitled to everything that life can afford. When the other has given till they are spent, the narc has to find another source of supply. They always anticipate that, so they line up future sources for the inevitable exhaustion of the one at hand. It's an unending cycle. They leave destruction in their wake wherever they go. Chances are, they have an address where all their mail goes so they cannot be traced. No responsibility, no consequences! It's always someone else's duty to take care of those things for them.
@Aymeeeeable
2 ай бұрын
@@annettealrand9736 THIS is honestly the hardest part for me. I see that little girl behind the mask and how sad, scared and alone she feels. So it’s this conflicting feeling between dealing with the narcissist in front of you while, at the same time, looking at the hurt person inside of them 💔
@ritacouchcooper2842
2 ай бұрын
@@annettealrand9736 and this is where healthy boundaries come in.
@michellemcmillan5878
2 ай бұрын
Some have experienced love. I loved my children more than anything. After one became friends with many girls with wealthy parents she became down right mean. After the other had a very abusive boyfriend that nearly cost us our lives, she is now the abusive one.
@g.y.u3649
Ай бұрын
They never will have a change of heart. Sadly most narcs don't realize they are narcissists.
@CH-1984
2 ай бұрын
The last point rang true for my elderly mother, instability. "A double minded man is unstable in all his ways." James 1:8
@phebet327
2 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@lr1698
Ай бұрын
What does the verse mean? It’s not literal. How can someone be unstable in all their ways?
@dengholm
Ай бұрын
@@lr1698 as someone that has been fighting with OCD (pure-o)....I would say that is what OCD is...You can not stand uncertainty...as soon you think you are certain...the doubt comes
@BKNeifert
Ай бұрын
Honor your mother and father. Trust me...
@Its.A.Me.Mario.1985
Ай бұрын
@@lr1698 It is literal. If they speak out of both sides of their mouth, have a different answer to the same concept with different countries involved (when the answer should logically be the same, irrespective of which countries are at play), or they lie often/consistently, they're double minded and unstable in all their ways.
@christismith8052
2 ай бұрын
“Your needs are a nuisance” to a narcissist … great realization 👍
@bethechurchministry
2 ай бұрын
Sadly many pastors are narcissistic now a days!!! It’s been hard finding true elders anymore 😢
@brotherjames1623
2 ай бұрын
Even more so are church goers, naturally as there is more of them, however I'm seeing this more and more!
@spaideman7850
2 ай бұрын
After they went to church for decades, both my relative narcs are getting worse by the day. I told them, when you go to church listening to the Good news, it is like listening to Diet Doctor on how to slim down(or enter heaven), you have to literally go on diet/exercise and 'walk' what you had learned in church. You can't just listen to priest every Sunday but after church you are doing your nasty/vicious stuff again. you will forever not going to 'slim down'.
@bethechurchministry
2 ай бұрын
@@brotherjames1623 you are correct! The covert hides well in religion
@jennifervierstraete7987
2 ай бұрын
Yes. I've found this to be true myself. But now that I'm dependent on God and know His genuine Love I know better.
@pmgandco6322
2 ай бұрын
Wondering if the former pastor of the mega church in Southlake Texas is this kind of person. He initially threw out a large amount of DARVO when his escapades with a 12 y/o girl were finally made public in the past couple of weeks. Come to think of it, possibly the elders who knew she was 12 are narcissist as well.
@tammybagwell1741
2 ай бұрын
At the start of this video, I knew where she was going with the analogy. The problem is for those of us who were raised by narcissists. We ONLY know the fake because that's all we grew up with. We then become the scapegoats for narcissists because we tell the lies they tell.....and get caught. When you're young, you know something is "off" in your gut, but ....what....nevermind that they're a "Christian" and would NEVER do that. You're just a bad kid who is CLEARLY wrong..... I could go on and on but this is the reality of GEN X'ers who had to deal with narcissists. The struggle was real
@khepri906
2 ай бұрын
WELL SAID !! 👌
@imatubewatcha
Ай бұрын
Not just the Gen X`ers, children of all generations who've had to be raised by narcissist 😢 Narcissism has been around since the beginning of time, it just didn't have a name 😔
@Its.A.Me.Mario.1985
Ай бұрын
It took me a long time, but I can see narcissism pretty well. I've done tons of research over the years on NPD, and I can safely say most people with NPD will never be diagnosed. I'm now in a good, healthy, loving relationship with someone who knows my inherent weaknesses ingrained into me by constant narcissistic abuse. Jesus Christ is the reason I have such a wonderful relationship.
@dawnkravagna3200
Ай бұрын
Thanks for confirming that it’s ok to debate a Christian with God’s word. A friend told me not to, but I responded that I prefer to rely on God’s power and wisdom and not my own.
@angelajohnson1693
28 күн бұрын
Excellent decision here ❤️🙏!!!
@lp4265
19 күн бұрын
@@dawnkravagna3200 Beautifully stated ! I’d like to borrow your quote. 🙏🏻 It is powerful ! ☺️
@UT4Clips
13 күн бұрын
That's the whole meaning behind being a Christian, you get it. Those who are born again of the spirit understood that we cannot rely on ourselves, we can only rely on Christ.
@closingthedivide1187
2 ай бұрын
"If you're the type to mistake arrogance for confidence or scripture reading for true biblical belief, you, too, could be swayed into believing that you are dealing with a secure person who is able to handle criticism" - So, so good, Kris! I'm truly grateful for you! 5:02
@simplypositiveme
2 ай бұрын
He kept changing the conversation to a Bible study instead of listening.
@Kris_Reece
2 ай бұрын
I'm so glad the videos are blessing you.
@davidlafleche1142
2 ай бұрын
@@Kris_Reece 1) "Intimate Connection." Every time I write a devotional, he's not interested in discussing it. He simply glances at it, but is not interested in learning. 2) Criticism. My own personal narcissist expected me to drive him to the supermarket after church every Sunday. He didn't even use the self-service lane! It took him forever to get in and out of there. One time I didn't get home until 2:30 (church had ended at noon). I said, "When are you going to buy your own car?" He screamed at me, "I DON'T WANT A CAR!" He didn't care if I criticized him or not. (I have met other narcissists who did, in fact, take suggestions as a threat; or at least they would simply dismiss me as "uneducated.") 3) Pride. UGH! One time I had written an essay about the Holy Spirit. Another church member was eager to learn more and I wanted to expand on the lesson. She asked me a question. But my own personal narcissist butted in and answered it for me. He has a way of dominating conversations and crowding me out. He then wasted 15 minutes on useless small talk about a job he once had. Another time, I had written a novel (unpublished). The family loved it. He said, "I helped him write it." I was so angry! I said, "No, you didn't!" He screamed, "YES, I DID!" For several years afterward, he kept harassing me, demanding, "How much money did you make on that book?!" I finally said, "Nothing! I don't expect to get rich doing that!" (That finally shut him up.) 4) "Needs." There was a time when I worked 60 hours per week and had very little time for Bible study. After work, I would go to my room and shut the door, because I need quiet solitude in order to read and write. My own personal narcissist complained that I didn't watch TV with him. 5) Misuse of Scripture. I finally had enough of my own personal narcissist, so I kicked him out of my apartment. He insisted I owed him. He quoted Cain: "Am I my brother's keeper?" I told him he couldn't use that as a blank check to get anything he wanted from me.
@MariaJimenez-ye9sn
2 ай бұрын
Wow. You stood up for yourself!!! I bet it felt great. And you probably thought. Why didn't I do it earlier. Well done for you and keep writing. Even if it is only for your pleasure. ❤
@Bluettes-cm7wo
2 ай бұрын
@@davidlafleche1142 Jesus said, Let the dead bury their dead and follow Me.
@larrysimmons926
2 ай бұрын
Not to long ago I started putting some physical and emotional distance between a malignant, religious, narcissist and myself. The narcissist started texting to ask for help. I repeatedly refused providing the help. The narcissist texted that I was not a Godly person and I would always be alone. I texted back telling about a time in my young life when I put a gun to my head and tried mustering the nerve to pull the trigger. At that moment Christ spoke to me saying, "you are not alone.You were never alone. I was always with you." I asked this religious narcissist who should I believe, you or Christ?
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
Amen. And Love gives Lust takes.
@ciaojan
Ай бұрын
Hi Larry - Wow that had to hurt, and some people you just cannot help - they will keep using & when you hesitate or back off for mental health sake, you often get backlash. I read through what that person told you and then scrolled back up to the comment from @hereim5648 - it's almost a checklist! I know someone like this, and tried, for many yrs, to help - they do not even realize (to believers, but perhaps even those that are not) how very fake their version 'Christianity' appears. Sad, and fear they will never understand true healing & redemption.
@stefanpamphile3699
22 күн бұрын
Wow, Amen, what a great response!
@christinak981
29 күн бұрын
I had a friend, or so i thought, who was a leader at church. She leads women's Bible study and kids ministry and we talked a lot and she prayed we would have a deep connection but then it changed fast. I felt I was pouring into the relationship and getting breadcrumbs of fellowship and friendship. To this day I have no closure and she still leads. She's so cold and distant. Please pray as she admitted she is hard hearted, and lacks mercy and compassion. I don't know how she can lead like she does with a hard heart and no compassion or mercy for those she leads. I've forgiven her but please pray God would slowly remove her from ministry so no one else falls for her wolf in sheep's clothing like I did.
@Maga-Muffin.59
2 ай бұрын
"I have finally seen the light" so to speak. It took me 65 years to finally let them go. Now, since I choose not to engage even when the nice side comes out. I have be DONE DONE DONE! It's not easy, but necessary for survival.
@TimothyArcher
2 ай бұрын
@@Maga-Muffin.59 So blessed to read your comment My mother, too, is about to say goodbye to my father, after 65 years. All of my life, I've understood that she has never received the love, commitment and respect that Dad committed to provide her, when they took their vows. In every way, he has failed the honor and uphold the covenant that he swore to honor & uphold. Even my grandmother called to her attention, that their vows were not equal or balanced. SHE promised to treat HIM with love, respect and compassion, until the ends of their lives, yet HE did NOT promise her the same. She now says she regrets not paying heed to her mother's advice. I've been trying to convince her to open her eyes for many years. I wish it had happened many years ago, but better late, than never!
@peacefulone4461
Ай бұрын
@MoMo-mi4lm... how'd you go about getting out of it? According to what you said, I think we're about the same age
@Its.A.Me.Mario.1985
Ай бұрын
I've had narcs around my whole life: family, best friends, co-workers. I had to cut them off once I realized what they were, because keeping them in my life meant not only would I snap one day, they'd influence my kids. That's what kept me motivated to drop the toxic people, no matter how much it hurt: they were _not_ going to be able to access my children. I've even cut the enablers off. I'm quite a bit younger than you, but it still took me too long to be able to go no-contact. Kinda like what people say about when they got saved; they wish they'd accepted Jesus sooner. For me, I wish I'd been able to cut off contact sooner. (Yes I'm saved. Have been since I was 5.) I'm so glad you are free! I wish you Jesus's blessings on the rest of your life. 💚
@carlac9026
2 ай бұрын
I have never met anyone who is not only capable of intimacy or constructive criticism. This is why I stay to my self.
@Georgian1717
2 ай бұрын
@carlac9026 prayers you do. It can be a sibling, friend or partner. Love is truly the greatest gift from God.
@UnashamedCaliforniagirl
2 ай бұрын
That sounds very lovely. There are people who are more than capable of both.
@UnashamedCaliforniagirl
2 ай бұрын
@@Georgian1717Amen ❤️
@holyremnantgathering2509
2 ай бұрын
family dysfunction during a child’s developmental years opens the door for the Jezebel (narcissist )spirit to enter that child and wreak havoc on their life. It is a generational curse in my family I’ve come to realize-mother, sister, son and ex-husband. First step is to cast out the Jezebel spirit then deal with the dysfunction-its a long process but with God’s help it is possible to overcome ❤
@lilybuccigross6688
2 ай бұрын
Clue #1 for me was what I called “pretty prayers”; empty and shallow. No authentic relationship with Jesus.
@susannabonke8552
Ай бұрын
Manipulative and evil.
@kayesmith2518
Ай бұрын
The only prayer we did together was over food unless I prayer going on a trip. He alwsys ley me do my prayer snd bible readings by myself while he went on porch to do his as he's smoking 😳😳
@TruBlu65
Ай бұрын
Judge not :: It is a virus of the heart and soul to constantly think you/we know, without a doubt, the inner truth about another person.
@jamietanksley3113
Ай бұрын
@@TruBlu65The Bible teaches "Righteous Judgement," Don't judge some one on something If you are doing the SAME thing, Blessings always ❤️
@riada4996
Ай бұрын
Rehearsed script prayers (e.g. "Dear Jesus. Thank you for this day. Thank you for your love and grace. Bless this food to our bodies.") The clue is in the redundancy.
@4Mikes4Mindset4
2 ай бұрын
Religious narcs are the worst
@44lizza
Ай бұрын
This is my stepmother exactly!! She has treated me and my family horribly. Her image is so important. I don't play her games. I've learned how to shut her down. I pray for her, and will let the Lord deal with her.
@christinelello8738
Ай бұрын
@44lizza my stepmother is the same
@crystalbrown9858
Ай бұрын
I have one of them
@mocifus13
2 ай бұрын
I’ve noticed in business dealings that anytime someone you just met finds a way to tell you they are Christian, they aren’t. They are just hoping that you drop your guard, and they are about to try and swindle you.
@user-gj6yq5qy8b
2 ай бұрын
Yep , in every way
@isabellalive2.081
2 ай бұрын
Yes a Christian does not tell you about their Christianity They show you By how they treat you & their Honesty.
@lancesouth1101
2 ай бұрын
If that's true then how do we witness to people? I get the point , and I'm sure you could find a lot of scriptures to back your point but I don't know anywhere in the Bible where it says don't tell people you're Christian . Yes I know it's by our actions and all that ,I get it. Personal opinion is one thing, but sharing the word is our calling and command
@mocifus13
2 ай бұрын
@@lancesouth1101 it’s one thing to preach. I get that 100%. That is its own situation and involves honesty. It’s a totally different animal if someone tells you they are Christian and then tries to deceive you in a business dealing. That’s not Christian behavior. Witnessing to people is in fact showing them that you are what you say you are, and that is absolutely necessary. I support that.
@mariajmc6557
2 ай бұрын
Yes beware if they tell you that they are Christian....
@RicoMnc
2 ай бұрын
It is a hard lesson to learn that loving and serving others does not necessarily mean pleasing them
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
For sure love without truth becomes mere sentimentality. We need to love our friends more than our friendships and warn them if they act as if they are on the broad road to hell. You shall know them by their fruits.
@UnashamedCaliforniagirl
2 ай бұрын
@@RicoMnc true
@MarthaLHorn
2 ай бұрын
This is a very good point
@amberlynfaulstich7134
Ай бұрын
It was really sad but, I had a friend who I thought was like a sister to me…I never really knew the signs of narcissism. Me and her were friends for about two and a half years, and she displayed ALL of these qualities. When I confronted her about things she did to hurt me, she rolled her eyes and gaslit me and I actually apologized! We would always talk about her, she sucked my energy, never let me speak, barely ever gave emotional space for me, and projected her character flaws onto me when I confronted her. It was awful, and sadly, that friendship was a total waste of my time, but I believe God redeems and I’ve learned a lot about guarding my heart and discernment since then. I cut her off after I tried confronting her and it got spun around on me. Best decision of my life, but I do pray her eyes are opened to her own narcissism cuz I can imagine how lonely she is and empty always relying on others to fill her where only Jesus can, she’s just seeking love in the wrong places and in the wrong ways. She doesn’t know any better, so I’ve learned to forgive her and at the end of the day, we wrestle not against flesh and blood.
@SigmaEmpataLevante
2 ай бұрын
It is like watering a plastic plant. It does NOT work on them.
@michellesimons5634
2 ай бұрын
@@SigmaEmpataLevante fantastic analogy!
@DogMomCMF
2 ай бұрын
I love this analogy!!
@r1chm
2 ай бұрын
Funny how she use water analogy. Did the rain water come from a leaky roof?. Proverbs 12:15 A constant dripping on a rainy and a contentious woman are alike. Restraining her is like holding back the wind or grasping oil with ones right hand. It takes two to tango. But women by nature (sinful nature) are narcissistic. They are vain, look into the mirror far more, worried about looks and outward appearances of themselves. Everything and I mean everything (clothing, makeup, hair color, jewelry) that is made "for a woman" costs a lot more and specifically targets the narcissistic tendencies of women. Women not only buy into it, they will pay double or triple. Make it pink, you will be charged double for it and you lose half the populations interest in the item (men). Logic and reason don't work on women, only emotion. Run away men from women like this.
@tah2606
2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@user-yo9pv1ni6t
2 ай бұрын
Churcch goers are BEYOND any help,
@lorianttila9698
2 ай бұрын
I ignored the red flags because I believed he was a man of God...I believed God had brought him into my life. I tried so hard to be an obedient wife...I prayed, I forgave, I wasn't allowed to get angry...I made minimal requests and did everything he wanted to do and anticipated his needs. He did not need to anything. He still blamed me for his lying and cheating.. He claimed it was for my protection. I am divorced now...I did everything I could in trying to save my marriage including sacrificing myself. I almost succeeded in taking my own life. I look forward to more of your content to learn why this man was allowed into my life. God allows everything....
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
God Bless You. Think this movie will encourage you for your future good days: "The Encounter" 5 people Encounter Jesus 4 set free to live abundantly. Be with the 4, 4Ever. :)
@Charlene_SoCalGal
2 ай бұрын
@@lorianttila9698 he was in your life because you chose him and said "yes" as I did. After I left my narcissistic ex, I had to figure out how I ended up with a man like that so I never make that choice again.
@angelabritten48
2 ай бұрын
@lorianttila9698 you answered the question yourself, YOU IGNORED RED FLAGS, God gave you the ability to discern, you need to trust that discernment.
@yvonnes7412
2 ай бұрын
Yes, God allows free will BUT God only wants the best for us. Anything evil that comes into our lives, comes from humans-from the evil that humans can do. So it’s a fine distinction, but you need to know that bad things don’t come from God. “What comes to you of good is from God, but what comes to you of evil, [O man], is from yourself.” (Quran 4:79 Sahih International translation) Please don’t be offended by me quoting the Quran-normally I wouldn’t try helping a Christian with God’s last message, because I know you don’t believe. But in your case, I feel that you might need the comfort of this distinction that God gives us. I sincerely hope this helps. Personally, I’ve come to believe the Quran is God’s last and final message, but you have your religion and I have mine… I’m just trying to help.
@lorianttila9698
2 ай бұрын
@yvonnes7412 Thank you. I am not offended, and I am grateful to you. Yes, I am still struggling with what happened. One of the tools the narcissist used was controlling me with his religious beliefs. He unraveled everything I had learned and believed, including I was worthy of God's love. When I cried because Jesus died on the cross for me...the narcissist mocked and shamed me. I have always understood that there are many philosophies and beliefs and accept what works for one may not work for another. And God says we need to love one another as we love ourselves. Thank you, I hope you too are safe And free
@child_of_God316
Ай бұрын
You cannot be a true narcissist if you are a true Christian. The holy spirit will absolutely convict you of your sins including the sin of pride which is basically what narcissism is!
@dianaalexandra1126
Ай бұрын
@@child_of_God316 I think there are Christian’s that are blind by their sin and come across narcissistic
@crystalbrown9858
Ай бұрын
I AGREE TOTALLY. Just like all the christians who are voting for non-christian policies and values and will try to argue their point until blue in the face... but it's absolutely pointless to have any sort of constructive conversation on any and all current events because they are absolutely blinded from truth. How is it that you can claim to have the spirit of truth in you YESHUA (Holy Spirit) as a Christian but cannot see truth at all? Isnt compatable.
@child_of_God316
Ай бұрын
@@dianaalexandra1126 then they are not real Christians
@child_of_God316
Ай бұрын
@@crystalbrown9858 😂 nice try
@user-ee9vf5nx4u
Ай бұрын
Most Humanists hate it when you say Satan has blinded their mind from accepting the gospel. As an X Humanist, I thought I was always in control. Humanists have made an absolute mess of society with their religious doctrines.
@tammybagwell1741
2 ай бұрын
When you're dealing with Narcissistic co-workers, same rules apply. We are to pray for those who persecute us.....and let HIM take vengeance....because it's HIS anyway. Give it and them to God and go to sleep
@jovalynjohnson1983
2 ай бұрын
@@tammybagwell1741 Thank you. I've been dealing with this for years and I'm slowly trying to detach myself away from him. Part of me feels angry, hurt, sad because I invested so much time, energy, and money just to be treated like crap. I just got to the point where I was tired of being disrespected and demeaned and thankfully my coworkers have been supportive in telling me to leave him alone and I deserve someone who will treat me with respect. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@tedhall7670
2 ай бұрын
If you're a narcissist. You're not a Christian.
@debrabrookham6670
2 ай бұрын
They don't forgive or really love. They believe in them not others, Believing in Christ changes the heart. Their hearts are dead.
@martyvirtue4051
2 ай бұрын
Narcissists are the devils soldiers. They are never from the Lord.
@abutterfly7975
2 ай бұрын
Anybody with a mental disorder can become saved, but it doesn’t mean that their behaviour will change only God knows whether they’re saved or not
@mummylilbear6088
2 ай бұрын
It’s all religions. People hide behind it.
@sergeisergei4700
2 ай бұрын
Thats not true.
@pooransingh9493
24 күн бұрын
The treasure of the heart is revealing in their words
@Advance.Intl.Ministries
2 ай бұрын
I've been studying narcissism for about a year to recover from divorce and abusive father and brother, so when I met a nice pretty apartment neighbor, I caught her narcissism in 14 minutes. So I've been practicing on her to set my boundaries etc. She knows how to do the right things for show so makes an okay 1x a week for 2 hour friend (or less) but now that she knows I'm not an easy supply, we're both backing away but it's been good practice for me to learn to set boundaries, I'm much better at being firm about that now...lol.
@kapupukakane
2 ай бұрын
I had the same experience where I kept adding nice things I did for her and it was never enough, she always demanded more. If I didn't bow to her every whim, OR if I voiced a concern, then I was an "abuser" and "not a good Christian husband." But, when she voiced a concern, I would take all the blame and apologize. Only to be told my apologies were "fake" and that I "didn't care." She actually said to me at one point, "I have nothing to apologize for, I don't do anything wrong, I don't know why you're so upset." There's a reason she's an ex-wife even though she constantly used scripture to manipulate me to stay with her. 🙄
@shaungreenlee724
2 ай бұрын
I just got out of something like that…begrudgingly if I’m being honest. Taking the blame is rough is t it? I still feel that way. And, more honesty, if she tried to come back I’d let her in. It’s hard to make myself get angry about all the games cause, plot twist, we work together too. It’s hard to stand up for yourself too. That alone makes me feel weak. It’s bad enough I strive for someone to come into my life that’s good and genuine that I’m blind to the concerns I have with those I let in. Stay up. We will be alright.
@naowright9308
2 ай бұрын
I understand more than you know. My SIL is exactly that way.
@TripleR-kb6uc
2 ай бұрын
@@shaungreenlee724 no. Do not let that snake back into your life. Understand, they will not ever get better. They will only get worse. Block, delete, remove. Give your life a ‘courtesy flush’ if you get my drift. And be very wary of anyone you choose to let in. The world is full of ultra toxic individuals in 2024.
@kristafloral
2 ай бұрын
@@shaungreenlee724 PLEASE don’t EVER let her back in. It will be worse than before! There is a reason why Narc abuse counselors say it’s imperative to go NO CONTACT!
@shaungreenlee724
2 ай бұрын
@@kristafloral Thank you. Gladly she closed the door but she does reach out occasionally and it’s hard to not reply. I just replied to something five minutes ago. I just wish I didn’t have this desire to be loved. I fall for anything. I even feel horrible thinking she could be a narcissist.
@MeCynthiaAnn
Ай бұрын
So true: A relationship with a narcissist is like having an empty electrical outlet. The covers there, but nothings in it.
@user-fq2wy2fk5r
Ай бұрын
Made me giggle in that my ex husband is a narcissist AND and electrician. This fits almost too perfectly in my case.
@MeCynthiaAnn
Ай бұрын
@@user-fq2wy2fk5r Haahaa…… it’s probably a vision now you’ll never get out of your head. God bless you and Thank you for your comment here. So sorry you’re going through all these things. Just know that you are not crazy to the people who post here because we totally can relate.
@john6903
2 ай бұрын
I wish i would have known these things in my 20's. It very literally took me a lifetime to figure this stuff out. And i still cannot put it into words. You do it so well 👍.
@RonSafreed
2 ай бұрын
It was not allowed to talk about narcissism on the media of years & decades ago!!
@Kashkmad
Ай бұрын
My experience is exactly the same.
@alexspectre962
2 ай бұрын
Remember that a mark of a narc is that they constantly find a way to INSULT you. One way or another they will try to insult you and "take you down a peg" because they convinced themselves (since they believe they are your judge, jury AND executioner) that you somehow DESERVE what they dish out. Keep and eye out for those who INSULT you. Evil ALWAYS insults humanity because evil HATES humanity. If you are a good person evil will try to INSULT you the most because it HATES you the most.
@user-fq2wy2fk5r
Ай бұрын
@@alexspectre962 Wow. Truth. Well said.
@corrinacorrina5766
2 ай бұрын
I spent 11 years getting mentally , spiritually, emotionally beat down by a man who used scripture to attack me, beat me down, he would tell me he is the man and God gave him the command and I am falling short as a woman, I’m contentious for having an opinion. He used me, lied to other about me, told me I am causing his financial situation by using a birth certificate…. Walking away was so hard because I thought he would change the more I prayed…..but he has free will and wanted to abuse me and tear me down I had to let God bring me out of the situation by strengthening my heart. Peace comes by Jesus and He alone is our strength.
@musicalgal1992
2 ай бұрын
The TWO WORST BRANDS of "Narcissism," in my opinion, is "Spiritual/Christian Narcissism" & "Malignant Narcissism (NPD & ASPD Put Together)!"
@ROB89084
2 ай бұрын
Absolutely. People put so much trust in them. Like myself. Go in broken and walk out shattered.
@bridget1873
2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for helping me understand my ex-husband and everything he did and why. It was so confusing when I was married to him. He was an elder in the church but behind closed doors he was a monster. I went to counseling by myself for years to try to fix what was wrong with me because he made me believe everything was my fault. Listening to videos like yours and reading about npd helps me so much. It's painful but at the same time helpful (if that makes sense.) He ordered a mail-order bride from China soon after the divorce and my heart breaks for her. Kris, God is using you mightily to help people like me. Thank you so much and God bless you!
@Kris_Reece
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I'm blessed to hear that the videos have been helpful for you. :)
@phyllisdevonish859
2 ай бұрын
Street Angel… Home Devil
@user-io7kz4kv3z
2 ай бұрын
This Lady here , Dr. Carter " Free to be Me" series ( KZitem) and Dr. Ramani Top Foremost Expert on all things Toxic and Narcissistic Literally Saved my sanity when I was Frazzled, and confused, pulling my hair out over a Covert manipulator's Toxic Word Salad , a Lady that came across as perfectly Delightful , said all the Right things, appeared to Do all the Right things for about 11 months until WHAM, her mask fell off !
@MJ-my9sg
2 ай бұрын
Wow our marriage experiences parallel each other. All those decades destroyed me. Mine was before psychotherapy was a thing. 🙏🙏
@bridget1873
2 ай бұрын
@@MJ-my9sg I'm so sorry you suffered at the hands of your abuser! It's terrible that there are so many of us.
@uofa82
2 ай бұрын
I am most definitely married to a Christian narcissist, a missionary, former pastor. For years I fought this situation. Separation or divorce are not options for me. I finally learned to go to God and trust Him to take care of me. Jesus Is my joy and sustenance, my Lord and Savior in all situations, my friend, comforter and wisdom-giver, my power source. This is my defense mechanism: the word of God almighty my Father is my strength, the love of Jesus my counselor, and the love of Holy Spirit my empowerment, They are all I really need. 🙏✝️🕊️❤️
@DrPhilGoode
Ай бұрын
Codependency comes in many forms. The same codependent individual who is drawn to narcissistic relationships, are also drawn to extreme religious and supernatural practices and beliefs. Most codependents were taught during childhood that they are NEVER enough and they will always fall short. That is INCREDIBLY damaging and destructive and often leads to a life of severe codependency.
@uofa82
Ай бұрын
@@DrPhilGoode I was indeed taught in my childhood that I was not good enough and I was always drawn to narcissistic men. However, Jesus is not one of them. He has saved me from my sin, self and my codependency on narcissistic men. He is my best friend who promises to never leave me or forsake me, no matter what and I promise to never leave Him, no matter what. It is the perfect relationship.
@Kirstenurbanwolves
Ай бұрын
I thought I was unable to leave my narcissist husband too. However, when I found out he had been having an affair for three years it gave me the golden key to get out of an awful marriage. He broke the covenant not me.
@uofa82
Ай бұрын
@@Kirstenurbanwolves An affair would definitely be a deal breaker.
@MisstyG
Ай бұрын
Stop kidding yourself, a narcissist is never a Christian. They cannot be Christians, since you must *repent of sinning,* and *place your faith in Christ Jesus* as your Savior and Lord, to be a Christian. Narcissists never, ever, ever see a need to repent, because they are never wrong, in their eyes. They only put their faith in themselves. Do you really believe that someone can be displaying all the Demonic narcissist tactics and traits, yet be Holy Spirit controlled? That's impossible. Those people are demon-possessed. They are so very far from being controlled by God's word and His Spirit.
@jennieanastass7964
2 ай бұрын
Bless you mightily Kris! All you say is spot on and from God and the Word! I have suffered much too like others here on this platform. Praise God for people like yourself, that bring light and truth. Courage and strength, hope and wisdom. I prayed and fasted and God taught me to never again expect anything good from anyone again! I do have faithful friends that love me for who I am praise God, but I’m talking about the narcissists, not to expect any good thing from them! I was a co dependent. My husband being a Christian narcissist whose favourite scripture to quote me was a wife is to learn from her husband at home etc etc and be submissive. I thought he Had an obligation from God to treat me the way the bible says.. well that’s a complete joke to narcissists. It’s there way or the High way ofcourse. So recently God told me, do not ask or expect anything from him ever again, you’re wasting your time. Well it’s Been decades! God said, only rely on Me to love you, admire you, respect and honour you, support you, provide for you. I’m your vengeance. He has filled me with His peace from head to toe! God has healed all my wounds. He has even had my enemies devour each other! Read 2 chronicles 20.. wow!!😄🙏🏻 Which I had no idea He would do for me, I feel so loved and adored by Jesus! So I have found my answers spiritually on how to overcome the narcissist! I’m set free. I will stay set free. I now do not care what people say about me or behind my back. I do not expect anything good from anyone anymore. Only my Heavenly Father whom truly loves me! My real husband is Jesus! I am one of the wise virgins that is filled with the Spirit of God! I will be there at the wedding to marry my Groom! 🙏🏻🥰💪😇 may others suffering be encouraged and finally set free 🙏🏻🙏🏻
@simplypositiveme
2 ай бұрын
He kept redirecting the conversations back to the Word that wasn't even the subject and learning more about the Bible. Never addressing my personal needs. I finally saw it.
@simonschneider5913
2 ай бұрын
same here. always getting scolded for not having read enough to give in to her view on things... i feel so stupid today...
@jackyloudoble808
2 ай бұрын
I can totally relate, my ex would throw me bible verses that are really out of context when we're discussing things. Sigh thanked God tho, I'm free
@simplypositiveme
2 ай бұрын
@@simonschneider5913 don't feel stupid. You are being given a gift of the rest of your life in freedom and able to be peaceful after some healing
@simplypositiveme
2 ай бұрын
@@jackyloudoble808 We are and we can't allow ourselves to forget how that felt. It's very confusing and disturbing to use the Word in that way.
@EmpressofChrist
2 ай бұрын
The word is the word of God ,duh
@HandofGodisonMe
Ай бұрын
Wow I’ve been binge watching these videos. I have a friend that I am just realizing she’s a narcissist but is our worship leader at our church! And she always will only give me an awkward side hug. We’ve known each other for 10 plus years! She even cut me off in the beginning when she came to the Lord. I never understood why and I was heartbroken! Thank you for these videos.
@alexspectre962
2 ай бұрын
"Your needs are a nuisance". Great line, and so true.
@katierucker2870
2 ай бұрын
I feel like this happens a lot especially in men’s/women’s Bible study groups, too. When you have a concern and you’re brushed off as being “angry”. It’s frustrating.
@Bob3519
Ай бұрын
“You don’t understand “ Is a big red flag. If you express fact, they will claim you are ignorant and “don’t understand”.
@tonyallen4265
2 ай бұрын
My mom has to tell her story of going to heaven at every family get-together. I've heard that story a thousand times. Her narcissism is a family tradition.
@angelagrant9163
2 ай бұрын
I lived this every day with my mother. No, she never told this story, but was the biggest hypocrite walking! She was extremely legalistic and hypocritical and didn't think it was a problem, it was awful. I was her target all my life with her. She's dead and gone and I never she'd a tear at her passing
@EmpressofChrist
2 ай бұрын
You blame religion but youre just the same as your mom. You need to repent and know that Jesus Christ is not a religion but a relationship. Pick up your cross daily and read the word because youre prideful and lack love@angelagrant9163
@EmpressofChrist
2 ай бұрын
Maybe her heaven story is to motivative you and her family or would you rather her talk about hell? And gnashing of teeth?
@tonyallen4265
2 ай бұрын
@@EmpressofChrist It's bragging, trying to prove her specialness with God to others. The extreme low self esteem of narcissists compels them to build up their false self with the veneer of perfection. Classic grandiose Narcissism.
@wandaray7644
2 ай бұрын
My mom is the same way
@mrfixall
Ай бұрын
Wow, First time I've ever been on this channel and I have to say everything you said resonates with truth! Often the hardest thing we can do is to love the narcissist Without becoming a victim. The last few years of my mother's life, I would have to stop her and say I can't participate in this relationship when you act this way, But I still love you.
@lukasjacobi627
2 ай бұрын
A narcissist is not a christian. It is a demon and not the Holy Spirit. Not any doubt.
@susanthepowerseller
2 ай бұрын
yea, start rebuking those demons, that stirs them up.
@cdheidt
2 ай бұрын
Yes, and today that demon is quite busy and prolific.
@FamilyHistoriandude
2 ай бұрын
Exactly, my former friend turned out to be a real religious spirit, not a trace of the Holy Spirit in her after her mother turned her into her clone. Whatever Godliness she once had about her is no longer there. So many religious spirits think being a pharisee makes them filled with the Holy Spirit.
@lukasjacobi627
2 ай бұрын
@@FamilyHistoriandude It needs this dicernment to get that revelation. And if H God trusts us with that knowledge that comes out of a pure heart we can be assured we know a lot about how satan works.
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
@@FamilyHistoriandude Spot on. Many have the word of the Lord without the Lord of the word. Rough paraphrase from the great Christian film "Time Changer". Free on KZitem. Movie Night. ;)
@ChildofGod98765
2 ай бұрын
Give me strength Lord Jesus. I’m struggling providing for my children. I will keep faith. I have two beautiful boys both have special needs. I’m overwhelmed because they require so much from me. I’m fearful because every month is a struggle to not end up on the streets with my boys. Lord restore my faith. I’m so tired Lord Jesus of constantly struggling to pay bills and struggling to buy groceries. Ashamed because I’m failing as a mother. Please Lord continue to give me strength.💕
@jujus3468
2 ай бұрын
❤❤
@ebenezerquartey188
2 ай бұрын
God doesnt give more than you can handle. Be encouraged. I hope wherever you are you get the assistance you need to lighten your burden. The Lord strengthen you and keep you. The Lord cause his face to shine upon you and grant you His peace. Father hear the cry of your child.
@JOHN-ei2tn
2 ай бұрын
Here’s a Total FAKE Plant 🌱, this Subscriber post the exact same comment on many other Christian channels. It’s called Baiting
@Mary-uz2tz
Ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏
@derrickjoe1872
Ай бұрын
Where is your husband?
@firefly88887
2 ай бұрын
They often show other signs of aggression , like not speaking for days , emotionally withdrawing from children or even pets who really don’t understand this can go on for days or weeks until they get you back where they want you ! They also put other people down, no one does anything better than them - they compete with your 7 year old and even your cat !
@johannastrydom3071
26 күн бұрын
@@firefly88887 that is so so true ive been living with one for 27years,left 2021 he kept coming over every weekend,but im finally free from him for more than a year now. Amen
@deechristensen8188
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for all your online literature and wealth of information on ‘narcissistic’ people. Sadly, I was married to one … but the best advice I could personally offer is when you allow God to move you through the healing to a place where you prefer not to use or refer (even in your mind) to him (or her) as a ‘narcissist’, which I feel is all too often today’s overused buzz word. After God softened my heart and got me to a place of truer inner healing He helped me to gain my own sense of power back in refusing to use this word to the point of asking my counsellor if she would kindly not use it. We know the Living Word tells us there is power in our words and speaking into them only gives that person the power over your mind, instead of allowing God to do His work in eventually healing you. Once I personally accepted this, I felt a sense of release to my past and softening of my heart to my future in being able to more fully centre my attention onto His calling for my new life. I pray that others will come to this place in seeing and appreciating the beauty He gives for our offered ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Blessings and love to all.
@Lily_and_River
2 ай бұрын
Yes I agree the word is way overused nowadays.... I believe you were with a so called narcissist, I'm not speaking about your personal experience. But in general I believe many people can have narcissistic traits to some extent, especially people with trauma and who were emotionally neglected when they were young. It's a coping mechanism for them to survive. I've seen people get better when they start dealing with their underlying trauma. I think when we call everyone who seems to be self centered and defensive or manipulative a narcissist, we create more problems because we won't see any possibility for growth or healing for these people. And we also might be unaware we ourselves can be self centered at times too. Or even become similar because of our hurt. I believe that the people that I've been in very toxic relationships with were ultimately unhealed traumatised people, but they were definitely children of God and often unaware of their behaviour. They weren't true narcissist but more dismissive avoidants or anxiously attached. Also addiction can make someone very manipulative. The amount of information I see on dealing with narcissists compared to other types of toxic or traumatised people is very odd to me. I think people would be better helped in their personal situations when they learn how to deal with certain types of toxic behaviours. Because with many people there are certainly ways that you can deal with it and set boundaries. There's also cases where whatever one does, it doesn't help and one has to leave the relationship. But I also see a lot of people break contact with others when they themselves are the ones who can't deal with their emotions and trauma.
@deechristensen8188
2 ай бұрын
@@Lily_and_River … well said. Although I never deserved to be treated in such a way; hurt people hurt people. And although a hard lesson learnt, there was one to be in God taking me through this unchartered emotional territory. We all live in/with sin … not one of us is spared by the enemy. After going through the grief, trust in Him and lean not on our own ways but His wisdom. I can’t say I allowed this before marrying a man with an, unknown at the time, littered past of his own past sexual trauma and abuse. I am not excusing him, God just helped deliver me to a place of understanding and accepting this in healing my broken heart and moving me into my future. Complete forgiveness is an ongoing process; but one I trust my faith will lead me to. So long as He forgives my sins and inadequacies, I know I have to forgive others … even if eventually. Thank you for sharing your insightful words and for your goodness in helping others. ❤
@Lily_and_River
2 ай бұрын
@@deechristensen8188 Thank you for your comments aswell. I'm going through something similar although I still hold hope for my husband. At the beginning of this year I had to seperate from him and go no contact for my own safety and sanity. I've experienced God closer and more intimate than ever before the past years, even when I was still living with him and was really scared aswell. I'm also thankful for the healing process and everything He is showing and learning me. It's hard, painful, necessary, healing and freeing all at the same time. In a way He answered my prayers by getting me out of a very toxic marriage and continuing with the plans He has for me. So I relate to much of what you say here. Back when I married my husband I was a child of God but I didn't let Him truly lead me the way I do the past years. I even think I wouldn't have married him back then when I would've been the person I am now. But I still pray and believe God can make our marriage new again. When He doesn't, I will be alright. I would worry about my husband's well being though. Even though I've given him over in the hands of God, I cannot imagine right now to let go of everything yet. I cannot let go of the promises God has given me, also about him. I like what you said about forgiveness. I'm not ready to forgive yet, because of the things that are still going on at this moment... I'm not at a point where I can leave it behind me yet. But I definitely know I will one day.
@Lily_and_River
2 ай бұрын
@@deechristensen8188 oh and yes the 'hurt people hurt people' phrase has helped me a lot too! Even though we made mistakes ourselves, it doesn't excuse their behaviour. It's been crazy to work through the amount of manipulation and gaslighting and allowing God to show the truth about myself and my marriage. No one deserves to be treated this way by ones husband. A husband should protect and love his wife like Christ protects and loves the church. When there's emotional safety a wife can submit herself to her husband from a place of love. We definitely need Jesus to meet such a standard, we can't do it on our own.
@Lily_and_River
2 ай бұрын
@@deechristensen8188 I'm not sure if you saw my replies... I think KZitem might have removed them 🙄
@patskinner2706
2 ай бұрын
Christian and Narcissist don’t go together!
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
Joy = "J"esus, "O"thers, then lastly "Y"ourself. So is the Christian life. Love gives lust takes. God Bless.
@mominminnesota6648
2 ай бұрын
@JL-es3gc exactly. I think those people are the "pigs" proverbs is referring to in the observation "...& a pig is washed only to go back to wallowing in the mud". washing a pig is a big job! & useless, because a pig's nature (being unable to sweat) requires it to go in the mud to cool off. so in the Bible, pigs represent people who are unclean inside & unable or unwilling (does it matter?) to be permanently cleansed & take on a new life. I agree --- sadly --- they're not seeking to be transformed, merely made acceptable. sad.
@RandyRoth-mo3lz
2 ай бұрын
Jesus calls them sheep and goats...Matt 25... the sheep have been dying off in the churches and many only have goats left.
@user-yo9pv1ni6t
2 ай бұрын
TRue , but thats what you will find at churches/synagogues
@darnelltabor6382
2 ай бұрын
That's why I clicked on the video. This doesn't sound right at all.
@PatChilly65
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for that video, I was around a narcissist for near 20 years. What you say is so true . There are to many Christians that exhibit these traits today. God bless.
@spiritualkings
2 ай бұрын
Watering a plastic plant. Holy accurate analogy Batman! 😯
@jackkonnof4106
2 ай бұрын
My adopted mother was a narcissist, She abused,and humiliated me everywhere we went. She died 25 years ago and I have no doubt she is burning in hell for eternity for how badly she ruined my life. She drove away every friend or girl friend I ever had and made sure I was miserable 24/7. Then she had the nerve to tell me at 23y that I owed her grand kids....I told her if she hadnt drove away every girl friend I ever had maybe she would have had them by now but she is the last person I would have ever let my kids around. At 50 deep scars remain but everything makes sense now. The only enjoyment I have is being alone, just me and the dog. It's not much but its good enough for me until this life gets overwith.
@MsSunshine-cw3oj
2 ай бұрын
Pray to God to heal you and restore what was taken from you. Believe that God can send you a loving and godly woman 🙏 God bless you 🕊️🙏
@skotabrit
Ай бұрын
@@MsSunshine-cw3ojamen 🙏🏻
@angeldayz
Ай бұрын
@@jackkonnof4106 im sorry you went through that.
@clarebellworship6882
Ай бұрын
@@jackkonnof4106 love always hopes. I pray you will be hopeful for you future 🩷
@user-ph8jk2su9x
Ай бұрын
God bless you . Sometimes people are so broken and toxic they have nothing to give , please never let that run your life . God says in Isaiah 61:1 he came to bind up the broken heart and set the captive free ! Believe, have faith that God had a bigger plan for your life . Don’t keep yourself in prison . Praying many blessings over you . Amen
@HisChannel-MandyJacoby
Ай бұрын
This was so good I have a family member that this shined a huge light on for me. Also helped me understand the ups and downs I have been dealing with because of him the past 5 years. I love him, but trust has been completely broken and I give him to God now and pray that he sees the damage he has done in innocent lives.
@angelashort1331
2 ай бұрын
I'm perplexed , by the bibles declaration , that we would be exposed to NARCISSISTS , LOVERS OF THEMSELVES . AND YET , THIS PHENOMENA IS IN OUR CHURCHES AND FAMILIES AND YET THERE IS NO PROGRAM OR ALERTNESS , OR HONESTY , IN HOW A CONGREGATION CAN DEAL WITH THIS.
@angelashort1331
2 ай бұрын
I know that nice gal , you describe , and yes , he's burning out . GOD HELP HIM , ❤
@anneboyle2240
2 ай бұрын
Yes!!!! Exactly 💯 I told the truth about a wolf in sheep's clothing in my very first church and they didn't believe me!!! She was demon possessed and running rings around them while abusing me and the demons would only manifest with me but they thought I was crazy unfortunately and believed her, she was laughing at them. She died and I don't know if she was saved in the end but if not, they enabled a soul to go to hell. No one I think will believe me in the church either now about my husband who has tried to push me into suicide. It's been a horrendous 14 years of serious covert abuse. The church haven't got a clue the level of this. I think the Lord might be bringing me into a ministry of exposing wolves - I told him six years ago no way, I'm not the person for the job lol but I think I am. I can see them. When I got saved, demons manifested in children where I was teaching, all over the place. But my husband has been the most difficult. Because they're so hidden. It's sneaky and slow, drip, drip, drip.... devastating. Only by God's Grace and mercy for me as a blood bought daughter of the King am I alive to tell the tale. I'm leaving him finally in about two weeks. I was shown the truth and of course, it has set me free. Amen ❤️🙏
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
I'll go a step further, "preachers" preach to love yourself first.
@imperfectillustration6261
2 ай бұрын
Most churches are not equipped to deal with this. The pastors and elders who have never dealt with narcissism before have no clue on how to spot this. When I brought the issues I was going through in my marriage to an elder during counseling. He told me that I should just “love” my wife more in spite of the emotional abuse, rage and other manipulation tactics and devious things she was doing behind my back.
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
@@imperfectillustration6261 I hear ya. "They are not our friends but rather our worst enemies who sooth people in their sins." Sin and Repentance ignored and we see the results "feel good" deluded secular humanists with Bible verses mixed in. God Bless your future. 🙏
@DeaconBeanCooter
2 ай бұрын
Connecting with them is Like trying to water a plastic plant - well said my fren!❤🎉
@Jonas-gl9ke
Ай бұрын
How would you demonstrate you have “connected” to Yahweh?
@happyjoynesss
Ай бұрын
This whole video is my entire family.
@Grace-love79
2 ай бұрын
Kris this sounds just like my old marriage. Thank you for your dedication to God.
@derrickjoe1872
Ай бұрын
Divorce without infidelity is a sin, as well as any future marriage.
@Grace-love79
Ай бұрын
@@derrickjoe1872 he committed infidelity multiple times.
@Grace-love79
Ай бұрын
@@derrickjoe1872 God also does not want His children in abusive marriages, nor does He want little children to be abused.
@KRzzzzzzzz
2 ай бұрын
I think I encountered a Christian narcissist when I decided to get some lay counseling at my church. It gave me a bad familiar feeling. However I gave chance after chance after chance for the situation to prove me wrong.
@Kris_Reece
2 ай бұрын
I'm glad your eyes were opened
@jujus3468
2 ай бұрын
What was the bad feeling like?
@AmberGregoryAuthor
Ай бұрын
I was blown away by the accuracy of this video My “ oh so Christian and quiet ex husband. Was really a covert narcissist….. it took ten years in the relationship and 3 years out to finally put all the pieces together and heal. Wish I had seen the video sooner :) Thanks for putting this content out there❤
@OnaFaithJourney
2 ай бұрын
Im in a friendships that I am finding difficult. This person called me her best friend very early in the relationship. Now that the relationship causes me a lot of anxiety and questioning, I feel like being called a best friend was and is being used as a tool to manipulate me.
@dennyfie
2 ай бұрын
Mine had me walking on egg shells in my own house. I never knew people like Christian coverts existed, I must of been very fortunate in life I never had to deal with a demonic person before. My love from 46 years ago came back into my life in Aug of 22 I had to ask her to leave my house, I felt bad but she was killing me literally.
@cabot100
2 ай бұрын
Sounds like they are "love bombing" you. It is a tool used to control/manipulate others.
@kerstingravel8160
2 ай бұрын
That sounds really bad. I hope you find the power to escape from this person.
@UnashamedCaliforniagirl
2 ай бұрын
I have experienced this. There are people who can feel this way.
@jkk5948
2 ай бұрын
This is literally the best video on narcs I've ever seen. Thank you!. I'm saving this to watch when i need reminders to stay away❤
@leah6801
2 ай бұрын
Please pray for my Landlord. She is a narcissistic person. This video helped me realize im not going crazy. I keep my distance as much as possible.
@lindaramon7335
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for your teachings wish I knew about them before divorce. Would've answered so many questions and not prolonged abuse from covert narcissist. God bless you keep up the great work.
@jamesjames1364
2 ай бұрын
Wow, Wow, Wow! You are remarkable good! You have left me speechless. What you have said in 14 minutes, has taken me years to gather, and research to learn about this horribly destructive personality flaw. Hundreds of videos, articles, etc., and you summed it up, hitting every key area in a few minutes. I hope that everyone has the luck of seeing this video. You are Golden. Bravo to you, and thank you, so very much!
@jenniferm3572
Ай бұрын
Needed this reminder!!!! You are SOOO awesome and I can’t thank you enough for what you do. I pray God continues to bless YOU 🤍🤍🤍
@julianderson8708
2 ай бұрын
This is a great description of my ex husband of 29 years! He was also a pastor, no surprise. He is still this way. Only one of our 9 children will see him, and he claims to not understand why. Instead of looking at himself, he sends them letters with scripture.
@TheRjmsca
2 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you're going through this. God bless you and your nine kids! My ex husband does the same.
@derrickjoe1872
Ай бұрын
Divorce without infidelity is a sin...
@Onionman-wx8wz
26 күн бұрын
@@julianderson8708 is derrick your ex-husband, or just another christian arcisist?
@julianderson8708
23 күн бұрын
@@Onionman-wx8wz lol, just another narc I’m guessing.
@melisherwood5300
2 ай бұрын
I was involved with a Christian narcissist for 2 years; he was a member of the clergy - pious and generous on the outside but emotionally abusive and stingy (with money, time, empathy, etc) with me behind closed doors. It was truly hellish. He was a brilliant actor, would use scripture against me (or try) and blame me for the sexual relationship we had but which he later cut off telling me he felt “unclean” with me. I was so devalued on a regular basis I could not think and barely function. He was so hot and cold, with me - one day acting like I was invisible and the next day apologising and acting sweetly. When I wanted to leave he would talk me into staying but then start his abuse cycle almost immediately all over again. I literally felt like I was going to faint from exhaustion and sorrow.
@RhymeandRamblings
2 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry you went through that. These people are seriously sick. I hope you find healing and strong boundaries.
@dorismahoney1440
2 ай бұрын
We're u married?
@melisherwood5300
2 ай бұрын
@@dorismahoney1440 no
@melisherwood5300
2 ай бұрын
@@RhymeandRamblings thank you
@Jo-lp1px
2 ай бұрын
You poor dear! Thank God you’re out of that and educated 🙏❤️
@andreajustus-kq3gj
15 күн бұрын
This was fantastic. We have a self-proclaimed "Christian" at work that uses the word "God" likes it's her weapon to use against truly compassionate and hardworking people. All the while, she never follows the rules, but expects others to follow her ever-changing rules based on her need which changes from moment to moment. If you set a healthy boundary, she reacts by targeting you for months. She's an actual bully. She burns bridges fast and then turns around and looks for new employees to recruit into her world. It's so toxic and effects so many good people. I constantly pray for God's protection for everyone because we're a tired group of people thanks to her. :( Anyway, I believe this video will help those struggling with the reality of her narcissism. Thank you.
@gwendolynwehage6336
2 ай бұрын
Thank you, these are all things I have seen in family members. I live in a culture in which arguing and fighting is normal and expected. I stay away from them as much as possible. We cannot reach those who are in rebellion against God.
@steveportice3560
2 ай бұрын
I am definitely burnt out from being that nice Guy, and praising a woman that I fell for, thinking she deserved it.
@Dj.D25
2 ай бұрын
I did something similar. I made the mistake of being attracted to a woman who I assumed was God fearing based on her Facebook posts. And I thought since we appeared to have a lot in common we should try being more than friends. But as I got to know her, I was told lies and manipulated. I have questioned if she's a covert narcissist, but I feel I could be wrong, based on other traits. After being burned by others, I don't trust any Christian woman now who posts mostly Christian related posts and very little else of her life.
@NFTeve
2 ай бұрын
I reflect and heal my own neediness and surrender it and any loneliness to God . Otherwise we are victims waiting to happen!!
@richardk9700
2 ай бұрын
Thank you 👏so much MS Kris Reece for guiding & Cautioning us about Pitfalls, we have to deal with in the World during Lifetime. GOD🙏 Bless You, family & your work.✝️😀
@Lilmommabear4
2 ай бұрын
Yep exactly what I was going through....and couldn't take it anymore!! I was told I'm being a disobedient wife and being disobedient to God, was told by my husband....you have to obey your husband!! I did everything i was suppose to do as a wife and more and still was told I'm being disobedient 🙄 he never trusted me and i never gave him a reason not to, he was extremely jealous, constantly put blame on me, made me feel like i was the crazy one and yet again still wants me in his life?? Im like are you seriously okay?? No matter how hard you try to figure them out or try to help them its just going to drive you insane!! I walked away...I could not deal with the stress anymore. 😟😞🤦♀️🙄
@tracyannaleclair9320
2 ай бұрын
How did you get divorced? How did you tell him and how did you get him to agree? I have so much anxiety because of his reaction when he gets pissed off he will be passively aggressive and be childish but I just can't bear to get any emotionally exhausting texts or to be with him in person We have been separated since September. Currently trying to write a short email to tell him I want to sign divorce papers
@ajeff6480
2 ай бұрын
@@tracyannaleclair9320 I think you are supposed to get yourself ready first before leaving or giving divorce papers. You have to be physically safe. It can't be like you are asking them. They will not agree. Your safety as you (and if applicable, your children) exit is paramount.
@tracyannaleclair9320
2 ай бұрын
@@ajeff6480 I told him I wanted to separate and I've been separated since September. We don't live together I got that part straight. She is very passive aggressive spiteful vengeful and he knows if it's his words that cause me the most upset. His dog died a month ago and our pets are like our children because I don't have any and his don't have anything to do with him. My heart broke for him I showed our love support and empathy forum and he just assumed that things are going to go back as if nothing happened. Fast forward I just need to end this because as long as I'm still married to him I'm going to be playing these mind games with myself and rehashing everything, it's not healthy. It'll go bad either way whether I do it in person or via email, the benefit to not doing it in person is I can avoid any sort of emotional manipulation. If I have the money I'd have a lawyer take care of all of it for me but I have to keep him calm and not get him too angry because if I do he'll purposely not sign the papers and make life miserable
@tracyannaleclair9320
2 ай бұрын
@@ajeff6480 This is my punishment/consequence of marrying him despite my second thoughts and doubts. I thought that since we were both believers and have the holy Spirit, while we would struggle we would persevere. But this isn't dealing with a regular person there is no having a relationship with them. I told him I felt like he used me and manipulated me into thinking he was somebody who wasn't so that I would marry him because he was scared and insecure since he was filing bankruptcy and losing everything his retirement from a failed business his house, everything. Excuse me for his own purpose. I just want this to be over already
@Done-737
2 ай бұрын
@@ajeff6480painful it's like being hoodwinked into marriage...I pray for ur freedom n peaceful life....
@timlewis7218
2 ай бұрын
Just tell them "no". Its hilarious to watch what happens.
@wb5408
2 ай бұрын
hilarious is not always the right term--the "punishment" for saying no, can be described in a lot of ways, but hilarious is really never one of them. My husband and I had to cut a Narcissist close relative out of our lives nearly 20 years ago, and we still "pay the price" for it. Most recently, my husband told her he didn't want her to come to the same church as we attend. She's never asked permission before and has never respected his wishes before and hasn't attended church in 20 years. Do you think she really wants to attend church? No. She just wants to manipulate us. And when he said no, the first thing she did was tell nearly everyone that attends our church that she would love to come, but we won't "let her." It just never ends.
@brendabadih8855
Ай бұрын
Only when a memory.
@timlewis7218
Ай бұрын
@@wb5408 who cares. Let her go. Actions speak louder than words and a congregation based on gossip ain't good
@Dulc3B00kbyBrant0n
Ай бұрын
or " wait"
@Hosanna.Rabonni
Ай бұрын
One of the worst narcissists I met was the pastor …. He finally gaslighted me during the sermon, aiming me in his two sermons and I don’t go there never again ever ever even God wanted me to stop going this church anymore finally. it was a long, very lonely, too painful fight to the point to suffer physically severely over years but followed Jesus. I will keep praying
@BlondPastelQueen
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for the video 💜I had to laugh out loud when you said that they say "God will bless me, not you". I litterally had a narcissistic woman in my church tell me: "God showed me that something's about to happen to me and you will be disappointed. Let's just keep it between us" A few years later she accused me of being a witch and I'm not the first one she has done that to 😳 You best believe I stay faaaar away from her
@katierucker2870
2 ай бұрын
What in the world?! She’s crazy.
@HeatherG-qg5px
Ай бұрын
@@BlondPastelQueen my father's second wife told me God listens to her.
@BlondPastelQueen
Ай бұрын
@@HeatherG-qg5px Yikes! 😮
@midnightcoffee6463
Ай бұрын
Thank God we're not living in the 1100s - she would have been really dangerous, tossing around witch accusations against people she doesnt like. (then again, maybe narcissists would do that back then?)
@spaideman7850
2 ай бұрын
After they went to church for decades, both my relative narcs are getting worse by the day. I told them, when you go to church listening to the Good news, it is like listening to Diet Doctor on how to slim down(or enter heaven), you have to literally go on diet/exercise and 'walk' what you had learned in church. You can't just listen to priest every Sunday but after church you are doing your nasty/vicious stuff again. you will forever not going to 'slim down'.
@demita840
22 күн бұрын
This is the first time I don't want to read the comments because she's so spot on
@SweepTheLeg2023
2 ай бұрын
😄 *My Family called me a Narcissist, I said "No I'm Better Than That!*
@tammymoore859
2 ай бұрын
I’m just so weary after almost 28 years of dealing with this. I’m so tired of the Bible being thrown in my face 😢
@karenmartin4221
2 ай бұрын
Why stay?
@Bea-bi6pu
2 ай бұрын
@@karenmartin4221 Agree. Get out as soon as possible. It will never make sense because they will just keep changing the "rules" and you'll never please them. Ever.
@tammymoore859
2 ай бұрын
@@karenmartin4221 I’ve always stayed for my children. Once they are all graduated, then I’m thinking I will leave. Unless a miracle happens, but I’ve been asking for one for 28 years now.
@jeffcastetter6122
2 ай бұрын
Scripture shouldn’t be used to bludgeon people
@bryguy8203
2 ай бұрын
Love gives lust takes.
@ErikaMatthieu-my4of
Ай бұрын
If you charging people of being narcissistic instead the spiritual reality, you probably have the problem of being a narcissist. We are called to apply the word of God on ourself and situations. In love❤
@benbrown411
2 ай бұрын
Following up on previous conversations. That is very insightful indeed. I couldn't put a finger on it until you said it. I would share something personal and difficult with her and she never checked in with me on these topics again. Major red flag. Thanks for validating that behaviour for us. 😊
@Guardyourheartaboveallelse
9 күн бұрын
Yess!! Or I have a friend who won’t even let me feel difficult emotions. Any time I share them, she’ll immediately “rebuke it in the name of Jesus”. Like girl, show some compassion or support first.
@user-io7kz4kv3z
2 ай бұрын
A Lot of Innocent, naiive, wellmeaning Christians are Taken In by Narcissistic, Controlling, Abusive Churches and Church Systems. Pray for Godly Wisdom and Highest Discernment , situations like what she describes explains Why Jesus said " be Wise as a Serpent ...." because Christians Need to Know How to Protect themselves and Loved Ones from Evil such as what she describes
@tracyannaleclair9320
2 ай бұрын
And the church doesn't help when they tell us to submit yield think more of the other than ourselves. That applies with regular people and not with people like this the best way to lie yourself to be abused for life
@rayhchc6451
Ай бұрын
There's no such thing as a Christian narcissist, neither an atheist narcissist nor a Muslim narcissist. A narcissist is a narcissist in the same way a thief is a thief and a murderer a murderer.
@judysowell290
2 ай бұрын
Actions over words - well done. This was helpful.
@todddanforth8853
2 ай бұрын
This also describes law enforcement. With a few notable exceptions, their motto is "rules for thee but not for me."
@GodIsLove1John416
Күн бұрын
I've learned that no one has truly cared or loved me but what they could get from me until I was dry & shriveled up before discarding me
@LadyBug31705
2 ай бұрын
Yes #2 definitely my mother in law, except for the confidence part. Also #4 & 5. She uses scripture and God to shame, blame and excuse bad behavior. With her you aren't allowed to have an independent thought or make decisions for your own life. She uses the family is everything and comes first card.
@robinredmon3804
2 ай бұрын
They never validate your feelings and experiences, but quickly tell you what the other persons reasoning could be. ex. They were having a bad day and didn't mean anything by it. Everyone experiences things differently. You never know where or what they might have went through today. This is done in the form of "I Care about You" "See. I am trying to show you that you are just over reacting. Then they change the subject to the weather or Themselves. Leaving you with wondering that You are the problem. You have anger issues, you don't care about others, you don't see the other's side of things. Which is Not true at all. If they validated your feelings first and said something like "Oh I know how you feel. That's terrible." before they went into how you might view the situation differently. It is all about them seeing how much they care about you and others. "See what a good person I am." Leaving you feeling empty.
@susiequsie1980
2 ай бұрын
Ahhhhh!!!!! This is my life. Its ALL TOO FAMILIAR! I feel like you're spying on me, like for all my life. Ive been surrounded by narcissistic and its exhausting and depressing. Thanks for the clarity. New subscriber!!!💓
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