If you find yourself in a relationship or friendship with a narcissist, run away and don't look back. They're monsters.
@mukhamasheleni566
7 ай бұрын
It's not that easy to determine a narcissist
@stanlee3619
7 ай бұрын
@@mukhamasheleni566 I know. Each time, I have been lured in, but after the first time, once I figured it out, I cut them off.
@Andy-uw9cg
7 ай бұрын
The term narcissist is thrown around far to casually these days) a true narcissist isn't that common.
@stanlee3619
7 ай бұрын
@@Andy-uw9cg I understand the difference between someone who occasionally displays occasional narcissistic behavior, and someone who would be diagnosed as a full blown narcissist by a mental health professional.
@onelifelived
7 ай бұрын
@@Andy-uw9cgSo true. Everyone calls everyone a narcissist. I'm assuming why this is such a click-baity clip.
@Feribrat99
6 ай бұрын
Dr. Romani is a real treasure and saved my butt from full blown depression over my situation at the time. I hit bottom and then I found her and she gave me names for what was going on and how it was a thing that had happened over a long time and No one actually knows it without someone else pointing it out to them. You cannot see it yourself from the inside of the box you find yourself in. It takes others to show the way out, look for those others and get free of it.
@jill3330
6 ай бұрын
My partner was wonderful for 5 years while we were dating- but he future faked marriage and a life together, and convinced me to move in. I gave up my home and catered to his every whim. That's when the devaluation began, oh so subtly and slowly. Death by 1000 cuts, but being an empath, those cuts hurt so deeply. I became confused, anxious, and spent so much time trying to understand why he acted the way he did- the ruminating thoughts Dr. Ramani mentions are so pervasive. When I tried to have serious conversations to address my concerns, he would respond with rage. I was punished, affection was withheld, and I was often given the silent treatment. I was so confused, and it affected my mental and physical health. After 2 years of the confusion, my fight or flight kicked in and I left, but it's taken a long time to feel a little more like me again. It's like waking up from a bad dream that felt so real.
@KARIN1980ification
3 ай бұрын
This could be my words 💯. Its brainwashing
@shukalope8743
7 ай бұрын
There's a narcissist, then theres a lot of people who just want to smear their partner with an ugly brush to avoid any true self analysis as well.
@Macgee826
6 ай бұрын
Mostly narcs though society is riddled with these scum!
@EllaCinder-lh4ro
6 ай бұрын
Naw not listening to in depth videos or reading books like this
@7marve
7 ай бұрын
That’s funny because people usually remember more of the bad stuff, not that one instance of good. It’s the reverse when involved with a narcissist.
@nataliaprodan9335
6 ай бұрын
The joke of narcissism
@drivethruabortion280
6 ай бұрын
Remember that day I didn't insult you!
@BruceKnapp-n4q
6 ай бұрын
It's crucial to appreciate the value of love, relationships, and family while we still have them. Reflecting on my own experiences, I regret not investing more time in my wife. Since she departed, I've been battling with depression daily. Despite pouring my heart out to her and demonstrating my love in every possible way, she remains steadfast in her decision to leave. This has left me feeling completely drained, unable to perform effectively at work. I'm consumed by frustration and despair, longing for her presence.
@BruceKnapp-n4q
6 ай бұрын
How do I go about meeting the counselor you've mentioned?
@BruceKnapp-n4q
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive
@BruceKnapp-n4q
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive
@christinebuckingham8369
6 ай бұрын
@SandraKacikovaThis sounds like a scam to me.
@Mackwiss
6 ай бұрын
2 years and a half since my partner left... moved countries with our cat got a new job, even bought a house on my own but it all still feels meaningless without her... Im seeing a therapist.
@kirstenshindler7767
6 ай бұрын
25 plus years… I didn’t know until I was discarded for another woman. I remember telling him he was a narcissist, but I really didn’t know what that meant. I then began researching … still wasn’t sure until I found covert narcissist.. passive aggressive and silent treatment were huge in our relationship. Never had an adult relationship where we discussed relationship issues. Almost like I was supposed to automatically know …
@mattymoi
7 ай бұрын
Uuurg those painful days and weeks of rumination while being punished by the silent treatment. I love Dr Ramani. Her channel has helped me so much.
@jasonwimberly5636
6 ай бұрын
The silent treatment is only a torture when you want something from them. The minute you wake up to the wonder of you and the truth of how awful they are and or were to you coupled with the awareness that 1.) They’re virtually incapable of change. 2.) They’re actually the opposite of anything you would ever want; well then, their silence becomes a gift!
@mattymoi
6 ай бұрын
@@jasonwimberly5636 Truth thanks. Angry with myself that it took me nearly 8 yrs to remove my rose coloured spectacles and move on. I always focused on all of the good stuff. It's hard to walk away from what you love, even if it is so bad for you.
@chantaltucker3219
6 ай бұрын
When you have endured many years of confusion, devaluing, with the very occasional sprinkle of love, kindness and warmth you are a wreck! I didn't recognise myself, I was depressed, suicidal, trauma bonded. I wanted to make sense of the chaos and cruelty. I was the person who wanted my partner to build the relationship with me. For it to be how it was in the beginning. 2 years no contact, today was the first time I understood. My reaching out, trying to save the relationship was fuel on another level for my ex narcissist boyfriend. The situation must have been sheer delight knowing how he could twist and drain every last drop of supply from me until nothing was left. Boom even more pleasure and supply for him. Narcissists are real and are the most evil, cruel people walking this earth. I would love to find a, way where society can recognise and protect from these behaviours. Educating is huge way forward thank you 🙏
@Lum333_m
6 ай бұрын
I agree!!
@mamav8791
6 ай бұрын
I have one sibling who's been diagnosed and one who hasn't. The one who is diagnosed is overtly narcissistic but was shocked and denied when diagnosed. The one that hasn't been diagnosed is covert and knows that there's something wrong with her and has spent her life trying to put a label on it. Her current self diagnosis is Autism. She uses it to shame people for having a problem with her bad behavior. She's a crazy maker and every relationship she gets in spirals out of control because she is manipulative, contoling, passive aggressive, and always the angelic victim. I've had to learn the hard way to stay away from them both because they are so incredibly destructive. My family could be a case study in narcissistic family dynamics.
@k.c.sunshine1934
7 ай бұрын
Congratulations are due to Dr. Ramani's progress at helping the public increase their awareness and knowledge of narcissistic characteristics. FYI, she has a new book out too.
@KelliBar
6 ай бұрын
I have found that narcissists are very polarizing. I either really like them or really dislike them, rarely is there a middle ground.
@ousamaabdu794
6 ай бұрын
What do you like about them? Genuinely curious
@Macgee826
6 ай бұрын
Would love to know the answer to that too
@Macgee826
6 ай бұрын
A likeable narcissist ,first I'm hearing of this
@yukio_saito
6 ай бұрын
3 Rs: 1. Rumination 2. Regret 3. Recall
@kerryharper5675
6 ай бұрын
One of the BEST videos out there! Especially when you fully understand that narcs all use the same 'textbook'. Thank you.
@christinaewert5120
7 ай бұрын
When I listen to this it feels that there are way too many narcissistic people out there. It almost feels when something is weird in a relationship there must be a narcissist involved. I am not sure but it does just not feel right…
@spaceagejava
6 ай бұрын
It's called confirmation bias and she certainly has it. In a another recent interview, she says that she sees narcissist everywhere. She cliams that she can point them out on the way they drive. I mean seriously, is this the way we expect a clinical pscyhologist to talk?
@krisleshiba3390
5 ай бұрын
There's a difference between a narcissist and someone who is just manipulative. All narcissist are manipulative but not all manipulators are narcissists
@deejac9065
7 күн бұрын
Narcissistic sounds very heavy, but everyone has some of it... Luckily! It's the same as fat; everyone needs some of it, but above a certain degree you are called fat. It's a grey scale imho
@SharaKennedy
7 ай бұрын
If you are with a narcissist, I hope you get out! Sending ❤️
@rawx485
7 ай бұрын
Try being raised by one....
@cawstongreenway
7 ай бұрын
I hear you...
@GoAsCloseAsYouCan
7 ай бұрын
In a way it’s quite lovely, they don’t call that often allowing you to be an adult.
@rawx485
7 ай бұрын
@@GoAsCloseAsYouCan I cut that cancer from my life 20 years ago. No contact.
@scottmilburn
7 ай бұрын
At 33, I've cut contact with my mum for three months now 😌
@GoAsCloseAsYouCan
7 ай бұрын
@@rawx485 You gotta reconnect for the free stuff. And if you never got that, then don’t. Could be dead after 20 tho.
@suzannemckenzie7035
6 ай бұрын
I find some of these things to be with dysfunctional and/or toxic people also.
@ellisburton8733
5 ай бұрын
The more charismatic, interesting, exciting a person is the more they are likely to be highly narcissistic and the more permanent the damage they are likely to do. Also before you work out if your partners one, look at your parents. If your a Narc magnet you are looking at build from basics or you're r just going around a hamster wheel. The biggest change will come when you go from being 'I'm not OK' , to ' I'm OK' and gently tly unravel your enmeshedments.... Remember to be gentle with yourself - you maybe breaking generational family patterns and that's 'big' stuff not a 5 min fix.
@SweepTheLeg2023
7 ай бұрын
😔 *My Woman just told me I’m a narcissist.* *I said, “No, I’m better than that.”*
@EllaCinder-lh4ro
6 ай бұрын
Why didn’t you just give her a baleful stare and refuse to speak to her ?
@rosemoore437
6 ай бұрын
I was with a narcissist for the last four years. On and off. Mostly on. I think he would cause problems often to break up for a short time to allow himself to cheat without technically cheating. There have been times where we were broken up for many months. I would block and delete. It’s now been about six months, and I feel much better, but I don’t know when I will stop ruminating and hurting about the loss of who I wanted him to be. He was dazzling in the beginning. I’ve been through hell trying to make it work. I know I’m not going back, but I’m not over it, and I don’t see me being able to care for another man.
@byronperry4273
6 ай бұрын
Give it time
@KJ-zt9ik
7 ай бұрын
Going through this right now. 3 years with my boyfriend. He's always giving me the silent treatment. Calling me vicious names and yelling and if I try to defend myself he says I'm being a bad person. If I say I feel bummed bc I don't make a lot of money he says that I'm blaming him and I never have. He's nice to our neighbors only so that he has something over them to use them for later. Then he will be nice to me for a bit and if I bring up something so kindly like saying hey we don't go out a lot , it can be free things let's do it. He blows up says I'm selfish and nothing is ever good enough and his ex gfs were better. I cry so much I don't even recognize myself. It's made me have panic attacks and I've never had them before in my life. Idk how to get out but hearing this interview has helped me see I'm not crazy. I wish I had a way to help further. I'm so lost 😢
@oyandakona5994
7 ай бұрын
DUMP
@kuyen218
7 ай бұрын
Big hug to you. I wasted my 3 years as well, and experienced the same things, not the yelling as we were in a long distance relationship, but I was lied to all the time, silent treatment, manipulation, I felt the sense of losing myself and my identity. I went no contact for a year now but sometimes I still feel the pain and the confusion. I believe that's the only thing I can do to heal and be myself tho. I wish you bravery to leave and take back your life.
@Wonderer888
7 ай бұрын
You don’t know how to get out? Why? Is it because of financial reasons or you’re just not willing to let go of being abused because that is better than being alone?
@KJ-zt9ik
7 ай бұрын
@kuyen218 thank you. I'm sorry to hear you're still battling the wounds from it. I hope the universe helps me out to get on my own. It's very hard when the person who says they love you, uses your weakness of poverty against you and treats you badly. He says oh I gave you money so you don't have a reason to be sad with me. It's his control. I'm so lost. I appreciate your comment. It means there is hope for me one day
@KJ-zt9ik
7 ай бұрын
@Wonderer888 I actually love him. And he has told me that no one will love me. That I have it good with him and everyone else is gross and trash. I'm very poor and don't have family so I don't have support to lean on. I hold on because I feel I've spent 3 years trying to prove I'm good enough and hope someday he will see it
@1timeslime971
6 ай бұрын
My mother was a ‘cold’ mom, just didn’t want to nurture her children. So I never got that attachment. My grandmother was great mentor as young as five. Dad ended up being dual personality switching between male/female personas, and my mother divorced him when I was just 7. I, of course didn’t know until @16, my mom literally kicked me out of the house and said “You’re gonna go live w/your freak father and see what I had to live with”. She didn’t gently explain to me how badly his trans lifestyle affected her, but she REALLY wanted me to suffer as she did. Then when I was 17, she married a man closer to my age than hers, packed up new hubby, house, and my 3siblings yet LEFT ME BEHIND. I HAD a childhood that COULD result in narcissism. I have. Sister who’s one yr younger….she’s a narc, I am not. I’m an HSP. didn’t learn I was HSP until I was 58……SUCH A HUGE relief to learn #1, I’m HSP AND THAT EXPLAINS so much of my behavior even as a young girl. I WASNT just rejected and abandoned by my MOM when she moved away, I was rejected by her at birth. My Aunt and grandmother were always there. But growing up AN HSP, I was rejected DAILY as my personality was greatly mis understood.
@lindavincent678
4 ай бұрын
24 years. Last 81/2 years of. Hyical, emotional, psychological, Neglect, verbal, Rested twice for Abuse. Dismissed lack of evidence. He looked at me and said “he said she said he had a lawyer. I was told I didn’t need one.
@Sundais4freelee
6 ай бұрын
Not even ten years . I would say Covid is when the world woke up to narcissism . And Dr. Ramani and Dr. Sam Vaknin helped sooooo many heal !❤
@UncompressedWAVmusic
6 ай бұрын
Yes the world woke up to narcissism when Mega Narcissist Donald Trump became President. He is one of the worst narcissists of all time. Always lies and cheats everyone except his family. Any US citizen that supports Trump needs help to end that destruction of people who fall under the deadly spell of a Narcissist.
@johannesswillery7855
6 ай бұрын
@@UncompressedWAVmusic TDS.
@MarjyGTV
6 ай бұрын
100% truth
@ericb8413
6 ай бұрын
And Dr Les Carter🎉
@UncompressedWAVmusic
6 ай бұрын
@@johannesswillery7855 If you think that it is good for the US for your supporting and voting for a presidential candidate that is already a convicted rapist and fraudster, and sold Top Secret US government documents to America's enemies and being charged with 91 criminal felonies and and knows as an insurrectionist is a good presidential candidate than you have "insanity for standing behind that traitor who wants to destroy the US then you are a traitor too. So both you and Trump can go rot in jail where you belong.
@monikakudelska203
7 ай бұрын
She is the best
@ionutboss1266
6 ай бұрын
11:58 empathy vs social perspectiveness
@AyshaKarim-f3b
7 ай бұрын
I left mine 2 kids home and hes still only concerned about himself aw man i wont look back My identity was my trap. I found the way out threw the superconcious method. This revelation can do what takes therapy years in just 15 minutes we call it the rapid recode.
@rushiaskinnerwallace6175
6 ай бұрын
8:51 - 12:25 While not exactly fun to look at or acknowledge fully, it’s so important to.
@michellechristineday
6 ай бұрын
I have seen levels of narcissism change partially or completely in all age groups with Neurofeedback therapy. But this is much more likely to happen in children because their brains are still developing and they are still in the phase of their lives where learning to do better and changing is a given.
@MrMichaelmoonchild
6 ай бұрын
she's great at this, i love her.
@claritybadb
6 ай бұрын
I respect tf out of your opinion, and this one in particular. I was 13 in 93, and I LOVED how Kurt challenged what it was to be seen as a man in the 90s. I had such strong opinions about lily's words and you put much of them in this video. Thank you so much for speaking out about this topic. I can't believe she was so dismissive of his memory and not to mention his loved ones left behind! Perhaps they knew Kurt better than she did?? Hello? I'm fine with respectful discourse but she just said "here's evidence". Period. No, girl. That's not how speculation works; also, he was most likely bisexual and making efforts to break the binary.
@DavidMlynski
7 ай бұрын
This describes the situation with my ex perfectly!!! 😆 Thank you for the video! 🙏😎
@drlarrymitchell
6 ай бұрын
"You can charm the birds out of the sky But I, I've got one thing You always know just what to say and when to go But I've got one thing You can see in the dark But I've got one thing: I loved you better" -Laurie Anderson, 'Gravity's Angel'
@adriansmart-morraes380
6 ай бұрын
Very good interview. Thanks Steven.
@specialtwice4975
6 ай бұрын
I wasn't a narcissist before, I was an empath, or "hyper sensitive", whatever you wanna call it. Then I met a psychopath, and welp, basically got duped and left a husk of myself. Now it's 5 years later and I feel like I have turned into a narcissist. I feel so much anger, rage, and sometimes even jealousy, etc. I don't act on bad like a narcissist but I think "should I unplug that person's computer?" or "should I cancel this plan last minute and make them wait?" I don't act on it but I think such. Also, my healthy family, who knows nothing about cluster b, at all, say "Why have you changed? What's wrong with you now? Your behavior used to be so good and nice and now you aren't like that? Why? What's wrong with you?" They now either avoid me or want to avoid me because they are the healthy type and see me as negative. I'm not sure what to do, I tried to therapy for a year, I now go to church... Nothing seems to fix things. I need advice.
@rosemoore437
6 ай бұрын
I relate to this. I feel changed and angry and vengeful. I never felt that way before. He’s out of my life now, and I don’t feel vengeful to others, but I’m irritable with my family and startled easily. I’m more selfish now.
@specialtwice4975
6 ай бұрын
Exactly. 100%
@fluffaduck6206
4 ай бұрын
Im sorry. Im also very sensitive and super empathetic, I met a narcissist and was conscious of it the whole time. Until I rejected her - after she well seduced me - and then lied, blamed me for everything. Its the worst feeling when nobody believes you even though you’ve done nothing wrong and they have only hurt you. It sounds arrogant to say “i did nothing wrong”, I did do things wrong its just so minor and I corrected myself instantly and never repeated the mistake. The worst is that I just wanted to be her friend but now Im thinking there was no point of thet either. Now everyone around her loves her.
@EdelweisSusie
6 ай бұрын
So how does one know whether their partner is a Narcissist who doesn't make digs at you per se, or is just an egotistical and selfish person?
@Thatone_Dude21
7 ай бұрын
Great video,thank you
7 ай бұрын
I don't know who 90% of the gests are. I come for the interviewer, for the curator. The bigger the channel gets, or the smaller, it does not matter.
@piqueny8872
6 ай бұрын
Why are there so many narcissistic?! Makes a person wanna be forever alone! Give ur valueless time to end up broken
@davidalanbinder4238
6 ай бұрын
the book MIND GAMES The Dual Facets of Manipulation and Dark Psychology
@JennaRoss789
6 ай бұрын
I wish more of the conversation included the fact, that those that are in relationship with a narcissist are just as unhealthy. More often than not, there are high levels of codependency. (We match with partners at the same level of health). I grew up in this dynamic with my parents. I thought my dad was the “saint” in comparison to my mother. Now I know that wasn’t the case, whatsoever. My dad was just as sick. He blamed her, instead of getting help - just like these narcissistically-focused content.
@bethpage6696
4 ай бұрын
I grew up like this too. I thought my Mother was crazy because she would go into this rage I didn't understand. My Dad was /is very low spoken calm or appears calm. It wasn't until my Dad was single and I began to act like my Mother and thought I was insane. It took years of therapy to realize my Saint of a Father was not a Saint.
@GospelSaved316
6 ай бұрын
There is a Video Channel on KZitem with a guy named Lee Hammock who has been diagnosed with N.P.D. and he gets paid to tell the secrets of what a Narcissist does to others. His videos are fascinating and educating.
@Trollika_Devi
6 ай бұрын
I sometimes wonder if he's lying about the diagnosis. Somebody with NPD is not going to have such insight on the issue because to have it you need a hell lot of self reflection. I think he's just faking the disorder because that's the only way to have enough credibility to make money on KZitem talking abt this if you're not a mental health professional.
@Trollika_Devi
6 ай бұрын
There's another guy whose name I don't remember. American from Arizona or a neighbouring state. Wears aviators in all his videos. Claims to be a narc and is now an 'expert' on it but his diagnosis is from a counsellor who is not qualified to make one.
@iamaworthlesscripple
3 ай бұрын
I'm pretty sure i'm a narcissist because I have to literally get on my hands and knees begging and screaming for my "mother" to get out of my house after she's refused to stop prodding me in the ways I told her to stop. otherwise, why woud she keep demanding I respect her after she does this to me?
@justjosie8963
6 ай бұрын
Since so many people prefer narcissist over an honest, good natured, empathetic and generous person, sometimes it makes me want to be a narcissist when I grow up.
@heidikeller50
6 ай бұрын
I'm so naturally bad at psychology that it is sometimes hard to tell whether I'm being selfish or it's the other person. How do we know if we are seeing or projecting??!! (Science, I'm pretty good at tho as a disclaimer 😊)
@iriri71
6 ай бұрын
Perfect resume ❤
@Gumbo_Calm
7 ай бұрын
She lacks self awareness... Nice work
@nichobee
7 ай бұрын
She's a narcissist herself and it's quite obvious
@poshthug6992
6 ай бұрын
I get called a narcissist, probably twice a week and also sent Memes and videos like the one I’m watching now. I would like to know though, is there any help for a narcissist? What can they do to better they condition or should I say I 😊
@Trollika_Devi
6 ай бұрын
Narcissists don't ask the question you just asked. There's your clue. Now you may have acquired some / a couple of narcissistic traits over time due to whatever reason ,most likely exposure to trauma or stress . These manifest as a result of the aforementioned stress as a survival mechanism. You obviously have to fix this behaviour if you're indulging in it but most importantly you have to wonder if you've been exposed to narcissistic abuse in your early life. That being said it's also possible you're just somebody who is low on self awareness so you end up doing things unintentionally that come off as narcissistic to others. But trust me , real narcs DONT respond well to these memes. They get their hackles up and attack those who pointed it out.
@jonathanwarren9505
7 ай бұрын
Is this narcissism? It sounds like something else, It's not the story of Narcissus.
@ADHD_zen
6 ай бұрын
As much as I like Dr. Ramani, I think her statement that people cannot change is extremely harmful.
@Trollika_Devi
6 ай бұрын
In the case of narcissists ,well most narcissists she's unfortunately right . They don't change. They just don't.
@jonadams2334
6 ай бұрын
How so?
@TeresaDeM
6 ай бұрын
I literally said that to my therapist 😂
@TeresaDeM
6 ай бұрын
Am I the one
@audreyheart2180
4 ай бұрын
Serve the LORD with fear, and rejoice with trembling. Kiss the Son, lest the LORD be angry and you perish in your rebellion, when His wrath ignites in an instant. Blessed are all who take refuge in Him. -Psalm 2:11-12 Yet I have left me seven thousand in Israel, all the knees which have not bowed unto Baal, and every mouth which hath not kissed him. -1 Kings 19:18
@lisao6928
14 күн бұрын
This term is way overused now.
@Vitriol-Divergent
6 ай бұрын
The big thing I figured out about a girlfriend who eventually revealed herself to be a narcissist was that she would always talk about empathy. But it was ALWAYS with the context that I (or someone else) NEVER gave HER empathy. That was the only way she could understand how empathy worked, as a resource she could use for herself.
@A_n_y_t_i_m_e
6 ай бұрын
So called "empaths" (no such thing btw, not a clinical entity, just made up nonsense) are covert narcissists.
@shanehester5317
6 ай бұрын
im 56 years old.ive never met a narcist that i hung out with for a little while that i didnt know was one.i cant believe im just that much smarter than anyone else.why dont people just be honest and say i knew it but did it any way for pete sakes.
@user-yv8kd2jo2x
6 ай бұрын
Everyone has narcissistic traits.
@Macgee826
6 ай бұрын
Some more than others
@delfacto121
7 ай бұрын
Narcissism is socially desirable because it exist extending constantly. This show the problem lies in organisation of this society which almost always create desired results. You dont like narcissism change the rules and habits and narcissists will die out.
@lotti9576
6 ай бұрын
Micro changes... No they do that when they realise you have seen through them. They attempt to get you back on the hook. They don't change it's a game to them and you the looser.
@ajcics
6 ай бұрын
Please put on your running shoes and get to the point
@onelifelived
7 ай бұрын
Her statments seem pretty sweeping tbh. So if people are attractive and charming and look after themselves, thats a red flag to being a Narcissist? Lol what? 😂
@saintjabroni
7 ай бұрын
Obviously you must be new to this subject matter? That’s not even a quarter of how the doctor outlined the more outward variety narcissist.
@onelifelived
7 ай бұрын
Why would you make such an assumption? I found her statements sweeping and non-specific and used that particular example to illustrate that.@@saintjabroni
@kaoshi_kutie
6 ай бұрын
@@onelifelivedthat’s not what she was she was saying 🤦🏽♀️ have you watched the video in its entirety?! Doesn’t sound like it. Typically Narcissistic people are very charming and very appearance focused . It goes beyond vanity and just ‘looking after yourself’ . That’s how they deceive people as they tend to be this way , as well as Charismatic, confident ect . I suggest checking out her other videos ❤
@onelifelived
6 ай бұрын
@@kaoshi_kutie I'll never understand why people like you and the other commenter make out as if I'm wrong or mistaken for saying what I said, and then elevate yourself by making assumptions that you somehow know better. I watched the exact same video you watched. In its entirety. If I have to go and watch other videos of hers in order to understand this one, then wouldn't you say my point stands?
@elipotter369
6 ай бұрын
@@onelifelivedit's hard to specify with one thing when someone has a dysfunction that will harm you. It tends to be many things and it sometimes takes time to see it. Yes, this is just one interview. I had a very well presented friend before I knew about narcissism - and after staying with her, she was so awful I had to drop the friendship completely. I found out later she was a text book narcissist- ticked all the boxes. One thing she said that was really inappropriate was when I asked her if my outfit was good enough for the restaurant, she said yes. I was still doubtful and said: "but you're better dressed'. To which she said: "yes, but I'm always the best dressed anywhere I go"!!!
@GoAsCloseAsYouCan
7 ай бұрын
Making narcs more self aware? Check. Btw, you have a better chance of dating a loser than a narc. Way more of losers than narcs.
@saintjabroni
7 ай бұрын
Forget the ratios. A “loser” isn’t going to ruin your mental health the way a narcissist can. In the scenario of a close friendship/relationship. People with NPD or high narcissistic traits are losers of the highest order. It’s only the sad reality. They deserve pity. That’s really about it.
@GoAsCloseAsYouCan
7 ай бұрын
@@saintjabroni The only true narcs are as rare to find as self-made millionaires. That’s how few there are. When I say loser, I’m implying they are individuals that aren’t working to the best of their abilities. “To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift.” - Steve Prefontaine. Find someone that has goals, don’t settle.
@x_DarlingNikki_x
6 ай бұрын
@GetAsCloseAsYouCan Where did you get those statistics from, can you provide proof otherwise youre decieving people. The figure is more like 3 in 10 because Narcissism is measured on a spectrum.
@saintjabroni
6 ай бұрын
@@GoAsCloseAsYouCan “true narcs” RE: That’s truly a relative and rather insignificant matter as the abuse from a narcissistic* person (whether just barely diagnosable as NPD or not) is potentially life-altering for the person on the receiving end. You can take a person with BPD who has high narcissism and abusing someone in one scenario (say, an intimate relationship) and be unable to distinguish such vile conduct to a covert narcissist.
@GoAsCloseAsYouCan
6 ай бұрын
@@saintjabroni I met someone this weekend with BPD. It’s obvious when someone is that loonie tunes.
@A_n_y_t_i_m_e
6 ай бұрын
For profound insight and real knowledge on this subject, get prof. Sam Vaknin, not this half baked self styled mainstream "expert".
@damienhunt4264
6 ай бұрын
One massive red flag is that they are on KZitem making videos about narcissism.
@IkesBurner
6 ай бұрын
She’s a narcissist
@562mjohnson
7 ай бұрын
I've watched many of her videos. She's starting to get a little out of hand. Everyone on earth is far from perfect. Not one is good. Stop comparing yourselves to others and compare yourselves to perfection and you'll be humbled.
@kaoshi_kutie
6 ай бұрын
You have completely missed the point of what she does. Many people are suffering at the hands of these abusive characters and she is helping spread awareness . A lot of people don’t have the knowledge or understanding of this. Clearly you have not encountered a Narcissist .
@Macgee826
6 ай бұрын
@@kaoshi_kutieor maybe he or she is one 😂
@nichobee
7 ай бұрын
This woman is a narcissist who plagiarises off HG Tudor
@Wonderer888
7 ай бұрын
So a psychologist who has spent years treating & learning about the topic is plagiarising from a diagnosed self proclaimed Narc? 😂 interesting perspective
@crumpetclaire9690
7 ай бұрын
HG Tudor gets his narcissistic supply from 'exposing' celebrities and Royalty this women is championing the seriousness for the victims. Check her TED talk. She's amazing. HG Tudor is not.
@em945
7 ай бұрын
He is sooooo creepy. Run. He is making $$$ charming the same way he always did.
@nichobee
6 ай бұрын
@@Wonderer888 yes you fool. She might be a psychologist but she's also a grifter who steals ideas. The 1 in 6 estimation is blatant plagiarism, unless you can find me other evidence for it. Good luck kiddo.
@nichobee
6 ай бұрын
@@em945 he already makes enough money. Funny that you call HG a grifter without bothering to see through this woman. The only difference between them is that HG knows what he is, and she doesn't know what she is. She's absent behind the eyes like all narcs...pay closer attention
@stevewitwicki1854
5 ай бұрын
She’s such a narc, look at those eyes. Someone needs to interview her ex husband!
@drivethruabortion280
6 ай бұрын
I was bit by a narcissist, now I'm one.
@providence9481
6 ай бұрын
Describes my last relationship to the TEE!
@vivians8862
7 ай бұрын
Its serendipitous that i came across this video because i literally came to realize 2 wks ago (after 25+ yrs of marriage) that my partner is narcissistic. Yes, i've heard the term, but did not put 2 and 2 together that this is his behavior. He would give me rules to go by, but he was always allowed to change/break his own rules. If i asked a question and he didnt like my tone, he would a) angrily respond back and b) tell me 'next time you need to ask me this way' (no, i don't). I've learned over time to rely less and less on him emotionally and be happy with my friends and family. I've also been pushing back and called him out on his shit. Sometimes he acknowledges it, sometimes he doesn't.
@janetpayne4078
6 ай бұрын
Took me 41yrs to wake up to reality that I've been gaslight my whole married life it all broke me and I had to go from my home to help from women's services to prove I was not insane 😔💜 my goodness he stole my life 😢 but I'm getting stronger every day free 12mths now but he is getting weaker every day all so sad but true inner peace is priceless 💝
@jasonwimberly5636
6 ай бұрын
Wow! You must really love this person! I watched an uncle stay married to one for 50 years, and she was GODDDDD AWFUL, in every way imaginable. All I could think is not would you want to live with someone like that, but would you wanna die with someone like that. I mean from the moment we are born we are dying.
@vivians8862
6 ай бұрын
@jasonwimberly5636 No, I don't think I really love this person anymore. We co-exist. We still go to family events and visit the kids, but we essentially have separate lives. Over time, I've grown a backbone and pushed back. I think its due to fear of change that I haven't moved on from the relationship.
@Feribrat99
6 ай бұрын
@@vivians8862 I am in the same thing that you are. Mine is more of a enabler and would make a great flying monkey, No violence or I would have been gone very early on, I am not stupid. coverts are in so many different degrees that it seems normal if you were raised by another one... 4 sure. It is livable and disappointing until you learn the fact that NO Expectations at all is the way to be. Finances is the end game at some point and yep it sucks. at 68 I am NOT going out and rebuilding a new shiny life and trashing all the work I did in the rest of my life. Right now He is JUST a Speed bump I avoid engaging with other than on a surface level. Life is still good and I am in no danger at all. yep it sucks but it works. NO Love but he is an acquaintance at best.
@vivians8862
6 ай бұрын
@Feribrat99 Agreed, bar is set very low in terms of expectations; therefore, I won't set myself for disappointment. Whenever he comments/criticizes me or life in general, all I do is roll my eyes and think to myself...'whatever'.
@zer.o
6 ай бұрын
I wonder how many people are narcissistic and then in turn hate this Dr and come to her videos to comment that what she is saying is bullcrap
@Wherethereisnodarkness
6 ай бұрын
Similarly, how many empaths don't realise that they themselves are narcissists too? Especially the ones that constantly have to say how empathic they are lol
@Macgee826
6 ай бұрын
Totally agree no doubt they ll be on here trying to downplay how common they are 😂
@gregcsefko
6 ай бұрын
1 in 6! That’s a crazy stat! A huge number of us are narcissistic! I probably am based on what she’s said.
@krisleshiba3390
5 ай бұрын
I have this other lecturer at school who uses sarcasm to demean me. I used to overlook it and laugh it off. 2months ago i had an asthma attack and couldn't go to school so I sent a message to the class whatsapp group informing her and my classmates that i wont be able to come because I wasn't sure if she was going to see a private message (she never responds to my private messages). I came the following day still under asthma attack and she was harsh to me, saying i should complete 12hrs of work under 6hrs but she didn't give the same instructions to the others who were absent with me. Throughout that day she and another lecturer would pass remarks at me. I couldn't go for lunch coz I wanted to finish and submit her work. At the end of that i couldn't completely breath. I had to rush to the hospital after school and was pit under an inhaler and given sick leave. My health was bad and she didn't care
@maartjegoede9330
6 ай бұрын
My father is the worst person i'll probably ever know, but people need to understand they know people like that without really knowing them... Or theyre in a relationship with them and you have fun and good times so they cant be a narc, right? You have to be a detective catches most of them because they dupe people like no other.
@ethanjoyce_
21 күн бұрын
🤍❤️🩹🙏🏼❤️🔥👑🐐
@spectershore4482
6 ай бұрын
Owner of the show :"who are attracted by a narcissist ?" Dr. Romani :"Everyone is interesting by narcissist person! They are charming people. Who's not interesting by a charming person 😆". Me :"😡😡😡😤😤"
@andron967
6 ай бұрын
Test #1. Do I want to get my hands around their necks. Test #2 . If they aren't blue, they must have passed test #1. LOL.
@sharankinakin2264
6 ай бұрын
NO, I’m not in any way shape or form attracted to a narcissist. I have a acutely sense of caracter
@oliviahooper4503
7 ай бұрын
I have stopped watching DOAC it has become too predictable this is the first one I've watched in a while and have to say I didn't enjoy it like I used to. Maybe I've watched too many episodes I don't know but think things need to switch up a bit
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