If you don’t try again with your ex because you are afraid of repeating the same patterns with them you could repeat the same patterns with a new relationship. Then you break up with them then find someone new and breakup again. There is no guarantee the next relationship is better. People say but you broke up for a reason - yes you did but giving your exe another try means you know their patterns well and your patterns within the relationship. If you both choose to do the work it may be better than starting over with someone else. No one is perfect. A revolving door of new relationships could happen when you start dating. If you and your exe give it all you got- it’s better to give the one you love another try. My two cents
@MegaCheese48
Жыл бұрын
I feel so seen and understood. Thank you for putting this up. I've been hurting deeply the past few days because I found out my ex is seeing someone else. I needed this.
@Merenguito93
Жыл бұрын
Please make a video for the AP when their Fearful Avoidant ex gets into a rebound and they are moving fast in the relationship
@caramel0sugar
Жыл бұрын
I so need this, my ex asked to meet me to talk, after 6 months, to tell. Me he loves me and thinks I'm his soul mate, he wants me to wait for him because he is still working on himself and not in a capacity to be in a relationship.... And moments later while he is paying the restaurant bill his phone lights up with a message and it's his new girlfriend who litteraly write her message "hello sweetheart" I know what he went through and I actually know his feelings for me are real but this is a whole other level of f@#ed up I can't believe he would do this to me
@psycho_sloth
7 ай бұрын
Same here
@grossliz1995
Жыл бұрын
Take it from me, don't get into the habit of checking the new person's page. I've been checking for about a year now and this is my sign to STOP.
@eggs3015
Жыл бұрын
Thais this is so spot on. This morning I was lurking on my ex’s social media. I’m not 100% sure if he’s seeing someone, but I did notice he was liking another girls pictures on Instagram. I started comparing myself & felt sad. I know (logically) it’s unlikely they are dating because she lives across the country now (they knew each other in high school), but it still hurts to see. I’m trying to be mindful and intensional and catch myself from looking at his social media.
@dotfive5six477
Жыл бұрын
Hey Thais thanks for all you do, can you do a video on Fa affairs please ? And maybe one about reaching out to reconcile with a Fa ex after a long no contact period ? Like a year. Thanks !
@Mermaid03_03
Жыл бұрын
So true. I'm focusing my energy on a new business and it's really helping.
@lifecoachingtoronto
Жыл бұрын
I believe almost everybody would benefit from SELF-COMPASSION. No need to beat yourself up. It's all ok :)
@lmart16
Жыл бұрын
@Thais When you say NC, would you suggest cutting off ALL forms of contact? Like, social media follows, too? I have found different things from various sources on cutting people off cold. There's no talking... and there's cutting them off completely. Esp if they're DA. For FAs, we are all like, BLOCK! except for that ONE BACK DOOR left open.. JUST in case lolz.
@sherriflemming3218
Жыл бұрын
An ex is an ex for valid reasons. It's healthy to move on. Your life is not their business and vice versa. The relationship is broken. Accepting ownership is emotional maturity.
@daviacasillas8373
Жыл бұрын
Just took your quiz and found out I’m primarily fearful avoidant and now I’m trying to figure out the first step to get better/healthy. This is gunna be a shit ton of work…🤦🏻♀️
@1224polo
4 күн бұрын
Avoidants can only feel safe with toxic partners and have relationship with them. And they reject good, loving, caring, faithfull, loyal, warm partners
@MZSINCE89
Жыл бұрын
Can you do one of these for the AP. 🙏
@michellealexandrajap1151
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Thais for this video!
@michaelyarmas4423
Жыл бұрын
So a FA should go No contact... most likely has a AP ex so you are telling her to destroy her ex... thanks Thais... go NC but explain why then go NC!!! as a AP my FA went NC and destroyed me...
@SinisterPasty
Жыл бұрын
Pretty sure the going no contact advice is specifically aimed at FAs whose ex is rebounding, as the title suggests. No matter what your attachment style is, if your ex is screwing someone else, no contact is pretty standard advice.
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