I feel this as a high masking dude who was missed till 35. I didn’t figure it out until I had started treating ADHD, and had 3 year long mental health crisis. Honestly if it wasn’t for female ASD creators on here I may still be lost. Keep up the good work!
@NeurodiverJENNt
11 ай бұрын
I've heard a lot of men saying this exact same thing. I think there is a lot of cross over with "higher functioning" males masking and experiencing a lot of the same issues because of it.
@nivoset
11 ай бұрын
I honestly never ever thought about asd until i saw the female presenting traits myself. It is good to get this out. One day i will have to probably go more toward this. But for now it helped me with some tools
@aonain09
11 ай бұрын
Same
@Creationweek
3 ай бұрын
Literally the same.
@kathryncollins8708
9 ай бұрын
I had suicidal ideation from the late 70's until a few months ago after I diagnosed myself. (I began by thinking I was an HSP in 2004 and it went on from there)
@BuckeBoo
9 ай бұрын
I agree with you and it is closer to 1:1. Hell, the medical discipline still struggles with misogyny so it makes sense that bias adversely impacts the diagnostic tools leading to fewer females diagnosed.
@chibinyra
10 ай бұрын
AuDHD Age 5 boy in 1989 DSM-IIIR only allowed ADHD or ASD and I got ADHD, which lucky, because I got Ritalin not ABA Shocks... joy... By Grade 5, I had "managed" my ADHD to get off meds and go to an NT school. Getting back on ADHD Meds (Strattera) in 2022, I realized I probably had ASD symptoms lurking behind the ADHD and pursued and received a positive ASD diagnosis (Yay!) Looking back, with a socialite mother, being Trans/NB, and what we would now call "Gifted Child." It appears to me that I just learned to use the ASD to mask the ADHD and by grade 5, and trying to emulate my socialite Mother, my "Female Phenotype" Mask was overpowered. I never needed any ADHD accommodation until I lucked into a perfectly ADHD/ASD accommodated situation -- with the help of COVID -- still struggled, and the meds pulled away ASD's "job" of masking ADHD. Kinda weird that the "Female Phenotype" of Autism was a super early indicator of possible trans-ness as I tried to follow the "girl path" rather than the "boy path." If I had "male phenotype" the ASD/Asperger's might have been dominant to little boy me rather than the ADHD. Life is weird but my "best life" is now, touching 40, rather than back in high school like the NTs my age keep trying to replicate, at work, in HOAs, or just being a Karen.
@brianmeen2158
Жыл бұрын
This is great ! Btw you should think about doing a video about autism and relationships - this is one of the more confusing areas for me as it seems so foreign yet everyone seems to live for them ..
@NeurodiverJENNt
Жыл бұрын
That's a great idea thank you! Do you think I should cover platonic relationships (friendships) or spouse/partner relationships? Or just all the relationships 🤣
@brianmeen2158
Жыл бұрын
Hello there! I’d love it if you would mostly cover spouse/partner relationships and then casual friendships if you have the time. I find these to be so strange and frustrating and they don’t get easier with time. So yes, please cover this in a future video 😊 thanks! Btw do you enjoy socializing? Is it something you seek out?
@NeurodiverJENNt
Жыл бұрын
@@brianmeen2158 I *usually* enjoy socializing after the fact because of the desired human connection piece we all need and desire... but I never seek it out. It almost always drains my spoons but depending on the situation it can leave me in the self esteem negative. Thank you for the request! I do have a video filmed of an interview with my spouse so stay tuned... but please know we all struggle in different ways with relationships ❤️
@turtleanton6539
8 ай бұрын
Yes indeed😊
@spookycellist
Жыл бұрын
So important and helpful. Thank you
@crusoebower3391
10 ай бұрын
Do you have something wrong with you?
@chibinyra
10 ай бұрын
Nope, just something wrong with society and their drive to attack everyone to force them back in line.
@meanasspenguin
11 ай бұрын
Great analysis, thank you! (Also great necklace, I can appreciate the tie-in).
@NeurodiverJENNt
11 ай бұрын
Thank you! And you're the first person to comment on the necklace! I bought it a few months ago and it's very special to me. PS hilarious user name 🤣 I love it
@minkwells8434
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Jenn for raising awareness 💚
@duikmans
Жыл бұрын
If only the scientific world had heard of Sukhareva in the 30's...
@NeurodiverJENNt
Жыл бұрын
I will have to research this. Thank you for sharing.
@duikmans
Жыл бұрын
@@NeurodiverJENNt She was 70 years ahead of her time in the diagnosis of autism and how to provide for accommodations. If ever there is someone who deserves a belated Noble prize it's her (next to Rosalind Franklin, that is).
@Person-ef4xj
9 ай бұрын
I interacted with other children, engaged in pretend play, and made eye contact in early childhood, but I was still diagnosed with Autism in early childhood, partly because I was observed observing other children and copying what they did. I did have a bit of a speech delay although it's more in terms of talking less than other toddlers than in terms of being completely non verbal. I think defining neurodiverse diagnoses in terms of behavior is also problematic even when a diagnosis does happen as they don't really explain why the behaviors happen and have the potential to separate people who have similar brains but different behaviors or lump people with similar outward behaviors but very different reasons for those similar behaviors together.
@carlawilson2931
Жыл бұрын
I wonder a lot if I have autism. I'm 23. I have 2 siblings, both of which have autism. My older sister has what has been described as "high" functioning and got diagnosed late. My younger brother has what is being described as "low" functioning. I tend to stuggle so much with social interactions and communication but only recently has it appeared more blatant when I started work about a year ago. (I think it's because I had more opportunities to avoid socialising previously). I often feel like I'm seriously masking. I often find myself overly mentally analysing the flow of conversations and the pattern and way in which people converse, talk and communicate to try and replicate it so people don't notice my perceived deficit. I'm always constantly racking my brain to try and think about how to say things, the right time to talk, when to give imput, when to stop talking etc all whilst simultaneously being worried about what I have said previously and how came across that it can appear awkward a lot of the time. I feel like I'm constantly trying to mimic the flow of conversations and what people say and I can get flustered a lot especially when I feel like my interactions have been perceived as awkward. I also find it very difficult to articulate my feelings, thoughts and emotions sufficiently. There are these rare days, however, where it goes so well, but most days where I struggle to express myself. I also often find myself struggling to fully understand what people are trying to get across in conversations mostly when there are numerous social cues involved (for instance, intonation or tone on words used, a giggle, or indirectly saying what they want to get across). I tend to be severely quiet, especially in more unfamiliar situations, because I'm scared about how people may percieve me and my communication abilities. Everytime the time arises for me to speak I feel so much pressure in what I say and I'll spend such a long time going over the interactions in my head and overanalyzing how people perceived me. It's so tiring. Being bullied didn't help either. It caused me to be very socially anxious to the point where every time I hear someone whispering in a conversation or laughing, I automatically yet unintentionally try to tune in to what they're saying because I worried they are making fun of poor attempt at trying to communicate with them. I know social anxiety has been mingled in there somewhere but there are also things in which it can't explain and I've been struggling for quite a while now.
@NeurodiverJENNt
Жыл бұрын
I obviously can't say if you have autism or not, but these are all common traits of autism. Combined with your family diagnosis patterns, I would venture to say it would be highly worth getting an evaluation if that would be helpful to you. I too was bullied, struggle with trying to communicate my thoughts and ideas, mimicking conversation style, overthinking interactions, difficulty articulating my feelings... etc. I'm sorry for your struggles. You are not alone.
@carlawilson2931
Жыл бұрын
@NeurodiverJENNt Thank you so much telling I'm not alone. I'm literally sobbing. I have seriously been feeling so alone and it feels like people don't understand and can't relate but this has made me feel better. I could just tell somethings a little different in the way I interact with others but could never put my finger on it. It feels even worse that I feel like I can't sufficiently explain my feelings to others. I have gone for a diagnosis test before and they didn't diagnose me but I wonder if it might be because of how the symptoms present differently in females
@NeurodiverJENNt
Жыл бұрын
@@carlawilson2931 you DEFINITELY aren't alone. If I were a betting woman, I would put money on that professional getting it wrong. Unfortunately that happens a lot. Honestly I'm surprised. Even if they weren't that knowledgeable about it, your family history alone should have given them pause
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