The way Adeola is breaking down this whole issue is incredible!
@tomgel6274
2 жыл бұрын
She is good at what she is doing. She makes me love watching news. Weldon Adeola
@executivprincess
2 жыл бұрын
Dr Aggrey made this profound statement- 'If you educate a man, you educate an individual but if you educate a woman you educate a whole nation' We need to educate all our women so that they can pass on the knowledge to their children. Until then, the status quo will be perpetuated. I really love this video and what it represents.
@chinwendukweli3081
2 жыл бұрын
This is true even if she get married she will always look out for her family first (parents and siblings)
@iamkhadijah9294
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a Aa was Married to a Nigerian Muslim yourba man and he honestly looked at me as a house help.. his mind frame was if my mom struggled you can struggle to like sr I work and pay bills what makes you think i should be the only one cleaning and cooking and he would tell me that’s how things are in Nigeria I sent him packing women are just as amazing as men im happier without that madness we have a son together and i raise him to know how to cook and clean… My heart goes out to my Nigerian sister you ladies have suffered and i pray it ends you women are powerful and are capable of being soo much more than just being a wife or mother I love you all and wish y’all the best
@funmilayodaodu204
2 жыл бұрын
If u talk, ure told u don't want your marriage to last, feminism is a sin and means u want to be equal wt your husband which is also a sin. You're told Marriages don't last again because new generation of women are not submissive🙄. And if u want more than being a househelp, the men start having issues and u never seem to do anything right.
@celiaodibo342
2 жыл бұрын
Nice outing, Adeola Fayehun🤗
@AnnaMuzaza
2 жыл бұрын
We the women assiciation agree 100% with what you have preached here today...and let the church say Amen!! Lol
@adeoladorcasoluwadare5370
2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@idiacynthiaogunmah872
2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@Tellasisreviews
2 жыл бұрын
Gbam!
@anniedaniels9937
2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@Anon_User888
2 жыл бұрын
If you talk, they will tell you that "This is our culture". Even injustice is considered "our culture" according to some. But they will never say "let's not import fridges, cars, Rolex, because it's not "our culture"". Let me pay tribute to my very old mother. She didn't know anything about feminism, but she knew about justice and had a practical sense: as children, we boys in the family did similar tasks as our sisters. Domestic chores were shared by age, not gender. Thank you Mom! Once abroad, I understood what you wanted to teach us. Thank you, Mom.
@tiwo8911
2 жыл бұрын
I wonder though if the girls in your family similarly did the things that are traditionally guy stuff as the boys ... Learning to drive as a teenager, taking the car to the mechanic, etc. The cultural norms argument swings both ways for men and women. During environmental sanitation the boys are expected to cut the grass but not the girls and I doubt many will want that to change in the chavunist society of ours, even those who call for equality in all things won't go that far. When you 'gan molue' and there's only one seat you'll expect a female to sit while the male hangs on at the door. It's just common sense. Yet, one must also recognize that our 'culture' is becoming more Westernized! There is some place for culture, but not with cruelty and subjugation.
@Anon_User888
2 жыл бұрын
@@tiwo8911 To consider what is clearly injustice as "our culture" and to cling to it is what I denounce. It is against this that my mother, who grew up in a time and a village that knew nothing of today's feminist theories, has always stood up; and she has passed on to us her passion for justice.
@oyinnkansolaogunmola8029
2 жыл бұрын
@@tiwo8911 Yes sir, the girls in my family were trained in all this just as the boys were trained to cook and clean. Our parents trained us in everything with no bias. I can fix plumbing and electrical issues around my house, I know so much about cars I tell my mechanics what’s up and buy parts myself. The boys cook way better than we the girls. Not everyone lives in a box sir.
@oyinnkansolaogunmola8029
2 жыл бұрын
PS I started driving at 15 taught by my father. Brought my first car at 20. It’s not ‘culture’, it’s having common sense and thinking out of the box.
@tiwo8911
2 жыл бұрын
@@Anon_User888 If you read through my narrative you would see that I didn't condone injustice. It's disingenuous to run through my discussion and call the positive aspects of male chauvinism 'clear injustice'. It isn't clear injustice for a man to give up his seat to a lady on a bus, or to take on a rough and dirtier task in place of the ladies. I simply aimed to highlight some positive aspects of our culture. To denounce culture as completely immortal is ridiculous.
@treasureokoh4722
2 жыл бұрын
All Adeola said was 100% true! Women, it is high time that we started demanding our rights in Nigeria 🇳🇬 from a young age, a young girl is taught to shrink herself and find her self-worth in a man, that notion needs to come to an end! We are strong and we a resilient! It all begins on how women train up their sons. Mamas boys: tell your sons that they need treat women with respect and dignity and that their wives are not extensions of YOU! It’s funny how a country will tell a man to “be a man” but when said man is home, he is expected to be catered to like a small boy. These biases need to stop. Mothers teach your sons to be providers, nurturers, and good lovers to their future wives because whatever negative or harmful ideologies you are pumping into them is also a reflection on how YOU would want them to treat you. Mothers, it’s not a curse that you gave birth to a baby girl. She is not your competition, she’s your baby no matter what stage! Raise her to know that no man should treat her with disrespect, train her that marriage is not the end all be all, train her that her feelings and emotions matter just as much as her brothers! Happy international woman’s day❤️
@newwatertv
2 жыл бұрын
I think you're just been modest anytime I hear you say "YOU don't know much" because the problem is, YOU know, just too much💯. May the good Lord continue to be with you and your family. Regards to Koledowo and the rest of the crew. 🙏🙏🙏
@QueenChioma
2 жыл бұрын
Such great commentary 💕 I think these were all great points. I’m not sure what the full solution is but we definitely have to change the narrative of gender roles in the culture and in politics. Like you said, we can start by fully vetting out who is elected into these government positions that women are fully capable of doing. Also, like you said, raising boys to be respectful of a woman’s ability and desire to be in positions traditionally held by men.
@ifehansson2254
2 жыл бұрын
Ladies listen. 📢📢 'Marriage is not an achievement' 📢📢
@omaryland5039
2 жыл бұрын
Make sure your child have a VOICE IN YOUR HOME/HOUSE... Quote of the year by ADEOLA !!!Thank you so much for making it REAL🙏🏾👍
@chiamakaezenwata9735
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola speaking the mind of millions of African Women.
@harrietacquah2545
2 жыл бұрын
These things are general in Africa but there is some degree of respect Ghanaian women have and some power we have. In my family for instance, the women can call for family meeting. A Nigerian man once told me he sees the Ghanaian woman is more empowered than a Nigerian woman. We need to break away from those cultural practices that is so backward.
@angeladelaja
2 жыл бұрын
It depends on one's ethnicity. Ijebu Yorubas hold women in high esteem, women can also be family heads but some other ethnic groups may believe in only male heads of family. Religion also affects this. Ive also seen kings inherit the throne through their maternal side. So it really depends on each ethnic groups view on women
@thehoneydeev
2 жыл бұрын
The practice is not bound to nationality but culture. The Akan tribe (which extends beyond GH in Ivory Coast, and Togo) is matriarchal
@Abebi07
2 жыл бұрын
What a way to Celebrate International Women's Day..every points so weighty💯💯 Just like you pointed out, women are slacking on a lot of things, we have to fight for it, it ain't gon be easy. Thanks for keeping it real Adeola👍👍👍👍
@kehindeige3520
2 жыл бұрын
Wow! I love this, I wish all humans can listen to this piece. A lot of senses in it. Imagine a mother(woman) supporting her son against her female children (his sisters, older or younger). Especially, if it's just (one) a son, ahhh, you will hear Arole (heir). I just really detest these mentalities, please air your voice and let them hear. God helping us! God bless you ma'am for your good job. As per those that won't like this, it's normal, true words, they say, it's bitter to swallow, and until you swallow it, you won't feel good. (I'm a boy(man) and I love this) #WomenAreEqualJustLikeYou
@victoriadesmond8852
2 жыл бұрын
OMG! This is one of the most interesting and inspirational messages I've had about women in a long while. So apt. I don't know exactly how to pray for you, but God will continue to keep you and bless you immensely. More wisdom and grace to you. I hope this goes far, this a wake up call for our women!
@omobolanleaderinto1407
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you Adeola...I made sure I had to watched this episode with my husband again! It was really hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣 He got the message 😘
@niceboneable
2 жыл бұрын
Happy International Women's Day Mrs Adeola and all women around the world 🌎 💙 ❤ ♥ 💕
@ndifrekeiniunam2659
2 жыл бұрын
You are saying the truth Adeola, it all starts in the home and sadly all you are saying play out in every other Nigeria home. In my church, women don't seat back for decision making or church meetings. We learn in silence. It will take a whole lot of effort to get us 'women' to where we ought to be. Happy International women's day great women!
@oladelemary4672
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for speaking up for most women. More grace to you. Happy international women's day.❤️
@davetv4705
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, you are a blessing to our generation. The way you judge and analyze societal issues is quite outstanding! More grace, more wisdom.
@lime-ne1vo
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for addressing this unhealthy tradition. Unhealthy traditions are killing the development of Nigeria and by extension, the continent. We must baptize our subconscious minds of all unhealthy customs and traditions. Tribalism is also a very unhealthy custom or tradition. We call these unhealthy traditions and customs culture. Some culture, eh?
@Nana-ng2gx
2 жыл бұрын
I'm young but I've been saying this to the women in life for as far as I can remember!!! Thank you for this!!
@Umemomodu
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Adeola, this is one of your best, I pray it gets to those low self esteem/ insecure law makers in Nigeria. Many of them are stuck with an ignorant/ancient mindset, but mothers are equally responsible for changing the narrative.
@olamidegloria1637
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for KEEPING IT REAL
@nnekairoegbu2360
2 жыл бұрын
Wow Adeola this is a master piece, you finish work for here, can't love you less. Thanks for this educative session. 😍😍😍😍😍
@chichundusu1201
2 жыл бұрын
You have said it as it is my dear Adeola. Keep it up.
@mackiemedeiros587
2 жыл бұрын
I wish I could like this a million times. God bless you Adeola, thank you so much.
@TranquilPulseX
2 жыл бұрын
Patriarchy thrives because women let it! Adeola well said!!!
@khodahh
2 жыл бұрын
You can only be half the giant of Africa when only half of the population is not properly involved. Especially when so many lawmakers are not properly educated, this fact blew my mind.
@ehigold1358
2 жыл бұрын
Alot of them are educated with some form of degrees. However the legal requirement is secondary school certificate. But exposure is another thing and don't forget there are a lot of hypocritical religious men there as well.
@michealebuka208
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola just chose today to break tables Not shake it oo Break it 😂
@abimbolaajagunna9845
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this. God bless you. I'm sure you are my mother's daughter in heart. All her children knows how to grind pepper on the stone and cook all sorts of soup and food. We all pound yam.
@honeydamtey2611
2 жыл бұрын
This is the BEST EPISODE in my own opinion ooooo. You score 110% on this my dear. 50 Gbosas for you
@AkinAkin
2 жыл бұрын
Preach Adeola. You hit the bullseye accurately.
@deedotist
2 жыл бұрын
All what you said was great information for the intelligent once, so unfortunate that many with ignorant minds will be upset in the name of culture and tradition that destroying humanity among black races. Kudos to you Adeola for always keeping it real.
@TTHannah
2 жыл бұрын
Ikr, culture that is always taking them backwards, shouldn’t that silly culture be reviewed?
@ijustcant452
2 жыл бұрын
This is one of the best episodes I've seen in your channel. Agreed 💯.
@mary.c.o3886
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola Adeola God bless you dear, YOU HAVE DONE NOBLE IN THIS ONE. I LOVE YOU ❤️ MORE.
@lavitadiamara2376
2 жыл бұрын
Well said ❤️
@AmayaRue2360
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Adeola. Happy women's day to you. Thank you for raising this important topic. A few weeks ago l did a Zimbabwean radio show on this very topic " raising the boy child " inspired by my son. A lot of things wrong in Africa at large, about raising the boy and girl child and how we mothers are part of the problem. Equality begins with us. Don't rush to envy other countries we have had tickbox Vice presidency qnd female representatives that has gone to women in our country but you know Zimbabwe now. Our female representatives went to war and fought for our independence. They saw their cycle in the bush with these men and were passed around from man to man as they fought the liberation struggle. Can that kind of woman then fight against sexual harassment of women? Africa has a serious problem. But you raise a good point .Why do we vote for these men
@ay1ism
2 жыл бұрын
So rape is an African thing not a universal one? Then why comparing past with now (present)? The societies have evolved better than those periods.
@AmayaRue2360
2 жыл бұрын
@@ay1ism l think we should learn to take things in context and not assume that because it has been mentioned its now a universal matter. That's your interpretation which you are welcome to. I don't need to go academic on a KZitem comment but context is key when analysing any discourse. The video clearly talks about the culture of acceptance of an oppressive status quo by women, of the abusive dynamics of a toxic patriarchy. . Adeola is talking about how it plays out in Nigeria. My point is to show how it is prevalent in most African cultures , specifically how it plays out in Zimbabwe. I also want to address the impression that is created by the comparison she makes with reference to female representation" in other African states. My point was to show that even with that, the presence of an abusive toxic patriarchy plays out in different ways. As for rape its not a past or present matter when young women todate are still being sexually coerced by powers that be in the workplace, in universities and even forced to marry their abusers in the name of remaining honorable before society.
@ay1ism
2 жыл бұрын
@@AmayaRue2360 Abeg your analogy and your prejudice is wrong. "A lot of the things wrong in Africa at large" says by who? You said context matters but you then compare then with now as if we men has not evolved better. Like the other commenter, we cannot rush this change to avoid chaos that is now happening in western societies. It needs to be done through education and exposure. Some of the things Deola said was also wrong.
@AmayaRue2360
2 жыл бұрын
@@ay1ism Which is why l said l see no need to go academic on a KZitem comment . But our cultural systems haven't changed no matter the era. It does nothing too to discredit a point with out concrete examples , terminology etc validating the evolutions you speak of. If education and exposure was all it took , then we would not find sexual abuse of women being committed by well travelled educated men. On that note, as long as you are disagreeing without evidence l will have to agree to disagree with you and let you conclude this discussion as you please.
@tuforu4
2 жыл бұрын
@@AmayaRue2360 NIGERIA men beat phisically their women so much ..
@K-ONE16
2 жыл бұрын
The truth is that men and women are not the same. Our goals and aspirations are different. They are not equal but unique. Exceptions cannot be made rules.
@harrietjamesworld1901
2 жыл бұрын
I like it and I fully support you.. This js what is happening in all African countries. If a woman's voice is silenced im the family, then she has no voice in the society.. Sending love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
@nwoboejiofor5750
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Adeola I love this, you are voice of billions
@moneskybright1758
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much my sister this is one of your best episode ..keep it on and keep it real always !
@victoriaugbah9351
2 жыл бұрын
Madam Adeola, may the lord continue to BLESS you and keep this show on. Love you for real for this episode
@nanamcfarlane2513
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola YOU ARE FANTASTIC it's about time this subject was teased out with our teeth not a comb I give you platinum STAR
@NursePeju
2 жыл бұрын
Please continue to keep it real! Like you said, you cannot be looking for flowers in a desert, we must have realistic expectations of the Leaders.
@olaojomo6121
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you my dear Deola, may be, we’ll all wake up in the next century.
@nanfegracelar646
2 жыл бұрын
I am Nanfe Lar and I endorse this message! 😁👍 Thanks Adeola.
@mr.ademicky3129
2 жыл бұрын
This is your best episode to date. I love it.
@omhinhyun3133
2 жыл бұрын
Period. You commentary needs to be heard by so many Nigerian people. Everyday I thank God that I want raised in the country but abroad.
@JOA-JADE
2 жыл бұрын
There are far too many cavemen in positions of authority in Nigeria. This explains our retrogression as a society. Our ruiners, sorry rulers are unfit for purpose, especially those from the core North. One of our legislooters was recently boasting of raising 28 children from four wives on the floor of the house. How can one give what he or she does not have? Nigeria is going nowhere with the current form of government and rulers? We are stuck!
@TheOriginalRasheedat
Жыл бұрын
I’m Nigerian and my family is so different from what is being described here. I agree with her but I’m so glad my family is different
@morenikejiayokuleyinmartin1042
2 жыл бұрын
This may not be popular but it's factual truth. Our own Adeola has brought it out REAL. Thanks 👍
@voiceofreason3472
2 жыл бұрын
Great analysis Adeola! I wonder if you noticed that your own implicit bias also came through in your analysis. You kept placing the responsibility of raising boys right on the women and you gave credit for you having a voice to your father. It just show how deeply our world, not just Nigeria but definitely especially Nigeria, has been socialized into this thinking that places women at a disadvantage. I do not support the idea of setting a percentage of representation for women in politics. I understand the sentiment and even the good intention but I think it is a bad strategy for many reasons. 1) people should be elected into office based on competence not gender or other criteria that have nothing to do with the position. While that is not necessary happening right now, we don’t need to rubber stamp the practice of electing people based on sentiments. 2) If there is a law that requires such %tage representation, it necessarily leaves a cloud of doubt over competent women who worked hard to attain, people would always question if they could have made it otherwise. 3) From where we are today, 20% representation would be a step forward but as time goes on and women begin to take their rightful place in society and become more and more participatory, such a law could be weaponize to limit participation. I acknowledge that there’s a lot of work need to correct inequality but I still struggle with the approach. We are humans and the law should protect us equally. I find it problematic that women need special set of laws to protect them because the laws meant to protect humans do not fully apply to them. But hey… keep up the good work! Great job sparking tough conversations 👍🏽
@chuksobi593
2 жыл бұрын
Adiola you are right some but not totally , this days Nigerian girls has gone very lazy, they don't even want to put up any effort to be anybody in their families or husband's homes, they want to be taken care of,, they want free everything, even the ones that went through school don't wish to get a job rather they pray day and night for a rich man to come and marry them ,the same goes to their mothers they feel their female children are financial assets so they always preach to them to be a good girl so that good men will marry them they are ready to give up their female children for money ....they don't raise them to chase after their dreams or life goals , so maybe you are right but at this time we unmarried ones wants the ones that thinks right not the ones that are numb, the ones that understands how the real world works , funny most of our girls believes a guy that owns a lexus made since 2007 is considered a rich and successful guy in nigeria and they are ready to be a slave to him the same goes with their mothers, I was once told by my own aunt that I should marry a girl that is good in bed lol 😆 lol I wonder what am supposed to do with that lol
@ifehansson2254
2 жыл бұрын
Rather than condemning women for being 'lazy', help change the culture imposed on us by you men who dictate what goes on in society, traditions & government. Support women's claims for equal pay & opportunity and you will see 'lazy' women replaced by hopeful, industrious women
@chuksobi593
2 жыл бұрын
@@ifehansson2254 well I can't do much I can only raise my own kids better. I once told a girl that whatever men can do that woman can equally do she was so happy for that...
@Anon_User888
2 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, you are right on this particular point. It is a new behaviour, I think, in some African countries. I must confess that I don't understand yet what is going on. Someone told me all this begun with the "Zaddy" phenomenon. I don't know. I am waiting to read the opinion of others about this.
@lolaozoh3879
2 жыл бұрын
@@Anon_User888 The phenomenon stems largely from girls seeing their moms struggle from scratch with men and only for the man to become wealthy and marry someone that wants to be taken care of.
@McduduTQ
2 жыл бұрын
Well said..... women need to take charge
@blessingadebayo1663
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, you a blessing to our generation, may this message go far and reach everyone concern
@abigailadetayo9954
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you Adeola. You have spoken for many women and girls. Our men need to lay aside their arrogance and know that the world do not revolve around them. You've just preached. More grease to your elbow. I am praying for you. Greetings. Rev. Mrs Adetayo
@victorlazarus3474
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola# happy women’s day 👑
@florenceucheignatius4911
2 жыл бұрын
Great job Adeola. Every word you spoke is so true. Happy international women's day
@CommonSenseSisters
2 жыл бұрын
This is an amazing episode. We absolutely agree with all your analysis and opinion in the video!!!!
@temitopeekhatorshote9437
2 жыл бұрын
Religion is another thing that put bais among the gender
@oyebodeoluwaseun7506
2 жыл бұрын
I always love the passion with which you pass across your message with all the comedy you add to it, i look for to each episode every week, you deserve a national award my sister.............
@mfagbelusi261
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Adeola for this peice.Nigeria men should know that women are not slaves
@coker1971
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola abeg preach to them. The only thing the young women sabi do well in Nigeria is to shake Nyash and look for sugar daddies rather than fighting for respect and equality.
@peterokoijie8623
2 жыл бұрын
You have said it 4real Adeola, you have...
@cynthiaonwuteaka4033
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola come and take an award from me. You have spoken so well
@menvicstudio
2 жыл бұрын
Spot on. It's a woman who will tell a fellow woman that having a girl child is as good as being childless! We women truly need to wake up and raise our children right and also learn to expect better for our selves in marriage.
@ebenezeressuman4791
2 жыл бұрын
Please ask people with integrity and honesty to run for office!
@withshoeon4288
2 жыл бұрын
“IF YOU ARE NOT INVITED TO SIT AT THE TABLE THEN YOU ARE THE MEAL”
@jessica_kol
2 жыл бұрын
If you’re a woman please first of all click the like button so the KZitem algorithm can promote this video. Also everything in the video is so on point it’s sickening some of the things Nigerian women go through all in the name of culture. Ladies we need to keep doing more and stop supporting men that don’t support our progress!
@WhizTech
2 жыл бұрын
The challenge we have today start long time from our fathers. God bless you Ma for this topic. Till tomorrow some areas don't celebrate women that gave birth to female as if they were the creator.
@blanetta
2 жыл бұрын
Every time they stamp our passports and say “Welcome to Nigeria!”, I immediately begin to feel a reduction in my status as a human being. They were welcoming my husband and not me. I am now invisible. They thank him for tips even when the money was clearly given by me. They assume he is paying even though the reservation is in my name. I could go on. And yes, I am a Nigerian citizen by marriage with all the benefits thereof.
@debasproart
2 жыл бұрын
😇
@veraaddoyobo8482
2 жыл бұрын
@Christerbel Boyi All African women, I home to Ghana some years back, went to the bank to open an account, was ask where was my husband 🙄
@folaorekoya954
2 жыл бұрын
So true in Nigeria
@bouncingcastlerentals5233
2 жыл бұрын
It's all over the even in UK at a point in time women could not open a bank account without their husband! If a woman is wealthy in her own right the husband hangs on to the purse strings.... I have 3 son's and I tell them constantly they have to value and respect their partner, I will not allow any daughter to be mishandled under their roof, point blank..
@dennisnjinyam
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, you are very correct my dear
@Hamanaptra1989
2 жыл бұрын
Happy international women's week
@florenceolamideolufemi5015
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola you need to be one of the law maker in Nigeria, you're one the change Nigeria needs.
@mapurensosundaykpanpenso
2 жыл бұрын
I believe in equality in everything,even equality in paying bill's.
@yinkaa.2003
2 жыл бұрын
Aint women not sharing n completely foot bills?
@mapurensosundaykpanpenso
2 жыл бұрын
@@yinkaa.2003 Only few do that,we need more hardworking women in the society.
@funmilayodaodu204
2 жыл бұрын
More than 50% of women are footing bills in Nigerian homes. They won't tell u because the public must be made to believe the husband is the breadwinner. An average Nigerian man will be earning 30k in a month. Will have 2 or 3 children. It's d woman that will be selling different things to make ends meet.
@mapurensosundaykpanpenso
2 жыл бұрын
@@funmilayodaodu204 Women that foot bills are 10%,the remaining 90% the only thing they do is make up and twerking 💯
@joyceachugbu517
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Adeola my sister you are too much.you are just keeping it real.Thank so much.God bless you.🙏❤
@joycats4768
2 жыл бұрын
You can propose women doing things to support themselves without blaming women for how bad things are, the women and girls didn't choose bondage and infantilizing men who are responsible will not even encourage the men who want to be allies in this situation. Women in nigeria have been beaten down by so many issues and they do try to rise up but get pushed back with every attempt, and this heritage of women being pushed down got worse from the commencement of colonial times particularly by their religions/patriarchy and persisted. This is a country were women vying for political offices often get asked questions like 'will you be submissive to your husband in this political appointment?' or if unmarried assumed to be prostitutes/seducers/bad influence. Reality in nigeria is that a lot of the men think women are less than them-just a helper or clones they can have in a harem and not main characters in themselves as majority of heads of religious organisations in the country are men, they pass this message down to women and men. Women who raise their sons to dominate women have also been dominated too so they are reacting from a traumatic place,trying to gain some power through their sons , empower women in ways that are not ties to their marital status and the cycles will be broken. Also important to note that a lot of girls are the ones oppressed via teenage/child marriage which is still being legal in Nigeria today and how do you expect them to think differently when they become oppressed women? I am surprised Adeola who lives in America where Affirmative action had to be brought in constitutionally to try to create some type of balance and prevent discrimination in the work environment to allow black people opportunities would be against asking for these bills which would be a form of affirmative action for women in politics. Nobody said the seats reserved should be for unqualified women, bizarre that you would even jump to that conclusion. The people who instituted affirmative action in the us were no better than the law makers in nigeria today. If more women had been engaged in the protests maybe the bills would have been passed, hopefully women will get more engagement with themselves to really use their power as 50% of the nation for their benefit . In spite of it all, Women are participating in politics but often not heard , and since your platform is international, maybe you run campaign adverts for women you have vetted vying for political positions so the women get more visibility since we know that campaigns are about available money to reach all corners of the country?
@voiceofreason3472
2 жыл бұрын
🙂 I don’t think Adeola was suggesting that the reserved seats would be filled by incompetent women. I think it’s more a question of if the reservation is the best way forward. I here your point about affirmative action and I think it’s a good comparison. However, while affirmative action has its merits, it has not fully solved the problem of discrimination against minorities. In fact, what we see in some cases is a mastered art of staging diversity (trophy minorities) without real change. I recently read “From affirmative action to affirming diversity” by R R Thomas. It’s a great read, I recommend it. Your passion about the subject did come through in your write up🙂. I hope you’re doing great things…
@oladelegbengasamson5719
2 жыл бұрын
Happy international women day adeola... Keep it real 💯❤️
@AnnaMuzaza
2 жыл бұрын
Agree
@dancecultureredefined462
2 жыл бұрын
Happy International Women's Day aunty Deola. I wish our women could have sense to see the point you're raising especially women of this current generation
@yemiadebo4726
2 жыл бұрын
May you continue to be a great source of trust. You have spoken well…kudos
@eveglobalservices9281
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola has opened another can of worms. Too many nigerian women are married to their "oga' How can you be married to a man you address as " my oga" ( my boss) and expect to be treated fairly? Its always a moment of joy to see a woman who is married to her friend as opposed to one who is married to her oga. Very big difference in how they interact.
@ngozidibia7278
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with all you said about how girls in Nigeria are groomed to be excellent homemakers. The narrative does need to change.
@MAWA0302
2 жыл бұрын
Good one, Adeola! Many African countries - and the women from there - need to listen to this.
@lemmuelodjay1765
2 жыл бұрын
Why are women complaining about equal representation in government all the time? They have the weapons - subtlety, grace and charm to push their way through the system, but prefer to complain over instead. They should not expect men to give way to them so they can walk in and possess. It is politics, and I'm yet to see a country where people, be they men or women, walk easy into any political set up without asserting some measure of guile and push. Engaging in politics, especially in Africa, is like contending with someone for something. This is where women stand a better chance of achieving their ambitions. All they need do is to come together, stop hating each other, getting organized and then deploying their God-given charms to the full in order to enjoy representation in the NASS.
@sageneltv
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Adeola, Well said!!!! Thank You for being so Objective. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
@abigailjones6235
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you my dear, this one really speak on gender equality we're talking about, but actually Nigerians need to wake up the root cause of all these has to be visited, talking about our culture, norms, diversity, socialization and our values. In Nigeria if they see woman in politics you will be tag Ashawo, it's really disheartening and that discourages a lot of women participation.
@predicttvnet
2 жыл бұрын
@Adeola this is the first time you have spoken off point. How can you canvass for people to be given positions based on sentiment rather than qualification. It makes no sense. There are 24 women in the Nigerian senate. All of them in the senate including the 24 women have all been failures. All!!! This is why we are so backward in Nigeria and even in certain parts of Africa. Igbos are marginalized and underrepresented but I will never support sentiments over merit! If anyone wants to take up a senatorial position he or she should attain it based on merit, irrespective of tribe, gender, race or religion. Once we start going down route of sentiment over quality then we are not progressing at all.
@emaenimongo5359
2 жыл бұрын
let her be flogging dead horses. Most women that a lazily trapped in their reliance of mens money and who proudly hawk their sex to make a living
@baseetadekunle3104
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Otun ti seh
@susiedemy
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola is a smart sister meh! Respect my dear 💓
@veronicaa.1496
2 жыл бұрын
This is why Rwanda will keep winning. Nigerian policymakers and their ‘yeyenatu’ mentality.SMH. Thank you Adeola for always raising awareness to these gaps.
@elizabethalexander4799
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola. This is Apt for IWD,for women.. 👌👌👌
@mamerh
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola about women dis is too much we need to be raising awareness often bcuz women suffer so much especially in the north
@andcarbiochemistry
2 жыл бұрын
Some women are so hardworking and I love it but more than 70% of Nigerian women feel they only have SEX to offer. Even while teaching undergraduates, I always criticize this but the worse is the ladies don't care. I remember when a lady wanted to be an SUG president. It was fellow ladies who fought her to a standstill. Women need to be united and enlightened to fight their course. For me, I respect women. Please respect and appreciate yourselves too.
@voiceofreason3472
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Prof. Would you please share your survey and methodology. I would like to understand how you derived the 70%. Secondly, what is the course of women? Should every woman automatically support any woman aspiring for something? I think it is healthy to compete and disagree. No one ever talks about a man coming out to oppose another man for political position, why is there a different standard for women. As humans, we share different things with different people. I have same skin color as some other humans, I have the same gender as some other humans, I have the same interests as some others and so on and so forth. In a political arena, I think it is shared interests, ideas and ideals that matter more than shared gender. I think the main issue here is creating an environment where everyone who is willing to put in the work can thrive regardless of their gender. A woman should not need mere sentimental vote of other women to succeed. She has the ability to demonstrate her competence and win the confidence of constituents (male and female alike).
@oemecheta
2 жыл бұрын
Really love your channel. Please keep it up.
@ukachiallison7836
2 жыл бұрын
You put the situation so clearly. Good job!! I hope some of us women will pay attention to the voting bit
@ruthjadesola.1232
2 жыл бұрын
Preach my Sister, Thank You .
@sessiakojenu4829
2 жыл бұрын
I also believe that more women should get involved in politics.
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