I’m child free because i have depression. It’s not moral or ethical to bring a child into this world when you don’t know whether or not your mental illness will progress. My boyfriend can consent to be with me because he’sa grown man and knows what he’s getting into. But a child can’t consent to having a depressed parent raising them and affecting their psychology. That’s potentially damaging. No child should be subjected to that.
@Jae-by3hf
2 ай бұрын
💜 I feel the same for myself too 🌸
@angelaholmes8888
2 ай бұрын
You are making a smart choice to be childfree
@simplymanda523
2 ай бұрын
Agreed. This has become a large reason as to why I’m not interested in having children especially because genetics. I would hate to have my child be born with a mental illness because of mine/my genetics. Smh
@showthyselfapproved1st
2 ай бұрын
I agree. All the he'll I went through in life I don't want a child to experience that. At my age I still feel the need to experience the joys of life and I still find myself needing to have personal time to cater to me and me only which can last for weeks, and a parent often times has to sacrifice that and I don't want to feel crappy about that, because WHEN A CHILD NEEDS YOU A CHILD NEEDS YOU! Not 'feeling' well is not an excuse.
@Thislibralovesmoney
2 ай бұрын
Same
@TheMspoodle2
2 ай бұрын
Women look and feel younger being single and child free
@meli7315
25 күн бұрын
I have seen all women who have been in my high school with children this mother: they look miserable and 10-15 years older than their real age. Meanwhile I still look 10 years younger. 🥹 People tell me all the time I look 23 and not 33. When I saw them they look like 40-50… no offense against age. But I looked in their faces and saw they are miserable look like they come from a funeral.
@Daug555
2 ай бұрын
The way my pH, hair, skin, sleep, nails, holidays are set up 💅🏾… get somebody else to do it .
@ImaniForester
2 ай бұрын
Love this for you 💜
@_KrystalAlexis
2 ай бұрын
I think a lot of women who have kids never thought child free was an option.
@NutsNBerries
2 ай бұрын
most women actually wanted to be mothers
@Jac527
2 ай бұрын
@@NutsNBerriesreally? Is it because men couldn’t keep it in their pants?
@silververnallbells191
2 ай бұрын
@@NutsNBerries Says who? Did you ask most women? No, you're just guessing.
@wyleecoyotee4252
2 ай бұрын
@@NutsNBerries Only SOME women
@user-dw1bz1hl6x
2 ай бұрын
Bc they are raised with the ridiculous notion that they *have* to have children. I was raised that way and i rejected that idea quick!!
@isaidwhatisaid.1012
2 ай бұрын
“Stay away from baby daddies, they’re contaminated”💀💀
@Key-Key444
2 ай бұрын
As a mother of two sons 12/7, LEAVE THESE WOMEN ALONE🔊🔊🔊
@masixchell
2 ай бұрын
Ty for reaching your sons to stop harassing women. We don’t want marriage, cat calling, seeing women getting assaulted when they turn down boys and men. Plz teach your sons basic life skills like cooking, cleaning, taking care of their living spaces.
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
Why did you want to be a mother?
@Minty-cs7br
2 ай бұрын
Why your here leave childless woman alone
@miaa7097
2 ай бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner1999it's a personal choice
@TherealMorganAlyse
2 ай бұрын
What if your sons don’t want kids?
@fatz9810
2 ай бұрын
The fact that some people still believe that everyone is meant to be a parents is crazy to me.
@xiamariansupreme72
2 ай бұрын
I don't wanna be responsible for loud, sticky, needy, moody, expensive kids & I don't wanna be attached to a man for life either. I wanna spend my money on myself & be responsible SOLELY, for myself. End of story.
@HeyItsAbb
2 ай бұрын
Happily child free - marriage free - man free ❤😊 problem free 😂!
@wendydaniel1110
Ай бұрын
Love it❤❤❤❤
@masixchell
2 ай бұрын
Mother of 2 daughters - one is completely child free, my other is thinking of adoption 😊. I’m so proud of them - they along with their cousins broke generational curses - None of their generation were teenage moms❤💫✨ None of them chase men or relationships - just their goals and hobbies and interest. I’m so proud of them 🙏🏽🤗🤗
@sparklyunicorn5431
2 ай бұрын
I love that you’re proud of them. My mom is a mega bitch toward me for being CF. Keep speaking life into your daughters, it makes a world of difference 🫶
@masixchell
2 ай бұрын
@@sparklyunicorn5431 I’m sorry you’re going through that. I know I’m a stranger - but I’m proud of you 🫶🏽🙏🏽. Ty
@silververnallbells191
2 ай бұрын
@@sparklyunicorn5431 I'm sorry your mom's like that. Next time she brings it up tell her, "My womb, my choice."
@sparklyunicorn5431
2 ай бұрын
@@silververnallbells191 thank you 🙏
@meli7315
25 күн бұрын
🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
@donnamcintosh2109
2 ай бұрын
I find it ironic that women can be happy about being part of a couple on social media, but when a woman talks about her life as a single, happy, and child-free woman, her happiness is doubted.
@SmileyAdventures
Ай бұрын
Facts
@Lynn-r7x
2 ай бұрын
Free will is such a beautiful gift. Also taking the time to understand and realize you do NOT want children is one of the most SELF-LESS things someone can do.
@Rose-kj7rz
2 ай бұрын
I really loved the woman saying she wanted to be Carmen Sandiego when she grew up. I grew up on that show as a kid. And even at 8 years old when everyone was talking about marriage and how many babies they wanted, I simply told them that I was too young to be thinking about that, and maybe I wouldn't have any kids anyway. They all looked at me like I had just sprouted an extra head from my shoulder. I'm 41 now and yeah, no husband, no kids.
@attitudeproblem6462
2 ай бұрын
I loved Carmen SanDiego! They could _never_ catch her!❤❤❤
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
It's creepy when older women ask little girls how many children they want. I experienced it once and it SCARED me.
@Rose-kj7rz
2 ай бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner1999 I will clarify that the people who were asking me those questions were my school peers my age. Not older women.
@yque4733
2 ай бұрын
I've never had the desire, motherly instinct, etc to be a mom. The thought of being one churns my stomach.
@yudollia
2 ай бұрын
This is so me!
@anabelsama
2 ай бұрын
I knew I didn't want children after I got my first period and realised I could get pregnant. I have told things like "would you really get an abortion with your old age?" I was 24. WTF. My mother asked me that, and years later she said it again. It doesn't matter my age, I don't want to go through that.
@wendydaniel1110
Ай бұрын
I am 65 yr old black woman. Brought up with the oppressive " world view" that women SHOULD be married and have children. I got married and wanted my independence since I felt "stifled" within the marriage. Got divorced at 30. . I chose not to have children within the marriage . We were "gaslighted " as women to give up our personal selfhood and "merge" with a marriage partner and children. I happily wanted neither..I am very comfortable being me standing in my truth.. I went against the grain at a time all of my friends had children and was married. I lived outside the box my entire life.( Dated younger men, outside my race and religion). I found my peace living in my truth being single , childfree and owning my selfhood. I am whole, liberated, peaceful and loving my life where I am. If I choose to be in a relationship that person will have to be extremely special . Not willing to negotiate my lifestyle. No regrets for choosing not to have children. Have a beautiful cat and loving it..❤❤
@frankensteins_mermaid
Ай бұрын
🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
@sophrosyne5900
2 ай бұрын
I am 34 and childfree. My sister, and three bestfriends are also childfree women. I knew since I was a CHILD , I never wanted to have kids. The most important choice I will make in my life is who I marry and have a child with. I am very lucky none of my exs ever got me pregnant I also would never want to sacrifice my child to the violence of this world. In Canada, over half of us living in poverty, no jobs, western countries making a " mandatory enlistment draft". No, I am at peace , celebate, and focused on my family and friends and purpose in this world...
@ashleyyoung6107
Ай бұрын
It's very telling when someone tells you to shut up about something that makes you happy like being childfree, etc, they are jealous of you because why else would they be complaining about it? Misery does love company.
@babou5694
Ай бұрын
In this economy, these Danm jobs are not giving raises. Daycare cost is rising every Danm year etc…. Yeah I’ll be ok with no kids . It is too expensive out here .
@Li8aGun92
Ай бұрын
I loved the 50-year-old in the blue top who really does not look 50. lol. I didn't even need her to say anything. I just look at her face and body and I'm like "yep, that's what I wanna look like when I'm 50 with no kids." lol
@teoleno4019
2 ай бұрын
50? She looks younger than most gen z. 🤣
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
She has A LOT of deep wrinkles around her eyes. You can see it when she gets closer to the camera and the Filter glitches.
@princesskrazy13
2 ай бұрын
ok!! cause i thought my ears weren't working. 50?? i was like she lying lol
@GenuineEncountersCo
13 күн бұрын
50 is crazy 😂 she looks amazing
@Laura-kv7bl
Ай бұрын
I’m a married mom and I regret having kids.
@hannahriss1349
Ай бұрын
Thank you for your truth. I’m 36 Marie’s 6yrs and dunno. Health things that could be given to a baby and my age and ….
@Laura-kv7bl
Ай бұрын
@@hannahriss1349I have a friend who had her daughter at 37 and she’s really healthy. But if you enjoy time with your husband, sleep, sex, hobbies, a clean home, and taking showers, kids will ruin all of that. I have literally gotten to the point of wanting to leave my husband and kids just so I can take a shower or sleep. I have no help, no family support either.
@tranquility9325
20 күн бұрын
But you could have chosen not to have them right?
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
I Am not the nurturing type. I just couldn't center my llfe around taking care of a child. I have so much going on,I have a stunning body. Pregnancy would ruin my body and being a caretaker for a child would steal everything I love and replace it by the things I don't like. Plus: I don't like children!
@luvajenoel4248
2 ай бұрын
everything you said ❤
@abbuyah
2 ай бұрын
Women like us are rare like gems. I applaud you on choosing the path of liberty!
@starbieg_fit2658
2 ай бұрын
I can totally relate to this comment ❤
@savagesweetheart90
2 ай бұрын
Knew since I was 10 years old that I never wanted children.
@blessings4life
Ай бұрын
I was 8, after my “parents “ forced me to potty train while they were at work.
@blessings4life
Ай бұрын
I asked myself, people do this to themselves on purpose? 😂😮
@redinkrose8840
Ай бұрын
I knew very young and came out and aired it to the world at 10
@redinkrose8840
Ай бұрын
I was 10yo and told my dad, I’m never getting married and having kids. I’m 52 now. I’ve been in serious relationships and leave bc I realize I’m way happier single. And I’ve never been abused so that’s not it.
@TheScooby7890
2 ай бұрын
Gosh the woman in her 50s look like she’s in her 20s…. ❤ I love my daughter, just 1 child. But honestly, I’d rather not have to go thru childbearing and rearing if I can go back in time. I’m in my 40s, but sigh….. I regret being a mom almost on a daily basis. The wear and tear on my body, all the health issues that came with it, definitely no gratitude thankless job, plus my partner was neurotic about everything and I worked through it all made it worse. Wouldn’t wish it on any woman. Live your best lives, my sisters! Kids don’t define you. You define yourselves!
@Kareena1988
Ай бұрын
Actually not. She looks 42
@LaDyLuCk909
2 ай бұрын
Childfree women need to be careful of baby daddy's and ex husband with kids they will make you a step mother and you WILL have to be 100 % responsible for those kids while they are in your home..these men come with a baggage that will become your responsibility.
@yque4733
2 ай бұрын
If the child free woman are smart, they'll stay away from said men.
@deebutterfly19
2 ай бұрын
What? Even as a step mom I would NOT be 100% responsible for the kids wtf 😭 they have an actual mother and father…… Besides…why would I want to date a man who clearly looking for room/board and a nanny 😭
@wyleecoyotee4252
2 ай бұрын
@@deebutterfly19 He'll unload them on you if you're living together or married.
@mscece1900
2 ай бұрын
That's why it's best for ppl with kids to date ppl with kids, and ppl without kids should date others with no kids as well. The lifestyles are so different. I'm childfree and I don't want to date guys with no kids, I'm not in the dating market now but when I get back out there, that's a must!
@deebutterfly19
Ай бұрын
@@wyleecoyotee4252 he can’t unload anything on me because I’m a grown adult……with the power to say “no” lol ..
@ChatMort69420
Ай бұрын
The idea that people who don’t want to have children should be guilted or pressured into having children is nothing short of sadistic. I have watched children grow up with a mother who transparently resents them for taking away her freedom, and it has been the most soul-crushing thing imaginable. The people attacking the freedom to choose to have kids cannot claim to have any compassion or concern for the well-being of said children when they are aggressively pushing for more of this exact dynamic. Why not work instead to create cultures and economies where raising families is feasible for the people who want to do that?
@Daydreamerr13
2 ай бұрын
I don’t what I want anymore. I just want peace as a woman 😢 i am sad. I want better in the world for all women
@marie2511
2 ай бұрын
I'm 45 & childfree b/c 1) I never met or dated anyone worthy of that 2) the economy--its a privilege to have kids these days 3) today's men constantly whine about needing to go 50/50. At one point I did want just one, but as time crept on by and the likelihood of meeting a compatible partner dwindled, I became okay with it. That's my truth
@Jac527
2 ай бұрын
Why would I want kids? I got annoying siblings who were my first birth control. An earful resentment from my mother every time on how my siblings behaved towards her is enough to solidify my decision to not only be Childfree but also man-free.
@princesskrazy13
2 ай бұрын
"That's a pretty extreme way to affirm your gender" WILD and FAX no printer
@heidithesausage
2 ай бұрын
Thank you to all the honest parents who told the truth, thanks to all the mothers who had difficult painful pregnancies & gave up their bodies, thanks to all the divorced single parents. Thanks for respecting people's decision to live childfree.
@primalplasma
2 ай бұрын
Guys tell their women “You should want to have a baby,” and these are the same guys who cry in agony on the toilet after eating too much Taco Bell.
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
I have Tocophobia. But is it rrally irrational to fear pregnancy and birth? The more open women talk about, the mire justified the fear gets.
@LeighWinterrs
2 ай бұрын
It’s not irrational. Don’t let people convince you that what you’re afraid of is some irrational conception of your mind when it is very much real. Just don’t let the fear consume or control you❤️
@c.j.m.mariaa
2 ай бұрын
Pregnancy and giving birth is dangerous and plenty of woman got hurt or past away because of it so being afraid makes sense to me ( i was never afraid of it myself ) but I am now I am pregnant with twins and it got me feeling some type of way..😂
@astrophel87
2 ай бұрын
@@c.j.m.mariaa Wishing you health and happiness! ❤
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
The day of my Sterilisation was the most liberalen experience I had so far. 21, fear of pregnancy since I knew what pregnancy is and that motherhood will destroy my future. And than FINALLY free from that fear.
@ninal.743
Ай бұрын
I'm childfree since I noticed with 30 how miserable moms and parents are. Thankfully a friend td me about the heavy struggle being a mom, the toll on the relationship and work... mostly men do the bare minimum and while having children. Ever noticed majority of divorces are the ones with kids not the childfree marriages... tells it all... I woke up a few days being so grateful that I can start my day in peace, drink coffee in peace and do whatever I like, besides job duties... Kids are great and cute, but not the mother role and burden that comes with it... it's 24/7 with no end... I think most people don't realise how hard it and we are only now this open, that more and more parents talk openly about regret and the downside. Men think back than every women wanted kids, no it was the only way to survive having a family for women... ever heard of the fairytales from grandmas?? Telling all the women to never depend on a men, wasn't said without a reason, many women back than didn't want kids either, but had no choice! Nowadays we have a choice and it only put to light how many women refuse this choice! And it's only a tiny percent how are high archivers, most women without kids have a decent job and enjoy their freedom. That's what it's about what society doesn't get. It's not all about material things and it's nothing wrong with women to archive a high career❤
@RyuNekohime
2 ай бұрын
I’m child free because of so many reasons I could write a very long list, but a few of them are: I have DOCUMENTATION of a ‘far below normal stress management abilities’, I’m anxious as heck, depression, I have a few health issues I do not wish on a hypothetical child, I don’t see a single good reason for me to have a child.
@NoPickmeishasAllowed
Ай бұрын
Notice how when they brag about kids no one sides eye. But why would they assume someone is bragging about being childfree.
@motorcitymangababe
2 ай бұрын
Im child free quite simply because the best way to break an abusive cycle is to stop. I do not want a kid enough to outweigh the potential risks that child would live with having me as a parent. My mom was indeed, better than her mother. None of her kids speak to jer because of the abuse and i alone have permanent issues in my shoulders and neck, most likely from being dragged, thrown, and beaten sp much. It would be effortless to be a better mother than her and still fuck up my kids. Or i could just, not. And focus my efforts on people who already exist and need community (not to mention that im one of those people and cant even take care of myself, in part because of my past )
@vanessasmith6925
2 ай бұрын
I wasnt beaten. I was locked on my own for Houra and Houra as a toddler. Remembering the feelings od hopelessnes and fear that I am abandoned by my family left me traumatized. It is for life. I would damage my kids emotionally. Because my own needs were not met.
@angelaholmes8888
2 ай бұрын
I made the decision to not have kids when I was 11 years old my childhood wasn't a happy one it left me dealing with trauma i don't want to continue the cycle like my parents did
@rainingblueflowers990
2 ай бұрын
I applaud these women and men for making a conscious decision by choosing themselves.
@springfauna1465
Ай бұрын
Let me say this, I'm 62 yrs old and never felt that motherly instinct that so many women feel, so I chose not to have children. When I was younger, people gave me such a hard time about it, especially doctors when I begged to have a hysterectomy because my cycles were so painful it made me physically ill. I was called "selfish" for not wanting to get married and have children, and I'm not a selfish person at all!! Other than that, I've had a great life!! I've traveled around the world. I've met some awesome people who I'm blessed to call friends!! And I have no regrets for being single and child free!! Oh and yes, I am the favorite Auntie!! 😅👍❤️
@roccafille
Ай бұрын
I’m a mom and love it for the women who are choosing to be childfree!! I would never advocate for people who do not want to have children to have to have them. That sounds awfull for said children. Love that people are making the choices that make them happy. Go my sisters 🫶🏾!!
@Blaquebarbgamer
2 ай бұрын
I love the Carmen Sandiego example.
@Chunlialways
2 ай бұрын
That lady does not look 50 at all. ❤ I've seen ppl w kids look wayy older than their age.
@primalplasma
2 ай бұрын
The guy telling the woman “You never know” was secretly into her. That’s why he couldn’t get over the idea that she doesn’t want children. He and his loins felt threatened by that on a subconscious level, because it’s instinctive for a guy to want to impregnate any woman that he is attracted to. I’m not trying to justify his actions, I’m just trying to explain why he kept insisting that she would want kids eventually. BECAUSE HE WANTS KIDS!
@Revengestar
20 күн бұрын
I am childfree by choice, because I have narcissistic parents who ruined a big part of my life and several genetic conditions running in the extended family that I do not want to pass down on anyone. When people ask ''but what if you change your mind", I reply that if that happens I will try to adopt or foster or help children in other ways. Then I hear ''But it's not the same if they aren't your own". It seems that they love seeing women trapped and not actually caring about ALREADY existing children in need. The same people bitch and moan about how can't school start fast enough so they can drop off their kids for some hours.
@nanaouy9805
2 ай бұрын
I just got family pressure to get married and have kids by my uncle and aunt 😅 It's considered norm here for a women to have that lifestyle (be a stay at home mom). I hope my family respect and understand that this is not my path, I'm so tired they keep intervene about my decision 😃
@scorpionqueen66
Ай бұрын
I'm childfree because I DON'T WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN!!! That's a complete sentence, and that should be a good enough explanation!!! And I have many other reasons why I'm GLAD that I chose not to have children, but that's none of anybody's damn business!!! I don't owe society or a man or anybody else children that I don't want just because I'm a woman and I was born a female!!! I'm not obligated to have children or do anything else that I don't want to do because society says so simply because I was born a female!!!
@sadbuttrueinthe21stcentury36
Ай бұрын
I’m 65 and in my experience, people who do not approve of your decision. WHATEVER IT IS, means THEY are not happy, and they think “how dare you! I’m miserable and I’m sticking with my decision, why shouldn’t you go through what I’m going through”. Wait awhile and watch them change. Either way, they’re not supportive and you should dump/distance yourselves.
@kaygeeRandomness
2 ай бұрын
They are adults now and I can not stand that I sacrificed all those years that I needed for myself! We all see all these vids of people talking about their parental “trauma,” people that have not been through basically nothing but a regular smegular upbringing. I tell you, as a parent, you can give them/baby not enough, too much or somewhere in the middle apart from harm, and you’ll never know how that person/baby is going to receive what love you have to give. They/baby can suck your entire life-force dry along with the damn dad and they both absolutely hate you for it in the end. Funny how you don’t know any of this until parenting happens to you AND thank God a lot of us get lucky (‘babies are a blessing’), but MOST of us get met with disappointment.
@kaygeeRandomness
2 ай бұрын
If you decide to be a parent, make sure you set forth to having a VILLAGE! Employ more good qualified people than you can possibly need in your village to help you when you need help, and be apart of their village too (only as much as you can handle).
@sistergoodstuff
2 ай бұрын
How the HECK is the lady in the blue FIFTY!?!! 😍
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
Healthy diet, daily Workout, good skincare, good sleep
@CordeliaWagner1999
2 ай бұрын
She has A LOT of deep wrinkles around her eyes. You can see it when she gets closer to the camera and the Filter glitches. For a short moment she looks very old.
@wyleecoyotee4252
2 ай бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner1999 Why so hateful?
@femmefatale71
2 ай бұрын
@@wyleecoyotee4252this “person” is always in black women’s videos spewing jealousy and misogyny
@lynny75831
16 күн бұрын
i love how women with kids have no issue with bragging about their kids HOWEVER a child free woman cant brag about her life that HAS NO BEARING ON THE MOTHERS LIFE!!??
@AC-le1jt
2 ай бұрын
24:00-25:55 nothing but the truth: many parents are sad, lonely and delusional about having a legacy.
@jeannielanaux7297
2 ай бұрын
Please be happy for all men/women and their life choice. IT IS THEIR LIFE.
@t.f.6297
2 ай бұрын
"Tell me where in the world is Carmen San Diego!!??" 😅🎉❤😂 Yesss I loved that cartoon for a reason!! Didn’t realize the reason until now 🥰🕵️♀️🕵🏾♀️🕵️♀️💃🏾💃🏽💃🏼
@beautyforashes1948
Ай бұрын
Yes I be lit in the wind just like her
@micernice13
2 ай бұрын
Amani the legacy lady. SLAYED COOKED AND ATE
@19katsandcounting
Ай бұрын
Ive gotten more flack for saying I don’t like pets than kids. I shouldn’t have to have pets either.
@studiosandi
10 күн бұрын
I decided I wanted to be child free before I was even in kindergarten. At 55, I don't regret my decision one bit. The older I've gotten, the more reasons they're were to not have children.
@ImaniForester
10 күн бұрын
I love this so much and I understand completely haha 💯🥰
@DaughterOfKia
2 ай бұрын
I talk to my son about remaining childfree, and if I had a daughter, I would tell her the same.
@jmcslay7393
2 ай бұрын
I'm waiting for the conversation where guys that left their CF girlfriends/wives try to circle back when domestic bliss doesn't feel so blissful.
@islandprincess9666
2 ай бұрын
You sound like a red pill guy. There is nothing wrong with women not wanting to have children. A woman could be widowed from her husband dying in an accident etc. Child birth TEARS UP A WOMANS BODY AND BREAKS IT DOWN. I know women who had their organs shifted and prolapsed because of being pregnant. Once again your comment proves that some men think that everything women do is centered around men. Your comment saying you can’t wait for the stories when the men leave the child free women proves that. Having children is a hard job and it tears up a woman’s body, and drains them. For you to say your comment proves how selfish and self centered some men really are. Pay attention ladies.
@SmileyAdventures
Ай бұрын
Oop 😮😅
@gingersnaps997
2 ай бұрын
I don't have children. I don't dislike kids, and I know that I would be as good of a mom as I can be. I physically can't have them, but love my life without them. I have a nephew who is like a son to me. From this perspective, I have been very lucky. If I had the chance to have kids, I honestly don't know if I would l choose to, especially with what is going on in this country (U.S.) and the world in general. My husband is older and has two sons who have kids, and I must admit..there are times when I am happy when they go home to their parents, and I told my husband that I refuse to watch kids on the weekends after I have been working all week so their parents can get a break. That is a "hell no" for me. I don't believe in parents getting breaks from the kids THEY CHOSE to have. No.
@zilness
Ай бұрын
I have/am ADHD and chose not to have children. I have a hard time just figuring myself out. I don’t think it would be fair for me to bring someone into the world that I don’t have the mental energy to take care of. Commitments are scary, when my husband and I got married it was a spiritual ceremony but we didn’t sign any legal papers. I don’t want my partner to feel like the law is keeping us together ever
@hannahriss1349
Ай бұрын
Omg I have same thought. How how hard ADHD 36f married is for me and do I want to do that do my baby and the older you are the higher the Likely hood you are to pass it, and with ADHD comes w being dyslexic, depression, n anxiety. N the state of the education system, n world. But in a perfect world I would have 3
@Madelena714
2 ай бұрын
So funny I feel like I never fit into these categories. I’m not child free and I’m not exactly 100% 4B. I am a single mom of 16yrs full custody, & I have deliberately chosen to be single the majority of my daughters 16yrs. I had my girl when I was 19, so I was a young mom. I have no regrets. I look forward to traveling after she’s 18 and off to college, and experiencing what a lot of child free people have through their 20s & 30s. I am absolutely supportive of both the child free and 4B movement. I love supporting and hearing from these women. There’s a lot to learn from them, it’s inspiring and they are great role models to young women. I think it’s so wonderful so many women have found their freedom, success and happiness outside of centering men, children and losing their independence or sense of their own identity outside of being a wife or mother. To those who are truly happy and can have a well balanced life as a mother and wife, I’m happy for those women too.
@silververnallbells191
2 ай бұрын
I don't know about your relationship w/your 16yr old, but why not travel w/her during the summer or spring break? It could be a nice bonding experience & it will help set her standards high on how (a possible) man should treat her. Any man (or woman -however your daughter swings) will have to meet the bar you set.
@lynny75831
16 күн бұрын
"you are depriving yourself universal love" means im not missing it, therefore im not deprived
@Asia-yt3cg
2 ай бұрын
I really loved what that man said! The women were great too😂
@leannecoffey8964
Ай бұрын
I am a mother of 4, I love my children and never regretted having them but I know that my lack of self awareness and self esteem made me give them a crappy childhood. I have no grandchildren and am happy about it, I want my children to live their best lives if that means no kids good for them
@Pinkwatermelon5
2 ай бұрын
The legacy one👏🏽🧑🏽🍳 Chef’s kiss 💋
@karlagonzalvez4703
Ай бұрын
That 50 year old woman looks GREAT ❤
@sierrasukalski2133
Ай бұрын
Being Carmen Sandiego, YES! 😍
@moremelessyou6525
2 ай бұрын
I think it's going to be fun knowing alot of millennial women in our older age, share our stories of our child free lives and can relate in that way. Maybe we should even start groups, to meet other women we have things in common with who enjoy certain things.
@blessings4life
Ай бұрын
I have weight issues already. If I have a baby my weight will be 450lbs easily 😢
@blessings4life
17 күн бұрын
3-5 meals a day and 24/7 running around dropping off or picking up
@studiosandi
9 күн бұрын
My mother and grandmother did not find fulfillment in motherhood either. They absolutely hated being Mother's and were terrible at it and frankly my mother still hates me. She tolerates me at best.
@ItsAllWavyBaby
2 ай бұрын
I’m 38 and turn 39 in a couple of weeks. I’m single and child free. It’s underrated. Literally one of the best choices I made in my life. And it WAS a choice. I decided I didn’t want to have kids when I was 11. My aunt was child free, and still is I’ll never forget the moment I discovered not having kids was a possibility. My mom, aunt and I were at a buffet. Eating, laughing, loving life. Well, I was at the table ear hustling. 😂 IYKYK anyway, my Aunt was like, “something something something, but I don’t have kids anyway”…… HONEY, I had an out of body experience at that table 😂😂😂😂😂 It’s not like anyone was pressing me out about having kids. She was just such a beautiful, carefree, fun, independent PAID woman. She was paying for our lunch. Always pulled up in a new fancy car. In that moment I felt like I had stumbled across her secret. I thank my inner child very often because home girl tapped IN. 😂 I sat at that table, ate my food and absorbed my aunties entire drip. Lmao. My auntie also understood the assignment because when I asked her little questions I can still recall that conspiratorial smirk on her face. She knew she was rocking my world, expanding my awareness, if you may. 😂❤ Thank you gwooooorl!! 💅🏾🫡
@sheilamiller8390
2 ай бұрын
Aaaawwww now that is absolutely amazing❤❤❤my aunt Moni from Germany inspired the same thing in me!!! I was like she has her own business plus swag yep that's what I want😂🎉❤ Shout out to all the great aunties we LOVE YALL❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤#CHILDFREE4LIFE
@ItsAllWavyBaby
2 ай бұрын
@@sheilamiller8390 awwwwwww your auntie sounds amazing! Yes shout out to the aunties who were well ahead of their time. 😭💕💕 they freed us from societal pressure and the patriarchal machine by daring to follow their hearts, and live in their truth. I’m very grateful, as I’m sure you are too. 💕💕💕🥰🥰💕💕💕 #childfreeforlife 🤌🏾
@ambrosia-venusbelladonna835
Ай бұрын
Oohhh Sh**!!! Imani you just found my Long Long LONG Lost Sister on Social Media!!! I have always wanted to be a Real Life Carmen Sandiego😘👠💎💄💍💅🏿😎💃🏿; I thought I was the only one!! Now I realize I am no longer alone YEEEEHAWWW!!!! OOOooooWeeeeeee!!!!!💜😻🌹Love you and your channel Imani🎉!!!
@taigalou
9 күн бұрын
I would love to have kids, but I'm actively deciding against it even though it hurts my heart. I have so much love to give, so many things I want to teach and show them, but I'm also the product of a family who was never emotionally available to me and never showed me what it's like to have loving and understanding parents. My dad was traumatized by his dad, who abuses his wife, he traumatised his other two daughters and probably my mom too. I am a product of trauma and neglect, and I refuse to continue that cycle by bringing another life into this lineage. It ends with me and I am grateful to be the first woman in my family with the choice to not have children.
@sadbuttrueinthe21stcentury36
Ай бұрын
Also, I’ve never understood the “You’re selfish” comment. Really? How? Because you don’t provide a grandchild? That’s NOT a reason to have a child. I’ve told my daughter she can be ANYONE she wants to be, DO what she wants to do. And there IS NO failure, only experience. Don’t be afraid to try anything, all experience is how we learn.
@Onechance_ngl
2 ай бұрын
The microphone on that “what’s for dinner” made it 10x funnier 😂😂
@healthbeforewealth7457
2 ай бұрын
I have two kids.. it's HARD!! And I finished law school ❤.. :) I love my kids wouldn't trade them for nothing.. I homeschool and work from home itssss soooooo fucking hard lol.., but I'm satisfied with my boy and girl.. my son is 10 very intelligent and loves plants ❤ 🌱 and healthy eating :) .. he wants to build his own country too lol:) .. I have a 6 year old daughter who can draw like a professional, and she can read on a 4th grade level :) but I wouldn't have kids if I couldn't homeschool and work from home at the same time.. too many ppl out there waiting for you to not be watching yo kids lol ❤ My daughter says she marry old and rich and will have one kid, a girl.. I told her yolo!
@silververnallbells191
2 ай бұрын
Warn her (when she's in her teens) about these old men. Old men means old sperm & it's more likely that the kid will have cancer, schizophrenia, emotional issues.. the list goes on. The drop off starts at 35 then drops dramatically when men are 40.. geriatric sperm is not discussed enough. (If that's you in your picture, your daughter will be attractive and old men will hit on her young. I developed early & started getting hit on by old dusties from the time I was 9 - I had a C cup. BUT I've also learned from other women who didn't have curves that young that they were still getting hit on by grown men when they were 11/12 yrs old)
@echo.echo08
10 күн бұрын
i'm childfree and i don't care if i'm called selfish, or if people assume i'll grow old sad and die alone, or if economy will fail due to decreasing population or whatever-opinions don't hurt. i can choose and i have chosen. also, i'd rather regret not having children (i won't) and only hurt myself, than regret having children and hurt myself, my supposed children who will be traumatized, and the people they will hurt because they'd probably grow up as criminals.
@Champagnelifeiam
13 күн бұрын
I'm child free, 1st by I didn't get that I want to be a mommy gene out of 9 siblings, (middle child), 2nd, I didn't want a child out of wedlock. I love my nieces and nephews and other people children as long as they leave with their parent/parents. I love my life/lifestyle just the way it is and can't imagine it no other way, just like people with children.
@levelupgoddess9289
2 ай бұрын
I just want some really great women friends while I finish my degree and live a great life in my career and home. I don’t have to justify why I don’t want kids. I don’t want to and that’s final.
@AlanaLanaaMoore
Ай бұрын
The 1st young lady was on point💯
@ElaineLoyd
2 күн бұрын
I always know I didn't want to have kids and decided not to have sex. People say i should get a hysterectomy birth control etc. I'm like i should undergo a major surgery so men can get off on my body no I'm good
@LilySaintSin
Ай бұрын
Disagree with that woman who said millionaires are somehow inherently better. It's giving girl boss feminism. I agree with her about legacies though.
@Chaistcog
Ай бұрын
00:12:50 respect for varied reasons. my reasons for being child- free is I don’t want to hurt anyone. Like 00:14:56.
@primalplasma
2 ай бұрын
People are always asking for shit.
@loriparks8657
Ай бұрын
Single females "Live your Own Life" The way " You want to live it " ! You don't have to live your Life for others you don't have to !!
@LilySaintSin
Ай бұрын
The boogas are upsetti spaghetti.
@19katsandcounting
Ай бұрын
Who’s the guy at 15:15? I like him.
@alexnightray3204
Ай бұрын
Bragging is not the same as sharing to support your community and to educate about your lifestyle. Bragging is tied to arrogance and the need to put others who don't have what you have down. Sharing and educating is tied to informing, educating, supporting, and showing your perspective without shoving what you have down others throats to make yourself feel bigger. The people that accuse childfree people of bragging has jealousy because they want that childfree people have and feel some level of regret for not being able to stand in their truths and have the courage to go after what they want in their own lives.
@ccd5942
2 ай бұрын
Kids are blessings precious little angels! But I do not think I want one I’m ok being TiTi !!
@shanishine38
Ай бұрын
Lies that are being dispelled post 2020: Childfree women are miserable. Getting a degree is the only way to land a good job. Single women are miserable. Hard work always pays off. These jobs are as loyal to you as you are to them. Work 9-5 until you're 60 years old and THEN go enjoy your life.
@ambrosia-venusbelladonna835
Ай бұрын
Imani I can't hear your commentary at the end😢
@elvinrichard5882
2 ай бұрын
Society cant let being child free become the norm because society needs children to continue. Being child free is often best for the modern individual, but if everyone is child free the society ends in one generation.
@tonyt1680
2 ай бұрын
But being childfree isn't the norm. Most people end up having children, the point is that women who are not so inclined, should have the choice to have them or not.
@videofan1010
2 ай бұрын
There are too many people on this planet. Life is getting worse and worse. Especially for certain groups of people. This is a natural retraction.
@anhangamirim
2 ай бұрын
don't be crazy. We are 8 billion people. When I was a child, there was 4 billion and already too much people! We can easily drop to 2 billion and reform the sistem to have a society that will be SAFE for women and children, and so... have our babies without stress!
@Key-Key444
2 ай бұрын
Whoops😏
@Strawberry.Letter23
2 ай бұрын
If a society creates so many people who are unfulfilled in relationship and parenthood, such a society doesn’t deserve to exist in the first place. If men expect women to procreate for them, men would behave better.
@NutsNBerries
2 ай бұрын
women with kids experience unconditional love women without kids just have less things to worry about...
@primalplasma
2 ай бұрын
If my girlfriend told me that she didn’t want to have kids, I’d be okay with it. Just don’t be so dramatic about it. Be cool and strong in your convictions. Just a few words, “No, I’m not about that,” should do. But don’t get on a soapbox about it. Less is more. 👍
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