I have this in composite with a man I was dating for 1.5 months. We have beautiful synastry and even the rest of our composite is quite positive. From our first date he showed some weird controlling/power plays. I got the sense that he was trying to make himself appear more important or better than me but when we were together everything was great and we were very compatible. A few days ago he took his need for control too far though and I told him I didn't want to see him again. I was so blunt and cold. I'm usually so easy going and patient. It's sad because I know we both like each other but his need to control the relationship crossed my personal boundaries and I told him where to go.
@brittniebelcher3341
3 жыл бұрын
I had this problem as well but realized I was very similarly doing the same thing just wasn’t concious of it. It may not be the case for you i’m just throwing it out there cuz understanding self is understanding other
@leahmage3080
2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love jewel and her insights. Even though this isn't entirely accurate for everyone, I can see the common generalization of the aspect. My partner and I have this aspect both in our natals so it shows up in the composite as well. Our relationship started with Pluto transit squaring both my sun and his venus (they are conjunct) its still going on and will go on for another 2 years it looks like (already been 3) .... I have to remind myself that a lot of our insecurities are being dug up by pluto and all of our plutoian immature behaviors to try to "get" each other stem back to it. We are obsessed w each other and terrified of losing one another so our fights are really just relapsed trauma we end up working out together. Pluto sits on the south node in the composite so all these issues we've repressed for many years b4 we met are surfacing w each other and then we move on from them. It was absolutely needed for both of us to grow as ppl... pain is hard. It helps to have someone to help forgive and accept yourself with. I've looked up a number of long term couples w this aspect too so I know there's something binding and karmatic about it. thanks again for the approach Jewel !
@aprilrose2389
2 жыл бұрын
💯 💯 💯 It is very very dangerous. Run while you can.
@emjay3344
5 жыл бұрын
I have this with my husband, I'm the sun he the pluto, we also have venus opposite pluto too... 25 years and still going... No abuse ever though we did fight like loons the first few years but always made up we soon learned not to.
@aerial61
5 жыл бұрын
house? :)
@biegebythesea6775
3 жыл бұрын
But you're talking about synastry. In the complete nobody is the Pluto and nobody is the sun.
@Jackgritty28
3 жыл бұрын
Could someone please explain the difference between composite and synastry , if any, thanks✅
@Emster549
3 ай бұрын
@@Jackgritty28 this is from a while ago but synastry is your two separate birth charts interacting with each other. Composite is the chart of the relationship itself, formed from the median points of the birth charts. The idea is that in synastry you are two separate individuals, who impact each other, but when you come together and form a relationship, the relationship has a birth chart of its own. You could have amazing synastry, but if your median points cause an awful composite, the relationship itself will be painful. Or, you could have conflict in synastry, but an awesome composite, and so while individually you may have some conflict, the relationship itself is pleasant. With the composite, it’s also how others view you as a couple. Individually you could be private people, but maybe your composite has a lot of planets in the 10th house and suddenly as a couple you’re now a powerhouse career couple out in the public eye. Or maybe your composite has an active 6th house and the relationship is super focused on service. That’s why different relationships have such different focuses or things you enjoy together. For example, if you have a best friend and a boyfriend with the same birthday, born at different times, you’ll have mostly the same composite but different ascendant, and therefore the planets will fall in different houses. Maybe with your best friend the sun is in 11th house of friends, but with the boyfriend the sun is in 7th house of marriage. That’s why one of them is a best friend, and one of them a boyfriend, bc the houses activated matters too. In summary - composite is the birth chart of the relationship, and felt by both people. Synastry is your individual charts and how they impact each other. In synastry if you had sun opposite Pluto, one person would be the controlling Pluto one. And the other would feel it. In composite, the relationship itself is the controlling Pluto one and you both feel it the same way. Composite is almost like the third party in the relationship. There are the two individuals, and then there is the third party, the relationship itself, and that’s the composite. Two individuals can compromise all they want, but if the third party, the relationship, has a bad composite, the relationship will always be working against the individuals. Hope that helps!
@garysummers9254
6 жыл бұрын
I have this aspect at the moment , I live in a community housing with other people . There's me and one guy the energy is uneasy . He constently drinking and lives his life to his plan . And I live a totally different life to his . I don't like alcohol in men and women , it frightens me . Unpredictable , death , even violence . I can not hide from it , we live in the same block . The clichés are there , it's classic when confronted with this issue . I have hobbies I attend to , and do help by writing this . I've reached out , and it's to late . .. We are polar opposite see what happens
@flyleelee5351
Жыл бұрын
In my composite with my new boyfriend, we have this aspect in our composite 😵💫..but we also have Venus trine Mars and Jupiter in Libra in 9H...a lot of over all positive stuff. I hope those things balance out the Pluto opposite sun 😵💫
@PumpkinSoup1234
4 жыл бұрын
My uncle and aunt have this aspect. Every word you said is true. They have been together for 26 years and we all family and friends can not understand HOW and WHY (??? We can barely stand them when they are together. Y asume it's because their issues with Jupiter in their both natal charts (in the composite, Jupiter is conjunct the South Node and have really good aspects and they have devoted themselves to make money) (in Maya astrology they are "Night" and that's the KIN that rules money, so they are together to overcome their ISSUES with money and abundance). Except from that, they will end up killing each other (they make each other really sick, LITERAL). Also in synastry his North Node is conjunct her Mars = increases the ego fights. Her Mars is conjunct Sun-Mercury-Venus as well.
@katherinechant7606
3 жыл бұрын
Makes you wonder why there together right? Love is supposed to make you healthy, not sick. But i've been there lol
@ethereal-synchronicity-444
5 жыл бұрын
If I knew a fraction of this information, my whole adult life at least would've been a different story, I assure you. Good ol' hindsight, ey. Thanks Jewel, at least you kept it a buck.
@carolinagoldgirl8706
4 жыл бұрын
You can’t change it, you also need to look at the transit chart how the planets affect your natal chart.
@rahma1038
6 жыл бұрын
i have this with my last boyfriend we broke up 3 months ago it wasnt even a break up he gave me an ultimatum, said i should only talk to him if i agree to his terms !! our relationship is basically ultimatums and break up threats and him telling me what i should or shouldnt do, who i should be friends with and if i stand my ground he gives me the silent treatment, the problem is i was so addicted to him i go back to him and try to appease him every time. i am finally over him but as you said in the video it really wrecks you emotionally post breakup
@JewelMayberry
6 жыл бұрын
+rahma Stay strong, my friend. Don't call him again.
@tsunami8248
4 жыл бұрын
wow,i have this too with the one i am going for since 2 months,we have natally sun opposite pluto and so in composite chart...he try's to control what i say,when i say it,i mean c'mon,all ultimatums,if i do not behave how he want's he will go!?...that is a joke...he destroys our whole relationship like this and simply doesn't care or clearly doesn't know how to show love. I never had to deal with something like this,i refuse to go back to him if he doesn't change. And i tell you he has also another very very positive affects on me when everything is good.Life changing it is. And he brought a lot of life and energy into my life but it is getting too much for me...good luck with yours
@thegreatdownwander
4 жыл бұрын
Interesting. Everyone I have this with is a very powerful significant relationship in my life. No abuse, no war. I have it w my sons father, my boyfriend of 4 years and my best friend. All 3 I'm extremely close with and care a great deal for so I think I enjoy this aspect personally. All aspects seem to hit different for different ppl. I also have a saturn mars conjunct w my boyfriend and I love it. It equates to stable dick to me falling in my 2nd house.
@mary-anneb2614
Жыл бұрын
Same exact thing happened to me with the square. Now I have this again in opposition in davison but conjunction in midpoint composite, but so far no ultimatum...
@mary-anneb2614
Жыл бұрын
@@thegreatdownwander lolll @ stable dick 🤣 whose the Saturn?
@saymyname1677
6 жыл бұрын
Really want to see video about Venus square Saturn in natal chart from you 🙏🏼
@halaal-sulami540
5 ай бұрын
ok will be unmatching him off of bumble right away 😂 thank god i have you jewel u help me protect my heart
@happygirl4192
5 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@malukee1
2 ай бұрын
hahaha! I just joined bumble too and hoping I won’t have this one 😂
@sarahchristine6095
6 жыл бұрын
We have this in the midpoint composite, the sun one degree conjunct the descendent. And sun conjunct pluto in the davison chart. Its heavy
@murielpereira4507
6 жыл бұрын
i have this opp sun in taurus and pluto in scorpio and I also have moon in taurus opp scorpio in the composite chart. also venus conjunct pluto. in the 10th and the 4th. It's been 6 years. thank you Jewel!
@JewelMayberry
6 жыл бұрын
+Rohini Glad you are making it!
@murielpereira4507
6 жыл бұрын
are you talking about your natal chart? This video is about the placement in composite charts, so Jewel is talking about this placement in a chart of a relationship between at least 2 people. It will not apply in the same way individually.
@murielpereira4507
6 жыл бұрын
just check sun aspecting pluto or sun opp pluto and videos will pop up ;) I find its interesting to look into pluto placements since one can uncover the seed of psychological attachments. I'm 31 too and the struggle is real eheh
@jayeshsharma84
5 жыл бұрын
I have this too pluto opposite taurus sun
@miriamuSama
3 ай бұрын
Its in the Composite, Our Synastry and my natal. Best friends. 24 Years going strong.
@louisatoland2383
Жыл бұрын
This feels like a very accurate assessment ❤ thank u
@lpllll10775
4 ай бұрын
Very accurate!Women,be careful with this aspect, if a man abuses you in this relationship, it might end super sad for you,even death(if he is violent towards you)
@-sabelmousse-2246
3 жыл бұрын
i/we've got this! both got the transit now. we're a week apart and share many positions/transits. it ain't easy.
@KnwName
7 ай бұрын
Jewel how wide an orb should be considered since it’s the sun is it still 10, being that Pluto is a generational planet. You are by far one of my favorite relationship astrologer. You explain things perfectly and your visuals can literally be felt on a visceral level when you’ve had experience with the aspect being discussed.
@devans2254
Жыл бұрын
My husband & I BOTH have this in our natal charts & in the composite. We also have sun square Saturn. Living with one another has been brutal. 😩
@bloodbuddy7
6 жыл бұрын
I have this aspect with my father... any insights into how that dynamic plays out differently/ similarly from what is described here?
@Arelisms
4 жыл бұрын
omg - i have a composite sun opposing pluto and saturn 1 orb. it's so hard. Nataly i have saturn pluto conjunct descendant on 6th house. and hubby has same conjunct on his midheaven. ouch ouch. don't know how to handle this.. already married with child.. i hope peace for my child. wish i knew of a remedy.
@miriamuSama
2 жыл бұрын
I have this in Synastry. Im the ☀️ person.
@afarinmirzadeh
5 жыл бұрын
Does it change things when there is a stellium (sun conjunct Venus, Mars, and mercury) opposing Pluto?
@KsenijaCvejic
6 жыл бұрын
Hi Jewel! Love your videos! Can you do Saturn square Pluto natal? I have this aspect in my natal chart(I have a lot of Mars squares btw) , and I have read a lot about it, but I love your interpretations since you always show both, good and "challenging" side of an aspect, and watching some of your videos has given me the chance to work on these challenges and to raise above negative side of these aspects! Much love!
@corvettecamm
7 ай бұрын
I’ve never had an issue with this aspect. I have Sun opposite Pluto in my natal chart so I already naturally have this composite aspect with other Gemini Sun opposite Sag Pluto people so that’s likely why the relationship feels natural.
@RM-ti8nf
6 жыл бұрын
Woah! Thanks so much Jewel for answering all of our requests for this aspect. Sounds nasty.... Are there any redeeming points to the aspect?
@Jackgritty28
3 жыл бұрын
The controlling and annoying aspect between two people, unsure about how to deal with this aspect, causes friction or maybe obstacles in a relationship, could mean trouble or hatred for each other, a clash of wills will pervade the relationship, if any🚩
@RM-ti8nf
3 жыл бұрын
@@Jackgritty28 thank you Jack
@simonebalazova3160
2 жыл бұрын
Jewel, thank you for amazing video. And what if this aspect - Sun opposite Pluto is the only one difficult aspect in composite chart (because other planets are in trine/sextil with the Sun and also the Pluto). Is there a chance for this relationship?
@litocingonzones9110
4 жыл бұрын
My wife and me had sun oppose pluto. married for 20 years. She attacked me many times and stabbed me. I end the marriage. She tried battering the neighbors and my son. Beat me up and my son- using violence. After post natal depression
@butterflymoon6368
3 жыл бұрын
Oh my God
@katherinechant7606
3 жыл бұрын
Omg same💗
@Sylumn_
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I wonder how this aspect plays out if you have it in your natal
@hotdamnsweetie
6 жыл бұрын
Would the houses involved in this opposition be of great importance? Would a 5-11 house vs a 2-8 house opposition behave in different ways?
@jo42715
6 жыл бұрын
What would be your interpretation for sun conjunct chiron in a composite chart ?
@stacysmith7387
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making astrology terminology so understandable. Could you please do a video regarding the July eclipses and what it means? Will it result in a financial collapse? Thanks!
@oliviasmit2657
4 жыл бұрын
I have this aspect with my current guy...but we have Sun and Venus in the 7 th House and Moon in the 1st and Jupiter in the 12th. Also Mercury trine Neptune, Venus trine Neptune. and Moon conjunct Acsendant (etc).. So I guess Im covered by those...?? :) I really hope so, I love him very much!!
@oliviasmit2657
3 жыл бұрын
@Monica hi monica yes the love remains and seems to just never go away, no matter how long we are apart, it’s very strong and binding. However he has major karmic issues to work through still...it is paralyzing the relationship and I think might take months or years to break through...so I’m not sure if I’m so happy it’s not a peaceful connection, however it is very powerful and can’t shake it off even if you wanted...
@oliviasmit2657
3 жыл бұрын
@Monica Omy gosh yes we do!! You too? Its a sign of a psychic bond, right?
@oliviasmit2657
3 жыл бұрын
@Monica I will cpoy the text I received from astro.com for you about Sun trine Neptune:The trine of composite Sun and Neptune indicates that there is a good deal of idealism in this relationship. You will feel that it is an extraordinary union between two souls, perhaps even a spiritual union. Many of the thoughts you want to communicate to each other will not have to be spoken, for you will know beforehand what the other person is thinking. Often one of you will start to say something, only to find the other saying it too. In other words there is strong liklihood of a psychic bond between you. In a friendship it is perfectly all right to commune at such a high level, ignoring practicality. But in a love relationship, especially marriage, practical concerns have to be dealt with, and it may be difficult to bring yourselves down to that level. But because Neptune rules self-sacrifice, one of the strongest bonds between you will be your willingness to give selflessly to each other at any time.
@oliviasmit2657
3 жыл бұрын
@Monica Thank you Monica... I wish you the same. But may I ask what you mean with 'he is not my fated one, since we dont have these aspects'? Which aspects do you mean? I can recommand the book: Linda Goodman's Relationship Signs. You will like it for sure, the way she explains the aspects is very creative and always gives advice too about how to handle it.
@RM-ti8nf
3 жыл бұрын
Hi. I have this aspect with a man. We also have a lovely grand trine with sun, moon, Neptune. So it was easy for us to feel like it was "meant to be" despite the pain, because there was a pervading element of magic and attraction. I'm out of it now. Wiser about myself and him. It was on and off for 20 years of my life, and the most important relationship of my life. The red flags were there from the start. I believe my soul chose the lessons of this, and yes, I am wiser, having learned valuable lessons which have ultimately taken a huge toll on my health. I don't know if I'll ever recover, I certainly won't be the same person I was, having lost my spark and seeing the world differently. It's been over a year since we broke up. Interestingly, it was Pluto transiting over our composite ascendant in Capricorn that finally killed it. Over the years with our on and off, it was transiting Uranus over our composite sun and progressed composite sun that saw us break up. I have a lot of healing to do. I'm sure this helped my soul progress, but as I said, the toll on the rest of my life is immense. I cannot overstate that.
@darkviolet69
6 жыл бұрын
Please do composite moon opposite Saturn!
@katherinechant7606
Жыл бұрын
I have this yes It's taken me a long time to heal
@sparkkeeper77
5 жыл бұрын
Is it the same with a composite square between the 2 planets? Anyway, in my natal chart, my sun in Virgo is associated with my Mars and Pluto in Libra, which are found in the sextil of my native Neptune. Scorpion is my asc. In his natal chart, Pluto is in trine with his conjunction Mars / Saturn in Gemini, which is in front of Neptune. His Pluto falls on my conjunction Sun / Mars / Pluto. We have been divorced for 13 years, he remarried; he lives abroad in the country of this woman. But he always tries to put me in trouble with the law, trying to force them to keep our daughter away from me. He looks so angry at me, and his father encourages him ... I do not know how his current wife saw all these dramas, but 7 years of legal proceedings ... I would be her, I would start thinking ... If I was this dangerous mother, why the judge never ordered to put our daughter in foster care? 7 years that our daughter is forced to go to court to deny the accusations of abuse that her father carries against me ... During those 7 years, he used all he could to discredit me: my skin color (he is Blkanc, I'm Black), the fact that he earns more money than me, while he left by emptying our bank account and we had no news for 1 year. The fact that I had just been diagnosed with thyroid cancer and was no longer working ... In short, I do not know what we still have to work for things to finally subside, but I forgave him for our daughter. Will he have the same wisdom now that Uranus has come out of Aries and should stop making it warlike? Now that Uranus in Taurus is going to pass on his Venus to the trine of my Venus and my Sun? Will he finally be a father of which my daughter will be proud? Let's wait and see!
@yteu7198
Жыл бұрын
we have Pluto opposite the sun in both natal, Pluto opposite venus double in synastry, and pluto opposite sun, mercury and venus in composite
@viviannicole3092
6 жыл бұрын
What if a couple has mercury opposite neptune in composite, but mercury conjunct mercury in synastry? Would the conjunction change things?
@JewelMayberry
6 жыл бұрын
+vivian nicole No, the composite chart is the last word, it’s what your Mercury’s are blending into.
@reginadolce9921
4 жыл бұрын
Does a 10 degree orb count on this one?
@simrana2845
6 жыл бұрын
What if composite chart has love stellium sun+Venus+mercury opposite to Pluto, will it have same effect
@JewelMayberry
6 жыл бұрын
+simran kohli It will even tougher because all the planets are opposing Pluto.
@simrana2845
6 жыл бұрын
thanks for replying jewel
@simrana2845
6 жыл бұрын
so survival rate is zero for such relationship :)
@candiaraquelgaribaycamarena
Жыл бұрын
@Maria-qm4kc
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jewel. If the orb is 12 degrees or more will this also be an issue?
@JewelMayberry
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, but not as acute. The wider the orb, the less intense the archetypal mixing is.
@jayeshsharma84
5 жыл бұрын
I have this in taurus sun but my sun's in the 12th house ☺
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