Thank you for for clear message. There would of been zero divorces if every woman took a note of this. The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
@sendmechecks
5 жыл бұрын
After several bad and failed relationships, I’d pretty much written off women and especially marriage entirely. You reminding me that there are more than ugly, selfish feminists out there. You are a veritable gem of a truly feminine woman and your husband does have a strong helpmeet. I literally was moved to tears because of your gentle and loving spirit. I wish millions of millennial women could see this and believe God’s design will fulfill them more than competition in the corporate world. Please make more videos like this for unmarried young women. Us men need more women like you. Thanks for giving me hope.
@91722854
Жыл бұрын
how do you encounter women who follow path like Alana?
@sendmechecks
Жыл бұрын
@@91722854 IDK, still haven't found one yet. Probably in the right church.
@danilaroche1156
Жыл бұрын
@@sendmechecks There are tons of women who think like Alana. I really want to be a loving, gentle and submissive wife. I pray my boyfriend heal from his destructive relationships and pop the question!
@ashlieleavelle
6 жыл бұрын
Yes! They need us. Mu Husband and I are intentional about hospitality....but he forgets to invite, so I arrange all the social get togethers. He likes his shirts ironed, I do that for him. He is trying to eat better, so I help by making healthier meals. I think Gods design for the wife to be a helpmate is amazing, and how he pairs people together is amazing. Our strengths and weaknesses are often opposite but we refine and sharpen one another.
@creationoflove84
6 жыл бұрын
You brought tears to my eyes. Alana there are no words that I have that can properly praise what you do for wives, husbands, and therefore families...I do however can think of 4: gold, silver, precious stones.You have pulled off the veil from my eyes. And now I see. I have been like that foolish wife, maybe even self righteous in my husband’s eyes, tearing him up when he forgets these things instead of building him up and imparting grace, glorifying God’s wisdom in His design.My spirit rejoices at the truth you share, there is much edification and hope in it.
@musicappreciate
11 ай бұрын
Alana I appreciate your videos, because my wife does these things kind of naturally. When I watch your material it seems like you’re telling the story of our marriage without knowing us. Praise the Lord and thanks.
@91722854
Жыл бұрын
6:25, that's it, just the sound of it is so rewarding!
@JoyfulWifeLife
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! My husband is a disabled veteran with combat PTSD. I've learned that he does better when I stay calm about all things that might come up. When kids are running around he sometimes needs a break and be in our bedroom where it's quite. He doesn't want to yell at the kids so he just needs a break. I help him by giving him that without complaining about him needing time away from the chaos of having 5 kids.
@bayamonrican
5 жыл бұрын
My husband is a Marine. I can totally understand where your coming from. He's triggered by certain sounds so I try to be conscious of certain places where not to go (fireworks for ex.)
@danilaroche1156
Жыл бұрын
Many people have PTSD. Trauma survivors. I had severe & damaging emotional damage due to childhood abuse and molestation. For decades it affected my love relationships. I had rage. Couldn't get on with my man. After prayer, fasting and forgiving my parents, the Lord completely healed my PTSD. I believe your husband will be delivered as well.
@andreifelix3558
3 жыл бұрын
Your video is inspiring & helpful for married couples! keep it up
@HopeFilledJourney
6 жыл бұрын
Our husbands are similar. He wants my help with reminding him to do devotions at night. Birthday, anniversary and holiday reminders. He likes me to work/help him with outdoor projects like trapping, making fishing lures, gardening, raising small animals, furs (like making fur hats) he finds joy in me being interested in what he is doing. Remind him of when bills need to be paid. Then he pays them. This is something small..but he really likes when I make sure we don't run out of stamps for postage. And checks for the class book. Running errands for him. He says he likes me keeping his "castle" clean. Thanks for your mentoring. Hope y'all have a great week. Keep in touch.
@danyi6119
2 жыл бұрын
The grunt work
@ericawallace526
6 жыл бұрын
I’m so grateful for this video and your wisdom! You are such a mentor to me. 💗
@GirlGamersable
6 жыл бұрын
I need this video today... from being frustrated and angry that i have to deal with annoying calls to companies or having to reminder him again, i needed to hear that he needs me in these ways and im designed and here for him. I am the one god choose to help this wonderful man. so rather then be upset do this for him. Thank you Alana. This was a blessing today.
@BrittanyAmberHeberling
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! What a great mindset to have as a wife.
@steviedickson4736
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful are women of God. Pray for me, that I have one one day that I can love. At 52 it can be a challenge to be alone. Thanks
@maeb7723
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Thank you for all your videos and for being committed and faithful to God's word. You are always so helpful in bringing me a biblical perspective and drawing me closer to the Lord and in turn, to my husband.
@aidaguillen6337
2 жыл бұрын
Always with very good advice, filled with wisdom!
@SomewhereInTheMaidenverse
5 жыл бұрын
Oh my word! After watching this video I am really realizing how incredibly blessed I am. I honestly cannot keep up with all of the selfless things my husband does for me. I have several health issues and no one takes care of me like he does. This morning he knew I had a long ride to a new doctor so he got up before me and took my car to fill up the tank...even though I told him I would fill it on the way. He filled my my window washer fluid reservoir because he knows how bad the pollen is right now. He made a smoothie for himself and left me the rest in the refrigerator with a note. He's been on his own since he was 17. He loves to cook and we often cook together side by side. We clean up together. It's our favorite thing to do together. He reorganized our kitchen cabinets to make things easier on me. I didn't ask. He just knew what would be better for me. He loves the grocery store and we always shop together when it's going to be a big order. He would do my laundry if I let him, but I don't. Reading some of the other comments, it's almost like these women are describing children instead of men. We don't look at anything as each others "jobs". We work together and discuss what works. There are things we prefer to do or not do, but we are one. We serve each other because it comes naturally and that is how we show love.
@beligh7705
3 жыл бұрын
So helpful thank you very much & greetings from Germany 💕
@JocyQ
6 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much your channel has blessed my life ❤️ My husband is seeing the change happening in me❤️
@ashlieleavelle
6 жыл бұрын
jocyq that is wonderful! The Lord is so merciful to change us!
@JocyQ
6 жыл бұрын
Ashlie Leavelle Ty!! Yes! He truly is❤️
@JulieMoranNE111
5 жыл бұрын
Once again ... such helpful advice! The healthy and happy marriage is one where you support your husband assume his leadership ... love, honor, obey.
@NoFeArChiC2
6 жыл бұрын
Loved this! It made me think differently towards what a husband's "weaknesses" could be and how it very well can be an opportunity to be the helper a wife is called to be.
@julieberseth7630
6 жыл бұрын
This video is exactly what I needed today. I've been strugglng lately with my role as wife and mother and my husband and I have been in a difficult place because of it. There has been SO much "why can't he just______" on my part and yesterday I was praying about it and I just felt God telling me that I wasn't doing what he called me to do. I've been carrying so much bitterness when I should have been helping my husband. Thank you so much for making this video, now I have some practical ways to work on making things better.
@kaylalaland
6 жыл бұрын
Julie Berseth I’ve been feeling the EXACT same!!! It’s like she knows what’s going on in my life lol 😂
@creationoflove84
6 жыл бұрын
Julie :) My sister have you read the book and study of The Excellent Wife? :) I’m doing it right now and Alana even has a series on it :) I’m greatly enjoying it! Xoxo It’s really giving me a lot to think about. I’ll take 3-7 days just for one chapter to sink in, giving me to implement it and work it out in my heart. Xo May God lavish you in His marvelous grace.
@julieberseth7630
6 жыл бұрын
creationoflove84 I haven't yet but it is on my list of things to read, I watched all of Alana's videos on the book and I think it would really help
@kristinakika
6 жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing... i tried this recently with my sister... she has a little problem of keeping contacts/staying in touch... so i am the one calling her, and i just saw the results, amazing... that is thanks to jesus, otherwise it wouldnt have the effect... i just know in my heart, Jesus puts it in my heart what she needs, and that is how we can make other people happy...
@tinates7354
3 ай бұрын
Sweet
@ColonialFlorals
6 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video as always. 👍🏻 This woke me up to the fact my husband needs my help with gentle reminders about doing family devotion at night instead of me getting all frustrated bc he’s not initiating it yet again. So silly of me now that you mention it. On another note: You look gorgeous! Love the hoop earrings on you. 🙂
@Iamroots
6 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this! Such a good message. I've found that it helps my husband out when I let him speak. I'm quick to jump in, even in agreement but I've found that men like time to formulate what they're thinking. I try to stop and listen, not to jump to conclusions, good or bad. Just fully listening helps a lot! You're so right, after I post this comment I'm gonna think of a bunch of other things too! Thanks for making this video! PS, you're looking particularly glowy and pretty in this video! 💙😄
@theparttimehomemaker
Жыл бұрын
I never thought about it this way- thank you. I'll try to be more open towards helping him plan for things he's mentioned and research topics we've both discussed that will help our household.
@mrskhan597
Жыл бұрын
New subscriber. I am binge watching all your marriage and faith videos. Great insights and advice. Really appreciate you doing this. God bless you
@aliciacooper9184
4 жыл бұрын
I love your channel! It has blessed me so much, God bless you sister continue making more.
@AlanaL3
4 жыл бұрын
Alicia Cooper thank you:) so glad you’ve enjoyed it!
@BereanBaker
6 жыл бұрын
One of the ways I help my husband, is making sure we have good food options in the home. He really desires to live a healthy lifestyle, but carbs and sugar are his temptation! I help him by thinking of creative ways to satisfy that desire without added sugars and unwanted calories.
@91722854
Жыл бұрын
wow, you sound like a really loving wife, wish I had a gd or wife that helps me with those food cravings
@lateyshasmith8573
6 жыл бұрын
I’m not married but this is very good information 🙌🏾 thank you
@janerandolphsaunders
4 жыл бұрын
absolutely love the way you speak about serving your husband. It makes me super excited and joyful at the gift i have available in being given this ministry.
@nicolegliddon5421
3 жыл бұрын
Feeling blessed. A good way of thinking about the things we do and the things that frustrate us. We often forget this, the devil's plan of course, making it appear a burden or struggle rather than a purpose. Need to remember this in those moments of frustration, that its my part or purpose more than it's my battle with him.
@carlamahlberg1854
6 жыл бұрын
Wow, this is so good. I never thought about this. Thank you for the reminder.
@bintaj1012
4 жыл бұрын
💕💕💕💕
@missnatalieOK
5 жыл бұрын
💖you are a gem. Thank you for all the thoughts and wisdom you put in these videos for us.
@TheFoppoli
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video... such a great reminder!! Also, on a frivolous note - your makeup looks so pretty!
@kristinccha
6 жыл бұрын
One unique way that I can tend to get annoyed at. Hubby has a hard time not sleeping through alarm and I slept light. Sometimes I wrongly am bitter at the alarm going off and having to help him wake up instead of joyfully helping and being grateful I have a husband who works everyday to provide for us and that I get to stay home with our daughter.
@bunkinbunkin
6 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad to have found your channel🙋🏽. You are a blessing. I’ve been married for 26 years and I’m still learning, but as I grow closer to the Lord my desire to be a godly wife grows. It’s so rewarding to care for my hubby the way I was intended to! Your wisdom is inspiring.
@Hjertehjemme
6 жыл бұрын
A lot of wisdom here. We are all learning. And there is a lot of joy in helping - that the Holy Spirit will give us when we obey God's design!
@annasarkar3109
6 жыл бұрын
You are such an inspiration Alana! I look forward to your videos. Thanks.
@coconut602752
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your obedience & posting these videos ❤️ God bless you
@dianeg.1771
6 жыл бұрын
Such a great topic!! Thank you for addressing this Alana!
@My6monthtransformation_
6 жыл бұрын
So grateful for your wisdom! I am going to share your channel with all my sisters in the Lord ❤❤❤
@jennifercorbett4026
5 жыл бұрын
Wow thank you ! This is a major issue with us and your right I nag about why he doesn't remember to start stuff on his own IE family bible time etc. He is always good with doing it and will lead but I always complain about having to remind him ! I have actually not mentioned it to see "how long" it will take him when kinda bring it it. I guess hoping to "shame" him into remembering how sad I just realized that is !Just got convicted about that watching this thank you !!!! I wanted to add how I seriously believed I was in the right in this but now I see how unhelpful it is !
@MommaSchmoozeReviews
6 жыл бұрын
very encouraging and helpful! thanks!
@lemonslavender1855
5 жыл бұрын
So blessed by this video 💝 Thank you Alana!!
@o_summer
4 жыл бұрын
I just found this channel and I am SO happy i did. I needed this your advice is so beautiful and straightforward, this channel is such a blessing
@Mrssupermumm
6 жыл бұрын
Wonderful advice Alana. Thank you. God bless you!.
@indiahorton2049
6 жыл бұрын
Wow I needed this video ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@zillycrew
6 жыл бұрын
Great ways to be a helper. Something I've found that helps is doing some things that have fallen on him mostly like taking the garbage out and now my boys do this now daily....he doesn't have to do this job anymore! And he's so happy
@josecalderon8370
3 жыл бұрын
I can't do dishes because I don't do it her way. I can't do laundry because I don't do it her way and so many things.
@kaylalaland
6 жыл бұрын
Your videos always give me so much to think about! My husband and I just had a disagreement and he admits he doesn’t want to give up old habits but he still has faith in God.. I know you can’t have the world and God, but he is still willing to do devotionals. So I’m hoping I can be an example and help him in that way so he can fully surrender his life completely. I still have plenty of work to do on myself but I continue to pray for him. Thank you for these videos!
@christinefigueroa2529
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this encouraging video. Needless to say I am feeling convicted for the way I've treated my husband. Too many times have I attacked his weaknesses rather than look at them as an opportunity to bless him. I fear I've set an ungodly example to my daughter as well. My prayer is for the Holy Spirit to lead me into submission in this area because I know it's so difficult to try to do it on my own.
@amaniiroy7836
6 жыл бұрын
My hub finds losing things the most annoying thing on the planet,so reminding myself to have his keys,wallet and eyeglasses in a spot pleases him. Also waking him up for work or obligations we have, he will sleep right through an alarm. I've noticed he loves the gentle reminders and acts as soon as I remind him bc these things are truly important to him but like Alana said his mind doesn't work like mine.
@MissAuckland
6 жыл бұрын
I only realised this in our marriage as you were speaking! I help by preparing things for my husband to do, ie if he needs to make a call (which he hates doing) I'll find any papers, numbers, information he needs, set the kids up for quite and he always says whatever it was just wasn't that bad.
@WomenLivingTorah
6 жыл бұрын
I love that you mentioned how we can know to help our husbands is by thinking of the things that frustrate us. 😂 So true! I asked my husband how I help him most, and my husband thinks my 'super-help' power is recalling Scripture addresses and being able to quote at least portions of the verse. Haha I was kind of thinking it was how I can find anything he's looking for within seconds. (But I do have an advantage in that I am the one that manages our home, so I know how everything is organized or where it's kept.)
@kristinccha
6 жыл бұрын
Great video Alana!
@susan3009
6 жыл бұрын
"Reminding" can come across as nagging if we're not careful. Hard to find right words to remind without him thinking, ya ya , i know.
@LJC4495
6 жыл бұрын
her spiritual strength through her husband. He’s not giving her any spiritual strength in this text and she’s got lots of it. Her hope is in God. She’s probably going to church on Sunday morning before he gets up, getting her strength elsewhere, getting her worldview elsewhere.6. Submission does not mean living or acting in fear.This God-fearing wife is fearless.I love the Scriptures. I’m a complementarian. I believe that men are called to a unique kind of leadership in marriage. I believe that women are called to a unique kind of submission in marriage. And I think it’s a beautiful thing - the way those two roles complement and serve one another. If we probe the depths and keep digging into the Scriptures, even though they’re written in another time, they will shape a marriage today into a beautiful thing.Therefore, in light of everything I have said submission is not, I would define submission in marriage like this: Submission is the defined calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership, and so help to carry it through according to her gifts.
@robinbaxter8329
6 жыл бұрын
I normally have my husband coffee made and waiting for him not sure how it started because I don’t drink coffee but he not a morning person so it makes his morning a little easier when he not waiting for the coffee to make . I keep him posted about what bills are coming up and then he will decide when to pay them .
@nicolemcnichols6903
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! Do you have any videos on parenting/ discipline or chores? I’m trying to be the best follower of Christ and the wife and mother I need to be
@nicolemcnichols6903
6 жыл бұрын
I found some of your parenting videos. Thank you!
@SamHoward281
2 жыл бұрын
This was HARD to hear 🙉. Very very hard to hear. I had to thank God for his will and just bite the bullet.
@KGB94TV
6 жыл бұрын
You use the word that you ALLOW him to lead. I am also a bride and would never you the word allow Him to lead because I am not in control of my Master. Are you ultimately in control of your husband? For example if totally disagree with your husband direction that is not sinful what would you do?
@AlanaL3
6 жыл бұрын
Kabeer Gbaja-Biamila if it’s not sinful? Trust God and follow
@KGB94TV
6 жыл бұрын
Alana L what if your husband wanted you to wear a head cover and no makeup, would you obey him? My wife broke up my family of 8 children, because women @ church, not like you, advice her to leave me to teach a lesson. I want to share your video to my soon to be ex-wife.
@AlanaL3
6 жыл бұрын
Kabeer Gbaja-Biamila id definitely talk with him about it for a long time and go over his reasons about why? And in the end of all our discussion if he still felt the same then yes of course I would obey.
@KGB94TV
6 жыл бұрын
Alana L you are good wife. I wish my wife would have had a woman like u in her life. May Yah bless you.
@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather
Жыл бұрын
Jesus is LORD. Jesus said, "Before Abraham was, I Am."
@LJC4495
6 жыл бұрын
Does your husband do anything for you? You talk so much about women doing things for their husbands I feel like it should be fifty fifty.
@sherriam3277
6 жыл бұрын
Janet Cortorreal I don’t mean to speak for Alana but I feel like she talks so much about what the woman does because she is a woman speaking to mostly other women. Most of Alana’s videos are about taking control of what YOU bring to the table, because only you (through Christ) can change your own heart and actions. Personally, the only thing I see coming out of a video of her saying all the wonderful things her husband does would be some of us turning to our own husbands thinking “we’ll why doesn’t mine do that?!” Versus Alana suggesting as a woman to us women some things that we ought to do and convicting our hearts to be the change we wish to see. But that’s just my two cents :)
@christy0misty353
6 жыл бұрын
Janet Cortorreal Would you comment the same thing on a video of a man mentoring husbands on how to love their wives? Would you say to such a man, "Well what about your wife? You talk about men doing things for their wives... why aren't you talking to the wives and telling them what to do?"?
@LJC4495
6 жыл бұрын
Christy0Misty yes I would I don't like people being told to be a door mat I don't know about you .
@LJC4495
6 жыл бұрын
Christy0Misty by the way I'm not a femmist I just believe in equality. yes Iam a Christian. I think people in the church should stop using words like submit to your husband's with out biblical backup as to exactly what that means. People should read the and follow the Lord on their own and not just listen to the advice of people. I love my husband and Iam his helper and he is mine it's not a one way street. That all Iam saying didn't want to bring about anger from anyone.
@christy0misty353
6 жыл бұрын
Janet Cortorreal So a man mentoring other men to love their wives is teaching them to be a doormat? A woman mentoring other women on how to love their husbands is teaching them to be a doormat? Man, that's a bummer of a mentality. :(
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