I keep saying this but the reason I do is because I listen to you everyday. Please tell survivors from sever dismissive avoidant relationships to move on and never go back these people are controlled by their subconscious and when they shut down they are down and you are blindsided but need to leave and never look back. You can love them and leave and heal. Do not go back. I did and I regret it.
@jocelynviloria21
3 ай бұрын
God knows the heart of His Faithful servant ...He is our provider ...some people are lessons to us, some will change us, or some they can be change through us, and some are meant to be at the right time, place ,event and situation ...❤
@britishpatriot812
2 ай бұрын
My avoidant ex told me when I met her that she was “difficult”. I didn’t believe her, but she was right. I feel so sorry for her previous ex who stayed with her for years. I bailed out after 6 months. And yes, she was a nightmare.
@Pinkyxohx
2 ай бұрын
The one I was seeing, said the very same thing. I didn’t understand either but Coach Ryan have been go great at explaining all of this! Just wow, I do feel bad for them too as well and I hope that they all get the help they need.
@ArekBednarczyk-iw7dz
2 ай бұрын
My ex were aware that she is fearful avoidant, she knew that she has traumas, she knew that she has emotions that hasnt been worked out throughout the years. I even encouraged her to go to therapy. Guess what happened, she said that was very hard to her, that there is a lot of fear inside her, so she quit it. What happened later? She discarded me - got back to her toxic ex, even though she know that is not gonna work out, but she got back, she spent holidays with her ex, sending me e-mail about it, because i blocked her everywhere. Obviously she said the she loves me, but cant give me what i want.
@cspace1234nz
10 күн бұрын
...yeah I was married to one for 12 years, been divorced over 20 years now but we actually remained quite close. She always talks about all the great memories of our time together, I have zero nice memories. I'm a nice guy, I never tell her that. Just that, I have had a couple of really lovely, easy relationships in the last 20 years, she has not. She is becoming increasingly bitter as she gets older and knows she will remain alone. She had the opportunity to 'do the work' back then, with my support, she would not do it, she avoided it, which is what they do. So I hear what you're saying.
@cxrsei
2 ай бұрын
I didn't know that earlier,but now lk
@GodHelpMe369
3 ай бұрын
"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6: 32-33 “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8:12 “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” Matthew 16: 24-25
@gregorystinette8271
3 ай бұрын
The tooth fairy has blessed me. Shalom
@wchamp170
3 ай бұрын
Not to be a sexist, but if the avoidant is a man there is a small chance he may be. If the avoidant is a woman, even if they knew there is no way they would ever admit ever being wrong. Therefore, they would dismiss it as being the man's fault and they are completely justified in everything that they do. Generally because they've never had any repercussions for their actions
@sierrashaheen677
3 ай бұрын
By the grace of God people will admit when they are wrong. As a woman, I have done wrong in relationships because I used to be a fearful avoidant and then when I ask God for wisdom he led me to all these articles and videos and I realized my behavior was negatively impacting people and I realized where it stemmed from. But now I am more secure in relationships and I have peace in relationships that I never had before. There is some people that I hurt that I truly cared for but my fears got in the way. People can do mean things to other people and still truly love the person. They just end up realizing it later on because of not processing their emotions in the moment because they are avoiding them.
@frostqueen4904
3 ай бұрын
No, I know a woman that admits it and knows it. On the other hand I know two men, who would never admit it. Why you think women would never admit what they do wrong? In my experience, a lot of men are like that.
@wchamp170
3 ай бұрын
@@frostqueen4904 because every woman I have ever been with in 54 years has been that way. I have four older sisters that I have seen destroy men and never admitted they were wrong. One of my sisters divorced her husband of 15 years after having an affair behind his back and to this day denies it ever happened.
@frostqueen4904
3 ай бұрын
@@wchamp170 I only know the other extreme of it. I'm almost 30 and every girl I know gets played by men in different malicious ways. I have a large friend group in my age and nearly everyone is still single. Maybe times have changed now
@AliasGrace-q3v
2 ай бұрын
@@wchamp170 Oh dear, clearly there is bias here and huge problems in the family. So perhaps instead of being 'sexist' (without trying not to be, sorry how does that work exactly?) and viewing the rest of the world through the lenses your own family have created for you how about trying family therapy? It may prove useful.
@ijv5567
3 ай бұрын
Dear reader: There is no such thing as an avoidant. It is a coping mechanism to handle the breakup. I got dumped too 4 months ago. I fell into the rabbit hole of coaches like this to try to understand what happened. They say your ex is an avoidant. Everyone who got dumped has an avoidant ex. Because the ex does not want you in their life anymore. So they 'avoid'. This isn't some psychological thing. It is just common sense. It means they aren't into you. I tried to understand this whole thing too, watching these videos hoping they come back after few months. But they never come back. Because they don't want you anymore. The sooner you start to realize this the sooner you can move on. There is no such thing as an avoidant, because every ex who dumped you is an avoidant.
@frenchie4882
3 ай бұрын
There actually are people who are avoidantly attached and will carry these behaviors into all types of relationships, not just romantic. I agree though, a lot of times these videos are giving people a “reason” for being dumped that wasn’t their fault.
@rose-of-theoasis
3 ай бұрын
I am sorry for what happened to you. Of course not everyone end their relationship is avoidant. There are other reasons too.. If your ex isn’t an avoidant, it doesn’t mean that avoidants do not exist
@cococaptivating7611
3 ай бұрын
@@ijv5567 I have had breakups they were all painful But the thing that sends chills up my spine is the coldness I felt with dismissive avoidants it’s chilling and I feel that’s the thing that separates severe avoidants from the others.
@patriciapeeters7
3 ай бұрын
When someone pushes you away "because you came to close" and they come back later, (on and on for three years) you are dealing with a DA.. They want you for sure, until they get scared and run away. So yes, avoidants do exist.
@VidarTemte
3 ай бұрын
Its proven, and this is just misinformation. Im sorry.
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