In a way, fans reaction to Ezri parallels Worf's: Initially not want anything to do with her because she was not Jadzia, then constantly comparing Ezri to Jadzia and thinking she falls short, and finally coming to terms with the fact that Jadzia is gone and Ezri is her own unique person and should be appreciated as such.
@KapitalByoulikewaffles
10 ай бұрын
Really helps that they jumped right into dissecting Ezri as a character right after the season premiere. Hit the ground running. Hey from the future btw
@SapphWolf
3 жыл бұрын
I really like how they did Ezri, especially how it relates to Sisco's relationship with Dax. I like how at the start Kurzon is his mentor, then Jadzia is a peer and friend, and finally Ezri reverses the roll and Sisco is the mentor. It was a really great evolution of both characters.
@rosab4698
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! And it shows a lot of character development on behalf of Sisco too. Because he is a little uncomfortable with Jadzia at first, but he very quickly accepts and supports Ezri.
@dashfatbastard
2 жыл бұрын
Ezri had to face "The Emony Within".
@dashfatbastard
2 жыл бұрын
Did you see the DS9 documentary film from a couple of years ago? We'd been led to believe Farrell left to do "Becker", but it never tracked for me. Her revelation of how they'd treated her broke my heart. The section where you talk about being jealous of the other kids hits home...I was jealous of the other kids because I had to be a Jehovah's Witness. You're probably the only person I know who's expressed such a sentiment as part of a positive experience.
@omarqasirov8754
3 жыл бұрын
I actually liked how they portrayed Ezri as not having it as together as Jadzia did. It really made Ezri more real to me and way more relatable. Jadzia always seemed way too zen to be a character I could enjoy.
@emilymarriott5927
3 жыл бұрын
I never got the hate for her. I like Ezri. I wish she'd gotten an extra season or two rather than being stuffed in the final season, though.
@omarqasirov8754
3 жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@coreyhonkonen7670
3 жыл бұрын
I hate the circumstances that caused Jadzia to be written out, but I never hated Ezri
@TyrWolf88
3 жыл бұрын
I had always thought it was more outrage at the treatment of Jadzia than hating Ezri as a character, but maybe that was just my own feelings on the matter.
@LeahBouley
3 жыл бұрын
I agree, I didn’t care for her cause jadzia left, but she grew on me over the years and countless rewatches
@marocat4749
3 жыл бұрын
She is only in the last season, replaced a beloved character and got all the epidodes about her, she needes through only one season hard for her to grow that much. Its because of that. Situarional. But personally was just indiffrrence because new character, last season with any great characters. Very situational that she would get anger. But to be fair, she is holding up surprising ok for that. And the cowardness to not go with making ezri, a dude.
@natsmith303
3 жыл бұрын
"And I mean RIGHT when I graduated college." (Hands out the diploma) "Holy @$!#, I'm a woman!"
@ffreed
2 жыл бұрын
Achievement Unlocked!
@hoppareiter
3 жыл бұрын
As a cis guy who has barely watched any Star Trek, I gotta say this was one of the most engaging videos I have watched recently. The way you draw the parallels between the character and your own experience flows so incredibly well. And generally, Jessie, I love how you always touch on the basic human needs that inform those experiences. Vulnerable and at the same time well spoken, that's what makes your videos great!
@ToruKun1
3 жыл бұрын
"I had to figure out what it meant to be Jessie now instead of James" OH MY GOD, YOU'RE TEAM ROCKET
@Lycandros
3 жыл бұрын
"What do you know about raising children?" "Actually I have three, no four lifetimes of memories raising children." Now *that* is a reminder of Ezri's changes. All while her mother has been infantalizing her.
@wildcutecosplay
3 жыл бұрын
That feeling Ezri describes that joke at the dinner table at not knowing if you are a man or a woman that day is something I relate to as a nonbinary person who experiences a lot of gender fluidity. Most days I can joke about it, but there are some days where the struggle is real and I've made plans where I need to be seen a certain way and I can't be that.
@judithnelson1581
3 жыл бұрын
Wildcute, thank you for being so open. I have a lot to learn and I want to be sensitive and open to each one who has experiences different from mine.
@samiam2088
3 жыл бұрын
One of the things that bugs me about Worfs resistance to Ezri, wasn’t the confusion and “atypical grief pattern” or even comparing Ezri to Jadzia...it’s that he married a Trill, KNEW this was part of Dax’s lifecycle and Jadzias culture - after Jadzia spent all this time assimilating into Klingon culture and then he acts like a shit for so long.
@EmeralBookwise
3 жыл бұрын
True, although it really should be noted that knowing something intellectually is not the same thing as coming to terms with it emotionally. Doubly so when he maybe thought he'd never have confront such an eventuality, or that even if it ever came to pass he outlived her, it would be in the far future after he and Jadzia had gotten to spend a life time together. The problem is just as much that he wasn't prepared to lose her so soon. Moreover, to what ever extend Jadzia might ever have tried to prepare him for possibility, the expectation in Warf's mind was probably that the new Dax would be an entirely different person who would live an entirely different life somewhere else in the Galaxy. If it was someone he never had to meet, he could maybe come to terms with that as though it were some kind of reincarnation, but then Ezri came to the station and suddenly things were far more complicated than Warf likely ever imagined.
@RAHayes-qi4xi
3 жыл бұрын
@@EmeralBookwise I can only say that when my love died I hung around with the people who knew her. Endlessly chatting about things related to her. (not healthy) Finally had to admit to myself "this isn't helping" But how do you say that! To a Klingon. (keep a battleth behind the couch?)
@maureenogorman8740
Жыл бұрын
"knowing" and dealing with it are 2 things. Worf probably assumed he'd die first and never have to deal with it.
@conorsouthby3740
3 жыл бұрын
I think the reason why people hate is because they see her as a continuation of jadzia, like in doctor who with each doctor. I think ezri and jadzia are both separate characters but just have the dax name
@XanatosDavid
3 жыл бұрын
Its really puzzling what happens to a person with a symbiont after the person dies, star trek was always very vague about if there is any sort of afterlife in that universe, that is aside of the various myths of the different species. With the symbiont we saw that the different personalities of previous hosts could be transferred onto volunteers for this trill ceremony or whatever. On the other hand in that episode where Jadzias symbiont was taken she was conscious afterwards, before getting it back. Or that VOY episode where 7/9 got flooded with neural engrams from other assimilated drones due to the contaminated/hacked vinculum, IIRC. So it seams in the star trek universe a person is just copyable data, no sole no universal afterlife, except when one is lucky enough to get uploaded to a symbiont or the borg hive mind. On the other hand VOY couldn't even copy the doctor, i.e. transferring his program sure way, duplicating it no way. With quantum mechanics explainable, because of the no copy theorem. But then why would the doctor be a quantum construct and a the consciousness of a biological being would be just boring classical data.
@baileyravenwick
2 жыл бұрын
Each Doctor is very different as well, and yeah every reincarnation the cycle of "nooo don't go! I hate this Doctor! I love this Doctor! Nooo! don't go!!"
@trekjudas
3 жыл бұрын
I loved Jadzia AND Ezri! Jadzia was a goddess but Ezri was a neurotic mess who didn't feel comfortable in her own body! I'm not trans but I found her deeply relatable!
@andyenglish4303
3 жыл бұрын
Neelix popping up like "LOVE ME" and Jessie looking down and whispering "No."
@reverendmothercheryl2276
3 жыл бұрын
Both characters, Jadzia and Ezre are also seen in the DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) community with all of the Dax past lives representing alternative identity states with whom we have to reconcile.
@lunania-onenthade
3 жыл бұрын
I think I definately would've liked her more if she got more time on screen (like another season or something). I was sad to see jadzia go, but ezri was interesting and cool in her own way too. I think most hate for her came from missing jadzia, and that's just sad they didn't give her a chance.
@EmeralBookwise
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, coming in at the final season did her no favors. Here we all were as so many other long running plotlines were reaching their climax, but then here came Ezri, familiar yet strange at the same time, a at the beginning of her journey when so many others are approaching their ends. Any new character would have struggled for relevance with the audience at that time, and only all the more so a character that is seen at best as rushed replacement or at worse an inadequate knock-off.
@bigcas78
3 жыл бұрын
I don't think people so much hate Ezri, but resent her because we loved Jadzia so darn much.
@hamobu
3 жыл бұрын
I also get the feeling that Trek fans hate any changes to their franchise.
@SakuraNyan
3 жыл бұрын
@@hamobu Probably accurate.
@MrAwesomebassplayer
3 жыл бұрын
I will die mad over how they treated Terry Farrell.
@Crazael
3 жыл бұрын
I personally never hated Ezri. I just felt she was kinda boring, largely because she doesn't get enough time to really develop into her own person and is mostly treated as just a more awkward Jadzia.
@That80sGuy1972
3 жыл бұрын
I love this video. Ezri Dax is not only a Baby Trans, she is a character that some of us with other identity issues can relate to. When I started healing and (at times) recovering memories from lost time, even having completely different sets of memories suddenly become mine, it was crisis-level stressful. I fell apart more than once. Let me tell you one line I heard from a few of my friends over my decades of life that I mostly ignored before I began healing. "(my name) doesn't sleep, he just becomes someone else." When I began healing, I thought it gave me insomnia that I handled in micro-naps. I was wrong. I always only micro-napped. Ezri Dax wasn't only a Baby Trans, she was the perfect character to relate to for all people who have identity crises. I actually envy people who have a solid sense of who they are as well as admire them, especially if they know it so well they fight for how they fit in... and I will fight to the very end to help those SANE people find acceptance for who they REALLY are.
@emmaramseyer5365
3 жыл бұрын
I personally think the character of Ezri is super complex (which is why I love her), whereas Jadzia is the character we know and love, her interactions with Sisko, her love of Klingon culture often feel very reminiscent of her earlier host Curzon, Ezri is instead almost a character foil to jadzia in her different interests. Both characters are phenomenal and DS9 is my favorite Star Trek series so that may color my view, but I still think Ezri is great
@InvisiblerApple
3 жыл бұрын
A huge part of that is we only get to retroactively see parts of Jadzia's time training for the joining. As much as I want to see Ezri's story continue, it would have been awesome to see the transition from Curzon to Jadzia. Especially since at this point, we've already started from a point where Jadzia is confident and sure of herself. Your comment just got me thinking about what Jadzia's transition right after joining would have been like.
@DrAnarchy69
3 жыл бұрын
Holy crap, I never noticed how Ezri’s experience is (intentionally or not) a reflection of the trans experience. I had a (more or less) affirming family and super awesome friends. But even then it was (and is) hard negotiating being NB Trans. So watching this video really made me resonate more with both Jadzia but more importantly Ezri.
@jamessatter7418
3 жыл бұрын
When DS9 began, I remember thinking about what would happen if/when she changed hosts. I liked how the show handled Ezri, especially the way she connected to other prior hosts rather than viewing herself as a continuation of Jadzia.
@SoSoMikaela
3 жыл бұрын
I recently finished rewatching DS9, too! I love them both but the thing Ezri had over Jadzia was her vulnerability. It was both endearing and relatable in ways that Jadzia rarely ever was. And that's something I cling to in a character. But I think O'Brien will always be my favorite in the series.
@KhaosAdmiral
3 жыл бұрын
O'Brien is good choice for a favorite character because lord knows that the man has suffered immensely, me personally, I consider Garak my all-time favorite character in DS9.
@lunalexi2462
3 жыл бұрын
Ezri was immediately my favorite character on DS9. I was a teenager watching this show and she was so relatable to me, figuring out who she was while I was struggling with my own sexuality and gender. So thank you for this video ❤️
@katherinehecht4222
3 жыл бұрын
Part of why Sisko was so great with Ezri is because he had been counseled by a wise and informed Dax as to how to navigate this transition. She said Benjamin not all friendships with other species survives this transition. Sisko says that won't happen to us Her response is I suggest you allow yourself to get comfortable with your discomfort and time will do the rest. Truer words were never spoken as a sis female who has several trans friends a few of them I knew before and during this very important and complicated process. Being supportive even when you are unsure what that support is supposed to look and feel like is tricky from both sides but a willingness to understand, genuine caring, and honest communication are essential ingredients as well as a willingness to say sorry when you make a mistake or don't get things quite right and acknowledge that this is a learning process for everyone.
@sharonoddlyenough
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. This is so wise.
@katherinehecht4222
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your affirmation of my thoughts. As I was writing this post my thoughts were on my dear friend Billie who approach me about training a service dog through Salute of Service a small non-profit that I'm the president with the mission to help disabled veterans train their pet dogs to assist them with their disabilities. When I first saw Billie she was dressed in a rather androgynous attire and had clear nail polish on. Billie had served in the Navy during Vietnam and in later conversation disclosure to me that she was nervous about being accepted. As we worked together training her dogs our friendship grew and she became vice-president of Salute of Service. Billie was my friend and was an invaluable supporter of the nonprofit. At one point we where trying to build our office and kennel and I was having difficulty talking to contractors and lumber stores which was definitely outside of my wheelhouse. I asked Billie to please talk to the guys for me because I was feeling overwhelmed and not totally listen to. Her response to me was classic she would handle this for me but she really just wanted to be one of the girls. When Salute of Service was to receive an honor to our work with major media coverage she asked me how should she dress and I told her to be comfortable and dress the way she wanted to be seen. I was happy that she felt comfortable to dress like a woman and that she knew that my support was solid. And when a group that supports female veterans made the comment that Billie wasn't really a female veteran I gave them a piece of my mind and would not participate in their events. This past December I lost my dear friend it wasn't gender that defined our friendship it was who Billie was as a person that so endeared her to me. I will miss her forever.
@sharonoddlyenough
3 жыл бұрын
@@katherinehecht4222 such wonderful memories, you were lucky to know her. Condolences, it is tough to lose a friend.💐
@wetko1977
3 жыл бұрын
I‘m a highschool-teacher and so on a daily basis i meet young people that are trying to figure themselves out as well as their place in this world. So thank you a lot - Thx for explaining your world to me in a language we both share - star trek 🖖🏼
@gretchenbadger3158
3 жыл бұрын
Jessie, I am in tears here seeing how much compassion you have for your past self. As someone who struggles with figuring out how to love her younger self, I am so moved by the obvious love you have for that child in the picture. This video is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing ❤️
@ryanc5572
Жыл бұрын
I agree. The child in the picture is a beautiful person, and Jessie is too, as she is now. Incredibly touching video that really spoke to me.
@Tyr666Thor
3 жыл бұрын
I always loved Ezri as a kid and never really got the hate for her.
@eoiny50
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed. I think the character and her story have aged really well and gives the series an nice injection of something new when watching back.. people just loved Jadzia too much at the time, which is understandable as she was also great!
@mattmiller9809
3 жыл бұрын
It's honestly just because Jadzia came prior to Ezri tbh. If Ezri was introduced first, things would be different I think.
@havvasweb
3 жыл бұрын
i dont like this, but i think what the deal was is that a lot of girls had. strong role model in dax and when ezri stepped in with her self doubt, it hurt
@samiam2088
3 жыл бұрын
Jessie: “My friend now saw me as this gamer girl he always wanted and didn’t need to try hard with to get to know and this call was all about him...” Me: “Welcome to womanhood! Lesson 1: Objectification” Also: I like Ezra, it just sucks that her whole existence was at the expense of Jadzia, instead of, for example another Trill and Jadzia helping her with this transition.
@SapphWolf
3 жыл бұрын
I totally get that feeling. I'm always torn wishing we'd gotten 2 or three seasons of Ezri instead of just the one, but that would mean we would have missed out on Jadzia and Warf's marriage and that would have been a travesty. (So torn) That being said I think it would have really diminished her character. She would have just been that insecure newbie that's trying to prove herself and wouldn't have really had much connection to the rest of the cast. Moreover it would have really weakened the trans narrative that I think is very much intentional with Dax. That kind involuntary change where everyone needs to readjust to this new version of a person they knew, and in some ways morn the loss of the old version they used to know was a huge part of her story. I'm cis, but even as a gay man I can relate to awkward conversations and the unintentional insensitive things people would say shortly after coming out and getting used to be open about my sexuality with family and friends after being in the closet about it for so long and there was part of me that wished I could go back into the closet or that I could just make myself straight and not have to deal with all of this in the first place. Ezri's existence requiring a sacrifice and being something everyone in the cast *has* to deal with is what makes her story feel super relatable at least for me.
@SapphWolf
3 жыл бұрын
@@davidpoland2313 Umm... I don't know how to tell you this, but... the fact that many men don't see it that way, at best, doesn't matter and, at worst, is part of the problem.
@samiam2088
3 жыл бұрын
@@davidpoland2313 You're right, you should leave it there.
@HirathaYT
3 жыл бұрын
@@davidpoland2313 “Being objectified is a nigh-on-universal experience of womanhood” /= “all men objectify women”, and frankly it’s a little weird to make women talking about their bad experiences about you.
@maisiesummers42
3 жыл бұрын
I'm definitely an Ezri stan. But then I've always had a thing for petite women with pixie cuts. (Winona Ryder in Alien Resurrection is just mmmmm) Given they had to cram a bunch of character development for her into a single season that was already packed with big heavy stories, I think the writers did well. Nicole de Boer had a lot on her shoulders and played the part as well as could be expected. I do wish we could have had more, but that's the nature of the beast.
@rocketdave719
3 жыл бұрын
Ezri Dax might actually be one of my favorite Star Trek captains. In fact, my favorite thing about the Trek relaunch novels is the character growth she gets in those books. Given how unconfident she was when first introduced, seeing Ezri discover an unexpected aptitude for command and go from counselor to starship captain in a relatively short span of time is really cool.
@BeccaRyy
3 жыл бұрын
After a recent rewatch of DS9 (post transition) I really really related to Ezri’s struggles to define herself post “transition.” It gave me some new ways to frame my process internally. And I love seeing myself reflected in media obvs
@mayra3277
3 жыл бұрын
Sisko is such an ally and father figure to everyone, he backed Ezri, Jadzia and Lenara, Jadzia and Worf, Bashir against his parents. We all need a Sisko in our lives. This was a really good explanation, and thank you for being so open with us. I had always seen the parallels to gender transition in Ezri, but, being cis, it's something I only observed from the outside, so hearing your experience was very eye-opening. The way I mostly related to Ezri was as being so young and in a way in a new environment. I got into DS9 around the time I graduated high school, and then moved out to study at university. It's a very different thing from a gender transition, but still a phase in which you kind of have to figure out yourself in a new role (in my case an adult). And it's very comforting to see a character struggle with finding themself. Ezri doesn't deserve the hate. No, she's not the same as Jadzia, but that's the point. And as her own character, similar yet different, I think she's great. And relatable.
@ejdax1191
3 жыл бұрын
Not me crying at this video 😭. My birthname is Ezri (my mum is a trekkie (and so am I)), I love the character and I feel a very specific connection to her. I find it funny how I've ended up being trans, kinda feels like it was meat to be. I'm at the start of this journey of understanding my trans masc/enby identity, I'm not entirely settled on who I am. I find myself in a weird position with this name I was given due to its connection to this character that I love but it makes me feel weird because it feels tied to this gender I was unwillingly assigned. I am early on this journey but I'm sure Dax will continue to be part of my life 💜
@tarab9081
3 жыл бұрын
Well now I need to know more about Jessie's Brother's murder mystery plot.
@createbonfire
3 жыл бұрын
To be honest, the way they sometimes portray counselling in ST seems so not OK to me. Ezri should have had her own therapy before counselling anyone herself or even continuing this career - her life just changed drastically! I'm sure she is a good counselor, but to stay one and help others she has to be stable herself. Otherwise it's unprofessional and simply dangerous. That's an issue I personally have with her character - I believe it's a writing problem. DS9 so often squeezes huge and complicated topics into a runtime of an episode - and journeys of its characters loose important, often vital parts. I wish they did a better job with Ezri, because otherwise i really like her, but this counselling thing just bugs me SO MUCH on a personal level.
@hezekiahramirez6965
Жыл бұрын
My last long term partner was a therapist. You know how they say therapists are all actually crazy themselves? I buy it. She has a lot of issues. A lot. Just ask her husband. (Long story) The point is that although logically I can see how you would think that a therapist can't be effective and help their clients properly if they have a lot of unresolved crap themselves, that's just not how it really works. They are able to compartmentalize and they can be objective. Most therapists are clients themselves. Tho I had a bad experience with a therapist and her personal issues, her clients just can't say the same. She was a very good therapist, for all her flaws. And this isn't just someone who has mood swings or something. She has sabotaged every romantic relationship she has ever had, which includes multiple relationships at one time, (not polyamory. Infidelity) and I'm convinced she's a textbook narcissist. So not a good person. But she was a very effective therapist and she has helped a lot of people
@ChuckSeville
3 жыл бұрын
This is such a wonderful way to use your story to help others, Jessie, and honestly, a really great way to expand allyship. There are plenty of cis people who have NO IDEA how relatable these very human issues of identity are because of their reluctance to recontextualize.
@JonaSauerAutorin
3 жыл бұрын
I currenty rewatch ds9 and even through I cry in advance, having 7 episodes with djazia left, im also looking forward to Meet ezri again
@Xondar11223344
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, Ezri Dax is amazing. Nicole de Boer was also great in Cube and, my favourite, she was also in a few episodes of Kids in the Hall!
@toppersundquist
3 жыл бұрын
THAT blew my mind, watching her bone down with Brucio. :D
@hagbardceline7118
3 жыл бұрын
Lauraaaaa
@victoriajankowski1197
3 жыл бұрын
As a cis partner of a transwoman I have put my foot in my mouth more than a few times. Sometimes we forget that the gender expression is learned, because we do that learning in our developmental years we don't realize we are learning, like learning your native language, seems simple until you learn a new one later on, you might start talking to your self in the second language but it takes time. There was a conversation we had where I was teasing her about not being particularly good at house keeping, joking about womanly skills (all in jest). I think I hit a nerve because She pointed out that she had been raised as a 'Good Southern Man' and hadn't been allowed to learn those skills and was basically going through the teenage learning curve in her 30's (there may also be a completely different conversation to be had about teaching all children to keep house lol)
@laurendynes6289
3 жыл бұрын
Your name used to be James? And now your name is Jessie? My head is in Pokemon so all I can think about is team rocket. James used to like cross dressing as well and looked fabulous.
@Naa45702
3 жыл бұрын
Omg yes! That’s awesome!
@MercuriaObscura
3 жыл бұрын
Oh, so I wasn't the only one making that connection... Still, hearing her talk about her pre-transition past always confuses me for a second, because she is so firmly cemented as herself in my brain that I have real trouble not imagining her as a girl ':D
@seanmcmurphy4744
3 жыл бұрын
I just LOVED it every time Cisco called Jadzia or Ezri "old man"; as you say, he was a real supporter. I wish they'd shown Cisco and Jadzia doing some "old man" stuff, like smoking cigars together.
@luciferangelica
3 жыл бұрын
of course, the reason why garrick said the things he did really had more to do with him than ezri. he was lashing out at her because she was getting too close to topics which were sensitive for him. i was just rewatching him treat doctor bashir similarly today when that shit in his head was malfunctioning
@MorgenPeschke
3 жыл бұрын
I'm going to hazard that this is also the case with transphobes - it's not anything a trans person does that sets them off, it's how the idea that a transgender person might exist makes them uncomfortable for reasons they might not really understand. Like Garrick, it's easier for them to lash out than to work through their issues.
@Ulriquinho
3 жыл бұрын
I really want to see a Captain Ezri show. She deserves to get a chance to show us who she grew up to be!
@hamobu
3 жыл бұрын
I love these episodes where you personally relate to characters.
@Stevonniewolf3113
3 жыл бұрын
Ezri was one of my favorite Star Trek characters, because she was not as put together as her past selves. Then when we saw her family and her mom was upset because she was using Dax as her last name.
@myriadmediamusings
3 жыл бұрын
There is honestly absolutely nothing bad or wrong with Ezri IMO. She had a great angle with her character, some decent moments in the final season, and was well acted. A lot of the criticism I see is usually how she’s not Jadzia. While that’s certainly true and understandable to an extent, isn’t the fact she ain’t Jadzia her major ongoing character arc in the season?
@thomasjoychild4962
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, which is a cool arc intersecting with other characters' grief. She's not Jadzia returned and she never will be. The others (and the audience) eventually get to accepting that she doesn't have to be.
@MatthewCaunsfield
3 жыл бұрын
You've given me a new appreciation for Ezri. 🖖 And thank you for sharing further memories from your transition. I'm so pleased you were able to help that person on her journey as well
@marg5404
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this meaningful perspective of Ezri. Your explanation of how Sisko accepts Ezri AND how your best friend actively supported you is a very helpful guide to those us who want to be supportive in a mindful and productive way. You also point out how family and friends sometimes (often?) struggle to accept and perhaps understand this new, emerging person. As if the transition is about them.
@JetScreamer_YT
2 жыл бұрын
You blue yourself! I had a cat I saved from a nasty infection. She appeared on my porch from the woods. She was on deaths door. I nursed her to health. I was the only one to see her in quarantine over ten days. I named her Ezri Dax, for her new life. We formed a bond I've never had with pet, even over my childhood horses. She died four years ago, and telling this story has me welling up. We had 12 years together. 12 yeas she would not have had if she never found me that day. I still have two rescue cats, and I love them dearly. But, Ezzy can never be replaced. WoH, I'm gonna stop now. I made myself cry.
@dbdsaltminer
3 жыл бұрын
The thing about Ezri is that she had only 1 season to make an impression and make us fall in love with her.
@xopherific
3 жыл бұрын
It was nice to hear a favorable take on Sisko's use of "old man" for both Daxes. I am really ambivalent toward those moments. On the one hand I find them charming, probably owing to the mastery of Avery Brooks's delivery. However I can rarely shake the feeling that Jadzia and Ezri are both being dead-named by Sisko, as if he is refusing to see the new person. This feels even more true for Ezri to me because he has his time with Jadzia to revert to as well now; however, I can see how you framing the relationship as a source of consistency and affirmation makes sense of him sticking with that moniker.
@ilovebadstartrek
3 жыл бұрын
It's taken me far too long to find this channel. I appreciate this perspective so much. I LOVED ezri and I'm so glad you're giving her attention in such a candid and personal way.
@beckie8011
3 жыл бұрын
Ahhhh! This was so awesome! Jessie this video was so insightful and heart warming. As a fellow Tgirl, I have always gravitated towards the parallels of joined Trill and trans folks. Thank you for laying it out so eloquently here! Also, your joke there at the end about taking off your spots gave my gay little heart quite a flutter 😋 Happy Pride month!
@lella4233
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your video, I love your perspective! As a cis woman, I also identified with Ezri a lot because of her insecurities, she wore her emotions on her sleeves and allowed herself to be vulnerable. Also her journey to get to know herself and develop her own identity. I was in my teens when I watched the series originally, so I could relate a lot. But you add a lot of new layers to this whole story, things I hardly thought about - I love that we all find different aspects to relate, or the same thing but with a completely different personal background.
@carsonk1476
3 жыл бұрын
i'm surprised this popped up on my recommended bc tbh i don't really watch any star trek content on here and have not seen this series but i really loved this and am definitely considering watching it now.
@citrinedragonfly
3 жыл бұрын
I didn't get to see Ezri when DS9 first aired - we'd moved states, and the channel that aired new Star Trek didn't always keep a consistent time, or I didn't have access to the TV for the time slot. I did a full watch-through of DS9 on Netflix a few years ago, and while Jadzia was also one of my favorite characters when I was a middle/high schooler, and still is as an adult, Ezri was a wonderful addition to the cast, and a wonderful new Dax to meet and get to know. Her journey of self-discovery is one I wish I'd seen when I was in high school - how she handled anxiety, how she thought through her identity (I didn't realize I was part of the LGBTQ+ spectrum until college, and that was a difficult thing to go through), how she dealt with her family's expectations versus her friends' attitudes and everything you've described. It would have helped the fledgling queer me so, so much. This was an insightful and amazing video essay, and thank you for sharing your personal connection to Ezri with us, Jessie. You are an amazing woman.
@miserybutane298
3 жыл бұрын
you are describing every reason Sisco ever made me cry while interacting with Ezri Dax
@Estarfigam
3 жыл бұрын
Ezri is cuter of the two but thanks to this video I have a newfound appreciation of her.
@oddballlucy
3 жыл бұрын
So excited for this video. I admit I really struggled with Ezri when I was a kid watching as it first came out. I loved Jadzia so much and so much about Ezri felt like the worst to my totally unfair teenage brain. Then when I watched again in my 20s I still struggled, but less with her - actually reading some novels including her story in the Lives of Dax book helped. I more struggled with the writing. I was frustrated by the gross way some of the male characters behaved to her and will NEVER forgive the writers for the implication that Julian was somehow ever an option for Jadzia, thereby completely undermining the previously fantastic writing of Jadzias patient handling of his annoying persistence. I also hate that they made her a counsellor but also created the Vic character who completely undermines her in particular in the otherwise great Rom episode. But I was more aware that plenty of my reaction was unfair and I worked through it. And now, seeing this video, I feel a warmth and love towards this character that I feel like I should have found long ago. Thank you.
@IsaBelle1
3 жыл бұрын
I remember when I first saw Ezri, I thought to myself that with only one season left there was no way she was going to be as interesting as she had potential to be. So I think I subconsciously ignored her storylines because I knew they wouldn't have as much time to mature to their full potential. I am really sorry I did that. Looking back at DS9, they really did do a lot to develop Ezri as her own character in the short time they had with her. I can appreciate her character a lot more now. Even more so after your video. Thanks Jessie!
@maggiethegoblin8130
3 жыл бұрын
Ho wow This video gave me a lot more emotions than I thought it would going into it. In a good way, honestly. I'm in such a weird part of my transition, it helped a lot hearing your stories. Thanks Jessie
@jehaney
3 жыл бұрын
As a cisgender person who recently finished watching DS9 for the first time, it was interesting to see a take on a pair of characters I loved that I simply wouldn't have due to my life experience. And as someone who (much to my own surprise) loved Ezri even more than I loved Jadzia, it's just nice to see Ezri get some love.
@remijager2
3 жыл бұрын
I got into Star Trek in college. My spouse hooked me by showing me 'Data's Day', and while Data is my favorite character in Star Trek, DS9 is my favorite series. (Garak. Garak and Odo are a big part of that.) The first time I watched DS9, I was hella in the closet and Jadzia felt closer to me than a lot of characters did. I think it was because she bent gender norms a little bit, but always had a strong understanding of herself to come back to. I wanted to believe that, in time, I could be that. That if I tried hard enough I could be comfortable being seen as strong and female-bodied. And spoiler alert: I couldn't. Like many trans people, I could fake it. But now I see that I was breaking myself apart to make a mask that was lesser than I am, for the benefit of others. Personally, I hold that I didn't change gender- just gender expression. And it hurts when, as you said and Ezri was shown to, people act like you are the same as before. I've had a hard time expressing this- because isn't treating everyone the same good? I mean, maybe if you are changeling. (Even then, Odo and Laas didn't seem to like it much.) I don't want people to hold on to who they and I thought I was. I get it's hard. Trust me- I'm the epicenter of this event. Also, damn it Ezri needed more time to grow. Her ark always felt so rushed to me, so I didn't like the character as much. Not enough time for organic growth.
@stacyharvey3554
3 жыл бұрын
For anyone who is a fan of Dax whether it's Jadzia or Ezri should read the book The Lives of Dax. It is an awesome way to get to know all the people who have been Dax. It has Ezri as the storyteller but you get a short story for every host of Dax. You get to know each of them and can see that each of them was a very different person. It has a different author for each story so it makes each one unique and totally perfect for a book about a bunch of people who shared a symbiote. It is still one of my favorite Star Trek books because I have always been a huge fan of Dax.
@valerielynn8293
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jessie, I love your channel so much. I found you when I was searching for trans creators so I could educate myself. You see my child just recently came out to me as trans/nonbinary. So I felt the need to learn as much as I can so I can be a good support system and a good ally to them. You have taught me so much and helped me to bond with my child. What an amazing gift that is. Thank you so much. Then I discovered very quickly that you, like myself are a star trek nerd chick who is also from the ithica NY area, wowie. Thank you for the work you do on your channel. Thank you for educating me
@JessieGender1
3 жыл бұрын
Sending you and your child love. Thank you for the kind words 🖖❤️
@DavidMacDowellBlue
3 жыл бұрын
I pretty much fell in love with Ezri Dax. She was from the very start as interesting (but in a totally different way) as Jadzia had ever been. Also, it was so refreshing to see a Counselor who was clearly good at their job! Honestly, I've been in therapy and I thought Ezri would have done me good. Troi would have looked at me, told me what I was feeling, and then pretty much expect me to take it from there. She always seemed condescending, or at least judging others, even when she refrained from saying so. Ezri seemed there to help, to see what might help, to listen and take on board whatever anyone had to say. Honestly until PICARD I thought Deanna was just godawful at what her career was supposed to be. But also, Ezri continually demonstrated she was routinely vulnerable, a fact which imho contributed to the fact she also had vast reservoirs of personal strength. I think coming to terms with all those other Hosts proved that to herself on a visceral level.
@juliafonseca3790
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, this was beautiful and touching. I often think of the Trill when I look back at my past life, in a lot of ways transitioning has changed me so much that it feels like I carry someone else's memories.
@cheetopuffs4535
3 жыл бұрын
i relate really hard to the dax character in general (both jadzia and ezri) as someone with dissociative identity disorder. it's a pretty 1:1 analogy if you choose to make it, even uses some of the same terminology like host. an alter becoming a new host goes through a lot of the same stuff and it's something i went through. it's super personal and i love the dax character all the more for it
@Xondar11223344
3 жыл бұрын
Now that I've watched it, what a great video! I never considered Ezri as a metaphor for the experience of transitioning, and it's interesting to see how it does work so well!
@clairepowell5236
3 жыл бұрын
OMG YES. She's literally my fave Star Trek character. Havent seen the video and already want to thank you for making it Jessie
@clairepowell5236
3 жыл бұрын
after watching... yes to all of it. Again thank you!
@ashtonrooks7899
3 жыл бұрын
Ezri. I know exactly where my dislike for her came from. It's when she was ordered by Sisko to treat Garek. She hadn't even finished her training. She knew she wasn't ready. And she let sisko steamroll her. "What are you going to learn in the next three months that you haven't learned in 300 years" ... even three hundred years of general experience wouldn't substitute for the absence of even five years of professional experience. The correct answer to sisko's challenge was "nowhere near enough to be competent at treating such a complex case as Garek." As a patient, tentatively accepting mental healthcare to begin with and investing an immense amount of trust in the institute that is Starfleet to supply someone competent... Garek instead got someone who hadn't even finished training and was going through a personal crisis of her own. His rage was completely justified and only partially misdirected at Ezri because she had a duty to refuse sisko's order to attempt to treat him. Garek tearing her down was intense af. Totally understandable that as part of processing that she questioned whether she had any place in the profession at all. The right conclusion would have been for her to trust her instinct she needs to complete her training *and also gain several years of professional experience* before taking on something like a Garek, for her to tell off sisko and demand he order up an actually licensed and experienced therapist from bajor to do the job, then depart the show for a period, perhaps to return. But what happened instead is the thing that infuriated me. The writers completely disrespected the mental health profession and the people who rely on it for help in the way they wrapped up that episode. I hated it.
@theneonchimpchannel9095
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, I felt that so hard when you were talking about being jealous of girls at school, and even just in general at that age. It's actually part of the reason I only really got into Star Trek after I transitioned, because I would find myself getting jealous of some of the female characters, most notably Troi and Seven Of Nine (and I probably would have had the same feelings about Dax but Deep Space Nine had only really aired once and it was both really late at night and on school nights, but the one episode I did saw was where Dax married Worf which I certainly found intriguing as she talks about her previous marriages).
@andrwblood9162
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. I'm certainly impressed with Jessie and her putting herself out there. I won't pretend to truly know feelings of trans people, but I'm well aware of the common practice of keeping one's past effectively dead. Dead names and all. Which certainly makes sense and I wouldn't think of that as being an exclusively trans thing. We all should strive to make peace with ourselves. Jessie seems to be on a harder path of seeing herself where she might not feel rather great about and taking a strong stance towards it. I think it's inspiring and hope she's continues to live her best possible life.
@toddashi
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, I teared up a little when she quoted her dead name in such a raw memory.
@jacobinman7054
3 жыл бұрын
Your compassion, even to those who would and do wound you, is truly inspirational. Much like Star Trek itself, you represent to me a path of light into a better future.
@jessesloan864
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, you played a few chords from "Hard Times" in the intro, which lead me to watch the first half of "Georgia" (1995) and then go down the rabbit-hole with mournful and poignant country music for 3 hours. I must have needed this as a release. I'm a teary mess. Will finish your video soon.
@XanatosDavid
3 жыл бұрын
I think the problem was that really a lot of people loved Jadzia's character, that said Ezri was also a great character, its a pity there were no more DS9 seasons. It wasn't nice to kill Jadzia of, but than on the other hand we would have missed out on Ezri and that would be to us as viewers an even bigger loss.
@froggy-tq6xk
3 жыл бұрын
While watching DS9, I was so hung up on how trills work (still not clear on it, why did they never bring up that time Dax got stolen???) I completely missed the trans reading, it gives me a whole extra appreciation.
@515aleon
3 жыл бұрын
Yep and who thought of implanting one of those slug things in someone's belly? "I will surgically implant one of these guys." Yikes. Lots of unexplained territory.
@hippo1701
3 жыл бұрын
Jessie, thank you for sharing with us your pre-transition story. I will be sharing your video with trans friends that are struggling and those that have got past the pre-transition part of they life.
@gozerthegozarian9500
3 жыл бұрын
I love this video! I relate sooo hard to Ezri, she will always have a soft spot in my heart! When I finally get my legal name changed, I would very much want hers as my new middle name, as the name "Ezri" can be either male or female and it translates as "help" - not specifying if offered or needed, LOL!
@dashfatbastard
3 жыл бұрын
I hadn't really thought about it, but Dax really is a huge part of DS9's appeal for me...so much that I was concerned losing her in season six would kill the show's chemistry for me. It was a risky move (and not one well motivated as we found out in "What We Left Behind") akin to having dropped Spock, Data, or The Doctor, but it's De Boer's skill, appeal, grace, and yes, I'll say it, sheer loveliness of form and spirit that sold it and saved season seven from being "less than". As I've grown older, however, I've realized DS9's last season hit as I was preparing to embark on the greatest transition of my life...going from the 500 pound "monster" Chuck of 1998 who elicited stares of judgement, pity and revulsion to the 230 pound Chuck I was to become by 2002, who learned to (mostly) re-embrace his humanity. Dax re-adapting to a world where she had changed, but nobody else had but for their knowledge of how to deal with her hit home and hit hard. As I am sure you know, the physical change didn't solve every problem, but it did jump start things enough for me to be able access the deeper changes I needed to make inside to survive.
@WhatRobodoom
3 жыл бұрын
had to take a whole breather around the bit where you show the scene of garrick blowing up at ezri, bc it all just reminded me of when one of my (at the time) closest friends dropped this gigantic wall of text about how they didn't think i was really trans, bc my experiences with gender weren't the exact same as their own, and they supposedly knew better than i did who i was. i honestly still just can't understand how someone could so vehemently tear someone else down like that, especially when they'd been going through their own problems with their identity. thankfully, i still had plenty of other non-judgmental people around by then who i could trust, but..... yeah hoo boy that scene alone just struck way closer to home than i was expecting haha thank you so much for the videos though
@Stephen-Fox
3 жыл бұрын
I like Ezri, but it's... Sometimes hard to separate behind the scenes reasons for characters existing from their onscreen characterization. I think that Ezri Dax is probably the best way the DS9 writers could have handled that situation after Berman did Berman things, and Nicole de Boer is phenomenal in the role.
@cjhooversd
3 жыл бұрын
“I also have an unfortunate tendency to ramble.” One of many reasons that additionally, Ezri feels like ADHD representation and affirmation so often for me. (Her endless rant about the many kinds of gagh kills me every time.) I love that that interweaves with the representation and affirmation she is for you. Also, jumping on the ADHD wheel of tangents for a moment, you fucking kill me on a regular basis. “I should call my brother more often.”
@NicholasHay1982
3 жыл бұрын
This was so powerful, thank you for sharing. It's not a huge leap to queer the Trill, but a trans reading is so much more powerful. I had trouble accepting Ezri the first time I watched DS9 simply because I loved the character of Jadzia so much. Now, I'm sure I'll never share her story the same way again. When the second season of Discovery aired, I felt almost crazy seeing Hugh Culber's journey along the lines of the HIV epidemic. I sought out Star Trek fan communities where I could have that conversation, and felt like all I ever found were packs of rapid dogs with gnashing teeth. This channel is amazing.
@christopherstephenjenksbsg4944
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessie! You go girl! I am not trans, but I am gay, and I relate to many of the issues you bring up. I grew up in the world of Lou Reed's "Walk on the Wide Side." I realized I was gay when I was nine-years-old. I was lucky that I had parents who, despite some blind spots, were supportive. Also, I grew up in NYC, and so I had many examples of gay men all around me who helped me craft my identity. I went to school right around the corner from the Stonewall Inn. I remember the riots very well, and I knew people involved in them, including some of the trans women and drag queens, who were at the forefront of nascent Gay Rights Movement. They were fierce! My biggest fear was not being perceived as male. That's not gender dysphoria, but it is a conflict that took a lot of time to tame. A lot of gay men of my generation dealt with the same issues by going so deep into the closet that they even hid their sexuality from themselves, or they retreated into misogyny. Fortunately, I never fell into those traps. By the end of high school I was fully out. I realize now how very fortunate I was to grow up as I did. It could have been *so* much worse!
@jessicaholden3019
3 жыл бұрын
As a trans woman who loved Dax, I find this sooooooo relatable. Great video. ❤️
@OsirisMalkovich
Жыл бұрын
Me: transition is confusing and scary and I have no frame of reference for all the contadictory things I'm feeling about myself and my identity.! Jessie: Think of it like the Trill from _Star Trek._ Me: 😟🙁😮🥹☺️😁🎉 Seriously, thank you. Thank you so much for this video. I feel so crazy sometimes, and seeing these experiences through Dax (my favorite Star Trek character too!) Made so many things click! I cannot express how much hearing this has helped me!
@JanetDax
3 жыл бұрын
I refer to my birth self as my "previous host". The fun part of coming out was choosing my new name.
@baichibee
4 ай бұрын
This video helped me understand why Ezri resonated so well with me alongside Kira and is one of my fave Star Trek characters, and why I believe in Star Fleet as a whole
@fariesz6786
3 жыл бұрын
this was a really beautiful video essay, even for a cismale like me, thank you a lot. the scene with the pronouns actually seems like an intentional nod to the struggles of trans people; i hadn't realised it myself, but in hindsight i don't see any different way of reading it.
@muggletonianthembo6268
Жыл бұрын
My problem with Ezri is that she ended up with Julian. I know he grew a lot as a person since season 1, but I really felt like Jadzia and Worf's relation somehow transcended gender (being based so much on Klingon cultural norms which do not match up with our conceptions of gender), whereas Ezri and Julian seemed to fit comfortably into our societal standards about heterosexual relationships. I feel the same way about Odo and Kira, though I suppose if a literal shapeshifter can be a man that does imply that biology does not determine gender (subjectively I know it's just that I, as an undiagnosed autistic closeted nb youth, really identified with Odo and Data and didn't want them to be canonically male).
@gozerthegozarian9500
3 жыл бұрын
Useless DS) trivia: The shoes that went with that HAAAAWWWWT Klingon wedding gown were actually to small for Terry Farrel and she was in genuine pain during the filming...Still looked amazing, tough...
@_NIKOS9_NIKOS
3 жыл бұрын
Ηer entire speach calling out the bullshit of the Klingon Empire and that it needed to die (something that not even most of the main cast had the balls to admit) made her entire character worth it, and the fact that she did it right infront of Worf made her even more awesome
@shoushirei
3 жыл бұрын
Jessie, your words on jealousy are so profound. I've never been able to put those feelings into words, so thank you!
@bryanmerton5153
3 жыл бұрын
I love your channel! I am 61 ASD and ADHD. Star Trek has been my special interest for 55 years! My father, an aeronautical engineer, made my brother and I watch the original show as he felt it was important! So my obsession began! You channel is amazing! I have lots of catching up to do! Also, Jadzia was one of my favs as well!
@akavienne
3 жыл бұрын
I have to admit that I haven't watched that much Star Trek. My husband is way more into than I have ever been. But you make me want to go watch so that I can see & enjoy it through your eyes. Oh, and while I might have gone with a different color (even if using blue) for the eyes, your makeup is on point. :)
@beard78748
3 жыл бұрын
I am glad I am not the only one that felt that way about Ezri Dax. She was great. Looking back I think it would have been cool if they had Dax be male for the final season. The conversation with Worf would have been great! Also may be they have sex and Worf starts questioning his sexual identity.
@horseenthusiast1250
3 жыл бұрын
Now that is a galaxy brained take
@michaelmolock
Жыл бұрын
Not so much an episode comment, but a comment in general. First, I just wanted to thank you for your commentary on Star Trek in general, and Deep Space Nine specifically. You have encouraged me to look at it once again. But this go round, through a wider perspective. Well that an I’ve always had a thing for Avery Brooks ☺️☺️☺️. As a gay man (a Black one if if that helps), this essay of identity was heart felt. Not everyone has someone, despite everything, sees and supports you as your friend. Mine was my mom. I not so much as come out to her after college as she wondered what kind of guy would be good for her son. Imagine being subtlety outed by your own mother? 🤣🤣🤣 You help bring those moments back. Long story short (too late) I wanted to let you know that you are appreciated. Oh…And thank Sean from Trek Culture too. It was through that viewing party video I became aware of you. Much love 💙💙💙
@chriscataldo3688
3 жыл бұрын
This was an incredible share! This clearly was one of your best productions, especially on all different aspects that transitioning can be. Thank you!
@grifonecoronato
2 жыл бұрын
As a teenager watching season 7 of DS9, I didn't quite understand Ezri. Jadzia was so confident, so approachable... and to see Dax reduced to a bubbling, uncertain mess left a bitter taste in my mouth. At the time, I thought that Dax would have been better served in Season 7 as a recurring character, like an officer on a ship that occasionally came into contact with the DS9 crew to offer help, etc. Now my feelings on Ezri are very different. And I'm happy they made such an important contrast to Jadzia. But more than that, I can see now how Ezri could resonate with so many. And, she had a very cool arc throughout the season, from uncertain in herself, to being able to stand up to her family, push back on Worf, and grow into her own. So yeah, this was a great analysis.
@eshbena
3 жыл бұрын
I understand why you had to stop being friends with that former roommate. Besides pronouns, I always am super careful to not dead name my nephew. I'm autistic and ADHD, so my memory is terrible, but I practiced his new name for hours, drew art of it, and wrote it out for myself on a note, just so I could be certain not to slip up. It's been several years now and when mail comes for his dead name, I now have to genuinely pause and try to remember who that name refers to. I do all this though, because of how much I know it hurts him to hear that name thrown at him. I can't even imagine how much pain that person's remark must have caused you. I know that you're doing good these days, but I send a hug to past you and tell that younger version of yourself that you're loved and brilliant and far better than you know.
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