I filmed this video in November intending to give advice about how to get through the holidays alone. However, it turned out to be a rough period for me and I didn’t think I had anything valuable to say. I’m posting it now because I’m learning that while I may not have specific tips every time, it’s still helpful to share my struggles and story. P.S. Banner and photos updated, hopefully it wasn’t confusing. 🙂
@tipjohnsmithdrdreday4596
7 ай бұрын
am going through the same thing with my love life is not going well and i need your help and idea
@tipjohnsmithdrdreday4596
7 ай бұрын
am a big fan as well my name is john
@Alienonearth287
7 ай бұрын
You are a nurse so you have no idea how many people considering you a great person,a real friend, they all love you 😉 . you know that they don't want to be were they are but they are there and you are with them 😉🤗
@TraceyBillsHomes
6 ай бұрын
aren't you afraid your family will see this and be offended?
@purposedrivenwoman
Ай бұрын
Are these people family or friends adding value to your life? Stop seeking validation.Just because they are blood relatives didn't make them family.
@ebonieriley8309
2 ай бұрын
Their problem is they can't do what your doing, so they can't be happy for you.
@Quilt4Joy
3 ай бұрын
Jealousy is a sin. Shame on them.
@LauraJeanz
15 күн бұрын
My take was also that the family response was jealousy. When adults display a lack of emotional maturity, empathy, and self awareness to the degree that jealousy manifests in the one place where we all should expect to experience love and acceptance, the only appropriate response I can imagine is to limit contact there and cultivate healthy relationships elsewhere. That is what I'm doing. I'm blessed to have professional support through my HMO to navigate this difficult territory, both a therapist and a support group facilitated by licensed therapists. I cannot recommend professional services highly enough. I would have found this level of service cost prohibitive under my former PPO healthcare plan; I'm so glad I switched to an HMO.
@Selah1141
2 ай бұрын
I have lived with feeling "tolerated" my entire life.
@VelmaGilbert-k6m
Ай бұрын
So have I, it is what it is at this point . Parents are passed , only brothers left - and I’m the “ baby “sister - in my Sixth Decade , sheesh ⁉️ i cant worry about it anymore. Its My Time to Finally Get to BE - I’m Good now 🤷🏽♀️🙏😎
@angieang26
Ай бұрын
I wasnt even tolerated by my living immediate family They outright disliked me. And still dislike me today.
@SpiritKnows
Ай бұрын
@@angieang26 Oh honey, I totally get it. I was the last born and the SCAPEGOAT. I bet you were the scapegoat too! If you are not familiar with that term look it up on KZitem. It will help you understand yourself more deeply and maybe not be so sad. YOU ARE SPECIAL AND THAT IS WHY THEY TREAT YOU SO BADLY. Much love and many hugs!🥰
@angieang26
Ай бұрын
@@SpiritKnowsI was the scapegoat and the odd one out. It used to make me sad but not so much anymore. I don't care. I just avoided them too. I prayed to God to move me to another state away from them and he granted that wish I am far away from them.
@ChristianLove7
Ай бұрын
You know, I love being around smart people, I am not intimidated by any means. I appreciate all of your hard work and accomplishments. You go girl👍🏽!!!
@turnaroundstory
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much Christian
@digitalcassette5
7 ай бұрын
It's horrible when family is like this. But walking away and or strong boundaries is the only way.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Setting boundaries is something I definitely need to start practicing. I find it easier to do laterally with colleagues etc, but harder when addressing elders. You're right though. Thank you
@digitalcassette5
7 ай бұрын
@turnaroundstory I am still learning as well and come from an Italian family so I definitely relate. But at the end of the day, if you leave there feeling worst about yourself it's not worth it. Set the boundaries and if they are not respected it's up to you to decide if u want to continue to put yourself in that situation. Easier said than done but worth it for yourself in the end.
@turnaroundstory
4 ай бұрын
Agreed, excellent advice. The ironic thing is, I started KZitem thinking I was going to try to help people, but comments like these help me so much in return. Thank you. 💛
@angieang26
Ай бұрын
I walked away years ago and happier for it.
@LauraJeanz
15 күн бұрын
@@turnaroundstory We are social animals and story tellers. I consider sharing stories a kind of communion. We are at our most human sharing stories, and I have always experienced both giving and receiving in spaces with intentional story telling. This is what families *should* deliver to members. I have seen this modeled by indigenous peoples; it seems to be something western culture has forgotten or lost. I hope your work here brings you peace and comfort in time.
@murielfenner1632
Ай бұрын
I have always live by this: blood relatives doesn't mean you are friends or you have to like them. Sometimes the friends you chose are your family. Sometimes you have to let go of bad relationships. You are responsible for your own mental and physical health. Do you.
@temperance1211
7 ай бұрын
Thank you! Your words made me cry this morning, tears that needed to fall. Stoic too long. A year ago my father died, I hadn't seen him in 20 years, I have no regrets in that. The rest of my small family has always been disrespectful at best, I ended up cutting them off. It brings peace. I have worked every holiday for the last 8 years to distract myself. This year I flipped it, took them all off, sat with myself. I failed to put up a tree, or really celebrate, but I did small things ( or at least tried). It's been painful. But I know I will find my groove. Thank you again for your vulnerable words this morning. It is comforting to feel less alone in the loneliness. I wish you, I, and all the others struggling a more fulfilling year in 2024.❤
@jenniferjones4113
7 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
We have similar stories. Thank you for sharing. I'm happy I was able to connect with you today, I hope you are feeling better now. It'll get better, we just can't give up. 💛
@theterranceharvey
Ай бұрын
I'm not close to my family either. My mom yes my mother thinks I'm a goofball because I'm not married, no kids and no girlfriend. So in her mind I'm weird. I just am more at peace by myself. I hate drama and fake people so.....I used to also work on holidays to get the extra money and also to be distracted. In the past 8 years now I just go on vacation myself or on a cruise and just enjoy meeting new people but of course still being safe and just talk about casual things. Nothing too personal. But yes you deserve a good life. And everything is going to be great!!! Stay strong 💪 !! Peace and blessings to you!!!
@katec9893
7 ай бұрын
I relate to this, I'm sorry your family invalidated your success and choices. I've been extremely lonely recently after going through a lot of loss in my life. I've been trying to meet new people and this week I met a few new people in various places but mostly I felt worse and felt better when I came back home to spend time with myself. A lot of people have all sorts of opinions on our jobs, businesses, lifestyle choices, politics etc and it can feel confusing, unsettling and destabilising if they cast doubt or criticise our choices however subtly they do it. I've realised part of the problem is I feel very unhappy within myself currently so no matter who I meet it will be hard to connect. I'm focusing on grounding myself more and tuning into my intuition, and when I do talk to others I'll stay more centred and calm rather than talking and sharing too much with them. When I feel sad I find myself seeking out other people's opinions on what to do and this week I was reminded that it's my own inner guidance I need to tune into rather than the thoughts of others.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Hi Kate. I'm sorry you had a tough time, but I'm very proud of you for trying. People are definitely quick to pass judgement, so I'm learning that not everyone deserves the same level of access. You made a great point as well, it's hard to connect if we are unhappy with ourselves. Wishing you success in the future. 💛
@YevetteGooden
7 ай бұрын
Very transparent, and totally relatable. Thank you for sharing and reminding us that we’re not alone.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@Better-na-better
7 ай бұрын
The planet is shifting and there are those who will get it and some will not. You will resonate With your soul tribe and them with you. You’re never alone darling.🥰💐💜🤗
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much 🙂
@tamt5846
Ай бұрын
I’m sorry that this is late, but I just came across this video. I was going to say so much about this video, but checking out other videos I see that you are still alone and doing well., so in summary, know your self worth and enjoy things you love. I recently came across a quote “ It’s better to be alone than in a bad relationship” and that means family or friends. Find YOUR peace. 💕
@bubbas5651
Ай бұрын
This gave me the chills. I am you and you are me. I turned my back on my relatives 5 months ago because although they love me, they refuse to see me. My parents saw me, loved me, and respected me so there is no excuse for my relatives. My friends are now my soulmates and chosen family. Find your soul tribe. God is always there as well, whether you are a believer or not. To anyone reading this,, YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.
@paolaballarino1775
7 ай бұрын
They are scared of your success because they have not accomplished as much as you have and they know it.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thanks Paola. 🙂
@willaburns1264
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. These have been my experiences too. However, I have learned most people do NOT know how to have a "conversation" they do not know how to think of anyone else other than themselves. With social media it has made it more difficult for people to "learn" how to have a conversation. At first it's "hurtful" but when I took a step back and actually "listen" to what "they" are saying, I realize their comments aren't always coming from a place of "hurt" but from a place of "ignorance" and their inability to have a "conversation" inability to "communicate". So I have learned to "teach" people how to have a "conversation" with me. I actually call them out on their behavior is a "kind" way and I explain my "experience" with communicating with them. At first it "awkward" but then the communications improve over time.
@KittyQueenMeow
Ай бұрын
Dear Latoya, I’ve just discovered your channel today and am subscribed. This video resonates deeply and I’m 56, living in Asia. I’d recommend Patrick Teahan’s KZitem channel to learn more about healing childhood wounds. I believe they do impact our adult lives and most of us have them, some more than others. You’re on your way to living your best life yet because you are more self-aware than before through all that inner work you’ve been doing, and continue to do. Just like how you recognize that blood relations don’t necessarily want the best for us without even realizing it themselves, you will slowly learn to discern who is healthy in mind, body and spirit, and learn how to build a healthy relationship with such a person. You are discovering all this now, already pivoting your life’s trajectory to better, healthier and happier outcomes, Latoya ❤ Congratulations 🎉🥂🌈
@SuperShareShare
7 ай бұрын
I am so proud of you! I had a father that would always celebrate the wins of the boys in the family but not acknowledge the girls, although the girls were the higher achievers. I have become very vocal when celebrating the women in my sphere of influence. It has helped me to heal and cope.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear about the way you were treated, but happy you were able to heal from it. Thanks for sharing 🙂
@ShaBella509
2 ай бұрын
I appreciate you sharing your personal story, many can relate to your experiences. Sometimes its best not to share your goals, dreams and accomplishments to family and "friends" as they may not always be supportive or happy for your success which is so sad 😫
@Star-Mac10
7 ай бұрын
Next time, put the Christmas tree up for yourself. You will appreciate it's beauty daily. Also, consider creating your own family through platonic relationships. Oftentimes, water is thicker than blood. Like becoming a nurse, every goal is achieved one little step at a time. Keep fighting against your internal opposition for what you want out of this fleeting life. Like every successful boxer, you may need a new game plan. Thanks for sharing. 💜
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
You're right. I didn't think of the joy that the tree itself would provide, and also the feeling of accomplishment. Thank you.
@Star-Mac10
7 ай бұрын
@@turnaroundstory You're most welcome. Thank you for responding and positively receiving my message.💜
@KashanaD8345
7 ай бұрын
I can relate to this your not alone
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
💛
@KashanaD8345
7 ай бұрын
@@turnaroundstory ❤️
@amarizboldwarrior
7 ай бұрын
I actually love being alone I love boundaries I love limits ... in certain aspects nothing wrong with that.. ❤
@sandraathamneh9002
3 ай бұрын
I'm proud of you, honey! If I were in your family I would tell you that all the time just like I do my daughter. Stay strong and true to yourself!
@turnaroundstory
3 ай бұрын
Thank you Sandra. I really appreciate your kind comment. 🙂
@Phoenixdawn111
2 ай бұрын
I am in a similar season. For me I've come to the realization that I have had people in my life as crutches- I feel that my alone season is for my growth, to rely on myself, to believe in myself, find my own power and my place in the world. It gets hard sometimes but I remember my weaknesses/vulnerabilities and wade through the challenges that come with doing life solo for a season..
@turnaroundstory
2 ай бұрын
This is a very powerful comment. How did you become so strong? Keep going! 🙂
@BlessedInEveryAreaOfMyLife
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing ❤. I've decided that my young adult child and I will start our own holiday traditions, and we've fallen in love with going on cruises during this time of year.
@barbarajohnson6026
Ай бұрын
It's best to love love yourself. When you love yourself you should never feel alone.😊
@Anna-ww4pv
12 күн бұрын
A remark like that after sharing is jealousy. Familiar people don’t want you to change as they compare theirselves to you. Your life is great! Toxic families teach you how to compartmentalize.
@arlenaholmes
Ай бұрын
Your story is true and valid for so many other people! Thx for sharing!!!
@turnaroundstory
Ай бұрын
Thanks Arlena. I really appreciate your comment 😀
@tcconnection
25 күн бұрын
I feel for you. Life isn't what we hoped for in many ways, but good for you for protecting your reality and sanity.
@ruthbanon6049
3 ай бұрын
Listen, you are drop-dead-beautiful. Really really pretty. And a very accomplished professional nurse. And obviously a very nice person. You are "enough" by any standard. I am 63 white female. I had very sparse relations with my parents since my twenties. Doing life without parents has its drawbacks but also some advantages which you realize in the long run. You wise-up sooner. Families can be very toxic for some of us, so better take distance. My crystal ball sees you married to a nice doctor real soon. HE would be really lucky. All the best.
@EnnVee959
7 ай бұрын
People are more rude than ever. In my ancestral country, older generations feel they have the right to be rude to younger generations for a variety of bizarre reasons. Good manners are priceless, and are they key to showing respect to others and making everyone feel welcome at the same time.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thank you
@PatriciaPatricia_
7 ай бұрын
This is so transparent. So raw. So vulnerable. And we thank you ! I truly feel that if you continue to show up for yourself by showing up for your feelings, the world will open up for you in ways you couldn't have imagined. Videos like this, even if you don't decide to share them, are beautiful ways to journal your journey! Love is your birthright! Show up for your life and life will show up for you! You Got This, Love! We Believe In You!
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Patricia! 🙂
@janechung123
Ай бұрын
You’re truly a lovable person. Wish you luck in finding new friends and / or a mate..
@silvermica
6 ай бұрын
I'm now in my 50s. I have no family, no parents, no kids, no close friends, and no love. I'm no slouch either. I've gotten my engineering degrees despite coming from an extremely poor background - and a dysfunctional family to boot. I bought a home in Silicon Valley and I'm an active musician. Yet, I spend every Christmas alone. If I were to disappear tomorrow only the bill collectors would notice.
@TraceyBillsHomes
6 ай бұрын
Silvermica, wow, this hit me and I want to say I'm sorry to see your comment & how you feel. There is love out there.
@turnaroundstory
6 ай бұрын
Hi! Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry you are feeling this way and going through this. We definitely have similar stories.
@silvermica
6 ай бұрын
@@turnaroundstory - I hear ya. Early in my career I found it difficult mingling among the more affluent. I felt as if I was an imposture. I always avoided talking about my past with co-workers - because I wasn't - 'normal.'
@LauraJeanz
15 күн бұрын
My husband and I are reading "Party of One: The Loner's Manifesto." He's finding comfort learning he is not alone in having a strong affinity for solitude. I'm learning I need to take care of my own social needs without his participation. Just to say, having love does not necessarily change things for people who spend much time alone.
@theterranceharvey
Ай бұрын
Hey!!! I just saw your video today for the first time. Great video. I too am not really close to my family and travel alone a lot because I hate drama. I don't like being pressured. As far as relationships, never married with no children. So glad you are a hard working woman who is holding it down!!! So proud of you!!! You deserve to be happy and successful!!!
@quevaltee
11 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story. It's sad that so many of us have the same experiences within our own families. For years I thought that somehow I partly had some blame with my opposing relations with my family but as I've gotten older, I realize and have come to terms with the fact that just because you are related by blood does not give them the authority to judge or take away your joy. It took some time but I've finally reached the point of accepting and being completely okay with removing them from my life. Congratulations for all of your accomplishments in your life and wish you many more. Stay strong and keep doing you!
@ScottMond
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. We have the same cultural background. What you described is definitely default mode behavior learned culturally. As you talked about your family's response..I thought does she know my family? Exact response and behaviour. Only gets worse as they get older. Your video here was healing, as I know not to take their comments personally anymore. Also, I limit my time drastically speaking to them, as they don't show encouragement or enthusiasm unless I push myself to the highest accomplishments so they look good and can brag. Totally toxic. But like you said..not bad people, but toxic for a soul that needs God's transforming healing power to make our souls whole in this life!
@kippykippyphoebe9203
Ай бұрын
I go to sleep Xmas eve and get up Boxing Day. Simples. Don’t put yourself through it. Sleep is the best gift. The rest is societal sentimental bull. Don’t take it on. Anyway can be Xmas. Do it in a different day. That way you do it the way you want without all the societal baggage. Try it! It’s loving and being gentle with yourself. ❤
@sharonlockett3098
7 ай бұрын
Pray to God get into your Bible seek God first at all other things will be added unto you❤❤❤
@angieang26
Ай бұрын
You and i are the same. Im not close to my family and i have no friends at 49. I prayed to God to send ne mg own family and he did. I have a husband and teenage daughters but still no friends.
@c.sexton4819
7 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for sharing this. I wish you every good thing. God will grant you what you long for in a way that you never expected. He sees what you've gone through and are going through. Thank you again for sharing. I can relate. 💖
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@celesterobersonc.c.1635
Ай бұрын
Peace Beautiful! I don't have a relationship with my "Starter Family" either. This is my fifth years of my husband and my tribe sharing that space in time together. I encourage you to build new memories for yourself. You'll be surprised how creating your own memories, whether it's going away for the holidays someplace amazing or building a family of your own through friendships and sisterhood. . Basically create your own traditions. I did and I can honestly say I never really think about the. If I do it's because of a holiday card or something along those lines. Create, your own destiny, Sis!
@pamelapark202
Ай бұрын
It's very lonesome. I'm in the same boat. but add a daughter in the family mix. I also retired for being an RN, double board certified worked last 16 yrs at USAs #1 hospital. I feel ya!!
@WritersWay247
7 ай бұрын
I relate to this…. To not see family in 7 years, I would think family would be happy to see you and hear all that’s going on and enjoying one another company… but I get this too with family. Never feeling good enough or even seen; or heard. I suppress my feelings, and sadly I only see my family once, maybe twice a year.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing you story with me. You summed it up so well. It was pretty demotivating, which pushes us further away.
@lyndagabriel6539
2 ай бұрын
Yup yup. Same. Except for the suppression of feelings... when I used to do that, it caused me a lot of harm. I cried throughout this video, having just returned from seeing my siblings for the first time in a year. But if you mean while with them, absolutely, I need to deal with the feelings once I have my own space back.
@shamikab1385
7 ай бұрын
I love how transparent and authentic you are with your feelings. So many of us feel the same or have similar experiences and suffer in silence, suppress them, and "deal" with them alone. This holiday season was tough... loneliness & sadness definitely won. I hope we all are able to build the connections we so desire (sooner than later). Much love ❤️
@turnaroundstory
6 ай бұрын
Thank you Shamika 💛
@matthewblack5114
20 күн бұрын
thanks for the honest talk,
@turnaroundstory
10 күн бұрын
You're welcome Matthew. Thanks for watching.
@maritrnning5357
29 күн бұрын
critisism for critisisms sake...jepp, I know that realm...to well
@thewisdomdivatv
3 ай бұрын
My (teen) parents abandoned me in infancy. I saw my mother about 3 or 4 times before she died when I was 21. I went to the hospital and told her I love her and I forgive her. I only saw my father once at 16 and then again in my 40’s. Neither of them ever acknowledged how they harmed me or asked for forgiveness but I gave it anyway. I even went to my father’s vow renewal with his third wife. I told him I love him. I have no regrets because I have been blessed with lifelong friendships, connected with siblings that I didn’t know existed and they all have been very loving and caring towards me. I’m not saying don’t have boundaries with your father or other family but try to see them for who they are and what they bring. Validate yourself and theirs won’t matter as much. Heal yourself, stop thinking the worst of people and the relationships will come, I promise.
@neenah4027
4 ай бұрын
Jealous people are the worst. A friend told me, "Well it's not like you're a doctor or anything." out of the blue. I'm an NP. Nurses are the most respected profession in the US. I also rarely speak with my sister simply because we have nothing in common as far as values. Also, I can't imagine any man not wanting to go out with you. You will get there. I ended up single after marriage as a single parent. We were still and are a sweet family.
@turnaroundstory
3 ай бұрын
Wow, that's a terrible thing for anyone to say. Sorry people treat you like that.
@somebodysmother1060
Ай бұрын
Everyone is welcome in church. That’s where you are always treasured . If you can’t be there, you’ll be missed. Start visiting them and find the one where you fit.
@Jastherealest
Ай бұрын
No disrespect, but most churcg people are the worst. They are very judgmental, run in cliques, turn their nose up at people, etc. Church is always someone's go-to solution for situations like this, but you'll probably spiral even more dealing with a lot of them.
@LauraJeanz
15 күн бұрын
In my experience, churches can be as dysfunctional as families of origin--they are, after all, made up of people. It pays to be discerning and deliberate about church membership, just as it pays to approach intimate connections in that manner.
@marsha8491
7 ай бұрын
Hi beautiful, sometimes we try to fix feelings of rejection with accomplishments. I remember my grandmas funeral where her whole career was summed up in one sentence. Life is more than what we do, its about how we make others around us feel as well. Im waiting too in this season i focus on preparation. Preparing for the life i want, but enjoying every moment of the journey. When im alone, as a single, i use the time to get to know my source so that i can align my thinking with His. Focus on what you want and have rather than on what you feel you lack. You have family, make the most of the ones you have until others are added to you. I love your channel and how vulnerable you are. Keep pouring into it...🎉🎉🎉🎉
@turnaroundstory
6 ай бұрын
Hi Marsha! Thank you so much for this beautiful message. You are so right, we attract what we focus on. 💛
@Alienonearth287
7 ай бұрын
Hey, don't worry,we are a lot of friends here with you,we are far away,we can't talk but we are together somehow in this big tiny world 👍🤗
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! 🙂
@andreelandar17
7 ай бұрын
Your level of vulunerablity is a gift that many of us secretly cherish. Honestly, thank you. One thing I've learned is traditions are created. You don't need to do it same way everyone else does it. For Christmas I've started booking cruise or participate in an advent calendar. Last year was 12 days of letter writing. And on Christmas day. I'd send it out or read them. It made me realise how much God has brought me through. Another thing I've done was use holiday time to see how far I've come and sit with uncomfortable feelings. Loneliness last year showed me that I didn't like myself. And when I accepted that it felt amazing. Because truth hurts but there is freedom acknowledging it. Now, I don't wish to be anyone but myself. Again, thank you for speaking on it ! This is what connects us : the human experience.
@turnaroundstory
6 ай бұрын
Thank you Andre. I agree, accepting that I am indeed alone right now was so freeing. I'm happy to hear about the positive turn in your story. 🙂
@lyndagabriel6539
2 ай бұрын
Great comment. I think that "sitting with uncomfortable feelings" is the rarest thing, and a kind of secret super power. Distraction and avoidance are so much easier to turn to now, so almost daily I have to really remember the amazing power of actually feeling the uncomfortable feelings. The great thing is that it's kind of like mowing the lawn... it's relatively easy when done regularly, and so challenging if I forget for a long time and the feelings have built up.
@lvelfe3415
7 ай бұрын
You hit the nail on the head! There is something about immigrant parents/relatives who have the ability to diminish whatever accomplishment that you have obtained with their back-handed degrading comments. 😅 You can win the Nobel Peace Prize and an immigrant parent/relative will still have the ability to make you feel worthless. It truly is an amazing skill 😅 I experience the same thing with my Mother and relatives. Always demanding more out of me as if I am a robot that constantly produces the outcome that THEY prefer. I have learned to realise that they are just projecting their own insecurities onto others. If you truly listen to their comments and thought process they are saying “I wasn’t good enough like you at your age and I can’t go back in time to be half the person that you are.” Listen to your immigrant parents/relatives comments with a comedic mindset of how they are projecting THEIR insecurities onto you and smile 😊 because you do not NEED or REQUIRE their approval. You have made it thus far and celebrate your success with those who UPLIFT you and not DIMINISH you. 🎉
@turnaroundstory
6 ай бұрын
Hi. Thank you so much. You're right, I don't need or require it, it's just hard when any and every conversation is like that.
@fangletterman-ng2ro
Ай бұрын
@@turnaroundstoryMy family didn't know how to love, either. They just had no personal experience of having been loved, to pass on, to me. I recently befriended a friend's elderly father. We were genuine friends. When he died, my friend and husband and children were so loving to me. For the first time in my life, I felt what a loving family feels like. Just bc your family is biological, does NOT lock you into having to spend time with them. Go where you are loved and celebrated; not where you are tolerated. Don't let the devil ruin your life, bc you feel OBLIGATED to spend TIME with people, solely bc they are related! You have ONLY ONE life; don't allow people who don't appreciate you, eat up your life's time and ruin your life! That's theft! You don't owe them! 🎉
@scm731
Ай бұрын
You are precious in His sight. Love you sister🤗💖✝️
@belindalowe628
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for this channel. This resonates with me exactly.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
You're welcome Belinda. Thanks for watching and supporting 🙂
@EnnVee959
7 ай бұрын
Being a nurse is a really stressful job. Here in Ontario, Canada, the media reports there is a chronic shortage of nurses because there is a high rate of resignation due to extreme performance expectations. I heard a lot of them go to the US or other countries for better pay and working conditions (although nurses do earn decent money in Ontario after several years of service).
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thanks for your feedback. Are you a nurse? It is stressful but I'm in the OR which is way less stressful than the floor (been there). I'm not familiar with nursing in Canada, but nurses are underpaid in many states. NY and CA are both great for nurses. 🙂
@EnnVee959
7 ай бұрын
@@turnaroundstory No not a nurse but the media report often on the nursing profession.
@superultradan
Ай бұрын
You seem like such a lovely person. My advice to you, as I'm someone who's family has very little to do with, I recommend finding a gospel preaching church, surrendering your life to Jesus, and He will give you the friends and family that you need. It may not be what you think if should look like but it will bring you much joy! I've watched a couple of your videos and you just beam with kindness, I bet your patients adore you. I pray you find much joy in the Lord on this side of eternity. p.s. Holiday's are made up by man I don't take them too seriously. However, I do love a Christmas tree. I say put up your tree this Christmas and invite 3 or 4 of your closest friends over for a game night. Oh, and maybe send them away with a little Christmas happy. May many blessings chase you down!
@lyndagabriel6539
2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. You had me at, "they're not bad people, but..." I think that's what makes it harder, for me anyway. I am also the only one who had a big career (big), and never, not ever, got a congratulations or any kind of interest. That didn't surprise or bother me so much because of, well, growing up with them. But it is lonely to feel on the outside, and sometimes, like right now, I feel lonelier after spending time with them than if I'd not. I really appreciate your openness. I'm bookmarking it so I can watch it again the next time I'm in these feelings.
@ladyfitness67
3 ай бұрын
Let me give you your flowers 💐. I understand as an eldest daughter of 6 girls from Jamaican parents. I spent my life “ helping” others and putting people first. I’m a Real Estate Lawyer with my own law practice here in England. I reached the top of my profession, but did it all for acknowledgment. I’ve jacked it all in to live my life, travel and be happy. I don’t kind about what others think of me any longer.
@Prlvrboi1
3 ай бұрын
I love your videos so candid and honest. You will see that with time family and friends are irrelevant although all your feelings are valid. Pour all your empathy into yourself and your patients. Without a doubt you are bringing light to the world and the world is better with you here. Keep validating yourself everyday. Radical acceptance is critical. If you parent yourself you will see that life gets easier.
@turnaroundstory
2 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@35tshone
Ай бұрын
Been around friends and family, and church folks, co-workers who where like friends and family!!!!
@LivLyfe
2 ай бұрын
I appreciate your transparency. People who have bad relationships with themselves will never want to see you doing better than them in any area of life. And they will gaslight you into believing that you’re not doing well enough because they won’t do what it takes to get to your level, so they will continually move the goalposts to make you feel like you haven’t earned their approval regardless of the fact that your accomplishments clearly outshine their own.
@turnaroundstory
2 ай бұрын
You have really good insight. Is this from experience? You're right about moving the goalposts, I've never even thought about that. Thank you!
@LivLyfe
2 ай бұрын
@@turnaroundstory Thank you for your response. And yes, I’m speaking from experience after a few betrayals that seemingly came out of nowhere-but I was so focused on improving myself (and made strides in my career as a result) that I was unaware of my own leveling up-while others watched with envy. You went from being a waitress to a whole Nurse! Your folks were used to you being at a certain level professionally and financially, so when you flipped the script their true colors showed. It’s kinda like somebody that was overweight for years, then they started eating healthy and exercising and boom-they became a walking twig in 8 months. It changes the dynamics for the people who were used to them being the overweight friend/cousin especially if they slim down and tone to becoming the skinny and fit friend. People can’t handle it when you focus on yourself while they are distracted from themselves, always worried about what the next person is doing instead of keeping their eyes on their own paper. But then they get mad at you for getting an A and they got a D. I completely understand why moving the goalposts hadn’t crossed your mind because it’s a childish and manipulative tactic that people who don’t have what it takes to compare to you use to make you feel less than. Those are the people who take offense to the fact that your light shining so brightly emphasizes how dim theirs is-hence the hate. It’s not ideal, but when you outgrow your peers, they will usually have a bitter resentment toward you because they can’t keep up and lack the maturity to simply state “I feel like I’m being left behind” or more importantly, they lack the humility and willpower to see you as an inspiration for them to grow as well. And these are the people who just can’t go where God is taking you-release them with love or they will hold you back. Unfortunately, the crab mentality is real. *Sending peace and hugs* 💞
@andariegos9466
20 күн бұрын
We are kind of in your situation but in reverse. My husband and I always purposefully stayed away from his dad’s side of the family. They’re always in each other’s business and fighting amongst each other. A lot of unhealthy relationships. He has a niece (40s) claiming that she’s blackballed from the family because of her mother. We’ve had some phone conversations with her recently. My husband feels bad for her and wants to give her a chance. Meanwhile, I can see right through her and I’m skeptical about letting her into our lives. The more she talks about the family issues the more she’s revealing how much like her mother she actually is. My husband and my family have always gotten along. So I don’t want to isolate him from his family. It was him who decided not to be around them and I agreed. I brought up my concerns to him but, unfortunately, I think this is one of those times where he’s going to have to learn the hard way. 🤷🏽♀️
@deb2531
Ай бұрын
I am a nurse and my daughter is an OR nurse. Is there any way you can make friends at work? People in your department or sit next to “new people” in the cafeteria? Even if you make one friendship it can lead to group outing where you might meet more! Good luck!
@jamgg100
7 ай бұрын
You have accomplished a lot, and the other things you are wanting will come…..at least you know what you want--a healthy family that you will create 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
I believe it. Thank you 🙂
@elizmon8526
2 ай бұрын
I really relate to you - just watching this video and others. But this video specifically. Family should support your goals. If your own family can't support your interests and ambitions, who can? It takes a strong person to distance yourself from that.
@turnaroundstory
2 ай бұрын
Your comments are wonderful, thank you. I really appreciate you and I'm happy that you found so many of the videos helpful and relatable. 🙂
@2zai207i
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this! It has been so helpful for me more than you know!
@hectors.1310
5 күн бұрын
Trying to make difficult people to be good to us is a task that never ends and leave you drained. As a nurse you know the importance of the DNA. It determines who is relative to whom. And that is exactly what people we that once we considered family are: related Sharing the same blood or DNA makes us related. Family is different. Family listen, support, cry with you, laugh with you, they are the loudest cheerleader in the room when you get something right and the best shoulder to cry if something goes wrong. THAT IS FAMILY. Everyone else falls into related. One I heard Maya Angelo saying: when people show you who they are BELIEVE THEM.
@turnaroundstory
4 күн бұрын
Wow! Your comment is really powerful Hector. Thank you
@jaliylahjae
6 ай бұрын
This might sound cliche to most, but when I found God and developed a close relationship with him, my loneliness is no longer lonely. I mean yes, I want to have meaningful relationships, but I have peace in knowing that HE is all I need. When the the time is right he will give me my hearts desire. However, it is HIS will it shall be done.😊❤🙏🏽
@turnaroundstory
6 ай бұрын
Not cliche at all. Happy that you've found comfort. Thanks for sharing.
@SimplyHealthyWomb
7 ай бұрын
Hey friend! I watched this the night you posted. I have been thinking about your words. It occurred to me that loneliness isn’t an about I am alone. It’s about feeling unsupported, no one has my back, no one has me, I don’t have the confidence they will not drop me 😂😂😂😂 It’s a difficult realization. Having said that, you know you are killing it. These people are just projecting their shortcomings onto you, do not give them place. They need to deal with their issues. It’s a one day at a time thing. There will always be something, that’s life. One thing that helps me today, celebrate the small wins. The destination is just that, the fun is in the journey, and EVERY win counts. Truly you, and others deserve love; but I don’t think that’s the issue. What’s going on with your receiver? When you have gone through it, our ability to receive gets wonky. And please don’t think I am judging, I am just sharing what I have learned walking the path you are on. You are worthy as you are. 🎊 🎉
@turnaroundstory
6 ай бұрын
Hey! Thank you so much for this. You made some really good points. If we have a support system we can be alone and not feel lonely because we know that there are people that would be there for us if needed, so true. I agree with celebrating the small wins, it's one of the things that keep me going. 💛
@NicoleAguillera-y3g
Ай бұрын
I'm so excited that I get to share this with you! I really want you to see things from a different perspective and understand why people behave the way they do, including why you feel the way you do. Let's begin by exploring the reasons behind it all. I recommend checking out a video about the 9 signs that indicate you are chosen and the generational curse breaker in your family.
@hailynewma9122
7 ай бұрын
I so hear you! And I think you are awesome Hang in there .. and when you are ready .. go get what you want 😊
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Hi Haily! Thank you so much! 💛
@jordanmontgomery425
7 ай бұрын
Oh wow you posted again I love your new channel photo❤ but sorry I couldn't get here fast enough I was asleep😅.
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thank you 😀. I was worried the updates would be confusing , but I'm happy it wasn't.
@jordanmontgomery425
7 ай бұрын
@@turnaroundstory 👍🏽
@rachelcharris
7 ай бұрын
Praying for you and I think many of us will relate to this. I'm enjoying your videos and just look how many subscribers you've got!! 😮 Keep going. I think that there's a scripture that says out of the heart the mouth speaks and I do wonder whether that might allude to the fact that people are externalising their own difficulties but just a thought. Lots of love to you ❤
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Rachel! I really appreciate your encouraging words. Yes, I grew pretty fast, I'm so grateful for everyone. 💛
@rachelcharris
7 ай бұрын
Looking forward to next video 👍🙏😀
@Sunrisefire
7 ай бұрын
I've been through all this--all this could be said of me. As estrangement takes hold, narcissism is on the rise. It must happen to bring Revelation to pass.
@phiakate
7 ай бұрын
Do ‘they’ understand what being a nurse means? Do you think they truly understand what it took? Or do they clearly understand but would rather lose a limb than praise you?
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
I was wondering the same. Thanks for watching 🙂
@normajeanvas9532
7 ай бұрын
Divorce was final on Friday. Ecstatic over the weekend. Now on Tuesday everyone is back to work and Im alone. Not sure what Im supposed to do. Im going through a Christian transformation but Im still lonely:(
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing Norma. That sounds really tough. Hope it will get better soon
@vegataxkc
7 ай бұрын
Get your affirmations from within or from the aether where our Spirit Guides and Guardian Angels reside. Connect to the Source which is the pure energy of pure love. Forgive them and their words and send back to them love. xoxoxo
@tonymcdonnly6492
7 ай бұрын
Hi LaToya, I just logged onto YT. This video popped up. Hope you're doing well since making this video months earlier. I have a suggestion. I would research dating apps that would connect you to meeting men who are of like mind to you who would be attracted to your profile. There are Meetup social mixers to meet single men in the medical, legal, IT, etc...professions. I encourage you to start casually meeting up with men who are looking to date who aren't co-dependent. Men who have careers and hopefully men who don't have "baby mama" dramas and narcissistic ex-girlfriends. lol There is so much to filter through. The key is getting out socially. Have no expectations. Just let it flow naturally. Also, in your local area, start an occasional "brunch" meetup in your local city. Who knows, you may meet people to date or make new friends. Take small baby steps. I hope this helps. c u soon, Mark
@AlchemicInnerG
Ай бұрын
💜💜💜
@marlifalize3191
Ай бұрын
❤
@marlifalize3191
Ай бұрын
I love to read about your service in the hospital. You must be an angel. Once i was on the intensive care and i ll never forget the care of the nurse who gave me a warm sheet when i leaved the operation room. The care in that days made me grateful end gave hope. I wish to give you hope in return concerning family matters. I was a busy bee as well in my twenties, thirties and it was a hell of a job to keep all the balls in the air. Most people , also family members, have their own preoccupations and don't most often get your work and all the efforts you are putting in. It s not a lack of love but a lack of time and attention. Especially when we don t live together in the same region anymore. Nowadays i ve more time for regular phonecalls and i notice that even my father is asking questions how life is going on. With attention that sometimes lacks when you re with a lot of people together. The last years i feel more connected with him and that is great. In other words: it can take a longlong time, but it is rewarding to wait and make all the best in the time between. Thanks for your podcasts and all the best❤
@user-bi7ji1lz3p
Ай бұрын
Certain people on my mamii side is this way. I try stay away im currently rerefocusing on rebuildin self. #BlackSheepPeers #BlackSheep "theoutcastofmyfamily yes thats me while those that target me is blind ignorant to facts thats obvious.
@UhMuthaFkinVirgo
Ай бұрын
It could be me, but I heard something different…. I mean, you know your own people, but sounds like to me they were wanting more for you, like for you to keep going and become a Doctor☺️ …..
@gayleallen8969
Ай бұрын
Know you are not fighting against flesh and blood but powers and principalities and wickedness in high places. Pray for them it is a trick of the enemy to destroy families. If you only love those that love you then you will miss the blessings of the Lord. God love you first ever before you loved Him. When we were yet sinners and enemies of the Lord Jesus died for us. Fall in love with Jesus and you will be able to love everyone. I tell you love your family in spite of what they say or do. Just don’t let any bitter root develop in your heart. Jesus love you more than anyone could ever love you.💕
@Quilt4Joy
3 ай бұрын
Like Oprah said “no one is happy all the time”.
@elizabethsugarmartinez6362
Ай бұрын
How about joining a club or church group?
@Jastherealest
Ай бұрын
Hi, idk if i missed this part, but where is mom or dad? Do you have siblings?
@jenniferjones4113
7 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@jusstjoo
3 ай бұрын
Psychology you’re trapped in “the definition of insanity!” You do the absolute of nothing, yet you expect what? Family natural or extended, (trying to please, appease each side) it sucks! My objective, to go proactive and get my own! Keep in mind, that picture, that plan in your head will never ‘ever’ gel with reality, so be flexible! Hobbies, things of interest (or given your travels) trying something new! Learning to play chess; wine tasting; investigating/studying your lineage, origin or history! Any or all could place you in interesting company. As an afterthought, how about “public speaking,” even better, “the art of conversation,” just a suggestion. Look, you’ve been hurt! It’s caused you to, “disengage!” Didn’t mean to run on, suffice it to say, “Life is a banquet, yet most are starving!”
@fr.k197
7 ай бұрын
🧡❤🧡
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching 🙂
@myname-uk6oe
7 ай бұрын
Hi thank u so much for ur videos. I navigate loneliness too. Im curious but do you think its hormones wanting u to have a feeling or you have a genuine need to have a family? this new generation is wanting less to have kids and its actually a lot of work/money and statistically 50% of marriages end in divorce. This isn't to sound offensive but its just a thoughtt
@turnaroundstory
7 ай бұрын
Hi! No offense taken. Thank you for the thought-provoking question. I'm not sure honestly, but I wouldn't be surprised if we are genetically predisposed to seek partnerships and hormones play a role in signaling reminders to our brain. The statistics are scary but not a deterrent for me. 🙂
@consciousanfesiashapsnikof8688
2 ай бұрын
What is your nationality? The people or things that are unconducive to your spiritual mental wellbeing should be excluded from your life.
@bracketvilletexas
Ай бұрын
Well, that's the way you interpreted it. You want to be praised by others including family because you need that validation. When you start loving you, others' opinions, and praises, you will no longer feel you need them. unless there are other things that have happened that are REALLY AWFUL your story is petty. Love yourself Praise yourself
@CarmenDarling
7 ай бұрын
I’m in a weird space where I feel like I should feel those feelings and do not. Which then makes me feel bad, that I don’t feel bad about not being close to most of my family. So even though we’re possibly on the opposite end of the same boat, I understand your POV. I will say get the Maltese! Why not?! Overworking is not going to make the feelings go away, only will build up more until one day it comes crashing down. From your previous vlogs you seem like you like to travel, so now you and your puppy could travel together. And things will most likely align for you to meet the man and then ultimately create the family you desire. You’ll be surprised how many people you can meet sometimes against your will lol when you have a dog. Just suggestions of course. You deserve what you want, but you have to make yourself available to receive it. And as far as family, we all know what it means when they treat the successful person like this, sometimes it’s hard though to accept that truth…I wish you peace 💕
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