You're right, and that is an excellent way to look at flaws.
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
Learning to love something you have hated for so long is hard. A big mental shift!
@mo19623
11 жыл бұрын
Hi Dade, I believe you have come to realize what all people must do....accept and love yourself as you are. Do the best with what you have. Open up to what it is you are to accomplish in this lifetime. I can tell you that one of the things you're here to do is to help me, Brendan's mom, to do my best to help him love and accept himself and learn the lessons of his own life. Sending positive energy to you for perfection on the 18th. Much love & gratitude, Maureen
@afrokaos
11 жыл бұрын
Dade-Thank you for sharing your journey. You, Tiffany & the baby are such the sweetest thing. I came across a movie called 'Soldiers Girl' and was so moved and touched that I wanted to know more. That's how I found you on YT. I've watched all - if not most of both of your videos. I'm, sure you know how much your honesty helps those just starting out on the FTM journey, or just educating themselves. I wanted to thank you for sharing. Personally. Well as personal as you can get here, anyway. ;)
@CandyceR1
11 жыл бұрын
Dade, your search,expression and insight is divinely human. We all have demons to wrestle with. Love to you and your family.
@Joptrid
11 жыл бұрын
This. This with this poured on top. This has been my experience as well. Thank you for talking about this even though it is hard. As much as each journey is ours alone, it is comforting to know other people do have shared experiences. The responses here are great, the support you have is a blessing. Yes, we all need a little more self acceptance and gratitude in our lives for ourselves. But you are allowed to make changes to feel better, physical or mental. I wish you all the best.
@quantumleap3
11 жыл бұрын
Another compelling video, Dade. You have always been so forthright about your feelings. Body fat (re)distribution is extremely stressful. FYI - Dr. Garramone (Florida) has a procedure called ManSculpture® Body Masculinization. His website describes the procedure under "Surgery Types." Many blessings to you, your wife and daughter.
@DaxIsAName
3 жыл бұрын
Oh man, I feel this. Navigating dysphoria is such a tricky battle. I'm 100% male passing but the time that I get to feel comfortable actually being male has not come for me. Thank you for sharing these thoughts.
@jennifersm77
11 жыл бұрын
Don't know how I ended up on your channel but now I look forward to your updates. Hope you find the peace you are looking for.
@SpillCity
11 жыл бұрын
Excellent video; really appreciate your honesty and thoughts.
@ToshOnah
11 жыл бұрын
I wish I could be as strong as you in everything that you do! Your such an inspiration to me. I want to be just as successful as you man. Thanks for taking your time to share your story because now its going to help me write a new one. Dedicated to you kind sir and your beautiful family -Sincerely, Alex
@isakl4894
11 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video. I´ve been seeing this coming for my future and it´s nice to hear how you deal with the situation at your stage in transition.
@Fiorwestcoast
11 жыл бұрын
I am a Mtf and I feel the same level of disphoria, however. I found it much easier when I just started to accept my body. Almost the same way someone who is overweight or maybe has a scar or burn would do. When I started to see my ''flaws'' as just another feature neither male nor female. I started to feel better about them. I decided to use my insecurities as a strength and not a weakness. Thanks for sharing this. And you are drop dead handsome. My gosh.
@LNDGNRS
11 жыл бұрын
I'm not FTM and never really thought about this topic, but some months ago I've stumbled over one of your videos and then watched all of them. So I'm still not an expert :-) but thanks to you I've learned a lot and I think your mind just needs time to keep up. Your eyes now see your male face and flat chest, but maybe your brain still can't believe all this is finally coming true. I'm sure the day will come when mind & body are finally congruent. I wish you all the best! Greets from Austria
@havenwinn8695
10 жыл бұрын
Awesome video!!!
@33yinyan
11 жыл бұрын
Que bien espero todo salga bien y sigas adelante con tu familia.. Y sigo diciendo eres un hombre bello!!
@aimstheotter
11 жыл бұрын
Yes I think you are right, it's the mental stuff that's the toughest. But it makes sense to me that after you've spent so long not being in the correct body and hating it, that now you have a new body, and that's still a work in progress, you need to learn to love the new you. I know its a different thing, but I've spent years hating my body, and have only just started to learn to love me, and that can take a while, but it does come. I love you muchly!
@Raen83
11 жыл бұрын
Awesome video. Your vids are always so honest and candid. You've provided me with a wealth of insight into what it can be for someone to transition. Particularly the expectations versus reality and how sometimes you may not see the change in yourself when others might see it plain as day. I hope you can find a point in which you finally feel comfortable in your own skin. You're gorgeous inside and out and I know you'll get there some day. :)
@krozem45
11 жыл бұрын
Dade, thank you so much for making this video. It really speaks to some of my big questions and fears about how much is my body my identity?
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Sion. I can only imagine the things that make your dysphoria peak. I have so much respect for you and what you are doing for your son - despite discomfort you may have. You are giving him the best possible start.
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
This is god advice - thank you. I have read some of Eckhart Tolle's work... perhaps I should revisit them.
@SionYawn
11 жыл бұрын
Thanks for making this video, Dade. I've experienced shifting needs as I've gone through different aspects of transition, too. Your dysphoria isn't necessarily vanity--it's a valid experience. When my dysphoria peaks, I try to see myself through the eyes of my son. He sees his dad, plain and simple. I'll be more masculine over time. And you are VERY masculine--your body and your personality. My husband and I are always in awe of how much manlier you are (compared to both of us, haha!).
@LandmarkAdventures
11 жыл бұрын
I've had reconstruction on my mouth/teeth. 4 years and a lot of money. I don't want to say I'm disappointed, I look at the "before" pics and know it's amazing. So is it vanity? I wasn't born with MY ideal look, but it IS better and everyone says beautiful but I just don't feel 100% satisfied. It's in my head. 30 years of insecurity is hard to get rid of. It's hard to flash a big smile. It's in my head. I think YOU are gorgeous and have watched all your videos and your transition is amazing.
@jail.2501
11 жыл бұрын
great video, Dade. I am about to start T and have huge dysphoria about my chest, plannning on top surgery. not sure how i feel about bottom surgery yet. its so expensive and has questionable results. bottom surgey is still in the back of my mind. your video has made me think of reasons why i am doing all of these things for myself. i am the one that truely matters in the end, and if it's what i need to do for me than i just need to do it. your videos are inspirational, THANK YOU
@Sjladybug5158
11 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your transition thus far. I'm so happy for you and your family that you've made it so far with so much success. Although I'm not trans (or even lesbian, or bi) thank you for all of the good information you and Tiffany have shared with the world. Keep up the hard work, focus on your beautiful family, and I wish you the best of luck with your upcoming surgeries.
@AydenJ2013
11 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I'm FTM and about to start transitioning and I have a level 10 dysphoria with my body. I will not be able to pass until top surgery and T-therapy, but you have given me an inside look into transitioning and I really thank you!
@ash710890
11 жыл бұрын
I love that you posted a video on this topic. Being pre-transition, it is something I think about often. I don't want to put my family through my transition, if ultimately, I will still feel dysphoric. If your dysphoria never goes away, will you still be happy about your decision to transition?
@BecomingAaron
11 жыл бұрын
Well put, Dade. Thank you.
@TheTardisNamedSexy
11 жыл бұрын
I've watched all your videos, starting at the beginning and you've made such huge strides. I see you as completely male, when I watch your videos I don't see a female who is transitioning into a male, I just see a handsome man. You have to live everyday with your body so of course you are hyper aware of every flaw. I think you look great and I love your videos. Keep your head up, it'll get better. Also, do you have a counselor? That might help with the "in your head" part of the dysphoria. :)
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
Thanks:) I know I will get there... I feel I have a lot of internal work to do.
@keloreilly7017
11 жыл бұрын
Sending you warm healing energy, Dade. Although I am not going through FTM transition...I am considering top surgery which led me to seeing a gender therapist. It was one of the smartest decisions I have ever made. I feel so much better and have much more clarity about myself now it's incredible. You are right on course, my Brother. Thank you, for being so boldly honest.
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
This is so kind and thoughtful - and good advice on top. Thank you.
@skateonsnow21
11 жыл бұрын
I'm a ftm too, and I think there's some kind of line between dysphoria and just plain wishing for things you can't and won't ever have and learning to accept them. We can alter our bodies, but we also need to accept them to a varying degree.We just need to be thankful for what we have got and have made ourselves into. Lets say you got every possible surgery, but your dysphoria is still there because you wonder what it would've been like to grow up in high school as a boy, but you'll never know.
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
I will absoultely still be happy about my decision to transition. Overall, I am happier than I have ever been with my body. It's just that the parts that have not completely transitioned I hate more than ever.
@Annie65H
11 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I think learning to love ourselves can be the hardest thing to do. Also, when you start to feel the negatives and the "have nots" welling up try to think about all the "the HAVES". And ALL of us, regardless of how we are born have something that we are not happy with at sometime or another. But don't let them over rule the "haves". As we age there is a greater understanding - hopefully, that intimacy is so much more than what we look like & the sexual act itself. Peace be with U
@trollsneedhugs
11 жыл бұрын
I love Eckhart Tolle audiobooks. It "cured" my depression. I tried for years to be a peace with my "natural looks" and just accept them. I can accept them "in the now", but honestly, I find more peace inside me when I present as male. I probably would not have discovered/accepted this without his work. Great to know trans people are aware of his work, but still feel change is right for them. We don't have to "accept" everything! Be at peace now, while heading into "the future" :-)
@yourpalwes
11 жыл бұрын
I love you so hard. This gives incredible insight.
@reys.9245
9 жыл бұрын
welcome back my friend,it's good to see you're fine
@jeffreyguy7590
11 жыл бұрын
I agree with your statement completely about the problem no longer being with your body but in your head. Being trans myself there needs to be a connection/reconciliation between the outer and inner you. Certain parts of you may never be as male as you want, but if you ask any cis-male he will tell you the same in a moment of truth. Being treated and seen as a male in every aspect of my life was my goal. Once I was seen as male especially in public life the rest of the issues have been internal.
@TheEvolutionofaMan
11 жыл бұрын
I experienced this same exact funneling effect. The more male-bodied I became the more I focussed on the remaining bits. It's especially difficult because these things are so glaringly obvious to YOU, you're always worried about other people seeing it also, even though they generally don't. I can say, however, that my slow journey of body acceptance began with my hysto (which surprised me), and continued through my metoidioplasty. Give yourself time Dade, you are still young in your transition.
@CosmicWaveRider888
11 жыл бұрын
The Dysphoria is very normal and typical of transitioning. I know that it will pass when you realize that you are living as the man you are and you have a great family. Some day transition(ing) will become transition(ed). Time will come that you can accept yourself as you. I have discussed this with many people. Give yourself credit, your doing it. Thank you for expressing all aspects of the process. Many need to here it. I deal with it on occasion and have been transitioned for over 11 years.
@derkuchenmeisterselvag9125
11 жыл бұрын
"Suffering builds character" I feel like that should be the transman slogan. You have a lot of insight. Watching other videos, I can tell the majority of us think A LOT.
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
I think part of the problem is in my head, and the other part is that I am hyperaware of my flaws and assume others are also. I do know how well off I am - so fortunate that I can even afford all these surgeries. I have some head work to do, for sure. My hysto is scheduled for 9/18/13. I'm on a big cleanse right now to try and prepare my body for it. My liver numbers were off at my last check up.
@MarcosLoboLGTBIQ-Coach
11 жыл бұрын
I agree completely!! The disforia doesn't go... Dade, I wanted to make u a question, yesterday I shot my T on my leg, and the mussel hurts very much, those these happen to u?? Perhaps the T here in Spain (Europe) its more kind of oiler... (sorry about my english expression)
@GrecoRomanWhispers
11 жыл бұрын
Nice to see another video from you. I'm sure this has probably already been said, but it's worth remembering that the line between the dysphoria and vanity is a fine one, yes, but also not so dissimilar to male vanity. How many of us, male or female, are happy with our bodies? Could you also be slightly misplacing your dysphoria in this way, because many people are dissatisfied with the body they want to project and the body they actually have.
@GlassCrystaline
11 жыл бұрын
Don't now what dysphoria is but after watching this I have a idea, I support you and feel vary strong about you and your family dade I seen your other videos and I now what your all going through is vary difficult. Just remember to breath and keep thinking smart like you said it's all in your head and you can venture there and fix that. That's what I would of said if you hadn't. I really wish you all the best and I now you don't now me but ill be here to help in anyway I can =) if that helps.
@thtgirlgizi6233
3 жыл бұрын
Mkay I’m here years later... and I just have to say you’re so cute !! 😫❤️
@WolfWords
11 жыл бұрын
the word you were trying to think of is concentrated in that area
@krw72
11 жыл бұрын
A cis guy made a comment on one of chase's vids some months back that really helped me. He said something along the lines of feeling inadequate was a culturally male thing. Not that feeling inadequate is good, but when he said it I kinda felt like I'd 'joined the club' so to speak. Maybe you feel inadequate about masculinity like most men. Yours is particular to you and others have their own feelings of inadequacy. Basically, he said welcome to being a man! It helped me. All the best!
@YourAnjl
11 жыл бұрын
Dade, thanks for this honest video. I wish you ease and happiness as you go along. I can tell you as a straight female that your experiences to some extent are universal: we all hate or dislike parts of our physical self and eventually have to either accept them or change them. And I can tell you when you get really old, as I am, there are even more body issues to deal with. LOL Anyway, you are a handsome dude with a beautiful family and I hope some of our responses are a little supportive.
@jeffreyguy7590
11 жыл бұрын
Dade, it sounds to me like you are soul searching which is all part of the human condition. I hear your frustration that each step in your transition has just lead you to move or displace your dysphoria to another part of your body. I wish I could tell you there was an easy fix. Focusing attention/energy to your mind and spirit are just as important as the work you have done with your body which can be overlooked when focusing so much on getting rid of the physical parts that we detest so much.
@AlexRomanoRomanAesthetics
11 жыл бұрын
To be honest, I guess dysphoria will never disappear for most of us but we have to reach a point where we can be satisfied and LIVE. Because most of the times, we forget to live. And if we were born male, we would never be so awared of the things we are now and we would be complaining about other facts. :)
@EthanJay1261
11 жыл бұрын
You've been given a lot of different views of this, so I won't say much. I do think it's a part of our journey that we come to as rocks, not hurdles. Rocks cause us pain when we step on them, then we get angry pick them up and throw them. Well, the rocks are a reminder that the journey is never easy. Dysphoria for me will always be a rock in my path because I'm not born male bodied but my image of myself is. I say: give transition time & allow the fat to totally shift, then assess the next step.
@krisy_87
11 жыл бұрын
I have body image dysphoria. I used to be 130 pounds. I am now 111. when I see my body from before. I feel happy that I have come this far. yet when I look in the mirror. I'm not happy with what I see. its very frustrating to change what you feel is wrong but after its fixed. you just feel there's more you still have to change. in order to fully except yourself. I am toning up my body but the middle ground. where progress seems to stop. is very frustrating. I'm also hoping this will go away.
@TnDon
11 жыл бұрын
Good video, Dade. Have you ever considered that maybe you've become "addicted" to dysphoria and that no matter what you "fix" you'll find something else to become the focus of your dysphoria.....like, are your feet manly enough? I know it's real for you and I don't mean to make light of it, but it seems to me it is kind of a mental thing. It's like the rich folks want to get richer, seemingly not realizing how well off they really are
@derkuchenmeisterselvag9125
11 жыл бұрын
I worked as a CNA and am a Nursing student and fellow transman. I hope this will come as some comfort.. I have seen sooo many biological males with very "feminine" bodies. You, my friend have a great, masculine bod. Some dudes have more changes after a year has passed. This is coming from a straight guy, but chill out. Discipline your mind and your body will follow. Read some books by Eckhart Tolle. They helped me a lot in this realm.
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
I wish there was an easier way. Try to not take peoples reactions to seriously - most of them are just uneducated on the subject. Educate yourself to the best of your ability so you can be sure to answer all of their questions. I bet most of them will support you once they understand more.
@Thenewfallingsacred
11 жыл бұрын
I have a little bit of advice that may help you get through the in between time. The way I've been getting through is because I no longer look at myself as having female parts at all. I have "Man boobs" and I have a small penis but no matter how people treat me I always see myself as fully male. Also it's best to find a good male role model. My role model is my pastor and I've learned so much about how to express myself as the man that I am from him.
@jeffreyguy7590
11 жыл бұрын
No magic shot, pill, or any surgery is going to completely remove the unease or dysphoria a person feels. That would be much too simplistic. Hormones and surgery help to give us the characteristics we were not giving by biology; however, that is only one part of the body-mind-spirit triad. Please try to be kind to yourself.
@GlassCrystaline
11 жыл бұрын
Oh and you and your family have a great day.
@amgreenzone
11 жыл бұрын
Myself and just allow the sexual act to occur however its going to happen and I get out of the way of forcing things...my dysphoria typically subsides. Be kind to yourself Dade!
@amgreenzone
11 жыл бұрын
im dealing with this now at the stage of my transition as well and my wife struggles to fully understand how to cope with my dysphoria. I think for me ita guilt. Deep down I think I know Im asking my wife to make concessions no woman should have to with regard to having children and being intimate with their spouse. Im ready for lower surgery and hoping as well that my lower dysphoria will cease once Im closer to being anatomically male in that region. One last thing...when I stop judging
@EdwardTheTomboy
11 жыл бұрын
I have had this feeling before I even knew what it was. I remember being very little and I didn't think about being a certain gender or stereotype. As I got older, and my body started changing, I became aware of what that feeling was. I really want top surgery too. I feel that if I get that done, I will feel more myself. I know I am male, it's not about my past or they way I grew up. I just feel male, I am male. :) By the way, I'm 17.
@seth9304
11 жыл бұрын
will you please do videos about your hysto surgery. :) and thanks for being honest.
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
It can be pretty disappointing to finally get a surgery and then still not feel satisfied. Not to mention you feel like an ass for spending your families money and still not be happy. Rough things with transition, Caleb. But you know that.
@MrTransGravity
11 жыл бұрын
Hello, I just started my freshman year.. and I'm a FTM. None of my friends know.. How do I tell them? Also, I told my family but they treated me different for awhile, so I told them I changed my mind, even though I didn't. My grandma (she raises me) won't let me wear guys stuff since I told her. The other day I asked my best friend "How do you feel about trans" and she said this "I've never met one before, but what they're doing is weird." ..I'm too scared to come out.is there an easier way?
@ElectricDade
11 жыл бұрын
Lovin' you hard right back.
@ryptoll4801
10 жыл бұрын
I so agree to what you said in the video, my dysphoria also just moves to the next area even though it's always been worst around my hip area. Fat redistribution not working as well as I want it to and well, can't do bottom surgery as of yet because of various reasons, but I want to in the future. Just hoping that it could help somehow.
@Beckftm
11 жыл бұрын
Are you planning on lower surgery?
@davidwm
6 жыл бұрын
Dade, are you genetically male or female?
@TheOnlyQwin
9 жыл бұрын
Is your dysphoira finally gone or is it still there?
@ElectricDade
9 жыл бұрын
KevStands Almost completely. I still struggle with some hip fat, but other then that I am very happy.
@applebomb4091
11 жыл бұрын
/news/815052/11-year-old-transgender-boy-shares-story-at-school/ 11 years old boy comes out as transgender, big news in Canada.
@myssig123
10 жыл бұрын
this is such an important and informative vid..... i 'felt' more understanding... it was easier to understand the disconnect when we see you now looking so 'male' and knowing that the 'parts dont match' now that ive said that,, i completely understand that the word 'understand' is the wrong word.... im not trans so how could i,, but i cant think of the right word...... and im not sure if i said this in a way that was right, or accurate,, or even understandable... and not offensive.... so let me just say, if i offend,, i only meant to compliment....
@allykg5428
7 жыл бұрын
Wondering if I could share my go fund me link I watch ur shit and ya always givin good words thought I could use ur videos as a channel. Let me kno if that's cool.
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