She is not thinking. I would leave this man so quick it isn’t even funny. Never put a man before your kids.
@MattCasters
5 ай бұрын
Or a woman, for that matter, given the crazy ex, the cause of the whole mess.
@pimaggot
5 ай бұрын
Many of us single parents date, hook up when we don't have the kids and then focus 100 percent on the kids when we have them.
@cheesycheese7100
5 ай бұрын
@@iansmith5911 your way would be teaching a kid to rush into a relationship without putting their own childrens' needs first
@cheesycheese7100
5 ай бұрын
@@iansmith5911 they are not spouses. I mentioned rushing into a relationship because that's what the video was about. Two adults who moved in together bringing children, without being married, and are leaving a violent child alone with other children. I'm well aware how important it is for a child to have a mother and a father, but that's no excuse to rush into a bad family situation. I would love to see your "research" on how this is a good idea
@JonathanTodd-og7dd
5 ай бұрын
@iansmith5911 research show massive amounts of abuse by step parents/ or step sisters/ step brothers. Research shows that 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce. Research shows that only a third of those marriages characterize themselves as being happy. Research shows that 70 percent of blended family marriages end in divorce. That is why as a single dad I am committed to not get married again - focus on my kids when I have them and date, work and have fun when I don't.
@susanlighon1174
4 ай бұрын
Separate. Dad focus your full attention on your son. Mom do not subject your children to this potentially tragic situation.
@asiancutiePacolovespecialchara
4 ай бұрын
it looks like the couple is more concerned about their love than their children safety there is a ab3632 Fape lawthat the school district is responsible for emotional mental health if it impacts their schooling and it definitely does he would be allowed services for free counseling and medication I work with these kids for 14 years he has ADHD with a touch of antisocial personality you could already see that bedwetting ADHD cruelty to animals those are the indicators the antisocial personality is genetic they should not live together at all and with ADHD violent child like that he should never be left alone with animals or children there's got to be a lot of structure micromanagement because if you turn your head for 5 minutes to hurt somebody I'm a licensed mft I've been doing this for years working with Emotiinally Disturbed children and Adolescent
@MB.543
4 ай бұрын
@@asiancutiePacolovespecialchara Why no punctuation?
@user-wq7hw2ow9l
4 ай бұрын
Replace the word potentially to inevitably.
@yorocco1
4 ай бұрын
Yep…
@karenfriesen280
3 ай бұрын
I am thinking you are an older adult. Your advise is very wise. Couples get caught up in the fantasy of the Brady Bunch. Real life is not that. All of these children deserve their parent’s full attention. I won’t be popular for saying this, but I wish families would not try to blend. My experience as a school teacher tells me it rarely works. Kids must come first.
@amatorlux
3 ай бұрын
Dad, there is no time for romance. Your purpose in life is to save this boy. Not to traumatize more people.
@Raina430
2 ай бұрын
Well said.
@marilyndalen3197
2 ай бұрын
I sure do hope this boy is helped sooner than later and or put him in a safe place from all people. I would not trust him at this point at all. So very sad for everyone.
@Anabee3
Ай бұрын
Yes. This would be so difficult, but if they're in love, they'll be in love after his son is stabilized.
@paigegainey7099
Ай бұрын
I second this!!
@MaletinaClarke-rq9ds
Ай бұрын
Can't believe their desperation to blend families, inspite of the serious problem for the 6yo. If this man, really cared for his son, he should know that he's the priority, above any relationship.
@deebedwell9877
2 ай бұрын
I had 4 kids and married a man with an unstable daughter. I thought I could "save" her. She was 8. The trauma and abuse she caused my youngest son was awful. Demons are real. I left eventually, but the trauma was done. Please don't do that to your babies.
@NrthrnKnght
Ай бұрын
you have to protect your children at all costs...she needs a man who doesnt have children
@MegaMarVerde
18 күн бұрын
did you think you could change a person? You crazy lady..
@charlierohkohl5182
17 күн бұрын
To assume it is the same would be a failure to the kid. He needs therapy and love
Animal killing is one of the main signs for antisocial personality. I pray the family gets him help before something worse happens.
@MrJimmy3459
5 ай бұрын
The precursor to the vast majority of adult murders was animal killing, they should take this seriously
@co9971
5 ай бұрын
i wouldnt go so far as to say that he's actually antisocial. at that age, you can be curious about things like this. however if he's repeatedly killing animals, that would be more of a sign of antisocial behavior.
@tanjamilakovic5262
5 ай бұрын
@co9971 No. Children that hurt animals in any way are not normal. Period.
@rmmmmt2796
5 ай бұрын
@@tanjamilakovic5262 it's not like the child is killing ants, not to diminish the life of an ant.
@lot2196
5 ай бұрын
He didn't just "drop" a turkey.
@kristines.5348
5 ай бұрын
My jaw dropped when he said the son is still spending holidays with the abusive mother. The poor kid will never get better if he continues to receive periodic doses of trauma.
@PrincessZaire100
5 ай бұрын
Blame the court system. The father can not legally deny the mother her visitation rights. It’s a court order and if he doesn’t follow it, he can risk losing custody or going to jail for contempt
@toscadonna
5 ай бұрын
The abusive mother? The father is right here defending this kid and saying things like “someone” put the turkeys into the water. The father isn’t even telling the truth at this point.
@kristines.5348
5 ай бұрын
@@PrincessZaire100 Yes, however there are legal remedies which the father even mentioned. He just sounded resigned to allowing this to continue because the process is difficult. This child is headed nowhere good if his mother is allowed to remain in the picture.
@TonyCox1351
5 ай бұрын
@@PrincessZaire100blame the court system?? This dad sounds like he puts in zero effort. The kid has been having problems for 2 years and he can’t get him into a shrink with a 6 month wait list…dad is the problem. I bet he offered visitation to the judge
@bebop2523
5 ай бұрын
@@PrincessZaire100no, do not blame the court system in this instance, because the father hasn’t even TRIED to adjust the custody arrangement. He has not even ATTEMPTED to get full physical custody or supervised visitation. It would be one thing if he tried and the courts shut him down, but he has not even attempted.
@WILDANDPEACEFUL23
4 ай бұрын
If he's setting fires, killing animals and bed wetting . That's a terrible triad. She needs to run away from that relationship.
@DawnKellyMedia
2 ай бұрын
Seriously. He will burn the house down while they sleep.
@lisablack6275
4 ай бұрын
I married the love of my life. He has a son, and so do I. However, my ex-husbands son was very sweet but would flip and assault my son. The boys were both ten years old at the time. I had to divorce my ex-husband and get myself and my son away from the violence. My son came first.
@katherinecolson2350
4 ай бұрын
👏👏👏👏👏 I applaud you for this!
@kp2223
4 ай бұрын
💯💯💯
@denisekennedy3099
3 ай бұрын
Absolutely the right decision and you’re brave to have done it. Must have been hard for all of you.
@donnag7288
3 ай бұрын
I admire you for making that decision ! A real mother !
@karenmorente7589
3 ай бұрын
As an individual who witnessed a severely disturbed child integrated in our family I'd say get away now. The healthy children will not be able to save this boy. I would keep him away from his mother. No way would he go for eight days with her. You are leaving out what is he exposed to when he's with her now. She's a severely mentally and emotionally disturbed mom. Substance abuse and or brain dysfunction viable. Likely neglecting or interacting inappropriately with your son. She will have like associates around him. He may have consumed what she has left around and some of these people will openly share substances with him .He's not even eating properly and has no structure at her adult centered home . Likely not caring properly for even herself. Your sweet normal kids will NOT TEACH HIM TO BE SWEET AND NORMAL. HE WILL PUT THEM IN DANGER, FEAR, embarrassment and your attention will inadvertently gyrate to the squeaky wheel depriving your kids of attention . At a minimum your kids will be depressed learn to make excuses or snap back. They'll be hurt worse with age. They may become victims or enraged in their mentality. While placement in a medical / behavioral setting is hard to arrange that may be exactly what you son needs to help structure behavioral intervention. As an adult with outpatient continual.counciling he will be institutionalized in jail , prison and/ or rehab. He needs immediate help but without the opportunity to prey on the other children . Sadly I experienced this and can tell you he needs radical help now and no contact probably even supervised with his mom until SHE HAS HELP. You cannot get the mud out of a glass of water with out completely starting over emptying and washing the glass. THROUGHLY rinsing the glass. Your son is destructive and it'll worsen. A family member like him will spider web out and pull your whole family apart. He's in his final formative years. " I've tried to get him help, however well intended will NOT GET HIM HELP. Maybe not in time if you don't take radical help now. Reading between the lines I know the circumstances are worse to han stated here. You may need to take him to the ER if need be for admission. Document the COMPLETE BEHAVIORS stop denying. Let your girlfriend go live normal to save her kids. The situation you limitedly describe WILL WORSEN AND CONTINUE. until he's emerged into a good strong program. Please get him help. The family member that we tried to help was limitedly helped with the best of efforts . He now has life in prison we should have listened to the pros who tried to put him in a hospital / group home.
@whitney9429
5 ай бұрын
Today it’s “just two turkeys” and tomorrow it could be the toddler. These parents need to wake up.
@Natalia-Millan
4 ай бұрын
I am getting chills. Run woman Run!
@lauramoore9465
4 ай бұрын
Two turkeys they used to play with all the time. Their pets. He killed his pets in front of his step brother. Crazy how they’re brushing it off
@MsLouisVee
4 ай бұрын
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
@katherinecolson2350
4 ай бұрын
THIS
@dreamergirl6017
3 ай бұрын
Two children.
@jessicabender1301
5 ай бұрын
Lady, get your kids OUT. You're their only advocate
@jill61421
5 ай бұрын
THANK YOU!
@tammyreise
5 ай бұрын
Exactly! It’s not worth it.
@middleagedcrazy5297
5 ай бұрын
Amen!
@elainenilsson5472
5 ай бұрын
That boy needs a rubber room and there is no doubt those turkeys were not drowned by accident. These two families are not a good match.
@oldgeezer2780
5 ай бұрын
Sadly, I know of two men who were troubled as boys, and they never became normal. Both sort of drift along, supported financially by the government and their families. Neither one was violent, though, at all. This kid sounds far more troubled and frankly dangerous.
@karabnp87
4 ай бұрын
This couple are *completely* out of touch with reality, and that boy needs to be in an inpatient program, and AWAY from ANY other children AND animals that he could possibly harm. MY GOD.
@s-tech-123
3 ай бұрын
I agree it feels very much like a future school shooter situation given that the child also threatened to kill another student already
@DawnKellyMedia
2 ай бұрын
@@s-tech-123 it reminds me of several cases I've seen where the violent child murdered their sibling.
@user-vx9bn1wc5b
2 ай бұрын
💯
@JaneDough23
Ай бұрын
@@s-tech-123 John should have brought up that he threatened to kill another student.
@emtwr
18 күн бұрын
I agree 1000% but inpatient mental health care for children is so hard to access. In some states, the state asks you to put your other, HEALTHY, children, into foster care, and keep the troubled kid in the home because they don’t have any better resources. I watched a documentary of 4 moms in the US with children that have severe aggression from mental health disorders, dangerous behaviors etc and the absolute lack of resources and support, across the board, was insane.
@opjplamlvbrown8113
4 ай бұрын
'He spends hours playing with her (the two yr old)'. That sent a shiver up my spine. And I could tell Dr. D felt that too. I just hope that play is supervised.
@sandracisneros862
3 ай бұрын
I really hope it was supervised play time because nobody talks about CoCSA (child on child sexual abuse), but it does happen more often than people realize
@sunshinehowells9845
3 ай бұрын
Why would the play with the toddler be supervised? When the play with the five year old isn't supervised and the turkeys died. How long were the five and six year old alone, with those turkeys inorder for 2 of them to be dead? No one is parenting these children
@isalu8939
20 күн бұрын
23:58 for those looking for that section :)
@shaunamalo2308
5 ай бұрын
He needs to be 100% focused on HIS child, not having a romantic relationship.
@OHsopositive
4 ай бұрын
I suspect that, even more than the romance, he wants her help in parenting 😏 They’re each others’ safety net 😢
@Letstalk295
4 ай бұрын
1000000000000% not sure why he's looking for a woman especially one with kids. He needs to only be seeing doctors
@annstewart8506
4 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@tamb7587
4 ай бұрын
Amen!!!
@VALENTINAH856
4 ай бұрын
Amen
@balletwb94
4 ай бұрын
The dad’s verbiage tells me he knows EXACTLY who killed the turkeys but doesn’t want his son to be made out as a monster. This child needs serious help.
@killerdeviant
4 ай бұрын
Lot of stuttering and stammering
@QueenDarkChocolate
4 ай бұрын
At least John Deloney nailed it and laser-focused on the problem. Lord, please open the father's eyes so he can quit thinking of his own selfish needs and help his son.
@ms.hjohnson6820
4 ай бұрын
Why weren’t they supervised? And if unsupervised, where are the cameras??
@lukeb3930
4 ай бұрын
I feel like this child is at a crossroads between the life of Voldemort and the life of a kind of trauma tempered hero ❤❤
@davinasquirrel7672
4 ай бұрын
Yes balletwb, the turkey incident gave me chills. Most of us know what that means. The bullying others sure, could be acting out - but two dead turkeys means this is serious stuff.
@ashtonstout7375
4 ай бұрын
This father has full custody, yet he abandons his child with his toxic mother for 8 days?? He is extremely traumatized because of her and she gets unsupervised visits?? His little boy’s behavior is markedly worse before and after his unsupervised visits with his mother and his father continues to hand him over to her?? This man’s priorities are severely out of order.
@BrainsBeautyandCommonSense
4 ай бұрын
The courts force residential parents to hand over kids for visitation, and even abusive parents rarely lose visitation until something bad happens. One reason for this is bitter parents that make false allegations of abuse, and the problem of parental alienation. Be careful who you sleep with and who you marry.
@lunacarolyn
4 ай бұрын
This!
@luciaconn6788
4 ай бұрын
The kid's responding to lousy parenting. The Dad wants to abandon his six year old to the incompetent mother and move to Nashville. Dad's seeking Dr. John's endorsement. Awful parents! Left a 6 & 5 y/o unsupervised in a barn, and then blamed his 6 y/o for the Turkey poult's drowning.
@oneanddonetzone3673
4 ай бұрын
Let’s face it the dad sounds like a Simp. He doesn’t sound like he has any command or control. He sounds like he makes excuses for bad behavior and doesn’t take the personal responsibility to take corrective action. This is a disaster. I’ve seen far too many parents that want to be a best friend to their children. Somebody needs to be in charge and it sure the hell isn’t going to be a five year old if you want a successful family.
@WoolandFlax
4 ай бұрын
@@oneanddonetzone3673 You are clearly very young and naive
@magdalenapichler4182
4 ай бұрын
My mom chose severely traumatized fosterchildren over me. Told me that it is also my social responsibility to resocialize them. I will never forget.
@amarketing8749
4 ай бұрын
I am so sorry for your pain and trauma. It is sad she couldn't see her "calling in life" was hurting her own daughter.
@magdalenapichler4182
4 ай бұрын
@@amarketing8749I think it is a severe misinterpretation of narcicism. I remember numberless occasions when other people called her superhuman/ Übermutter/calling and ended the sentence with: "I could not do that!" It was me of course from the age of 11 or 12 who ran the household.
@amarketing8749
4 ай бұрын
@@magdalenapichler4182 Forgive me. I in no way meant to diminish your pain or to re-injure you in anyway. I believe you. I believe you are the best to judge and interpret her behavior. Thank you for pointing out my mistake. Once I read your words, I understood that you were correct, and my words meant to be helpful or comforting were not. So sorry for your trauma and sorry if I hurt you.
@magdalenapichler4182
4 ай бұрын
@@amarketing8749 There is absolutely nothing to forgive about! I appreciate your care. And I warnt to thank you! Being vulnerable makes us human.
@jed5726
4 ай бұрын
So sorry 😢
@jamesgreenwood837
5 ай бұрын
As someone who owns chickens ducks and turkeys. Turkeys, if put into water will float, and they can swim around. Those birds were drowned…
@cg741graf5
5 ай бұрын
Absolutely- they can swim and fly off; We have wild Turkeys and domesticated at farms.
@michelleeaton9282
4 ай бұрын
OMG…
@kellymarieapplebee
4 ай бұрын
My goodness thank you......I have a load of poultry myself, whilst Turkey's are not ducks, they do not sink like stones.....@@cg741graf5
@LCee7
4 ай бұрын
I was looking for this comment bc logic told me they’d float.
@Letstalk295
4 ай бұрын
I hate the way the father is playing of like it just happened. He shouldn't be dating any woman let alone one with kids. All his time should be on how to help the son and stop him from harming animals and or people
@bernadinetinker3028
5 ай бұрын
She is actually afraid: afraid of being without a man, afraid of not following her instincts, afraid her husband will get the kids, afraid of this child. They need separate homes. She already knows.
@mimir1885
5 ай бұрын
Period!!! U said it! Separate homes 100%% that keeps most of all those fears at bay! I'm engaged and we already agreed on separate homes. We currently are living separately our whole relationship and will continue too after we marry. Of course I'll have stuff at his and hell have stuff at mine but as for where the mail goes, its going to two separate homes lol
@alexatedw
5 ай бұрын
@@mimir1885lol
@alexatedw
5 ай бұрын
@@mimir1885that’s cray cray
@alladreamwedreamed
5 ай бұрын
Spot on. Hate seeing women put themselves in these positions.
@biellaspointofview2054
5 ай бұрын
I believe you meant ex husband. The fact that these two plan on moving out of state probably shows ex husband isn’t much involved because he would need to give permission. Personally I wouldn’t want my kids in a different state.
@CountryValues
4 ай бұрын
I live in Colorado and call total BS on not being able to see a specialist and get a full mental evaluation in a timely manner. This year my son was flagged and then tested for ADHD. When I called the main hospital in Colorado, Children’s Hospital, that has satellite offices all over the state, they were able to get an appointment set up within one week! Meanwhile, we have been treating our older daughter for some pretty severe anxiety, post Covid, we were able to get in to see a psychiatrist for a mental evaluation within a month. There are plenty of providers here, he would’ve found someone who could have gotten him in within 1 to 2 months max if he had kept calling around trying different offices. Drive up to Denver, Colorado Springs is tiny in comparison. I do want to add that while Colorado has various mental health providers, there is still a shortage here. But not nearly to the extent he discusses. Psychology Today is an amazing place to search for mental health experts. You sort by location, specialty, insurance accepted, what specialty you’re looking for, etc. I did a quick search and there were over 225 psychiatrists in Colorado Springs.
@DonnaLena1
3 ай бұрын
There is a KZitem family I follow that has two severely autistic and disabled children. They moved specifically to CO because far better health services and education are available there. These people are not being completely honest. RED FLAGS 🚩
@theresamc4578
Ай бұрын
It is my opinion that he wants FREE evaluation, is not willing to pay for his son's mental health. Run, lady, run.
@colleenhollenbeck6929
27 күн бұрын
I agree I live in Colorado I’m get better health care then I did in California for mental health and health in general.
@mrsdejunky
26 күн бұрын
Came here to say the same.
@VV-er3zg
4 ай бұрын
The dad talked about how the kid’s behaviour worsens before/after visiting his mom and immediately then dismissively goes “well I’d have to get visitations or something like that” LIKE completely unwilling to address the situation
@hothotheat3000
5 ай бұрын
If my mom exposed me to this, I’d never forgive her. She’s choosing a man over her kids and they will never forgive her.
@lydiaross4801
4 ай бұрын
Take care of your son. Take him to Charis Bible school. They can pray for God's deliverance and healing for the 6 year old. You can drive there today!
@emmajones8590
4 ай бұрын
@@lydiaross4801 Bible thumping is not going to work.
@sBaum
4 ай бұрын
This happens every day folks..so sad
@beer1403
4 ай бұрын
But but but she has to have a life too! She has to feel empowered. Feminism is cancer.
@baristaz8834
4 ай бұрын
Yeah no, praying doesn't do anything, actions and actual professional help does. @@lydiaross4801
@stephierose931
5 ай бұрын
Grew up w a diagnosed psychopath..... Get your kids out now. He's not best friends w your 2 yr. Hes grooming her for something or has already done something. Again, first hand experience. I'm 38 now...... Still deal w the trauma from growing up w a sibling like this. RUN!
@mwhe3111
5 ай бұрын
Oh, God, I am so sorry. I feel sick.
@deannad9105
5 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience, because that is definitely grooming.
@CaToRi-
5 ай бұрын
God bless you 🙏
@tiannanelson8986
5 ай бұрын
He is 6 years old! He is not 16. At the age of 6, they are still learning so much about life. He has time to get his son help and with A LOT of love!!! his son can heal from his trauma People need to get a grip! The poor little guy is 6 years old!!
@deannad9105
5 ай бұрын
@@tiannanelson8986 No one said he is beyond help. But until he has been helped (which will be a lifelong process), her children are not safe! Also, just because a child is only 6 years old, doesn't mean they can't victimize another child. I don't know this specific child, so I cannot speak to his history, but I worked in Juvenile Justice with multiple SA offenders. You would be shocked at the age of their first assault (that they are typically not charged for, because people give younger kids the benefit of the doubt). You thinking that they shouldn't be concerned because he is only 6, is the exact attitude that can lead to more victims.
@thagabej
4 ай бұрын
So the father has full custody of his son knows his wife abuses him acknowledges that his son acts up even more when he has to see his biological mother and he still takes him anyways? No way he truly cares for his son and wants him to get help. Also when asked “ why do put your son in an unsafe situation” the father response is “yeah” to me he wants the relationship more than he wants to help his son.
@rivkaruthgolan
4 ай бұрын
He may be listening to parents and friends (even judges, teachers social workers )who don’t know what they are talking about ie saying “A child has to have time with his mother.”
@BerryGood4U
3 ай бұрын
Did it bother anyone else that all the kids were in the barn “far away from the house” with no adults and a child they knew could be violent?
@Manibular
Ай бұрын
Yes, I don't know why they're handling young children this way.
@NrthrnKnght
Ай бұрын
my hair stood up and then The dad said "someone" was holding the turkey ..YOU KNOW DAMN GOOD AND WELL IT WAS HIS SON!!!!
@lynaeeakettgreene7208
23 күн бұрын
Yes. That bothered me a lot. Especially with the other kids being younger. And I'm assuming probably smaller than him.
@lynaeeakettgreene7208
23 күн бұрын
@@NrthrnKnghtyeah that made me sick to think about.
@Madinaash
7 күн бұрын
It’s giving orphan black ….
@georgiabessie
5 ай бұрын
If she marries this man, her ex-husband should take his children away from her.
@OopThereItIs77777
5 ай бұрын
The little boy needs to go to a facility. Until he gets the help he needs. They can still marry but the little boy needs to go get help outside of the home
@sirennoir258
5 ай бұрын
She wants that man who thought it was a good idea to rip his kid from stability every three months is good parenting.
@zackfelker
5 ай бұрын
@@sirennoir258the mom is the source of this mess. What are you talking about?
@jet4415
5 ай бұрын
RUN LADY! Killing animals??!! Fake remorse??! Can we mention Ted Bundy??!!
@karmencarmen1720
5 ай бұрын
@@zackfelker I think you’re misinterpreting the comment above. His father is the stability and his mother is the source of his stress. The father has already witnessed that every time he is either about to come in contact with his birth mother, or leaving his birth mother’s home his bad behavior is amplified. Therefore, the father is knowingly, taking away the son’s stability by allowing him to be in unsupervised contact with the mother, and whoever else is in that household. In my opinion, the fact that he already has full custody of his son indicates to me that if he were to seek out only supervise visits, he most likely would be able to obtain that.
@dancy62
5 ай бұрын
Sweet lord. This dad is clueless. “Someone killed the turkey, we don’t know who because we weren’t there” after leaving a 6 year old with severe mental issues unsupervised with a 5 year old around water.
@christineoneal666
5 ай бұрын
I'm surprised the 6-year-old didn't try and drown the 5-year-old.
@nixxblackwood
5 ай бұрын
hes lucky that was a turkey and not the 5 year old or the baby for god sake.
@SunnyDenmark
5 ай бұрын
@@christineoneal666Maybe the father called at the right moment .... But next time who knovs ????
@paulatobler8354
5 ай бұрын
That really gets me. I wouldn’t have left my kids at that age around water with no adult supervision. Now I understand there are different opinions on how much supervision kids need, but whatever you think about what kids can do on their own, how do you leave that 6 year old alone with a 5 year old at all but especially around water? How are they not watching that kid with eagle eyes at all times, but especially when he’s around other kids, given his history? If there was a chance to keep the kid in the home, it wouldn’t be possible in their home. They just don’t take it seriously enough to do what needs to be done to keep everyone safe.
@christineoneal666
5 ай бұрын
@@SunnyDenmark Exactly!
@AprilI3180
2 ай бұрын
Why were a 5and 6 year old out playing by a body of water unsupervised? And admittedly far from the house too? Wtf is going in here
@tspfull
Ай бұрын
agreed!!!!
@jenniferhuerta9824
Ай бұрын
I was wondering this too.
@oneperson5760
Ай бұрын
It was likely a water dish for the animals, not a pond. But they shouldn't have been far away from the house, unsupervised, especially since they know one child is messed up. These parents are not making good decisions.
@emilyzahand8609
15 күн бұрын
And sounds like they leave him playing with the 2yo for long periods…
@mandyellis876
Ай бұрын
This father sends shivers down my spine with his absolute intention to ‘see no evil’. Dangerous man, dangerous son…
@gutenbird
4 ай бұрын
" We have no clue who killed the turkeys." That would be about the end of that relationship.
@jonv570
4 ай бұрын
yup, the kid is a demon
@blunt3862
4 ай бұрын
Yup the second they start killing animals....they are a problem.
@audreywineland1426
4 ай бұрын
No kidding. How Katlin did not see endless red flags long ago and RUN is unfathomable.
@amomto4
4 ай бұрын
As a mom of a child who has mental health issue, not to this degree, its easy ouyside of that situation to think you know how you would handle it. There a lot of disbelief that comes into play, especially when talking about a young child that anyone would assume is harmless. A lot of times thoughts or obsevations are not discussed gor fear of being called crazy or having some I'll intent. My child has borderline personality disorder, its been incredibly distructive to our family/home life. I chose to get her help but also prioritized protecting my other children. She had to institutionalized for a period, i was heavily critisized by people who didn't understand the depth of what was going on. She's an adult now with 3 kids out if wedlock with 2 dads, 2 kids are in the custody of their dad. I had hoped she would never have kids. It is truly heartbreaking for a parent, i know i wouldve appreciated some understanding from others.
@BarbinAZ
4 ай бұрын
What happens when a new baby joins this tragedy? SEPARATE NOW!
@victorialombardi
5 ай бұрын
This is probably the most disturbing call I have ever heard on the Delony show. These parents are absolutely clueless and do not understand the severity of the situation.
@rudomwadiwa2183
4 ай бұрын
Isnt that why people call in? Because they dont know and they need help
@thefaithonista-cristinamye7038
4 ай бұрын
This.
@JimbleThimbleThomble
4 ай бұрын
@@rudomwadiwa2183yup. It seems so clear from this side of the screen, but if I were in their position, I would definitely seek advice
@dennisdearden2652
4 ай бұрын
She does know, she needs to leave ! she just doesn't want to be on her own, women is a fool. Her priorities are the safety of her own two children first.
@AnnaNicoleVinopal
4 ай бұрын
These are two parents who care more about themselves and their new relationship than his traumatized child. They didn't want help for the child, they wanted permission to stay together at the expense of the child.
@Kim-Dalton
4 ай бұрын
Dear lady, you are the only person in your children's lives who is going to protect them from abuse and trauma. This decision shouldn't be difficult. Get your kids to a safe place now before something happens to them.
@meganhunter1921
3 ай бұрын
Wow, this is such a frustrating call to listen to. They are just trying to figure out how to get what they want, not how to do what’s best for the kids. So gross
@tahsinarahman168
5 ай бұрын
Safety of kids > Relationship
@poetryqn
5 ай бұрын
Thanks. You said it short and sweet.
@alladreamwedreamed
5 ай бұрын
It's so embarrassing to see some people get so lonely or anxious about being single, that they will link up with a literal psycho
@user-bx4ti6ig3i
5 ай бұрын
The dad minimizing the killing of the turkeys as they're just kids is just horrifying. 😤
@billylee5335
5 ай бұрын
As an avid watcher of murder documentaries it always starts with animals
@paulatobler8354
5 ай бұрын
Especially when they had seen that one turkey died when put in water and then went ahead and dropped the other one in water when called inside. The first one, maybe they didn’t know that it couldn’t swim. That second one? They knew it would die.
@tahsinarahman168
5 ай бұрын
I know... i noticed the dad isn't saying the full truth with John.
@josephmayer8880
5 ай бұрын
They’re turkeys not humans
@JC-xu1cz
5 ай бұрын
@@josephmayer8880most serial killers start with killing animals. The son is giving off major red flags.
@BeatrizMarques80
4 ай бұрын
I admire how politely dr. John brought this couple to the ground, it's a matter of safety, open your eyes!!
@marys6710
3 ай бұрын
Placing that child with his mother is abuse. Exposing her children to him is abuse. These two are trying to outsource this boy to everyone so they can live together. He needs urgent therapy. I hope they WAKE UP.
@tomigirl30
5 ай бұрын
There is no way I would subject my children to a child that needs so much help. Your children should come before ANY relationship.
@meesh1002
5 ай бұрын
Yes that’s my thoughts too!
@devynselnes4282
5 ай бұрын
I bet the mom is psycho 😅
@akpenguin1859
5 ай бұрын
There is no way you would subject your children to someone who needs help? Thought you said they need help? Lol
@racinfilly
5 ай бұрын
Doesn't sound like they will really follow his advice.
@disco4535
5 ай бұрын
This is 100% wrong. God comes first, spouse comes next, kids come after spouse. Its very common for women to get this completely incorrect. Your wife/husband isnt just for the feels. You have a duty to them if you are married.
@butreally289
5 ай бұрын
His troubled six year old son left unsupervised away from the house near a pond? That alone is worrying.
@sidni.d5989
5 ай бұрын
With a 5 year old. That could have been the kid instead of the turkey. I could never!
@jarkachalmovianska7812
4 ай бұрын
Yeah they both should not have custody of the any of the kids...
@lcam9241
4 ай бұрын
An UN-troubled 6 year old probably shouldn't be left alone at a pond either.
@redcomic619
4 ай бұрын
It’s sad and this may sound insensitive, but even at 6 it’s probably too late for this child. He’s going to be a danger to himself and to society.
@KittyHannah
4 ай бұрын
Stop being selfish. Focus on your son. That poor boy has never been in a stable environment! Now they want to move again!?!?! That boy needs love and to be grounded. Sorry. That is the reality of being a parent. Period. All the energy you have put into building your new family.....put into him.
@dinimueter539
4 ай бұрын
Cruelty to animals is a huge red flag! I would never want to live with a kid like that. And cruelty to animals has nothing to do with ADHD. My brother and I have it and we have never been cruel to animals.
@MegaMarVerde
18 күн бұрын
Exactly. It’s antisocial personality disorder. These parents are far away from reality. Poor kids…
@patriciacasillas312
3 ай бұрын
The dad sounds reluctant to let go of the woman. He desperately needs to accept the reality and gravity of the situation. He wants to prioritize his gf, the kids needs to be first!
@flowersgrimm
5 ай бұрын
She will absolutely stay and her children will be his next victims. People are so selfish, her happiness is more important than their safety.
@jojoyeu
5 ай бұрын
Is she even happy?
@karinaz8756
4 ай бұрын
It’s not happiness it’s co dependency. Neither can be alone. The dad wants to dump all of this on someone else.
@andytaylor1588
4 ай бұрын
Her happiness will turn into horror after her kids are murdered by this boy.
@danimilan1376
3 ай бұрын
It’s very disturbing but yes she doesn’t want to separate, and her children are already victims to some extent.
@NrthrnKnght
Ай бұрын
@@andytaylor1588 that is where this is heading or sexual attack on the little girl..bail lady do it yesterday!!!
@maggsg6209
5 ай бұрын
Wow, this dad is winning all the gold in the Denial and Minimizing Olympics. Absolute insanity.
@spacelady4935
4 ай бұрын
The mom is just as delusional.
@Aminah6623
Ай бұрын
The child is six. He needs intense therapy and support. They don't have to break up. They shouldn't be living together though.
@LemonSte
3 ай бұрын
If anything, they should move states together but live separately. The fact he is not already in the courts fighting tooth and nail to keep this child away from his abusive mother is disgusting. This child needs 100% attention and mental care
@rebelwithacause2229
5 ай бұрын
They won’t break up. They were looking for an answer they didn’t receive. They were trying to find loopholes to stay together. The correct answer is to separate and not put her kids through this, but she is trying to find a way around it and so is he.
@jenniferruth812
5 ай бұрын
Yep.
@chrissy1448
4 ай бұрын
Exactly… her kids are going to suffer and get messed up in the process.
@brandyk
4 ай бұрын
These people sound so reasonable and appropriate and it's likely if they were your neighbors or coworkers you'd like them but...and they are not alone here but they are extremely selfish n immature. They already both had their shot at marriage and they were even lucky enough to have kids at least. I don't know how old they were when each married their kids other parent but sounds like neither was a long marriage so I have to question how quickly they married these people who they probably thought were so wonderful when they met. Especially the man, John is it? If his ex is as bad and unwell as he portrays his picker is off big time. Obviously if they are living together for a year already then they must have at least met and started dating 8 months to a year prior to that. So her 2 yr old couldn't have been more than a few months old and she was rushing into another relationship instead of healing herself n just being with her kids. Already her focus is on a man. Is this for self esteem n self soothing or for financial? And what if him. What did he learn from his marriage as even though she is clearly not well he must have some ownership here even if it was originally getting involved with her without knowing the real her. These are the same people who when their kids grow up to have resentment toward them or messed up lives themselves or end up in long term therapy like to say that they did the best they could and no parent is perfect. Heal yourselves n your children and then look for a relationship. Yes you may not find one worth being in that's always a possibility but there's also no guarantee this one would be all sunshine and roses either even without this added concern. I wonder too if they met each other while one or both were married. I do wish them luck n I do give them credit for calling at least. Most don't even do that so u never know their story .
@loriloristuff
4 ай бұрын
I hope not to hear about this on the newsfeed, when the 6 year old does something after they move to Tennessee. But this kid is a danger to himself and others. But these two so-called adults are not gonna separate.
@montymython754
4 ай бұрын
The correct answer is that if you get divorced, your responsibility now is to raise your kids. Not to date, not to remarry, not to “blend” a family, not to make new kids with someone else. It is to RAISE YOUR KIDS.
@sarahp8937
5 ай бұрын
Caitlin, my mum chose her relationship over our safety and I'm 35 YO and it affects me every day. Please, please, put your kids first
@dianemorton2222
4 ай бұрын
The child might need to see a neurologist. This child could have a brain problem. He needs medication. Prayers for this situation. So sad.
@jaciriley123
4 ай бұрын
Also 35 and also still dealing with the trauma as well hugs and love to you Caitlin we might feel alone but we aren't xx
@josiedickson6959
2 ай бұрын
Agree ..this happened for my daughter also ..tragic
@ingloriousbetch4302
9 күн бұрын
My womb donor chose NUMEROUS dudes over her kids (borderline personality disorder) and didn't even like being a mother. I had to get FIVE men tested to find out who my father was when I was 40, and I was lucky one of them was because those are the only ones I KNEW of. Many people should never be allowed to breed.
@whatevergoesforme5129
2 ай бұрын
Drowning animals is a sign of mental illness. If they had empathy, they would check if the turkeys were floating or not and tried to save them. It was done willfully but the father is in denial.
@ingloriousbetch4302
9 күн бұрын
It's a textbook sign of a personality disorder like anti-social personality disorder.
@oksure900
4 ай бұрын
She has a 5 year old and a 2 year old and she’s already engaged and living with this man and his child? This is fast and a lot of change for all three kids, all at the whim of the adults. Why do people shack up so quickly? If it doesn’t work out this time that’s MORE instability for their very young children. Children are always an afterthought in these cases 💔
@ThePolypam
2 ай бұрын
She clearly left the father for this numbskull
@evarodriguez4319
4 ай бұрын
Sir, you cannot leave the 5 year old and 2 year old with the 6 year old. You are not a family. The 6 year old is making sure of that. Give each other up. Woman, protect your 2 kids. Man, time to devote intense focus on your son.
@lisafeck1537
4 ай бұрын
Yes! And dad, do not be pissed resentful of your son that the relationship did not work as you wanted. The son will never heal have any kind of quality of life, ever, if dad doesn't focus, and love, and be the advocate for the son. Woman, get out! Do not make excuses, equicvicate, justify, to get the man/husband, adult relationship YOU WANT, at the expense of your children, the entire family. You will destroy yourself, and your family to push to hold on to something that is doomed.
@bodyofhope
4 ай бұрын
@@lisafeck1537 he'll just find another woman with children. I wouldn't be surprised if this isn't the second or third relationship after his divorce. He had a child with a woman who had severe mental health issues, and left his child with her. My father did the same, and even after he was told again and again we were being abused, he didn't do anything except stay away from the house even more. The only reason this father is so "concerned" right now is bc his troubled traumatized son is interfering in his current relationship. Selfish selfish selfish.
@vaska1999
4 ай бұрын
@@bodyofhope I think you're right. 😢
@isa4573
4 ай бұрын
Yea he sounds like a guy that needs a relationship. That women is insane. I am a single mom of 2 kids...if this kid was the kid of the guy I was. Dating.... NOPE.... not happening. Wouldn't waste another moment.
@ccattery
3 ай бұрын
Psychologist, residential treatment.
@CathrynGreyson
5 ай бұрын
Neither parent is putting their respective kid(s) first. Doc’s advice is spot on.
@bluestar4348
3 ай бұрын
I love the way Dr Delony explains the obvious to them so patiently..
@MrsJFJ
Ай бұрын
Dad, your kid is your priority. Going from relationship to relationship after major trauma isn’t a great idea.
@mariaking4950
5 ай бұрын
The adults are annoying me. I understand the Dad needs to talk and explain the son's good points and Dr Delony gets it and he is giving him time to talk, but I feel they are both trying to manipulate the situation so that they get his blessing to live together..... like a couple of self absorbed teenagers. I wouldn't countenance subjecting my daughter to one second of that sort of of risk..
@meiimacca4054
5 ай бұрын
Exactly, herbkids are going to be harmed and she'll have no one but herself to blame.
@Veracityseeker7
5 ай бұрын
Exactly
@foxbuns
5 ай бұрын
@@meiimacca4054agreed. but more likely than not she wont accept the blame and put it all on every man she chose, instead of realizing that SHE chose those men.
@Bebedollie
5 ай бұрын
Not being rude but killing animals ,especially at only 6 years old is a major red flag . I mean anyone at any age killing animals is a red flag. But this kid is only 6 years old.
@NickeyVamp
5 ай бұрын
I agree, they should definitely seek therapy for that child a lot of times this is sign of psychopathy. I can’t make it clear diagnosis because it’s not one of my cases, but I can say in all honesty it would be a good idea for them to get that child in therapy.
@anglophils645
5 ай бұрын
These sound like accidental killings. The two five-and-six-year-old boys did not understand the difference between turkeys and ducks. This is the parents' fault. Those children could have drowned, themselves. They are too young to be unsupervised around water, or animals.
@MattCasters
5 ай бұрын
@anglophils645 for sure.
@julin8597
5 ай бұрын
anglophils645 But you can hear the doubt and fear in the fathers voice. It’s just too risky.
@karigross
5 ай бұрын
Daddy’s in denial; he refuses to believe it was his son who did it. Run, mom.
@suzannedees2464
2 ай бұрын
I wouldn't think a bird would "accidently" drown just from falling in the water..
@macpduff2119
26 күн бұрын
After the first bird, then the 2nd!
@ingloriousbetch4302
9 күн бұрын
It wouldn't
@rec5050
2 ай бұрын
Wish I had gotten out. My children were damaged. His now adult daughter is in prison. She was cruel to animals….thats such a huge sign.
@ingloriousbetch4302
9 күн бұрын
Why didn't you?
@franciskeys9810
5 ай бұрын
This weak man is not going to solve this troubled kid's problems. Run.
@franciskeys9810
5 ай бұрын
It is a very small step for him to decide it's time to find out if the two-year-old can swim.
@gc4161
5 ай бұрын
@@franciskeys9810or that you can abuse the 2 yr girl and is more “fun” ….he is not a normal kid abuse prior or not
@oldgeezer2780
5 ай бұрын
@@gc4161 A mom in our neighborhood took her baby to the pediatrician to suddenly realize baby was covered with bruises. His eight-year-old brother was pinching him every chance he got.
@jet4415
5 ай бұрын
He sounds weak.
@winkA1
5 ай бұрын
Agree. He’s not seeing the gravity of the problems with his son. This is not some “bad behaviour” this kid is dangerous, possibly even to his own parents as he gets a bit older.
@healinghashis
5 ай бұрын
Please, mom, PLEASE do not put your kids with this child. He is deeply disturbed and WILL harm your children. All of the children in this scenario deserve the best outcome - the disturbed child deserves help, and the other kids deserve a safe home. The children should not live together or spend time together at all.
@brownin329
4 ай бұрын
No. He should have gone to their Dept. of Education and asked for an evaluation. It is free and they do the psych eval first. He can qualify for services and they have to hold the IEP meeting within 60 days.
@aishacorrea5759
Ай бұрын
Absolutely. This child is severely traumatized and acting out his trauma. He needs help immediately. He shouldn’t be in a home with other children now
@briannahatcher9422
4 ай бұрын
They aren't going to be in different homes. They are going to do something like put a lock on the 6 year olds door (and cause him more trauma) in the name of "protecting" their other two. They already let their kids call the others mom and dad, they aren't married. They are trauma bonded and playing house.
@ingloriousbetch4302
9 күн бұрын
Oh they won't even put a lock on. They aren't going to change a single thing they're doing, which is basically nothing.
@lonidenham849
5 ай бұрын
Few things I noticed, the callers are not speaking a language that says "kids come first". They just keep saying... well, we hear you but... how do we get what WE want? I have doubts they're going to take the advice, and something is going to go horribly wrong. They should've heard this 2 years ago. If they're engaged to be married, then they can take the money they would've used on the wedding to get the kids the care they need. I mean, this child needs significant attention, you don't have the time necessary to build a marriage-ready relationship under this level of stress, then everyone is having unmet needs so much damage...
@JonathanTodd-og7dd
5 ай бұрын
Right! And they can still date, and have fun when the kids are in school or with sitters or something. Just don't coparent and live together.
@R_S747
5 ай бұрын
They're incredibly shallow selfish people, they don't care that a two and five year old are in severe danger as long as they get to live their fantasy
@vikker8274
4 ай бұрын
I had a mentally ill sibling. Saw mental hospitals when I was 9/10. Constant turmoil . The other kids should NOT be subjected to this. Period. End of story. Adults should make the sacrifices, not these little kids.
@MyArtEminence
4 ай бұрын
Wow they are in so much denial it's scary and dangerous.... God this pains me
@jed5726
4 ай бұрын
I had three kids with mental health issues. I dropped everything so I could get their needs met. This includes my ex who was not emotionally supportive to any of us. They are all functioning very well in the adult world now. All those sacrifices were well worth it for me.
@katyasehryn8810
5 ай бұрын
This man cannot protect two turkeys! This woman SHOULD RUN!!!
@chrysanthe1297
4 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂 sad but so true
@ItsThicc
4 ай бұрын
Facts
@Burncsb
4 ай бұрын
Let´s face it, you don't expect your kid to do this...
@paolaristori6179
4 ай бұрын
Neither the woman could, as far as it goes.
@larissaalcorn3406
4 ай бұрын
@Burncsb Given the child's previous issues with violence, one can make the judgement call to not let the child be alone with living things. A 6 year old shouldn't be playing near livestock anyway.
@Monalisa0622
5 ай бұрын
Just realized something. She has a 2 yr old and has been with the man for 2 yrs. What the heck. Why don't people take the time to heal with their children? Why don't they just take time to develop a new way of relationship with their children? Live life with your children after divorce, enjoy them for a few years. Down the line, a few years later then begin dating.
@robinp2039
5 ай бұрын
I thought I was the only one who noticed this
@kitw76
5 ай бұрын
Exactly! People that jump into relationship to relationship can’t be alone. I always feel sorry for the kids… when I woman chooses a man over her kids it’s so infuriating!
@JonathanTodd-og7dd
5 ай бұрын
Oh !!! Good catch. This is such a train wreck waiting to happen. Poor kids.
@Michadoo
5 ай бұрын
I work in a children's hospital. We had a baby who's mom died of covid and she had some complications. When it was time to go home her dad already had a new gf and she was the one who came to the parent education. Not him. Parents are insane.
@kbc1883
5 ай бұрын
Exactly! When I heard them say they had been together 2 years, I knew that mom doesn’t put her kids first over her own relationship “needs”. Her 5 yr old son had to deal with losing his dad, having a sibling come into his life, and his mom dating someone new and then moving in with psycho kid all in less than a year! And then to hear the parents let him be alone in a barn with a 6 yr old who harms others is unfathomable. I played in barns my whole childhood and I know the kinds of things that can go wrong when kids are very responsible and kind and older. So why would they allow that risk? And why would they raise animals? Animals take time, money, care… put that toward your kids and forget the farm fun unless that is your only source of income/food.
@nerdpro9043
4 ай бұрын
That poor little 6 year old. Hope he gets the help and healing he needs. All the kids in this situation.
@heathergray9195
2 ай бұрын
Starting a relationship with her when her child from previpus marriage was just BORN and then moving in and pretending you're a family was shamefully immature and inappropriate, and both of them putting their romance first KNOWING how dangerous it is... if they continue like this, someone call CPS.
@htexas918
5 ай бұрын
This whole call is so disturbing. The dad minimizing his kids psychopathic behavior, the dad sending the kid back to the kids abuser (maybe to get some free time), the dad not starting the call with the insane violent abuse his son experienced, the woman putting her kids with a dangerous kid and selfishly prioritizing her romance over her kids safety, the dad not having the kid in intensive therapy, the dad not moving to find serious care or even looking where they are moving. They are living in an insane asylum. Not sure how John made it through the call.
@Veracityseeker7
5 ай бұрын
John is better than me, because I would be screaming and yelling at them both for their selfishness, and prioritizing their romantic and sexual needs over all of these children.
@MyName123.
4 ай бұрын
Wow you're so judgemental. These are humans struggling to do the best they can and calling Dr. John for help. How about you have some compassion, mercy, and offer some kind words to help? Have you handled every problem in your own life perfectly? No. Humble yourself please.
@raemil9252
4 ай бұрын
@@MyName123. He was not being judgemental. He only repeated what the caller said. Those are called facts.
@laurendecamp3368
4 ай бұрын
@@MyName123.it’s not judgmental, it’s what they said. This situation is incredibly serious and dangerous. That little boy is one tiny step from hurting the other kids in the house and the parents here are not grasping the severity of the situation and they are prioritizing themselves. They are minimizing the violence this kid is acting out and they are not admitting that this will keep getting more and more vicious. This situation is one step away from being very very bad. What compassion would you like here? Compassion to the parents who are knowingly putting their children at risk? We are well past having compassion, we need action.
@Lady-Fearn
4 ай бұрын
@MyName123. These parent's aren't doing they're best and you should be ashamed of yourself for saying otherwise. These parents are doing a terrible job! They've put having sex over the safety and well being over their own children. They left a 5 and 6 year old alone next to a large body of water. They left the kids alone long enough for the 6 year old to drown two birds. The parents should thank their lucky stars that the 6 year old chose to murder two turkeys than one his step siblings.
@GreenBean3141
5 ай бұрын
Parents please stop getting into another relationship if you came from a toxic situation make sure you get your children help first and give them time to adjust.
@aprilhumen1229
14 күн бұрын
Spot on!
@MarioMartinez-iy1og
3 ай бұрын
Please protect your kids!!! Separate the 6-year-old boy from the rest of the other children.
@jesska16
4 ай бұрын
I'm sure they are still together. What a shame. These kids deserve so much better.
@jillpruett4772
5 ай бұрын
A parent's priority and first loyalty has to be to their children, *even at the expense of a relationship*
@janelleg597
5 ай бұрын
The relationship of the wife and husband should be first to each other. They are the foundation. Not the children.
@rpcp5v18
5 ай бұрын
@@janelleg597they’re not husband and wife. So her point is valid.
@andrewbrendan1579
5 ай бұрын
Amen! And the parents are already living together so the children are together AND planning to move to another state in three months. The mother needs to separate from her fiance and his dangerous son.
@dougjohnson8835
5 ай бұрын
@@janelleg597❤❤❤
@alluringbliss4165
5 ай бұрын
@@janelleg597the children should be first, they are dependents of the parents
@Yayhee99
Ай бұрын
I am from Colorado I was able to get my kiddo in for a psych evaluation within 8 weeks it was the first one I called. I don’t think he called 20, I think he truly can’t be bothered. I’ve worked in the medical field and they are some emergency urgent scheduling slots dad needs to take accountability and take urgency.
@SuperTracilee
3 ай бұрын
Something is wrong with dad too. How is he not noticing the mom’s self harm? How is he not acknowledging the son needs extra care and help? Why are the kids unsupervised and drowning animals? Yikes
@laurenw768
5 ай бұрын
This is a sad and scary situation. But the mother trying to ask how this would be different if they were all a family/married leads me to believe she will not be putting her children first. I don’t care how much she loves this man. She and her children need out of this situation yesterday.
@PuertoRicanCreoleQueen
5 ай бұрын
She doesn’t even have to break up just not live together for the time being.
@alluringbliss4165
5 ай бұрын
They ‘re living together. She is not conscious
@laurenw768
5 ай бұрын
@@PuertoRicanCreoleQueen to be honest, I think they do need to break up (at least for awhile). Both need to refocus on their own children. Mom needs to move her and her kids away from them, and make sure her kids are well and haven’t already been seriously harmed by the other child. Dad needs to put his focus 100% on his son right now. It’s sad, but children need to come first- situations like this can impact all of these kids for the rest of their lives and who they become. I value romantic partnerships, but they don’t take priority over the kids.
@ineedhoez
5 ай бұрын
Yeah, for some reason she thinks them being a blended family is the problem. That kid is a damn psychopath
@jennerbug27
5 ай бұрын
That's exactly what I got too. She is going to rationalize keeping things as they are. So scary.
@inalaska1208
5 ай бұрын
No offense but you can't let this child be unsupervised around other kids and animals. Leaving him with no adult supervision alone on the farm outside is putting his life and others at risk obviously
@phattjohnson
5 ай бұрын
Worse, leaves him unsupervised arounds his biological mother.. I swear, the majority of the comments here can't see the forest for the trees.
@Michadoo
5 ай бұрын
@phattjohnson right. If that were true why does he still even go to the mom's house?
@raiden031
5 ай бұрын
@@Michadoobecause the court will always give the mother the benefit of the doubt
@R_S747
5 ай бұрын
This man is completely oblivious of how severe his sons condition is and imo is not being honest with healthcare professionals either
@inalaska1208
5 ай бұрын
@phattjohnson well the father has legal obligations to let the child go to his mother until he get a court order saying otherwise. It will not benefit the child if the dad ends up in contempt of court and child lives with mom full time as a result.
@user-zw6lw7qh1o
4 ай бұрын
These people don’t realize that bringing in strangers is another trauma. He needs to focus on his kids, she needs to protect her kids. When he drowns her two year old then who will be to blame?
@AndriaBieberDesigns
4 ай бұрын
I get so irritated with parents who are codependent on needing a relationship at the expense of the children. Stay single raise your children and then date. If you have to date, somebody don’t live with them raise your children. Often times people become so dependent because they don’t want to be alone that they sacrifice the kids.
@cynthiaguarino2016
5 ай бұрын
These two parents have blinders on and are not wanting to face the reality of their situation because they want to stay together. The problem is that it will come at the cost of the children's well-being. Dr. John is absolutely correct.
@Brenda-wj2db
5 ай бұрын
The blinders are off. They knew it in their hearts, they just needed to hear it from someone else
@Veracityseeker7
5 ай бұрын
They're putting their romantic relationship over the children. They know what they're doing. They just want someone to co-sign their idiocy.
@capergal1360
5 ай бұрын
I hope the people that are on this phone call are reading this. This happened in my family. I'm not going to get into details but it's almost the mirror of what's happening in this situation. The little boy in my family started killing animals when he was 4, it was a hamster, throwing and smashing toys. It escalated to killing a cat when he was 10, he put it in a duffle bag and smashed it on the ground until it was dead and the attacking the other children got much worse. He hated therapists and curse and swore at them. Suspended from school and off the bus multiple times. As a teenager, multiple arrests, juvenile detention and torture of animals continued. The other kids in the house have now asked why they were subjected to his torment. Why weren't they protected. These people need to listen to Dr.John and seperate him from the other kids until he is immersed in therapy. Don't let this kid become one of the stories you see on the news where a sibling was severely harmed or killed.
@trina1962
4 ай бұрын
Same, greatest mistake of my life. All of the children including the one with behavior issues suffered because of it.
@QueenDesire1
4 ай бұрын
As I watch more of your videos, i really appreciate how indepth you are with your reasoning and explanations. It truly makes it easy to understand, but also gives you the exact reality of what the situation is. I enjoy these videos
@countcoupblessings979
Ай бұрын
I know adults who still suffer , because they were left in dangerous siblings situations. It's life altering , truly.
@summerdaye3563
4 ай бұрын
He's side stepping the questions, blaming the mother, and excusing this kid's behavior. You know his mother is toxic. Do something. Lady with the kids. Please run. This man is expecting you to deal with this. Once you're married it's your problem. Because he's not going to deal with it.
@earthyeve7859
3 ай бұрын
He won't. I guarantee it. I went through this for 17 yrs and we finally kicked him out. The son will always be guarded by the dad and it will cause nothing but division. Kids with abandoned mothers usually have reactive attachment disorder and it gets 100 times worse.
@katiez460
17 күн бұрын
Guaranteed the mother wasn't even 100% of the problem. Just look at the way he glorifies himself and talks negatively about her in public. "She didn't want to take the time or effort to breastfeed"...what a gross, sanctimonious comment. Bottle feeding is perfectly fine and breastfeeding is a CHOICE, and is very hard to do. He himself may be emotionally abusive.
@VioletPersuasion
5 ай бұрын
I'm REALLY scared with the mom, bargaining and denying things by, her first question, asking what they should do IF THEY HAVE A BABY TOGETHER. Her brain is already scrambling to find a way to make sure they aren't parted, rather than finding a way to protect and save HER CHILDREN. I hope she stops denying and bargaining, and runs for her children's sake. I am praying so fervently for both of their families, and the sweet little 6 year old boy who was traumatized into this terrifying behavior.
@Michadoo
5 ай бұрын
Right. Take care of the ones you have first.
@kbc1883
5 ай бұрын
Yes! This! Why is that even on her mind??? Three traumatized kids is way more than they can handle already. Plus farm animals! They are not at all realistic about the resources they have and how those are already spread so thin. Put your focus and energy toward they kids you have and put aside your desires for a romantic relationship for now.
@galacruse2318
4 ай бұрын
Her kids need to go to their dad ASAP.
@michellegarigen9364
4 ай бұрын
If this Dad was so involved with his son, what does that say about the trauma his kid experienced? Caitlin needs to get out now. She will be happy she did if she can stay away from him.
@VV-er3zg
4 ай бұрын
Pls can you imagine if she gets pregnant to ‘salvage’ this 😭
@Naejakire3
4 ай бұрын
Lady, if you're reading this - end it. It's not worth it. I can't tell you how often I've seen an older, mentally ill and dangerous child added to the family and the little ones, who are VERY impressionable (especially at 2. O to 3 are the most important years of LIFE for development) go from being great, innocent little kids to traumatized beyond belief. I've met little kids who are now WORSE than the older kid who caused it all. I remember meeting a 3 year old who was safe and secure. Once his brother came back, all hell broke loose. Now? He has oppositional defiant disorder and has to be in a locked school.. All because of the hell his brother inflicted on him
@tchilds1077
4 ай бұрын
Both these parents need to wake up, and take care of their own kids. They seem clueless and the father here clearly doesn’t really want to do what’s needed. He is lying to himself about the situation because he would have to put himself out….. I wish them both the best, what a hard situation…..but each have a responsibility to their own kids.
@user-ul2pw7jk3c
5 ай бұрын
He will have to give up that relationship and fully focus on his son. As a responsible adult I don't see how you can keep a kid with these issues around other small children. The dad will have to sacrifice his personal life for his son immediately.
@pimaggot
5 ай бұрын
Not true at all. They need to separate and while he has the kid focus solely on his son, but when he is in school, or at a daycare or something he can and should get out and date and hook up. The woman also needs to be focused 100 percent on her kids and not moving in and looking for a stepfather to her kids. Both should stay "single parents" but can be in a monogamous relationship with each other and not be "coparents".
@JonathanTodd-og7dd
5 ай бұрын
They should separate but a lot of us single parents will hook up and date when the kids are in school or with sitters etc. And be lovers and friends but not coparents.
@jacqueline8566
5 ай бұрын
Oooooo this is good. We focused on the woman here, but the man should really go and focus on helping his child with 100% of his non-work time
@Flufferz626
5 ай бұрын
He also isn't really putting the effort into finding psychological pediatric help in Denver area. There are a lot of resources even for kids on Medicaid.
@JonathanTodd-og7dd
5 ай бұрын
@@Flufferz626 child advocacy center.
@Aubz47
5 ай бұрын
When dad said that the 6 year old is best friends with the 2 year old and that she’s a girl, I became extremely concerned. The turkey thing is horrific. His behavior is a major red flag. The fact that he clearly has unsupervised access to the other children, ie the turkey incident, opens a huge door for child predation. I think delony hit the nail on the head with he brought up the fact that there is way more trauma than they even realized and I would not be shocked if there was sexual @buse in his past. With that, I’d be highly concerned that he will prey on the 2 year old. This is a nightmare and it breaks my heart for the kids. Hearing the parents still trying to figure out a way to make it work is terrifying. If a professional told me that I needed to break up for the safety of my kids, I’d be out the door before they finished the sentence. Hope the parents heed this call and I know the area they live. They should reach out to Denver children’s, tell the full story and start with child play and occupational therapy while they wait.
@mrich9654
5 ай бұрын
that little monster killed both those turkeys and the dad is in severe deniall!!!!
@ineedhoez
5 ай бұрын
Facts
@Wompwompwimp
5 ай бұрын
Omg yes!! I was like RED FLAG RED FLAG 🚩
@mirianalogara2909
5 ай бұрын
I provided ABA therapy and worked with children with aggressive behaviors and suicidal ideations, all including self harming behaviors. I would also think that this child went through way more than want the father knows. ABA not only works with children with Autism so is a great option. There are also behavior coaches from no profit organizations, and they're very helpful, I was also a behavior coach, and I did that for 3 years. Behavior coaches are free here in California from non-profit organizations. I'm sure it is the same for each state in the country. I wish the best for this father and his child. Blessings!
@MrsEJV
5 ай бұрын
As soon as Dr. John mentioned removing the six year old, the silence was deafening. I’m a grandmother - I can’t believe the dad is feeling bad for himself because there are no grandparents down the street. A child like this needs more than an elderly person to provide care. I had no sense that the adults have any desire to walk away. They want the child fixed. Now.
@jd3743
3 ай бұрын
I love this advise!, I agree. Best to step back and focus on his son. If they are meant to be, they can be together in the future.
@Nashville4N6
3 ай бұрын
She was absolutely not expecting the answer to “what if we were all a biological family?” to be “the kids are separated” lol. She wanted that to be her justification for staying. They both got very quiet after that! They perfectly well knew what the answer would be, but didn’t want to hear it. I don’t believe they’ll separate. They’ll move to Nashville together and her kids will continue to be abused by this boy while they tell everyone how hard they’re “trying” to help that poor little boy. And for the love of all that’s holy, don’t send that child back to his mother! Get your court paperwork filed before the sun sets today to prevent her from having any access to him.
@user-bj3jg5qb5v
2 ай бұрын
Agree completely. They didn't want that answer and are not going to take the advice. I shudder for those kids.
@fortyseventhronin
5 ай бұрын
Most people roll their eyes at me when I say I was abused by my older brother, but it's the absolute truth. I struggle in every aspect of my life today because of him. It's not worth it Kaitlyn. Get your kids the f away
@communicationbreakdown256
5 ай бұрын
I believe you., that's horrid. I'm very sorry.
@Tokiohotel192
5 ай бұрын
And to hear her even ask that quesiton is diabolical
@emmagatewood3898
5 ай бұрын
Same here. It's actually a sadly common occurrence for an older step brother/half brother to abuse a younger kid within a blended family. Particularly when there is a serious lack of supervision in said family, like there is here. I am very worried for that little 2 year old girl.
@fortyseventhronin
5 ай бұрын
Thank you for your kind words@@communicationbreakdown256
@stac_y_with_no_e
4 ай бұрын
I believe you.
@communicationbreakdown256
5 ай бұрын
This is why, when my dad died from cancer leaving my mom a 32 yr old widow with 3 elementary school aged kids,, refused to ever get involved with anyone. She dated for a bit, but eventually stopped and never brought anyone around let alone left us alone with anyone.
@TJ-gm2uy
4 ай бұрын
Now there’s a mother who’s love for her children outweighs her wants and needs
@imdurmac1
4 ай бұрын
I did the same; minor kids always come first.
@moiseicatalina6543
4 ай бұрын
My mother did the same.
@elizabethloyd3713
4 ай бұрын
I did the same.
@cynthial841
4 ай бұрын
I absolutely did the same.
@sheilasmyth5874
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for your analysis and advice for these people. They needed clarity and a realistic game plan. I’m so glad they reached out to you, and pray that the six yr old gets the help he needs and heals. Will be praying for him, his Dad, girlfriend and her children
@findAplaceToCallHome
4 ай бұрын
No chance id prioritise my relationship over my child. These adults are delusional. Shame on the mother in particular. If she doesn’t leave to protect her children, I hope her kids leave her and go no contact as soon as possible
@ankieezsays7786
5 ай бұрын
This 6 yr old's father is forcing him into danger by visiting the mother and the 5,2 yr old's mother is forcing them into danger by simply cohabiting with the man. They are essentially the same, clearly oblivious to the needs of the children over their own wishes
@peteandrepeat2566
5 ай бұрын
Realistically, parents have very little choice when it comes to court ordered visitation. He could spend years in court with every abuse documented and the bio parent can still retain visitation. He doesn't have a choice. If he refuses to send the child for court ordered visitation, he can be held in contempt, with thousands of dollars in fines, jail time and total loss of custody himself.
@louiseyvette2261
5 ай бұрын
Like most divorcees
@PrincessZaire100
5 ай бұрын
If that he violates a court order he could end up losing custody or going to jail. He can’t just keep the kid away from his mother, because she still has rights, and unfortunately, the court is placing her rights above the child’s well being
@deannad9105
5 ай бұрын
@@peteandrepeat2566He said he hadn't asked for supervised visitation with Mom. And he should have. The fact that he didn't shows that he isn't prioritizing his child.
@bebop2523
5 ай бұрын
@@peteandrepeat2566this isn’t a situation where the dad has no choice, HE DIDNT EVEN ASK for supervised visitation or changes in the custody agreement. It’s one thing if he tried and the judge shut it down but he didn’t even make an attempt. Also, we don’t even know if the unsupervised visits to the mother are court-ordered or not, could’ve been something he just agreed on with his ex and not enforced by a court order
@corneliakloiber8858
5 ай бұрын
My Stepbrother was like that. My mother never protected me. Just run or your kids will never feel save again with you lady!
@debbiebledsoe3206
3 ай бұрын
I brought 2 foster kids into MY house. It was rough at first for 2yrs until I found an amazing trauma therapist. We r all doing great now!! The truma therapist does EMDR, CBT and Nerofeed back therapy. I pay out of pocket cuz insurance wont pay. But she worth every penny.
@londonlemons
4 ай бұрын
I work in a field that deals with neuropsychological referrals and yes it can absolutely be months upon months for a child to be seen. Even with a severe need for care. The demand is very high, insurance companies are also very difficult to work with regarding coverage and many of this evaluations are priced at thousands of dollars each. It is not as simple as people may think to get children the care they need sadly.
@valbailey5983
4 ай бұрын
This story gives me so much anxiety because I'm afraid both parents will ignore the advice to separate. 😢
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