How refreshing, a calm and pleasant speaking voice. Too many youtubers yell at us.
@Ankhar2332
2 ай бұрын
Everything in our culture enslaving us. No youtuber can fix this
@0xjessie
2 ай бұрын
Facts
@CeCe-fh2ix
2 ай бұрын
Oh yes he has nice way about him. Great video too
@DakotaFord592
Ай бұрын
So sexy too! The perfect white man!!!
@cristiplopeanu
21 күн бұрын
anger = attention = $$$
@KingJ1397-v8q
2 ай бұрын
This has basically been me all my life , care about others peoples feelings more than my own, I become submissive to people who I believe are authority figures hence making me shy. Probably a result of my upbringing and need to uproot this pathetic weakness before it ruins my life.
@AnaAlmeida001
2 ай бұрын
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Everyone here feels like a piece of shit. 😂
@WhizPill
2 ай бұрын
Love that KZitem is helping us all collectively grow up 💯💯💯
@markhynes1940
2 ай бұрын
I lived like that all my life too up until the past year or two ago. I always put myself last and made sure I was the one always looking out for my friends and family and all I ever got besides being taken advantage of and walked all over was the occasional smile and a thank you. Well within the past year or so at 25 years young I decided that I've finally had enough of all that. If this world is going to do nothing but abuse me for what I have to offer, and there's no other way for me to get what I want and the respect that I know I deserve, then I'll play their game right alongside them. I forced this change upon myself by quitting my job and throwing myself into a field where a submissive personality will ensure absolute failure (that being carpentry/construction) it was extremely difficult at first and the first six months or so were absolute hell because all my life up until now I've been that submissive quiet little boy who is hesitant to speak first or walk in the door ahead of anyone else. Even if you keep your head down some of these guys are like sharks smelling blood in the water and they will target you if they think you're weak. I went through several jobs and companies and learned many skills as I did so, practical ones yes but more importantly how to stand up for myself and how to not only stand up to "bullies" but also how to get along with them and turn them from bully to friend. Today I am a roofer doing some of the hardest physical labour of my life, but I have since developed a strong backbone by surrounding myself with others who also have one, and now every day I am eager to get up there and work with men who respect me. Even though I am the least experienced guy on the roof, I can tell that the guys all respect me because I take initiative and show an eagerness to learn and work hard, and whenever someone teases or gets frustrated I just give it right back to them and we still wish each other good night at the end of the day. Going through this transition was without question the single most difficult and life-altering thing I have ever done, but I am so incredibly glad that I did it and that I never gave up, because I am so much happier with the man that it made me. And I am personally proud of the man I have become, it's honestly probably the first time in my life I've ever felt genuinely proud and accomplished with myself. I don't know how I allowed myself to be that weak little doormat for so many years. Now I'm not saying that you have to go and do a really hard job to learn how to stand up for yourself. I'm just saying this is what worked for me, that was far from the only reason I went down this career path but it was a big one. My main point is, as someone who has successfully made the change and came out the other side the better, I promise you it is absolutely worth every second of struggle it takes to get there.
@ZachAbram-ey8pm
2 ай бұрын
it will piss everyone off lol
@iwantgoals1566
2 ай бұрын
You’re not a lone brother. We are here with you. 🤝
@CrustaceousB
2 ай бұрын
I misread the thumbnail and thought it said "your thirties ends now" . I was like, what the hell it just started. I'm only 31😂
@NewelOfKnowledge
2 ай бұрын
Hahaha, let’s see how many others do the same 😂😂😂
@stieg_smith
2 ай бұрын
😂😂
@bugzyhardrada3168
2 ай бұрын
Dyslexia can be a gift aswell as a curse
@biblequotesdaily6618
2 ай бұрын
count the days sweetheart. be careful driving.
@dawud_hmdl
2 ай бұрын
when is it a gift😭@@bugzyhardrada3168
@jenmdawg
40 минут бұрын
I’m a 55f and I work , surf and interact with young men all day most days. I see so clearly the pain and shame and confusion that is specific to this demographic and began looking into ways I might help as an “aunt” figure. (I firmly believe and always have that elders are supposed to kindly shepherd Youngers into their very best self) Your channel is amazing and gives me a lot of insight and tools and compassion. You are a gem and my favorite nephew.
@SageLazuli
2 ай бұрын
The most difficult part of this for me is definitely not getting triggered or defensive when the other person is on the defense or acting aggressive. Gotta work on that reflective listening and staying calm
@NewelOfKnowledge
2 ай бұрын
It is by far one of the hardest things to do. Let's call it emotional intelligence on steroids. Good luck, you got this.
@jonharper1990
Ай бұрын
Looking at this comment allowed me to reiterate this rule for me, because in my experience instead of wondering why they felt the way they felt (in regards to the response), I took it at face value. Never do that. It’s like, we know it’s a bit deeper, we’d just rather not look. We’re afraid of things we don’t understand. That’s why we gotta listen to each other.
@keltecdan
Ай бұрын
@@NewelOfKnowledgeYes absolutely. Sometimes it’s just better to walk away because the other person is belligerent and not wanting to converse with you in a reasonable manner.
@KayKashi
28 күн бұрын
Assertive with a calming voice that’s what I like. I don’t want to have to yell to be assertive
@water4112
Ай бұрын
I use to talk a lot as a child but got shut down by my family which made me quite, then they ask why I’m so quite, I’m trying to talk more nowadays but they don’t like it and my social anxiety is another issue I have when I’m out in public
@dlopez1438
28 күн бұрын
Same here , when I was younger I was like a jokester and kind of extroverted even , but as a 33 year old I have been an introvert for yearssss now lol … things change
@zc1312
21 күн бұрын
🌟So when people are use to you being a certain way (you are quite and your fam is get to “speak over you”), they will rebel against your new behavior because it doesn’t fit the narrative they want you to fit into. Usually, this tells me that this relationship is potentially toxic - the other person/s won’t accept my personal growth because it challenges their own patterns. There might be a transitional period of your family dislike you speaking up more, but I feel like if they keep pushing back, then I encourage you spend time with people in your life that does accept this new part of you. I wish you best of luck in your journey and all the ups and downs that comes with it ❤
@water4112
21 күн бұрын
@@zc1312 thank you for your support
@wesgoodson5025
2 ай бұрын
“Excuse me sir, you’re sitting on my body…which is also my face.”
@MarkySp4rky
2 ай бұрын
I would like this comment but it’s gotta stay at 69 likes
@yuriventura5601
2 ай бұрын
“Be more assertive!” Bee beep *puts finger in pocket “Not INsertive!”
@s.c342
16 күн бұрын
This is why I love the internet 😂
@michaelsanchez8519
Ай бұрын
Be careful with this. I recently let go of my New Year’s resolution.(Yes, I’ve held onto it this far). I made an effort to not take anyone’s BS anymore and started becoming more assertive.. I felt more empowered, but it came at a heavy cost. Most people in today’s world are sensitive and passive. THEY are not assertive and will take people’s BS. When I became the man I should have been, I lost quite a few friends and people started viewing me differently. I felt alienated and alone and depressed. I’m now in a phase in my life where I’m enjoying my quiet time. Learning new things, picked up kickboxing, started cooking more. And I had to learn how to balance assertion with kindness. This is not an easy task and you will make mistakes. Or at least feel like you did. Always remember, be true to yourself and be compassionate as much as you can. Hope that helps somebody.
@DalaiLlama666
16 күн бұрын
I myself have done a similar thing this year. .. can I ask, do you feel you were being Assertive or do you think you may have come across as aggressive in your assertion.? .. after watching this video, I think I need to have a good look at myself and ask that exact question. Reflecting on some past interactions where I felt pretty good about being assertive, I now actually think I came across as a bit of an arsehole.
@the_lyrical_woodsman
4 күн бұрын
Bro, yes I feel you! Once you step up the self respect and boundaries it really polarizes you and makes you less palatable for those who are more lenient with their boundaries and self respect. They were friends for the old you, but unsuitable for a growing and improving you, which means they weren't the introspective and willing to grow type. We don't need avoidant folks in our lives when we value communication and have a sense of direction and purpose. Thank you for sharing 🙏
@jenkinsjjenkins8055
2 ай бұрын
Learning how to fight really made me more confident and its a night and day difference
@deckfart1560
2 ай бұрын
@@alexfish477seems us men really gotta master it all. Health, finance, friends, family, communication....
@kevinel1398
2 ай бұрын
@@alexfish477Hey. Way to be super and quickly judgmental. Like, maybe he means boxing lessons?
@user-qc5me1bz6x
2 ай бұрын
@@kevinel1398Alex says "Thats nice." And then tells about his own experience
@Slangh
2 ай бұрын
@@alexfish477 I think he meant just the topic of this video, not physical fighting. I have tried to feel more confident by practicing martial arts but never turned into a tough guy, still remaining insecure. Because I never dared speaking up about the small things, let alone handling physical violence. This video advocates starting small since the devil is in the details.
@Idontevenknowman779
2 ай бұрын
@@alexfish477uhh, like… you just fought random people on the street? Cause I just took kickboxing classes and learned how to wrestle big opponents 😂😂
@papichulohomes9818
2 ай бұрын
17 year old here you are the only youtuber in this space who I feel is 110% genuine and actually happy with their situation in life.
@mohab4059
2 ай бұрын
Agreed, 19 here. Have watched every single self improvement KZitemr and he’s by far the most genuine and the healthiest for your mental health
@jackpostjiujitsu
2 ай бұрын
I agree
@Cleanyourroom-yv1te
2 ай бұрын
Recommend you guys checkout Dr K too
@Aimosmind
2 ай бұрын
shit same dude
@ljaycrow
Ай бұрын
Agreed
@Roswell33
Ай бұрын
Its a wild concept to me that people actually need to be taught to treat others with respect etc. like wtf, why isn't that a natural state for people, it scares the sh*t out of me because I can't comprehend it. I've realized that if I need to fight for boundaries and respect with someone, it's better to be without them
@stevecarter8810
Ай бұрын
There's fighting and there's drawing the boundary. People raised in dysfunction might not have learned appropriate levels of robustness when it comes to drawing boundaries. In that case, moving away from conflict means moving away from all relationships before giving them a chance to stabilise
@renatacunha-
19 күн бұрын
same, I couldn't comprehend the concept of not being judgemental over somebody I'm watching passing by (from another video), like... who can be judgemental on someone they don't even know? I'm too naive or this world is very messed up 😅
@irateindividual8086
9 күн бұрын
THIS unless we are talking children or people with other serious issues grown adults who do not automatically respect others reasonable and natural boundaries simply aren’t worth bothering with. Even if you ‘discipline’ (ie shame or scare them) into respecting you they remain a fundamentally untrustworthy person underneath
@war-deserter
2 ай бұрын
When I see videos like this, I feel hopeful, because it shows that I'm not fundamentally broken and I can improve.
@bjornarnols5905
2 ай бұрын
Your behaviour might be faulty, but you are not therefore broken. Keep your chin up.
@juliechurch1799
24 күн бұрын
Interesting when said high self esteem ,high assertive! No wonder I'm abused and walked over cos I can't be assertive hence on the floor self esteem! Right from now on I'm not take no more from anyone.thankyou for open my eyes 👍
@berkefeil5646
2 ай бұрын
The sneaky thing as that people can kind of manipulate you without bad intentions, even before you realize it. Whenever you lose touch with yourself, it’s always a good idea to take a step back and question whether the choices you make are really your own. This is such a darn valuable thing to pay attention to because genuine happiness can only be found in living according to _your_ needs and wants, as long as you’re open to well-intentioned advice and change when needed. Therefore, not standing up for yourself is not only giving up on individuality, it’s also giving up on the very core of a good life. So stay conscious everyone, and remain true to yourself
@ChristianReinholdt
23 күн бұрын
Good Hegelian insight! Well Said.
@GwapoBeshie
2 ай бұрын
I've learned to really enjoy stuff that's uncomfortable and It's been really successful for me and made me grow alot in every aspect.
@mattiamarsano3144
2 ай бұрын
You are the older brother I never had. Seriously you’re opening my eyes. Respect from Italy 💪🏻
@logarithmus.naturali
Ай бұрын
It’s annoying because I advocated for communication as a young child but was shut from it by my family, and now they want me to communicate properly and scold me when I don’t. Even up til now they are not effective communicators. Thanks for this video, I’m trying to improve incrementally myself. Maybe I’ll get there one day.
@chrislee176
Ай бұрын
I’m employing this with the IRS agents who are seizing my earnings whilst threatening me with imprisonment, and it doesn’t seem to be working.
@riachu81
Ай бұрын
Cuz they’re business men they don’t care they’re pushing you into a corner and making what they want to happen happen cuz they have the power to do so
@wattsnottaken1
Ай бұрын
The IRS was the only Zelda Boss Link could NOT defeat with a strategic combination of moves with his trusty sword 🗡️ shield 🛡️ and other equipment he stored in that endless menu screen 😂
@BelleHealingMusic
19 күн бұрын
IRS will never threaten anyone for prison, they're probably indian scammers. If there are false claims it is considered fraud but ko IRS agent will call. The IRS send letters! That's all and no agent acts individually. You are talking to scammers
@savadrenovac3537
2 ай бұрын
I know you've heard this hundreds of times, but I'll be ASSERTIVE and say it again, your content changes lives, it helps me immensely, thank you brate
@daruhasu
Ай бұрын
Everyday I'm being more and more assertive, mind you, I was the most "chill" and "people-pleaser" you can think of. First I thought, why do people know what they want, and actually "push it" to other people. Because they know what they want, and it is inportant to them, which makes them feel confident in the outside and in the inside. So the first thing and only thing that helped me in this personal evolution is quite simple. Understanding myself. I used to not think about my feelings, just felt them, and moved on. But, it wasn't until I started thinking why I was feeling the way I was feeling, that my confidence started to grow, and now I can clearly think about the things that I want, and make them important to me, which as a result, gives me confidence and makes me prioritize, or at least, keep them in a high standard.
@daruhasu
Ай бұрын
Damn my english is quite broken lmao, hope it's understandable and helps someone though
@ironcloud6222
29 күн бұрын
@@daruhasu it's actually quite well written. Thanks for the message, it made me realise that i also need to do this.
@Israelpwn
23 күн бұрын
What messes with me most is that I genuinely don't take fault with many things. Yes, some things may annoy me somewhat, but they're minor and simply not important enough to stand my ground on. On the other hand, I've found that there are cases where I will die on hills that other people will find to be very petty, and it's something I've had to let go in order to have a thriving relationship. It seems like there's a disconnect between my inner world and values, and the outside world. Things that "should" annoy me don't, and things that "shouldn't" - do.
@No-Gumph
2 ай бұрын
When you take such time and care in explaining things I feel fortunate to be listening because I came across your channel through luck. I really love the use of "when you, I feel, because" in a positive context. I think that has huge potential for others to feel seen for what they do.
@Mikizushi
27 күн бұрын
10:01 What about people who constantly disagree about your description of what they’re doing? Like the example you have earlier being in the office: “when you play loud music it disrupts my focus” (or something of the sort) What if their response was: “it’s not loud” or “that’s not what I’m doing”. In other words, being nit picky about any word that might possibly insinuate or have a negative connotation or motivation. My family is like that and it feels difficult to have conversation especially in more heated situations (which I recognize I do contribute to them being that way)
@renalta8968
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for the examples, they were super important for me to understand how and where to use assertiveness. Some of those triggered memories of past conversations that have happened around me or that I participated in. I felt so helpless whenever these happened because it's always the same conversations over and over again and they never lead anywhere. Everybody just gets defensive and acts selfishly and nothing changes and I just do not know what to do differently. This video explained so much and gave me hope.
@jibberism9910
2 ай бұрын
I am a man with two faces. I am the most assertive, on a ground level, you may ever meet. But there is also another side. That side of me is in his castle. It keeps him safe, but it also keeps him trapped and cut off from the world and everything in it. There is more to it than a spectrum. It's a very complex sphere. Now I am technically PD'd, so that plays a part. But still wanted to put this out there.
@seanwagner7426
2 ай бұрын
I can really relate to this thanks for sharing
@JesusSaves77799
5 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing! Do you think that this assertiveness is a way to keep people away from you? Also, what is “PD’d”? Is that a title that might intimidate people away? Just some thoughts and questions! Please forgive me if I am doing something wrong by asking these!! I’m learning!! 😅🙏
@danjsilve
20 күн бұрын
In Aesop’s fable. The Sun and the Wind. The sun wins every time with its gentle, firm and consistent approach.
@ewaldus
Ай бұрын
Love how society keeps telling kids to not fight when someone is bullying them. Then society is surprised we have a generation of timid men that get an anxiety attack just thinking of talking to a woman or going to a job interview...
@techelitesareadisease8816
Ай бұрын
@@NatxAttackxLivePoint totally went over your head
@NatxAttackxLive
Ай бұрын
@@techelitesareadisease8816 What is your point? as you didn't actually posit much other than you think young men today are not manly enough to fight. Who the fuck do you think is doing the bullying lmao. Do you believe that violence makes you a better mate?
@PhoenixBerry1988
2 ай бұрын
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO! my ex gf always said i was being controlling when i trying to be assertive and i think this is going to help her understand that wanting small things for myself isnt control Thank you!
@indiasupportsthereturnofth1475
2 ай бұрын
i dont know your gf but I think these days, anyone that simply says no to a woman or isnt a pushover is automatically labeled as controlling. I say, dont change your ways and if she cant understand that... well thats why she's an ex!
@stevecarter8810
Ай бұрын
Since she's your ex, there's no need for her to understand anything about you. As long as you understand about you.
@donopagma
27 күн бұрын
Thanks for this practical video. As someone who always diminish or dismiss my irritation just because I don’t want to ruin the atmosphere, sometimes I feel so resentful and it takes much more energy than it’s expressed. Very helpful to learn to assert my boundaries in a healthy way 🙏
@Uncommony
2 ай бұрын
Be assettive but not rude Be confident and not arrogant Be strong but yet kind. Dare to be exceptional. Dare to be Uncommon!
@domacdomo1520
2 ай бұрын
The amount of knowledge i gained with this video outweiths a month in school.When i see that you uploaded your video i get a nice yet at the same time uncanny feeling becouse i know i will know something that really will help me but will be hard to do.Keep up the work,you are NEEDED.
@lucy_sashimi2637
2 ай бұрын
You make great videos man, very insightful thank you ❤️
@NewelOfKnowledge
2 ай бұрын
Thank you :)
@icantdenyreality3516
2 ай бұрын
I could listen to your voice all day! Very smooth and calming.
@rokpodlogar6062
2 ай бұрын
float, float, float your boat, assertively down the streeeam
@FourTweny
27 күн бұрын
When you make a great video like this one, I feel happy, because I spent my time learning and enriching myself.
@sehalshams
12 күн бұрын
I don't usually leave a comment on videos, however, I was compelled to let you know that this was a well-put-out message to help understand the core concepts of assertion and the differences between assertion, dominance, and submissiveness. The understanding and knowledge of assertiveness will help individuals foster healthier relationships in the long run. Newel, you have done a really good job of delivering the message of assertiveness and how to be in harmony with it and how not to over-step boundaries. The video has clarified how assertiveness can be well established and by not undermining the person's character and to also protect your own.
@NewelOfKnowledge
11 күн бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to share your appreciation. I appreciate you brother.
@dailydefaults
Ай бұрын
I really needed this message brother. Thank you for packaging it in such a digestible way, I took multiple screenshots throughout and will return to this frequently. I hope the message will stick over time.
@RethanHunter
14 күн бұрын
This video is gold. I'm so glad that I found your channel, The topics and lessons are useful to everyone and I love the humor that is snuck in every once in a while. Thank you for sharing.
@gloriakwendo3879
7 күн бұрын
I love this. ❤❤ Thank you so much for this gem
@EvilAntic
24 күн бұрын
I need this. One of my greatest weaknesses is being timid and speaking in uncertainty.
@thereallehasa
3 күн бұрын
This is a fantastic way to go about this. Make sure over time that the receiver is capable of assimilating the message and adapting empathetic change, some simply aren't. How do you think one could better respond to people who exhibit a pattern of rigidity even at the best expressed assertiveness
@mirroryog4918
2 ай бұрын
Flawless delivery of well forged thoughts! Thanks for your time, friend!
@the_lyrical_woodsman
4 күн бұрын
My friend, a quick note about yin and yang from someone who knows... you've got it backwards and had me terribly confused for a solid 30 seconds. Yin is passive/submissive, yang is assertive/dominant. Excellent content! I'm learning a lot from you 😊
@NewelOfKnowledge
4 күн бұрын
@@the_lyrical_woodsman my bad! And thanks for clarifying :)
@sarahjertkvist5814
28 күн бұрын
This video feels insanely serendipitous for me to have found where I’m at in my life right now. Super valuable, well explained and I also enjoy your calm speaking voice. 10/10!
@manie54321
6 күн бұрын
Namasté & Ho’Oponopono everything 🕊️❤️ You’re a great teacher.
@laxmanlxmnisuppose308
Ай бұрын
This probably is a solution for my entangled emotional mental state. THANK YOU ❤
@mqemphatic38
13 күн бұрын
You are just wonderful and soothing to watch and listen to. Thank you!
@Oliver_Kaiser
4 күн бұрын
Glad i found this channel!
@Slangh
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for the video. The point about addressing the small stuff is exceptionally helpful because I tried to feel more secure by learning self-defence in martial arts. Didn't work. It didn't make me capable of being assertive, just maybe more prepared for when shit hits the fan. I feel resentful sometimes because I let all the small stuff accumulate. Gotta start small, the devil is in the details.
@rachelstalcoskie1213
5 күн бұрын
You're brilliant 😊 thank you so much for all you do! This video and your others ROCK My World.
@darlingladymoon
2 ай бұрын
Hey, just want to say I’ve been really enjoying your content. Very clear and straight to the point, really entertaining to watch. But what I would really love is to see you making a video on how to maintain a good balance when it comes to empathy. As someone who is naturally very empathetic, it can get a little overwhelming. Showing compassion and having empathy is great and it’s a quality that is much needed but I think it can be too much at times if you’re unable to distance yourself from the suffering of another person. It can start to feel like you’re the one who is going through it sometimes. Not sure if that really goes with the kind of videos you make but I would love to learn how to detach yourself emotionally and have a proper balance where you are able to show compassion but also not let it affect you.
@NewelOfKnowledge
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for your support. That's a great suggestion. I'll do a little bit of research on the topic and see what I can find, then I'll make a video about it. It seems you're asking about how to avoid being a people pleaser, and like you said, how to maintain healthy levels of empathy. Is that correct?
@darlingladymoon
2 ай бұрын
@@NewelOfKnowledge well not sure if it has to do with people pleasing, I'd say it's more on how to not be hyper empathetic to the point it affects us negatively. It's less about how you "show" your empathy and more about how it internally affects you when you don't emotionally distance yourself and remember that the suffering is theirs and not yours. Hope that makes sense. And thanks for considering my request!
@linuxducky
29 күн бұрын
I was expecting by the title this vid to be more about general assertiveness day to day. This is more about how to be assertive in conflict or relationship issues.
@alastairtheduke
16 күн бұрын
Your presence is so damn captivating. You are an amazing speaker!
@IdaBrun
24 күн бұрын
I was reading “Everything is F*cked” by Mark Manson and he goes into this way of living. I love seeing this same mentality in more places
@viscousmartincarey7031
Ай бұрын
One hard part of this situation is when the other person flat out won’t change unacceptable behavior. Like a boss for example and you literally have to quit your job or play hard ball. Sometimes the solution is a hard pill to swallow but better for you. Find a boss that communicates well and you can meet each others needs 👍
@jejehdh
19 күн бұрын
Bro is giving way too much value and genius, 22:06 was super insightful
@valtern1200
2 ай бұрын
Your videos are of so much help in everyday life. I hope i can keep my calm, stand my ground and put the things you've just taught me into practice, the next time i find myself in a situation where i need to be assertive.
@gwynk78
2 ай бұрын
Awesome. I came to see if this was macho propaganda or well informed. You’re well informed and asking appropriate questions. It’s refreshing. And your voice is smoother than Jude Law’s, so wow. That’s nice.
@79millierose
13 күн бұрын
Your content is well researched, engaging, and well delivered. Bravo 👏 Had to share this with my kids !!
@siinus4064
2 ай бұрын
Cause of you I started reading more books again. Im starting with Discipline is Destiny now and Im excited af
@angieartness123
Күн бұрын
"pardon me for living" just @ me next time dang! 🤣
@delbimore431
18 күн бұрын
Amazingly helpful. Thank you so much for your great delivery and advice ❤
@gwynk78
2 ай бұрын
18:06 Just to be fair, as someone who taught these skills in the field for two decades, your description here is thorough, precise, and accurate for MASTERY. I would expect a sober, beginner adult learner to take two to five years of daily practice to achieve fluency in all the you elements listed. 😅 I can even admit that since working from home for a few years, I would need a solid week of focused practice to get back up to 95% performance. Also, 70% is still passing. 😉 Take it easy on yourselves, people. When you’re doing it right, psychological work is gentle work. 🐢
@NewelOfKnowledge
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@jenkinsjjenkins8055
8 күн бұрын
Learning how to fight changed all of this for me
@holisticallyme556
Ай бұрын
I could listen to your voice day and night so comforting and calm thank you for the video
@joshfynbos
22 күн бұрын
brother thank you for such invaluable info
@TakeMeToYourLida
Ай бұрын
“pesky buggars” was just the right phrase to add the levity I needed while watching this. 😄 Great info. Thank you.
@DeciDeci_
Ай бұрын
This video has saved my relationship. Not even joking, Thank you so much!
@daniachury-lx7rl
6 күн бұрын
And here I thought that the only way of being more assertive was to have a British accent. You gave me hope 😅
@anvarazimboev7589
12 күн бұрын
Thank you! I hope it helps me in getting better as a person.
@sarutucigash
Ай бұрын
An example of assertive way to propose a thing? Like going out to a certain place, doing a certain activity in a group situation that cpnvinces everyone?
@ManuelSabatino
2 ай бұрын
When you deliver like you did in this video I feel great cause I didn't waste 28 minutes of my life 😂 thank you
@Elizabeth-nq9ly
12 күн бұрын
Okay I think I still need to read that book. This is a lot of information to take in at once.
@thiagoqueiroz6930
2 ай бұрын
I don't know what exactly he has, but everything about him is so attractive, the voice, the accent, the eyes I can't explain 😂❤. Btw great video.
@emordi1362
Ай бұрын
Stumbled across the video by accident and it's so refreshing and informative. Subscribed immediately. New fan. Thanks for this content & keep up the good work Lewis 👍🏾
@shalemraju3937
2 ай бұрын
I don't get say this these days but your channel is a goldmine. Appreciate the efficient delivery of the message without deviation or drama. Keep doing the great work!
@joshhoe
6 сағат бұрын
Clicked on this in the hope I can fix my lack of non assertiveness. To all my fellow non assertive people out there: do you think being non assertive is intrinsically connected with too much guilt and therefore lack of self esteem ?
@neil_patel
5 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@gwynk78
2 ай бұрын
Yin is receptive, while Yang is giving. So listening would be the yin to honest communication’s Yang. ☯️ yin is the unseen (dark) emptiness that can receive anything. It’s on the bottom- supporting the active Yang on top - the bright side reaching up 😊 0:59
@NewelOfKnowledge
2 ай бұрын
You're great. I can tell you've thought about this stuff a lot! Keep the comments coming in the future (for any potholes you find in my points, I genuinely appreciate it).
@gwynk78
2 ай бұрын
@@NewelOfKnowledge I enjoyed watching your video. I can see you put a lot of work and thoughtfulness into giving generously to your audience. The effect is super! 🙌 Thanks for creating this space here. Did you guess this is one of my favorite topics? lol Assertion as a social lubricant actually works wonderfully when you can get a group of people together who are all simultaneously choosing it. And the natural reward we get from it seems to pay out over the rest of a lifetime. I’ll pass you the one-liner I learned in teacher college (2003) and used in my classroom: “Assertion is being able to say ‘no’ and accept ‘no’ as an answer without extra emotions.” I giggled when you taught the “I statements.” I taught that lesson SOOOO many times and use them often. They work. You did great! One last note on this: When in a relationship holds true mutual respect the “because” part - one’s reasoning - is not actually important. Respect is using actions and words that show others they are important. People who truly respect you don’t need to understand your reasoning - they simply accept your needs as you express them without any judgement and maybe lend a hand if they can. At least, they get out of your way. True benevolence has no other motive. Good people want to know your reason. Moral people might attack you if they think you don’t have the right reason. 👀 Be careful out there!
@saraif2
Ай бұрын
Excellent video!!! Very well structured and genuine guy. When I find relatable and inspiring videos on youtube, I feel seen, understood, and inspired, because it gives me different tools to try and grow as a person and build better relationships in my life. Lol but seriously thanks for this awesome video!
@NewelOfKnowledge
Ай бұрын
What a great positive assertion! Thank you for taking the time to type this Suri :)
@pravail7214
Ай бұрын
Wow this was one of the most helpful videos ive ever watched
@Moodymuse60
18 күн бұрын
I enjoyed this very much. Thank you for uploading.
@eitanslivko8600
16 күн бұрын
amazing content man, keep it up
@1972hermanoben
2 ай бұрын
Best thing I have seen all day.
@Brodc
Ай бұрын
I've been stuck in a job with a boss that mistreats and undervalues me. If I speak up I WILL get fired and I'm uneducated without a GED or diploma so I don't have a net to fall back onto. I needed this video though
@i8fish
Күн бұрын
“When you… I feel” is a manipulative tactic. I know people who use this technique to get their way. Assertiveness isn’t something you use to change others but a way of being to navigate your life. It won’t always go your way. The person may divorce you, undermine you or not ever lend you their car again. You have to be “ok” with those consequences. Being assertive is taking responsibility for your life.
@tatianagorman4641
17 күн бұрын
Wow! This is helpful as I lean in to the submissive side which I am then left irritated and unresolved. Great information I can start implementing now. Thank you.
@ZmeH906
16 күн бұрын
This needs to be required in middle school and high school.
@yazandar6952
2 ай бұрын
Gonna get some popcorn for this
@ReallyBadAI
27 күн бұрын
Before I dive into this I wanted to preempt my viewing by saying I feel this to be one of my main failings as a person. A lot of the time I let things roll over me when I'm bothered or just go with the flow when I don't want to do something, but this has led me to be a very unhappy person that, when I decide to assert something, it comes out as fiery anger where maybe it didn't have to?
@Ninquit
20 күн бұрын
I love these videos man keep it up. The Everett and Charlene dielectric was awesome!
@Chris-xy8lu
Ай бұрын
Amazing title. Grew up in NYC 70sand 80s. Don’t think many of us have assertiveness issues. See. Everything is good for something. Even NYC
@blackmage540
Ай бұрын
Wow this is an incredible video. I think almost all of the interpersonal issues Ive experienced were because I am so used to other people (and myself) communicating our boundaries poorly.
@mirzatabib
Ай бұрын
When you produce such an exact and point full video i feel sad because i think i won't be able to make it done properly. But i would try. thank you anyway😄🙏🏻
@Mikke-G
19 күн бұрын
I'm not an argumentative person but eye contact is huge. I don't trust people who can't even look at me.
@babblureddy903
22 күн бұрын
very nice content and most of all, love the voice
@andrewoates8723
20 күн бұрын
man be spitting pure facts
@aaronallen9015
2 ай бұрын
When you make these videos, i feel like subscribing, because its quality content!
@MarkitosJ-wb1nm
Ай бұрын
Wow I loved listening to this video, really gained an appreciation for wanting to improve my social skills, thanks a lot
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