This mans is taking time and effort out of his days in order to help all of us live a better life and he drops all this knowledge straight up for free on KZitem. Really admirable and i'm sure i'm not the only one thankful for Dr. K putting in so much effort for us gamers.
@vaevictus4637
4 жыл бұрын
He is definitely fulfilling his Dharma.
@MrGister9999
3 жыл бұрын
More people should watch these videos, they can literally save the lives of so many people that are just playing the game of life without any sort of awareness or control.
@chelseaneville9672
3 жыл бұрын
I'm not a gamer at all. Never have been. But I find Dr.K's content to do on point 🤩
@Mr-lh9kh
3 жыл бұрын
im to axythematic to be grateful
@ColonelFluffles
3 жыл бұрын
@@chelseaneville9672 this is exclusively gamer content 😂
@123andrewli7
4 жыл бұрын
Dr. K DESTROYS bad habits with emotions and feelings!
Though hes right, it also makes me lose faith because the more he talks about it, the more it seems like not just an individual issue, but a societal issue. It's not even just men that are encouraged to suck it up and keep going and act like something they're not and be tough and reward bullying, it's women, children, your work place too. Not all places or people are like this, but it's literally everywhere you go. It's become weird and uncomfortable and even looked down upon to open up and people should be talking more about this and changing this..
@123andrewli7
3 жыл бұрын
@@harambe1331 yeah I guess it's bad, but there's no doubt things are getting a lot better. We are seeing a new generation of people that treat mental illness and personal issues more seriously, and the people we look up to (KZitemrs and twitch streamers) base their brand on being vulnerable and imperfect. I think that it's very natural to avoid talking about feelings because it's scary and makes people vulnerable, but people like you who want things to change are the same people who will help others open up. I think that's another way of looking at it. You are the people that talk more about this and change it.
@harambe1331
3 жыл бұрын
@@123andrewli7 Yeah compared to say the 70s and even 90s many mental issues did not have as great of a specialized treatment compared to today, say ptsd, alcohol abuse, scizhophrenia, etc. And mental health awareness is definitely looking up. Another good example is Dr. K, targetting things like video game addiction and the "weirder" side of issues that individuals can come across (not in a offensive way, but more like old fashioned boomers may not understand internet related issues as much). I've always gotten that feeling like what Dr. K is doing is something more special. As society shifts, the way people think and treat should also shift (depending on the scenario of course), but im rambling. Just felt down about it but thanks for helping me look up
@kawosdhdos
2 жыл бұрын
1) Recognize you're feeling something - Physical Sensations - Umbrella terms 2) Diagnose that emotion - Use emotional chart to tell what you're feeling - Ask yourself what someone in your situation would feel 3) How do I deal with it? - Process them: 1) Awareness precedes control 2) Work on the body: yoga, exercise, meditative techniques 3) Work on the mind: Therapy, conversations with friends, coaching, discord, mens/womens group, etc
@Eric-jh5mp
3 жыл бұрын
This helped me out a lot. When I was a child, I was extremely emotional. This worked extremely hard against me when I was growing up. Then, as a defense mechanism, I intentionally taught myself how to suppress my emotions and for more then a decade, I was proud of myself for it, though I never told anyone about it. Now I am 21 and I know this is harming me. More and more I find myself wanting to say something and being unable to say it because my body physically stops me from saying it as I try to say it. Even trying to rationalize with myself and trying to say it multiple times I still get stuck. It doesn't matter how mundane the issue is or if I put myself in the position of someone asking this to myself and find it is a normal reasonable question/expression, I still can’t express my issue or ask the question. If I do, it is after a long arduous internal battle. I hope that I can use the tools he provided to help me to improve this problem.
@SolunaPiano
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah man it can be hard to undo habits or processes your brain formed to protect you in childhood as an adult. I'm glad you're trying to work on it and I have hope for you as well. Good luck!
@samquik
3 жыл бұрын
Bro same, I would cry at the drop of a hat as a kid and it got so embarrassing and annoying that I eventually just forced myself to stop crying. It's nice to not cry as much but I think it might've messed me up in the long run
@harmoen
3 жыл бұрын
This
@clarissa5008
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I relate to this a lot as im adjusting to my new workplace and struggling to reconcile my past coping strategies with my present circumstances
@spacker69
3 жыл бұрын
@@samquik Bro same, I remember to this day the last time I cried in front of anyone, and it was a very long time ago. I hated how embarrassed and humiliated I felt for crying and being made fun of or put down by my friends and family. Even so, like you, I think I've messed up in the long run. I wish you well fellow dry-eye.
@limaromeo8745
4 жыл бұрын
ive found that (as a guy) expressing my own vulnerability about not being able to find a girlfriend makes them feel vastly more comfortable about expressing their similar vulnerability. men's vulnerability even seems to be something thats becoming more and more accepted through popular culture (if memes are anything to go by)
@esg721
3 жыл бұрын
People usually feel the same, but they just feel afraid to say they do in fear of not being accepted
@severussin
2 жыл бұрын
Being "vulnerable" is a strength when you own it. When you own it and do not fight it within yourself, and then you show another that this is reality: "I feel x" and it is what it is. They go "Oh I didn't realise others felt x, I feel x too" and this is not the solution for the problem. The solution for the problem is everyone having a platform to ADDRESS the emotion and convert it into verbal expression or other type of expression. The problem itself IS suppression, its always been. Suppression however, has at some point in human history been advantageous, especially for men to get on with things in a pinch (War for example). Its just that now we are in a relatively peaceful world (The West), suppression is less advantageous than expressions of vulnerability.
@baileyskates
4 жыл бұрын
Breathed into where i was feeling emotion and immeditately broke down into tears. Powerful stuff 😂.
@AiZm8
4 жыл бұрын
I H AD THE SAME EXPERIENCE ITS SO WEIRD
@Theloveinabubble
4 жыл бұрын
Welcome to being human
@christosioannouin
4 жыл бұрын
Dude I started laughing uncontrollably and i couldn't stop when I did that, its so crazy
@Timhttrsn
4 жыл бұрын
I got this weird sensation I was weightless in the ocean, and when I opened my eyes I was levitating slightly!
@juanquiros2932
4 жыл бұрын
d b try the things dr k suggests in this video, talk to a therapist, some one you can open your deepest fears and failures, or meditate, search for the emotion and breathe throught it, etc. The thing is to pick one or Many and actually do the work and see how it feels
@Theloveinabubble
4 жыл бұрын
I remember my firsts sessions with my therapist learning how to be a feeling human being,since she had to tell me what an emotion was and I swear, I was sooo anaware of that language (I'm a girl,so it can happen to anyone). At the moment I had the basic "words" to understand the language of emotions, I finally could "read" the tsunami that was going.
@universal_stupidity
3 жыл бұрын
I relate to this comment and am also a girl, so it definitely can happen to anyone. Sadly I'm not in a spot that I have access to therapy and I'm still very unaware of my emotions but trying to suppress them less and feel them more
@yuppers1
3 жыл бұрын
Same. I'm a girl and I am so used to acting easy-going that no one can tell when I'm mad- not even me. No one really knows me. I share nothing to avoid distressing other people. I have a lot of roadblocks in life I don't even understand. I've started meditating but the anxiety of bumping into emotions I've built up and ignored is kind of a lot. Dr K's content is really eye-opening.
@nirgunawish
3 жыл бұрын
doing body scans really helps me with gaining awareness in the moments i get emotional. nowadays when i need to cry but cant i do certain breathing techniques and muscle activation+relaxations and i end up with way less pent up stuff
@plantxarmybtsgrowth5776
3 жыл бұрын
I’m a girl and I relate I struggle with emotions feeling them and letting me feel them too
@JohnthePixelizedGuy
3 жыл бұрын
God dude that "breathe into the emotion" technique is exactly what I've been needing and trying to find for the past couple months. I've been seriously needing a way to directly deal with current emotions so I could get out of the cycle of building emotions over the span of months until they eventually reach the breaking point, but I hadn't found a method that really worked for me until now. That method finally allowed me to sit down and slowly drain out the tank of emotions I've been filling for the past few months. Thank you so much Dr. K
@Juhziz
3 жыл бұрын
37:17
@Rhinoch8
2 жыл бұрын
It's all about stretching the vagal nerve. Emotional overload that reside in the stomach can be released! By pushing the belly out and filling the lungs at max capacity, the pain can be stretched. My singing teacher was trying to teach that to me alla along. Singing from the stomach is the way. Life is led by the stomach!
@JohnthePixelizedGuy
2 жыл бұрын
@@Rhinoch8 Haha, interesting
@john_smith_john
Жыл бұрын
@@Rhinoch8 pseudoscience lol
@O_Gomestein
11 ай бұрын
i don't get it
@folakunmishonubi8862
2 жыл бұрын
I'm not a gamer, and I'm not a guy (maybe that's obvious) but this and a couple of your other videos have genuinely helped me so much. I come from a dismissive and invalidating household (Africans amirite) and have spent the last 21 years of my life doing, saying and being what my demanding and manipulative parents (and pretty much everyone in my life) wanted. Covid made me realise that I wasn't really living and I decided to try and start living my life instead of surviving it. I started therapy a couple of weeks ago and I've been feeling really dismissed by CBT practises which is how I stumbled onto your therapy video. Then I found this one! I just wanted to say thank you for taking time out and sharing your knowledge! Shout out to Connor and the other Q&A volunteers wherever they are. Their questions made me feel seen as well!
@aheumedivirtoXD
2 жыл бұрын
That's beautiful, congrats! If you give a chance do games, I suggest you start with Gris
@TheQuantumPotato
4 жыл бұрын
It's such a decent thing you're doing for people by putting all this up for free. I've found that even when psychological/psychiatric help is available, you just tend to be put into a box of general depression and given very general treatments around making your mood better as if it's just about your mood. It's not - it's about things like alexithymia and feeling out of place and lonely, very real things, not just some "chemical imbalance." I've always thought that's like saying to someone who hasn't eaten in a month "you're hungry because your stomach's empty" and feeding them handfuls of sand to stop the sensation of feeling hungry rather than doing something about the malnutrition.
@eonryan8491
Жыл бұрын
1:42 - rational mind vs emotional mind 4:32 - where the problem is 6:25 - not in control of emotion, but suppressing them 6:37 - we can turn up or down our emotions 7:42 - childhood and emotion supressing 8:41 - what is this "bad feeling" 9:56 - how do we supress emotions 10:09 - part of brain part govern feelings 16:34 - your body is psychosomatic. We have there physical sensations because emotions are gonna come out in some way 18:03 - men tend to feel a lot of emotions physically 20:35 - what to do about alexithymia 24:01 - 1) recognize you're feeling an emotion 24:06 - 2) try to diagnose the emotion 26:25 - what would someone in my situation feel? 27:58 - 3) how to deal with the emotion 28:46 - rational thought - emotions ± ego = action 29:59 - if rational/emotion and ego is aligned 31:29 - in control of your emotions
@PL-ue6uw
Жыл бұрын
OMG.... What's described in Seth's question is exactly how I've been feeling since I started my "healing journey".... I thought at some point that I was "ruining" my experience of life by trying too hard to understand things and making my life better. I didn't know how to verbalize the discomfort of beeing too aware... Your answer about the 2 types of empathy makes so much sense to me, THANK YOU! It's the difference between experiencing life with your mind vs experiencing life with a more meditative state while feeling the emotions in your body. This information just saved me from the feeling that I did something wrong by tring to better my life.... Thank you so much 😭🙏❤️
@adriendinard5693
10 ай бұрын
Me to ! I feel the same way, actually I've been struggling with this idea for a quite long time now, so I am curious, has it gotten better for you ? If yes how did you manage to feel less detach from life ?
@adriendinard5693
10 ай бұрын
@@PL-ue6uwInteresting, I agree noticing the physical sensations helps ! Well basically that is one of Dr.K advices. But, I cannot help but think this is kind of weird as the physical representation of the emotion is not the emotion itself, for me at least it is still kind of an intellectualization of the emotion.
@Jarmister
4 жыл бұрын
From childhood i was the crying type and i some way i learn to hide some deep staff. But from some time i cant stop myself from exploding from emotion for last 8 year it was horrible. I couldn't go with the flow of life. I was thinking that i m person that can't hide emotion very well but i find out that i hide many emotion in form of self aggressive thoughts. Thanks this series i m became little bit more concision about my inside .
@ramijhasan199
4 жыл бұрын
Hey just wanted to say you’ve helped me figure a lot of things out and wanted to thank for all your help
@sarahasif9567
4 жыл бұрын
This is really important and I'm so glad someone is talking about this. I used to be like this and it's a self destructive habit that stops you from making real connections
@jelluh24
4 жыл бұрын
I've been having this tightness in my chest like I'm feeling nervous (I don't know how to describe it, very ironic) for a really long time and I didn't really know how to deal with it. Simply breathing into it like he said really works! Why have I never thought of this before...
@trauma2wellness
Жыл бұрын
57:30 "your body wants to return to a healthy state" - that got me tearful. Thank you.
@bingoboingoe
4 жыл бұрын
It's incredible that whatever problems I have in my life, there's always a Dr. K video posted at least a day before or after. Witchcraft monkaS
@bird_0113
4 жыл бұрын
I know right, its crazy. He must be telekinetic haha. Jokes aside, I know its just that these problems are very common for many people. I think what Dr. K is doing is truly wonderful. Most people do not understand how our psychology works and it is great that K is helping us understand it by going after the most common of problems. This AoE healing is very effective.
@Ayoyinadajima
4 жыл бұрын
You're a troubled man
@DrEdRichtofen
4 жыл бұрын
It's because we have those problems everyday MonkaS
@KayMaurer22
3 жыл бұрын
I'm an alexithymic female gamer. I did not understand that my physical sensations were emotions. This was literally mind blowing. Thank you, Dr K, for doing this kinda stuff on KZitem. It's so helpful.
@candicemgrant
Жыл бұрын
Oh another girl, it's not just me 🥲
@richerDiLefto
Жыл бұрын
Same^^
@natalieeuley1734
5 ай бұрын
I'm here too. After watching another Dr K video mentioning alexithymia and being like, oh, hey, that sounds like me
@alinoroozi7342
2 ай бұрын
can I play with you online sometimes?
@delta9999able
4 жыл бұрын
it's scary how correct it is, because i have 5 emotions(fear,hopelessness,sadness,regret,grief) that he listed inside of me that i don't know how to deal with in my circumstance. :(
@_e8a
4 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you've just made the first step of dealing with them, being aware counts for a lot! You'll get there bro
@iRiDiKi
4 жыл бұрын
Change your circumstance to one where you can deal with it. You don't want to be around whatever thing is causing those things in the first place.
@Iistener
4 жыл бұрын
@@steve00alt70 4Head
@universal_stupidity
3 жыл бұрын
@@iRiDiKi Sadly that's not always possible
@iRiDiKi
3 жыл бұрын
@@universal_stupidity Do what you can, whether that's changing your circumstance or managing it. Opportunity will come by at some point :)
@ryanalving3785
3 жыл бұрын
You know, I was actually praying for help with figuring out my own emotional state and what to do about it last night, and then your channel just showed up in my recommended. Thanks for what you do, God Bless.
@natasham8063
2 жыл бұрын
"love is not a substitute for emotional competence" oof, ya got me hard
@flyingsquirrel965
3 жыл бұрын
Working on the body is great advice, just wanted to add: Yoga is one option out of a myriad of physical activities that can help. Let everyone do what rocks their particular boat. Some people don't connect to yoga or can't practice it - let them do what they do connect with and can do. All physical activity can be helpful. (I'm an MA physical therapist and circus artist)
@AceKite00
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve gotten to the point where I no longer give a shit. I express myself however the hell I please. If it’s something I’m feeling, I express it fully. Of course, if I wanna act cool and calm then I will, but that won’t stop me from letting everyone know how unbelievably happy or depressingly sad I am.
@kevinlin4654
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Dr. K, I've been going to countless therapists for 4 years already trying to find a solution to my anxiety. I'm so grateful that your videos popped up because I feel like for once I can actually understand my condition. it's legitimately so rare to be able to get this advice. I would have been searching for the rest of my life if I kept trying in-person! Heartfelt thanks for sharing your knowledge.
@soirema
3 жыл бұрын
Hey, a girl with suppressed emotions checking in, just for statistics ^-^ XD Love your content man :) thank you a lot for sharing these on the internet
@jamert8820
9 ай бұрын
Suppressed for so long I can barely feel happiness anymore. Mostly just numb.
@utahnl
2 жыл бұрын
The water hose analogy really had me going, my mind instantly went to having a conflict with someone, getting triggered and then proceeding to whip out my water hose, slinging it around uncontrollably at full flow. Thank you for making my day, i needed that.
@Yojimbo711
4 жыл бұрын
AoE Healing just leveled the f*** up
@jotzel123
4 жыл бұрын
Don't say the f word
@neneklol1461
4 жыл бұрын
@@jotzel123 fine
@AiZm8
4 жыл бұрын
around 32 ish everything always hits so hard all the time. everytime I have problems or questions in regards to saying things he says it, like "ok so how?". when talking about the awarness precedes control, I legit have to punch something I feel SO fucking energized because it feels like i'm learning the da vinci code for actually helping me with my dumbass life problems edit: finished watching the section, I'm still having trouble with diagnosing the pit in my stomach but I'm working hard on thinking about what it should be, and whenever I try to breathe into the emotion (the physical feeling) i legit feel like crying and I have no idea why
@williammarksen3087
3 жыл бұрын
I’d say (from my own experience) that embracing the pit and urge to cry with further awareness, acceptance and giving in will be a good step to realizing the nature of the issue
@AiZm8
3 жыл бұрын
@@williammarksen3087 thank you
@NikHem343
Жыл бұрын
Hey, it’s been 3 years. How are you?
@AiZm8
Жыл бұрын
@@NikHem343 pretty good, in general just understand myself better but still face troubles time to time, what’s up?
@NikHem343
Жыл бұрын
@@AiZm8 That's great. You sound much better than your initial comment. I had the same experience several time with Dr. K that you described here. Fucking finally someone points out what I've trying to puzzle together my whole life. The way I am and my shortcomings make complete sense all of a sudden, and I know how to advance. Life's been much better since I found Dr. K
@Meisterling
3 жыл бұрын
So glad I found this gem.
@Appleloucious
23 күн бұрын
One Love! Always forward, never ever backward!! ☀️☀️☀️ 💚💛❤️ 🙏🏿🙏🙏🏼
@KreeTerry
3 жыл бұрын
It would be so awesome if dr k shared these notes. It would be so helpful for me to print these out for a big picture view of these topics. I think this video has been one of the most helpful for me bc I have trouble nailing down exactly how I’m feeling sometimes. Seriously thanks so much dr k and the HG team!
@elflanceto2483
4 ай бұрын
Thats why i only feel alive by being away from my family because i supress my emotions while being with them Thanks healthygamer you solved my life
@davidhagberg305
Жыл бұрын
I tried to think of what someone else might feel in my situation, and as you said it was way easier than feeling what i feel. But i also tried something else: for quite a while I've been journaling because sometimes it makes me feel a lot better, and I thought "what if i center my journaling around what I've been feeling today (or what the underlying feeling behind anxiousness REASONABLY was)". I tried this and realised I could kind of express my emotions clearly-isch thinking back on my day. I've been practicing meditation a lot for a couple of years, but usually it does not help a lot with knowing what i feel, so I had this idea: What if my mental coping mechanisms stop me from experiencing the feelings as soon as they start coming up, then mindfulness might help a little but writing the feelings down in detail may be more helpful (if i make it a daily practice of it like meditation). I'll try at least, but the first try was kind of eye-opening, feels like a mindfulness practice aswell, or an aid to make the practice easier.
@drychicken509
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Dr.K! This was really helpful for my sensitivity and provides an amazing framework for navigating and working with emotions
@thestumonkey
9 ай бұрын
Ur suppressing emotions does make the equation easier. If you distance yourself from love, then you just use rationality. However this doesn’t give you the drive to move forwards
@maros8939
4 жыл бұрын
As a recently blooming person, I would love to get some book recommendations, or at least any other youtube channels recommendations from you. I absolutely love your work and I am supporting it 100%, Im even trying to help other people i know that has some mental issues by sending them your stuff so they can see point of view of a person like you that specifies in this kind of stuff. For past few years I was in really bad mental state, would probably consider myself a doomer, but things have changed in last 6 months. A LOT. I think i have a big mess in my head, I feel good lately but there is alot of stuff for me to work on to become even better person. Your videos helps me alot, watching your work helps me to organize the mess i have inside of my head. I mean, as far as I noticed, i have alot of thoughts about some things and I can not, like, you know, catch it in the right way, to make it clear what my statement on particular thing is. And then, your vids are comeing out and it helps me alot to sort it in the right way. Shorter way - i think i really like psychology, being able to understand it or even help someone alittle bit feels great to me. Thats why I am asking for some recommendations. Keep up the good job :)
@colinb8332
4 жыл бұрын
If you are in a bad mental state DO NOT do drugs unless under the supervision of a professional. ESPECIALLY if it’s your first time. Please don’t listen to that advice. Work on yourself in a more sober state if possible first.
@chooseaname1423
Жыл бұрын
Hopefully you found things in the meantime, but “the betrayal bond” by Patrick carnes, “no bad parts”, and Pete Walkers book on CPTSD. My favorite KZitem therapist for childhood trauma is Patrick Teahan. If you can afford therapy, do EMDR for fast relief. You get a lot done in an hour because the therapist leads you through it so little time is wasted feeling blocked or confused. Also, readings always been hard for me so I do all audiobooks, free through the library app and get hands free head phones and listen during tasks like driving, shopping, cleaning, walking….you’ll get through books faster that way.
@metalnitro99
4 жыл бұрын
Seen a lot this guys videos but this one hit the nail on the head. Thank you.
@EvanNagao
4 жыл бұрын
I don't believe my amygdala activity is going down when my 0-7 morgana is flaming my jungler for not ganking, then running it down mid
@forgoroe
4 жыл бұрын
No, but over time it might become the only time your amygdala lights up
@spirit5923
Жыл бұрын
Something I've always been afraid to do is unsuppress my emotions. I feel like they're what got me in the messes I'm in today. I don't know how to tell if I'm ready or not, and freeing them prematurely would cause more damage than it already has.
@ZiggyZ3
3 жыл бұрын
Real good work my boy. That was very informative. I definitely identify with that emotional shut off metaphor you mentioned. Definitely have been noticing a general emotional numbing as I get older
@pradiptahafid
13 күн бұрын
1 you notice them 2 you work on the body 3 you work on the mind
@EliasEspinoza92
Жыл бұрын
Half way through this and watched the more recent video on alexithymia. God bless you man, I feel you are making me aware of things I was so unaware of. In my adolescence I became infatuated with poetry, particularly the English romantics. This became my personality for a while however once I entered a relationship I found myself unable to write, although poetry is not only about emotional expression it is a key component, no more so than in the romantics. The point I wish to make is when I was in a relationship, as a man I made this conscious and unconscious choice that there were certain things I wouldn't show, I thought I could just channel them into my poetry but that didn't work out. Every relationship is different but I felt my girlfriend didn't want to see the emotional part of me however bear in mind that I could leverage my love of poetry as an intellectual level pursuit which I guess held more currency for my masculinity. But after watching this its made me realise that perhaps the true reason I first became invested in poetry was not prestige and instead it was the ability to express my emotions and create for its own sake. I do consider myself more feminine in temperament than most men, at least I assume it to be this way, I try not to show it but watching your videos has already helped me with creativity and I'm hoping this can be another piece of the puzzle, I'm not sure how others feel but regarding my interest in poetry your teachings on how to feel your emotions and sit with them is a god send. After the relationship I spoke of and getting broken up with after being told things like I'm too sensitive I shut down even more. How can I put this, I am aware of gender politics but I feel that if the suppression of emotion inhibits me from writing poetry, I don't want to do it. Thanks again man.
@algore8784
4 жыл бұрын
Never thought about these implications. Thank you so much for sharing it with us!
@ayoubelkhaloui8097
3 жыл бұрын
Big respect to you Dr K ! Thank you
@SpeedEchseftChris
4 жыл бұрын
From which data do you learn in order to create something THIS ACCURATE ?
@akalodr7865
4 жыл бұрын
First of all, thanks for your videos!They are quite helping me to improve my life for something better and regain my mental energy back. What i do for now, is meditating and quitting video games for while and, talking about meditation: What types of meditation are there, and what are the best for which characteristic mental issue? (sry for my bad english)
@ratking927
4 ай бұрын
I think it really depends on which emotions we’re talking about when it’s said that generally men can’t express emotions and women can.
@tejasbinu5025
3 жыл бұрын
Willpower is basically trying to force the water to not come out of the hose by pressing down at its open end. This includes not switching it off from its source.
@jesseskellington9427
Жыл бұрын
38:03 by breathing in and focusing on breathing druring an emotionally triggering event. This opens up the blood vessels to keep the frontal cortex online. The constricting of the blood vessel turns off the frontal cortex. Giving you a temporary frontal lobotomy. This is beneficial when you need to have full body reaction within thousands of a second. An example of this is when you are driving down the road and suddenly aware that there is an obstacle in front of you and, you need to drive around it. Then when your frontal cortex comes back online. You don't remember how you drove around the obstacle.
@pontusbackman9465
3 жыл бұрын
listening to this while doing the dishes, at about 39 minutes in. Dropped a bowl which shattered and felt some anger creeping up like i was about to yell a standard "Fuck!". Instead remembered what he was talking about identifying the emotions you feel etc.. Managed to catch it fairly quick, identified the emotion I was feeling (slight anger, frustration) and felt it slowly go away. Like wtf i don't get how that worked lmao
@diahlarasati6683
2 жыл бұрын
My question is : is emotion something that we constantly have? Can we genuinely be in an emotionless state and not just being unaware of our emotions?
@parkla4098
4 жыл бұрын
This man talking on the internet knows more about my issues then my therapist!1
@Rez_97
2 жыл бұрын
When I was a child, I cried for everything. Not out of anger or out of tantrums. I always cried for others and out of pure sadness or emotion. One day my grandpa told me no one likes a crier and it was true, my family hated me for it. So I promised I would never cry again. It’s been 15 years and I’ve only ever cried when my friend died. Can’t Cry man. Can’t seem to feel anything but some motivation at times
@Rez_97
2 жыл бұрын
@@Dimitris_Half believe it or not, it’s helped me get through some of the hardest times in my life
@Rez_97
2 жыл бұрын
@@Dimitris_Half yeah I feel ya, I’m working on it. But everytime I feel something I can’t help but feel weak. And the feeling horrifies me if I can be honest
@Rez_97
2 жыл бұрын
@@Dimitris_Half yeah, honestly I really do! I have noticed that I argue with loved ones alot and allot of my ex girlfriends have been angered by me cause they felt like I never cared for them. Maybe it’s time to be actually vulnerable at times. You said it best, sometimes I feel like a “deity” or something in a bad way, I hate feeling emotionless cause it really has made me a shitty person tbh. :/ but your advice really helps seriously ❤️
@Rez_97
2 жыл бұрын
@@Dimitris_Half lengthy indeed, but honestly, thank you so much. You have actually given me so much insight on what I’ve been trying to figure out. honestly I’ve never seen it the way I do right now thanks to you. Strength doesn’t mean you’re always strong, cause only the strong are capable of being vulnerable at times. since it’s so scary to be vulnerable! Otherwise, me avoiding pain is actually a form of weakness! Who would have thought lol 😅 but, I will take your advice to heart and I sincerely appreciate you. you’re a really kind person! Your friends and family are lucky to have your wisdom! 😁
@Netherlag1
4 жыл бұрын
Please make a poll on whether we prefer you taking notes in your videos or you just talking freely!
@TrustInTheUniverse
3 жыл бұрын
Dr. K, what do you think about intuition? Could you make a video on it?
@FreedomFox1
4 жыл бұрын
Testosterone is a big reason why... and it's largely a GOOD thing. When I had low testosterone I was more anxious, depressed and neurotic than you can imagine. Fixing that one thing makes me feel calm and in control. Yes I can see how supressing emotions can make talk therapy difficult. But for guys with healthy testosterone levels, just going out into the world and doing something productive or socializing (positive social interactions are difficult with low testosterone) will act as a powerful antidepressant (and of course working out is much better). I see so many YOUNG men who have obviously low testosterone, just like I did. It is hard to catch, since young guys don't usually have sexual dysfunction (which is largely due to their super healthy vascular systems).
@Vladimyrful
4 жыл бұрын
This isn't the first time I heard this. Mind if I ask you a few things because I suspect I might have the same problem? What level of testosterone is healty? (I know doctors missdiagnose this ALL the time) and What did you do exactly to remedy this? Thanks in advance!
@poopmaster1911
4 жыл бұрын
So how did you fix it? Naturally or with shots? And how long ago did you start?
@Yaya66
4 жыл бұрын
I get what you mean, but feeling more calm and in control is different than repressing emotions. Keeping eveything inside/not wanting to confront why or what we are feeling is a problem and it's not "due to testosterone". Higher levels of testosterone (and in general having a good hormone balance) helps feeling better, but that doesn't stop many men from repressing due to social pressure on men not to be emotional and in touch with what they feel.
@FreedomFox1
4 жыл бұрын
@@Vladimyrful Good questions. Low testosterone is diagnosed by looking at a combination of symptoms and blood levels. For blood levels, you want to look at both total and free testosterone. For total testosterone the "deficiency" cutoff is generally in the 300-500 range, but there are exceptions for men with high SHBG which suppresses free testosterone. Free testosterone is the best measurement of what's active in your body, but what constitutes "low" is somewhat controversial. Some doctors will say you're healthy, if you fall within the lab's "normal range." But keep in mind that the normal range is based on the population who take the test (ie, people with health problems), so you can be deficient even when in the normal range. Doctors who specialize in testosterone therapy generally recognize this (at least the good ones do). For treatments, see my response to Patrick... definitely look into it, if you have symptoms. My life would be dramatically better right now, if I had received treatment when I was a young man.
@FreedomFox1
4 жыл бұрын
@@poopmaster1911 Treatments include boosting your body's natural testosterone production, using low dose clomid (pill) or HCG (injections). But many guys can't tolerate those for various reasons. So for many, Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) is best (injections, creams or gels). I am on TRT now (injections), but I did see improvements from supplements.... Olive Oil (2-4 teaspoons per day), Zinc drops (Cold-eeze or generic, every 4-5 hours), Vitamin D, 4,000 IU/day (less in spring and summer). The Vitamin D takes a while to ramp-up (a month or more), but Zinc and Olive Oil work fast. I saw improvements from selenium as well, but watch out with that because too much can make your mood worse (as with Vitamin D, you should get your levels tested, but for me 100 mcg selenium 4x Week is perfect). I'm not your doctor, so obviously talk to yours... this is just one person's experience. TRT is great, especially if your doctor lets you inject yourself. Topical creams and gels work, but "Androgel" and other name brands are far too weak. You need a 10-20% topical that can only be purchased from compounding pharmacies (at least that's what the guys on topicals tell me). The chief side effects of TRT are testicular shrinkage and lower fertility. Adding a low dose of HCG will usually prevent these issues (I don't bother). Some guys worry that the reduced fertility could be permanent (ie, even if you stop therapy), although it's unclear how common this is. So for a young guy, sperm banking will give you peace of mind. You can always stop therapy, but your natural testosterone levels will be SEVERELY suppressed for a month (and possibly up to a year)... which is a miserable experience (of course if you are already miserable with low testosterone, this is not a concern) Lots of guys start and stop. But I'm a "what's the worse case scenario?" person, so once you start TRT, be prepared to stay on long term.
@SirPhysics
Жыл бұрын
I've been struggling to recover from severe alexithymia (I've believed I didn't have any emotions since I was 13 years old) and it's gotten to the point where I can recognize negative emotions pretty well. Anger, frustration, sadness, disappointment, worry, all that fun stuff. My issue is I can't do the same for positive emotions, or even if I can it doesn't do anything for me. Not to get too philosophical, but if you can't "feel" happiness in the moment, does it matter if you can recognize it after the fact? What does it matter that your face is smiling if inside you don't feel any different than usual? How are you supposed to deal with a life in which you feel bad when things don't go your way but can't genuinely feel good when they do? If the best you can do is not having a bad day? I can function, but it really seems like that's the best I could ever hope for. Is a life where all you can do is cope really worth living? I don't know.
@svanteforsberg6602
3 ай бұрын
Hi I hope your ok! I feel in a similarily way. I think a reason for you not feeling any positive emotions could be because of suppressed and unprocessed emotions from your childhood. Also I don’t know if you have looked into dissociation but that can also cause numbness especially if you’ve been emotionally neglected as a child which I know is the case for me. What I’ve found to be really helpful though is journaling your feelings positive or negative and constant mindfulness in order to become more aware of your feelings. But something REALLY IMPORTANT is to accept that it’ll take time to heal and the way you do that is through noticing the feelings and parts of you that WONT accept that its gonna take time and validate those feelings by noticing them and letting them be there. Anyways hope your ok and take care🙏🏼
@richerDiLefto
Жыл бұрын
I never knew there was an actual word for intellectually understanding the feelings of others, which is cognitive empathy. I always felt like a terrible person because I only have this kind of empathy, but not real empathy that causes you to actually *feel* what others are feeling. It’s like my dealings with other people are so fake, like I’m always pretending to be nice, while not actually being nice. I wonder where the line is drawn before one can be called a sociopath? What if you actually do feel what others feel but you don’t care? Is that still empathy, or just having a piece of it?
@cleb5117
7 ай бұрын
I think to be a sociopath you have to lack both empathy and a conscience. Since you feel bad about lacking empathy, it seems you don’t lack the latter
@smittyflufferson1299
3 жыл бұрын
The dr K webinars are your best videos!
@creesPV
4 жыл бұрын
I know this is a very specific thing and is not really a problem but I use mobile and when I full screen the video the healthy gamer logo covers Dr K's face so if he could put his cam in another corner it would be great
@wowman542
4 жыл бұрын
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@biboom4
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was going to comment
@MrAstroKind
4 жыл бұрын
You can remove annotations by clicking the gear and then toggling the annotations off.
@PennDraken
4 жыл бұрын
@@MrAstroKind What gear?
@Nestoras_Zogopoulos
4 жыл бұрын
@@PennDraken i think he means the 3 dots
@marsh3674
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the life cheats Dr. K.
@russaz09
4 жыл бұрын
This video is so wildly helpful. Thank you so much.
@Runs-InCircles
4 жыл бұрын
So mentally I think I'm doing pretty well now but one of the things I struggle with atm is when I need to do some basic chores I have this physical response of being heavy & sticky, like I'm trying to get out of quicksand, it only happens when I need to do something I don't want to do and rationally I know that it's only gonna take 5 minutes and I'll feel better afterwards but I still have to spend like 30 minutes lying in bed to build up the effort to actually do it. Plz fix?
@anthonygingras3493
4 жыл бұрын
Kardashev watch the webinar on procrastination
@cup_o_TMarie
Жыл бұрын
So much love for DrK💝Namaste🙏
@karloponte2582
3 жыл бұрын
this explains my life right now. What are the meanings to emotions and feelings. Can very much relate to the feelings of suppression because I feel the emotion bubble, but what is scary is displaying it because due to cultural imbalances of a community you're in, it could be labeled as, "bad." And that has happened to me, what does one person know about me than what he knows about themself? Hate the internal struggle whether unconscious or conscious that appears when you feel the emotions. To process it is another thing because who but yourself can you help with it. hm..
@jvolc
7 ай бұрын
35:50 "YOGA improves anxiety, depression, and trauma; it outperforms exercise."
@GroundbreakGames
2 жыл бұрын
Things we should have all been taught in school instead of how to solve the value of little y.
@JM-zt8vq
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks doc, this is a big problem that I've wanted to deal with but haven't had the tools to do so
@yuuisland
3 жыл бұрын
17:56 im dying, so real
@vincuke6259
3 жыл бұрын
I'm very happy that I clicked on this video.
@cup_o_TMarie
Жыл бұрын
Ego so often wins.
@healmyvision5941
2 жыл бұрын
Facts>>>Feelings
@karloponte2582
3 жыл бұрын
I need to unsuppress emotions since I. believe my own family or people around me don't even understand the first thing of feeling it. sad.
@BarbaraMerryGeng
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you - Dr. K 👍🧡🍊🧡🌺
@ruhmankhalid6675
3 жыл бұрын
But often time whenever i got the diagnosing correct, the emotion goes into positive feedback loop and I'd start making victimhood conversation on my head and I'll became even bitter. It's like walking on thightrope.
@ruhmankhalid6675
3 жыл бұрын
Update : it actually work wonders as i had a realization and finally "understood" and not simply 'knowing' that it's all on my head and there's not a whole i can actually do about other people but to work on myself. Thank you so much Dr. K 😄 Love you
@Oh-lk2qd
4 жыл бұрын
It's funny you say this because I don't suppress emotions and I'm actually not toxic in games. This is the first video which hasn't applied to me.
@rodrigoalmeida820
4 жыл бұрын
Tip: like and comment this video, since that makes the youtube algorithm promote it. Only a few people do these two things per every video; so videos in which more people do it get to the top faster
@pyro.monkey2501
2 жыл бұрын
The suppression of all emotions vs not seems like a false dichotomy and it seems like that is just phase1 of being able to turn them up or down but experimenting with that more fine control is possible like brain says here is an emotion the preprocess it and decide to feel it or mute it like adjusting the volume different on different channels or tracks
@OFDM-network
3 жыл бұрын
I just shouted at random people at the street. I've been bullied in school and I had pity friends my whole life.
@gytisbl
Жыл бұрын
20:50 killed it :DDD
@ricaeldocarmo5005
4 жыл бұрын
Finally, FINALLY! WAITED FOR SO LONG. Thanks Dr K.
@floofygod
3 жыл бұрын
I suppress emotions because of the person I live with, any suggestions or tips?
@derrickzoolander4683
3 жыл бұрын
Hey I don't know if anyone will see this but I think I have dissociation so I don't really feel much. Around the 8th grade I just remember going completely numb and my personality changed completely. I lost my sense of humor and I just felt like crap all the time. I even didn't recognize my own face in the mirror. I think I have repressed trauma but I try so many things to release the emotions but nothing seems to do anything. I've done therapy and meditation/yoga, journaling, etc but I just don't understand why I am so stuck.
@Miaosen01
4 жыл бұрын
I APPREICATE THOISSSS I WISH IT WAS on prodcast so i can listen while walkoing to rschool
@Mendeiner
4 жыл бұрын
@@protoxus stay home lull
@DeusEx3
4 жыл бұрын
Your Dharma is to fix the title 🙏
@fiber_king2334
2 жыл бұрын
Damn. It seems that "Healthy" and "Gamer" really do NOT go hand in hand
@rokosbasilisk5376
2 жыл бұрын
"Are you alexithymic?" Me: *thinks about it for a second* "I don't know"
@AnonymousMycologist
3 жыл бұрын
Casually opening this video knowing my ass is about to get called out many times over.
@carlesriberaberenguer7469
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@nightelf4161
4 жыл бұрын
just tried playing a game, while unsuppressing and calming all the emotions i can feel and notice, and is this how heavy everything feels? is that supposed to happen? ive gotten tired only after 1 hour of playing, this is too tiring for me edit: by every emotion i mean every bad emotion, as there are only bad emotions when you are grinding for higher rank in a video game well 1% good emotions like when you win, but still only 5 seconds in a 30 minute match this is the weirdest feeling ever, after continuing playing, for 2 hours i feel still tired but with the most mental clarity ive ever had while playing a video game, idk if its the game or the fact ive been realizing my emotions tho also for some fucking reason my brain thinks that thinking im shit will make me play better somehow, because after every mistake my brain points it out giving me million bad emotions which doesnt make my job easy instead of focusing on the game wtf brain WeirdChamp
@PengyDraws
4 жыл бұрын
That's actually so relatable. i've been grinding my Mr.Game and Watch into elite smash and it's enraging, but in a fun sort of way. But yeah the whole thing about my brain pointing out I'm shit happens as well, only it actually does make me feel better because I get more detached from the emotions of the match and more focused, I think.
@Snuuz
4 жыл бұрын
Hey can you do a video on trust and stuff
@MrDeykar
3 жыл бұрын
I feel being called out by this video. Kind of makes me uncomfortable, but i also need to watch this.
@Pizza_Box
3 жыл бұрын
I think i have bad coping habbits more than suppression, but this was still very helpful
@traysutherland8491
2 жыл бұрын
Ed Norton Jr rocking the green flannel
@nelsonwang2753
4 жыл бұрын
Are you ever going to make a video on flow?
@hiseggcelency
4 жыл бұрын
Its about fucking time we men start to take our emotions seriously and care for them, it is not gay, it is human, we're snowflakes as well, we just had to become strong to provide in history, while we still have to, we can do it without showing tough to the external world by all cost
@georgesonm1774
Жыл бұрын
What type of meditation is best for this kind of stuff, working through emotions? (apart from breathing into the emotion)
@Laurenlldch
3 жыл бұрын
Ik no one will see this, but dose anyone else ever navigate not liking something by something physical. The way I know I really don’t want to do something is if I get a stomachache every time I go to do it.
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