It has never been an occasion in my life where someone showed early signs of being toxic and they stopped or improved. It only got worse dealing with them. Don't second guess yourself, just leave. You owe yourself your peace.
@butterflyangel2669
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this!!! Feel like you were talking DIRECTLY TO ME 💯❤️🙏
@lovelylinda8891
3 жыл бұрын
@@butterflyangel2669 yeah, me too
@sspain3800
2 жыл бұрын
Facts!! Believe what how you feel.
@dolly2753
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I needed this reassurance.
@aml8760
2 жыл бұрын
💯
@mmommo-hx4dx
3 жыл бұрын
"GET FAR AWAY FROM THOSE WHO SEEK TO HUMBLE YOU." yaayyyyyyyy
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@stellavineyard3868
3 жыл бұрын
Ikr!
@nadinemartin9512
6 ай бұрын
Yup
@jenniferbrown8568
2 жыл бұрын
A man asked me how do i feel about to be 33 without kids or a husband he was trying to put me down but turned around and wanted to be my man. To make me feel as though i need to get with him in order to have value lol 😂
@jayc5756
3 жыл бұрын
1:18 "Get Far away from those that seek to humble you...even if they do it with a smile". FACTS!!!! 💯 💯💯
@vikki8699
3 жыл бұрын
The "You need to be humbled" excuse for their bad behaviour. Yep, I run a mile of a man ever uses this excuse!
@ibstayfly
3 жыл бұрын
Periodt
@laundrybasket2689
Жыл бұрын
@@vikki8699 That’s the main toxic excuse these modern men use nowadays. They are usually incels and hardcore misogynists. 🤮
@kaebaegotsnax1907
3 жыл бұрын
My now ex used to do this. Just pray for them and send them on their way.
@Abundance26
3 жыл бұрын
My ex did that. He'd tell me that I was wearing makeup and stuff to get outside attention. He broke me a bit. Never completely lost myself though.
@kitlee7372
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry you had to go through that same thing happened to me. I'm humble enough to know I allowed him to break me down a little bit... however during that course deep down inside I knew what was happening so I can't blame him completely because I could have walked away. He showed me who he was early on I ignored all red flags... I don't know why and I think during the course of us healing from all this abuse as we have to find out why it is that we allowed it to happen.
@Abundance26
3 жыл бұрын
@@kitlee7372 same here. I knew from earlier on that I should've left but I felt sorry for him. Turned around and bit me right in the ass then left lol
@kitlee7372
3 жыл бұрын
@@Abundance26 yeah but we got this.. I'm like this go ahead and break me down the further down you break me the more Fierce I am when I come all the way back up believe that Jack LOL we got this girl!!!!!
@Abundance26
3 жыл бұрын
@@kitlee7372 hell yeah 💪🏾❣️
@lovelylinda8891
3 жыл бұрын
@@kitlee7372 OOHHH YEAHHH, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS COMMENT!!!!! If I could put fire emojis, I would!!
@KeeekThaSneak
3 жыл бұрын
I had an old girl “friend” who used to do this to me. She would say things about me that were really mean and then say she was just joking 🤨 little did I know she was extremely jealous about every aspect of my life and had major issues about it
@marah3298
3 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you got away from her. I used to have a friend like that too!
@oliviaaloe9069
3 жыл бұрын
Oh yes. She was super jealous and never tolerate that! I had a friend like that too. They will never not see you as competition no matter how much you try to love on them.
@KeeekThaSneak
3 жыл бұрын
@@oliviaaloe9069 I was definitely feeling the competitiveness energetically! I always tried to give her the benefit of the doubt though. I’ll never ignore my gut feeling again
@gabriellemccullough-hanks9644
3 жыл бұрын
Same had a friend like that in my early teens. I cut her once we started high school. Good riddance to jealous haters!
@isoyizausman1469
3 жыл бұрын
....and when you cut them off, next thing is you're tagged "unforgiving". I move ahead anyway. You keep ignoring and keeping them around or staying around them, they may end up killing you. Take a look at the murder of Fahim Saleh (Gokada CEO). If he had fired that Haspil guy upon discovering his disloyal act of stealing from him, he may stil havel been alive today.
@strongerasone2403
2 жыл бұрын
The superiority (talking down to you as though you are stupid or inferior). The questioning of your decisions. The put downs of what you have. The eye rolling and sighing when you speak. The sabotage of your friendships and relationships. The social isolation.
@galinaioffe2250
3 жыл бұрын
And another thing is anybody who thrives in anothers sorrow is an enemy from jump.
@KE-ph1ss
3 жыл бұрын
Real men treat you amazingly and if you’re not right for them they move on. I’ve had insecure ‘men’ say the weirdest put downs and all it did for me was give me red flags. In my mind I was always “even if what he said were true and he believed it….why would you say it?” If I think something negative about someone I feel no need to put them down, point it out or use it to hurt them. Why would you? Unless you’re straight up cruel/nasty/ignorant.
@debsmith2789
3 жыл бұрын
I hear you. I dated a guy who always said your Dad ought have told you this or that because he wanted to lower my self esteem and be in control of me. It’s all about control for the narcissist.
@nayafitzgerald
3 жыл бұрын
I had a man tell me I only want beta men and I’ll only have a sumo as a man.
@isoyizausman1469
3 жыл бұрын
But there is such a thing as correcting people in love. Not correcting bad behaviour in your loved ones is in itself, a weak attitude. So if you notice something negative about people you associate with, especially the ones that affect you, there's nothing wrong in my opinion pointing it out. I don't agree it's evil to do so. The only evil will be in how you communicate it. Then secondly, it's not nice to not be disposed to taking criticism or correction. As long as the energy surrounding is positive.
@KE-ph1ss
3 жыл бұрын
@@isoyizausman1469 I agree with you. The situation I was describing was when it’s not the right time/place/situation. Between my husband and I we have difficult conversations but it’s always with respect, love and encouragement.
@isoyizausman1469
3 жыл бұрын
@@KE-ph1ss oh yes sure. Respect , encouragement and love is the exact kind of energy needed 👍🏾
@Lovealwayswen
3 жыл бұрын
I was dating a guy who was doing this to me... but I’m to smart for all that and walked away immediately
@jenniferdeck5163
3 жыл бұрын
My ex husband was a narcissist specializing in passive aggressive.
@ramonaphillipsteach3284
3 жыл бұрын
When a man/woman shows you who they are believe it.
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@Me-tb8rs
3 жыл бұрын
I just went through a relationship JUST like this. I couldn't understand why he was putting me down, and claiming it was a joke. It was negatively impacting my self-esteem and I did start seeking his approval. I had to come to terms with the reason why I tolerated it; This was the relationship I had with my mother being played out again. It is control and abuse.
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Yes. .
@sunshinesunflowerz1647
3 жыл бұрын
Same, and same players.
@esther244
3 жыл бұрын
Girl you spoke my life out very loud
@kaimommy2876
3 жыл бұрын
This comment gave me life and problably the ANSWER to a question i been having for years! If you think you helped or inspire anyone, YOU DID IUST ME! It was MEANT for me to read this. 💕
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Kinda like Governor Cuomo calling his harrassment of others "joking". Intellegient people tell jokes that are funny. There is nothing funny about compromising peoples dignity. That is something weak minded cowardly people do to make themselves feel better. Find people who are worthy of your company, and leave them in the dust where they belong.
@karenmassey8354
3 жыл бұрын
Guys do this to me all the time. Not only has it not worked , but I’ve gained more confidence over the years. I will say that it has caused me to develop a very sharp tongue that I hit these types of guys with (which is probably devastating for them LOL).
@dcyoot
3 жыл бұрын
It’s better to teach them lesson to respect women
@smoothmorrison7203
3 жыл бұрын
Over the years, I'm quick with the tongue on that one too. Don't forget facial expression 😛 after I snatch their souls. 😇✌️❤️🍷
@sparrowwilson4514
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know why but negging has never worked on me. If someone says something mean to me it just makes me think they’re a Wanker and I want to get as far away from them as possible. I’m British, so light ribbing is pretty standard, but people actually cutting or poking your emotional underbelly is just plain rude.
@charisse234
3 жыл бұрын
Sparrow Wilson you are so right.peace and love 💛
@candacecasey5634
3 жыл бұрын
This does not usually work on women with self respect. I never responded positively to it because I was bullied as a child. I do not tolerate people acting as if I am somehow " inferior" to them.
@charisse234
3 жыл бұрын
@@candacecasey5634 wow I totally and utterly agree with you whole heartedly.i firmly believe that absolutely noone is better than me and I am not better than any one else.whenever any one tries to make you feel inferior.ALWAYS ASK YOUR SELF WHY THEY FEEL THE NEED TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THAT! And you will soon see and realise how truly weak they really are.having said that never ever be with a man that wants to break you down never! We as women deserve to be loved and treated right make no mistake on that!peace and love 💛
@ashton1952
2 жыл бұрын
Sparrow Wilson you have the right attitude; it's harder for people who were raised by a parent doing that to them because they think it's normal
@mizginavale22
3 жыл бұрын
I had something happened along these lines, but with a slightly different approach to manipulation. The man that I had started dating (he is no longer in my life) began to use terminology which I found very strange. He would say things like: "see? . . . you don't listen to what I tell you" or "you should have done what I said". All this seemed to suggest that he wanted me to be under his orders, and we barely had started dating. I realized this was a huge red flag of someone who wanted to control me and I knew nothing good would come of it. In fact, I blocked him from calling me after I ended things with him, because men who like to control (or women who do the same) will find ways to manipulate you back into their lives to continue their attempt to control you. No thanks! Bye !
@hbachristinme7442
3 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh. Such men r everywhere. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 There was one in my class he wld throw annoying comments n use those exact phrases coz i had refused to date him due to his toxicity
@ashton1952
2 жыл бұрын
Good riddence
@heidifisher8973
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!! 100%. I've had all sorts of relationships like this and have been called sensitive for calling out their bullying behaviour or a bitch for setting healthy boundaries. I've recently let go of a childhood friend who does this BS, she's done this before which resulted in me cutting ties from her. The worse part is she plays dumb and never learns her lesson. C'est le vie.
@keyonceswrld
3 жыл бұрын
Same here ! They always get selective amnesia when you call them out 😒
@heidifisher8973
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I keep my distance and let them figure it out themselves, if they choose to.
@lovelylinda8891
3 жыл бұрын
Same here...or worse, they'll flip the script and blame YOU and create all sorts of false gripes with you or accuse you of the same thing. Tell them that "it's usually the INSENSITIVE people that call me too sensitive!" Stand in your truth! Stay encouraged!
@heidifisher8973
3 жыл бұрын
@@lovelylinda8891 Yep! I've had them do that too, gaslighting MF!!. Thank you I'm good, I get what they are doing (didn't last time).Stay strong yourself.xx
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
@@lovelylinda8891 Yes🙏🏽 this is what i am finding the strength to pull myself out of. Endless gaslighting, scapegoating, and stonewalling. Laced with insults and put downs. Im like... "and, what am I doing? Why am I still here? What am I doing???" Its just so hard to put your head strength and heart together, to make the leap. Especially after seeing this video (THANK YOU Kev), I will never allow this to happen again 💯💪🏽❤ What a relief to know this lesson has been learned. ✔🙏🏽
@TawandaVance
3 жыл бұрын
Yaaaaaaaaas "I am great and you can be great too", it's sad people have such low self-esteem that they hate to see people love themselves. Oh well🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️
@lovelylinda8891
3 жыл бұрын
SOOO TRUUUUE!! Til this day, I sometimes feel afraid to openly express too much self-acceptance and happiness- there's always someone who feels so bothered by it and seeks to chop you down! ugh!
@TawandaVance
3 жыл бұрын
When we first notice this, we need to exit stage left immediately because it's only gonna get worse. Even if you check the still leave. Friends and family gotta be dismissed too. I dude tried this with me but because I would respond with the same energy he'd just get mad and outright verbally abusive. I'm so glad I left after 6 months.
@keligsp8962
3 жыл бұрын
I got a divorce!
@autmnra2705
3 жыл бұрын
Crazy you said 6 months I swear that's exactly how long it always takes. Smh they can't hold that front more than 6 months
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Im in the 6month boat too 🙏🏽 Finding my strength to jump ship 🙏🏽 Not easy. Ive learned a lot. Im committed to making good medicine out of all the hard lessons ive learned from being treated so badly. I honestly didn't know how awful men could be toward women. I won't ever fall for this again. I want myself a good good man, who I can love up all the way in and out and be loved too just like that. With fun & ferver, and so much more.
@shayshay4464
2 жыл бұрын
Well said ! I just ended a relationship with someone who thought it was appropriate to compare me to his ex . Even going as far as saying I’m not his type but expected me to stay . Someone that puts you down is someone that is operating from a low level frequency and does not have good intentions. Please please run .
@creativeraven2222
Жыл бұрын
That negging and strategic disrespect can be dangerous if they try it on a woman in touch with her dark side. Smh.
@Lynnsayne
2 жыл бұрын
You’re teaching me so much. I’m a fairly successful woman; career, money, educated. Met a guy who did this, amongst other red flags. Like leave if you don’t like me then, but he kept coming around. I picked up on his self esteem issues. Like how dare I enjoy my life as much as I do? How dare I make more money than him?
@DaveMasters1121
4 ай бұрын
I stayed 7 years in a highly manipulative relationship with a toxic man. His total gameplan was these put downs. It progressed to flirting in public with other women, triangulation with an ex girlfriend and finally cheating. I was in my early 20s and this was back in 2000. I had such dreadful self esteem, an eating disorder as well. Back then i was told that i shouldnt seek help as it would be on my medical record and could hamper my job prospects! The 2000s were wild for us women! Anyway, all you said was correct. Now when the put down happens. I dont react, but it is noted. Then its simply the beginning of the end. It's funny to see they think they have dupers delight
@AmaLoveGoddessTV
3 жыл бұрын
It's the opposite of love bombing tactic. Both are deceitful and harmful.
@IsIamic
2 жыл бұрын
It can be so discreet. Especially if they put you down for the same things they previously complimented you about!
@TheRomanPilgriminPerson
3 жыл бұрын
I once knew a girl in high school who had an older brother who talked against girls like that. He had already graduated and had a job, so he was old enough to know better. A neighbor girl overheard him say that he'd like to take a girl who lived on the same street "down a peg or two." Word got back to the girl and her parents, it spread like wildfire thru the neighborhood and the entire high school. It wasn't the brother who suffered. It was the sister who felt the pain from that comment. Neighbors and high schoolers alike isolated her and she had a very lonely existence. She found friends on the fringes, girls from other neighborhoods who didn't know what her life was like at home, and that's how she got thru high school. AVOID, AVOID, AVOID boys and men who put down girls and women. They are highly abusive and they keep the girl and woman in the BOX they make for her.
@marjorielingenfelter5331
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I couldn't understand why my ex always put me down and had me questioning my worth. You answered all the questions I asked in my head.
@lovelylinda8891
3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad Kev was able to help you do that!! You never should have to question your worth! YOU ARE WORTHY, AND YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! PERIOD! KEEP YOUR LIGHT SHINING! :)
@marjorielingenfelter5331
3 жыл бұрын
@@lovelylinda8891 Thank you.
@lroberts462
11 ай бұрын
I had a man tell me that I was like a "Toyota Camry while he looked for his luxury model"!! I laughed it off but I asked him at another time what did he mean by that? HE got offended and said it was just a joke!!! These passive aggressive jokes/insults were pretty common and always wrapped in the LOL. He really had me thinking I was too sensitive!!!🤬
@jackierumph2779
Жыл бұрын
" A real man wants to build YOU up!"
@CecilyJamelia
3 жыл бұрын
I could have used this channel 20 years ago. Such great advice and a good reminder for us all
@ashgreen3574
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Though I am sad I had no such guidance I am happy its here for younger women
@idanceforthestars
3 жыл бұрын
I NEEDED THIS AT 15
@idanceforthestars
3 жыл бұрын
@@ashgreen3574 exactly
@idanceforthestars
3 жыл бұрын
@Kila McEndree Velez IM SCREAMING!!
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@debbieholzherr2990
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks great informative video. These people can be so hurtful and wear you down. They know how to be nice enough to get back in your good graces long enough to tear you down again. Its a vicious cycle to get caught up in.
@donatello4716
3 жыл бұрын
I needed to read this comment. It is so true they know how to be nice to get you back and abuse you again. It is so sick and deceitful.
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Yes.
@prodigaldaughterconfession1050
3 жыл бұрын
I definitely came across a man like this about a year ago... He kept mentioning my weight and would always like old pics of me on fb back when i was smaller. He couldn't stand that i was comfortable in my own skin. I could use his pic as the cover 4 this video! Lol. Great information. Thank u 🙏🏽.
@marah3298
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like a guy was doing this recently. When we see each other (we are not dating), he’ll remember my name and compliment my hair or say he remembers me by my hair. Then, he said “Maybe I should look at your face and remember that.” I’m not about to argue over something so trivial. It’s the little things that bug me though.
@naimarestoringdivinity7938
3 жыл бұрын
Sadly I live in the Bay Area where this behavior is taught to males so that they can become her Pimp.
@marah3298
3 жыл бұрын
@@naimarestoringdivinity7938 he’s from the Bay Area LOL
@socialdistancingon8333
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, he's basically implying your face isn't good enough...get rid of this guy...
@marah3298
3 жыл бұрын
@@socialdistancingon8333 I did lol. That was the final straw for me
@SaxonBloom
Жыл бұрын
Just dealt with a guy like this this past summer. It didn’t take me long to realize he’d been under the influence of manosphere YT & had a disdain for women. I broke things off and he called me a week later…as if I never ended things with him. It didn’t take many phone calls from there for his light put downs to become straight up disrespectful. I never answered his calls again after the final blow. That man was a hateful through and through.
@SR-rz9uj
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you to the person who asked the question and to Kev for choosing to answer this. Couldn’t be more timely, as it happened to me last weekend. So unexpected with the barrage of pass-aggressive jokes, comments, and “observations”. Afterwards, I felt so emotionally & physically drained. Thank you so much again for your golden advice and my chance to implement into action!!!
@sspain3800
2 жыл бұрын
Run leave early! It was over 7 years before I realized this! He never changed!
@victoriacaropreso1506
3 жыл бұрын
My ex husband was actually diagnosed Passive -Aggressive. He was from New Jersey. He would put me down in a joking manner and say that that’s how people naturally are back East. He would say, if someone didn’t mess with you, then they would not really care about you? He stated that messing with you was a sign of affection? But if I gave it back to him, it would piss him off… So yes! You are absolutely correct! Those kind of people do get into your head and most definitely manipulate a person in the most blatant way, and brainwash the meek into thinking it’s okay! If this happens to anyone, they should RUN!
@rmg2419
3 жыл бұрын
Omg my ex told me this too. He said he criticizes bc he 'cares', but when I criticize him, he lashes out in anger. He can dish it, but cant take it. They are weak little boys.
@victoriacaropreso1506
3 жыл бұрын
That’s why he is an Ex now….
@nonaperry5403
3 жыл бұрын
I first noticed this act from a female family member at a very young age that always made body shaming comments toward me, my sister and my mom. I knew I hated it but because she was an elder, I didn't go off. In my adulthood it's a trigger. I know I was blessed with a shape that woman pay thousands to get. I had a friend who did this to me all the while trying to enjoy my assets. He is cut off. This is a real thing. Thank you for this video💙
@bellakim2057
3 жыл бұрын
Now i understand it fully why his saying those things to me And why he don't compliment me not even once. 😔
@bellakim2057
3 жыл бұрын
@Jen Agrippa already did 1 week ago.😔
@sixteen.candles.4644
3 жыл бұрын
@@bellakim2057 good.
@bellakim2057
3 жыл бұрын
@@sixteen.candles.4644 thank you
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Yep. Never a compliment or an appreciation. Unless it sexualizes me in some way. 😔 Time to jump ship.
@bellakim2057
3 жыл бұрын
@@freshstrt3140 i feel you! It's the same thing to me. 🤦♀️🤷♀️
@misscyanic2484
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, this was so me. All a guy had to do was poke fun at me a bit & I'd try try try. But, no more. I'm done.
@ufos-cos
2 ай бұрын
I have a coworker who says sneaky awful things. He pulled one on me & said ‘you’re too sensitive’ {HUGE red flag phrase btw}. I said, no, you’re just a jerk, in front of everyone. I don’t think it’s ever happened to him before 😂😂😂😂 he panicked & started talking about what he did over the weekend to get all his buddies back on his side again. But he knows I see right through that shit now. Bet he won’t mess with me again 🙌 fyi, when someone says ‘you’re too sensitive’ or ‘it was just a joke’ after saying hateful things to you, the subtext of these phrases is I’m going to abuse you & you’re going to take it. It is not ok.
@Jesus_Resurrection_and_Life
Ай бұрын
Haha, nice one for telling him he’s being a jerk. Ugh, that phrase! It’s such BS 😏 Blessings 🕊
@md-mx5zb
3 жыл бұрын
Spot ON. So good to see younger help those to refuse this demonic spirit. This crazy unacceptable abuse is on the rise on every age level. Very sad but people like you are speaking TRUTH - educating and posting this is NOT OK and fighting a true egregious issue that's on speed dial today. 😇
@christineo8510
3 жыл бұрын
This applies to both ex-boyfriends and ex-bestfriends. In my experience I've been hurt more from my own so called BFFs. I learned to value friendship over boyfriends and next thing you know you get stabbed in the back and they choose their boyfriends first. Worse of all when they go MIA, it doesn't work out and they come running back. They're the ones that abuse the friendships. I'm done with those.
@idanceforthestars
3 жыл бұрын
6:55 wait who would .... hate you your soul is beautiful it seeps through your skin . the whole internet know you're 100% genuine more then Kevin Samuels in Derrick Jackson the whole world knows its nothing wrong with you .. you are the big brother I wish I had your videos are really changing lives
@homehere9817
3 жыл бұрын
I agree.
@BeautyGraphicDesigner
3 жыл бұрын
“Healthy love comes with empowerment and not dependency” good stuff brother Kevin! Also FYI I didn’t see the registration link in the description box?
@CoachLove
3 жыл бұрын
Not letting anyone pull me down again; lower my worth and value because they're already low. Only humbling myself for God; my Creator...
@lovettesmith8196
3 жыл бұрын
Right way to go.
@SweetP4real1
3 жыл бұрын
I dated guys that were exactly as you described, I wished I had heard this video clip back in the day when I was dating these narcissistic, dead beat men. It would've saved me a whole lot of hurt and pain.
@msredcurtains
2 ай бұрын
Agreed. Now that I know this sign, I’m bette prepared. Now it’s kick such a person to the curb and no looking back. Wish I could share what I know now to the version of me that let these things pass.
@Bobby_S.S.
3 жыл бұрын
This was a Ph.D. dissertation. Great job!
@unapologeticella4540
Жыл бұрын
My ex is 57 and I'm 32 I was 24 when we met and every year he gets worst he get very angry and raises he's voice the good thing is I love my peace and I'm happy he told me to never contact him again. He told me I was going to be homeless and laughed. These men are wishing bad on the person their dating.
@luyandankohla5341
3 жыл бұрын
You are talking to me 😭Thank you Kev, noted!!!Let me go do some spring cleaning in my life and get rid of such people 😭💔Enough is enough 😭
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Im in the 6month boat in a relationship like this 🙏🏽 Finding my strength to jump ship 🙏🏽 Not easy. Ive learned a lot. Im committed to making good medicine out of all the hard lessons ive learned from being treated so badly. I honestly didn't know how awful a man could be toward a woman. I won't ever fall for this again. I want myself a good good man, who I can love up all the way in and out and be loved too just like that. With fun & ferver, and so much more.
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
@@ursamajor6347 Thank🙏🏽You
@missjackie7983
3 жыл бұрын
Learn to love yourself first. You got to heal before you can deal! Get away from that demon and work on bettering yourself for yourself and you will attract the type of man that you desire. But right now? You got to work on yourself. Don't be a doormat!
@AmberRandallArt
3 жыл бұрын
It’s crazy cause I grew up with my dad treating my mom and I like this, my brother even. He’s on the more extreme end of narcissism and I gravitate towards men that do this.
@esther244
3 жыл бұрын
It’s some sort of spiritual thing I don’t understand
@TrulyUnbothered
10 ай бұрын
My ex told me he stopped kissing me because I wear lipstick so i stopped wearing it. I didn’t realize till later that was his way of controlling me.
@Xtraterrestrial8112
3 жыл бұрын
I thought I was trippin! He damn sure tried 🤯😆
@carolynwilson7736
Жыл бұрын
You’re absolutely not arrogant or pompous. Really appreciating everything you say.
@jaybae7315
3 жыл бұрын
That woman should've laughed at his ass with the first put down down, told him she was going to the ladies and left while blocking his ass. This type of behavior is called negging. On another note, ladies read "The 48 Laws of Power" and "The Art of Seduction".
@ramonaphillipsteach3284
3 жыл бұрын
You are very intelligent and knowledgeable. My daughter is in this relationship.smh🙏🏽
@candacecasey5634
3 жыл бұрын
Healthy friends and healthy relationships empower you and uplift you . I know exactly why they do this and it just reminds me of the " catty behavior" I saw in high school like on the movie " mean girls" what these men never seemed to realize is that when they did this I saw them as " petty" and " petty" is far from attractive.
@jam1369
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Kevin. ♥️
@kokoda7734
3 жыл бұрын
One of the best vids I’ve ever seen!
@pristineparr7509
2 жыл бұрын
Experienced this with someone I had no business being with in the first place. Excellent advice and he was doing all the things you describe Kev.
@adisatuaguebor1394
3 жыл бұрын
Been through this way too many times smh. Great advice. ❤️
@esther244
3 жыл бұрын
Same here and it felt terrible ... now even if I feel like reconnecting , I remind myself of how they made me feel and I just shut the door
@Cpre1111
3 жыл бұрын
I met a guy (overall he's good), but I resisted his demands for girlfriend/wife privileges (submission, etc) early in the dating phase (
@sahara5745
Жыл бұрын
Girl you dodged a a grenade f*** a bullet; an atomic 💣. Kev has a video on here about rejection And I believe it might help you some more. Please don’t waste your time thinking about this man he was not worth 🦫
@louisafowler4535
3 жыл бұрын
Great advice. You are spot on. I've met men like this. I wish i heard this years ago. You are a star! 🌟
@thenatural.hygienist193
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I was dating a Libra who recently said he wasn't feeling me anymore because I "came across as someone who acts perfect and like I would get angry if I don't get my own way" amongst other "things" (he had a whole list of issues he had with me lol).....now in my 40 yrs I've never been described like this. We've been talking/dating 3 months and he hasn't really 'got' me at all.
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Im experiencing something very similar. Its mind bending. Im grateful for my friends and family who know me love me like me, so I don't lose myself in this twisted perception this man has tried to spin on me. There's something wrong with him! And its not mine to fix. Just mine to find my strength and get out, and never let it happen again. 🙏🏽❤
@atlfun08
3 жыл бұрын
Manipulation at its finest. Even if that was accurate…a narc would say it like this guy. A normal person would not come across like that. He got you all right…it’s that just your self confidence and self worth are not useful tools for him.
@MissPrettyNPink
3 жыл бұрын
Just dated a Libra just like this. Run far away. It was hard to get away from him
@lydianembhard4670
3 жыл бұрын
Keep talking Kevin. ....so true 👍....these men we call.them waste man...lady kick them to the curve....we are value more than just need a waste man
@user-jw1bl4hq9j
Ай бұрын
THEY ARE NOT WEAK ….THEY ARE ONLY ABUSIVE ….LETS CALL IT LIKE IT IS .
@8croberts
3 жыл бұрын
This is an EXTREMELY important video. This has definitely happened to me before. Wish I would have seen this video earlier. Thank you, Kev!
@msofficialxo7953
3 жыл бұрын
Yes great advice. If someone is doing this in a dating situation or even if its a so called friend or family member dont fw them, they are jealous or somehow f'd up and will only hurt you, stay away even if its family.
@tabathaterry2998
29 күн бұрын
They want you to let them in without earning it
@andreaarchambeau9499
3 жыл бұрын
This description is very timely. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. Should I be feeling on edge or defensive around someone who says they care about me. If you aren’t my safe place and my reassurance, then what are we doing? Thanks for the clarity!
@TyReaLiTy
3 жыл бұрын
Another Great 1 Kev!👏🙌🙏 All facts! I've dealt with this from family, friends, & ex's! Now I can see it spot on a mile away🎯🎯
@trinatrina2192
3 жыл бұрын
It’s definitely not worth it… I’ve been married to a Narcissist for 23 yrs it’s time to go!
@miwa9966
2 жыл бұрын
Great one. I used to think "what was that?" When they say something that puts me down and then to continue with my gut feelings screming to go away. Am acting now on my gut. No more staying. Not worth it. If they need to put me down to be in my presence then I remove myself gracefully becouse I deserve to be treated like a human being full of love and light and worthy of love. I dont deserve to be stepped on. That is my power move. Stay blessed and smart ladies 🙏 And listen to your gut. Your insticts are your guardian angels
@1Iamzen
3 жыл бұрын
Amazing I just broke up with this same man. Really bad arguments on the phone. Starts out great. End with him going in on me really hard. I can send you audio. He doesn't know I listen to it after the fact. I used to be proud that I went toe to toe in the arguments. But what's the point if it doesn't end.
@ntrasmr87
3 жыл бұрын
Why give it your energy
@stacypeters2856
3 жыл бұрын
One of your best videos of all time. Seriously listening for the second time
@maisonpastel6629
3 жыл бұрын
Wow! Unbelievably accurate 👏 just wow! Thank you so much for pointing it out !
@lifeofsi9990
2 жыл бұрын
Wow this happened to me, I remember when I started catching on to it I didn’t let him control me or do exactly what he say and he said “you think you’re better than me 😳”. I knew instantly I had to grow some balls and move on with my life. he would consistently find ways to contact me, different numbers, social media…he was chasing that old me he once had control over . Now, he would randomly text and I don’t respond and block the number. I didn’t realize some men do that/ are controlling due to their own insecurities!
@da5061
3 жыл бұрын
You are a real brotha.. Keep educating us .. I wish I know this growing up, it sure would have helped me to avoid a lot of heart and headache.🗣️🗣️🗣️
@she_sings_delightful_things
2 жыл бұрын
Yup. My ex began veey early on, sighting me in, well, slightly noticeable ways. He's rhe most passive aggressive perein I think I've ever met in my life so hisbinsults and "put downs" slid juuuust below the radar. Tiny little jabs led to missing holes in my self esteem and self worth. Whew! Thanks for this video, it's very appreciated ♡♡
@Ksiuiu
Жыл бұрын
These are facts! You’re such a nice person ❤
@KevHick
Жыл бұрын
I try😁
@Reshme77
3 жыл бұрын
I drop people like this in the waste basket
@kristypaigetheriot5819
3 жыл бұрын
One of your best yet, Kev!! Thanks!!!
@BriannaLifeCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Men do this to me a lot because I have a lot followers and options and they are always insecure !
@susubooboo9820
3 жыл бұрын
I love these videos so much. Feels like I'm listening to my brothers and cousins speaking. Real talk .. thank you so much. You are healing me.
@stacypeters2856
3 жыл бұрын
Love the throwbacks !!!!! Great job and great content 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@felony01
3 жыл бұрын
My friend does this all the time smh
@deborahwoodyard8895
3 жыл бұрын
Kev !!! Thank you for sharing. To the curb he would go. I agree with you 100% of the ❤💯💪
@TeeLeon22
3 жыл бұрын
Saying stuff "he doesn't mean" like saying "he thinks I'm wasting his time" then say he didn't mean that, crossing boundaries then "saying it was only one time" saying "he knows he's an asshole" then say I was joking, using comments like questions of why you didn't text him back saying "it's funny you told me to text you, but didn't respond" it was late and I fell asleep, he later said "he was joking". Dropping me to work every morning because he changed his schedule, but then expecting me to make time when he calls last minute and then say "it's too late when we never had plans and says he doesn't make plans for anything" That wasn't the case before
@marinab.8590
3 жыл бұрын
My guy makes me feel awesome when we are together but then he ignores me when we are apart....He introduced me to his family and they all tell me that he talks about me all the time. He does put me down from time to time, he will say things like “you work a lot, l can see why you are single” and little things like “you have too much going on”. He is not very sexual so that is not a thing for him.... l am so confused 🥴
@kaebaegotsnax1907
3 жыл бұрын
Let him go sis. He’s not the one. And remember is family is loyal to him not you.
@jenniferdeck5163
3 жыл бұрын
Maybe give him space for like 48 hours to give him a chance to miss you? Absence is supposed to make the heart grow fonder?
@marinab.8590
3 жыл бұрын
@@jenniferdeck5163 l have done that. He will text me a short “how is your day going?” I respond and then he goes silent again for another 3-5 days. He was diagnosed with cancer recently so l am trying to overlook several things and be supportive and patient but l am not sure l am doing the right thing....
@jayc5756
3 жыл бұрын
Wow!
@jayc5756
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaebaegotsnax1907 Thats true too. Family is loyal to their family...not necessarily their partner.
@pd9116
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking the truth
@ashley5430
3 жыл бұрын
Omg yes! Had a guy grab my arm and tell me…your tricep if you don’t use it…you lose it! I wanted to ask him where the Keg of beer was but it was NOT so hidden as his stomach. 🤣
@pinkmoonjuice5158
Жыл бұрын
This is gold. Super comprehensive and insightful. Thank you! I was wondering what would push someone to behave in such a hateful way.
@alle126
3 жыл бұрын
The guy I was dating never ever gave me compliments nothing but he saw other guys checking me out I was like oh ok cool you not fitting to make me have issues bye
@dn-cp6sh
3 жыл бұрын
This was excellent. Thanks Kev.
@donnalange6927
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Priceless wisdom.
@freshstrt3140
3 жыл бұрын
Dude. Thank you 🙏🏽
@ramonalokossou4383
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Kev you are talking about my partner enough is enough I'm done with him not now not ever 😭😭😭
@cameraunjohnson6390
Жыл бұрын
Since we on the subject, during a phone conversation with a guy I had only met a week prior, he says “I can tell you tight” (with money) I quickly said, so be it. Cause first of all, you don’t even know me, and second of all ima need you to take your mind off my pockets and weather or not I’m generous with them sir😳 WTH!
@CR-cv1bv
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Kev! I have such people in my family and i simply stay away from them now.
@fancydani
3 жыл бұрын
Man this is crazy I really went through this summer 2020 I was dealing with a complete narcissist & he would do this all the time
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