I'm not sure what my personality type is, but my late fiance was 100%dreamer. Prior to our getting together, he had always been made to feel childish and inept and never good enough, he felt like a failure of a human being. But we had been friends for a decade, and I loved his playfulness. I adored his childlike joy and wonder of thr world. I miss that most, and try to emulate it, now that he's gone. But nothing gave me more joy than to be able to nudge him along and say "fly, be free. Do the zaney, crazy, creative, ingenuitive things your mind comes up with" and to see him take those first tentative hops and flaps and thrn absolutely bloom into the most amazing man, childlike, not man-child, I have ever known.
@angellombness4371
11 ай бұрын
Thank you. 💜
@anitachamberlain3391
11 ай бұрын
That is so powerful and beautiful
@MadS1192
11 ай бұрын
Wow, that's beautiful.❤
@FormerlyMantisDragon1995
9 ай бұрын
Just reading this shows that you both were lucky to have had each other. Even in death, he’s lucky that you love him to the point you try to emulate his dreamer personality, and you’re lucky because you had him in your life and he’s still a part of you even when he’s gone. That’s beautiful 🥲
@austinsilvamota5703
11 ай бұрын
I'm very interested in the overlap between Dreamer and ADHD, too. I always thought I was "just" a dreamer... but my psychologist thinks I may actually be on the adhd spectrum 🤷♀️
@maggie_petruzella5940
10 ай бұрын
Was just thinking the same thing
@ehowiehowie7850
7 ай бұрын
Do you mean the autistic spectrum? They don't typically desribe adhd on a spectrum ...just autism... ?
@austinsilvamota5703
7 ай бұрын
@@ehowiehowie7850 no, I mean attention deficit. And maybe spectrum isn't the right word, but there are certainly different degrees and types. (For example I'm not hyperactive...)
@Vyloka
Ай бұрын
@@ehowiehowie7850i think you meant neurodivergent
@MorgueInTheVoid
11 ай бұрын
So spot on! I used to think it was a major issue dating my opposite, because my boyfriend is a thinker/closer and I'm a Healer/dreamer. And like Jono mentioned, execution isn't always there but I have the inspiration to get a plan started. And when my boyfriend and I work together as a team, I usually develop a plan, and he's the one who puts that plan into action and it actually works out really great most of the time.
@ehowiehowie7850
7 ай бұрын
I think a dreamer describes inattentive adhd!
@nfp4061
11 ай бұрын
I think dreamers, speaking from a healer/dreamer perspective, are most likely to procrastinate especially if there's no fun doing a task. Usually I set my own rewards to make a chore bearable, like eating a favorite snack after cleaning a room. So on point with a music on while cleaning the house. I also wear lipstick as I do laundry. Making my own versions of play/magic to get through life. I heard this saying before "Realists are dreamers that got their hearts broken" So yeah. Some children become thinker or closer especially with trauma (not all but more likely in my opinion)
@Nashleyism
11 ай бұрын
I've tried to use rewards for chores, but my brain keeps seeing them as taking away something I already have. For example, I can eat snack right now, so doing it after a chore is seen by my brain as adding a demand, where previously there was none, it feels like I'm punishing myself, not rewarding. Do you have any way to deal with that?
@RainbowSunshineRain
11 ай бұрын
@Nashleyism I had the same problem, as a dreamer/healer. What worked for me was deciding I want the end goal and gently remind myself of that. The key is to have a warm positive emotion around the situation. Once I push myself with guilt or stress, I become a stubborn mule. So I just decide I love myself and while doing the tasks I need to get the end result, I also make sure I am comfortable. For me works just deciding to be mentally in a good space; othertimes taking the laptop in the park in the sun, or listening to some fun music. Somehow making the task fun.
@angellombness4371
11 ай бұрын
Dreamer/___ Don't think I'd move if it was a tough day w/o music.
@Tvj_films8452
11 ай бұрын
dreamer here. and it’s true. I procrastinate ALOT of things that I don’t enjoy.
@alishawheat
11 ай бұрын
"Do you know a dreamer?" Of course I know him. He's me. Couldn't resist the reference.
@boopsy4439
11 ай бұрын
Omg I relate to all of this. I'm not all in until it's "for sure a thing" I have a ton of ideas and dreams but struggle with follow through
@beecat9137
9 ай бұрын
Man, I feel so seen haha-- I'm a dreamer/healer and it sometimes feels like we're so underestimated/condescended to. Just because you grow older, doesn't mean you have to 'grow up' altogether, right? And no, that isn't an excuse to dodge responsibility or growth lol. (It doesn't help looking young either, although sometimes it works in favor 😅.) Thanks for the tips, ideas, reassurance that I...we matter in the world. Love this channel, along with Cinema Therapy. 😊
@CJ-hh3gx
11 ай бұрын
Can confirm. My ex is a dreamer and when he was in the zone, he was there. When he wasn't, it was like pulling teeth. I am a thinker first, dreamer second, and maybe a little bit of a closer hanging on the end. Sometimes, we would vibe and you could tell. Thank you for making these videos. We're still friends so this is still very useful information to me.
@timtheasianinc
11 ай бұрын
I'm a thinker, dreamer. Cuz my I'm always in my head... 😂😂😂😂
@angellombness4371
11 ай бұрын
Closer? I could understand Dreamer, Thinker, Healer. 😢 is Closer like Slitherin? 😅
@timtheasianinc
11 ай бұрын
@@angellombness4371 So Alicia is a Slytherin??? XD What's that make Jonno, A hufflepuff??? Lol =op
@raaghavsaxena1174
11 ай бұрын
18:07 - love the video, it's fantastic!! I did have one note here in that "chinese" is better represented as "cantonese" or "mandarin" (one of those two languages), and that "hindu" is the religion and "hindi" is the language (minor nit-pick, more as an explanation for knowledge and understanding!)
@Clau-chauNicol
11 ай бұрын
Ha, i think i might be a thinker/dreamer. I think often my thinker side will deprive my dreamer side of fun and enjoyment because for some reason my internal logic doesnt see fun as important. I think hearing from people who understand the logical value of fun and play has made my life a lot easier. I think its still hard letting go of that voice in my head that hates fun and relaxation, but when I give myself that time to enjoy myself Im starting to realise follow through (which i struggle with) got a lot easier... this really helped me pin that down
@jennacutts6788
Ай бұрын
I honestly think this knowledge of the personality types will change my life - recognising my own needs and the needs of those around me. Thank you so much Jono and Alicia! Keep up the great work ❤️
@akdollface007
9 ай бұрын
These personality traits marry up with the book “People’s Styles at Work”… Thinker = Analytical (upper left-hand quadrant), Healer = Amiable (lower left-hand quadrant), Closer = Driver (upper right-hand quadrant), and Dreamer = Expressive (lower right-hand quadrant). I like the construct you have - excellent ways of showing and telling. 🤩 1:29
@amy70717
3 ай бұрын
I'm a dreamer (and probably also a healer) and I've always been told to calm down or that I'm too sensitive, etc. This really helped me to better understand myself and why I respond to some things better than others, as well as what does and doesn't work for me in a relationship. I appreciate this!
@neoshadowdukeofgames8223
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for these!!!!! I loved hearing Jono say what dreamers need and I’m pretty sure that I’m a dreamer too.
@sunshine1110
11 ай бұрын
I'm a dreamer type (but also a planner due to historical reasons), so I can resonate with some of this stuff for sure! :D The need for fun or engage with something I enjoy is big for me unless it's something that absolutely has to get done becuse of my closer side. I ascribe to the "bee" description and "cheer people up" side. Thanks for this :)
@SynchrotizedPsychotherapist
11 ай бұрын
This is 💯 my husband! Thank you! I think he's a dreamer thinker and I'm a thinker healer 😅💚💖
@sn-tired-croissant
11 ай бұрын
thanks for your videos! they are very helpful! could you make a video about perfectionism? That would be really great :))
@cookie_with_jam
11 ай бұрын
My comment (quite long) disappeared 😭 I hope it was KZitem (though, why?) and not people who manage this channel who deleted it. Basically, I said there that I'm a dreamer type and that a lot of dreamer traits remind me of my ADHD (so I have mixed feelings, cause I haven't yet learned to manage my adhd well). I liked this video and I like your channel a lot, it helped me in the past. So I hope it was just a KZitem glitch.
@kelliehorn1082
11 ай бұрын
I'm so glad you guys are doing this series!
@mariaana6710
11 ай бұрын
Just My dreamer mind Thinking... Hogwarts houses in personality types: Slytherin: Closer Ravenclaw: Thinker and Dreamer Hufflepuff: Healer Gryffindor: Dreamer-Closer?
@angellombness4371
11 ай бұрын
Ravenclaw Thinker - knowledge Gryffindor Dreamer - courage - it's required to hold on to a dream or present it.
@mariaana6710
11 ай бұрын
@@angellombness4371 Yeah, I think they have of both... But this Dreamer needs the impulsive Nature of the Gryffindor, the need to go and sly Dragons. It's no fun, but they need to do it. For that, I put the Closer. To me, the questions is more for is Dreamer or Healer? The need to protect people is very Gryffindor too. And Ravenclaw have the creative people too, so they have the Dreamers as well, at least to me.
@secretlyadragon4723
11 ай бұрын
I wonder sometimes if I'm really a dreamer or if it's just my ADHD... because I identified really heavily with closer and healer personalities, more than dreamer. However, I'm an idea oriented person, everyone tells me I always come up with the best ideas and I'm always dreaming up new, creative ways to do things that I don't follow through with 90% of the time because I'm just dreaming. So that clicked with me but I wonder if that may just be my closer mind finding solutions for problems and it's not really me being a dreamer at all, or like I said, maybe it's my ADHD.
@BELillicious
11 ай бұрын
"I feel like you're not allowed to be upset because you're the happy one" is almost verbatim something my S.O. told me the other day >.
@ginaries2476
7 ай бұрын
This video was very healing for me. I'm a dreamer and healer in a family with thinkers and closers. I always thought that there was something wrong with me because I wanted to be treated and spoken to differently than everybody else. I wish my parents had known this information while I was growing up. Or for them to know it now... But I don't know if I can show them without them getting offended and defensive.
@signalfire15
11 ай бұрын
Jono stares so intensely lolol
@tarryp711
11 ай бұрын
My dreamer side has been squashed SO much, I don't know how to crawl out.
@Tvj_films8452
11 ай бұрын
Dreamer here. I gave up the love of my life because she wasn’t on board with all the crazy ideas and dreams I had.
@AlexandraCeana-ey7cd
3 ай бұрын
I observe how other types of personality, try to negociate how much fun, how much relaxed and not detailed oriented you are allowed to be. They think that we are just stupid kids that play and we are not down to earth. We are so detailed oriented and so down to earth when we love what we do-not what others want us to do -big difference (and we also fall into the trap of expectation of other types that theyr way it's a more responsible and down to earth way -its not -they only are used with this non fun way )
@RainbowSunshineRain
11 ай бұрын
Thank you, I feel finally validated. 🙏
@anandaceramicart6951
11 ай бұрын
OK guys I thought wtf am I every personality type? But no I'm not. I'm a dreamer at the core. But life made it hard to be only that so I had to pick up to be all the other ones as well.
@gianghoang7976
10 ай бұрын
I’m a healer and I have so much issues with my closer husband. He gets angry with me for not making decision fast enough. He is upset that I’m stopping him from doing what he wants
@dianaheilman5163
5 ай бұрын
I haven't been able to pin point my daughter's personality type. She's not a "healer" because she's not a caregiver type personality. She's not a closer (she'd be the first to admit her ADHD prevents her from being productive). She's not a dreamer because she's not extroverted. And she's not a thinker because she generally avoids reading directions, research, etc. about things. So she doesn't fit any of them. There should be a 5th personality type called, "Non conformist" who sticks to themselves, is introverted, hates parties/crowds, struggles with emotions, enjoys solitude, enjoys using their imagination, values humor and surface level connection but is uncomfortable with deeper connection. Can procrastinate or avoid responsibility, does better at just taking orders and having others' provide them structure, but making that structure their own (Not adhering to it completely, they like to know the rules only so they know how far they can bend them). Needs lots of reminders and focusing. Is in their own world until called upon to be present in the world around them. Not in a bad way but more in a "I'm my own best friend" type of way. Is not a joiner or a leader or a go getter or a doer or an initiator...but likes to be considered. It's very similar to thinker but not as productive or responsible. More go with the flow and laid back.
@amberts180
6 ай бұрын
It’s not my business but it seems obvious that they love each other very much but life changes people sometimes in different directions. Not better or worse just different. I am praying for those couples who are trying to figure it out.
@caty603
11 ай бұрын
I’m totally the dreamer. My daughter is also the dreamer. I love it! My husband grounds me for sure
@ventiristretto4885
11 ай бұрын
Amazing video, took notes all the way through
@Teddyiscute
11 ай бұрын
I’m a fan of the Myers-Briggs 16 personality types myself and the Enneagram types kinda make sense too. I feel like there’s probably overlap there like there’s probably four of the 16 for each of the more general categories.
@karissahammond4587
11 ай бұрын
I was also sorting through which mbti and enneagram types would most likely fit the dreamer category 😀
@Teddyiscute
11 ай бұрын
@@karissahammond4587 I think they’d be ESFP, ENFP, INFP and INFJ and type 4 but it could be up for debate. I’m an INTP & type 5 and have an actual daydreaming condition lmao but I’d say they’re more thinking types. But maybe daydreamer is my secondary type? I’d say I wing 4.
@melissatran7475
11 ай бұрын
I personally feel like they would be Ne users, in the way they see possibilities in everything and always are so hype about it, so enfp, entp, infp and intp?
@ellatomblin3001
5 күн бұрын
Same! Love both of those
@niahawk3678
9 ай бұрын
I'm a superclingy ADD-person, so an intense dreamer, my transfemale partner is an aspergers autist, so a very intense thinker.... we've been together for 7 years now and i still don't get how we sometimes make it work....but it involves a lot of talking and understanding each other.... and a little bit of therapy on the side. But man does it keep the whole thing entertaining... 😅
@anamaria-thecreativenerdd
8 ай бұрын
This is completely me. Thank you for this video 😊
@LadyfromVinyl
5 ай бұрын
What to do when you have two opposite types in yourelf? 😅 I watched all four descriptions and I found them very interesting. I mostly relate to being a dreamer-closer and I have adhd part for sure, good luck with that hahah It's been a cool feature for making art and enjoying adventures or trips, but sometimes it's a real struggle and I'm not even really sure what I want to do with myself :p
@sheradenart7907
5 ай бұрын
I have the crazy ideas but I am not an extrovert. I need to feel close to people to be fun with them.
@sheradenart7907
5 ай бұрын
my struggle isn't really detail it is more confidence that causes me to get stuck and let go of the dream. I get the idea that no one else thinks of, then my thinker side takes over, I do alot of research get the basic plan figured out but then when something gets in the way I get discouraged. I often give up or put it away til I can find the solution or build my confidence in some other way. I believe I am neurodivergent...but I lack the confidence to be a closer.
@sheradenart7907
5 ай бұрын
I don't really need someone to do the planning for me I just need someone to tell me "you got this". For instance I am a jewelry artist and have been trying to get to a point where I can sell my work online. I can design and make some really nice jewelry but when it comes to figuring out what to charge for my work I get stuck. It is lack of confidence not lack of ability. I need someone to believe in me enough so that I can feel good enough.
@missnaomi613
11 ай бұрын
Yup. I'm definitely a dreamer!
@daylhollenbeck3496
9 ай бұрын
First I would like to say thank you for all that you do. I have really enjoyed and benefited from your videos. I was wondering how I could find out more about these personality types. I would like to understand better so I can support and relate better to the people around me. Thanks
@mariaana6710
11 ай бұрын
I think I have all of them... except Closer. Dreamer maybe is my basis... I need to be creative and play with stories. And have difficulties to follow throw and the details. I can't be eight hours five days in a job. Just... No. And for years I feel ashamed for no being capable of doing that. But now yeah, I'm broke, but I have my niche and maybe I can live with that: online therapy and writing... I hope so.
@mariaana6710
11 ай бұрын
@@angellombness4371 I dream with having more Closer in me. I feel that I need it to going and living more.
@elsa3844
9 ай бұрын
Your wife is SO beautiful... You're funny 😊
@sarahd6081
11 ай бұрын
love it, and love both of you I would love to see you do the other types, I have troubles meeting the needs of some family members (that aren't prone to explanations or feely stuff... but I would love to be able to have a conversation where we can actually understand each other
@belove0705
11 ай бұрын
THANKS TO THE BOTH YOU !!!!! VERY MUCH NEEDED
@esther9433
9 ай бұрын
I'm more confused now because dreamers and thinkers are supposed to be opposites? I'm a loooot of both. I'm very creative and need fun in my life. I'm more introverted and extremely detail oriented. I plan things to always be 5 steps ahead and always looking at all kinds of posibilities. I'm definately not a closer but can you be a dreamer and a thinker? I think up stories nearly every night and day dream during any boring moment. I can be cold and calculated. So what am I supposed to be.
@derhak727
9 ай бұрын
im wondering the same thing because i fit in with both
@orionspero560
9 ай бұрын
It's interesting because I very much fit the dreamer as the primary according to what I assume was actually a version of your test though it wasn't from you directly. But I am also very much the introvert. I also have that very much more sort of flat effect externally, but also internally. I'm starting to wonder if I might have your terms wrong. Because that learn connect to reply with something. I couldn't even do as a child with my autism. And what I think of as a dreamer from what I thought was yours is the opposite of what I understood yours with the closer to be.
@quiddityocean
10 ай бұрын
I’m sorry if this has been requested before, but are there ressources about the healer/closer/dreamer/thinker system ? Every researches on line sent me to seemingly different systems. I would like this because my father read a book about another system but I found the categories to be very judgemental and though sometimes a good slap in the face can be useful it can also bring too much guilt, so I’d prefer the gentleler approach of the system you use
@nerissacrawford8017
9 ай бұрын
Can I be both a Dreamer and a Thinker? I think the two are enmeshed together for me.
@ElizabethMain-w5i
11 ай бұрын
I love this whole video, but Jono..... BLINK!! JUST BLINK!
@novarlevante
11 ай бұрын
Please do videos for Thinkers and Closures. :)
@mgold7503
11 ай бұрын
How do the personality categories relate to neurodivergence? Do autistic, adhd'rs, and yes tend to fall into certain categories?
@RenayOpish
11 ай бұрын
I feel like a large part of ‘dreamer’ category is also adhd.
@mgold7503
11 ай бұрын
@@RenayOpish and Thinker is autistic. I'm autistic. I would say I'm ⅓ healer and ⅔ thinker.
@angellombness4371
11 ай бұрын
Imagine all the misdiagnosis.
@fruityeva
11 ай бұрын
I'm a dreamer!!!😊
@cinnamoon1455
11 ай бұрын
I think I'm probably some kind of mix of dreamer with thinker and healer. And I do struggle with my mum who's definitely a closer and a healer. Put us in a situation with deadlines or the like and there we go 🫣😂
@derhak727
9 ай бұрын
maybe i dont have adhd.. maybe im just a dreamer. Can you be a thinker-dreamer? because i have strong attributes of both
@drlizb
11 ай бұрын
How do the four personality types present in an individual with autism? I’m a total THINKER (as are both my parents) however I don’t get along with my autistic sister. As a thinker, I try to solve her (multiple) problems, but she wants me to be a healer-which, for me, is the weakest of the four traits. And I can’t tell which of the four traits characterizes her!
@bencohen2422
11 ай бұрын
Please make a video about the anime Mushoku Tensei.
@debblouin
10 ай бұрын
I tested as a Thinker in the basic free test. I am not truly an introvert and I have a deeply creative side. I am ENTP in the Myers-Briggs and an iD in DiSC. Oh and I am an even split Red/Yellow in Color Code. I call myself a Cheerleader/Drill Instructor. Do you think the Thinker type fits?
@daykibaran9668
11 ай бұрын
….your light That made me laugh 😂
@katethegr8324
11 ай бұрын
Couldn't relate more
@Imsexysryurnot
11 ай бұрын
I'm a Dreamer / Thinker, a smaller amount Healer, but that might be more that my love language is primarily acts of service. My dad is 100% a Closer and it's been a struggle sometimes because one of his favorite quotes is "Finish Strong", and it's sometimes been a struggle because i can dream a thought, plan it out, start it, but finishing the plan is on occasion difficult. I've found myself taking breaks to bake, or dance, or read and detouring back. My mom is 100% a Dreamer.
@gabrielagLeon-um5ub
4 ай бұрын
Questions to support a dreamer: what can i do to support you, how about try this_________, or this is a life long opportunity for u to grow, what can we do about it today in order to help you on that path.
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