I had to pause on the fourth one and check the ages. He's 36, She's 22 and the post claims they were "childhood best friends". Thats a 14 year age gap. No way they were childhood best friends
@jennix8666
Ай бұрын
Exactly! He was 14 when she was born, that's not how Childhood best friends work... you kinda have to be kids at the same time
@DeliciousBoi
Ай бұрын
My best friend was 13 when I was born and she and I have known each other for a long time. I would say it counts.
@wingracer1614
Ай бұрын
Well, one of them was a child.
@niyakii6205
Ай бұрын
@@DeliciousBoichildhood best friends implies you were best friends in bothe your childhoods. it cannot apply in your position or in ops position.
@DeliciousBoi
Ай бұрын
@@niyakii6205 Since when? I've never heard anyone say that only two children can be childhood friends.
@TheBaffelio
Ай бұрын
Anyone who does pranks should know that being hit is a occupational hazard.
@dearrainfall846
Ай бұрын
It's literally playing stupid games, then they wonder what the prize is
@MrCoxmic
Ай бұрын
fafo
@untitled-gv3qp
Ай бұрын
And in the bathroom to top it off. This is actually the best case scenario for trying to scare people in the bathroom.
@HawaiianGamer
Ай бұрын
I understand that we would know this, but she was young, and probably didn't think of this as an outcome. Trust me, some just don't think that well ahead.
@curtisalex456
Ай бұрын
@@HawaiianGamer I did something similar to my elder brother (17 years old at the time) when I was 9/10 years old. I knew he could hit me. I got lucky. He punched and kicked the air. I threw the blanket at him and ran off!!!
@ellosurs3334
Ай бұрын
That's what abby gets. EVERYONE KNOWS when u decide to jump scare someone you need to beware of flight or fight.
@user-ut3jk7it6c
Ай бұрын
you are actually defending punching children... I reported you to reddit
@scxiao
Ай бұрын
Honestly I'm very surprised it doesn't happen more often
@einatorrr
Ай бұрын
well shes like 14, her parents need to teach her to tone it down lol
@ellosurs3334
Ай бұрын
@@einatorrr na that's just natural survival at least it was for me. Idk everyones different but tk if you play pranks on your friends or play outside you'd see a coupla punches thrown for scares
@WraythSkitzofrenik
Ай бұрын
I punched a guy in college who jumpscared me. He knew he had it coming so didn't make a stink.
@destinedtogame
Ай бұрын
Update to 1 Well this blew up big time. Let's address a few things. Abi's pranking nature isn't just situated on me, she has pulled pranks on her friends, the neighbors and at school. The school has called Judd several times about this as they have resulted in mild vandalism. The refrigerator prank: she was 11 when that happened not a grown teenager. It was a brand new and very large fridge that my uncle bought and showed it off to every one. So she climbed in until he opened it again. Judd yelled at her saying that she could have suffocated in there and took her outside to scold her for a few hours. The video it self: The video doesn't show the toilet at all just the shower curtain, however the issue still remains that this was a massive invasion of privacy. The video has been deleted and Abi has admitted it was purely her fault. The update: Its been a chaotic week, Judd still refused to elaborate on how the situation should have been handled. I showed the post as a result and she did a 180 turn. She suddenly thought it may be time to stage an intervention and I agreed. We brought some of her friends as well as my cousin's wife, Jess. Jess is an officer from another state and Abi seems to respect her. In this intervention we state how we were each affected by her various pranks and how in turn they affected her. Jess also spoke about how much of these pranks border on criminal territory, meaning she could be arrested or face "retaliation". It seemed to have gotten to her and Abi cried a bit and promised to do better. When everybody else left, Jess stayed behind and brought to our attention about a disciplinary camp that we could send her to. The program is 6 weeks long and involves group therapy, individual therapy and constructive projects (whatever that means), and is held at a University campus. The program apparently has good reviews. Judd seems dead set in sending her to figure out her core problems. I'm a little hesitant about sending a kid away from home but I'm the step parent so I got no say. Edit/Update: Ok I swear Judd must be following my posts because now she's taking back what she said and is now thinking about doing what I and you fellow Redditors suggested in the first place, weekly therapy. So we agreed that I'm gonna find a therapist and I'm gonna front the bill for it since she didn't take this seriously in the first place.
@that_one_girl_3123
Ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@darkmega24ify
Ай бұрын
I am so happy to hear this update. I'm glad OPs wife is reasonable, at least
@destinedtogame
Ай бұрын
@@that_one_girl_3123you're welcome. I'll try to post updates on stories when I can. Having a Pixel 8 Pro makes it so easy
@destinedtogame
Ай бұрын
@@darkmega24ifythe edit was such a joy to see
@darthhauler9947
Ай бұрын
Bless you for this post. Always enjoy getting more of the story
@AmsYourRave
Ай бұрын
Last story: OP is NTA. I was in OP's exact situation 4+ years ago. My social life died at 15-16 because I was expected to do more than just babysit my siblings (I was expected to dress the younger 2, make breakfast and lunch for all of them, make dinner at least 3-4 nights out of the week, and get them ready for bed). My only "free time" was when I went to school, where that was also the only socialization I got. That lasted even when I attended college and worked 3 jobs to pay for my own tuition. After all of that, my mom finally started saying, "I don't know why you don't leave the house and socialize with friends." What friends?? I had no life! So, to OP, don't allow your parents to walk all over you. You were right to stand up for yourself.
@tailsofchaos
Ай бұрын
Quite ironic for her to say that. Or rather any parent who says something like that. It's like they expect the oldest sibling to be responsible and take care of the family. I do understand to a degree on responsibility but not in this manner.
@Axel-zc6xj
Ай бұрын
My parents tried to get me to do this with other family members (nieces and nephews, I'm the youngest of 4). They would then go off and do whatever without me. I got fed up and finally told them 'no' and they flipped. They decided to ground me, at 16, and I just responded "Fine by me, you do realize you are forcing me to choose between going nowhere and going nowhere while doing a job I don't get paid for. Easy choice." My dad, however, had it click in his head what was going on and decided I shouldn't be grounded. Instead he told my siblings that if they want me to babysit, they would have to come to an agreement with me AND pay me. They all fought on it but my dad was adamant. My mother was simply speechless. Ultimately, they didn't want to pay, thus I never babysat again. And now they don't ever speak to me. Good riddance.
@CooperGal24
Ай бұрын
OP's parents" : Take care of the kids, OP. Also OP's parents: ONE DAY OFF!? STOP BEING SELFISH! YOU DON'T KNOW OR UNDERSTAND WHAT IT'S LIKE TO TAKE CARE OF A FAMILY! OP: ...But... I've been doing YOUR parental jobs and responsibilities ever since I can remember? Seriously, the HYPOCRISY, ENTITLEMENT and TOXICITY from OP's parents is DISGUSTING, especially since they're NOT even paying OP for parenting the kids that THEY brought into the world! Don't pull this "You're NOT a parent, so you DON'T understand!" BS crap when you're straight up shifting your parental duties onto your own kids for YEARS!
@Siwyenbast
Ай бұрын
What your parents and the OP's parents have done is called parentification, and it is straight up abuse. OP needs to call cps if this isn't resolved. I was also put in this situation, as the oldest daughter, when I was a kid, and it's not fun.
@black1917
Ай бұрын
@@tailsofchaos That's because their parenting plan IS the older sibling.
@pumpkinknight5732
Ай бұрын
Ho phase story. OP said he started dating again, and didn't mention being single in October, so... did she expect him to just break up with his girlfriend now that she was finally ready for him?
@ancientsociety79
Ай бұрын
Yep. Modern women want to ho around and have beta orbiters on their beck and call when they need something more. It's why so many men are dropping out of the dating market
@dylanmacneill8128
Ай бұрын
I think by "dating" they're referring to casual dates/ hookups, but yea you'd think she would get the hint that he's moved on and doesn't wanna be her fall back choice after she slept with every Tom Dick and Harry she could find the rest of summer
@jazzichured5796
Ай бұрын
@@dylanmacneill8128I think since they were both dating/having casual hookups she didn’t care since she was doing the same. She may have thought that they were in an agreement that at the end of the summer they would get together. The situation is very messy
@silverflight01
Ай бұрын
Story 3: So it's okay for them to disrespect OP, but it's not okay for OP to return the energy because he had enough with their BS. There isn't any respect going around from either side, so it's probably time to split so the wife can continue having dinners with her family without having to ditch OP every time
@user-ut3jk7it6c
Ай бұрын
>older woman, guy moved for her, is weak and complaining that's some feminine energy - no way she respects that
@thespider2566
Ай бұрын
Yeah, I'd have zero respect for any of them either if I was OP. It's the effect of how he's been treated.
@cynister7384
Ай бұрын
@@user-ut3jk7it6c Bro what
@fluffy_memers
Ай бұрын
@@user-ut3jk7it6cbruh that has nothing to do with feminine energy and masculine energy, this has everything to do with a toxic wife who thinks her husband is a buzzkill. It’s like she is still in her partying phase and has not grown at all since then. A marriage is a partnership and she needs to put in as much effort as he does in the relationship. Get out of here with that red pill BS! You know that the red pill mindset perpetuates the problem of toxic masculinity. Men and women have their strengths and weaknesses. Men have their mental problems and physical and so do women. What matters is that both are addressed in a way that helps them both to become better people. The red pill mindset does not help anything, in fact, it makes it worse.
@doodlefawn4742
Ай бұрын
@user-ut3jk7it6c please go spend your money on something other than alpha male scammers
@faeriefire78
Ай бұрын
A "midlife crisis"?! He was in his early 30's and hooking up with a teenager. He groomed her before that. He cheated on his wife for years with the child her parents trusted him to babysit. They expect her to just be chill with this? What planet are these people from? I guess they hope she'll bury all this so everyone can pretend it's not that bad. I really want to know what the girl's parents have to say.
@vanzy01
Ай бұрын
💯👍🏿
@pizzahero1826
Ай бұрын
“Oh look. It’s a talking garbage can. Hey Oscar.” 😂🤣🤣
@BadassHater1
Ай бұрын
Hey! Don't you dare compare Oscar the Grouch to this vile harpy!
@legoman5491
Ай бұрын
Yeah I reacted with happy shock
@Thedragonlover95
Ай бұрын
Now that is the most funniest response
@giancarloc1985
Ай бұрын
Lmao if OP is on here, I'm stealing that. I'm sorry. 💀 🤣 🤣 🤣
@RisingRevengeance
Ай бұрын
A 36 year old can't have a 22 year old childhood friend. Like man your childhood was already over when hers started.
@d.phantomfan1216
Ай бұрын
Story 3: OP what about your wife is keeping you in this relationship because she and her family treat you like crap. They tell you to get ready then ditched you, but when you eat without them, they get so offended that they just insult you as a response, and when you clap back MIL is crying, SIL has her hands up as if that’s supposed to mean anything, and your wife tried to gaslight you. My dude find people that at least act like they like you, this isn’t even normal. My spouse won’t stand up for me, your wife treat you the words out of all of them.
@ZombieSazza
Ай бұрын
That’s exactly the question I’m asking; OP, what about your wife is keeping you in your relationship? Can you see your relationship improving? Can you see your in-laws respecting you in the future? Does your wife make you happy? The guy needs a divorce yesterday, his wife is miserable and treats him like garbage, his in-laws treat his home like a hotel and despise his mere presence.
@Robin93k
19 күн бұрын
I'm certain that OPs like that MUST be gold diggers~ Based on their activities, his wife's family sounds rich rich, and he's just trying to get access to these riches via marriage. Because there is absolutely 0 love here.
@jennix8666
Ай бұрын
How can you possibly be "Childhood friends" with someone that wasn't even born when you were a child? The husband is creepy and disgusting and the family making excuses for him is disgusting as well
@lorilancaster5917
Ай бұрын
Yeah I wouldn’t call the fact that they knew of each others existence while minors as childhood friends. He babysat her for crying out loud!
@DoctorOaks
Ай бұрын
I don't think there's an issue with calling them childhood friends since the reason they are is their families being extremely close. It'd be kind of like if you later became friends with your friend's baby sister. What's absolutely inexcusable though is using your position in that person's life as a trusted person and pseudo authority figure to groom them into going out with you when they turn 18.
@niyakii6205
Ай бұрын
@@DoctorOaksno no. childhood friends implies you were both friends in childhood and shared a childhood. hubby was a teenager when she was born. they didnt share a childhood. they are not childhood friends on the very basis that hubby had already gone through his childhood and was in his teenage years.
@DoctorOaks
Ай бұрын
@@niyakii6205 No, if you'd ever had parents who were very close friends with another family you'd know that basically being told "You guys need to get along now and be friends" is not an uncommon occurrence even if there's a big age gap like that. Although it'd be more like a big brother role than friends. What's NOT common is using that to groom a child
@Richard_Nickerson
Ай бұрын
@@DoctorOaks It's still the wrong description
@5210smile
Ай бұрын
You can't have a "childhood best friend" that is 14 years younger than you. You aren't even really children at the same time. She's closer in age to his kids.
@neurosisslav405
Ай бұрын
😊
@jadediquattro5355
Ай бұрын
Forcing your Child to Parent your other children is Child Abuse 4.5 out of 5, not 2.5
@bubblesdarke5226
Ай бұрын
Exactly. Parentification is 100% abuse.
@k4l728
Ай бұрын
Currently the ratings being given mostly seem to be either an over or under reaction. The 5/5 on the other one is correct tho
@AreesDaOG
Ай бұрын
Agreed
@lostshadows768
Ай бұрын
5 out of 5
@qdllc
Ай бұрын
Agreed. Having kids bear SOME responsibilities is acceptable because it’s an opportunity to learn important skills and how to be responsible, but standing in place of a parent regularly is abuse.
@NoviLeigh
Ай бұрын
"Childhood friend" is how you describe someone you went to school with, not someone you babysat.
@akl2k7
Ай бұрын
My guess is she isn't a native speaker.
@teslagod7221
Ай бұрын
Not exactly, i think childhood friendship is around 10yrs gap, plus a matter of how the friendship works. Like, a 20yo having 12yo gaming friend or 20yo being friend to a sibling of his actual friend... On that story, that's not childhood friendship, it's grooming, and very disgusting and evil...
@Mewse1203
Ай бұрын
Grooming story: "Some believe I should forgive him for the sake of our kids." Yo, what? This dude is OBVIOUSLY a child predator. The best thing for the kids is to stay completely away from him.
@maagi1
Ай бұрын
18 years old is a child?
@Mewse1203
Ай бұрын
@@maagi1 did you miss the part where he was grooming her as a child?
@chere100
Ай бұрын
@@maagi1 He was grooming her before 18. He started doing adult stuff with her after she turned 18 (as far as we know, maybe he started before that). Edit: Also, I do kind of see eighteen as being a child, and would be delighted if the legal age of almost everything was moved to twenty. Marriage, war, drinking, etc.
@cheerytears
Ай бұрын
@@maagi1ignoring the fact that OP said he had been grooming her for years, implying that it begun BEFORE she turned 18
@maagi1
Ай бұрын
@@cheerytears OP didn't say what he said to "groom" her.
@erikagehm2805
Ай бұрын
Jump scaring is so dangerous. You don't know if they have a medical problem that can make it no longer a prank, or if the person is a soldier with PTSD problems.
@rainfallen7574
Ай бұрын
My PTSD will legit cause me to have a full blown meltdown. Along with the fact that if touch is involved, I have sensory issues and I'm touch averse so unless I initiate or allow it first, touching me freaks me out. Jump scare me and touch me from behind my back is a good way to get hit by someone HELLA dissociating and shriveling into a ball. Better hope my inhaler is nearby too because asthma attack may happen too
@erikagehm2805
Ай бұрын
@rainfallen7574 PTSD is no joke. I hope you are getting counseling and healing. Sending you good vibes and prayers.
@LeftLefttheGecko
Ай бұрын
That last story sounds like a classic case of parentification to me.
@ojrmk1
Ай бұрын
Yup. And that's child abuse.
@kariusblood-drinker9862
Ай бұрын
I dont even need to see the first one to know after he said prank when anyone gets scared instinct takes over and its FAFO at that point
@myopinion69420
Ай бұрын
exactly, we have all seen videos of people jumping out of stuff at people and getting decked, its just a matter of time before it happens to you if you do that sort of shit.
@Ryzen776
Ай бұрын
Rule number 1 of making a prank: Don't be in punching distance.
@r-polar5009
Ай бұрын
Yeah. I once punched a guy in the stomach because I was already scared (had a spider in my hair) and he decided to scare me even more. I didn't know what I was doing until I did it. I just reacted.
@GrifoStelle
Ай бұрын
The only time I've been punched was when I hid behind floor-length drapes. I didn't get punched too hard, but I was forbidden from hiding behind drapes. We laugh about it now because I stopped
@akl2k7
Ай бұрын
Not to mention, it sounds like he was filmed while using the loo. Not at all a good look for the stepdaughter. It's a pretty gross violation of privacy.
@Wendy_O._Koopa
Ай бұрын
*Wife:* "Is everyone stressed out and quiet because of that rude, boring, BUZZKILL!? Don't let that fat piece of garbage (with an s) ruin your day!" *Husband:* "Oh look it's a talking garbage can." *Wife:* "How could you even _think_ such a thing? You can't talk to people like that! You've gone and made my mother cry because of how rude you've been, completely unprompted!"
@PressAtoJ
Ай бұрын
Story 3: I was married for almost 10 years. My divorce is finalizing next week. It's not so bad, OP. Better than what you're doing now, I promise. Story 4: Grooming a child isn't a midlife crisis, it's a felony. I refuse to believe she is the only child he's been a danger to
@d.phantomfan1216
Ай бұрын
Last story: your parents don’t know how the balance work and family either, they only focus on their jobs while leaving you to do the actual family stuff. You want one night to be your age and I couldn’t give you that because they have more kids than they could handle. What you said wasn’t mean it was true, they just didn’t want to hear the truth.
@lorilancaster5917
Ай бұрын
I hope OP read these comments and have spoken to a counselor or CPS about this. Mommy wants to play the “you don’t know how to balance work and kids” card. Like you’ve said, she hasn’t balanced anything and dumped what she could on OP.
@jeraldbottcher1588
Ай бұрын
Yep "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH"
@dracko158
Ай бұрын
Story 3: NTA. THEY were the ones being disrespectful to OP, why are THEY acting like OP is the AH here? They came live at your house for a few days, disrespecting the person who allowed you to stay there is the last thing you should do. And Your wife too, jesus, she is just an uncaring AH. Just divorce already, you are very miserable right now.
@scpfoundation8376
Ай бұрын
I literally just heard the first story in Secretvoices. There’s actually an update to it. Several people told OP to make sure he has a lawyer just in case SD tries to paint a different story. Judd still refused to elaborate until OP showed her the thread. Cue, Judd doing a 180 and immediately jumping to sending Abi to a rehabilitation camp.
@randomloseranddull1560
Ай бұрын
heard that one earlier on Secretvoices as well and someone posted the rest in the comments, i do know creators tend to make a bunch of videos ahead of time so it's possible RSlash recorded this one before those updates
@stunfire
Ай бұрын
Story 3: the wife murdered the marriage, op did everything he was supposed to do before their marriage died. The wife is at least a 2/5 for not standing up for op even ONCE.
@Robin93k
19 күн бұрын
There was absolutely 0 love displayed from either side. I bet he's a gold digger.
@JadeCowen
Ай бұрын
last story, as op is only 15, it wouldn't be safe for her to start demanding things and going on strike, we have no idea how the parents would react, she is stuck with them for another 3 years. best recommendation is to speak to a trusted adult in this case, not take matters into her own hands. op is just a kid.
@lorilancaster5917
Ай бұрын
Exactly. She needs to strictly move among the shadows
@Janjones7735
18 күн бұрын
Nah, these parents don’t have time to punish her. She could also tell her school. Or she can just start with negligence. “Oh, sorry I put the wrong soap in the dishwasher/washer. Oh, we all got to school late this week because I was rushed.” You can follow the rules and just not be good at it and still win.
@maieen2665
Ай бұрын
*First OP:* _OP:_ "I have a wife named Judd." _rSlash:_ "I don't like that name. I'll call her Judy." Lol Anywho, OP just reacted to his fight or flight response, and he decided to fight to Abi's misfortune. Also, how is OP supposed to react with caution when someone surprised him from behind while he was in a vulnerable position? OP is NTA. If Abi wants to prank OP, then she should place googly eyes on random objects. *Second OP:* I normally don't like this argument, but if the genders were reversed, OP's decision not to date their friend because they wanted to get their 🐓 wet before "settling" with OP, then OP's feelings would have been justified (rightfully so). I believe the same should apply in this case. OP is NTA. *Third OP:* Does OP's wife even _like_ OP? Does OP even like his wife? I know it's a Reddit cliche, but they should probably divorce. OP is NTA. *Fourth OP:* This sounds worse than an affair. I wonder what Emily's family thinks about this. OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* If it isn't good ol' parentification. And bonus Older Sister Syndrome. Why couldn't OP's parents use the money from her mom's promotion to hire a babysitter? OP is NTA.
@thegameplayer125
Ай бұрын
so how long until op 3 realizes that their marriage is dead considering him being constantly excluded is a message that the wifes family will never accept him as family and she is perfectly okay with it. the quicker the marriage ends the happier everybody will be
@wolcek
Ай бұрын
Last story: "family comes first" unless mummy needs to work late.
@PennyAfNorberg
23 күн бұрын
on a saturday.....
@no-one3804
Ай бұрын
When my husband started expecting our eldest to watch his siblings I went to the eldest an told him you don’t do this without pay even if it’s only for an hour. Sometimes it was money and other times it was takeout. They weren’t asking her to be family, they were expecting her to be the third parent.
@ChristopherCapersJones
Ай бұрын
"Oh look, it's a talking garbage can. Hey Oscar!" I'm using that line. I've officially stolen this line.
@vanzy01
Ай бұрын
💯👍🏿
@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902
Ай бұрын
Second story: NTA. Honestly, she didn't considered how OP would feel after being left out. Also, what did she expect? That unlike her, OP would save himself for her all the summer? I say OP dodged a bullet.
@jamilahzahirahhadid
Ай бұрын
A prank makes this totally different and I’m grateful it was instinctual. My great uncle David, a genuinely violent man, broke my fathers nose when he was a little boy, slammed me on my back and pulled my hair, and is believed to have given great grandma the pillow before stealing her belongings…. When I hear of relatives breaking others noses, I always think of big scary David.
@ThingInTheHall
Ай бұрын
Can we get a "fuck David, he sucks" chain?
@Blackholesoul26
Ай бұрын
Story 2: I think during the first conversation, i would gave said "Listen, i understand you want to enjoy yourself. But understand that if you go down this road, you are broadcasting to the world that you'd rather have many partners than go out with me. I'm not going to give you an ultimatum because that's shitty. But understand that if you choose this, don't expect me to wait around while you potentially sleep around with lord knows how many people. I'm noy comfortable heing anyones second choice."
@TheBoogerJames
Ай бұрын
That conversation is completely unnecessary. Not his fault she's too much of a 304 to understand. That guy dodged a bullet cuz if he got with her, she'd continue taking advantage of him emotionally. I've had a girl tell me she didn't want to be exclusive because she wanted to keep fooling around and she was smart enough to know that was the end of the relationship. This girl just seems super narcissistic.
@onyxdragon1179
Ай бұрын
Story 1: NTA. As a prankster, you gotta accept that people are not predictable - especially if the prank causes the person to fear for their safety. Most people might resort to flight, but as is the case with OP some will resort to fight... Hopefully, OP's stepdaughter learns to stick to more harmless pranks, and his wife comes around to accepting he wasn't the one at fault.
@monkeybench
Ай бұрын
Story 1: "more caution" I don't care if you're a man, woman, young, old. If something is moving where it shouldn't, swing and aim for the bleachers. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Step-daughter won the Grand Prize at the summer fair in my hometown of Fuggaroun in Fineout.
@nekoloons4844
Ай бұрын
Last story isn't even a moral dilemma. It's literally illegal. Not only is parentification a form of child abuse but in this story she doesn't even get paid or a rest.. Child abuse is enough for at LEAST 3/5 aholes but with how little time and respect they give her and just HOW much time she's forced to work, they deserve 5/5 no dubt.
@RandomTrinidadian
Ай бұрын
Story 1: NTA Abby played the stupid game and won the stupid prize.
@d.phantomfan1216
Ай бұрын
Story 4: he cheated on you with a girl, he knew since she was four and there are people actually defending him saying you overreacted? OK I get it. They don’t want you to leave him because they know when the divorce proceeding start everything comes out. Anyone that is actually trying to downplay all of this is a predator themselves, or enable this man to the point, they’re trying to underplay everything he does. But they’re at least smart enough to know if you divorce him it comes out and the police will get involved. Worst case scenario he goes to jail, or best case he’s a social outcast that will never recover. And you will get full custody, and waited until she was barely legal to sleep with her. No judge in their right mind is going to let this man around those kids.
@wingracer1614
Ай бұрын
He's not going to any jail unless it got physical before she was 18. Not trying to defend him, just making you aware of the realities. Grooming on it's own is not illegal. It's only illegal if it was done to sleep with a minor. As long as he waited until she was 18, he's in the clear legally.
@d.phantomfan1216
Ай бұрын
@@wingracer1614 that’s a BS loophole, he’s been doing it since since she was around 4.
@wingracer1614
Ай бұрын
@@d.phantomfan1216 Yes it is but it's true. It is not illegal to talk to a 4 year old. It is not illegal to get them presents. It only becomes illegal if those things were done to get them in bed so to speak while a minor. If he waited until she was 18, there is nothing to charge him with. Should there be something he could be charged with? My opinion is yes but there isn't.
@d.phantomfan1216
Ай бұрын
@@wingracer1614 oh I believe you, but still.
@this_is_a_tiny_town
Ай бұрын
OP: I decided to relieve myself ME: Oh no, where's this going?! Ah, okay, okay. He just needed a piss
@Wendy_O._Koopa
Ай бұрын
Yeah, that was a very... "interesting" word choice there.
@jasonhammond4301
Ай бұрын
@@this_is_a_tiny_town as an American, maybe I'm missing some cultural context for these comments, but it seems this was an American story on an American KZitem channel. In America, the phrase "relieving oneself" only means to urinate.
@this_is_a_tiny_town
Ай бұрын
@@jasonhammond4301 well it means that here too, but I did briefly think it was alluding to a 'five knuckle shuffle', if you catch my drift?
@Richard_Nickerson
Ай бұрын
@@Wendy_O._Koopa It's actually pretty common 🤨
@Richard_Nickerson
Ай бұрын
@@jasonhammond4301 Agreed
@silverflight01
Ай бұрын
Story 4: He groomed Emily, and then actually started the affair when she turned 18, and it's apparently "not that serious"? Gimmie a break here, the cheating alone is already serious enough! Divorce is definitely in order here
@YourXavier
Ай бұрын
And he used a family-like relationship for the grooming. Get those children away from him.
@TheHQZombie
Ай бұрын
Yeah that's why I hate when people use the argument that they are close to 18 so it's not ped behavior disregarding the fact that peds eye them up well before 18
@hobbitguy1420
Ай бұрын
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: it’s only a prank if it’s from the Pranque region of “everyone involved is laughing and nobody got hurt,” otherwise it’s just sparkling bullying.
@Courtney.Phillips
Ай бұрын
Last story, you are a parent to your siblings. You are giving up your entire childhood for your parents. It's not your job to raise your siblings
@Josh_the_jester
Ай бұрын
OP was being selfish, but selfish does always equates being greedy or entitled, OP sacrifice his social life and childhood so his parents could financially provide for his 4 siblings
@rubybishop8749
Ай бұрын
Story 1: NTA. Though he's extremely lucky he didn't one punch her. There are many recorded cases of 1 punch to the head killing someone.
@BVBGirl-3313
Ай бұрын
That's why you don't prank people like that
@vespernight4236
Ай бұрын
Yeah, a broken nose is rough, but a bathroom has LOTS of hard edges/surfaces. If she had been knocked back/into the sink edge, the toilet seat edge, bathtub rim, metal towel rack ect there could've been a MUCH more serious injury. It doesn't take too hard of a fall to do some serious brain damage. That and the fact that op clarified that she also hid inside a fridge to scare her uncle, which is also super dangerous. Op said they're looking to get her into therapy, and I hope she's able to learn that this sort of reckless behavior could lead to really dangerous consequences.
@Julian-ge3kl
Ай бұрын
For the last Story. The parents deserve at least a 4/5. What they are doing is called Parentification. It’s a form of child abuse, where a child is put in the position of a parent by rearing, feeding, clothing, teaching, etc. While not being allowed to participate in their own childhood. I’d actually consider 5 out of 5. Child abuse is not okay, period.
@Kati_P
Ай бұрын
Story 2: If you're going on a 'date' with a guy to discuss your possible future relationship, maybe don't start talking about all of the 'dates' you've been on over the past few months. Most women aren't impressed with men who start talking about their sexual conquests. I don't think most men appreciate that kind of 'bragging' either. Story 4: Yeah, I just found out that a friend of the family, who's in her 30's, is currently several months pregnant by a kid who turned 16 last month. She was 'good friends' with his mom. He's already on hard drugs and has inappropriately grabbed at least one girl, that I know of, at school. She also just got bonded out for child neglect of her 3 existing children. So, yeah, pedos come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and genders. Educate and protect your children to the best of your abilities. They need to know that predators like this exist and how to identify predatory behavior, and, as a parent, so do you.
@raarasunai4896
Ай бұрын
Story 2: Yeah, I saw this one on another video and the KZitem comments, not the Reddit comments, were calling him out on “slut shaming” her. He did not shame her. She used the words “hoe phase.” She said straight up she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. He had the self respect to say “No, I’m not going to be your back up option. You know I feel something for you, and you’re making the decision to party it up. That’s a boundary for me, and that means it’s over between us.” This is not a man shaming a woman. This is a man who has a backbone and respect for himself, something too many men lack these days
@justinebidulopoutchini9774
Ай бұрын
@@raarasunai4896 cause saying she got « ran through » isn’t slut shaming?
@KEVBOYMUSIC
Ай бұрын
Meh, it's the couple times that he said something along the lines of "she chose to get run through instead of starting a relationship with me." Definitely give the slut shaming vibe.
@ancientsociety79
Ай бұрын
@@KEVBOYMUSIC no, it doesn't
@KEVBOYMUSIC
Ай бұрын
@@ancientsociety79 lol if calling a woman "run through" isn't slut shaming then nothing is.
@shakylahglover9386
Ай бұрын
@@KEVBOYMUSIC agreed.
@luringash5994
Ай бұрын
Story 1: "It's just a prank bro" The Prank: Fake home invasion
@TreJohnson03
Ай бұрын
I don’t think r slash realizes how hard divorce is.
@wingracer1614
Ай бұрын
It's easier than living with someone that has zero respect for you and that you don't respect. Life is too short for that.
@cfredtmbg
Ай бұрын
Often it’s justified, but sometimes people on Reddit or rslash see it as an easy answer rather than actually trying to work out an issue. It’s a lot easier when you’re not the one upending your life.
@acrandal
Ай бұрын
I've gone through it. Even if the marriage is already in very bad shape, it can still be a horrible and life altering experience. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. That said, it's also the right choice for couples at times. Unless the wife is radically different when the in-laws aren't around, that husband is living in a situation that is just soul crushingly awful. Give individual and couples therapy angry, but be aware that from this story, they're not in a healthy relationship and so it should end if it cannot be made better by BOTH people investing effort in fixing it.
@rileygraves2748
Ай бұрын
lol, I need to submit this one, so it can get read. My grandpa was ticklish; he’s the ticklish where he swings when tickled. My brother and I both got it from him. My grandma,his wife, knew this. So one day we’re sitting at a family lunch, and grandma comes up behind me and puts her hands on my shoulders (very ticklish) and I reflexively punch her in the face. I was the scapegoat, so I brace for the entire family to be angry. Instead, before I can even apologize, they’re lecturing her that she should know better. THE NEXT WEEK it happened again. I punched her so hard she stumbled back, tripped over the couch, and flipped head over heels onto the floor. The family went into emergency mode, and checked for broken bones. After they made sure she was ok, My golden child aunt asked “did you learn your lesson this time?”
@wildridegaming874
Ай бұрын
2nd story shouldve gone with "na not until winter because Im currently on my player phase."
@lazersend
Ай бұрын
I wonder what her reaction would be to that lol
@stepitup25
Ай бұрын
The prank: That’s what you get! When you see an intruder is in your house, it’s fight or flight at that point. Dude got the jump on someone he viewed as an intruder. I guess the stepdaughter thought he would choose flight lol
@nutty77
Ай бұрын
Lol when my partner was younger, he'd been watching horror films with his mates, then walked home through the woods, walked nto a tree and panicked. He lashed out, punched and kicked the tree, He got home, told his dad he'd been 'jumped', He honestly thought he had been jumped. Police investigated, found the poor tree, and my partner never lived it down.😅😅
@dinlupus3196
Ай бұрын
your partner is funny lol
@nutty77
Ай бұрын
@@dinlupus3196 he hasn't changed 🙄😁
@cosmictraveler1146
Ай бұрын
Poor tree lmao
@FerventLotus
Ай бұрын
First story. I once jump scared my husband coming out of the closet, and in reflex, he punched me square in the boob. I was laughing and clutching my chest, knowing that I deserved it, and that it was reflex.
@mntwins28
Ай бұрын
Last story- No, the parents get at least 4 out 5 buttholes. They're using their oldest child and don't care about her or her wants. You let them off too easily at 2.5 In regards to the groomer story, authorities need to be made aware of him. That is sick, disgusting behavior
@ArcanineEspeon
Ай бұрын
Dámn that's just how AITA be sometimes. You read the title, go "wow OP is a monster" and 5 minutes later go "yeah he actually kinda had an okay reason for breaking his kid's nose."
@d.phantomfan1216
Ай бұрын
Story 2: look you’re young you wanna have some fun before you settle down all that’s fine, she wouldn’t be the first person in the world. But the unrealistic expectation that someone is going to just wait for you while you’re with other people is pretty disrespectful to the person you claim to be with. She doesn’t get to demand you go out with her and now that she done getting her rock off, and the fact she addressed it talking about all the guy she slept with it’s so deaf and stupid.
@justinebidulopoutchini9774
Ай бұрын
@@d.phantomfan1216 that op had some intel terminology in his post. « Run through », like really dude???
@izraelburgess937
Ай бұрын
@@justinebidulopoutchini9774true but he’s also not wrong in his motive .
@EpicNoob99
Ай бұрын
@justinebidulopoutchini9774 and she called it her hoe phase. So what's the issue here. He was still friendly towards her, he just didn't want to be the backup plan.
@justinebidulopoutchini9774
Ай бұрын
@@izraelburgess937 I agree about that. I would probably have chose the same if the situation happened to me. But I wouldn’t take it on the other person. All I’m saying is that maybe they both dodged a bullet.
@KEVBOYMUSIC
Ай бұрын
@@justinebidulopoutchini9774 Yeah "run through" is definitely rough
@havokdr3d535
Ай бұрын
The disrespect from the step family and wife just gave me dejevu thats exactly how my girlfriends family treat her especially the you could've asked line
@hmspretender
Ай бұрын
Last Story: That's called parentification and it IS abuse. OP needs to understand this and tell her parents that their children are their responsibility and not hers, and give them 1 week to find other arrangements. Tell them that she will no longer be taking responsibility for the younger children and if they dump them on her again she'll leave or lock herself in her room and it'll be on them if anything happens. And OP should tell them that she'll tell people about their abuse as well as she's tired of them stealing her childhood to make their (the parents) lives easier.
@rebeccajesse4604
Ай бұрын
“Friend zone” - dude you handled that beautifully. You get majors kudos from me and you definitely know your worth. Keep it up!
@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603
Ай бұрын
That wasn't rlly a friend zone though, not to mention OP sounds like misogynist. However, I will say that her expecting that of him and then getting upset at him is just... Gross. They both should of communicated more.
@stuartwalker9597
Ай бұрын
@@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603 ah yes the I like you too but before we date I’m going to sleep around and have you as a back up… if genders were reversed you would want to crucify the bloke for doing that
@rebeccajesse4604
Ай бұрын
@@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603 I don’t see how he was being misogynistic personally. I would not like to be told that someone wants to play around all summer so they don’t want to date me right now, but they would pick me up in the fall. That just feels degrading to me. He felt the same way so he put her in the friend zone (I didn’t mean she put him in the friend zone). He just sees her as a friend as he isn’t looking for that behavior in a partner. Now if he said he broke up with her because she told him about a wild summer she had before they even considered or talked about dating then I could see some misogyny. But that wasn’t the situation so I think he handled it well. He didn’t blame her for making her choice (because she had every right to do that), he just didn’t want to wait around.
@ficialintelligence1869
Ай бұрын
(Childcare): What do OPs parents think will happen when she moves out at 18 years old? Will they just adultify the next oldest sibling?
@lorilancaster5917
Ай бұрын
They’ll likely do everything they can to try and make OP dependent on them to where OP can’t have an exit strategy
@wingracer1614
Ай бұрын
Yep and probably add a new baby for the second oldest to care for.
@lorilancaster5917
Ай бұрын
@@ficialintelligence1869 I’m thinking they’ll try to create a dependency with OP to where she feels like she cannot leave once she’s old enough
@ficialintelligence1869
Ай бұрын
@@lorilancaster5917 Luckily, OP has already turned to Reddit, and people who have been in similar situations are most likely advising her on "no contact" and "exit strategies." Even though there are lots of trolls out there, I am continuously surprised (in a good way) by the acts of emotional support and kindness on Reddit.
@Urrarg
Ай бұрын
Story 4: They aren't "childhood friends". This isn't someone he grew up with, she was 4 when he became an adult. When she was 16 he was 30. She might be the daughter of his childhood friend, but she is not his childhood friend. People think he's a predator because he is one. Whoever think that "isn't that serious" needs to be blocked because screw them and their gaslighting.
@taylorfrench6722
Ай бұрын
Story 4: Why does she keep saying "childhood friend" when there's a 14-year age gap between them? He would've been 14 when she was born, and she would've been 4 when he became an adult. Even if nothing perverted is happening here (which I doubt), it's weird to call a young adult and a toddler "childhood friends". When I was a kid, the largest age gap between myself and any of my friends was 2, maybe 3 years because any wider and it's more difficult to relate to them on top of a power imbalance emerging. Even as a young teacher who had students last year who were only 10-12 years younger than me, I'm certainly friendly towards my students and have even gotten close with some of them and gained their trust, but I'd never consider them friends because that removes a professional boundary.
@akl2k7
Ай бұрын
I get the feeling she isn't a native speaker.
@this_is_a_tiny_town
Ай бұрын
I didn't play a prank on my buddy when we were in our early twenties, but one time when I was driving and he was the passenger I farted so bad that his instinct was to punch me on the arm. I was too busy laughing to be upset lol
@randomthoughts6680
Ай бұрын
Story 1: once I tried to scare my mom by hiding behind a door when I was 5, it was evening. As she came inside she thought I had already gone to play in my room so she didn't expected to be me screaming "boo" because I wasn't a prankster and she doesn't get scared easily. SHE ALMOST PUNCHED MY FACE FULL FORCE and she only managed to stop because she saw me and has a lot of self-discipline (she is a former martial artist) and told me to NEVER try to scare her again because we don't live in the safest neighborhood. NTA, it's even justified that he didn't saw her.
@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902
Ай бұрын
Third story: NTA. Why OP married this woman? She lets her family insult him and actually backs them up. If they don't divorce soon one of them is going to unalive the other sooner or later.
@d.phantomfan1216
Ай бұрын
Story 1: you didn’t mean to hit her you meant to hit what you thought was the intruder hiding in the bathroom. I can’t see a scenario where the prank would’ve gone right, even if you didn’t know it’s her shadow and she popped out as you were taking a leak, you probably would’ve Accidentally went on her. Of course this is why you don’t pull pranks in the bathroom, and I do hope Adi is okay and learns from this. Also, I think your wife is upset at you for punching her, but knows she can’t be because it’s not your fault. That’s why she telling you you should’ve done something different, but doesn’t actually know what you should’ve done differently.
@rebeccajesse4604
Ай бұрын
Jump scare: I had a friend whose reactions to being scared was punching. When we went through haunted houses we always held both her hands so she didn’t accidentally hurt someone. One time someone was like “aww you’ll be okay” to my friend because they thought she needed support due to needing her hands held. She was like, “yeah but the scary thing may not be”.
@DarkEinherjar
Ай бұрын
Last story: this is parentification, and it's abuse. NTA
@Liliana-ek2zp
Ай бұрын
Look. I have a rule I give myself when joking around with my family (we play scare pranks) the rule is "terrify? Catch the hands". Case in point, my cousin once, when I was five, scared me at Halloween by pretending to be ghost face and chase me around my Aunt's house. I had just watched scream and was terrfied. He got kicked in the groin. He was not mad because he knew the risks
@Ads_idk
Ай бұрын
Last story: LADY YOU ARE NOT BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY????
@hmspretender
Ай бұрын
Also, my mom tells the story of how she was on this hay ride, standing up, during a Halloween event. Some actor came out of a dark hiding spot right behind her to scare her. She slipped around and punched the poor guy. Fight, Flight, or Freeze, ya gotta remember those possible reactions. And NEVER film someone in the bathroom! 🤦♀️
@chere100
Ай бұрын
S4: You can't be childhood friends with that age gap. He's just her groomer. Eww.
@TheCherryBlossomGal
Ай бұрын
2:54 Why am i mentally Picturing Little Rslash punching the s**t out of that picture? Seriously burst out laughing after hearing that!
@FederalBurroOfInvestigation
Ай бұрын
That last one is parentification in a nutshell.
@springs9922
Ай бұрын
Ok shut up
@the_chaotic_changling
Ай бұрын
Another day, another slay, another wtf did I just read
@primrosevale1995
Ай бұрын
Just wanted to point out for the second story that the 'friendzone' doesn't exist. No one owes anyone a relationship.
@TheBoogerJames
Ай бұрын
Tell me you are a woman without telling me you are a woman. Edit: Most women know the friendzone exists. ALL men know it does.
@backonlazer791
Ай бұрын
rSlash, recording others in the bathroom isn't just icky, it's also illegal. Hopefully she learns from this and doesn't become a public nuisance prankfluencer.
@jasonkeane133
Ай бұрын
Story 1: Definitely NTA Op, anyone else who's a fighter would not hestitate aswell. Especially seeing as you thought it was a home invader or a pervert.
@beast1ysniper464
Ай бұрын
story 1 reminded me of the time when my sister scared me, after i got home from school. I was about to enter my room and my sister sneaks up behind me then screams,causing me to turn around and throat punch her. Roughly twenty minutes later she tells me "I know you'll never get kidnapped".
@conexant51
Ай бұрын
The stories lately have been really good, plus there's a lot more mixing it up in terms of variety. It's great!
@Mad-Hatter-ison
Ай бұрын
Friends/family: you're overreacting, let your husband date his childhood friend Me: then go join him in prison for enabling a predator
@SpruceOaks
Ай бұрын
I love that r/slash gets smarter over the months and years of doing these reddit readings. Early on he was this naive beta who towed the girl power line and how he has his head on straight. Girl rejects OP to sleep around? She’s gone. Mom parentifies kids, fight back! You go, r/slash.
@LilChuunosuke
Ай бұрын
Ew don't call him a "beta" that's fucking weird
@midknight3085
Ай бұрын
Story 5: Isn't what OP's parents are doing to them a form of child abuse? Parentification I think was the word-
@Robin93k
19 күн бұрын
Obviously yes~ Many parents abuse their children... Many of them post on Reddit about it~
@DaBaseBallZ
Ай бұрын
Story 3:OP's comment was peak comedy😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 OP,Divorce,NTA at all
@Sea_sea96
Ай бұрын
That last story really gets to me. I was the eldest of 6 children I literally raised the youngest 3. I changed more nappies than they ever did. I would get up throughout the night in order to help the babies and the toddler to calm down after they had night terrors. My parents never did. From the age of 10 to 17. I had 5 times that I was allowed to hang out with a friend outside of school. I'm convinced that I would have done better in school if I was allowed to be a child. It didn't stop I never had my childhood. I moved out at 17 and finally fully went no contact at 25. I have two kids of my own with literally no support. since my parents moved us to a state without any relatives in it before I got to high school. I hate them. I'm not going to the funerals. My 2 brother who are now adults have moved out and bearly talk to them either. I'm waiting for the my children (3 youngest siblings) to ask me for help moving out. I will forever be their Mum.
@outerspaceproduction
Ай бұрын
That's a wild title but uh at least Op knows how to defend his family-
@Josh_the_jester
Ай бұрын
Story 1: so let me get this straight: you called out a person you know, they don't respond, you see no evidence of them being there so you presume you're home alone, then you see a figure of presumably a person that to OP's knowledge didn't know was in the house with him, then fight or flight kicks in, if Abby did this to anyone else, they were likely to get stabbed or shot
@MorganVsTheInternet
Ай бұрын
4- HE GROOMED A CHILD! This isn’t the case of someone getting into an inappropriate age-gap relationship! He knew that girl since she was a literal child!
@BadassHater1
Ай бұрын
What's really insane to me is that there are people ACTUALLY SERIOUSLY DEFENDING HIM
@maagi1
Ай бұрын
If gifts are grooming then every parent grooms their children. She should have said what he did to groom her.
@oneproudpeacock6901
Ай бұрын
"Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face". -Mike Tyson Nta
@jasonhammond4301
Ай бұрын
Forgive a child predator "for the sake of the kids"? What the actual fuck?
@lorilancaster5917
Ай бұрын
I’m sure the kids are icked about this too. Okay maybe the oldest. If anything, OP needs to separate herself from the 💩 show spouse has made so when things go tumbling down, she nor the kids will be in the crossfire
@jasonhammond4301
Ай бұрын
@lorilancaster5917 yeah, exactly, the "for the sake of the kids" move here is to get them away from the husband as soon as possible and file for sole custody after reporting him to the police.
@jasonhammond4301
Ай бұрын
@SilkRainSand-pc3ph and it's still not for the kids, at all. A kid was already groomed, and he may be doing the same to others if they are around.
@deputydawgoneit
Ай бұрын
As for the last story...my parents did the same thing to me. When I finally (stupidly) got married at 17 and moved on, a few months later my mom said something to me that I will never forget. She said "I never realized just how much you did around here til you were gone." It made me angry and sad and sad and angry.
@hiroshi7025
Ай бұрын
It's OK, OP. You can always make a new kid. Oh. Oh that was a prank on someone who thought this was an intruder. Yeah, you good.
@KnightYoshi
Ай бұрын
Story 4: The PDF file gets 5 out of 5. If he cheated in general, then that's bad enough. If he had waited until she was 18 to even start courting her, then that's bad enough. But he was effectively courting her while she was under 18, and then cheated. Lock that PDF file up and throw away the key. Also you should totally use the term PDF file
@GuardianCharr
Ай бұрын
Punched the prank behavior right outta her. Recording people in the bathroom without their consent is completely illegal too
@rylo2795
Ай бұрын
My wife broke her uncle's nose when she was 12. Her family was going through a haunted woods thing and her uncle was running it. He ran out of the woods with a mask and chainsaw and ran straight towards my wife. Her reaction to a chainsaw madman was to square up lol.
@DaBaseBallZ
Ай бұрын
Story 1:Nah,You're good,OP You only reacted naturally to an unidentified intruder in your house,Not your fault that daughter is a brat,NTA
@eric98292
Ай бұрын
Update to the family excluding OP. My take is that they stil aren’t listening or even trying. This sounds like a doomed relationship. OPs comments paint an even darker picture. Sounds like he's eyeing the door: " really wasn't expecting this many comments when I posted last night. I don't have enough characters to put an update in the main post, but I asked everyone to have a seat at the table about 1.5 hours ago and began with an apology. First, I said that this is also my home and asked that they all extend me the courtesy to listen without interjecting. Essentially, I apologized for my part in creating an inhospitable atmosphere that caused them to be uncomfortable. Regardless of this or that, I am also the host and there were things that I could have done better. I am uncomfortable with certain events from Friday, but my reaction to it wasn't the right move. I also said that I shouldn't have publicly retorted to my wife. Our issues should remain between us and shouldn't have been on display at the dining table. I then proceeded to explain the context surrounding Friday, my point of view, and how uncomfortable these exclusions make me and that they made me feel uncomfortable in my own home. Each person responded without interruption. FIL was the first to respond. He thanked me for the apology and commented that it takes guts to ask everyone to sit down and apologize. He then said he doesn't take these things to heart. SIL responded that there is context missing and that I'm leaving certain things out. FIL put his hand on her leg, but wife said let her speak, right?SIL says she's not trying to attack me, but just because I am an in-law to them, doesn't mean I automatically get respect. Their respect is earned by the way I treat my wife. She said this also goes both ways, and that they will need to earn my respect as well. MIL responded by thanking me for the apology. She said she especially wouldn't have come and stayed in our home if they didn't like me. Period. I am their SIL and they love me, that's why they're here. Wife responds by saying that it is a personal pet peeve when someone apologizes, then follows up with a justification. It dilutes the apology altogether. FIL responded by saying "I am very guilty of this, (wife) knows this very well!" ---Edit bc I forgot this part - I said I understand what she's saying but everyone here does realize that this is the first time I'm directly addressing everyone about something while everyone is present, right? This is my time to speak, so I'm trying to get everything out. I reminded them that 1 year ago, after driving a significant amount of hours to NYC for the night as a stop to the main destination, wife ditched me to have a ritzy dinner with her parents 3 days after they departed from our home during their last visit and said "This is my time with my parents. You're not invited". I reminded them that they sent my wife back with some food/dessert from the restaurant and told them that I opened the box and there was melted whipped cream with crushed nuts. I gave them the benefit of the doubt and figured the restaurant packaged the food incorrectly and forgot the actual item. FIL responded by saying he wants to go back to that restaurant and whoop them. I also reminded everyone that we were all in a WhatsApp group chat at one point. That lasted, what, 2 weeks before everyone left? I did note that no one addressed the "you're not invited" comment in NYC.--- There was a tiny bit of back and forth between people mostly at the same time before MIL says OK, everyone get up and let's move on. So, they and the wife are headed to this destination for an activity where they have booked a hotel. They will return tomorrow morning before departing 1 day early. The original plan was for them to stay tomorrow and leave Tuesday morning. Wife is upstairs getting ready and I told her: "So, literally no one responded to my feeling of discomfort and you're literally going right now to do the same exact thing. The same thing that I have been wanting to go do since moving here, and you know that." Wife said I'm excluded NOW in response to my behavior. She said if I want to be included, go downstairs and talk to them and try to get them to stay the extra day and plan something for Independence Day. I asked her why I should be the one making the effort, when they're not? But whatever, I went downstairs and asked them to stay and tried planning something for the 4th in SIL's city. FIL said they're actually leaving early bc he has a business meeting in SIL's city on Tuesday. SIL says she's working on the 4th, so count her out but you all should do something. FIL says yeah, you and wife should go somewhere. Wife and MIL comes down and long story short, I am expected to drive 7hrs to SIL's city to meet up with them. They all left and when wife said bye, she asked me to research hotels. I have no intention of going anywhere."
@priximus2254
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@hexbox2182
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The final one is the definition of parentification. When kids are forced to become adults a lot younger then they should.
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