Does anyone else feels like their social anxiety causes them to rush through small conversations? I catch myself doing this a lot and it's as if I'm running from people and their interaction even though I want to interact with them. It's like my mind and body is contradicting itself. Can anyone with social anxiety relate?
@ulifeinfo1319
2 жыл бұрын
That same way I feel dear. Dying within...... 😢😢
@bintehahashim196
2 жыл бұрын
Same.. Like I wanna talk to people slowly and enjoy the conversation and I always imagine that in my head but when someone actually started talking to me I will respond very quickly that I always feel bad because that person might not like the way I responded. It's like i am rushing and trying to end the conversation. Some times I stutter too. I hate when that happens because it clearly shows how nervous I am. Some people at my work place notice that and one day this one lady came up to me because she wanted to get some paper from me and she was standing beside while waiting and I guess she's worried if I will get nervous so she said to me "I'm sorry in advance if im making you nervous." and I just replied "no, it's okay." i'm just suprised that she suddenly blurted out that way and that made me realised that some people at my work place probably already aware of me being anxious. It somehow makes me grateful/thankful in a way.
@akkir3268
2 жыл бұрын
@@bintehahashim196 much love and hugs to you ! Dw take care of yourself! ☃️💕❣️
@bintehahashim196
2 жыл бұрын
@@akkir3268 thankyou so much! i appreciate this alot! 😄💕
@noman5647
2 жыл бұрын
@@janopgt5145 i feel the same way.🥺
@Carl15O3
2 жыл бұрын
Social anxiety needs to be more recognised in schools and the workplace. There is definitely a lack of education in today’s society
@Peonie24
2 жыл бұрын
You're the most uncool kid in school if you lack communication skills . I've struggled with interiority complex almost whole of school days. I've had major anxiety attacks while presenting seminars in college.
@Peonie24
2 жыл бұрын
@@Carl15O3 Rightly said. Even if I try to explain others that I'm not doing things on purpose they don't quite understand me. The thing that gives me courage is that I am in a position to help others through my profession & knowledge and that keep me going but I definitely have a tough time with my colleagues.
@Peonie24
2 жыл бұрын
@@Carl15O3 more power to you 👍👍
@satanramirezramos8367
2 жыл бұрын
yess they think its introvert
@mhmm._537
2 жыл бұрын
@@Peonie24 everyone treats social anxiety as though it’s a choice and therefore something your to be directly put at fault.
@nikkinicole4990
2 жыл бұрын
Anyone else feel like they don’t even know how to walk when by themselves in public? Like with another person I’m fine but when I go shopping alone or walk in the school hallway alone I feel like everyone’s judging me and I like over analyze my every movement? Like am I standing weird? Am I walking weird? What do I do to look natural? It’s so frustrating because I know logically no one cares but I feel so out of place
@TheDeadlyGhost2009
2 жыл бұрын
I can't get in between people because people will exclude me, I can't express myself and I have been bullied a lot.
@dolgolele_
2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way
@alexas34
2 жыл бұрын
Omg yes I over analyze every move and how I stand. How I go to grab something off the shelve at a store. Every little move I have to think about. it’s sooooo annoying.
@benicedarnit
2 жыл бұрын
Wow definitely same
@kiasia3219
2 жыл бұрын
yes I get this too. some exercises can help like if you can try to slow down your mind and thinking. and one way that can help with this is to slow down your breathing. this makes a big difference for me
@thea411
2 жыл бұрын
it’s so hard to live like this
@PraveenSrJ01
2 жыл бұрын
It definitely is at least for me.
@thechelseachannel794
2 жыл бұрын
Extremely
@tomgu2285
2 жыл бұрын
Extremely I hate my life for it
@infpmediator1497
Жыл бұрын
Impossible !..not only hard 😔😔
@Yoshi92
Жыл бұрын
I'd rather not live, than live like this. Sleep is like a drug.
@Merakireads
2 жыл бұрын
Social anxiety has literally had be ruined... I can't start a normal conversation with people, I get anxious even around students in class i know, I tend to say awkward stuff and rush conversations assuming nobody wants to talk. being 17 and a girl, its really hard living with this especially when I I have such social and outgoing friends. Edit: Things have gotten better for me... during the first month of college, my literature teacher noticed by anxiety. Later on she told me "to not show others your weakness." After that day, I've been working on myself, and I can confidentially say I'm doing much better. I don't fidget, I make eyecontact and I start conversations with those in my class.
@lizbilly5017
2 жыл бұрын
Felt this!!
@almiya2225
2 жыл бұрын
It ruined my education and don't know what to do next Btw I'm 18 years old
@blankspace7161
2 жыл бұрын
Search -'Sean Cooper social anxiety' that's the best one I found how as to overcome social anxiety
@peuliti9704
2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@umeshgamer4
2 жыл бұрын
@@peuliti9704 do you walk normally in public with social anxiety or walk weird please reply me😭😭😭
@sid8823
2 жыл бұрын
For very long i had mistaken my social anxiety for being an introvert. I thought enjoying with others isnt my cup of tea because thats how introverts are, prefering to be lonely instead of being a part of social gatherings. But deep down i never wanted/want to be lonely, i want to talk with others enjoy parties be free about expressing myself. Then lately i thought about facing this thing and doing some research on what exactly it is thats going on with me. Then i found that i might not actually be an introvert. Its more about being socially anxious, always thinking about how to react so that others would consider me to be cool. Because of this i never could build good relationships with anyone, felt useless and that noone except my parents cared about me. I still suffer through this. It hampers my productivity and ability to be happy.
@kadoshabdi5039
2 жыл бұрын
Same way I felt that way untill today
@bt5887
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like this as well, hope you’re doing well :)
@moe_jarjar
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly the same for me to this day and I’m trying to get rid of it
@rhythmsoien8391
Жыл бұрын
I relate. I used to think I am an introvert who adores extrovert people and that used to make me question my personality type. Now I feel maybe I am just someone who likes socialising but has social anxiety!
@reedfocus4517
Жыл бұрын
You explained my situation perfectly
@karinaselene2134
2 жыл бұрын
I had to leave college because of social anxiety (and others), even when I love what I was studying back then. Now, I am having trouble with job interviews as I get scared of what people think of me. It is irrational and destructive. In fact, it is very destructive and it is very real. I hope more people would understand, thank you so much for this.
@sidneybrainz2622
2 жыл бұрын
We have something in common.
@hotwing38
2 жыл бұрын
I left college because of it too
@francisco6969
2 жыл бұрын
Don’t let this ruin your life get some help if you haven’t !
@dauntethomas7738
2 жыл бұрын
I struggle with this too bro. Currently get a job & quit it immediately after because I get to overwhelmed/anxious. I know it’s irrational, but I just can’t get over it. It’s pushing my family & loved one away & I do understand. I just know it is real & I’m not sure how to overcome it. I try to get help but its not taken very seriously.
@timklafke4712
2 жыл бұрын
I haven’t gone to college because of it and I’m nearly 2 years out of high school already, it fuckin sucks and literally kills you inside.
@cinnnnnamon
Жыл бұрын
my parent highly misunderstood my social anxiety. they always said “oh she just don’t like people” “she’d rather be alone” i do enjoy the company of people. it’s just i could never get myself to talk to people. i always wanted to be that girl who had a lot of friends, who always had plans with others, who had someone who i can pick up the phone and call anytime. every time i see that girl who can easily start conversations with people i just think “i wish i can be like her”. but i hold no hope. i think that this is something that i’ll struggle with my entire life with no escape.
@lizbethvilla9180
Жыл бұрын
Omg i relate to you. Its not that i don't like the conpany of other people it's that its hard to talk to new people:( i want to be like the outgoing girls who make friends essily and can talk to strangers easily :(
@kierlak
10 ай бұрын
You don't need to be outgoing like others. There's nothing wrong with being a quiet one and having few friends. I would recommend a book called: Quiet. It changed my life and helped me with self-acceptance. It's often the society/culture that puts pressure on us to fit in.
@chris7285
10 ай бұрын
@@kierlak we know that but we want to. It’s called being extroverted with social anxiety. If you don’t like talk as much then you’re probably introverted, this also doesn’t mean you can’t be socially anxious.
@moneyextra5808
2 жыл бұрын
Social anxiety makes me feel like I am cut off from the present moment. Anyone?
@DrTynessaFranks
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, that's totally normal. Social anxiety can cause you to be so caught up in your own thoughts about how you're coming across that you're unable to engage in the present moment. One effective strategy for treating social anxiety is called attention training, and it's all about helping people learn how to focus more externally vs internally.
@MethsaniEllauda
Ай бұрын
Thank you very much 🙏
@ella1125
Жыл бұрын
I graduated high school last year. I am nearly 19 and I have never worked, I have no friends, no relationship. Social anxiety has robbed me of the life I could have had. I had social anxiety as long as I can remember. Social anxiety stopped me from trying new things, so I never developed any hobbies. I haven’t gone to university because it’s too much for my anxiety. I often wonder what I could’ve been like if someone had figured out what I was struggling with at a younger age.
@Sarah-he4bk
Жыл бұрын
It’s not too late to do any of those things. I feel the same way, I’m 19 too. I feel like everything is over already but I have to remind myself I’m still so young. You can still go to school and have friends and relationships I promise
@person2702
Жыл бұрын
It's crazy, we are the same age, we have exactly the same ploblem, but we live in different country, and have different culture... We really are not so alone as we think
@tharos7328
11 ай бұрын
I recently graduated from high school, and I've never worked either. Not long ago I lost a job opportunity... and I've been feeling regret and guilt. In fact, it's not the first one I've lost. One day I can be optimistic and feel motivated, and the next day I have already forgotten about my dreams. I think it's been like this since I was 13. When the pandemic came, I was glad I didn't have to go to school... I think I've been avoiding everyone and everything for too long, but now I must confront myself... and it's not easy.
@scarscarscarwu
8 ай бұрын
Im currently 17 going on 18 and I feel the same. Had my friends not came up to me I would have no friends. I quit my temporary customer service job early, and grouo projects and presentations in university are making me have panic attacks.
@ella1125
7 ай бұрын
@@scarscarscarwu it’s good to know we aren’t alone. I’m starting university in a week and I’m also terrified for group projects and all that. I think the best thing we can remind ourselves is that many others feel the same 🫶🏻
@NanaCodedl
2 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this presentation. I have social Anxiety as well and for me I enjoy social interaction like I crave it but I have the fear of being rejected so sometimes I hold back on how I feel or I change myself to fit the image of how I think other ppl will like me. And I really hate eye contact. Also any time I interact with someone I plan ahead of what I’m gon say cuz if I mess up or stutter or say the wrong thing I will think abt it forever & criticize myself for the mistake.
@erikanthonyc
2 жыл бұрын
This comment made me feel like I’m not alone because I relate to every single thing about it. Thank you
@caramelkissss
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I do the same. We are bot alone in this.
@yokabs3194
2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same
@fgoodman100
2 жыл бұрын
@@erikanthonyc so glad you found it helpful Erik. you are certainly not alone.
@mhmm._537
2 жыл бұрын
Literally speaking to me. Everything exactly. I love people and talking. When i finally overcome the anxiety and make a friend I can talk for hours.
@anithamore
6 ай бұрын
Social anxiety ruined my career. I couldn't hold a job. I feel intense fear during meetings, presentations and speaking with clients. Once I even had physical symptoms. My heart beating so faster, my hands shewering, my voice shaking, I couldn't breath. It was so obvious. It took me years to understand what my problem is. I used to think that working in corporates is not my cup of tea but later understood that it's fear not hate. I like my job. But I'm afraid to talk to people. By the time I understood my problem it was too late. I already lost many opportunities.
@pxzels39
2 жыл бұрын
Social anxiety has taken over my life.
@wrathuu
2 жыл бұрын
My social anxiety has gotten so bad to the point where I cry at school every day. I dont have any friends and if I do make friends then I push them away because I'm afraid they dont like me :/
@sharonsettle9079
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry, I but you are a lonely person.
@allie6160
2 жыл бұрын
I also used to cry every day in school. It sucks and I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m still figuring out how to accept that my friends do actually like me and aren’t just spending time with me because they feel bad. It’s such an isolating feeling
@ariellevy7154
2 жыл бұрын
i was the most popular kid in my school and today im in contact with just two friend from school.i found out also that the whole "cool gropu" of kids we were in school are not in contact anymore with eachother. life goes on buddy dont let school or the exprinces you go through right now define who you are.instead of thinking you are wrong all the time or weird try to start thinking postive about yourself.not only think start to take action strat doing sport or search something youll love some kind of art like playing an instrument or painting or singing.belive in yourself.i belive in you.i would love to know how you doin now my friend?
@val-zod1284
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve had social anxiety ever since I was in the 6th grade. I moved to America and left all of my friends behind, only to get severely bullied for my appearance for the first two years. At first, I could handle social situations, now I dread it. I genuinely hate the man that I see in the mirror and I know other ppl judge the way I look subconsciously. I’m 20 years old now and all I want is just to feel normal. To not feel like I’m being judged
@val-zod1284
2 жыл бұрын
Thinking of saving up to get plastic surgery and fix the parts of my face that I despise because that’s truly the only way I think I can overcome this
@turkeybut
2 жыл бұрын
@@val-zod1284 dont
@JordanAK907
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you were bullied and developed social anxiety :( I hope you come to understand that your worth as a person isn't impacted by your looks or how people perceive you. You deserve to accept and love yourself, always ❤ When talking to yourself, it can help to imagine that you're talking to yourself as a child. You wouldn't berate and blame a child for their hardships or flaws, you'd accept and support them. So that's how you try to treat yourself, with compassion
@ClementineCreative
2 жыл бұрын
Please don’t change your appearance. You are worthy just as you are. Please find a psychologist to talk to. I promise you, it helps.
@lizbilly5017
2 жыл бұрын
@@val-zod1284 felt this deep In my heart :(( but pls don’t change your appearance for other people!
@X82oo781
2 жыл бұрын
She highlights it well - I don’t desire to be alone bc I have s.a. But it’s the fear of rejection and being disliked which pushes me to being alone
@krissad2145
2 жыл бұрын
Whoever is reading it at this moment and suffering from social anxiety - I feel you! I've been suffering from something that turned out to be social anxiety since the age of 4 or 5. It means that it has been the scourge of my life for 15 years until I finally realised that I needed help. Like some people in the comments pointed out social anxiety can be mistaken for introversion. I made the same mistake. Even before getting help I already knew that the cause for what I'd been suffering from was an array of traumatic social situations that took place in my early childhood and teenage years. Little did I know that it would get in the way of absolutely everything in my life: starting from completing simple every day tasks and ending with building healthy and strong relationships with people. And only at the age of 20, in August 2019, sitting at the edge of my bed I felt an urge to scream, every fiber of my body was aching, I wanted to scream from within because I could no longer take it. I knew that if I don't do anything know, it might become too late later on. So I've been seeing my therapist since then. It's been almost 2 years since I started and I already see progress. Of course it's way too early to talk about full recovery; two years of therapy can't heal the 15 year old wounds. But it definitely sped it up. And I'll keep fighting however hard it is in the process. There's always a light at the end of any tunnel. You're gonna see yours, too. I just know it. I know it's hard for you right now. It's incredibly painful and unfair. I agree, it is! I know from firsthand experience how unbearable it is. But please don't hesitate to reach out for help. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life, you deserve to live your dream life. You really do! I believe in you 😍 Love you and send you my support. You're not alone ❤
@fgoodman100
2 жыл бұрын
❤
@krissad2145
2 жыл бұрын
@Mustafa Hussein Hey! Based on what I've just read, your English is pretty good. So, I think you can reach out for help. I can assure you you'll be understood
@shanx4170
Жыл бұрын
God bless you , this was so sweet ❤
@tatato1345
2 жыл бұрын
This hurts, because I was put in scrutiny by my teachers in highschool. My math teacher called me slow, when really I was just panicking when she called me out, another teacher gave me the cold shoulder and insulted me at the end of the year when she was nice to literally everyone else because I wasn't active in her class through the year, when really I was down in the dumps barely coping and to this day remembering it makes me feel sick to my stomach and teary eyed, to be shunned like that, completely pushed away and rejected from a big group. To be targeted when I can't defend myself.
@jthmdz
2 жыл бұрын
Sorry you had to go through that. You’re really strong. 🤍
@rishitamalhotra7564
2 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate because I was called slow and lost in school too. I would always panic when a teacher asked me to do something thinking I would mess up. My teacher yelled at me and called me a dumbo in front of the whole class once. It really was a hard blow to my already crumbling self esteem.. Teachers humiliate students and forget but they don't realize how badly it can affect them
@algirdasltu1389
Жыл бұрын
Bro my teacher wants me to be active but she gave up on it :skull:
@meharhayer6852
2 жыл бұрын
I overthink everything, even around my family I feel like I'm being judged. I hate myself for not talking to someone when I have the chance, I spend so long thinking about it that the chance goes away. Almost everyone in my family has some sort of anxiety, so I thought that they would understand. But to them I am still just shy, and I will just grow out of it. I know that it probably won't go away it self, but I get scared that asking for help would make it worse since then I would probably be put in more situations to talk.
@anegron3285
2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same. Expect most of my family are all extrovert they still don't understand me. I think I am shy. But I do think I have social anxiety and I am shy and introvert. Or maybe my social anxiety made me became shy and introvert
@jacintasntos
2 жыл бұрын
This is the comment that describes me the most. Thank u for sharing
@Tom-em8nn
2 жыл бұрын
Social anxiety tries to protect us from rejection. Literally teared me up completely
@kasturi3591
2 жыл бұрын
Do you feel it in the same away?Do you feel like struggling to go out facing the world? It seems like the world is standing against you and you are that only odd in this crowd. You are not a part of it. You feel like you are not included at the same time you don't want it also. You feel alone but being in that crowd makes you feel more alone. All you want is just go far away...far away and hide yourself at a place where no one can see you ...You don't want your existence in their mind . You are not alone. There are many people like you who are being stopped to live and enjoy their life just because of this term called-"Social anxiety". This term is only for us who struggle with it every single day. But it can be normal. Don't let the world to make you feel not included. You are more than you think. You are more precious. All you need is to meet that someone like you. I am saying coz I am facing this too. And I hope I could tell this to those who face it in the same way. We are not alone. We are just in different places with different situations. ❤
@engineeringbeginner
4 ай бұрын
Start with self belief What? I AM CAPABLE I AM VALUABLE AND CREATION OF GOD. I AM CAPABLE OF DEALING WITH PEOPLE EFFECTIVELY. Start self love How? With self respect? How? Identify things you got, start with A B C then slowly move towards words then sentences. Express gratitude. Exposure to social situatdions is very important. Exposure will increase experiences of socialising. Experiences will increase confidence. Confidence help you deal with social situations with less friction (neuroplasticity).
@ZaWarudo69
2 ай бұрын
It’s really hard being a socially anxious person, especially in India. Because here, people in general are very outgoing. And when someone sees a non-outgoing person, they taunt him and bully him saying that why you are not talkative? Are you mental or what? (These are the exact words I got to here from one of my toxic friends) The thing is, the Indian society is not ready to accept people like us. Which makes us feel excluded and ‘abnormal’ even more.
@candykandy
2 жыл бұрын
Summary: - Our fear of rejection gets in the way of being accepted. We are more connected today and yet we are seeing a decline in social connection. How to address social anxiety: 1. Identify it early. Social anxiety develops around the age of 14. It puts you at risk of developing other mental illnesses. Is your fear of rejection get in the way of things you want to do? Appropriate intervention. 2. Harness your platform. Talk about it in schools, workplaces, and homes. Talking about it reduces stigma. 3. Foster social courage. It’s not about avoiding rejection. Peruse experiences knowing your chances of rejection are high. Do it anyway. Know your worth. Find people who love and accept you. The opportunity for growth shines brighter than rejection. ( I suggest reading up on Cognitive Behavior Therapy, meditation, affirmations, etc. Keep fighting off that negative inner voice! )
@marcospalacio6095
Жыл бұрын
thanks!
@bhavyabagilvaidya8862
Жыл бұрын
Thanks man🥺
@Carla-wh2wy
Жыл бұрын
Thanks!❤
@silybutlilyanimation.4024
Жыл бұрын
Thanks buddy..
@vixo551
Ай бұрын
If I say the words "social anxiety" around anybody here they're going to laugh at me and tell me to have an actual problem. So no, talking about it is not a good thing.
@katizzle92
2 жыл бұрын
How many of you actually feel more anxious around certain family members compared to other people? I feel so alone with this because it always seems like people with social anxiety at least feel comfortable around their family and close friends. I guess I so desperately want a close relationship with these family members that I end up making myself feel really uncomfortable but when I'm talking with strangers I don't really care so I don't feel nervous if that makes sense.
@cvetlanasvet1107
2 жыл бұрын
100 %
@zixzizia1066
2 жыл бұрын
I totally understand what you mean. You’re definitely not alone. It can feel quite frustrating and embarrassing to feel this way around family, especially immediate family when we’re supposed to have a certain unbreakable dynamic. Yet, I struggle to navigate how to do that in a way that isn’t forced or robotic. Sometimes I don’t know what to say so I isolate in order to avoid making them uncomfortable.
@katizzle92
2 жыл бұрын
@@zixzizia1066 you hit the nail on the head 💯💯
@alexas34
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve always kind of been more comfy around strangers (for the most part) than acquaintances and friends. It’s the weirdest thing. I am so uncomfortable around my coworkers especially. I hate it. I don’t know what to do.
@zixzizia1066
2 жыл бұрын
@@alexas34 same with me. I’d say it’s like having a fresh slate, they haven’t really defined who you are yet so you get to re invent yourself to an extent.
@merc340sr
7 ай бұрын
My social anxiety keeps me from looking for a job. I fear I will be criticized and belittled...
@DayanaPlays
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. I've suffered from social anxiety since middle school and now I'm 26 and it has not gotten any better! Will definitely take and apply the tips mentioned on this video! thank you
@zoegyal1032
2 жыл бұрын
Your meeeee
@DayanaPlays
2 жыл бұрын
@@zoegyal1032 🧡
@shilosayuri
2 жыл бұрын
Same I just lost my job because of it :(
@matty301
2 жыл бұрын
@Jessica J stop it please.
@peachygecko9452
2 жыл бұрын
I'm 21 and totally relate the same with you. Time has not changed anything yet instead made it worse 😔
@xadenyelljeanjean8562
2 жыл бұрын
Most times persons with social anxiety are empaths. Controlling your thought about what other people think is very difficult. Rejection. We also can easily sense negativity. For me, once I feel this I cannot be at that particular place.
@ReflectingonReflection
2 жыл бұрын
exactly!!!! I get you
@fallaway9588
Жыл бұрын
I feel the same way, only very few people give me a good feeling when being around them, only when thy have a positive and authentic aura... i struggle very much to make new friends because of this and at the end of the day i often end up alone.
@SKL194
11 ай бұрын
Exactly.. I am empathetic with social anxiety and I feel everything deeply
@engineeringbeginner
4 ай бұрын
While dealing with people don't try to control what is not in your control. Learning this will reduce anxiety. I hope you found tgis helpful. If you found this unhelpful give me feedback❤
@engineeringbeginner
4 ай бұрын
You cannot control -what people talk to you. Prioritize relationships❤
@miabarnes6102
2 жыл бұрын
my social anxiety is ruining my life in the sense that i’m scared of going to a shop as i don’t want to talk to the cashier, if i have a friend with me i make them pay for my things, my most recent relationship i was called frigid because i was so anxious all the time, and i’m struggling to get a job because i’m scared to ask for one
@LongCOVIDAdvocator
2 жыл бұрын
Same. I created a watchlists but I am scared to submit an application electronically. I had someone laughing at my face because I was doing laundry awkwardly, I can't even think right, and I was a mess. I don't want that to happen again if I decide to work closely with my co-workers in the work environment.
@miabarnes6102
2 жыл бұрын
@@LongCOVIDAdvocator i’ve been applying for a few jobs around my town but i’m just waiting to hear a reply.. it’s not applying for the job i struggle with anymore, it’s the actually job and having to talk to my coworkers and the customers. i’m okay in school it’s just outside of school
@shae6100
2 жыл бұрын
@@LongCOVIDAdvocator whoever laughed in your face is awful. I hate how people treat us just because we have anxiety. Yes they may not know we have it, but if mocking us or assuming the worse is what they choose to do then that's not right in my book. That just makes me more closed off from people because they are so judgemental. That was one experience you had though I pray you find employment that has compassionate people you'll be surrounded by. That's also one of fears too.
@shae6100
2 жыл бұрын
@@miabarnes6102 have you ever heard of exposure therapy? The more you confront what makes you anxious is the less anxious you'll be. I know that but God knows, it's still nerve wrecking. I hope you find a good employment where the people are very nice to you and after a while I'm assuming you'll be feeling less anxious.
@rha5120
2 жыл бұрын
i struggle the same with all of you! i hope one day we can have growth :)
@its_gigixx
2 жыл бұрын
social anxiety is literally ruining my life…i try to explain to my mom about how i feel like i’m literally going to pass out whenever i even think about having to socialize with people i don’t know but she gets mad at me and tells me to get over it…i can’t even go into a business and ask if they’re hiring because i am so scared and i don’t even know why
@briannaschmidt5152
Жыл бұрын
I hate my social anxiety with everything inside me. And ppl find me so odd. No how many times I tell them that I struggle with social anxiety. They say “well just stop being awkward” Geee never thought of that one!!!😳🙄 I always wish to be “normal” and want to stop being this way so bad 💔💔 I come home everyday extremely mad at myself and disappointed.
@aizya_riya1386
4 ай бұрын
❤
@letsgoBrandon204
2 жыл бұрын
Widely misunderstood because we're _really_ good at not drawing attention. I've had 37 years practice. 37 years of stagnation
@caz6277
2 жыл бұрын
Yes its a fear of rejection that keeps us alone. What she said about avoiding interaction so that people have less data points on which to reject you hit hard. We're alone because we're scared of being alone .
@kritikarai1622
2 жыл бұрын
I'm 20..and I never knew I had social anxiety till now.. Back in school I used to think why do I act so indifferent while others are so normal and so charming.. Even in my home I always had this uneasiness.... Now I'm studying in college, I still care how people around me view and think...this lead me as an outcast... I never wanted to be one but I ended up everytime... Recently I've been researching about myself and came in conclusion that the cause of my problem was this... Like dang! I do have social anxiety... I hope one day I'll overcome this.. And hoping same for everyone who's facing somewhere alone and fighting within themselves.... We got this! 💪🤧Peps
@fgoodman100
2 жыл бұрын
You got this for sure.
@shalxnda
2 жыл бұрын
i hope more people watch this because lots of people think this means being an introvert when those are two different things.
@madisonguckin6386
2 жыл бұрын
I’m not sure how relatable this is. Very often, I have to plan my script of what I say, what I do, how I present myself. I cannot create conversations with others in recreational social situations without practicing for hours in the mirror. My life is hindered by the fact that I don’t know how to talk to people bc of my social anxiety being so prevalent
@RandomPhycoticness
2 жыл бұрын
Listening to this like an audiobook while working and it got so heavy. I believe my social anxiety started at age 9 and here I am almost 30 at work still trying to understand it. 😓 hang in there guys
@JudyyAbbott
2 жыл бұрын
9 is very young age and i believe my social anxiety started at age 7 when i was so confused about friendship goals and all of these childhood social interactions at 1nd class , the beginning of my school life or maybe i couldn't even discover myself enough. I am going to be 21 soon -which horrifies me because i feel so old myself already- and i guess i'll never change this brutal characteristic feature forever and i won't even learn how to hide it. Social anxiety is horrible. It makes you feel so alone, so isolated. I wish there is a way to fix this...i wish.
@RandomPhycoticness
2 жыл бұрын
@@JudyyAbbott Aw me too. Don’t try to hide it, try to embrace it. I find trying to hide it makes it more noticeable 😣 sometimes I want to just shout to the world “I’m acting weird because I have social anxiety and every moment feels like I’m public speaking in front of an audience” but that also might give a weird reaction… point is, acknowledging the social anxiety can sometimes relive the pressure it causes
@jonmoller
Жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety because of I was bullied as a kid. I absolutley hate it. It has made me think that I am not valuable enough to make my dreams come true. It makes me axious around groups of friends. I am always protecting myself. I want to be free from this prison. I have been told time and time again that I am beautiful from countles amount of people and that I should consider modeling but because of my past I have judged myself so much through the years that I never even went on to try.
@Nunofyourbusinesses
2 жыл бұрын
Omg thank you so much for this talk. I am in tears when watching this. I suffer from severe social anxiety. People don’t understand how can I do a speech to a large audience comfortably but cannot foundation in a non-work related social situation.
@rishitamalhotra7564
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly! This was the reason I kept misunderstanding my social anxiety as introvertedness. I can give a speech pretty comfortably but become a nervous wreck while making a simple conversation with someone
@Drummer8nimation
2 жыл бұрын
What types of personalities or people makes you more anxious than normal
@CDang-ms6dc
2 жыл бұрын
When rejection has become so frequent in my life recently I have started to take it as affirming my faithfulness to my true self regardless of this world. The world is harsh and rejection is inevitable if you want to establish yourself there. I might never stand a chance against the world, but I will never, ever withdraw or shield myself. So I overcame my social anxiety just to show myself not being a coward.
@hibird7304
2 жыл бұрын
Some of the cause with social anxiety is there already being somebody being in there life pointing out and criticizing them making their fear of criticism in public worse!
@bbii123
2 жыл бұрын
My social anxiety was triggered when i was in 5th grade and and i heard somebody from our class told her seatmate (while laughing) "oh look, it's her who's reciting again" - referring to me. 9 year old me then started to think a lot first about my classmates' reaction whenever i recite in front of the class.
@sharonsettle9079
2 жыл бұрын
It started about that time for me too.
@PraveenSrJ01
2 жыл бұрын
I’m 38 going on 39 years old and have had major social anxiety since I was born in 1983. I am on the autistic spectrum and prefer structure and organization in my job. I work in the accounting office at Wegmans and also a cashier and have been doing that all of my career. I hope to change this one day which I hope will be soon 🔜 since life is very short.
@incubus_the_man
2 жыл бұрын
Same age as you. I got a degree from a state university on campus but I was never able to use it because I failed in networking to get a job. I now work in a factory on an assembly line. It sucks but I'm still trying to move my life situation forward. I feel that fighting my SAD is the only way I will survive. I'm still single without kids, so financially I have more options.
@PraveenSrJ01
2 жыл бұрын
@@incubus_the_man do you get along well with your coworkers socially there?
@PraveenSrJ01
2 жыл бұрын
@Mustafa Hussein I know exactly how you feel mustafa and really hope things improve for you. It isn’t easy or fun dealing with social anxiety.
@yearginclarke
Жыл бұрын
I'm 37 and my whole life has been held back dramatically by social anxiety. I've had very minor successes at best.
@marys3738
2 жыл бұрын
I have been bullied in the past and I developed social anxiety so I'm usually very quiet and avoid the spot light at all costs
@tomgu2285
2 жыл бұрын
Same.
@DrTynessaFranks
2 жыл бұрын
So glad that I came across this video. My focus is on helping people with social anxiety, and even amongst other mental health professionals I find that social anxiety is misunderstood and not taken seriously enough. Thanks for bringing attention to this, Dr. Goodman.
@fgoodman100
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your thoughtful comment, Dr. Franks!
@judyd8310
2 жыл бұрын
Anyone know about avpd
@megananten6820
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve never felt more I understood than I do listening to this..
@ahmedmazih4845
3 ай бұрын
Im very happy to find people like me here, its really deficult to live with this, when you are by yourself you think that you can achieve alot of things but once you are among of people your brain starts to lose control, the same with your body, I was thinking that im a weak person so i made a decision to go to the army and try a hard experience, but after that hard experience here im i, what i came with is just to find out how to live with it and try to let go every bad moment. peace !!
@robd1859
Жыл бұрын
Actually when we try to lie to ourselves and tell ourselves that we're just as confident as the other person. And we put ourselves in that situation it makes our heart beat so fast that we have trouble breathing and then the person looking at us calls us a scary cat or a chicken. Stressful situations make your heart race and make you short winded
@lewisjeffreys9175
Жыл бұрын
Reading through the comments I realised that I am older than many of you. Please get some help if you can, it will not go away on it's own. I am in my 50s now and my anxiety is as bad as it has ever been, maybe worse. Over the years it has cost me career advancement, study opportunities and friendships. My life is not bad but it could be so much richer.
@Mischa222
2 жыл бұрын
i started dealing with social anxiety 2 yrs ago and Im still struggling with it. just know you are not alone !!
@CoopisLegend
2 жыл бұрын
I never really had social anxiety, it was when I started getting bullied in school from a young age by kids and classmates! I lost alot of confidence and it made me not trust people. As I got to High school it got worse, I had alot of fake "friends". They would be very two face, toxic and put me down. Now I'm just careful with who I talk to and I'm only comfortable around certain people, that I don't think will cause me any harm.
@scawytewifying
2 жыл бұрын
My fear with my social anxiety, is that if I tell anyone, they might judge me.
@maiiamusic
2 жыл бұрын
I love that when she talked about doctors screening for SAD, she then said "she" for an example doctor. Made me really happy :). This was incredible and Dr. Goodman captured social anxiety very accurately for me, as well as reframed solutions in an understandable way.
@sheraw5848
2 жыл бұрын
I have always struggled making friends . Everbody close to me labeled me as an shy introverted kid while some thought I was cold and arrogant. I used to feel so insecure and unwanted around my peers. My school days used to so lonely and boring as I had no friends. It killed my confidence and I developed social anxiety disorder. My entire life went thinking what other thinks about me and having no social life. It really sucks to Iive like this.
@chocomarshmallowz2733
2 жыл бұрын
as an introvert im not afraid of rejection, im much rather aftaid of making life choices such as a career i know doesnt fit me, i do it for the sake of earning money but I know im not gonna enjoy it. Im actually a college student taking secondary education but i have a strong anxiety, my problem is i dont know what I want in life, and when it comes to jobs i dont want to make a mistake i will regret. My aim right now is to get a degree but after that i dont know what to do.. i still find it terrifying to teach and everytime I muster up courage and confidence to report and talk I ended up feeling so drained and stressed out at the end of the day. Its like a daily depression in a nutshell.
@Queensofthecupcakes
2 жыл бұрын
i’m in the exact same boat, it’s such a struggle :(
@youtubeguy1886
2 жыл бұрын
Introvert doesn’t equal social anxiety disorder
@Roraliya
2 жыл бұрын
It's ruined me , ruined my life , everything tbh , the social anxiety started when i was 16 , i was very scary talking to my friends that I known before or my family too , in college started miss classes because that group of friends that I known before too , tell begged my doctor in class i told him about my problem my anxiety , I would have failed in the article but he give me an C+ Thanks to him for understanding.
@N0GraviT
Жыл бұрын
Very informative take on this. From my experience growing up with social anxiety throughout my school years, there was no real effort put in to detect social difficulties for anyone, social anxiety-based or not. I guess the assumption schools went under is that “if you need help, you’ll reach out for it,” but the sad reality for people who react to S.A like me is that we’re often too afraid to even reach out for help due to fears of scrutiny and judgement. Still affects me to this day in college, I recently motivated myself to break the barrier and reach out for professional help, but not everyone will succeed with this and it’s a real problem
@v_k7845
2 жыл бұрын
We feel so lonely suffering from social anxiety. People find us rude, that we are not respecting them. But nobody can understand that we are having anxiety and we don't know how to exactly react. This interrupts daily life and one feels that he/she is useless.
@justcalcio747
2 жыл бұрын
Many TED talks are ok and meh at times, even about social anxiety. Now i see Dr.Goodman having this speech, entering my brain, hitting my soul and i don't see much appreciation in the comments. I think that was one of the best TEDs speechs i've seen, thank you dr.Goodman
@adavis8423
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. Goodman brought up the fear of rejection many times. In my case I do not fear rejection, I expect it. The fear is that they say yes, its an instant spotlight of having to prove your worth. The overthinking and self doubt that start immediately makes being accepted just as worse of an outcome than being rejected where you get to go back to the status quo. Which leads to simply avoiding to be the first to initiate in conversations all together.
@cassie8903
Жыл бұрын
Watching this 2 and a half hours before my first college public speaking class my chest hurts so bad from anxiety
@nitoginko2187
Жыл бұрын
How did it go?
@cassie8903
Жыл бұрын
@@nitoginko2187 I presented my first speech and it actually went pretty good! It wasn't perfect but I wasn't as nervous actually being up there as I expected to be
@nitoginko2187
Жыл бұрын
@@cassie8903 Congratulations! I hope it continues going this well for you in the future
@botmsj
2 күн бұрын
It is also because you're simply not interested to discuss and share moments with others, or even too lazy. So the most effective tactic is to not initiate contact. You are anxious that the avoidance could fail.
@khalid4715
3 ай бұрын
social anxiety is increases my chances to be rejected everywhere like, job interviews, making friends, meetings, social gatherings, etc... which makes me feel not welcomed or wanted, my confident reduces and i give up perusing new goals in life and become depressed and now i spend most of my time at home alone, not going out.
@myplaylist6225
Жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety, and it takes away my joy and life.
@Kadinwax
2 жыл бұрын
got tired of thinking that i wasn’t good enough for anyone got tired of sitting alone at lunch when i literally get complimented on my looks all the time but yet i still hide in the shadows like i’m an unwanted little alien but i never tell anyone this and have kept this to my self for a while it sucks but i’ll get over it eventually only you can stop your social anxiety
@crystylewilliams
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed to hear I was just explaining to my mom the other day that I am shy and I don’t have a problem performing in front of groups of people but when I’m infinitely talking to somebody 101 I tend to overthink everything that they are judging me and I’ll pay for me to communicate with others I want to get over this part of my life because I want to be a entrepreneur in an order to be entrepreneur I have to face it head on and face the fear of talking to people one on one
@freddieisthechampion2720
2 жыл бұрын
Yesss! There's always been that doubt in me that I couldn't truly have social anxiety because I actually enjoy being in the spotlight. I may totally freak out if I have to do small talk/talk to people in general but I have no problem whatsoever with being on stage/singing karaoke. Those are 2 entirely different situations. It's great to know that apparently other people with social anxiety feel similar.
@praisegod3768
Жыл бұрын
Has anyone else felt that social anxiety is contagious? What I mean is, when you are constantly worried about saying the right thing, not offending anyone, feeling guilt/shame, etc., other people in your circle may start to mirror your behavior?
@tammibrown5074
Жыл бұрын
I see this alot and it is disheartening. But atleast i get a glimpse of how im coming across in my anxious behaviours and it aint pretty.
@badguykp3000
2 жыл бұрын
loved this. i really want to enjoy my 20s but going out and being social really scares me and i hate it. when i do muster the courage to go, i end up leaving the event like 30 mins in
@TheGingaKiwi
2 жыл бұрын
I’m getting anxious just thinking about someone else giving this great presentation.
@FreddyBoBeddy
Жыл бұрын
2:53 Felt like she was talking directly to me, with how accurate all of this part was.
@hagfishslimer
2 жыл бұрын
I have her as a professor, she is great!
@Tacoman1967
2 жыл бұрын
She's very attractive and smart.
@getbrutal4388
2 жыл бұрын
I work in a field full of presentations. I have crippling anxiety before these, even if its to 2 or 3 people. I will have my week ruined by a single showing of my work to a group of 5. I will stress and lose sleep, eat badly, obsess, lose weight, if i have a decent sized presentation (10 ppl). If I'm in a social situation, I'm in constant fear of being asked to show my work to a group, even if that's not possible. At weddings I visualize the DJ asking me to do a speech, even if I'm not in the grooms party or part of the wedding at all and it causes me to have a "looking over my shoulder" feeling 100% of the time. If I get a break from that feeling, I can breath again. I do meditation, CBT, which has helped me organize my life a bit better but I'm still seriously struggling with everything else. Idk if I have social anxiety or not but I'm really have a hard time with this, biggest struggle of my life has been dealing with this for the last 3 years. Also it's funny you mention "solo" stuff like computer time. Turns out I'm a software engineer. We are thrust into presentations every 2 weeks. It's brutal and after 13 yrs in this career, these last 3 have made me want to change careers into something EVEN MORE solo.. Maybe writing! Lol!
@keyblue1816
2 жыл бұрын
Hello my friends hope we can get through this together god bless you all ! Keep loving yourself more
@martimihov
2 жыл бұрын
I am am exchange student in Italy and it feels awful since all my friends left and i have nobody. I have never been a person who can talk to strangers first, even though before the pandemic i felt confident and like l am an interesting person. The biggest problem is that i hardly speak Italian and most people here don't speak good Enlish.I feel so trapped because i dont know how to find this feeling again. Probably many people feel like me but I cannot live the life i deserve and i really hope whoever feels like me to overcome this❤
@okobeatz
2 жыл бұрын
man.. her conclusion spoke volumes to me… SEIZE THE DAY
@0xymor3
2 жыл бұрын
It's interresting how I was not feeling at all this idea of not being noticed by others when I only feel secured when I hide from them. 🙃 This video helped me realize more of the emotional aspect of this illness I only get diagnosed recently, the decaded part she mentionned is not a joke, I wish this was more known worldwide. We lack emotional and mental education everywhere. This needs to change.
@Tacoman1967
2 жыл бұрын
My daughter who is 7 inherited my social anxiety. I pray that I can help her pass through it.
@undeadbanana9367
2 жыл бұрын
This woman helped me more than years of therapy
@mymoviemania1
7 ай бұрын
wait, you took therapy and it didn’t work well?
@Kijimea1
2 жыл бұрын
I have suffered from social anxiety since childhood. I feel most insecure when I have to speak. I make grammatical mistakes or get my words mixed up. That's why I don't speak much, because I make these mistakes regularly.
@kiwi-jc7cp
2 жыл бұрын
Just started college this week and I’m already debating dropping out because of my social anxiety. I can barely start conversations with others and I’ve yet to make even one friend. I’m tired of this continuous cycle of wanting to open up and talk to people but when I’m given the chance I hold back and fall victim to my fears.
@nightingale7367
Жыл бұрын
I went through this exact same experience when I started college newly too. It was scary. I didn't have any friends, nobody talked to me because I wasn't talking to anyone. Some people told me it's because I frown all the time so I look like a rude person even when I knew that I wasn't (my face is just like that). I was drowning in despair. I really contemplated leaving and also battled with severe loneliness and dark thoughts. I won't say I'm free from anxiety now because I'm still battling with it..but I now have one friend. And to me, that's a lot. I just want you to hang in there. I can't say for sure if it'll ever get better, but hope is all we have. You're doing your best. You're surviving, no one knows the battles you're facing internally. So keep surviving. Sorry if this is too long.
@mariamart_0
Жыл бұрын
@@nightingale7367It is ok. I’m an upcoming 12th grader. I’m an senior right now. We all have some socially anxious and awkward emotional moments with people we know and we don’t know. But we all have to support each other and make sure we are okay as well entirely.
@carrie20074
9 күн бұрын
social anxiety is not about rejection. This person clearly does not have social anxiety. Its about humiliation and being humiliated confront of people, its not about rejection.
@enzofrancescoli1260
2 жыл бұрын
I have a big issue with dr. Goodman's lecture and every other conclusion related to social anxiety. All they want from you is to raise your hand and say that you have problem, tap you on the back and direct you to adequate treatment. But none of them are trying to address the cause of mental illness. Our world is changing in such a radical way that we feel we cannot keep up with it. Corporations, media, PR experts, modern marketing are controlling people's minds and needs and creating an atmosphere of endless consumer and lifestyle needs for the sake of mass consumption. We feel we can't keep up with it and distance ourselves from the outer world in order to find peace and solitude. It's is necessary to slow down the tempo of our life and change the system we live in. But that's the complicated part so it's better to send you to treatment. No help at all.
@DarthRancid
2 жыл бұрын
I also think asking people to raise their hands if they have this problem is like asking people to be singled out in the workplace as not having the capability to perform in certain situations and therefore require to be handled differently to in those situations, .aka special treatment. Companies don't want to be saddled with these inconveniences while having to pay the same salaries. It can become a burden, especially if you are singled out by raising your hand.
@MonsieurC64
2 жыл бұрын
You are so right. Also, only a person with real social anxiety (past or present) can understand how deep it goes, you can't transfer the experience. I think this mental illness is a product of our modern civilization. I doubt anyone would be able to find socially anxious people amongst the traditional societies. Our society is all about consuming, producing and money. Humans are being treated as products. Products are being judged, and given a monetary value. This is mostly how human relationships function in the modern world, in most situations, and we are raised thinking it's just normal and natural. It seems like socially anxious people are much more affected by this reality than most people.
@shrutimanjrekar4916
2 жыл бұрын
@@MonsieurC64 I have mentioned my social anxiety to my friend, I tried to describe what it feels like - why I used to be quiet in class but he was bored, and yet he got mad at me because I failed a job interview. He can't accept the fact that such a debilitating anxiety exists. (He has pretty good social skills and he is an ENFJ) Also my parents get frustrated at me for being so anxious.
@MonsieurC64
2 жыл бұрын
@@shrutimanjrekar4916 Sorry to read. I know how it sucks. Before internet times, I kind of thought I was the only person in the world with this problem, feeling like a freak. Didn't even know this condition had a name. At least there is some progress here, you can find information these days. But finding a real cure is another story.
@歩鳥-f3s
2 жыл бұрын
I agree that early detect help the people with mental illness I have had SAD from 10 or younger, but no one around me thought i have illness although i couldn't go school identified my illness when i was 23 years-old this illness completely trashed my life what we can do is knowing mental illness accurately, just doing this help people with it and yourself because there is a chance to have mental illness for everyone it's late after you or someone close to you have
@jaysonfigueroa6075
2 жыл бұрын
Is It weird to tell people I have social anxiety disorder? I told my brother that I told my coworkers about it, and he acted like that was the most craziest, embarrassing thing ever. I feel as though telling people beforehand will make them understand why we act the way we do.
@nitoginko2187
2 жыл бұрын
I personally wouldn’t think this is weird for the exact same reason you already said. Maybe your brother thinks it’s something very personal to tell others about you, with whom you are not very close to. But I agree with you. It will probably make it more pleasant for everyone of you.
@neuroticisim9173
3 ай бұрын
Social anxiety ruined my life. I couldn't finish college because communication is required, and some other classes require you to do public presentations. Back in 2017, I tried giving a speech for a project, and I had a horrible panic attack where I couldn't speak. It was really embarrassing. Since then, I have been forced to work jobs that don't require much communication, like warehouse jobs and construction jobs, but it really isn't what I want to do, unfortunately. I don't date because I am very insecure about my body. I don't want to get made fun of and get put online. I don't want a girl making fun of my manhood because it's not big enough. Life is hard with social anxiety.
@ayushiyadav1
2 ай бұрын
Go for it; you don't have forever. Trust me, the right people will support you through this situation instead of mocking or rebuking you.
@joeyricefried9621
2 жыл бұрын
I’ll never get over it. I don’t want people to feel sorry for me, I just want them to understand.
@delboy674
Жыл бұрын
I understand that hopeless feeling Joey. I've felt it many times as I have struggled with social anxiety most of my life but I have seen definite improvements in the past few years. Don't give up my friend. If it is possible for me it is for you too.
@vldmax5663
2 жыл бұрын
I have a very rare case of social anxiety. I was never anxious until I moved countries and schools which caused bullying due to cultural differences and language barrier. Now at 27 people are shocked if I tell them I have social anxiety because even in groups of people I can be very chatty and one on one I have no anxiety at all. But for me the main problem is overthinking everything and actually pushing myself to go out into social situations. On my way to meet with friends I would be having a panic attack thinking of all possible negative outcomes but once Im there everything seems fine. This results in me locking myself away at home most of the time or drinking alcohol before I meet people which is an ever bigger problem in itself.
@purplepie4361
2 жыл бұрын
I've the same condition
@lucyhenderson7154
Жыл бұрын
I have had social anxiety for my whole life. I have always been known as the outcast and the weird, quiet one at school and at work. I found that medication and advice were the only things that helped. Although I still have a fear of people and being judged. I have other incurable illnesses as a result and I have never been married or had many friends. So it has kinda ruined my life.
@Freshadventures_
Жыл бұрын
You sound just like me. I relate to everything you said. I have fallen into a deep depression for over a decade now because of social anxiety.
@Thatgirlrevised
14 күн бұрын
It's tough starting conversations with new folks. I shy away from neighbors. At work, gatherings are challenging, I struggle to speak, feeling awful after. I have a doormat that says: Sh sh...A hermits lives here. In hopes people leave me alone. 😔
@MyFavoriteWatch
6 ай бұрын
Here's my story goes, I thought I was a introvert but back then I saw a Facebook post on how not saying what you are willing to share isn't introvertness. I read some books andwatched some of the videos which totally related to me. I think I can overcome this now.
@almaguapa-sailboatliveaboa440
19 күн бұрын
Social anxiety has a deep root cause from childhood. And schools banning games&sports that have adversity doesn’t give children an opportunity to learn+grow from it. 😢 Vicious cycle for many generations.
@erindougherty1999
3 ай бұрын
The part about being socially rejected from a social group really hit home. I’ve been feeling so lonely since my social anxiety has gotten worse but don’t know how to overcome it.
@yuriahroy8442
2 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety. It's because I have a birthmark on my face and I get bullied because of it and it's a big deal for me because it becomes my biggest insecurities. I don't want to be in place that has a lot of people, I can't enjoy when I'm in public because I'm busy thinking what people might think about me. I'm scared of being judged.
@ellejaycopeland8835
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for using Ricky Williams as an example he is one of my favorite football players his story can inspire me im not alone I want to be free.
@bronwenriddiford2330
2 жыл бұрын
I fear social interaction constantly. I don’t feel that I am rejected. It’s the fear of making normal conversation with strangers.
@Freshadventures_
Жыл бұрын
Same. I feel like a vietnam vet with ptsd when I am around people. My brain reacts to people as a danger.
@vuyomajola4383
2 жыл бұрын
I Literally said sorry to a chair😭 because of this. So I was standing faced forward and away from a chair behind me. When a guy suddenly called for me I panicked, turned around and bumped into that chair and it flew into oblivion. I then said sorry to the damn chair. The dude who witnessed all this showed no interest in it but I Had to think about that moment for months😓.
@zakaza-oh1gj
Жыл бұрын
I also suffer from social phobia since childhood. it is very difficult. I'm home 24 hours, and I rarely go out. I also suffer from asthma and have no friends. I feel that my parents are ashamed of my presence in this life. I suffer from panic attacks when I have to interact socially and I don't have money for treatment, I left college, and I'm thinking of changing my major to one that suits my situation, although I would love to be a lawyer, but this is very difficult for me. I hope to rest. Honestly, I hope so
@tamiressouza4578
Жыл бұрын
Hey,how are u now?
@zakaza-oh1gj
Жыл бұрын
@@tamiressouza4578 as I am I'm trying to get better but it's hard! Thank you
@tamiressouza4578
Жыл бұрын
@@zakaza-oh1gj so happy to read this!,don't ever give up,and what are u doing to get better?
@zakaza-oh1gj
Жыл бұрын
@@tamiressouza4578 I'm trying to face my fears and look for ways to recover, but it's hard for me to do on my own, so I turned to a psychologist. I think I'm getting better, not much, but I'm glad I'm trying to escape from this nightmare I hope you recover if you are suffering like me
@thisisjamal1
4 ай бұрын
@@zakaza-oh1gj how are you now dear?
@futuremindvintageheart9887
Ай бұрын
The craziest thing is I used to be super quiet and introverted. So I worked on myself using self help books and I became super outgoing.Once I became extroverted I couldn't find anyone to talk to! Everyone I tried to start a conversation with acted very shy and I realized how hard it is to socialize because most young ppl nowdays are shy. I can talk to older ppl but not millenials or gen z. My advice is learn how to talk to ppl there are little tricks like wait until you hear soneone mention what you know about and then interject. Like if they mention a band you recently saw in concert you can say "I just saw them the other day the show was amazing! Whats your favorite song"? Most ppl are shy because they dont know what to say learn what to say like a script and it becomes easier then once the convo starts you can be yourself.
@abdullah-yb9gp
Ай бұрын
Hi friend,, can you tell me what the books which you read it ?
@futuremindvintageheart9887
Ай бұрын
@@abdullah-yb9gp how to talk to anyone by Patrick king how to make small talk by Melissa Wadsworth
@abdullah-yb9gp
Ай бұрын
@@futuremindvintageheart9887 thanks bro 🙏
@ellejaycopeland8835
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you great video thanks been struggling with social anxiety for years but it's people like you who help me get through so hard for me started when I was bullied at school but I'm a fighter stronger just suffer in the mind keep making these videos so I can overcome.
@fgoodman100
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your thoughtful note. You are a fighter indeed. And I will keep using any platform I have to crush the stigma of social anxiety and foster social courage.
@ellejaycopeland8835
2 жыл бұрын
@@fgoodman100 Thank you so much for understanding I will keep watching please keep posting one love ❤️
@MrDaigoRiki
Жыл бұрын
Especially living in Tokyo, Japan, people look at you, which is our bad habit so that they just make themselves feel alright and I hate it from the guts. There’s a lot of people with social anxiety in here. People constantly judge you without knowing you.
@iloveLanaDelRey2007
Жыл бұрын
I didn’t go to my prom yesterday bc of social anxiety, it rlly does ruin the things you want to do, it’s so frustrating
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