I'm really glad that you take time to break things down, and take a look at break ups from a realistic perspective. I just want simple, raw input to encourage my healing journey and I'm so so glad that you don't ever jump into "how to get your ex back" or "rebuilding quality connections" like so many other people that discuss break ups and relationships on YT
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy my content resonates with you! Thank you so much, this is exactly my intention with the videos I create. There are so many KZitemrs who preach game playing and other manipulation tactics when it comes to relationships, dating or winning ex’s back, and it breaks my heart that people think doing these things is a loving or healthy practice. I truly believe trying to win someone back who is no longer available to us is self-abandonment!
@Octoberdreamstarot
4 жыл бұрын
Yes I agree, Ashley is so honest and authentic, I was so tired and tired of coming across "get your ex back" , I want to get me back, this video resonating with me and I literally was lying awake almost in tears once again because my ex has moved on which I watched one of her videos regarding that, and I must say it was like she handed me my own personalized epiphany, Ashley Nord you are amazing, and you're doing really good work here, especially for me!
@charliewebster8569
3 жыл бұрын
@@AshleyNord I recommend you to a man who help me manifest whatever you want to manifest within two days💞
@charliewebster8569
3 жыл бұрын
@@AshleyNord He was the person who helped me manifest my ex back three days ago without daley🌹
@charliewebster8569
3 жыл бұрын
@@AshleyNord +2 3 4 8 0 8 0 4 9 4 1 4 1🌹
@milaalt1141
3 жыл бұрын
What I loved about my ex was that he gave me the love I was looking for, the validation that I mattered, and the understanding that I was loveable. I loved his confidence, how he independently did what he wanted and had goals to do what he loved
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing! These are such important, valuable insights. I really relate to what you’ve described here. You ARE loveable, enough and worthy just as you are.
@alexandrasavostikova6023
4 жыл бұрын
“Fear we will never be enough for someone.” I realized I never loved myself... he took that love when he left. I tied everything to him. I was obsessing, placed him on a pedestal, when I was just his stepping stool so he could see the whole crowd of people so he can find his next stepping stool when I broke beneath his feet.
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Alexandra Savostikova oh honey, reading this breaks my heart. This guy was clearly not a good person, and I’m so sorry he has hurt you so badly. I promise, there will come a day when you are able to not only clearly see you are so much better off without him, but you will FEEL it as well. For now, I would suggest not worrying about “pretending” that you are okay. It’s okay to not be okay, so try your best to honor your experience for where you are at in the moment. Fully accepting your emotions allows you to move through them. You got this! You’ll be okay ❤️
@alexandrasavostikova6023
4 жыл бұрын
Ashley Nord Thank you I really am trying. Thank you for making videos. I really enjoy them. I was curious to know if you could make videos on more of moving on, or like rediscovering yourself I guess. Or just any advice you have. Thanks for the responses!
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Alexandra Savostikova you’re very welcome. Yes! Absolutely, I certainly plan on doing topics like this very soon! Stay tuned ❤️
@dvajstdevet950
4 жыл бұрын
🖤Your words did stick a pin onto my heart. Because the same happened to me. And maybe you will understand if I say that my heart doesn't resemble a heart anymore: it was slashed and stitched too many times because of the same man. I feel you can relate. Your heart is in my thoughts, you are not alone in being a broken stool and a ruin.🖤
@alexandrasavostikova6023
4 жыл бұрын
Dvajst Devet Thank you. Sorry you had to experience the same thing. We will get better and we aren’t along. Time does wonders. Our heart will never be the same, but it will mend.
@wandarozier9974
3 жыл бұрын
Girl, you just told me exactly what I needed to hear and I didn’t know. He was fun, adventurous, etc. and my time with him was magical. I definitely wanted to be like him. Thank you for that epiphany!
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
you’re so welcome! I’m so happy it resonated with you 😊🙌🏼
@rosenruffles
2 жыл бұрын
Literally same 💜
@ksyushaxd
4 жыл бұрын
this is literally life changing. wow. i was scared i would never get over his ass but now i can definitely see that i've been on the right track. i wish i could shake your hand, Ashley. thank you!!
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy to hear it resonated with you! You’re so very welcome, thank you for watching ❤️
@dnz5235
2 жыл бұрын
hey, are you okay now?
@ksyushaxd
2 жыл бұрын
@@dnz5235 100% okay now. thanks for asking and hope you're doing ok too. if not, hang in there, one day soon you will be!
@anotherjunkie2
4 жыл бұрын
He goes out a lot and knows people. I am more shy and quiet. That is a big one.
@Anna-mq4qr
3 жыл бұрын
This video gave me so much almost scary familiar insight. My ex cheated on me 10 months ago and I was so disappointed in this person I had known for over five years. But I moved on, eventually stopping the obsessive clinging on to the past. A month ago, however, we got back in touch and I felt myself walking right back into the same trap of self-doubt and uncertainty. Because of your video I now see that I do indeed rely on him for validation and the compliments. It kinda shocks me how I’m willing to accept all those red flaggs and bad times just for the few good times we’ve had. Sometimes these matters of the heart are better of being handled by the brain. So that’s what I intend to do and slowly break off contact again. It’s simply better for me and my well-being. Thank you for this clarification❤️
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me! I really relate to your experience here. I too got back involved with my ex (the one I refer to in this video) months after we split up, and was all too-willing to overlook the red flags due to how much I relied on him for validation. You’re very welcome! I’m so happy this video resonated with you ❤️😊
@marytawadros7855
3 жыл бұрын
I've seen a few videos on this topic, but this is truly the most comforting and probably the most accurate.
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy you think so! Thank you so much ❤️🙌🏼
@citichic2311
3 жыл бұрын
I totally agree!! She helped me realize I just need to increase those qualities in myself! Mind blown 🤯 this will really start my healing in order to let him go!!
@joseamaya697
4 жыл бұрын
I’m gonna be watching this video weekly just because I’m going through a break up right now. 4 year relationship and each other’s first love. It’s super hard right now. But watching your videos is helping me. Thank you
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
So happy to hear you have found my videos helpful! Thank you for watching ❤️
@em7836
3 жыл бұрын
I can’t stop thinking about him. It’s obsessive, toxic and very unhealthy. I suffocated him and I keep remembering the ways that he hurt me but then I remember the best memories and everything else doesn’t matter. I’m sick and tired of this, and I’ve tried everything.
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this. Remaining stuck on an ex in an obsessive way is such a painful experience. Have you tried exploring this with a professional?
@MB-xv7er
2 жыл бұрын
Yep sometimes it never goes away. I am working with a professional, but nothing is working. He is constantly in my mind, and now I have an eating disorder because of it. It’s scary for those of us who never fully get over an ex… it is life threatening
@nicolameikle2680
2 жыл бұрын
@M B hope you are doing better
@mmagggg
23 күн бұрын
@@MB-xv7erI’m in the same boat now. are you doing better?
@MB-xv7er
12 күн бұрын
@mmagggg I’m actually much worse now
@kcflygirl29
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. It is crazy, as a flight attendant who went on furlough October 1st, and had a break up last August it has been intense. In the past, I would just go to work, have a great overnight with my crew, allow myself healing, and move on. I have been sitting at home, cleaning, painting, and stalking his social media, watching him go to vacations, car shows, and golfing. I am literally filling a void. I need to get called back to work. Thank you. Time to go out!
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome! And wow, I can’t imagine what a dramatic life shift you have experienced given your job. That would be very intense to say the least! Hang in there ❤️
@alanawilson6104
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so very much Ash ,for being my unpaid psychologist /relationship motivational speaker , especially when I cannot afford it,It's deeply appreciated
@jennycrisostomo4597
2 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. Thank you. My ex and I split 8 months ago and the reason I couldn't get over him is because he is constantly bread crumbing me and I'm so vulnerable and gullible.
@0mnom
3 жыл бұрын
I’m speechless, this really hit home, everything you said was 1000% accurate. I can’t stop crying, I feel like I’m releasing 6 months of tears 😭
@luckykonwea5032
3 жыл бұрын
Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly
@luckykonwea5032
3 жыл бұрын
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@uninstructedvision2062
3 жыл бұрын
Just subscribed. My wife and I separated back in August. Haven’t reconciled and I don’t think it’s going to happen. I totally am on board with the exercise and realizing my self worth. Thank you so much Ashley.
@larakontakos8299
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, you blew my mind. He is super confident, incredibly intelligent, energetic, loving and affectionate, bold, really fun and funny.
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
I hear you!! It sounds like you certainly desire to cultivate some of these qualities within yourself too 😊
@PearlEphraim
4 жыл бұрын
Guuuuurl!!!!! This is the video I needed so much !! I was actually thinking that this week that there are so many qualities in him I wish I had maybe that’s why I am struggling to let go. It’s been over a year now. Thanks for this video. I’m gonna watch it over and over again
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy to hear it resonated with you! Yes, I’ve found this to be a very common occurrence in those who have remained stuck on ex partners for long periods of time. It very rarely has anything to do with truly believing getting back together is a good idea deep down! But rather, they are missing the qualities (and often, the excitement those qualities brought into their lives) more than the actual person. Learning how to bring those things into your life yourself seems to be an excellent way of combating this! Thanks for watching 😊💕
@PearlEphraim
4 жыл бұрын
Ashley Nord it really did! You are helping a lot of people. This break up is tough for me( I’ve been inlove twice before but someone this one is heavy)..your videos are doing amazing things for me thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
@benlindfors1501
2 жыл бұрын
This hit home. Realistically I came to this idea through all my torment. Knowing that I'm not alone makes all the difference.
@nothingpersonalhomie
4 жыл бұрын
I keep commenting on your videos (I know lol) but WOW I can't thank you enough for helping me get through my first heartbreak. I definitely felt like a "loser" or just not as exciting and the fact that he was older and traveled/lived in other countries for work was so exciting to me. The fact that he seemed close to his family was attractive to me since I was lacking that. I thought I could have all those things just by being with him. I hate to admit it, but even after he abandoned me, I was doing things that didn't resonate with me or was bad for my mental health because I wanted to impress him. For some reason, when he finally returned from work I wanted him to see me as cool or worthy.
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I love it! Keep the comments coming! 😊 I’m so happy to hear you find my videos helpful. But yes, bringing awareness and attention to these underlying beliefs you are carrying about yourself is SO important, and a key element of healing and moving forward more consciously and lovingly. I resonate with your experience so much, especially about being motivated to seem “cool” in the eyes of an ex. As if achieving that would have solved all my problems! If only I knew better at the time...
@jay-bear634
3 жыл бұрын
Look at all of these Queens! 👑 Keep Your head up! Don’t lose faith or hope, good hardworking men are out there!
@maurabegg
2 жыл бұрын
ok, so what you said about "wanting to be like them" is a big part of what i think bonded me so hard to my most recent ex. He is charming, charistmatic, carefree, a great musician (im an aspiring one) and i do really think those are awesome things. however, in him those things are really unbalanced with good judgment and conscientiousness, and he just kind of lives very messily etc which of course does not bode well for a committed relationship. ive already watched this video so many times because it was just really helpful and validating. I totally get the thing about the "nice guy asshole", like very careless and selfish but not outright evil. really good video. thank you!!
@elzibabmorac3553
4 жыл бұрын
Amazing, thank you. It's been just over a year. I've wondered what the hell was wrong with me. He was so into me and just one day suddenly wasn't. I have a much better bf now in so many ways but I just found out 2 days ago that after all this time the ex has found someone new but this girl treats him badly and doesn't seem to appreciate him. He's a bit eccentric so yes, he stands out in my mind as one of a kind. I've been so confused as to why I can't lt go. Discovering the new girl has been a fresh wave of pain and I've felt so conflicted bc I do love my current bf. He is everything I have ever wanted but my brain has been sabotaging the joy he brings with my stupid fixation. i guess I was unable to make a list of his good qualities because it was far too painful to read what i was "missing". I can be those things now. I have been neglecting some of those qualities in myself. I am ready to be them now. It can take a while to face up to the positive list of qualities of the guy who hurt you so terribly.
@rekeidagarner2824
4 жыл бұрын
Wow this was amazing I have literally been obsessed over my ex for 5 whole years and now have a 2 year old baby by him so in my mind I was convinced that we were destined to be together but by hearing you say this I 100% agree and this has put sooooooi many things into perspective for me like you have no clue my ex is a smart, fun, popular, athletic guy that wins any crowd over instantly with his wits and that was the one thing that I admired most about him I genuinely felt exactly what you said more relevant and important by being with him but from your video it all just began to sink in... I was also this person when I was in college and those were the happiest days of my life but I let life take over and instead of fixing those issues I was looking for them in him WOW like I said before a MOUTH FULL I don’t think any video has brought this much insight and understanding to my world this is going to be fuel and momentum to actually move on and understand why I was thinking that I wasn’t enough and that’s because I wasn’t doing enough and living out my true life’s purpose 🙌🏾
@vesnamanjic5254
3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad I came across your video. I really needed to hear all of this! I have a list of his good and bad qualities, and now I understand myself better. THANK YOU! My break up happened 2 months ago, and I went through angry (and said so many nasty things) and sad (tried to explain myself and possibly hurt him even more) phase and through mix of these two. I'm glad that is over. Now I finally realised it was so hard to let go because I really do want to have some of his qualities, and I feel so much better now, both because of him and because of me. I don't regret anything I'm just glad it's over. Thank God he left because I would have stayed in it much longer. I've learnt so much about myself during the relationship and even more after the break up. 😌
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you came across it too! I’m so happy to hear it was helpful for you and was able to give you some additional insight about yourself. I totally hear you when you say “thank god he left because I would have stayed in it much longer.” Amen! Totally been there. So many of us have! Breakups, as gut-wrenching as they are, can be incredibly powerful teachers!
@strawberrycakes15
4 жыл бұрын
He just realized today that he still loves his first love. After so many years. After all the love and effort and understanding I poured out...
@ocean1458
3 жыл бұрын
That's so painful i hope you're okay now😞🧡
@lupita1732
4 ай бұрын
this video completely changed my perspective! I also 1000% relate to your anecdote because I was also raised in boredom whereas my ex was superrrr adventurous. I usually don't comment on KZitem videos nor know if you'll ever see this but ur now my fav psychology KZitemr 😭💕
@Ms91Fruity
4 жыл бұрын
LOVE YOUR VIBE! THANK YOU & LOVE YOU! You are right, he wasn't even all that and our relationship wasn't that great, that's why we argue all the time. I need to keep reminding myself.
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Oh you are so sweet! Thank you so much ❤️ I’m so happy you found this video helpful and that you related to it.
@sinceysays1092
3 жыл бұрын
You are speaking so much truth. I want to be more like my ex. They’re so smart and I’m so not ,so financially stable hard working and good lookin..These tings I can’t change I’m not that great looking and I’m not that smart. Maybe I can save and become more financially stable one out of three ain’t bad...SMH that’s why there gone!
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching and for sharing your situation with me! If you haven’t already done so, I think you might get a lot of out my video about idealizing an ex partner. It sounds like that is also something you’re doing here, while also simultaneously putting yourself down in comparison. You are ENOUGH and worthy! ❤️
@melissadavis8684
3 жыл бұрын
You nailed right on the head describing your ex...OMG😳
@lucasallakariallak8244
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. It helps a lot. It's been 5 years now. I'm trying, it's hard, it hurts and it's depressing. I'm happy I saw this video.
@lanab00ski
3 жыл бұрын
its been a month and 2/3 weeks. they moved on so quickly, they were my happiness , my home , and I don't know what to do.
@giulyrose6449
3 жыл бұрын
Are u better now? I'm going through the same thing and can't let him go...
@DeeTube691
3 жыл бұрын
You will be okay! Your happiness lies with you. You are your home and you are your rock. The power is within you to be happy and better. You can do this. Talk to your friends, do new things, workout. Be the best you you can be because this is the best time to do it. You’ll find the happiness within yourself after that!
@dishablink9502
2 жыл бұрын
I was okay for one month, and today i cant deal with it. Suddenly the thought hit me 'how could he leave me so easily and move on?'. All our memories popped out and now i am having an anxiety attack again.
@m.b.2709
Жыл бұрын
Did you move on?
@dishablink9502
Жыл бұрын
@@m.b.2709 He got engaged to the girl he dated after me Last Sunday. I cried because he gave me dreams of marriage, made false promise to make me sleep with him, took money from... I couldnt move on seeing him move on 1 week, and giving the new girl everything I asked him
@m.b.2709
Жыл бұрын
@@dishablink9502 Disha i understand you. gonna say dont doubt yourself but I know that it impossible right now. i wish there was a way to heal, erase all memories and control our emotions. please don't give up of dates. just casually date randomly have coffee with new people..
@dishablink9502
Жыл бұрын
@@m.b.2709 Do people even get their karma ? What he did to me was inhumane and atrocious and he is living happily :(
@dezimonae1214
Жыл бұрын
Can I ask how are you doing today.
@babyelephant14
3 жыл бұрын
You saved me from all the memories that started to come back since the beginning of the month. It's been 6 months now since he definitely broke up with me. I moved on but soon it will be the day we first met each other, one year ago, and my heart already starts to feel heavy. I totally relate to this video... Everything you said was so true... and it really helped me to hear those words. Thank you so much and I wish to all of you a lot of happiness. We are strong and we deserve love don't forget that 💕
@usmanojochenemiamina3086
3 жыл бұрын
Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay
@usmanojochenemiamina3086
3 жыл бұрын
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@Lilst12
4 жыл бұрын
What you said about his confidence. Yup. That’s what i lacked.
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy you resonated with this! But yes, I find this a common one for people. It’s extremely common to project what we want for ourselves onto our partners!
@lydiamatias290
Жыл бұрын
This has opened my eyes so wide… I’ve been broken up from my ex for a total of 4 years and I couldn’t figure to save my life why was I still not over her… I racked my brain till I came across this video… the one thing that she has that I so desperately wanted was FAMILY… I had no reason to be attached but because of this video I was able to see that it wasn’t anything but what she has that I wanted… thank you so much for this…
@v.o.warrior9021
Жыл бұрын
Again the accuracy of what I’ m feeling is refreshing. She took me to Morro Bay, the snow, she was quit witted and always had something to say. We had really good adventures together. I could tell people oh just got back in town. A complete opposite of when I was married for 20yrs. Same with the house of cards🙃
@wowwee0
2 жыл бұрын
Lol I've sat with the pain for almost 2 years now. It's not going away.
@chablochita
4 жыл бұрын
Thiiiissssss !!!! I’m looking within to see what about him I admire so much, that I might lack and that’s why I can’t let go. It’s been 10 months - and he has a new girlfriend. I’m in a good place emotionally but it’s like in the back of my mind I still have hope or something ! thank you so much ! I really needed this!
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I TOTALLY relate to that feeling. It’s easy to think that the fact your mind is continuing to linger on him is because you secretly want him back or something, but I find that this is VERY rarely the case. It’s just your psyche’s way of trying to get your attention and let you know that there is a need within you that you are not fulfilling or meeting ❤️
@lizharkins1377
4 жыл бұрын
This is a really great perspective thank you so much for sharing I’ve been in counseling since my break up which is been six months. And while I’m on a great journey to self compassion and self acceptance I’ve been wondering why is it that I am still thinking about this person who was toxic and abusive to me? It was very hard for me at first to even think about the negative things. But as I’ve made my list and looked at the Positive attributes and things that I admired about him I did realize for me one of the biggest things is that he’s so knowledgeable about so many things. This makes total sense because with my strength finder tests one of my number one strengths is learning being a good learner and something I crave is knowledge so realizing that there are characteristics about this person that I desire for myself really kind of sheds some light on a different perspective it makes me feel like I’m not crazy. Well not as crazy LOL
@annechan5275
4 жыл бұрын
THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST ACCURATE VIDEO AND TIP EVER! He is confident and can speak in front of a lot of people unlike me who is veeeeery introvert and... and.... that’s the only thing I can remember. that I admired about him 😂😱🤭😂 This is such a great help!!! ❤️❤️
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy it resonated with you and you found it helpful! ❤️❤️
@capalottyslimalini2878
3 жыл бұрын
Once I was honest with myself and admit that I didn’t truly love my ex, but emotionally attached, it helped me move on so much faster
@alexi6636
3 жыл бұрын
I see her every week she put me through so much pain I put so much into her and she left me for being clingy without even telling me it hurts so bad and it’s been months I hate seeing her happily getting on with her life without me 😔
@AsifKhan-cg1ki
3 жыл бұрын
My dear let me recommend you to a man who can help you
@madblsavior2907
4 жыл бұрын
There's something I really wanna know: How long does it usually take someone to get over an ex? I had an 1-year relationship with someone in 2018, I dumped him last year because he did terrible and disgusting things to me I would say, and I always felt insecure. At first, I was like "phew, I finally left him" and I hated him a lot, but a few months later the memories kept jumping in and out until this moment, which annoys me so much. It's been a year since we broke up but I'm still stuck in those horrifying memories and I just think that I am taking too long to get over that relationship. Am I? I don't hate him that much now but whenever I think about some memories, I will be scared. Scared that I will love him again in the future which I truly don't want to. Sometimes when I'm watching a drama, I will imagine if that plot happens between me and him, something like "I wish he had done something as good as what I saw in a drama" (Agh I'm so CRAZY). This is the first time I broke up with someone, so I don't know what to do. Btw I didn't cry at all throughout the breakup, am I cold-blooded??😥
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
There is no right or wrong answer for this one - everyone moves at their own pace and there are a variety of factors that can influence the rate at which we heal. For some it could be a matter of months, for others it can take several years. It’s certainly common that you may feel “over it” at the beginning, especially if there was a lot of anger involved. Anger often masks underlying feelings of sadness. Therefore, when the anger wears off, you’re just left with the hurt and you might be reliving some of those unresolved feelings. This is totally normal and your feelings are valid. Try bringing acceptance to your emotions no matter where they are, instead of feeling ashamed or scared of them. Practice inviting them in. Sending you lots of love! ❤️ you will get there.
@slyfly4829
9 ай бұрын
The reason why I can't move on is because I'm waiting for justice or an apology.
@jaclynjones1120
4 жыл бұрын
I needed this too! My ex and I have been broken up for 4months now but I just found out he’s already seeing someone else. How do I deal with know he’s already moving on with someone else? It’s hard to believe he did so fast. I’m realizing it’s not me but it was him
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so very sorry to hear this. Knowing your ex partner has moved on with someone else quickly after your relationship adds another layer of hurt, and can be extremely difficult to accept. But please know him moving on with someone else has absolutely nothing to do with you, although I can understand it can feel that way. You will be okay, please practice showing yourself a lot of self love and care during this time ❤️
@ianmoseley2475
3 жыл бұрын
The Universe speaks in mysterious ways. I've been in a state of grieving for a long time. My ex girlfriend / partner left me, and I still don't understand why. That was 3 years ago to this month. I've felt stuck, and unable to let go. Lately, I've started asking myself the question ... what do I have to learn from all of this about myself? and also about her. and also about the nature of relationships in general. It's so strange, but what you're able to articulate so clearly here in your video, this is exactly what's started coming into my awareness. I didn't know if I was strange for starting to ask these questions. Questions like, is there a separation between my attraction to her versus the qualities she possessed. I know it's a combination of both ultimately ... and it's not always so easy to separate w/ clarity. But I'm realizing that she did (does) possess so many amazing and beautiful qualities that I don't. Or haven't yet. It's like there's an opportunity for growth here if I'm able to stay vulnerable with the pain. I can sense it, I just don't know if I'm strong enough to move through it. I don't exactly know what to do with this awareness as of yet, but your video was deeply validating. There's so much truth in what you've shared. Thank you. I woke up this morning with a heavy heart around all of this ... and then randomly came across this video ... it doesn't feel like a coincidence.
@lucystokes57
4 жыл бұрын
Me and my ex just broke up after 6 years and the thing that makes it harder is a just loved countries for university so i feel more alone and vulnerable then ever, he was supposed to move with me. Now we are strangers
@BamdadSky
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Lucy, Aft watching the video, I came to read the stories from the people who have gone (or going) through the same hell that I'm going through right now!!! My story matches yours in some ways, the love of my life ("so called" I'm being an idiot for saying so) left me as she's going to university in a different city and she left me as she wanted to explore more!!! We were supposed to move there and do all the exciting things together. but now, i'm left all alone in a city where I have no friends. It's tough and I feel like dying everyday, Hope you have been able to move on by now....
@lucystokes57
3 жыл бұрын
Bamdad Jokar I’m so sorry to hear that. Have you guys lost all contact? I know how you feel i also have no friends here and am very lonely but things will get better time solved all problems!
@BamdadSky
3 жыл бұрын
@@lucystokes57 Thanks for the response Lucy, we are in no contact at the moment. I'm glad to hear time has eased up your pain. I live in Toronto & have no quality friends here. Hope things change for the better. Stay safe
@greyballs
3 жыл бұрын
My entire world has been blown to pieces by the woman I love leaving me , labelling me a narcissist, which has caused such a deep delve into really looking at myself ,,, and being horrified by what I saw !, , because of the intense love I felt (feel), I think she saw me as a narcissistic partner, and thinking I’ve been abusing her mentally ,making her feel worthless ,, all without realising it !, !, I’ve been given such a gift by this woman , a chance to see what my soul looks like , so I know where I need to change behaviours. I’m going to be a better version of me after I’ve healed from this ,,,,,,, if only I could stop crying 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
@Octoberdreamstarot
4 жыл бұрын
All I can say is wow and you're absolutely right, I kind new this but didn't realize it until I watched this video!! Thank you thank you
@matrescence_motherhood
3 жыл бұрын
He listened and validated me (sometimes) which I need to do more of for myself. I also just sort of liked how he was aloof and busy, lol, which is a quality that is attractive. Thank you. 💖
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Providing your own validation is so important! You’re very welcome, thanks for watching ❤️
@ghernandez4466
3 жыл бұрын
You give me Drew Barrymore vibes 💕💖 Thank you for your videos. I recently watched the one about the toxic relationship and you really helped me accept the reality of my situation 💖💖💖 hang on, heart, we'll get through this.
@judithugoh6017
3 жыл бұрын
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
@judithugoh6017
3 жыл бұрын
Whtsaap him"**
@judithugoh6017
3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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@criageleazer2311
3 жыл бұрын
You have to work towards your confession my dear friend i can recommend you to a great relationship restorer from the US that can help you manifest your ex back without any delay in less than 24 hours 😊
@micheledomin-jones4062
4 жыл бұрын
Trying to do the exercise. But realised my ex husband doesn’t actually have any qualities that I like , so now I’m asking myself. Why am I wanting him to come back. ? Got some hard thinking to do
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Ohhh wow! What a big realization! Thank you for sharing. This sounds like a very valid question to explore.
@prettyrealsagittarius
3 жыл бұрын
I realized the same thing...I really could not come up with anything good...that speaks VOLUMES...but it also makes me question myself...like WTH was wrong with me that I stuck around so long?!?!...🤯🙄😔🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@ohmikomicah
2 жыл бұрын
Never thought of this before, but it makes a lot of sense now that I think about it. I thought I was going crazy obsessively stalking him and crying pretty much every single day at the thought of not being with him anymore. Similar to your experience, I also grew in a very strict and controlling household and was out down a lot growing up. When I met him he was the complete opposite, grew up from an emotionally healthy and loving household so it was the first time I felt such unconditional love. We were in a long distance relationship too so even though he lived in another country, we constantly communicated everyday and I ended up living with him for a year. But because I didn't love myself and put him on a pedestal, the relationship eventually fell apart. :( I miss him so much and though we talk once in awhile, I know he's moved on from me now which really hurts. But watching your video helps puts things into perspective, thank you ❤️
@nataliewhite3214
3 жыл бұрын
Making that list you mentioned really helped a lot. I realized all those qualities I admired about him, he used in negative ways or to promote himself. We only broke up 2 days ago, but this truly shed some light on what didn't see while I was dating him.
@luckykonwea5032
3 жыл бұрын
Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly
@luckykonwea5032
3 жыл бұрын
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@1ash381
2 жыл бұрын
Tyyyyy. this is soooo good. This really helped me. Feels like you r just describing my situation. Glad to know i'm not only one who feels this vulnerable and lonely and unworthy.time to grow from that shit
@gb_the_accuser
3 жыл бұрын
This is a great video. My ex was a great cook, in great shape, business minded, and attractive. She was also , a bisexual, I never knew where i stood with her, cold, couldn't communicate, zero libido, feminist , disrespectful , cringed on having kids with me. I have not stopped being motivated to move forward with my life. Its just been a year and i think about her every single day. Im trying to learn to travel alone and meet attractive women. Tinder is not cutting it lol
@judithugoh6017
3 жыл бұрын
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
@judithugoh6017
3 жыл бұрын
Whtsaap him"**
@judithugoh6017
3 жыл бұрын
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@criageleazer2311
3 жыл бұрын
You have to work towards your confession my dear friend i can recommend you to a great relationship restorer from the US that can help you manifest your ex back without any delay in less than 24 hours 😊
@criageleazer2311
3 жыл бұрын
Whtz>>app him
@fut308
3 жыл бұрын
I have been stuck in this situation for 2 years now and this is the first video that actually helped me. Yes I want to be like him... I thought I was alone with this problem. The way you talk about your ex boyfriend is the exact way I feel too :/ My ex is someone that is really adventourus, he doesn't care what other people think about him and is very confident in general. He stands up for other people and is not anxious around people (like I am). When I was in elementary school, there were these guys who bullied people. And I always wanted them to like me. But they didn't and I was bullied too. And deep down (eventhough I'm 22 now) I still feel like this affects me in my life. I'm still trying to be a person that they would like. And I also feel like that my ex is that type of person. The type of person that people treat with respect. Another reason why I can't let go is because we were never offically dating. It was an on and off kind of relationship, which made me addicted to the drama and it still hurts so much, because whenever I see him meeting other women, i feel like they are good enough and I wasn't. They are good enough for him to settle down with them and have an official relationship and I wasn't. We are still pretty close now and I know that he cares about me but I just really really want to let it go. I don't want to feel this pain anymore, only because he is with another person. When I met him, I thought that I loved myself , but I really didn't. I just don't believe that I can be the person that I want to be...
@duysalekinci
4 жыл бұрын
Ashley I can only say bravo to you for being so open and honest with how you felt and what made you feel that way towards your ex! spot on but I wonder how you figured out all the feelings. With help of a therapist?
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Yes!! Absolutely, through a lot of help from an amazing psychologist 😊💕
@duysalekinci
4 жыл бұрын
@@AshleyNord YOUR BLOG is a reflection of my current feelings and situation!!! Now I realize why I feel that way! You are so brave and beautiful!!! Greetings from İstanbul and thank you for your well written words and sharing with us!!!
@marlono8755
4 жыл бұрын
You need more subs! Seriously
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Aww thank you!! We are growing slowlyyy but surely 😝🥰
@sarahthewierdo
Жыл бұрын
When my 2nd partner left me in 2019, I didn't end up feeling better or like I could move on from them until I remade myself into a version of me that I thought they would be proud of. What ended up happening in retrospect was I was taking care of myself, relying on myself, and being more social...
@janeenmpellicane956
Жыл бұрын
Adventurous! I gotta start doin it!! Ty!!
@jonathanlittle5550
3 жыл бұрын
This is a really amazing perspective. Very relaxing to listen you your voice and opinion on the topic. You should definitely do a podcast or create an audio book!
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I’m so happy you think so 😊 And aww what a lovely compliment! I hate listening to my own voice so it’s nice to know other people enjoy it haha ❤️
@shxbm7233
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this from someone. I cannot get over him.I feel like I will never be able to but I wanna move on. I was literally crying and thinking about him right now because he was the only one who celebrated my birthday. But I will try to work on myself.
@olukitibigbenga7580
2 жыл бұрын
Whats!!lapp!him!!..
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2 жыл бұрын
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@melenebacosa51
2 жыл бұрын
thank you for this. it's been two year and I decided to fully let go of him
@KirbyTheKirb
2 жыл бұрын
It's so hard, becasue my EX didn't really mistreat me or anything, it wasn't perfect, but it was more about needing to understand each other and the intentions a lot more, communicating more clearly and not getting to wind up in the feelings at the moment, stuff like that. Sometimes I felt more insecure about stuff she told me, but it was with good intention, I know that. So I'm having a really rough time moving on since it really feels like I was the reason we broke up and that I lost the potential love of my life. If she had mistreated me emotionally and stuff like that yes I understand it would maybe be a little bit easier to move on, but it wasn't like that. I admire her so much, her life, what she does, her friends and family, everything, I wanted to be a part of all of that, it felt like I really belonged. And now after the break-up, I'm left with what feels like nothing, I had to leave our shared friend group that I had been a part of for 18 months, never talking to her mom and friends again, never talking to her or be a part of her future, it hearts so freaking much I'm destroyed. And I have none of that, not much of a family at all, no friends after I had to leave, and I'm in a really bad situation economically too and everything, it's overwhelming. And she was the light in my life telling me everything would be all right, she even talked about when I would move in with her and everything. And now it's all gone. I'm trying so hard, and it's so hard to not be bitter, and feeling regret of even starting a relationship, because this pain is so much hurt I never want to feel it again, never. I gave all my love and even asked her if I could fully commit and give all my heart to her, and she said yes, and I did, feeling secure and comfortable with us, and it's all to waste, now having my feelings crushed. I don't want to feel like this anymore, I really don't, it's too much for me, it's 24/7, every day, for weeks and weeks, of just torture and crying.
@tiarafreeman5622
3 жыл бұрын
Wowwww this is so scary but true. Thank you so much for this video. You really open my eyes to see the big picture.
@luckykonwea5032
3 жыл бұрын
Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly
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3 жыл бұрын
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@abduldesign117
3 жыл бұрын
Wow I never saw it like this she made me feel like I was a boring guy when In fact she was the boring one and bored that’s why she left me. she loves getting attention from other guys! This is why i was stuck her. Looking back it was so toxic and I put up with some much shit no one else would deal with! We would always go out to eat and I gained 20KG stopped playing video games and football for good because I would spend all the time with her and travel to her! The list is huge so much red flag like at the start she made me unfollow every girl on social media and made me stop doing my work as a graphic designer/ artist because I would draw girls and she got so jealous of it! It’s been about 3 months since we broke up and I’m so happy now that I am not with this person as we even nearly got married. Love made me blind. Thanks for the advice
@juliagoolia5604
Жыл бұрын
Such a good point. Never thought about it that way
@martinjones8544
Жыл бұрын
enjoyed this, I'm a mess after 4 years still lost.
@rossgeography
3 жыл бұрын
perfect - now I know why I get jealous (and possibly why she gets in touch every few years - something she may want/desire about how (she perceives) I live my life then/now
@TheKrystee
4 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU for this. Needed this reminder!
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
TheKrystee you’re very welcome! Thank you for watching! 😊
@pandaskinx
4 жыл бұрын
I really love this advice! It really hits home for me. Thank you! 🖤 So much truth here.
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
So happy it resonated with you!! Thanks for watching ❤️
@Thewayoulike
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your support! ❤️
@blackvelvet6165
3 жыл бұрын
Oh I needed this reminder, thanks!
@lisahunsberger
3 жыл бұрын
I just came across this. Your words made so much sense and finally helped. Thank you so much!
@nidhia219
3 жыл бұрын
My ex made me feel really pretty and confident about myself which i did not feel before meeting him he used to tell me how perfect and pretty and enough i was for him everyday and that's what made me the happiest in the relationship. He told me i was the prettiest girl he's ever been with and that he'd never find any other girl attractive and i blindly believed him. Now when i see him liking pictures of other girls telling them they have the most gorgeous face he's ever seen and their bodies are perfect breaks my heart. I keep comparing myself to them it's giving me depression. I feel like he lied to me and that he never found me attractive ☹️
@awolfadventureawildconnect5311
3 жыл бұрын
omg you have a samoyed I miss mine so much. As usual wish Id found you earlier your truly Real and amazing. Don't change
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
They are the BEST dogs aren’t they ❤️ he is my world!! 🥺❤️
@productreviews8922
3 жыл бұрын
Great video thank you so much!
@tahminamatin9277
3 жыл бұрын
Wow! What an excellent video. So simple and yet so eye opening. Thank you!
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy you enjoyed it! Thank you for watching 😊❤️
@ninkwillow
Жыл бұрын
I need someone to talk to about my feelings and situation but my friends seem so unbothered, like they didn’t even let me finish my story and I feel so lonely and drown in my sadness alone
@ninkwillow
Жыл бұрын
At first we’re just a friend but she said she likes me, now that I’m so in love with her she just changed into another person. It makes me lose my self confidence because I think that I’m not the person she imagined I’d be.
@mikeapp1319
2 жыл бұрын
No, I dont want to be like her. We are different, and I believe the balance is important. We have children together, and I still want to share that adventure together, to take care of her and my kids. Any new relationship can accomplish the bandaid, but it will not bring my family back together. If she is more spontaneous, even when I'm spontaneous, I want to share that experience with her.
@alwaysravi
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much, this perspective really gave some relief and peace.
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy to hear that ❤️ you’re very welcome.
@nicolameikle2680
2 жыл бұрын
My ex was hard working, motivated, disciplined, good looking, set goals, intelligent and I am none of those 💔
@lexvirgilio
3 жыл бұрын
I am so beyond grateful for these videos. Thank you thank you thank you❤️❤️❤️
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
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@carterwatson1949
3 жыл бұрын
im not sure if ill be able to see her ever again because her mother is strict and protective which is understable everybody tells me to move on but in my heart i cant shes my first love from high school its been since 2019 since we texted last then i lost contact because she isnt allowed a phone and were both 20 when i graduated high school i felt so much pressure from everybody about everything. i havent been able to speak to her and i ended things with her and its been awhile since we last saw each other and i just i cant be with any new girl since without thinking of her in the back of my mind. i miss her so much.
@lorenabarrientos1223
3 жыл бұрын
I reached to my ex 7 months later because i realized it was a ridiculous reason to break up. He acted like he wanted to see me but then told me he was a afraid of mixed emotions and thought it probably wouldn't be healthy. I cried n told him i dont want to make you feel way n agreed. I cried n cried 😢
@seabeejeebs
4 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU 🙌 for this video and for the cat
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome! Haha so happy you enjoyed my fur baby. He’s great company for me while I film 🥰💕
@brandonbarnard766
3 жыл бұрын
I love that cat in the background
@anotherjunkie2
4 жыл бұрын
I never thought of this. It makes some sense.
@amyevans2967
3 жыл бұрын
I was just waiting for the car to pounce on that candle 😂
@AshleyNord
3 жыл бұрын
Haha! It looked that way didn’t it! He LOVES watching candles but has never gotten near the flame... yet 😬
@maryamnazar9317
3 жыл бұрын
Thank u Ashly you r so nice . I felt so dawn and u helped alot ❤️
@mariealexa
Жыл бұрын
I broke up my ex 6 months ago…. I can’t let go get over him I see him everyday at school…
@celesteh5992
2 жыл бұрын
He was confident and I lack with that and he was a hard worker and when I was with him I wasn’t working but Ik I’m a hard worker at heart and I thought he was good looking but in reality I made him look good
@natasharosemillscoaching
3 жыл бұрын
Very insightful 👏
@MissRandomz1231
4 жыл бұрын
Hey. Can you pls do a video on the role of a woman in a healthy relationship?, like how a female should be/act/do in a relationship. like ik theres an archetypal male role eg. to provide, but wb females? Don’t have a lot of healthy examples around me to know. Would be a huge help x
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Hey! Oh this sounds like an interesting topic! Thanks for the suggestion. I generally am of the opinion that gender roles within relationships have evolved and that there are no set ways women or men should be in a relationship. Different dynamics work for different couples. But, I’ll certainly have a think about this one further! 😊
@calebkeegan3023
3 жыл бұрын
DAY 33 single from last discard from narcissist ex gf 13 months of hell last time I walked away she reeled me back in only to discard me few months later completely block me a month then finally say its over move on obv w new guys so important when they think ur weak like this to go 100 no contact yes cry it out then use logic to realize ur better off. It has been a rough raw 33 days single but I am still moving forward no contact there is no closure.
@cleop2374
4 жыл бұрын
Love your lip shade. May I please know which brand/name ?
@AshleyNord
4 жыл бұрын
Oh thank you so much! This is one of my favorites too 😊 it’s Kat Von D’s matte liquid lipstick in Lolita 2! 💕
@princessj263
4 жыл бұрын
~ it’s hard for me Bc he took my virginity and swore he wouldn’t do me dirty and did he cheated and I found out after we broke up and it hurt worse I left him Bc I was crying everyday Bc of him but he begged me not to leave him so I didn’t but he used me till he now got a gf and is ghosting me and idk how to let go but I’m trying my best
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