I struggle with it because I feel like I’m making the person uncomfortable by staring at them
@stephaniemoreno5043
Жыл бұрын
Same! Are you doing better ?
@jackblacks4176
11 ай бұрын
Me too i need help😭
@Nicole-si3ck
11 ай бұрын
Omg yes
@sadhana4578
10 ай бұрын
I need help too... did you ever understood what to do
@jackblacks4176
10 ай бұрын
@@sadhana4578 I’m still struggling with it but i try to keep contact regardless of what i think they feel because it’s us doing the overthinking and they are probably thinking the way we are so i just keep the gaze going
@adoorableanimation831
Жыл бұрын
I have difficulty with looking at people's eyes because when I do, it feels like I'm challenging them
@jupiterdrops7752
Жыл бұрын
that sounds fun. A cool eye contact war.
@-rizuki4682
Жыл бұрын
@@jupiterdrops7752 hahahahaha
@usmanaminu2999
Жыл бұрын
Same here
@nilaypatil4721
Жыл бұрын
@@jupiterdrops7752 trust me, it's not fun
@vitigaymer1053
Жыл бұрын
Same here. My fight and flight reflexes start going haywire.
@EM-Ree
5 ай бұрын
people who don't understand social anxiety can be so unforgiving.
@HypeNationYT
Ай бұрын
Fr, I struggle with eye contact OCD and anxieties 24/7; when I start a fresh day I just want to be left alone and not talk to anybody. When talking to my friends, me thinking of “manually controlling my eye contact” bugs me. I wonder if they think I’m a weird person.
@paulopaulo3774
18 күн бұрын
@@HypeNationYTI feel like people can SEE that im nervous or anxious 😰😳, like I'm like this 😊 but they know I'm faking it and is questioning what is going on and there is something wrong going on with me. I'm basically afraid of what they could see of me... Being vulnerable... And making eye contact is okay, but as soon as I realize I'm making eye contact and try to control it feels weird I don't know where to look, an eye stare (which is weird) nose or mouth (which can be even weirder 💀). So i endure a difficult moment. I'd rather stay alone. :)
@HypeNationYT
18 күн бұрын
@@paulopaulo3774 same
@Sussexxsquad
Жыл бұрын
I have horrendous anxiety, I cannot make eye contact It’s scary.
@danexmatahum6536
Жыл бұрын
Same
@buddersib_
Жыл бұрын
same, i feel physical symptoms from the stress of holding eye contact for more than 3 seconds
@user-gt5hy8nm9h
11 ай бұрын
How to solve it men😢
@longliveducko
10 ай бұрын
for me its weird cause i may intimidate u and i wanna be nice tho
@kimdokja12
Ай бұрын
@@buddersib_ for me it's only 2or 1 second.
@thesoundtrackofself
10 ай бұрын
I cannot focus on what I’m saying when I’m looking into someones eyes
@magiclove91
9 ай бұрын
Yup
@The_WARRIOR.-
9 ай бұрын
Same
@user-ti9or6qx4i
5 ай бұрын
My brain can only think about one thing and if I look directly at someone its almost instinct to look at closer details which shifts my thoughts excessively towards my subconscious and end up just looking out a window while talking lol, anyone else relate?
@ibrarmgi1589
2 ай бұрын
Same situation but how this issue will be solved
@Flower_Does_Thingz
15 күн бұрын
Saaaaammmeeee
@Mr.Ditkovich.
5 ай бұрын
I can barely make eye contact even with my own mom, and she is the closest person to me!
@om7654321
6 ай бұрын
I can’t make eye contact while speaking because I loose my train of thought while looking at people faces
@yearginclarke
3 ай бұрын
I never see anyone mention this, that's the same problem I have.
@MTs-Ideas
9 ай бұрын
I struggle in maintaining eye contact because I often feel heightened sence of aggression or readiness for conflict.
@damonijohnson4752
2 ай бұрын
Bro you a menace
@catstack_
Жыл бұрын
Not a dumb study lol This is helpful for me (a socially anxious human)
@lemonlime5435
Жыл бұрын
I work in customer service. Every conversation makes my skin crawl. i wonder if I come across like a jerk, but nah, I just hate myself lol
@jannahakhter4969
21 күн бұрын
I can relate to this I feel like I sound so rude when I am having conversations with people but I just have social anxiety
@lemonlime5435
13 күн бұрын
@@jannahakhter4969 exactly. I need like a ‘nervous, pls be nice to me’ pin
@BENZ_ASMR
Жыл бұрын
This is not a dumb study ma’am…😒
@1995marixsa
7 ай бұрын
When I look at people in the eyes they get scared or feel that I'm upset at them; this brings a long explanation of " no I'm just intrigued / I have a very intense stare"+ some weird smiles . I used to do the look at their eyes for 5 sec then look to the side for 1 and look back, that would give me the annoying purple woman behaiviour of " you're lying/are you listening to me/ are you intimidated by me" and the ocational she's just shy(not at all). So when I went to HS I did the look for three sec then look at their chin or lips for 1 or 2 sec then look back at their eyes( it was annoying because I was like, kay look now, kay look away, kay look back and missed like half of the conversations). Now I just look at them for 5 sec blink for 1 sec and move my head; that still makes some people say that say "you're scary" and me say the occasional " I'm not mad I attentive" explanation.....unless I know you for a very long time and you know that my stare is just very deep I won't feel confortable looking at your eyes, there will always be the thought of, am I scarying you/should I look away/ do I look defiant so on so on .
@OK-tn8bc
2 ай бұрын
In college I was in a taekwando class. My instructor was also a police officer. I told him i was gonna miss a day, he asked me why while staring me down. I was honest but looked away to the left i believe. He said i was lying. I was petrified and fabrigasted. I cannot hold eye contact. I have alot of symptoms of high functioning autism although i have not been diagnosed. I also have ADHD and am definitely nerudivergerant. Its a difficult world to navigate.....
@zackapshir7113
Жыл бұрын
It happens to me when i go out for a date or when iam talking to a pretty girls and even when iam talking to someone face to face about an important issue. It makes me feel uncomfortable and it ruins the conversation since i cant even make jokes even if i try it ends up as a serious way . If you are suffering from this i think the best way is to not be afraid and always remember everyone is having this proplem but they just face it so just face it and ignore the fear.
@jackblacks4176
11 ай бұрын
When i stare at them to face my fear it starts to make us both feel uncomfortable. I can see it in their face that me looking them in the eye is uncomfortable
@usmanaminu2999
11 ай бұрын
Mine is worse, I can’t even stare at kids without them thinking I’m judging them
@avatr7109
8 ай бұрын
The thing is i can't talk to girls i find pretty. I like to make friends so i talk to everyone, but people get weirded out so i stopped being nice. Also in the gym , girls stare at me so I try to give smile , then they disappear and I never saw them again. The fock is the issue?? I just exist and girls find it weird
@pinkbetty7
Жыл бұрын
I struggle with this unless you're directly talking to me. I tend to force myself not to make eye contact unless we are speaking to avoid awkwardness between us. People around me get so offended and often do it to me intentionally out of spite thinking I'm trying to be rude lol. It really sucks. So I try to force myself to keep my head up and make eye contact
@xcobyxzei
10 ай бұрын
I can 1000% relate to you
@avatr7109
8 ай бұрын
I exist and women run away. I hopped onto my daily bus 🚌.... This girl looked at me as if we know each other with her sparkly eyes, then looked down , then sprinted to the front of bus... Never saw her again. _(all this in literally 45secs)_ There's more such Stories, like in the gym. Idk if I look like a dinosaur?
@imranfarah165
6 ай бұрын
@@avatr7109 I mean technically you're not supposed to be staring at someone for 45 seconds, it can make them feel uncomfortable, especially at the gym. Look at people in the eyes when you're talking to them, not just randomly LOL
@hollalaland
6 ай бұрын
Eye contact physically hurts me for reasons i cannot understand nor explain
@MAX-de8fe
5 ай бұрын
Trauma or autism or social anxiety
@KateFrancis-eo2rp
3 ай бұрын
ASPERGER'S!!!
@KateFrancis-eo2rp
3 ай бұрын
I fucking HATE eye contact with every fibre of my being. This is a real problem for me because most other people are obsessed with it. If you don't do it people will assume you are a liar, or you are not listening to them. Which is stupid because psychopaths can look you in the eye and lie to your face. Also you listen with your ears, not your eyes.
@moneydrop584
4 ай бұрын
The worst is being forced to make eye contact with someone.
@IHXnumber1
5 ай бұрын
For a long time I struggled with this in isolation. Thinking I was the only one. Obviously I wasn’t alone. From my years as a 30 something year old. What I deducted was this. Many of you should should agree: The level of anxiety in the USA is off the charts. The level of diversity and many ways of thinking adds to this. But I believe if we make it a habit to respect ourselves and let those disrespectful or rude people find their own way. We’ll all be just fine Of course to the older generations they found a way to make it work wether it is by working and ignoring the problem or simply dealing with it head on(my personal favorite). But not everyone is in a position or has the same to any of thinking as everyone else. So we want what is safe for all. I truly believe the way we can tackle this is what showing respect to one another because while our differences make us different it can also be the thing that UNITES US. We’re all human beings trying to reach our fullest potentials and make our families proud.
@theterrorteller4940
4 ай бұрын
If you look from a far distance like 5-10 meters or more, than yeah; you probably won't notice any difference.
@avatr7109
Жыл бұрын
i can make eye contact with animals but not humans...
@muhammadhanzala9402
Жыл бұрын
Animal be like :👁️ 👁️ 👄
@uhvoid8433
Жыл бұрын
Same
@mrrickstur
9 ай бұрын
Yeah same here lol. It’s likely because animals can’t understand what we say, and we can’t understand what they say, so there’s no judgment and no awkwardness. Humans on the other hand, can understand each other, and there are a lot of super judgmental people out there.
@avatr7109
9 ай бұрын
@@mrrickstur also I overthink if people may like it or not , so I just avoid them Especially women (Also I'm ugly so , I may get perceived as a creep)
@gamesahsv862
8 ай бұрын
@@avatr7109 ugly or not if you are not confident, nothing would improve, we are born with no control over what our body would look like or where or what race, your personality are more important. Find your own quality and stop thinking about what other think about you, there are all kind of people, those who laught at you or insult you aren't worth befriend with
@abeerabatool7268
9 ай бұрын
We neeed a group of all those ppl . Share your appearances. Ineed help . I lose alot of opportunities bcz of this social anxiety
@MAX-de8fe
5 ай бұрын
Same. I'm afraid the answer is to just suck it up and force yourself to do until it feels easier.
@tenzinrabgyel6016
Ай бұрын
same here , losing my prime years because of this stupid anxiety , dont worry your not alone . !!
@DariusTate-os2ey
Ай бұрын
I still struggle but after working pest control interacting with others my tips are try to have your eyes look more awake . Reduce inflammation from lymphatic system . Less mucus less fight or flight . And blink more often try to smile with your eyes . Keep a calm relaxed pace see how slow you can breathe and process while speaking
@evefoodie8798
6 ай бұрын
If you look at their lips, wouldn't it seem like you want to kiss them?😂
@Shibuthecat2003
10 ай бұрын
I struggle with maintaining eye contact with a person, it gets so awkward after while. Video calls are even worse. I'll try this method
@majorkay24
9 ай бұрын
I don't want to stare at any part of the persons face. It makes me feel so uncomfortable to engage. I just do the quick eye contact/glance every few seconds while I continue to do something else.
@snowpz
3 ай бұрын
Same. It's like when you don't look at them many problems just aren't there in your brain, but you're actually causing a bigger problem because you look so weird for basically not engaging properly lol, but if you do you're still being weird because you're so overstimulated by facial expressions and trying to concentrate. urgh
@iamaakashrajan
17 күн бұрын
I have trouble making eye contact with people because I’m afraid my eye will go lazy.
@Luttheinser
Ай бұрын
When talking to people eye contact is incredibly difficult. I try my best to look at the person I'm talking with in the eye, but I literally can't. My eyes dart everywhere but people's eyes when I'm speaking. When I do eye contact, I feel like I'm being too intense, and when I'm not, I feel like I might seem uninterested or nervous.
@Rykars._.
2 ай бұрын
whats the title of the actual short? and btw that was rlly funny xD 😂
@notanexploreranimations1218
5 ай бұрын
i absolutely SUCK with eye contact and ive found that one of the most mortifying feelings is when you don't make eye contact or even face contact with the person you're talking to for the entire time, and you force yourself to make eye contact for a split second.. ..and they're ALREADY LOOKING DEAD INTO YOUR EYES and that makes me wonder if they still try to make eye contact even when I'm clearly not is this just something people do
@snowpz
3 ай бұрын
Yes, it's something people do. It helps some people focus by looking at the person they're talking to. Which makes sense. I literally have moments where I just stare at the wall in the other direction to concentrate while they're dead on staring at me. I guess people are just different and that's okay
@notanexploreranimations1218
3 ай бұрын
@@snowpz oh thats actually really funny because for me making eye contact with people actually makes me unable to focus 😭 to each their own i guess
@snowpz
3 ай бұрын
@@notanexploreranimations1218 same here. I'm stressing in my brain about their facial expressions, and worry if that shows on my face lmao. I guess just look at them for 4 seconds then look like you're concentrating, that's passable lol
@CinemaTVH
Ай бұрын
My friend who is also a girl keeps doing this to me no matter what I’m doing at my house she’s watching me from point a to point be she stares alot and it really bothered me. I do give eye contact just not like a psychopath
@uphilldew
5 ай бұрын
i struggle with it bcs i have a to the u to the tism
@GYA7515_Gal
2 ай бұрын
As someone who has a problem looking people in the eyes, I'm pretty sure the best way to fake it is by looking at their forehead
@alex-726
3 ай бұрын
I can’t make eye contact because of autism
@tenzinrabgyel6016
Ай бұрын
besides from having trouble with looking in the eye , does anyone have trouble with someone staring at you and making them uncomfortable even when your not looking in their eye, is it just me or this is the next level to this problem ??
@wajahatmehraj4088
Жыл бұрын
I cant make eye contact as i have delusion of having caught something in the eye
@farhanahad8643
Жыл бұрын
Bruh zero comments
@jelly_lemon416
Жыл бұрын
Bruuuuuh
@bugsbunny3137
Жыл бұрын
Sistaaaaaaaaaaaaa
@jimjones6901
24 күн бұрын
Unbelievably insensitive. Hope she's been fired by now.
@ucheokonkwo7298
8 ай бұрын
Easy way is to see or look the face of the person you are speaking to as whole instead of focusing on a specific part or feature on the face.
@deadringer-cultofdeathratt8813
7 ай бұрын
Idk I single person who can’t detect when someone is looking at their mouth.
@snowpz
3 ай бұрын
I know right. I struggle with eye contact but I know when someone is looking at my mouth or other areas of my face.
@mikeanthony8934
3 ай бұрын
Yes i find it hard, unless im attracted to them.
@09wrxin17
Ай бұрын
100
@johnconnorstopskynet
10 ай бұрын
why fake it just grow up
@jaanaberg6125
9 ай бұрын
Because eye contact is painful and because people like you exist 😘
@mrrickstur
9 ай бұрын
A fear of maintaining eye contact doesn’t mean that they’re not grown up. It’s a legitimate fear that many people have.
@MAX-de8fe
5 ай бұрын
Yeah but it can ruin relationships and is completely irrational so why should people enable it? @mrrickstur
@jozefmasny8349
4 ай бұрын
You know that there are people who are naturally awkward and need to pretend?
@nextbigthing2917
4 ай бұрын
@@MAX-de8feSometimes it’s out of their control with things like social anxiety their brain and nervous system isn’t working properly and it’s firing in moments it shouldn’t which is why people go the distance to get therapy help for this.
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