“Don’t take it personal when people got a problem with how happy you are because it’s really about themselves!” - I missed you Jeannie! 😭💛
@aprilgarrett2596
2 жыл бұрын
This!
@EricsWorlds
2 жыл бұрын
Colorism is ignorance, I don’t care how you’re raised. Treating people a certain way solely based on skin color is disgusting and is shameful.
@teetawn9454
2 жыл бұрын
true
@carlitosway1330
2 жыл бұрын
You said it, girl!
@alleykatt6110
2 жыл бұрын
Scream that a little louder so the causecations can hear you in the back! It’s not just a problem between blacks….. however, it was perpetrated by the old slave masters!!
@alleykatt6110
2 жыл бұрын
@@khandibaugh23 If you read the comment correctly then you should already know the answer to that. That’s “why” it’s called colorism! Geez 🙄!
@monember2722
2 жыл бұрын
@@khandibaugh23 I get what your saying. I'm grown, grown, and remember when light skinned girls got so much hatred because they were light and if they had long hair too, they had it doubly rough. Back then it wasn't called colorism and light skinned girls didn't go running around having a pity party, they just tried to find real friends. but now, because a few male public figures have made derogatory remarks about dark skinned black women and there have been an influx of mixed race and Spanish girls in the "spaces" black women thought were strictly theirs, it's all about colorism. Also, the light skin girls probably still get hated and still end up in fights for no other reason than somebody thought that "they" thought she was as cute. not lightskinned, but I definitely saw the pattern repeated over and over and knew what it was. I also hear the cries of colorism and know what it is too. Super interesting how things change, but not really.
@Resu23567
2 жыл бұрын
I’m African and came to Midwest Wisconsin as a kid. It affected my accent, the words I used and according to black kids made me “sound white”. I got bullied and hated going to school for years. Now I’m an engineer and my terminology gets me paid baby! Trauma is still there and it sucks that some people didn’t think I was worth being friends with because of the way I simply spoke English. Now I’ve made peace with the fact that my personality is just one of the many ways black people can behave love it or hate it 🤷🏾♀️
@theofficialkranti
2 жыл бұрын
I relate to this so much, i’m from India but grew up in a white family and got made fun of for “being white” by POCs and then on the other side dealt with extreme racism. I’m still working on being 100% comfortable with just being myself vs. mirroring those around me to avoid all the name calling
@Theresa_A4
2 жыл бұрын
Trauma is still there for me too girl. It will pass. Look at you know 😍
@SupernaturalLove100
2 жыл бұрын
Fck them. That was their own anti blackness
@Churros1616
2 жыл бұрын
Which country in Africa are you from?
@Fridate
2 жыл бұрын
This is my story as well. Born in Congo and moved to Maryland and got made fun of at school by black Americans for talking "white." A tale as old as time.
@sos5371
2 жыл бұрын
Loved this conversation. Adrienne was on point as was Loni. And my heart broke for Garcelle not only minorities have to deal with racism but at times being ostracized by their own communities for not being enough of a representation of their communities.
@freppy06
2 жыл бұрын
i call bs. this sounds nice until it comes to politics, then all of sudden we all have to think the same. the political conversations on this show are extremely homogeneous, single-minded, and uninformed (except for Loni and Garcelle occasionally). Different opinions are immediately labeled as bigotry, hosts automatically assume the moral high ground without any attempt to understand viewpoints (bc like most liberals they can only see the surface of things) , and then these girls can ostracize with the best of them. please. 🙄
@kaycee5418
2 жыл бұрын
Yesss, Loni and Adrienne hit it on the head!!!!
@Leo-ch2qy
2 жыл бұрын
@@freppy06 Go watch The View.
@freppy06
2 жыл бұрын
@@Leo-ch2qy why it's the same thing just with older women?
@FatimaL9294
2 жыл бұрын
@@freppy06 Keep watching your far right wing conspiracy channels you're subscribed to instead
@mandys1038
2 жыл бұрын
These ladies were preaching facts today!! Its sad that its your own people who end up judging you the most.
@tonyreid3188
2 жыл бұрын
SO TRUE EVEN WORSE WHEN ITS FAMILY. MY ADVICE IS F!@# EM!!!!
@ccr6088
2 жыл бұрын
Rooted in White supremacy for African Americans House slave vs Slaves outside American slavery was psychological as well
@avianahughes4021
2 жыл бұрын
So true
@mrsbdubc2174
2 жыл бұрын
"Own people" same color don't mean they are your "own.
@tonyreid3188
2 жыл бұрын
@@mrsbdubc2174 INDEED!!!
@Fridate
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie's ending statement brought me back to when Tamar called her fake. Tamar was so insecure that Jeannie's happy disposition offended her.
@MaryBieber7
2 жыл бұрын
Story of my lifeeee. The most painful parts come from fellow black people, and not others. It’s sad. Blackness is NOT a monolith.
@johnwebb2442
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@AndreBenjaminswife
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. I HATEDDDD being told I “talk white”
@aprilgarrett2596
2 жыл бұрын
This!
@aprilgarrett2596
2 жыл бұрын
The hood black girls would constantly bully me and make fun of me. "You want to be white so bad" " You're a bedwench" It never ended!
@kindredkey
2 жыл бұрын
this hit hard for me! For some reason it hurts more when it's your own... I don't know why exactly but it is... I'm happy and at peace now💖
@JohnneseP
2 жыл бұрын
I experienced this my whole life. When I went to an HBCU I experienced it everyday; in class and out of class. The first day I met my roommate her words to me was “I thought you were white”. I’ve been told you “talk/act white”, “you’re not black enough”, and the list can go on and on. When I was younger it hurt a lot, and when I was attending the HBCU it hurt because one my twin wasn’t experiencing the same thing and two I never imagined that I would experience that at an HBCU. People need to know that black people are multidimensional, and there is no such thing as acting “white”.
@AndreBenjaminswife
2 жыл бұрын
This was one of the reasons why I was hesitant about going to an HBCU. I grew up in a predominantly white & Asian neighborhood and it had a huge impact on how I speak. When I moved in eighth grade to a predominantly black school people said that I talked white, was an “African wannabe” because of how I dressed (mind you my dad is Nigerian and mom is Jamaican) and called me an Oreo. What hurt the most was the fact that it came from my own people. I thought to myself is this what’s yet to come for me if I do wanna earn a degree at an HBCU, since not only were our cultural backgrounds different, but I’d be clowned for the way that I talk
@JohnneseP
2 жыл бұрын
@@AndreBenjaminswife I’m sorry you went through that, and I definitely relate. I moved to a predominantly white neighborhood when I was 13, and ended up going to a predominantly white school 8th-12th grade. Most of my girlfriends from high school are white, besides one. When I went to the HBCU I had people say everything and everything about the way I talk and act. Also, had people say that my friends aren’t my friends and that they would get further in life then I would. Needless to say I no longer attend that school, and I am so much happier mentally then when I was there.
@monember2722
2 жыл бұрын
the only "people"who need to realize that black people are multidimensional are other black people.
@aanskska3058
2 жыл бұрын
What Jeannie said at the end should be tattooed on the soul of every woman who is finding her confidence within
@kinyunjarmon8575
2 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@keishamckenzie649
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie, Jeannie, Jeannie, oh how we miss you!! Straight facts!
@tyali84
2 жыл бұрын
I can fully relate. I was born in apartheid South Africa but by the time I was in primary school apartheid had been abolished thus as a Black kid you could attend the previously White schools. I remember spending weekends at my grandmother's house which was in a predominantly Black area thus I was taunted and mocked for the way I spoke and was called a "coconut". I thought I left my childhood back home in South Africa but now I find myself as an adult in the US, where my accent is usually mistaken for British or Australian and again my own people in America are the one's throwing jabs at the way I speak and my colleagues accusing me of faking a British accent and trying to be White (which by the way the South African accent sounds nothing like the British accent). I am proudly Black South African, fluent in 11 official South African languages and nothing about me is close to being anything but Black. But I am my own person and that is what people have found it difficult to fathom that as a race we are individuals. Also that there is nothing called one Africa, we are 54 countries and each unique thus if you met one person from Ghana, you have not met everyone from Africa. I mean Ghana is a 7-10 hours flight to South Africa and you think with that with all the countries you have to fly over to get to South Africa you'd still get an identical type of Black person who talks and acts the same? It is really painful to be misjudged by your own people.
@britbritnicole
2 жыл бұрын
We all have stereotypes and it can be very hurtful. We’re not the same just because we’re black, or Asian, ect. We hate being discriminated against, but we do it to each other…how does that make sense. Like Adrienne said, it be your own people. Jeannie I agree, when you like you, some people have a problem with it.
@therapytruth
2 жыл бұрын
Imagine having to deal with your own therapist mocking you for how you speak. I'm a writer and found myself being shamed for literally chasing my passion and working on my craft by the same person who kept telling me that her therapy office was a judgment-free zone - someone who I was giving my money to for their time as well. It was demoralizing.
@teetawn9454
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, your own do it to u before any other race can.
@britbritnicole
2 жыл бұрын
@@therapytruth wow, that’s sad
@britbritnicole
2 жыл бұрын
@@teetawn9454 yeah it’s crazy
@sharonhicks-jones5471
2 жыл бұрын
@@therapytruth same before I got one that looked like me. We didn't act remotely the same or have even a similar story but she new we are not a monolith....Gdluck & #BLESSINGS
@JadeCampbell40
2 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to what Taye Diggs said. I had gone through the same type of stuff since I was a small child. I was treated badly and called "White Girl" by my mother, other family members and other black folks. They criticized how I spoke, dance, the type of music and films I liked, having light skin, how I dressed, what I ate, the type of men I was attracted to and etc. Over the years I come to love and embrace all parts of me. As a result, I also severed ties with all those toxic people. Everything that those people didn't like about me are some of my best assets. Which has also opened many doors of opportunities and brought lot's of abundance to me. I'm in my 40's now and I will continue to love and embrace my uniqueness. I am my biggest cheerleader and supporter. No one can every love us better than we can love ourselves - We must learn to accept love and validate ourselves first and stay at a high vibe.
@munab3666
2 жыл бұрын
Loni "what I love about this show" Love. So on brand for Loni 😂😂😂
@lailabeeba8016
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a proud black woman but as a young girl I was called an Oreo. "Oh she wants to be white" because of my personal interest. To this day, I know what I like, what I want and I'm me.. all the time.
@Msallyjj
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie, THAT right there!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾You ended that segment speaking of the truth I came to find out was what my so called ‘best friend’ felt towards me-the light of happiness, confidence and genuineness for all kinds of people was what she tried to dim for 30 years! COVID and my life changing temporary debilitating illness showed exactly who she was and how much of a friend she never really was. I always loved my imperfections and in turn had a lot of love returned to me through a plethora of friends, but she had nothing but trust issues with most people! Stillness and therapy is the best way to find all the truths 😌❤️👏🏾👏🏾
@MajesticMyronn
2 жыл бұрын
The things that annoy me most… is that sometimes in the black community we shun people if they are not what we consider to be blackity black or we make fun of them because they are not showcasing their blackness… like my skin is enough in this country it doesn’t matter ! it’s like almost the equivalent of biracial black kids and teens having to prove they’re white enough and black enough at the same time ! Just cuz I’m not listening to rap music , or because I don’t know about certain things that may be of YOUR personal likeness doesn’t make me any less black or any less proud of my blackness and that’s where people get it confused ! We can’t talk about how others treat us if we buy into those same rhetorics to use against our own people ! It’s not fair and I feel sorry for Taye and any other sista or brotha that has had to deal with those kinds of jokes
@huldah1605
2 жыл бұрын
People are attacked for everything. Some black people are attacked for being too black. People are never happy so love yourself at this point
@sparklesp9304
2 жыл бұрын
The ones doing the attacking typically have unsavory behaviors that they scapegoat onto being "black", so of course they become hostile when they meet black people who don't act like them because it demonstrates that their behaviors have NOTHING to do with being "black" or having "black" aka African American culture, and everything to do with them.
@essie420
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I hope you've embraced yourself now and keep doing you! Experienced the same thing, we need to stop putting black people in one group - we are all different.
@JustinWilliams02
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie spitting the real talk 💯
@nellyc1002
2 жыл бұрын
Speak 🗣 facts
@joselineorellana7568
2 жыл бұрын
And Adrienne saying a whole lot of nothing
@anniearegger1418
2 жыл бұрын
I love her, and how she just lets them say what they need to say and then she gets to say something and it’s so powerful
@brittanykrystine3714
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you I appreciate Adrienne for saying it hurts when it’s your own people that stereotype you or say your not whatever enough
@tayloryvonne8603
2 жыл бұрын
This conversation hit home for me. I remember being in the sixth grade (circa.2007) and being told that I talk " white" and that I needed to " talk Black" because I'm Black. I was honestly so shocked because my parents never raised me like that. To be honest, I had to stop caring about people's narrow perceptions of what they think I should be like. When people perpetuate these stereotypes about people based on color/ culture it is toxic and destructive.
@darcelladowney7760
2 жыл бұрын
Realization here who in this world has ever said that " WHITE PEOPLE" have the most correct way of speaking and who said they are the only group of people that is superior to any ethnic group? I understand that they think they out way us as a people but come on we are more than they will ever be in more ways than one! Also they are just as ignorant as any other group of people that have language issues ..
@qc4wings
2 жыл бұрын
Let's not forget these 3 amazing ladies~ ROSIE PEREZ, of Puerto Rico descent 🇵🇷 actress, activist, Academy Oscar award winner for her role in the film: Fearless and also received 2 Oscar nominations for her role in White Men Can't Jump. Perez is also an amazing Dancer, Choreographer for The Fly Girls for the In Living Color comedy series of the 90s, and was also a Co-Host on The View in 2014, and still acting in various projects. CRISTINA SARALEGUI of Cuban descent, was a talk show host, journalist, actress, and more, and now has an eyeglass collection. Much respect to these inspirational women ❤ DAISY FUENTES, of Cuban descent also had her own talk show "DAISY" on CBS in 1995. DAISY was also the host for MTVs "HOUSE OF STYLE" as a VJ, and other television hosting or anchoring roles, and currently hosts the show "A New Leaf" on NBC Saturday mornings ❤
@LiizLiz
2 жыл бұрын
I relate to this so much. I remember growing up people would tell me I’m not Mexican enough because I didn’t listen to Banda and corridos. And that I was trying to be Asian because my best friends were Asians. It really hurt because it came from my own people. Especially cause I’ve never denied my ethnicity and always claimed it with pride.
@bossroth8201
2 жыл бұрын
Your true “own people” are the ones that love and care for you and vice versa. Skin tone, facial features, ethnicity, race. Only goes so far. It’s really your mind and you connect to who become your people. I’m white but tan like you a darkish Caucasian I can say do to Italian and Cherokee. But I’ve met whites and tan folks that I resemble that I’d never say are my people they hated me and I hated them lol only few but the mind and values is where it’s at. I had two Asian friends myself that I loved a male from Thailand and a female from South Korea. I’d hang with anytime but just be you and forget the idiots that are Mexican hating on you. I can blend with Mexicans easy and met many good ones in Mexico never had problems. Weird they would pick on you lol people are just odd
@vanialegall8194
2 жыл бұрын
As an immigrant from Guyana i had a similar experience to Garcelle. I grew up learning the queen’s English.
@Aliciaaa87
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, I never realized Adrianne was the 1st Latina on daytime, on an English speaking channel. She needs more shine for that. Also she's right, we all sound like that in NYC.
@nellywellyful
2 жыл бұрын
I love the we all sound like that in NYC. 😂 I’m from NYC and I agree hahaa
@Chantholli89
2 жыл бұрын
I will never forget growing up someone told my mom that she talks like a white woman. Basically trying to say my mom is trying to sound white. Which is crazy! I myself have been told that I am acting white. I was like what! I’m who I am. Things like that are hurtful and very offensive especially from your own people.
@anewno6240
2 жыл бұрын
I have been told I speak like a white girl in school, I am from Africa too
@monember2722
2 жыл бұрын
I don't know why it hurt so much. where these people actually people you wanted to be friends with? that happened to me and I never really cared because the types of people who made comments like that weren't appealing to me anyway.
@minianoiz6492
2 жыл бұрын
Ohhhh Jeannie, preach the truth and nothing but the truth! ❤💜
@annatube5123
2 жыл бұрын
BOOOOOM Jeannie! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I need to listen to that message everyday until it sticks, to be able to have that self confidence and self love! ❤️
@resilientjhay
2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this so much. I used to be called an Oreo but truth be told I just spoke differently than people my color so because I was different I was considered white which lowered my self esteem but now I embrace who I am no matter what !
@unnderneath
2 жыл бұрын
Yes! Adrienne come through. I dealt with this my whole life and still sometimes do. "You talk white", speaking in a certain way isn't exclusively related to a race.
@dianamazonde2275
2 жыл бұрын
I can so relate.. just because you don't perpetuate a stereotype doesn't mean you no longer belong to your race or culture... these jokes are NOT funny!
@gaila.9852
2 жыл бұрын
Preach!
@loveinthewebb6168
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie has been pulling looks like crazy I love this color on her today!
@BEAUTiFULSHAWTiE5
2 жыл бұрын
What I hate the most is that bc I'm mixed with Black and Puerto Rican I'm never "pure" enough for either side. I'm not seen as a black woman and my hair is "too kinky" to be Puerto Rican. It really makes me sad that I don't feel accepted by either culture.
@thatgirlshanti
2 жыл бұрын
Right there with you! ❤️
@hannahwalmer1124
2 жыл бұрын
Are you indigenous? :)
@007amy-n1b
2 жыл бұрын
I'm too white to be Hispanic. In Puerto Rico I'm American and in America Im hispanic, to all other Hispanics I'm too white baahaha, I'm like whatever.
@hannahwalmer1124
2 жыл бұрын
@@007amy-n1b Hispanic isn't a race. It's a term to group up all Spanish speakers of the Spanish speaking countries in The Americas and Spain. Being hispanic is literally being American. It's almost tautology saying I'm an American Hispanic because it's nearly implied (unless you were from Spain).
@xtelfolaj
2 жыл бұрын
That would always baffle me. Because in alot of Latin countries, there are kinky haired and black women (light to dark) who grew up there.
@TwiFiveGirls101
2 жыл бұрын
I was called oreo and white girl growing up. It does hurt. But I'm 29 and married to a beautiful black man. I've healed from those hurtful words, grown in my confidence, and broken down any colorist mindset. As your mature you realize the children that hurt you as a child can not touch you as an adult.
@Kay456Ms
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for touching on this, ladies. I remember being called an oreo in middle school. I wasn't sure what that meant at the time, but now, I see how truly offensive that was. Over time, I've experienced how painful it can be when you are not accepted by others for simply being you.
@jasminedavis5276
2 жыл бұрын
I was called that as well but I didn't let it bother me amongst being told other stuff,but it's whatever.
@naudiax3
2 жыл бұрын
Clips like this are why I love this show!!
@aanskska3058
2 жыл бұрын
I think more than anything for me, I hate how we use these phrases as an insult. I “talk black” or I “dress white” or I “act Hispanic” etc. stop generalizing people, and even if it’s true, why is it a bad thing? Why is him being “white boy” a bad thing? Why is “talking black” a bad thing ? All races are filled with beautiful, unique individuals !!
@rooseveltwilliams1073
2 жыл бұрын
Yesss!!!
@sparklesp9304
2 жыл бұрын
The issue is that they're saying that you don't see what they label as your own culture as "good enough" and have self-hate. It's not about the other culture, but what it means for a person to abandon their own culture to embrace another's.
@nahsheadavis5774
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent conversation Ladies. I am a proud loner most of the time. I socialize when convenient for me. However, I am very upfront about it.
@JWNS08
2 жыл бұрын
You sound just like me. I’m an introvert to my core. I have no problem socializing, but I like my space and peace most times….
@mireillem3150
2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad they are talking about this. I'm sorry but I felt the same way when I came to the US. I had more white friends than I did African Americans. I was so excited to see people who looked like me but to my greatest shock n disappointment, many African Americans had a good number of stereotypical comments about Africans that hurt. I used read comments about how other races did the same to them and I thought they'll be able to relate to me but nope! It's always your own people I tell you. Sad but true
@annbrown9273
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. I had more close friends who were white than black. Those who came from the same home country or cultural background were less accepting and more judgmental because I wasn't behaving as everyone thought I should.
@monember2722
2 жыл бұрын
same color of skin doesn't mean anyone is your people. character over color. we need to get that through our heads.
@mireillem3150
2 жыл бұрын
@@monember2722 It doesn't change what I said. No one is stupid to think that. And a lot of you look down on us for whatever reason. Not sure what makes some of you think you are superior. Irony is, you complain about the same things. One would think there'll be a little empathy/understanding. Smh...
@monember2722
2 жыл бұрын
@@mireillem3150 are you just on a pity party rampage or you don't have reading comprehension? Did you mean to respond to me because what I posted has nothing to do with your response.
@tai4short
2 жыл бұрын
Wheeeeeew JEANNNNNNNNIE ‼️‼️‼️ omg you are so right … I’ve definitely been Called “Fake” or “Naïve” because I CHOOSE to LOVE & Embrace ME flaws and all and I also CHOOSE to look at a Glass Half Full instead of Half empty!! I know now that I’m older … the ppl that were uncomfortable with my outgoing sunny happy disposition were INSECURE within themselves ❤
@rairai1365
2 жыл бұрын
I dealt with this as well, and as a child of course it hurt. As an adult, I don’t let it bother me longer than 5 min. and that’s because I learned that I am more than my skin, I am ME. Not all black people are the same and that is what is so beautiful. We are all different, we all act different, we are all raised different but that does not make us any less “black”.
@Rokia2003
2 жыл бұрын
I had this issues too, I grew up in an African culture and I also grew up in chicago but I never picked up their slang or “accent” so they would tell me I think I’m better than them or that I talk white, let’s not even get into being African in school lmao
@kakikarei
2 жыл бұрын
❤
@margoc8030
2 жыл бұрын
Same
@punkofmudd
2 жыл бұрын
I think one time I told someone, "I don't think I'm better, but you seem to think I'm better." That shut her right up. Don't go projecting your own inferiority complex and insecurities on me!
@Theresa_A4
2 жыл бұрын
Girl ! Back in middle school I used to say I was French. Of all the things I was bullied for I didn’t wanna add that too lmao. It’s funny now, I look back like girl what was you saying 😅
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
@@punkofmudd I like that clapback you told that girl. 👏👏💯💯😂😂
@Theresa_A4
2 жыл бұрын
Yes! This is such a real thing unfortunately. I’ve dealt with this throughout high school, past high school. It’s wild. Nothing’s more confusing then not being embraced by your own people. I’m hoping y’all know what I mean when I say this but it made me not want to me around my people no more. I was so hurt because it’s natural to think you feel more understood by someone who’s JUST like you. Same skin color, hair type, features but to get made fun of by those same qualities and physicality that we know of is a different type of hurt. Very confusing for a young teen.
@Brenda-os1oh
2 жыл бұрын
I completely understand! I speak Spanish; it was my first language. But as I grew up, I spoke Spanish less and English more. When I spoke in Spanish, my fluent classmates would tell me that I had “an American accent” but then other people would tell me that I spoke “perfect” Spanish. It confused me, made me feel self-conscious, and made me want to speak the language less. People would also tell me I was “too American” when I didn’t like the things they did. All of that, like you, made me not want to be around the people who looked like me. But then I also get the “You’re American?” questions when I travel and/or go to places where I didn’t grow up. So then where does that leave me? I’ve learned to not let those things get to me but it’s still so frustrating.
@pm9422
2 жыл бұрын
It’s crazy that this happens worldwide! I was born and raised in London with immigrant parents from Africa. Unless you’re from London or have spent time there you might not realise that there is a difference is accents as it may all just sound like one accent. But there is a stereotypical way in which people think that black people from London should sound. White people here love calling it urban or street. My whole life growing up starting when I was in primary school I was told that ‘I sounded white’ and that ‘I think I’m white’ and I was constantly referred to as an ‘Oreo’ and ‘bounty’. Due to way I dressed and spoke. People would also assume that for some reason I only listened to rock or pop music because of how I sounded which used to aggravate me so much !The funny thing is I never thought that I sounded different or talked in a particular way. I went to a predominantly white primary school so when more black kids starting joining the school I was so excited I even went home to tell my mum. So when they started saying those things to me it honestly hurt me so much because I couldn’t understand why they were saying it. Especially because I was raised to love being black and African, would eat African food at home and speak another language with my family, would learn everything about different types of black peoples all over the world. I ended up becoming so self conscious of the way I spoke whenever I would meet new people, to the point where I would even speak quietly so people wouldn’t comment on my voice too much. I would even find myself trying to over explain my upbringing so that people would realise that I wasn’t self hating and that I wasn’t ‘trying to be white’. But it gets to a point where it becomes exhausting and upsetting. The fact that some people wouldn’t even want to get to know you because they already have this preconceived idea of you based on your voice. Don’t get me wrong white people will say comments too annoyingly they love to wrap it up in a bow by telling you sound ‘well spoken’ as if that’s some type of compliment. I still get comments now and it’s hard for me not to react!
@brittanyguyton3987
2 жыл бұрын
I've experienced this frequently throughout grade school. "You quiet and well behaved like them white kids."..I was just minding my business and doing my school work lol
@lstarsabb
2 жыл бұрын
I feel you. I was the same way because i was just naturally quiet and socially awkward so i literally learned social que from people on tv.
@annbrown9273
2 жыл бұрын
@@lstarsabb Same here.
@tshegob2140
2 жыл бұрын
Wow! I really wish I was like Jeannie, just a happy-go-lucky girl. You're really blessed to have that trait or practice Jeannie. 🥺🙂 I love it 💜
@khandibaugh23
2 жыл бұрын
This was a great conversation! Had to replay it. I hate when the black community mistreat each other based on skin tone. From light skinned to dark skinned take people for what they show you instead of making assumptions. Like Loni said, we are all different and were raised different. Adrienne definitely brings the NY Latina vibe🙂and Loni said “I’m from Detroit B..” 😂
@starfoxx5862
2 жыл бұрын
But yet, blacks want to shout about Black Lives Matter when they discriminate and hate on each other. What a joke of a race.
@Lonetress
2 жыл бұрын
Let's admit that there are so many bitter black people who nitpick and bully other black people.
@keshia4974
2 жыл бұрын
Me and my youngest son go through this because of how we talk. I was always the black girl who talked white and now my son is the black boy who talks white. The funny thing is I’m straight out the hood lol. I just always thought it was important to be able to hold a conversation with everyone no matter where your from. I think it’s important to be articulate especially when being in the work place or applying for a job. I know how to go from KeKe to Ms. Smith in 0.3 seconds😂
@olamiduno.3571
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie couldn't have said it better.
@pamelahairston6985
2 жыл бұрын
I love Adrienne's authenticity and appreciate her realness on this clip.❤
@liveinspirewithlivemulumba
2 жыл бұрын
The ladies are so right on this relatable topic: most of my lifetime, I’ve been misunderstood for not living by the expected black people’s stereotypes; it took a revelation from God through the Bible for me to surrender and embrace my hole being as a unique creation by The Greatest designer ever (we all are destined to stand out in our differences).❤️✨
@ellandecampbell6279
2 жыл бұрын
As little kids, we're told that everyone is different, unique, special, etc. Beginning in high school (or even in middle school), everyone is forever expected to fit into a box
@paulagabriele3512
2 жыл бұрын
I wish Tamera was here because we all know that she had to heard a lot of things and jokes from you, guys. Let's be REAL.
@thatgirlshanti
2 жыл бұрын
Imagine being afro latina and other puerto ricans thinking you don’t look latina enough 🙄🤌🏽
@lynetteJ155
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie with the word today!!! Baby don’t dislike me being happy and loving life because you have self related issues! And sadly enough it’s your own kind talking down on you! 🥰
@thegoldenbowl5217
2 жыл бұрын
I like how Adrienne said: it be your own people... and this is 💯 Percent right on... I’m half black half asian and it was only my own people from those 2 groups that came for me the worst... it was everyone else that was non black and non Asian that showed me the most love... I have no idea what the psychology is behind it but I think it’s a mix of pride, ego and competition... it sucks when your own DONT want you to succeed... that’s like a double betrayal... STOP 🛑
@alexandraanderson3988
Жыл бұрын
Mmmm hmmm I was just about to say it be your own people too that's the worse part of it hurtful but expected unfortunatly
@thegoldenbowl5217
Жыл бұрын
It shouldn't be like that tho
@Anastasia-oy2zp
2 жыл бұрын
Probably my favourite conversation on the real. People are individuals first and foremost, not their the Color of their skin.
@quinphillips687
2 жыл бұрын
I so love this show because of your hearts and how you speak to the audience. You speak, you talk and you resent so authentically. Keep doing what you do. Healing the world one conversation topic at a time. We need this. So many women need this.
@dyamondj.174
2 жыл бұрын
This conversation hits home for me. I’ve always been called a “weird black girl” and told I “act white” or “talk white”. Even when I went to college my pastor to me not get up there with those white people and forget I’m black. I still get told I act white. And I HATE IT! And I hate that it comes from my own community. And I hate it even more that it also comes with colorism (“You’re pretty for a dark skin girl”). “acting white” (which is a stupid ideology altogether) makes it seem like white is the norm or white is the standard and it’s not. And people think they’re complimenting you when they say it, atleast white people do (I’ve heard it from white people as well). I think what stings the most is, as someone who is fascinated by my people and my community, who loves being black, my culture, and everything about it. And to get told I act white for being who I am, it’s simply insulting. And disrespectful. Especially due to our history in this country. To grow up that way. It sucks. But I definitely learned to embrace myself for who I am and not really give a damn what anybody had to or has to say about it. I love being black and I don’t fit any of the boxes that I’m “supposed to”. What I’ve learned is there’s no right way to “be black”, it’s just what I am and will always be. I’m black and I’m endlessly proud of it, and always will be. My black card can’t be taken away.
@mrsmtm8496
2 жыл бұрын
I’m African and where I come from any labels as such like ‘coconut’ ‘white boy’ or ‘white girl’ is a compliment.
@ninaaden8338
2 жыл бұрын
That is so sad.
@mrsmtm8496
2 жыл бұрын
@@ninaaden8338 definitely not in the way you’re thinking
@ninaaden8338
2 жыл бұрын
@@mrsmtm8496 nope. I know exactly the reasoning behind that it is very sad that someone finds being called a "white boy" "white girl" to be a compliment.
@mrsmtm8496
2 жыл бұрын
@@ninaaden8338 are you African and were you raised in Africa?
@ninaaden8338
2 жыл бұрын
@@mrsmtm8496 I am African. Not all Africans consider being called a "white girl" or "white boy" a compliment. Maybe where you're from. Where I'm from it is considered an insult.
@dnotae4381
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy to hear this topic. Growing up in the Bay Area biracial then moving to Mississippi most of my life I was referred to as “that girl thinks she’s white!” Was definitely heart wrenching to the point I graduated and never wanted to see the people from high school again. This subject is so spot on…my own people hurt me because of my complexion and my diction. Thanks ladies.
@monember2722
2 жыл бұрын
black people need to stop with this "my people" crap. Your only people are those who like or love you or at the very least are respectable people. I never minded those taunts because it just allowed me to call the herd.
@ermmabutler2224
2 жыл бұрын
I think each lady on the Real all have unique personalities.They all bring a lot to this show.Loni, U are so real.I love how you show so much love and care.Your emotions are real and speaks for itself.U all will be successful even if this show cancells. 👌
@skylerrhoade5775
2 жыл бұрын
Loni is not real...
@Aaron-yc8yp
2 жыл бұрын
Jeanie you are wonderful and so knowledgeable!!!! Spewing straight facts 💯 Love the real!!!!
@beeronicap3800
2 жыл бұрын
I love what Jennie said at the end about being a happy person loving enjoying life, because I would get a lot of people asking me What are you so happy about? Or why everytime I see you, you're always smiling? But they ask with an annoying face
@twentysvn
2 жыл бұрын
They said: let’s make it clear why you shouldn’t cancel us.
@TheCheerfulable
2 жыл бұрын
Ive been called an OREO all my life. Black outside and white inside. HURTFUL
@michellerobinson9487
2 жыл бұрын
Our own people hurt each other more than anyone. We can be our own enemy
@marissa._
2 жыл бұрын
"It be your own people!" 🎯 That part! 👆🏽 😔😞🤦🏽♀️
@rainbowchampagne10
2 жыл бұрын
this is such a real convo pls dont get canceled😭😭
@Mnz603
2 жыл бұрын
They messed up with the Will Smith story, I doubt it. But hope they get renewed too!
@rosematthew7804
2 жыл бұрын
Powerful topics. Love it. Keep up the good works ladies💜💜
@joy844
2 жыл бұрын
…. Loni let’s not forget what you said about Shannon Boodram
@hannahwalmer1124
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Thank you.
@Niki91-HR
2 жыл бұрын
What did she say?
@christianvictoria2019
2 жыл бұрын
Oop😭😭I forgot about that
@isahussain6306
2 жыл бұрын
TBF, Loni has been perpetuating this kind of toxic ignorance too. Case in point - Shan Boodram.
@Happy-mp7vm
2 жыл бұрын
They all have. The only person I can say hasn't would be Tamera and so far I haven't heard Garcelle do it.
@LashayneHampton
2 жыл бұрын
Great moment. Great representation, especially Loni. ❤️
@hollyshropshire6458
2 жыл бұрын
I relate so hard to this. I’ve had it from white people and black people. Eventually I had to just attribute it to my parents accomplishing their goals for me to be well rounded and to speak well
@CM-jn3wp
2 жыл бұрын
Speak on that Jeannie. About those people who have a problem with themselves!!!!! I'm saving this chat.
@lifeisbeautiful9455
2 жыл бұрын
One of the reasons I love this show is because I see myself in all these women. I connect to my Latina, black and asian side.
@faithfo7255
2 жыл бұрын
I think that it’s your own community bc other communities don’t care or are focused on different things. Like latinas are gonna criticize adrienne speech bc maybe that’s something that they focus on (or care about) as a community, while other groups don’t. Black people criticize Loni’s wigs, while other groups don’t even notice
@teetawn9454
2 жыл бұрын
true
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@kaycee5418
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you ladies! - A first-gen Salvadoran girl living in Northern VA!
@Olacoker
2 жыл бұрын
I like the growth that Loni has shown. She used to always talk about how things were “white” or only “white people do xyz”.
@chrisgrace81
2 жыл бұрын
Best nuanced show!!! I have to say much better discussions than the view
@icu3852
2 жыл бұрын
I experience that in my family I have been introduced as "thats my sister the white girl" I am milk chocolate, since I was raised in a predominantly white neighborhood my tone, body language, and reactions are different because of where I was raised. I have family that was raised in the inner city and we do act differently. It hurts me but I don't let it break me.....one day ill speak up, for now i smirk 😏 and shake my head
@theresalucas9477
2 жыл бұрын
Great conversation! This is The Real I remember 💕👍
@yayadrew
2 жыл бұрын
It’s also about relatability. When people from your racial group can’t relate to you, they “other” you. It’s really ignorant.
@gaila.9852
2 жыл бұрын
Preach!
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly 👏👏💯💯
@nitab5039
2 жыл бұрын
From Detroit born and raised through the 90s and early 00s and I was called white girl or called “Raven Symone” because she was considered a black white girl. It was so annoying. Still have trauma but definitely evolving past it.
@janelle5175
2 жыл бұрын
Ugh this is so my situation. I'm Nigerian and Malayalee (South Indian tribe from Kerala, India) and I am Christian by faith because of my dad but I am also spiritually Hindu cuz of my mom and I do proper meditation, yoga which incorporates Hinduism but some Nigerians in my church hate me for that 🙄 like how is my inner peace bothering you especially at church
@chazconway9578
2 жыл бұрын
They're afraid of your freedom to be you. Most people like to project because they are envious. Continue to be you and make you happy. People have no place to judge.
@Myaccount923
2 жыл бұрын
I’m Nigerian as well came to America as a young child. I kept in touch with some friends from our church back in Nigeria. Long story Short I recently went through a spiritual healing journey and I began meditating and doing yoga. I suggested to one of my friends to try meditation and they got angry and said they are good with Christianity 😂. I said okay 🤷🏾♀️ your loss
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
Damn. Smh. I'm so sorry you went through that
@janelle5175
2 жыл бұрын
@@Myaccount923 that's so great to hear ♥️♥️♥️ and honestly fk em 😂 they're loss for being hateful
@janelle5175
2 жыл бұрын
@@chazconway9578 ♥️♥️♥️
@skylerrhoade5775
2 жыл бұрын
Loni is double- talking! How many times have Black People came after her for stereotyping Blacks as a race, including how we weren’t taught to eat right which is why we have a weight problem!She has put Blacks in a box many times & have been read for it! So come on Loni, be real, you know you are guilty if this!
@crystalmasters8582
2 жыл бұрын
You guys are killin’ it 💜
@Psalm5110
2 жыл бұрын
🙌🏻Human first🙌🏻 👌🏻👌🏻💃 Praise God🙏🏻 🎤 thank you ladies💜💜💜💜 I appreciate you all I love you all and I love myself😉😘👌🏻💜👌🏻💃🎤🎤 Thank you Jesus!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@beesknees213
2 жыл бұрын
Jeanie said....the "benediction". Amen
@lstarsabb
2 жыл бұрын
For me it's the "you sound white" I went to my cousin's baby shower in a different town about 6 months ago, and I said something, and everyone started laughing and her mom mocked me and was like " maybe if i talk like you i will get more business" and i had to sit there uncomfortable when really wanted to go off on them. It's too the point where I hate listening to myself on audio. I know that it stems from insecurity on their part because they think we have it easier or that will try to put on for the white people, but it's still hurtful and damaging to someone's self esteem.
@cat56789
2 жыл бұрын
Omggg that’s absolutely sad. You talk how you talk and there’s nothing wrong with your voice
@coopercamacho
2 жыл бұрын
Word! Jeanie👏👏👏👏
@ryanreigns4343
2 жыл бұрын
THAT IS THE WORD! 💯
@anahatahandmadeproducts4319
2 жыл бұрын
Jeannie that's a Capricorn thing. My X hated me so much because I was always happy and positive. She was/is a very bitter Taurus and always accused me of being fake and kissing up to people. Smh. I looooooove the life I've given myself and continue to add to my joy constantly.
@missgemini1853
2 жыл бұрын
Preach!
@TheNaisenya
2 жыл бұрын
“....Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you...” - Marianne Williamson
@GTDiva24
2 жыл бұрын
Wow this quote hits home. Thank you 🙌🏾
@lookforthebabyinthebacksea4591
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of my 3 sons, ALL married women who looked like me. NEVER change!!!
@colormehopeful6984
2 жыл бұрын
I went to private school and was one of the only black people in the entire school. I was never treated differently because of my skin or anything but I was aware I was different and that was okay, accepted, and honestly, celebrated by my friends. However, when I went back home around cousins they would tease me and call me white girl because of how I spoke and it was extremely hurtful. I always felt more rejected moreso by people who looked like me which was extremely sad. It took many years for me to get over that.
@ellebella5883
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! Adrienne is from NYC and sounds very NY to me.
@annwarner7278
2 жыл бұрын
Who gets the “She thinks she’s cute.” Like why would someone be mad that you feel you’re cute. Am I supposed to carry myself like I think I’m ugly? Would that make people happier if you hated yourself? It’s crazy.
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