1) 0:39 Play games. 2) 1:18 Priority for her. 3) 2:36 Gift giving. 4) 3:44 Never build a foundation 5) 5:05 Love bombing. 6) 6:16 Don't know your path. 7) 6:52 Lack of empathy. 8) 7:57 Your happiness depends on her.
@johndouglas7213
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you my friend!
@DerekZion
3 жыл бұрын
These could push a guy away as well. It goes both ways.
@Danarator
5 ай бұрын
Fact.. Literally posted the same before reading this 😅
@Atx.3359
3 жыл бұрын
Just mirror and match her. Especially if she’s independent and doesn’t text much
@shaunhumphreys6714
3 жыл бұрын
exactly, that's how i did in my telephone and face to face charity fundraising career, made me very successful for ten years in a hard industry, plus got me numbers and dates too. mirror and match creates PERFECT rapport. and to ensure it's sexual attraction and not just friend zone, add in some physical touches on her arm, subtle. and some eye gazes but not too long. make a laugh, get close. that physicality makes it become romantic-sexual. so mirror and match,plus a few physical touches. mirror and match includes tone, pitch, speed of talking, you can get so good you even match the breathing. then its so natural. match common values-and interests. i play the piano so if i ever had a chat and they played an instrument, then it was virtually guaranteed date in a music practice room and we would play a piece of classical music together as i carried plenty of classical piano music scores. that had one hundred percent success rate for me in resulting in romantic relationship that went serious. pretty much always ended up kissing in the practice room or minimum some hand holding. problem was lived too far away,, my job was roaming. suffolk where i live and getting to wales is just too much. i was even too embarassed to tell her i didnt live in wales, didnt want her to know i was travelling from suffolk to wales on rail just to see her as comes across desperate, and as the dating coach above rightly says, you cant put her on a pedistool, show interest yes, respect her yes, but by pedistooling her, you do not value yourself, you are making her the highest price and selling yourself as a pauper. so i was right not to tell her, at least not iniitially. if it went serious, i would have tried to get my work some where nearer. but i decided it wasnt serious enough for me. they need to be local, really local to make it work the more local, the more likely to ignite and to last the test of time. localness brings security with it too. someone being nearby is secure in itself. Best number one place-foreign language classes. more romantic relationships started there than anywhere else. met and started my two longest and most serious relationships in a french class and in journalism course at two different universities.mirror and match there a couple of light physical touches and an eye gaze with smiley eyes and abit of cheekyness and lots of humour, skip dinner. i would find out if they like dancing. then invite them to go latin dancing.-i.e. salsa, bachata, or tango if you really know how to dance. i knew the places with live salsa bands in london every night of the week., immediately you are touching. you achieve in seconds what a dinner date doesnt achieve at all. dinner dates, i have never done them. waste of time. what's sexy about chewing up pasta while sitting opposite together. it's a nerve racking two hours of awkward conversation, desperately trying not to spill food on yourself, and to look dignified in every mouthful. dinner dates are for when you are far on in the relationship, then when you go out to dinner you are holding hands over the table,e.g. for valintine's day e.g. my last finance i took her to a lovely boat restaurant with live singer. and its enjoyable little trip out, and its nice for couples to display their affection publically because people in love like to do that. and perfect for popping the marriage question on one knee.
@HOTSHTMAN53
3 жыл бұрын
Guys, just be on a purpose, don't be needy (text, just not too often, and preferably use it to set dates) , and be yourself. That's it.
@Danarator
5 ай бұрын
I did all this then she broke up with me saying it was driving her crazy etc..
@geofractal
3 жыл бұрын
Given the overload of relationship information given to men and women, these days, by the time you are able to negotiate a "workable" relationship, isn't it obvious that the two people having the supposed relationship are, at a certain point, both not there themselves or are irrelevant. A whole load of politicians and coaches and snake coaches etc etc, in your mind. No more innocence..no more yourself.
@Danarator
5 ай бұрын
Too much to take it you are right.
@Danarator
5 ай бұрын
@nestormariano6588that's exactly what i did after she broke up with me we met up 2 weeks later but i was just babbling away 😅 didn't give any impression of convincing her to change her mind cause i was so exited i got a new job with better pay working for the council and just had my wisdom extraction plus getting my teeth aligned and whitening lol so in the end i realised i was talking mire about myself out of excitement..we text a few times after i got home. 3 days on i we ain't text and she's traveling to Spain in 3 days. Anyways.. after seeing her i realised i was actually way more emotionally balanced than her i was surprised cause she looked drained out and exhausted but i still complimented her but never mentioned that she's looking totally unkept like wdf.. i still love her though. But i have to be strong. She's saying she still got all the feelings but we got no future together. Well funny enough i earn more than her but the truth is i didn't ask her to move in after 2 yrs together. I think she feels like i didn't care enough to save her rent money etc.. cause she hinted about it moving in twice but i said we need to take it slowly..to be fair i should have said just move in when you are ready. And i mentioned my ex in our last meeting god sake lol.. i didn't help myself 😅 Guess i was selfish etc i wasn't a bad boyfriend i just had my guards up most of the time. i need to learn to drop it.
@ryanbailey8588
3 жыл бұрын
The conclusion of her videos, whether she admits it or not, is always “women will be turned off anyway, no matter what, for whatever reason”. Literally, you can go through this video an it’s like Goldilocks syndrome. “You let her into your life too soon” ... “you’re never there and don’t show her affection” ... “you make her your happiness”. It’s literally just contradiction after contradiction. Honestly men, this isn’t what relationships are about. If a woman is that sensitive, truth is, she’s way too selfish minded and into herself. This will result in her cheating. I promise you. Just leave her alone.
@josephwatts8022
3 жыл бұрын
These are the same things that push me away and when I meet a woman I never stop enjoying things that make me happy
@zstevie249
3 жыл бұрын
Often times it’s because men be too needy and plus the selfishness can get in the way of that as well.
@timothygibney159
3 жыл бұрын
Yet women on dating apps put 0 effort back. Friendship in my experience is always a zero sum game from my experience as a man. She always ends up getting a bf who asks her number and agrees to a date right away leaving us holding the bag because ...you know we are just a friend. A girl says she wants friends first but never dates and picks up a stranger
@rome8131
3 жыл бұрын
Man be your self and always break the rules, treat her with respect but give her as much as she gives you. Yes of course build a good friendship if she wants to be friends .Don't worship a woman. Don't force anything ,let everything be natural.
@FMercuryEA
3 жыл бұрын
Attraction is in your worth. Confidence. At 02.23 AM, watching Appolonia doesn't disappoint . Since I started watching Appolonia clips, I became solid state, not the fluid guy they knew.
@johntrench
3 жыл бұрын
We are not “scared” of the friend zone, Ms. Ponti. As men, we are naturally problem solvers, with emotion being much less a factor in our thinking than in the thinking of women. We know from experience that, once consigned to the friend zone by a woman, it is extremely difficult, if not effectively impossible in most cases, to get back out of that zone and become a romantic interest to that woman. The friendship component absolutely must be developed within the context of a romantic/sexual relationship. Rarely can a romantic/sexual relationship be developed from the context of a friendship.
@DeusEx2
3 жыл бұрын
Women are always talking to other men.Once you lose her from your sight consider her gone
@TomFox1
3 жыл бұрын
agree
@LogicAtItsFinest
3 жыл бұрын
Such a weak mindset.
@JussLoveMeDontHate
3 жыл бұрын
I relied too much on my ex to be happy. Thank you for sharing this video, I have a lot to learn..
@shadesatnight80
3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate a positive woman! Because it’s such an outstanding quality. It can change your day!
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!
@risateealtrerisate
3 жыл бұрын
I am a man, I study manuals and watch videos, and I appreciate your channel Apollonia ! Thank you on behalf of all men 😁 👍 Like Sherry Argov says we have to treat ourselves like human beings and treat others how we would like to be treated. From what I have learned one of the best skills is to understand together what is going on and make the patterns that we want, as we see the quality of our interactions unfold. Not to sound arrogant, but because I studied a lot I could make a channel too. If you want to have a good alive relationship, you need to interact together and to interact you need awareness and to have awareness you need to look at actions, among other skills, best wishes everyone, be kind but know how to respect yourself and your possibile partner for how long it might be 😘 Ciao ! Happy learning !
@natebadger927
3 жыл бұрын
Enjoyed the webinar yesterday, while I did pottery. it was a pleasure
@christophercoupe5006
3 жыл бұрын
Well I'm not doing any of these negative things with a fine Italian woman I'm friends with. So I know I'm on the right track. I think it's a well kept secret how great Italian women are. Thanks Apollonia for another helpful video.
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
Very good!
@1coingaming959
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for such a good video ❤️
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@patrickkgoodwin8859
3 жыл бұрын
Until I found my soul mate I experienced as a young man those feelings and experiences. When I lost direction by thinking of myself I had to reexamine what was wrong Apollonia helped me see through her self help videos where I was short changing our relationship. My soul mate seems happier but I still need work. I have time to correct my course and leave this planet a happy man.
@rgangan84
3 жыл бұрын
Once if I accept a woman's rejection for getting in to friendship, and relationship with more clearly conveyed patterns or protocols, then it don't make any difference about, whether to lose her attractions towards me. Also, it don't make any sense, even if that same woman retry again and again, to get back into a relationship, at any cost of manipulating & controlling activities conducted with siblings.It's better be with yourself, by giving a priority to yourself into the form of self-respect.
@growing.grounds4054
3 жыл бұрын
I was gonna get mad an needy with this girl about 5 days ago ! After watching this page and a few others it’s changed my thinking immediately and now man I have control over myself .. no longer longing and attached to a OUTCOME oh boy that’s big to me
@georgestill2473
3 жыл бұрын
Don't fall for this friend first tip, trust me. You might end up getting married 😒😁
@pisyaphets2554
3 жыл бұрын
what do u mean?
@roilion8150
3 жыл бұрын
Friendship is when you are less attractive to me. The friendzone doesn’t have to take more than 2 months if she’s attractive tho. That’s my rule.
@hungryjimbo
3 жыл бұрын
It seems like there is a lot to do so you can keep a woman interested.
@kudrah
3 жыл бұрын
And that’s the wrong mindset. It seems to imply that women are these sort of like Hollywood princess perfect women that are always right and that the men are always the ones that have to make the effort to adjust to women’s needs. The ironic thing is that the more we take this approach, the more likely we are to lose her.
@cluggyahoo
3 жыл бұрын
Yep, and yet she'll never be satisfied anyways
@growing.grounds4054
3 жыл бұрын
Been bingeing apollonia ponti and it’s been helping emmensly !
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
xoxo
@markd6476
3 жыл бұрын
Once again 💯 on point! It’s a blessing I found you!
@emiliobeltran403
3 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful and intelligent women You are. Greetings from Guadalajara Mexico. Thanks to one of your videos( Why my gf is talking to another 👨) I took the decision to end that situation. We always know what's good and what's bad, we just need a little push. Adios señorita and be safe.
@krowman8458
3 жыл бұрын
I like to be all in or all out and I hate having to tip toe between being interested and not being interested.. I just wish humans were more straightforward and not so overwhelmingly complicated
@mrsherwood2599
3 жыл бұрын
It didn't matter with my ex what I did or didn't do. She simply decided who I was and what I was doing. She had a version of me that she made up in her head that she responded to. I could literally be seeing three other women and she still treated me like a needy little cub scout. It was very strange and very toxic and I'm glad I got out. It didn't matter if I never called her, she still put me in this bizarre role of chaser. She was pretty disordered.
@yzm2065
3 жыл бұрын
Great perspectives, and plenty of good knowledge. Thanks!
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@darronsanderson4837
3 жыл бұрын
3:00 but, the fact is, with online dating women who men message, then move to phone texts and called start right off with asking for your resume:"What do you do"? "Do you rent, or own?"; "Is it an apartment, or home"? I have had three women from Zoosk even ask me, (during initial phone calls) "Have you been married, and or divorced more than once"?! That's when I say, I have to go.
@jmhurk01
3 жыл бұрын
Women play games far more than men...
@KingJuls.
3 жыл бұрын
I been going crazy w Apollonia’s videos, rlly educating me fr🙏🏽
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being here!
@emekaabuah6029
3 жыл бұрын
I really wish I heard this message 9 months ago. I wouldn't be feeling what I am feeling right now.
@daustin439
3 жыл бұрын
I opted out ten years ago as it’s always the same games. Backing to watch my reaction. That happens - I’m out. Feet in or feet out. There isn’t an in between. It’s all games otherwise. Plus as I turned 40, it seemed that women my age, for the very most part were well divorced or broke. My money is mine. Yours is yours. I won’t ask you for money and you should respect me enough to not ask either. Money and games screw up modern relationships.
@markweiler2928
3 жыл бұрын
Apollonia..... Jesus hope spelled correctly. Girl I've talking to for a few years, only recently. We made it official. She always needs $, I've let her $ & next time we met up (2 week's) she paided me back. I should or shouldn't keep doing that?
@adriansy365
3 жыл бұрын
im so happy i found this channel 😄
@Speedy-ms6ck
3 жыл бұрын
Answer: Empty Wallet!!!!!!!!!
@MrAndyNich
3 жыл бұрын
That's becuase every Red Pill channel tells us dudes to " make her miss you and don't text her back until 35 months after the first date " 😆. Those Red Pill channels tell you if you ignore her she will chase you like a lion in the safari becuase you made her miss you. They say this becusse all those Red Pill guys were hurt or got monkey branched away from when they were in love and got dumped for being " too nice ". So we are taught to be cold as hell and not care anymore. If we love bombed her it's becuase she made us feel alive. We can't win.
@Mustafa-bd3db
3 жыл бұрын
Spot on
@raycebannon6374
3 жыл бұрын
"We are taught to be cold as hell and not care anymore."????? WTF are YOU talking about. Who is "WE"? If a man is living his purpose, chasing excellence, doing his adventures, doing his hobbies - becoming the best version of himself - these types of men do not have time to text women all day. These types of men contact the women they're involved with when they have time. Women in these Men's life are not the TOP PRIORITY.
@zeke8341
3 жыл бұрын
Real facts right here people listen to this woman she knows what she's talking about.
@tommydi4618
3 жыл бұрын
Some of this is like you are following me around, lol, and your advice is helping. My ex knows how I feel and says nothing. She just wants to talk one day at a time....ty for the help
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
You got this!
@wired4fishing690
3 жыл бұрын
These videos haveint helped me any but only get longer temporary stuff from women. Too much this. To much that! Blah blah! I’m just gonna be myself an if it don’t work oh well! Life goes on! Appreciate your help but can’t upcycle someone into loving you
@reallove3028
2 жыл бұрын
Good advice
@ApolloniaPonti
2 жыл бұрын
Glad you think so!
@marcellusbrown7940
3 жыл бұрын
Always love ur commentary an u always get a thumb up all videos
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that
@orlinchirinos1981
3 жыл бұрын
I dealt with a few things you mentioned with self awareness Apollonia. An Aha moment.
@samuelehirim3739
3 жыл бұрын
Am learning new things from you thanks ✋
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it
@ArshadAli-sn2cd
3 жыл бұрын
One question...If a man does not showcase his neediness passion how can he be able to register himself in the mind of a girl whom he loves too much?
@MuhammadAliGOAT
3 жыл бұрын
leave them alone and let them come
@vanpenguin22
3 жыл бұрын
In a previous video, you stressed how important it is not to become attached to an outcome. "It was as if a were shot in the forehead with a diamond bullet"- Frances Ford Coppola's Apocalypse now It had not yet occurred to me that I was all consumed with an outcome. How desperate I must have looked. Thank you for opening my eyes.
@amitchkrabarty05
3 жыл бұрын
Please make a colaboration with Marni Kinrys. That would really help a lot of people.
@gregorywynn3244
3 жыл бұрын
I can agree whole heartdly with majority of what you are saying. However, if a women questions why a man wants to do something for her just out of being nice, she is the one that is insecure. I find that women say they want a good man, but when they have one they are afraid of it and push them away because they feel inadequate and begin to project their negativity. There are some genuine men out there, and what he needs is a genuine woman who is secure enough with herself to recognize it. Maybe you can add to your program that can teach women. That is, if they can face themselves. My soon to be ex just realized after 17 yrs of marriage how much I loved her. Can you imagine whatnI had to go through in the process? Maybe she was never there in the beginning. This has been my experiences throughout my life with women. I am tired. Will a real help mate please stand up.
@arkjames5033
3 жыл бұрын
In this video, give woman attention to keep her, in another video, be an alpha if you want to attract women, a woman wil always be confused confusee
@Jrshowuncensored1
3 жыл бұрын
Do you stream live ? I got so many question i need some tips coach
@dannyezramusic2834
3 жыл бұрын
Thank You so much aunt, I'm Dan from Uganda. I have a Question . Why is My new girlfriend asking me what I have a chieved in three years working abroad? ....
@cluggyahoo
3 жыл бұрын
The women are "pushed awa" ....when her man is running out of money!!!!
@Daniel-bd5ur
3 жыл бұрын
keep posting these kinda ideos pleaseeeeeee
@BlackMan-yc9tf
3 жыл бұрын
your advices helped me sister
@mayansh1711
3 жыл бұрын
Me and my gf are takin a break mam I didn't have enough money for ur website so me and my gf were together for three months and we both were livin happily and one day she said that I wanna tell u something important I get to know at that time my heart is gonna be broken and I don't want to losse her she is like she loves me now also But she want to love herself first and enjoy with her parents and she said if u truly love me u will wait for me for 5 years because she want to become successful and make parents proud I am just afraid that after 5 years she stop lovin me I just wanna be forever with her and it's a long distance and I said when the five years wait will be over I'll come here in other words she is takin a break of 5 years and I want that in this 5 years she just don't stop lovin me and she said till the time we can be friends plzz help :/
@williamjohns765
3 жыл бұрын
Bro leave her she’s no good for you and wait 5 years for what lmao bro respond back to this we got to chop this up no cap ????
@DIEGONOT247
3 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video of pacing ourselves?
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the suggestion!
@raycebannon6374
3 жыл бұрын
Since you're a male wouldn't it wiser to ask a man about pacing yourself with women, with finance, with pursuing excellence, etc., etc. ????
@joelarazza9976
3 жыл бұрын
Men do it deliberately cause we're either not that into you, don't trust you or there is something we believe can't change and don't feel like taking about it.
@montymills2666
3 жыл бұрын
Them: jump through hoops Us: ok...like this... Them: *unimpressed look....sets the hoop on fire...puts down broken glass and thumb tacks....now jump through the hoop juggling these water balloons filled with gasoline...barefoot and blindfolded... Us: Ok? getting ready to attempt this death-defying task... Them: This is boring...finds someone else... Us: landing on the glass and thumb tacks...trying to put out the fire...
@jas-ve7bg
3 жыл бұрын
Can tell you from my own experience I'm tired of the games they play. My own advice never ever get involved with a woman with kids. Your relationship or marriage will truly never be her priority. I should of just listened to my gut years ago and got out when wasn't in a mountain of debt.
@yeathatsright1034
3 жыл бұрын
Fellas check out Dr. BOA , thats my guy
@Danarator
5 ай бұрын
How about if it's the woman that's got all that pushing away lol.. I've experienced it as a man.
@geoffreymalimo3312
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome
@davidharris8797
3 жыл бұрын
I never do 3 day rule
@abnerromero7158
3 жыл бұрын
Wait.....I.confused be her friend if she breaks up with up?
@moe4life21
3 жыл бұрын
I just got told i was insecure
@patrickbennett439
3 жыл бұрын
I dont know about being all friends with a woman and that being good, i dated my best friend which was a woman,, worste relationship ive ever had,, we knew eachother too well, we knew eachother weakness and stuff.. We like just used it against eachother and everything became a big competition till eventually we dont talk anymore. lol... before you say anything, she had drug problems! Thatl do it everytime.
@beastmasterakathabarbaric1509
3 жыл бұрын
Appolonia you are soooooo Gorgeous 😍
@kudrah
3 жыл бұрын
Why is it always about women women women. Gosh us guys go through a lot. Are women that complicated?
@kirbyd3185
3 жыл бұрын
Great video! Will women use the same techniques? i.e. pace? I believe (know) the attraction is there. This isn't easy is it! Ha!
@ApolloniaPonti
3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@baronladia9213
3 жыл бұрын
Believe me, all women are turned off when a man is short like 5'5" or shorter. Believe me when I was single all women gave me no chance.
@rascal211
3 жыл бұрын
Women discard many good men and end up choosing jerks.
@rayj5647
3 жыл бұрын
She does the same shit. So i do it right back,.. i try and hang out but theres always something with her. Iys like she wants me to beg her. Im not going to though..
@PollMaths
3 жыл бұрын
Mam. Take ur hair care. Ur head hair going back and lighter...
@daustin439
3 жыл бұрын
I listened. So you’re saying make her a priority in some way but not too much because it’ll turn her off. If you don’t make her enough of a priority she’s turned off. Jesus Christ. Just forget it.
@RK-nl1hn
3 жыл бұрын
The best thing for a man to do is work hard get yourself together. Hire a maid and from time to time an escord and live happily afer after!
@TomFox1
3 жыл бұрын
👍
@davidharris8797
3 жыл бұрын
I’m very confused 🤷♂️now ... at 54 dating is well not as easy I just ask young girls if they want to go shopping 🛍 seems to work
@bbpdec92
3 жыл бұрын
Do you think you should make women work for your love?
@gabrielcastrovivas9520
3 жыл бұрын
Women are used cars, too. And always try to sell themselves as new Rolls Royces.
@PsychicMedium777-uw4mm
3 жыл бұрын
What YOU are saying might be true! But.... for me, that's NOT the issue / case! The issue, for me, is... No. 1) Sometimes, YOU lose interest in a person (girl) because.... they lose interest in YOU! No. 2) Dealing with "toxic" parents and family members is no picnic! It takes up a lot of time and energy! Energy YOU can't give to the relationship! No. 3) There comes a point / time, when YOU know YOU deserve better, so YOU move on! Just saying.... people! 🙁
@paulgiarmo3628
3 жыл бұрын
She tells men in this video not to fear the friend zone, yet she's got a whole video devoted to teaching men exactly how to avoid the friend zone. As men, we know exactly what the friend zone means-erotic purgatory for us; a.k.a. we ain't getting it from her. So please, Apollonia; a little consistency here. It seems that men are damned if we do and damned if we don't. Exactly what does a woman do, (if anything); to contribute to a relationship? Just asking.
@mkowboy13
3 жыл бұрын
Ya it’s gotta be genuine, men don’t like women who are structured like not going to peck kiss you on the lips til the 6th date lol just like women don’t like structured men like she has to text me first lol
@Ascension_3030
3 жыл бұрын
juice isnt worth the squeeze fellas. Live for yourself. Get a dog
@zeljocerm
3 жыл бұрын
😄😄😄
@rayromo7222
3 жыл бұрын
Just don't be a creep
@CatalinEnache1502
3 жыл бұрын
A man' purpose is no1, never a woman. The moment you make her a priority you lose her. Less is more, she needs to earn you . The man is the prize, not the woman!!!
@j.l.5237
3 жыл бұрын
f a r a r i
@lotuswarrior8843
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah keep it Real Girl ! ALL in my FACE lmao
@tarikmounih3559
3 жыл бұрын
U thought us that b4 😝🤣 now u crictisise it lmao😄! m just jokin btwy, I dnt like those games , plus I ll nvr get any better at em, cuz it just not me lol!!! Voilà
@baronladia9213
3 жыл бұрын
WHAT TURNS WOMEN ALL OFF IS WHEN A GUY IS 5'5" INCHES OR SHORTER!
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