"I like myself better when I don't pay attention to anyone else". I don't know who said it but I have codependent issues and this saying always helps me pull out of unhealthy thinking. Thanks Vera.
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
Oh that's actually so good, thanks for sharing that one! I'm going to practice with it :) Have a great weekend!
@MyCozyLife-Lisa
16 сағат бұрын
@@cantocant2346 Wow! That’s a really great quote! And so true!
@veralubov7405
12 сағат бұрын
Wonderful quote! I will try to remember it; this is what I REALLY need...Thanks!
@cathyphillips679
13 сағат бұрын
Two little sayings that hit home for me.... 1. Not sure where this one came from.. "Mainstream is not the only stream." 2. This one surprisingly (at least for me) is from David Bowie.. "Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been."
@elianacapiotto_ingles
7 сағат бұрын
"Romanticize your life" is a piece of advice that has made so much sense to me. Noticing how full of small pleasures our lives are feels so good!
@lmarieschu2370
15 сағат бұрын
Hi Vera. My friend told me: Those who matter don't mind; those who mind don't matter.
@annlynngarviefinley5581
16 сағат бұрын
Someone once told me, “Ann, don’t worry about the pebbles. Watch out for the rocks!” HSP’s will notice the specks in the pebbles but I’m still learning to not let them trip me up so much. I love your mantra, “not now “.
@stephen.macleod
17 сағат бұрын
Regarding switching from tai chi to yoga/fitness, ah yes, the good ol' "sunk-cost fallacy." That one's trapped me, in the past. I was a musician for a couple decades, but one day I realized that I was no longer that person. Leaving it behind was still depressing and made me reconsider, based on how much time and money I had spent. However, at the end of the day, I was forcing myself to "be" someone I no longer recognized. Life evolves. 💙
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
YES well said 🤗😁 This is exactly it.
@stephen.macleod
16 сағат бұрын
@@SimpleHappyZen And btw, speaking of Ghibli, I totally missed "The Red Turtle" and just got around to it. Highly recommended! 😎
@SimpleHappyZen
16 сағат бұрын
Oh I haven't seen that one yet! Weird hahaha. I'll see if I can find it
@maryanncsech6964
12 сағат бұрын
A good friend told me long ago that if you don't look after yourself, nobody else will. That's one of the best pieces of advice I ever got. I also have a saying for myself when I'm overwhelmed with too many things to do, "First things first, next things next." which is a simple way of reminding myself to focus on one task only and then giving full attention to the next instead of trying to do too many things at once. Your videos make my day! I always learn something.
@DNA350ppm
14 сағат бұрын
"There are days, when it is a immense task enough, just to survive to the next day." (Quoted from memory, read in Luise Rinser's novel *Mitte des Lebens* in the late 1970's) This has helped me through difficult times, as in dark days, you don't have to survive with grace, not with pride of yourself, not to impress - just to survive, so that you can take a baby-step tomorrow. I believe other people whom I told this wisdom, also have felt comforted by this humble and doable step, because sometimes it is enough to just hold out until tomorrow. Nothing more is demanded. I loved everyone of the good thoughts today from you, Vera! All the best!
@ana.rvovic
17 сағат бұрын
Give yourself a year, this is a very useful advice. Thank you very much!
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
Happy to hear it! I've also found it so helpful 🤗🍵
@ana.rvovic
17 сағат бұрын
@@SimpleHappyZen And your video is very useful. I think that I will watch it again 🍂🤎💡
@DNA350ppm
12 сағат бұрын
The really difficult changes to manage take at least two years or more - like surviving a divorce, starting a totally new career or life-style, or recovering from/adjusting to a life-changing illness - and then one has to really do one's best, it doesn't happen from itself. Time doesn't heal everything - you yourself make the positive shift, and you can do it, one step at the time. Be open to any help from even random sources. It might show up at any time, in any form.
@joannec4356
4 сағат бұрын
Going through a divorce and being separated for 2 years …I still don’t feel like I’ve recovered. It almost feels like I went a few steps back recently with another chapter closing in my life. Hoping for better days.
@mariajacynta
11 сағат бұрын
"I would make a entire video about the lessons I learned from Studio Ghibli" YES please!!! ❤
@VinylSteel3
16 сағат бұрын
All great advice Vera, my favourite is not having to be the same as you were yesterday. I've recently began wearing men's suits (shirt, tie, jacket & pants) to work & when I go out, which is a huge change as a female who always wore jeans & t-shirt, but I watch many older films & can't help but admire how well dressed the men were, I wanted to look as stylish as them. Change can be scary at first, especially not knowing how other people will react, but ultimately if it makes you happy you should go for it.
@katyalauziere6858
11 сағат бұрын
"Give yourself a year" really resonated with me. I was part-time and not permanent at my job. A month ago, I got a permanent and full-time position. I am really happy about it but I'm struggling to adjust and keep my life balanced. Going from almost unemployed to full-time in a week is really hard for me. I don't understand how everyone can work full-time and still take care of the house, the kids, the errands and not lose their head. It just seems so easy for everyone and I feel like I could never make it. BUT, it's been a month. I will take the advice, and give myself a year. 😊 Thank you very much.
@sandykrieger5392
15 сағат бұрын
This too shall pass - everything changes
@djhoy61
7 сағат бұрын
Someone told me once that no one can use you as a doormat unless you allow yourself to be used as one. Self advocacy is important. Also there are 3 Chinese proverbs I love. 1-the strongest tree in the forest is the one that bends in the wind . 2- the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. 3- the strongest steel is forged by the hottest fire. I try to remember these when undergoing change.
@MayraSignorelli
12 сағат бұрын
A great piece of advice from my therapist: you cannot change what other do... but you can control the way you react to that. Excellent video, thank you Vera!!
@danyf.1442
17 сағат бұрын
Don't know if I qualify as a highly sensitive person but I am going through a very difficult time and I found your advice very helpful anyway. I recently found the channel, subscribed, already started adapting and using in my life some of the tips I learnt here. I am forever grateful.
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much and welcome to the channel! So happy to hear you already found some helpful tips here :) Take good care and have a wonderful weekend!!!
@rachelpaskeserrani4917
15 сағат бұрын
Dear Vera, I just want to thank you once again for all your videos, but especially this one with the messages that it IS OK to do what we need to do for ourselves. Some of us get this reminder very little in our own lives - or not at all. I realized years back that if I'm not hearing these kind reminders from others, then I have to start telling them to myself, or seek them out from comforting sources, like your beautiful channel. I love your soothing voice, your positivity, your understanding, and the way you stand up for all of us HSPs! xo
@sheryl8034
16 сағат бұрын
Your Dad's saying is similar to one we use in the UK and maybe other countries, but I'm not sure. It's "If you don't ask, you don't get." I'm having a bit of a rubbish time with a fibromyalgia flare-up and exhaustion, and I really needed a quiet, warm voice and relaxed video, and right away I thought of you. Thank you, Vera, for everything you do for all of us❤ 🙏 Yes you're right. Grave of the fireflies is so very sad. I watched it years ago and it still stays with me. 😢 It is amazing though ❤
@bonniemasterjohn5440
12 сағат бұрын
This might have been mentioned, but one of my favorites that my Mom says is: "Where there is a will there is a way." In times of struggle or worry I simply sprinkle on a little relaxing and let go of any struggle and a way is found! Yep, magic.❤
@hemapentakota
13 сағат бұрын
I had a burnout too when I moved from a small company to a very big company. It was 5 years ago. The role was Product Manager. After I quit, I am never convinced to go back to a corporate job. I started freelancing as a social media manager. I feel so reassured to know I'm not alone. I also feel a sense of calm while watching your videos, Vera.
@bibiyasmeenjeetoo7257
3 сағат бұрын
'LOVE YOURSELF' This advice of BTS change my life. I was always told to put others first and not be selfish. For 30 yrs I applied this and was used by others shamlessly. At the end I lost my joy of living and was suffering from low selfesteem and emotional burnout. Now I understand that caring for yourself and protecting yourself is selfpreservation and not being selfish. If you are feeling happy only then you can give happiness to others.❤
@MyCozyLife-Lisa
17 сағат бұрын
What a wonderful way to begin the weekend! You always give the most helpful tips and info. I think I’m going to order “The Highly Sensitive Person” book you mentioned. I love how you give us all reminders to be advocates for ourselves and to do what’s in our best interests. Thank you so much😊
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
Aw thank you, so happy you enjoyed the video! And yes, the book is definitely a recommendation :) I added a direct link to the book to my description box, but no pressure to use my link of course if you can get it somewhere else :) Have a lovely weekend!!
@MyCozyLife-Lisa
17 сағат бұрын
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you so much. Hope you have a lovely weekend as well😊
@elizabethdeslauriers7498
2 сағат бұрын
A workplace mentor said, “slow down, and do one thing at a time.” It’s a gift you give yourself. ❤️
@sl9906
17 сағат бұрын
❤ Tea & talk w Vera make every day better! Totally resonate with all. As a fellow HSP w more “life experience” I’ve learned to hold dreams lightly as they may not come true, but to follow your life goals with the perseverance of a marathon runner. For me, that is following Jesus in his will, joy, love, patience, forgiveness, gentleness, kindness, peace, faithfulness, and self control. These things will make me a better human, and although the journey may be a “scenic tour” instead of a straight line, ultimately my life will be a rich legacy and I won’t be crushed by the broken pieces of dreams, fears, anxieties, and disillusionments along the way. God bless you Vera for the light of your soul ❤
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I'm happy you enjoyed the video and that the points resonated with you! 🤗🍵 Love what you said about life not being a straight line but rather taking the 'scenic route' 🌳 I think that's the way it often goes, and these unexpected surprises and detours can make it even more worthwhile
@Laura-ti2tm
11 сағат бұрын
I could listen to you talk all day ❤ I love all these life lessons! A big lesson for me was learning to worry less about what other people think of me, and instead be the person I want to be
@chrstopherblighton-sande2981
12 сағат бұрын
A 'life lessons from Studio Ghibli films' video makes me super happy just thinking about it, so I'd certainly love it if you made it! 🙂 The 'right now, the only thing you have to think about is which tea you want to drink' lesson is one that I got from your videos which has been very transformational for me. I'm still working on it, but I'm getting better at making time to just let go and to let myself have some proper 'time off' for myself, to rest and recover. It is absolutely wonderful and has been key to helping me develop more self-compassion too.
@starlite156
9 сағат бұрын
Great advice as always 😊 Grave of the Fireflies is one of those movies you watch once and never again
@ReneeHemp
6 сағат бұрын
I love it. You can change any time. I have needed this reminder. Thank you for a wonderful video. ❤
@veralubov7405
12 сағат бұрын
Thank you so MUCH, Vera! I am a lot older than you, but I am just making my first steps on the road to self care...so, I am very grateful to you for the wisdom you share with us! Everything you said in this and other videos resonates with me and helps to be on track.P. S. One very intelligent woman said, "Ask yourself if you are really happy, and depending on your positive or negative answer, start taking corresponding actions with a smile".
@sebastienmailbox
5 сағат бұрын
I've prided myself on my tenacity, but I'm so tired of being a "human doing" in stead of a "human being." I like that you pointed out taking care of yourself and making your life a little easier and more comfortable is worth the investment and not something to be ashamed of. Big changes taking a whole year to acclimate to sounds wild to me. My life has been lived in such a whirlwind, taking a year to get used to something sounds like a luxury. Kiki's Delivery Service is one of my favourite childhood movies. Ursula's advice is the best advice. I've doled it out to friends on many occasions. It's what I'm trying to do right now. To just let myself be and stop trying so very hard. I look forward to your videos as a reminder to take a moment to remember to slow down and appreciate a hot cup of tea or similar. Thank you for the lovely thoughts, as usual.
@WaffleTraveller
12 сағат бұрын
Not sure if it counts as advice, but I once came across a phrase that changed my life: "Low self-esteem is, by definition, a false perception of oneself". For anyone out there struggling with their self-esteem, you are not alone and it can get better. Give yourself permission to see yourself differently 💚 Couldn't agree more about Grave of the Fireflies. Watched it years ago without knowing what I was getting myself into, never again 😅
@phased3941
7 сағат бұрын
For me the quote for Jim Carrey "Hope Walks Through the fire. Faith Leaps over it" as simple as it may sound. Completely changed my life from the ground up. I subconsciously lived through hope "hoping I get the job I want, hope I can pass whatever I'm doing, hope I get a good relationship" but that hope was doing nothing but holding me down, and I didn't even realise it until even after I stopped believe in hope.. I heard that quote Sat on it for a week, thinking about it a lot, and one day 2 hours into my shift, I quit my job and restarted my life, and have achieved so many things that i had "hoped" for for years... hope is a chain, Faith in yourself (not god) is freedom ♥
@rtubiras644
30 минут бұрын
I would like to take a moment of my Sunday and appreciate how amazing your video is. It is well thought out and very on point. As someone who has many big changes in life within less than two years I really appreciate this. 😊
@Flukey_1970
16 сағат бұрын
Great advice as usual and yes some people see it as not sticking with things but i call it experiencing new things and views 🙂
@Mar-ME-s3h
17 сағат бұрын
Each point is such wise advice⭐️. Loved seeing your pictures; you are always beautiful (then & now). Thanks for all you do 🌸
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much, so happy you enjoyed the video! 🤗🍵 Take care!
@ashleysigurdson6982
17 сағат бұрын
Missed you! Your vids are what I use to relax❤😂
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
Aw thanks Ashley 🤗🍵❤️ Relax and have a lovely weekend!
@horsesnsimslover
14 сағат бұрын
Thank you for another wonderful video Vera! I have been at my job for 11 years now and for the past 2 years it's been really rough because of staff changes and times of being short staffed which made me be responsible for not only my job but another one as well. It has been really stressful and I've definitely been feeling burnt out. Your videos really helped me to remember to take the time to relax and leave work at work instead of taking it home. They are so comforting and eye opening to me in realizing that self care is very important and I have been trying to take the time for that!
@lonestar1558
9 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much for your genuineness. Your videos specially those about HSPs honestly has changed my self view and I am forever changed. you've opened my eyes and my heart. Deeply appreciate all your effort and videos. Much Love to you
@BillyWhaler
10 сағат бұрын
Sept - Dec best part of the year. Post-holidays, bare, droopy trees, rain, dark days and gray skies sort of suck. Would love an episode on how Netherlands handle that late winter pre spring stretch.
@euphonicbalance
17 сағат бұрын
Such useful advice. I will definitely implement these into my life. X
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
So happy to hear it! 🤗🍵🌳
@autorinmitkatze
14 сағат бұрын
Dear Vera, thank you so much for this video, especially for advice #6. Your talking about Kiki losing her magic due to trying too hard really made me cry, because I thought for a very long time this year that I lost my ability to write my novels while I was trying so hard to get something written. I finally took a break from writing (not being told by a friend like Ursula, but my husband), and just now I have the feeling that it slowly comes back to me - but I still need my beraks and I still need to take it slowly. I need to watch that movie.
@pra-yuktiu5278
9 сағат бұрын
Vera your videos are warm hug.. love you so much.. I must say I love comments section if ur videos equally.. so beautiful and amazing like minded kind hearted souls.. Thanks for this extraordinary community and superlative content❤️
@raphaeldullaert2426
8 сағат бұрын
Hey Vera, wat je zegt zet me weer even terug naar wat belangrijk is. Erg waardevol, bedankt 🙏☀️
@niran253
12 сағат бұрын
I'm so grateful for your advice and your existence, I used to write some of what you are saying and try to apply. I'm sixty, mostly double of your age 😊, but I learned a lot from you. Greetings from an Iraqi woman living in Virginia ❤
@paulsonap6
15 сағат бұрын
What a lovely and very inspiring video! Just what i needed. Thank you!!
@allein1001
11 сағат бұрын
Yesterday I watched a random video about habits from someone who has a channel about living alone in her 50s, and one thing she does is curate her social media to keep the negativity to a minimum. She included some youtube channels she watches and one of them was yours. :)
@arcticships
18 сағат бұрын
First yay! I LOVE Saturdays because of your videos! Thank you, Vera
@SimpleHappyZen
18 сағат бұрын
Aw that's so nice to hear, thank you!! 🤗💕💕💕 Enjoy your weekend!
@francineh.7825
15 сағат бұрын
I was given the same advice as you regarding it taking time to adjust to a new job. There were layoffs that were starting at the company I had worked at for years and years so I had to go to a new department - it took me a long time to adjust to a new role that I had zero experience in. I really need to watch Kiki's Delivery Service!! Your advice in this video is wonderful.
@melissabirdednie3958
18 сағат бұрын
Second yay!! 👋 Thank you Vera, I love your videos, thank you. Have a superb weekend xx ❤
@SimpleHappyZen
18 сағат бұрын
Yay, thank you so much! 🤗🌱🍵 You have a great weekend too!
@williamkazak469
13 сағат бұрын
Excellent advice. Wishing you the best. Always.
@shregyatripathi5419
16 сағат бұрын
You are becoming more beautiful and healthier than previous.. love you ❤ you are so lovable..
@Farah-sh4fr
9 сағат бұрын
Vera, love the rings you’re wearing.
@pinkroses135
6 сағат бұрын
These are some good nuggets I'll keep in mind ❤
@katiemynette4285
15 сағат бұрын
❤ Happy SENSATIONAL SATURDAY! Good to see you beautiful VERA in the NETHERLANDS! You are a breath of fresh air. I pray for you 🙏 to be blessed and safe. KATIE ❣️ KENTUCKY😊!
@imlv2614
16 сағат бұрын
Sooooooo goooood and much needed advice❤😊
@SimpleHappyZen
16 сағат бұрын
@@imlv2614 🤗🌱🍵
@TGYtco
13 сағат бұрын
The first one! I love that!!
@ronnie-lynn
9 сағат бұрын
I moved last October and also retuned back to work Oct 10th of last year to a new role after being on disability for 7.5 years. It definitely taken me a year to get settled into my new apartment, but if I’m being honest (only being able to work 1ish day a week) after a year at my new job I’m still figuring it out. 😒
@joanebel5207
16 сағат бұрын
Thank you Vera! Very helpful
@amychen2504
10 сағат бұрын
DO make a video about life lessons from Studio Ghibli!
@caronnest4939
14 сағат бұрын
Love this channel so much thank u❤
@andreaakierman-awad2668
10 сағат бұрын
thank you. you are so sweet.
@claireleslie5175
15 сағат бұрын
Words I needed to hear
@chrisoulalakkas7935
5 сағат бұрын
"No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth." - Plato
@juliemoore6957
12 сағат бұрын
Great tips.
@kamloopscruiser874
16 сағат бұрын
❤👍thank you Vera!
@eduardor0605
17 сағат бұрын
❤ Dear Vera 🎉
@kmw111
17 сағат бұрын
😊
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
🤗🍵
@amare83
17 сағат бұрын
💛
@SimpleHappyZen
17 сағат бұрын
🤗🍵🌺
@mastandstars5869
11 сағат бұрын
Very nice 😎
@uptightfreespirit4496
16 сағат бұрын
Thank you for all this advice. I'm having a tough time and could use all of these. I also wanted to ask.. I have a "highly sensitive" nose.😂 Do the period panties have an odor as you wear them through the day?
@SimpleHappyZen
16 сағат бұрын
You're welcome, hope things will soon get easier for you! 🍵🌷 About your question, it's never been very noticeable for me personally, but I think you can compare it to the odor that you would have with single use pads. Blood has a slight odor of course. What I do is just put on a new one when it doesn't feel very fresh anymore. 😊
@uptightfreespirit4496
16 сағат бұрын
@@SimpleHappyZen thank you!
@hadasitalki7247
11 сағат бұрын
❤
@annlavine3576
10 сағат бұрын
It does not take a year to get used to a cat Maybe a week
@jennierollins8789
13 сағат бұрын
☮️🌎🌲
@sgtigereye
16 сағат бұрын
Jesus walks with you through the valley of death. A valley is something you walk through, stress comes and goes but just remember to trust in Gods plan and walk through the valley. Challenges will pass, you can grow from them.
@LM-nh5of
9 сағат бұрын
ksksk, is easy to be a woman
@penny3767
11 сағат бұрын
GREAT video Vera. Lots to think about and so encouraging. 🌸 Also: ❤❤Kiki’s Delivery Service ❤❤
@deborahroper3694
11 сағат бұрын
“The fantasy is always better than the reality.🪷🫶🏻
@NintenJon64
14 сағат бұрын
Kiki’s Delivery Service holds such a special place in my heart! 🥹❤️ The message on overcoming burnout in that movie stuck with me when I first watched it almost 20 years ago, and it is so healing when I’m feeling down. I need to make some time to watch it again this season on Netflix. Thanks for the disclaimer on Grave of the Fireflies without spoiling anything!
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