Thank you sir for saying all the true and kind things
@ahmedharajli189
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for speaking truth brother a lot of us need to be held accountable 🙏
@esthellakomerl8084
2 ай бұрын
Masha Allah. Such wise words.. ❤
@Themuslimhighlander
2 ай бұрын
Barak Allah feekum
@lunaa2926
25 күн бұрын
Some people in the comments missed the message. He is not discouraging having 2nd, 3rd or 4th wives. He is simply telling men not to intentionally hurt women's feelings by using remarriage as a threat for any minor inconveniences. After reading many comments from men here i am so much more greatful for how my husband treats me alhamdulillah. He is very appreciative. And we talked about him remarrying a few times. Tho i know i will get jealous i am accepting of the idea and in sha Allah wont resent him for it because Allah made it halal and this is how he created men. They naturally love having many women. Its not due to me lacking of anything and i wont feel insecure about myself if he does someday decide to remarry.
@7SMJD
21 күн бұрын
May Allah bless you two and your marriage and protect you two from evil eye and envy and keep you steadfast and sincere, but keep in mind it's natural to feel jealous just like 'Aisha ra was jealous of her co-wives even though she was the prophet's pbuh favorite after Khadija's ra death, you have to keep your jealousy healthy and in line with islam and not let it make you wrong your husband, by distrusting or controlling or preventing him from his own khayr because the shaytan will be trying to make you go mad with jealousy, so bear in mind that he's the real issue and enemy in the equation A'isha the wife of Allah's Apostle (ﷺ), reported that one day Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came out of her (apartment) during the night and she felt jealous. Then he came and he saw me (in what agitated state of mind) I was. He said: A'isha, what has happened to you? Do you feel jealous? Thereupon she said: How can it be (that a woman like me) should not feel jealous in regard to a husband like you. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: It was your devil who had come to you, and she said: Allah's Messenger, is there along with me a devil? He said: Yes. I said: Is a devil attached to everyone? He said: Yes. I (Aisha) again said: Allah's Messenger, is it with you also? He said: Yes, but my Lord has helped me against him and as such I am absolutely safe from his mischief. (Sahih Muslim 2815)
@darlinah8090
Ай бұрын
❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Allah is the Most Loving …
@rogueslinky9537
2 ай бұрын
Nice beard allahumabarik
@Themuslimhighlander
2 ай бұрын
Barak Allah feekum
@imranniazi3983
2 ай бұрын
The message is good and I don’t think it’s applicable in all settings. He mentioned a scenario where the wife IS and HAS good Muslim feminine qualities already and then the man saying those things to her. This is how I understood his message…
@ismailmarican8297
2 ай бұрын
Likewise, there's 2 side of the coin. I understood the message the same way you did. You see good, sincere brothers doing all these videos but you will never see a women holding themselves accountable for their actions or dosrespect their imam..
@serene03422
Ай бұрын
Brother has highlighted a very important ignored fact. That you have not hired a wife you have married a wife. There is emotional investment that goes into this relationship which is lacking most of the time from supposedly good pious spouse and a wife's emotional needs are important and should be addressed.
@zeehuss7275
7 күн бұрын
With great power comes great responsibility. Do not misuse the rights given to you by Allah. Be grateful. Beautiful message. I pray to Allah to give me a husband like you.
@Themuslimhighlander
7 күн бұрын
I pray you get the best husband possible who is God fearing and responsible.
@TheBlackGentlemanGeek
Ай бұрын
I had the same on the opposite side. It was the wife who threatened me of leaving if I didn’t do such and such, especially on the luxury lifestyle wise. I worked hard but she wasn’t grateful, it was never enough for her. In the end she still left with the kids. If you haven’t done so, when are you gonna address that?
@fridawsbamba1641
27 күн бұрын
So what her reason for do that
@bushraa6527
22 күн бұрын
she did not fear ALLAH
@ismailmarican8297
2 ай бұрын
Well, there's 2 side of the coin. You always see good, sincere brothers doing all these videos but you will never see a women holding themselves accountable for their actions or disrespect towards their imam. Alhamdulilah ala kuli hal for the video, and i agree "Oh my brother be patient with your wife, indeed this life is short," Saydinah Umar Al Khattab R.A
@ibrahim_-_-_
Ай бұрын
this is also true
@SabrinPerseverance
23 күн бұрын
❤
@busyairahsydali8139
Ай бұрын
Terima kasih.
@shadeedmuhammad8107
2 ай бұрын
As-salamu alaykum Ramadan Mubarak great video that would be a hard statement but my question to you from the man's point of view is so do we just take a back seat and be okay with what is going on and how long do a husband need to do this when is the woman not doing what she requires how long should a man deal with that are you saying it's better just to get a divorce and marry another sister instead of not divorcing the woman and taking the second wife no hate Aki maybe you can put out another video of part 2 it is to address this how do you deal with the abuse from the wife it seems like we continue to protect the female but as of right now our societies are falling trying to meet the demands of the lady we as men have emotions once I need so what you're saying is that those emotions are not that important and your wants and needs are not that important just be grateful and allow the woman to do what she wants to do for when do we decide to take on a second wife or divorce the woman and just marry another woman thank you for the video brother very informative something that probably should work on but also what about the brothers who are not happy so is it okay for me to say the same thing about the women instead of throwing a fit should I just be happy and grateful that they have a husband that provides and pay bills I wish you much success this year brother I pray your Ramadan goes well and may you reach the reward from your from your videos to help people assalamualaikum Ramadan Mubarak
@esthellakomerl8084
2 ай бұрын
I think you've missed the point... The point is - don't use the ' I'm gonna get a second wife' card in an attempt to control her - instead work on your marriage and appreciate her.. You'll only weaken your own bond with your wife - the mother of your children.
@S.a.279
2 ай бұрын
how pathetic it is that some muslim men think if the wife doesn't clean she is abusing her husband, do you even know what abuse is? besides who told you it is the wife's duty to clean, the prophet cleaned his own clothes and helped out in the house so who are you to give commands? do you think you're better than the prophet? maybe next time instead of asking stupid questions like this think about how you can make yourself useful to the people around you, women work too, paying the bill isn't your only job, so consider that next time you think about throwing a tantrum.
@carljohnson2194
2 ай бұрын
@@esthellakomerl8084marrying second wife is halal in islam
@bushraa6527
22 күн бұрын
Abraham came after Ishmael's marriage in order to see his family that he had left before, but he did not find Ishmael there. When he asked Ishmael's wife about him, she replied, 'He has gone in search of our livelihood.' Then he asked her about their way of living and their condition, and she replied, 'We are living in misery; we are living in hardship and destitution,' complaining to him. He said, 'When your husband returns, convey my salutation to him and tell him to change the threshold of the gate (of his house).' When Ishmael came, he seemed to have felt something unusual, so he asked his wife, 'Has anyone visited you?' She replied, 'Yes, an old man of so-and-so description came and asked me about you and I informed him, and he asked about our state of living, and I told him that we were living in a hardship and poverty.' On that Ishmael said, 'Did he advise you anything?' She replied, 'Yes, he told me to convey his salutation to you and to tell you to change the threshold of your gate.' Ishmael said, 'It was my father, and he has ordered me to divorce you. Go back to your family.' So, Ishmael divorced her and married another woman from amongst them; he didn't keep her HE LEFT HER, if you are a nasty MAN or NASTY woman just separate, saves a lot of grief and more baggage i.e. more kids
@fatik870
Ай бұрын
This seemed to have triggered a lot of brothers! The point of this video is to be sensitive towards the feelings of your spouse. Don’t use it abuse your wife.
@user-zy4pe2rn5l
2 ай бұрын
Bro my beard is messy can you please tell me about beard maintainance ? And any products?
@Themuslimhighlander
2 ай бұрын
Photosynthesis 😅
@user-zy4pe2rn5l
2 ай бұрын
@@Themuslimhighlander didn't understand brother can you elaborate it?
@kvasir3180
2 ай бұрын
@@user-zy4pe2rn5l He's joking brother. He probably knows as much as you do, it usually just comes down to showers, some beard cream from any supermarket and use a comb.
@liliane6559
2 ай бұрын
It’s allowed to have more than one wife in Islam
@nat1381
2 ай бұрын
He's not saying it isn't. He's mentioning how hurtful it can be that whenever a man sees a shortcoming of his wife, he throws out the "I'll find someone else" card. This is emotionally abusive which leads to insecurity and can be very damaging. Since she feels unloved, replaceable and worthless. Even though it's permissible to marry more than one, there is a good way of doing so. It isn't by making the first wife feel in this way, in order to cause hurt because she falls short in something. I've seen this done by someone over the period of many years, and he did not take a second wife. The wife felt on the constant edge of divorce by him, unloved and insecure for their future. This can lead a wife to resent a second marriage and something Allah has allowed, due to the husband's mistreatment of something Allah has made permissible. There must be wisdom in treatment of wives and remarrying. If a man isn't good to his first wife and made her feel all those feelings of being unloved, worthless etc, which is the opposite of how Allah orders men to treat women, with respect and honour and to be kind, then how could she be happy that despite this poor treatment of her, he will remarry and give everything she wanted to see from him, he gives it to someone else. Whilst leaving her in a very miserable state. This is unfair already! There are good men who deal with their wives equally without these ill feelings.
@Themuslimhighlander
2 ай бұрын
💯
@rkberg
2 ай бұрын
the islam- where you have to explain to your fellow believers that women also have emotions hahahahahahahahhahahahahahhahahaah
@EhtesamUddinPrince
2 ай бұрын
Most Islamic husbands and wives are happy, you tried to cook, but didn't even have the gas on. Also was there a point in adding all those "hahas" in your comment? You're brain is still underdeveloped, you are probably to young to even be on the internet. Islam is also the religion where we want peace for all, have good morals, just overall a good human being. All of the "bad" things done by Muslims are just some bad apples. I can name over 30 people from each religion who did something horrible, unacceptable yet Islam is hated the most. It's honestly questionable.
@rkberg
2 ай бұрын
Currently participating in ramadan & reading the quran daily; I quite like a lot about the islam; is just sad to see how I'm more muslim than any of these pretending pigs and I don't even inted to be of any religion. @@DD-ln5no
@nuretti.fashion.journey
2 ай бұрын
The issue is that noone is really reading the book & understanding it unless they are native Arabic speakers. I decided to read the Quran for instance, and I'm a native Turkish speaker. Even the first surah ~ al-fatihah is translated wrongly. And it's not just one translation but 20 of them I checked. They translated 1.7 "astray" as pervert. One of the translators even went as far to translate 1.7 as ~ don't guide us the way as (Christians) who evoked (your) anger and (Jews) who are perverts. Like what is this translation? 1.6 and 1.7 al-fatihah actually says ~ guide us towards the right/straight path, the path upon whom you bestowed favor, not the path of people who went astray. Anyway, long story short ~ imagine that many people don't even read the Quran and when they do it's a bad translation. And the messages are not conveyed correctly because of such stuff. Plus there are tons of "hodjas" or internet personalities these days that just bend the messages the way it profits them. Which is so weird. Cause 2nd surah al-baqarah actually mentions that some Jews when they were writing down Torah, made changes in the book. So imagine reading that, understanding that it's wrong to change the meaning while translating, yet doing it still. Some people just won't change.. I wish it wasn't that hard to reach the correct information though. I really wish to read the books of Abrahamic religions. Yet, I'm still on the 2nd surah cause I have to check the facts, if translation is correct, compare it to English sources. And when something sounds wrong ~ look for word by word translations.
@esthellakomerl8084
2 ай бұрын
That's because you have to highlight something that's been prevalent in culture for decades. Like, in your culture, we would have to define that modesty and chastity are virtues, and a woman covering her body is not someone who is ashamed of her body but following the fitrah and a husband shouldn't be displaying his wife like a trophy... Yup.. Islam deals with EVERY aspect of human life that other religions don't. Alhamdollillah. Islam is a blessing and source of guidance.
@Themuslimhighlander
2 ай бұрын
@@esthellakomerl8084 Barak Allah feekum
@sarisulo6963
2 ай бұрын
Tell me you have no clue about women and relationships without telling me. Half of what you said is extremely s!mp!sh behaviour. Husband and wife are not equal "partners" in islam. The husband is literally her WALY after marriage what are talking about my guy? Just admit you never read the tafsir of surah An-Nisa. SubhanAllah, some people are gonna regret giving such destructive advice on the internet but then it'll be too late.
@rereraira4863
2 ай бұрын
Well in that case a man should be doing EVERTHING bcuz he's a wali right?? Why are wives struggling and doing everything when it's the husband's job?? Stop being arrogant u fool and read the surah yourself first.
@zoejane5563
2 ай бұрын
Even in surah an Nisah polygamy is not obligatory and men need to do justice and if u can't the don't do it
@barkatali3914
2 ай бұрын
@@zoejane5563 Both of you make good point especially you Zoe. If one can't do justice or can't handle the situation without hurting someone. Then he really shouldn't bother with something he's not worth. AND about that. So turns out It is semi-obligatory. Allah subhanahu wat'ala says to marry two three four in the Ayah kareema nowhere has it ever been said to marry one. In fact even the style of the Ayah is less suggestive and more persuasive and ordering.
@esthellakomerl8084
2 ай бұрын
They're not equal partners?? They have different roles and responsibilities. That doesn't mean that one has a superior status than the other.. Men have the upper hand in terms of taking care of the wife /family's needs.. Taking care of their finance, emotional needs, etc.. What has he said that's unislamic? Some men abuse the role /position they have been given by Allah by wanting to control every aspect of the wife's life.. Such as, not allowing her to visit friends and family or becoming verbally abusive. This does happen widely in Asian families...
@zoejane5563
2 ай бұрын
@@barkatali3914 it says if If u can't do justice then marry one. It says to be content. I Agree that while we can marry 4 wives but the question really is is it wise? One man can hardly understand what a single woman can go through now imagine having to take care of 3-4. Also I would say before making such decisions in haste one should consider other aspects as where would the man lodge the wives and how much would that cost etc. And as u can see by todays standards and price inflation it is highly difficult but if someone can and only after smartly looking and different angles then Allhamdullah. My point is just to make ease in life and not making such serious decisions on impulse. If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one 1 or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession.
@ibrahim_-_-_
Ай бұрын
let’s make something very clear here, you are not allah, and you putting restrictions on the muslim ummah holds no value when allah himself didn’t put this restriction on the men of the ummah. regardless of whether men marry a second or third or fourth wife out of desire or for another reason such as abuse in her original home, both are valid reasons to get marry more than one wife secondly, the situation you described is incredibly specific and will not apply to the vast majority of marriages just as the vast majority of muslim men also don’t engage in polygyny. if men have a feminine muslim woman who has haya and observes the proper islamic rulings such as hijab and obeying the husband, then it’s highly unlikely he’ll think about marrying a second time and it’s also highly unlikely he’ll be ungrateful for his wife the prophet muhammad SAW described in a hadith that women are more likely to be ungrateful than men are The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “I was shown hell. I saw that most of its inhabitants were ungrateful women… The Prophet was asked: ‘Were they ungrateful to Allāh?’ He replied: ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and for the favors and the good done to them. If you show benevolence to one of them and then she sees something in you not to her liking, she will say: ‘I have never seen any good in you.’” - Bukhari 1052 and also It was narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that women will form the majority of the people of Hell. It was narrated from ‘Imran ibn Husayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I looked into Paradise and I saw that the majority of its people were the poor. And I looked into Hell and I saw that the majority of its people are women.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 3241; Muslim, 2737) my advice to the brothers and sister reading this comment. stop trusting random tiktok scholars and actually study the quran and hadith on your own instead of blindly trusting whatever you see on the internet
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