In my house I don't enable laziness. I am not like other Filipino parents who just let relatives eat their food, let them live free for many weeks and they don't really contribute anything. I have lived with lazy people who abused my mom and mom has faults too. She was an enabler. I was too before. It has to end.If anyone who never lived in our country and lived with lazy self-entitled relatives you will never understand the feeling. This is not about being judgmental. My goodness. Drink beer and save your oxygen and some digital footprint. We have our own experiences.
@guillaumeshearmur656
Ай бұрын
Anyone looking for love needs to find three things: respect, honesty and trust (all in equal measures) for yourself and for your partner. If either is missing, then it's not love.
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
I agree 1000%!
@Ian-iu2tl
Ай бұрын
Love is not just all about hugs and kisses. Love starts with responsibility to yourself and your partner...but most of all...God must come first. There has to be a true spiritual connection, otherwise the connection is with the Devil and he is so sneaky...the real thief.
@Gregabob
Ай бұрын
This is a tricky situation. On the one hand, you want to help your Filipina's family to show you're a good man. But on the other, you don't want to upset her by setting boundaries that are too restrictive. It's a balancing act. I would say communication is key on this subject-the earlier the better. Giving too much too soon makes it tough to 'walk back' the amount you give-whether money, time, or allowing someone to stay at your place. Thanks for all you do Desiree-I enjoy supporting you.
@JuanManuelOgame
Ай бұрын
Family support is good as long as it doesn't become a problem. I'm not against supporting my family, but with the appropriate limits.
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
Nothing wrong with helping. Just don't let them KNOW what you do in your life.
@snbi7959
Ай бұрын
Any time you are put in a position to enforce boundaries you will be seen as the ‘bad guy’ by people who want what you have but won’t (or can’t) earn it themselves. Debt of gratitude is ultimately crab mentality as it keeps the working person down as well. But this situation seems like a hard one to change in the culture.
@goatman3828
Ай бұрын
Make clear your boundaries and limits. Who you might help and who you won't. Parents, maybe. Cousins definitely not. (For example) No unannounced family. No extended family 'vacations' at your home. Make it clear. If these lines are broken, you will move on. Don't threaten to, don't 'final warning'. Set your boundries upfront and stick to them. Make sure she does the same. And if you cross HER boundaries, expect her to leave too. This eliminates a lot of future problems. And applies to every relationship everywhere. If one of you can't accept any of the other's boundaries, then this relationship will not work. Better to know that early than find out months or even years down the road.
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
Very well said!
@waterbug1135
Ай бұрын
If you're going to lend money in PH you need to do it in the same way Filipinos lend money. #1 Charge a high rate to cover deadbeats. #2 Get collateral. Land, motor bike, child worker. #3 Hire big Filipino men to collect. Breaking bones is not uncommon. This is how lending is done anywhere and it is common in PH.
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
This is funny. I remember my aunt who worked as my dad's debt and water money collector cause we used to have a water business. My aunt is the perfect person who threatened the customers and never ashamed to embarassed the ones with big debts who were lazy to pay. I agree with #2. I'd say I will ask #2 first before #1.
@paulducharme4237
Ай бұрын
Genesis 2:24 the husband and wife should cleave unto each other and leave father and mother.
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
@@paulducharme4237 Yes leave and cleave!!! 👏👏
@coffeebotography
Ай бұрын
It might surprise you to know this is common in the USA. Boundaries in families are tricky. 😢
@bockskarr6626
Ай бұрын
Yeah we know man hahahaha we're specifically speaking on the Philippines nowhere else so plz man save it
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
I cannot really comment about that since I never lived in USA. Thanks for sharing.
@waterbug1135
Ай бұрын
True.
@bockskarr6626
Ай бұрын
Des you truly are a blessing 🎉🎉🎉 I've been following you for awhile years. It's longer than my sub bcuz I think I might have unsub the other year. I get this feeling like you know what you are doing with these videos and topics rn. I didn't watch for awhile and I lost track of something. I would think I should watch Des bcuz she always brings the truth or at least her truth which I can accept somebody Truth as long as they're honest with themselves and I get that vibe with you. So from the bottom of my heart maraming Salamat Po for your hard work and kindness. I appreciate your hard work on the light shining on dark places. Exposure to the light is ok and I'm thankful. Have a great day palihug
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
Thanks for the support. The compliments are unnecessary. I am just thankful my viewers watch my ads.
@srwilliams1963
Ай бұрын
HELLO
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
Hi!
@Ian-iu2tl
Ай бұрын
Good info. Your video portion needs a better camera. Thanks.
@Ian-iu2tl
Ай бұрын
@@FilipinaDes8888 Either way, your content is excellent. Thanks again. I've sent your video to my Filipina fiancé. She's fantastic. In a recent issue, there was a new "friend" we met in Dumaguete that needed a "loan" of money for rent. She didn't give it and felt guilty. Two days later the same person was on FB celebrating a big birthday with lots of goodies. Go figure. LOL!! I'm back in Canada and she is in Manila. We're working on a PR visa for her now. I am concerned about her weakness when it comes to money. She is not used to having much...so now, through me, she is, by Filipino terms, rich. Get my drift?
@bockskarr6626
Ай бұрын
@@FilipinaDes8888Des dont explain shit to these ppl. It's like something a narcissist says to engage someone into a energy harvesting loop
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
@@bockskarr6626 I like that term energy harvesting loop. May I borrow these words for future use? 😁And thanks for that. Yeah I don't need to explain right?
@FilipinaDes8888
Ай бұрын
😂@@Ian-iu2tl This is true. Those people who borrowed money who said they need help actually need help to prepare for a big party🎉. Then when you ask your money they get angry and tell you you cannot wait. Thanks for sharing..
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