Transcript:
I believe it has been said correctly that anger is a secondary emotion. But what's that mean? Well, it means it's not a pure emotion. It comes from somewhere else. Now, it can come from a lot of places, but there are three places predominantly that I see anger come from. Pain, fear and frustration. When we're hurt either physically or emotionally, that can also often come out in a storm of anger, frustration when you're trying to do something that you can't do.
Maybe it's a foster kid that can't do schoolwork because they're so far behind. Maybe they don't know how to do day to day things that seem so easy to everybody else. And so that frustration just flows out of with anger. And sometimes it's fear. Fear of not being successful. Fear of what the future holds. Fear of not knowing how to do relationships.
And so I want to encourage you today that when you see anger in a child or for that matter, an adult, choose not to see their anger, because when you see their anger, you're likely going to go get your anger response kit. And that anger response can be awfully aggressive and stirred. See their pain, their fear and their frustration and you'll get your therapeutic response kit.
And what you can do is in a very loving way, you can walk through them, help them, walk with them, help them find the emotion that they're feeling, and then discuss that. And when you handle the fear or the pain or the frustration, you've got a much healthier kid on your on your hands. And you know what? This isn't just great parenting advice.
This can do a tremendous amount of good for your marriage, your friendships, and everybody else you come into contact with. Maybe even the lady at Walmart. God bless.
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