The fact that SHE IS A WORKING MOM WITH TWINS is completely ignored by him 🤦🏾♀️ let these men fail
@allthatjazz415
Жыл бұрын
He told her because she's a woman, it's her job. WOW
@tabkaliO
Жыл бұрын
The audacity!
@jadibdraws
Жыл бұрын
This is fr a common defense these clowns be using
@rosalindhenton6867
Жыл бұрын
Says who ?
@Findmy_Way-Home
Жыл бұрын
@@rosalindhenton6867 Apparently the entitled idiot in the vid 🤷🏽♀️, I wasn’t made aware. This is another reason why WOMEN need to protect their womanhood and understand what it is so you don’t have manipulating narcissistic lazy males telling you who you are and what you “ought” to do. Women in the early days fell for this, we will not.
@fujimotochiaki2487
Жыл бұрын
For real! He's a complete loser.
@sophiaj3678
Жыл бұрын
He came in already recording as if that would intimidate her or cause her to shut her mouth. I'm glad she stood her ground.
@wonpilspiano
Жыл бұрын
Just because she is sitting watching TV he thinks she has all the time in the world?! Let the woman relax. Everybody takes care of their own grandma.
@bunneywolf
Жыл бұрын
No. It's because she's relaxing and women aren't supposed to relax. How DARE she have a moment of peace?! The audacity for her to be chilling minding her business for even a second. Now, she must be disturbed.... These men, smh
@Findmy_Way-Home
Жыл бұрын
They KNOW caregiving is a lot that’s why he wanted her to do it. I keep telling women men aren’t dumb they’re selective.
@omggiiirl2077
Жыл бұрын
I said this in my comment she doesn't need to get mad. Just commandeer his office, or a room in the bottom floor and let her stay there and put his lawyer money to good use! Get a live in caregiver. You can even get a trusted relative to do it! She has to learn how to out fox the fox! That's why I don't have these problems!
@aleksandrac9335
Жыл бұрын
@@omggiiirl2077 it's not her job to organize help for his granny
@omggiiirl2077
Жыл бұрын
@@aleksandrac9335 are you married? You must not be, or are in a very adversarial relationship. You know why I don't have problems in my relationship? Because I refuse to argue. It might not be her job, but he obviously made it her headache. Again, you have to be more clever than, 'it's not my job' because in real life that is not going to cut it. That's marriage, there's a lot of bullshit you'll have to put up with. It's the nature of the beast. You're going to have to care for his family, because that's what you'd want. So instead of getting loud and causing all this stress, outsmart him. You say okay, and keep watching t.v. then you go ahead and use his money to get his granny a caregiver. But I guess that's above your selfish ass.
@Caram3l_Bombsh3ll
Жыл бұрын
Sadly, many men feel that a woman’s entire existence should be in service to others. This is incredibly selfish and inconsiderate. If it’s no big deal, he would do it himself.
@Emilyb21-dm3bf
7 ай бұрын
Unpaid work he didn't want to pay for a care home
@LaBelleJouJou
Жыл бұрын
Is this a skit? This man is not even asking, he is ordering her to. There’s a long line of divorce attorneys waiting for this case. Wow Not only did he have the audacity to demand she care for his grandmother but he put her on TikTok to embarrass her while being hands down wrong, dead wrong.
@DestinyUteh
Жыл бұрын
I don't think it's a skit. He's so wrong
@LaBelleJouJou
Жыл бұрын
@@DestinyUteh lol love I know I was being facetious. 😘
@cebile1493
Жыл бұрын
That's what some men do they just order you around and the minute you say no then you're too masculine, not submissive, uncooperative and need to be discarded cause you're nolonger serving the purpose
@kayanurshiya3778
Жыл бұрын
By the looks of that woman I guarantee you if he put it on tiktok she’s gone! he lost her already that’s my take.
@CarolynForney
Жыл бұрын
The woman with the bonnet and the glasses is the only one speaking with some sense.
@mineandmine4528
Жыл бұрын
The husband should take care of grandma and pay for her. Like he said, grandma is HIS grandma. HIS responsibility.
@gmylap7344
Жыл бұрын
Agree!
@cosmicreef5858
Жыл бұрын
nobody's responsibility to care for someone who they did not ask to be here aka the grandma should be the grandma not the kid I do not want my kids or grand kids to think that they owe me anything
@mineandmine4528
Жыл бұрын
I agree with you
@aurora8749
9 ай бұрын
My ex's dad paid $800 a month for his mom's rent, leaving his wife to pay all the bills for her, him, and her two adult sons. These aren't rich ppl she made $14 per hr and he made around $16 per hr. That's a ridiculously selfish burden to put on his wife. We lived with all of them and his grandma for a bit and she threatened to kick out my boyfriend and I told his mom and his mom told her husband you can stay with your mom but we are moving or you can come with us, you're choice, so his choice was to come live with his wife but only pay bills at his mom's....I'd have divorced him.
@Rice10120
Жыл бұрын
This is exactly why I will never get married and especially not to a broke man. They see women as servants and baby carriers.
@Rocanala
Жыл бұрын
💯
@themarbleking
Жыл бұрын
And you see men as cash cows.
@essmac3453
Жыл бұрын
@@themarblekingfamilies cost money. If you are broke don't get into a relationship and definitely don't have kids.
@nataliesparks4829
Жыл бұрын
@@themarblekingwomen are making their own money, so what's your point?
@laurencameron3150
Жыл бұрын
@@themarblekingCash cows?? The avg man only makes about $58K a year BEFORE taxes! MOST women HAVE to work! Women definitely don’t see men as cash cows because y’all don’t have any!
@submissiveproviderstboth9485
Жыл бұрын
The stuttering is what makes it BETTER😂😂😂😂
@anm3744
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I know!!! Even his spirit knew he was wrong, so he was struggling to string a sentence together😅
@ineedhoez
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@aurora8749
9 ай бұрын
My ex does that when he knows he sounds stupid lol
@Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD
8 ай бұрын
@@aurora8749ditto😂
@subzero961
10 ай бұрын
Amazing how it's never a "big deal" to someone asking someone else to make sacrifices while making none themselves.
@AncientOne222
Жыл бұрын
As a paid caregiver that has been in the field 30 years, I will say she is NOT obligated to take care of HIS grandmother, if he cares so much HE could sign his grandmother up to receive the PROPER services.
@Tionaintown876
Жыл бұрын
Being a “caregiver” gives you no certification to speak on wrong or right here because that’s NOT what this is about
@AncientOne222
Жыл бұрын
@@Tionaintown876 Being a TRAINED caregiver gives me not only the right but the KNOWLEDGE to speak on the subject. Not everyone is equipped to be a caregiver, being a caregiver requires good mental health and physical health, professionally you must pass a thorough FBI background check ( level 2) and since you want to bring morality into the conversation. Morally speaking you should never force caregiving onto someone because the person receiving the care will have a high probability of being abused or neglected. It’s disturbing to see you can’t comprehend that🚩🚩🚩🚩 The issue is the husband is neglecting HIS grandmother by refusing to care for her and assigning that job to his wife instead of paying $$$ for services. What’s wrong is him filming himself emotionally manipulating his wife and gaslighting her in order to publicly shame her into doing what he wants. What’s right is her refusing to play into his abusive games.
@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty
Жыл бұрын
Caregiver here. Abuse happened when you didn't want to do it anyway. He doesn't want to pay for the help and he CLEARLY won't do it himself. Now just force her🤔. He bout to lose his wife for his grandma and that's the truth.
@ascent8487
Жыл бұрын
I’m a caregiver. I think both these fools are wrong and don’t understand marriage but I will tell you this, caregiving is HARD! And he has no right to just expect this from her. On the other hand she seems to have no understanding of family responsibility. Marriage means you do accept your spouse’ family to some extent. This should be a reasonable conversation. They’re both idiots. They’re both selfish. No wonder marriages fail so often.
@katiefountain2407
Жыл бұрын
@@Tionaintown876 it kind of does.. it's easy to speak on something you have no experience with.. Also he is expecting her to be the caretaker simply because she is a woman. With that logic she should not be working outside of the home. Because caregiving for actual autonomous humans is actually a lot of work. Just cooking two meals and doing the dishes after is at least 2 hours a day! And that's one single chore! Third, you should never volunteer another person for services. He can set up a plan of what he is going to do. Then politely inform the wife of his plans. But he has no right to speak to her that way while she's trying to relax in her own house.
@Ucantcometowpminelvyoursathome
Жыл бұрын
He kept saying ,"my mother", so what's wrong with his mother that she can't take care of her mother?
@UltraMella
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. Why can’t HIS mother take care of HER mother
@So_Cato
Жыл бұрын
She is definitely the one who put the battery in his back...she may have a one bedroom and work.
@ShaynieB
Жыл бұрын
Facts! F**k his family.
@michellejarvis7878
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! HIS mother has grown children, this woman is still raising children and yet his family is trying to make her take care of somebody she's not even related to.
@cosmicreef5858
Жыл бұрын
if she is a horrible person then he should come in terms with it instead of shifting the responsibility
@cosmicbrownie333
Жыл бұрын
Being a caregiver is nothing to scoff at. It's a MAJOR responsibility. I have a sister with special needs and I told my Mom that if anything happens to her my sister will be in a facility where she can get the proper round the clock care. My mom is a nurse and doesn't mind because she has the proper training but I'm just a sister. Not a medical professional. My family felt a way about that, but when I asked where were they when my Mom was struggling because I remember my Mom leaning on ME they got quiet. People always wanna tell you what you should be doing whist offering no actual HELP. It's extremely demanding and taxing mentally and emotionally. There's a reason why people pay for these services. I have many relatives who are travel nurses etc and they say all the time it's not for the faint of heart. You're not just dealing with the physical limitations of said person but many times you're also have to deal with their misplaced anger because many people are mad at their diagnosis, mad they aren't who they once were and they take it out on the caregiver. He's literally giving her more to do without any assistance or support she properly needs which is wrong on so many others. That's HIS grandmother. Who's to say the wife even has a good relationship with her in laws? Where is this husband's family? There's a reason why people aren't taking in grandma. I have a friend in this situation and his wife's grandmother keeps up so much confusion in their home. No thanks!
@Tmac_305
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, the guy was a major A-hole for his approach, but all i hear after that is excuses and non-compassion for our elderly and selfish motivation to look the other way while she's thrown out to the pastures.
@DestinyUteh
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story 🙏🏽🤎 I agree it's not for the weak
@w1ldfl0w3r4
Жыл бұрын
Girl you said a WORD!! 💯💯💯
@cosmicbrownie333
Жыл бұрын
@@Tmac_305 Our elderly citizens does deserve compassion however I'm a firm believer of pouring into others who pour into you. I can bet money she would've felt different if her husband sat down with her and listed what they BOTH could do. He basically said it was a "woman's job" which it's not. His extended family is not HER BURDEN. Your kids or family is not a retirement plan for not planning for your future. Point blank period. That's wildly selfish on so many levels.
@MonicaLAllen
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@ladymuse1022
Жыл бұрын
But wait, there’s more! When wifey’s haggard and drained from all that caretaking, he’ll cheat bc she let herself go. Di-di-di-di-divorce 🤡
@ultimateenigma6038
Жыл бұрын
Always the woman taking care of everyone. He will be at the bar with his boys.
@roshellegouldbourne787
Жыл бұрын
Or his side chick.
@ultimateenigma6038
Жыл бұрын
Funny how all these comments are about the women...sister..wife .daughter caring for elderly. Where are the men?
@gabrielleabraham5773
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@ShaynieB
Жыл бұрын
When she said she’d leave him, that “whoa, whoa, whoa” hit different. 😂
@dianalove539
Жыл бұрын
Idk what the fuck is up from men? How can I avoid a man like this? Looks like I’m not getting married for a longgg time
@rebotilemogadime4169
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the stuttering had me in tears
@attitudeproblem6462
Жыл бұрын
Talkin’ ‘bout “sHoTs FirEd!” 😒😒When his dumb ass came _in_ the room firing shots, telling her what she’s going to do “b/c she da woman”, and shoving a damn camera in her face!
@purpleness64
Жыл бұрын
@@attitudeproblem6462the wife is locked and loaded
@n4musica
Жыл бұрын
I’m SO GLAD she did that. He sure did stutter and shift his tone SO FAST after that! 😂
@memebzk5001
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, she said no.. If he doesn't like it, he can do it. Ladies. never be afraid to set ur boundaries.. You are entitled to set them. What really bothers me is the fact that he didn't say, we can get home health aid services to take the burdon off. No, he expects her to do it all.
@stephanielove2662
Жыл бұрын
Grandson sounds a lil slow if you ask me
@LaBelleJouJou
Жыл бұрын
100%
@Findmy_Way-Home
Жыл бұрын
@@stephanielove2662 Entitled is more like it. I wish a mf would drop another person on me and then EXPECT me to do it without pay. He’s lucky that wasn’t me cause feeling will get hurt. If he rly loved his grandma he wouldn’t have insisted this women who has rejected his advances multiple times to take care of her, b/c he would want the best for her. They don’t care about y’all. Not your sons, husbands, or grandchildren. They a new breed out here. It’s time to wake up!
@ineedhoez
Жыл бұрын
Lmao!!!!! She said you move out and take care of her😂😂😂
@Trinity_SZN
Жыл бұрын
He asked a question, she answered. It’s as simple as that 🤷🏾♀️💯
@Trinity_SZN
2 ай бұрын
@Shangai-uv9fc Facts 💯💯💯
@briannadickson2884
Жыл бұрын
So glad she stood her ground. That was ridiculous. Take care of your own. Talking about "I'm your husband" or whatever. Well, she's YOUR WIFE! He's so self centered only using other people to control her, that's it!
@Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD
8 ай бұрын
EMT'EMOTIONAL MENTAL TERRORIST mentioned his mum a few times but not in reference that mum would help.
@quirkyt_T
Жыл бұрын
Definitely a pre marital discussion. Before my husband and I got married we talked about our views on things like this. We agreed we would take care of our parents together if they will need it full time. We are on the same page. This is that man's grandmother, where are her children. He shouldn't command his wife. Once she said no, end of story. The camera in her face and posting this online is foul and he's trying to make her look bad.
@jadibdraws
Жыл бұрын
He just ended up making his wife look smart and himself look slow
@shaolinqueen3684
Жыл бұрын
It's called Reactive Abuse. He wants to corner her so she can say yes. But it backfired on him and everyone is siding with her. Except bums like him.
@ericablanton9006
Жыл бұрын
@@shaolinqueen3684 he is crazy out his damn mind. I'm in agreement with you you know what her son or daughter should be taking care of her because those are her kids he's a grandchild I could mend him on want to take care of his grandmother that is awesome that me and my grandmother were best friends now I will go and stay in her house with her if I needed to that's how close we were so I can understand the closeness but yes I do agree her kids should take care of her right I would not have had to do that because my mother or my mother sister of the other sister the other sister of the brothers would have took care of their mother because that's how close they were. Now if it is his mom his dad her mom her that I can understand that but again it should be a pre-marriage
@thebrownblossom8683
Жыл бұрын
His stuttering ass had lost his mind. He only works but she takes care of the house him the kids and go to work. He sounds like those mangers who can’t see you talking to someone or standing for 2 minutes. He is a weirdo.
@alexiszakarra1532
Жыл бұрын
Is weird that he expects her to do all of these things while holding a full time job.
@Bella_Noire
Жыл бұрын
… And taking care of twins, the house, and him! And the grandma is not only old, she’s sick too. Imagine dumping all that responsibility on his wife!
@fisf.2148
10 ай бұрын
Most men like him get married specifically to have a slave to do whatever he wants and is willing to abuse her if she doesn't. If he wasn't so wicked, he would have acted differently
@jadibdraws
Жыл бұрын
The wife made nothing but good points back to back. If you care that much about your relatives YOU take care of them instead of expecting your spouse to do more from them then even YOU are willing to do for them the insanity! And when these men know they are saying something irrational, illogical, and unfair. They love to say some shit like "You the woman" basically saying nothing at all. The reason why divorce is up and these men are single, lonely, and angry is because this type of foolishness is no longer being tolerated and thank God finally we are finally reaching this place. 🙏🏾
@vidhead85
Жыл бұрын
I saw another video where this woman didn't want the child but he coerced her to. And here was this guy shoving a camera in her face acting like she would back down. All I have to say is that this is THEIR HOUSE. I have said it plenty. I will be taking my parents for a specified amount of time and no more.
@adrianwillis66
Жыл бұрын
Taking care of an elderly person is a 24 hour job
@omggiiirl2077
Жыл бұрын
The problem i do think is very disturbing is that the husband is willing to throw his wife to the wolves by recording her and putting her on blast! That means that he doesn't care for her when it comes to his family. Thats a problem! Its a whole issue that would make me think twice about being married to someone.
@ShaynieB
Жыл бұрын
She seem like she is on the last straw, and ready to leave him anyways.
@bobithasmitherson
Жыл бұрын
Yeah aside from the whole argument, he’s putting a camera in her face and posting their argument online to try and shame her publicly lol that’s grounds for a divorce right there alone
@omggiiirl2077
Жыл бұрын
@@bobithasmitherson Chile that's that wait till he goes to work take his credit card, and get movers and ghost his ass and now he can move his mom and granny in. Put all the stuff in storage and take the kids on vacation and ask them without him there if they want to stay with Mom or dad, and then go from there while he panics. Because I'm a cold bitch! My husband already knows because i put it in front street, baby i luhs ya, but i fukks ya up if yah play with me!
@cosmicreef5858
Жыл бұрын
he does not care for her. end of story She is PART of a family. A family is about LOVE not blood
@clearchannel8
Жыл бұрын
Telling her she needs more to do because shes relaxing. He needs to go period.
@DestinyUteh
Жыл бұрын
😃
@MadameLadyM
Жыл бұрын
I noticed a lot in this video, but one thing stood out to me. I noticed he seemed livid that she was relaxing/caring for herself, which is why he video taped her while she was resting. Men can't stand to see women caring for themselves through rest. I notice my husband gets angry when I am doing absolutely nothing or resting. He wants me to work 24 hours a day. Even though I do most of the work, while he is watching T.V. in bed, he can't stand to see me get a break. Sickos!
@genenehopkins5085
Жыл бұрын
No. You dont bring anyone in your home without being in agreement with your spouse. And that includes, parents, adults children, etc. A house divided won't stand. Value your spouse. Your spouse's health and well-being comes before anyone.
@cosmicreef5858
Жыл бұрын
comes EQUALLY but IF they are getting into THEIR spaces then yes they can not do that without his or her permission
@PrettyBones-ho4rq
9 ай бұрын
SHE SHOULD IMMEDIATELY DIVORCE HIM, he's selfish AF. These males always expect more than they give
@QueenLaCheefa
Жыл бұрын
A simple “get somebody else to do it” is all he would have got out of me 🤷🏽♀️
@churchsbiscuits
Жыл бұрын
He’s downplaying how much effort it takes to take care of another person especially when they have limited mobility. Can she feed herself? Can she transfer without assistance? Can she ambulate without assistance?
@chantalalexander
Жыл бұрын
Yup. He's downplaying all the effort required, while making sure he opts himself out of having to do the "no big deal," grandma. This is legit grounds for divorce.
@latsnojokelee6434
Жыл бұрын
Saw my cousins try to convince their sister to take care of their mother. The sister worked full-time and had no one in the house to help her. The other cousins were married, they had kids with drivers licenses, but they wanted to dump it all on the one single person who had a full-time job. Luckily, she said no.
@catharsismemory
Жыл бұрын
My goodness, why did he put his business out there like that. But, yes he wants to throw his grandmother on his wife, even he doesn't want to take care of his own grandmother cause he doesn't have the time, energy, need to take care of his own grandmother. He sees his wife as a maid/servant who still has to pay bills and split 50/50 with him. He is being very inconsiderate, you don't want to find a better retirement home but you don't want to take care o her either and got the nerve to say she's suppose to do it cause she's a woman. Wow.
@KevinSamuelsPowerBottom
Жыл бұрын
@Anonymous 21 Yes. Be with men. Women are opting out of servantry. She's already working a full-time job and them coming home to mother her twin children. And her husband wants her to take care for an expiring elder... all because she's a woman. Go be with men. We ain't doing it
@naturallytajy973
Жыл бұрын
@@peopleschamp43 should start examining? You mean to tell me you men don’t check the type of woman she is before you decide to put a ring on her finger? That’s odd And who’s says we “feel” we don’t have responsibility? That’s confusing because clearly a good majority of woman have a lot
@traetrae11
Жыл бұрын
She took longer than I would have to tell him I would divorce him. All that back and forth for nothing. It would have been an easy no thank you, do what you want but the day she moves in is the day you get served with divorce papers…period.
@dianalove539
Жыл бұрын
Fr. Why are so many men/relationships like this? 😭 it’s such a headache. Nothing comes from it but divorce
@LaBelleJouJou
Жыл бұрын
This really has me thinking There is something else no one is saying. This situation is also potentially dangerous for this wife. What if something goes wrong under her care. She may be legally liable with his family coming and/or law coming down on her. A big fat NOOOOOOOOO THANK YOU AH AH
@amberd5318
Жыл бұрын
Yes!!! Exactly! Everyone else gets to shurk the responsibility, but she, already overwhelmed, has to take full responsibility for a woman who needs a caregiver. Any one thing goes wrong, it's on her. And with the way the husband has already piled everything else on her like she's a pack mule, he certainly would be upset and blame her if anything happened. I pray that grandmother has some real assistance from someone, but the wife ain't the one. She is already stretched thin. I feel for the wife and the grandmother.
@ThePeteSandoval
Жыл бұрын
Side note, why does he sound like he was given a script by other family members who passed on taking care of grandma. “You gotta March in there and here is what you’re going to say…” 😂😂😂
@ThePeteSandoval
Жыл бұрын
He knew it was going to be an argument. He had her whole schedule planned out for her.
@DestinyUteh
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@klassycountryk
Жыл бұрын
Each time he listed the grandma's needs, he added on something
@kalimaskarma
Жыл бұрын
He needs to get his grandma a full-time nurse!!!! That's a whole career he is asking of his wife to do, then she gotta work full time AND take care of the children?!?!!THE NERVE!!!!!!!!
@tabkaliO
Жыл бұрын
He was ordering here to do it. Caregiving is 24/7 work. It's a job. And she working, taking care of the house, their children, and him. PLEASE!
@empress_me
Жыл бұрын
“Nurse and a purse!!!!!” BEWARE!!!! ⚠️
@naterra5707
Жыл бұрын
My mom took care of my Grandma before she passed. She lived with my mom and family stayed around her and helped whenever we could. We all pitched in so my Grandma didn’t have to go to any nursing home. My dad took care of his mom before she passed. She was in a nursing home but my dad was there every single day. When my husbands Grandma got dementia the family helped take care of her while she stayed at home. A nurse came to check everything but my husband would go and sit and feed Gangsta Granny. He even changed her diaper, that was a funny moment. BUT he asked me to come with him from time to time. He took into CONSIDERATION my time and although she wasn’t my grandma I didn’t have a problem helping the family. My husband didn’t and would never come at me like that let alone make me do something I don’t want to do. My point because I’m rambling… This dude was wrong as two left shoes!!! “You gonna take care of my grandma!!” THE NERVE!! No consideration, understanding or a brain, let alone accountability for your responsibilities!! My husband would never DEMAND something so stressful and not share and bare the stress with me. Case in point, seeing how we were raised to take care of one another and we already been down this road and we both handled it a lot different then this dude approach.
@arain764niara
Жыл бұрын
He's in the wrong. How he gonna run up on her and start making demands. It's not easy taking care of the elderly. I had to do it twice before college and it killed all social life. Constantly leaving school to care for them and then going back to school. It was hard
@Tmac_305
Жыл бұрын
Totally different situation. Also have experience with taking care of the elderly, as well as mentally handicapped children.... Well yes it's much more convenient for you to throw the Elderly off on someone else. You surely understand that they will not be taking care of nearly as well and they would have been with you
@12TribeTone
Жыл бұрын
She is not wrong.. she is not obligated to do that and has the right to say no... HE as her husband should respect her not wanting to take care of a extra person she didn't sign up for.
@marieglatt6656
Жыл бұрын
It's time for a Divorce.
@tabkaliO
Жыл бұрын
She's adament about the grandmother not moving because she knows for a FACT it will all be on her.
@angelsweet9611
Жыл бұрын
@@tabkaliO thats probably the exact reason she said no
@KnightOwlQ
Жыл бұрын
This is why women get divorced, men think every time they snap their fingers, a woman is just suppose to hop to.
@latsnojokelee6434
Жыл бұрын
Why does he sound so manic? It’s like he’s in a full panic to make her do what he wants so he’s almost vibrating.
@DonutTalkToMe17
Жыл бұрын
He went from a “little bit of time” to “she staying, staying” in a matter of few seconds lol. That man’s words can’t be trusted. When he says it’ll be fine and not a lot of work, he means quite the opposite.
@fisf.2148
10 ай бұрын
His wife knows he was lying which is why she didn't budge
@olympiaelda1121
Жыл бұрын
Why is he not taking care of HIS grandmother? Wake up before work, fix the breakfast, give the meds, if you dont quit your job, than pay a nurse and when you come back you rehabilitate her, keep her company, fix her dinner, etc. .. What is keeping him back? Apparently his wife is doing all the housework and raising the children, he got time on his hands.
@sugarwaterpurple5280
Жыл бұрын
I think her main issue is the fact that he will definitely put all the responsibility on her. Its more likely than not that is already the pattern, because he admitted she takes of him and the kids. If anything he should have offered to bring in a nurse for gus grandmother so that the responsibility wouldnt all be on her. Caretaking is a hard task and many caretakers end up suffering from their own issues due to stress.
@LadySilence
Жыл бұрын
Good for her standing her ground. Caregiving is NOT an easy job. Speaking from experience. It can literally create mental distress and psychological breakdowns I cannot stress that enough. Thats why people get paid to do it..
@cosmicreef5858
Жыл бұрын
That is why people who WANT TO DO IT should be the ONLY ONES who do it It does not create mental break downs if you are READY/willing to do the job
@MonicaLAllen
Жыл бұрын
He shouldve talked to his wife about this privately! His wife sounds like ahe may have a lot on her plate. They couldve hired a private nurse and discussed that option. Family takes care of family. These nursing homes are dangerous!
@Rocanala
Жыл бұрын
It’s so disrespectful that he did this on camera AND tried to saddle his wife with ALL of the responsibility
@MonicaLAllen
Жыл бұрын
@T agreed! I felt that was awful and he thought the public was going to agree with !!!
@MissQue715
Жыл бұрын
It seems he did talk to her privately and she said no then he ambushed her with the camera hoping it would shame her into agreement but she stood her ground and even took it further and promised him a wifeless existence. He wasn't prepared for all that and started stuttering and tripping over words. I won't say he is abusive from this one clip but i will say he is using tactics abusers use to try to violate their partners boundaries.
@blissfulluxurylife
10 ай бұрын
“Ain’t nobody saying to put her in a one star nursing home!” Sent me 😅😅😅😅
@ThixenVixen
Жыл бұрын
He has lost his God given mind! She’s absolutely justified in her reaction & I would DEFINITELY divorce him AND leave him with the kids if he dared tried to bring her up in there!! 😤
@ShaynieB
Жыл бұрын
Thissssss!!!
@purpleness64
Жыл бұрын
Divorce
@cosmicreef5858
Жыл бұрын
??why would you torture your own kids? What was that dumb and disgusting answer? THE KIDS ARE NOT AT FAULT OF ANY OF THIS! Can we stop dragging them into OUR shit?
@twinventures8292
Жыл бұрын
I will NOT be a burden to my kids when they are in their adult hood. it is my responsibility, and dads to make sure we are set for our old age. Do right with your finances so your kids lives are not disrupted.
@CoreyJones1977
Жыл бұрын
It would be on thing if his Grandmother just needed a room. But she needs care too. He can't put that one her. He's dead ass wrong. He's giving he a whole other full job. He is crazy.👎👎👎🤨
@PeanutButtaCookie1193
Жыл бұрын
He expects her to take care of him, twins, grandma and work. Smh basically she would be free cna. Like shes supposed to handle the responsibility of taking care of grandma plus the twins. He lost his mind expecting her to work herself to death.
@flashylights
Жыл бұрын
Don't forget clean the house, cook, and give him some pound cake.. that's 3 more professions right there.
@mineandmine4528
Жыл бұрын
Plus he will oblige her to pay half of the bills
@Chessica450-m3d
Жыл бұрын
Ladies be careful of marrying into a family that solely depends on the husband to be!! Look at his family dynamics!! Are they independent of him? Are they dependent on him? Does he support them all financially??!! Are they enmeshed? Do they respect him?! Look at his family dynamics!! Is his mama controlling???!!! Does he have healthy boundaries set with his family???!! Ladies alot of men out here looking for women to take care of them and their parents!!! They marry you so you can be a slave to him and his blood relatives!!! Also ladies remain financially stable, by having a job and your own income so you can LEAVE ANY TIME THESE MEN AND THEIR FAMILIES BECOME TOXIC!! ALOT OF MEN ALSO WEAPONIZE THEIR BLOOD RELATIVES AGAINST THEIR PARTNERS...HE SAID HE TOOK THE VIDEO OF HIS WIFE SO HE CAN SHOW HIS MOTHER AND HIS RELATIVES LIKE WTF? YOU SHOWING THEM THIS FOR? WHAT THEY GONNA DO? LIKE TF THE AUDACITY THIS CREATURE HAS
@StelmariaonE7
Жыл бұрын
This hit close to home for me, because at the age of 21, I had to withdraw from college to take care of my grandfather 24/7 as he was suffering from dementia. I had no certifications, resources, medical training, or qualifications to do so, I was just deemed the the person to do so since I was the closest responsible relative (imagine! They had two adult children but this 21 year old student with no car was the optimal choice). I had absolutely no support, even doing simple things like grocery shopping meant trying to make it back to the house before he accidentally burned the house down for the umpteenth time, or fell, or got into some predicament. Also what people don't realize that makes elder care more challenging than child care is that old people like to cling to the idea that they're an independent adult even when their health and mental capabilities have deemed them not so. Changing a baby diaper is hard but the most they can do is cry, kick, but it can still get done. Imagine trying to care for a big-ass human who resents the fact that some child has to do for him what he no longer can do for himself? I loved my grandparents very dearly so I felt like it was my duty, I essentially gave up my future to do this (I was 18 credits aways from graduation). I couldn't imagine doing this for someone who I didn't know, grow up with, and especially now having a full time job that cannot be done remotely, or with other caretaker responsibilities like taking care of children (and for some reason a grown ass mentally/physically competent man, too, because I am married to them???)
@foxylady6901
Жыл бұрын
I feel terrible that you had to go through this. Are you able to finish your credits? It may not be too late!
@StelmariaonE7
Жыл бұрын
@@foxylady6901 unfortunately no, as it was prohibitively expensive afterwards after putting all my finances into the funeral and other medical expenses. After all this I just got stuck in a cycle of working to pay bills, and any money I saved to go back to college got wiped out by one costly mishap or another. I am going back to school now for a different major, though, since I'm in a much better place financially than I was at 21 😀
@LadySilence
Жыл бұрын
Good for you. Similar place but older. Dementia is a whole different monster than someone who is just physically disabled but sound of mind. I wish there was more awareness about this
@StelmariaonE7
Жыл бұрын
@@LadySilence So true, the whole experience, as well as other experiences has shown me just how important a sound mind truly is, a blessing many take for granted. Hoping for your continued strength!
@thegazetteyt
Жыл бұрын
When you put somebody in a nursing home, you can go visit them! And I think that’s a big problem with people in general. They get lazy when the person isn't right in front of them. When you put an older person in communal living, you can go see them you can go visit them and talk with them and see how their day is and see how things are going, and tour the facility all the time. You’re not shuffling them off to never be seen again. But often times when they live in the house that’s what happens. They spend most of their time in their room and the person who is taking care of them begins to resent them. This is literally about money. He doesn’t wanna pay for a quality nursing home so he wants to use his wife as a cost incentive to bring his grandmother to their house. He's trash.
@ascent8487
Жыл бұрын
If this drama wasn’t staged for views, this is a terrible marriage.
@2damecuteUK
Жыл бұрын
My grandmother was in a home had a support nurse, my auntie who was a nurse, my other aunties who live close to her home ,my sisters, cousins and myself taking care of her. It was still a lot of work for all of us as a unit. so I would never expect to put that on one person. It takes a collective unit to give full time care.
@CoreyJones1977
Жыл бұрын
This guy is NOT most of us. 🤨🤨 He better be glad that wasn't my wife. If I ever walked in with a camera telling her what she gonna do like some child that forgot the dishes. That would be the last stunt I pulled for a while.🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm so serious though 🤣🤣🤣.
@phiakate
Жыл бұрын
😅😂😂 I don’t know her but I Iove her.😅
@magnarcreed3801
Жыл бұрын
Lmao it is very much most men
@CoreyJones1977
Жыл бұрын
@@magnarcreed3801 Really? Most Black Men are doing this? That's funny to you? You're why I stand by.
@magnarcreed3801
Жыл бұрын
@@CoreyJones1977 It’s funny you pretend they don’t. And don’t worry. It’s all men :)
@CoreyJones1977
Жыл бұрын
@@magnarcreed3801 May the Brick be with you😁👍.
@So_Cato
Жыл бұрын
His mother sent him for round two of that discussion. And at this point, they shouldn't even want granny to come. I wouldn't want my loved one cared for by someone who doesn't want to do it.
@ShaynieB
Жыл бұрын
Facts. Granny’s care could turn into her funeral real quick.
@xquisite7791
Жыл бұрын
Fr. That bitch might push grandma down the stairs or sump'n!
@apwuccnv1
10 ай бұрын
I was waiting for the divorce comment... and he had the nerve to record her like he was right.
@kimberlypeterkin4912
Жыл бұрын
I was a caregiver to my Mother who have Dementia. It’s not no joke! I didn’t get paid for it! My brothers wasn’t helping out at all! When my brother wanted me to give my Mother medication. The side effects was diarrhea! I told my brother that by calling him about it. He said don’t call him anymore about that. After that I brought my Mother depends, pads, potty, and a shower chair out of my pocket. I brought my Mother Ensure because my Brother was buying generic ensure. I also brought her clothes because my Mother was losing weight. It was so stressful for me, especially I was raising my than 6 year old daughter. I had to take the burners off the stove and hide the knives. I slept downstairs in order my Mother won’t leave the house in the middle of the night. I was exhausted and stressed that I was diagnosed with gallstones. This was all during that pandemic of 2020. I also worked in Behavioral Health and Home Care and have degrees in Criminal Justice. Working in Homecare it’s not easy rotating consumers from the bed to the chair; chair to the toilet; toilet to the shower; cooking; cleaning making sure you rotate them in order for them to not get pressure wounds/sores(bed sores). This wife have every right for standing her ground because if she would had took that responsibility and something would had happened to Grandma in her care. Family is quick to call APS and CPS on you for Elder Abuse, which CPS can remove your kids if Grandma is a danger to the kids in the house. She’s working full-time and raising her twins.
@HaleyJo1992
10 ай бұрын
And there it is. "Because you're the woman." I need hear no more.
@delivertus4romnesha328
10 ай бұрын
Lmao you know it’s HER house because she said what you gonna do if I say no. He stuttering talking about “we gonna have a problem” and talking about karma 😂😂
@team-is1nf
Жыл бұрын
This guy… he said I didn’t like the nursing home. He didn’t finish the statement though …. He didn’t like it because of THAT PRICE TAG. those nursing homes cost $5k to $10k a month. Sometimes more depending on the care. He’s acting like oh it’s no big deal. Well sir why do they charge so much if it’s no big deal.
@notorioushebrew4793
Жыл бұрын
While he's showing his family, they can be getting ready for their grandmother. 🤷♀️🤷♀️
@angeleyes3386
Жыл бұрын
There is some major dysfunction in this house. I don’t blame her. As a family that has cared for our elderly, it’s ALOT of work. It’s not about right or wrong. There is adequate homes where they have an in-house apartment, can go meet with others and have activities and 24 hour nurse care. This should not have been handled like this.
@legslikewhoa
Жыл бұрын
So if she takes over caregiving for his grandmother, is he going to take care of the twins and have another full time job or…. Is he expecting her to do all of the caregiving in the household while keeping house, and having a full time job with TWINS!!! She needs to let this mushmouthed queen go’nn
@hillieduvalier
Жыл бұрын
So who is going to cook, comb her hair and clean her? He out of his 🤬🤬mind! So where is her rest family ! Her daughter is his mother? He crazy!! I my mom is going to live with me, that ok i am a female, so i know her well being when the time comes will be on me .. not my spouse .. i think family should look after their elders, not retirement homes, it ridiculous , there so much to learn from elder instead of being seen as an inconvenience... traditionally that how it should be, nursing home is not african bp tradition. Different family members can take turn caring for their momma or pops, but she stays in her home.
@Iamam313
11 ай бұрын
the fact that she is taking care of him and their kids (obviously by herself) and WORKS?! WTF?! get out of that situation woman, this man is only using and abusing you
@Kierakirsty
11 ай бұрын
It’s not just her plate spilling over with caring responsibilities, she would lose the peace and privacy of her home. If an elderly family member moves in, your home now becomes the family base. You’ll have their kids, grandkids, nephews/nieces and grandkids coming in and out constantly. You’ll be pressured to hold all main holidays and celebrations. You’ll be financially responsible for all care and travel costs if they want to go somewhere. This is the impression I get if all the other relatives have been skipped down to grandson. Why is everyone saying no? It should be a village effort, staying in her home if possible and everyone contributing to an at-home career and all close family members taking turns to visit, bring groceries, take them out etc. Not one person!
@SonjaElizabethTeal
Жыл бұрын
THIS may be a skit but I know a someone this happened to... He moved his very elderly mother in without his wife's permission. He's on the road six days out of the week. Wife left his ass.
@ShaynieB
Жыл бұрын
She went in, and I love all her answers and come back!
@misosouperman
Жыл бұрын
This woman is my hero. That dude is WRONG!!! I hope her and her kids are living peacefuly somewhere else. Good luck dad and Gma!!👋
@gee_emm
11 ай бұрын
Caring for an elderly adult is no joke. They are not a baby. They are not baby sized. They might need to be lifted out of bed, may not be able to use the toilet or shower unaided. It's not something to take lightly. I have so much respect for people who can take on this kind of work, but we are just not all capable of becoming a carer. Being a carer is not just a job, it's a vocation.
@Rocanala
Жыл бұрын
There’s a reason she doesn’t want grandma there full time indefinitely. I don’t blame her.
@MoniMarie80
Жыл бұрын
As a person that has been the sole caregiver to someone, its very selfish of the husband to want to put that all on his wife. It is extremely HARD on a person mentally and physically on the one doing the caring
@changeisgood9955
Жыл бұрын
Why isn't HIS mother taking care of HIS grandmother?
@toomuchinformation
Жыл бұрын
Or his father.
@bluemoonslightASMR
8 ай бұрын
I’m a little late too this but this is what my spouse did while his mom is getting up in age and survived two different cancers: he got her her own house close to where we live. He doesn’t tell me to do any care for her as she is still independent but will ASK me for help if he can’t help her himself. He told me his mom is his responsibility but he appreciates when I help her. We talked like adults and came to an agreement. I help her when she needs it because I WANT to because my husband respected me enough to come to me and include me in the discussion. There’s the difference. Respect and understanding that your partner cannot be expected to drop everything to care for your family member. Being a caregiver is mentally and physically exhausting -it is documented there is burn out for those people that do care full time and they don’t even have other responsibilities. This man does not understand the depth of what he demanding for and in the end he’s going to be worse off than when he started because his spouse WILL make good on her promise. Watch him go surprise Pikachu face when that does. And it sounds as if his mom already takes care of grandma, tired of it, and trying to push the responsibility on her son. So that right there shows he don’t care about his wife or her well-being cause he trying to help his mom. No just throw the whole husband away.
@MsElegance23
Жыл бұрын
The fact that this man posted this online to make his wife look bad she may need to look into a divorce attorney. He nor his mother wants to take care of the grandma but wants her to do everything. I bet in this relationship she's already doing everything with the kids and having a job. Now she's putting her foot down because she can't do more.
@MarshaAltidor
Жыл бұрын
Truth is: The husband doesnt love nor respect his wife, his fruit speaks loud in this video. No one who loves, cherishes, deeply cares for his wife would ever approach his wife in that way, putting her on social media and speak to her in this manner. Theres no consideration for her mental health, stress, all that shes dealing with. Bring grandma in: wife deletes husband, children and grandma. Then she explains to the court "i told him i didnt want to care for her". 👀
@zr9145
9 ай бұрын
Then he claims he was "blindsided" 😂
@MarshaAltidor
9 ай бұрын
@@zr9145 fr
@adouloslabelh2957
Жыл бұрын
Divorce divorce this isnt the color purple Missa 😅
@nobullzone8394
Жыл бұрын
I remember offering to do this for my husband's sister and I'm his caregiver because he's a disabled War veteran but I love his sister to death but he wouldn't let me do it because he was like she has five grown-ass Sons that are are supposed to be doing this and he was also speaking from experience because he took care of his mother until she passed but this was before we met and got married but he went on to tell me you already do 95% of everything around here I don't want to over stress you and you're dealing with health problem too , that definitely wasn't loving of him at all that was selfish of him not to discuss that decision with his wife and try to push it on her and guilt her into doing it and then make it seem like she was lazy so her response was in regards to how he carried things out which was immature and selfish!
@takethat7566
Жыл бұрын
If he don't trust a nursing home he can hire a nurse to help his mother out in her home
@indraganesh7159
Жыл бұрын
I think when he filmed her he thought people were going to side with him 😂
@alienunicorn4178
11 ай бұрын
I believe there was a study that men are quicker to abandoned or “pawn” off sickly family members to women in their family. My grandmother was in a nursing home for years and I usually saw daughters and sisters even nieces rarely sons. Also before my grandmother went in a nursing home it was a lot to caregive for her the whole dynamics revolve around her we couldn’t even leave to go out without someone sacrificing and staying with her we to alter the home for her like putting in ramps portable pots and having the unfortunate tasks of dumping and cleaning it. Taking care of kids is way different outside of a disabled child, kids become independent and changing a 15 pound baby is different than a 200 pound adult that can’t move. Caregiver burn out is real and it always harder than what people think and despite everyone promising to help it usually one person that does all of it it’s not just giving applesauce and pills
@gmylap7344
Жыл бұрын
When they say “choose/pick your partner wisely” it is no joke!
@aurora8749
9 ай бұрын
It's amazing how males think if a woman EVER sits down, she's lazy. She could work a full time job, keep the house spotless, make sure the kids are taken care of, and if she no sits down and watches tv for a half hr she's lazy but if he works a full time job and comes home, sits down and plays on his phone for the rest of the night and doesn't do another single thing, hes a "hardworking man". Doesn't matter if he's doing physical labor or sitting in his office for 8 hours a day, hes hard working. It just proves that males really view women as slaves. My ex didn't even have a job, didn't cook or clean, didn't help with the kids but if i got home from a ten hour work day, cooked, did the dishes, helped my kids with homework and THEN sat down for a bit, he'd walk around huffing and puffing....like how tf am I lazy doing all that but youre not when you do literally nothing? It really is because they think we exist to serve them. That's why so many men murder us when we leave after we find out they're cheating or are just sick of their disrespect. We aren't supposed to be human beings with autonomy, we are supposed to serve them unquestiongly and get nothing in return. Honestly, idk what to do because I have three beautiful little girls and when they grow up, i really don't want them to be with men because i don't want them to get abused mistreated and it's sooo likely but i want them to be able to have kids if they want that. I feel like i won't be able to accept any male they bring around because I know what most of their motives are.
@hannahdargan6079
7 ай бұрын
I agree with the wife ❤😂. Grandmas are a lot of work. He should do the work if he wants her there.
@opalviking
8 ай бұрын
My decision to stay single looks like the right decision. You just never know when someone’s gonna come at you with a demand like that.
@cieloame2705
Жыл бұрын
I heard all needed to hear . M) "This is my family" W) "Your family, not mine" M) "And you are to take care of our family"
@Itsallaboutlove52
Жыл бұрын
He need to take care of his grandmother. He telling her what she needs to do and not what he should be doing. His wife works full time plus has twins. That’s BS
@cieloame2705
Жыл бұрын
@@Itsallaboutlove52 He works and has a wife and twins as well . She's comfortable enough not to have heard him complain because he's already taken action .
@manifest2203
Жыл бұрын
@@cieloame2705 not really. His wife is not obligated to take care of his family. She is only obligated to take care of her husband and their kids.
@cieloame2705
Жыл бұрын
@@manifest2203 There-in lay the problem . If one can pass blame , one can take blame . Being agreeable is paramount , it is theRe , no one looses .
@manifest2203
Жыл бұрын
@@cieloame2705 only low value men have this problem with basic logic. They will never lighten the load of the woman they are with, but will nag all day. This is why women cut the dead weight.
@lindalarrabee4183
7 ай бұрын
Let no man put it under ,Does not mean you throw your family away period ! Nursing homes are nasty and abusive .Hire a caregiver . people aren't garbage to throw away pets .I worked in a nursing home .And pray to GOD you never land in one .Where is the Grandmother's children.
@LadySilence
Жыл бұрын
And that woman is right. Its never just that easy as hes making it sounds. Especially if its Dementia thats a whole different difficulty that people dont understand the difficulty and medical training needed involved to handle that. Its soul sucking if youve never had experience to do it. Do not volunteer another, only volunteer yourself. He made himself look real bad stupid on camera. She needs to go ahead and divorce him. She wont have good support when she gets older
@naomilaboo
6 ай бұрын
He would be divorced! That was the most selfish thing ever. Then to tape her to shame her! Hon if you are reading this run!
@SAPPHIREBLUE4712
Жыл бұрын
He got the right one, because I would say no ONE time and that’s final. Now if he continues with it, I would say yes and as soon as she move in, I would pack my things and go quietly. The only communication we would be having is through my attorney. F all that explaining. I said what I said and if you can’t cope case closed.
@CN33449
9 ай бұрын
She was great, also when she mentined divorce he was 😅😮 mind blown lol. Also him saying its not a big deal and trying to bully her
@HeyItsQuayshawn
9 ай бұрын
Having children (or grandchildren) is NOT a retirement plan 🚫🚫🚫 Please learn financial literacy please 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@jessikajane4967
Жыл бұрын
All folks running to get married need to go to real (3+ months) pre-marital counseling. This is where these types of discussions occur.
@nayf43571
Жыл бұрын
Why is it that everytime he says "all that she needs...", the list keeps getting longer? Lol it starts simple and gets more involved and intense as it goes!
@isaidwhatisaid.1012
2 ай бұрын
When he said it’s a woman’s responsibility, I almost threw my damn phone across the room. The audacity of this man!
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