Great content, as always!! The one thing anxious people fail to understand is the energy or vibe that you give off. You can pull back for weeks, months, years, but if your conversation comes off clingy or needy or putting any bit of pressure on your partner or ex, the pull back means zilch!! The avoidant doesn’t just need space, they need pressure free partner. Let them come to you. Takes a lot of patience and time on your part, and it may not even workout in the end. And it will likely make you more anxious.
@byjohnobrien
27 күн бұрын
Good insight. This can be true in some relationships with an avoidant. Hope things work out.
@dennisassini-pw2ic
Ай бұрын
He’s right! Avoidants are players! Not builders! It’s a no win situation. Be smart, be observant be on your feet! 👍
@byjohnobrien
27 күн бұрын
Wishing you both the best.
@twala9177
Ай бұрын
Wish I found this video a year earlier. I'm not an anxious partner but a year ago I was with someone who I didn't realize had an avoidant relationship style at the time. I put on a little bit of pressure to enter a relationship since we had been chatting for nearly a year at the time romantically and unfortunately things didn't work out. Great and insightful take on this dynamic and hopefully someone gets something from it!
@byjohnobrien
27 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story. Glad you got some insight.
@Kv-pk2st
Ай бұрын
Any expectations that would be considered normal in a relationship, physical intimacy sexual intimacy emotional intimacy is just too much for an avoidant. You could leave a subject alone for a year and try to bring it up again gently and they will automatically go into self-defense mode stonewalling I'm trying to make you the bad guy. It's a no-win
@byjohnobrien
27 күн бұрын
Yes there are healthy expectations in a relationship. If they are not met then its an unhealthy relationship.
@Kv-pk2st
27 күн бұрын
@@byjohnobrien yup but they expect you to be kind understanding loving supporting. The hypocrisy is maddening.
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