Laying down with many partners and getting up with their personalities and not cleansing your spirit before trying to start a new relationship will make you crazy!
@415folife9
2 жыл бұрын
Say it again
@ricardodelacrvz1400
Жыл бұрын
laying down? ahahahahh more like being smashed left and right by dudes you barely know. girl you already in a relationship with those dudes, you are in a relationship with the neighbourhood lol
@bonafide_forever
2 жыл бұрын
Some ppl too judgmental and not vulnerable enough to marry. They hold themselves back seeking perfection in a mate.
@christynechellet9436
2 жыл бұрын
When I married my ex. He didn’t even have money to buy me a fake $69 dollar ring. It didn’t matter to me because I loved him and in return he cheated and made babies with other women. So I understand now why people get married for other reasons and not love. I also understand why people just don’t get married.
@julianacheriza9673
2 жыл бұрын
Yea… no don’t put up with stuff like that cause they going to give you the bare minimum
@Sandra.-.
2 жыл бұрын
Yuh women can now afford to take care of themselves financially so they are not allowing the bare minimum from men
@michelleh1016
2 жыл бұрын
OMG! Did I type this.
@christynechellet9436
2 жыл бұрын
@@callofdutylegend4518 no one has control of anyone else’s intentions. If I had a crystal ball to know back in my 20’s he was a bum I would not have married him. And will not hold that L as you call it for something a person decided to do. You don’t know anything and before you start trying to give advice learn a few thing about accountability. It was his choices not mines but it was my choice to walk away. You should have thought about it before you made the ridiculous reply smh.
@christynechellet9436
2 жыл бұрын
@@obliteratemypussy1 at that time I was young and dumb and I have been in other relationships since then and didn’t tolerate any bs.
@gcode305
2 жыл бұрын
Good message. I’m trying to court my woman to the best of my ability by leading with love and by example of following God first. None of us are perfect like you said but i try my best to be obedient to God.
@myishacooper5838
2 жыл бұрын
That's all you can do my friend is do your best and strive to be obedient
@love7loyalty-MHA
2 жыл бұрын
💎💎
@gcode305
2 жыл бұрын
@@myishacooper5838 thank you sister
@MetalGear_85
2 жыл бұрын
Luke 6:38 As you continue to submit yourself to God, so shall you find a wife that will submit to you. Keep putting the most high first!
@christineporter9914
2 жыл бұрын
As you do your part of being obedient God does the rest.🙏🏾❤️
@lisasmilez
2 жыл бұрын
See that’s why I’m not on social media. I don’t want the media telling me what relationship goals should look like
@datingdiaries1681
2 жыл бұрын
Many are not " looking " for a wife Tony and this need for a perfect woman looks wise who will " behave " exactly how they want..good luck.
@Wonderwoman79G
2 жыл бұрын
Sad but true. Men do not have a realistic understanding of women and the expectations of both sides in a relationship - it is very selfish. Their standards are so high - their perfect woman does not exist.
@Softest_Hard
2 жыл бұрын
Men have ENOUGH DISPOSABLE women at their fingertips("dating" apps ,social media, porn etc)
@jackiemcbride833
2 жыл бұрын
If women stop giving up the cookie, men would marry. Women has forgotten who they are.
@sophietanaka9415
2 жыл бұрын
@@jackiemcbride833 men need to stop going around having a sex with women too. It goes both way.
@jackiemcbride833
2 жыл бұрын
@@sophietanaka9415 The woman is the one with the power to say yes or no.
@ARS-fn6px
2 жыл бұрын
@@jackiemcbride833 and men do everything in their power to gaslight women into thinking they have NO power. Thats why this channel came into existence.
@sophietanaka9415
2 жыл бұрын
@@jackiemcbride833 it not about power
@noirefit5954
2 жыл бұрын
One problem is that men do not have to marry a woman for wife benefits. Women are practically throwing the cat in these mens lap and taking care of men like they are already married. I really think that was one of the ONLY reasons most men married back in the day.
@Sandra.-.
2 жыл бұрын
Hmmm, I think this is a misconception. The belief that promiscuity and premarital sex just started in this generation is a big far-fetched assumption. The difference now is that we have social media where these things are publicized. Cohabitation, promiscuity, sex work, children out of wedlocl have always existed
@jackiemcbride833
2 жыл бұрын
100, I just said the same thing. Loose booty 101 is keeping them single.
@terrim8572
2 жыл бұрын
One of the truest statements I read here 🤧
@terrim8572
2 жыл бұрын
The next step to devotion today is symbolized by either getting a place together, getting tatted up, or knocked up 🤷🏽♀️. Or a babyshower. Wedding/marriage is in hindsight now so there’s no reason for a man to take it to another level by putting a ring on it 💍
@jackiemcbride833
2 жыл бұрын
@@terrim8572 sad but true. Its the women's fault why men behave in a shameful fashion.
@ndyndy2785
2 жыл бұрын
Good men are asking where are the good women and good women are asking where are the good men,it's like they are worlds apart looking for each other ,Lord what is going on🤔🤔
@lyrisgreenidge-adams5941
2 жыл бұрын
They are missing out connecting to God,who would bring them together.
@ndyndy2785
2 жыл бұрын
@@lyrisgreenidge-adams5941 True.
@jabbaweezy
2 жыл бұрын
ehhh they can't be that good of a person if they can't find another one....
@paulcooper5748
2 жыл бұрын
No the women are asking where are all the bad boys that will cause them the drama that most women crave.
@ndyndy2785
2 жыл бұрын
@@paulcooper5748 which side do u belong to? 😃 good or bad
@rikahicks8193
2 жыл бұрын
It's very tough in the dating market to find who is really for you. Because things are always changing it makes things challenging to really know who is who and who would actually have your back no matter what.
@ShonellisMusicEntertainment
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, it's crazy not really knowing whose being real or pretending, going out of there way to pretend, waste time just to keep u on lock with no real intentions.
@CoCo-yv3hl
2 жыл бұрын
Ppl also allow outside influences in the relationship more than ever TV & social media gurus
@Hvac_edgar
Жыл бұрын
Facts
@ayuanabradford3206
Жыл бұрын
No one have your back but you. Just remember that. I learned that the hard way..
@christianhenry4173
Жыл бұрын
I'm 27 let me tell the truth about dating for millennials. Millennial women show more choosing signals to approach men, Women today sometimes older chase men for reasons of attraction. Another reason is that Men rather than whether they are Christian or not don't understand how a Woman thinks in attraction. If a woman is not sexually attracted to you, she will not consider you as a pick unless she's a virgin.. Women want men who are Knowledgeable on what she desires sexually. Men today need to learn to stop getting in friend zones. No man can be a friend with a woman forever unless it's meant to be.
@universallove878
2 жыл бұрын
So many are married and don't wear a wedding ring. And your right, Marriage has moved away from being a Covenant. And more of conditional business arrangements.🤷♂️🤷♀️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♀️
@CoCo-yv3hl
2 жыл бұрын
Ppl don’t know how to date so they for sure don’t know how to be in a marriage
@universallove878
2 жыл бұрын
@@CoCo-yv3hl That part💯🙌💯
@utv4055
2 жыл бұрын
Most definitely married people be cheating
@louisaatkinson4828
2 жыл бұрын
Look for the light mark around the ring finger. Ask questions.
@aneshrathomas
2 жыл бұрын
I remeber one of Tony’s old message a lot of men are single because “their looking for someone God has not created & vice versa” I feel like that still applies and also because things in society are changing
@anikluv7732
2 жыл бұрын
I actually said that to a few male friends I know. The woman they’re looking for has not been created yet because they’re usually looking for a perfect looking/acting (to their satisfaction) woman. Neither one of those things will be perfect but they don’t want to accept that.
@user-rx7uh9mg4f
2 жыл бұрын
@@anikluv7732 I've found most want a woman that gives them the most and asks of them the least yet still looks like a princess and is happy all the time yet mysterious and exciting but devoted and loyal.. The laws of this universe don't work that way.
@gdust6579
2 жыл бұрын
alot of single, virgin and divorced christians seem to idealize the perfect God sent partner but i believe God sends people who are in fact broken, not eventual cheaters but maybe a little broken, and gives us options on wether to marry them
@gdust6579
2 жыл бұрын
nobody can be "completely whole within themselfs" to get married to the perfect christian partner. God gave us free will. there are christian churches ive been to who try to condemn singles like me into eternal singleness. that mindset that people have to be perfect in Christ for a marriage is BS. we are only perfected in heaven!!!!
@singuensful
2 жыл бұрын
@@anikluv7732 the guy I just broke up with told me I’m not the one because I refused to have unprotected sex. The chemistry was there, talking everyday, being caring to him, not even taking his money, I agreed to have sex but yet he broke up because I asked for safe sex!! I mean who does that? The man was 45. They do look for things that will never come by. Sad!!!
@jackieblue4128
2 жыл бұрын
"To have a thing swingin between my legs" LOLOL Sorry I spit my water out on that one Tony 🤣
@deneciaanderson4267
2 жыл бұрын
Social media killed this generation. Easier to cheat now. Crazy out here but God is still the same and not changing. His will and plan for my life will go forth.
@lorinakers7934
2 жыл бұрын
Real Talk! Spend time with the other person and get to know what's important. Watch and Believe what you see...
@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7
2 жыл бұрын
THIS!!! My Grandparents always said..."pay attention to what their actions tell you, not those candy-coated words!
@Neeks6.6
2 жыл бұрын
To me, it comes down to having too many options. You have to be an "intentional buyer". I'd bet money that most of these men aren't searching as seriously as they claim. I'd bet money that they're subconsciously perpetually on the lookout for the 'next best deal'.
@Harlemsweetie82
2 жыл бұрын
Boom! No lies told🤷🏾♀️
@Sandra.-.
2 жыл бұрын
Idk, there have always been more women than men in the human population. Men have always had many options but now they even have less options because fewer women are willing settle for the mistreatment just because a man can give you financial security. Women work more now. Idk
@Sandra.-.
2 жыл бұрын
@@amariantiquity8543 hmmm I disagree. Im African. Ive lived in a few African countries and North America. While It's true that the west progressed at a faster race as far as women financial and sexual empowerment but Africa is catching on. Women are still more than men statically in number but the factors affecting why less people are getting married are clear. You think USD 50k per annum is a lot of money for African standards but I disagree. Ive traveled back to Africa on many occasions and im always left flabbergasted by how fast you can burn through money there too. Inflation is global now. The dollar can only do so much and would the man keep a fulltime 50k a year job in the US while maintaining a full on marriage with a woman living in Africa? How is that going to work realistically? If he brings her abroad ofcourse that money won't be enough to maintain their household. In as far as there's a good number of people still getting married, divorce rates are also higher now so you've got to ask yourself why.
@amariantiquity8543
2 жыл бұрын
@@Sandra.-. If everything in the world is going to shit, do you expect men to sit in America and not explore all options of their own biological imperative to multiply and have stable families. If women in the west don't respect good character men, they will go elsewhere, if they have the means, people can say what they want about Americans, but the dollar is still king as long as America still has military power over the world.
@texcoco41
2 жыл бұрын
💯🎯👍🏽
@nikkyshamz2696
2 жыл бұрын
Yup. We got to pray. Warfare is real. We must follow the WORD and principles of God regarding marriage because the best person to advice on how a product should work is the manufacturer of said product. Marriage was God's idea and we must follow His principles to achieve success in the area of marriage. God help us all. We are all acting too woke and suspecting one another with our guards to have something real. We must pray, discern, love, trust, forgive, be vulnerable and have the heart of a servant to love.
@juliannaokike3359
2 жыл бұрын
Because sometimes people don't want the responsibility that can come with the reality of the relationship.
@Marvelous_M
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Tony for this video. One thing I hear from men I speak with is they’re not financially ready to make the next step. I understand times are hard now but if you’re in your late 20’s and up we should be moving towards steps to being smarter financially and leveling up together. The other issue is men have a lot of options to entertain. I would love for most of us to be getting married and celebrating love often but the fear mongering placed on young men and women is what’s holding us back. I look to older sisters for guidance but often times they tell me “you’re so young, you don’t need marriage now.” Unfortunately due to the way my faith is set up I do need marriage but I won’t settle for someone who doesn’t have anything to provide. No you don’t need 6 figures but you can’t be a leeching hobosexual either. 😂 I need a man to help me, lead me, support me. Trust me a lot of us sisters are out here but you can catch me at Whole Foods, Target, TSA line 😂. I love a good man with morals and principal. Also men deserve the same love.
@joycewatt8289
2 жыл бұрын
@Marvelous M It’s possible. Don’t lose hope. HOLD fast to your faith and TRUST God. Start praying for your husband BEFORE you meet him. Prepare yourself to be a wife so that when he meets you he will know that you are wife material not plaything material. There’s a difference. Blessings to you M.
@munix9351
2 жыл бұрын
Check out a lady called Salkis Re
@bigtank6465
2 жыл бұрын
How you doing Sista? I agree with you.. Men and women are under constant psychological manipulation through media, and it affects how we all perceive each other like you stated. But there is another underlying problem that's more significant. And that is Natural Law has been broken. This is the real reason why dating and mating has become difficult. Provider and Protector is part of a man's biological function; this is not just cliche. Men and women are instinctively wired to look for certain behavior traits in a person to determine if they will be a suitable mate. Femininity, untouched womb, does this woman Need Me and My Provision, and will she make a good Helper as I pursue my purpose is how men generally qualify women to be wives. In black society 80 years ago, many of our parents/grandparents were married for 30+ years ultimately because the woman needed the man's Provision to maintain the home. This was proper alignment with Natural Law because women are designed to survive by getting Provision from Men. Today however, many women Go Around men and obtain Provision through other means. And this has disturbed the Natural Order. Currently It seems we're in a environment, where some women are quick to break relationships because of their ability to sustain themselves without a man's Provision. And some men are choosing to stay single, because the traits that men instinctively look for to qualify a woman to be a wife are more difficult to find. Psychological Manipulation and the disruption of Natural Law are the reasons dating and mating are now tough. I wish you the best of luck!
@maiangellove8949
2 жыл бұрын
Well spoken, I ache for the younger generation wanting real love.
@luwilliams1059
2 жыл бұрын
This is so true. Men have done many options, it’s like there always looking for the next best women.
@Honor_Aries
2 жыл бұрын
If my memory serves correctly, a few years back a guy bought his fiancé an engagement ring from Walmart… the whole country was in an uproar. Come to find out… that’s the ring she specifically asked for 🤦🏾♀️ Everybody has too much say in what everybody else chooses to do with their lives. It’s weird
@roxydee1452
2 жыл бұрын
Got our wedding rings at Cash Converters then eloped. My engagement ring was brand new though, I feel I have to justify that, like you say it's weird how people react to this stuff...!
@j-tenn226
2 жыл бұрын
Way too much to say about people who they never met . External comments can ruin you if you let them. That’s why I only give limited access as to what’s going on in my mind/ life.
@catrinafarr3402
2 жыл бұрын
Those Walmart rings are beautiful too❤️
@yowilli6669
2 жыл бұрын
@@catrinafarr3402 Yes! They are.
@evaphillips2102
2 жыл бұрын
That scene in Fruitvale Station where Oscar Grant was literally going to steal a ring for his girlfriend, and then he met a white man that told him to do what he did and buy a cheap one now then get her a new expensive ring in the future when he could afford it💔
@myishacooper5838
2 жыл бұрын
It boils down to the HEART..... it's deceitful above ALL things who can know it....
@iamgoddessoflove
2 жыл бұрын
When you go searching for love, they seem nowhere to be found, but when you don't, they come into your life at the perfect time. 💙KZitemr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
@kristinakellogg1732
2 жыл бұрын
For me I've absolutely given up on dating or being part of any of those online dating sites. So many players..and people faking who they are. I have my kids so I'm busy raising them up and get my life together for me. 😊🌺💜💕🦋😊🌼🌸
@AncientKnowledge-k7j
2 жыл бұрын
You have kids what did you expect lmao
@MissJennifer8
2 жыл бұрын
I stay single because I'm too scared to date.
@simplymekia1563
2 жыл бұрын
I would take marriage over a wedding in a heart beat 🙏🏾
@JasmineSlater.
2 жыл бұрын
💯💯
@felisawoodson
2 жыл бұрын
💪🏽🙌🏽💃🏽
@lillianthomas9046
2 жыл бұрын
AMEN sis...my sentiments exactly...pursue PURPOSE, LOYALTY, LOVE and CHARACTER and then my future husband and l can weather any storm...smile
@kee-themaillady923
2 жыл бұрын
Yes indeed
@TheDivineblessin
2 жыл бұрын
Lol when I got married it was me my husband and our two witnesses
@camuyana
2 жыл бұрын
Men and women, I highly suggest you do work hard and do not deviate into adultery because you will go into the worst nightmare you'll ever experience in your whole life. I am divorcing right now and the unbeknownst-to-me adulterer that I married is in depression right now. He wrote me another text this week saying that he has regretted what he did and he is deeply depressed. I don't know if it's for him to convince me to go back, but it did not work and it will not work. I'm moving on. I forgave for decades and he took it for granted until I filed for divorce, which has taken more time than I expected and desired but will be finalized hopefully this year. Tony, you hit the nail again.
@queenk.ish27
2 жыл бұрын
The ring turned her finger green 😂😂
@harveylewis4201
2 жыл бұрын
I would love to have a wife but it depends on what type of woman, culture, and region of the world she’s in. I’m 32 years old with no wife, kids, or any major responsibilities for a reason. I plan to be a expat mechanical engineer so I will not be limited to one spot of the world. Most women I have dated were either feminist or didn’t really love me for me, so I’ve decided to stop and give international women a try. It’s 2022, technology has advanced so much that any single man with a plan can travel, work, and find the love of his life. My father told me as a child “If you have no kids, you will always have the world at your feet.” I took his advice (got lucky 🍀) and now I stay away from women until I am ready.
@maiangellove8949
2 жыл бұрын
So true, even though my ex had so many other demons. One of his issues was he was continually looking for the next best thing. He wasn’t perfect, I’m not sure why he sought perfection in his men or women….ijs. Thank you “Heavenly Father” for deliverance.🥳🥳
@sissyb576
2 жыл бұрын
I notice too, a lot of women are now told to "boss up" and be that boss of her career, etc. Some of these women are making millions. So the pickings are slim. Nothing wrong with having a good income but there needs to be some balance. If a man doesn't feel needed he'll back off.
@user-rx7uh9mg4f
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, but woman shouldn't stop or downgrade just to please Men's egos while men still get to be grown boys. I do understand your point of men needing to be needed, but men have to make themselves needed in the first.
@tanyagivens4338
2 жыл бұрын
Men need to understand that they are needed for more than financial reasons.
@travelchannel304
2 жыл бұрын
I dont think men are usually thinking how God sees them. Or that its a wise thing to abstain. Even though if they prepare for an event (like boxing or high energy & focus event) in sports , its recommended men abstain. .
@idaglaude4453
2 жыл бұрын
Many, many men don’t wear their wedding rings nowadays.
@BarbiGirl24
2 жыл бұрын
Why?
@ironjohn5914
2 жыл бұрын
@@BarbiGirl24 to get with the hotter younger girl~
@dublingirl1691
2 жыл бұрын
Great to hear Tony back on the videos again. 🙏🏼
@sha_la007
2 жыл бұрын
As a Christian single woman. I will wait on Boaz...Boass and Bozo can stay away. If I can't do anything without doing it for love....I don't want it. God does not make mistakes 🙏🏾 🙌🏾
@twinkle8217
2 жыл бұрын
😄😄😄 That was so funny and so true!!
@nubian77
2 жыл бұрын
Amen sis!!!! I will have to borrow that phrase LOL
@sha_la007
2 жыл бұрын
@@nubian77 go ahead Sis....we all need be using it...🙌🏾💕
@CoCo-yv3hl
2 жыл бұрын
Boaz don’t exist
@mangoesnbreadfruit01
2 жыл бұрын
Great insights, Tony! Thank you 🙏🏽 Question: With all the lies and pretending men do to waste women's time just to have sex and leave, how do you actually find a man with character? Even when you keep your legs closed, how do you find a guy who's genuine and has good character? Also, I've never dreamed of marriage, not even as a child. Fancy weddings are nice to look at, but that's about it. The marketing of weddings never captured me. So, I personally don't care about ppl wasting their money on extravagant weddings when their marriage probably won't last as long as a snowball. You gave many examples. Ppl are focused on the wrong thing. The wedding vs the actual marriage are 2 different things. The wedding is the easiest part. The marriage is hard work.
@lorinakers7934
2 жыл бұрын
Time. Questions. Observe, then determine. Don't be shy about walking away if they are not in alignment. It's okay...you will save yourself time, money, and heartache. That person is probably better suited for someone else. It's all good.
@joycewatt800
2 жыл бұрын
@Thirteen Hales Exactly!
@dahliaherrod4301
2 жыл бұрын
maybe marriage just isn't for you. it's not a calling God gives everyone. nothing wrong with that.
@ashleycbla
2 жыл бұрын
That second paragraph sounds a lot how my mindset was yet here I am married with one toddler child lol we didn’t have a wedding. Marriage does take work in the sense of making sure you and your spouse are on the same page in life, love, in how you want to raise your kids.
@GeminiPeach81
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like me 💯
@mediamogulmom1129
2 жыл бұрын
I don't think men know how to date anymore. You have to take time to get to know somebody and you can't do that if you are in a rush to get to the bedroom. Some men just need to slow their roll and get disciplined in that area. Women too! Folks are not taking time to get to know each other! I agree that it is a business for some folks though but at the end of the day, that does not seem all that gratifying. Love is comforting, business can be exhausting!!!
@DeniseM4698
2 жыл бұрын
It was the “sis run, he’s trash” for me 🤣🤣🤣
@reeree242447
2 жыл бұрын
That part had me rolling! 🤣🤣
@DeniseM4698
2 жыл бұрын
@@reeree242447 girl me and you both 🤣🤣
@Toi84Toi
2 жыл бұрын
We definitely do have to pray... I remember reading a book about fasting and the individual met someone on a plane who mentioned that she was fasting, but she was fasting for witchcraft. They fast too, and it's for the purpose of increasing demonic activity. The book mentioned how they get together and they pray for leaders/ministers to fall into adultery/fornication, they pray for calamity, among other chaotic things to happen. We have to be mindful of these things and pray against it 🙏🏽
@Toi84Toi
2 жыл бұрын
social media ABSOLUTELY has ruined relationships
@terrim8572
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes we just have to be real with ourselves and why some choose to be single by choice or just single single with no potentials. I had to be real with God and we talked today. I’m single for a few reasons. 1. It’s just not my season. Bottom line. Period. I don’t consider myself unattractive but there are areas I need to work on. And God knows I do. If I’m insecure now, I damn sure will be insecure in a relationship. God don’t send His children to messes. How can I fully love my man and I haven’t gotten to the point I love myself through and through? Once I get to that point, and not care what others may say or think of me, then I won 80% of the battle. 2. Besides #1, another reason is the dating pool for all age groups sucks! Men, as old as their late 40’s, are still chasing easy, fast, and loose booty. That, along with the indoctrination of Kevin Sammuels, has really muddled the dating pool. So much so until both factors have interrupted with what could be a wholesome relationship with a woman that has standards. All women ain’t with the current culture of being “outside”. And the ones who aren’t are labeled as pick mes. Smh. And a lot of good women are passed over for other women who Kevin Sammuels would classify as a “high value” but by EXTERNAL FACTORS ONLY. Lust has an expiration date. Once men get past the physical, the true nature emerges. Megan Good and Lori Harvey’s relationships should’ve taught us all that. This another reason I’m single. #3 For the ones who are truly looking for a wife, they’re still hung up on the physical only. And for the ones who aren’t, they’re either married, engaged, in prison, on the dl, or got a lot of other emotional baggage. Statistically, the numbers in general are not in black women favor. And for the brothas who are truly good men, they are honest with what they want. Many women past the age of 25 will have a child or two. Many don’t want a woman that has ties to another man before he came along. We got to be real with ourselves. At some point, he and the children father have to cross paths. Some may say well my baby dad get along with my bf. How can you be so sure? Men are funny and I’ve been around my brothers and other men in my family too long to know this. He’s a reminder that he’s second place to this woman. Those kids are reminders. There are exceptions. My dad was one because he married my mom with 4 kids that weren’t his. And for the women who don’t have children or got their ish together, he just may not be physically attracted to them. Since booty is easy to come by anyway, why get in a serious relationship or marry??? #4 Some don’t know a genuine person when they meet them tbh. Many are so caught up with physical tangibles (looks and sex for men & money for women), and repeat the same cycle over and over again, from one relationship to the next until when that good man or woman come along, we don’t know how to receive them or act. Ultimately, we’ll run them away. #5 Gen Z and other younger women are being indoctrinated to believe that getting knocked up, having a gender reveal, or moving in with their bf are tokens of devotion vs him putting a ring on it. It’s this standard why many will continue to remain unmarried because the cycle WILL CONTINUE. This is being really real for real 🤷🏽♀️. #6 The lack of mental health awareness and financial security is rarely talked about and done too much damage which is why MANY will stay single or choose to remain single 🎯 Overall, many women and men are also beginning to realize that their worth and value isn’t defined by a relationship status. One commenter said a lot of women are focused on their bag 💰 and traveling 🏝✈️ which is true! 💯 Then there’s some who are single because they’re not honest with themselves and haven’t done an internal or maybe an external inventory of themselves to be marriage or relationship ready. Food for thought along with what Tony said 😎
@anissa2361
2 жыл бұрын
Men also have children out of wedlock and baby mommies as well. It goes both ways, but I agree with your reasons.
@Stormy867
2 жыл бұрын
Your analysis is so accurate and on point. It’s really getting bad out here. True meaningful relationships are dead.
@terrim8572
2 жыл бұрын
@@Stormy867 yes they are! It’s sad! I want no part! Idc if I have to stay single longer. And to add insult to injury, this culture and social media seem to demonize those who are single and put too much emphasis on relationship statuses. It’s redundant, it’s old, it’s tiring, and it’s pathetic. No one talks about mental health which is the root of having a healthy relationship. I’m not talking about extreme cases of schizophrenia or depression. What I’m talking about goes under the surface. No one talks about or value taking breaks to be celibate, heal emotionally between relationships, and focus on oneself. We can’t effectively talk about meaningful relationships if individuals’ personal values are all f’cked up and misconstrued. And what saddens me even more is if I were to post this in an open forum, sistas will diss me, disrespect me, and call me a pick me. Black women can’t handle accountability as a whole but yet want to find that “one”. I know God shakes His head.
@babou5694
2 жыл бұрын
You are 💯 right. Of all the thing you listed here . I’m am one of them . The one that they are not attracted too. I come to realize that I probably need to consider going to another country to find my prince. It’s really getting ugly in the US.
@CoachLove
2 жыл бұрын
@@babou5694 Yep. May not have to go to another country, but do expand your options.
@reeree242447
2 жыл бұрын
“I was Mister It. Look at me now. Looking bad.” The way I hollered! 🤣🤣
@akuasalaam490
2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... One thing Tony going to do is cut a JOKE!!!!
@geminilady39
2 жыл бұрын
Good morning, everyone! Tony's on point like always. I'm looking forward to this video! 🙂 grown boys are 🥴😳 but grown men are 🥰🧐
@Itsalllove1111
2 жыл бұрын
I think For the most part it was always about business but women didn’t have the financial independence to voice there unhappiness. The history of marriage is based on business and arranged marriages are proven to last longer. Just because it’s business doesn’t mean you don’t love the person but love is not enough. There are definitely other things needed to hold a marriage together. My parents have been married for over 40 yrs and still married. Watching them has not made me desire marriage at all. What keeps most ppl together in the end is the $, kids, or just loyalty and time, emotions are very fickle.
@AidaRivera
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Tony for saying that and speaking on you and your wife’s marriage because I’m the same way. I wanna get married at the court house and a $60 dollar ring doesn’t make me mad at all. You can always upgrade.
@DeoneeEats
2 жыл бұрын
I'm screaming.......did you think I thought that ring was real 🤣🤣🤣
@christineporter9914
2 жыл бұрын
Lol 😂😂😂, I thought the same
@DebtDemolisherTV
2 жыл бұрын
Afternoon class in session
@mamagoatandfamily
2 жыл бұрын
“When my wife first met me I was the IT man, look at me now, looking bad.” 🤣🤣🤣 man I be over here hollering
@natashatwine7818
2 жыл бұрын
Lol, the Hill Song side chick looks like a tarot card reader. 🤣 😂 😆
@deniseeugene1852
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly they say it’s the women. I think it’s the men. They have options and want to explore them.
@aarongray1981
2 жыл бұрын
But if they have these options and not trying to be with one woman, it could be because all these options are not quality
@evaphillips2102
2 жыл бұрын
Men and women complain about the exact same things. Word for word. This whole gender war is quite ridiculous
@virginiaspikes3182
2 жыл бұрын
It’s because social media made it to where there’s too many options.
@MetalGear_85
2 жыл бұрын
The sad truth is that marriages are business arrangement under the laws of the states. From the state's point of view, love is not a factor in the law. This would be clear to anyone who has ever been through a divorce, been to a divorce hearing, or looked at divorce-related court documents. This is one of the blurry lines between church and state, which are supposed to be separate, that cause men and women a lot of emotional and financial pain.
@alexika9981
2 жыл бұрын
As a 24 yr old man of god and med student I’m just so use to being single I don’t know what a real romantic relationship looks like for me. I should start dating 🤔
@yoyo-jt6yp
2 жыл бұрын
LOL SAMEEEEEEEEE
@blacandforth
2 жыл бұрын
Young brother please continue towards your goal on becoming a physician once you've become established then see what the dating pool has to offer.
@alexika9981
2 жыл бұрын
@@blacandforth I’ve never dated in my life and never been in a relationship. Wouldn’t it be odd to never have such experiences as a 30+ yr old man. I don’t even know how I will be or what I like in a relationship.
@hymnodyhands
2 жыл бұрын
@@alexika9981 It WOULD be odd... "but if any man lack wisdom, let him ask of GOD." That's in the book of James. We out here don't know what would be best for you... but if you are a man who knows God, go to Him about when and where to find a mate.
@prettyme3150
2 жыл бұрын
@@alexika9981 It's a good thing you're thinking about it, and much more heartwarming you're here listening to Tony. He offers real and godly advice. Just a side note, while dating do not waste your time on a woman not worth it. Run and don't look back. Love yourself more than anything else and write down the qualities you want in your woman. Remember, you may even find someone who may not really like you like that. Don't feel hurt so doesn't affects your studies. Plan and ready. You're a good focused person, I pray you find the one. Remain blessed 💕
@maggieedwards3951
2 жыл бұрын
As almighty God is my witness I compare myself to no one else on this earth, I am me in all my entirety , my colours make me unique ,take me or leave me , No big wedding means a blessed marriage , but for some people I could understand if lavish do’s is what they would want , The journey of discovery between two people money can’t bless, money will blind people , I pray that God will only bless me a man of ambition ,with patience ,humility , grace, and love , or I am accepting of my single grace . Thanks for the information Tony Gaskin bless
@yowilli6669
2 жыл бұрын
Very good message! These 2022 expectations are ridiculous. At 49, there's no way I can meet these men's standards. Single for Life 🤷🏾♀️
@MrEOM41
Жыл бұрын
Choosing to focus on myself for the 1st time in a very long time… That’s why im staying single.
@colegreenofficial
2 жыл бұрын
Preach! I keep wondering about a man with all these beautiful, smart, good women around him. Many women want to be with him, or been with him, but he keeps saying he's still looking. Im like who is he looking for???
@queenofthesouth4205
2 жыл бұрын
Social Media has been a blessing and a curse.....to all relationships. People are not perfect.
@lillianthomas9046
2 жыл бұрын
HEY OOOOOO...l caught this when it first hit...smile...THANK YOU so much Coach TG for all that you do...you truly are a GOD sent in regards to HOW you live your life and your WALK...Thank you...*tearfully spoken*...smile❤😊
@kamibb1728
2 жыл бұрын
People also have to remember that there is power in their words. Everybody must try to pray and speak positive things into the atmosphere. This is for anyone who needs it.
@toscadonna
2 жыл бұрын
Men only got married when sex wasn’t on tap outside of wedlock and when they had no legal responsibility towards their wife and children. I remember when men used to “go out for cigarettes” and just never come home. Men loved when women couldn’t work outside of the home except as a seamstress or prostitute so that the woman had to suffer thru whatever he wanted to do. “Boys will be boys.” “Midlife Crisis.” It’s never been about love for most men. It’s always been about control and doing whatever he wants.
@chrisharris2367
2 жыл бұрын
100 you can write a whole book on this tosca donna excellent post and as a woman i totally agree
@coppergoddess555
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@richardmoody3749
2 жыл бұрын
How old is this thought process ?
@coppergoddess555
2 жыл бұрын
@@richardmoody3749 the thought process and degenerate tactic is still going on. Check the stats on the BM abandoning his children/women vs other cultures of men
@miospio
2 жыл бұрын
@@richardmoody3749 as old as man himself…
@monicaDD
2 жыл бұрын
It’s interesting that the last few marriages I’ve seen the woman met her husband when he was married and living with his wife. One made it her mission to have him although she knew he was married. Marriage is possible but at what cost
@shawnrandall1743
2 жыл бұрын
Respect, accountability, morals and values have been treated as non factors When are we going to take responsibility for our own actions? Why be concerned with what others do? It's enough trying to manage my own life!
@larenzapious502
2 жыл бұрын
At this point, my main requirement in a man is that he uses common sense and I don't even get that. I just focus on taking care of my son and myself because giving guys my time and energy has only proven to be a waste. Not trying to be pessimistic, just stating the unfortunate facts
@JasmineSlater.
2 жыл бұрын
Thankful for this message and clarity, coach Tony! 🙌🏾😎
@Erica-et4ye
Жыл бұрын
Great message…thank you, Tony 🙏🏾
@TrishC5280
Жыл бұрын
We got to pray 🙏🏽💜
@MsCoolGemini
2 жыл бұрын
All the men I know enjoy being single because of either a crazy ex wife or they are like you said flooded with women chasing them and they are having too much fun. I remind them not to stop looking for someone because I also know 2 men who wish they had someone now because they are laid up sick after strokes and now they are lonely and alone.
@TaiwoPeterOdeh
2 жыл бұрын
God has blessed you Sir. Thank you for this insight with humour
@DrLoren668
2 жыл бұрын
"She look like she do tarot cards" 😅
@nakooshaalbert8884
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for being REAL!!❤️
@gigiFLOWER2023
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your knowledge Tony. I give God the Highest Praise. Its really sad how humans value money and materials over loyalty, communication and respect.
@alexika9981
2 жыл бұрын
I would also say that young men will not say this but they are looking for the fit and healthy nice girl especially if he’s into fitness .Health and nutrition isn’t mainstream and I don’t believe that to be an unrealistic standard to have the options’ body to look like young fit girls in other races.
@myishacooper5838
2 жыл бұрын
The Competition is all a fantasy... Not Real Life.. people spend more time preparing for a fantasy life
@reshaundaliv9176
2 жыл бұрын
I was dating a guy, that was almost 49, was having finicially going through and I choose to stick by his side and be there for him, but he was mean and hateful..so I told him, you have to choose which you gone be. You can't be broke, nothing to offer someone,, mean and hateful. It makes it easier to walk away when you don't have nothing to offer..Then was keep saying I'm sorry but doing the same thing over n over and canceling every date..I tried to stick by him; but it was time to let that mess go..
@TheAuthentic1
2 жыл бұрын
Why would you even want to stick by a man who can't offer you anything? Serious question. We (blk women) definitely need to work on our standards.
@JanayM112
2 жыл бұрын
Wow . I was with my ex for 4 years . He wouldn’t marry me . I even said idc how much the ring is I just Loved him … Never happend so now Ive been single ( I left him of course ) . Insecure and low self esteem . But I’m working through it . I would’ve been so happy if he got me a $69 dollar ring 💍
@dwil104
2 жыл бұрын
That was my dosage of daily reality...wow, thank you brother!
@CoCo-yv3hl
2 жыл бұрын
Uncle Tony initially when I began watching you I had healed from childhood trauma & got in the best health of my life. Though the attention from men increased the type of man I thought I could see myself with didn’t have those attributes. Fast forward to 2022 marriage is off the table for me. Not because of any hurt or the state of men today but because of the type of person I am. Even a good man is a lot of work like any relationship. You might get an excellent man but it’s no guarantee those small things that we all have will never be an issue for me so I’d rather not torture a good man with my OCD 😂. I also feel i would better serve ppl I don’t have to have a life long commitment with. In the event when I get older I get lonely I will be Thelma looking for a Louise to travel with. I feel like good men have a lot of weight on their shoulders & I do not want to help take it off or add to it
@queenofthesouth4205
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Tony Gaskins. Smart man for hauling junk, his services will always be needed.
@daonyah8382
Жыл бұрын
Turned the finga green😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@msj2157
2 жыл бұрын
Tony GOD is not a man that he should lie. He says men to love your wife as Christ loves the church. Yes we are all human and make mistakes but with Christ help we can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens us. We can't keep this marriage together on our own strength but the strength in Christ Jesus 🙏❣️
@moeokoye9915
2 жыл бұрын
14:40 PRRRRRRRREACH TONY!!!! 👏
@tarao4382
2 жыл бұрын
He's back with the messages!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@shannonmonaallathat
2 жыл бұрын
ABSOLUTELY NO ONE. TONY & I cuz WE can FEEL THE NONSENSE 11:40
@jas8471
2 жыл бұрын
I believe that a lot of men have found "the one" and instead of choosing that woman they choose to be a player. I see this on a daily. Sadly we women are very desperate and waiting on the man who put us off to the side.
@qscott888
2 жыл бұрын
Checking in. Happy Friday 🌞
@charismabu9218
2 жыл бұрын
You The Truth! And We all Love you for it!
@bjos6596
2 жыл бұрын
Come on & speak names Tony🙌🏾😂. Great message!!
@baileysraves9861
2 жыл бұрын
As Tony has said before, you gotta try the word by the word. It makes no sense to be with someone who is $$ if they have poor character, are dismissive or irresponsible, or even violent.
@dinomeanmann7391
2 жыл бұрын
This is real talk. Blessing!!!
@eileendom5858
2 жыл бұрын
You know you have a genuine partner when they love you even after the hairline is gone lol. Real recognizes Real. Thank for this Tony. My relationship is rocky now but I know I am genuine. If he wants altered and younger beauty, good luck to him. Maybe she stays genuine. I know I have been genuine and that’s what I have to give, plus I do not sit back, but there will always be a better beauty that can put a spell on a man. I can’t control it.
@diadreamsinaction6182
2 жыл бұрын
Bro, you had my laughing saying women are getting crazier.... Doc, it's hard out here in these streets... 😂😂
@tanyagivens4338
2 жыл бұрын
Dudes be making some of these women crazy. When a woman is emotionally driven and a man manipulates that......crazy.
@debbie6533
2 жыл бұрын
I think it's better for men to stay single because I think is that they are never happy. Better to be single than to crush someone's heart
@emptyroomd9567
2 жыл бұрын
I’m just working on me bro going back to school to getting my paper up
@mariamayub212
2 жыл бұрын
Tony on the road videos! I'm liking this!
@moriahaddison
2 жыл бұрын
I agree. It’s interesting out here.
@darylfields
Жыл бұрын
I'm 35 and never been in a relationship before and I'm so a use to being single it doesn't bother me
@michaelanthony386
2 жыл бұрын
More people are single today because they're waking up to the realization that marriage is just a business transaction. You don't need a ring to validate your love for somebody nor is there such a thing as "the one". A lot of people today also don't want children and really there's no point to marriage if you don't want children.
@thelotusexperience6683
2 жыл бұрын
Men or women of God still can make mistakes because we're human, sometimes you think you're marrying the right person and find out later that wasn't the right one, we have to give each other grace... But the reality seems like the whole world is surface level and getting into relationships for all the wrong reasons and the main thing is superficial, shallow reasons, sex, money, good looks, fake bodies, bed warmers... From my experience most people are sleep walking, comfortable in dysfunction!
@keturahthomas4789
2 жыл бұрын
Thank God for you cause u really speak the truth....these men oh my God ..... I feel there is just a lot of immaturity tho. Men feel they have so many women to choose from they don't have to settle down, just want to play games.
@MrBillie1234
2 жыл бұрын
@17:28 - "my hairline gon', got lines in ma face......I'm Goin' Down...." -- I HOLLERED! you ain't nowhere near "goin' down", Tony now ya MIGHT be able to say that when you reach ya 50s, but right now, i think you're alright, LOL. ......too funny......i know, i know -- you're not tryna be -- which is precisely what makes it so funny. but seriously, thanks for doing what you do, young brotha -- REALLY & TRULY appreciate the gems & lessons you share w/ the masses. ~ b.
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