Agreed!. There is absolutely nothing wrong with either!
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
@RainandPeace-d3b Yes it is!!! 🙌
@CharlesPinkett-b7g
2 ай бұрын
Better stay with yall baby daddies
@shady4chi
2 ай бұрын
I’m a guy and I encourage men to STOP texting women who you aren’t in a relationship with. If you’re trying to get to know someone it should be on a more personal level and texting isn’t it. You can’t make a real long lasting connection with someone like that especially in today’s society where everyone has a short attention span. I’d rather make my first few impressions in person or at least during a phone call so we can get a better feel for each other’s energy through our voices. Communicating through text messages are for couples.
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
It’s so refreshing hearing men’s take on this subject especially the ones just as passionate with intention 💪
@KurosakiLuvar01
2 ай бұрын
Yesssssssssss any man that doesn’t call is trying to avoid actually connection. Ew I don’t care if he hates talking on the phone. I do too. But I definitely call those that I love because I love talking to my loved ones.
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
@@KurosakiLuvar01 that part!!!!!!💪
@jesswhycamarz
Ай бұрын
Love this take
@BrandiK.
3 ай бұрын
Oh whew.....this is a GREAT topic. Dating with a PURPOSE & being intentional....bottom line! Neglecting these 2 major components is the reason why people find themselves in situationships. Baby if you want to get to know me, you gotta show me because talk is cheap.
@charlenicole
3 ай бұрын
That is a whole Fact!!!! Especially nowadays. I can't believe how terrible the dating pool has become in today's times.. Makes you thank GOD everyday you don't have to endure the games a lot of women are having to deal with today
@evjimz8460
2 ай бұрын
Girl say that again!😂
@lwazi_co
2 ай бұрын
I’m not going to do psychological gymnastics just to be with a man. If we’re into each other it shouldn’t matter if he’s “over texting” or I’m “over texting” everything should feel natural. If I have to force being mysterious or anything I’m not then it’s not worth it. If I end up with a man I’m not doing any extra stuff to secure him, he’s not my ultimate goal. I’m winning with or without a man by my side.
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
All Perspectives are welcome here and I absolutely feel where you’re coming from! I appreciate your POV…
@babytwan21
2 ай бұрын
I got loved bomb with texting so yea it’s best to have a conversation
@BigEaga13
2 ай бұрын
A man will ask questions and still play with you.
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Yes! smh… That’s what be the MOST annoying outside of the inconsistency 🙄
@Chitownbabe417
2 ай бұрын
Phone calls, FaceTime dates, and voice notes. I don’t care about these mindless small talk texts.
@AyesheIsAlwaysLovely
Ай бұрын
THIS!
@mystiquelareaux
2 ай бұрын
I just came across your channel and i love the content already and this is my 2nd video... Im happy single and not allowing no ones dusty ass son to stress me out!!! Life is good... Peace and prosperity to you always 💛
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
😭🤣🤣🤣!!! I know that’s Right Friend! I always tell women when this type of topic is brought to the table, be single happily and enjoy life.. I’m not saying don’t be open to date but enjoy your singlehood until you are blessed to connect with a man worth the effort.. I truly appreciate your kind words! I wish the same beautiful wishes to you🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜
@mystiquelareaux
2 ай бұрын
@@charlenicole my pleasure and it's Soo true after going through a toxic relationship I'm good with being single again... There's so much peace over here... Also this time gives me time to get clarity on myself as well as why I was allowing certain things...but this new me is absolutely 100% 0 tolerance to any BS once detected I turn into Casper without an explanation, men know what their doing so it's no need to discuss what we both know happen only to hear lies and be gaslit and manipulated... Nope not I said the cat!!!
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
@@mystiquelareaux AMEN to that!!!!!
@keishamc5228
2 ай бұрын
She is right answering to many questions what will you have to discuss over a actual date , if you done told everything over the phone
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
So True! Keep it short and cute until you confirm it is going somewhere..
@Baldheadv510
2 ай бұрын
George Clinton said the dog chases the cat
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Yessssss!!!! 🤣😭😂
@jesswhycamarz
Ай бұрын
GIRL YES! when a man asks hella questions that are meaningful *GREEN FLAG* Although I ABSOLUTELY HATE being on the phone with a man I just met (most of them can’t hold a meaningful conversation) it has weeded out the ones you aren’t for me/ ain’t shit very quick. I tell them what I want, I’m mindful of the questions they ask me and how they respond to my round about ways to gage their sexism 😂 I do like texting but when we’re dating because I know it’s just the intermission to our next date 😊
@charlenicole
Ай бұрын
Yes!!!! So true 🤣… I’m the same!! When it’s new it’s always awkward in the beginning so I do a light mix between texting and phone conversations.. the phone conversations increase the more we learn eachother after two dates. I be very detached in the beginning because I need to confirm if this is a waste of time or not..
@rmc_transportation
2 ай бұрын
I prefer texting. Nobody got time to be hearing them breathe lol
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
🤣😭🤣🤣😭!!! I am crying!!! .. understood. Different strokes for different folks so I totally understand 😊
@rmc_transportation
2 ай бұрын
@@charlenicole yes indeed. I get more information from text than a phone conversation. That awkward silence is annoying 😂
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
@@rmc_transportation yes! Lol that “check your temperature” initial phase with a new person is always slightly awkward because you never know what you’re about to get from the first real conversation after exchanging numbers 🤣
@rmc_transportation
2 ай бұрын
@@charlenicole exactly. Like here we go again 🤣
@miyangtangwan7046
2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂Hearing them breathe! For real, texting helps me keep track of how the relationship is evolving.
@tenikathompson43
2 ай бұрын
I like ur content and Your setup ❤go sis i pray you win🎉
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Friend!!! 🫶🥹..I greatly appreciate you so much for your kind words🙏… I really try my best to make great content for people and this really means a lot to me to hear🙏💜..
@tynaangelici3023
Ай бұрын
I learned to utilize the block button.
@charlenicole
Ай бұрын
That’s a fact friend!!!🤝💪
@lafrance8849
Ай бұрын
I don’t text, you can call or take me on a date.
@littlemercy83
2 ай бұрын
Great video!
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Thank you!! 🙏 🙏🙏
@christopherjordan6689
2 ай бұрын
Its too many booty calls when it comes to cheating.
@Highest_Priestess
2 ай бұрын
Subscriber #500 💕
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
OMG!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you Friend!!!!!! I just got the notification 🥹😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆🥲.. I appreciate you so much and welcome to the fam!!!!!🙏💜🫶🙌
@love_reka_8877
2 ай бұрын
Great subject. I dnt agree completely but it’s good to get the thoughts & juicing flowing
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Thank you love ❤️ I understand, everyone isn’t going to 100 percent agree which is absolutely ok! but getting the conversation started was important to me to help one another and/or get those different perspectives 💜
@love_reka_8877
2 ай бұрын
@@charlenicole exactly! Thought provoking and difference of opinions. Keep em coming 💛🫶🏾 💯
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
@@love_reka_8877 💪💪💪Thank you🙏🙏🙏 and Will do. I appreciate you!!! 💜
@Dollaupt
2 ай бұрын
I don’t mind texting but I actually be having things to do so I might not get back right way but it’s good to just check in a few times during the day or the week on both days sides but if you actually busy then u won’t have time to text all day just a couple messages here & there people gotta do what works for them at the end of the day
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
I 100 percent agree that’s why I stated that it’s clingy to expect a man to talk to you all day.. and for women to have their own lives so they aren’t just focused on that man..this video isn’t about not texting at all.. it’s about not texting men who don’t have any intentions for you.. stop being text buddies with men who have no plans on moving forward with you once interest has been established.
@itsmetifft
2 ай бұрын
I beg to differ on expressing intention to a man. That’s literally giving them a cheat code of what you want to hear. He can tell what you’re looking for by how you carry yourself and the conversation.
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
I respect your difference of opinion.. My stance is… being concerned about a “cheat code” defeats the purpose and basically leaves a man to his own interpretation and assumption. When you’re of the age of 25+ with intentions of starting a fam etc..He’ll never know what you expect in the long run if you don’t open your mouth .. Some men will play games regardless of how you carry yourself. His actions is what you have to pay attention to… Being direct, hence I’m not saying mean or aggressive,will always tell a man your intentions, how he proceeds after let’s you know how you need to move
@michaelmurphy5141
2 ай бұрын
Great job. I like the approach of the topic 👌🏿
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Thank you Mike!!! 🙏 I truly appreciate your feedback!
@5foot10
2 ай бұрын
Good topic 🔥🔥
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Heyyyyy boo!!!!!! Thanks love😘😘😘🙏🙏🙏!!!!
@13moons-24
2 ай бұрын
if the girl you are chasing, has an infant, toddler, works full time+, and has other busy schedule, you can tell the woman i'd like to take you on a date, but you tell me when you are available and whether or not it needs to be close date, or can be a little distant, there is a hard rules, but need to be little flexibile in certain situations.. if you and the girl you are chasing don't have kids, then chase and be aggressive, but be clear what your intentions are, so you know up front whether or not you put emotions in or not
@angelgreen9945
2 ай бұрын
Thank you 😊
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
😊💜 👍😘
@angelgreen9945
2 ай бұрын
Yes ❤
@joannelewis3390
2 ай бұрын
Hey
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Hey love!
@royaltylordprinceshamiyah1229
Ай бұрын
“DONT ASK ME A BUNCH OF QUESTIONS”....MANY OF THESE SISTAS ARE COMPLETELY OUT OF ORDER & RAN THROUGH.
@charlenicole
Ай бұрын
Geeeezussss Tell us how you really feel 🤣😭..
@bosssetent7180
2 ай бұрын
Ladies this is not good advice 😂
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
🤣.. hey everyone has a point of view and I respect your opinion, whether you agree or disagree ✊..
@bosssetent7180
2 ай бұрын
@@charlenicole 100 percent
@kayjeffs3741
2 ай бұрын
Actually it is. Texting is ok but to a certain extent...especially when a man is courting you. Save that thesting fir the relationship
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
@@kayjeffs3741 Thank you! That’s all I’m saying👍
@bkstandard882
2 ай бұрын
Bad advice. If you stop texting men they'll assume you are not interested.
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
I don’t think the point is for women to not text men at all, the point is for women to stop placing theirselves as text buddies to men who don’t have any intentions for them or actually dating them. I agree with you, if you just don’t text men, it does send a message you aren’t interested but in this type of scenario, women have to move more intentional as do men
@CharlesPinkett-b7g
2 ай бұрын
Yall better stay with yall baby daddies then.
@l.thomas1762
2 ай бұрын
I am a man in his 30’s that’s intentional about marriage and these things would absolutely turn me off. Ladies, stop stepping to men you aren’t qualified for and stop making rules for people you’ve just met. Get your info from MEN and not a bunch of single, clueless women
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
So as an “intentional” 30 yr old man as you stated, seeking “Marriage” would be turned off by a woman who doesn’t accept texts as the ONLY form of communication & chooses not to place her self in a “texted based” situationship???Please be more clear with what you aren’t in agreement with. Normally “certain” men tend to read a title of a video to respond prior to watching a video in its entirety and thats unfortunate.. btw I’m not a single woman and far from clueless. Be Blessed..
@asdfxcvbn746
2 ай бұрын
very bad advice. high value men, tall with good looks, money & options or even just regular, average men with a healthy self esteem will not play these "phone games" that women like to play. the whole "oh i'm not gonna text him unless he's planning a date or buying me dinner" or this, that & the third. men like that are just gonna think they got ghosted & then move on to the next girl who shows more interest by texting him. women who are overweight are already at a disadvantage when it comes to dating, but introducing ego & narcissism into the equation by saying "i'm not gonna do this or that, i don't text... he better do this & that" none of that is going to help & will only result in that woman remaining single for a very long time.
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
This is not about playing games, it’s about women not falling into the trap of accepting text messages as the only form of communication In The Beginning of establishing a new relationship. If a man is ONLY texting them and it doesn’t lead to a phone conversation or Date to establish if there’s interest between two grown people, what is the point of texting if there is no further intent of establishing why we even exchanged numbers to begin with??? Not sure how establishing boundaries to prevent confusion is playing games? And also what does overweight women and their dating struggles have to do with anything??? Women with weight issues has nothing to do with the topic at hand😭🤣😂🤦♀️.. but go off I guess 🤷♀️
@asdfxcvbn746
2 ай бұрын
@@charlenicole "This is not about playing games" --- it doesn't matter what your intent is, i'm just telling you how men will perceive it & how men will react to it. the type of men you most likely want, will not participate in it once the know/see what it is you're doing. they're just gonna say "ohh, okay." & then exit stage left. "it’s about women not falling into the trap of accepting text messages as the only form of communication In The Beginning of establishing a new relationship." --- ok thats fair. but if thats how he feels comfortable communicating at the beginning, then you're just introducing unnecessary roadblocks into the equation. if he's a successful man, he may be extremely busy & only have time to text until you meet in person. but a girl doing this strategy will effectively disqualify herself from a potentially great man just because she doesn't like texting and/or doesn't want to be flexible when it comes to his schedule & methods of communication. this all comes down to women's ego & women getting far too used to men bending & folding to cater to them. the higher quality the man, the less likely it is that women are going to get him to be their pet & communicate how they want. he's just gonna say "next" because he has options & it will be her that misses out because there's far more of her out there on the dating market than it is of him. "If a man is ONLY texting them and it doesn’t lead to a phone conversation or Date to establish if there’s interest between two grown people, what is the point of texting if there is no further intent of establishing why we even exchanged numbers to begin with???" ---- fair enough. but why is it always on the man to take all the initiative? women talk endlessly about feminism & being equal to men... okay, cool... then women can take some of this initiative too. women can do some of the approaching, pay for some of these dates & do some of the initiating & reaching out first. again, if he's a successful man like how most women like, he's likely super busy & has many options. so you as a woman may have to take more initiative than you're used to if you want the caliber of man that he is. "Not sure how establishing boundaries to prevent confusion is playing games?" --- the problem is, women already have too many boundaries. he's gotta be over 6 feet tall, he's gotta have this kind of career, he's gotta be this race, he's gotta be a leader, he gotta take this much initiative, he's gotta set up the date, he's gotta pay for everything, when he gets on the date he had better take me to the right place & it had better not be a coffee date, or the park or the cheesecake factory & he had better say all the right things at the right time & his style better be on point, yada yada yada & now men got more boundaries & standards placed on him, he had better reach out first, he had better call & not text or else he's gonna get ghosted... men are just tired of women's incessant standards & boundaries in stead of allowing men to just be themselves while everybody just goes with the flow. women having hundreds of boundaries & this & that are the ones that end up in their 30's & single, because no man could past all their silly tests, boundaries & standards... even Jesus himself couldn't live up to all their standards & get past all their arbitrary boundaries that they set up & then in the end, they end up with nobody. "And also what does overweight women and their dating struggles have to do with anything???" ---- a lot. overweight women are less desired by higher quality men in the same way that broke men are less desired by high quality women. you know this, but perhaps don't want to admit it. women lie to themselves & others about factors like weight & attractiveness etc. with that said, a woman on the heavier side, if she's not willing to self-improve & lose weight, she may have to make some compromises in some areas. overweight women cannot set up a bunch of silly & arbitrary "boundaries" in the same way that a woman who is a "10" in looks can. most guys are just gonna see all these arbitrary boundaries & they're just gonna say "okay, pass, next." which will result in the woman ending up with nobody. "Women with weight issues has nothing to do with the topic at hand" --- actually it does. men are forced to self improve, women are not. NO WOMEN have any sympathy for broke men. if the man is broke, he has to humble himself, as he knows he's not going to get a woman that looks like beyonce. women would laugh at a broke, short or unemployed man if he were on the internet & he was like "yeah & she better do this & that & she better call, & if she only texts, i'm not dating her, she better reach out first & she better do this & that before she can date me" if a man talked like that, women would laugh him out of town & say "boy, bye." the same applies with women who are overweight, have high body counts, women with STD's, women with kids etc... collectively men are just gonna say "girl, bye." & be on to the next. its harsh, but thats reality. women, but especially black american women REALLY need to humble themselves. because they all think they are 10's they all think they are better than the men they are dating & they all have all these insane & arbitrary standards, boundaries & weird stipulations that they require men to adhere to in order to date them & men are collectively saying "no thanks" & dating foreign women or are dating interracially. women of other races & cultures who just go with the flow & they treat men like human beings & don't treat men like the women are job recruiters & the men are applying for a job smh
@asdfxcvbn746
2 ай бұрын
@charlenicole "This is not about playing games" --- it doesn't matter what your intent is, i'm just telling you how men will perceive it & how men will react to it. the type of men you most likely want, will not participate in it once the know/see what it is you're doing. they're just gonna say "ohh, okay." & then exit stage left. "it’s about women not falling into the trap of accepting text messages as the only form of communication In The Beginning of establishing a new relationship." --- ok thats fair. but if thats how he feels comfortable communicating at the beginning, then you're just introducing unnecessary roadblocks into the equation. if he's a successful man, he may be extremely busy & only have time to text until you meet in person. but a girl doing this strategy will effectively disqualify herself from a potentially great man just because she doesn't like texting and/or doesn't want to be flexible when it comes to his schedule & methods of communication. this all comes down to women's ego & women getting far too used to men bending & folding to cater to them. the higher quality the man, the less likely it is that women are going to get him to be their pet & communicate how they want. he's just gonna say "next" because he has options & it will be her that misses out because there's far more of her out there on the dating market than it is of him. "If a man is ONLY texting them and it doesn’t lead to a phone conversation or Date to establish if there’s interest between two grown people, what is the point of texting if there is no further intent of establishing why we even exchanged numbers to begin with???" ---- fair enough. but why is it always on the man to take all the initiative? women talk endlessly about feminism & being equal to men... okay, cool... then women can take some of this initiative too. women can do some of the approaching, pay for some of these dates & do some of the initiating & reaching out first. again, if he's a successful man like how most women like, he's likely super busy & has many options. so you as a woman may have to take more initiative than you're used to if you want the caliber of man that he is. "Not sure how establishing boundaries to prevent confusion is playing games?" --- the problem is, women already have too many boundaries. he's gotta be over 6 feet tall, he's gotta have this kind of career, he's gotta be this race, he's gotta be a leader, he gotta take this much initiative, he's gotta set up the date, he's gotta pay for everything, when he gets on the date he had better take me to the right place & it had better not be a coffee date, or the park or the cheesecake factory & he had better say all the right things at the right time & his style better be on point, yada yada yada & now men got more boundaries & standards placed on him, he had better reach out first, he had better call & not text or else he's gonna get ghosted... men are just tired of women's incessant standards & boundaries in stead of allowing men to just be themselves while everybody just goes with the flow. women having hundreds of boundaries & this & that are the ones that end up in their 30's & single, because no man could past all their silly tests, boundaries & standards... even Jesus himself couldn't live up to all their standards & get past all their arbitrary boundaries that they set up & then in the end, they end up with nobody. "And also what does overweight women and their dating struggles have to do with anything???" ---- a lot. overweight women are less desired by higher quality men in the same way that broke men are less desired by high quality women. you know this, but perhaps don't want to admit it. women lie to themselves & others about factors like weight & attractiveness etc. with that said, a woman on the heavier side, if she's not willing to self-improve & lose weight, she may have to make some compromises in some areas. overweight women cannot set up a bunch of silly & arbitrary "boundaries" in the same way that a woman who is a "10" in looks can. most guys are just gonna see all these arbitrary boundaries & they're just gonna say "okay, pass, next." which will result in the woman ending up with nobody. "Women with weight issues has nothing to do with the topic at hand" --- actually it does. men are forced to self improve, women are not. NO WOMEN have any sympathy for broke men. if the man is broke, he has to humble himself, as he knows he's not going to get a woman that looks like beyonce. women would laugh at a broke, short or unemployed man if he were on the internet & he was like "yeah & she better do this & that & she better call, & if she only texts, i'm not dating her, she better reach out first & she better do this & that before she can date me" if a man talked like that, women would laugh him out of town & say "boy, bye." the same applies with women who are overweight, have high body counts, women with STD's, women with kids etc... collectively men are just gonna say "girl, bye." & be on to the next. its harsh, but thats reality. women, but especially black american women REALLY need to humble themselves. because they all think they are 10's they all think they are better than the men they are dating & they all have all these insane & arbitrary standards, boundaries & weird stipulations that they require men to adhere to in order to date them & men are collectively saying "no thanks" & dating foreign women or are dating interracially. women of other races & cultures who just go with the flow & they treat men like human beings & don't treat men like the women are job recruiters & the men are applying for a job smh
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
@@asdfxcvbn746 🤣😂😭 I am not about to read this 5 page letter but whatever you were saying is your opinion just like in the video, everyone has their own opinions, perceptions and how THEY CHOOSE to date.. I’m not sure why this struck such a nerve for you to want to argue about an open discussion on this topic but I’m glad you got it out friend. Be blessed and have a great day!👋
@asdfxcvbn746
2 ай бұрын
@@charlenicole "I’m not sure why this struck such a nerve for you to want to argue about an open discussion on this topic" --- well, I could've sworn you just said its an OPEN DISCUSSION. now when men have the open discussion with you, its a problem & now you don't want to hear what men have to say about it. its funny how women have so much to say about how men go about dating, but when men chime in & tell women why we do what we do, women don't listen or want to hear the truth. there's a video on youtube from Michael Sartain titled: "If You Punish The Truth You're Asking To Be Lied To." that quote sums up modern black women like yourself. men HAVE to lie to women, especially when it comes to dating topics. because when we tell y'all the truth, y'all don't listen anyway... so we might as well lie to y'all smh
@grindhard4312
2 ай бұрын
Men being intentional?? 😂😂 Lets be real, women have spent the last 10+ yrs living hot girl summers. Its fair to say women themselves have controlled who they have interacted with and dated in that time. Women have told men who they are and how to respond by their actions. Now its men who need to intentional? I think the clarification QUESTION needs to start being asked, who are women ACTUALLY speaking of? The men they want or dont want??
@charlenicole
2 ай бұрын
Good take, that’s fair.. with that being said let’s specify the women we are talking about.. Not the ladies who inspire to be “flew’d out”- by the way I can’t stand that term 🤣.. or those who leave the house dang near nude but want to be addressed as a lady.. or the delusional ones who expect a man to pay for a lavish lifestyle they can’t even afford alone etc.. we are talking about the women who actually want a relationship.. it’s not a one size fit all scenario.. it’s both sides that need to be intentional about their expectations and overall motive at the end of the day.. texting, especially in the beginning as your main form of communication isn’t the best way to establish a relationship in my opinion
@irinaivanovic9792
2 ай бұрын
Another male who sits back and just blames women for everything. What else is new. SMH. Take some accountability for god sake.
@grindhard4312
2 ай бұрын
@@irinaivanovic9792 No one is accountable for your accountability. Vet the men you who inquire you or who you seek. Don't make excuses, check temperaments. Don't expect men to do it for you or listen to you complain about it. Be an adult.
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